The problem for me with trying to make friends at the pub is I'd make friends with people who go to the pub. And I hate the kind of people who go to the pub. Ideally, I'd like to make friends with the kinds of people who go to cafes. But the problem is people go to cafes so that they don't have to talk to each other.
there are some bars where people just go to talk and chill, i don't know how they are called but i've been in those, and you don't even see that much people drinking/eating, most people are dancing or talking
The bad thing about meeting people at a pub is that you are likely to meet the kind of people that go to pubs often.Especially in the UK that’s generally a bad thing, lol. Here I’m Japan it’s mostly old men at izakayas.
I only ever had 2 birthday parties where I had friends over. Most of the time it was just family things. Likely due to funds issues I think my parents were dealing with. They did a great job making sure we didn't realize those issues though.
Having grown up a military brat and literally having raised by a Dad who thought hanging out with friends was a silly waste of time, I've gotten to the ripe age of 35 with only a handful of real life friends and a couple handful of online friends but, honestly, I do without most people. I mean, no man is an island but you can definitely live near the ocean. I do agree it's important to do stuff with your friends once in a while though. It is definitely a two way street and worthwhile to just hang out once in a while and do stuff for others. It usually always comes back to you if nothing else in the form of a nice shared meal or buying stuff for one another when you're out and about.
I was already shy and then I got put in to a school with 5 people in my year, I was the only boy with 4 girls… needless to say I don’t have any childhood friends.
Had big family parties and as I grew I transitioned to small friend parties. Ideally, I prefer being in bed. I just feel its all a waste of money. I can have fun any day, it doesn’t have to be on my birthday. I also hate holidays for that same reason lol
when people talk about social life, friends, growing up and doing stuff as a kid i get really sad. i missed out on a lot and still feel like im currently missing out.
@@DaRkLoRd-rc5yu I’m just as guilty as the people I’m talking about, I got so used to staying home that it doesn’t even cross my mind to go out anymore even though I really should
@@VeryButtery tbf I'm a bit like that too. Although I ended up working all through the pandemic. And that has kept me busy, but as such I've become a bit of a workaholic. I enjoy my job but I don't always end up doing alot outside of work I mostly just watch anime, play games and spend time on the internet. And I end up doing overtime on weekends too, but I do get paid for it so I guess I'm making progress in that way. I just need to get more of work life balance and socialise more. I have friends at work but barely any outside of work these days and I moved to new city too which doesn't help. As I live away from my old friends.
@@DaRkLoRd-rc5yuin your case, you could probably schedule game night. Deep rock galactic, barotrauma or any other multiplayer or coop game are a pretty good gate way to reconnect with old friend. You can even cheap steam key and use those.
Sameeee. I finished high school in 2021 and started online college last year; ever since then I kinda stopped going out and lost a lot of friendships. I was always the passive friend who would always respond/accept invitations instead of being the one texting/inviting, so now I’m learning the importance of being active in any relationship.
I'm chronically online, introverted, have confidence issues and don't drink so it do be the perfect combination to make friends 😃 like, I have a couple of friends but I only made those either waay back in middle/high school, where you're literally forced to exist with each other, or because they were friends of friends so we always hung out by proxy ... or because they didn't have any friends either at the start of uni 💀Idk it's rly hard for me getting from the superficial "oh hi yeah my name is ..." to the "ooo this is a lasting friendship" part. Once it solidifies I have no trouble keeping it going but getting there is so hard 😭 especially when most of the times when I meet new people it's now in an environment where everybody already knows each other and breaking through that really feels impossible 💀
same here except that the middle highschool friends all distanced themselves after getting an job and a relationship while i failed at everything i tried
I'm the same, still got uni ahead of me though so I'll have chances for friends there. I'm really worried about being unable to make any meaningful relationships once I become an adult, hell, making them even as a teen feels impossible for me
Ye, July baby here. Nobody every came to my birthday parties. I eventually stopped trying to have them as a kid. After becoming an adult, I thought, hey, nobody has summer break anymore, maybe now I can throw a birthday party and people will come. Nope, nobody has time in summer, even as adults.
Another July baby here. So in my country July is exam month and my birthday is always falls in the last week of exams. I would just buy a cake and spend time with my 4 childhood friends in highschool. My last birthday party was in 2nd grade(it was a Cars 2 themed birthday party at the theatres) and i loved it but i told my parents i didn't want another one because i saw how expensive it was. My parents had lots of money but for some reason i have always been money cautious so i felt really bad that my parents spent so much money on one party.
I used to struggle with realizing people just need to vent sometimes too, honestly sometimes I still struggle with knowing when someone wants a problem solved or just needs that "that's rough buddy." I also have ADHD so it could be just a similar trait with that lol Self improvement is important!
dude im a passive person like this and it hurts the fact that this is so accurate how I am I'm even like this to my closets friends hell I'm nervous as fuck to talk sometimes
My friends wanted to go where girls were and I wanted to go where the video games were. I'm an arcade freak, I like to hang out in arcades and socialize, if girls are there, cool, if not, oh well, I was like that for as long as I can remember. If my dad (who I only got to see during summers sometimes) took me somewhere, we were stopping by an arcade. My highschool friends had an unhealthy fixation on drugs and sex, they got overcome with addiction really early. I was chasing interests I had since I was a child, I dunno how you end up chasing drugs and sex as an interest, something is really perverted there.
Here's my thing. I don't make friends and personally I don't want too, I never had a childhood friend from when I was a kid who actually stuck around until middle school. Met my best friend in 6th grade and we've been hanging out ever since
I relate to Garnt. My bday is Christmas Eve and although I'm not a twin, my sister who is 3 years younger has the same bday as me. So we both dislike celebrating our bdays. We do have a few friends who treat us special during our bday season and those are the friends we hold dear.
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The problem for me with trying to make friends at the pub is I'd make friends with people who go to the pub. And I hate the kind of people who go to the pub.
Ideally, I'd like to make friends with the kinds of people who go to cafes. But the problem is people go to cafes so that they don't have to talk to each other.
Yes oh my God there should be like socialisation cafes. Where people who specifically want to meet others can go
there are some bars where people just go to talk and chill, i don't know how they are called but i've been in those, and you don't even see that much people drinking/eating, most people are dancing or talking
The bad thing about meeting people at a pub is that you are likely to meet the kind of people that go to pubs often.Especially in the UK that’s generally a bad thing, lol. Here I’m Japan it’s mostly old men at izakayas.
As someone who lives in the uk yep😭. People who’s whole personality are the same you would see on love island
Same, I live in a suburb of Tokyo and all the local old guys recognize me when I walk around and nobody else
I only ever had 2 birthday parties where I had friends over. Most of the time it was just family things.
Likely due to funds issues I think my parents were dealing with. They did a great job making sure we didn't realize those issues though.
Same bro
Having grown up a military brat and literally having raised by a Dad who thought hanging out with friends was a silly waste of time, I've gotten to the ripe age of 35 with only a handful of real life friends and a couple handful of online friends but, honestly, I do without most people. I mean, no man is an island but you can definitely live near the ocean.
I do agree it's important to do stuff with your friends once in a while though. It is definitely a two way street and worthwhile to just hang out once in a while and do stuff for others. It usually always comes back to you if nothing else in the form of a nice shared meal or buying stuff for one another when you're out and about.
i relate to garnt so much this entire clip holy shit
Connor with the liquid gold advice
I was already shy and then I got put in to a school with 5 people in my year, I was the only boy with 4 girls… needless to say I don’t have any childhood friends.
Had big family parties and as I grew I transitioned to small friend parties. Ideally, I prefer being in bed.
I just feel its all a waste of money. I can have fun any day, it doesn’t have to be on my birthday. I also hate holidays for that same reason lol
I dot know why, but Garnt bringing in the incest tag again
Not relatible for some time
when people talk about social life, friends, growing up and doing stuff as a kid i get really sad. i missed out on a lot and still feel like im currently missing out.
Post COVID is still a strange time.. I feel like a lot of people adjusted to not going out a little too much, at least in my area
Well as soon as everything opened up. Everything became ridiculously expensive.
@@DaRkLoRd-rc5yu I’m just as guilty as the people I’m talking about, I got so used to staying home that it doesn’t even cross my mind to go out anymore even though I really should
@@VeryButtery tbf I'm a bit like that too. Although I ended up working all through the pandemic. And that has kept me busy, but as such I've become a bit of a workaholic. I enjoy my job but I don't always end up doing alot outside of work I mostly just watch anime, play games and spend time on the internet. And I end up doing overtime on weekends too, but I do get paid for it so I guess I'm making progress in that way. I just need to get more of work life balance and socialise more. I have friends at work but barely any outside of work these days and I moved to new city too which doesn't help. As I live away from my old friends.
@@DaRkLoRd-rc5yuin your case, you could probably schedule game night. Deep rock galactic, barotrauma or any other multiplayer or coop game are a pretty good gate way to reconnect with old friend. You can even cheap steam key and use those.
Sameeee. I finished high school in 2021 and started online college last year; ever since then I kinda stopped going out and lost a lot of friendships. I was always the passive friend who would always respond/accept invitations instead of being the one texting/inviting, so now I’m learning the importance of being active in any relationship.
I'm chronically online, introverted, have confidence issues and don't drink so it do be the perfect combination to make friends 😃 like, I have a couple of friends but I only made those either waay back in middle/high school, where you're literally forced to exist with each other, or because they were friends of friends so we always hung out by proxy ... or because they didn't have any friends either at the start of uni 💀Idk it's rly hard for me getting from the superficial "oh hi yeah my name is ..." to the "ooo this is a lasting friendship" part. Once it solidifies I have no trouble keeping it going but getting there is so hard 😭 especially when most of the times when I meet new people it's now in an environment where everybody already knows each other and breaking through that really feels impossible 💀
I’m the same way as you 😢
same here except that the middle highschool friends all distanced themselves after getting an job and a relationship while i failed at everything i tried
ye your lifs over bud
I'm the same, still got uni ahead of me though so I'll have chances for friends there. I'm really worried about being unable to make any meaningful relationships once I become an adult, hell, making them even as a teen feels impossible for me
Same except I do drink a lot.
I relate to Garnt so much here, having grown up as a military brat.
My birthday is in June so I sometimes go to the bar the day before.i sometimes eat candy after buying a donair.
I kinda feel Connor here. Except, my locla bars are all old timers and noone my age
Ye, July baby here. Nobody every came to my birthday parties. I eventually stopped trying to have them as a kid. After becoming an adult, I thought, hey, nobody has summer break anymore, maybe now I can throw a birthday party and people will come. Nope, nobody has time in summer, even as adults.
Another July baby here. So in my country July is exam month and my birthday is always falls in the last week of exams. I would just buy a cake and spend time with my 4 childhood friends in highschool.
My last birthday party was in 2nd grade(it was a Cars 2 themed birthday party at the theatres) and i loved it but i told my parents i didn't want another one because i saw how expensive it was. My parents had lots of money but for some reason i have always been money cautious so i felt really bad that my parents spent so much money on one party.
I used to struggle with realizing people just need to vent sometimes too, honestly sometimes I still struggle with knowing when someone wants a problem solved or just needs that "that's rough buddy." I also have ADHD so it could be just a similar trait with that lol
Self improvement is important!
He’s right and he should say it
AMBATUKAAAAAAAAAAAAM
He’s wrong for everyone who don’t drink.
Some of my best lasting relationships have come from being at the local bar/pub
thanks
The holiday birthday struggle is real! 😭
dude im a passive person like this and it hurts the fact that this is so accurate how I am I'm even like this to my closets friends hell I'm nervous as fuck to talk sometimes
My friends wanted to go where girls were and I wanted to go where the video games were. I'm an arcade freak, I like to hang out in arcades and socialize, if girls are there, cool, if not, oh well, I was like that for as long as I can remember. If my dad (who I only got to see during summers sometimes) took me somewhere, we were stopping by an arcade.
My highschool friends had an unhealthy fixation on drugs and sex, they got overcome with addiction really early. I was chasing interests I had since I was a child, I dunno how you end up chasing drugs and sex as an interest, something is really perverted there.
Priorities were straight. Good for you man 💪
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Thanks you for the advice conner
relating to garnt real hard on this one
Here's my thing. I don't make friends and personally I don't want too, I never had a childhood friend from when I was a kid who actually stuck around until middle school. Met my best friend in 6th grade and we've been hanging out ever since
I relate to Garnt. My bday is Christmas Eve and although I'm not a twin, my sister who is 3 years younger has the same bday as me. So we both dislike celebrating our bdays. We do have a few friends who treat us special during our bday season and those are the friends we hold dear.
The kinds of people who hang out consistently at pubs are one MILLION percent people I don't want to be friends with..