I can see how one might believe these two explicit personality disorders are rooted in selfishness. If you strip all sin down to the root, I’m sure you find they all are based on selfishness. But there is another side to the picture not being painted. Imagine yourself telling someone they are selfish for doing anything at all possible to get their hand off of a hot iron stove, even if they wound up hurting someone in the process? While some with BPD may be far more extreme than others, I will say that the emotional agony of BPD is much like a hand on a hot stove. Not all are these persons are comfort seeking self centered humans to be feared and avoided. Some are living in immense pain and feel ousted by the world because of their illness and unanswered prayers. Also, maybe let’s not inform the world they shouldn’t take on a relationship with someone with BPD if they wish to have a more peaceful relationship. Would you tell someone to not marry a person in a wheelchair because they might have many hurdles to face caring for their disabled partner in the future? People with BPD suffer enough. Maybe let’s not add to that suffering. After all, it’s a mental illness and one they didn’t choose. Many do pray to be released from it, and are not. Let’s not make matters worse by telling them they’re fundamentally selfish and not worth the trouble of marriage.
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I can see how one might believe these two explicit personality disorders are rooted in selfishness. If you strip all sin down to the root, I’m sure you find they all are based on selfishness.
But there is another side to the picture not being painted. Imagine yourself telling someone they are selfish for doing anything at all possible to get their hand off of a hot iron stove, even if they wound up hurting someone in the process? While some with BPD may be far more extreme than others, I will say that the emotional agony of BPD is much like a hand on a hot stove. Not all are these persons are comfort seeking self centered humans to be feared and avoided. Some are living in immense pain and feel ousted by the world because of their illness and unanswered prayers.
Also, maybe let’s not inform the world they shouldn’t take on a relationship with someone with BPD if they wish to have a more peaceful relationship. Would you tell someone to not marry a person in a wheelchair because they might have many hurdles to face caring for their disabled partner in the future?
People with BPD suffer enough. Maybe let’s not add to that suffering. After all, it’s a mental illness and one they didn’t choose.
Many do pray to be released from it, and are not. Let’s not make matters worse by telling them they’re fundamentally selfish and not worth the trouble of marriage.