I’d like to talk about women who Are 35/ 40 older who don’t have children and are still single but get shunned or constantly put down as not “woman enough” or not “adult enough” by peers with families of their own
Lyn Yes! Also the pressure and constant questions "when are you going to have a baby?" "When are you going to be a mom?" I heard that right after a miscarriage and it took my breath away. I wish people would stop asking that question of any young woman.
God I'm 28 and I've turned down two proposals from two serious relationships and have never been pregnant. Never want to be married or have children. I've said this for as long as I can remember and I'm still constantly told "you'll change your mind when you're older" 🙄🙄🙄 It's already turning into my married and parenting friends not inviting me to do things anymore as they feel I'm not as mature as them. Would love this topic to include the twenty somethings who feel like I do as well as the 30/40/50+ somethings like us who are not less of women for not wanting to appease societal expectations.
Kat Ambriz god that's just awful. Having a child is something so incredibly personal and no one ever knows what someone else has been through. I am so sorry someone was such an insensitive shit to say that to you, especially during such a sensitive time.
That would be a great topic! I’m 35, been married for 15 years and I don’t have a desire for children. People make me feel guilty and I’m starting to think something is wrong with me because I don’t have that desire :(
I have been married and divorced and now at 36 I am in a committed relationship of 7 years. We are not interested in marriage or kids. Fortunately my family is supportive.
Hurray for anyone talking about abusive relationship! It’s such a complex and difficult thing to be in and understand for outsiders. I was in an abusive relationship for 20 yrs. I felt like an idiot for not leaving him (looking back), but he diminished my self esteem to the point that I didn’t believe I could cope without him. He was an extremely kind and helpful towards others. All my friends and my own family supported him. I was the villain, the crazy one for leaving him and no one believed me when I told them about 20 yrs of rape and mental abuse. Since I “willingly” remained in the relationship for 20 yrs, it couldn’t be true, I was making it up, they thought. I found the courage and power to leave, it started by me being on internet and I found a relationship group where I could air all my feelings and I got heaps of support. People guided me to where I could get help, economical advice, legal advice etc. So I left and never looked back. He tried to make a living hell for me afterwards, but I survived and learned that this girl is a hell of strong, courageous,stubborn and powerful woman. My heart goes out to every single one of you who are in an abusive relationship. Abuse is not only physical violence, remember that. If someone is trying to prevent you from blooming, takes away your self esteem, belittles you or tries to mould you into something you’re not, or does not respect your boundaries, it’s time to ask yourself if you are in an abusive relationship.
THIS!!! Abusers often are very charming and put on a great show for others- it's part of the manipulation. People couldn't believe that my ex was abusive either, but my close family knew and boldly stated from the beginning that they didn't like him. I didn't listen because I fell for the charming bit also. Wish I could give you the biggest dang hug and tell you congrats on how strong you are. I felt your comment on such a deep level. Glad you got out and wish you SOOOO much happiness moving forward!!!
"Charming everyone to manipulate," "trying to prevent you from blooming, takes away your self esteem, belittles you or tries to mould you into into something you're not, or does not respect your *boundaries* " ....sht! Let me add - tried to isolate and ruin every loving fam/friendly relationship I have. Once he realized he couldn't, he makes me feel guilty for spending time with them that I often hide it. My own family!
Abuse comes in so many packages. You hit on such a good point.. Being in a relationship -of all kinds - that looks "ideal" from the outside create a false sense of guilt. You do not talk about it because we tend to think that abuse is about physical abuse or sexual abuse - but the emotional abuse cuts deep and these are the scars no one sees. I often was told, "wow you have a perfect life!" - If only you knew, sister. Whenever I voiced that I was unhappy, my well-intentioned family members or friends would tell me - that he didn't hit me, he didn't cheat and I had a nice car, house, and could buy whatever I wanted. But what went on behind closed doors created so much pain and PTSD that it has taken years for me to recover. So say it, sister! Let's open up about this type of abuse -the emotional abuse no one sees. The one we tell ourselves they don't mean or that we somehow need to learn from because we must be flawed. Thank you for this video!! I will take this as a sign that it is time for me to open up as well. Many Blessings Gorgeous Goddess!
Ada Esquerre As human beings we tend to look at the physical aspect. How you look, what you wear, etc but Never do we stop and just Listen to the words that is being expressed by the individuals.so sad, very said but let me tell you about someone who always listens. God knows and when our words cannot say what is in our hearts, our tears delivers it to him, because he understands the language of our tears. He is making a way for you and everyone who calls on him.
Exactly! I work in this “area” and one of the things I see most is what I call the false perfect. What will happen if everyone finds out that my perfect doesn’t even exist?
Ada Esquerre yes!!! I was in a both a physical and emotional/verbal Abusive relationship and I overcame the physical abuse quickly but the verbal and emotional abuse took me almost a decade to overcome and ppl who haven’t been there just don’t get it. And the only time ppl felt bad is when I had black eyes or visible bruises but all the emotional and verbal abuse no one cared about when that’s what effected me the worst.
Ela Rain wow the “false perfect” I’ve never heard of this term. Thank you for sharing. Yes..! I wouldn’t leave because I felt that I was being ungrateful. My life was “a false perfect”. I thought how can o leave what can I say?
I love “YOU”. All of you. Curves and all. You are such an amazing soul. GOD gave you so many gifts that help so many people. Your struggles gives everyone else hope and strength.
I love that ur talking about this. I was abused by my other 2-20 yrs.old i then continued as a woman to repeat being best friends with women who would verbally or physically abuse me. I have a great hubby who is so loving and supportive. We never think of our female mothers or friends of being physically or emotionally abusive but it is possible. I have healed and forgiven now. I do not repeat these behaviors any longer but I think it is important talking about it being a cycle. Breaking the cycle of abuse.
alyssa rosengard my mother is extremely abusive, so I know exactly what you’re saying. I also chose female “best friends” who abused me either emotionally or mentally, because that’s what I knew. I now have 3 sons & I believe in discipline, but I would never abuse them. Breaking that cycle isn’t easy, especially when you come from 100s of years of it. But it CAN be done 💜
Hi Marlena. My sister was in an abusive marriage for 28 years. I think what people may not realize is it stays with you always. You don't get out and then it's over. Your attitude about it afterwards is what helps and I think this is what you were alluding to. My heart and respect are with you. I hope your courage will help some one💖
When you make the video about abuse, can you please add something about best way to help your friend in this kind of situation, how to speak with them, make them realise that they are being abused, quite often they can't see themselves what is happening. All the best Marlena😘
Ilonna no guarantee that they'll leave regardless of what we say. I've had friends in that situation and I listen to them without judgment. Hope she finds a way out.
The best thing you can do for your friend is make sure they know you're there. Make sure they have numbers to places they can call to get help. no matter how much you love someone your life is more important. make sure they never forget that there life mean something to you.
@Ilonna Check out Inner Integration You tube channel. I have found wonderful helpful info there on abusive relationships, hope, and healing. Perhaps you could tell your friend about it? Or Marlena's channel, of course!
Thank you for bringing light to this! I was emotionally abused in a relationship for 5 years when I was in my early 20’s. I had a fiancé that isolated me from family & friends. Of course that made it harder to get out of it. When I finally broke things off with him, I felt so empowered & in control of my life! I urge anyone in such a relationship to put yourself first & you can do it!
Ive been watching you for years. Thank you for stepping and giving those who cant speak up a voice. Keeping you in prayer for sure, watching your personal videos has helped me in many ways. All I can say is thank you. Love and Prayers always.
Makeup Monday | Wellness Wednesday | Fashion Friday I'm digging it 😉 As someone who has been through emotional / verbal abuse, I appreciate all support and reassurance after the fact. So many people saw it happening and let it happen, making me think the way I was being treated was normal. Once I got away from the toxic people, I felt like I could breathe. I still have trust issues and problems letting people in. Most people think I'm being cold but I just feel like my barrier is still necessary for my sanity. Sending love to anyone who has been through any kind of abuse. It is NOT your fault ❤️❤️❤️ PS. my abuse was from a coach that I almost thought of as a father (not a relationship)
I just watched all of your recent chat videos - I can relate so much to you when talking about chronic health issues. It is so draining, and sometimes just feels never-ending. I felt incredibly touched over the videos I watched, seeing you be so open and candid about your life updates. Life isn't something you can plan for, life happens. The one thing that is obvious, is that you continue to get up and move forward. You really have come so far - I've been following you for around 9 years at this point. Anyway, I give you a lot of credit to continue putting yourself out there like this. So many times I have found myself feeling validated as you talk about things, so thank you. Hoping 2019 is filled with even more happiness and growth! (Also, on a personal level, I was very curious about the spiritual changes you talked about. That is something I have been seeking to come to peace with.)
Yes! I can so relate to everything girl!! So proud you’re branching out and sharing! I love makeup but I love when someone is REAL with me and shares their true selves! This is why I will ALWAYS WATCH YOU!! 💋💋
Wowwwww I am actually crying right now! You TRULY ARE AN AMAZING ANGEL!!! I am beyond ready for the Coffee time videos!! I have been on An AMAZING journey with God right now that has me wanting to start my channel to raise awareness about mental health and medical issues. And to do it through Beauty and I am a bit nervous because I had a influenster already call me out on her channel in a VERY BSD & NEGATIVE WAY so now I have backed off even though I KNOW THAT GOD WANTS ME TO DO THIS!!! I am now going back down in a bit of a spiral fast and I am fighting to get back to my self. I know that even all of those I have helped in my community have been telling me that I have to help OTHERS and that I need to start my channel. I am HONESTLY worried. GOD BLESS YOU BEAUTIFUL ANGEL!!!
Marlena these are the videos I come for. YOU. I can sometimes skip videos about makeup, but I LOVE you just chatting and sharing your views. You always have a brilliant perspective
Marlena I'm an og subbie. From the video from the floor in your bedroom, through your launch of your companies, I'm with you all the way. I love your message and excited to hear your chat videos.
I was a chubby girl too. It still hurts me to think of the number of people, some family but mostly acquaintances and absolute strangers, who constantly focused only on my weight. They *Always* had to bring it up in *Every* conversation. It's almost as If they felt it was their duty, their purpose in life to remind that I was an overweight child/teen. I know it said more about them than me, but to be labeled and maligned as some sort of abnormality was very soul crushing.
I am so happy to hear you share some of your stories ! As a woman, I’ve also have gone through a lot. Depression, stress, anxiety, mental breakdown, and abuse. Not just abuse from family but from significant others. And all forms. It really does help to talk about it and get it out. Sadly, I feel as a woman, at one point in or lives, sometimes more, we all (or most) will be or have been in an abusive relationship. And it’s good to know there’s a place to share stories and release it with people who won’t judge or demean you. Good luck with your journey ! And God Bless.
OMG I am so ready and excited for the new ‘coffee chats’!!!!!! I love your personal, authentic, chatty, videos. More vlogs and lifestyle videos too, please! And possibly pregnancy/Mom life/family planning videos 😉?
I'm excited too. She's so beautiful inside and out and her stories could help save a woman. It's very healing to get yr story out and it can bring a lot of support that really does help build another woman back up.
Marlena, I am so looking forward to the new videos to come. Thank you for opening up and sharing more of yourself with us. I know you are going to touch and help so many people.
Wow... I cant wait... I've survived abuse ..literally and experienced PTSD as a result from almost losing my life at the hands of a man....that led me into my spiritual journey.. you ask God and he will answer!! I've never been closer to him. These topics are amazing. I've had such a deep yearning to reach out and talk about these things and help other women....so by you expressing that you will be discussing these things...is amazing and I'm so glad someone is finally doing. You are my hero...a boss lady. ..who tells it like it is.. doesn't lie or sugar coat to be what society deems acceptable and the most beautiful thing is you are so unapologetically YOU and that is amazing!!!
Omg I so looking forward to your upcoming videos on abuse and how you got out of it. I'm in a very mentally emotional abusive marriage and need to get out, but I lack the mental strength. Thx for reaching out to us, love you!
You admitting that is the first step to freedom, girl. I finally left my husband in November last year and am going through divorce, and I can’t tell you how much freedom I felt the week after leaving him. Surround yourself with people who love you, and begin researching your options for moving forward. You don’t lack the mental strength; you’ve just misplaced it. It’s still there in you, girl! Now go find it! ❤️
@JoAnne Lochner Gone trhu the same. My „advice“: think about you as a child (who‘s still inside of you btw), take yourself by the hand and help this kid out of this situation. Then you get the strength of a mother-lion🦁 and you can do it! 🤗 feel huged
Ms. Lochner... I don't know you or your situation but I have been in an abusive relationship and I know that it's really really scary and hard to get out. You can do it. It is ABSOLUTELY possible. I'm going to keep you in my prayers. Stay positive and stay strong!
But also I think this is amazing that she is sharing her personal journey with us and using her large platform to talk about things that really matter, things that are bigger than makeup and drama and gossip and trends. We need more RUclipsrs like Marlena 😍💖
I’m really glad you’re talking about abuse, a lot of us have gone through it and for me, knowing I’m not alone helps. I also think it’s important to share how we got out, to hopefully help those who haven’t yet but are wanting to and looking for advice. 💜
Very much looking forward to the coffee chat videos! There are so many “taboo” topics out there that force us into feeling alone, when in reality if we were to open up and talk about it, it’s crazy to realize how common these issues are. Thank you for using your platform to bring real issues to table and I’m sure you will be helping many of us through the process.
Literally just thinking the same thing! I’m so glad you keep it classy and rather than address those drama queens, you choose to rise above it. Love you Mar! Excited for your new chat videosx❤️❤️
Oh I can’t wait Marlena. I have not been through abuse, but I’m so glad you are going to cover that.🙌 I am lost in life and the last 5 years have been horrific due to mental illness. It’s taken my life from me. I’m doing better now, so I ask God every day what is my purpose, I know I have one. Building a new life from the ground up is really difficult for me. I have absolutely no direction. I’m so excited to hear about your spiritual journey. Love you so much! Thanks for being brave. 🤗😘 I’m curvy now too, I was always small before all my meds. At least we are in style girl. 😂
Don’t forget about Hawaii Targets!!! I live on the Big Island which is very remote so the Makeup Struggle is REAL here! No Ulta, No Sephora, very small Mac counter at Macy’s, etc. Being able to buy MUG at Target would change my life!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️ But thank goodness for online shopping!!
Stephanie Polley I'm not sure how helpful this is but Mary Kay and Maskcara both have free shipping options for direct sales. I'll see if I can find out about your area
I love your honesty and willingness to always share your truth. Thank you for being a light for others. Thank you for always (literally always over the past 5 years as I have watched you) being so positive and approaching controversial topics with such a positive intent. Your love and light you project into the world is so needed and appreciated.
That topic cuts so deep. I’ve been there and anything that can make someone who has been abused feel they are not alone is extremely important! You are going to be a good steward of your voice here. I’m so sorry that you went through all of those things, and I wish you all the happiness in the world!! ❤️
YES to ALL the different types of videos! Of course I'd love to see coffee chats in addition to makeup. Thank you for going out of your way to make us feel less alone. You're going to do amazing things!
Nothing better as a Pastor, than watching people step into their calling! You’re a world changer girl! And an all around amazing woman with so much to share and offer! Can’t wait to see all the things God has in store for this next season of your life ♥️♥️♥️
Looking forward to your upcoming vids, Marlena! ☺ Love for you to talk about life balance, anxiety, and abusive relationships. I got out of an abusive relationship last year and I think it gets pushed under the rug a lot of times. I felt like I had no one to help me or they just didn't see the signs when my eyes were pleading with them to really LOOK at me.
I am so excited for the new videos...any video with you is amazing to watch. You do have an incredible following and platform to do so much more good in this world. You have gotten me through so many sleepless nights and a lot of the time you feel alone during those times .I am grateful I found you one night ,just playing around on you tube looking at makeup videos bc at that time I felt so bad about myself that i thought if I knew how to put eyeshadow on better id look better and therefore feel better.I've had many ups and downs in my life just like everyone else. I would just like to thank you for being there all of those sleepless nights when I thought to myself over and over "this cant be my life"your new perso. You have helped so many many without even knowing it, i look forward to your new more personal videos,and hopefully men and women will be able to tell you just how much you've saved them because I know you saved me many times.Thank you again and here's to a wonderful 2019, and you making this world better a little bit at a time!! ❤️❤️
I'm just a minute and a half into the video when you mention how great things are for you in your business and love life. When you said you were with a wonderful man, I started to tear up. I just needed to pause this video and say I'm so genuinely happy for you, Marlena. You are a wonderfully kind, hard-working person, and deserve all the success and love this life has to offer. I wish you a much better year in 2019. And yes, please do chatty videos! We need people to open up about abuse, mental health issues, inner conflict, etc. and help end the stigma.
Hey babe Happy New Year! I can define relate to this video. Thank you. I hate it when people ask “why would she /he stay with that person if they are so abusive”? The person being abused is most likely in love with their abuser. People don’t understand hot hard it is to leave someone your in love with, who is also hurting you.
April Romanek exactly! Plus being afraid to leave, not having the money to go and the fear of being alone forever. I’m happier “alone” than I was with him. That’s for sure. , I just didn’t believe it, since it was pounded (literally) into my head every day
Especially when you don't always recognize abuse since it's not always black and white (or, perhaps black and blue is a better phrase). Abusers are manipulative and prey on any weak points. Gaslighting and other forms of emotional manipulation are not always clear or easily identifiable, especially when it starts off with a one-off comment and slowly escalates. It's all part of a vicious cycle.
Ppl who havent been thru it can not possibly understand. Its not always 100% abuse all the time, we had some good memories but the abuse overshadowed everything. I felt leaving would be giving up on my marriage and letting my family down. In the end, I had to do what was best for me.
I love you and am so excited to see a video from you. And to see you looking all bright & happy! ♥ It makes my heart happy. And I look very forward to the Coffee Chats and all other content from you. You are AMAZING and we love & support you, always!!
I’m so glad you’re happy and emotionally well enough to tackle this tough tough subject. Looking forward to your videos and I’m sure they will help so many people.
Talk girl. We got you! I’m a single 38 year old mother of a special needs child. I’ve have a lot of difficulty with depression because of the bullying my son has gone through.
Hi Marlena! I’m excited for the “real talk” vids to come. I have watched you for what seems forever.. And I love seeing my fav youtubers use their platform to have real talks about real life. If even you reach out to one person who is in that dark place and inspire them to reach for light then it’s all worth it. Coming from a past riddled with varying types of abuse, I always say I wished I had had something or someone that could have helped guide me through it. Through the emotions, the thoughts, &/or actions of choosing myself first. It took a long time, but I made it and have had a wonderful life ever since. Can’t wait to see what’s to come!
I'm excited for your coffee chats ♡ I've been watching you since 2008 when I was only 14, you're such an inspirational person to me ( you're even on my vision board lol because I hope to be as successful as you one day)
I am excited for this channel to evolve the same way we all have over the years of following you. Women supporting women, sharing our stories, finding solutions, knowing that we are not alone in our struggles. I'm all for it Marlena!
Thank you for using the voice and the platform that you have to spread awareness and to possibly help those individuals going through some of these very difficult struggles. I personally have been through some of these issues, like many, and am so grateful and thankful to be on the other side and able to look back at that time in my life and reflect. I have learned so much about myself and others. I have so much yet to learn. That’s part of being human, we are always learning and evolving. None of us knows everything. Telling myself it’s ok to have a bad day, That tomorrow is a new day, a fresh start. And on the other hand to realize that tomorrow isn’t certain, to make the most of every moment that I am given in this life with my family and how precious life truly is. I have lost several family member closest to me over the last 7 years and it’s been very difficult. I am pushing through, I have to keep pushing for my husband and teenage son.
I’m really excited that your changing directions a little. I love make up and always will but I feel like the beauty community has hit it’s peak. Now there’s added drama just to keep audiences entertained in a way. I’m ready for new topics! Especially ones that I can relate to as a woman that might help me through life.
Happy New Year gorgeous! Making a video about abuse is really important and doing it with the platform you have is so brave of you. I have dealt with abuse in every form by the same man (my child's father) It took 16 years for me to finally break free from it... And by break free I mean the emotional hold I let him have over me. It has now been 4 years since and I now have a wonderful man in my life who showed me what is it like to be truly loved and appreciated. That in turn gave me to ability to show my child what a healthy respectful and loving relationship looks like. The stigma surrounding abuse needs to be gone. So many people suffer in silence and it needs to stop. Thank you for not being afraid to tackle this topic. Much love 💞💞💞💞
I think these videos sounds like a great idea 👏🏻👏🏻🙏🏻 I'm a curvy girl,always have been,but never had any confidence with how I look, maybe you could talk about how you deal with that? Looking forward to your videos 👏🏻💖 Lot of love to you,Lady and Lexie ❤❤
I’m very excited about your “Coffee Chats”. I think it will be so powerful to share and for us to receive. Bringing real life topics out in the light will help us feel connected and help give many who may not have a voice feel hopeful. Thank you for this wonderful upcoming series .
So proud of you for walking into a new facet of your purpose! There is so much healing in sharing your story and I'm sure it will resonate with a lot of us. Lots of love and blessings to you.
Hi Marlena, I'm so looking forward to the new changes on your channel! I would love it if one of the topics to explore is whether people have the ability to change. Can a cheating spouse keep his promise to not cheat again or will a woman be forever looking over her shoulder if she decides to stay in the marriage? Congratulations on your decision to keep negativity out of your life! Toxic people and circumstances are life draining. Hugs!
I think these videos will be great! I sort of feel like I am the opposite of you but with the same feelings of where do I fit in. I got pregnant at 17 and had two more babies while being married to a great AF guy. But now my kids are grown and I don’t know what I want next. I’ve put my career on hold and just did jobs here and there through all the moves. I feel to old to go back to school but don’t see anything that I want to do career wise. So hopefully 2019 will be a great year for both of us!
I am so excited for new chats! Me & my girls went through horrific trauma yrs ago and deep depression and anxiety took over for years. I’ve wasted 10 yrs! But it’s our time to turn it up & around! 2019 is the year!
Hi Marlena, I'm so excited for your new videos and the direction that you are going in. I was at Target the other day and sure enough I saw some Makeup Geek pallets and thought, "oh my gosh I need to help Marlena" so I picked one out and let me tell you, that little 4 pan pallet is some of the best eye shadows I own! They blend beautifully and are gorgeous, rich colors. Thank you!!
Aww thank you SO much Sherri!! I hope you love it and I'm working on bringing even more products out. Thanks for your love and support- here's a hug through my screen to you. xoxoxoxoxo
YES I can't wait for these videos. The video you made a while back about the panic attack you had made me cry, I have panic disorder and Generalized Anxiety Disorder so hearing other people's experiences with anxiety and how they deal with it means a ton to me. So PLEASE do a video on how you cope, what methods you use, etc!
YOU ARE AMAZING!! Just hearing you mention that you are a survivor or domestic abuse fills me with comfort and inspiration. I am also a survivor and for years even to this day I find myself associating it with shame, with a loss for words when people ask me how a strong independant woman can fall into the cycle, etc. I will be rooting for you and seeking your guidance with how you educate others on this matter!
Coffee Chats , that sounds awesome. I think it’s important to bare your soul once in a while. You’ve inspired me to try that myself, ( although my husband would not really appreciate me airing my “ low down dirt “ ) he’s one of those guys that are very personal and private about stuff like that. If I try it , I may only do it once a month. But occasionally I am an emotional mess, I gotta admit, and my husband is not real good at dealing with it . Men are such idiots sometimes. He’s a great guy when he wants to be. He’s had some health issues, and we’re living with his mom right now. That on top of me , the only one working is so much pressure . I’m at the end of my ropes, the ends are frazzled. Whew , I can’t believe I got it all out. Thanks Marlena. 💞💞Love from Pennsylvania
I’d like a discussion on ways to stop caring so much about what others think of you and having more confidence. Ways to cope in the workplace for example when someone or a group is hard to get along with.. always worried about “measuring up” and comparing yourself to others. I guess a real self love discussion would be so helpful especially in these times we live in. Best wishes for you Marlena for 2019 being all you could hope and dream! You deserve happiness always! Much love to you! 😘❤️
I just got out of an EXTREMELY emotionally and verbally abusive marriage. The trauma I'm still living in is just, it's impossible to explain to anyone. The sinking/falling feeling in the pit of my stomach if I even have to think about facing him is like a black hole that could swallow me and I feel like I could never get out of it. It is SO IMPORTANT for women, AND MEN, who have been abused by their partners to stick to together and share their fears. And their hopes. You can't do it with anyone else because it is just impossible for them to understand. I think that focusing some videos on this topic is going to be a very good thing for a lot of people.
@@dianahr4116 Yes. In the original thumb nail she had black makeup under her eyes to either make it look like she had been crying, or on my smaller phone screen it almost looked like she was made up to have a black eye. She must've changed it after seeing the comments.
I am so sad that you were in such a dark place, but i am SO happy you’ve found your purpose. You were the first beauty youtuber that actually helped me do makeup as well as fall in love with makeup! You are so beautiful inside and out; and i am here to support you in whatever you want to do 💕 Thank you for speaking up and being real💕
Happy New Year Marlena, I hop 2019 is an amazing year for you. Is there any chance that you could come to a retailer in the Uk, like Superdrug Or Boots 😃
Sending you love and nothing but happiness in 2019. I’ve been through so many of the same things you mentioned- depression/anxiety, abuse, and the difficulty that comes with trying to start a family. I have such positive feelings about this year and I wish the same for you!
Saw MUG in my Target around the corner last week!! And some new eyeshadow quad palettes! Prior to that, they were only in one Cincinnati Target and it's 20+ mins from me (I still drove there to get what was out in store lol). But now literally being around the corner.....too excited!!
@@jennatha4789 yes, the Marburg one is the one I was referring to that is around 20 mins from me. Now the Blue Ash Target has it as well, and that store is literally around the corner from my neighborhood 😁 My store only had 3 different quad/palettes (which are different/newer ones from the 3 that were in the Marburg store last year) and I think that's all they had so far. Eyeshadow is what excites me most though, so I may have just been drawn to those and didn't notice anything else lol. Edited to say that the newer palettes have a window on the front so you can see the shades inside better. Packaging is basically the same as before, but now with a window on front. So glad she changed that!
This is the very first video I've seen, and I already subscribed. I think it's so important to talk about those issues! Thank you for deciding to use this platform to talk about difficult, important things such as abuse and mental health issues. It's SO important to end the taboos, let people know they are not alone and be able to share and support each other!
I’m excited and looking forward to this!! I was physically abused by an ex and looking back, I put up with it for too long because I was scared. Scared to be alone, scared to say I’m a failure, scared to march forward to the unknown. Fast forward 10 years and leaving was the turning point where I went from being a child to a bad ass woman. I grew up very quickly.
What is going on the makeup geek site? colors have been sold out for ages for signature shadows, contours have disappeared. this is incredibly frustrating to someone who has loved the brand, but now can't find what i'm looking for.
I know right ?! And its all just about " Target, Target " but there are way MORE people outside US who also love and buy MUG, but who cares :( On BeautyBay same situation as on MUG for months now. Id really LOVE some clarification as on whats going on there, when the new ones come out, etc. instead of hearing for million times about Target thing. Truly frustrating.
@@jslilimauve I saw some of what was left at a Target and it did not impress me. If I am buying MUG, I want to make choices online, not the limited offerings in a Target. I really want to be able to order the shadows that I had unfortunately been waiting on and now will probably never get :(
I totally understand the frustration!! More product are coming soon- just give us a few months :). I'm rebranding and bringing so much new amazing product that we're in transition. Plus with me not taking loans or having investors, most of my finances in the last year went to providing massive PO's for Target. It's a combo of things, but I promise great things are coming soon!!
Thank you for not being afraid to be vulnerable and put your personal struggles out there. It really helps all of us who also have personal struggles to hear someone else talk openly about these things. You have such a loving, generous spirit. Xoxo
Oh girl, I have stories and yes it is so difficult to leave an abuser! It’s so hard to understand unless you have been through it. I wish nothing but the best for you Marlena! 🥰🥰🥰🥰
I am so excited for the new videos. The abusive relationships will definitely hit home for me. As far as other topics, I would love to hear your opinion on depression and other mental health, finding self confidence, mom shaming.. etc. Thank you for opening up. I have been a subbie for a while and I dont comment really but I'm so glad you're starting these videos and opening up. You're an inspiration to a lot of us.
I’d like to talk about women who Are 35/ 40 older who don’t have children and are still single but get shunned or constantly put down as not “woman enough” or not “adult enough” by peers with families of their own
Lyn Yes! Also the pressure and constant questions "when are you going to have a baby?" "When are you going to be a mom?" I heard that right after a miscarriage and it took my breath away. I wish people would stop asking that question of any young woman.
God I'm 28 and I've turned down two proposals from two serious relationships and have never been pregnant. Never want to be married or have children. I've said this for as long as I can remember and I'm still constantly told "you'll change your mind when you're older" 🙄🙄🙄 It's already turning into my married and parenting friends not inviting me to do things anymore as they feel I'm not as mature as them. Would love this topic to include the twenty somethings who feel like I do as well as the 30/40/50+ somethings like us who are not less of women for not wanting to appease societal expectations.
Kat Ambriz god that's just awful. Having a child is something so incredibly personal and no one ever knows what someone else has been through. I am so sorry someone was such an insensitive shit to say that to you, especially during such a sensitive time.
That would be a great topic! I’m 35, been married for 15 years and I don’t have a desire for children. People make me feel guilty and I’m starting to think something is wrong with me because I don’t have that desire :(
I have been married and divorced and now at 36 I am in a committed relationship of 7 years. We are not interested in marriage or kids. Fortunately my family is supportive.
Hurray for anyone talking about abusive relationship! It’s such a complex and difficult thing to be in and understand for outsiders. I was in an abusive relationship for 20 yrs. I felt like an idiot for not leaving him (looking back), but he diminished my self esteem to the point that I didn’t believe I could cope without him. He was an extremely kind and helpful towards others. All my friends and my own family supported him. I was the villain, the crazy one for leaving him and no one believed me when I told them about 20 yrs of rape and mental abuse. Since I “willingly” remained in the relationship for 20 yrs, it couldn’t be true, I was making it up, they thought.
I found the courage and power to leave, it started by me being on internet and I found a relationship group where I could air all my feelings and I got heaps of support. People guided me to where I could get help, economical advice, legal advice etc. So I left and never looked back. He tried to make a living hell for me afterwards, but I survived and learned that this girl is a hell of strong, courageous,stubborn and powerful woman. My heart goes out to every single one of you who are in an abusive relationship. Abuse is not only physical violence, remember that. If someone is trying to prevent you from blooming, takes away your self esteem, belittles you or tries to mould you into something you’re not, or does not respect your boundaries, it’s time to ask yourself if you are in an abusive relationship.
THIS!!! Abusers often are very charming and put on a great show for others- it's part of the manipulation. People couldn't believe that my ex was abusive either, but my close family knew and boldly stated from the beginning that they didn't like him. I didn't listen because I fell for the charming bit also. Wish I could give you the biggest dang hug and tell you congrats on how strong you are. I felt your comment on such a deep level. Glad you got out and wish you SOOOO much happiness moving forward!!!
"Charming everyone to manipulate," "trying to prevent you from blooming, takes away your self esteem, belittles you or tries to mould you into into something you're not, or does not respect your *boundaries* " ....sht! Let me add - tried to isolate and ruin every loving fam/friendly relationship I have. Once he realized he couldn't, he makes me feel guilty for spending time with them that I often hide it. My own family!
Abuse comes in so many packages. You hit on such a good point.. Being in a relationship -of all kinds - that looks "ideal" from the outside create a false sense of guilt. You do not talk about it because we tend to think that abuse is about physical abuse or sexual abuse - but the emotional abuse cuts deep and these are the scars no one sees. I often was told, "wow you have a perfect life!" - If only you knew, sister. Whenever I voiced that I was unhappy, my well-intentioned family members or friends would tell me - that he didn't hit me, he didn't cheat and I had a nice car, house, and could buy whatever I wanted. But what went on behind closed doors created so much pain and PTSD that it has taken years for me to recover. So say it, sister! Let's open up about this type of abuse -the emotional abuse no one sees. The one we tell ourselves they don't mean or that we somehow need to learn from because we must be flawed. Thank you for this video!! I will take this as a sign that it is time for me to open up as well. Many Blessings Gorgeous Goddess!
AMEN!!! Emotional abuse is an insidious beast who sucks the life out of you! Just because he didn't hit you, you are still bruised and battered!
Ada Esquerre As human beings we tend to look at the physical aspect. How you look, what you wear, etc but Never do we stop and just Listen to the words that is being expressed by the individuals.so sad, very said but let me tell you about someone who always listens. God knows and when our words cannot say what is in our hearts, our tears delivers it to him, because he understands the language of our tears. He is making a way for you and everyone who calls on him.
Exactly! I work in this “area” and one of the things I see most is what I call the false perfect. What will happen if everyone finds out that my perfect doesn’t even exist?
Ada Esquerre yes!!! I was in a both a physical and emotional/verbal Abusive relationship and I overcame the physical abuse quickly but the verbal and emotional abuse took me almost a decade to overcome and ppl who haven’t been there just don’t get it. And the only time ppl felt bad is when I had black eyes or visible bruises but all the emotional and verbal abuse no one cared about when that’s what effected me the worst.
Ela Rain wow the “false perfect” I’ve never heard of this term. Thank you for sharing. Yes..! I wouldn’t leave because I felt that I was being ungrateful. My life was “a false perfect”. I thought how can o leave what can I say?
I love “YOU”. All of you. Curves and all. You are such an amazing soul. GOD gave you so many gifts that help so many people. Your struggles gives everyone else hope and strength.
THANK YOU so much!!!!!! xoxoxoxoxo
So sweet!♥️
I love that ur talking about this. I was abused by my other 2-20 yrs.old i then continued as a woman to repeat being best friends with women who would verbally or physically abuse me. I have a great hubby who is so loving and supportive. We never think of our female mothers or friends of being physically or emotionally abusive but it is possible. I have healed and forgiven now. I do not repeat these behaviors any longer but I think it is important talking about it being a cycle. Breaking the cycle of abuse.
alyssa rosengard my mother is extremely abusive, so I know exactly what you’re saying. I also chose female “best friends” who abused me either emotionally or mentally, because that’s what I knew. I now have 3 sons & I believe in discipline, but I would never abuse them. Breaking that cycle isn’t easy, especially when you come from 100s of years of it. But it CAN be done 💜
Thanks so much for sharing that. It makes bearing it easier. Sorry you went through that.
I was a rape & assault crisis counselor and now volunteer at a Women's Shelter. There is more abuse than most realize. You are not alone! ♥ Elle
Hi Marlena. My sister was in an abusive marriage for 28 years. I think what people may not realize is it stays with you always. You don't get out and then it's over. Your attitude about it afterwards is what helps and I think this is what you were alluding to. My heart and respect are with you. I hope your courage will help some one💖
When you make the video about abuse, can you please add something about best way to help your friend in this kind of situation, how to speak with them, make them realise that they are being abused, quite often they can't see themselves what is happening. All the best Marlena😘
Ilonna no guarantee that they'll leave regardless of what we say. I've had friends in that situation and I listen to them without judgment. Hope she finds a way out.
It can be more dangerous to leave than it is to stay, sad to say.
Yes! I also want to know that and even if it's welcomed and when to stop telling them:)
The best thing you can do for your friend is make sure they know you're there. Make sure they have numbers to places they can call to get help. no matter how much you love someone your life is more important. make sure they never forget that there life mean something to you.
@Ilonna Check out Inner Integration You tube channel. I have found wonderful helpful info there on abusive relationships, hope, and healing. Perhaps you could tell your friend about it? Or Marlena's channel, of course!
Thank you for bringing light to this! I was emotionally abused in a relationship for 5 years when I was in my early 20’s. I had a fiancé that isolated me from family & friends. Of course that made it harder to get out of it. When I finally broke things off with him, I felt so empowered & in control of my life! I urge anyone in such a relationship to put yourself first & you can do it!
Ive been watching you for years. Thank you for stepping and giving those who cant speak up a voice. Keeping you in prayer for sure, watching your personal videos has helped me in many ways. All I can say is thank you. Love and Prayers always.
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As someone who has been through emotional / verbal abuse, I appreciate all support and reassurance after the fact. So many people saw it happening and let it happen, making me think the way I was being treated was normal. Once I got away from the toxic people, I felt like I could breathe. I still have trust issues and problems letting people in. Most people think I'm being cold but I just feel like my barrier is still necessary for my sanity. Sending love to anyone who has been through any kind of abuse. It is NOT your fault ❤️❤️❤️
PS. my abuse was from a coach that I almost thought of as a father (not a relationship)
I just watched all of your recent chat videos - I can relate so much to you when talking about chronic health issues. It is so draining, and sometimes just feels never-ending. I felt incredibly touched over the videos I watched, seeing you be so open and candid about your life updates. Life isn't something you can plan for, life happens. The one thing that is obvious, is that you continue to get up and move forward. You really have come so far - I've been following you for around 9 years at this point. Anyway, I give you a lot of credit to continue putting yourself out there like this. So many times I have found myself feeling validated as you talk about things, so thank you. Hoping 2019 is filled with even more happiness and growth! (Also, on a personal level, I was very curious about the spiritual changes you talked about. That is something I have been seeking to come to peace with.)
Yes! I can so relate to everything girl!! So proud you’re branching out and sharing! I love makeup but I love when someone is REAL with me and shares their true selves! This is why I will ALWAYS WATCH YOU!! 💋💋
Wowwwww I am actually crying right now! You TRULY ARE AN AMAZING ANGEL!!! I am beyond ready for the Coffee time videos!! I have been on An AMAZING journey with God right now that has me wanting to start my channel to raise awareness about mental health and medical issues. And to do it through Beauty and I am a bit nervous because I had a influenster already call me out on her channel in a VERY BSD & NEGATIVE WAY so now I have backed off even though I KNOW THAT GOD WANTS ME TO DO THIS!!! I am now going back down in a bit of a spiral fast and I am fighting to get back to my self. I know that even all of those I have helped in my community have been telling me that I have to help OTHERS and that I need to start my channel. I am HONESTLY worried. GOD BLESS YOU BEAUTIFUL ANGEL!!!
Omg yes, can't wait to watch, listen to all the new stuff and direction you're going.
Marlena these are the videos I come for. YOU.
I can sometimes skip videos about makeup, but I LOVE you just chatting and sharing your views. You always have a brilliant perspective
Marlena I'm an og subbie. From the video from the floor in your bedroom, through your launch of your companies, I'm with you all the way. I love your message and excited to hear your chat videos.
Thanks for staying with me Danielle!!! Means so much so thank you
Yes please Coffee Chats. I love it!!! We have all been through so much. Feeling like you are not alone is huge. Thank you.
I was a chubby girl too. It still hurts me to think of the number of people, some family but mostly acquaintances and absolute strangers, who constantly focused only on my weight. They *Always* had to bring it up in *Every* conversation. It's almost as If they felt it was their duty, their purpose in life to remind that I was an overweight child/teen. I know it said more about them than me, but to be labeled and maligned as some sort of abnormality was very soul crushing.
I am so happy to hear you share some of your stories ! As a woman, I’ve also have gone through a lot. Depression, stress, anxiety, mental breakdown, and abuse. Not just abuse from family but from significant others. And all forms. It really does help to talk about it and get it out. Sadly, I feel as a woman, at one point in or lives, sometimes more, we all (or most) will be or have been in an abusive relationship. And it’s good to know there’s a place to share stories and release it with people who won’t judge or demean you. Good luck with your journey ! And God Bless.
OMG I am so ready and excited for the new ‘coffee chats’!!!!!! I love your personal, authentic, chatty, videos. More vlogs and lifestyle videos too, please! And possibly pregnancy/Mom life/family planning videos 😉?
LOVE all these!! Those are some of my favorite to do :)
Megan R Great idea!
Megan R ohhh yes!!!! Please please please 🐶
I'm excited too. She's so beautiful inside and out and her stories could help save a woman. It's very healing to get yr story out and it can bring a lot of support that really does help build another woman back up.
family planning PLEASSSE!!!! any help/advice we can give each other 😘 xox
2019 truly feels like the start of so much good for so many people! Super excited to see what 2019 brings in terms of your content
Excited for MUG and every good thing coming your way!!!
Marlena, I am so looking forward to the new videos to come. Thank you for opening up and sharing more of yourself with us. I know you are going to touch and help so many people.
Can’t wait for the chat videos! You are amazing Marlena!
Wow... I cant wait... I've survived abuse ..literally and experienced PTSD as a result from almost losing my life at the hands of a man....that led me into my spiritual journey.. you ask God and he will answer!! I've never been closer to him. These topics are amazing. I've had such a deep yearning to reach out and talk about these things and help other women....so by you expressing that you will be discussing these things...is amazing and I'm so glad someone is finally doing. You are my hero...a boss lady. ..who tells it like it is.. doesn't lie or sugar coat to be what society deems acceptable and the most beautiful thing is you are so unapologetically YOU and that is amazing!!!
Omg I so looking forward to your upcoming videos on abuse and how you got out of it. I'm in a very mentally emotional abusive marriage and need to get out, but I lack the mental strength. Thx for reaching out to us, love you!
JoAnne Lochner ❤️
You admitting that is the first step to freedom, girl. I finally left my husband in November last year and am going through divorce, and I can’t tell you how much freedom I felt the week after leaving him. Surround yourself with people who love you, and begin researching your options for moving forward. You don’t lack the mental strength; you’ve just misplaced it. It’s still there in you, girl! Now go find it! ❤️
@JoAnne Lochner Gone trhu the same. My „advice“: think about you as a child (who‘s still inside of you btw), take yourself by the hand and help this kid out of this situation. Then you get the strength of a mother-lion🦁 and you can do it! 🤗 feel huged
Good luck girl.. you got this. xo
Ms. Lochner... I don't know you or your situation but I have been in an abusive relationship and I know that it's really really scary and hard to get out. You can do it. It is ABSOLUTELY possible. I'm going to keep you in my prayers. Stay positive and stay strong!
I seriously admire you more and more each time I watch a video. Your 2019 is totally gonna rock!!!
But also I think this is amazing that she is sharing her personal journey with us and using her large platform to talk about things that really matter, things that are bigger than makeup and drama and gossip and trends. We need more RUclipsrs like Marlena 😍💖
I’m really glad you’re talking about abuse, a lot of us have gone through it and for me, knowing I’m not alone helps. I also think it’s important to share how we got out, to hopefully help those who haven’t yet but are wanting to and looking for advice. 💜
If you OWN your story, YOU get to write the ending! 🙌🏼❌⭕️❌⭕️
What an amazing motto!!
LOVE this!!!
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OMG...I love this!
Very much looking forward to the coffee chat videos! There are so many “taboo” topics out there that force us into feeling alone, when in reality if we were to open up and talk about it, it’s crazy to realize how common these issues are. Thank you for using your platform to bring real issues to table and I’m sure you will be helping many of us through the process.
Your are so unbelievably classy! Everything about you is just class! ❤️❤️❤️
You absolutely hit the nail on the head.
Thank you Kristin!! I feel like I'm not always, but I do try!!
You are amazing! ❤️
Totally agree
Literally just thinking the same thing! I’m so glad you keep it classy and rather than address those drama queens, you choose to rise above it. Love you Mar! Excited for your new chat videosx❤️❤️
Oh I can’t wait Marlena. I have not been through abuse, but I’m so glad you are going to cover that.🙌 I am lost in life and the last 5 years have been horrific due to mental illness. It’s taken my life from me. I’m doing better now, so I ask God every day what is my purpose, I know I have one. Building a new life from the ground up is really difficult for me. I have absolutely no direction. I’m so excited to hear about your spiritual journey. Love you so much! Thanks for being brave. 🤗😘
I’m curvy now too, I was always small before all my meds. At least we are in style girl. 😂
Don’t forget about Hawaii Targets!!! I live on the Big Island which is very remote so the Makeup Struggle is REAL here! No Ulta, No Sephora, very small Mac counter at Macy’s, etc. Being able to buy MUG at Target would change my life!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️ But thank goodness for online shopping!!
Stephanie Polley I'm not sure how helpful this is but Mary Kay and Maskcara both have free shipping options for direct sales. I'll see if I can find out about your area
I love your honesty and willingness to always share your truth. Thank you for being a light for others. Thank you for always (literally always over the past 5 years as I have watched you) being so positive and approaching controversial topics with such a positive intent. Your love and light you project into the world is so needed and appreciated.
2019 will be a great year for all of us!
That topic cuts so deep. I’ve been there and anything that can make someone who has been abused feel they are not alone is extremely important! You are going to be a good steward of your voice here. I’m so sorry that you went through all of those things, and I wish you all the happiness in the world!! ❤️
That sounds wonderful Marlena! I stand by you.
YES to ALL the different types of videos! Of course I'd love to see coffee chats in addition to makeup. Thank you for going out of your way to make us feel less alone. You're going to do amazing things!
1000% here for the coffee chats!!
You're so beautiful!!
Happy NEW year!!🍷🍾
Love you Marlena❤️ Thank you for sharing your stories and your self with all of us! Here’s to 2019 🥂
Thank you for being you ❤️ Never worry about other peoples’ opinion. You are so wonderful the way you are.
Nothing better as a Pastor, than watching people step into their calling! You’re a world changer girl! And an all around amazing woman with so much to share and offer! Can’t wait to see all the things God has in store for this next season of your life ♥️♥️♥️
Looking forward to your upcoming vids, Marlena! ☺ Love for you to talk about life balance, anxiety, and abusive relationships. I got out of an abusive relationship last year and I think it gets pushed under the rug a lot of times. I felt like I had no one to help me or they just didn't see the signs when my eyes were pleading with them to really LOOK at me.
SO glad you got out!!! AND huge props to you for being strong and moving forward. XOXOXOXO
I am so excited for the new videos...any video with you is amazing to watch. You do have an incredible following and platform to do so much more good in this world. You have gotten me through so many sleepless nights and a lot of the time you feel alone during those times .I am grateful I found you one night ,just playing around on you tube looking at makeup videos bc at that time I felt so bad about myself that i thought if I knew how to put eyeshadow on better id look better and therefore feel better.I've had many ups and downs in my life just like everyone else. I would just like to thank you for being there all of those sleepless nights when I thought to myself over and over "this cant be my life"your new perso. You have helped so many many without even knowing it, i look forward to your new more personal videos,and hopefully men and women will be able to tell you just how much you've saved them because I know you saved me many times.Thank you again and here's to a wonderful 2019, and you making this world better a little bit at a time!! ❤️❤️
I can't wait to hear what you have to say! Happy New Year!
I'm just a minute and a half into the video when you mention how great things are for you in your business and love life. When you said you were with a wonderful man, I started to tear up. I just needed to pause this video and say I'm so genuinely happy for you, Marlena. You are a wonderfully kind, hard-working person, and deserve all the success and love this life has to offer. I wish you a much better year in 2019.
And yes, please do chatty videos! We need people to open up about abuse, mental health issues, inner conflict, etc. and help end the stigma.
Hey babe Happy New Year! I can define relate to this video. Thank you. I hate it when people ask “why would she /he stay with that person if they are so abusive”? The person being abused is most likely in love with their abuser. People don’t understand hot hard it is to leave someone your in love with, who is also hurting you.
April Romanek exactly! Plus being afraid to leave, not having the money to go and the fear of being alone forever. I’m happier “alone” than I was with him. That’s for sure. , I just didn’t believe it, since it was pounded (literally) into my head every day
April Romanek 10000000% accurate
Especially when you don't always recognize abuse since it's not always black and white (or, perhaps black and blue is a better phrase). Abusers are manipulative and prey on any weak points. Gaslighting and other forms of emotional manipulation are not always clear or easily identifiable, especially when it starts off with a one-off comment and slowly escalates. It's all part of a vicious cycle.
Yes! Plus abusers shred your self-esteem.
Ppl who havent been thru it can not possibly understand. Its not always 100% abuse all the time, we had some good memories but the abuse overshadowed everything. I felt leaving would be giving up on my marriage and letting my family down. In the end, I had to do what was best for me.
I love this change in the dirrection of your channel. I can hardly wait for these caffe chats. Thank you for doing this.
I love you and am so excited to see a video from you. And to see you looking all bright & happy! ♥ It makes my heart happy. And I look very forward to the Coffee Chats and all other content from you. You are AMAZING and we love & support you, always!!
I’m so glad you’re happy and emotionally well enough to tackle this tough tough subject. Looking forward to your videos and I’m sure they will help so many people.
Talk girl. We got you! I’m a single 38 year old mother of a special needs child. I’ve have a lot of difficulty with depression because of the bullying my son has gone through.
Carissa Messina ❤️
Hi Marlena! I’m excited for the “real talk” vids to come. I have watched you for what seems forever.. And I love seeing my fav youtubers use their platform to have real talks about real life. If even you reach out to one person who is in that dark place and inspire them to reach for light then it’s all worth it. Coming from a past riddled with varying types of abuse, I always say I wished I had had something or someone that could have helped guide me through it. Through the emotions, the thoughts, &/or actions of choosing myself first. It took a long time, but I made it and have had a wonderful life ever since. Can’t wait to see what’s to come!
I'm excited for your coffee chats ♡ I've been watching you since 2008 when I was only 14, you're such an inspirational person to me ( you're even on my vision board lol because I hope to be as successful as you one day)
Gladis Cortez girl me too! Marlena was the one who taught me to do makeup!
I’m so excited about your coffee chats!! I’ve been watching for a video from you since before Christmas, so glad you’re back!!
I love your spirit. I'm excited to see where your channel will go this year. 💗
I am excited for this channel to evolve the same way we all have over the years of following you. Women supporting women, sharing our stories, finding solutions, knowing that we are not alone in our struggles. I'm all for it Marlena!
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Thank you for using the voice and the platform that you have to spread awareness and to possibly help those individuals going through some of these very difficult struggles. I personally have been through some of these issues, like many, and am so grateful and thankful to be on the other side and able to look back at that time in my life and reflect. I have learned so much about myself and others. I have so much yet to learn. That’s part of being human, we are always learning and evolving. None of us knows everything. Telling myself it’s ok to have a bad day, That tomorrow is a new day, a fresh start.
And on the other hand to realize that tomorrow isn’t certain, to make the most of every moment that I am given in this life with my family and how precious life truly is. I have lost several family member closest to me over the last 7 years and it’s been very difficult. I am pushing through, I have to keep pushing for my husband and teenage son.
Sending you SOOO much love xoxo
I’m really excited that your changing directions a little. I love make up and always will but I feel like the beauty community has hit it’s peak. Now there’s added drama just to keep audiences entertained in a way. I’m ready for new topics! Especially ones that I can relate to as a woman that might help me through life.
Happy New Year gorgeous! Making a video about abuse is really important and doing it with the platform you have is so brave of you. I have dealt with abuse in every form by the same man (my child's father) It took 16 years for me to finally break free from it... And by break free I mean the emotional hold I let him have over me. It has now been 4 years since and I now have a wonderful man in my life who showed me what is it like to be truly loved and appreciated. That in turn gave me to ability to show my child what a healthy respectful and loving relationship looks like. The stigma surrounding abuse needs to be gone. So many people suffer in silence and it needs to stop. Thank you for not being afraid to tackle this topic. Much love 💞💞💞💞
I think these videos sounds like a great idea 👏🏻👏🏻🙏🏻 I'm a curvy girl,always have been,but never had any confidence with how I look, maybe you could talk about how you deal with that? Looking forward to your videos 👏🏻💖 Lot of love to you,Lady and Lexie ❤❤
I’m very excited about your “Coffee Chats”. I think it will be so powerful to share and for us to receive. Bringing real life topics out in the light will help us feel connected and help give many who may not have a voice feel hopeful. Thank you for this wonderful upcoming series .
Did you see any warning signs prior to marriage?
Thank you for being transparent Marlena! I know it will help so many men and women. 💜
So proud of you for walking into a new facet of your purpose! There is so much healing in sharing your story and I'm sure it will resonate with a lot of us. Lots of love and blessings to you.
Hi Marlena, I'm so looking forward to the new changes on your channel! I would love it if one of the topics to explore is whether people have the ability to change. Can a cheating spouse keep his promise to not cheat again or will a woman be forever looking over her shoulder if she decides to stay in the marriage? Congratulations on your decision to keep negativity out of your life! Toxic people and circumstances are life draining. Hugs!
Yayyyyy so happy for all of the exciting things that are happening for you this year. 🥰🤗🙏🏽 you deserve it! Blessed!
I think these videos will be great! I sort of feel like I am the opposite of you but with the same feelings of where do I fit in. I got pregnant at 17 and had two more babies while being married to a great AF guy. But now my kids are grown and I don’t know what I want next. I’ve put my career on hold and just did jobs here and there through all the moves. I feel to old to go back to school but don’t see anything that I want to do career wise. So hopefully 2019 will be a great year for both of us!
I am so excited for new chats! Me & my girls went through horrific trauma yrs ago and deep depression and anxiety took over for years. I’ve wasted 10 yrs! But it’s our time to turn it up & around! 2019 is the year!
Starting a family? Woohoooo!
I thought only I noticed she said that
Weird after only divorcing and meeting someone, slow down
Hi Marlena, I'm so excited for your new videos and the direction that you are going in. I was at Target the other day and sure enough I saw some Makeup Geek pallets and thought, "oh my gosh I need to help Marlena" so I picked one out and let me tell you, that little 4 pan pallet is some of the best eye shadows I own! They blend beautifully and are gorgeous, rich colors. Thank you!!
Aww thank you SO much Sherri!! I hope you love it and I'm working on bringing even more products out. Thanks for your love and support- here's a hug through my screen to you. xoxoxoxoxo
Sherri H I must go to Target and get it!
I think the relationship abuse chats are so important!!!! ❤️
YES I can't wait for these videos. The video you made a while back about the panic attack you had made me cry, I have panic disorder and Generalized Anxiety Disorder so hearing other people's experiences with anxiety and how they deal with it means a ton to me. So PLEASE do a video on how you cope, what methods you use, etc!
Thank you so much we all needed this 😘
YOU ARE AMAZING!! Just hearing you mention that you are a survivor or domestic abuse fills me with comfort and inspiration. I am also a survivor and for years even to this day I find myself associating it with shame, with a loss for words when people ask me how a strong independant woman can fall into the cycle, etc. I will be rooting for you and seeking your guidance with how you educate others on this matter!
I’m with you ....if it weren’t for Jesus I don’t know if I would still be alive 🙌🏼can’t wait to see your first talk video
Coffee Chats , that sounds awesome. I think it’s important to bare your soul once in a while. You’ve inspired me to try that myself, ( although my husband would not really appreciate me airing my “ low down dirt “ ) he’s one of those guys that are very personal and private about stuff like that. If I try it , I may only do it once a month. But occasionally I am an emotional mess, I gotta admit, and my husband is not real good at dealing with it . Men are such idiots sometimes. He’s a great guy when he wants to be. He’s had some health issues, and we’re living with his mom right now. That on top of me , the only one working is so much pressure . I’m at the end of my ropes, the ends are frazzled.
Whew , I can’t believe I got it all out.
Thanks Marlena.
💞💞Love from Pennsylvania
That is such an important topic! Thank you for bringing it to light!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I’d like a discussion on ways to stop caring so much about what others think of you and having more confidence. Ways to cope in the workplace for example when someone or a group is hard to get along with.. always worried about “measuring up” and comparing yourself to others. I guess a real self love discussion would be so helpful especially in these times we live in. Best wishes for you Marlena for 2019 being all you could hope and dream! You deserve happiness always! Much love to you! 😘❤️
Love your ideas for your channel it’s nice to chat about life too❤️❤️❤️
I just got out of an EXTREMELY emotionally and verbally abusive marriage. The trauma I'm still living in is just, it's impossible to explain to anyone. The sinking/falling feeling in the pit of my stomach if I even have to think about facing him is like a black hole that could swallow me and I feel like I could never get out of it. It is SO IMPORTANT for women, AND MEN, who have been abused by their partners to stick to together and share their fears. And their hopes. You can't do it with anyone else because it is just impossible for them to understand. I think that focusing some videos on this topic is going to be a very good thing for a lot of people.
The clickbait-y thumbnail left a poor taste in my mouth considering the actual subject matter of the video.
Cry babies who complain about click bait are more annoying than the actual click bait 🤐
Report it. I did. Unbelievably tacky and unprofessional.
TLSchlick was the thumbnail originally different? All I see is a pretty selfie? Lol
@@dianahr4116 Yes. In the original thumb nail she had black makeup under her eyes to either make it look like she had been crying, or on my smaller phone screen it almost looked like she was made up to have a black eye. She must've changed it after seeing the comments.
I got the old thumbnail and it's a day later. Smudged make up looking like possibly more.
I am so sad that you were in such a dark place, but i am SO happy you’ve found your purpose. You were the first beauty youtuber that actually helped me do makeup as well as fall in love with makeup! You are so beautiful inside and out; and i am here to support you in whatever you want to do 💕 Thank you for speaking up and being real💕
Happy New Year Marlena, I hop 2019 is an amazing year for you.
Is there any chance that you could come to a retailer in the Uk, like Superdrug Or Boots 😃
Sending you love and nothing but happiness in 2019. I’ve been through so many of the same things you mentioned- depression/anxiety, abuse, and the difficulty that comes with trying to start a family. I have such positive feelings about this year and I wish the same for you!
Saw MUG in my Target around the corner last week!! And some new eyeshadow quad palettes! Prior to that, they were only in one Cincinnati Target and it's 20+ mins from me (I still drove there to get what was out in store lol). But now literally being around the corner.....too excited!!
Ellen Marie O literally same! norwood target has the better beauty area!!
Ohhhhhhh I'm so glad I saw this! I live in Cincinnati and I haven't seen MUG at any Target yet! Now I'll go check again!
@@jennatha4789 yes, the Marburg one is the one I was referring to that is around 20 mins from me. Now the Blue Ash Target has it as well, and that store is literally around the corner from my neighborhood 😁 My store only had 3 different quad/palettes (which are different/newer ones from the 3 that were in the Marburg store last year) and I think that's all they had so far. Eyeshadow is what excites me most though, so I may have just been drawn to those and didn't notice anything else lol. Edited to say that the newer palettes have a window on the front so you can see the shades inside better. Packaging is basically the same as before, but now with a window on front. So glad she changed that!
This is the very first video I've seen, and I already subscribed. I think it's so important to talk about those issues! Thank you for deciding to use this platform to talk about difficult, important things such as abuse and mental health issues. It's SO important to end the taboos, let people know they are not alone and be able to share and support each other!
Yes Marlena I would love for you to incorporate more lifestyle videos 👏👏👏👏
I’m excited and looking forward to this!! I was physically abused by an ex and looking back, I put up with it for too long because I was scared. Scared to be alone, scared to say I’m a failure, scared to march forward to the unknown. Fast forward 10 years and leaving was the turning point where I went from being a child to a bad ass woman. I grew up very quickly.
What is going on the makeup geek site? colors have been sold out for ages for signature shadows, contours have disappeared. this is incredibly frustrating to someone who has loved the brand, but now can't find what i'm looking for.
they are having a complete rebrand with new products (as well as select older products) releasing in march..
I know right ?! And its all just about " Target, Target " but there are way MORE people outside US who also love and buy MUG, but who cares :(
On BeautyBay same situation as on MUG for months now. Id really LOVE some clarification as on whats going on there, when the new ones come out, etc. instead of hearing for million times about Target thing. Truly frustrating.
@@jslilimauve I saw some of what was left at a Target and it did not impress me. If I am buying MUG, I want to make choices online, not the limited offerings in a Target. I really want to be able to order the shadows that I had unfortunately been waiting on and now will probably never get :(
Gwen G they’re launching the rebranding of Makeup Geek this year so they’re not going to be restocking for quite a while.
I totally understand the frustration!! More product are coming soon- just give us a few months :). I'm rebranding and bringing so much new amazing product that we're in transition. Plus with me not taking loans or having investors, most of my finances in the last year went to providing massive PO's for Target. It's a combo of things, but I promise great things are coming soon!!
I just love you, Marlena! You are such an amazing woman and I am so glad you decided to stay on RUclips! I am looking forward to the new content!
Uhm Im sorry what.. did I just hear that makeup geek is in Target now? Oh hell yeah!
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I second that!
Thank you for not being afraid to be vulnerable and put your personal struggles out there. It really helps all of us who also have personal struggles to hear someone else talk openly about these things. You have such a loving, generous spirit. Xoxo
What happened to the videos that you're suppose to come out supporting makeup channels that are starting out!!!????
So glad you're not leaving us. You are important and I love where you are taking your channel. Very excited for your coffee chats!!
PLEASE SAY YOU'LL BE IN ULTA!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOVE MUG!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh girl, I have stories and yes it is so difficult to leave an abuser! It’s so hard to understand unless you have been through it. I wish nothing but the best for you Marlena! 🥰🥰🥰🥰
You are amazing person and I look forward to the new videos 😘
I am so excited for the new videos. The abusive relationships will definitely hit home for me. As far as other topics, I would love to hear your opinion on depression and other mental health, finding self confidence, mom shaming.. etc. Thank you for opening up. I have been a subbie for a while and I dont comment really but I'm so glad you're starting these videos and opening up. You're an inspiration to a lot of us.