actually alot of journalists do cry and respond emotionally to their work since they're human after all but its discouraged from showing that and is usually edited out since it makes them seem less objective which i think is crazy. i trust someone who responds like human more
The saddest part is only when the girls achieve they are acknowledged.,.Each and every girl by birth is an achiever , coz she has to undergo from the small al kind of hormonal, mental and physical changes in her body.... Salute to All the girls let's not only celebrate the goddess, let's try to respect each and every girl in our families 🇿🇦
I became a father to a baby girl recently. She is the best gift life has given me. Can't understand how can some people be so cruel to kill their own child.
U think the other communities don't kill female babies . I think it's patriarchy. It's got nothing to do with caste . Which is another shitty aspect in this society.
@MISHA_NARANG_SHARMALol isme bhi caste le Aaye? So let me tell you Dome_stic viol_en_ce against women is lowest in Generals among other castes. Aayi badi brahmin.
Many people watching this will feel angry at theses midwives. Come on, let's face the fact it's not them, it's the parents, the grandparents, the relatives, THE SOCIETY, THE MINDSET. Was, Is and Will always be. Change your mindset people
Well mumbai is backward in hdi ..thats why places like kerala has a higher female to male ratio.they even have govt funded 24 hr stations with laser sensors for such parents to "dispose " of their child in safe environment like if its bcz of an illicit relationship..no one will b there except gates and floor will b sensor laid and when the baby is laid the nearby hospital and police station get alarms and they rush to get the baby to hospital irrespective of sex
lol people here claiming west has abortion , please go read difference between female infanticide and abortion . As a second daughter , who was told that my birth was not a cause of joy , this hit home .
I have cousins who have met the same reaction upon their births(with the mother crying profusely not wanting to meet her new born daughter). The Girl child isn’t a liability if you don’t treat her as one. As a Man, It is harrowing and almost funny to see this obsession of People wanting an heir for their Kingdom of Poverty. We as a society need to understand that a Child is not a 401K or a retirement plan, and that an empowered girl child is equally as capable of taking care of the responsibilities of her parents. Sadly, these arguments will once again fall on deaf ears waiting diligently for the cries of a young boy, upon whom they can put the burden of their old age. Think of the women capable of doing this, it’s not like their hands are clean. This depiction of Karna’s anger at Mata Kunti in the Mahabharat comes to mind, "मैं ध्यान जन्म का धरता हूँ, उन्मन यह सोचा करता हूँ, कैसी होगी वह माँ कराल, निज तन से जो शिशु को निकाल धाराओं में धर आती है, अथवा जीवित दफनाती है? "सेवती मास दस तक जिसको, पालती उदर में रख जिसको, जीवन का अंश खिलाती है, अन्तर का रुधिर पिलाती है आती फिर उसको फ़ेंक कहीं, नागिन होगी वह नारि नहीं.”
It is very common. Even in my "tier-1" college where most people are coming from an educated and wealthy background, I have friends with such families where there are 3-4 siblings, youngest is boy and rest are girls.
Actually, i come from rural area. In our family and community. Girls are loved and cared. I have lived in a middle class family and never have i seen any discrimination against girl child. I heard about it and read about it but i never saw it. Infact now my sister is a child specialist doctor and married as per choice. In all my relatives or families, most of us who came from rural background, i have never seen anyone abandoning girlchild or any child even if they are MR. So, i dunno why you club whole india in this. Btw i am from North India, Punjab. Just to let u know. So, donot club whole india. Cow and girls both are respected in India. Donot casual make remarks or mock just for likes or clicks. If you want to change do something positive instead of mocking your nation.. U have no knowledge of world therefore u say so. Visit Afghanistan, pakistan, Nepal, Myanmar, Bangladesh , all neighbouring countries and you will see how blessed are to be born in india. If there was small angle difference in your spirit you might have fallen in Afghanistan and born as a women and married at 9 and start having babies by 12. When i was in university i was also like that. After knowing seeing and exploring the world i have realised how blessed and grateful i am to be born in India and as a Hindu. Jai Devi Maa Jagdamba. Jai Gau Mata. 🙏🏻
@@Apache1970 I'm from India, and I know there are matriarchal societies in our country (like in Meghalaya). But I assure you, our politics, especially BJP which influences a large portion of the Hindu population, we focus too much on cows and Hindu religious principles. This is a huge threat to other minorities. Don't forget the genocide of ethnic minorities like the Nagas. India is sick.
Actually, i come from rural area. In our family and community. Girls are loved and cared. I have lived in a middle class family and never have i seen any discrimination against girl child. I heard about it and read about it but i never saw it. Infact now my sister is a child specialist doctor and married as per choice. In all my relatives or families, most of us who came from rural background, i have never seen anyone abandoning girlchild or any child even if they are MR. So, i dunno why you club whole india in this. Btw i am from North India, Punjab. Just to let u know. So, donot club whole india. Cow and girls both are respected in India. Donot casual make remarks or mock just for likes or clicks. If you want to change do something positive instead of mocking your nation.. U have no knowledge of world therefore u say so. Visit Afghanistan, pakistan, Nepal, Myanmar, Bangladesh , all neighbouring countries and you will see how blessed are to be born in india. If there was small angle difference in your spirit you might have fallen in Afghanistan and born as a women and married at 9 and start having babies by 12. When i was in university i was also like that. After knowing seeing and exploring the world i have realised how blessed and grateful i am to be born in India and as a Hindu. Jai Devi Maa Jagdamba. Jai Gau Mata. 🙏🏻
Parents want Son so that he can take care of them in Old Age Protect the Family from outside threat - Animals, Religion, Caste, Family Disputes, etc Daughter can also take Care but it is difficult because in most cases she will marry & from other house it is difficult to take care of Old Age Parents & In Physical Power in most cases it is difficult to win from so many threats Some People dies with Good Health & Some dies with Bad Medical Condition for 5 - 15 Years of Last Time Thousands of years ago we don't have this type of Transport system by which we can go to here & there in hours Now we have that Transport System but it is difficult now also Bharatiya People & outside Forces ☪️, ✝️, 👁️, etc also damaged the Joint Family Structure If that was working other Aunt & Uncle Son can take care of that Daughter Parents who are alone in Old Age By this if there is only Daughter her Cousin Brother can take care of his Biological Parents But this needs Healthy Joint Family Structure
I'm a pediatrician in Haryana and have attended so many deliveries. Even in the rich urban sector families are disappointed to see a baby girl and I see families celebrate when a baby boy is announced. It's not just about dowry and socioeconomic status. This thinking is ingrained into our society at every level that a girl child is a burden, and the boy will take the "family name forward".
I have heard people say “She will get married eventually and go to another house” So she’s a a part of the family but only temporarily? Very sad mentality.
This is the pinnacle of journalism. There's not a soul that hasn't had tears in the eyes at some point in this feature. Thanks for making this sir. Thanks.
I am a 2nd child. After my elder sister, my grandmother was expecting a grandson and was soo disappointed when I was born. My father's side of the family including my father refused to even hold me in his arms for the first few days. Growing up I always heard my relatives and neighbors telling my parents how wonderful it would've been if I was a boy. My male cousins were always pampered and I was ignored by them 💔💔 Now that I am going to be 27 in a few days, those same relatives praises us two sisters for earning and taking care of our parents. I am the one to take my grandmother to hospital whenever she feels sick. My father literally thanks the almighty everyday now for giving him two daughters. This documentary breaks my heart. If only those little angels were given a chance to live 💔
When I saw the girl Monica, I was crying but she is so calm and content from inside.. Her confidence doesn't vanish for a second.. How wonderfully she is raised.. Kudos to the parents.. We all should appreciate Monica's parents.. Their home looks like a normal lower middle class family (we all know the financial and social difference between every class here in India) but still they chose to adopt an abandoned baby girl and raise her so beautifully.. How wonderful.. We need more such Heroes.. I always wanted to adopt children but economically, could never become so independent to make this decision but the least we can do is to pray for all the babies who come to life, shouldn't atleast be killed..
I have taken delivery of many newborns as a junior resident. I observed that mother and her family not happy after knowing that girl is born. This is situation of Haryana Gurgaon. Here people do fasting, go to temple, go to black magicians, bribe the ultrasound Dr, eat the local medicines by quacks, do hawan, worship, tie sacred threads just to get a male baby. It is very sad to see that, after paying so much hardwork by doctor's team, when we tell the mother during the surgery that she had a girl, she starts crying, her BP- pulse starts fluctuating. This is very sad situation of 2024 in India.
Genuine question, is it only hindus that do this? I'm asking bcos I'm a Muslim and I haven't even heard of any Muslim doing this. Like sure some ppl favour boys than girls bcos it's kind of built in the culture(but that's slowly lessening these days) but I've never seen it that extreme. Maybe it's bcos in islam it's forbidden to do stuff like that, but then u would see it in atheist Indians too. So do u just see it in hindus or just Indians in general?
People want Son So that he can take care of them in Old Age Protect the Family from outside threat - Animals, Religion, Caste, Family Disputes, etc Daughter can also take Care but it is difficult because in most cases she will marry & from other house it is difficult to take care of Old Age Parents & In Physical Power in most cases it is difficult to win from so many threats Some People dies with Good Health & Some dies with Bad Medical Condition for 5 - 15 Years of Last Time Thousands of years ago we don't have this type of Transport system by which we can go to here & there in hours Now we have that Transport System but it is difficult now also Bharatiya People & outside Forces ☪️, ✝️, 👁️, etc also damaged the Joint Family Structure If that was working other Aunt & Uncle Son can take care of that Daughter Parents who are alone in Old Age By this if there is only Daughter her Cousin Brother can take care of his Biological Parents But this needs Healthy Joint Family Structure
@@Priyaykanth2 what a nonsense concept this is!! People want a son these days just for sake. Both sons and daughters leave the house for education and job these days and don't come back. I rarely see any son these days taking care of their older parents. Most don't even stay in this country both sons and daughters. U r living in some 90s i think. And we don't need joint families. Our culture is completely flawed and hollow. We barely have things to be proud of. Don't normalise female infanticide. Can't believe I have to say this loud to another person. This is why people are leaving this country.
@@suchismitamukhopadhyay5255 I am not saying all Sons are Good I was telling the Reasons behind it Without understanding the Reason it is difficult to solve the Problem & Those who are doing female infanticide will not understand why are they doing & how it become part of there life Some sons don't live with Parents because wife says she don't want to live with in laws Sometimes wife says this because of Personal Greed & Sometimes in Laws are Toxic But whatever the Reason Son has to Leave the Parents & Society portray it as All Sons who does this is because of there Choice Many Sons Comeback or Call there Parents to there Place Sometimes it takes time because of Expenses, Area Issue, etc I don't support any type of Injustice But Joint Family is a Solution I am not Supporting Toxic Joint Family System I am Supporting Healthy Joint Family System
@@suchismitamukhopadhyay5255 (For healthy Joint Family we should stop comparing Cousins If something is right or wrong we should tell them that Particular thing & how it is wrong or right with Reasons without comparing the Children & Stop Saying things like you should become like that)
@@suchismitamukhopadhyay5255 Do you know that the female infanticide rate is much much higher in China even today?? You might never know that as that doesnt help you to shit on your own culture without trying to know the root cause of this horrible behavior. Only people who can shit on their culture without contributing anything can be called intellectuals here .
My husband is the only son from his parents after 3 daughters. My Mother in Law still don't feel ashamed in saying she was so sad till she got a son. She have got him after so many rituals. 4 months back when I got married the first day itself I was asked for a son. His all 3 elder sisters also have same mindset though their parents didnot even give them comparable education like their son. I really wish I get only daughter whenever I get...I don't want to do gender discrimination like them but only to teach my husband's family the importance of a daughter which they will never understand if I get a son.
did you watch the video? they said that they had no choice, the midwives were threatened by the families to unalive the child and there's no way they could go to the police after commiting the crime @@rajputji1686
They would be killed if they rejected do that. Imagine u r locked in a room with a vulnerable mother who has just given birth. And 5 armed men stand at the door. I'd like to see how much courage u have then.
The girls themselves who feel sad that they were unwanted when they born, do the exact same thing of making their daughter feel unwanted when they give birth.... I have seen it in everywhere, even in my family...
This country hates females. Shocking and disturbing! Kudos to the journalist for not giving up on this documentary. Must have been so hard to track stories for 30 long years. This documentary needs more traction.
@@TheWolfnman Abortion is legal here as well, but Western countries were never notorious for female foeticide like India. But killing of newborn babies just because they are female is beyond evil. A hell lot of Things about our country is sickening and there is no shame in admitting that!
@@Adrien-g6o Killing of children for whatever reason is evil. It's legal in the west too - West just chooses to ignore their own and focuses on India's.
This kind of shit, the feeling of being unwanted, unappreciated, controlled, and suppressed follows a woman all her life. It is a wound that has consumed women for several generations. A lot of what you see as feminism has its roots right from this.
your words have touched me. Sometimes I feel so angry with the world, simply because of what I have to tolerate because I am a woman. The root of that anger lies in what you described. Thank you
My father shows me so much love and all and buys me everything I want. He cares for me deeply and says he loves me the most. But one day I learned from another relative that he was really disappointed when the nurse told him that I was girl after my birth. It shocked me so much. I asked him about this and he just brushed it off and he didn't know what to say, he said at that time, it was like that, I'm not like that now etc, he was sad that I learned about this incident, he wanted to hide it from me. I was born very late to my parents because of fertility issues and I've heard them talk about it as a very struggling and difficult time for them waiting for a baby. But I'll never forget it, he does hold alot of misogynistic beliefs but I never in my life thought that after waiting sooo many years for a baby, he would be disappointed and sad about none other than the fact that I was born a girl.
I am so grateful that my parents had 2 daughters only and brought us up to be educated citizens contributing to the growth of this country. What we need is more real education, not the nonsense that goes in the name of education in this country. Real education is about treating everyone as equal, irrespective of gender, caste or religion. Sadly, all our politicians and society do is treat women as objects or as Goddesses. They can't just get to treat them as equal to men.
I work in Mumbai ..in a prestigious corporate office and here also I have colleagues who openly say they are so relieved they have a boy and not a girl as world is a tough place for a growing female …it’s a huge responsibility and tension. World is so unsafe for women
Well mumbai is backward in hdi ..thats why places like kerala has a higher female to male ratio.they even have govt funded 24 hr stations with laser sensors for such parents to "dispose " of their child in safe environment like if its bcz of an illicit relationship..no one will b there except gates and floor will b sensor laid and when the baby is laid the nearby hospital and police station get alarms and they rush to get the baby to hospital irrespective of sex
its hit hard when your mother told u about that how your grandmother was forcing her to let the baby(me) die. men hits this society so hard that from years women are paying the taxes for being born and then after they say women are getting privileges by a free bus ticket.
True, it's pathetic for our country to still harbour such ideas, this will get better when women are safer in this country and are not forced to stop progress in their careers, if they will not be independent then how can a parent feel good, once my mom told me if I was a female she would have died from worry by now, my mom may be seen as misogynistic but there is a reason why she felt like that, it's harder for women in many ways that men don't understand, I agree they get extra benefits but it's still not enough to empower the female population. One day it will get better.
We boys shouldn't take dowries even in the name of gifts even if the girl's family is rich enough to afford it.we should set an example for the poor parents who can't afford,they should be encouraged to say NO to the one who asks for gifts ( dowry) instead of falling into depression or thinking bad of having a girl child leading to all these heinous crimes
@@dis_appointed8626 I don't support dowry But issue is Many Girls wants High Class Lifestyle which isn't Possible for Most Bharatiya Even after our Per Capita income Improves Everybody wants better but if you want too much better than what you have is not Logically Possible in this Scenario Girl Family Assets comparison with Boy Family Assets (Love Marrige is Exception) Most Girls don't agrees to marry a boy who has same assets as her Biological Family
As an Indian i feel India has a chronic split personality--one side is spiritual, warm, where guest is God and elders are taken care of and children cherished. The other side is this, racism, dowry, patriarchy and other ills. It is what it is. I thank BBC for bringing out the mirror. India cannot remove its rot if we don't know where it is or how deep.
Bro see the lives of women in Iran and afganistan, you would definitely get what's written and what's done. I know condition of women is not pretty well in India, but far better than afganistan, Iran and all these middle East countries, where they where not even given basic rights. Afganistan do not allow women to get higher education, Iran have moral police to check whether women are wearing hizab or not, Iraq has reduced the minimum age of marriage to 9 years. So don't boost your religious progandas, instead work to better the society at your level.
@neerajravi1748 there is a mode of conduct for women so they are not used by men in a different way....if some people is going to an extreme level ....its about their culture not the religion......Girls are allowed to study, Women are allowed to divorce their husbands in Islam..its necessary to ask daughters before marrying them whether they like the person or not.....extremism in any religion if in india done by Bjp Rss, or christian american KKK or the Isis ( said to be a group maintained by Cia mossad in iraq and syria to make the arabs to be fighting so to make israel safe in the middle east) all are to be condemned .....
These kinds of documentries must be shown in schools and theatres. Not a soul must be there who didn't shed a tear. Journalism in its truest form. Thank you for saving these souls team. We owe it to the world.
I’ve never cried this much while watching anything before. I’m overwhelmed with both happiness and sadness. Honestly, I expected our national media to take this step, but BBC delivered, and that’s what truly matters.
Ye wahi desh hai jaha hum "Nari" ko "Devi" bolte hai. I don't care about other countries. We Indian call our Beti as Devi and River as Maa, still we exploit them the most.
Log Pooja hi krte hai exploit krne k liye You name any exploitative thing we have God And we worship it Education Wealth Food Water Machines Etc We are exploitative in nature
This was so moving. Thank you for making this. Can’t comprehend that how can someone kills that little soul right after being born. My first child is a girl and I can’t explain the joy of holding her first time into my hands, I couldn’t hold her more than few seconds because I couldn’t hold back my tears of joy. I cried out of joy and kept calling everyone like a child that I have got a baby girl. Alhamdulillah.
i know right, we make fun of ourselves on the intenational scale when we boast about being indian in literally everything "indian". I like my country but holy shit do we embarass ourselves on the international scale
@@pritamroy9833not just on an international scale, but things like this should be already seen as messed up even without comparing to other countries. Or maybe u just meant overall u thought its a good country even with its flaws but then u see that its not that good compared internationally? Idk, I hope yk what I'm trying to say 😅 Anyway I think if india had a good government and hence also no corruption, then india would be such a great country, it has so much potential which make it even sadder that its in the wrong hands
@@apoorvkaushik4061 The whataboutism is strong. There's huge corruption in India everywhere, in politics, infrastructure, education and even sports. One of the MAIN reasons I left the country.
Let's not forget to appreciate people like Mr. & Ms. Dwivedi who adopt these beautiful babies and give them a chance at better life, and most importantly are not biased in adopting boys .
People want Son So that he can take care of them in Old Age Protect the Family from outside threat - Animals, Religion, Caste, Family Disputes, etc Daughter can also take Care but it is difficult because in most cases she will marry & from other house it is difficult to take care of Old Age Parents & In Physical Power in most cases it is difficult to win from so many threats Some People dies with Good Health & Some dies with Bad Medical Condition for 5 - 15 Years of Last Time Thousands of years ago we don't have this type of Transport system by which we can go to here & there in hours Now we have that Transport System but it is difficult now also Bharatiya People & outside Forces ☪️, ✝️, 👁️, etc also damaged the Joint Family Structure If that was working other Aunt & Uncle Son can take care of that Daughter Parents who are alone in Old Age By this if there is only Daughter her Cousin Brother can take care of his Biological Parents But this needs Healthy Joint Family Structure (For healthy Joint Family we should stop comparing Cousins If something is right or wrong we should tell them that Particular thing & how is wrong or right with Reasons without comparing the Children & Saying things like you should become like that)
People want Son So that he can take care of them in Old Age Protect the Family from outside threat - Animals, Religion, Caste, Family Disputes, etc Daughter can also take Care but it is difficult because in most cases she will marry & from other house it is difficult to take care of Old Age Parents & In Physical Power in most cases it is difficult to win from so many threats Some People dies with Good Health & Some dies with Bad Medical Condition for 5 - 15 Years of Last Time Thousands of years ago we don't have this type of Transport system by which we can go to here & there in hours Now we have that Transport System but it is difficult now also Bharatiya People & outside Forces ☪️, ✝️, 👁️, etc also damaged the Joint Family Structure If that was working other Aunt & Uncle Son can take care of that Daughter Parents who are alone in Old Age By this if there is only Daughter her Cousin Brother can take care of his Biological Parents But this needs Healthy Joint Family Structure
@@Priyaykanth2your take on this issue is totally wrong here. People want boys because of protection, I totally agree with that. But this is not always the case. Many men leave their parents as soon as they get a job. They leave their hometown or throw away their parents out of their house. So there is no guarantee that a boy would always be there for his parents. Theres also no guarantee that a woman would always be there. Its not about the gender here. Its about the kind of a child you are raising. Even a woman can protect you. Although she wont have as much strength as a man but at-least she will try. Having a son doesnt guarantee you any happiness. My bade papa has three sons but all of them are immature shitheads
@@Priyaykanth2also this joint family system sucks. Take it from me. I come from a huge family of 10 siblings that is my father and his sisters and brothers. All the brothers kept fighting and still are fighting for property. They even physically assaulted my grandma. They try to kill each other everyday. There is no brotherhood between them.
@@psh19821 I agree with you on most part of the Comment Except you said about your brothers & guarantee about son taking care in old age This is all happening because of Money Oriented Education Once we change it Things will change Like Government is implementing NEP After that also 100% guarantee is not Possible but it will be much much better than what is happening now People are taught Money is King since Childhood & we expect them to be Caring, Loving when they grow up Child born thousands of years ago & child born now is same (Except Some Physical & Mental Abilities because of Food, Water, Air, Surrounding, etc) Most of the things is set by Previous Generation Next Generation grows with it till they reach a Mature Level of age where they can Decide there Way of Life Once we will change the Schooling System Output will Change
On the day of Judgement Surat-ut-Takveer: 81 | Ayat: 8 And when the girl [who was ] buried alive is asked Surat-ut-Takveer: 81 Ayat: 9 For what sin she was killed
I literally cried when Monica and Siro ji met. She was so happy and at peace after seeing the girl she saved. It takes lot of pain to kill a child just because she is a girl. I mean in which society are we living?
@@suchismitamukhopadhyay5255then you for sure don't have any idea about other countries. And this only happens in rural areas. No need to shame india as whole.
@@suchismitamukhopadhyay5255 Do you know that the female infanticide rate in financially poor section of countries around the world always comes up to be higher. Can you put your braincells to work, pause and think for once with your own brain as why this is the case? Is financial burden anything to do with this???Think for crying out loud, think.
Why are midwives being blamed or even named in the title ? Literally, in their interviews, they say that the families threaten them. So many face risk of sexual harassment, rape from the families they visit. It's a very thankless profession in rural India.
honestly it's literally "midwives confession" the title isn't blaming them for it, it's more like the whole truth could surface up because of the midwives. so it's more inclined towards their collectively made efforts and the part that they actually confessed
"dowry" is such a big evil that we underestimate it's ill-effects and consequences on our society. We underestimate it's impact range on life and mindset of people. As Amitabh said, this practice actually turns the boy into asset and girl into liability. We need to stand against this evil firmly.
@@monisham176 I know that China is much better than India still China is not much different in this case. China's female to male sex ratio is much lower than India. There has been millions of female feiticide in China because of one child policy.
I did my medical education in a government college in one of these areas. Female babies were routinely abandoned at the hospital. As the interns, we were the ones left holding the baby. The mother who was inside would sometimes ask for her child but many times that meant she was left to fend for herself and the baby immediately after giving birth. This is the ground reality of India. Many women were killed for saving their babies when they reached back home. Its so bad , that during general examination, when asked about how many children they had , they would count only the boys. Not only is this misleading in a medical sense, it was truly heartbreaking and made it difficult for many of us to have any empathy for these people.
The stories of these innocent lives being taken away before they even have a chance to begin… it’s beyond devastating. The courage it must take to report on such painful realities is truly admirable. To the journalist behind this powerful piece, thank you for shedding light on this issue. Please continue this incredible work-your efforts are giving a voice to the voiceless, and it’s so deeply needed.
The sad part is these same reporters don't question abortions in the west. Gives a very biased picture, and it appears more like a political agenda rather than 'giving voice to the voiceless '.
We r discussing abortion specifically of female and also these ppl confessed they kill infant girls or abort when it's girl. Abortion during complications in pregnancy to save life or because we don't want to make a football team out of our own home is not illegal, having many kids affact female reproductive health and mother death rates. Guys have problem with abortion when they can't afford to help woman at all or just don't understand women's health and pre to post pregnancy harmone changes that can cause bad mental health too. Not caring for woman reproductive health for just sake of having a boy is a lot in India and not really shares same reason with west. Raising this matter is so stupid like discussing financial distribution in a session of crime rate discussion
@@MansiTyagi-vf3do Western countries allow abortion for reasons besides medical. They shouldn't be pointing fingers when their own next generation has no right to life. And unfair financial distribution actually commits to crime rate, so it would actually be a relevant point. Your analogy is flawed as well.
I cannot explain the pain I felt seeing that infant lying, I felt so meaningless knowing that we could never know how many more were left and never saved.
Imagine being a midwife forced/asked to kill small baby girls and you end up saving a few of them and then they come back to meet you as an adult - like a ghost from the past. Man I cried during that part - it must be so overwhelming - guilt, gratitude, happiness, relief, all sorts of feelings. I hope this social conditioning against females in every single from stops for good
@@C_Stories yeah they just made up the whole story about female infanticide and all🙄 Sure you skipped your history classes. Go educate yourself first and then talk about feminism or whatever🙄
No matter how much people say modern india is changing you can't change the fact that every other marriage you see out 10 , 9 families are demanding huge dowry no matter if the girl is job oriented or not . Man and boys still think they deserve dowry and they truly want that dowry . Arrange marriages are still as ignorant of a women as they were before....it may not be as much as before but it still is as much as they are . Let us be honest can we really solve this problem even in a century ?
Seriously my mom is educated but she doesn't understand why I don't want to marry. Even now I have to hear jokes about how my home is paraya home. Nobody jokes like that with my male cousin who is also an only child. His home is just his home while mine is apparently temporary.
@@katara2021 I have heard that too. And it just breaks my heart every time I hear such things. My throat gets choked while listening to those words. I don't know how to explain..💔
@prabha6886 Same. I love them and I'm prepared to take care of them in their old age but all they can see sometimes is my gender. How I would alone without a man, how I would want a child someday when I genuinely from the bottom of my heart want none of those things. My education is done now so I'm going to get a job. Once I've established myself, even if it leads to fights, I'm not going to budge. I'm not marrying in this country.
this documentary inspired me to make an effort to support such NGOs and aware people towards dowry as my whole life I have to work in several villages being an agriculture student. thanks a lot for this documentary.
I am a newly turned 18 y/o boy. Honestly i feel that i am very different in terms of thinking. Men are women are same species then why so much gender gap and gendre inequality. These problems are more in rural area. Key reasons are lack of awarness Myself coming from rural area of Bihar i have seen people having 5-6 daughters and single son This shows the mentality .
the dawri isn't what makes daughters a liability, they'll blame something, but at it's core, they just hate women. i've been living in an arab country, and while it's less prevalent, here they blame honour or shame (depending on who you ask) for why they hate having daughters. this is a worldwide thing, and it's so much worse in india. My heart goes out for my sisters in india.
*Cant stop crying. Every person touched my heart. Hats off to the work done Anila Ji. The story was heartbreaking and redemptive at the same time. Thanks amitabhji for taking us on this journey.*
@@mtarkes It is very obvious that those weren't crocodile tears. She definitely feels remorse for killing babies and is trying to distance herself from that by denying it and not thinking about it. She saved more lives than she took
Lots of tears were shed watching this video, hats off to the reporter who has covered this story for over 30 years, keeping people connected while also ensuring the story as told, such as the reason behind such murders, as well has interviewing the midwife at the end and still asking her about the babies she killed. It is sad she never really owned up to her crimes, but one can assume is it a persons last attempt to maintain a peace of mind at the end of their life. I am so glad the baby girl found at the start of the video was also saved and taken to a good family. Shame on those people who choose to kill or throw away a baby just for the crime of being a girl.
Every coin have two sides, and same goes for this video..reporter show two kind of people one who kill and another who try to save.. this world is not same for everyone bad and evil are the two sides of this world.. you can accept it or try to chance it ...
This country is cursed with religion, casteism, illiteracy, ignorance, bigotry, patriarchy….overall the population is utterly stupid. And this is a failed country , no matter how much zillions the economy becomes.
It may sound depressing but sometimes it's better to die at birth as a girl child than to grow with dreams, only for them to be crushed and live a life of slave, in constant suffering without no help and kindness. The amount of things a girl child and later woman has to go though is huge.
Suffering will never truly end when you are born female. Society will always expect slave labor and mindless obedience from you like a dog. No matter where you are in the world. We are called deviants and twisted for wanting to live our own lives and not serve the men and produce the children until we grow old. Sometimes I question if God could really create something this evil.
I am from Katihar (bihar) ,to be specific, just 5 kms away from the place Dumar chowk , mentioned in begining of the documentry.. It is very shocking and extremely sad to know that how did these cruel things used to happen in the past?.I feel ashamed of it. I'm 25 now and i never heard of it untill today...With my eyes filled,shivering body and tears rolling down my cheeks i would like to Thank to the activists/social workers, midwife involved in saving life of an innocent baby girl but at the same time feeling sorry for all those innocent souls who were murdered mercilessly for merely being a girl child.... How unlucky they were! This cruel society did not let them live their part of life. Thank you so much Amitabh Prashar sir for bringing up this story which has not been told yet.
I felt sad that the old midwife had to lie at the end and say she killed no baby, it means she got in trouble for saying it years ago an is still pressured to lie
This is my request to all the women watching this, please don't give up on fighting. Lets remind ourselves why the feminism movement started. Nowadays people hate using that word but lets remember why and how bad things had gotten for women to start a whole movement to fight for their basic human rights. Most of us living in towns and cities now think we don't need such activism anymore. Women go to work, dress however they want, have successful careers in 2024 so we don't need feminism anymore. That's not true. Every single house-help we have had since I was young, is a victim of domestic violence. Even in cities where women are considered to be "empowered", they face discrimination in one way or another. They are not safe walking on the roads, in hospitals, in schools, in colleges..even in their own homes. This superficial image of being in a progressive, women empowering society needs to be looked at with more criticism. We still have a long fight ahead. There are dowry cases even now. There are female infanticides even now. Sure, they've decreased but thats also because laws have gotten stricter. The mentality is still the same. The way indians raise their daughters and sons itself is a testament to the fact that the mindset is still the same. Daughters have to look a certain way, talk a certain way, dress a certain way, study well, treat everyone with respect but men don't have any schooling or lecturing done because "men will be men". Lets not delude ourselves. Its not just about you or me. A lot of underprivileged women still need strength and support.
I have seen few documentaries in life..but none of them made me cry throughout the entire span..Glad to see that as demons are there so as saint in the form of human to act against such demons.. Hardly words could express what i am feeling right now.. Also kudos to the journalist to present this thing so beautifully which he has been carrying for thirty long years🙏❤
Everything in India need to be Rewritten, literally everything, The people, The culture, The society, The Education, The Judiciary, The infrastructure, The civic sense, The Population, The Religious beliefs, The legislature, The Organisations everything ALL !!!!
I don't know what to say, how to react, what to think, I'm numb I can't feel anything. This is one of the darkest sides of India. Thank you BBC for bringing this up
Kudos to the Journalist as well as Monica ,really...she's living well and wasn't hesitating to go find her roots and send such reliefs to Siro and Anila
People want Son so that he can take care of them in Old Age Protect the Family from outside threat - Animals, Religion, Caste, Family Disputes, etc Daughter can also take Care but it is difficult because in most cases she will marry & from other house it is difficult to take care of Old Age Parents & In Physical Power in most cases it is difficult to win from so many threats Some People dies with Good Health & Some dies with Bad Medical Condition for 5 - 15 Years of Last Time Thousands of years ago we don't have this type of Transport system by which we can go to here & there in hours Now we have that Transport System but it is difficult now also Bharatiya People & outside Forces ☪️, ✝️, 👁️, etc also damaged the Joint Family Structure If that was working other Aunt & Uncle Son can take care of that Daughter Parents who are alone in Old Age By this if there is only Daughter her Cousin Brother can take care of his Biological Parents But this needs Healthy Joint Family Structure
Chinese female infanticide rate is much higher than India, as a matter of fact in all poor countries around the world people prefer boys over girls. Its not because of education that they do this, they do this because practically a boy does contribute more to a family than a girl in a poor country. If you will put your thinking cap on, you will realize the rootcause pretty quickly but BBC or the western media woundnt want you to believe that the solution is so simple.
@@Priyaykanth2ohh just stop being obsessed of being a male. On coming to defend frm caste , religion to ye sb cheeze agr kisi ek admi p bhi 2-4 admi milkr attack kre to kitta bhi hunk ho dum daba k bhag jaega😂 Superman nhi ho ur jst a man😢poor guy😂
@@Priyaykanth2or rhi baat joint family ki to zara check kro data ki apne sage tau, chacha, dada, mama hi kitte bacho ka sexually assault kra hai....hr cheez ka pros or cons dekho 🥴
@@ShivangiTiwari-yq8exthink rationally what he's saying carries some substance. Don't get swayed by your selfish emotions. Come out of the blaming mentality women contribute almost 50% of the population and the percentage gets higher in senior citizens . Take responsibility change what's wrong don't just fight for short dresses and reserved seats
If it bothers you that this documentary brings shame to India remember for you reputation of this nation is more important than abolishing a system that legitimises and supports rape and constant oppression of our people. People > Nation
At 1:11 I don’t have the courage this watch this further. As a mother of two, first being a baby girl I remember how worried I used to be about the gender of my second baby, the societal pressure and mental intimidations I used face while being pregnant. The only respite was my husbands support, without it any mother can succumb to the pressure and it’s inevitable. Yes we are strong for our kids externally, but internally there’s only stress and worry. I feel bad for all these babies . I really do.
I am not shocked ! Where poorest are becoming poor and poor every day ! No one is changing the rules… ???? In subcontinent this is a subject not to talk about ? Beautiful documentary
Es pure video me main bas roti hi rah gyi 🥺 Agar dahej hi vajah h to dahej lena aur dena dono band kar de par nahi ham esa rasta chunenge jha aurto ko hi dabana pade. Rape hota h to ladko ko rokne ki jagah ham apni betiyon ko kahenge bahar mat nikalo, ese mat chalo, ye mat pahno. Kaisa samaj h hmara. Jab tak ham ladkiyon ko shikshit nhi karenge ye samaj ke thekedar ese hi solution nikalte rhenge. Thank you for this heartbreaking documentary. I am a 27 years old woman and I am going to become a teacher. After watching this video I became more sure why I wanted to be a teacher. 🙏
Yeh the reason all of this happened lack of gender sensitivity. We boys actually don’t know what challenges girls faces and never been taught to how to converse with them. all life we were trained to be toxic masculinity of patriarchy. Right now I am in phase were I get self awareness about that I don’t think that girls faces issues and their life has been simple can easily date or have romantic relationships but after analysing myself I get that I have very flawed thoughts. So to change my thoughts I want to talk to girls about the problems they faces but when I tried to that I find that even girls don’t want to educate us about their problems and think of us as creeps. I have dream to be a teacher i don’t think i want to be a teacher who is unaware of other gender problems. I don’t know how i will teach myself this probably be a book but I will be happy if I really get face to face talks with the other gender themselves.
@@ajstark7134 Glad to read your comment to be honest ,You sound really sensible !! There are many books you can read to understand about gender bias ...if you want I can suggest "Invisible Women " or "half the sky" please suggest to your friends too !! :)) I hope you will be a great teacher one day all the best!!
U will be an excellent teacher. I have hope that you will be the kind of teacher that students will think of decades later and remember "she was such a nice teacher"
Very shameful but I got to know recently that my aunt and my grandmother weren't really happy when I was born and that to give birth to my brother 2 or 3 girls were aborted. I'm loved but whenever I look at my brother now, I think of my sisters and how I could've been one of them.
Tears rolled down my cheeks while watching the whole documentary.. God bless all the people who are doing such a great work. Love you vedha❤ May you getl all the happiness in the world
there are only a few documentaries that have broken me badly, and shook my soul. This is will be one of them. The people who saved innocent lives and the person involved in compliing this work deserves all the respect💓
A society of Serial Killers... Hard truth. The work that these people have done is nothing less than a miracle. So much respect for all the social workers - the unsung heroes.
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I love how the journalist isn't afraid to cry and be vulnerable. We need more empathetic journalists like these.
Yes, that was so refreshing and yet heartwarming to see
These are obsolete from our country.
Empathy is a lost word in our country, which needed most in this times.
😂😂😂😂
actually alot of journalists do cry and respond emotionally to their work since they're human after all but its discouraged from showing that and is usually edited out since it makes them seem less objective which i think is crazy. i trust someone who responds like human more
My parents adopted my sister, now a lawyer, she just got married a few days ago, she brought our family so much joy words can’t express.
The saddest part is only when the girls achieve they are acknowledged.,.Each and every girl by birth is an achiever , coz she has to undergo from the small al kind of hormonal, mental and physical changes in her body.... Salute to All the girls let's not only celebrate the goddess, let's try to respect each and every girl in our families 🇿🇦
❤❤❤❤
@@veenakarishmaveenakarishma1733that's the best thing I've heard today ❤
@@veenakarishmaveenakarishma1733 I agree, but that's not what I was getting from OP. Just sounds like a proud brother. 😊
Where are you from brother?
Such documentaries should be shown in movie theatres and taught in schools.
No
Aisa kuch nahi hota
Feminist women
Who hurt you? @@C_Stories
RUclips is 10000 times better medium in today's times dear. It has maximum exposure.
How can that happen in Sanskari India?
Lwde hote he ye sb , bs tu ghar se bahar nhi niklta. Log bolte hein caste discrimination nhi hota ,wo v hota he @@C_Stories
I became a father to a baby girl recently. She is the best gift life has given me. Can't understand how can some people be so cruel to kill their own child.
U think the other communities don't kill female babies .
I think it's patriarchy. It's got nothing to do with caste . Which is another shitty aspect in this society.
May she be the coolness of your eyes bro. Congratulations!!
@MISHA_NARANG_SHARMALol isme bhi caste le Aaye?
So let me tell you Dome_stic viol_en_ce against women is lowest in Generals among other castes.
Aayi badi brahmin.
@@Tambdubillota
As per research from reliable news websites it's a fake news.
But continue spilling your ha_tre_d.
Congratulations on your fatherhood 🎉
Many people watching this will feel angry at theses midwives. Come on, let's face the fact it's not them, it's the parents, the grandparents, the relatives, THE SOCIETY, THE MINDSET. Was, Is and Will always be. Change your mindset people
yeah sometimes the families will threaten to kill the mid wife if she does not get rid of the baby.
Well mumbai is backward in hdi ..thats why places like kerala has a higher female to male ratio.they even have govt funded 24 hr stations with laser sensors for such parents to "dispose " of their child in safe environment like if its bcz of an illicit relationship..no one will b there except gates and floor will b sensor laid and when the baby is laid the nearby hospital and police station get alarms and they rush to get the baby to hospital irrespective of sex
It’s the patriarchy! Men’s power as the system that murdering girls and women by millions
Okay, then every killer can basically blame their parents, someone should be punished, if not the midwives the village chiefs.
It's the men and patriarchs to be blamed
lol people here claiming west has abortion , please go read difference between female infanticide and abortion . As a second daughter , who was told that my birth was not a cause of joy , this hit home .
I have cousins who have met the same reaction upon their births(with the mother crying profusely not wanting to meet her new born daughter). The Girl child isn’t a liability if you don’t treat her as one.
As a Man, It is harrowing and almost funny to see this obsession of People wanting an heir for their Kingdom of Poverty. We as a society need to understand that a Child is not a 401K or a retirement plan, and that an empowered girl child is equally as capable of taking care of the responsibilities of her parents.
Sadly, these arguments will once again fall on deaf ears waiting diligently for the cries of a young boy, upon whom they can put the burden of their old age.
Think of the women capable of doing this, it’s not like their hands are clean. This depiction of Karna’s anger at Mata Kunti in the Mahabharat comes to mind,
"मैं ध्यान जन्म का धरता हूँ,
उन्मन यह सोचा करता हूँ,
कैसी होगी वह माँ कराल,
निज तन से जो शिशु को निकाल
धाराओं में धर आती है,
अथवा जीवित दफनाती है?
"सेवती मास दस तक जिसको,
पालती उदर में रख जिसको,
जीवन का अंश खिलाती है,
अन्तर का रुधिर पिलाती है
आती फिर उसको फ़ेंक कहीं,
नागिन होगी वह नारि नहीं.”
Lindus will shamelessly defend anything... Be it sati or abandoned girl child ,dowry..
India has abortion too.
@@ayyanwani5950Chup chuslim
@@ayyanwani5950 Aisha ammi
"We found a goddess, we have to save her", salute to those guys
In many families you can see 5-6 elder sisters of a brother. this simply implies that a boy was needed girls were unwanted.
Why not??? Girls will get married and spend their life with another man and family, who will take care of poor parents?
It is very common. Even in my "tier-1" college where most people are coming from an educated and wealthy background, I have friends with such families where there are 3-4 siblings, youngest is boy and rest are girls.
True, very common in India
@@prakharkumar4842 oh come on don't make things up. All of us know that isint the case
@@Nini27062 please do some ground work analysis you'll get to know how shit this country is
A cow seems to be more protected than a women in India
Such a sweeping generalization. There are matriarchal societies in India, it is 7th largest country on earth and the most populous..
Actually, i come from rural area. In our family and community. Girls are loved and cared. I have lived in a middle class family and never have i seen any discrimination against girl child. I heard about it and read about it but i never saw it. Infact now my sister is a child specialist doctor and married as per choice. In all my relatives or families, most of us who came from rural background, i have never seen anyone abandoning girlchild or any child even if they are MR. So, i dunno why you club whole india in this. Btw i am from North India, Punjab. Just to let u know.
So, donot club whole india. Cow and girls both are respected in India. Donot casual make remarks or mock just for likes or clicks. If you want to change do something positive instead of mocking your nation.. U have no knowledge of world therefore u say so. Visit Afghanistan, pakistan, Nepal, Myanmar, Bangladesh , all neighbouring countries and you will see how blessed are to be born in india. If there was small angle difference in your spirit you might have fallen in Afghanistan and born as a women and married at 9 and start having babies by 12.
When i was in university i was also like that. After knowing seeing and exploring the world i have realised how blessed and grateful i am to be born in India and as a Hindu. Jai Devi Maa Jagdamba. Jai Gau Mata. 🙏🏻
It is true. Didn't you see the recent ayodhya gRape cases? @@Apache1970
@@Apache1970
I'm from India, and I know there are matriarchal societies in our country (like in Meghalaya). But I assure you, our politics, especially BJP which influences a large portion of the Hindu population, we focus too much on cows and Hindu religious principles. This is a huge threat to other minorities. Don't forget the genocide of ethnic minorities like the Nagas. India is sick.
Bullshit!
If it is a cow instead of a girl child then it will cause a war😢
True that...
Very clever conversion video
In the meantime you have millions of abortions every year
Actually, i come from rural area. In our family and community. Girls are loved and cared. I have lived in a middle class family and never have i seen any discrimination against girl child. I heard about it and read about it but i never saw it. Infact now my sister is a child specialist doctor and married as per choice. In all my relatives or families, most of us who came from rural background, i have never seen anyone abandoning girlchild or any child even if they are MR. So, i dunno why you club whole india in this. Btw i am from North India, Punjab. Just to let u know.
So, donot club whole india. Cow and girls both are respected in India. Donot casual make remarks or mock just for likes or clicks. If you want to change do something positive instead of mocking your nation.. U have no knowledge of world therefore u say so. Visit Afghanistan, pakistan, Nepal, Myanmar, Bangladesh , all neighbouring countries and you will see how blessed are to be born in india. If there was small angle difference in your spirit you might have fallen in Afghanistan and born as a women and married at 9 and start having babies by 12.
When i was in university i was also like that. After knowing seeing and exploring the world i have realised how blessed and grateful i am to be born in India and as a Hindu. Jai Devi Maa Jagdamba. Jai Gau Mata. 🙏🏻
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nah, considering that India is one of the top 10 beef exporters in the world.
This journalism needs a national award .
We salute you
Humko kya hai hum to hindu muslim karenge 😢 mainstream media
Exactly. Now people will come and call BBC anti-national. That's not going to make the problems disappear.
They should do same level of journalism in Gaza... Not give us Zionist propaganda
Parents want Son so that he can take care of them in Old Age
Protect the Family from outside threat - Animals, Religion, Caste, Family Disputes, etc
Daughter can also take Care but it is difficult because in most cases she will marry & from other house it is difficult to take care of Old Age Parents
& In Physical Power in most cases it is difficult to win from so many threats
Some People dies with Good Health & Some dies with Bad Medical Condition for 5 - 15 Years of Last Time
Thousands of years ago we don't have this type of Transport system by which we can go to here & there in hours
Now we have that Transport System but it is difficult now also
Bharatiya People & outside Forces ☪️, ✝️, 👁️, etc also damaged the Joint Family Structure
If that was working other Aunt & Uncle Son can take care of that Daughter Parents who are alone in Old Age
By this if there is only Daughter her Cousin Brother can take care of his Biological Parents
But this needs Healthy Joint Family Structure
@@itsourlife ANTI-NATIONAL
I'm a pediatrician in Haryana and have attended so many deliveries. Even in the rich urban sector families are disappointed to see a baby girl and I see families celebrate when a baby boy is announced.
It's not just about dowry and socioeconomic status. This thinking is ingrained into our society at every level that a girl child is a burden, and the boy will take the "family name forward".
May god bless you and keep u on the right track.
On point
I have heard people say “She will get married eventually and go to another house” So she’s a a part of the family but only temporarily? Very sad mentality.
Yes it has become a social norm now
@@km31179 amen 🙏🏼❤!
This is the pinnacle of journalism. There's not a soul that hasn't had tears in the eyes at some point in this feature. Thanks for making this sir. Thanks.
I am a 2nd child. After my elder sister, my grandmother was expecting a grandson and was soo disappointed when I was born. My father's side of the family including my father refused to even hold me in his arms for the first few days. Growing up I always heard my relatives and neighbors telling my parents how wonderful it would've been if I was a boy. My male cousins were always pampered and I was ignored by them 💔💔 Now that I am going to be 27 in a few days, those same relatives praises us two sisters for earning and taking care of our parents. I am the one to take my grandmother to hospital whenever she feels sick. My father literally thanks the almighty everyday now for giving him two daughters.
This documentary breaks my heart. If only those little angels were given a chance to live 💔
When I saw the girl Monica, I was crying but she is so calm and content from inside.. Her confidence doesn't vanish for a second.. How wonderfully she is raised.. Kudos to the parents.. We all should appreciate Monica's parents.. Their home looks like a normal lower middle class family (we all know the financial and social difference between every class here in India) but still they chose to adopt an abandoned baby girl and raise her so beautifully.. How wonderful.. We need more such Heroes.. I always wanted to adopt children but economically, could never become so independent to make this decision but the least we can do is to pray for all the babies who come to life, shouldn't atleast be killed..
I agree but she also had a strong will and confident personality as a child which served her well.
"Hey Baldy, give me a horsey ride ! 😂
I have taken delivery of many newborns as a junior resident.
I observed that mother and her family not happy after knowing that girl is born.
This is situation of Haryana Gurgaon.
Here people do fasting, go to temple, go to black magicians, bribe the ultrasound Dr, eat the local medicines by quacks, do hawan, worship, tie sacred threads just to get a male baby.
It is very sad to see that, after paying so much hardwork by doctor's team, when we tell the mother during the surgery that she had a girl, she starts crying, her BP- pulse starts fluctuating.
This is very sad situation of 2024 in India.
I would give an arm and a leg to have a girl 😢
Having girl in today's time is dangerous , they bring shame to family by engaging in immoral activities
as a doctor .....your team can do anything for that????
@@themovieaddaa4220 what?
Genuine question, is it only hindus that do this? I'm asking bcos I'm a Muslim and I haven't even heard of any Muslim doing this. Like sure some ppl favour boys than girls bcos it's kind of built in the culture(but that's slowly lessening these days) but I've never seen it that extreme. Maybe it's bcos in islam it's forbidden to do stuff like that, but then u would see it in atheist Indians too. So do u just see it in hindus or just Indians in general?
I became a father recently for the first time. Seeing this documentary broke my heart to pieces!
People want Son
So that he can take care of them in Old Age
Protect the Family from outside threat - Animals, Religion, Caste, Family Disputes, etc
Daughter can also take Care but it is difficult because in most cases she will marry & from other house it is difficult to take care of Old Age Parents
& In Physical Power in most cases it is difficult to win from so many threats
Some People dies with Good Health & Some dies with Bad Medical Condition for 5 - 15 Years of Last Time
Thousands of years ago we don't have this type of Transport system by which we can go to here & there in hours
Now we have that Transport System but it is difficult now also
Bharatiya People & outside Forces ☪️, ✝️, 👁️, etc also damaged the Joint Family Structure
If that was working other Aunt & Uncle Son can take care of that Daughter Parents who are alone in Old Age
By this if there is only Daughter her Cousin Brother can take care of his Biological Parents
But this needs Healthy Joint Family Structure
@@Priyaykanth2 what a nonsense concept this is!! People want a son these days just for sake. Both sons and daughters leave the house for education and job these days and don't come back. I rarely see any son these days taking care of their older parents. Most don't even stay in this country both sons and daughters. U r living in some 90s i think. And we don't need joint families. Our culture is completely flawed and hollow. We barely have things to be proud of. Don't normalise female infanticide. Can't believe I have to say this loud to another person. This is why people are leaving this country.
@@suchismitamukhopadhyay5255
I am not saying all Sons are Good
I was telling the Reasons behind it
Without understanding the Reason it is difficult to solve the Problem
& Those who are doing female infanticide will not understand why are they doing & how it become part of there life
Some sons don't live with Parents because wife says she don't want to live with in laws
Sometimes wife says this because of Personal Greed & Sometimes in Laws are Toxic
But whatever the Reason Son has to Leave the Parents
& Society portray it as All Sons who does this is because of there Choice
Many Sons Comeback or Call there Parents to there Place
Sometimes it takes time because of Expenses, Area Issue, etc
I don't support any type of Injustice
But Joint Family is a Solution
I am not Supporting Toxic Joint Family System
I am Supporting Healthy Joint Family System
@@suchismitamukhopadhyay5255
(For healthy Joint Family we should stop comparing Cousins
If something is right or wrong we should tell them that Particular thing & how it is wrong or right with Reasons without comparing the Children
& Stop Saying things like you should become like that)
@@suchismitamukhopadhyay5255 Do you know that the female infanticide rate is much much higher in China even today??
You might never know that as that doesnt help you to shit on your own culture without trying to know the root cause of this horrible behavior. Only people who can shit on their culture without contributing anything can be called intellectuals here .
My husband is the only son from his parents after 3 daughters. My Mother in Law still don't feel ashamed in saying she was so sad till she got a son. She have got him after so many rituals. 4 months back when I got married the first day itself I was asked for a son. His all 3 elder sisters also have same mindset though their parents didnot even give them comparable education like their son. I really wish I get only daughter whenever I get...I don't want to do gender discrimination like them but only to teach my husband's family the importance of a daughter which they will never understand if I get a son.
May you be blessed with a daughter!
Break the cycle sister
We can change it for our future generation ❤
you arent any different from those people then. Only the gender of te baby is changed
Hope your husband doesnt have the same mentality and that u married for love
I got you what you trying to say to all. but could you please tell us, was your marriage arranged? and if its yes then what about DOWRY?
These midwives who saved these lives are the real heroes.
I think you should say who killed them are devil. Why we normalising bad people isn't every human duty to save another
did you watch the video? they said that they had no choice, the midwives were threatened by the families to unalive the child and there's no way they could go to the police after commiting the crime @@rajputji1686
They would be killed if they rejected do that. Imagine u r locked in a room with a vulnerable mother who has just given birth. And 5 armed men stand at the door. I'd like to see how much courage u have then.
The girls themselves who feel sad that they were unwanted when they born, do the exact same thing of making their daughter feel unwanted when they give birth.... I have seen it in everywhere, even in my family...
Kudos to people like Anila Kumari and Medha Shekhar who saved lives.
" One who save one life, saves the entire world altogether "
Schindler's list reference?
@@arunrajeev2634 Yes !
@@heisenbergyo5578 Haha nice
And sito
That sounds rather like a Quranic verse
This country hates females. Shocking and disturbing! Kudos to the journalist for not giving up on this documentary. Must have been so hard to track stories for 30 long years. This documentary needs more traction.
@@TheWolfnmanindia is much worse though don't justify comparing to others lmao just shut up
@@TheWolfnman
Abortion is legal here as well, but Western countries were never notorious for female foeticide like India. But killing of newborn babies just because they are female is beyond evil.
A hell lot of Things about our country is sickening and there is no shame in admitting that!
@@TheWolfnman abortion is not gender specific in west.
@@Adrien-g6o Killing of children for whatever reason is evil. It's legal in the west too - West just chooses to ignore their own and focuses on India's.
@@kenokyu7227 That doesn't save the children they kill.
This kind of shit, the feeling of being unwanted, unappreciated, controlled, and suppressed follows a woman all her life. It is a wound that has consumed women for several generations. A lot of what you see as feminism has its roots right from this.
True
your words have touched me. Sometimes I feel so angry with the world, simply because of what I have to tolerate because I am a woman. The root of that anger lies in what you described. Thank you
My father shows me so much love and all and buys me everything I want. He cares for me deeply and says he loves me the most. But one day I learned from another relative that he was really disappointed when the nurse told him that I was girl after my birth. It shocked me so much. I asked him about this and he just brushed it off and he didn't know what to say, he said at that time, it was like that, I'm not like that now etc, he was sad that I learned about this incident, he wanted to hide it from me. I was born very late to my parents because of fertility issues and I've heard them talk about it as a very struggling and difficult time for them waiting for a baby. But I'll never forget it, he does hold alot of misogynistic beliefs but I never in my life thought that after waiting sooo many years for a baby, he would be disappointed and sad about none other than the fact that I was born a girl.
@@weirdasffstay strong. In reality everyone is alone on this planet. Biggest betrayals comes from the ones closest to us.
I am so grateful that my parents had 2 daughters only and brought us up to be educated citizens contributing to the growth of this country. What we need is more real education, not the nonsense that goes in the name of education in this country. Real education is about treating everyone as equal, irrespective of gender, caste or religion.
Sadly, all our politicians and society do is treat women as objects or as Goddesses. They can't just get to treat them as equal to men.
I work in Mumbai ..in a prestigious corporate office and here also I have colleagues who openly say they are so relieved they have a boy and not a girl as world is a tough place for a growing female …it’s a huge responsibility and tension. World is so unsafe for women
Just need them to take a couple steps further and think, "how can I make the world a safer place for females?"
@@Roaming725 they need to be concerned with the action of the male children and teach them well
@@mimis.5139 absolutely!
@@Roaming725how, indeed?
Well mumbai is backward in hdi ..thats why places like kerala has a higher female to male ratio.they even have govt funded 24 hr stations with laser sensors for such parents to "dispose " of their child in safe environment like if its bcz of an illicit relationship..no one will b there except gates and floor will b sensor laid and when the baby is laid the nearby hospital and police station get alarms and they rush to get the baby to hospital irrespective of sex
Salute to Anila madam, midwives, and journalists like Amitabh sir, who are the need of the hour for their courage!
its hit hard when your mother told u about that how your grandmother was forcing her to let the baby(me) die. men hits this society so hard that from years women are paying the taxes for being born and then after they say women are getting privileges by a free bus ticket.
That's so true.✌🏽
this is so true
Exactly 💯
And then they gonna call you pseudo feminist
True, it's pathetic for our country to still harbour such ideas, this will get better when women are safer in this country and are not forced to stop progress in their careers, if they will not be independent then how can a parent feel good, once my mom told me if I was a female she would have died from worry by now, my mom may be seen as misogynistic but there is a reason why she felt like that, it's harder for women in many ways that men don't understand, I agree they get extra benefits but it's still not enough to empower the female population. One day it will get better.
@@raghavgahtori7963 Females don't get extra benefits, they get what they have been deprived of.
We boys shouldn't take dowries even in the name of gifts even if the girl's family is rich enough to afford it.we should set an example for the poor parents who can't afford,they should be encouraged to say NO to the one who asks for gifts ( dowry) instead of falling into depression or thinking bad of having a girl child leading to all these heinous crimes
Well its not about dowry… to be truthful…
there are very few people like you. most of the guys justify dowry comparing it to alimony😢
You know what dowry is not given to boy it is given to girl in order to exclude her from property… that’s harsh truth…
@@dis_appointed8626 they are right
@@dis_appointed8626
I don't support dowry
But issue is Many Girls wants High Class Lifestyle which isn't Possible for Most Bharatiya
Even after our Per Capita income Improves
Everybody wants better but if you want too much better than what you have is not Logically Possible in this Scenario
Girl Family Assets comparison with Boy Family Assets (Love Marrige is Exception)
Most Girls don't agrees to marry a boy who has same assets as her Biological Family
As an Indian i feel India has a chronic split personality--one side is spiritual, warm, where guest is God and elders are taken care of and children cherished. The other side is this, racism, dowry, patriarchy and other ills. It is what it is. I thank BBC for bringing out the mirror. India cannot remove its rot if we don't know where it is or how deep.
Reform religion, educate those who believes in superstition. Cased closed
It's the custom of dowry which has become a burden on our society. Such a shame.
It’s a culture of hypocrisy. Source: my decades of experience
@@Bloo2314 Facts.
@@Bloo2314 i concur
" Do not kill your children in fear of Poverty. We provide for them and for you. Surely killing them is a Heniuous sin" - Surah Isra, verse 31
❤️
❤ True
Bro see the lives of women in Iran and afganistan, you would definitely get what's written and what's done.
I know condition of women is not pretty well in India, but far better than afganistan, Iran and all these middle East countries, where they where not even given basic rights.
Afganistan do not allow women to get higher education, Iran have moral police to check whether women are wearing hizab or not, Iraq has reduced the minimum age of marriage to 9 years.
So don't boost your religious progandas, instead work to better the society at your level.
@neerajravi1748 there is a mode of conduct for women so they are not used by men in a different way....if some people is going to an extreme level ....its about their culture not the religion......Girls are allowed to study, Women are allowed to divorce their husbands in Islam..its necessary to ask daughters before marrying them whether they like the person or not.....extremism in any religion if in india done by Bjp Rss, or christian american KKK or the Isis ( said to be a group maintained by Cia mossad in iraq and syria to make the arabs to be fighting so to make israel safe in the middle east) all are to be condemned .....
These kinds of documentries must be shown in schools and theatres. Not a soul must be there who didn't shed a tear. Journalism in its truest form. Thank you for saving these souls team. We owe it to the world.
I’ve never cried this much while watching anything before. I’m overwhelmed with both happiness and sadness. Honestly, I expected our national media to take this step, but BBC delivered, and that’s what truly matters.
Aisa kuch nahi hota
Feminist sab h
@@C_StoriesDenying truth won't get you anywhere. Woh kya kehta ki sach karwa hota hai.
Ye wahi desh hai jaha hum "Nari" ko "Devi" bolte hai. I don't care about other countries. We Indian call our Beti as Devi and River as Maa, still we exploit them the most.
right
They don't learn anything. People will be very religious and still will exploit other people. Sad.
Log Pooja hi krte hai exploit krne k liye
You name any exploitative thing we have God
And we worship it
Education
Wealth
Food
Water
Machines
Etc
We are exploitative in nature
MAY BE YOU NOT WE
@@RONIT848 Bullshits
The journalist shedding tears shows he was genuinely so concerned
This was so moving. Thank you for making this. Can’t comprehend that how can someone kills that little soul right after being born.
My first child is a girl and I can’t explain the joy of holding her first time into my hands, I couldn’t hold her more than few seconds because I couldn’t hold back my tears of joy. I cried out of joy and kept calling everyone like a child that I have got a baby girl.
Alhamdulillah.
I have never cried this much before. Please save our girls.
I can't see any "Proud to be Indian" comment in the comment section.
i know right, we make fun of ourselves on the intenational scale when we boast about being indian in literally everything "indian". I like my country but holy shit do we embarass ourselves on the international scale
@@pritamroy9833not just on an international scale, but things like this should be already seen as messed up even without comparing to other countries. Or maybe u just meant overall u thought its a good country even with its flaws but then u see that its not that good compared internationally? Idk, I hope yk what I'm trying to say 😅
Anyway I think if india had a good government and hence also no corruption, then india would be such a great country, it has so much potential which make it even sadder that its in the wrong hands
@@digitaltheidiot3618 which country on this planet does not have corruption ?
@@apoorvkaushik4061 true but I meant minimal corruption(india has a lot compared to other countries), ofc it's not 100% avoidable.
@@apoorvkaushik4061 The whataboutism is strong. There's huge corruption in India everywhere, in politics, infrastructure, education and even sports. One of the MAIN reasons I left the country.
Let's not forget to appreciate people like Mr. & Ms. Dwivedi who adopt these beautiful babies and give them a chance at better life, and most importantly are not biased in adopting boys .
Couldn't stop my tears while watching this. God bless all the wonderful people in this documentary.
People want Son
So that he can take care of them in Old Age
Protect the Family from outside threat - Animals, Religion, Caste, Family Disputes, etc
Daughter can also take Care but it is difficult because in most cases she will marry & from other house it is difficult to take care of Old Age Parents
& In Physical Power in most cases it is difficult to win from so many threats
Some People dies with Good Health & Some dies with Bad Medical Condition for 5 - 15 Years of Last Time
Thousands of years ago we don't have this type of Transport system by which we can go to here & there in hours
Now we have that Transport System but it is difficult now also
Bharatiya People & outside Forces ☪️, ✝️, 👁️, etc also damaged the Joint Family Structure
If that was working other Aunt & Uncle Son can take care of that Daughter Parents who are alone in Old Age
By this if there is only Daughter her Cousin Brother can take care of his Biological Parents
But this needs Healthy Joint Family Structure
(For healthy Joint Family we should stop comparing Cousins
If something is right or wrong we should tell them that Particular thing & how is wrong or right with Reasons without comparing the Children
& Saying things like you should become like that)
People want Son
So that he can take care of them in Old Age
Protect the Family from outside threat - Animals, Religion, Caste, Family Disputes, etc
Daughter can also take Care but it is difficult because in most cases she will marry & from other house it is difficult to take care of Old Age Parents
& In Physical Power in most cases it is difficult to win from so many threats
Some People dies with Good Health & Some dies with Bad Medical Condition for 5 - 15 Years of Last Time
Thousands of years ago we don't have this type of Transport system by which we can go to here & there in hours
Now we have that Transport System but it is difficult now also
Bharatiya People & outside Forces ☪️, ✝️, 👁️, etc also damaged the Joint Family Structure
If that was working other Aunt & Uncle Son can take care of that Daughter Parents who are alone in Old Age
By this if there is only Daughter her Cousin Brother can take care of his Biological Parents
But this needs Healthy Joint Family Structure
@@Priyaykanth2your take on this issue is totally wrong here. People want boys because of protection, I totally agree with that. But this is not always the case. Many men leave their parents as soon as they get a job. They leave their hometown or throw away their parents out of their house. So there is no guarantee that a boy would always be there for his parents. Theres also no guarantee that a woman would always be there. Its not about the gender here. Its about the kind of a child you are raising. Even a woman can protect you. Although she wont have as much strength as a man but at-least she will try. Having a son doesnt guarantee you any happiness. My bade papa has three sons but all of them are immature shitheads
@@Priyaykanth2also this joint family system sucks. Take it from me. I come from a huge family of 10 siblings that is my father and his sisters and brothers. All the brothers kept fighting and still are fighting for property. They even physically assaulted my grandma. They try to kill each other everyday. There is no brotherhood between them.
@@psh19821
I agree with you on most part of the Comment
Except you said about your brothers & guarantee about son taking care in old age
This is all happening because of Money Oriented Education
Once we change it
Things will change
Like Government is implementing NEP
After that also 100% guarantee is not Possible but it will be much much better than what is happening now
People are taught Money is King since Childhood & we expect them to be Caring, Loving when they grow up
Child born thousands of years ago & child born now is same (Except Some Physical & Mental Abilities because of Food, Water, Air, Surrounding, etc)
Most of the things is set by Previous Generation Next Generation grows with it till they reach a Mature Level of age where they can Decide there Way of Life
Once we will change the Schooling System Output will Change
On the day of Judgement
Surat-ut-Takveer: 81 | Ayat: 8
And when the girl [who was ] buried alive is asked
Surat-ut-Takveer: 81
Ayat: 9
For what sin she was killed
The rage I feel after watching this.
Real
I literally cried when Monica and Siro ji met. She was so happy and at peace after seeing the girl she saved.
It takes lot of pain to kill a child just because she is a girl. I mean in which society are we living?
@@rahil2505 day by day my love and respect for this country is reducing.
@@suchismitamukhopadhyay5255then you for sure don't have any idea about other countries. And this only happens in rural areas. No need to shame india as whole.
@@suchismitamukhopadhyay5255 Do you know that the female infanticide rate in financially poor section of countries around the world always comes up to be higher.
Can you put your braincells to work, pause and think for once with your own brain as why this is the case?
Is financial burden anything to do with this???Think for crying out loud, think.
@@GrimLife666why do I care about other counties before mine
Instead of being ashemed and doing better we are comparing 😂
@@devilback8871china have this case too
I don’t see it their
Why are midwives being blamed or even named in the title ? Literally, in their interviews, they say that the families threaten them. So many face risk of sexual harassment, rape from the families they visit. It's a very thankless profession in rural India.
Complicit in murder? I don't know. All of this is so effed up.
honestly it's literally "midwives confession" the title isn't blaming them for it, it's more like the whole truth could surface up because of the midwives. so it's more inclined towards their collectively made efforts and the part that they actually confessed
How is this blaming midwives?
If midwives deny it won’t happen
Midwife could simply refuse going for delivery. They were complicit.
"dowry" is such a big evil that we underestimate it's ill-effects and consequences on our society. We underestimate it's impact range on life and mindset of people. As Amitabh said, this practice actually turns the boy into asset and girl into liability. We need to stand against this evil firmly.
According to Islam, at the time of marriage, it is the girls who receive valuables and wealth from their husband.
in china men give dowry to women , which is reverse as seen in India but i never hear of male feticide.
We have made it evil and mandatory for getting a girl married. Quran says "make nikah easy"@@wafanoor6861
@@monisham176 but in China too thet murder girl babies.
@@monisham176 I know that China is much better than India still China is not much different in this case. China's female to male sex ratio is much lower than India. There has been millions of female feiticide in China because of one child policy.
No male owners of Scorpio, Thar, Fortuner, Bullet from Haryana, Punjab, U.P, Rajasthan were harmed in the making of this video 😂😂😂
Lmao
how tf they are even related to this ? wtf
Example of the problem why india is not developed or safe for women, india is becoming day by day chapri and dangerous.
I did my medical education in a government college in one of these areas. Female babies were routinely abandoned at the hospital. As the interns, we were the ones left holding the baby. The mother who was inside would sometimes ask for her child but many times that meant she was left to fend for herself and the baby immediately after giving birth. This is the ground reality of India. Many women were killed for saving their babies when they reached back home. Its so bad , that during general examination, when asked about how many children they had , they would count only the boys. Not only is this misleading in a medical sense, it was truly heartbreaking and made it difficult for many of us to have any empathy for these people.
The stories of these innocent lives being taken away before they even have a chance to begin… it’s beyond devastating. The courage it must take to report on such painful realities is truly admirable. To the journalist behind this powerful piece, thank you for shedding light on this issue. Please continue this incredible work-your efforts are giving a voice to the voiceless, and it’s so deeply needed.
The sad part is these same reporters don't question abortions in the west. Gives a very biased picture, and it appears more like a political agenda rather than 'giving voice to the voiceless '.
Just lile abortion😂😂
WHy abortion is okay then?😂
We r discussing abortion specifically of female and also these ppl confessed they kill infant girls or abort when it's girl. Abortion during complications in pregnancy to save life or because we don't want to make a football team out of our own home is not illegal, having many kids affact female reproductive health and mother death rates. Guys have problem with abortion when they can't afford to help woman at all or just don't understand women's health and pre to post pregnancy harmone changes that can cause bad mental health too. Not caring for woman reproductive health for just sake of having a boy is a lot in India and not really shares same reason with west. Raising this matter is so stupid like discussing financial distribution in a session of crime rate discussion
@@MansiTyagi-vf3do Western countries allow abortion for reasons besides medical. They shouldn't be pointing fingers when their own next generation has no right to life.
And unfair financial distribution actually commits to crime rate, so it would actually be a relevant point. Your analogy is flawed as well.
I cannot explain the pain I felt seeing that infant lying, I felt so meaningless knowing that we could never know how many more were left and never saved.
All the idiots in the comments section comparing abortion with frmale infanticide. How is dropping out of school treating y'all? Unemployed?
cry about it 😂😂
Male logic@@BTboy21
@@haruk2312 your dad logic? 🤣
You are assuming that everyone who you are not agreeing with are school drop outs and unemployed??
Mannerless @@BTboy21
These people are angels in today's world. May Allah bless people like Anila, the reporter and everyone who saved those infants.
Imagine being a midwife forced/asked to kill small baby girls and you end up saving a few of them and then they come back to meet you as an adult - like a ghost from the past.
Man I cried during that part - it must be so overwhelming - guilt, gratitude, happiness, relief, all sorts of feelings. I hope this social conditioning against females in every single from stops for good
I am a 20 year old boy..... Watching this documentary...my eyes full of 😢😢😢😢😢
Aisa kuch nahi hota
Feminist sab h
@@C_Stories hn nahi hota, tbhi toh India me gender determine krna tak unlawful h, jo duniya me kahi nahi hota.
@@C_Stories yeah they just made up the whole story about female infanticide and all🙄
Sure you skipped your history classes. Go educate yourself first and then talk about feminism or whatever🙄
@@C_Storiesyour dirty people hating own people from our northeast state India, racist people, black skin colour black heart too 🤡🤡🤡
No matter how much people say modern india is changing you can't change the fact that every other marriage you see out 10 , 9 families are demanding huge dowry no matter if the girl is job oriented or not . Man and boys still think they deserve dowry and they truly want that dowry . Arrange marriages are still as ignorant of a women as they were before....it may not be as much as before but it still is as much as they are . Let us be honest can we really solve this problem even in a century ?
Seriously my mom is educated but she doesn't understand why I don't want to marry. Even now I have to hear jokes about how my home is paraya home. Nobody jokes like that with my male cousin who is also an only child. His home is just his home while mine is apparently temporary.
@@katara2021 I have heard that too. And it just breaks my heart every time I hear such things. My throat gets choked while listening to those words. I don't know how to explain..💔
@prabha6886 Same. I love them and I'm prepared to take care of them in their old age but all they can see sometimes is my gender. How I would alone without a man, how I would want a child someday when I genuinely from the bottom of my heart want none of those things. My education is done now so I'm going to get a job. Once I've established myself, even if it leads to fights, I'm not going to budge. I'm not marrying in this country.
@@katara2021don’t marry in any country. Its sucks for women everywhere.
Totally agree. Refuse dowry and highly unlikely girl will get married.
this documentary inspired me to make an effort to support such NGOs and aware people towards dowry as my whole life I have to work in several villages being an agriculture student. thanks a lot for this documentary.
Great
I am a newly turned 18 y/o boy.
Honestly i feel that i am very different in terms of thinking.
Men are women are same species then why so much gender gap and gendre inequality.
These problems are more in rural area.
Key reasons are
lack of awarness
Myself coming from rural area of Bihar i have seen people having 5-6 daughters and single son
This shows the mentality .
Because of such reasons the educated indian women are not having any children in this patriarchal Indian society
Watching this episode made me teary eyed.
Thanks BBC.
No words.. I'm just crying..
I have 3 lovely daughters..❤❤❤
More power to you ❤️
Anila Madam- A Ray Of HOPE...And Salute from the very deep of my heart to Midwives who SAVED girl child...
the dawri isn't what makes daughters a liability, they'll blame something, but at it's core, they just hate women.
i've been living in an arab country, and while it's less prevalent, here they blame honour or shame (depending on who you ask) for why they hate having daughters.
this is a worldwide thing, and it's so much worse in india. My heart goes out for my sisters in india.
Such stories need to be shown to general public and male chauvinists at crossroads and in rural areas and in cities too for the EDUCATED FOOLS.
*Cant stop crying. Every person touched my heart. Hats off to the work done Anila Ji. The story was heartbreaking and redemptive at the same time. Thanks amitabhji for taking us on this journey.*
I couldn't stop my tears after seeing Monica met Siro ji
Siro was crying crocodile tears, she does not look like someone having a conscience or guilt about killing innocent babies.
@@mtarkes It is very obvious that those weren't crocodile tears. She definitely feels remorse for killing babies and is trying to distance herself from that by denying it and not thinking about it. She saved more lives than she took
Omg it's unbelievable I've always wanted to adopt a baby girl . Why on earth someone has to do that with the babies it's hurtfull to watch😢
Chup women
@@C_Stories found a person from the documentry
@@C_Stories u better shut up
@@C_Storieswhy is your ego getting hurt??
@@vchine he's guilty of what's being portrayed in the video
Lots of tears were shed watching this video, hats off to the reporter who has covered this story for over 30 years, keeping people connected while also ensuring the story as told, such as the reason behind such murders, as well has interviewing the midwife at the end and still asking her about the babies she killed. It is sad she never really owned up to her crimes, but one can assume is it a persons last attempt to maintain a peace of mind at the end of their life. I am so glad the baby girl found at the start of the video was also saved and taken to a good family. Shame on those people who choose to kill or throw away a baby just for the crime of being a girl.
This is like a short film on india! Absolute legendary report!! Great work amitabh sir ❤❤❤❤
one of the most difficult videos to watch
Absolutely right
Still people pushes women to give birth untill a male baby born. they treats girls like Paraya dhan , and she has to go Sasural one day.
True sister
Let’s change it sister ❤
@@C_Storiesdoes he looks like sister to you??
@@maddyedits01 I mean it’s must be a girl
Uske bhai ya Babuji ka phone hoga
👌🏻
@@C_Storieswhy can't it be a boy? Sit down
@@C_Stories I'm boy dude
Why will not this country be cursed forever.....not at all surprised
Every coin have two sides, and same goes for this video..reporter show two kind of people one who kill and another who try to save.. this world is not same for everyone bad and evil are the two sides of this world.. you can accept it or try to chance it ...
This country is cursed with religion, casteism, illiteracy, ignorance, bigotry, patriarchy….overall the population is utterly stupid. And this is a failed country , no matter how much zillions the economy becomes.
This shit happens only in North India. Rest of the country is fine. Southern states like Kerala even has more women than men.
It may sound depressing but sometimes it's better to die at birth as a girl child than to grow with dreams, only for them to be crushed and live a life of slave, in constant suffering without no help and kindness. The amount of things a girl child and later woman has to go though is huge.
Suffering will never truly end when you are born female. Society will always expect slave labor and mindless obedience from you like a dog. No matter where you are in the world. We are called deviants and twisted for wanting to live our own lives and not serve the men and produce the children until we grow old. Sometimes I question if God could really create something this evil.
I am very proud of you Monica, and thanks to Amitabh you did a really wonderful job, keep going.
Such a wholesome documentary. I am currently working in Bihar in CSR, it is heart breaking to see such reality now.
Is it still happening out there? I can't even think these are happening somewhere in the world. What a weird and illiterate society!?
I am from Katihar (bihar) ,to be specific, just 5 kms away from the place Dumar chowk , mentioned in begining of the documentry.. It is very shocking and extremely sad to know that how did these cruel things used to happen in the past?.I feel ashamed of it.
I'm 25 now and i never heard of it untill today...With my eyes filled,shivering body and tears rolling down my cheeks i would like to Thank to the activists/social workers, midwife involved in saving life of an innocent baby girl but at the same time feeling sorry for all those innocent souls who were murdered mercilessly for merely being a girl child.... How unlucky they were! This cruel society did not let them live their part of life.
Thank you so much Amitabh Prashar sir for bringing up this story which has not been told yet.
What a positive story? How the women brought change is heart warming.
"Sons become assets, and daughters become liabilities."
I felt sad that the old midwife had to lie at the end and say she killed no baby, it means she got in trouble for saying it years ago an is still pressured to lie
This is my request to all the women watching this, please don't give up on fighting. Lets remind ourselves why the feminism movement started. Nowadays people hate using that word but lets remember why and how bad things had gotten for women to start a whole movement to fight for their basic human rights. Most of us living in towns and cities now think we don't need such activism anymore. Women go to work, dress however they want, have successful careers in 2024 so we don't need feminism anymore. That's not true. Every single house-help we have had since I was young, is a victim of domestic violence. Even in cities where women are considered to be "empowered", they face discrimination in one way or another. They are not safe walking on the roads, in hospitals, in schools, in colleges..even in their own homes. This superficial image of being in a progressive, women empowering society needs to be looked at with more criticism. We still have a long fight ahead. There are dowry cases even now. There are female infanticides even now. Sure, they've decreased but thats also because laws have gotten stricter. The mentality is still the same. The way indians raise their daughters and sons itself is a testament to the fact that the mindset is still the same. Daughters have to look a certain way, talk a certain way, dress a certain way, study well, treat everyone with respect but men don't have any schooling or lecturing done because "men will be men". Lets not delude ourselves. Its not just about you or me. A lot of underprivileged women still need strength and support.
Feminism started so the people in power could get more money from more tax payers.
Sorry couldn’t complete documentary don’t want to cry in library only half of the documentary put me into tears
I have seen few documentaries in life..but none of them made me cry throughout the entire span..Glad to see that as demons are there so as saint in the form of human to act against such demons..
Hardly words could express what i am feeling right now..
Also kudos to the journalist to present this thing so beautifully which he has been carrying for thirty long years🙏❤
Everything in India need to be Rewritten, literally everything, The people, The culture, The society, The Education, The Judiciary, The infrastructure, The civic sense, The Population, The Religious beliefs, The legislature, The Organisations everything ALL !!!!
I don't know what to say, how to react, what to think, I'm numb I can't feel anything. This is one of the darkest sides of India. Thank you BBC for bringing this up
These are the few people that make this world a better place.
They aren’t few they really aren’t 😂😂
Amitabh Parashar ji; this was a great documentary. Hats off!
I just gave birth to my daughter.. she is 4 month old...I can't see any baby this way....I see my daughter in every baby now....😢
Kudos to the Journalist as well as Monica ,really...she's living well and wasn't hesitating to go find her roots and send such reliefs to Siro and Anila
This was one of the most heart moving documentaries I have seen ❤
The Indian Society as a whole is responsible by giving a tacid assent.
People want Son so that he can take care of them in Old Age
Protect the Family from outside threat - Animals, Religion, Caste, Family Disputes, etc
Daughter can also take Care but it is difficult because in most cases she will marry & from other house it is difficult to take care of Old Age Parents
& In Physical Power in most cases it is difficult to win from so many threats
Some People dies with Good Health & Some dies with Bad Medical Condition for 5 - 15 Years of Last Time
Thousands of years ago we don't have this type of Transport system by which we can go to here & there in hours
Now we have that Transport System but it is difficult now also
Bharatiya People & outside Forces ☪️, ✝️, 👁️, etc also damaged the Joint Family Structure
If that was working other Aunt & Uncle Son can take care of that Daughter Parents who are alone in Old Age
By this if there is only Daughter her Cousin Brother can take care of his Biological Parents
But this needs Healthy Joint Family Structure
Chinese female infanticide rate is much higher than India, as a matter of fact in all poor countries around the world people prefer boys over girls.
Its not because of education that they do this, they do this because practically a boy does contribute more to a family than a girl in a poor country.
If you will put your thinking cap on, you will realize the rootcause pretty quickly but BBC or the western media woundnt want you to believe that the solution is so simple.
@@Priyaykanth2ohh just stop being obsessed of being a male. On coming to defend frm caste , religion to ye sb cheeze agr kisi ek admi p bhi 2-4 admi milkr attack kre to kitta bhi hunk ho dum daba k bhag jaega😂
Superman nhi ho ur jst a man😢poor guy😂
@@Priyaykanth2or rhi baat joint family ki to zara check kro data ki apne sage tau, chacha, dada, mama hi kitte bacho ka sexually assault kra hai....hr cheez ka pros or cons dekho 🥴
@@ShivangiTiwari-yq8exthink rationally what he's saying carries some substance. Don't get swayed by your selfish emotions. Come out of the blaming mentality women contribute almost 50% of the population and the percentage gets higher in senior citizens . Take responsibility change what's wrong don't just fight for short dresses and reserved seats
If it bothers you that this documentary brings shame to India remember for you reputation of this nation is more important than abolishing a system that legitimises and supports rape and constant oppression of our people. People > Nation
At 1:11 I don’t have the courage this watch this further.
As a mother of two, first being a baby girl I remember how worried I used to be about the gender of my second baby, the societal pressure and mental intimidations I used face while being pregnant. The only respite was my husbands support, without it any mother can succumb to the pressure and it’s inevitable.
Yes we are strong for our kids externally, but internally there’s only stress and worry.
I feel bad for all these babies . I really do.
Iam a mother to a beautiful daughter and iam proud being a girl mom
I am not shocked ! Where poorest are becoming poor and poor every day ! No one is changing the rules… ???? In subcontinent this is a subject not to talk about ? Beautiful documentary
Sometimes I feel like Vir Das got dragged for no reason at all. We do come from 2 India.
He was so true lol
He performed this on an international stage.
Majority of people do things shameful for India but the minority living abroad is subjected to racism
He always told the truth, which is my he was dragged
Es pure video me main bas roti hi rah gyi 🥺
Agar dahej hi vajah h to dahej lena aur dena dono band kar de par nahi ham esa rasta chunenge jha aurto ko hi dabana pade.
Rape hota h to ladko ko rokne ki jagah ham apni betiyon ko kahenge bahar mat nikalo, ese mat chalo, ye mat pahno.
Kaisa samaj h hmara. Jab tak ham ladkiyon ko shikshit nhi karenge ye samaj ke thekedar ese hi solution nikalte rhenge.
Thank you for this heartbreaking documentary. I am a 27 years old woman and I am going to become a teacher. After watching this video I became more sure why I wanted to be a teacher. 🙏
Yeh the reason all of this happened lack of gender sensitivity. We boys actually don’t know what challenges girls faces and never been taught to how to converse with them. all life we were trained to be toxic masculinity of patriarchy. Right now I am in phase were I get self awareness about that I don’t think that girls faces issues and their life has been simple can easily date or have romantic relationships but after analysing myself I get that I have very flawed thoughts. So to change my thoughts I want to talk to girls about the problems they faces but when I tried to that I find that even girls don’t want to educate us about their problems and think of us as creeps. I have dream to be a teacher i don’t think i want to be a teacher who is unaware of other gender problems. I don’t know how i will teach myself this probably be a book but I will be happy if I really get face to face talks with the other gender themselves.
@@ajstark7134 Glad to read your comment to be honest ,You sound really sensible !! There are many books you can read to understand about gender bias ...if you want I can suggest "Invisible Women " or "half the sky" please suggest to your friends too !!
:)) I hope you will be a great teacher one day all the best!!
If abortion is okay, then this okay too😂😂 what's the deal?
Yes, if there is chance of crime outside like chain snatching or theft do you roam outside wearing gold???
U will be an excellent teacher. I have hope that you will be the kind of teacher that students will think of decades later and remember "she was such a nice teacher"
This story needs to be told. We have forgotten this. It feels like the past but it's here right now
If a child is not safe in her mother's womb ,where else in the world will she be safe???
we live in a sick world.
Very shameful but I got to know recently that my aunt and my grandmother weren't really happy when I was born and that to give birth to my brother 2 or 3 girls were aborted.
I'm loved but whenever I look at my brother now, I think of my sisters and how I could've been one of them.
Tears rolled down my cheeks while watching the whole documentary.. God bless all the people who are doing such a great work.
Love you vedha❤
May you getl all the happiness in the world
there are only a few documentaries that have broken me badly, and shook my soul. This is will be one of them. The people who saved innocent lives and the person involved in compliing this work deserves all the respect💓
"and when baby girls, buried alive, are asked, for what crime they were put to death" (Quran 81:8-9)
A society of Serial Killers... Hard truth.
The work that these people have done is nothing less than a miracle. So much respect for all the social workers - the unsung heroes.
They probably aren't even reaching 1 percent of babies who needs them.... 😢
this is so good so good !! go bless you the makers the saviours and the adopters !!!