The way people sexualize young girls is disturbing. Imagine wearing a tank top because its 110 degrees out and having a 50+ male teacher tell you that you obviously have no self respect.
That is the worst. My mom gets so heated about these things because she's like 'why should my daughters have to worry about what they're going to wear to school because a boy can't control himself?' Also not fair that we have all these dress codes in school and as long as there's nothing incorporate on a boy's shirt, he can get away with wearing nothing.
We also burn about 30% more calories while we're "PMSing", making us especially hungry, and therefore, consuming a lot more food than we normally would........and, as we all know, extra food, means extra poop. So, given this fact, along with the stomach cramps, and unknown hormone, it's really kind of a miracle were not on that damn toilet 24/7 with these god forsaken "period poops".
How people comment on young girl's bodies. I met this lady who my mom worked with. I never met her, but when she saw me, she said I have my mother's body type and since I am young, I will get more curvier. She turned to my mom and told her I wasn't like my sister, so she will need to watch out for me or I'll be sneaking boys in. Do you know how uncomfortable I was? I was only twelve! Not only was I already self conscious, I now felt worse because my mom got pissed at ME.
The flipside to this is guys who don't want to hug thier girlfriends cause they are on their period. It's like eww gross don't want your blood and vag stuff on me. Like we'll vomit it on them.
There’s this kid at my school (9th grade) dating a 7th grade over discord, and the first thing I heard his friends say was some shit like ‘have you seen her body yet??’ MF WAS FULLY AWARE SHE WAS 12
when i was 10 i went to some chinese gardens, got to wear a traditional dress (that completely covered me up, that we got to loan from a shop there) and when i was posing for photos on a rock, i decided to lay on my belly like i saw models do, and then my step dad told me it was inappropriate. i was a 10 year old girl. i was wearing a dress that covered my entire body. my hair was up in a bun. i was 10. i was just laying on my front. *i was 10*. (sorry for emphasis i just literally cannot get over this)
Being told that a guy doesn't want to date you because his friends don't think you're hot. Having men just randomly assess your attractiveness level and tell you you're unattractive to your face. Then sometimes they get angry at you and mean because you're not attractive to them
@@mianewman4151 my dad would get angry at the tv when a woman who was deemed unattractive to him was on the tv. He would just pick her apart and be offended that she was on his tv.
Wow...I had to read your comment to realise this is an actual issue. Like,I wasn't aware of it even existing. I'm sorry if someone has mistreated you because of this BS. You're gorgeous just the way you are and they can go f themselves
@@beardpandaa That’s such odd behavior, especially unprovoked. Have you ever asked him why he does that? Like, why is a persons “unattractiveness” so offensive to him?
Yup, or when you wake up in the middle of the night and have to run in the dark across your house to the bathroom exhausted and in pain and then people ask why you’re tired, and annoyed the next morning-
Being told by my partners father that I’d be a bad mother if I got my doctorate because I’d be a bad housewife and wouldn’t be able to cook and stuff. Men being intimidated by me potentially making as much or more than them if I get my doctorate and as a result I’m undesirable.
As a fairly tall (5'10'') woman, clothing is a nightmare. Either u need designer stuff, cuz it's long enough, and the sleeves fit around your arms, or u wind up living in sweatshirts and men's PJ bottoms. I DID finally figure out Old Navy has long pants. Ladies shirts are practically half shirts, unless u go really high end. Also finding a size 10 shoe that isn't extra wide. I need a narrow shoe. Bras? Only one brand fits...OLGA...they get me! Not cheap, tho!
@@staceykersting705 My girlfriend has a similar problem she's a shortstack (5'1" with a big chest) so it's pretty difficult for her to buy dresses, bathingsuits, or lingerie since the tops are almost always to tight and forget about buying clothes online.
All clothes, actually. Even finding a decent pair of jeans, having to try on like 10 pair that are the same brand and allegedly the same size. They aren't the same size.
Seriously. Before i got on the pill, i would take damn near half a bottle of ibuprofen before i felt anything. In reality it was more like 8 ibuprofen but its still its not the standard recommendation. I got the pill, cramps went waay down, and started using midol. 2 midol to be exact. Its amazing.
I think something to consider also is the dosage if you're taking a 200mg tablet more than likely you will need a few. Versus taking a 500mg pill, like for instance midol which is 500 mg
My mother is a pediatrician, just to say this to make sure everyone knows everything I mentioned is completely safe for me personally. I've stopped having any reaction ibuprofen, and instead have to drink a vaccine to stop the pain. That's the only thing that works, and the worst thing is, the vaccine banned in most countries due to the side effects, but I'm glad I've never had a reaction to it
The pressure to get married and/or have kids. Sure, the social pressure to get married is less now, but there's still a lot of 'value' put on being in a relationship. I've had people ask me multiple times over the years when I'm gonna get a boyfriend which, to someone still in the process of discovering their sexuality, is really fricking annoying. I've also had people be like 'Wait till you have kids' or 'When you gonna have kids' or 'How many kids do you want' and I'm just made to feel like an absolute weirdo for being like 'No, I do not want kids, I do not ever want kids, in fact I feel so strongly against my giving birth to kids that I would willingly donate my uterus so that another person could carry their own child'
@@maryjack3830 They both can cause miscarriage, heart disease and birth defects, cleft palate, premature birth. Now perhaps the chances are bigger but the risks are pretty much the same.
Having to ask multiple women and the internet that I wasn't crazy, and that I wasn't just regretting a a decision I had 100% made. Sexual assault, while I was drunk, with my ex boyfriend. Only ever when I was drunk, and he came in me without permission. Do you know how awful I felt afterwards everytime. But thinking that I had consented so it was my fault. I barely even remember consenting or most of the actual act. The worst is knowing my mom did not have my back when my sibling told me she was talking shit about me behind my back after I finally dumped him and told her why. Took me months and a friend to bluntly tell me "no, that's r@pe" for me to finally breakdown (ugly sobbing) and accept it wasn't my fault
Hoping you are healing from all that trauma; also keep in mind not to reach that point of black out when drinking again. Though it sounds like he may have been using something to make you go "out of it"..??
@@Kayenne54 I haven't touched alcohol again unless I'm around people I've known for many many years and know what I've been through, and even then I'll drink very little. I'm healing as best I can and I'm thinking of talking to my therapist about it finally. Thank you so much 💗
IKR? Or not wanting to date at all, cuz every date meant a wrestling match and a rape. Just cuz you're not missing teeth or don't have broken limbs does NOT mean u weren't r@ped!
@@staceykersting705 exactly, and its very upsetting how many women have gone through this and don't say anything because it's harder to prove/it's less likely they'll be believed. We need more safe spaces for people to feel safe coming forward about any kind of sexual assault so they can get advice and comfort without feeling judged 😔
@@oneweve_fire I wish more people realized that consent to sex act A doesn’t mean consent to sex act B. You were absolutely violated, and I’m disgusted that your ex took advantage of you. 💔
Oh, your into Star Wars? Really? You sure your into it? Ok. Tell me about this super minor detail I don’t even completely know about. Oh, you don’t know, WOW WHAT A SHOCKER! I THOUGHT YOU WERE INTO IT! Guess you aren’t. -why do people do this? I can watch it without know everything. Chill.
"Here is this thing that has *great* importance to us, that we devote a significant amount of time and effort into. Before we accept you as a peer in this regard, we want to be sure that you have an appreciation that is on-par with our own, so that we can consider you worthy of being considered as an equal in that regard" Add in the fact that through time, sometimes niche interests achieve a small degree of Mainstream appeal (Like for example Kim K wearing a Metallica T-Shirt) and so these affectations (that are normally reserved for the truly dedicated fan) are displayed by people who either have a casual appreciation, or no appreciation at all. I get that it can be frustrating.... But I'll let you into a little secret... Men does this to other Men too. However when we do it to each other, it's a lot more fluid and seamless, through the course of a conversation - we are constantly assessing each other relative knowledge, insight and understanding and we are mentally ranking them as to where they fit in. Often the best way to deal with this is to go on the Offensive (Best defence is a good offense...) and make a provocative statement (but one backed up with a reasonable amount of evidence) - to get the discussion going.
Welcome to world of men who gatekeep the world. I've gotten this interrogation my whole damn life from men once they find out I'm a geek. 🙄 I mean I go to comic cons and do know a lot. But why do I have to PROVE my geek knowledge time and time again to men who feel they "geek" more than me? 😂 Can't we just talk, have fun and get each other into more things? It's not hard to not be a jerk. 😂
Okay, no. This is not a gender issue, you're just talking to people who are way too into their fantasy shows lol. Notice that a lot of people trying to add things that are gender neutral in the comments.
Yup. When I'm upset about something my parents always tell me "you're on your period, it's normal to be this emotional. You wouldn't be upset if you weren't on your period" It annoys the crap out of me. So my emotions are suddenly all fake for 7 days a month.
That's why I seem cold to people and I don't even cry when I'm alone because I instantly think I'm overreacting. And I hate it that when I am frustrated my parents ask me if I have my period, and I don't most of the time. But just because I decided to be angry for a good reason I am crazy.
@@menschlicherroboter6791 Don't ever question your emotions. If you can feel them, they're real! I completely agree with you though, being on your period shouldn't be public if you don't want it to be D:
I honestly think the small instances of sexism would get them, men grabbing their hips when moving past, being interrupted during conversation constantly, men explaining things to you even though you’ve said “I know” ten times, being followed, men starting conversations with Those undertones that you can’t quite put into words, having other women approach you as if they know you because one of you is being followed, having their dads question what they’re wearing or trying to force them to wear bras around the house, their dads expecting to be waited on by them when mum isn’t around Also sweat. Titty sweat is a new type of fresh hell
Boy, I feel dumb now. I read this and thought "What's so bad about men grabbing their hips when moving past? Is that some kind of sexist gesture I've never heard of?" Then I realised you meant that the men were grabbing the woman's hips, not their own.
I'll never forget when I was doing an open with a coworker (Literally the only guy at my business) and she was visibly angry which was really rare because she always had a smile. 1: She was told to smile more. 2: She decided to do her hair differently and it actually looked good. (She was one of those people where a well placed beanie can really bring the whole look together, you know?) and this gross old guy stared at her for what felt like an eternity with "fu*k me eyes" before "complimenting" her hair. (It was 6am. There is a time and place to flirt and that was neither) Like shit dude. Smiles are earned and I can't imagine how exhausting it must be to be "on display" by default to some people.
I know soooooo many women (myself included) who are constantly told to smile... by co-workers, customers or clients, acquaintances, random strangers in any possible environment. All of them men. It is infuriating. I’m not here merely to decorate your world, dude. I’m not a freaking doll! YOU SMILE!!!! My smiles aren’t free, give me a reason. If anyone walked around smiling 24/7 people would think they were a psychotic or sneaky or something. It’s unreal and sexist af! Triggers me bad. Thank you for acknowledging how unbelievably rude it is!!!! You must be rare.
This has been my whole life, only I don't smile because I have horrible teeth. I've been judged by co-workers, told to smile by strangers, even had a female bashing me within earshot without any of them actually talking TO me about why I might be upset. Only thing is, I'm NOT upset, but of course, I'm not worthy of deciding my own feelings. Reading these comments, I never even thought that it may be related to my gender. Insane. If I was male, no one would probably care if I looked mad, or they'd assume I had a good reason. Ridiculous.
@@BR-zh6vp You make an excellent point that I never even considered about how some people are self conscious of their smile. That and the fact that no one knows what someone’s going through just makes me so angry that this happens all the time. I was in law enforcement for 6 years and I was still incessantly told by my male coworkers that I needed to smile. One even told me I was “too pretty to not smile more” as if that made it feel less cringy. Grrrrr! You should just say how sexist it is to think that women have to always seem approachable and try to pose to look their best for any man who happens to walks by therefore they HAVE to smile all the time because it makes men happy and that’s our sole purpose in life or some stupid crap. NO ONE... I mean *NO ONE* says that crap to men. So gross!!! Triggered so hard right now over this! So sorry that you’re going through that. If it makes you feel any better I’ve always thought people with overbites or crooked teeth had so much more beautiful character to their mouths. Tom Hardy is so hot! I love his smile! A lot of people seem to agree. Makes me wish my teeth weren’t so boring and straight.
@@camhan9300 That's exactly my issue: no one thinks outside the box when it comes to teeth appearance and smiling. I don't worry too much, but that mindset is something that has affected my ability to be accepted and thus my daily life. I'm a very respectful and fun-loving person, but I get passed up for the mean/fake people who smile all the time. Most people think I'm choosing not to smile just to be sour. I'm choosing not to be judged and ridiculed for an uncommon flaw. It still results in judgment, unfortunately. I have started orthodontic treatment, but I'm only recently warming up to showing some of my teeth (to some people) as they move closer to normal. Thanks for the reply and encouragement.
How frustrating it is to see women in media only ever portrayed as love interests to men. Even strong women must have a love interest, and yet men in media can be alone with no love interest at all. Women are not just accessories, and plenty of women are happy being single. We are not solely fulfilled by men.
I write for fun, but I've decided if I ever get published, and it actually gets popular enough for it, no movie or TV show will get made of my stories without a clause that it's a breach of contract to give specific female characters love interests, regardless of gender. I want it to be an ironclad, sue-able offense. I've been fucking sick of this trope since I was like 9. I've been writing stories I want to see with female characters not focused around men (or even romance at all, for that matter). I don't care about marketing targets and demographics. I want these stories, and so do several other women. Plus, what's annoying is books-to-film that already get this treatment. The book sold enough copies to get the film treatment without a shitty romantic subplot, so don't force one in where it doesn't belong because "marketing".
Yep absolutely. You guys don't know how happy I was when the first Frozen was out and that Elsa didn't have any romantic interest ! It was like a first time for me and prob for a lot of girls
No shit. I've been working on a book for years and while there's a little side-sprinkle of romance, it's more of either an afterthought or you can see evidence of it in the world around the characters (how many kids and how well they're doing are between a couple that was outwardly married for political reasons etc).
The constant fear that is walking alone-, heck, even w/other girlfriends on the streets. Not knowing if someone will catcall you or if they'll do something more. Changing sidewalks if you see a group of drunk/high dudes, or teenage boys in a big number. Being constantly aware of the man that is behind you, ready to bolt it out of there leaving the groceries behind. Everything and more in broad daylight. I don't even go out at night.
That the thing about being harassed or assaulted isn't that you think every single guy is a predator, it's just that, to avoid being assaulted, you have to be lucky EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. You roll that dice on if this guy or that guy is going to be safe, whereas the predator only has to be lucky ONCE to get away with r*ping/murdering/etc. When you think of it like that, you realise that making sure you don't hurt Random Male On Street Corner's feelings becomes less of a priority than Making Sure You Get Home Without Incident for the 6th time that week.
The problem is when doing so, you're prolifying & generalizing, which is obvious that doing that is only acceptable with men, specially from a certain race, as long as is a man vs a woman.
@@Jose04537 your sentence doesn't seem to make any sense, it might need rewording. Also, generalizing IS bad, I'm not arguing that it's a good thing - I'm arguing that I'd rather be a bitch who generalizes people then r*ped and left in the alley, for obvious reasons. My life is worth the risk of hurting other people's feelings, because they're still alive and physically unharmed afterwards. If I'm r*ped and then stabbed, or I commit suic*de afterwards, that situation carries a bit more weight. Edit: also, me generalizing about men isn't doing them any active physical or emotional damage. I'm not screaming at them or abusing them or attacking them, I'm literally avoiding them and having no contact with them. It's the difference between stepping on someone's foot vs not walking near their feet at all. Idk about u but I'd rather have the second than the first.
@@Jose04537 it is a problem. if only there was something people could do (or reframe from doing) about it, so women didnt have to feel the need to do this.
@ Jose angel. Just ensure other men don't predate women. Ok you will have to be on your guard all the time too, but at least one woman won't be generalising.
How about if you are stoic or not very emotional, you're "defective" as a woman? One guy told me he couldn't trust such a woman because "she might accuse him of rape". Swear that guy was dropped on his head at least once. 😐
It's weird because you could be falsely accused of ANY crime (and we all know people can and are accused of all sorts) yet you never see men refusing to be pals with someone in case they get accused of murder/theft/battery/drug use etc.
@@lettylunasical4766 Yup. And I can't stand that "false rape accusation" bullshit, because most people accused of rape don't even see jail time. Like, what are you even worried about?!
@@emastermet609 Now that I can understand, but false rape accusations are not common and most sexual assaults go unreported. There really is nothing to worry about, unless someone's worried because they know they have a history of stepping over someone's boundaries.
12:51 Yeah, not enough people consider the whole "friendzoning" thing from the other perspective. As the (typically) male in the scenario, your bait and switch plan didn't succeed in getting you laid. Sucks, sure. But the (typically) female either just spent a lot of time navigating a very uncomfortable interpersonal dynamic or (best case scenario) just lost a friend, which means your little scheme failed two people miserably. Have you ever lost a friend? That sucks _hard_ . Who has enough friends that randomly losing them like this isn't a significant loss? No one. And to find out it was a trick the whole time ... man. It messes with your head. ETA: this video got more and more real as it went, and all I could do was nod, because yeah. Sigh.
I've been treated SO horrible by very likeable guys. You know the type that everyone loves and is a really sweet caring dude. I try to have a conversation with someone else in their presence and they take great offence to this. How DARE an ugly woman even exist? Better put her in her place, making her feel worthless and unloved. Then turn to all her classmates and offer a kidney to some random dude he just met.
Damn...I knew someone like this. I stopped hanging out with him because he would literally start insulting me for no reason. Sad too, we were childhood friend and he wasnt always like that.
I don't fight but if someone told me that 'X fights like a girl' I would avoid angering them at all costs. I've seen girls fight enough times to know that I don't want to be involved with that in any way, shape or form. Shits _vicious._
Well that's true but generally speaking girls aren't really into lethal force like that. They go for what makes you pretty so lumping up and even scarring your face, ripping hair out etc. So she'll gouge your eyes out but you'll live lmao
Nope - and it goes back to biological programming. When males fight amongst themselves, it's generally to establish dominance. Gang skirmishes are an extreme form of this, but dominance fights typically (a) aren't fatal, and (b) aren't extended events. When women fight, they're protecting themselves or their progeny, so their biological programming is for survival (think mama bear with cubs). Some of the bloodiest fights I've ever seen have been between women, and the only way they were concluded was by bystander intercession 'cause they were out to kill.
That last one is bothering me so much, especially in the media. One of the reasons I no longer like sitcoms, it's always the mediocre-looking but funny dude with the gorgeous wife. She can be funny as well, but she absolutely HAS to be attractive. Just once, I want to see a freakishly handsome dude with his plump, plain-looking, but crazy funny wife. Just once.
I was talking to a friend about some TV show, and he said, "Oh, I used to watch that, but I got sick of looking at all the beautiful people." There are whole shows that are really just beautiful people being beautiful--Friends is a one example.
@@pencil2680 it’s not even just men atp my female cousin does it to me to the point where her 4 year old sister started to join in too it’s fucking insanity 🤦🏾♀️
THISSSSSSS bc of reasons i live in a home with two helpers rhere (don't know the english word for it, sorry) and they constantly critique what im wearing. its to a point where i kinda wanna throw something at them the next time they say anything. and like their excuse is always that "its inappropriate" fun fact, last year there lived another girl here that would wear crop tops and shit like that, they didnt say shit. the only difference was, that shes skinny. im not, and it took a LOT out of me to finallt wear what i want bc even my mom. used to tell me "you can't wear fitted shirts, ppl. will see your hips" like.... no shit sherlock, thats literally what fitted shirts are for.
And it doesn't matter if they are dressing conservatively or dressing more revealingly. Either way, people act like their body exists for public critique and consumption.
We watched a movie Never Rarely Sometimes Always with my sister and big brother, all adults. There was this character, a boy who is giving money and providing company to random girls with no place to go for one night. When we discussed it, my brother thought they had a good time, they sang in karaoke, guy and one of the girls were kissing. Me and my sister both felt that the guy was overly abusing his power over them, like the girl HAD to provide emotional and even sexual interaction just for the fact of help. The guy kinda chose the one he liked more and she is not in a place to say a word against it. That's what girls feel in real life, some men really be good to you not because you matter or because they are good people, but because they wait for your 'paying service'. Not only sex, it can be as simple as giving attention, flirting or even not making a scene about inappropriate touching (!!)
My cousin was made homeless by my aunt (she flew halfway across America and emptied cousin's flat, where she had a nice life, and ended her lease while cousin was in hospital) she was on the streets for over a year (it'd been 6months by the time I heard, via Facebook), then she started saying about a boyfriend and how he isn't kind to her. She is no longer with us. I still don't know when/what/how it happened, we heard a rumor via a shared uncle probably at the time, but it was at least 8months later when aunt confirmed it. She was lesbian, and I often think she was in that kind of situation.
I know my boyfriend's best friends don't understand why I wear makeup or dye my hair. They make assumptions about women who do these things then and wonder why they're single... Honestly, a surprise thing for me is that most of my male friends don't actually make a big deal out of it if I mention my cramps or my period. As long as I'm not going into great detail, they just accept it. However, the older people in my family (mostly men but also some women) are the ones that act over the top grossed out if I mention it. Am I just lucky or have other girls found guys that are simpathetic even if they don't fully understand periods?
I think it’s more common now to know people our age because so many women speak openly about it and care about spreading knowledge. It’s still a taboo for older generations but younger ones grow up more accustomed to dealing with periods as normal bodily functions...
I'm a woman and I don't like hearing about periods. I mean saying "I've got cramps" or something one off like that is fine but the girls who go deep into detail about their flow and how many tampons they go through is just unnecessary
Only person I know that isn't bothered is my dad. My brother always makes a weird face or a sound of disgust, and I don't really bother talking to the boys at my school because they don't bother talking to me. There's only three-four boys I actually speak to, minus teachers, and as far as I'm aware, though their personalities, only one of them would be fine hearing that, and would probably respond with "Oh that sucks" in a generous but joking way.
We are not exaggerating on our periods a lot of times. While it varies from woman to woman, it can feel like we are literally dying or something has ruptured. So if something has actually ruptured or broke we wouldn't tell most likely because of how bad our periods can get. And birth control can also make it worse too. For me, i still get my symptoms of my period every month i just don't bleed. I just simply want to die
That is not normal! I take the pill (Now permanent) And had 0 pain and super light cramps. Also no period symtomps without period. Somethign is not ok, girl!
Lots of females suffer from undiagnosed endometriosis which can make their periods literal hell. I'm one of them literally only found out 2 years ago once it got so bad I passed out from the pain and ended up in hospital. When I was giving birth my pain only got worse than my period right at the end.
@@bearddpirat7774 That is what my mother said as well: giving birth was more fun (but equally painfull) compared to the montly cramps because she got a reward in the end. ( baby delivered versus another day of just mopping up bloodstains).
As a girl, growing up every time you wanna go to a friend's house, you'll be ask who they live with, if there's a father, brother, uncle etc... then you'll receive the 'be careful talk' because 'you never know'(the world we live in :)) and if it was a sleepover it's going be hard to convince your parents/guardians to let you stay for the night
I'm listening to the one about friendzone from woman's perspective and it kinda makes me glad I had zero game for a while growing up (still not much but yk) I have a handful of really close female friends that I legit only sought out BC I thought just being nice would get me laid. Thing is I was a kid and a kid with no sense of subtly at that, so most of the time I never ended up telling them how I felt, eventually they would mention a man they were into and I would be like 'well you've gone this far, no sense loosing a friend because you're a coward' in my head and we just kept being friends and I went back on the prowl
Same, and then I blew all those friendships to little pieces by getting sucked into the Trump fandom in 2016. To be fair, they mostly felt sorry for me because they could tell I had psychological issues, especially about sex.
western culture is so obsessed with romanticism that to the average young man ''friendship with a woman'' is something to be avoided at all costs and the ultimate sing of failure this couldn't be more wrong
My male teacher actually told me to tell people I have a boyfriend. He saw me rejecting a guy and I told him I don’t date (cause I was in high school and I feel like those relationships don’t last majority of the time). My teacher told me that excuse won’t work and to just start telling people I have a boyfriend. He also said it’s less hard on the guy getting rejected. Thanks for looking out I guess
men who don't know what it means when i'm on my period and they keep on harassing their girlfreinds for sex! that is the most irritating when some men don't understand that, plus i can relate to woman who describe pms and hormones go crazy, dam 😑😑
Or guys (even coworkers) that deliberately go out of their way to be assholes, and when you confront them, they say "what's your problem? You got your period?" Thinking that they "win". I started getting as close as professionally possible, looking them dead in the eye, and saying "yes. You got a problem with that?" (Even if they do it every week) they stop.
Some girls like having sex on their period. It's probably confusing for the guy because he doesn't get the whole "I feel dirty right now, don't touch me".
@@CheapSkateGamer96 not just that. Women can have different issues, just month to month. One month, your boobs are really sore and tender. Cramping. Diarrhea. Bloating. Sometimes it's like having a stomach flu without vomiting. Imagine having a stomach flu (sometimes with body aches).....except you're bleeding. And someone wants to have sex with you. And then your bedroom looks like a slaughterhouse, and then you have to do laundry. It's not like that every month. And you can't always tell how bad it's going to be. Idk if you're male or female, so if you're female, I'm obviously preaching to the choir.
@@zeldapinwheel7043 yeah that is what I tell my bf, I'll come over and get blood on your car, bedsheets and chairs too it's up to you, and he's OCD about cleanliness too Lol that won't work out well for him 🤣
Not being able to wait for a bus without disrespectful men thinking that doing so is an invitation for them to proposition you and don't want to take "No,I'm not interested" for an answer.This is why we need to carry pepper spray and a concealed weapon.
Some men really do get a kick out of scaring women. It happened to me several times as a young woman. Please, men, challenge your male friends and relatives about this behaviour. Have consideration for the women in your life.
The one about not being able to trust our feelings... its so true. I can't go a day without feeling that if I overreact or even have emotions that are more passionate than normal it's because I'm hormonal or have terrible mood swings. I constantly doubt about any of my feelings and because of that, I hate expressing myself or explaining why I feel down or anxious. If I get too excited I 'need to calm down', or if I get angry about something I 'need to be more rational'. It sucks. And then when I don't want to explain or express, I'm 'wasting their time' or being too 'petty'. Seriously...
I don't get mocked for getting angry but certainly when being sad. My theory is that the guy is projecting his negative feelings of being vulnerable onto me, and yes he does urge me "to be rational" which I am since I can still articulate my thoughts so I don't even get it :/
The best part about being a gay male is that I have close female friends who are super comfortable enough to basically confide in me the secrets and problems of being female. They’ll tell me about “shark week” openly, clothes, etc. None of these actually shocked me. They all make sense because I was also a women’s studies minor.
That's funny. I'm a walking living, breathing straight white male stereotype who's slept with lots of women who've confided in me their deepest darkest secrets, and they've fallen asleep in my arms in the nude, and I woke up in the morning with them laying on top of me with their forehead against mine, and playing with my hair. "...hey...g'mornin' sleepyhead ❤❤❤..." [kisses my lips]
What kind of dude complains about having to wear a condom during sex? The hell? I mean I could understand if you're having difficulty finding one that fits, but that's literally the only reason I could imagine being something I'd complain about. Nobody wants unplanned pregnancies.
I agree. I didn't like them at first because they seemed uncomfortable to me (I hated being "that guy"). I eventually found some that actually fit well and now I don't mind them. Also, I actually like that they dull the senses a bit for the sake of longevity. Sorry if TMI. I just think it's an important thing to discuss.
@@VastDivide Nah, that's not TMI. I was literally considering talking about comparing my experiences having sex with and without condoms as an example lol.
I wouldn't exactly complain, because yeah who wants an unplanned pregnancy, but the things hurt me. I doubt its a girth issue because y'know I've seen other penises and all and every time I grin and bear it, the end result is always going flaccid not long after putting it on. /shrug
@@steweygrrr They're definitely not supposed to hurt, but I lack the experience to really guess what the problem is. I would consider asking Reddit or maybe your doctor next time you're in for a checkup or something.
I’ve also been told that spitting/burping/not shaving my legs ‘isn’t a good look for a young lady like me’ (I really like the guy who said it and know he wasn’t trying to be a jerk). He’s much older though, he kinda just treats the local youngins like his nieces and nephews; very kind and chill. Every time though I’m just like ‘good to know man, my partner also burps and spits and were pretty happy so I don’t really need to ‘look good’ to anyone else who *might* be interested. But cool thanks’
I hate shaving my legs. It's so annoying and I always miss places. So I just stopped, now I wear tights and stockings so nobody is rude to me about my hairy legs (I live in the American South, so somebody always has something to flap their lips about) Best descion. Only drawback is it can get a little hot, but I can deal.
@@murdermeharry8703 Dude I work in the beauty industry and I haven't shaved my legs all summer. Idgaf. I wear shorts. If anybody says anything to me I would just say, yup, missed that waxing appointment, huh? But nobody has said anything. I don't think anyone really cares. Or, people who do care are shallow and not worth caring about. Rock those beautiful hairy legs.
I think what would hit a man most isn't the period, because they've heard of it. I think it's the way people treat you with less respect, that they doubt your knowledge,they interrupt you, walk away while you're talking to them, ...
My favourite way, generally pretty effective too, of explaining (bad) period cramps to guys is ‘you know when you crush your balls or someone kicks you in them so hard you can’t breathe, feel nauseous and or crumple to the ground in pain? Like it feels as though someone has just put your insides in a vice and started twisting? Yeah, it’s that but only in my guts.’. I basically just explain that ovaries are pretty much the same body part as balls but inside you instead of at risk anytime.
When you realize how terrible you feel on your period, and then not being allowed to take it easy (like you would when you are sick). Oh also terrible mood swings.
When we get mad at you for commenting on our weight or how food we’re eating, it’s not just us being ‘hysterical’. We’re constantly being shamed for that kinda thing, it’s exhausting beyond what I can verbally explain.
I think that generalizing men is essential when you’re alone and are vulnerable. It’s not that some women hate men for existing, it’s just that you never truly know. If a woman is avoiding you and doesn’t know you please be aware of your surroundings without assuming she has a problem with you specifically or just hates men.
The brain likes generalizng in general. Why not? It's easier and (according to the brain prevents harm, though most of the time were wrong) spares us the energy to think too much. It's just important that we catch ourselves doing it. Even the most open of minds generalize but if we can actively stop our brains from doing this we won't fall into certain patterns and traps
I was first catcalled at thirteen, in a Walmart parking lot. I was putting groceries in the car. I’m still not quite sure that it was me, but that is disgusting either way. That a girl can be doing a simple, everyday thing and an intoxicated group of friends can shout 15 ft away for her number. I hate that. I hate that so much.
" 'Men are intimidated by funny women' - you know what women are intimidated by? The fact that most men could kill us with their bare hands." - comedian Aisling Bea
the amount of times i have been groped or touched by an older man when i'm just trying to do my job (i'm a cabaret singer) is absolutely disgusting. what makes it even more outrageous is the large fraction of said times that i've been told i'm "overreacting", or "being unfair" when i blow up at them for this. yes, the venue hired me for entertainment, but not THAT kind. sexual assault is not entertainment. it's illegal, and it absolutely disgusts and angers me that a lot of people (not just men, because saying that it is only men is unrealistic and unfair) seem to dismiss the legality of this act when it comes to social pressure. i also have many other stories, but this one happened quite recently. for context, i'm nineteen years old and a short, not too unfortunate looking blonde haired, blue eyed woman. currently i'm studying a degree in forensic psychology, and the moment i revealed this to a new possible male friend of mine, he became distant, and even started to berate and ridicule me, saying things like "oh, that's not a job for a looker like you". obviously, me being the overconfident and annoying fucker i am, i quizzed him about it. do you know what his reasoning was? it was because he apparently felt "intimidated". like, okay, fair enough if the topic i study isn't exactly your cup of tea - it's dark and it's horrible to think of, but it's what i want to do. even still, that does not give you any right to try and bring me down because of a simple distaste to something i am passionate about. i absolutely fucking hate football, but i don't bully or berate any man who happens to like it, because that's extremely immature, and quite frankly toxic. i might not want to be around you for as long as other friends, but i'm not going to be an immature fuck and try and bring you down for what you like. point is, people (not just women, too, but the majority are women) face discrimination every damn day, and it's becoming sickening. i wish i was naïve enough to believe that one day soon this will change, but i know for a fact it will take a great deal of time before even minor changes are seen. heck, it took women CENTURIES to even be able to vote, and it's only recently where men's mental health is beginning to be normalised (on top of that, those that do not fall into the gender binary are beginning to become normalised, which is a more than welcome change). rant over.
Feeling like whatever you do, it always is being judged. I’ve stopped giving a crap about opinions that I don’t care about back in kindergarten, but many others experience a “Not Like Other Girls” phase where they feel like they need to prove that they’re more than just their body.
After having a baby I've really felt the squeezing of my uterus on my period. Before it was mostly just pain in there, now it's actually a feeling of it being squoshed. Like Hulk himself has his hands on my uterus and ovaries but his hands have shards of hot glass embedded in them. And that's on a normal day not even a bad one. I have debilitating cramps.
@@helgaioannidis9365 I am all but completely bedridden the first one to two days of my period. I have a good heating pad that helps, but I can't use it if I leave the house.
From a young age you’re overly sexualised and told it’s on you… Oh, and at some point you’re going to get either assaulted or just harassed bc not all men a bad, but there’s just enough of them to make it everyone else’s problem
Not being in the mood and being worried the relationship will fall apart if you don’t do it with them often enough. Like not being in the mood when your partner is constantly and feeling like you are failing them or they will resent you or wanting to be for them but just can’t .. sucks for any gender.
For me, its them not taking you saying "no" in any sense of the word seriously and still try to force it or wear you down into saying yes just to get them to stop, only for it to repeat again everyday.
I remember working with this girl and I don't know how/why this ever came up but she told me about a coworker who told her she looked like some anime character but with smaller breasts. Obviously she didn't feel comfortable about that but like most women she let it slide. I don't remember why but I told her that it was better to talk to him and let him know that she didn't like those remarks. I told her that sometimes that's seriously how some guys flirt as it didn't sound like sexual harassment. (Turns out I was right and he genuinely didn't mean any harm and they both got along after that. Saved both of them some time with the worlds shitiest HR. They would of either fired him or reduced either if not both of their hours)
There's a post floating around of a guy with his lower half being eaten by a shark. A man asked if this what period cramps felt like, and the comments were like, "I'm being serious, but yes" and "no, really, the sarcasm in this thread is literally 0%."
@@happypiano4810 It varies from woman to woman- and it also depends on her activity level. more activity usually stunts period for some reason. when i was super active in the past i went 4 months without having a period and when i did finally have it it was like someone was wringing my uterus like a rag with all of their might- so much so i felt it in my legs and back. I stayed home that day and slept.
Once I was walking at night with 2 male friends and they kept asking me why i walked so damn fast. I realized that when you're a woman, you're constantly scared of being assaulted, thus making me walk super fast subconsciously
Oh I get that a lot too! I hate it! And then I list all my psychological stuff up, that shuts them up :3 And is a huge step into my personal space bubble...
Just because I'm a girl, people expect me to be sympathetic. No. I have no idea what to do when you talk about personal stuff to me. For example: My best friend's dad is coming back to her house after being abroad for two years. She told me this and about how she's nervous to meet him in person again. I had no idea what to say to her. My dad works near our home and I still don't know how to greet him properly when he comes home. How do you expect me to help her with her issue? Still, when I told this to my mom, she got disappointed in me because "I'm a girl, I should be able to know how to console her" I know my emotions and how to handle them, but that, in no way, means that I can help someone else with theirs. I'll just make it even worse. I am, most of the time, very insensitive to others feelings. You break up with your boyfriend? Cry a bit then get up and walk it off. Your mom died? Everyone dies. It's a part of life, get on with it. You are insecure? There's no reason to. Everyone has different shape and size and body, it just means you're unique. Why be insecure about something so stupid and out of your control? These sound like the perfect answers to me, but that isn't the case. Most people think of it as rude and cruel but it's just how I see things.
The whole "I have a boyfriend" line needing to be used because many men respect the threat of another man more then then having the ability to handle a simple "no" from another woman. First time I had to use that line was in 7th grade against another 7th grader who couldn't take no for an answer.
Thank you for putting up a video without a stutter/playback error! It's so rare in these robo-reader videos to not encounter at least one so the complete absence is always refreshing! Seriously, thank you!! 😊💚
Women have to be more selective when choosing mates,because raising a child takes a lot of energy,time,and resources.Having children with the wrong man takes a whole lot more from you.So ladies keep your standards high.
@Jas Yann We have the burden of taking care of said pregnant spouse. You can't use a burden excuse and ignore the other person's inevitable burden, which is why we are selective as well.
@Jas Yann So you're saying in specific countries instead of in general? In that case it's a apple to orange comparison, which goes back to my second point, because this original comment makes it out to be in general when that's not the case, which the what I was focusing on. Also the unmarried babies part, theres still boyfriends as well. If you're meaning single mothers, then if youre struggling with it, you made a decision to bring life into the world where you weren't even ready. And well as the many many factors so broad that it becomes moot.
@Jas Yann Also, no women do get financial support who arent married its call palimony. And that birth certificate part is only if he is unwed. And let's not forget the man being expected to be the caregiver of the relationship or be judged being a stay at home dad. Also you forget that you have all the rights until paternity and the father has no say, these just being available balances it out.
It's our biological and social imperative to choose the best mate and father for our children and so sex for us is not as carefree as it for men.The push for women to lower their standards is very detrimental in the long run.
The Strict timeline that society’s has us on . While men can figure out their life until their mid thirties & decide to want a family based off of their income and their life experiences . Men get to enjoy their youth 16-25 without rushing to find a STABEL life partner or have children . All while meeting our personal life goals . Then once we get 26-29 it’s a rush to find it before 30 without any hiccups . Aka kids , making the right amount of money because too much lowers your dating options , too little makes you a potential victim . It’s low key ridiculous
Re: 25:04. Oh really? Um, I was obese from age 19-52 (male). Pretty much disenfranchised due to my weight. Considerable difficulty getting work (hold degrees in Computer Science and now Nursing). Practically no friends from age 25 on. Being on the short side (5'7") and living in Southern California didn't exactly help. Biggest damn surprise in 58 years was...how very differently I'm treated now that I'm at a "socially acceptable" weight. It's like the "congratulations, you're now a person" switch got thrown. And, being a nurse I've discussed this with women. Same experience, point by point. It's not specific by sex - the way obese people are treated in contemporary American society is, in a word, shameful.
Honestly, the best desicion I ever made concerning my period was getting a menstrual cup. I put it in and can just forget about it for about 8-12 hours.
It doesnt last that long for me but yes they r great! I was terrified of using them in the beginning but you don't feel them at all and there is a lower risk of infections and other issues. They r the best!
@@muurrarium9460 pretty sure you can in fact leave it in there this long. I talked about it with my gynecologist and she said it was no problem. Also the material used is antibacterial. Pretty sure there is less bacteria in that thing than if you'd use a pad or sth
I’ve tried one and it was an epic failure. Like monumental failure. It was more painful than any cramp I’ve ever had. I had so many issues with it, it was gone within half an hour. Never trying that again.
The medical industry can be such a problem for women and I don’t want to even think about how often these problems that are misdiagnosed because our identification is based on men’s information or simply disregarded led to women in chronic pain for ages and death in some cases. It’s ridiculous that half the population has to go through this and people aren’t becoming more aware!!!!!!!
That last one really hits home. As a “plus size” (22/24) woman, I am often essentially treated like there is something wrong with me, even within my own extended family. I rarely feel attractive, it takes a real effort to even feel pretty a lot of days. The last time anyone even asked if I was dating anyone was over 8 years ago. I want to try and exercise more and improve my self-esteem, but finding the motivation to do it on my own is difficult, and going to a gym with the potential of being ridiculed for it is terrifying.
No one will talk crap about you in a gym. I promise. People are just in their zone, they aren't paying attention to you as most are listening to the newest Metallica album or something. And you aren't alone in those feelings of being "ridiculed" or being judged. Everyone there does or has felt the same. But you can't let mental war like that keep you from being a healthier you. Also, a simple 30 minute walk in the morning and small meal adjustments a day can help a lot. A gym isn't the only answer, most weight loss is about food routine/consistency and eating more filling/healthier foods to keep you full longer between meals). Some people can go straight up and start with the gym- but most people stay on the treadmill for a few days or weeks until they get more comfortable and then try some smaller weights and move from there- because the gym is an area where people can often feel very vulnerable.
Hey Sister, I'm a size 28 on the bottom, 26 on top, and I need to exercise because my knees aren't built for this! But what really helps me is going to therapy for my Depression, low self-esteem, anxiety, bipolar disorder, and PTSD. I wasn't even comfortable leaving the house before I had more support from friends and my therapist. I'm proud of you for commenting here, Kymmie, that was brave, and your honesty is awesome! Your friends support and the people who're there for you no matter what, that can really get you started. I workout in a pool, Aqua aerobics with a bunch of senior ladies. They're very encouraging. You can do it!
About female clothing and pockets - I think this was created by men. Lets say you have one of those nice dresses that accentuate girl's curves, if that has pockets and you put stuff in them, it will ruin her curves, and probably will also look very stylistically unappealing.
@@sunnishae5047 I buy guy pants but as more than one medical professional has pointed out I have male legs, my legs muscles are too big for female pants, if I was to get a dress id just sew pockets on to them or on the inside, I'm not one for fashion rather sew pockets on to a dress and feel comfortable tbh
I've been reading about 1700s fashion. At some point, women DID have pockets (depending on the type of dress, they were either literal pockets you tied around your waist over your underclothes right before you put on your dress, or panniers - basically those hip things that held the dress up - with slits in them). Which means sometime in the last three centuries, someone somewhere decided that pockets - whether tie-on, pannier, or sewn in - simply weren't fashionable anymore. And then the fashion industry took advantage.
And if you have something like endometriosis men don’t understand that you are not even able to stand up without pain . You would do anything not to hurt . I am so glad that I am finished that part of my life.
Before i got on the pill, it felt like a full grown elephant was stepping on me. It still feels like crap, but i take 2 midol and feel better within an hour.
It’s so FRUSTRATING to go swimming before your period! It’s actually worse than going DURING your period. Because at least if you’re on your period, you know and can wear a tampon. But if you’re about to start, it’s this constant fear that it will start in the pool or when wearing your swimsuit. I’ve worn tampons before my period (even though you’re not supposed to) just cause I was worried about it starting while swimming! And don’t get me started with putting on your bra after swimming. That stupid thing gets all twisted and sticks and it’s impossible to put on!
2:20 I told my doctor that my cramps felt like someone stomping on my uterus with a golf shoe. He laughed his ass off and then said he'd remember that for other AFAB patients.
I went to a female obgyn monday afternoon and told her about my period before and after the pill. She totally understood. I knew that if i went to a male obgyn that i would get laughed out of the office. She also helped me to consider other birth control options. It was nice
When I had my period I already knew what it was so I didn't freak. Also, I never heard or saw my mom treating it as taboo, so when I had my period (having mostly guy friends), I would tell them and they would be awkward at first, but got used to it. So we gotta start normalizing this, and if questions are asked, answer them. It's good if they're interested enough to learn and ask.
I knew a guy who acted all gentlemanly and nice to everyone, but was in fact incredibly mysoginistic and just a dong in general. He ended up harassing/assaulting two of my (ex) friends (they were also dongs and for some reason blamed me for my own sexual harassment) but still doesn’t excuse what he did to them.
The period ones make me smile because I’ve had a hysterectomy and no longer have periods but I’ll add these. Not all women want to hand children or be mothers~ Not all women want to get married or dreamed of their wedding day~ Parenting is not just the mother’s responsibility. It takes two to make a baby and the father should be just as involved as the mother~
If a guy learns you're asexual, you get a ton of creepy comments about how he can "make you like it" or "you just haven't met the right man yet". It's even worse if it's found out you don't want children.
1:08 I wonder why. I am a woman and even I cringed. For me it's like when you do so many crunches or sit ups your stomach feels sore, except It's more intense and doesn't go away.
20:40 I am a woman below the age of 30. I requested a medical procedure that might make me unable to get biological children. I was warned about this. But I simply said that I don't want any biological children and that was it. The medical procedure was hormone replacement therapy because I am a transgender woman. It perplexes me to know that it's easier for me to choose to become infertile than it is for a cisgender woman?! O_O
Another thing about bras, is that (in my experience) it’s so hard and so expensive to find a bra that caters to someone with big boobs but small back. In the ten years I’ve been wearing bras, I’ve only found one that actually fits properly, it was £85. I’ve tried every different store I could find and nothing really fits. It’s so annoying and uncomfortable.
I thought people in the west were way more forward about periods than this. I am an Indian(18m) who lives in Saudi and periods were not a point of discussion but we talk about it and when my sister started her periods friends and family came bearing gifts ,etc. I talk about how hard its for women being up-front about abuse and have told her I am always there, etc. Many of the problems can be solved if the next generation of mothers teach their kids about the above mentioned problems. And , there are many women in clothing industry and the pockets thing is mostly women against women.
When I was 13 I got my period and I celebrated for the first six hours of finally being a woman After six hours I decided that it sucked so much plus I bleed very heavily and get that bad of cramps that I’m in the fetal position crying my eyes out not being able to move a proper muscle and can’t hydrate or nourish the body when it needs to cause it causes more cramps I have had the implanton for 4-5years now and will have to get it out next year and then get it back in I dread the three years when it had to come out Because even though I get terrible cramping when I do bleed it’s nothing compare to the The feeling of being run over by thousands of cars every second without the bloody thing in
I honestly wouldn’t be surprised if you have endometriosis. Especially if the implant is having such a positive impact. I’d recommend looking into it, if you haven’t already.
I was once getting some Ramune, and I was with my mom, and she asked to see the ingredients, so I showed her. She told me "If you wanna kill half of your eggs, go ahead." I am fucking 15... Bruh. I get it's bad for me, but why do you AS A WOMAN, have to basically tell me I am a baby making machine?
Trying to find a pair of pants that actually fits and that passes the thigh, butt, waist, and sitting test. Same goes for trying to find shirts that passes the chest, tummy and arm test. Guys thinking that women can't like things that are geeky, like dungeons & dragons, anime, manga, comics and so on. Once a woman says that they like those things, the nice guys and neckbeards come running after her.
I’m honestly waiting for the day to hear on the news a kid didn’t keep walking as she was sexually harassed from a van & instead pulled out a gun, and started shooting at the pervs. Obviously wrong but I wouldn’t be sorry to hear such a story.
That not all women can wear what they want :/ Some people-well… they aren’t always the best and can be creepy pervs ._. Can anyone relate tho? Or is it just me..
The not being taken seriously by doctors, I feel this. I'd been phoning my GP for months telling them that I had such severe anxiety and depression that I couldn't leave the house or take care of myself, they sent me to the mental health nurse, then she sent me back to the GP, then back to the mental health nurse and it went absolutely nowhere. The second my partner called up and argued with them about how it's going to be their fault if I kill myself, I was called twice a week for a month, offered therapy and medication and now I'm doing a million times better. Imagine if I didn't have him, I'd probably be dead.
Pants. I'm not just salty over the no pockets thing, I'm PISSED that a size 7 is not the same fit as a pair of jeans, THE EXACT SAME PAIR, in black as it was in blue or white. The fact that a size 7 at Walmart fits me perfectly, but a size 7 at Rue21 or whatever other store is TOO SMALL or TOO BIG. While men pick out a 34x36 pair of jeans WITH POCKETS, at ANY store, and it'll fit.
My husband finally understood the pocket situation when he went to push my phone down further in my pocket (it looked to him like it was going to fall out.) Him: "why is it not going down?" * Proccceded to take the phone out of my pocket and stick his hand in* Him:"What??? Why is your pocket less than half the size of mine?!? I didn't know that! So this is why you always asked me to put your stuff in my pockets." 😂😂
I’m betting female friendships used to be more stereotypical and catty when the women who were friends only knew each other by proxy of the husband. I’m sure that forced by circumstances friendships cause a lot more high school type drama than friendships that develop organically based on who the woman wants to chill with rather than being pushed into her husbands friends wives. I hate hanging with older couples where the men and women split off in convo, like no I want to be at the adult table, thanks tho.
People think girls are really mean to each other, but it is such a big misconception that has been inflated by the media. Sure there are some rotten apples, but most girls are extremely supportive of each other. e.g. This girl went to the bathroom during gym and while she was gone one of her friends said, "She's so pretty!" and the other girl was like, "IKR!!! Her hair is actually amazing!!!" Then she came back and asked what they were talking about and their response was, "Nothing hun, just how awesome you are!" MY HEART ACTUALLY MELTED
The way people sexualize young girls is disturbing. Imagine wearing a tank top because its 110 degrees out and having a 50+ male teacher tell you that you obviously have no self respect.
And then your male class mate has gym shorts hanging down his butt and a tank top... So you can see his ENTIRE FRONT!
That is the worst. My mom gets so heated about these things because she's like 'why should my daughters have to worry about what they're going to wear to school because a boy can't control himself?'
Also not fair that we have all these dress codes in school and as long as there's nothing incorporate on a boy's shirt, he can get away with wearing nothing.
Also how literal fucking babies are taught how to care for a baby-doll and act like a "mother" but boys can just eat at the toy cars all they want 🙄
@@marialindell9874 Don't give your daughter Baby dolls then O.o
@@leaflet1686 I'm childfree, let's start from there 😂
Growing as a teen girl: Not being allowed to have an interest without being made fun of or otherwise humiliated.
THIS
that happens for everybody trust me
A-ducking-men!
Boy bands, horses, giggling etc.
If it's not ridiculed, it is fetishized in some yucky lolita way.
Yes
i'm a teen guy and it's the same for me.
Periods affect our digestive systems. Seriously you poop more on Periods because of everything being squished by muscle cramps
Wait so that's normal!?
Oh my gosh thank you.
@@storyjumper yeah thank you again I was so confused.
It apparently CAN be because of period cramps as well, but the main reason is some hormone (forgot the name).
We also burn about 30% more calories while we're "PMSing", making us especially hungry, and therefore, consuming a lot more food than we normally would........and, as we all know, extra food, means extra poop. So, given this fact, along with the stomach cramps, and unknown hormone, it's really kind of a miracle were not on that damn toilet 24/7 with these god forsaken "period poops".
Drink Applejuice, dies wonders for.the digestive track, breaks it down.
How people comment on young girl's bodies. I met this lady who my mom worked with. I never met her, but when she saw me, she said I have my mother's body type and since I am young, I will get more curvier. She turned to my mom and told her I wasn't like my sister, so she will need to watch out for me or I'll be sneaking boys in. Do you know how uncomfortable I was? I was only twelve! Not only was I already self conscious, I now felt worse because my mom got pissed at ME.
The flipside to this is guys who don't want to hug thier girlfriends cause they are on their period. It's like eww gross don't want your blood and vag stuff on me. Like we'll vomit it on them.
There’s this kid at my school (9th grade) dating a 7th grade over discord, and the first thing I heard his friends say was some shit like ‘have you seen her body yet??’ MF WAS FULLY AWARE SHE WAS 12
@@storyjumper what are you talking about??!
So.. Your mom blamed you for what her friend said... Wtf
when i was 10 i went to some chinese gardens, got to wear a traditional dress (that completely covered me up, that we got to loan from a shop there) and when i was posing for photos on a rock, i decided to lay on my belly like i saw models do, and then my step dad told me it was inappropriate. i was a 10 year old girl. i was wearing a dress that covered my entire body. my hair was up in a bun. i was 10. i was just laying on my front. *i was 10*.
(sorry for emphasis i just literally cannot get over this)
Being told that a guy doesn't want to date you because his friends don't think you're hot. Having men just randomly assess your attractiveness level and tell you you're unattractive to your face. Then sometimes they get angry at you and mean because you're not attractive to them
Yes, this is strange, like they have to be mean to you because they’re not interested. I’ve never understood that.
@@mianewman4151 my dad would get angry at the tv when a woman who was deemed unattractive to him was on the tv. He would just pick her apart and be offended that she was on his tv.
Wow...I had to read your comment to realise this is an actual issue. Like,I wasn't aware of it even existing. I'm sorry if someone has mistreated you because of this BS. You're gorgeous just the way you are and they can go f themselves
@@beardpandaa That’s such odd behavior, especially unprovoked. Have you ever asked him why he does that? Like, why is a persons “unattractiveness” so offensive to him?
As my mother once said, "...life sucks, and then you die..."
people are judgemental.
deal with it.
Waking up, seeing 🩸, and running to the bathroom with the speed and determination of a track star.
seeing the puddle of blood when i get up makes me so sad
Yup, or when you wake up in the middle of the night and have to run in the dark across your house to the bathroom exhausted and in pain and then people ask why you’re tired, and annoyed the next morning-
or running to the bathroom to change underwear and find sanitary towels ready when your period comes early than normal lol
Waking up, FEELING IT, and running to the bathroom really gets the heart pounding even tho you Know you're prepared but aren't at the same time
@Malachi Perry k troll. try harder.
Being told by my partners father that I’d be a bad mother if I got my doctorate because I’d be a bad housewife and wouldn’t be able to cook and stuff. Men being intimidated by me potentially making as much or more than them if I get my doctorate and as a result I’m undesirable.
Trying to find bikinis, swimsuits and brahs in your actual size is HARD the sizing system is so confusing and it’s different per brand and garment
As a fairly tall (5'10'') woman, clothing is a nightmare. Either u need designer stuff, cuz it's long enough, and the sleeves fit around your arms, or u wind up living in sweatshirts and men's PJ bottoms. I DID finally figure out Old Navy has long pants. Ladies shirts are practically half shirts, unless u go really high end. Also finding a size 10 shoe that isn't extra wide. I need a narrow shoe. Bras? Only one brand fits...OLGA...they get me! Not cheap, tho!
@@staceykersting705 My girlfriend has a similar problem she's a shortstack (5'1" with a big chest) so it's pretty difficult for her to buy dresses, bathingsuits, or lingerie since the tops are almost always to tight and forget about buying clothes online.
@@agr0nianTV Thank God for knits (stretchy fabrics)! I learned to sew early!
@@staceykersting705 True that she does the same thing and knows how to hem too 😁
All clothes, actually. Even finding a decent pair of jeans, having to try on like 10 pair that are the same brand and allegedly the same size. They aren't the same size.
Oh honey if taking a Tylenol and the pain goes away when it comes to period pain, you are one damn lucky girl.
Seriously. Before i got on the pill, i would take damn near half a bottle of ibuprofen before i felt anything. In reality it was more like 8 ibuprofen but its still its not the standard recommendation. I got the pill, cramps went waay down, and started using midol. 2 midol to be exact. Its amazing.
It's ibuprofen for me. I find it to be more effective
Pamprin does the most decent job for me.
I think something to consider also is the dosage if you're taking a 200mg tablet more than likely you will need a few. Versus taking a 500mg pill, like for instance midol which is 500 mg
My mother is a pediatrician, just to say this to make sure everyone knows everything I mentioned is completely safe for me personally.
I've stopped having any reaction ibuprofen, and instead have to drink a vaccine to stop the pain. That's the only thing that works, and the worst thing is, the vaccine banned in most countries due to the side effects, but I'm glad I've never had a reaction to it
The pressure to get married and/or have kids. Sure, the social pressure to get married is less now, but there's still a lot of 'value' put on being in a relationship. I've had people ask me multiple times over the years when I'm gonna get a boyfriend which, to someone still in the process of discovering their sexuality, is really fricking annoying. I've also had people be like 'Wait till you have kids' or 'When you gonna have kids' or 'How many kids do you want' and I'm just made to feel like an absolute weirdo for being like 'No, I do not want kids, I do not ever want kids, in fact I feel so strongly against my giving birth to kids that I would willingly donate my uterus so that another person could carry their own child'
Uh, that's universal, did you get a gril yet?? When are you having kids with her??? Its annoying.
@@emastermet609 no. Women have a biological time clock. Men can have kids at any time.
@@maryjack3830 No guarantees past 40 and not without risks for the child.
@@emastermet609 There are significantly more risks to women and the child over the age of 40
@@maryjack3830 They both can cause miscarriage, heart disease and birth defects, cleft palate, premature birth.
Now perhaps the chances are bigger but the risks are pretty much the same.
Having to ask multiple women and the internet that I wasn't crazy, and that I wasn't just regretting a a decision I had 100% made. Sexual assault, while I was drunk, with my ex boyfriend. Only ever when I was drunk, and he came in me without permission. Do you know how awful I felt afterwards everytime. But thinking that I had consented so it was my fault. I barely even remember consenting or most of the actual act. The worst is knowing my mom did not have my back when my sibling told me she was talking shit about me behind my back after I finally dumped him and told her why. Took me months and a friend to bluntly tell me "no, that's r@pe" for me to finally breakdown (ugly sobbing) and accept it wasn't my fault
Hoping you are healing from all that trauma; also keep in mind not to reach that point of black out when drinking again. Though it sounds like he may have been using something to make you go "out of it"..??
@@Kayenne54 I haven't touched alcohol again unless I'm around people I've known for many many years and know what I've been through, and even then I'll drink very little. I'm healing as best I can and I'm thinking of talking to my therapist about it finally. Thank you so much 💗
IKR? Or not wanting to date at all, cuz every date meant a wrestling match and a rape. Just cuz you're not missing teeth or don't have broken limbs does NOT mean u weren't r@ped!
@@staceykersting705 exactly, and its very upsetting how many women have gone through this and don't say anything because it's harder to prove/it's less likely they'll be believed. We need more safe spaces for people to feel safe coming forward about any kind of sexual assault so they can get advice and comfort without feeling judged 😔
@@oneweve_fire I wish more people realized that consent to sex act A doesn’t mean consent to sex act B. You were absolutely violated, and I’m disgusted that your ex took advantage of you. 💔
Oh, your into Star Wars? Really? You sure your into it? Ok. Tell me about this super minor detail I don’t even completely know about. Oh, you don’t know, WOW WHAT A SHOCKER! I THOUGHT YOU WERE INTO IT! Guess you aren’t.
-why do people do this? I can watch it without know everything. Chill.
I get this sometimes when I mention Harry potter, it can be annoying tbh
"Here is this thing that has *great* importance to us, that we devote a significant amount of time and effort into. Before we accept you as a peer in this regard, we want to be sure that you have an appreciation that is on-par with our own, so that we can consider you worthy of being considered as an equal in that regard"
Add in the fact that through time, sometimes niche interests achieve a small degree of Mainstream appeal (Like for example Kim K wearing a Metallica T-Shirt) and so these affectations (that are normally reserved for the truly dedicated fan) are displayed by people who either have a casual appreciation, or no appreciation at all.
I get that it can be frustrating.... But I'll let you into a little secret...
Men does this to other Men too. However when we do it to each other, it's a lot more fluid and seamless, through the course of a conversation - we are constantly assessing each other relative knowledge, insight and understanding and we are mentally ranking them as to where they fit in.
Often the best way to deal with this is to go on the Offensive (Best defence is a good offense...) and make a provocative statement (but one backed up with a reasonable amount of evidence) - to get the discussion going.
So relatable, omg
Welcome to world of men who gatekeep the world. I've gotten this interrogation my whole damn life from men once they find out I'm a geek. 🙄 I mean I go to comic cons and do know a lot. But why do I have to PROVE my geek knowledge time and time again to men who feel they "geek" more than me? 😂
Can't we just talk, have fun and get each other into more things? It's not hard to not be a jerk. 😂
Okay, no. This is not a gender issue, you're just talking to people who are way too into their fantasy shows lol.
Notice that a lot of people trying to add things that are gender neutral in the comments.
The questioning your emotions and thoughts one.. that shit hit
Yeah
Yup. When I'm upset about something my parents always tell me "you're on your period, it's normal to be this emotional. You wouldn't be upset if you weren't on your period" It annoys the crap out of me. So my emotions are suddenly all fake for 7 days a month.
That's why I seem cold to people and I don't even cry when I'm alone because I instantly think I'm overreacting. And I hate it that when I am frustrated my parents ask me if I have my period, and I don't most of the time. But just because I decided to be angry for a good reason I am crazy.
@@luckycluckers6880 so effing annoying, and I don't like it when people ask me if it on my period, that's effing personal
@@menschlicherroboter6791 Don't ever question your emotions. If you can feel them, they're real! I completely agree with you though, being on your period shouldn't be public if you don't want it to be D:
I honestly think the small instances of sexism would get them, men grabbing their hips when moving past, being interrupted during conversation constantly, men explaining things to you even though you’ve said “I know” ten times, being followed, men starting conversations with Those undertones that you can’t quite put into words, having other women approach you as if they know you because one of you is being followed, having their dads question what they’re wearing or trying to force them to wear bras around the house, their dads expecting to be waited on by them when mum isn’t around
Also sweat. Titty sweat is a new type of fresh hell
I have experienced almost every situation that you write it in an similar way or even in the same way.
(I am male)
@@kaktus3856 You have to wear bras? O.o
@@leaflet1686
"almost"
@@kaktus3856 Yeah, lost a ton of weight and no longer deal with sweaty man tits. It's great.
Boy, I feel dumb now. I read this and thought "What's so bad about men grabbing their hips when moving past? Is that some kind of sexist gesture I've never heard of?" Then I realised you meant that the men were grabbing the woman's hips, not their own.
I'll never forget when I was doing an open with a coworker (Literally the only guy at my business)
and she was visibly angry which was really rare because she always had a smile.
1: She was told to smile more.
2: She decided to do her hair differently and it actually looked good. (She was one of those people where a well placed beanie can really bring the whole look together, you know?) and this gross old guy stared at her for what felt like an eternity with "fu*k me eyes" before "complimenting" her hair. (It was 6am. There is a time and place to flirt and that was neither)
Like shit dude. Smiles are earned and I can't imagine how exhausting it must be to be "on display" by default to some people.
I get that a lot... I am only here for other people... But who is here for me? Q.Q
I know soooooo many women (myself included) who are constantly told to smile... by co-workers, customers or clients, acquaintances, random strangers in any possible environment. All of them men. It is infuriating. I’m not here merely to decorate your world, dude. I’m not a freaking doll! YOU SMILE!!!! My smiles aren’t free, give me a reason. If anyone walked around smiling 24/7 people would think they were a psychotic or sneaky or something. It’s unreal and sexist af! Triggers me bad. Thank you for acknowledging how unbelievably rude it is!!!! You must be rare.
This has been my whole life, only I don't smile because I have horrible teeth. I've been judged by co-workers, told to smile by strangers, even had a female bashing me within earshot without any of them actually talking TO me about why I might be upset. Only thing is, I'm NOT upset, but of course, I'm not worthy of deciding my own feelings. Reading these comments, I never even thought that it may be related to my gender. Insane. If I was male, no one would probably care if I looked mad, or they'd assume I had a good reason. Ridiculous.
@@BR-zh6vp You make an excellent point that I never even considered about how some people are self conscious of their smile. That and the fact that no one knows what someone’s going through just makes me so angry that this happens all the time. I was in law enforcement for 6 years and I was still incessantly told by my male coworkers that I needed to smile. One even told me I was “too pretty to not smile more” as if that made it feel less cringy. Grrrrr!
You should just say how sexist it is to think that women have to always seem approachable and try to pose to look their best for any man who happens to walks by therefore they HAVE to smile all the time because it makes men happy and that’s our sole purpose in life or some stupid crap. NO ONE... I mean *NO ONE* says that crap to men. So gross!!! Triggered so hard right now over this!
So sorry that you’re going through that. If it makes you feel any better I’ve always thought people with overbites or crooked teeth had so much more beautiful character to their mouths. Tom Hardy is so hot! I love his smile! A lot of people seem to agree. Makes me wish my teeth weren’t so boring and straight.
@@camhan9300 That's exactly my issue: no one thinks outside the box when it comes to teeth appearance and smiling. I don't worry too much, but that mindset is something that has affected my ability to be accepted and thus my daily life.
I'm a very respectful and fun-loving person, but I get passed up for the mean/fake people who smile all the time. Most people think I'm choosing not to smile just to be sour. I'm choosing not to be judged and ridiculed for an uncommon flaw. It still results in judgment, unfortunately.
I have started orthodontic treatment, but I'm only recently warming up to showing some of my teeth (to some people) as they move closer to normal. Thanks for the reply and encouragement.
How frustrating it is to see women in media only ever portrayed as love interests to men. Even strong women must have a love interest, and yet men in media can be alone with no love interest at all.
Women are not just accessories, and plenty of women are happy being single. We are not solely fulfilled by men.
I write for fun, but I've decided if I ever get published, and it actually gets popular enough for it, no movie or TV show will get made of my stories without a clause that it's a breach of contract to give specific female characters love interests, regardless of gender. I want it to be an ironclad, sue-able offense.
I've been fucking sick of this trope since I was like 9. I've been writing stories I want to see with female characters not focused around men (or even romance at all, for that matter). I don't care about marketing targets and demographics. I want these stories, and so do several other women.
Plus, what's annoying is books-to-film that already get this treatment. The book sold enough copies to get the film treatment without a shitty romantic subplot, so don't force one in where it doesn't belong because "marketing".
I've read so much manhwa(korean manga) about a really awesome female mc only for an annoying pretty boy to show up
Yep absolutely. You guys don't know how happy I was when the first Frozen was out and that Elsa didn't have any romantic interest ! It was like a first time for me and prob for a lot of girls
@@lawaura419 Damn Frozen was so amazing lol.
No shit. I've been working on a book for years and while there's a little side-sprinkle of romance, it's more of either an afterthought or you can see evidence of it in the world around the characters (how many kids and how well they're doing are between a couple that was outwardly married for political reasons etc).
The constant fear that is walking alone-, heck, even w/other girlfriends on the streets. Not knowing if someone will catcall you or if they'll do something more. Changing sidewalks if you see a group of drunk/high dudes, or teenage boys in a big number. Being constantly aware of the man that is behind you, ready to bolt it out of there leaving the groceries behind. Everything and more in broad daylight. I don't even go out at night.
That the thing about being harassed or assaulted isn't that you think every single guy is a predator, it's just that, to avoid being assaulted, you have to be lucky EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. You roll that dice on if this guy or that guy is going to be safe, whereas the predator only has to be lucky ONCE to get away with r*ping/murdering/etc.
When you think of it like that, you realise that making sure you don't hurt Random Male On Street Corner's feelings becomes less of a priority than Making Sure You Get Home Without Incident for the 6th time that week.
The problem is when doing so, you're prolifying & generalizing, which is obvious that doing that is only acceptable with men, specially from a certain race, as long as is a man vs a woman.
@@Jose04537 your sentence doesn't seem to make any sense, it might need rewording. Also, generalizing IS bad, I'm not arguing that it's a good thing - I'm arguing that I'd rather be a bitch who generalizes people then r*ped and left in the alley, for obvious reasons. My life is worth the risk of hurting other people's feelings, because they're still alive and physically unharmed afterwards. If I'm r*ped and then stabbed, or I commit suic*de afterwards, that situation carries a bit more weight.
Edit: also, me generalizing about men isn't doing them any active physical or emotional damage. I'm not screaming at them or abusing them or attacking them, I'm literally avoiding them and having no contact with them. It's the difference between stepping on someone's foot vs not walking near their feet at all. Idk about u but I'd rather have the second than the first.
Not very surprising tho, this a problem on both fronts that both fronts are aware of.
@@Jose04537 it is a problem. if only there was something people could do (or reframe from doing) about it, so women didnt have to feel the need to do this.
@ Jose angel. Just ensure other men don't predate women. Ok you will have to be on your guard all the time too, but at least one woman won't be generalising.
How about if you are stoic or not very emotional, you're "defective" as a woman? One guy told me he couldn't trust such a woman because "she might accuse him of rape". Swear that guy was dropped on his head at least once. 😐
It's weird because you could be falsely accused of ANY crime (and we all know people can and are accused of all sorts) yet you never see men refusing to be pals with someone in case they get accused of murder/theft/battery/drug use etc.
@@lettylunasical4766 Because rape is seen as even worse than murder, murderers don't get raped in prison.
@@lettylunasical4766 Yup. And I can't stand that "false rape accusation" bullshit, because most people accused of rape don't even see jail time. Like, what are you even worried about?!
@@matxalenc8410 Now it's on your record, it's already damaged your career the minute you go to court.
@@emastermet609 Now that I can understand, but false rape accusations are not common and most sexual assaults go unreported. There really is nothing to worry about, unless someone's worried because they know they have a history of stepping over someone's boundaries.
12:51 Yeah, not enough people consider the whole "friendzoning" thing from the other perspective. As the (typically) male in the scenario, your bait and switch plan didn't succeed in getting you laid. Sucks, sure. But the (typically) female either just spent a lot of time navigating a very uncomfortable interpersonal dynamic or (best case scenario) just lost a friend, which means your little scheme failed two people miserably. Have you ever lost a friend? That sucks _hard_ . Who has enough friends that randomly losing them like this isn't a significant loss? No one. And to find out it was a trick the whole time ... man. It messes with your head.
ETA: this video got more and more real as it went, and all I could do was nod, because yeah. Sigh.
I saw someone calling what these men do "shagzoning", I think it's accurate
The amount of times throughout the day old men Touch you without your consent and just expect you to be nice about it
Or stare at you a lot
@@AllyInReality yesssss
@@AllyInReality I stare back and ask if they're having a stroke
Having to adjust the way you stand around men and in public so youre not assaulted from behind.
I feel this it never happened to me but I still do it and fear of it a lot.
Men don't approach me because for one
I swear at them if they are acting like total douche bags
I've been treated SO horrible by very likeable guys. You know the type that everyone loves and is a really sweet caring dude. I try to have a conversation with someone else in their presence and they take great offence to this. How DARE an ugly woman even exist? Better put her in her place, making her feel worthless and unloved. Then turn to all her classmates and offer a kidney to some random dude he just met.
Damn...I knew someone like this. I stopped hanging out with him because he would literally start insulting me for no reason. Sad too, we were childhood friend and he wasnt always like that.
I don't fight but if someone told me that 'X fights like a girl' I would avoid angering them at all costs. I've seen girls fight enough times to know that I don't want to be involved with that in any way, shape or form. Shits _vicious._
Well that's true but generally speaking girls aren't really into lethal force like that. They go for what makes you pretty so lumping up and even scarring your face, ripping hair out etc. So she'll gouge your eyes out but you'll live lmao
@@m_winewood No, you couldn't be more wrong :D
Nope - and it goes back to biological programming. When males fight amongst themselves, it's generally to establish dominance. Gang skirmishes are an extreme form of this, but dominance fights typically (a) aren't fatal, and (b) aren't extended events.
When women fight, they're protecting themselves or their progeny, so their biological programming is for survival (think mama bear with cubs). Some of the bloodiest fights I've ever seen have been between women, and the only way they were concluded was by bystander intercession 'cause they were out to kill.
I was taught to fight by my older Girl cousins.
I won't fight a woman, if there is ANY way I can possibly run...
@Always Unlucky Makes more sense, the pretty thing seems just like a petty person rather than just a girl thing.
That last one is bothering me so much, especially in the media. One of the reasons I no longer like sitcoms, it's always the mediocre-looking but funny dude with the gorgeous wife. She can be funny as well, but she absolutely HAS to be attractive.
Just once, I want to see a freakishly handsome dude with his plump, plain-looking, but crazy funny wife. Just once.
I was talking to a friend about some TV show, and he said, "Oh, I used to watch that, but I got sick of looking at all the beautiful people." There are whole shows that are really just beautiful people being beautiful--Friends is a one example.
Not being able to wear what you want to wear because someone will have a problem with it
Worse: not being able to wear what you want because “[insert male relative] is here”
@@pencil2680 i hate this so much, like if they're gonna have an issue with it, why are they coming over in the first place?
@@pencil2680 it’s not even just men atp my female cousin does it to me to the point where her 4 year old sister started to join in too it’s fucking insanity 🤦🏾♀️
THISSSSSSS
bc of reasons i live in a home with two helpers rhere (don't know the english word for it, sorry) and they constantly critique what im wearing. its to a point where i kinda wanna throw something at them the next time they say anything.
and like their excuse is always that "its inappropriate"
fun fact, last year there lived another girl here that would wear crop tops and shit like that, they didnt say shit. the only difference was, that shes skinny. im not, and it took a LOT out of me to finallt wear what i want bc even my mom. used to tell me "you can't wear fitted shirts, ppl. will see your hips"
like.... no shit sherlock, thats literally what fitted shirts are for.
And it doesn't matter if they are dressing conservatively or dressing more revealingly. Either way, people act like their body exists for public critique and consumption.
We watched a movie Never Rarely Sometimes Always with my sister and big brother, all adults. There was this character, a boy who is giving money and providing company to random girls with no place to go for one night. When we discussed it, my brother thought they had a good time, they sang in karaoke, guy and one of the girls were kissing. Me and my sister both felt that the guy was overly abusing his power over them, like the girl HAD to provide emotional and even sexual interaction just for the fact of help. The guy kinda chose the one he liked more and she is not in a place to say a word against it. That's what girls feel in real life, some men really be good to you not because you matter or because they are good people, but because they wait for your 'paying service'. Not only sex, it can be as simple as giving attention, flirting or even not making a scene about inappropriate touching (!!)
My cousin was made homeless by my aunt (she flew halfway across America and emptied cousin's flat, where she had a nice life, and ended her lease while cousin was in hospital) she was on the streets for over a year (it'd been 6months by the time I heard, via Facebook), then she started saying about a boyfriend and how he isn't kind to her. She is no longer with us. I still don't know when/what/how it happened, we heard a rumor via a shared uncle probably at the time, but it was at least 8months later when aunt confirmed it.
She was lesbian, and I often think she was in that kind of situation.
@@PrincessFidelma I am so sorry about your cousin.
I know my boyfriend's best friends don't understand why I wear makeup or dye my hair. They make assumptions about women who do these things then and wonder why they're single...
Honestly, a surprise thing for me is that most of my male friends don't actually make a big deal out of it if I mention my cramps or my period. As long as I'm not going into great detail, they just accept it. However, the older people in my family (mostly men but also some women) are the ones that act over the top grossed out if I mention it. Am I just lucky or have other girls found guys that are simpathetic even if they don't fully understand periods?
Tbh the only guy I know who's more sensitive and caring about periods is my dad lol
Do wish I knew more men who cared more about period stuff tho
I think it’s more common now to know people our age because so many women speak openly about it and care about spreading knowledge. It’s still a taboo for older generations but younger ones grow up more accustomed to dealing with periods as normal bodily functions...
Personally, I couldn't care less about periods, its whatever, lemme get you some food, tampons, and snuggles is my ideology.
I'm a woman and I don't like hearing about periods. I mean saying "I've got cramps" or something one off like that is fine but the girls who go deep into detail about their flow and how many tampons they go through is just unnecessary
Only person I know that isn't bothered is my dad. My brother always makes a weird face or a sound of disgust, and I don't really bother talking to the boys at my school because they don't bother talking to me.
There's only three-four boys I actually speak to, minus teachers, and as far as I'm aware, though their personalities, only one of them would be fine hearing that, and would probably respond with "Oh that sucks" in a generous but joking way.
We are not exaggerating on our periods a lot of times. While it varies from woman to woman, it can feel like we are literally dying or something has ruptured. So if something has actually ruptured or broke we wouldn't tell most likely because of how bad our periods can get. And birth control can also make it worse too. For me, i still get my symptoms of my period every month i just don't bleed. I just simply want to die
I got high pain tolerance but my hormones are fucking ridiculous.
That is not normal! I take the pill (Now permanent) And had 0 pain and super light cramps. Also no period symtomps without period. Somethign is not ok, girl!
You might have another underline issue I'd go get that checked out tbh
Lots of females suffer from undiagnosed endometriosis which can make their periods literal hell. I'm one of them literally only found out 2 years ago once it got so bad I passed out from the pain and ended up in hospital. When I was giving birth my pain only got worse than my period right at the end.
@@bearddpirat7774 That is what my mother said as well: giving birth was more fun (but equally painfull) compared to the montly cramps because she got a reward in the end. ( baby delivered versus another day of just mopping up bloodstains).
As a girl, growing up every time you wanna go to a friend's house, you'll be ask who they live with, if there's a father, brother, uncle etc... then you'll receive the 'be careful talk' because 'you never know'(the world we live in :)) and if it was a sleepover it's going be hard to convince your parents/guardians to let you stay for the night
I'm listening to the one about friendzone from woman's perspective and it kinda makes me glad I had zero game for a while growing up (still not much but yk) I have a handful of really close female friends that I legit only sought out BC I thought just being nice would get me laid. Thing is I was a kid and a kid with no sense of subtly at that, so most of the time I never ended up telling them how I felt, eventually they would mention a man they were into and I would be like 'well you've gone this far, no sense loosing a friend because you're a coward' in my head and we just kept being friends and I went back on the prowl
Same, and then I blew all those friendships to little pieces by getting sucked into the Trump fandom in 2016. To be fair, they mostly felt sorry for me because they could tell I had psychological issues, especially about sex.
western culture is so obsessed with romanticism that to the average young man ''friendship with a woman'' is something to be avoided at all costs and the ultimate sing of failure
this couldn't be more wrong
My male teacher actually told me to tell people I have a boyfriend. He saw me rejecting a guy and I told him I don’t date (cause I was in high school and I feel like those relationships don’t last majority of the time). My teacher told me that excuse won’t work and to just start telling people I have a boyfriend. He also said it’s less hard on the guy getting rejected. Thanks for looking out I guess
men who don't know what it means when i'm on my period and they keep on harassing their girlfreinds for sex! that is the most irritating when some men don't understand that, plus i can relate to woman who describe pms and hormones go crazy, dam 😑😑
Or guys (even coworkers) that deliberately go out of their way to be assholes, and when you confront them, they say "what's your problem? You got your period?" Thinking that they "win". I started getting as close as professionally possible, looking them dead in the eye, and saying "yes. You got a problem with that?" (Even if they do it every week) they stop.
Some girls like having sex on their period. It's probably confusing for the guy because he doesn't get the whole "I feel dirty right now, don't touch me".
@@CheapSkateGamer96 not just that. Women can have different issues, just month to month. One month, your boobs are really sore and tender. Cramping. Diarrhea. Bloating. Sometimes it's like having a stomach flu without vomiting. Imagine having a stomach flu (sometimes with body aches).....except you're bleeding. And someone wants to have sex with you. And then your bedroom looks like a slaughterhouse, and then you have to do laundry. It's not like that every month. And you can't always tell how bad it's going to be.
Idk if you're male or female, so if you're female, I'm obviously preaching to the choir.
@@zeldapinwheel7043 yeah that is what I tell my bf, I'll come over and get blood on your car, bedsheets and chairs too it's up to you, and he's OCD about cleanliness too Lol that won't work out well for him 🤣
@@CheapSkateGamer96 some girls are just strange, no way would I do that, it would look like a murder crime scene even if I attempted it LOL
Not being able to wait for a bus without disrespectful men thinking that doing so is an invitation for them to proposition you and don't want to take "No,I'm not interested" for an answer.This is why we need to carry pepper spray and a concealed weapon.
Some men really do get a kick out of scaring women. It happened to me several times as a young woman. Please, men, challenge your male friends and relatives about this behaviour. Have consideration for the women in your life.
The one about not being able to trust our feelings... its so true. I can't go a day without feeling that if I overreact or even have emotions that are more passionate than normal it's because I'm hormonal or have terrible mood swings. I constantly doubt about any of my feelings and because of that, I hate expressing myself or explaining why I feel down or anxious. If I get too excited I 'need to calm down', or if I get angry about something I 'need to be more rational'. It sucks. And then when I don't want to explain or express, I'm 'wasting their time' or being too 'petty'. Seriously...
I don't get mocked for getting angry but certainly when being sad. My theory is that the guy is projecting his negative feelings of being vulnerable onto me, and yes he does urge me "to be rational" which I am since I can still articulate my thoughts so I don't even get it :/
The best part about being a gay male is that I have close female friends who are super comfortable enough to basically confide in me the secrets and problems of being female.
They’ll tell me about “shark week” openly, clothes, etc.
None of these actually shocked me. They all make sense because I was also a women’s studies minor.
my best friend is gay and we have been together for more than 2 decades, i can relate!🥰
That's funny. I'm a walking living, breathing straight white male stereotype who's slept with lots of women who've confided in me their deepest darkest secrets, and they've fallen asleep in my arms in the nude, and I woke up in the morning with them laying on top of me with their forehead against mine, and playing with my hair.
"...hey...g'mornin' sleepyhead ❤❤❤..." [kisses my lips]
@@tresmo3045 lol wot? no i'm a straight woman, my best friend is a gay man 😂😂
@@HUYI1 OMG HA!!! IM SO SORRY. I just thought based on how you worded it, you were married!
@@tresmo3045 i kinda feel like that when i am with him lol but we are more like brother and sister more than anything 😂😂😂😁
What kind of dude complains about having to wear a condom during sex? The hell? I mean I could understand if you're having difficulty finding one that fits, but that's literally the only reason I could imagine being something I'd complain about. Nobody wants unplanned pregnancies.
I agree. I didn't like them at first because they seemed uncomfortable to me (I hated being "that guy"). I eventually found some that actually fit well and now I don't mind them. Also, I actually like that they dull the senses a bit for the sake of longevity. Sorry if TMI. I just think it's an important thing to discuss.
@@VastDivide Nah, that's not TMI. I was literally considering talking about comparing my experiences having sex with and without condoms as an example lol.
I wouldn't exactly complain, because yeah who wants an unplanned pregnancy, but the things hurt me. I doubt its a girth issue because y'know I've seen other penises and all and every time I grin and bear it, the end result is always going flaccid not long after putting it on. /shrug
Many men.
@@steweygrrr They're definitely not supposed to hurt, but I lack the experience to really guess what the problem is. I would consider asking Reddit or maybe your doctor next time you're in for a checkup or something.
I’ve also been told that spitting/burping/not shaving my legs ‘isn’t a good look for a young lady like me’ (I really like the guy who said it and know he wasn’t trying to be a jerk). He’s much older though, he kinda just treats the local youngins like his nieces and nephews; very kind and chill. Every time though I’m just like ‘good to know man, my partner also burps and spits and were pretty happy so I don’t really need to ‘look good’ to anyone else who *might* be interested. But cool thanks’
I hate shaving my legs. It's so annoying and I always miss places. So I just stopped, now I wear tights and stockings so nobody is rude to me about my hairy legs (I live in the American South, so somebody always has something to flap their lips about) Best descion. Only drawback is it can get a little hot, but I can deal.
@@murdermeharry8703 Dude I work in the beauty industry and I haven't shaved my legs all summer. Idgaf. I wear shorts. If anybody says anything to me I would just say, yup, missed that waxing appointment, huh? But nobody has said anything. I don't think anyone really cares. Or, people who do care are shallow and not worth caring about. Rock those beautiful hairy legs.
I think what would hit a man most isn't the period, because they've heard of it.
I think it's the way people treat you with less respect, that they doubt your knowledge,they interrupt you, walk away while you're talking to them, ...
My favourite way, generally pretty effective too, of explaining (bad) period cramps to guys is ‘you know when you crush your balls or someone kicks you in them so hard you can’t breathe, feel nauseous and or crumple to the ground in pain? Like it feels as though someone has just put your insides in a vice and started twisting? Yeah, it’s that but only in my guts.’. I basically just explain that ovaries are pretty much the same body part as balls but inside you instead of at risk anytime.
When you realize how terrible you feel on your period, and then not being allowed to take it easy (like you would when you are sick). Oh also terrible mood swings.
When we get mad at you for commenting on our weight or how food we’re eating, it’s not just us being ‘hysterical’. We’re constantly being shamed for that kinda thing, it’s exhausting beyond what I can verbally explain.
The dislikes are the dudes who are "just a nice guy"
I think that generalizing men is essential when you’re alone and are vulnerable. It’s not that some women hate men for existing, it’s just that you never truly know. If a woman is avoiding you and doesn’t know you please be aware of your surroundings without assuming she has a problem with you specifically or just hates men.
The brain likes generalizng in general. Why not? It's easier and (according to the brain prevents harm, though most of the time were wrong) spares us the energy to think too much. It's just important that we catch ourselves doing it. Even the most open of minds generalize but if we can actively stop our brains from doing this we won't fall into certain patterns and traps
I was first catcalled at thirteen, in a Walmart parking lot. I was putting groceries in the car.
I’m still not quite sure that it was me, but that is disgusting either way. That a girl can be doing a simple, everyday thing and an intoxicated group of friends can shout 15 ft away for her number. I hate that. I hate that so much.
" 'Men are intimidated by funny women' - you know what women are intimidated by? The fact that most men could kill us with their bare hands." - comedian Aisling Bea
*takes out deodorant spray*
the amount of times i have been groped or touched by an older man when i'm just trying to do my job (i'm a cabaret singer) is absolutely disgusting. what makes it even more outrageous is the large fraction of said times that i've been told i'm "overreacting", or "being unfair" when i blow up at them for this. yes, the venue hired me for entertainment, but not THAT kind. sexual assault is not entertainment. it's illegal, and it absolutely disgusts and angers me that a lot of people (not just men, because saying that it is only men is unrealistic and unfair) seem to dismiss the legality of this act when it comes to social pressure.
i also have many other stories, but this one happened quite recently. for context, i'm nineteen years old and a short, not too unfortunate looking blonde haired, blue eyed woman. currently i'm studying a degree in forensic psychology, and the moment i revealed this to a new possible male friend of mine, he became distant, and even started to berate and ridicule me, saying things like "oh, that's not a job for a looker like you". obviously, me being the overconfident and annoying fucker i am, i quizzed him about it. do you know what his reasoning was? it was because he apparently felt "intimidated". like, okay, fair enough if the topic i study isn't exactly your cup of tea - it's dark and it's horrible to think of, but it's what i want to do. even still, that does not give you any right to try and bring me down because of a simple distaste to something i am passionate about. i absolutely fucking hate football, but i don't bully or berate any man who happens to like it, because that's extremely immature, and quite frankly toxic. i might not want to be around you for as long as other friends, but i'm not going to be an immature fuck and try and bring you down for what you like.
point is, people (not just women, too, but the majority are women) face discrimination every damn day, and it's becoming sickening. i wish i was naïve enough to believe that one day soon this will change, but i know for a fact it will take a great deal of time before even minor changes are seen. heck, it took women CENTURIES to even be able to vote, and it's only recently where men's mental health is beginning to be normalised (on top of that, those that do not fall into the gender binary are beginning to become normalised, which is a more than welcome change). rant over.
Feeling like whatever you do, it always is being judged. I’ve stopped giving a crap about opinions that I don’t care about back in kindergarten, but many others experience a “Not Like Other Girls” phase where they feel like they need to prove that they’re more than just their body.
After having a baby I've really felt the squeezing of my uterus on my period. Before it was mostly just pain in there, now it's actually a feeling of it being squoshed. Like Hulk himself has his hands on my uterus and ovaries but his hands have shards of hot glass embedded in them. And that's on a normal day not even a bad one. I have debilitating cramps.
Exactly. Actually it's like the first hours of giving birth.
@@helgaioannidis9365 I am all but completely bedridden the first one to two days of my period. I have a good heating pad that helps, but I can't use it if I leave the house.
@@cheyannehiland6306 they actually make car heating pads believe it or not. But I would go get yourself checked out if your pain is that bad
From a young age you’re overly sexualised and told it’s on you…
Oh, and at some point you’re going to get either assaulted or just harassed bc not all men a bad, but there’s just enough of them to make it everyone else’s problem
I've been harassed I told them to feck off or they won't have any hands left
8:17 *weak female athlete*
"An average man could probably beat her."
*strong female athlete*
"OMG SHE MUST BE A TRANS WOMAN! THIS IS SO UNFAIR!!!"
Feeling different every week of the month depending on different hormone levels, period, pms, ovulation, etc.
Not being in the mood and being worried the relationship will fall apart if you don’t do it with them often enough. Like not being in the mood when your partner is constantly and feeling like you are failing them or they will resent you or wanting to be for them but just can’t .. sucks for any gender.
For me, its them not taking you saying "no" in any sense of the word seriously and still try to force it or wear you down into saying yes just to get them to stop, only for it to repeat again everyday.
this is also an ace/asexual mood tbh as well (if youre the type to do it to make your partner happy)
Never have sex when you are not feeling like it...you are a partner, not a sexworker! (Even they are allowed to say no!)
I remember working with this girl and I don't know how/why this ever came up but she told me about a coworker who told her she looked like some anime character but with smaller breasts. Obviously she didn't feel comfortable about that but like most women she let it slide.
I don't remember why but I told her that it was better to talk to him and let him know that she didn't like those remarks. I told her that sometimes that's seriously how some guys flirt as it didn't sound like sexual harassment. (Turns out I was right and he genuinely didn't mean any harm and they both got along after that. Saved both of them some time with the worlds shitiest HR. They would of either fired him or reduced either if not both of their hours)
Sounds like you have a HR from hell!
Glad everything worked out.
Explaining pms cramps. It’s like the pain you get 15 seconds after being punched in the gut but it lasts 24hr for 3-5 days every month.
There's a post floating around of a guy with his lower half being eaten by a shark. A man asked if this what period cramps felt like, and the comments were like, "I'm being serious, but yes" and "no, really, the sarcasm in this thread is literally 0%."
That’s a dull pain. Is it not sharp like I heard it was? Either way, if that’s what it feels like, that sound like torture.
@@happypiano4810 It varies from woman to woman- and it also depends on her activity level. more activity usually stunts period for some reason. when i was super active in the past i went 4 months without having a period and when i did finally have it it was like someone was wringing my uterus like a rag with all of their might- so much so i felt it in my legs and back. I stayed home that day and slept.
Once I was walking at night with 2 male friends and they kept asking me why i walked so damn fast. I realized that when you're a woman, you're constantly scared of being assaulted, thus making me walk super fast subconsciously
20:35 I feel that. I got told that if I don't have kids, I am selfish.
Or being told the same if you only want one kid.
@@morticiaaddams7866 I was told that too, mostly by other women. I then demonstrated how I am quite the harridan.
F*** those people. 🙄
Oh I get that a lot too! I hate it! And then I list all my psychological stuff up, that shuts them up :3 And is a huge step into my personal space bubble...
Or "you will change on the future" Yes i will change... Not in that matter.
Just because I'm a girl, people expect me to be sympathetic. No. I have no idea what to do when you talk about personal stuff to me.
For example: My best friend's dad is coming back to her house after being abroad for two years. She told me this and about how she's nervous to meet him in person again. I had no idea what to say to her. My dad works near our home and I still don't know how to greet him properly when he comes home. How do you expect me to help her with her issue?
Still, when I told this to my mom, she got disappointed in me because "I'm a girl, I should be able to know how to console her" I know my emotions and how to handle them, but that, in no way, means that I can help someone else with theirs. I'll just make it even worse.
I am, most of the time, very insensitive to others feelings. You break up with your boyfriend? Cry a bit then get up and walk it off. Your mom died? Everyone dies. It's a part of life, get on with it. You are insecure? There's no reason to. Everyone has different shape and size and body, it just means you're unique. Why be insecure about something so stupid and out of your control?
These sound like the perfect answers to me, but that isn't the case. Most people think of it as rude and cruel but it's just how I see things.
The whole "I have a boyfriend" line needing to be used because many men respect the threat of another man more then then having the ability to handle a simple "no" from another woman. First time I had to use that line was in 7th grade against another 7th grader who couldn't take no for an answer.
Thank you for putting up a video without a stutter/playback error! It's so rare in these robo-reader videos to not encounter at least one so the complete absence is always refreshing! Seriously, thank you!! 😊💚
I feel like a goddess because I don’t get period cramps
same here 😌👋
(edit: i wasn't sure what you represented as 😅)
That changed in my late 40's. Started passing clots the size of kittens while pulling stock all day.
Omggg luckyy😣 i got cramps watching this video bc i get reminded of them
You probably are. :)
Tell me your secrets.
Women have to be more selective when choosing mates,because raising a child takes a lot of energy,time,and resources.Having children with the wrong man takes a whole lot more from you.So ladies keep your standards high.
Okay, dude, that's not a gender issue, that is a Universal, Social Issue.
@Jas Yann We have the burden of taking care of said pregnant spouse. You can't use a burden excuse and ignore the other person's inevitable burden, which is why we are selective as well.
@Jas Yann So you're saying in specific countries instead of in general?
In that case it's a apple to orange comparison, which goes back to my second point, because this original comment makes it out to be in general when that's not the case, which the what I was focusing on.
Also the unmarried babies part, theres still boyfriends as well.
If you're meaning single mothers, then if youre struggling with it, you made a decision to bring life into the world where you weren't even ready. And well as the many many factors so broad that it becomes moot.
@Jas Yann Also, no women do get financial support who arent married its call palimony.
And that birth certificate part is only if he is unwed.
And let's not forget the man being expected to be the caregiver of the relationship or be judged being a stay at home dad.
Also you forget that you have all the rights until paternity and the father has no say, these just being available balances it out.
It's our biological and social imperative to choose the best mate and father for our children and so sex for us is not as carefree as it for men.The push for women to lower their standards is very detrimental in the long run.
The Strict timeline that society’s has us on . While men can figure out their life until their mid thirties & decide to want a family based off of their income and their life experiences . Men get to enjoy their youth 16-25 without rushing to find a STABEL life partner or have children . All while meeting our personal life goals . Then once we get 26-29 it’s a rush to find it before 30 without any hiccups . Aka kids , making the right amount of money because too much lowers your dating options , too little makes you a potential victim . It’s low key ridiculous
When i was 13 my older female family members accused me of flirting with a grown man. I have no idea what i did and that was hurtful as hell
Re: 25:04.
Oh really? Um, I was obese from age 19-52 (male). Pretty much disenfranchised due to my weight. Considerable difficulty getting work (hold degrees in Computer Science and now Nursing). Practically no friends from age 25 on. Being on the short side (5'7") and living in Southern California didn't exactly help.
Biggest damn surprise in 58 years was...how very differently I'm treated now that I'm at a "socially acceptable" weight. It's like the "congratulations, you're now a person" switch got thrown. And, being a nurse I've discussed this with women. Same experience, point by point. It's not specific by sex - the way obese people are treated in contemporary American society is, in a word, shameful.
Honestly, the best desicion I ever made concerning my period was getting a menstrual cup. I put it in and can just forget about it for about 8-12 hours.
It doesnt last that long for me but yes they r great! I was terrified of using them in the beginning but you don't feel them at all and there is a lower risk of infections and other issues. They r the best!
That is way too long, 6 hours is the max. / it is not about overflow but about bacterial build-up. Do not go there!
@@muurrarium9460 pretty sure you can in fact leave it in there this long. I talked about it with my gynecologist and she said it was no problem. Also the material used is antibacterial. Pretty sure there is less bacteria in that thing than if you'd use a pad or sth
Talking about 8-10 btw idk more could in fact be a problem
I’ve tried one and it was an epic failure. Like monumental failure. It was more painful than any cramp I’ve ever had. I had so many issues with it, it was gone within half an hour. Never trying that again.
The medical industry can be such a problem for women and I don’t want to even think about how often these problems that are misdiagnosed because our identification is based on men’s information or simply disregarded led to women in chronic pain for ages and death in some cases.
It’s ridiculous that half the population has to go through this and people aren’t becoming more aware!!!!!!!
That last one really hits home. As a “plus size” (22/24) woman, I am often essentially treated like there is something wrong with me, even within my own extended family. I rarely feel attractive, it takes a real effort to even feel pretty a lot of days. The last time anyone even asked if I was dating anyone was over 8 years ago. I want to try and exercise more and improve my self-esteem, but finding the motivation to do it on my own is difficult, and going to a gym with the potential of being ridiculed for it is terrifying.
No one will talk crap about you in a gym. I promise. People are just in their zone, they aren't paying attention to you as most are listening to the newest Metallica album or something. And you aren't alone in those feelings of being "ridiculed" or being judged. Everyone there does or has felt the same. But you can't let mental war like that keep you from being a healthier you. Also, a simple 30 minute walk in the morning and small meal adjustments a day can help a lot. A gym isn't the only answer, most weight loss is about food routine/consistency and eating more filling/healthier foods to keep you full longer between meals). Some people can go straight up and start with the gym- but most people stay on the treadmill for a few days or weeks until they get more comfortable and then try some smaller weights and move from there- because the gym is an area where people can often feel very vulnerable.
Hey Sister, I'm a size 28 on the bottom, 26 on top, and I need to exercise because my knees aren't built for this! But what really helps me is going to therapy for my Depression, low self-esteem, anxiety, bipolar disorder, and PTSD. I wasn't even comfortable leaving the house before I had more support from friends and my therapist. I'm proud of you for commenting here, Kymmie, that was brave, and your honesty is awesome! Your friends support and the people who're there for you no matter what, that can really get you started. I workout in a pool, Aqua aerobics with a bunch of senior ladies. They're very encouraging. You can do it!
@@JoyfulOrb Keep up the good work! You deserve happiness.
About female clothing and pockets - I think this was created by men. Lets say you have one of those nice dresses that accentuate girl's curves, if that has pockets and you put stuff in them, it will ruin her curves, and probably will also look very stylistically unappealing.
That and fashion industry: let's not give them pockets so that they have to buy yet another expensive item
Its a fucking pocket conspiracy, thats why I buy guy pants and stuff, for the pockets lol I can fit so much in there.
@@sunnishae5047 I buy guy pants but as more than one medical professional has pointed out I have male legs, my legs muscles are too big for female pants, if I was to get a dress id just sew pockets on to them or on the inside, I'm not one for fashion rather sew pockets on to a dress and feel comfortable tbh
Ship at hot topic all their dresses have pockets! ♥️😂
I've been reading about 1700s fashion. At some point, women DID have pockets (depending on the type of dress, they were either literal pockets you tied around your waist over your underclothes right before you put on your dress, or panniers - basically those hip things that held the dress up - with slits in them).
Which means sometime in the last three centuries, someone somewhere decided that pockets - whether tie-on, pannier, or sewn in - simply weren't fashionable anymore.
And then the fashion industry took advantage.
You could be the oldest sibling but if your female youre treated as younger than the first born male
I still run into this. My younger brother is always assumed to be older than me 🙄
That pumpkin analogy is so good though
And if you have something like endometriosis men don’t understand that you are not even able to stand up without pain . You would do anything not to hurt . I am so glad that I am finished that part of my life.
I'm an endo patient myself and can vouch it sucks
how I describe my period pain: "it feels like my lady parts are about to burst like a balloon."
Before i got on the pill, it felt like a full grown elephant was stepping on me. It still feels like crap, but i take 2 midol and feel better within an hour.
It’s so FRUSTRATING to go swimming before your period! It’s actually worse than going DURING your period. Because at least if you’re on your period, you know and can wear a tampon. But if you’re about to start, it’s this constant fear that it will start in the pool or when wearing your swimsuit. I’ve worn tampons before my period (even though you’re not supposed to) just cause I was worried about it starting while swimming! And don’t get me started with putting on your bra after swimming. That stupid thing gets all twisted and sticks and it’s impossible to put on!
2:20
I told my doctor that my cramps felt like someone stomping on my uterus with a golf shoe.
He laughed his ass off and then said he'd remember that for other AFAB patients.
I went to a female obgyn monday afternoon and told her about my period before and after the pill. She totally understood. I knew that if i went to a male obgyn that i would get laughed out of the office. She also helped me to consider other birth control options. It was nice
When I had my period I already knew what it was so I didn't freak. Also, I never heard or saw my mom treating it as taboo, so when I had my period (having mostly guy friends), I would tell them and they would be awkward at first, but got used to it. So we gotta start normalizing this, and if questions are asked, answer them. It's good if they're interested enough to learn and ask.
I knew a guy who acted all gentlemanly and nice to everyone, but was in fact incredibly mysoginistic and just a dong in general. He ended up harassing/assaulting two of my (ex) friends (they were also dongs and for some reason blamed me for my own sexual harassment) but still doesn’t excuse what he did to them.
The period ones make me smile because I’ve had a hysterectomy and no longer have periods but I’ll add these.
Not all women want to hand children or be mothers~
Not all women want to get married or dreamed of their wedding day~
Parenting is not just the mother’s responsibility. It takes two to make a baby and the father should be just as involved as the mother~
If a guy learns you're asexual, you get a ton of creepy comments about how he can "make you like it" or "you just haven't met the right man yet". It's even worse if it's found out you don't want children.
You just reminded me of a really bad experience I had
1:08 I wonder why. I am a woman and even I cringed. For me it's like when you do so many crunches or sit ups your stomach feels sore, except It's more intense and doesn't go away.
2:06 That description of period cramps really hit the nail on the head for me. I'll be using that one in the future.
20:40 I am a woman below the age of 30.
I requested a medical procedure that might make me unable to get biological children. I was warned about this. But I simply said that I don't want any biological children and that was it.
The medical procedure was hormone replacement therapy because I am a transgender woman.
It perplexes me to know that it's easier for me to choose to become infertile than it is for a cisgender woman?! O_O
Another thing about bras, is that (in my experience) it’s so hard and so expensive to find a bra that caters to someone with big boobs but small back. In the ten years I’ve been wearing bras, I’ve only found one that actually fits properly, it was £85. I’ve tried every different store I could find and nothing really fits. It’s so annoying and uncomfortable.
Or small boobs & a wide back... 😉
I thought people in the west were way more forward about periods than this. I am an Indian(18m) who lives in Saudi and periods were not a point of discussion but we talk about it and when my sister started her periods friends and family came bearing gifts ,etc. I talk about how hard its for women being up-front about abuse and have told her I am always there, etc.
Many of the problems can be solved if the next generation of mothers teach their kids about the above mentioned problems.
And , there are many women in clothing industry and the pockets thing is mostly women against women.
probably periods. the mess, waking up and cleaning your sheets, etc. its a pain to do every month.
When I was 13 I got my period and I celebrated for the first six hours of finally being a woman
After six hours I decided that it sucked so much plus I bleed very heavily and get that bad of cramps that I’m in the fetal position crying my eyes out not being able to move a proper muscle and can’t hydrate or nourish the body when it needs to cause it causes more cramps
I have had the implanton for 4-5years now and will have to get it out next year and then get it back in I dread the three years when it had to come out
Because even though I get terrible cramping when I do bleed it’s nothing compare to the The feeling of being run over by thousands of cars every second without the bloody thing in
I honestly wouldn’t be surprised if you have endometriosis. Especially if the implant is having such a positive impact. I’d recommend looking into it, if you haven’t already.
13 years old is not a woman
I was once getting some Ramune, and I was with my mom, and she asked to see the ingredients, so I showed her. She told me "If you wanna kill half of your eggs, go ahead." I am fucking 15... Bruh. I get it's bad for me, but why do you AS A WOMAN, have to basically tell me I am a baby making machine?
All of these are depressingly true.
Being a woman is hard enough, being treated as one is so much worse.
Trying to find a pair of pants that actually fits and that passes the thigh, butt, waist, and sitting test. Same goes for trying to find shirts that passes the chest, tummy and arm test. Guys thinking that women can't like things that are geeky, like dungeons & dragons, anime, manga, comics and so on. Once a woman says that they like those things, the nice guys and neckbeards come running after her.
I’m honestly waiting for the day to hear on the news a kid didn’t keep walking as she was sexually harassed from a van & instead pulled out a gun, and started shooting at the pervs. Obviously wrong but I wouldn’t be sorry to hear such a story.
1:10 described it way better than I ever could😭
That not all women can wear what they want :/
Some people-well… they aren’t always the best and can be creepy pervs ._.
Can anyone relate tho? Or is it just me..
The not being taken seriously by doctors, I feel this. I'd been phoning my GP for months telling them that I had such severe anxiety and depression that I couldn't leave the house or take care of myself, they sent me to the mental health nurse, then she sent me back to the GP, then back to the mental health nurse and it went absolutely nowhere. The second my partner called up and argued with them about how it's going to be their fault if I kill myself, I was called twice a week for a month, offered therapy and medication and now I'm doing a million times better. Imagine if I didn't have him, I'd probably be dead.
Pants. I'm not just salty over the no pockets thing, I'm PISSED that a size 7 is not the same fit as a pair of jeans, THE EXACT SAME PAIR, in black as it was in blue or white.
The fact that a size 7 at Walmart fits me perfectly, but a size 7 at Rue21 or whatever other store is TOO SMALL or TOO BIG. While men pick out a 34x36 pair of jeans WITH POCKETS, at ANY store, and it'll fit.
My husband finally understood the pocket situation when he went to push my phone down further in my pocket (it looked to him like it was going to fall out.) Him: "why is it not going down?" * Proccceded to take the phone out of my pocket and stick his hand in* Him:"What??? Why is your pocket less than half the size of mine?!? I didn't know that! So this is why you always asked me to put your stuff in my pockets." 😂😂
I had PPD and I couldn't count to four to scoop out four scoops of formula. I was that tired and that zombie. It was hell.
I'm glad I got help
1:03 i actually got phantom cramps bc of this lmao
I’m betting female friendships used to be more stereotypical and catty when the women who were friends only knew each other by proxy of the husband. I’m sure that forced by circumstances friendships cause a lot more high school type drama than friendships that develop organically based on who the woman wants to chill with rather than being pushed into her husbands friends wives. I hate hanging with older couples where the men and women split off in convo, like no I want to be at the adult table, thanks tho.
People think girls are really mean to each other, but it is such a big misconception that has been inflated by the media. Sure there are some rotten apples, but most girls are extremely supportive of each other. e.g. This girl went to the bathroom during gym and while she was gone one of her friends said, "She's so pretty!" and the other girl was like, "IKR!!! Her hair is actually amazing!!!" Then she came back and asked what they were talking about and their response was, "Nothing hun, just how awesome you are!" MY HEART ACTUALLY MELTED