The sister only wanting to go to the wedding once it was in Hawaii drives me crazy. My brother was living on the other side of the country when he married his wife. Our family couldn’t afford to fly out for his wedding, so we worked with his friends to set up a livestream. We were still there on his wedding day, even though we couldn’t physically be there. We saw the ceremony and talked to the bride and groom and guests. You can make things work if you really want to. The sister in the story simply does not care about OP.
This is what my cousin did for her wedding, it wasn't a distance issue for most of us, it was the 'rona lockdowns. (It was early days.) They live streamed it for everyone who wasn't local/in the wedding.
Yeah. A 3 hour drive and maybe an overnight stay is TOO MUCH but umm excuse me you’re paying for Hawaii. Suddenly everyone canceled their orders 🥺🥺❤️🩹 I’d be so broken hearted
That right there, blood or not, our tie would be severed. No. The quick change to now rsvp yes… so selfish. I honestly wouldn’t want her to even pay her own way. Stay on the mainland and let everyone have fun. You know if she went it would be bitch city. Talking smack every chance she gets to the 14 people *ACTUALLY* love, and care for you. Sure you could have told her about the switch, but then you’d get the fake her. Please let 2023 be the year of just saying #nope2023
The audacity to talk about "being unfair" and how "their kids would feel left out". Like they did not give a crap about the wedding itself before, and suddenly...they have to be there!
I'm sure that mom in the first story was the reason for her son's first "shotgun" wedding as well. What a horrible woman. I hope they keep her far away from the kids and good on them for not allowing her at the wedding. Not the AH and I hope they stuck to that decision.
That one reminded me of something Erma Bombeck wrote: “As the bridegroom’s mother I vowed to wear beige and keep my mouth shut. No one believed me when I said it.” My mom adored Erma and used to read her column to me when I was a kid. I'm pretty sure Erma helped my mom stay sane as a mom who had her 4th baby at age 41 (me).
I was also thinking that this MiL was probably the reason the groom's 1st wedding (& marriage) was a mess. NTA, I would leave her banned, but on the off chance you choose to allow her to wedding, remove that part where they ask "If anyone objects to these two getting married speak now or forever hold your peace." Also have ushers sit on both ends of her pew, and let her know in advance that they are there to haul her butt out immediately the moment she tries to cause a scene. I would not allow her to reception otherwise you would probably have to hire 2 MiL minders for her (She appears to be a mouthy handful).
I don't understand why she wants to attend so badly when she clearly is opposed to the union, my only theory is that she was planning on making a scene to embarrass the bride. What a nasty woman, someone should remind her we're in 2023, not 1812.
I would totally let her come, but in my vows I would say to my husband, "Thank you for marring me, even though I'm a "used woman"(look at MIL here with a big smile on my face) lol
"Not seeing her son get married would hurt her" She should have thought about that when she called his fiancé "used" for being in the same exact position he is in.
Frankly if she's that nasty to the bride leading up to things, it seems being there would "hurt" her more likely. Also her son is in his 30s and divorced already, so I'd say the virgin bride dream just might be a tad unrealistic.
My mom actually did this to me... we were planning a large wedding in Colorado in Dec. Mom just couldn't make it. When the grooms family started making issues, we decided to get married on a cruise. Back home we had a big reception. Years later, I found out mom just didn't want to deal with the cold weather, but a cruise to the Caribbean was acceptable, and she had been furious for not being brought along. Thanks for the support on my special day, mom.
If your mom wasn't the problem and it was just your husband's family being difficult, you should have invited her. Freezing cold wedding vs hot makes a big difference. Especially if your mom has health issues or is over 60. You may indeed owe her an apology.
@user-vg6pj2my2n Yes, at the time, she was over 60 but no health problems. Claimed to hate the cold but did not hesitant to fly out for ski trips. No apology.
Me too, her sister just wanted to go to Hawaii if she went than her business would suffer & there goes all the money they could've made. She probably expected her sister to cancel the wedding when their landscaping buisness was in the summer & go to the wedding when their buisness was running slow like in August or September. Too bad for the sister she gets to miss Hawaii & spend her summer with her family running her business. Oh boo hoo.
@@catspaw30922 months later but, no the sister was lying about being busy because of the business, using it as an excuse bc she didn’t wanna go. Otherwise she wouldn’t have been upset when not re-invited and had no issue with going to Hawaii for free. The sister herself acted like and said they were being left out and op was playing favorites, I’m guessing sister completely forgot about her original excuse of being too busy to go bc she was so focused on getting a free trip to Hawaii, because she basically outed herself as a liar and not caring about her sister getting married at all. Also I’m thinking maybe you’re not from the US? Because August is still summer, summer months here are June-August and the official first day of fall is in September. Not really important lol but just confused me a bit
Right? I honestly hope they had/have a smashing time in Hawaii, best week of their lives, and I wish them a lifetime of happiness. Toxicity within the family is some of the worst.
That first story is awful! telling that woman to hide her child?! My mom got married when I was 11 and his parents welcomed my sister and I with open arms. They are our grandparents through and through, they made it a point to have a great relationship with us and I'm so lucky to have them! So glad they didn't do us like this!
My mom married my (step) Dad when I was about 4 1/2 yrs old, my sister about 6months pregnant. My mom, I tell you. I wish I had had more time with her. She made her own wedding dress, used to the left over fabric to make bows on her shoes…. I’m lucky if I can stitch a hole together and it’s not noticeable. I was always told me and my Dad (step) looked so much alike, we look at each other and laugh/giggle. His response was “it must be because of the hats” just so random. He was the best dad, also wish I had had more time learning about him. Toxic has to go so you can focus on what’s important to you and you have to make some kind of promise to keep toxic people away and surround yourself with well grounded, sense of self people and live your life
Fiancee needs to grow a pair The story should be about how he finally stood up to his abusive Mom But no, it is about a woman doing it for him. Op really needs to decide if fiancee is really up to the job.
@@paulcrowley8587 wtf. She didn't even mention if he defended her or not. Which him kicking her out seemed like he was. Now you're just making up scenarios to fill in the blanks lol. Smh
Oh that sister 100% just wanted that free trip to Hawaii. That second comment you read hit the nail on the head perfectly, spelling it out exactly - "is your business suddenly not going to be busy? your kids suddenly are great on long trips?" She didn't want the wedding, just the trip.
Exactly. As soon as she heard it was in Hawaii and the bride was paying for everything, she thought "oh, well, in THAT case, we can make it work, because she's going to pay for it." Was it a play favorites situation? Sort of. The bride chose to have her dream wedding along with those who were happy to come no matter where it was. She is treating her closest family and friends so they can share in her happiness.
I wouldn’t even call it playing favorites since it’s not like she said I’m only picking my favorite people to go. She invited everyone, only 14 responded they’d go, so she reworked things after that for those 14 people, herself and husband. Sister just didn’t like that it got reworked into a nice all expenses paid trip to Hawaii.
Not a wedding but a funeral and my best friend was designated to keep my MIL away from me. I did my best to avoid her in the crowd, but she was making her way toward me. On cue, my friend gushed at how good it was to see her and, taking her arm, whisked her away. So very grateful to have a friend like that.
I’m cackling at the idea of some bitchy MIL getting dragged away by someone who she does not know but who is saying it’s ‘just so good to see her!’ And just blue screening.
Yes. Funerals need even more minders. I could have used security guards and at least three minders. Unfortunately I didn't have them. Astonishingly gobsmaking how shockingly awful some people can be. 13 years later I am still reeling.
My niece had her own mother have a Mother Minder at her wedding. Her mother's behavior at her older sister's wedding led to this. The Minder didn't really have any control but Mommy was better simply because she had been warned by both sisters and knew she was being watched during the wedding. The Minder was sweet as pie and was called the mother's "assistant". She stuck with Mommy at all times, helping and being so so nice.
This is BRILLIANT! There are so many reasons for having a person "minder" at a wedding. This includes people who you know in advance will get drunk if not watched. A minder seems like a great compromise for a less-than-ideal situation.
@@deanmonthei5631my father ended up minding his drink wife at my wedding, or in the hot Australian summer night, sitting in the front of the VW beetle, keeping her inside the car. I didn't know until it was time to leave. Bless my dad he's the one who paid for the wedding. (my mum said he had to...)
Kindness, generosity of spirit and a gentle disposition will make any bride glow from within. I had an eccentric 75+ yro great uncle. He also only had one leg. During my wedding reception he unexpectedly danced up a storm and even took off his false leg to show guests who didn't know him that he didn't limit himself. My wedding was semi-formal and in a 5 star hotel. I had so much fun watching him, and it was an unexpected highlight. Don't be a bridezilla. Instead, be a warm light that your guests will remember with love
It sounded to me like the last guy DID speak up earlier and defended his wife's honor and the groom said just to "play ball" with the situation because he was going to have to deal with her shenanigans for the rest of his life. Dude did calm down, but apparently was being bad mouthed to the rest of the guests and family because the bride's mother let the cat out of the bag at the bar. I don't feel he wished them a divorce, he actually said he would be there for the groom in the event of---which seems like a pretty educated guess. Probably shouldn't have toasted the couple that way but I totally don't blame him.
That was my thought, too! He did confront his friend. I take that as defending her. And I'm wondering what the pregnant wife had to say about it. Whether she was going along with it to keep the peace or if she was livid, etc.
This Sunday I was at the wedding of a relative. Both MILs were running the ceremony, meeting guests, showing them seats, asking whether everything is alright, and constantly comforting everyone. This is how I see the role of MIL during the wedding, not awful things people do.
I absolutely agree with you! Parents of the bride and groom are essentially the co-hosts of the wedding, so they should definitely be making the day a happy and stress free for the newlyweds, not a a nightmare.
My wedding was almost exactly like u just described. I was blessed with a MIL that actually loved me, and my mom loves him as well. The only drama we had was 1 of the groomsmen trying to hook up with 1 of my bridesmaids. And that was more comical than drama. 10 yrs later we still laugh hysterically.
The bride in the last story reminds me of how my sister reacted to my divorce. I was a bridesmaid in her wedding and by the time the wedding happened I had already moved out of our house, gotten my own place and took off my wedding rings. My sister alluded that she thought I got divorced when I did to "steal her thunder" because everyone would be talking about my divorce at her wedding. Did she think I wanted everyone to talk about how my marriage had failed?! And did she really think I stayed in an awful, emotionally and verbally abusive marriage just hoping she'd get married so I could decide at that moment to sign divorce papers? I was much younger and more timid then (life has kicked me in the ass enough to make me no longer give a shit about what people think of me and to stand up for myself) so I told her I'd put my wedding rings back on and when anyone asked me where my "husband " was I'd tell them he was sick and couldn't make it. The delusions of some women when they become brides is beyond crazy.
@@jeanams07 Exactly. A couple people asked where he was and I simply said he was sick and no one asked anything else. And I certainly wasn't going to volunteer to tell everyone. The fact that my marriage failed is no one else's business. Why would she even think I wanted anyone to know?!
If their that bore, they shouldn’t get married lol marriage is hard, though I doubt she got married for the spotlight or to make drama, but marriage is hard enough without adding family drama to it lol
Please allow me to step in and do your sister's job: I'm sorry you went through losing a marriage. I'm sorry for whatever happened that made divorce clearly your right choice. I hope and pray that you will find love, that love will find you, and that your life will be filled with joy from now on. (By the way, I hope to get married too. Wanna be part of my joy?) Best wishes.
My grandma has dementia and went to my wedding. It was extremely heartfelt given I wasn’t sure if she was going to make it. We had our ceremony at a church, so we showed our sign of peace. Once we got to my grandma, talked to me and my husband about her wishes for a happy marriage and how she genuinely grateful she is for me to find such an incredible person to spend the rest of my life with. That was such an emotional moment for everyone who attended. I could care less about her outshining us at the wedding, especially that very moment. It was the most meaningful wedding gift I’ve ever received. Although her case is severe, she still talks to me about how beautiful that day was.
My grandparents dressed up in full home made wizard costumes for my wedding (it was a Harry Potter themed wedding) and totally stole the show with how amazing they looked. I thought it was the most amazing thing ever. The photos of them are beautiful and now they’ve passed I treasure them. I don’t understand brides who are so anal about the attention only being on them!
I know I’m late with this comment…. But, God bless you for having your Grandma at your wedding, some people try to hide away loved ones suffering with dementia/Alzheimer’s … It sounds as if having her there was truly a blessing and a wonderful wedding gift for you, you’re an angel for including her …wishing you and hubby a lifetime of love and laughter xx 🍾🥂❤😘
My stepdad who is a massive jokester made a divorce joke at my uncles wedding and the only people that took it hard were the bride and bride’s dad. My stepdad was upset when he found out he offended them that he shut down for like an hour at the reception. Flash forward a year and the bride cheated on my uncle multiple times with multiple men. We all joke to my stepdad that he was more of a psychic than a jokester. Uncle is remarried to a beautiful woman with a baby now.
OMG the Hawaii wedding trip is sooooo like mine. so, I invited whole family to go on a cruise for mine and my husband's vow renewal after 10 years of marriage since we had a very small wedding that no one really could attend (for one reason or another). well long story short 80% of my family was too busy to get away or plan to go on a cruise that's literally year and half away (dec of 2024) but yeah so now we are paying for the 9 ppl whom said they would go as a treat from us, but now I have family members contacting me saying they could all of a sudden find the time to go but got mad when I said cool and gave them the site to pay for their own cabin which apparently wasn't what they wanted to hear. I know I'm not the a hole I always take time for family events, but no one ever does the same for me. we are going to enjoy our 8-day cruise...
You enjoy that cruise with the people who wanted to spend time with you & your hubby! I hope you have a fantastic time & a magical vow renewal, that you both deserve! ✨💕✨
The wedding toast story… Dude was trying to be a good friend. But when the bride’s mom said “you’ve ruined my daughters days enough”… That’s when he made a plan to ruin her day at the reception. He went through the ceremony, taking pics, cocktail hour, etc. All just to drop a bomb and I LOVE IT!😅
Also, he definitely defended his wife before the speech. That's where the whole "annoyed by her for the rest of my life" thing came from. Reddit has. Wry poor reading comprehension
If strangers unjustly stamp you the villain, due to their lack of accountability, proudly take on a surreal character, which is the complete opposite of you, and savagely serve them your words. The point will not be lost on those who fully understand the dysfunctional dynamics taking place.
NTA, I can see why he did what he did. I would have got on the petty train with the bridzilla and groomzilla. My speech would have been "I am doing as my friend and his bride requested, here are their texts to me leading up to today....(read texts) so I can check off my speech being about bride as much as my friend. Check, no special request for food, check my wife didn't mention her pregnancy, I did but only because you did. Good luck dealing with her annoying attitude after this, but hope it is not for the rest of your life. Oh, and No I won't be helping with Thank you notes, get your Mother to help. I will save you the trouble of sending me one because I will no longer be gifting. I will also be letting you know now, that we are leaving. Don't bother contacting me after this.... boom Mic drop.
That last story really just sounds like the bride didn't like her soon-to-be husband's best friend and wanted to do whatever she could to wreck their relationship. She made him the scapegoat for everything that she found wrong on her "special day." She deserved that speech.
I think so too. I can't stand women who will actively ruin their SOs friendships, yet would get offended if their SO had anything to even just say about their friendships.
I am so grateful for my mother in law she is literally an angel! She understands and respects boundaries and she is one of the kindest most generous person I know. I love you Vivi
Yup! My cousins husband hired a security just for his mother in law. He had a coming to Jesus moment after she made a scene at the rehearsal dinner. He said you say one thing out of line or have more than one drink you will be kicked out and not let back in. Mad respect for that man. They are still married 10 years later.
Only 14 RSVPs - I LOVE the idea of treating all those to an awesome experience… those who said no, said NO. it’s a lesson for all of us to always choose what matters most in our lives.
Exactly ! The 14 people who said yes from the jump were the real ones who actually cared enough to be there no matter what so they deserve to be there to enjoy the more extravagant wedding all of those who said no ironically made possible. If they couldn't be there for the worst then they shouldn't expect to be there for the best.
Last story in re: defendinghis wife.: did everyone completely ignore the fact that he talked to his friend about her behavior towards his wife? He literally defended her by talking to the friend who told him to keep the peace, which he tried to do. If someone uses an event as an excuse to treat you like garbage, they are just showing who they really are. And he did defend his wife
I totally agree. But I don't think it doesn't make him the asshole. Charlotte has read so many stories of people who stormed out/abruptly left in times like this. This guy pretended like he was fine just to say that. Embarrassing his friend, the bride, and his wife. And making everyone who was there to support their loved ones uncomfortable. That speech ruined their friendship, potentially ruined the newlyweds marriage, potentially ruined his friendship with other guests or even his wife's friendships with other guests. It's one thing to break in the moment; it's another to seeth and allow yourself to break, then hold onto the anger after you already broke so that you could embarrass the person AND betray their trust by saying something they told you in confidence in public. And topic it all off with a "Macbeth" at the end. Everyone sucks here. All that said. I still thought it was justified and I side with him. But he was very much an asshole. ESH.
Well the mother in law did want the flower girl banned from the wedding 🙄 but she didn't seem concerned about her son's kid having a roll and people knowing that he's a 'used man' 😂
The ongoing issue with gender views. If a man has a lot of sex, he's lucky. If a woman has a lot of sex, she's a slut. Some people just can't get that way out of date mindset from their brains.
😂😅 you didn't know that men don't become dirty as they fill up their little black books? Lol that is crazy. I bet the MiL is gonna be the type of grandmother that makes it very well known that the daughter of the bride isn't really a part of the family. And go out of her way to make sure everyone sees that the girl is treated different than her son's son. The audacity of some people.
For me the worst is that they had their kid's at almost the same age. She was 19, he was 21. And the MIL scolds the wife for being having a ''teen pregnancy''. Sorry even if you are legal at 21, you are not more mature/ well off in life, than a 19 to have a kid.
I’d bet two years, not because they’re a good match but because I get the vibe that they’d be too prideful to get divorced and would push it to the absolute breaking point before signing the papers
If someone ever has a similar hawaii situation, I’d recommend sending the new invitation to the sister first with a breakdown of what the cost to her would be and see how she reacted. That way when OP already had a no from her regarding Hawaii & if she balked you could tell her that by her saying no, they (OP) realized they could afford to pay for the ones who said yes.
Wasn't a MIL minder, but was a "drunk obnoxious cousin" minder/paid date. My cousin (bride) asked me to be the date for one of the groom's cousins. She hates him (always gets drunk and is one of those guys that will be an AH then say its "just a joke bro") but groom was being pressured to invite him. So cousin invited him and me to her house and introduced me as his date. I've also trained in martial arts for years so she asked me to break a bunch of boards and beat up a kicking shield, then said if he messed up I was ordered to do that to him. He was given a list of inappropriate and appropriate behaviors and told good luck. On the day of I got a text telling me to use the same jokes he likes, but on him. And if I could get him to cry I'd get an extra $50 and a new figure I'd been wanting if I got him to leave early. Guess who got $50 and has a lovely Eternal Sailor Moon standing on her shelf 💅
A USED WOMAN!!! OP is so much better than I would have probably smacked her! Screw the double standard and hypocrisy that is just beyond rude. You don't say stuff like that, oh my gosh! Props to OP and the hubby to be for backing her up. Keep her kicked out it's her own fault. Nobody needs that kind of toxic mess.
Right!? Anyone who is awful enough to say something like that in the first place, is not someone who will see the error of their ways just because it’s your wedding day… I’d keep that woman FAR away from my daughter !!!
Thank you! That statement would get her banned from my whole life, not just my wedding. She obviously considers women to be objects for men's "use" and that's disgusting
Unless this woman sincerely apologizes and genuinely change her ways, there's no way I would let her attend the wedding. Yes, I do understand that this insane MIL would rather eat dead Snakes than apologize or modify her attitude and behavior. She's not going to change, so keep her out of the wedding. PS: drop some money on security, because it sounds like this lunatic might try something slick.
I wouldn't even be with a man with a mother like that. You don't just marry the man you marry into the family and they are your family. If they are horrible ppl then why put yourself through that
The third wedding seems to be a trend nowadays among brides. My daughter was so laid back she told the bridesmaids to choose what they would be happy with and could wear again she just gave them the colour she was going with. Did not worry about decor as she had chosen a very reputable restaurant to have her reception at and knew everything would be great.. She did not worry about rules for guests as she said they are friends and family. Her philosophy was if she tried to make it perfect then she would spend the whole day stressing over everything and not enjoy the day. She has great memories of that day.
I just got married a month ago. I was told by my photographer this was the most fun he’s had at a wedding in a while, and told me stories I’ve only ever heard from Charlotte 😂 I’m like omg that really happens huh? He’s like yeah. He’s like you’ve been very chill and laid back it’s been alot of fun. Made me feel good! When it came to my bridesmaids, i did pick the dresses because i wanted them to match, I’m not into the here’s a color wear any dress thing. My OCD isn’t down with that. But when it came to shoes, i didn’t care if they wore heals or not or what color they were although they all decided on all wearing silver. Jewelry, didn’t care. Nails, didn’t care. Hair? Not all of them could afford to get their hair done so i went with simple downed curly hair to make it easy on them. There’s no need to be a bridezilla at all
Your daughter had the right mindset. Too many brides don't realize that weddings are just like live theater which means anything can and will happen so you just have to go with the flow. No matter how well you try to plan there WILL always be something that won't be exactly right and the ones rigidly obsessed with having total perfection will flip out over even the smallest thing that goes wrong which sours the very wedding. The idea should be to plan as well as you can but know there will likely be issues big and/or small on the day so just be ready to roll with the punches of whatever comes and don't sweat the small stuff.
I was MOH at a friend's wedding. She gave me the colors and told me to pick an affordable dress. When I told the ladies at the store, it was fun time 😊 like that scene in Pretty Woman. They were bringing me stuff to try on. One lady found a dress in clearance that had the colors in it. Spent a whole $40 on the dress and shoes. Laid back wedding made for a fun day.
As a soon to be mother in law I am mortified by these behaviors. I am super happy that my son has found a lovely, supportive partner that brings out the best in him.
My mother-in-law and father-in-law were angels! They not only accepted me but my entire family (didn't think a whole lot of good about them but different story). We lived behind them after a couple of years of marriage and if I was out of work sick, Mama( what I called her) would bring me breakfast and lunch, wash my dishes, anything. I came home a couple of times to a homemade birthday cake on my birthday. My brother is 12 years younger than me and my dad died when he was 13. My FIL got out of bed to help him collect leaves for an assignment that he forgot about for school. My MIL was so special. She told my husband that if we ever got divorced, they got custody of me. He could still visit if he called first, just in case I didn't want to see him. She was serious. But it will be 31 years in October! All of our parents are gone, my mom August12,2023.
That last story had me thinking the best man should have dropped out of the wedding. The fact his friend was down for the bullying says he needs to rethink the friendship. Apparently the bride doesn't like him or his wife. To even have the bride's mother talk sh!t to him would have had me just up and leaving throwing the peace sign. He's NTA he's just a friend that's fed up.
The fact that familial relationships and lifelong friendships are so utterly destroyed all for the sake of an event that lasts ONE FRIGGIN DAY and only has a 50% chance of being a successful union, is the real tragedy in all these stories. I don't give a $hit how much stress someone is under leading up to a wedding...you don't throw these relationships away simply for the sake of a friggin party! Weddings have become more difficult to navigate than finding a solution to the crisis in the Middle East!
I guess you've never had relatives who can't go anywhere without melting down or making a scene because of personality disorders. So bad that the party breaks up and the rest of the guests leave early. Lucky you.
I mean its ridiculous and you put so much planning in... I think if people could see how fast it goes by they wouldn't go completely mental like this. It's a stressful thing to arrange so why do you want to add to your stress unnecessarily (I am strictly talking about bridezillas and groomzillas here)
The party just signals where it ended, it was crashing long before they got to that point, now whether some OPs have it set in their mind that someone id out to get them and they think something bad is happening, so they tell us it happened, some cases, it could be nothing at all.. hopefully this isn’t the case; but it’s crazy how many people have trust issues….
I was the maid of honor in my best friend’s wedding, it was originally planned just before Covid hit and I were going to be pregnant af like 38 weeks… because of covid they moved the wedding to two years after the original wedding date. She (the bride) paid for two bridesmaids dresses for me since the original dress was way to big for me at the actual wedding! I couldn’t have been more blessed with the friends that I have, love them all so much ❤❤❤
I'll never understand why brides think a pregnant woman will be unsightly at their wedding. My mom when she was pregnant with my older brother was banned from her cousin's wedding, because it would be a 'distraction'. As if anyone in the history of modern weddings has pointed at a random guest and gone 'gasp, look how horrid, they have a baby bump.'
@@robertgronewold3326 The only reason someone might say, OMG look at that baby bump, if it’s the bride but I hope even that is no longer a ‘distraction.’
When I got married I was very laid back. People kept asking me if I was stressed out or nervous and my answer was that anything can be missing and I wouldn’t care as long as my groom was there waiting for me at the altar. That was 6.5 years ago, we are happily married and have 2 kids.
The bride deserved that wedding speech SO MUCH! Your friend isn't much better for allowing her to treat you that way. I LOVE it when people get called out on their behavior right in front of everyone. ❤
I think the toast was well-deserved. And likely all the other guests had been treated just as badly. Probably they were stunned yet cheering him on in silence.
I went to a wedding visibly pregnant (like 6 or 7 months) for a friend of my husband’s. If someone had asked him to have me “tone down” my pregnancy- we just wouldn’t have gone
Same. My husband’s best friend got married when I was 8 months pregnant. I was a bridesmaid and the bride knew I’d be super pregnant when she asked me and I got nothing but support from her.
@@felinemoonchild my boss made a colleague stay at her desk or run around with a clipboard in front of her stomach so nobody would see she's pregnant. It was really wild
@@justwonder1404not a pregnant woman but my MOH (my sister) had her only baby 6 months exactly before my wedding. All out of town guests spent half the time cooing at little man. I danced more dances with my new nephew, so my sis could eat a full meal and get a dance in with her man, than i did with my new husband lol. But we never thought about a childfree wedding for a second and about half the guest that showed up were kids. Original invites had it about 65% adults 35% kids but had several people call to cancel morning of so ended up being pretty much 50-50. So not all of us hate pregnant women or new borns sharing our spot light at our weddings, depends on how you feel about sharing your shine in general i think
@@justwonder1404Being from a different culture and watching these videos, I'm completely stunned by how everyone (including Charlotte and commenters) believe that the bride owns the wedding and everyone should just do her bidding. In my eyes's that's nuts. The bride gets full autonomy over her dress, her bouquet, her vows and whom she chooses for her bridesmaids. Everything else about the wedding the groom has an equal say in, as well as whoever is paying. Weddings are not events where we worship brides, they're to celebrate the beginning of a marriage and have both extended families meet the other side. And the gifts are to help the new couple start a new home together, and guests bring whatever they want to give you, not pre-selected stuff off a list. Just the NOTION that you get to dictate to your guests what they must bring... I can't. American culture is sometimes so absurd that I wonder if you watch too many of your own Hollywood movies and confuse that for real life. I suppose that in a too large, melting pot country, with no organic traditions, you have to get your cues from somewhere, but pop culture is probably the single worst source you could have. So now you have all these brides thinking they're princesses or the main character in a rom-com or something. Yeesh.
@@dragonprincess8205 Amen! The majority of time at my wedding the kids (my new nephews) were on the dance floor doing their thing. I LOVE kids. I also think pregnancy is beautiful. ❤
You know what I find interesting, so many people are concerned about the honor of the pregnant wife from the last story that nobody is considering the possibility that she might have been more concerned about how her husband was being treated like crap by his best friend. Homeboy should’ve quit the wedding sooner and told his boy, “I can be your best friend but I can’t be your best man.”
I really don't understand bridezillas. When my brother and SIL got married, I was one of three bridesmaids. I got to choose my own dress (she did see it before I paid for it). I was a part of everything, until 4 weeks before the wedding I was seriously burnt with hot oil. Their main concern was that I might miss the wedding, because they wanted me there. Fortunately, I was still able to attend and be a bridesmaid, and the only thing my SIL requested was to have the matching scarf for my dress attached to my shoulders so it could cover my burns. She also requested her other two bridesmaids get scarves for their dresses so that I wouldn't feel like the odd one out. I just thought I would share this so you have a nice positive story. ❤❤❤
A "MIL Minder" sounds like an awesome gift to offer a friend/loved one with a MIL problem. For those with unruly inlaws, I imagine it would be a weight lifted off of our shoulders. The less a bride has to stress about on her big day, the better.
My entire bridal party was the “minder” for my mother. They thought it was fun because each and every one of them had put up with so much shit from her. They had fun with it
My heart goes out to you as my friend also has the mother from hell (so much so that, among our friend group, there's a long running joke that we think she's adopted). My friend's mother is a horrible drunk and gets so wasted that she can't walk... Then angrily denies everything bad she did the next day (you can't tell her she might have a problem as it makes her apoplectic and nastily personal). So, when our friend approached her about inviting her to the wedding, she (rather diplomatically) said "we always fall out when you drink. Could you please not drink at the wedding? I want us to have really happy memories together". This was met with the usual barrage of abuse, so she decided not to invite her. Her mother said "wild horses couldn't keep her away", so my friend got married on an island. At high tide. Wild horses might not have stopped her, but the sea did! It was a lovely wedding! 😍😂😂😎
I feel the first womens pain. My future husband's mom is not allowed to attend our wedding in November, but her and his falling out happened even before he proposed. I got so sick of her all the time about being worried I would get pregnant and ruin her sons life from a women who had 3 kids with 3 different guys only married to one and none of which are still with her now. She literally has a turn style of boyfriends in her life to my 3 relationships period with no babies yet! First woman is completely justified in having enough with the double standards and if you don't stand up to them it will lead to issues between you and your man.
Absolutely correct, it's MILs like that who help destroy new marriages because they never were happy in their relationships & they don't want anyone else to be happy in theirs!! Congratulations on yours & your future husband's wedding day!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🎉🎉🎉🍾🥂🍾🥂🍾🥂
Bridezilla: “Your wife needs to tone down her pregnancy so she doesn’t outshine me on my day.” Best man: “We’ll both be at home that day. Is that toned down enough for you, Karen!”
Went to a friends wedding recently and it was amazing. My friend and her new husband paid for most of it. I used to work with her and her dad at a casino and her and I became really good friends. Her hair was running behind and she was a lil stressed out, her dad had to grab some things from the bridal suite to bring down before the ceremony so I asked to go up and see her for a second to see how she was doing (I wasnt in the wedding party but I still wanted to be there for her) and she was thrilled to see me before the ceremony. I was also the first of our friends she invited that had arrived so I wanted to be there for her for a bit. We chatted for a minute so her bridesmaids could finish getting what they needed to get done, I kept my friend company and helped the hairdresser a bit if she needed it and my friend was really glad I came up to see her for a second. Her ceremony was amazing, her reception was beautiful and despite some guests having to leave early I wanted to be able to be there for a while. So we had a lot of fun dancing to so many songs, i slipped on her dress and fell on my knees on the dance floor but I just laughed it off and kept dancing (alcohol is wonderful for pain lol) and after I sonered up enough and i got sore I made sure she had a good rest of her wedding and a safe honeymoon and left. She was just glad that we all had fun.
In regards to the first story, totally different situation, but my husband and I were dealing with his insanely narcissistic brother and equally terrible wife while planning our wedding. She kept starting drama, and we cut contact for months. Of course, as the wedding approached, they started trying to weasel their way in. I stood my ground and said no apology, no invite. My in laws begged me to let them come, but I said no. They did not attend the wedding and, though my in laws were furious and didn't speak to me the entire day, refused to take pictures with me, etc, I have no regrets. Interestingly enough, we are currently almost a year and a half NC with the same brother and sister in law because, you guessed it, they were shit and we asked for an apology. Just the other day, my MIL misunderstood something I said and thought we were talking again, but when I corrected the mistake, she asked how long it was going to take or something to that effect. I said that my husband asked for one thing from his brother, an apology, and until he can do that, we will not be in their lives. My MIL said " well that's never going to happen" and I said well I guess that is BIL's choice. We will not falter. Guess who has let BIL get away with treating everyone like shit their entire life, enabling their narcissistic and abusive behaviors??? Of course, his parents!
I have a brother like that. I've gone NC... But yes, he was born a little white and never had it disciplined out of him. He blamed mum for his bad life because she drank. I'd drink, too, if I had a child like him.
My cousin's husband had a sister like that. And parents. Everything was "his fault", while she was a darling little angel who could do no wrong. He left them on his 16th birthday by going to a trade high school with dormitories in a different city.
People who enable bad behaviors like that are completely delulu and part of the problem and the reason they're like that They expect other people to make ammends and adapt to the bad behavior for no good reason, and for people to forgive them without any apologies or changes. Insane.
Girl Hawaii is only expensive if you have a big wedding. My wife and I basically eloped, told family join us if they want and some did. Had a small beautiful wedding in Maui for less than $2k with a planner. The trip, which we wanted to take anyway, was around $4k after everything. So much cheaper than renting a barn or something and having a bunch of guests.
I personally think a wedding toast is the last time someone gets a chance to really say their peace about a union and is the perfect time to put someone on blast for being a terrible person but that’s just me 😂
@@marieknight9385 and what would exactly say about my expectations? Making a scene during a wedding toast is something that can be satisfactory (and maybe have an impact) in a movie. It is not something you do in real life
I'm sitting here like "OMG, people in 'murica are so crazy! All the weddings I've been to have just been cheerful and beautiful, especially the last one!". Then I reminded myself that the bride and maid of honor cut off their friendship as soon as the wedding party was over. I was given the honor to be a "bridesmale" (it may sound weird, but the bride and I have been friends for longer than any of her other friends, so she wanted me included on her side) and it was a given for me and the other bridesmaids to help with the wedding preparations as much as we could, even if the MOH was in top charge. However, the MOH also was a mother of three with her own business, so she understandably didn't have all the time in the world to manage a whole wedding, so the rest of us did what we could to unload her, coming up with ideas and and arranging things, of course always checking in with her to know that WE all thought these were good and fun ideas. She acted nice to us, but behind our backs she were continuosly complaining to the bride about how we took over her chores and made her less significant. I mean, it was evident she couldn't handle it all by herself, so we wanted to help her, and aren't all of the bridal party supposed to chip in with tasks anyway? She wouldn't have it! When the girls went to the city to try out wedding gowns they made a whole nighter of it, with dinner and a hotel stay. At the hotel the bride to be fell asleep before anyone else (even before going to bed, but hey...) and the MOH started bashing on the other bridesmaids, calling them names and whatnot, really breaking them down. One of them is a really tough cookie that have fought her way through life, gotten really successful with her career and having a nice home and all, one who doesn't let anyone mess with her, but the MOH even broke her down as well. At the bachelorette party we took the bride on a trip around the area, visiting a spa, champagne testing and various other stops, and we were supposed to have dinner at a real fancy restaurant and finally go to a lake cabin for some midnight barbecuing and further drinking. Before the dinner, the MOH suddenly said "I'm leaving now!", and just left, went home. The reason was that her mother were sitting her kids, and she had gotten tired. Sure, the mother had had health issues, but can't someone else watch the kids then? We had planned this trip for nearly half a year, isn't that enough time to get anyone to watch the kids? Like... I don't know, her boyfriend? Her leaving left the bride in tears, and even if she said that the rest of us had made the day her best day ever so far, that were when she realized she wouldn't be friends with the MOH when all of this was over. The wedding went on fine (except the extremely low temperature for july) but at the party afterwards the MOH had complaints about everything that the rest of us had done, which was a lot, considering the rest of us had been decorating the rented venue the night before, setting tables and PA and whatnot. The MOH weren't ever there. And now she complained about... not having done it all by herself? And she generally seemed pouty and annoyed all evening. She left super early, barely letting anyone know. Some of us just started wondering where she was, but she had at least said goodbye to the couple. So we weren't dealing with a bridezilla here, it was a MOHzilla. Thanks for uploading!! Sorry for the wall of text. Greetings from Sweden
@@DYLANJJK94 Yeah, there's nothing uncommon about it here either, but I feel like having a bloke in the bridal party is a bit unusual. But there were no male strippers planned in, so it went okay. 😂
There was no way anyone in the bridal party could have won. Sounds like the MoH had a martyr complex. Take on too much, she doesn't feel needed. Don't do enough, she feels put upon. It's a shame your friend lost a friend to that.
Last story, about bridezilla and milquetoast groom: to me, it did sound like OP tried to defend his wife when he talked to the groom a couple of weeks (?) earlier and groom said to just go with it. I think he should have just read the bride's texts to everyone, mentioned the comment about 'having to live with her forever', and left off the divorce comment. Also, I guarantee that OP's wife is MUCH better-looking than the bride, hence the restrictions.
Regarding the first story about entitled MIL to be. I was a single Mother with a daughter age 3. Everything was semi-smooth UNTIL the wedding day. She demanded so much attention, opened all my wedding gifts and displayed them in the reception hall and decided to use that day to tell my Mother I wasn’t good enough for her virginity saving son. On the way to our honeymoon we gave his Aunt her sister a ride to her home. On the car ride she chose to tell me that my marriage will NEVER last because I was a slut that sleeps around. We were married 35 years, he was the one who slept around with my best friend, women at our church, my coworkers, his coworkers, our neighbors wife and lastly left me in 2016 because he found someone else online. He divorced me, got cancer 3 months after our separation and died before his girlfriend could leave her husband, buy their home together or even get married. I got $250,000 from his pension and retired at age 60 living in the country on his social security. I stayed because of our daughter and 13 grandkids. As I look back on my life of drama I regret nothing because I truly loved him and my family. Life choices have consequences and my family fully supported me. It’s sad that he lived by his decisions and died at age 54. I’m enjoying the last chapter of my life with my family, traveling and living my best life. His parents disowned my girls and 13 grandkids. And that Aunt that said I’d never last in my marriage knows the truth. When you’re a good person even if you had a child before that doesn’t give ANYONE the right to judge. Your husband needs to confront his mother for you with holding you up respectfully, that way mommy dearest will understand going forward she never win because he will confront every time to support you. He’s you “knight in shining armor” that’s what a man does. Blessings as you move forward as a team in YOUR marriage. ❤
My mother and her 2nd husband were a complicated issue to resolve at my wedding, to the point I doubted if I wanted to invite them or not. My wedding planner and her assistant did a great job, redirecting my mother and/or her husband far away from my father’s side of the family during the venue, or interrupting every possible starting drama. Mind you, my mother is not the type that would cause problems voluntarily, but has the talent of saying too much without thinking about hurting someone (and he’s a little shady). The wedding was wonderful and we didn’t have to worry about anything.
My boyfriends bestfriend asked him to be his best man. He said "NO"! His friend was bummed but had enough good friends to ask someone else. My boyfriend didn't agree with the wedding, because he didn't like the woman he was marrying, mostly because of they way she treated him. Guess what!?! We are going to his 2nd wedding this September! Guess my boyfriend was correct! 😂😂 He would never give him the, I told you so, it's just known! 😊
Eek, even with an apology (which, judging by her character, would likely not be sincere) I would want to keep that woman far away from my young daughter… hearing stuff like that as a kid can really eff you up! I’m sure the groom has some serious childhood trauma …
@@ktwhimsy6946 That's the trick. I doubt it'd be sincere or wouldn't she have apologized already? I definitely wouldn't leave her alone anywhere near her daughter and honestly even the grandson because the two kids are friendly and she could poison her grandson against the stepmom and her daughter.
@@ktwhimsy6946 agree 100% There's no way MIL is going to change in any shape or form. If she does apologize, it's completely fake. If she meant it, she should have apologized to you ages ago.
@@Surftouka exactly!! Marriage is hard enough already, and this lady sounds horribly close-minded & controlling… the idea that you just grin & bear it because, well “that’s your mom & you only get one” is so damaging - that’s what keeps multiple generations of families repeating the cycle of abuse/dysfunction. It sounds like this was the last straw, not the 1st offense. A boundary was drawn, I say don’t back down! For the sake of their marriage & their kids’ emotional well being 🤌🏻🤌🏻🤌🏻
I had someone 'babysit' my toxic parents at my recent wedding. They weren't part of the wedding party or anything, but we did have them come for the wedding breakfast. Seated as far away from us as possible, of course. Then I had my oldest brother give the father-of-the-bride speech instead of my dad. Apparently he (dad) was NOT happy, and came up to my now-husband to say something, but thought better of it at the last moment saying "I'll speak to you later about why I'm upset". The audacity. But otherwise both parents were very timid and uncomfortable, just the way we wanted them to be. Just be glad you even got invited.
My my cousin got married I inadvertently took the attention off of him at the reception. I am goth and went to his wedding in all black and my sweater was black with huge white skulls on it. His grandmother (my step-grandmother)spent the entire time lecturing me about how inappropriate I was dressed. I found this hilarious and when my aunt (my cousin's mom) told him he came over and gave me a huge tight hug whispering thank you in my ear because it meant she wouldn't notice him drinking. In her world it's ok for everyone but her family members to drink because drinking is a sin. Needless to say it all worked out and we all had a blast anyway.
@@CHloE748 I don't necessarily agree with this. If her standard wardrobe is goth and the family knows it then to expect her to show up in something that goes against what she would normally wear is setting themselves up for disappointment. Don't expect someone to act/dress outside of their norm and you won't care when they act/dress like themselves.
It's amazing how greed and selfishness can ruin relationships of any kind. It shows who your real friends are: those who want you happy and be part of it.
I have actually been paid on multiple occasions to be a "minder". It's always grown a$$ adults that should know better. And I don't know if it's my morbid since of humor but yes it's a bit exhausting because you literally have to follow them everywhere and babysit/monitor their ever move but it's kinda fun especially if they know way you are following them around. Watching them walk on eggshells after whatever incident caused them to need a minder is entertaining. (Yes I know that might be a little mean but they are grown they should not need a babysitter to begin with)
I’ve watched practically every single video now (and rewatched most of them). I think it’s time to rewatch them again! Another great video, always love a wedding one!
My ex-MIL kept saying I was not as skinny as he likes. I got pregnant we were together 10 years. I then got pregnant again. We are still not married, he never asked. She said " I already have one bastard child so I needed to get married so we did. It didn't last very long. The whole family was crazy. Although his sister got pregnant before she was married and that was fine. Go figure.
The guy who let out his frustration during the best man’s toast- I think people missed the part that mentioned, day of, he went to the bar after being treated like crap by the bride and groom and the mother of the bride told him not to get drunk because he’d already ruined the day for the bride. That was his boiling point. It seems he tried to be a good friend and let shit go for their sake but they weren’t going to stop pushing. Kudos to him for being brutally honest. You can only eat shit for so long and if despite all your best efforts, they keep shoveling it on you- scorched earth time. You lost nothing in losing a friendship of that caliber and honesty is the best option, though the brutality of it is your discretion. NOT the a-hole
I would've loved to be a fly on the wall when that wedding toast was made, especially paying attention to the bridezilla's reaction. That may not have been the best way to react but it was still funny😂
I love Charlotte show, oh, my gosh. And reaction to what she reads. To point I want to buy merch. There is only one other content provider I ever wanted to do that for.🥳 Love you, Charlotte, you're so for real!
Spending the whole wedding watching someone to the point they had to look at me BEFORE speaking and telling them that they should mind whatever comes out of their mouth?!! That'll be a field day for me!!! Making them uncomfortable and second guess whatever they want to say would be a treat!!! I'll definitely have fun making them sweat thinking they'll get kicked out and "manhandled" by security is prime entertainment in my books... 🤣🤣🤣
I can actually hear that sister on the phone like "sooo remember how I said I couldn't go to your wedding? Yeeeah that was before it was an all expense paid trip to Hawaii so I have some great news! We can make it after all"
Thanks for this one because now I have a new business idea as a guest-minder for special occasions! LOL. I get all the tea, I get to basically boss an a-hole around for a day/night, get to dress up, and get paid??? Wins on all grounds!
I've been a hired wedding guest a few times, and once was paid (in airfare, a hotel room and my dinner at the reception) to come keep some of the groom's family from getting too rowdy. One of the first weddings I attended outside of my family, I was the 'best woman' for the groom. The mothers were actually very well behaved and both loved the bride, but her father was being a complete tool. One of my principle duties besides keep the rings and get the groom to the church on time was to step in and make sure FOB didn't disrupt things. The parents weren't there until 3 days before the ceremony, but I was on him like a Secret Service agent at the last walkthrough and rehearsal dinner. When we went to pick up the tuxes (I already had my dress), I heard him start to dig at the groom - not the typical shovel speech, but a diatribe against marriage in general and how they're both gonna be miserable inside a year. I shut it down in a hurry. He was disinvited from the bachelor party at the last minute - something MOB backed me up on, even though it was just a nice dinner out at a steakhouse for his team followed by a few private hours at an arcade. Her big brother and the groom's dad ended up escorting bride up the aisle, as FOB proved in the hour prior to kickoff that he couldn't be trusted not to try and sneak her out the side door. Then I tipped the preacher to skip the objections, and FOB wasn't allowed to make a speech at the reception. He managed to still say *something* to the bride during their dance (she has never divulged exactly what) so I had the DJ immediately cut the song short when it became clear the tears she was holding back were *not* of joy. The groom took over and they disappeared for a few minutes while me and the groomsmen snuck FOB out the side for a "last chance or you're done" talk. He kept his mouth shut and sulked in the corner til we got the newlyweds in the car on their way to the honeymoon.
I could have just walked out of the wedding if i were that best man in that last story. I'm just very glad my best friend and his wife were absolute darlings when I was their best man. 😊
I was thinking something like that, too: the passive- aggressive route. I would have sat down next to my wife with my hand on her belly. When they called me up for the speech, I would have stood up and said loudly, "I think I'll pass, because, according to the bride, I've already ruined her day." Let them scramble and find someone else.
The best mans story. The bride and groom both disrespected the best man and his wife, then treated him like shit on their wedding day. The Bridezilla mom talking trash to him too just means the lot of them had no class. I call what the best man did, Just Deserts. He was already there, so while just leaving was an option, a little petty revenge was in order.
The minute someone shows signs of being a bridezilla the best man should be told so he can warm her that he has the bridesmaids paying close attention so he can list off every bridezilla move as a part of his speech 😂😆
All these texts and calls from people around the MIL ... WHY do these co-dependent people think that peer pressure is acceptable? Hang up and block them. I can't stand it when someone recruits friends and family to harass someone about wedding decisions.
When I got married my best friend was 8 months pregnant and was one of my bridesmaids. We had to get her a chair to sit on at the front of the church. I could just imagine telling her to down play her pregnancy. It’s one of the great stories from my wedding.
Charlotte, If you haven't done this already, could you introduce your team online sometime? I love your content and enjoy behind the scenes content. Love Ya!
I am so glad my MIL and I have a great relationship... My husband and i have been together since we were 14/15 and she was my second mom. We went through some things and we didn't speak to his family for two years when we were 23, but now we are all so close... I love her dearly and she is my best friend. She's *my mom* lmao and I'm so happy that we were able to repair our relationship. It was under extremely unfortunate circumstances but we all came together and came back stronger!
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The sister only wanting to go to the wedding once it was in Hawaii drives me crazy. My brother was living on the other side of the country when he married his wife. Our family couldn’t afford to fly out for his wedding, so we worked with his friends to set up a livestream. We were still there on his wedding day, even though we couldn’t physically be there. We saw the ceremony and talked to the bride and groom and guests. You can make things work if you really want to. The sister in the story simply does not care about OP.
100%. It's disgustingly obvious that she only wants to go on a free trip to Hawaii.
This is what my cousin did for her wedding, it wasn't a distance issue for most of us, it was the 'rona lockdowns. (It was early days.) They live streamed it for everyone who wasn't local/in the wedding.
Yeah. A 3 hour drive and maybe an overnight stay is TOO MUCH but umm excuse me you’re paying for Hawaii. Suddenly everyone canceled their orders 🥺🥺❤️🩹 I’d be so broken hearted
That right there, blood or not, our tie would be severed. No. The quick change to now rsvp yes… so selfish. I honestly wouldn’t want her to even pay her own way. Stay on the mainland and let everyone have fun.
You know if she went it would be bitch city. Talking smack every chance she gets to the 14 people *ACTUALLY* love, and care for you.
Sure you could have told her about the switch, but then you’d get the fake her.
Please let 2023 be the year of just saying #nope2023
The audacity to talk about "being unfair" and how "their kids would feel left out". Like they did not give a crap about the wedding itself before, and suddenly...they have to be there!
I'm sure that mom in the first story was the reason for her son's first "shotgun" wedding as well. What a horrible woman. I hope they keep her far away from the kids and good on them for not allowing her at the wedding. Not the AH and I hope they stuck to that decision.
That one reminded me of something Erma Bombeck wrote: “As the bridegroom’s mother I vowed to wear beige and keep my mouth shut. No one believed me when I said it.”
My mom adored Erma and used to read her column to me when I was a kid. I'm pretty sure Erma helped my mom stay sane as a mom who had her 4th baby at age 41 (me).
I was also thinking that this MiL was probably the reason the groom's 1st wedding (& marriage) was a mess. NTA, I would leave her banned, but on the off chance you choose to allow her to wedding, remove that part where they ask "If anyone objects to these two getting married speak now or forever hold your peace." Also have ushers sit on both ends of her pew, and let her know in advance that they are there to haul her butt out immediately the moment she tries to cause a scene. I would not allow her to reception otherwise you would probably have to hire 2 MiL minders for her (She appears to be a mouthy handful).
I don't understand why she wants to attend so badly when she clearly is opposed to the union, my only theory is that she was planning on making a scene to embarrass the bride. What a nasty woman, someone should remind her we're in 2023, not 1812.
Sounds like a mother to never speak to again.
I would totally let her come, but in my vows I would say to my husband, "Thank you for marring me, even though I'm a "used woman"(look at MIL here with a big smile on my face) lol
"Not seeing her son get married would hurt her"
She should have thought about that when she called his fiancé "used" for being in the same exact position he is in.
Also she had no concern about the daughter not seeing her mom get married
Frankly if she's that nasty to the bride leading up to things, it seems being there would "hurt" her more likely. Also her son is in his 30s and divorced already, so I'd say the virgin bride dream just might be a tad unrealistic.
And the shotgun wedding 😂 she already saw him once. That's enough
why on earth she even would like to see her son marrying someone USED lol this makes zero sense
Like, if we're worried about people being hurt, where's the concern for OP being called a wh0re?
My mom actually did this to me... we were planning a large wedding in Colorado in Dec. Mom just couldn't make it. When the grooms family started making issues, we decided to get married on a cruise. Back home we had a big reception. Years later, I found out mom just didn't want to deal with the cold weather, but a cruise to the Caribbean was acceptable, and she had been furious for not being brought along. Thanks for the support on my special day, mom.
If your mom wasn't the problem and it was just your husband's family being difficult, you should have invited her. Freezing cold wedding vs hot makes a big difference. Especially if your mom has health issues or is over 60. You may indeed owe her an apology.
@user-vg6pj2my2n Yes, at the time, she was over 60 but no health problems. Claimed to hate the cold but did not hesitant to fly out for ski trips. No apology.
@@steveandme63 I see. If she can go on ski trips she can go to her kid's wedding. I agree with you.
It‘s her mom! A real mom would risk frostbite for her daughter.
@@bonnkanerI’d suffer frostbite while attending just to make her know she’s that important to me! That’s my baby and she always wil be!!
I am so sorry for the couple whose only 14 guests confirmed they want to attend their wedding. They sound like lovely people
Me too, her sister just wanted to go to Hawaii if she went than her business would suffer & there goes all the money they could've made. She probably expected her sister to cancel the wedding when their landscaping buisness was in the summer & go to the wedding when their buisness was running slow like in August or September. Too bad for the sister she gets to miss Hawaii & spend her summer with her family running her business. Oh boo hoo.
@@catspaw30922 months later but, no the sister was lying about being busy because of the business, using it as an excuse bc she didn’t wanna go. Otherwise she wouldn’t have been upset when not re-invited and had no issue with going to Hawaii for free. The sister herself acted like and said they were being left out and op was playing favorites, I’m guessing sister completely forgot about her original excuse of being too busy to go bc she was so focused on getting a free trip to Hawaii, because she basically outed herself as a liar and not caring about her sister getting married at all.
Also I’m thinking maybe you’re not from the US? Because August is still summer, summer months here are June-August and the official first day of fall is in September. Not really important lol but just confused me a bit
Right? I honestly hope they had/have a smashing time in Hawaii, best week of their lives, and I wish them a lifetime of happiness. Toxicity within the family is some of the worst.
That first story is awful! telling that woman to hide her child?! My mom got married when I was 11 and his parents welcomed my sister and I with open arms. They are our grandparents through and through, they made it a point to have a great relationship with us and I'm so lucky to have them! So glad they didn't do us like this!
My mom married my (step) Dad when I was about 4 1/2 yrs old, my sister about 6months pregnant.
My mom, I tell you. I wish I had had more time with her. She made her own wedding dress, used to the left over fabric to make bows on her shoes…. I’m lucky if I can stitch a hole together and it’s not noticeable.
I was always told me and my Dad (step) looked so much alike, we look at each other and laugh/giggle. His response was “it must be because of the hats” just so random. He was the best dad, also wish I had had more time learning about him.
Toxic has to go so you can focus on what’s important to you and you have to make some kind of promise to keep toxic people away and surround yourself with well grounded, sense of self people and live your life
Fiancee needs to grow a pair
The story should be about how he finally stood up to his abusive Mom
But no, it is about a woman doing it for him. Op really needs to decide if fiancee is really up to the job.
My in-laws are like that with my daughter too. When we got married they even added her in their will. I'm so thankful to have such amazing inlaws
These days I would think a MIL minder could make a LOT of money at weddings. So many people out there who can't seem to behave themselves......
@@paulcrowley8587 wtf. She didn't even mention if he defended her or not. Which him kicking her out seemed like he was. Now you're just making up scenarios to fill in the blanks lol. Smh
Oh that sister 100% just wanted that free trip to Hawaii. That second comment you read hit the nail on the head perfectly, spelling it out exactly - "is your business suddenly not going to be busy? your kids suddenly are great on long trips?" She didn't want the wedding, just the trip.
Exactly. As soon as she heard it was in Hawaii and the bride was paying for everything, she thought "oh, well, in THAT case, we can make it work, because she's going to pay for it." Was it a play favorites situation? Sort of. The bride chose to have her dream wedding along with those who were happy to come no matter where it was. She is treating her closest family and friends so they can share in her happiness.
Exactly. And the first venue was only 3 hours away. My response would be a "helll no." What a pos that sister is. Eff her and her selfish-asss.
I wouldn’t even call it playing favorites since it’s not like she said I’m only picking my favorite people to go. She invited everyone, only 14 responded they’d go, so she reworked things after that for those 14 people, herself and husband. Sister just didn’t like that it got reworked into a nice all expenses paid trip to Hawaii.
A shame she can’t “unfriend” hehe sister..
$5 says that the rotten sister would have tried to foist off her kids on someone else on the trip.
Not a wedding but a funeral and my best friend was designated to keep my MIL away from me. I did my best to avoid her in the crowd, but she was making her way toward me. On cue, my friend gushed at how good it was to see her and, taking her arm, whisked her away. So very grateful to have a friend like that.
I’m cackling at the idea of some bitchy MIL getting dragged away by someone who she does not know but who is saying it’s ‘just so good to see her!’ And just blue screening.
That is a solid friend there!
Yes. Funerals need even more minders. I could have used security guards and at least three minders. Unfortunately I didn't have them. Astonishingly gobsmaking how shockingly awful some people can be. 13 years later I am still reeling.
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What did your MIL do? She sounded like she was on a warpath before your mate took her away!
My niece had her own mother have a Mother Minder at her wedding. Her mother's behavior at her older sister's wedding led to this. The Minder didn't really have any control but Mommy was better simply because she had been warned by both sisters and knew she was being watched during the wedding. The Minder was sweet as pie and was called the mother's "assistant". She stuck with Mommy at all times, helping and being so so nice.
This is BRILLIANT! There are so many reasons for having a person "minder" at a wedding. This includes people who you know in advance will get drunk if not watched. A minder seems like a great compromise for a less-than-ideal situation.
@@deanmonthei5631my father ended up minding his drink wife at my wedding, or in the hot Australian summer night, sitting in the front of the VW beetle, keeping her inside the car. I didn't know until it was time to leave. Bless my dad he's the one who paid for the wedding. (my mum said he had to...)
How much did they pay the minder? I’m a 61 yr old Lady and I think I’m going to advertise to be a wedding “Minder” 😊
@@jenniferd264 The Mother
Minder was one of the wedding consultant's employees, iirc.
Just curious, what does a good Mother Minder cost? Sounds like a difficult job.
Kindness, generosity of spirit and a gentle disposition will make any bride glow from within. I had an eccentric 75+ yro great uncle. He also only had one leg. During my wedding reception he unexpectedly danced up a storm and even took off his false leg to show guests who didn't know him that he didn't limit himself. My wedding was semi-formal and in a 5 star hotel. I had so much fun watching him, and it was an unexpected highlight. Don't be a bridezilla. Instead, be a warm light that your guests will remember with love
It sounded to me like the last guy DID speak up earlier and defended his wife's honor and the groom said just to "play ball" with the situation because he was going to have to deal with her shenanigans for the rest of his life. Dude did calm down, but apparently was being bad mouthed to the rest of the guests and family because the bride's mother let the cat out of the bag at the bar. I don't feel he wished them a divorce, he actually said he would be there for the groom in the event of---which seems like a pretty educated guess. Probably shouldn't have toasted the couple that way but I totally don't blame him.
That was my thought, too! He did confront his friend. I take that as defending her. And I'm wondering what the pregnant wife had to say about it. Whether she was going along with it to keep the peace or if she was livid, etc.
Exactly. I don't understand how everyone missed that.
My precise thoughts.
Thank You!!! I was like, “He did defend his wife, and speak up!!”That’s where the “nonsense” comment came from!!
Amen!!!
This Sunday I was at the wedding of a relative. Both MILs were running the ceremony, meeting guests, showing them seats, asking whether everything is alright, and constantly comforting everyone. This is how I see the role of MIL during the wedding, not awful things people do.
I absolutely agree with you! Parents of the bride and groom are essentially the co-hosts of the wedding, so they should definitely be making the day a happy and stress free for the newlyweds, not a a nightmare.
Oh wow that is so so awesome! I hope you had a great day and that everyone enjoyed. It is so lovely to read a nice and warming story ❤
Definitely true! Agreed more.
My wedding was almost exactly like u just described. I was blessed with a MIL that actually loved me, and my mom loves him as well. The only drama we had was 1 of the groomsmen trying to hook up with 1 of my bridesmaids. And that was more comical than drama. 10 yrs later we still laugh hysterically.
The bride in the last story reminds me of how my sister reacted to my divorce. I was a bridesmaid in her wedding and by the time the wedding happened I had already moved out of our house, gotten my own place and took off my wedding rings. My sister alluded that she thought I got divorced when I did to "steal her thunder" because everyone would be talking about my divorce at her wedding. Did she think I wanted everyone to talk about how my marriage had failed?! And did she really think I stayed in an awful, emotionally and verbally abusive marriage just hoping she'd get married so I could decide at that moment to sign divorce papers? I was much younger and more timid then (life has kicked me in the ass enough to make me no longer give a shit about what people think of me and to stand up for myself) so I told her I'd put my wedding rings back on and when anyone asked me where my "husband " was I'd tell them he was sick and couldn't make it. The delusions of some women when they become brides is beyond crazy.
And let me guess? Nothing about your relationship got brought up, so she was worried for nothing.
@@jeanams07 Exactly. A couple people asked where he was and I simply said he was sick and no one asked anything else. And I certainly wasn't going to volunteer to tell everyone. The fact that my marriage failed is no one else's business. Why would she even think I wanted anyone to know?!
Sounds like your sister has self esteem issues 😬 unreasonable jealousy is nothing more than a projection of their own feelings about themselves 🤷🏽♀️
If their that bore, they shouldn’t get married lol marriage is hard, though I doubt she got married for the spotlight or to make drama, but marriage is hard enough without adding family drama to it lol
Please allow me to step in and do your sister's job:
I'm sorry you went through losing a marriage. I'm sorry for whatever happened that made divorce clearly your right choice. I hope and pray that you will find love, that love will find you, and that your life will be filled with joy from now on. (By the way, I hope to get married too. Wanna be part of my joy?) Best wishes.
My grandma has dementia and went to my wedding. It was extremely heartfelt given I wasn’t sure if she was going to make it. We had our ceremony at a church, so we showed our sign of peace. Once we got to my grandma, talked to me and my husband about her wishes for a happy marriage and how she genuinely grateful she is for me to find such an incredible person to spend the rest of my life with. That was such an emotional moment for everyone who attended. I could care less about her outshining us at the wedding, especially that very moment. It was the most meaningful wedding gift I’ve ever received. Although her case is severe, she still talks to me about how beautiful that day was.
how did she outshine you?
My grandparents dressed up in full home made wizard costumes for my wedding (it was a Harry Potter themed wedding) and totally stole the show with how amazing they looked. I thought it was the most amazing thing ever. The photos of them are beautiful and now they’ve passed I treasure them. I don’t understand brides who are so anal about the attention only being on them!
I know I’m late with this comment…. But, God bless you for having your Grandma at your wedding, some people try to hide away loved ones suffering with dementia/Alzheimer’s … It sounds as if having her there was truly a blessing and a wonderful wedding gift for you, you’re an angel for including her …wishing you and hubby a lifetime of love and laughter xx 🍾🥂❤😘
@@heather8307 Maybe in the sense that grandma was expected to draw a lot of attention because of her dementia?
My stepdad who is a massive jokester made a divorce joke at my uncles wedding and the only people that took it hard were the bride and bride’s dad. My stepdad was upset when he found out he offended them that he shut down for like an hour at the reception.
Flash forward a year and the bride cheated on my uncle multiple times with multiple men.
We all joke to my stepdad that he was more of a psychic than a jokester.
Uncle is remarried to a beautiful woman with a baby now.
Congratulations to your uncle! I've noticed the people offended by things like that are the first ones to actually do some foul shit.
OMG the Hawaii wedding trip is sooooo like mine. so, I invited whole family to go on a cruise for mine and my husband's vow renewal after 10 years of marriage since we had a very small wedding that no one really could attend (for one reason or another). well long story short 80% of my family was too busy to get away or plan to go on a cruise that's literally year and half away (dec of 2024) but yeah so now we are paying for the 9 ppl whom said they would go as a treat from us, but now I have family members contacting me saying they could all of a sudden find the time to go but got mad when I said cool and gave them the site to pay for their own cabin which apparently wasn't what they wanted to hear. I know I'm not the a hole I always take time for family events, but no one ever does the same for me. we are going to enjoy our 8-day cruise...
You enjoy that cruise with the people who wanted to spend time with you & your hubby! I hope you have a fantastic time & a magical vow renewal, that you both deserve! ✨💕✨
Did exactly the right thing.
That is so predictable. So people just didn't want to pay for it. These people are sad. Have a great time with your small loyal select group.
My thing is... how hard is it to say: "I would love to come, but that is too far outside my budget. I wish you happiness." Is it really that hard?
NTA
The wedding toast story…
Dude was trying to be a good friend. But when the bride’s mom said “you’ve ruined my daughters days enough”… That’s when he made a plan to ruin her day at the reception. He went through the ceremony, taking pics, cocktail hour, etc. All just to drop a bomb and I LOVE IT!😅
It's one of those "you say I ruined it so much even though I didn't, might as well do it then since you think that way anyway" kind of things.
Also, he definitely defended his wife before the speech. That's where the whole "annoyed by her for the rest of my life" thing came from. Reddit has. Wry poor reading comprehension
If strangers unjustly stamp you the villain, due to their lack of accountability, proudly take on a surreal character, which is the complete opposite of you, and savagely serve them your words.
The point will not be lost on those who fully understand the dysfunctional dynamics taking place.
Kind of when parents say “stop crying or ima give you something to cry about” 😂 WELPPPPPP.
NTA, I can see why he did what he did. I would have got on the petty train with the bridzilla and groomzilla. My speech would have been "I am doing as my friend and his bride requested, here are their texts to me leading up to today....(read texts) so I can check off my speech being about bride as much as my friend. Check, no special request for food, check my wife didn't mention her pregnancy, I did but only because you did. Good luck dealing with her annoying attitude after this, but hope it is not for the rest of your life. Oh, and No I won't be helping with Thank you notes, get your Mother to help. I will save you the trouble of sending me one because I will no longer be gifting. I will also be letting you know now, that we are leaving. Don't bother contacting me after this.... boom Mic drop.
That last story really just sounds like the bride didn't like her soon-to-be husband's best friend and wanted to do whatever she could to wreck their relationship. She made him the scapegoat for everything that she found wrong on her "special day." She deserved that speech.
I think so too. I can't stand women who will actively ruin their SOs friendships, yet would get offended if their SO had anything to even just say about their friendships.
I think more like she jealous of his pregnant wive
And, in the process, he nuked her wedding. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
I am so grateful for my mother in law she is literally an angel! She understands and respects boundaries and she is one of the kindest most generous person I know. I love you Vivi
Yup! My cousins husband hired a security just for his mother in law. He had a coming to Jesus moment after she made a scene at the rehearsal dinner. He said you say one thing out of line or have more than one drink you will be kicked out and not let back in. Mad respect for that man. They are still married 10 years later.
Only 14 RSVPs - I LOVE the idea of treating all those to an awesome experience… those who said no, said NO. it’s a lesson for all of us to always choose what matters most in our lives.
Exactly ! The 14 people who said yes from the jump were the real ones who actually cared enough to be there no matter what so they deserve to be there to enjoy the more extravagant wedding all of those who said no ironically made possible. If they couldn't be there for the worst then they shouldn't expect to be there for the best.
Last story in re: defendinghis wife.: did everyone completely ignore the fact that he talked to his friend about her behavior towards his wife? He literally defended her by talking to the friend who told him to keep the peace, which he tried to do.
If someone uses an event as an excuse to treat you like garbage, they are just showing who they really are.
And he did defend his wife
I totally agree. But I don't think it doesn't make him the asshole. Charlotte has read so many stories of people who stormed out/abruptly left in times like this. This guy pretended like he was fine just to say that. Embarrassing his friend, the bride, and his wife. And making everyone who was there to support their loved ones uncomfortable. That speech ruined their friendship, potentially ruined the newlyweds marriage, potentially ruined his friendship with other guests or even his wife's friendships with other guests.
It's one thing to break in the moment; it's another to seeth and allow yourself to break, then hold onto the anger after you already broke so that you could embarrass the person AND betray their trust by saying something they told you in confidence in public. And topic it all off with a "Macbeth" at the end.
Everyone sucks here.
All that said. I still thought it was justified and I side with him. But he was very much an asshole. ESH.
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@jourdan353 nope, he had no intent of saying anything until the brides mother bailed him up right before the toasts... hes done NOTHING wrong.
I agree.
Men usually less reactive for bridezillas. And the best friend try to drag him into misery
@@lajourdanneits a win for me fuck it all up
Well the mother in law did want the flower girl banned from the wedding 🙄 but she didn't seem concerned about her son's kid having a roll and people knowing that he's a 'used man' 😂
The ongoing issue with gender views. If a man has a lot of sex, he's lucky. If a woman has a lot of sex, she's a slut. Some people just can't get that way out of date mindset from their brains.
typical
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😂😅 you didn't know that men don't become dirty as they fill up their little black books? Lol that is crazy. I bet the MiL is gonna be the type of grandmother that makes it very well known that the daughter of the bride isn't really a part of the family. And go out of her way to make sure everyone sees that the girl is treated different than her son's son. The audacity of some people.
For me the worst is that they had their kid's at almost the same age. She was 19, he was 21. And the MIL scolds the wife for being having a ''teen pregnancy''. Sorry even if you are legal at 21, you are not more mature/ well off in life, than a 19 to have a kid.
Okay, am I the only one who wants to know how long the marriage lasted in that last story? My personal estimate was a year and now I need to know 😂
I'm curious also!
My money's on eight months.
I’d bet two years, not because they’re a good match but because I get the vibe that they’d be too prideful to get divorced and would push it to the absolute breaking point before signing the papers
If someone ever has a similar hawaii situation, I’d recommend sending the new invitation to the sister first with a breakdown of what the cost to her would be and see how she reacted. That way when OP already had a no from her regarding Hawaii & if she balked you could tell her that by her saying no, they (OP) realized they could afford to pay for the ones who said yes.
Wasn't a MIL minder, but was a "drunk obnoxious cousin" minder/paid date. My cousin (bride) asked me to be the date for one of the groom's cousins. She hates him (always gets drunk and is one of those guys that will be an AH then say its "just a joke bro") but groom was being pressured to invite him. So cousin invited him and me to her house and introduced me as his date. I've also trained in martial arts for years so she asked me to break a bunch of boards and beat up a kicking shield, then said if he messed up I was ordered to do that to him. He was given a list of inappropriate and appropriate behaviors and told good luck.
On the day of I got a text telling me to use the same jokes he likes, but on him. And if I could get him to cry I'd get an extra $50 and a new figure I'd been wanting if I got him to leave early.
Guess who got $50 and has a lovely Eternal Sailor Moon standing on her shelf 💅
Damn, I wish that I could be as cool as you ^^
Hahaha!! This is fantastic!!
You are an awesome cousin and congrats on your new Sailor Moon figure!
This is so awesome I shed a tear. Your $50 is in the mail. 😂
So you bullied someone on behalf of someone else and somehow this is perfectly ok?
A USED WOMAN!!! OP is so much better than I would have probably smacked her! Screw the double standard and hypocrisy that is just beyond rude. You don't say stuff like that, oh my gosh! Props to OP and the hubby to be for backing her up. Keep her kicked out it's her own fault. Nobody needs that kind of toxic mess.
Right!? Anyone who is awful enough to say something like that in the first place, is not someone who will see the error of their ways just because it’s your wedding day… I’d keep that woman FAR away from my daughter !!!
Thank you! That statement would get her banned from my whole life, not just my wedding. She obviously considers women to be objects for men's "use" and that's disgusting
Unless this woman sincerely apologizes and genuinely change her ways, there's no way I would let her attend the wedding.
Yes, I do understand that this insane MIL would rather eat dead Snakes than apologize or modify her attitude and behavior. She's not going to change, so keep her out of the wedding.
PS: drop some money on security, because it sounds like this lunatic might try something slick.
I hope your son treat you like this someday :)
I wouldn't even be with a man with a mother like that. You don't just marry the man you marry into the family and they are your family. If they are horrible ppl then why put yourself through that
The third wedding seems to be a trend nowadays among brides. My daughter was so laid back she told the bridesmaids to choose what they would be happy with and could wear again she just gave them the colour she was going with. Did not worry about decor as she had chosen a very reputable restaurant to have her reception at and knew everything would be great.. She did not worry about rules for guests as she said they are friends and family. Her philosophy was if she tried to make it perfect then she would spend the whole day stressing over everything and not enjoy the day. She has great memories of that day.
This is great thank you for sharing!
I just got married a month ago. I was told by my photographer this was the most fun he’s had at a wedding in a while, and told me stories I’ve only ever heard from Charlotte 😂 I’m like omg that really happens huh? He’s like yeah. He’s like you’ve been very chill and laid back it’s been alot of fun. Made me feel good! When it came to my bridesmaids, i did pick the dresses because i wanted them to match, I’m not into the here’s a color wear any dress thing. My OCD isn’t down with that. But when it came to shoes, i didn’t care if they wore heals or not or what color they were although they all decided on all wearing silver. Jewelry, didn’t care. Nails, didn’t care. Hair? Not all of them could afford to get their hair done so i went with simple downed curly hair to make it easy on them. There’s no need to be a bridezilla at all
And that's how you do it.
Your daughter had the right mindset. Too many brides don't realize that weddings are just like live theater which means anything can and will happen so you just have to go with the flow. No matter how well you try to plan there WILL always be something that won't be exactly right and the ones rigidly obsessed with having total perfection will flip out over even the smallest thing that goes wrong which sours the very wedding. The idea should be to plan as well as you can but know there will likely be issues big and/or small on the day so just be ready to roll with the punches of whatever comes and don't sweat the small stuff.
I was MOH at a friend's wedding. She gave me the colors and told me to pick an affordable dress. When I told the ladies at the store, it was fun time 😊 like that scene in Pretty Woman. They were bringing me stuff to try on. One lady found a dress in clearance that had the colors in it. Spent a whole $40 on the dress and shoes. Laid back wedding made for a fun day.
As a soon to be mother in law I am mortified by these behaviors. I am super happy that my son has found a lovely, supportive partner that brings out the best in him.
My mother-in-law and father-in-law were angels! They not only accepted me but my entire family (didn't think a whole lot of good about them but different story). We lived behind them after a couple of years of marriage and if I was out of work sick, Mama( what I called her) would bring me breakfast and lunch, wash my dishes, anything. I came home a couple of times to a homemade birthday cake on my birthday. My brother is 12 years younger than me and my dad died when he was 13. My FIL got out of bed to help him collect leaves for an assignment that he forgot about for school. My MIL was so special. She told my husband that if we ever got divorced, they got custody of me. He could still visit if he called first, just in case I didn't want to see him. She was serious. But it will be 31 years in October! All of our parents are gone, my mom August12,2023.
I love all your videos but gotta say, the intro of Judge Charlotte with the voice is the best part of these AITA videos. So much fun!!
That last story had me thinking the best man should have dropped out of the wedding. The fact his friend was down for the bullying says he needs to rethink the friendship. Apparently the bride doesn't like him or his wife. To even have the bride's mother talk sh!t to him would have had me just up and leaving throwing the peace sign. He's NTA he's just a friend that's fed up.
Yeah. No more Mr. Nice Guy.
Men need to stop being pushed around by the psycho-Bs of other men. It's a bad look and it's bad for everyone.
The fact that familial relationships and lifelong friendships are so utterly destroyed all for the sake of an event that lasts ONE FRIGGIN DAY and only has a 50% chance of being a successful union, is the real tragedy in all these stories. I don't give a $hit how much stress someone is under leading up to a wedding...you don't throw these relationships away simply for the sake of a friggin party! Weddings have become more difficult to navigate than finding a solution to the crisis in the Middle East!
100% agree.
I guess you've never had relatives who can't go anywhere without melting down or making a scene because of personality disorders. So bad that the party breaks up and the rest of the guests leave early. Lucky you.
@Argus Fleibeit oh please we are talking about the norm...don't go all ...what about...
I mean its ridiculous and you put so much planning in... I think if people could see how fast it goes by they wouldn't go completely mental like this. It's a stressful thing to arrange so why do you want to add to your stress unnecessarily (I am strictly talking about bridezillas and groomzillas here)
The party just signals where it ended, it was crashing long before they got to that point, now whether some OPs have it set in their mind that someone id out to get them and they think something bad is happening, so they tell us it happened, some cases, it could be nothing at all.. hopefully this isn’t the case; but it’s crazy how many people have trust issues….
I was the maid of honor in my best friend’s wedding, it was originally planned just before Covid hit and I were going to be pregnant af like 38 weeks… because of covid they moved the wedding to two years after the original wedding date. She (the bride) paid for two bridesmaids dresses for me since the original dress was way to big for me at the actual wedding! I couldn’t have been more blessed with the friends that I have, love them all so much ❤❤❤
I'll never understand why brides think a pregnant woman will be unsightly at their wedding. My mom when she was pregnant with my older brother was banned from her cousin's wedding, because it would be a 'distraction'. As if anyone in the history of modern weddings has pointed at a random guest and gone 'gasp, look how horrid, they have a baby bump.'
@@robertgronewold3326 The only reason someone might say, OMG look at that baby bump, if it’s the bride but I hope even that is no longer a ‘distraction.’
When I got married I was very laid back. People kept asking me if I was stressed out or nervous and my answer was that anything can be missing and I wouldn’t care as long as my groom was there waiting for me at the altar. That was 6.5 years ago, we are happily married and have 2 kids.
The bride deserved that wedding speech SO MUCH! Your friend isn't much better for allowing her to treat you that way. I LOVE it when people get called out on their behavior right in front of everyone. ❤
I think the toast was well-deserved. And likely all the other guests had been treated just as badly. Probably they were stunned yet cheering him on in silence.
I went to a wedding visibly pregnant (like 6 or 7 months) for a friend of my husband’s. If someone had asked him to have me “tone down” my pregnancy- we just wouldn’t have gone
Same. My husband’s best friend got married when I was 8 months pregnant. I was a bridesmaid and the bride knew I’d be super pregnant when she asked me and I got nothing but support from her.
I'd've gone in a crop top
@@MissHellybaybee Very fitting with your name 🤣
@@felinemoonchild my boss made a colleague stay at her desk or run around with a clipboard in front of her stomach so nobody would see she's pregnant. It was really wild
Idk why but the fact that she's not going to order the pregnant wife a special meal that she never asked for just hit me extra hard 😂😂😂
The more I watch those bridezilla videos, the more convinced I am there's no one an American bride hates more than a pregnant woman
A used woman? As opposed to a UTube woman.
@@justwonder1404not a pregnant woman but my MOH (my sister) had her only baby 6 months exactly before my wedding. All out of town guests spent half the time cooing at little man. I danced more dances with my new nephew, so my sis could eat a full meal and get a dance in with her man, than i did with my new husband lol. But we never thought about a childfree wedding for a second and about half the guest that showed up were kids. Original invites had it about 65% adults 35% kids but had several people call to cancel morning of so ended up being pretty much 50-50. So not all of us hate pregnant women or new borns sharing our spot light at our weddings, depends on how you feel about sharing your shine in general i think
@@justwonder1404Being from a different culture and watching these videos, I'm completely stunned by how everyone (including Charlotte and commenters) believe that the bride owns the wedding and everyone should just do her bidding.
In my eyes's that's nuts. The bride gets full autonomy over her dress, her bouquet, her vows and whom she chooses for her bridesmaids. Everything else about the wedding the groom has an equal say in, as well as whoever is paying.
Weddings are not events where we worship brides, they're to celebrate the beginning of a marriage and have both extended families meet the other side. And the gifts are to help the new couple start a new home together, and guests bring whatever they want to give you, not pre-selected stuff off a list. Just the NOTION that you get to dictate to your guests what they must bring... I can't.
American culture is sometimes so absurd that I wonder if you watch too many of your own Hollywood movies and confuse that for real life. I suppose that in a too large, melting pot country, with no organic traditions, you have to get your cues from somewhere, but pop culture is probably the single worst source you could have. So now you have all these brides thinking they're princesses or the main character in a rom-com or something. Yeesh.
@@dragonprincess8205 Amen! The majority of time at my wedding the kids (my new nephews) were on the dance floor doing their thing. I LOVE kids. I also think pregnancy is beautiful. ❤
You know what I find interesting, so many people are concerned about the honor of the pregnant wife from the last story that nobody is considering the possibility that she might have been more concerned about how her husband was being treated like crap by his best friend. Homeboy should’ve quit the wedding sooner and told his boy, “I can be your best friend but I can’t be your best man.”
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I really don't understand bridezillas. When my brother and SIL got married, I was one of three bridesmaids. I got to choose my own dress (she did see it before I paid for it). I was a part of everything, until 4 weeks before the wedding I was seriously burnt with hot oil. Their main concern was that I might miss the wedding, because they wanted me there. Fortunately, I was still able to attend and be a bridesmaid, and the only thing my SIL requested was to have the matching scarf for my dress attached to my shoulders so it could cover my burns. She also requested her other two bridesmaids get scarves for their dresses so that I wouldn't feel like the odd one out. I just thought I would share this so you have a nice positive story. ❤❤❤
A "MIL Minder" sounds like an awesome gift to offer a friend/loved one with a MIL problem. For those with unruly inlaws, I imagine it would be a weight lifted off of our shoulders. The less a bride has to stress about on her big day, the better.
😂 the baby was in the middle of a full meltdown. I flip on your video and he immediately stops crying when he hears "Hey Everybody!"
Oh, I love this. Charlotte as baby ASMR.
Aaaaaaawww! He's a little petty potato! Love that for you!
Charlotte = magic, confirmed.
My entire bridal party was the “minder” for my mother. They thought it was fun because each and every one of them had put up with so much shit from her. They had fun with it
What a good idea.
My heart goes out to you as my friend also has the mother from hell (so much so that, among our friend group, there's a long running joke that we think she's adopted).
My friend's mother is a horrible drunk and gets so wasted that she can't walk... Then angrily denies everything bad she did the next day (you can't tell her she might have a problem as it makes her apoplectic and nastily personal). So, when our friend approached her about inviting her to the wedding, she (rather diplomatically) said "we always fall out when you drink. Could you please not drink at the wedding? I want us to have really happy memories together". This was met with the usual barrage of abuse, so she decided not to invite her.
Her mother said "wild horses couldn't keep her away", so my friend got married on an island. At high tide.
Wild horses might not have stopped her, but the sea did! It was a lovely wedding! 😍😂😂😎
@@t-and-p another great idea!
@@t-and-p wow! That is a fantastic story
I feel the first womens pain. My future husband's mom is not allowed to attend our wedding in November, but her and his falling out happened even before he proposed. I got so sick of her all the time about being worried I would get pregnant and ruin her sons life from a women who had 3 kids with 3 different guys only married to one and none of which are still with her now. She literally has a turn style of boyfriends in her life to my 3 relationships period with no babies yet! First woman is completely justified in having enough with the double standards and if you don't stand up to them it will lead to issues between you and your man.
"Don't worry, I won't do to your son what you did to your kid's fathers"
The hypocrisy is REAL these days...
@@wasp_valg THAT PART 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I think that's called projecting! 😅
Absolutely correct, it's MILs like that who help destroy new marriages because they never were happy in their relationships & they don't want anyone else to be happy in theirs!!
Congratulations on yours & your future husband's wedding day!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🎉🎉🎉🍾🥂🍾🥂🍾🥂
Bridezilla: “Your wife needs to tone down her pregnancy so she doesn’t outshine me on my day.”
Best man: “We’ll both be at home that day. Is that toned down enough for you, Karen!”
Yah, I think that would have been a better thing to do.
Went to a friends wedding recently and it was amazing. My friend and her new husband paid for most of it. I used to work with her and her dad at a casino and her and I became really good friends. Her hair was running behind and she was a lil stressed out, her dad had to grab some things from the bridal suite to bring down before the ceremony so I asked to go up and see her for a second to see how she was doing (I wasnt in the wedding party but I still wanted to be there for her) and she was thrilled to see me before the ceremony. I was also the first of our friends she invited that had arrived so I wanted to be there for her for a bit. We chatted for a minute so her bridesmaids could finish getting what they needed to get done, I kept my friend company and helped the hairdresser a bit if she needed it and my friend was really glad I came up to see her for a second. Her ceremony was amazing, her reception was beautiful and despite some guests having to leave early I wanted to be able to be there for a while. So we had a lot of fun dancing to so many songs, i slipped on her dress and fell on my knees on the dance floor but I just laughed it off and kept dancing (alcohol is wonderful for pain lol) and after I sonered up enough and i got sore I made sure she had a good rest of her wedding and a safe honeymoon and left. She was just glad that we all had fun.
I love it when Charlotte laughs and the editors put a flying hawk or pterodactyl across the screen 😂 it always makes me smile
Am i the only one who loves Charlotte and is addicted to her vídeos? 😂❤️my daily laugh. She's so amazing.
Me. Everyday. I wait for her videos and I don’t really want to watch anything else until I know I watched the new ones or make sure she didn’t post.
Not the only one... I need more Charlotte content
Same here. It cheers me up when I'm going through a bad day or just need a distraction
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Clearly your the only one… don’t let the hundreds of comments cloud your ego
In regards to the first story, totally different situation, but my husband and I were dealing with his insanely narcissistic brother and equally terrible wife while planning our wedding. She kept starting drama, and we cut contact for months. Of course, as the wedding approached, they started trying to weasel their way in. I stood my ground and said no apology, no invite. My in laws begged me to let them come, but I said no. They did not attend the wedding and, though my in laws were furious and didn't speak to me the entire day, refused to take pictures with me, etc, I have no regrets. Interestingly enough, we are currently almost a year and a half NC with the same brother and sister in law because, you guessed it, they were shit and we asked for an apology. Just the other day, my MIL misunderstood something I said and thought we were talking again, but when I corrected the mistake, she asked how long it was going to take or something to that effect. I said that my husband asked for one thing from his brother, an apology, and until he can do that, we will not be in their lives. My MIL said " well that's never going to happen" and I said well I guess that is BIL's choice. We will not falter. Guess who has let BIL get away with treating everyone like shit their entire life, enabling their narcissistic and abusive behaviors??? Of course, his parents!
I have a brother like that. I've gone NC... But yes, he was born a little white and never had it disciplined out of him. He blamed mum for his bad life because she drank. I'd drink, too, if I had a child like him.
My cousin's husband had a sister like that. And parents. Everything was "his fault", while she was a darling little angel who could do no wrong. He left them on his 16th birthday by going to a trade high school with dormitories in a different city.
People who enable bad behaviors like that are completely delulu and part of the problem and the reason they're like that
They expect other people to make ammends and adapt to the bad behavior for no good reason, and for people to forgive them without any apologies or changes. Insane.
I’ve been in the “mother-in-law minder role”. Exhausting, but I loved the couple very much. They were eternally grateful.
Girl Hawaii is only expensive if you have a big wedding. My wife and I basically eloped, told family join us if they want and some did. Had a small beautiful wedding in Maui for less than $2k with a planner. The trip, which we wanted to take anyway, was around $4k after everything. So much cheaper than renting a barn or something and having a bunch of guests.
Yes and each one of your guests had to also pay $2,000 to join you. Lol 😂 but happy you had people who could come!
I personally think a wedding toast is the last time someone gets a chance to really say their peace about a union and is the perfect time to put someone on blast for being a terrible person but that’s just me 😂
Yeah but life is not a movie
@@undomiel466 no one said it was but that’s says a lot about your expectations
@@marieknight9385 and what would exactly say about my expectations? Making a scene during a wedding toast is something that can be satisfactory (and maybe have an impact) in a movie. It is not something you do in real life
@@undomiel466 yes it is, where do you think the movies get their inspiration, art imitates life
I'm sitting here like "OMG, people in 'murica are so crazy! All the weddings I've been to have just been cheerful and beautiful, especially the last one!". Then I reminded myself that the bride and maid of honor cut off their friendship as soon as the wedding party was over.
I was given the honor to be a "bridesmale" (it may sound weird, but the bride and I have been friends for longer than any of her other friends, so she wanted me included on her side) and it was a given for me and the other bridesmaids to help with the wedding preparations as much as we could, even if the MOH was in top charge. However, the MOH also was a mother of three with her own business, so she understandably didn't have all the time in the world to manage a whole wedding, so the rest of us did what we could to unload her, coming up with ideas and and arranging things, of course always checking in with her to know that WE all thought these were good and fun ideas. She acted nice to us, but behind our backs she were continuosly complaining to the bride about how we took over her chores and made her less significant. I mean, it was evident she couldn't handle it all by herself, so we wanted to help her, and aren't all of the bridal party supposed to chip in with tasks anyway? She wouldn't have it!
When the girls went to the city to try out wedding gowns they made a whole nighter of it, with dinner and a hotel stay. At the hotel the bride to be fell asleep before anyone else (even before going to bed, but hey...) and the MOH started bashing on the other bridesmaids, calling them names and whatnot, really breaking them down. One of them is a really tough cookie that have fought her way through life, gotten really successful with her career and having a nice home and all, one who doesn't let anyone mess with her, but the MOH even broke her down as well.
At the bachelorette party we took the bride on a trip around the area, visiting a spa, champagne testing and various other stops, and we were supposed to have dinner at a real fancy restaurant and finally go to a lake cabin for some midnight barbecuing and further drinking. Before the dinner, the MOH suddenly said "I'm leaving now!", and just left, went home. The reason was that her mother were sitting her kids, and she had gotten tired. Sure, the mother had had health issues, but can't someone else watch the kids then? We had planned this trip for nearly half a year, isn't that enough time to get anyone to watch the kids? Like... I don't know, her boyfriend? Her leaving left the bride in tears, and even if she said that the rest of us had made the day her best day ever so far, that were when she realized she wouldn't be friends with the MOH when all of this was over.
The wedding went on fine (except the extremely low temperature for july) but at the party afterwards the MOH had complaints about everything that the rest of us had done, which was a lot, considering the rest of us had been decorating the rented venue the night before, setting tables and PA and whatnot. The MOH weren't ever there. And now she complained about... not having done it all by herself? And she generally seemed pouty and annoyed all evening. She left super early, barely letting anyone know. Some of us just started wondering where she was, but she had at least said goodbye to the couple.
So we weren't dealing with a bridezilla here, it was a MOHzilla.
Thanks for uploading!! Sorry for the wall of text. Greetings from Sweden
But especially in a country like England, you and a woman can already be mates :)
@@DYLANJJK94 Yeah, there's nothing uncommon about it here either, but I feel like having a bloke in the bridal party is a bit unusual. But there were no male strippers planned in, so it went okay. 😂
@@andreasbenning ah, I missed that part about it being for the women.
I like 'bridesmale' better than 'bride's man'
There was no way anyone in the bridal party could have won. Sounds like the MoH had a martyr complex. Take on too much, she doesn't feel needed. Don't do enough, she feels put upon. It's a shame your friend lost a friend to that.
Last story, about bridezilla and milquetoast groom: to me, it did sound like OP tried to defend his wife when he talked to the groom a couple of weeks (?) earlier and groom said to just go with it. I think he should have just read the bride's texts to everyone, mentioned the comment about 'having to live with her forever', and left off the divorce comment. Also, I guarantee that OP's wife is MUCH better-looking than the bride, hence the restrictions.
Regarding the first story about entitled MIL to be. I was a single Mother with a daughter age 3. Everything was semi-smooth UNTIL the wedding day. She demanded so much attention, opened all my wedding gifts and displayed them in the reception hall and decided to use that day to tell my Mother I wasn’t good enough for her virginity saving son. On the way to our honeymoon we gave his Aunt her sister a ride to her home. On the car ride she chose to tell me that my marriage will NEVER last because I was a slut that sleeps around. We were married 35 years, he was the one who slept around with my best friend, women at our church, my coworkers, his coworkers, our neighbors wife and lastly left me in 2016 because he found someone else online. He divorced me, got cancer 3 months after our separation and died before his girlfriend could leave her husband, buy their home together or even get married. I got $250,000 from his pension and retired at age 60 living in the country on his social security. I stayed because of our daughter and 13 grandkids. As I look back on my life of drama I regret nothing because I truly loved him and my family. Life choices have consequences and my family fully supported me. It’s sad that he lived by his decisions and died at age 54. I’m enjoying the last chapter of my life with my family, traveling and living my best life. His parents disowned my girls and 13 grandkids. And that Aunt that said I’d never last in my marriage knows the truth. When you’re a good person even if you had a child before that doesn’t give ANYONE the right to judge. Your husband needs to confront his mother for you with holding you up respectfully, that way mommy dearest will understand going forward she never win because he will confront every time to support you. He’s you “knight in shining armor” that’s what a man does. Blessings as you move forward as a team in YOUR marriage. ❤
Wow! May you live to be 100 in good health and happiness. Thanks for sharing your story. Blessings to your daughter and the grandkids too.
Sounds to me like he was getting his side be before you could get yours. Not that you did...
My mother and her 2nd husband were a complicated issue to resolve at my wedding, to the point I doubted if I wanted to invite them or not. My wedding planner and her assistant did a great job, redirecting my mother and/or her husband far away from my father’s side of the family during the venue, or interrupting every possible starting drama.
Mind you, my mother is not the type that would cause problems voluntarily, but has the talent of saying too much without thinking about hurting someone (and he’s a little shady).
The wedding was wonderful and we didn’t have to worry about anything.
My boyfriends bestfriend asked him to be his best man. He said "NO"! His friend was bummed but had enough good friends to ask someone else. My boyfriend didn't agree with the wedding, because he didn't like the woman he was marrying, mostly because of they way she treated him. Guess what!?! We are going to his 2nd wedding this September! Guess my boyfriend was correct! 😂😂 He would never give him the, I told you so, it's just known! 😊
I wouldn't mind getting paid for being a MIL wedding minder. For Charlotte's subscribers, I'll give a 20% discount 😅
With the first one if she apologised and accepted the bride and her daughter then I'd consider it, until then, no chance!
Exactly to all the texts from relatives, I'd reply. If she sincerely apologizes, she'll be invited. They can add a MIL-minder will be her escort!
Eek, even with an apology (which, judging by her character, would likely not be sincere) I would want to keep that woman far away from my young daughter… hearing stuff like that as a kid can really eff you up! I’m sure the groom has some serious childhood trauma …
@@ktwhimsy6946 That's the trick. I doubt it'd be sincere or wouldn't she have apologized already? I definitely wouldn't leave her alone anywhere near her daughter and honestly even the grandson because the two kids are friendly and she could poison her grandson against the stepmom and her daughter.
@@ktwhimsy6946 agree 100% There's no way MIL is going to change in any shape or form. If she does apologize, it's completely fake. If she meant it, she should have apologized to you ages ago.
@@Surftouka exactly!! Marriage is hard enough already, and this lady sounds horribly close-minded & controlling… the idea that you just grin & bear it because, well “that’s your mom & you only get one” is so damaging - that’s what keeps multiple generations of families repeating the cycle of abuse/dysfunction. It sounds like this was the last straw, not the 1st offense. A boundary was drawn, I say don’t back down! For the sake of their marriage & their kids’ emotional well being 🤌🏻🤌🏻🤌🏻
The best man followed her rules when mentioning what groom said about dealing with bride’s nonsense; he included her in the speech. 🤣
0:41 Belches in public, apologizes, doubles down on the belch. such a delicate flower!
I had someone 'babysit' my toxic parents at my recent wedding. They weren't part of the wedding party or anything, but we did have them come for the wedding breakfast. Seated as far away from us as possible, of course. Then I had my oldest brother give the father-of-the-bride speech instead of my dad. Apparently he (dad) was NOT happy, and came up to my now-husband to say something, but thought better of it at the last moment saying "I'll speak to you later about why I'm upset". The audacity. But otherwise both parents were very timid and uncomfortable, just the way we wanted them to be. Just be glad you even got invited.
Good for you! As Dr. Laura often said about family gatherings...all you have to do is be polite.
My my cousin got married I inadvertently took the attention off of him at the reception. I am goth and went to his wedding in all black and my sweater was black with huge white skulls on it. His grandmother (my step-grandmother)spent the entire time lecturing me about how inappropriate I was dressed.
I found this hilarious and when my aunt (my cousin's mom) told him he came over and gave me a huge tight hug whispering thank you in my ear because it meant she wouldn't notice him drinking.
In her world it's ok for everyone but her family members to drink because drinking is a sin.
Needless to say it all worked out and we all had a blast anyway.
Tell her no, it’s not, it says to give wine to a depressed person in the Bible…😂
I mean you _were_ dressed inappropriately for a wedding though. Not saying she isn’t crazy but-
@@CHloE748 I don't necessarily agree with this. If her standard wardrobe is goth and the family knows it then to expect her to show up in something that goes against what she would normally wear is setting themselves up for disappointment. Don't expect someone to act/dress outside of their norm and you won't care when they act/dress like themselves.
It's amazing how greed and selfishness can ruin relationships of any kind. It shows who your real friends are: those who want you happy and be part of it.
Charlotte what is this amazing most delightful little moving light that has captured my attention in your room?! I NEEEEED OOONNNEE!!
I absolutely love the last story, absolutely hilarious. Once the craziness kicks in - do one 🇬🇧
I have actually been paid on multiple occasions to be a "minder". It's always grown a$$ adults that should know better. And I don't know if it's my morbid since of humor but yes it's a bit exhausting because you literally have to follow them everywhere and babysit/monitor their ever move but it's kinda fun especially if they know way you are following them around. Watching them walk on eggshells after whatever incident caused them to need a minder is entertaining. (Yes I know that might be a little mean but they are grown they should not need a babysitter to begin with)
Yes, the last person was AN a-hole, but not THE a-hole! And totally warranted. He just threw it back at them! Well played sir, well played. 🎉❤
Damn that villa story.. Charlotte you should do your own video about your personal experiences with entitled people you've met 🤣
I love how much answers to difficult questions these videos answer .!🎉... honestly if im ever in doubt theres a charlotte video to help me out ❤
Jesus, that burp was amazing. I almost choked laughing. Subscribed because of it! Keep them coming
I’ve watched practically every single video now (and rewatched most of them). I think it’s time to rewatch them again! Another great video, always love a wedding one!
My ex-MIL kept saying I was not as skinny as he likes. I got pregnant we were together 10 years. I then got pregnant again. We are still not married, he never asked. She said " I already have one bastard child so I needed to get married so we did. It didn't last very long. The whole family was crazy. Although his sister got pregnant before she was married and that was fine. Go figure.
The guy who let out his frustration during the best man’s toast- I think people missed the part that mentioned, day of, he went to the bar after being treated like crap by the bride and groom and the mother of the bride told him not to get drunk because he’d already ruined the day for the bride. That was his boiling point. It seems he tried to be a good friend and let shit go for their sake but they weren’t going to stop pushing. Kudos to him for being brutally honest. You can only eat shit for so long and if despite all your best efforts, they keep shoveling it on you- scorched earth time. You lost nothing in losing a friendship of that caliber and honesty is the best option, though the brutality of it is your discretion. NOT the a-hole
2:25 my favorite line of all time. Charlotte, is ok that I use this line until I’m really old and die.
Oh wow, I applaud that last guy that had the balls to say that during the wedding speech! 😂👏👏👏
I would've loved to be a fly on the wall when that wedding toast was made, especially paying attention to the bridezilla's reaction. That may not have been the best way to react but it was still funny😂
The last story, well done OP and I wish I had the balls to do something like that 👏🏻👏🏻 bravo sire
The last one😂😂😂😂 I know I shouldn't be laughing about it, but... The level of pettiness is immeasurable
I love Charlotte show, oh, my gosh. And reaction to what she reads. To point I want to buy merch. There is only one other content provider I ever wanted to do that for.🥳 Love you, Charlotte, you're so for real!
The clip of Wamda has me dying!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I love you so much Charlotte! You are a wonderful human being!
Spending the whole wedding watching someone to the point they had to look at me BEFORE speaking and telling them that they should mind whatever comes out of their mouth?!!
That'll be a field day for me!!!
Making them uncomfortable and second guess whatever they want to say would be a treat!!!
I'll definitely have fun making them sweat thinking they'll get kicked out and "manhandled" by security is prime entertainment in my books...
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I wait patiently for Charlotte every morning. An early laugh is always necessary!
Shes my lunch break :D
She's my evening day-maker 😂
She is my afternoon tea special. Every day ☺️
She is my 18 o clock Moment of relax 😂 always with the joint ready for the charlotte time ahaha
I watch her videos while eating my breakfast. No better way to stay my day
I can actually hear that sister on the phone like "sooo remember how I said I couldn't go to your wedding? Yeeeah that was before it was an all expense paid trip to Hawaii so I have some great news! We can make it after all"
Thanks for this one because now I have a new business idea as a guest-minder for special occasions! LOL. I get all the tea, I get to basically boss an a-hole around for a day/night, get to dress up, and get paid??? Wins on all grounds!
All of these were absolutely mental!!! My jaw was on the floor the whole video 😂😂😂
I've been a hired wedding guest a few times, and once was paid (in airfare, a hotel room and my dinner at the reception) to come keep some of the groom's family from getting too rowdy.
One of the first weddings I attended outside of my family, I was the 'best woman' for the groom. The mothers were actually very well behaved and both loved the bride, but her father was being a complete tool. One of my principle duties besides keep the rings and get the groom to the church on time was to step in and make sure FOB didn't disrupt things.
The parents weren't there until 3 days before the ceremony, but I was on him like a Secret Service agent at the last walkthrough and rehearsal dinner. When we went to pick up the tuxes (I already had my dress), I heard him start to dig at the groom - not the typical shovel speech, but a diatribe against marriage in general and how they're both gonna be miserable inside a year. I shut it down in a hurry.
He was disinvited from the bachelor party at the last minute - something MOB backed me up on, even though it was just a nice dinner out at a steakhouse for his team followed by a few private hours at an arcade.
Her big brother and the groom's dad ended up escorting bride up the aisle, as FOB proved in the hour prior to kickoff that he couldn't be trusted not to try and sneak her out the side door. Then I tipped the preacher to skip the objections, and FOB wasn't allowed to make a speech at the reception. He managed to still say *something* to the bride during their dance (she has never divulged exactly what) so I had the DJ immediately cut the song short when it became clear the tears she was holding back were *not* of joy. The groom took over and they disappeared for a few minutes while me and the groomsmen snuck FOB out the side for a "last chance or you're done" talk.
He kept his mouth shut and sulked in the corner til we got the newlyweds in the car on their way to the honeymoon.
Wedding Minder is a whole career path!
I could have just walked out of the wedding if i were that best man in that last story. I'm just very glad my best friend and his wife were absolute darlings when I was their best man. 😊
I was thinking something like that, too: the passive- aggressive route. I would have sat down next to my wife with my hand on her belly. When they called me up for the speech, I would have stood up and said loudly, "I think I'll pass, because, according to the bride, I've already ruined her day." Let them scramble and find someone else.
The best mans story. The bride and groom both disrespected the best man and his wife, then treated him like shit on their wedding day. The Bridezilla mom talking trash to him too just means the lot of them had no class. I call what the best man did, Just Deserts. He was already there, so while just leaving was an option, a little petty revenge was in order.
Last story... A ducking legend. I would love to see video of that
The minute someone shows signs of being a bridezilla the best man should be told so he can warm her that he has the bridesmaids paying close attention so he can list off every bridezilla move as a part of his speech 😂😆
*warn
All these texts and calls from people around the MIL ... WHY do these co-dependent people think that peer pressure is acceptable? Hang up and block them. I can't stand it when someone recruits friends and family to harass someone about wedding decisions.
When I got married my best friend was 8 months pregnant and was one of my bridesmaids. We had to get her a chair to sit on at the front of the church. I could just imagine telling her to down play her pregnancy. It’s one of the great stories from my wedding.
Charlotte, If you haven't done this already, could you introduce your team online sometime? I love your content and enjoy behind the scenes content. Love Ya!
I would have led the standing ovation and the wave as well after that best mans speech
I love your personality so much that “excuse me” was great made me laugh you go gurl 💁♀️😄🥰
Kudos to your visual and audio editors for their work on this episode! Excellent.
Stories like this always make me feel better about myself and the way I treat people.
The last guy is my absolute HERO.
I am so glad my MIL and I have a great relationship... My husband and i have been together since we were 14/15 and she was my second mom. We went through some things and we didn't speak to his family for two years when we were 23, but now we are all so close... I love her dearly and she is my best friend. She's *my mom* lmao and I'm so happy that we were able to repair our relationship. It was under extremely unfortunate circumstances but we all came together and came back stronger!
The wedding speech was the perfect time for blasting the bridezilla. What a nightmare!