Reasons to Remain Single
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- Опубликовано: 20 мар 2016
- The pressure to be in a relationship, and the suggestion that anyone who isn’t in one is weird and pitiable, has very bad consequences for us all, forcing people into choices they shouldn’t necessarily have to make.
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“Anyone who lives alone and manifests no longing to be in a relationship is - in our times - almost automatically (though more or less secretly) viewed as both pitiable and deeply troubled. It’s simply not thought possible to be at once alone and normal.
This sets us up for collective catastrophe, for it means that a huge number of people who have no innate wish to live with anyone else, and are at heart deeply ill-suited to doing so, are every year press-ganged and shamed into conjugal life, with disastrous results for all involved...”
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Seasoned divorce lawyer here. Just my two cents: being alone means you will not be making a trip to my office. Become the best version of yourself! Don’t worry about what other people think.
Underrated comment!
Nothing but respect ❤️
Haha free advice from the professional! Cheers.
respect to you💯 thanks
Not to be a dick but what other people think are why marriage is kind of a thing
Number one reason to be alone?
Freedom
I live alone because I'm selfish, self-centered, and do not feel like being considerate. (No, I'm not being sarcastic. I mean it!)
how about financial freedom? even BETTER
@zadose How is having one night stands or friends with benefits "not free"
John C How come you become a generous person if you spend money and resources for YOUR wife, for YOUR children’s ??...In fact I know a lot of single people are more socially responsible, compassionate and generous...
@@marquamfurniture I don't blame you because those are my exact same sentiments as well
The thought of no more drama is a powerful attraction to remaining single
Thats my main reason for remaining single!
One of my reasons too.
Not to mention you can scratch your nuts without impunity
I was married in my twenties,stupid mistake. The endless feckin drama, arguing etc. now I am in a relationship but live alone, my house, my castle of solitude where everything is calm. Never move in together, you will start hating each other from day 23.
Stay Single and Live the Single Life
No person is more beautiful than freedom.
I learned the hard way.
Hello, get to know me baby. I also wanna remain single
Hard way eh? I must be lucky to have made the decision to never get married then, guess I took the easy way without knowing. Good luck to you friend!
That’s why I turned down an offer to house share with a past friend. Way freer in my own flat tyvm.
Let me just tell you what you just said could be a quote
The fact that your partner can wake up one day and love someone else and there’s nothing you can do about it
humans shouldn't stay in a relationship animals only have sex to reproduce but they don't co exist with one another same should go for humans love is just a chemical hormone that forces people to breed and that's about fucking it.
@@TiffanyRay I mean agreed.
But.
As an example, seahorses mate for life. So a better example would be appreciated.
@@TiffanyRay that's pretty arguable. I don't think it's just as simple as that. But hey, that's just me...
@Kobe SAN It took me 5 years to truly understand this after it happened to me. Now I'm free for the rest of my life
Kobe SAN you never be confused about what love is. *Love is not an emotion/feeling, it's a CHOICE* . Staying together with someone you are *attracted* to is very different and someone you are both *attracted and connected* to. Big difference. As men, we have to be the leaders of the relationship and we have to be the one to make this happen. Women don't think logically, they wouldn't know any better. They are emotional not logical
Roses are red, Violets are blue, whiskey is cheaper than dinner for two.
. . Roses are red ➕
Violets are blue
Aisha was eight
Mohammed was fify two.
Deus valt ➕ brothers. . .. . .
Hahahaha you nailed it bro hahaha
Cheers bro I’ll drink to that
Edgy Neji Who cares if they offend people? This is the internet dude.
HaHa 😄 I'm going to have a nice bourbon for you my friend .
For many years, I “wanted” to get married, secretly just so people wouldn’t think I was a weirdo. I finally realized that the “weirdest” people I know, are the ones who drive themselves to misery trying to appear normal.
Truth.
You have identified the very WORST reason to be in a relationship
yessss, it hits home😮❤
Facts
"There is no such thing as a Normal Life.
There is only "Life."
-Doc Holliday
Never been happy in any relationship... Being single is one of the best things that's ever happened to me. I don't answer to anyone. I do whatever I want, whenever I want, however I want.
Bliss..
Same
Very poignant observation.
Are you still single and happy with that?
I'm in love with my own future!
I think many confuse being alone with being lonely. Often I feel the loneliest when I'm surrounded by people.
Solitude makes for a solid dude.
+Micah Buzan Yeah, so am I. That tagline is going to be framed and hung on a wall.
+Micah Buzan yeah, I can't even understand how not being in a relationship is being alone. You can have hundreds of friends and live with them instead of relationship
"often i feel the loneliest when im surrounded by people".... i could not agree more
Micah Buzan couldn't have said it better
Micah Buzan you have some issues you need to take care of you feel like that cuz you feel your not important if you feel important you'll never feel alone so basically get your confidence up
I can see a few people getting confused between being unable to find a relationship, not wanting a relationship, and not needing a relationship.
lol
+Anan Anwar
Or being unable to stay in one for too long...
+JE Hoyes Thanks for this, your made me stop and evaluate my own relationship and it appears I can relate.
+Anan Anwar +The School of Life Yea, but is this video explicitly for ppl who don't want and/or need a relationship? Ppl who are unable to find one could see this video as reassurance that finding one (and ostensibly keeping a health one) is a bit more complex than society wants to admit to. As stated in the video, there are societal pressures to be with someone which are indifferent to one's person and circumstances. If one wants a relationship, one should be patient with the search which, once again, is stated in the video. So, I really don't think the difference between the 3 is more than semantics. Whatever one's motivation for romance, you should understand single life is not a failure state and romance should be carefully considered rather than not at all.
+Anan Anwar I like how you worded that. Need and want get confused a lot. For me, I always ask myself if I will be a better person with or without (insert name here). It has nothing to do with my own happiness. I truly just want to be a better person...
Single people are so Blessed.... Parents and Society should be ashamed of themselves for making people feel like second class citizens just because they are single... I guess misery really does love company.
YOU ROASTED THEM TO THE BONE OHHHHHHHHHH
Yes it surely does. I really never understood the fucking concept of getting married why the hell we need some third party boundations to stick together for life? It seems fake to me not real love. Actually real Love doesn't need any third party involvement just be fucking together!!!
Samantha Jones is the best female character in pop culture.
Well said!!
@@finaldestination813 cos capitalism rewards merit if you wanna piece of the pie
The most important reason for being single: You're 100% sure that you'll never be cheated on!!!!
Yeah you want cheat on you
Yea everyone cheats these days even in marriages. No trust and no love
Hahahahaha This!!!
Tellement vrai 👍🏼
@covid546 Yep no putting your health at risk because you can’t get STD’s being alone. No surprise pop up babies. No mistress or side dude trying to track you down even though you know nothing about her/him, they could be a psycho wanting to take you out the picture. Nowadays it seems like you’re playing with your life getting into a relationship with another person and their baggage.
Benefits of staying alone and single away from society.
1. You can have awesome quiet sleep
2. You have time to gain more knowledge and grow
3. You can clean your own place the way you want to or keep it messy without judgement.
4. Your electricity Bill is dirt cheap
5. Pets are always happy to see you come home from work.
6. No drama...no bullshit.
And the list goes on.
I Love My Beard hell yes! Especially the cleaning part. Unless I have a visitor ( which is rare) I won’t really clean. It’s my place - my rules! 🙌🏼
You can have quiet for being creative with artistic . And eat whatever .
The downsides of staying away from society: you die from hunger.
can get up and do as you please when you want, really concentrate on anything without interruption, less stress, less bills, can travel and make your plans as you go, it's awesome. All my life, married guys kept saying 'don't get married' but some of them had chosen unwisely in partners, or not stood up to their woman who was abusing them verbally & emotionally.
@@thewildcardASMR Or on the other side of the coin you don't have anyone messing with your clean space. I can't stand a mess and not sharing a space makes it easier to keep clean.
My favorite quote is: I'd rather be alone than be with people who make me feel alone.
Mine too!
Agreed 😊
Nietzsche said that, but your paraphrased the hell out of it haha
Yes
Damn that's deep
"Romantic love is a dangerous illusion"
Pretty much what I have learned and come to terms with after all these years. Sentimentality is garbage and has clouded my mind and unlearning this has been a colossal yet fruitful effort.
People come and go. Relationships flourish and die. Appreciate the time you have with people and move on if interests differ and not cling to them. Improving myself for myself is my ultimate goal regardless of whether I am with someone or not.
I read your comment twice. It truly resonates with me. You are a very wise person. Thanks so much for this🤗
Wow
Very wise advice.
Friendship is best. Including loving friendship. Screw sex.
Single , no kids. Easy Answer.
I see all the people in the comments pretending to be wise.
Throw kids into the mix. Single parents are generally ill-suited to most effectively raise children without help.
a relationship becomes more necessary for the Children’s benefit, rather than the preferences of the parents.
Those who choose to live alone actually have a very powerful state of mind. They see through all the bullshit, suffering and agony in a relationship or marriage, and just decide to give a middle finger to all of that, regardless of what the society believe. Yes, going against the majority, one has to have balls to do that. Alone.
I have seen many people, for the sake of their family and friends, and even colleagues, rushing toward marriage while not being psychogically and financially ready (some don't even have love in the equation). From that, shit goes downhill really quickly. Not only that they immediately face the reality that marriage is just too overwhelming with loads of stuff to worry about and not much of romance (or time for it) like before, they still proceed to have kids while not having enough money. Oh the chaos! It just keeps snowballing down.
In my country there is an old, common belief that once one has settled down (started a family) he/she will think for the kids and family and will be hardworking. Oh how wrong people have been!
As for those who haven't experienced love in their marriage (or for whatever reasons they couldn't marry the one they truly loved), they start cheating after their family has become stable. A lot of confessions on newspapers show that many middle-age men and women regret that they did not have love. Now as their kids have grown up, as they have "fulfilled" their responsibility to their family and had more time for themselves, they start to be attracted to an outside lover (usually a young colleague or business partner). Some even contact and have sex with ex true love, even when both have their own family.
A word of advice: Enjoy your freedom as long as you can. Untill you cannot, you need to be ready for what comes next. It is not recommended to enter into a marriage if the both of you have low income. They say "Love conquers all". Well you can bet your sorry ass that they are bullshiting!
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well fucking said
You're god damn right even tho I did not read what you wrote
@@poojars5594 💐
You say in first sentence about strenghts of person and flip everything in second sentence because the second one shows weaknesess of a men/women and not strenght.. Avoidance of pain, suffering it is not proof of strength but one's weakness.. Your muscle need to be in pain in order grow, think about it.
I don't mind people, I just like it better when they're not around
Same
Yes!!
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charles Bukowski
Yes
The reason why I want to be single :
1. I can do what I want
2. No drama no B.S.
3. Save money
4. Don't want be heartbroken
5. I don't want to be cheated on
Edit thank u guys 4 1k likes
I'm 27 never had a gf by choice and all of your reasons why u would like to remain single is exactly how I feel
@@michaelmyers4706 i agree with you brother, i'm 27 never been in a relationship and never will. i just enjoy my freedom way too much to even consider dating.
No more heartbreak again...love myself more than I will ever love another again.
Coward.
No6 - in-laws 😣👈👎
I’m in my late 40’s and never got married, never had kids, no girlfriend, I live alone and my life is awesome just like it was when I was a teenager. I have no worries, no problems, no stress, no debt, etc. I live my life like it’s la la land. I do not watch the news and I do not want to know because frankly to be honest I don’t give a flying fawk what happens in the world. Because that only leads to problems if I know and I choose not to know. Whatever happens, let it happen. My life is totally different from the rest of the world put it like this you can never miss what you never had just because everybody does the same thing in life doesn’t mean I have to do it.
I got ocd...relationship unlikely
you’re living the dream my friend
My friend just wanted to let you know that thank you for your comment. Sometimes it is important to remind us that it is possible to live a life different to others and that it is possible to be happy. You re that reminder. You also inspire me. Take care
me too!
and a gift to myself is to truly not care what others think
INjoy
@@susanhughes6604 You are just awesome, it is so inspiring to know people like you living life without worry about others think while aspiring to be happy as only you can be.
Reasons to stay single:
1. Love is delusional. your partner stays with you because he or she needs what you bring to the table. Once gone, he or she will leave you.
2. Modern dating is far more complicated and it makes it impossible to find a date,
3. You have to compromise your freedom and time when dating. Better use that time and freedom for your future.
That's why you stay away from modern people
Why voluntarily enslave yourself?
The needs thing is so true.
Quote of the year
Romantic love with humans is conditional.
I am 45. Single. No desire to ever get married. Happy, successful and financially prosperous.
Sad
Den Dbest
What’s more sad is your comment.
Den Dbest I know, right? I can’t imagine anything worse than being “happy, successful, and financially prosperous.” It sounds like the worst, most sad thing ever!
JDM Virgins Media your life is sad.
Do you use your left hand or your right hand?
“A date is an experience you have with someone that makes you appreciate being alone.” -Larry David
oh my God this soooo accurate
“LOL Larry... el oh el”
Hatsoff
MOST MARRIED couples ARE NOT HAPPY
Christopher Dones: You like saying that don’t you?
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It’s cute right?
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😃 No, no it’s not.
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I’m just expressing myself.
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Why don’t you JUST laugh out loud.
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I AM laughing out loud. That’s what LOL is.
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No you’re just saying the words lol.
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EXCUSE ME?! BUT DID MY PISSANT HUSBAND PUT YOU UP TO THIS?!
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No, no he didn’t.
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Who do you think you are coming into MY house and telling me how I should respond to YOUR jokes.
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Hahahah... Lol.
🖕🏾😒 douchebags.
Being single is infinite freedom. I love it.
Freedom, Peace and Serenity
Same
I am with you in this partner😅🫷🏼🥂To many more happy days ahead
Well said.
I've decided to remain single for the rest of my life, it's the best option.
Have you married before
Are you still single till now?
Hollywood and the music world fooled me into believing true love was real.
You are not the only one, beyond all the glamour and "happy memories" in the end the 80s were the worst poison.
Society is too quick to ridicule single people.
@@fordgt402 That's because misery loves company.
this sums up everything
I still love movies including romantic ones. I always want them to get married and be happy forever. My point is I don't mix reality with fiction. I can distinguish one from the other.
Moral of the story is you will be miserable regardless. Learn to be happy alone before you get with someone and when you are with someone don't smother each other, let each other live their own lives. This is the only way I see a relationship working.
Totally agree!! I'm walking evidence of it!
yeah i think its a balance as are all things in life. I used to be a photographer and when i took people out for anniversary photos...id get in the habit of asking these couples what has contributed to their success. what i heard the most often was "we have our own lives".
Play it safe! Never take a chance at happiness because failure is so scary!!!
Janneson I never said that
"Marry and you'll regret it. Don't marry and you'll regret that too. You'll regret it either way" - Soren Kierkegaard.
I just don't see what a relationship can bring me what I haven't given myself already. I love myself. I cherish myself. I work on myself. I'm there for myself. I'm not driven by sexual urges so I'm not worried about that aspect of life as well. I got more time and energy to focus on myself and I don't know if I wanna let this go.
Edit #1 ( January of 2022) : I fell in love with this amazing woman and she changed my life and how I felt. Love finds you once you can live without it I guess.
Edit #2 (September 2022) - we are going through some tough times together cuz she expects me to be a bit " romantic " and be more invested in her when I'm too distracted with my hobby which is writing (I'm a writer). I'm a chaotic person in nature. I'm constantly looking ways to connect things so I can make things out of stuff. Im always writing and focused on my job which is being a content writer. She wants to take things slow and enjoy the beauty of " love " with me. Unfortunately I do not get the importance of love to that extent but I love her dearly with every atom of my body. From feeling hopeless everyday, she made me feel lucky to be alive and I still do. We feel like we aren't compatible for each other and have decided to take different paths. She's the most purest person I've ever seen. She saw how much of a mess I was and she still decided to love me. I'm not giving up on her. We had this same convo during last January and we decided to find the middle ground together but after 8 months here we are, we failed to find any reasonable conclusion and what happened was I hurt her deeply during the process. I'm willing to fight to find the desire to love again but I don't want to do it in the expense of her happiness. She shouldn't be stuck with me sacrificing her own happiness and comfort while I find answers which aren't even guaranteed. This was my first and last chance at love and it didn't go as i thought it would. I am capable of loving but I can never see it becoming a primary thing in my life. I feel like when you are a in a relationship, being fully invested in your partner is the least thing u can do. Since I'm struggling to do that, i guess relationships ain't for me.
I love you Francisca and I always will even though I couldn't show it properly at times ❤
Edit #3 ( June of 2023) - so it's been months since me and Francisca broke up but I still miss her. The good thing is I managed to turn my passion into a profession so I'm busy with it most of the times.
Same, man
Is everyone suited to it, if it feels daunting, don't force the issue, nobody's perfect, it seems odd because of immaturity, frustration for some🚩⛔🆘💲✅
I'm in the same boat, expect the sexual. I have s rampant drive and been at it since 20. Over a decade later and I still cant stop lol
The longer you go the harder it is to break
Super agree with you i cant believe the energy i have
The world tried to make us think that love is actual worth of our time when really it just makes you more depressed.
In this life, you're gonna keep getting hurt no matter who you're with. It's all a matter of who you're willing to be hurt for. Personally, being alone means you have the capability to love and care for yourself before others which is vital to any relationship.
A disappointment is going to always come your way no matter what. Single is not bad or never worse like society makes us all believe. When it comes to standards, it is best to deviate and create your own. Otherwise, you will find yourself in misery while everyone else is experiencing joy.
Yea, this is the main reason why I've been depressed for years now.
Being in a relationship does nothing to cure loneliness
Interesting way to put it
I am curious about your statement. Could you eleborate why you think relationships do nothing to cure loneliness?
That's true.
The worst loneliness is when you're with the wrong person...
@@baruchben-david4196 so true, so so true
At 63 I've never married and I quit dating years ago. I couldn't imagine coming home to an occupied house. I absolutely love doing whatever I want with my free time (within reason) and I got to where I resented girlfriends because I had to find time for them. Call me self involved or selfish but I wake up happy and go to bed happy every day. I consider myself blessed.
ctcv1984 You are wise.
63 year old here and I agree 100% also. Life is great.
We'll i'm 24 and I'd first like to experience how shitty it really is before dying alone.
KeRin von Lesanya We all die alone anyway, that’s the joy.
KeRin von Lesanya How do you die “with” someone? Oh! You want someone to “watch” you die. I get it now.
I am 40 and single and I love it. I guess it’s the sense of freedom it gives me. I also think I am selfish and hate having responsibilities. I never feel lonely because I feel connected to the world itself.
Same is the story here...😉 Enjoy your Life 🧬
Yeah, but do you want to be single for the rest of your life, not to mention have no sex? That doesn't sound ideal.
@@MrApplewine 2 years ago I wrote that and even though I don’t remember writing it I still feel the same. I get sex if it comes but that is no way worth living in the hell of a relationship for. I know I’m not normal so not advising this for others. Maybe I wasn’t born right for relationships but not for me!!
@@jakehixon4073Oh, well, if you are totally not compatible with a relationship then I guess that makes sense. There are a lot of people like me though always wanted a relationship, but due to life circumstances things happened to get in the way.
@@MrApplewineSo having sex is worth tolerating another person and trying to satisfy their expectations of you? You do know sex is pretty easy to get outside of a relationship, right? You just use all the free time you get from NOT BEING in a relationship and put it into working out and becoming more attractive to the opposite sex. Not only does that benefit you for your OWN life but it makes getting sex so easy ..
After hearing people around me encouraging (forcing) me to get a partner... Reading this comment section makes me happy.
We are alone, together 😀
"Love hurts more than loneliness." -advice from an old friend.
But there's a inherent difference from loneliness and being alone. Yet that statement still rings very true though 😊
It hurts good
@@menaamor shut up
@@Tane77 😜
Both things hurt in their own way.
no marriage, no kids, no alimony, no child support = An uncomplicated stress-free life.
😍😍😍
@ Same here, happily single MGTOW last 20 years, once you have attained peace and freedom you don't want to give it up again.
That's my plan for future 😉
A perfect life.
The problem in been single in my country is that I can't have sex outside marriage plus that everybody showing off that they can have sex and me not but I'm not dummy like them and I see beyond what they see. can't wait to get paid and showing them how my life is better than them
Since I was 16, my mindset about marriage have never changed. For me marriage is a prison.
By the way I'm now 28.
@Prinsstar SsTp im a she. Hahaha
wow!Same!!
that's one of my biggest hangups, my folk's marriage was essentially a prison sentence but neither of them split and I paid the price
now that i'm 28 too and I have okay money I love the fact that I have total autonomy over my life, being able to spend what I want to spend, do what I want to do, and not having to run it by anyone, I still think it would be nice to have someone in my life, but only as like a roomate
@@FalconFlyer75 bruh, i am 26 and still paying the price because my father and mother never split. Thank God i am stuck in THEIR hell, not mine.
In India the parents and society will start eating us from the age of 23 or 24 somewhere
I am doing a great job!
Almost 32, still single and untouched!
Wooh!! Proud of you.... Hope I would follow ur footsteps 🙇♀️
@@knight-uv2eu I have a PS5!
Follow my footsteps!
@@Zolega89 hahaha nice 👍
@@Zolega89 nice
dude, im the same age as u. but i have to admit sometimes i do really want a relationship. sometimes. seriously, how do you handle this feeling, im actually look forward the day i never give a fk on relationship at all
The problem is that people depend on a wife or husband for their happiness. I love being single dont have to entertain anyone but myself 😊
Exactly we shouldn’t be relying on someone else for happiness you are responsible for your own happiness
I heard from someone that: "if you live for others, you'll never find true happiness" and i think he's right. We all have something that we want for ourselves, we have to prioritize our dreams and ambitions and seek to achieve them, other things should be a second thought.
Spoken like a true millennial American.
Facts
Me too been like this since 6 years, l don't want anyone. I'm happy on my own doing what l love
Relationships are a gamble, most can be just wasted time and money.
Cat Craze Exactly
👍
So true with that assessment right there
Only for men.
All the money spent making your gf happy could go into an investment fund.
“You don’t need need a relationship, all you need is money”
-Me
And Jesus, to fill that void in you.
Very true
Very true
Being single is less drama.
Being alone is a whole lot tolerable than being with someone who doesn’t appreciate you.
Good people need to know that appreciating yourself is more valuable than anything. When you learn how to do that then you ghost the idea of waiting on appreciation from others.
Then be with someone that appreciates you.
@luiscaetano6184 Easier said than done of course.
The only relationship you should ever be in; is with peace and quiet.
Yōshanai Amen...
Damn right
Imagine finding a girl who’s comfortable with silence
Indeed. Be still and know God.
Hell Yea!
This actually made me less depressed or ashamed of being single for so long. -thank you!
Being depressed and ashamed is insecurity.
thats over simplified.. i mean some of my depression is from enviromental and experience some of it is from my autoimmune condition as well.. @@granthill2980
Some people need to understand that being single is not being sad and alone, relationships are not for everyone
I agree and some people feel way too insecure to be in a relationship
After reading the comments I no longer feel alone 😂
Lol
me too
most underrated comment 😂
Jesus loves you and he died for you on the cross if you ask him for forgiveness of your sins and believe in him your will be saved, He will heal you and cleanse you and you will feel so much joy and love and happiness, Jesus has helped me so much in my life! He's the best thing to happen to me and my family and friends
@@lifestyle2642 amen
Reasons why I love being single:
1. You eat what you want.
2. You hang out with whoever you want.
3. You go where you want.
4. You do what you want.
5. No one's stopping you from accomplishing anything.
6. No one judges you ever!
My life, baby! MY MUTHAFUCKIN LIFE!!! ❤️❤️❤️
But hedonism is bad
If someone is withholding you from accomplishments, that is NOT love. It's controll, which is done out of hate.
You can buy with the money that you saved and nobody will call you a simp
Amen
No one to weigh you down or make you feel guilty. No need to please or become extra entertaining & positive. No need for a happy face or a forced bubbly personality... you can replenish yourself with peace and solitude
I always knew from an early age I was going to be single my whole life. People are smothering.
Solitude is bliss. If someone arrives who can be my companion then I’ll be happy. But I won’t go out hunting for someone to spend my life with.
Anthony
I couldn't have put it better.
PREACH ON ANTHONY!
MGTOW.., just sayin.
Those people who go out to hunt for someone else are people who cannot stand being alone and think that having a relationship can complete them. This is a wrong decision and it can lead to frustration and over expectation of the partner, because they set up an ideal of how the partner to behave to complete them. I am at my 40 and I am happily single.
@@Trosper222 I am sorry to hear that you are sick. I went through the stage that I long for a companion. After a long reflection, I realize that the problem is that I do not love myself enough. I was not confident and wish that another person can compensate me. I was wrong. Now I realize that I am confident of being myself. Do not let your sickness to hinder you from being proud of yourself. There are people who cherish a meaningful relationship more than physical disabilities. I wish you are happy with whatever situation you are in and if the right person come along do not hesitate to share your joy with he/she.
@@dannysze8183 Thank you, 39 and single and couldn't be happier. If a great person comes around fine if not I'm doing my own thing.
I would like a relationship, but I'm not just jumping into one for the sake of having one. I'm looking for someone that I really connect with and where we can both make each other really happy. That should be the entire point of a relationship, but so many people don't see that unfortunately.
Right? I am 23 and sick and tired of jumping from one relationship to another. Since relationship is about sharing your life it is very very intimate. So you don't wanna be close to someone with whom you have no connection. My latest ex never realized that. We were clearly incompatible but he still wanted to get married and have kids.
That is the reason why I've never been in relationship until this day
You'll be single forever then. The best ones are already taken or have a long line of suitors.
This is why we can't have nice things, but suicidal thoughts
Hey it's true. You might meet a beautiful Stanford student who has ran marathons, has a beautiful personality, smart, talented in art and music, but chooses to use her talents to uplift the moods of children in hospitals... but guess what, she's taken and everyone wants a piece of her. Supply and demand.
Being single is like a blessing for me
I’m working on establishing a business, obtaining financial freedom, looking into buying my first home and becoming the best version of myself 💪🏻
"To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance." - Oscar Wilde
love it
Yeah that's sweet
So true
oscar wilde was low-key a womanizer lol
When young, I was told you would meet someone special. Never have, the world is full of ordinary people, myself included,
haha so random and true I hate myself we are so greedy about everything work money and not living in present moment.
you've nailed it down.
A friend of mine got divorced, found another guy, it was lo-o-ove, she said “YOU are going to find someone too” with that all-knowing look. He fleeced her. The lo-o-ove was over pretty darn quickly! I never found the someone, and I am glad I didn’t!
@@ladycactus110 lucky you so didn't I lucky new. We can handle alone better and lately friends to have fun with rather quit them for bitch...i dont want to share anything with someone special
Ive worked at the same place with a lot of employees for almost ten yrs and not once has there ever been a girl there who was hot enough or intriguing enough to make me want to see her outside of work. We have a high turnover rate too...you are right, hard to find un-ordinary people.
I absolutely love being alone. Can't even imagine any other way. And I am not at all lonely.
"When you are single, your pockets will jingle"
-Some guy on the internet
I like this "some guy" for what he taught us.
My pockets jingle mostly cause of my keys. { yes , I'm single } . 🙂👖🔑🪙🇦🇺
I rather be single and happy than married and miserable
David Hunter id rather be miserable single then miserable with someone
This feels more honest to me🤪
They are all different things, they are not related
Are you happy tho?
@@juliocesarfernandezcampuza8760 Absolutely. When you're a single man with no family, and have hobbies and activities you love to do in your spare time, you'll find out that you have plenty of options. The world literally becomes your playground. You can do whatever you want when you feel like it. Also, as a bonus, you'll also have more money in your pocket, because you're not tied up paying child support, alimony (if you get a divorce) and other stupid expenses that being married carries. Society hates happy single men who stray away from following the crowd, that is, getting married and having kids.
@@davidhunter2824 ohh, good for you!
People are AWFUL these days, it's enough to drive anyone crazy.
Your awful Murray.
@@michaelh1603 funny that his name is Mr J.
After the first three months you realize they're just a regular ass chick who gets off bitching at you, if they don't have anything to argue about they'll create it.
Mr J “you’re just like the rest of them.”
@@michaelh1603 you're*
Just because people are single doesn't mean they are alone or unhappy. In fact, single people are free to explore many types of relationships and partners over a period of time with alot of freedom. I believe that is the main reason many people are intentionally single. Moreover, singles can re-charge alone for periods of time if they wish. I know many single people who are extremely fit, both physically, mentally and spiritually who prefer being coupled at times while not at others. Most of these people have very high standards, are confident in themselves and refuse to settle.
I love the feeling of being able to do whatever I want, whenever I want, without having to take someone else's feelings and priorities into consideration. It would take a pretty special person to get me to change where I'm at right now.
Same❤
I was shocked but delighted to discover that so much of my desire to be in a relationship was my freaking hormones! Now that those have pretty much dried up, I feel like a 9 year old again and I get to have a second childhood without parental oppression and my own money. It's not half bad!
Great
@ Linda Harrison Linda you have perfectly described my single life! It is definitely GREAT! :-)
Exactly! Now my hormones are gone (age 51) I have no interest left in men or sex at all, my reproductive cycle is done, i have grown kids- so what would I need with a man or penis in my life now? Its so relaxing!
Good point.
I'm going to be honest with all of you guys. I have never felt true love for a woman. It's just lust. The sexual urges are there. Lust is not love. I have a hard time talking to attractive women.
50 years old, divorced and now living alone in my apartment with my dog. I have finally achieved inner peace and satisfaction......
Once you find inner peace man! that's Heaven right there. Most people hate themselves and are battling with inner demons
You are that man👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
And the dog is happy not to share your attention 😉🌸
Life is too short for BS!
same here but cat...
I've been voluntarily celibate all my life and this video just reassure me that it's definitely an option as a long as I stay aware of the risk and mitigate them as much as possible while filling the gaps of a romantic partner with companions and healthy outlets. I've always thought romantic relationships were kinda weird and more dreamy than practical, it's no wonder divorce rates are so high, cheating, spouse rape and abuse..I encourage you all to open your minds and create your own perspective on relationships
I like your pfp, king. You look great. Spittin' straight facts as well
I think people use all the bad stuff as an excuse to not try and avoid thinking about finding a relationship. I wish my health was better and I had pursued a relationship in my early 20's.
@@MrApplewine Just study the statistics and the divorce laws against men!! Getting married is the biggest gamble a man will ever make in his whole life! Choose very carefully and wisely. What other investment would you take that kind of gamble on!?! You would'nt!!!
@@granthill2980You could probably have a custom contract drawn up that would legally do much of the same things, and other legal changes can be done like next of kin. But, not everything, like benefits can be done like that. But, yeah it is bad, but I think people still use that as an excuse to not find a relationship.
Cheating sucks. You go thru all the bullshit hoops they want you to do to marry them and they cheat like Vegas after. No thank you to sloppy seconds.
"Retiring one's self voluntarily, in order to save others (and one's self) from the consequences of one's inner emotional turmoil is a true sign of a great and kind soul"
This sums up a core tenant of my personal philosophy so eloquently
the older i get the more i enjoy being alone
The same here! After 22years of marriage I feel now it’s ME time😜
I feel the same way. Being alone bothered me much more when I was in my 20s and early 30s. Now I'm completely content. I DO like to interact with others to an extent , but I enjoy my own company . I like having my own space and autonomy.
Me too
No question about it. When I interact with others, I get my fill and move on.
💯
Facts my brother.
*"Alone but not lonely."*
God is with me so I am never alone.
@moist faucet shut up you ugly atheist
Soon i ll be gone, ill be in a foreign country and successful, because here i was socialluy hindered
I feel more lonely around others than i am when i'm alone with myself and do the stuff i like without being bothered by others and what they might think. It works.
Hear,Hear,I second that thought!!!!!! Plus you get to watch what TV Programs you wish to without being judged!!!!!!(ha,ha)!!!!!!
Never met a guy I love more than my freedom and independence; that's the reason I am single
Just let people do whatever they feel like… being single, getting married, getting a divorce, we’re all learning by doing and it’s fine!! 💜✨
True say
I love hanging out with my three friends. Me, myself and I.
Irene too?
Clever!👏👏👏
The best 3 friends anyone can have.
I'm hanging out with that person that always stands besides me when I look in the mirror.
Respect🙏
Being single is a blessing, especially when you have about 1.000 books you want to read. 😊
😍
Ha, it is actually very true. I read a lot. Being single and self-employed are of immense help to doing this.
Same as me.Im single and I like reading..!!
I'm gonna start picking up on books. Not gonna lie it's been a while since I read
Brian Andrade fr same here ill read a couple a day
Being single is better than being in a "committed" relationship. All these romantic movies, books and love songs are the reason why people think they need to have a partner to be happy and end up lost in toxic relationships.
Super 👍
For those of us who genuinely enjoy being alone, the best thing is to not waste the time of people who simply want to be in a relationship for relationship’s sake. Have the courage of your convictions and communicate with anyone you’re involved with, from the start, so they know where you stand. That way, maybe you have a chance at intimacy and connection with another person without treading into danger zones where someone gets hurt or (worse) you both fall into a relationship that you didn’t want in the first place. We are social animals; we need touch and human warmth. But we don’t need the drama of unfulfilled or misguided expectations.
Single , no kids. Easy Answer.
I see all the people in the comments pretending to be wise.
Throw kids into the mix. Single parents are generally ill-suited to most effectively raise children without help.
a relationship becomes more necessary for the Children’s benefit, rather than the preferences of the parents.
Being single biggest perk is you never run out of money trust me it's my personal experience and I rather be single than be broke
I'm both.
@@binzsta86 whaaaaaaaaaaa😱
GONE WRONG3 EXACTLY....You will save sooo much money because women drain money....they suck and take and then suck and take some more. I'm a woman and I don't...but all of my friends do. They're pure evil to men. I feel bad for men.
@@janedoor4870 If I spend so much on a woman that i love and she can make me happy then I have no problem spending my money on her
@@CampaElbob But that's just it...she's rarely happy and very unappreciative.
Once the relationship is over and she moves on she will lie about how well her new relationship is, but remember she was a bitch with you and a bitch with the new person, just a better liar
1) Freedom to move to any place you want.
2) Freedom to choose your own path.
3) Financial freedom
Oh, have I mentioned freedom?
how many times have you moved?
@@SirousGarshasbi A lot. I am a nomad, I traveled 18 countries in 2019. Less in 2020, but you get the idea. As I said - freedom 😉🙌
But if you have a sick parent and you are the only person that he has, so you'll have to take care of them, like me.
@@NomadicDmitry yeah but get's borin' , dun it ?
@@garethmorgan3665 For sure, that is a big problem too
Being in relationship will shorten up your opinions, peace of life, your creativity. Instead it will make you it's captives
Being single is the only way of living that I’ve know so far. When I was young used to feel insecure because couldn’t put on words why the heck I wanted to stay single. Years have pass I can a say that this is my way to remain sane, free spirited and ambitious as a woman. Living life at my peace and time. I have my dogs and some day I’ll be a mom, but having a partner is not something I want or need to follow my dreams.
I honestly love this .
Same!
First, the engagement ring, then the wedding ring...then, the suffering!
Funny.
Wear it and be proud that you now have the right to reproduce lol.
Derrick lol this deserves 1k likes
😂😂😂😂
Lmfaooooo....I laughed a little too hard at this😂
"Romantic love is a dangerous illusion." I've been saying this for years now.
Learned the hardway
It should be an obvious truth yet people are still falling for it. I mean if "unconditional love" or romatic love were real, I wouldn't need to practice self-love and self improvement bc my so called "soul mate" would love me no matter what. At least that's what led to my conclusion that love (unconditional at least) is an illusion. Hopefully this wasn't too long to read
@@orangejuicesimpson7233 I totally agree
I always say love is just an illusion you can fall in love with someone who don’t feel the same way you do smh
👍
I feel pressured to date but I really like my single life, my house, my stuff, my schedule etc, you lose a lot of connection when you’re single; married people don’t want to be around single people. But all my relationships with men were always stressful and I was always not measuring up some ever changing expectations. I gave up and now I can breathe. Some of us just don’t bond well with others I suppose...
Ma'am in this time since the comment has anything changed? Do you still like to be alone? Why or why not (or both)? I am curious so asking.
"we are simply not good at being happy, no matter what our relationship status is" that one hits hard but its true
The more people i meet the more i like my cat.
I prefer my cat to the majority of people
I hate my cat so much
Well said
Hahaha nice one
Facts lol 👌
You know maturity hits when you realise love isnt everything
Love is not real 💔
Love isn’t true, people mess over good people.
@@xE92vD what's wrong with roblox and those are my old videos
Fuck Love brother
Love is everything. Just not the type of romantic love you’re thinking. Because there are multiple types of love. Like love for ones friends, family, self and hobbies. Love all way around. Not only love to a romantic and potential partner.
reasons to not have a girlfriend:
1. You don't have to remember anyone's birthday and give them expensive gifts
2. You don't have to spend money on dates
3. You don't have to give gifts on valentine
4. You don't have to worry about getting cheated on
5. You don't have to waste your time for someone
6. You don't have to waste your energy for someone
7. You don't have to wait for her to give you het cat
EDIT: New list here we go:
1. MODERN WOMEN.
i personally love giving those things, just don't set expectations, have boundaries and communicate!
No mony, love is not waste of time
Cause you not find your love, no respect want
I can tell you sex don’t matter past 30 I’d rather stick it in my own hand for a few minutes then after , grab a bite to eat , hell , watch some tv
Also being taken advantage of as well.
Life is better when you are single
What turns me off marriage is adopting a new set of parents, family and problems when mine are quite handful as it is.
😂😂😂😂 omg. Exactly
Sir are you married now? How has been your experience?
who ever is making these movies is a genius!
+The School of Life Does Alain handle every aspect of the videos - animation, editing, narration and writing?
no wonder! it's alain
SuperCaliFragiListicExpiali DopeShit what raccoon?
I love myself way too much to be in a relationship. I'm satisfied.
Trust if you keep watching this channel, you will never get married and remain happily single. 🚶♂️
I have been single for almost two years. Honestly, I never plan to go back to dating because it never did anything positive for me. Being alone is the best option for me.
single for 20 years all my life
Esotera you a real G
I'm 6 years enjoying singledom. Never been more content and glad.
I’ve never dated anyone in my life, and I’m completely fine being single.
Dating hurt me. The rejection
I’ve been single so long, I wouldn’t know what to do with a relationship.
LOL. I've never been in a relationship. Funny thing is: I only wanted to be in a relationship when I hit puberty and only with attractive women. If you are like me, don't get in a relationship. The research I did tells me that I lust a lot and need to learn to respect myself.
And I did... and I'm happy that I did.
@@alegriart yes you do
@@Freefork I did the same thing as you and still found a real connection with someone. Like someone wise in these comments said, love is a choice. You have to respect yourself to be able to live with the decisions and responsabilities you take, I strongly believe that you have to be content alone to be functional and mature in a relationship.
@@Freefork same here man. I'm about halfway through my 2nd of 8 undergraduate college semesters, have been denied 5 dates in my lifetime with 5 different girls/women, and will most likely never try again. I want to be alone. Save time, space, money, and sanity.
@@snakeeyes9246 Don't feel hurt by your rejections, though. If you want to be alone because of choice, then do that. If you want to be alone because you feel that is your only option, remember that romantic relationships aren't the only types of relationships.
To be honest, I only tried to date 1 girl and didn't follow through. I realized before the potential relationship that I didn't need a relationship. I hope you are truly happy by yourself and approve of your choices.
Being single to me is excellent.
I LOVE being single not dating none of it. I love it and find more people should try it because too many people aren't comfortable getting to know themselves and become dependent on not being alone. Loneliness is NOT Singlehood or solitude.
There is nothing wrong with people wanting to be alone. It means they are happy with them selves.
Absolutely
I don't want to be alone the thing is that nobody wants to be around me that's all
@@zaidanoluv Well start feeling good to be by your self and that will radiate to confidence and people will want to be around you. I go by my self all the time and family & friends admire that!
Buy a car, enjoy ur life right? 😄😁
@@randyx3976 Or not rely on someone to make you happy and do it your self.
Someone once said.."why get married. Just find someone you hate and give them all your money" ...🤣🤣🤣
Lol
Lisa C never heard that before!
That's funny.
that was my mother from the ages of 16-23. i moved out 3 times, she conned me back every time until i told her to fuck off & left for good. i was better off living on the streets than with her. my wife hasn't taken anywhere near as much cash from me, plus she's given me some when i needed it. so not all women are bludgers, but there are many who are.
What???
I had three major relationships in my life that taught me how beautiful it is not to be in one
"Romantic love is a dangerous illusion "
For those who think being single is lonely and miserable... Imagine being in a loveless, sexless marriage! THAT is miserable. Don't believe me? Just ask your co-workers. I'll remain single, free and happy. Thank you 🤘🤘
I had a coworker who told me about his sexless marriage after his wife gave birth to their son. She gave the kid more time and affection and denied the hubby for 5 years. He was losing patience and heart. It took an extramarital affair to wake her up (it helped that she was a housewife who would face hardship if divorced from her money making hubby). However, I don’t know how well the marriage is today because I left that department 12 years ago. I can’t forget how desperate he sounded when he told me about being married but feeling alone.
You're stupid to think like that.
I always thought that "Love" in the eyes of most (although not all) Neurotypicals (as I have Asperger's) is a necessary function, if you don't have that connection or get into a relationship, then you are automatically a subhuman.
I also thought that Love in terms of any "normal" person is really just Theatre. it's all an act. Although it may not be fully intentional, it's all just manipulating someone simply because you want them to fit into the Puppet on your stage to make sense of your world. That's why Marriage (as lovely as it is) seems odd as I don't see why you NEED a metal whole on your finger to prove you love someone. When you see something in someone that is admirable, you respect, understand and accept them (even if it means not being with them) and they feel the same way, that's the real marriage. I've noticed especially with Marriage, signing things, rings, a performance in front of friends and family is just a show.
To me it all seems fake. It seems people don't actually have the capacity to genuinely care (call it a Freudian excuse as from very early traumatic childhood experiences, situations all the way up to now) about others. When I look into the eyes of an everyday person (being Autistic, I am told I lack Empathy which is untrue) I see nothing. The only real thing I see is "how does this all play into my world" as they are too solid and grounded to reality (which is why they are terrified of being alone, engage in Drinking Culture and see anyone who doesn't as either stupid, pathetic, queer or somehow Hitler) and need performances to entertain them and for them to do the same in hopes of recognition.
That's why
Sarcasm
Sassyness
Weddings
Anniversaries
Prom
Social Media
Drinking Culture
Partying
Trends
Make Up
Excessive Clothes Shopping
Dressing up food
Throwing Away food because you didn't dress it correctly
Selfies
Exist as weird as that sounds. Again, not all people are like this, but most of it seems very superficial and again, there is nothing there but impulse and acting (though they genuinely believe what they feel is real)
I can't describe it without sounding weird... or like a complete dickhead
Being single for life not by choice and being in a loveless, sexless marriage are equally bad.
@@ryanhunter226 Dude i see it the same way but too me it just seems to be a byproduct of quantum physics
Finally someone says it. Romantic love is an illusion. It's about needs.
Romantic love is a scam.
@@jimsullivanyoutube to me love is not real anymore its all a lie I'm fully awake now
being single is such a great opportunity for self-actualization. zero distractions hence zero coping mechanisms. your life reflects purely your own choices; more evidently, there’s no one to blame for or credit for how it’s turning out.
this is less evident when someone is in a relationship.
Been single/alone a decade and I couldn't be happier💚