Just want to comment because I'm a white man about to marry a black 4c girl whos given up on her hair and always hated it. I asked her if I could do research and we could walk this out together with more love and compassion and she said yes. You bring up so many important points that really help me better grasp how difficult this can be for 4c women. At the end of the day my goal is that I hear my future wife and best friend say she loves her hair, and I think part of that journey is loving yourself truly internally.
I conquer!!! The number of times I get "did you cut your hair" lol now I just embrace the F!! Out of it yes of course I cut it who wants long hair....!!!! Lol
1) Accept YOUR hair journey: relax into YOUR hair's existence WHATEVER it may be 2)Stop w/the excessive length checks 3)wear hats, scarfs, covering 4)scalp care; inversion 5)misting, moisturizing, strengthening, dconditioning the hair 6) trim
YESYESYES realizing no amount of twist outs, products, oil, and whatever other concoctions the natural hair community is obsessed with, is going to magically give you 3c hair that's long and shiny was the biggest hurdle to get over for me. Once I started being realistic and looking for people with hair like mine, i learned how to take care of MY hair. And it grew(not a lot but, still), got thicker, less breakage, the whole nine.
@Trinity M absolutely! I was obsessing over textures that weren't mine thinking I could make a miracle. My hair is healthier than ever now that I'm doing what's best for me.
@@lillybelle544 You know what she’s getting at. The obsession is ridiculous for 4c individuals. Our hair is a drier texture but still beautiful when we are not trying to conform to European standards.
Morayo...White woman with 2c hair here, also wishing for 3b/3c curls....I think it's so ironic that whether it's skin color or hair curls, the grass is always greener on the other side! Seems we all want to be middle of the road yet be unique at the same time (white girls tan, perm their hair, and try to get bigger lips & booties....black girls try to go the opposite...both just want to meet in the middle). Now that I'm older, I'm better at appreciating what God gave me. He made you beautiful just the way you are...
I’m on a perm to natural journey and never understood the word “journey” until 10 weeks in. And I discovered I have the top kinkiest hair and I don’t know how to feel abt it. Coming to the realization that it will never be anything but 4c made me more determined to love it the way it is, even when it does look conforming. I don’t want to hate myself or my ancestors becuz social media peddles euro centric acceptance. Natural 4c hair is so beautiful when it’s healthy.
I got the littleexta reactttivate growth serum for my mom, since she had hair thinning. She observed a notable decrease in hair fall and is pleased to see small hairs starting to grow.
You used to get so upset. My heart went out to you so much. BUT LOOK AT GOD! Lmaooo! Look at you NOW. Your hair is GORGEOUS! I've been watching your entire transformation and you did SO GOOD!!
Yes, this definitely works. I've been using the reactivate hair growth serum by liittllexttra, and it's effective. My hair has started to grow, especially in areas where I've had persistent issues. Along with aloe and Indian gooseberry, the serum is the new addition to my hair routine that has at last shown results after years of trying different oils. Additionally, at the end of the week, rather than throwing out the tea leaves, I use them as a hair rinse during my weekly wash routine.
Thank you! I’ve been sticking to the regimen you recommended together with reactiavate growth serum for approximately two months now and my hair has become much denser.
Your hair has grown a lot!and I'm glad to witness your hair journey! I see your channel as a diary, and to look back and reflect on yourself (along with therapy) really does open up solutions on how to better yourself. I'm glad you mentioned the length checks -- NOT GONNA LIE, it's one of those strange, strange things in the natural hair community that resulted in length check shirts being sold. ionno man 😅🤣 not seeing it much any more these days!
I love how open you are about your struggles while doing it with grace and sense of humor. Us 4C girls can relate to much of what you're saying. I suffer from depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. Now, at the age of 43 , I had gone back to natural over 10 years ago. And just when I think I've accepted myself and my hair, I still find that at times I envy softer, curlier textures. I just wish my hair and would grow down my back!
Your not alone, I feel like a lot of us 4c gurls go through these phases. I just recently cut off all my unhealthy ends. I’m back to where I was 5yrs ago length wise but I needed to get over my obsession with long hair and just prioritize having healthy hair.
I can relate! I have in Nubian twists now, but I recently did cut off a lot of my ends, my hair has just been DRY AS HELL🤦🏾♀️. I can also say I have not been deep conditioning my hair enough so maybe that's why it's been so dry?what do you think? Is a deep conditioner necessary? I will just use some tressemme conditioner and that's it, maybe it's not enough. My hair is several textures of type 4. yes, I drink 💦, 😅. my hair shrinks ALOT over 75%. Not sure what to do with it now🤷🏾♀️. I don't want to leave these twists in for too long because it's been like almost 3 weeks and it feels dry😄.
@AfroMystik if I can add my two cents, deep conditioning regularly can make a world of difference! I honestly don’t expect much from regular conditioner and feel like my deep conditioner is my real conditioning step. I deep condition every time I wash my hair and it works for me! TGIN has some good ones and I usually leave it on overnight or put a cap on and sit under a dryer for like 30 minutes if possible. Depending on your hair you may not need to deep condition every wash, but maybe feel it out. Also dryness in your twists might be helped by spritzing a little mixture of conditioner and water ( mostly water and a dollop of conditioner) on your twists and a little oil to seal that in. Make sure your twists dry fully tho afterwards
@@sihintsegay6918 Thank you so much!!🤎🤎🤎 I took down my kinky twists yesterday and my hair had some buildup at the base, but I was able to brush it out. Like you said deep conditioning must be done. I think my hair has been missing it. Because the regular conditioner is not cutting it! My hair drys very quickly, and soaks up product fast since having a second baby 6 and 2, I don't have time!!! I rush through it . But now I'm going to just dedicate an hr and take my time to deep condition. Btw do you think I should continue to add twist extensions not sure if that could be drying my hair out more also🤔
The last time I saw you, you were talking about having thin hair and that was a couple of years ago. Now I see you again years later on my recommendations and I was beyond ecstatic for you just by seeing the thumbnail. I'm so so so soooooo proud of you for being able to work through those obstacles 💙💙💙💙💙
I love you ! As someone w/ 4C thin hair while also being a lazy natural trying to navigate my new journey of motherhood and feeling overwhelmed w/ just basic personal& life necessities, I appreciate you being a voice to indirectly tell me to: CALM DOWN! The stress won’t make it no better ; our bodies and ourselves need grace and release!
I just want to be transparent and say that this video popped up in my very new natural state and I was slightly depressed and not even about my hair and for some reason your video gave me hope about a fresh start in general and your helping me with my refocusing. You literally gave me something new to look forward to that healthy for me mentally and physically ❤
i remember being so frustrated with thin brittle 4c hair and finding your channel when you were just as frustrated. Your hair growth since then is unbelievable, just amazing. Im still struggling but have seen some improvement and growth. I've kind of resigned myself to the fact that as a 40s woman, possibly premenopausal, my hair will grow, but slowly, so i will continue to take care of it and just accept it as it is. if it flourishes, great, if not...well, what to do. Pointless stressing about it. One thing i will say is that youth definitely plays a role. Your hair hair has the opportunity to thrive before you hit that stage where hormonal and other issues causes the hair to not flourish as much
I've found the best thing I've ever done for my hair is love it. No matter what shenanigans are happening, what style didn't happen, what role weather has played that day: just love it. Thank you for your story, it makes me feel seen. I KNOW your hair is gorgeous, thank you!
Don’t give up! I am pure African living in Africa. Am 70 I chopped my hair off 3 years ago after decades of relaxers weaves, bonding where my hair went thin lost my edges etc. went natural on short hair started growing it with all these recipes it’s growing very little shedding and it’s thick and fuller. Still grappling with edges but they are also showing promise. Watch your diet use supplements as well. Zinc,Iron, D3.Omegas and Vit E and C and A as well. Cheers
Thanks for affirming this for me; I went through a phase where I was researching the power of hair A LOT and came to the realisation that even telling ourselves that our hair is “hard to handle” or takes “a long time to do” is a negative way of loving our hair & in return we neglect it by not seeing our hair in a positive light. Since I stopped proclaiming such beliefs, my hair started growing a lot esp. as I started wearing it out more and taking better care of it!
I have not watched this entire video yet, but I stumbled across a video of yours last night and I wasn't even looking for you today.... but the next video that came up happened to be this one and I said that I just have to say something. You are so hilarious and I don't know who needs to discover you with that bubbly personality and your funny way of putting things and I don't even know what you do for a living, but girl you have the gift for entertainment trust me I know. TRUST ME....I KNOW talent.
Hello, I haven't watched your videos in a while but I want to say this is an excellent monologue. I think it is very descriptive of what a lot of us have been going through over the last few years. Great video!!!
Love these reflection videos. I needed this reminder to refocus on controlling my stress levels. After struggling with telogen effluvium off and on since 2018, I’ve learned that my hair really is the window to my soul. Nothing gets past it-it catches every emotion and signals me to imbalances while still hanging in there with me…which is really loyal when I stop to think about it 🤔 I’ll be adopting the ‘trim your life while you trim your hair’ method from this point forward! Thank you 🙏🏾
Your hair has definitely grown a lot! I think if you were to do another hair series, you could do one that focuses on embracing shrinkage rather than running from it. It's just what our hair naturally does. Just letting my hair live where it wants without having to stretch it has helped me appreciate and love the beauty of my "short looking" hair. I am also able to measure my growth based on the bigness of my hair instead of feeling inclined to pull out a measuring tape. I have been wearing wash n go's without stretching them and have fallen in love with how my hair sits without any coaxing. This shifted my mindset about my hair to a different level.
Once I started healing spiritually and mentally, and removed stress from my life, my hair grew so much. This year my hair grew 5 inches which it's never done before. The most my hair grew in a year my whole life was under 3 inches. I'm doing similar tactics I did back then, but now my hair is actually thriving! I even prayed over my hair and i know that helped too. Overall I'm just a more healthy person.
This is my first time watching you. Thank you for your transparency. This is perfect as I'm beginning 2023. It's definitely time for destressing every area in my life and truly taking time to learn what my 4c hair needs.
Women who are stressed often project it on some part of our bodies that we are frustrated with. I've noticed it's more common for black girls to stress about hair whereas other girls tend to stress about weight. I think your hair is pretty & I don't really understand the fixation on length that a lot of my black friends have. But they don't understand me working out an hour a day to stay 115lbs either. We should all try to be good to ourselves 💞
I just wanted to comment and let you know how incredible this video is and how much it has helped me. For the longest time I was very hard on myself and how my hair looked (especially because of the negative comments I would receive sometimes) and I had this mindset that once my hair was a certain length that I would love it. This video has helped me become patient and loving towards my hair in its current state and I feel more confident and happy about it than I ever have before! Thank you so much again, I really love your content!
This video was very inspiring and real! You made me realize fears, thoughts and patterns I have myself and have a truly realistic way to reverse the mental damage. The fear part hit home! My hair is 16 inches and it was a journey getting there. Then life, stress, and body chemistry changes after I stopped breast feeding changed the density. Then my fear of losing everything I worked for was overwhelming and saddening. This video reached me, sis! Thank you for the depth of transparency and honesty. I’m going to implement the change in my thought patterns and ways.
This was really GOOD Danielle! So proud of you. And its soooo good how a change of mindset helps you change your actions to ones that benefit you and make you happy. Congrats. Much more success to you and may fluff nugget continue to grow.
I swear I never comment ever haha but I’ve never heard someone talk so openly about the mental stresses of having 4c hair like you have I almost started crying honestly. You’re so on point with each topic 👏🏽👏🏽 love the video girly!!
This was an amazing video! Your hair is beautiful, Danielle. This video was very cathartic for me as a viewer; what you said about mental and emotional health impacting your body is TRUTH and almost no one considers them enough when taking inventory of what’s causing any physical ailment. This was so enjoyable, as your content always is. And yours skin has always been lovely but it’s 𝒈𝒍𝒐𝒘𝒊𝒏𝒈✨ now. I’m happy you’re happy. ☺️💗
I'm a dude who's never known how to take care of his 4c hair, but I'm making a concerted effort to repair the damage I've done to it over the years. This has been an incredibly helpful video because it puts things in perspective. There isn't a magic tincture that'll fix it, there's a whole host of things that can affect hair growth, and many of them like stress management is something I've ignored. Thank you for highlighting being realistic and overall self care.
Your journey is really inspiring, especially since you battle with trich just like I do currently. I'm a guy with 4c hair and it's tough sometimes. I think I resonate with what you said about needing to focus on scalp health rather than styles since the hair is still short.
Positive self-talk is such a game changer. There was a time where I told someone something like "When I'm home by myself it's like being left alone with someone who really doesn't like me." It was BAD. Then, I made a rule: I'm not allowed to say anything to myself or talk to me in any way that I wouldn't use when speaking to someone else. I would NEVER EVER call another person lazy or stupid, but I did it to myself constantly. It took a while for my inner voice to recalibrate- it didn't have anything nice to say, so it wasn't allowed to say anything at all - but that silence created a space for new conversations. After the compulsive self-dragging stopped, I started asking myself what I would say to my spouse if they were struggling and being as harsh with themselves as I was. It was like a light flicked on. The idea of my husband beating himself up about things he could help really hurt me, and this ridiculous exercise helped me empathize with myself for the first time. After that, my internal voice became this super annoyingly supportive cheerleader coaching me through my difficulties. They know the difference between "I can't because I don't feel good, and I need a break," and "I can't because I really don't want to," and they gently talk me through both situations. I'm reminded that I need breaks and that it's better for everyone if I take them, or I get kicked into gear with comments like, "I know you're really tired, but I know you can keep running for another minute. You've already run for five minutes, so one minute is nothing: you can do this!" I know it's just my internal dialogue, and not another person, but it's so different that it feels like a different person - and I'm a completely different person because of it. It felt so silly in the beginning, but it literally changed everything. I'm happier than I ever believed I could be.
this gives me so much hope. I’ve been realllly feeling it lately after removing my crochet and detangling my hair + the works, but with all my hair loss it feels like I’ve gotten no where. Whilst I feel it’s more a case of being unable to afford anything more than basic shampoo and conditioner (alongside a generally stressful environment) I’m nevertheless feeling hopeful to keep it protective so I can bide time until I can properly progress in my journey :D❤
If it helps, I personally just deep condition and don’t even bother w/ regular conditioner anymore unless I need it for detangling. Also, you can make deep conditioner out of regular conditioner using olive oil and honey. If that method works for u, maybe the money saved on conditioner can be spent on a good leave in!
Stay the course and you’ll see results. Also, be sure to moisturize the heck out of your actual hair (or whatever your strands need) while it’s in the protective style. It helps so much!!
I have never heard anyone so therapuetically and st the same time analytically describe their hair situation, with love. you are skilled young lady! Thank you
You are so beautiful! That melanin is popping. I have hair like yours. I decided to loc it up though. Thank you for addressing mindset and therapy. NOBODY TALKS ABOUT THAT. Nobody talks about the mental aspect that black women go through regarding our hair either. And I love your voice. It's so soothing! Keep being you love!
You are such a pretty young woman. I would have never know you were going through that. I subscribed to your Chanel because you are so extremely captivating, Talented and oh so intellectual. Your vocals!!! - I have all the confidence you will be very BIG!! God has given you a LOT!! TALENT-INTELLECT-A BEAUTIFUL VOICE-BEAUTY-WITTINESS-and a very big sense of Comedic Timing! I’m 70 years old and ive seen a lot in my lifetime. So, for you to have captivated my attention…LOL … keep striving- You are the Best😘😘😘
Girl you are all kinds of fun! I was thinking this was a simple video on hair care (as I am now natural) and I somehow now feel seen. Thanks for this. I'm now subscribed!
The intro is definitely me right now lol. Sooo happy for you. I have fine thin hair and brows so I can relate and happy someone has a visual diary that serves as proof. Ugh I needed this.
This is the first video that actually talks about the psychology and mentality when it comes to natural hair. Thank you so much for making this video. It is totally different than the other “tips” that people talk about their hair. Yours is most likely the only video that reads truth. Thank you so much my type 4 hair sister 🫶🏾
Oo I'm early! I feel like I can properly thank you for all these videos that you make! I feel like we have similar vibes and hair journeys, and it's always so nice to see new videos to see how you've grown on your journey. These tips really help, it may take a minute for me to fully internalize it, but they do help so thank you!!
The algorithm suggested this video to me and I'm so glad! This was the best natural hair video I've watched in all my years on RUclips. Thank you for sharing your story and yourself- your personality is 10/5 stars ha, you're so beautiful and inspiring! My hair is currently growing out from what seems like my 100th "big chop" (lol) as a result of damage. I have an opportunity to get it right this time. Thanks for your transparency and the reminder to not repeat the same mistakes/cycles from the past. Looking fwd to the journey :)
I love your voice. My hair is similar in that any inkling of moisture causes it to shrink. I've learned to be grateful because it is a sigh of elasticity! Your hair is beautiful and so are you.
This video is everything Star. Don’t be afraid to be your own cheerleader. How we feel about ourselves is next level. It takes time & experience to realize the importance of this concept. Show up for you. 😊❤
I feel like our hair is a reflection of who the Most High made us to be; strong, yet difficult at times. We can style our hair in many different ways and it is truly an enhancement and a blessing. Everything is about perspective.
@@firewater365 Lol. If you aren't strong in spirit, then you are claiming to be defeated and the enemy has already won you. Pray that the Most High takes that weak, defeated mindset from you.
Ngl, I’ve always loved your hair but I love that you’ve worked out what works for you and your hair in terms of retaining length. Your hair looks incredibly healthy.
It is very refreshing and helpful that I see more and more black women come out and say I have trichotillomania. I have had trichotillomania since elementary school. I am 28 years old now and still have 5 inches of hair on my head but that’s okay I’m happy with my hair because I have accepted my disorder and try my best to leave my hair alone. Thank you for sharing
Hi. Your video saved my life. I resonated with this video tremendously. Being a healing Trichotillomaniac myself, this video gave me so much warmth and cheerfulness. God knew I needed someone like you to do a video like this! As apart of my journey, I NEEDED to see that i'm not the only one who does this to myself, because we deserve so much better and so do our beautiful curls!!! ILY girl.
Through this video you have been inspiring me and reminding me to do a lot. Within the span of 11 minutes I reached out to my therapist, wrote my positive affirmations and now I’m about to take care of my scalp. Merry Christmas!
You hair has come a looonnngg waaay 😭😭😭😭❤❤❤❤ we need some sort of fluff nugget graduation ceremony . Twists are my personal favorites to get growth . Keep going sugar :)
YESS YESS YESS ❤❤❤ I feel everything you said! I started my locs about a year ago and the way I feel like i built a whole new relationship with my hair after years of only focusing on how to hide it, it’s incredibly liberating! Ofc I have bad hair days like everyone else but making that mindset shift and really learning to love our hair is freeing
Trichotilomania, I understand. I would pull entire fistufull of hair in a 1 hour period back when I was in highscool. It went away when I went to college. We can all do it ! Courage everyone going through this.
This is real from the heart ❤️ - yyeezz focusing on our scalp health- boosting the health our hair - inversion styles & misting every night - do it for a month - take a couple of weeks off - & go back - deep conditioning- & conditioning- you gotta trim your hair - how to trim your hair by yourself- ( by Denise ) - your hair is extremely beautiful job well done hun & don’t forget to go to therapy & de-stress - positive affirmations every day !!
I learned to embrace shrinkage years ago. I call it Black Girl Magic. I can go from a TWA to shoulder length hair in the same day. And be asked if it’s a wig! 😂…. In your case it’s Star Puppy Magic! Now your hair is blossoming like your picture in your merch! Love it! ❤🤗🥰
Had a bad salon day on the 24th, went to take down my locs. Turns out the lady doesn't know how it's done, before you ask, it's at the same place it was installed, just different stylists. By the time I looked up, a good portion of my hair was shorter than it's normal length. I am five years into growing my hair and it has grown to match these years, so to say I was livid would be an understatement. Almost dented my Christmas spirit, hope to correct this mistake moving forward and staying very far away from salons, which I have been doing until I got the locs installed. Sorry, needed to put this where nobody will say "it's just hair", because it isn't "just hair" to me. Thanks for the tips.
You said a whole lot that stuck with me. I'm also 4c. I started my journey in 2010, and it got the best of me a couple times, and I ended up relaxing it. I BC for the 2nd time in April-box braids and headband wigs are my go to. Your strength to keep going and tweaking along the way is inspiring. ✨❤️✌🏾💪🏾
You truly do have to find a protective style that actually protects YOUR hair. The passion twist suit you beautifully! ❤ I I am dealing with hair loss because of stress and I’m glad to see there is hope, thank you for sharing this journey with us it was very helpful!
Hey Benny, I came across your channel back in December 2021. I’m watching your video now as I love how you break it down for us natural ladies on how to treat our hair. I’m 72 years old and always concerned about my hair health and issues with stress, sad to say however I deal with stress and anxiety and I it’s not good for my health. Just watching you explain how how to go about taking care of the health of the hair has really encouraged me and I want to say thank you for that. There’s so much more to growing and maintaining the hair, yes we have to love who we are and learn how to be happy in the bodies that God gave us. Positive behavior is number one and if we could just overcome negative stressful situations we can get our hair to a healthy growth pattern and become stress free. Thank you for making this awesome video and may the good Lord bless you always.♥️
As an early subscriber I've noticed a shift in tone on your channel. Sometimes I like it, some times I would not check in for a few months because I'm at a fifteenth spot in my hair journey and I didn't feel like all of what you were promoting was for me at the time. I'm so glad learned what you have and I fond this very inspiring. I think I like this shift in mindset
Very wise post, and thank you for talking about trichotillomania. I started pulling my hair out when I was 10 during my parents divorce. I had no idea why, and couldn’t seem to stop. Therapy is absolutely a beauty secret! Frankly, everyone needs therapy for something. It’s just a way of examining your own life and thought processes, evaluating your goals, and finding healthier ways of dealing with relationships. Why the stigma? (Is it shameful or emasculating for actors to hire trainers to help them get into superhero shape?) It’s not as if emotional health is second nature to everyone. I am so grateful for this post. I was just smiling and nodding the whole way.
Hey Danielle! I've been a fan for years now. I have never related to someone on social media this much and I use your tips all the time. Your energy and vibes are always lovely! 😄 You're so right about the importance of de-stressing life first. I realize that I'm better and more consistent with caring for my body when I make sure to care for my mind. 😌
I absolutely love your editing, especially in this video. Also, when you cut to the hairstyle you did for, I think it was a wedding or graduation, I thought "oh, how cuuuuute!!" But you were teary eyed and that was so heartbreaking because it really only matters how you feel about what you're seeing and going through. You're gorgeous regardless what your hair looks like. I giggled so much during this video, your personality is just top tier. ✊🏾🇿🇦💕
thank you so much!! I'm so happy you noticed, I put som extra effort into gathering clips and telling a cohesive story with this video. I'm so happy you noticed! Also, thank you for your kind words, I think I'm fancily figuring it out, you know? :)
Thank you for this positive, real talk. I have Ben struggling so to negativity and frustration towards my “seemingly short” 4c hair lately. Gonna watch this again to implement your mindset. Thanks girl
The stress is real. I was diagnosed with alopecia a year after my dad passed away and it was truly heartbreaking for me. That’s when I realized I wasn’t coping with my grief very well. I picked up on yoga and just walking for exercise. It has helped so much. I’ve had thick long hair my whole life and to see strands all of a sudden fall out was depressing. I knew I had to start taking care of myself. Thankfully my two bald spots grew back, but I know one day another will return. It will just be a reminder to be kind to myself. ❤
Danielle, you are SO PRETTY. I just had to say that, because everything about you is so beautiful--skin, hair, features...you even have beautiful teeth--and I don't know how often you hear it.
I relate to so much of what you said. Didn’t have the best friends and stopped talking to them a few months ago. I’ve felt so much better and I have been using positive affirmations. I created a private Twitter account where I only follow positive affirmations accounts and some zodiac stuff. Even though I didn’t believe in that, the positivity was great for my mental state.
Omg! I have never seen your channel before but this video randomly popped up on my channel this morning!! I think it’s inspiration because I’m trying to grow my hair but I recently realized my hyper focus on length is keeping me from actually achieving it. My new phrase is “I’m going to stop forcing my hair’s growth process and just give her what she’s asking for”. I loved watching this video and seeing your journey. Also your personality is amazing!! You have such a light about you and you are stunning!!😍 coming back for more of your videos soon!
Star Puppy... I am a witness to your hair growth. You did great, so proud of you while keeping it real. I just did a challenge from October 2022 until today April 10, 2023. I am 66 years young, and wore wigs, while keeping my hair platted, twisted in about 12 plats, and washed every two or three weeks., not a lot of prouducts, washed in my twists or braids, kept it moisturized when needed, satin pillow cases, keep hydrated, etc Eat healthy, keep the faith, and like you said do not compare yourself to others. I think I grew about 4 inches, but cut at least one by trimming my plats when necessary. I like your crown sweetie.. I try to keep it stretched, no heat, no color. You are a true blessing to lots of naturals going through the journey. God Bless !
Just stumbled across your channel and loved your content and personality. What really stood out to me was how you learned to love and accept your God given hair. It’s something I’m still struggling with. Your hair is beautiful! And when I see other naturals I always think how beautiful their hair is but for whatever reasons haven’t been able to do that for myself. So thank you for the reminder.
THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU! For your raw honesty on this often very touchy subject . I too experienced stress related hair loss with my naturally thin hair. Ironically I went through some of the very steps you took to regain my confidence, accept myself and my hair and learn to regrow my hair. This video still uplifts me but I know it is even more of a jewel to women and girls currently experiencing hair loss and searching for help and encouragement.
I’m from London & I’ve been watching you since 2019! Our hair is very similar/almost identical and I’ve wanted to give up and go bald so many times!! This video has given me hope again 😂 You need to share your skin care routine
I literally started going to therapy because of this video. I've always had the same nature of hair as you and I was always frustrated of not being able to have thickeness and density. My mental health was in the gutter the first time I watched this video. And I remember when you said you got into therapy I started to cry, because my friends pushing me to find one. When I heard you say it, I got the courage to make the calls. Now I am onto my second appointment next Tuesday. Rewatching it now feels good. Thank you for your advices !!
OMG! Hey Girl! I still use my own tutorial !
definitely adding your video for my trimmings because Star's ends be looking so good that I thought she was going to professional salon!
ayyyyyyy it's a GREAT tutorial, girl!
@@quasar4472 I actually really want to go to "Deeper than Hair"'s salon and get a silk press! But we don't live in the same state 😢 Maybe in 2023.
@@TheStarPuppy This will be super exciting!! I love how she do silk presses! She will be the perfect stylist for you!
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Just want to comment because I'm a white man about to marry a black 4c girl whos given up on her hair and always hated it. I asked her if I could do research and we could walk this out together with more love and compassion and she said yes.
You bring up so many important points that really help me better grasp how difficult this can be for 4c women.
At the end of the day my goal is that I hear my future wife and best friend say she loves her hair, and I think part of that journey is loving yourself truly internally.
You are a good person!!! This is what it’s about! Blessings to her and her hair journey!
Amen! 🤎💜🤎
You're so pure .
🥺 bro this is sooo sweet ❤
you are amazing she really got the best
"You know what doesn't ignore stress? Your whole body." Woooooo, I felt that. Your body will speak up very loudly!
My body won't shut up!
Yes it does
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk
Facts
"if someone pours water in the next room, my hair shrinks." 😭😂
💀😂😭
See my life explained.
I conquer!!! The number of times I get "did you cut your hair" lol now I just embrace the F!! Out of it yes of course I cut it who wants long hair....!!!! Lol
😂😂 me too!
Wahh😂😂😂🤣
1) Accept YOUR hair journey: relax into YOUR hair's existence WHATEVER it may be 2)Stop w/the excessive length checks 3)wear hats, scarfs, covering 4)scalp care; inversion
5)misting, moisturizing, strengthening, dconditioning the hair 6) trim
thanks, ms vann
@starpuppy1 stop scamming like bruh shut up
Thank you for summarizing.
Do you know how many times a week I should oil my hair?
Thank you🥺🥺 I'm adhd n I can get so frustrated with not being able to catch everything after watching once❤.
YESYESYES realizing no amount of twist outs, products, oil, and whatever other concoctions the natural hair community is obsessed with, is going to magically give you 3c hair that's long and shiny was the biggest hurdle to get over for me. Once I started being realistic and looking for people with hair like mine, i learned how to take care of MY hair. And it grew(not a lot but, still), got thicker, less breakage, the whole nine.
@Trinity M absolutely! I was obsessing over textures that weren't mine thinking I could make a miracle. My hair is healthier than ever now that I'm doing what's best for me.
@@lillybelle544 You know what she’s getting at. The obsession is ridiculous for 4c individuals. Our hair is a drier texture but still beautiful when we are not trying to conform to European standards.
Morayo...White woman with 2c hair here, also wishing for 3b/3c curls....I think it's so ironic that whether it's skin color or hair curls, the grass is always greener on the other side! Seems we all want to be middle of the road yet be unique at the same time (white girls tan, perm their hair, and try to get bigger lips & booties....black girls try to go the opposite...both just want to meet in the middle). Now that I'm older, I'm better at appreciating what God gave me. He made you beautiful just the way you are...
Same. Every word.
I’m on a perm to natural journey and never understood the word “journey” until 10 weeks in. And I discovered I have the top kinkiest hair and I don’t know how to feel abt it. Coming to the realization that it will never be anything but 4c made me more determined to love it the way it is, even when it does look conforming. I don’t want to hate myself or my ancestors becuz social media peddles euro centric acceptance. Natural 4c hair is so beautiful when it’s healthy.
It’s the self growth for me 👑
Elohooo ✨🤩Thank you! I stay striving lol
Also Congratulations!! 🎊 👰♀️
It's not only a hair growth challenge, it's a beautiful self growth challenge, thanks ❤️
here for it
So true!
💚
I've found my people
I got the littleexta reactttivate growth serum for my mom, since she had hair thinning. She observed a notable decrease in hair fall and is pleased to see small hairs starting to grow.
the empty parts on my head are starting to fill with new hair thanks to the combination of reactivate hair serum and cocoonnion shampoo and oil.
You used to get so upset. My heart went out to you so much. BUT LOOK AT GOD! Lmaooo! Look at you NOW. Your hair is GORGEOUS! I've been watching your entire transformation and you did SO GOOD!!
Yes, this definitely works. I've been using the reactivate hair growth serum by liittllexttra, and it's effective. My hair has started to grow, especially in areas where I've had persistent issues. Along with aloe and Indian gooseberry, the serum is the new addition to my hair routine that has at last shown results after years of trying different oils. Additionally, at the end of the week, rather than throwing out the tea leaves, I use them as a hair rinse during my weekly wash routine.
Thank you! I’ve been sticking to the regimen you recommended together with reactiavate growth serum for approximately two months now and my hair has become much denser.
the blend of ingredients in the reactivvate serum for hair growth is so good. my hair is finally growing more, and it's finally making a difference
Your hair has grown a lot!and I'm glad to witness your hair journey! I see your channel as a diary, and to look back and reflect on yourself (along with therapy) really does open up solutions on how to better yourself.
I'm glad you mentioned the length checks -- NOT GONNA LIE, it's one of those strange, strange things in the natural hair community that resulted in length check shirts being sold. ionno man 😅🤣 not seeing it much any more these days!
I love how open you are about your struggles while doing it with grace and sense of humor. Us 4C girls can relate to much of what you're saying. I suffer from depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. Now, at the age of 43 , I had gone back to natural over 10 years ago. And just when I think I've accepted myself and my hair, I still find that at times I envy softer, curlier textures. I just wish my hair and would grow down my back!
Deep condition once a week, you'll see difference
Your not alone, I feel like a lot of us 4c gurls go through these phases. I just recently cut off all my unhealthy ends. I’m back to where I was 5yrs ago length wise but I needed to get over my obsession with long hair and just prioritize having healthy hair.
Samee
I can relate! I have in Nubian twists now, but I recently did cut off a lot of my ends, my hair has just been DRY AS HELL🤦🏾♀️. I can also say I have not been deep conditioning my hair enough so maybe that's why it's been so dry?what do you think? Is a deep conditioner necessary? I will just use some tressemme conditioner and that's it, maybe it's not enough. My hair is several textures of type 4. yes, I drink 💦, 😅. my hair shrinks ALOT over 75%. Not sure what to do with it now🤷🏾♀️. I don't want to leave these twists in for too long because it's been like almost 3 weeks and it feels dry😄.
@AfroMystik if I can add my two cents, deep conditioning regularly can make a world of difference! I honestly don’t expect much from regular conditioner and feel like my deep conditioner is my real conditioning step. I deep condition every time I wash my hair and it works for me! TGIN has some good ones and I usually leave it on overnight or put a cap on and sit under a dryer for like 30 minutes if possible. Depending on your hair you may not need to deep condition every wash, but maybe feel it out.
Also dryness in your twists might be helped by spritzing a little mixture of conditioner and water ( mostly water and a dollop of conditioner) on your twists and a little oil to seal that in. Make sure your twists dry fully tho afterwards
That’s where I’m at too now
@@sihintsegay6918 Thank you so much!!🤎🤎🤎 I took down my kinky twists yesterday and my hair had some buildup at the base, but I was able to brush it out. Like you said deep conditioning must be done. I think my hair has been missing it. Because the regular conditioner is not cutting it! My hair drys very quickly, and soaks up product fast since having a second baby 6 and 2, I don't have time!!! I rush through it . But now I'm going to just dedicate an hr and take my time to deep condition. Btw do you think I should continue to add twist extensions not sure if that could be drying my hair out more also🤔
The last time I saw you, you were talking about having thin hair and that was a couple of years ago. Now I see you again years later on my recommendations and I was beyond ecstatic for you just by seeing the thumbnail. I'm so so so soooooo proud of you for being able to work through those obstacles 💙💙💙💙💙
Yes! The video where she was unhappy with how her hair turned out! She was so mad. Now years later she's amazing!
Hair is flourishing, skin is glowing girl you are so pretty! Thank you for this video btw
💯❤️❤️
Shes very pretty
I love you ! As someone w/ 4C thin hair while also being a lazy natural trying to navigate my new journey of motherhood and feeling overwhelmed w/ just basic personal& life necessities, I appreciate you being a voice to indirectly tell me to: CALM DOWN! The stress won’t make it no better ; our bodies and ourselves need grace and release!
“She’s sensitive-she’s me”🥺♥️
This video is everything! Heart warming, informative, funny, sentimental, cute.
Great job & thank you for the tips!
I just want to be transparent and say that this video popped up in my very new natural state and I was slightly depressed and not even about my hair and for some reason your video gave me hope about a fresh start in general and your helping me with my refocusing. You literally gave me something new to look forward to that healthy for me mentally and physically ❤
i remember being so frustrated with thin brittle 4c hair and finding your channel when you were just as frustrated. Your hair growth since then is unbelievable, just amazing. Im still struggling but have seen some improvement and growth. I've kind of resigned myself to the fact that as a 40s woman, possibly premenopausal, my hair will grow, but slowly, so i will continue to take care of it and just accept it as it is. if it flourishes, great, if not...well, what to do. Pointless stressing about it. One thing i will say is that youth definitely plays a role. Your hair hair has the opportunity to thrive before you hit that stage where hormonal and other issues causes the hair to not flourish as much
I've found the best thing I've ever done for my hair is love it. No matter what shenanigans are happening, what style didn't happen, what role weather has played that day: just love it. Thank you for your story, it makes me feel seen. I KNOW your hair is gorgeous, thank you!
Don’t give up! I am pure African living in Africa. Am 70 I chopped my hair off 3 years ago after decades of relaxers weaves, bonding where my hair went thin lost my edges etc. went natural on short hair started growing it with all these recipes it’s growing very little shedding and it’s thick and fuller. Still grappling with edges but they are also showing promise. Watch your diet use supplements as well. Zinc,Iron, D3.Omegas and Vit E and C and A as well. Cheers
@@jayzeem14 thanks for sharing. I was thinking this same thing that I could have full hair well into my eighties and now u have confirmed it.
Anybody thinking Sis should be doing major voice-over gigs? ❤
Great mic too!
Facts. Coz like here voice is just ✨️❤ 😂
Genuinely thank you for how open you've been through your journey. And being honest about the struggles
Thanks for affirming this for me; I went through a phase where I was researching the power of hair A LOT and came to the realisation that even telling ourselves that our hair is “hard to handle” or takes “a long time to do” is a negative way of loving our hair & in return we neglect it by not seeing our hair in a positive light. Since I stopped proclaiming such beliefs, my hair started growing a lot esp. as I started wearing it out more and taking better care of it!
YES
I JUST got this revelation. I had to cut again because I didn’t get this earlier this year.
@@Royalbloodline1990 we pray your hair grows beautifully 🙏✨
i needed this lol
This is such nonsense
I have not watched this entire video yet, but I stumbled across a video of yours last night and I wasn't even looking for you today.... but the next video that came up happened to be this one and I said that I just have to say something. You are so hilarious and I don't know who needs to discover you with that bubbly personality and your funny way of putting things and I don't even know what you do for a living, but girl you have the gift for entertainment trust me I know. TRUST ME....I KNOW talent.
Hello, I haven't watched your videos in a while but I want to say this is an excellent monologue. I think it is very descriptive of what a lot of us have been going through over the last few years. Great video!!!
Thanks for visiting! It means a lot :)
Love these reflection videos. I needed this reminder to refocus on controlling my stress levels. After struggling with telogen effluvium off and on since 2018, I’ve learned that my hair really is the window to my soul. Nothing gets past it-it catches every emotion and signals me to imbalances while still hanging in there with me…which is really loyal when I stop to think about it 🤔 I’ll be adopting the ‘trim your life while you trim your hair’ method from this point forward! Thank you 🙏🏾
Your hair has definitely grown a lot! I think if you were to do another hair series, you could do one that focuses on embracing shrinkage rather than running from it. It's just what our hair naturally does. Just letting my hair live where it wants without having to stretch it has helped me appreciate and love the beauty of my "short looking" hair. I am also able to measure my growth based on the bigness of my hair instead of feeling inclined to pull out a measuring tape. I have been wearing wash n go's without stretching them and have fallen in love with how my hair sits without any coaxing. This shifted my mindset about my hair to a different level.
Once I started healing spiritually and mentally, and removed stress from my life, my hair grew so much. This year my hair grew 5 inches which it's never done before. The most my hair grew in a year my whole life was under 3 inches. I'm doing similar tactics I did back then, but now my hair is actually thriving! I even prayed over my hair and i know that helped too. Overall I'm just a more healthy person.
This is my first time watching you. Thank you for your transparency. This is perfect as I'm beginning 2023. It's definitely time for destressing every area in my life and truly taking time to learn what my 4c hair needs.
You speak with such clarity and strength. You have come so far. I am proud of you and enjoy listening to you 🤗
Women who are stressed often project it on some part of our bodies that we are frustrated with. I've noticed it's more common for black girls to stress about hair whereas other girls tend to stress about weight. I think your hair is pretty & I don't really understand the fixation on length that a lot of my black friends have. But they don't understand me working out an hour a day to stay 115lbs either. We should all try to be good to ourselves 💞
I think it’s partly due to men’s reactions too… in my experience, black men focus on more on our hair length and white men on our weight
Therapy is lifesaving
Comparison is the thief of joy
Self talk aka Affirmations are necessary! ❤🥰
I just wanted to comment and let you know how incredible this video is and how much it has helped me. For the longest time I was very hard on myself and how my hair looked (especially because of the negative comments I would receive sometimes) and I had this mindset that once my hair was a certain length that I would love it. This video has helped me become patient and loving towards my hair in its current state and I feel more confident and happy about it than I ever have before! Thank you so much again, I really love your content!
We were always told never do your hair when upset. I’m in my 40s . I’m so happy to see you found yourself and walked into love with her 💫
OMG, I learned that lesson ONE. TIME. I paid for that angry wash day for about 8 months smh
This video was very inspiring and real! You made me realize fears, thoughts and patterns I have myself and have a truly realistic way to reverse the mental damage. The fear part hit home! My hair is 16 inches and it was a journey getting there. Then life, stress, and body chemistry changes after I stopped breast feeding changed the density. Then my fear of losing everything I worked for was overwhelming and saddening. This video reached me, sis! Thank you for the depth of transparency and honesty. I’m going to implement the change in my thought patterns and ways.
This was really GOOD Danielle! So proud of you. And its soooo good how a change of mindset helps you change your actions to ones that benefit you and make you happy. Congrats. Much more success to you and may fluff nugget continue to grow.
thank yooooooou!!! You're so sweet, you brightened up my day with this comment :)!
I swear I never comment ever haha but I’ve never heard someone talk so openly about the mental stresses of having 4c hair like you have I almost started crying honestly. You’re so on point with each topic 👏🏽👏🏽 love the video girly!!
This was an amazing video! Your hair is beautiful, Danielle. This video was very cathartic for me as a viewer; what you said about mental and emotional health impacting your body is TRUTH and almost no one considers them enough when taking inventory of what’s causing any physical ailment. This was so enjoyable, as your content always is. And yours skin has always been lovely but it’s 𝒈𝒍𝒐𝒘𝒊𝒏𝒈✨ now. I’m happy you’re happy. ☺️💗
I'm a dude who's never known how to take care of his 4c hair, but I'm making a concerted effort to repair the damage I've done to it over the years. This has been an incredibly helpful video because it puts things in perspective. There isn't a magic tincture that'll fix it, there's a whole host of things that can affect hair growth, and many of them like stress management is something I've ignored. Thank you for highlighting being realistic and overall self care.
Your journey is really inspiring, especially since you battle with trich just like I do currently. I'm a guy with 4c hair and it's tough sometimes. I think I resonate with what you said about needing to focus on scalp health rather than styles since the hair is still short.
Positive self-talk is such a game changer. There was a time where I told someone something like "When I'm home by myself it's like being left alone with someone who really doesn't like me." It was BAD. Then, I made a rule: I'm not allowed to say anything to myself or talk to me in any way that I wouldn't use when speaking to someone else. I would NEVER EVER call another person lazy or stupid, but I did it to myself constantly. It took a while for my inner voice to recalibrate- it didn't have anything nice to say, so it wasn't allowed to say anything at all - but that silence created a space for new conversations. After the compulsive self-dragging stopped, I started asking myself what I would say to my spouse if they were struggling and being as harsh with themselves as I was. It was like a light flicked on.
The idea of my husband beating himself up about things he could help really hurt me, and this ridiculous exercise helped me empathize with myself for the first time. After that, my internal voice became this super annoyingly supportive cheerleader coaching me through my difficulties. They know the difference between "I can't because I don't feel good, and I need a break," and "I can't because I really don't want to," and they gently talk me through both situations. I'm reminded that I need breaks and that it's better for everyone if I take them, or I get kicked into gear with comments like, "I know you're really tired, but I know you can keep running for another minute. You've already run for five minutes, so one minute is nothing: you can do this!"
I know it's just my internal dialogue, and not another person, but it's so different that it feels like a different person - and I'm a completely different person because of it. It felt so silly in the beginning, but it literally changed everything. I'm happier than I ever believed I could be.
This comment is amazing!!
I love this thank u for sharing
this gives me so much hope. I’ve been realllly feeling it lately after removing my crochet and detangling my hair + the works, but with all my hair loss it feels like I’ve gotten no where.
Whilst I feel it’s more a case of being unable to afford anything more than basic shampoo and conditioner (alongside a generally stressful environment) I’m nevertheless feeling hopeful to keep it protective so I can bide time until I can properly progress in my journey :D❤
If it helps, I personally just deep condition and don’t even bother w/ regular conditioner anymore unless I need it for detangling. Also, you can make deep conditioner out of regular conditioner using olive oil and honey. If that method works for u, maybe the money saved on conditioner can be spent on a good leave in!
Stay the course and you’ll see results. Also, be sure to moisturize the heck out of your actual hair (or whatever your strands need) while it’s in the protective style. It helps so much!!
@@cerealis_5432 REALLY? Omg 😱 I didn’t know I could make my own- thank you both so much 💕 I’ll try it outtt~
I have never heard anyone so therapuetically and st the same time analytically describe their hair situation, with love. you are skilled young lady! Thank you
So proud of you!! Congrats on your hair growth and being transparent about therapy.
You've matured so much, sis, and your hair is beautiful. Thank you for your hair journey stories🙏🏽
You are so beautiful! That melanin is popping. I have hair like yours. I decided to loc it up though. Thank you for addressing mindset and therapy. NOBODY TALKS ABOUT THAT. Nobody talks about the mental aspect that black women go through regarding our hair either. And I love your voice. It's so soothing! Keep being you love!
You are such a pretty young woman. I would have never know you were going through that.
I subscribed to your Chanel because you are so extremely captivating, Talented and oh so intellectual. Your vocals!!! - I have all the confidence you will be very BIG!!
God has given you a LOT!! TALENT-INTELLECT-A BEAUTIFUL VOICE-BEAUTY-WITTINESS-and a very big sense of Comedic Timing!
I’m 70 years old and ive seen a lot in my lifetime. So, for you to have captivated my attention…LOL … keep striving- You are the Best😘😘😘
Girl you are all kinds of fun! I was thinking this was a simple video on hair care (as I am now natural) and I somehow now feel seen. Thanks for this. I'm now subscribed!
The intro is definitely me right now lol. Sooo happy for you. I have fine thin hair and brows so I can relate and happy someone has a visual diary that serves as proof. Ugh I needed this.
This is the first video that actually talks about the psychology and mentality when it comes to natural hair. Thank you so much for making this video. It is totally different than the other “tips” that people talk about their hair. Yours is most likely the only video that reads truth. Thank you so much my type 4 hair sister 🫶🏾
Oo I'm early! I feel like I can properly thank you for all these videos that you make! I feel like we have similar vibes and hair journeys, and it's always so nice to see new videos to see how you've grown on your journey. These tips really help, it may take a minute for me to fully internalize it, but they do help so thank you!!
This woman is so articulate I can not. ❤ soothing and healing.
The accountability in the first 60 seconds of this video was truely amazing.✨️🙌🏾✨️
Can't fix the problem if you can't pinpoint the problem, lol
The algorithm suggested this video to me and I'm so glad! This was the best natural hair video I've watched in all my years on RUclips. Thank you for sharing your story and yourself- your personality is 10/5 stars ha, you're so beautiful and inspiring! My hair is currently growing out from what seems like my 100th "big chop" (lol) as a result of damage. I have an opportunity to get it right this time. Thanks for your transparency and the reminder to not repeat the same mistakes/cycles from the past. Looking fwd to the journey :)
I love your voice. My hair is similar in that any inkling of moisture causes it to shrink. I've learned to be grateful because it is a sigh of elasticity! Your hair is beautiful and so are you.
This video is everything Star. Don’t be afraid to be your own cheerleader. How we feel about ourselves is next level. It takes time & experience to realize the importance of this concept. Show up for you. 😊❤
It’s been so beautiful to watch Fluff Nugget thrive! I was so heartbroken for you after the wave formers incident. I’m so happy to see you thriving ❤
Your personal growth is so amazing…and you’re absolutely glowing and beautiful 😍
I feel like our hair is a reflection of who the Most High made us to be; strong, yet difficult at times. We can style our hair in many different ways and it is truly an enhancement and a blessing. Everything is about perspective.
@Trinity M I'm speaking in general as a people. At times we are very stiff necked just like the bible says, which is about us.
My hair is resilient and pampered and loved….. the Most High didn’t make us strong so please stop.
@@firewater365 Lol. If you aren't strong in spirit, then you are claiming to be defeated and the enemy has already won you. Pray that the Most High takes that weak, defeated mindset from you.
@LynnX I get what you mean our hair is unique. The Most High made us different from everyone else.
Ngl, I’ve always loved your hair but I love that you’ve worked out what works for you and your hair in terms of retaining length. Your hair looks incredibly healthy.
You are such a beautiful person! Glad this is a fruitful journey, only more successes to come sis!
It is very refreshing and helpful that I see more and more black women come out and say I have trichotillomania. I have had trichotillomania since elementary school. I am 28 years old now and still have 5 inches of hair on my head but that’s okay I’m happy with my hair because I have accepted my disorder and try my best to leave my hair alone. Thank you for sharing
Hi. Your video saved my life. I resonated with this video tremendously. Being a healing Trichotillomaniac myself, this video gave me so much warmth and cheerfulness. God knew I needed someone like you to do a video like this! As apart of my journey, I NEEDED to see that i'm not the only one who does this to myself, because we deserve so much better and so do our beautiful curls!!! ILY girl.
Through this video you have been inspiring me and reminding me to do a lot. Within the span of 11 minutes I reached out to my therapist, wrote my positive affirmations and now I’m about to take care of my scalp. Merry Christmas!
You hair has come a looonnngg waaay 😭😭😭😭❤❤❤❤ we need some sort of fluff nugget graduation ceremony . Twists are my personal favorites to get growth . Keep going sugar :)
YESS YESS YESS ❤❤❤ I feel everything you said! I started my locs about a year ago and the way I feel like i built a whole new relationship with my hair after years of only focusing on how to hide it, it’s incredibly liberating! Ofc I have bad hair days like everyone else but making that mindset shift and really learning to love our hair is freeing
Trichotilomania, I understand. I would pull entire fistufull of hair in a 1 hour period back when I was in highscool. It went away when I went to college.
We can all do it ! Courage everyone going through this.
This is real from the heart ❤️ - yyeezz focusing on our scalp health- boosting the health our hair - inversion styles & misting every night - do it for a month - take a couple of weeks off - & go back - deep conditioning- & conditioning- you gotta trim your hair - how to trim your hair by yourself- ( by Denise ) - your hair is extremely beautiful job well done hun & don’t forget to go to therapy & de-stress - positive affirmations every day !!
What’s an inversion hairstyle? I’ve never heard of that but curious to try.
I learned to embrace shrinkage years ago. I call it Black Girl Magic. I can go from a TWA to shoulder length hair in the same day. And be asked if it’s a wig! 😂…. In your case it’s Star Puppy Magic! Now your hair is blossoming like your picture in your merch! Love it! ❤🤗🥰
i used to frequent your channel years ago and wow it's amazed that it's been this much time.. fluffnugget is looking great
Had a bad salon day on the 24th, went to take down my locs. Turns out the lady doesn't know how it's done, before you ask, it's at the same place it was installed, just different stylists.
By the time I looked up, a good portion of my hair was shorter than it's normal length. I am five years into growing my hair and it has grown to match these years, so to say I was livid would be an understatement.
Almost dented my Christmas spirit, hope to correct this mistake moving forward and staying very far away from salons, which I have been doing until I got the locs installed.
Sorry, needed to put this where nobody will say "it's just hair", because it isn't "just hair" to me.
Thanks for the tips.
Sorry this happened to you 😢
You said a whole lot that stuck with me. I'm also 4c. I started my journey in 2010, and it got the best of me a couple times, and I ended up relaxing it. I BC for the 2nd time in April-box braids and headband wigs are my go to. Your strength to keep going and tweaking along the way is inspiring. ✨❤️✌🏾💪🏾
Your transparency is helping others!
I LOVE YOU!!! Your humor, creativity, and how you clearly express yourself in simple honesty. You go girl.
You truly do have to find a protective style that actually protects YOUR hair.
The passion twist suit you beautifully! ❤
I I am dealing with hair loss because of stress and I’m glad to see there is hope, thank you for sharing this journey with us it was very helpful!
Hey Benny, I came across your channel back in December 2021. I’m watching your video now as I love how you break it down for us natural ladies on how to treat our hair. I’m 72 years old and always concerned about my hair health and issues with stress, sad to say however I deal with stress and anxiety and I it’s not good for my health. Just watching you explain how how to go about taking care of the health of the hair has really encouraged me and I want to say thank you for that. There’s so much more to growing and maintaining the hair, yes we have to love who we are and learn how to be happy in the bodies that God gave us. Positive behavior is number one and if we could just overcome negative stressful situations we can get our hair to a healthy growth pattern and become stress free. Thank you for making this awesome video and may the good Lord bless you always.♥️
As an early subscriber I've noticed a shift in tone on your channel. Sometimes I like it, some times I would not check in for a few months because I'm at a fifteenth spot in my hair journey and I didn't feel like all of what you were promoting was for me at the time. I'm so glad learned what you have and I fond this very inspiring. I think I like this shift in mindset
We're all learning and growing. I'm glad you still visit :)
Very wise post, and thank you for talking about trichotillomania. I started pulling my hair out when I was 10 during my parents divorce. I had no idea why, and couldn’t seem to stop. Therapy is absolutely a beauty secret! Frankly, everyone needs therapy for something. It’s just a way of examining your own life and thought processes, evaluating your goals, and finding healthier ways of dealing with relationships. Why the stigma? (Is it shameful or emasculating for actors to hire trainers to help them get into superhero shape?) It’s not as if emotional health is second nature to everyone. I am so grateful for this post. I was just smiling and nodding the whole way.
Hey Danielle!
I've been a fan for years now. I have never related to someone on social media this much and I use your tips all the time. Your energy and vibes are always lovely! 😄
You're so right about the importance of de-stressing life first. I realize that I'm better and more consistent with caring for my body when I make sure to care for my mind. 😌
I LOVE HEARING YOU SPEAK TOO! You're such a natural beauty! Bless you!!
I absolutely love your editing, especially in this video.
Also, when you cut to the hairstyle you did for, I think it was a wedding or graduation, I thought "oh, how cuuuuute!!" But you were teary eyed and that was so heartbreaking because it really only matters how you feel about what you're seeing and going through. You're gorgeous regardless what your hair looks like.
I giggled so much during this video, your personality is just top tier.
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thank you so much!! I'm so happy you noticed, I put som extra effort into gathering clips and telling a cohesive story with this video. I'm so happy you noticed!
Also, thank you for your kind words, I think I'm fancily figuring it out, you know? :)
I can't believe i just met you. LOVE your personality! And also, I pray this saves my hair too.
"If someone pours water in the other room, my hair shrinks." 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Thank you for this positive, real talk. I have Ben struggling so to negativity and frustration towards my “seemingly short” 4c hair lately. Gonna watch this again to implement your mindset. Thanks girl
The stress is real. I was diagnosed with alopecia a year after my dad passed away and it was truly heartbreaking for me. That’s when I realized I wasn’t coping with my grief very well. I picked up on yoga and just walking for exercise. It has helped so much. I’ve had thick long hair my whole life and to see strands all of a sudden fall out was depressing. I knew I had to start taking care of myself. Thankfully my two bald spots grew back, but I know one day another will return. It will just be a reminder to be kind to myself. ❤
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You have come a long way baby girl. Fluff nugget 💕 is beautiful and thriving.
I second this 👌🏾
Healthy hair over everything! You’re not alone girl.
Danielle, you are SO PRETTY. I just had to say that, because everything about you is so beautiful--skin, hair, features...you even have beautiful teeth--and I don't know how often you hear it.
I relate to so much of what you said. Didn’t have the best friends and stopped talking to them a few months ago. I’ve felt so much better and I have been using positive affirmations. I created a private Twitter account where I only follow positive affirmations accounts and some zodiac stuff. Even though I didn’t believe in that, the positivity was great for my mental state.
Omg! I have never seen your channel before but this video randomly popped up on my channel this morning!! I think it’s inspiration because I’m trying to grow my hair but I recently realized my hyper focus on length is keeping me from actually achieving it. My new phrase is “I’m going to stop forcing my hair’s growth process and just give her what she’s asking for”. I loved watching this video and seeing your journey. Also your personality is amazing!! You have such a light about you and you are stunning!!😍 coming back for more of your videos soon!
This was a very interesting video, and the nostalgia I got from the clips of 2021,20,19.❤❤
Star Puppy... I am a witness to your hair growth. You did great, so proud of you while keeping it real. I just did a challenge from October 2022 until today April 10, 2023. I am 66 years young, and wore wigs, while keeping my hair platted, twisted in about 12 plats, and washed every two or three weeks., not a lot of prouducts, washed in my twists or braids, kept it moisturized when needed, satin pillow cases, keep hydrated, etc Eat healthy, keep the faith, and like you said do not compare yourself to others. I think I grew about 4 inches, but cut at least one by trimming my plats when necessary. I like your crown sweetie.. I try to keep it stretched, no heat, no color. You are a true blessing to lots of naturals going through the journey. God Bless !
So glad you are happy & healthy...and a major plus that your hair is evidence of that self-love. From your subscriber who is also a therapist 😊
Just stumbled across your channel and loved your content and personality. What really stood out to me was how you learned to love and accept your God given hair. It’s something I’m still struggling with. Your hair is beautiful! And when I see other naturals I always think how beautiful their hair is but for whatever reasons haven’t been able to do that for myself. So thank you for the reminder.
You look GORGEOUS with short hair! I love it all! 💗
THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU! For your raw honesty on this often very touchy subject . I too experienced stress related hair loss with my naturally thin hair. Ironically I went through some of the very steps you took to regain my confidence, accept myself and my hair and learn to regrow my hair. This video still uplifts me but I know it is even more of a jewel to women and girls currently experiencing hair loss and searching for help and encouragement.
I’m from London & I’ve been watching you since 2019! Our hair is very similar/almost identical and I’ve wanted to give up and go bald so many times!! This video has given me hope again 😂
You need to share your skin care routine
I love the way you talk! you’re very witty and your voice is so soothing 🥹❤
Fluff Nugget is gorgeous and flourishing. Love your channel!!!!!
I literally started going to therapy because of this video. I've always had the same nature of hair as you and I was always frustrated of not being able to have thickeness and density. My mental health was in the gutter the first time I watched this video. And I remember when you said you got into therapy I started to cry, because my friends pushing me to find one. When I heard you say it, I got the courage to make the calls. Now I am onto my second appointment next Tuesday. Rewatching it now feels good. Thank you for your advices !!