Mil Compared My 'imperfect' Pregnancy to Sil's 'perfect' One for 9 Months. After Sil Gave Birth...
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- Mil Compared My 'imperfect' Pregnancy to Sil's 'perfect' One for 9 Months. After Sil Gave Birth, She and My Husband Both Cut Contact With Mil.
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She should tell her that if she has such a strong personal belief in women submitting to their husbands, then she should submit to her husband when he's telling her to quit her shit. Hypocrite much?
Rules for thee but not for me~
At the end of the day, it's about control. It's always about control
With the controlling and dominating type of person this MIL is, hypocricy is just another way to demonstrate their domination. 'Do as i SAY, not as i DO!"
@smokinggnu6584 You're probably right. That's pretty common for these types of people.
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Finally!!! A couple and a family in law on the same page against a crazy MIL!! Love this, rooting for them all ❤
Crazy and racist
It's such a rare thing. It needs to become a movie.
wth would mother in law insist on being in the delivery room?? it's not a spectators sport. and she was already there twice when she had her own kids.
Especially since it was an emercency delivery. Did she want the doctors to wait for her to arrive and endanger the live off the mother and the child.
She's a perv..
Exactly. My MIL did the same & had 5 of her own kids. She could be there for her 3 daughters birthing if they wanted her there. She was not allowed in mine, just my mom & husband.
It's gd this couple (& SIL) cut MIL off. She would be controlling over their children, compare their parenting just like the pregnancies, and overall overbearing.
She's a pervert..
I tried to rush to the hospital to be there for my sister during her emergency C-section, and I got there right when it was done when my sister was at her most panicked since the baby was whisked off to the NICU. THAT is the kind of situation you want someone there for, not for natural births with no issues. Giving comfort when things look grim is pretty critical.
I know my mom was angry she wasn't there for my sister's second birth... that also happened during covid. My own mom is the monster-in-law. Honestly, Covid did my sis a favor keeping her away.
Love how she wants a traditional arrangement right up until they ask her to pay for the wedding, then suddenly a dual-income household is dandy
Yea these people are always the same big talk till they gotta take out their billfold. "I want you t have a traditional wife and suddenly triple your income to match what you both make together right now."
Reality can be the biggest server or irony
I hate this. I'm a homemaker at the moment and it's because my husband and I decided it was best since we only have one car, and my husband wants to provide for me. I hate women like this who put down women for working, because that's the beauty of being a woman in the 21st century. You have the right to chose to work or to not.
@xZampx I know and it's terrible. I support both sides. I'm so happy for you! I hope you have your dream of being a mother soon! ❤️
whats SAHM?@@zamp_gaming
Right? I hate that, "feminists will hate me, but I want to be a stay-at-home-mom!" crap. I am one of the biggest feminists you'll ever meet, and what I hate is women being considered lesser, and pushed around. If you want to stay home and raise a passel of babies, I love that for you! Babies are great, some of my best friends used to be babies! That's important work you're doing, there.
@@ItsKadelynStay At Home Mom
@janerecluse4344 I just women would stand up for each other no matter what they chose to do with their lives. Just like when men decide to be stay at home dads. I love when I hear someone is a stay at home dad, and the mom works. That's wonderful, and I hope they are living their best life. I want everyone to be able to chose what to do with their individual life without being put down for it. Sorry for the rant I just always get people who don't understand what I'm saying in responding to my comments on things
8:43 "Control your women" well FIL cant control her either. MIL is no good women either (by her own standards)
She's not a women or even a human she's an alien
I'm just over here pleased as punch about two cousins just a few months apart in age. Those two are going to be besties for life.
and thankfully their parents aren't toxic so hopefully they stay together and hopefully the MIL doesn't end up interfering. My Mum is a lot like this MIL and me and my cousin that were born a few months apart practically never talk and don't really have a relationship :(
Me and my cousin are 15 days apart lol
10 days difference for me and my cousin (though it was supposed to be even closer), but we barely know each other at all. Haven't seen her since I was a kid and only were around each other maybe a half dozen times
My son and nephew are like 9 months apart and they are adorable when they play together.
Do you know how HARD it would be to become a marine biologist??! The amount of dedication and hard work- anyone else would be proud to have a scientist in the family!! My god, what an awful woman, what CENTURY is she from??!
6th century BC
@@ThatCzechMappermore like 29th century BC 😒
19th century or 14th century
The wrong one
This comment is perfect with your profile picture haha
3:06. The husband should have said, "Well, since your beliefs about men and women are from the economically stable 1950's, then women should be seen, not heard. I won't tolerate ANOTHER word from you."
Interesting how MIL wanted her sons to "control" their wife's yet her husband couldn't/didn't control her🙄 MIL is too over the top, demanding & definitely needed to be cut off.
It's so nice finally hearing about in-laws (excluding the mother of course) that are actually kind people.
Should have told her "I wish dad controlled his wife better".
I love that the whole family flipped on her even her own husband and she still thinks she is in the right. 😂
This woman had countless chances to watch her freaking attitude. In the end, it cost her a relationship with her children and grandchildren
And almost her marriage
is it not exhausting to be this entitled and angry all the time? people like this mil should look for other hobbies than being a bitter, angry person 24/7
THIS!!!!⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️
My ex-still-friend's father is like this and everything she ever tells me about him is just the most exhausting nonsense I've ever heard. Like, dude, your child can order tacos on the same night you decided you wanted to cook stew without asking anyone what they wanted for dinner without them hating you and thinking you're a bad cook and not respecting the family.
Unfortunately not. Some people do get off being this entitled and angry all the time, like a dopamine rush, if you know what I mean. That feeling of being in (supposed) power or letting out angry screams, it's as intoxicating as certain narcotics to addicts.
I'm impressed hiw good the son/OPs husband turned out when he has a mother like that
FIL needs to divorce MIL.
no you have gone too far with that
Gotta respect the man's patience that he hasn't proceeded yet
@@cooldude7285 but the woman's mind is gone...
@@cooldude7285 She is clearly a narcissist or has some sort of similar mental problem
@cooldude7285 He could easily lose his family by being with that woman. Not to mention she is, literally, crazy now he is going to feel her wrath. Divorce is a likely ending for them.
Just want to say props to OP and SIL for not competing for attention while pregnant and instead going through the journey together and getting closer. They seem like nice people
If this was my MIL I would laugh at her about how outdated her views were
This MIL may be a bad person but these views are the future because they are rooted in biological reality. When our society collapses (which by all measurements we will) this will become the new norm again.
And how racist she is
that 'make me the god mom!' thing had me thinking mil would try to unalive op. wouldnt put it past her
I’m glad that the father and law and sister in law aren’t toxic like the mother in law
I refuse to believe this person exists while everyone around her recognises time after time that she's insane. Who would stick by her after all these meltdowns?
You’d be surprised. I knew a woman like this and everyone just acted like it was normal
You must be speaking of my own mother. I don't talk to her anymore.
This was just like the mother of a friend of mine from high school. She's lost contact with her kids and posts a lot of shit on fb about her "awful" daughter. 😅
Sadly, there are in fact people like this. I’ve had the displeasure of meeting some in my life and from what I could tell, they’re very lonely yet don’t see how it’s their own fault that things in their life transpired the way they did
She’s a conservative small town Christian. There’s millions of these people like her unfortunately.
Correct choice from both these too and SIL they seem like good people.
OH MY GOD, a Karen as a MIL is such a nightmare
Its actually so cute how op and sil did the pregnancy stuff together, like that is so adorable
Find it funny that I’m studying to be a marine biologist.
Not related to the story but i just wanted to say that you are so lucky! I think marine biology is so cool and i hope it works out for you!
Tsk tsk… 😂
I have this personal thing where I say "if you respect my beliefs, I'll respect yours. If you try to push your beliefs onto me, we're gonna have a problem." This MIL is one i would stay away from.
Oh, this MIL would be close to my special apple and cherry seeds tea
I'm happy you have your sister in law to comfort you.
I could never understand how some people think that trying to control other people's lives is okay.
Every pregnancy is different! The mother-in-law failed to respect that!
MIL, do you ever set foot outside to see how the world is? Do you think it’s funny to see how many more dads can no longer sustain a family and a house alone with a common job? Hell not even a well-accommodated couple can without getting into years or even a decade of debt and feeling uneasy in the meanwhile, and you think you can insist on inserting tv values from the 1950’s??
So The mil complained about the old days value yet she keept yapping at her husband instead of being " the proper quiet wife" Hippocracy at it's finest
Off comment... real or fake. Op has earned my favor for the marine biology comment
My mother considered someone who was opening my eyes to my mothers toxic behaviour said that she was destroying our relationship... yeah, the relationship between my mother and myself was her abusive narcissism where both my brother and myself were suicidal...
Tis rare to see good SILs, but a welcome one. YOU GO GURL!
If I ever met someone like that, I'd just ask them if they really thought so little of their child that they thought they were incapable of taking care of themselves. Watch them fumble.
MIL sounds like those type of people that are so miserable in their lives, that to them the only smidge of happiness they can feel is by trying to put others down.
SIL's baby went from girl to boy. Lol!
So MIL hates op for not being “traditional enough” but doesn’t want her to breastfeed???
Very sweet that the sisters in law had their babies together ❤️
The woman was looking for anything to be mad about for no good reason.
I love how OP’s husband took his mom’s “be a man” comment and used it against her.
The dad getting sick of her too made me cackle
How in the world did someone as sweet as FIL end up with someone like MIL…
boy you'd be surprised, i have an aunt that got pregnant when she was like 16-17, so her bf would always be with her, she did everything in order to end up with him and succeeded, my uncle is a very good man, but a very passive one too, he's cheerful and a happy guy most of the time, but the c*nt of a wife my aunt is on the other hand....they're already 55+ and she's still the jealous type, everything has to be in control of her bc if not, she has a meltdown.
I don't stand her and idc about politeness either, whenever she tries to control anything i just insult her and curse at her, what is she gonna do anyways? I'm the type of person who's very calm and polite to everyone except to people i dislike, and it just so happens that she's the only one i dislike.
My uncle doesn't really mind when i tell her to gtfo, he doesn't love her anymore but he won't leave her either, idk why, but at least he doesn't mind me fighting her
I think how society is now she can take like EVERYTHING from him
The mil and fil are because the fil is weak willed and lets his wife get away with acting like a brat... if she truly was into tradtional roles, maybe she should be quiet and speak when spoken to as a woman to the men of the household, as the son would be of higher status than her...
I love the rare SIL and OP duo✨
I am a part of a family of conservative Christians and we don’t act like her mil and when I was young my dad still helped with the house and the baby’s and my mom was a housewife but she doesn’t expect all wife’s to be housewives
MIL is a hypocrite by her own definition
"Who's gonna take care of my son?"
Girl, your son is 4 years old? I'm sure ge can take care of himself and he don't need another "mom". Poor FIL, he must deal with such a toxic woman😢
Also, I love hiw warm and trustworthy relationship between OP and SIL, it's so nice that there's children will grow up in such healthy atmosphere❤
9:59 the reason why moms breastfeed their child is because it has nutrients to help boost the immune system for the baby smh
I'd bet that if OP didn't breastfeed and instead used formula, the MIL would take issue with that too and say she's a bad mother for depriving the baby 🙄
This sounds exactly like my MIL and my every single person on my husbands side except his sister
Glad FIL wised up and stopped acting like a flying monkey for MIL. And I bet she IS genuinely sorry. Sorry she can't act however she likes and still have people in her corner.
I feel bad for the FIL, his wife is an overbearing control freak. Glad he's so chill but at point will she take up her frustration out on him now that both her son and her daughter cut her off entirely.
OMG the Op's Husband and the SIL
Are nice and good and so supportive ❤❤❤😊
I would propbably have said to that MIL "Ridicula" and never talk to her again even in her company
I like the guitar in the background.
W husband, W SIL. That Monster-in-Law is insane.
The MIL’s behavior is definitely not because of the religious thing. Like why would she not want OP to breastfeed? She seems to view her kids as dolls that the can control every aspect of and that’s where her problem lies.
I agree, she seemed to use ‘religion’ when it fit her narrative. But conveniently forgot that Jesus died for all because of how much He loves all humans. Also, breastfeeding has been shown to be very healthy for mom and baby. (Unless there’s some type of health concern)
I think MIL wanted to be something besides a wife and mother, and seeing her son in an egalitarian marriage with a fulfilled career scientist had her #TRIGGERED on top of racism and internalized misogyny. Restricted to reproductive, family, and "feminine" life, she has become hypercontrolling of these areas.
SIL is a keeper.
"You should quit your job," versus "But you earn enough money to feed my friends!" MIL sucks.
I had a crazy MIL and it got so bad that I ended up leaving my partner. She turned the whole of his family against me and I had enough.
I am stuck when she said went into labour at 33 but gave birth at 34 after trying everything else, here in India doctors won't even wait a day before going for c section. That's such a horrible money grabbing technique which is harming so many women.
Waiting for so long can put the baby in distress so a lot of obgyns around the world prefer to go for an emergency C-section
Her behavior scared her own daughter because it's so blatantly displayed 💀
That mil should have been told to stop acting like a petulant child.
2:48 so the MIL misses when women didn’t have rights and were forced to stay home and take care of the children???
This sounds exactly like those Mexican “life story” videos on youtube, my condolences for having to live through this but it’s funny
Im just surprised that despite the awful mother, both son and daughter seem to have turned out well adjusted persons. ..
I don't know why, but MIL is giving me toxic Molly Weasley vibes. Good on the husband for going no contact.
"I told them I was a marine biologist"
stop right there. 10/10 story, do not care if its fake
(I'm being playful, I just really like marine biology)
We need an update for the SIL wedding and rude MIL!!!!
I would barely want my man in the room. I dont even want a doctor there to see a baby fall out of me. 😂
SAME GIRL!
Sil was so smart cutting mom off all she would have done is building a favoritism rivalry and give both nasty stories and horrible nightmares and both kids would foot grandma's drama bill
Why do you need to be a child's godmother when you're already their grandmother? That makes no sense.
So MIL is a Karen 😒 God bless you ...sorry you have to deal with this.
god bless husband's & sil's hearts 🫶🏻
1:27 FIL's action is suspicious, like why will you call him if you have no problem with Op.There is no need to speak on behalf of his wife. Is he held under gunpoint or what?
So how far back in time does she wanna go? Does she still wanna be able to vote?
I would hate to be a housewife/homemaker. It sounds so boring
Poor FIL sounds like a decent guy that got stuck with a Karen. I hope for the best for OP, her hubby and SIL
As a snake owner if your snake doesn't shed easily you are at fault because you keeping the poor thing wrong and no go check the humidity, look up the humidity your scaly friend needs and change it accordingly!
I wish things like ' no contact' also existed in our country
This MIL is all about how her daughter in law is not equipped to be a good wife or mom, yet when she breastfeeds her son, which you would think she would be on board with that but has a stronger urge to complain about her daughter in law. How much do you want to bet if she did formula the MIL would complain about her not breastfeeding.
For MIL’s generation, formula was marketed as better. MIL clearly is not the type to read any kind of news articles pertaining to the field of science to find out breast is best.
@@harleyquinn5774 But her excuse was that op was keeping her away from her grandchild.
I wanna know where they keep the time travel machine because clearly this woman is from the 1950s
if she's not already that way.. id look into dementia and Fox News. Something is so loudly off here.
Gotta love the crazy hypocrisy she has. Especially when it came to breast feed. Like literally the most motherly and feminine thing she should be doing "No stop that just feed him formula" Like really? One of the things she should be approving of she doesn't because she loses precious minutes away from a baby..
I will never understand what is so exciting about being first/early.
Also, what is wrong with the mother in law?
Edit: fixed a spelling mistake (I putted ao instead of so)
I always do feel bad in these situations that it always comes to having to cut someone off. Yes, they bring it on themselves, but I pity people like the MIL, that she was so mean and cold and she'll likely confide in her "friends" that she's the victim. Makes it even more pitiful.
We've cut my MIL off for periods of time for way less than this. The only thing that truly surprises me is that it took them so LONG to do it. Years upon years of abuse? No thanks!
She claims she's a conservative woman, yet she doesn't want to obey to her husband and didn't even think about organising and paying half of the wedding for 300+ guests as all traditional parents in law do.
4:02 Had to actually pause the video 4 minutes in because the mil is driving me up the wall 😂 I mean come on, it's the 21st century, adults are allowed to make their own decisions! If one wants to be a housespouse let them, if they both want to work, let them do that too!
Good G-d, this woman is exhausting!
Hmm but mil can’t control herself wow funny how she’s mad about the daughter in law but can’t do the same for herself
Why tf are all the ops marine biologists 😭✋
If the husband had a brother with the sister, I wouldn’t entertain our mother
I don't get it. If she is really that traditional, why would ahe not shut up when her husband tells he so?
I’m just surprised that fil still w mil
She sounds like the MIL from Marry My Husband
Bro go rest
If this was my mother in law, she would absolutely hate me. I am a mechanical engineering major with plans to work with either planes or roller coasters. Or Disney
My aunt and cousins are Indonesian. Ive loved them all my life. It wasnt until recently i was told that my grabdmother and father had been exceptionally racist to my aunt and i started to notice how even though my cousins were more involved in my grandmother's life, she still soent more money and had better things to say anout my sister and I. I was so furious to find this out. My cousins had made peace with it but i couldnt help but feel furious on their behalf. If you have a family member that is racist or sexist, you cant let those people around your children. You cant allow them to hurt your child. Good on SIL and OP for cutting contact. That kind if trauma is not a teachable moment, its just unneccessary pain. If you think for a second that MIL wouldnt show blatant favoritism towards her white grandchildren then youre delusional.