Chilling reminder to anyone who has dealt with abusive or neglectful parents: don't do harmful drugs/too much alcohol. if you're addicted to harmful drugs or alcohol, it's always better to be sober. Don't perpetuate the cycle of abuse, kids.
doing drugs isn't abusive. actions and speech can be, but not just doing substances. and pharma is harmful drugging too. just a reminder. the "wa r on dr uuuggs" has really brainwashed everyone into thinking it's morally wrong to do drugs... but magically only if you didn't get some white coated clueless creep to sign off on it. lol
This reminded me of the relationship with my own father. It's similar, but we are still somewhat close. If there is something left to be salvaged, a bond that can be restored, then restore it. But, if your father is too far gone, too focused on himself and his desires to see what he's doing to his son, then the only thing you can do is forgive him. Not for his sake, but your own. Acknowledge and accept all that has happened, good or bad, and move forward. Leave a line of communication open so that should he realize what he's lost in his pursuit of his desires, he still has a way to come back to you if he's truly willing to repair the relationship with his son that he damaged. But, if by chance that day doesn't come, then be grateful for the good times and forgive him for the bad times. Forgive him for your sake so that you don't end up resenting and despising him. So you don't let any hatred of him fill your heart with poison, which will only stop you from moving on and becoming the man you are supposed to be. It's hard sometimes, but you'll get through this. All of us people who have been unwilling bystanders and victims of our fathers brokenness. We'll get through this together. One step and one day at a time.
You hold him dearly but yet far apart, I wish some dads would realize that their children are out there wanting the love just the same, no matter what happened between their then wife or girlfriend, there should always be that spot for their kids, I salute you man, keep it up..
As a father of an estranged son. You have grown beyond your years. I’m not going to tell you to reconnect with him, but I will ask you to always leave the door open for opportunity. However, I will also add that my Father died when I was your age and learned that the future isn’t promised to us. I pray that God continues to bless you with wisdom and guidance. Thanks for the video, it was very touching.
@@brendanspiegel Maybe it wasn’t the right time. Maybe your father has some growing and healing before the right time can occur. In the meantIme lean on God, he will never abandon you. Not to sound preachy. But through him I discovered true love. Enjoy your Christmas!
I remember a dad who had a 16 year son. Mom started to lose control. So she called dad. They figured he quit them both. They thought he lived too far away from them. He suddenly showed up. 16 year old was pushing mom around and she needed dad to do something. He appeared to want to be a friend to his son again. He told his son, 'Never touch my wife again' He left the next morning and never came back
All I can say is , having happy memories and unfavorable memories are okay . It was a time an place for you to have . It’s never the kid/teen / really young adult faults. when parents have been neglectful and can’t understand “why “ some forget they themselves were that young too. ( and honestly I as parent am glad you were able to open up to your self in a letter.) bring different realizations.
truly amazing especially at the end you didn’t let the past overcome you, forgiveness doesn’t really mean going back to what’s supposed to be, sometimes it’s about acknowledgement and acceptance
"And gave you 1 last chance..." Some of us fathers who got shafted by the unfair system for years then had our kids kept away from us and brainwashed against us, we'd just like the ONE chance. Just one would be enough.
You will never find piece. You seem smart enough to eventually realize that the world does not revolve around your highness, that you meant something to your father, that you were his hope of a better version of himself and that you are generationally pampered into the abyss of weakness. You will realize, eventually, though will never admit, that you are not now and will never grow up to mount to a quarter of the man you estranged yourself from. And yes, you will never eat the sauce for your child because you will never have a child; it’s too much responsibility for your highness. Go on, pluck the fruits of irresponsibility, disloyalty and indulgence. You ran away from your father, but can you run from yourself?
My dad forced my mom into homelessness and tried to do the same to me after he smoked himself into psychosis and claimed I wasn't his son. He was mentally unstable, something I'm sure you relate to.
@@brendanspiegel Yes I relate to that and nothing in your video indicated this level of abuse. I am a father who loves his three children and supported them sacrificed so much for them. My youngest son, after entering college decided to distance himself. I still have no clue as to why and what he would gain. If it is freedom he seeks in order to grow, the three thousand miles between us should be enough distance. All that I requested is that I speak with him once a week to know that he is fine. I do not know if it is a phase he is passing through or a decision he made, which I presume it is. Either way, it has been so perplexing for me and so painful. I see his behavior as utter weakness. There is nothing noble in it. Sorry about what happened to you with your dad. You seem like a decent, intelligent young man to try to find closure in a letter when most others would have walked away damaged.
@@kakashifight6907 Understood, I talk about my falling out more specifically in an older video. I tried to write this one more as I was talking to him directly. I wouldn't bring up all the bad things he did in that situation. Wish you guys the best I thought a family therapist could help.
@@allenvenegas1958 blindly abiding by someone just because they're related to you is why the cycle of family abuse continues I chose to break the curse
Narcissists get much worse with age, I found out the hard way.
This is a very open and vulnerable look at your feelings to your dad and I feel like a lot of young males can relate. #salute brother
Chilling reminder to anyone who has dealt with abusive or neglectful parents: don't do harmful drugs/too much alcohol. if you're addicted to harmful drugs or alcohol, it's always better to be sober. Don't perpetuate the cycle of abuse, kids.
doing drugs isn't abusive. actions and speech can be, but not just doing substances.
and pharma is harmful drugging too. just a reminder. the "wa r on dr uuuggs" has really brainwashed everyone into thinking it's morally wrong to do drugs... but magically only if you didn't get some white coated clueless creep to sign off on it. lol
This reminded me of the relationship with my own father. It's similar, but we are still somewhat close. If there is something left to be salvaged, a bond that can be restored, then restore it. But, if your father is too far gone, too focused on himself and his desires to see what he's doing to his son, then the only thing you can do is forgive him. Not for his sake, but your own. Acknowledge and accept all that has happened, good or bad, and move forward. Leave a line of communication open so that should he realize what he's lost in his pursuit of his desires, he still has a way to come back to you if he's truly willing to repair the relationship with his son that he damaged.
But, if by chance that day doesn't come, then be grateful for the good times and forgive him for the bad times. Forgive him for your sake so that you don't end up resenting and despising him. So you don't let any hatred of him fill your heart with poison, which will only stop you from moving on and becoming the man you are supposed to be. It's hard sometimes, but you'll get through this. All of us people who have been unwilling bystanders and victims of our fathers brokenness. We'll get through this together. One step and one day at a time.
You hold him dearly but yet far apart, I wish some dads would realize that their children are out there wanting the love just the same, no matter what happened between their then wife or girlfriend, there should always be that spot for their kids, I salute you man, keep it up..
As a father of an estranged son. You have grown beyond your years. I’m not going to tell you to reconnect with him, but I will ask you to always leave the door open for opportunity. However, I will also add that my Father died when I was your age and learned that the future isn’t promised to us. I pray that God continues to bless you with wisdom and guidance. Thanks for the video, it was very touching.
@@donh1572 I did and it didn't work out for us.
Appreciate your support and wish you the best.
@@brendanspiegel Maybe it wasn’t the right time. Maybe your father has some growing and healing before the right time can occur. In the meantIme lean on God, he will never abandon you. Not to sound preachy. But through him I discovered true love. Enjoy your Christmas!
@@donh1572 appreciate it
Have a good Christmas and New Years
I remember a dad who had a 16 year son. Mom started to lose control. So she called dad. They figured he quit them both. They thought he lived too far away from them. He suddenly showed up. 16 year old was pushing mom around and she needed dad to do something. He appeared to want to be a friend to his son again. He told his son, 'Never touch my wife again' He left the next morning and never came back
All I can say is , having happy memories and unfavorable memories are okay . It was a time an place for you to have . It’s never the kid/teen / really young adult faults. when parents have been neglectful and can’t understand “why “ some forget they themselves were that young too. ( and honestly I as parent am glad you were able to open up to your self in a letter.) bring different realizations.
Gorgeous video
❤️
This is beautiful. Thank you for sharing it.
truly amazing especially at the end you didn’t let the past overcome you, forgiveness doesn’t really mean going back to what’s supposed to be, sometimes it’s about acknowledgement and acceptance
A wholesome way to delivery a letter to someone i like it
Beautiful great video💰🔥🔥
Great video as always.
A beautiful video as always
A good letter and a great video.
definitely resonated with me, great video man 👍🏽
That is sad but you grown well
I hope you and your father find peace and happiness
Great video and great visuals 🔥
"And gave you 1 last chance..."
Some of us fathers who got shafted by the unfair system for years then had our kids kept away from us and brainwashed against us, we'd just like the ONE chance. Just one would be enough.
I met with him since the video and decided it was best to separate
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I hope making this video was healing for your inner child ❤️ you heal mine with every upload
Thank you that means a lot
I got over it
Good for you
You will never find piece. You seem smart enough to eventually realize that the world does not revolve around your highness, that you meant something to your father, that you were his hope of a better version of himself and that you are generationally pampered into the abyss of weakness.
You will realize, eventually, though will never admit, that you are not now and will never grow up to mount to a quarter of the man you estranged yourself from.
And yes, you will never eat the sauce for your child because you will never have a child; it’s too much responsibility for your highness.
Go on, pluck the fruits of irresponsibility, disloyalty and indulgence. You ran away from your father, but can you run from yourself?
My dad forced my mom into homelessness and tried to do the same to me after he smoked himself into psychosis and claimed I wasn't his son.
He was mentally unstable, something I'm sure you relate to.
@@brendanspiegel Yes I relate to that and nothing in your video indicated this level of abuse.
I am a father who loves his three children and supported them sacrificed so much for them. My youngest son, after entering college decided to distance himself. I still have no clue as to why and what he would gain.
If it is freedom he seeks in order to grow, the three thousand miles between us should be enough distance. All that I requested is that I speak with him once a week to know that he is fine.
I do not know if it is a phase he is passing through or a decision he made, which I presume it is. Either way, it has been so perplexing for me and so painful.
I see his behavior as utter weakness. There is nothing noble in it.
Sorry about what happened to you with your dad. You seem like a decent, intelligent young man to try to find closure in a letter when most others would have walked away damaged.
@@kakashifight6907 Understood, I talk about my falling out more specifically in an older video.
I tried to write this one more as I was talking to him directly. I wouldn't bring up all the bad things he did in that situation.
Wish you guys the best I thought a family therapist could help.
Just shut up boomer. Nobody owes you anything
Be careful how you disrespect your father. We are commanded to honor our parents.
@@allenvenegas1958 blindly abiding by someone just because they're related to you is why the cycle of family abuse continues
I chose to break the curse