You are bloody amazing! I've loved both of your videos on Deep. It took me years after my divorce to finally come out as kinky and I've not looked back, since.
Honestly I can hear in your voice the relief when describing when you found kink and your community and feel like when I joined the scene, I felt more at home than I did before. I didn't realise until a friend made my joint fetlife where I went down the rabbit hole and been there since. What's funny is that friends and family joined the kink scene before I even realised I was too.
While I’m not especially kinky myself I am certainly an ally and supporter of those who are and I cannot understate the importance of conversations, interviews and videos like this. Hearing the accounts of someone who has been there and suffered silently with their sexuality, not *because* of their sexuality but because of the world and the cruel, judgemental nature of people, is heartbreaking but also crucially important for us to learn from. Ariel speaks with such maturity, eloquence and conviction, and it is something people could learn a lot from, especially those who mock kink and kinky people. What she said about kink and how and why some things are called ‘kinky’ while others aren’t is an excellent point - where is the threshold and who defines that? Sexuality is not some linear line which everyone follows, it’s a kaleidoscope of twisting and intertwining lines where different tastes and paths mix, just like life itself, and just because you might not share a particular taste that doesn’t mean others don’t like it, and that doesn’t mean you have to disparage them for liking it. Be curious, be open and be kind so people don’t have to live in fear and shame. Thank you for hosting an important conversation like this and giving voices to people like Ariel to talk about important subjects, and thank you to Ariel for being so candid, enlightening and unflinching in her convictions.
Hi, courageous woman. As an ex-JW myself I can confirm the deep rooted power of self denial and shame. It's so deeply ingrained. But then the leap to freedom you made! I can imagine that it didn't go fluently (and maybe it did, I wasn't there). The emotions that come to the surface only show how deep this went. I am in awe. Besides, you would be a very good information person for bdsm and what it is to be kinky or just a bit different in general, where sexual proclivities are concerned. Props to you, ma'am.
For many, many years I have felt a deep affinity with the content created by Ariel Anderssen, especially the bondage aspect of BDSM. And I have come to appreciate the strong [feministic] advocacy she is doing over at her own @ArielsTwilightYears channel here on RUclips. In German we have a very poignant term to help make the distinction between fantasy and reality: “Kopfkino”. That quite literally means “movie theater in your head”. And a LOT of things we see there should better be left there. Either because they are too dangerous, too expensive, unrealistic, unfeasible, uncomfortable or impossible. Thank you for sharing this very insightful “interview”. And thank you to Ariel for sharing your experiences and insights.
07:30 I also remember reading about that same incident: A self-bondage self-asphyxiation experience gone wrong. For me that was/is a cautionary tale to be a lot more careful about escape methods while practicing self-bondage. Because I had some pretty hairy experiences, including some claustrophobia triggered panic attacks, I have become very cautious with self-bondage. Almost to the point of avoiding it. But since I am neurodivergent, on the ACE-spectrum and living alone and lonely, I am left with an itch I can not scratch and a deep longing that is left unsatisfied. It has only been in the last three or four years that I have been in a place where a kink “community” has been available within less than 2'000 km. Unfortunately for me, the [now] local kink community is focused way to much on the sex and intercourse aspect, as well as pre-existing relationships, that I have been unable to feel welcome and accepted. Since a lot of sexual innuendo or overt sexual implication directed at me triggers some very deeply rooted PTSD related to very traumatic experiences from my early childhood.
@@Holladawg I'm sorry, we all can't be as dysfunctional as you to need some other complexity to distract us from the truth that we shouldn't feel like we needed BDSM in the first place
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Thank you for having me, I love this channel!
Thank you for joining us!!
You are bloody amazing! I've loved both of your videos on Deep.
It took me years after my divorce to finally come out as kinky and I've not looked back, since.
This is awesome
Honestly I can hear in your voice the relief when describing when you found kink and your community and feel like when I joined the scene, I felt more at home than I did before. I didn't realise until a friend made my joint fetlife where I went down the rabbit hole and been there since. What's funny is that friends and family joined the kink scene before I even realised I was too.
@@AndrewJShirley I'm so glad you found your community too! It's an amazing feeling!
Ariel seems really joyful. It was a delight to watch her talk so intelligently about something she clearly really enjoys
We loved meeting her!
Fascinating, insightful, tasteful and self-empowering. Thanks for sharing so comfortably
While I’m not especially kinky myself I am certainly an ally and supporter of those who are and I cannot understate the importance of conversations, interviews and videos like this. Hearing the accounts of someone who has been there and suffered silently with their sexuality, not *because* of their sexuality but because of the world and the cruel, judgemental nature of people, is heartbreaking but also crucially important for us to learn from. Ariel speaks with such maturity, eloquence and conviction, and it is something people could learn a lot from, especially those who mock kink and kinky people. What she said about kink and how and why some things are called ‘kinky’ while others aren’t is an excellent point - where is the threshold and who defines that? Sexuality is not some linear line which everyone follows, it’s a kaleidoscope of twisting and intertwining lines where different tastes and paths mix, just like life itself, and just because you might not share a particular taste that doesn’t mean others don’t like it, and that doesn’t mean you have to disparage them for liking it. Be curious, be open and be kind so people don’t have to live in fear and shame. Thank you for hosting an important conversation like this and giving voices to people like Ariel to talk about important subjects, and thank you to Ariel for being so candid, enlightening and unflinching in her convictions.
Fantastic interview.
Thanks for sharing.
Nothing more beautiful ( inside and out) than an authentic unapologetic person ❤
Thanks for watching!
Ariel is so brave to be this honest. Thank You for Being.
If being honest is brave, then surely being dishonest is cowardist.......which I strongly suspect you and 95% of the population are.
Hi, courageous woman. As an ex-JW myself I can confirm the deep rooted power of self denial and shame. It's so deeply ingrained. But then the leap to freedom you made! I can imagine that it didn't go fluently (and maybe it did, I wasn't there). The emotions that come to the surface only show how deep this went. I am in awe. Besides, you would be a very good information person for bdsm and what it is to be kinky or just a bit different in general, where sexual proclivities are concerned. Props to you, ma'am.
Thank you, and I hope for the very best for your future too!
For many, many years I have felt a deep affinity with the content created by Ariel Anderssen, especially the bondage aspect of BDSM. And I have come to appreciate the strong [feministic] advocacy she is doing over at her own @ArielsTwilightYears channel here on RUclips. In German we have a very poignant term to help make the distinction between fantasy and reality: “Kopfkino”. That quite literally means “movie theater in your head”. And a LOT of things we see there should better be left there. Either because they are too dangerous, too expensive, unrealistic, unfeasible, uncomfortable or impossible.
Thank you for sharing this very insightful “interview”. And thank you to Ariel for sharing your experiences and insights.
07:30 I also remember reading about that same incident: A self-bondage self-asphyxiation experience gone wrong. For me that was/is a cautionary tale to be a lot more careful about escape methods while practicing self-bondage. Because I had some pretty hairy experiences, including some claustrophobia triggered panic attacks, I have become very cautious with self-bondage. Almost to the point of avoiding it. But since I am neurodivergent, on the ACE-spectrum and living alone and lonely, I am left with an itch I can not scratch and a deep longing that is left unsatisfied. It has only been in the last three or four years that I have been in a place where a kink “community” has been available within less than 2'000 km. Unfortunately for me, the [now] local kink community is focused way to much on the sex and intercourse aspect, as well as pre-existing relationships, that I have been unable to feel welcome and accepted. Since a lot of sexual innuendo or overt sexual implication directed at me triggers some very deeply rooted PTSD related to very traumatic experiences from my early childhood.
❤ beautiful representation, thank you
Thank you for watching!
Love the inclusity!
Very interesting...
10 years time You will be promoted to Head Mistress or Governor 😂 well presented and answered 🤩Excellent interview
I still dont get it....
You sound like my dad
the women youre with probably dont get you so it goes full circle
That’s ok, you don’t have to get it, just be respectful of and toward those who do.
@@Holladawg I'm sorry, we all can't be as dysfunctional as you to need some other complexity to distract us from the truth that we shouldn't feel like we needed BDSM in the first place
NOBODY should kink shame or judge anyone for their Lifestyle preference
2:20 same here