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@Geoffreysetiawan my ex was together for seven months in I am blocked on everything I was always being rude in saying rude things in throwing things I use to live with her I broke no contact in October she says she moved on in that I should go in she is happy with who she with in her new boyfriend text me from her phone is it impossible to get her back if I’m blocked on all social media
I recently started watching you and have started to make changes for about a month now. My wife and I are on a break, but still living together. It’s only been about 2 weeks. We do small talk at the end of the day but that’s about it. No real contact and definitely no sex for about 6 weeks now. Im working hard on changing, but sometimes the old me still slips by. I know it takes time, it’s like when you put out a fire the flame is gone, but the smoke takes a while to fully disappear. That’s how im feeling about my changes so far. Love your videos, it gives me hope and the strength to keep going.
Geoffrey bro i am doing all the things you told i gave her space also i took space from her but no i am bettering myself for her if she comes back. She needs time. Thank uuu i understood lot of facts and true reasons thanks to you. ❤ also one thing i don't need to chase her or convince her anything now. ❤
Unfortunately this is the reason my partner of 12 years gave me for leaving. And since then she’s refusing to engage with me about the relationship at all. She says she’s seen my changes and trusts them but her feelings have died for such a long time that they can’t ever be revived - “irreparably changed” is what she’s saying. I continue to show my changes but she just says “sorry, damage done, but I’m proud of you for changing. Your next relationship will work out.” Now what?
I'm (32m) kind of in the same boat since my breakup 3 months ago. 8 year relationship (29f). Saved up for a ring. She seems to be so completely over me. I've found out she hasn't even mentioned my name to her friends since like a week after our breakup, and has been dating and partying and sleeping with other men since then as well and told me she's way happier. I see her once a week to switch custody of our dog, and she doesn't even look me in the eye anymore. We don't talk about our relationship or really anything at all and she has no interest in talking about 'us' because in her mind there really deeply seems to be no 'us,' even after 8 years. Any thoughts?
@@gauntrek @Infinitevanity You both are asking the question "What's next" as if I didn't just make a video about it. :) Do you think it would be more useful to talk about what you learned from the video and how those learnings can be applied to your situation? e.g. Are you guys focusing on the right things and next steps here? Is the reason why you guys can't see next steps because you guys are looking for the wrong answers and asking the wrong questions (As I mentioned in this video and MANY of my other videos)? Also, leaving you both a few videos to show that your situation isn't remotely close to unique, dire, or different at all. It's par for the course if you understand how the process of reconciliation works. ruclips.net/video/ZYQ4hj0SG90/видео.html ruclips.net/video/O4JaqE2GtOY/видео.html
@@GeoffreySetiawan Where I stand I’ve realised I messed up for years. I’ve been critical, judgemental and also controlling out of fear and insecurity and I have not provided her with any emotional safety. This much is clear to me. And I’ve implemented my changes over the last 6 months and she very sadly told me that while she didn’t believe me at first, with time she realised that I was sincere and that she’s proud of me and that she appreciates my effort but that unfortunately her feelings have died over so many years that now there is nothing left and she doesn’t want to remain in a relationship where she doesn’t feel romantic feelings for the other person. Too much damage has been done. Which is fair. I thought I’m past her not believing my changes and testing them. She’s moving on with determination and speed. The fact she gave me the chance to change and I took it and according to her I did well and didn’t mess up puzzles me I guess. “You’ve done well, but my feelings for you didn’t come back.” And now she’s no longer willing to engage. Thank you for the links I constantly watch your videos. You’re the reason I realised how much I messed up in the first place.
@Infinitevanity As I always tell my clients - if she is not RUNNING to you, it means you still have a lot of growth to make :) If you can be irreplaceable in your ability to create the 5 pillars, you will be impossible to resist. Think about it. So keep it going. No more sob stories and “woe is me” attitude telling others how “hard” things are. :) it won’t get you anywhere in life.
James! If you respond in the wrong ways, I would suggest diving into this guys content & mainly the playlist of “client with partner interviews”, you will find way more understanding of what your partner is trying to tell you brother! Then you will start to naturally say the correct things, because you have understanding of her Despite what you may believe by seeing her negative reactions, she’s dying for you to figure it out, dive in to Geoffrey’s content to make her happy again
Many of my clients feel this way when they join the program at first. But you have two choices... You can either continue self-flagellating, wallowing in regret and guilt, and waste time... Or you can spend your time and energy to learn the right internal shifts and frameworks to start responding in all the right ways, until you can't get it wrong. Think about it this way -- All of us have 24 hours in a day. So how is it that people who are successful vs. average can have such a wide spread (Spiritually, financially, relationships, etc...) Compounding effect… Even if you let these unproductive thoughts slow you down 1% per day, 1% compounded in 365 days is about 37x difference (3,700% difference). The average person aren't aware of this - and they have low standards about letting the 1% slip. The successful are strict with themselves to not even let 1% slip. For you, you're probably letting more than 1% slip. Think about the amount of time you've wasted, energy you've drained, just feeling guilty about what you've done? Time and energy you can never really get back?
@@RohanDas-z3t I just joined a month ago, I’m seeing results already more than expected, I’m actually becoming more attractive to the people around me & to my partner… She is definitely contemplating coming back after she told me “we’re never getting back together” today is a new day & she changed her mind, but I still have a lot of work to do, so I don’t expect reconciliation yet It takes a lot of a person to reach out & ask questions about this topic What did you want to know more?
I would like to know why always my wife is tired and is sitting in front of the television and have not the power to do something. She don’t want to speak to do something or something else. She was checking multiple times by a doctor and do not have anything physically and psychological. She is always tired and I do not want to know what will be the right response to this circumstances because after our reconciliation it is like a gap between me and her mood.
Hey geoffrey, ive been watching your videos for the past week and i have gained a lot of knowledge. But does these advice apply to young adults? Im 20 and she is 18. But we were very mature with how we dealt with our relationship since i broke her trust about changing several times she wants to leave now. With adults they have already set a whole life with each other and the person has must more reason to not move on and wait for the other to change. But with young adults its not the case, she can find another guy in a matter of weeks. I trust in how much she loved me. I trust her. But the paranoia is real. Since she is young and has a lot of options im kinda scared about it
New viewer here! Love your channel so far. Question; Why would a ex of 5 years and after 3 weeks no contact message that she wants to talk, asking how I am, that she hopes I don’t mind that she messaged me, then agreeing to talk later that day, she texts “sorry, I can’t talk later” and then Completely blocks me? Makes zero sense?!
I used to think this way, and assume that women don't know what they're talking about, and I perpetuated miserable relationships with women because of it. But I have since learned that they do know what they are talking about - and what they say has insane value and depth, only if we're willing to pay attention, listen and understand. And since then, my life and marriage changed. The same happened to 5,000+ of my clients so far. That's what I tried to do in this video - to show you the deeper meaning behind it and meaningful next steps you can take away from it. So it is a bit odd that that is your takeaway after all that was said in this video. :)
Hey guys hope this was helpful! Leave me a comment with your thoughts? Be sure to check out my brand new masterclass on the 5 Proven Steps to Rebuilding Your Relationship/Marriage. (Warning: Spots are limited)
💪 Here is the link to the MASTERCLASS! -> urlgeni.us/MCEP141DS
🎁 Download the FREE GUIDE! -> relationshipsmastered.com/healing-partner-emotions
🎉 To see how all my clients have achieved massive success through dire & hopeless circumstances, click here! ruclips.net/p/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU
@Geoffreysetiawan my ex was together for seven months in I am blocked on everything I was always being rude in saying rude things in throwing things I use to live with her I broke no contact in October she says she moved on in that I should go in she is happy with who she with in her new boyfriend text me from her phone is it impossible to get her back if I’m blocked on all social media
Ok. I'm going for a walk.
I recently started watching you and have started to make changes for about a month now. My wife and I are on a break, but still living together. It’s only been about 2 weeks. We do small talk at the end of the day but that’s about it. No real contact and definitely no sex for about 6 weeks now. Im working hard on changing, but sometimes the old me still slips by. I know it takes time, it’s like when you put out a fire the flame is gone, but the smoke takes a while to fully disappear. That’s how im feeling about my changes so far. Love your videos, it gives me hope and the strength to keep going.
Geoffrey bro i am doing all the things you told i gave her space also i took space from her but no i am bettering myself for her if she comes back. She needs time. Thank uuu i understood lot of facts and true reasons thanks to you. ❤ also one thing i don't need to chase her or convince her anything now. ❤
Unfortunately this is the reason my partner of 12 years gave me for leaving.
And since then she’s refusing to engage with me about the relationship at all.
She says she’s seen my changes and trusts them but her feelings have died for such a long time that they can’t ever be revived - “irreparably changed” is what she’s saying.
I continue to show my changes but she just says “sorry, damage done, but I’m proud of you for changing. Your next relationship will work out.”
Now what?
I'm (32m) kind of in the same boat since my breakup 3 months ago. 8 year relationship (29f). Saved up for a ring. She seems to be so completely over me. I've found out she hasn't even mentioned my name to her friends since like a week after our breakup, and has been dating and partying and sleeping with other men since then as well and told me she's way happier. I see her once a week to switch custody of our dog, and she doesn't even look me in the eye anymore. We don't talk about our relationship or really anything at all and she has no interest in talking about 'us' because in her mind there really deeply seems to be no 'us,' even after 8 years. Any thoughts?
@@gauntrek @Infinitevanity You both are asking the question "What's next" as if I didn't just make a video about it. :)
Do you think it would be more useful to talk about what you learned from the video and how those learnings can be applied to your situation?
e.g. Are you guys focusing on the right things and next steps here? Is the reason why you guys can't see next steps because you guys are looking for the wrong answers and asking the wrong questions (As I mentioned in this video and MANY of my other videos)?
Also, leaving you both a few videos to show that your situation isn't remotely close to unique, dire, or different at all.
It's par for the course if you understand how the process of reconciliation works.
ruclips.net/video/ZYQ4hj0SG90/видео.html
ruclips.net/video/O4JaqE2GtOY/видео.html
@@GeoffreySetiawan Where I stand I’ve realised I messed up for years. I’ve been critical, judgemental and also controlling out of fear and insecurity and I have not provided her with any emotional safety. This much is clear to me.
And I’ve implemented my changes over the last 6 months and she very sadly told me that while she didn’t believe me at first, with time she realised that I was sincere and that she’s proud of me and that she appreciates my effort but that unfortunately her feelings have died over so many years that now there is nothing left and she doesn’t want to remain in a relationship where she doesn’t feel romantic feelings for the other person. Too much damage has been done. Which is fair.
I thought I’m past her not believing my changes and testing them.
She’s moving on with determination and speed.
The fact she gave me the chance to change and I took it and according to her I did well and didn’t mess up puzzles me I guess.
“You’ve done well, but my feelings for you didn’t come back.” And now she’s no longer willing to engage.
Thank you for the links I constantly watch your videos. You’re the reason I realised how much I messed up in the first place.
@Infinitevanity As I always tell my clients - if she is not RUNNING to you, it means you still have a lot of growth to make :)
If you can be irreplaceable in your ability to create the 5 pillars, you will be impossible to resist. Think about it.
So keep it going. No more sob stories and “woe is me” attitude telling others how “hard” things are. :) it won’t get you anywhere in life.
@@GeoffreySetiawandamn, so true.
What if you respond in all the wrong ways 😢 big regrets
Just keep trying, you still live together?
James! If you respond in the wrong ways, I would suggest diving into this guys content & mainly the playlist of “client with partner interviews”, you will find way more understanding of what your partner is trying to tell you brother!
Then you will start to naturally say the correct things, because you have understanding of her
Despite what you may believe by seeing her negative reactions, she’s dying for you to figure it out, dive in to Geoffrey’s content to make her happy again
Many of my clients feel this way when they join the program at first.
But you have two choices...
You can either continue self-flagellating, wallowing in regret and guilt, and waste time...
Or you can spend your time and energy to learn the right internal shifts and frameworks to start responding in all the right ways, until you can't get it wrong.
Think about it this way -- All of us have 24 hours in a day. So how is it that people who are successful vs. average can have such a wide spread (Spiritually, financially, relationships, etc...)
Compounding effect…
Even if you let these unproductive thoughts slow you down 1% per day, 1% compounded in 365 days is about 37x difference (3,700% difference).
The average person aren't aware of this - and they have low standards about letting the 1% slip.
The successful are strict with themselves to not even let 1% slip.
For you, you're probably letting more than 1% slip. Think about the amount of time you've wasted, energy you've drained, just feeling guilty about what you've done?
Time and energy you can never really get back?
@@aaronwilliamsiscool Hey are u in the program , or did u reconciled. What u said was interesting , wanted to know more.
@@RohanDas-z3t I just joined a month ago, I’m seeing results already more than expected, I’m actually becoming more attractive to the people around me & to my partner…
She is definitely contemplating coming back after she told me “we’re never getting back together” today is a new day & she changed her mind, but I still have a lot of work to do, so I don’t expect reconciliation yet
It takes a lot of a person to reach out & ask questions about this topic
What did you want to know more?
Does this work in short term relationship ?
I would like to know why always my wife is tired and is sitting in front of the television and have not the power to do something. She don’t want to speak to do something or something else. She was checking multiple times by a doctor and do not have anything physically and psychological. She is always tired and I do not want to know what will be the right response to this circumstances because after our reconciliation it is like a gap between me and her mood.
Hey geoffrey, ive been watching your videos for the past week and i have gained a lot of knowledge. But does these advice apply to young adults? Im 20 and she is 18. But we were very mature with how we dealt with our relationship since i broke her trust about changing several times she wants to leave now. With adults they have already set a whole life with each other and the person has must more reason to not move on and wait for the other to change. But with young adults its not the case, she can find another guy in a matter of weeks. I trust in how much she loved me. I trust her. But the paranoia is real. Since she is young and has a lot of options im kinda scared about it
New viewer here! Love your channel so far. Question; Why would a ex of 5 years and after 3 weeks no contact message that she wants to talk, asking how I am, that she hopes I don’t mind that she messaged me, then agreeing to talk later that day, she texts “sorry, I can’t talk later” and then Completely blocks me? Makes zero sense?!
It's a line they got from a movie. Like this one " You like the idea of me." Which is BS.
I used to think this way, and assume that women don't know what they're talking about, and I perpetuated miserable relationships with women because of it.
But I have since learned that they do know what they are talking about - and what they say has insane value and depth, only if we're willing to pay attention, listen and understand.
And since then, my life and marriage changed.
The same happened to 5,000+ of my clients so far.
That's what I tried to do in this video - to show you the deeper meaning behind it and meaningful next steps you can take away from it.
So it is a bit odd that that is your takeaway after all that was said in this video. :)