As an INTJ, I just want to say, "Why would you out us like that? And aren't INFJs supposed to be our safe place? Don't out us like that Frank. It was.....personal."
As an INTP - I say facetiously, since I'm way too analytical to go for this pop psychology astrology nonsense - I have to give props that you accurately depicted the INTP quickly arriving at the correct conclusion that the criticisms from the consultant were really projections of his own shortcomings.
So true! I always feel like they're so complementary towards me because I figure that's what it's all about; building people up! INFJs would never want to hurt anyone else's feelings, but we will tear ourselves up for days. And yes, it took me 20 minutes to type this and I am replying even though it needs work.
@@everythingwillbefinecamiwell I don't know about you, but I usually welcome feedback about my blindspots... It would mean that someone is actually paying attention to me for once!
@@everythingwillbefinecami it would depend on the severity of the feedback I guess. Like, if you tell me that I'm louder or more self-centered than I believed I was? Okay, I get that. But if you tell me that I appear "cold and distant", that would absolutely crush me 😅
My family (siblings, parents, uncles) really love to see me cry. it's hilarious how they try to annoy me just to see my reaction/emotion. One time I talked very calmly when telling them my mom's cancer result, instead of listening they were focused on my face, and they were happy because they thought I was crying.
I had an art class this semester and every project I would think about all the things I messed up on. Before the critiques, we would go over what we are looking for and how the process would work. One time, I called myself and probably others when I said that it would be easier to accept feedback if we aren't so hard on ourselves.
@@thatmbtiguy I may complement others yet quietly judge them in my head. But unless they make me think they don't have good intentions, I just "forgive" them.
@thatpersonalityguy Even tho we are very well aware of other people's weaknesses. We just find excuses for them, unlike when it comes to our flaws. Sometimes compliments might inspire to get better more than critique. Although I believe a constructive criticism is a must for a progress, even tho I don't like it.
Yeah but anything negative is because they don't understand our rationale. Once again. We know the best and most efficient way, and improve on everything. Only some people don't wish to be improved on.
As an INFJ, one of the criticisms I've gotten is that I'm very self-critical of myself and immediately after I was self-critical of myself for being self-critical. There is no exit, only suffering.
yeah, and then, you hear the feedback and listen to it as criticism and when you ask about it, it is not supposed to be criticism but that's what I hear (INFJ vs INTP)...
I’ve legit had performance write-ups where I was totally positive and upbeat. Like thanks for telling me how terrible I’m doing, I can’t wait to put your feedback into practice
INTJ: "Yes we do have emotions guys, surprise surprise" ENTJ: We're not stupid, we know it but we need you to keep doing what you're supposed to do: appear stoic and cold. We don't need your tears, enought with other personalities wasting everybody's time!!! Go hide and cry when you're alone... in the meanwhile be efficient d*mn it !! The last thing we need is YOU to betray us and become another liability !! We love you btw
As an INFJ whose fiance said to me last night, "I'm gonna sound like a broken record, but you need to be kinder to yourself", this is both accurate and timely!
INTJ here, I just appreciate the criticism as another data point to apply to the process of self improvement and discovery. I would also feel the need to vet the criticism with a few others who know me in that environment to see how accurate his assessment was then proceed accordingly.
Either way, your Fi is still reacting to the criticism. It just means you are attempting to see the criticism as another Te challenge. This might indicate your preference in synthesizing what the Te tribe thinks of you rather than playing damage control, ensuring the Fe vibe is not disrupted from those critical points.
As an INFP my response would be more like “Wow, this is really eye-opening. It makes me think I should go home and never be perceived by another person ever again”
That is 100% what I was expecting to be portrayed. But what we see here is more realistic to how a moment like that would actually probably appear on the outside. 😁 Make no mistake, that is also probably happening internally. 😅😅😅
I'm not like that at all? Are they points salient? Are they proposed solutions reasonable? Are they actually relevant to me? How so? I'm probably more like the INFJ in this video. Internally anyhow... If I disagree with the criticism, I'd ask for clarification and vet the individuals capacity to judge me. I have no problem improving, no problem with criticism, but I do want to know the rationale and see that it stands the test.
@@jhemp as an INTJ i'd say i thought about how i would react before continuing watching and it was actually more like the INFJ shown in the video. i wouldn't say "ten times longer" or "meaner" but i'll probably think i would give myself a better, more accurate review
@august919 I mean that's fair. I'm more critical of myself than others because I strive to deliver a bare minimum expectation that most people think is too high a bar to meet apparently. When I approach the bare minimum I can get a bit irritated with myself and be "mean", but generally it involves "panning out" assessing my actions and if they align with my values, determining where to "improve" based on "suggestions" and walking through how the "changes" would look and revising as needed. In essence, I don't think ten times longer and meaner applies to me necessarily either. Only that I hold myself to a high bar and probably have already criticized what most would suggest and gone to the next step. I'm not so foolish to say others aren't privvy to something I'm not or can't offer good advice that's on par or exceeds my own, but as a generalization, I don't think anyone who put less effort than I have into anything will give me much to work with. I will always start with the assumption that it will and move from there, but again, in general, people don't put the same amount of thought as I do into things, but afterwards I'm happy to revise anything I've gotten wrong. Edit: Noticed typos. Also, it is clear to me I was tired writing this. Difficult though it may be, I will not rewrite the message. Sometimes raw and unfiltered thoughts carry more meaning than some elegantly crafted message. With that said, have a good day to anyone reading this.
Frank James nailed it-INFJs get criticized by the boss, but we’re like, ‘If I were to criticize myself, I’d write a 20-page manifesto about every little mistake I’ve ever made, complete with emotional footnotes and an epilogue about how I’ll never be good enough.’ 😂 #SelfCritiqueChampion
When he started the INFJ, I just knew what he will say next and I was laughing and crying at the same time, because it was soooooo truuuuuueeee.... 😂😂😂🥲🥲🥲
LMAO same. i was having an internal dialogue like "pfft this could be longer - i know ALL my faults and also WAY MORE mean probably" AND SURE ENOUGH INFJ SAID IT 😭😭😭
@sweetea6550 it speaks of how INTJs can be affected by criticism, may it be that the words seem harsh, or that they failed to be perfect, it might even be that the words work as a disillusion for them for various things regarding their work and their performance/place in the work environment
As an ISTP, that is exactly what I do. Because I see my mistakes and if you don’t point those out and/or have a bad way explaining your point, I just won’t listen to you.
I'd see the list of criticisms, note that they are already things I'm aware of, reconfirm my commitment to not doing anything about them, and still like myself anyways
I'm INTJ and it's like a 50 50 for me. I either know what the criticism is and it makes sense so I shrug it off or I disagree with it greatly and will argue about it.
I don't even argue with it anymore (waste of time...who are they that I must prove myself to them?)....I give Spockish eyebrow raise then go back to doing my thing.
That's exactly the same for me. I will argue with the boss when I think he's wrong and he's usually left stammering at the end. I'm okay with getting fired. I'm not okay with silently accepting invalid criticism. If the criticism is valid, he's not informing me of anything I didn't already know.
@@Maxwell-j3q This is me to a T. Still chaps my ass that I didn't know how to read an analogue clock at a young age when asked. It was a file not found moment, I had literally never contemplated it. Or that I don't have the coordination required to ride a bike.
"You're just saying that to make me feel better. You're lying to me. Just come out and tell me how terrible I am at my job and how I can do better." ~ INFJ
FINALLY some accurate rep of us INTJs bro by myself, i would cry, and depending on my emotional state of mind during that time, it could range from crying OCEANS to crying ... normal...
I think people underestimate the dark side of being enfp (also I am having a bad day). Is it enfp that I always want to qualify or explain every statement I make?
@@ephemera...yes, yes it is. Even though no one asked you to. But congrats for recognizing, took me years to be aware and will take me more to navigate it.
I notice a common trend with ISTP is that their appearances are often the most brief and concise. On one hand I may feel like, I wish we could get more screen time but on the other… It’s like yeah that exactly how I would be as an ISTP 😅
I usually ask how they came to their conclusions in the assessment. It allows the assessor the ability to self identify their biases and incomplete information set. Occasionally they get something correct, and on those points I'll agree with them.
As an INTP, I would take the criticism and then stay up late crying and thinking about what I should have done and overanalyze everything about my life. Then, I would get over it in the morning.
PaleGhost69 is probably right There's also a link at the top for a "16 Personalities Winning Awards" video, so that's kind of like a complement ruclips.net/video/hrbg1eWayWs/видео.html
As an INFJ it's too true, whenever I know it's time for a criticism thing I panic and make a mental list of everything negative I possibly could've done beforehand 😅
@@fatimakhan565 I think it's because we all come together to watch MBTI videos and find each other in the comments 😂 like a video about left handed people would attract lefties even though it's only 10% of the world 🌎
@@MBTIinRealLife Memory space. By committing things to paper, filed in appropriately named file folders, stored in designated cupboards, we can remove them from immediate memory and focus on tasks at hand. Unless that document means I am about to get fired if the points are not addressed immediately, then it goes into the ToDo pile on my desk.
ISFJ here. Spot on! I tend to start with “Thank you for…” and then internally feeling deeply hurt afterwards. It’s the reason I’ve learned to deliver feedback in an encouraging and opportunistic way, phrasing it in a way that sounds like I’m helping / looking out for them.
As an INTP, I constantly beg people to give me *constructive* criticism. The results are either the person's too nice or have no idea what the word constructive is and I get roasted about my many flaws as a human being.
Just watched this video and the easily stressed out video back to back and these are some of my two favorites in a while. This is why Frank James continues to be my favorite youtuber
LOL You forgot the critical part of the entire INTJ mindset: I have identified a flaw/mistake. What is causing me to have this flaw, make this mistake? I need to isolate the physical factors and my thought patterns and instincts based on what is happening when I do this, and see what I can do to STOP making this error. Because knowing that there's an issue is only step one. Being told to just "stop" a recurring issue isn't going to do anything if you don't know why you're doing it in the first place. If you know why, then you can institute changes to stop it.
@@melodyrichardson5051 It actually makes perfect sense. :) INFPs and INTJs share Fi/Te. We're just flipped as to which we prioritize. We're also both iNtuitives even if we have different types of intuition naturally, it's one of our strongest assets so we can actually do both even if our skills at it differ. It's one of the reasons INTJs and INFPs usually get on well if they have some basic alignment in regard to values.
As an enfp i WOULD argue with all of the points and be like "ok, YEAH, maybe. But when you look at it this way-" or "i only do this because-!" THEN afterwards i would be compare it to my good traits lmaooo
Fellow INFJ, can't get more accurate. I had to do that once and I had to remind myself to dial it back because I don't need to shout our all my issues, lol! One or two was plenty.
As an ENTJ, this is pretty accurate. I don't like it when people beat around the bush, just tell we what's wrong. Also, maybe just me and not an ENTJ thing, but I LOVE constructive criticism.
Whoa, this tracks... INFP here, married (for almost 30 years) to an ISTP. My dude is so confident in his approach to every freaking situation that it blows my mind 🤯
Real talk, I have been watching and commenting on your videos for a while thinking I’m an INTJ (I was Te gripping) only to realize I’m an INFP (now I’m out of it) but cannot be bothered to go all the way back and delete them all. Point is, when the INFP had a crisis, it was very on point. Also, the poor INTJ, awww. Bro let me hug you. 😭😂
Intj and it's so true. I do take criticism if said to me face to face in private but not through gossip or chatting with someone about me and raising voice for me to overhear it.. I do cry in private sometimes after
I think the difference in the intj with the reaction is the “assertive” or “turbulent “ subtype. I am intj-a and tested at 💯 assertive. Critiques are like gold to me and I beg for that kind of info in all things that I do. That way I can take the criticism, analyze it, and adjust accordingly towards perfection. My complete confidence in myself makes it near impossible to hurt my feelings. I literally have to be sick or injured (physically weak) in order for the most harsh of treatment to get a reaction from me, like hurt feelings.
I don’t remember giving permission to use my 1:1 manager review starting at 3:27?! At least you didn’t show the 24 hrs following it of internal analysis, self cross-examination, going back over every email, IM, or conversation that I had in the past year as I looked for reasons and then of course the full week…or more…of internal, never expressed non-stop mental conversations defending and arguing my side. It’s so much “fun” being my INTJ/INFJ self. 🤦🏻♀️
The INTJ later went on to learn everything he could about the auditor, stole several critical points of data from his personnel file; which then allowed him to ruin the auditors financial, social, and eventually get him fired.
Frank - love these and love Word of the Week! How about the personalities doing a teambuilding exercise together? We just had one where we built gingerbread houses in small groups! Thought of the personalities the whole time!
As an ENTJ, I truly appreciate the person who meticulously adds the timing of each character. Your effort gives me a boost of positive energy and is the main reason I pay attention to the comments. Regarding the video, being clear and direct during criticism is highly preferable for us. It allows us to pinpoint problems faster, making it easier to solve them while saving time and effort. The issue of hurt feelings is secondary and usually doesn’t matter much, except in emotional situations. For example, if someone you love starts by criticizing you for not knowing how to compliment, flirt, or provide emotional support, it might leave a subtle, lasting impact. That said, this rarely happens because we typically develop a system of thinking tailored to such situations, designed to achieve the best outcome. Personally, I’ve worked on developing my emotional side, but I’ve found that help from INTPs, ISFPs, and ESFJs has been invaluable in certain cases. It’s made me better while still staying true to my nature. I wrote this comment because I think that others know something about us, this will improve their dealings with us and our dealings with others.
I’m an INTP, but I would have figured out what was happening before going into the room, then the only critique would be that nobody knows what the heck I’m doing the whole time. I would then be disappointed, because that doesn’t tell me anything about what I can improve. If I’m feeling particularly crazy, I’d leave the room, complain about how little was on the page, then start asking coworkers (mainly ENTJ and INTJ) for criticism, constructive if possible.
So yellow and purple as an ENFJ are my favorite colors AAAAAND Frank(ly) rocks with the Prince sweater or t-shirt vibe every single time! Wow NI dominant guessing my color preferences...
As a fellow ENFJ, purple is also my favorite color which added another layer of confirmation that his depiction of ENFJ was spot on! lol I was thinking the same thing @CallistothewarriorQueen
Fellow INTJ here. In high school - a long time ago - instead of grades, we each had an in-person session with multiple teachers present at one time, and we were asked to provide a self-evaluation of how we did in every class. We were also asked to state our strengths and weaknesses overall just as a person. I loved it. Everyone agreed with my reflections. Honestly, I don't understand WHY people take things personally so easily and so often. We're all here to explore the universe. We're all mortal, and we all have a brief time to make the most out of our lives. Make sure your basic needs are met, and provided they are, help others. It's fine and good to express your emotions, but don't let them prevent you from achieving your goals and making the world a better place for all. 💝
I believe in being fully efficient and excellent in all ways possible. Of course if I know there is something I won’t exceed at, I’m not interested. But in life it’s a constant thriving for self improvement and improvement of my skill set. This doesn’t happen without criticism, and I always tell people that I am open and willing and eager to hear what they have to say especially a criticism. My ego doesn’t allow hindrance in the ultimate goal of progress towards perfection. Imagine a world of people like this? Holy cow! To me that would be the ultimate heaven. No sore buttholes anywhere.
My boyfriend is an INFP and has the same T-shirt. :D This is like the 4th time I see you use this shirt on INFP-s. At first I was like 'hah, funny coincidence', but now I've got to the point I had to comment on it. :'D
The INTJ crying is accurate. As an INTJ myself, I've been feeling VERY low and deprrssed. I've been bullied at school and have no friends. My Portuguese Teacher, who's often slightly brute but very kind and only wants the best for her students, came to me and I didn't even had to speak with her for a minute to start crying. She broke a record today. Now… I'm jn the bathroom writing this. Still depressed.
LOL, as an INTJ, the ISTPs/ESTPs keepin' it real making me laugh and BTW the INTJ is crying at the end because he's going miss everyone after he systematically gets the company closed down. 🙃😏😉
As an INTJ, I would definitely love the criticism, coz I'm pretty sure there's nothing new in that list, i must have already knew it by either accepting or destroying it but in front of the management, I'd thank them and put forward my defending statements...later I would just love to erase those criticism as it would help me in my self improvement journey.
Management: “You’re doing a great job; we appreciate the effort you put into the job.” INFJ: “Thank you; I do my best.” Also INFJ: _”I wish I could do better at ______. Why would she say such nice things to me? She probably doesn’t think I could handle a real critique.”_
as an INFJ, i often get trapped into self-blaming for all the wrongs i encounter in life and hurt caused to other people. so much well-aware of our own selves, i could totally agree we go over the top and abusive of ourselves.
Enfj here and yes, the breakdown is ALWAYS the first step, then comes solution. We’ll get to the solution, but we need to cry a bit first, then we get the list, and show up as everything written on the list, you’ll hate how much you love us once we’ve put EVERYTHING you said into our daily routine.
For the flip side, watch "16 Personalities Winning Awards" next! 👉 ruclips.net/video/hrbg1eWayWs/видео.html
As an INTJ, I just want to say, "Why would you out us like that? And aren't INFJs supposed to be our safe place? Don't out us like that Frank. It was.....personal."
I’m a more balanced INFJ than you, clearly. But okay.
I'm somehow both the ISTJ and the INTJ at the same time in this feedback video.
Is the forgetting the name an INTJ thing? I never forget a face or a mannerism but seldom recall names.
As an INTP - I say facetiously, since I'm way too analytical to go for this pop psychology astrology nonsense - I have to give props that you accurately depicted the INTP quickly arriving at the correct conclusion that the criticisms from the consultant were really projections of his own shortcomings.
INFJs - "I appreciate the effort but leave this to me"
We are experts, after all. 😒
Yeah...
I agree 😂
Another INFJ scenario I related hard to. 😂
So true! I always feel like they're so complementary towards me because I figure that's what it's all about; building people up! INFJs would never want to hurt anyone else's feelings, but we will tear ourselves up for days. And yes, it took me 20 minutes to type this and I am replying even though it needs work.
INFP getting really sad and deep only to suddenly switch to cheery politeness is pretty on point
😂 it’s me
Yeah but the questioning whether or not we know ourselves better than some rando? I don't think so. 😅
@@everythingwillbefinecamiwell I don't know about you, but I usually welcome feedback about my blindspots... It would mean that someone is actually paying attention to me for once!
@@darkcreatureinadarkroom1617 I do too! But from there to question if I live in the dark about my entire self?? Absolutely not. Do you?
@@everythingwillbefinecami it would depend on the severity of the feedback I guess. Like, if you tell me that I'm louder or more self-centered than I believed I was? Okay, I get that. But if you tell me that I appear "cold and distant", that would absolutely crush me 😅
The INTJ is exactly how I would react. I appreciate the criticism abstractly, but irl I would probably cry once the management left.
Fellow INTJ
Then think about revenge.
@@chatuwrote
Daydreaming about how to critique them 10 times worse!
My brother is an INTJ and I totally see it. He wouldn’t shed a tear but he would be silently hurt.
I have done this!
INFP’s don’t need to get criticized. We’ll just do it ourselves.
Brooo TwT stop attacking me like that
I'm intp, but i kinda see myself more in the infp here
@@Meik-n9h Funny, I'm an INFP but see myself more in the INFJ
😭😭😭
Yep
Common symptom & part of the depression fun 💀
As an infj i already have a built-in self critique that runs 24/7 at maximum effeciency!
It could probably be a little more efficient, to be honest…
-ISFP here, me tooooo!🙋
(Not sure if it's a good or bad thing)
@RebekahHernden it could be both in some ways
@@kyerinnI see what you did there lol.
And it never exhausts😂
INTJ here. Yep. Never let them see you cry or be vulnerable. It interferes with the mythos people create about you. That mythos is very useful.
Never
INFP here, I do the same thing
No one will see INTJ cry because they don't have a permission to criticize us from the beginning
That and it takes time to sink in and really appreciate what it all said and means and how you feel about it. Then the silent crying.
My family (siblings, parents, uncles) really love to see me cry. it's hilarious how they try to annoy me just to see my reaction/emotion. One time I talked very calmly when telling them my mom's cancer result, instead of listening they were focused on my face, and they were happy because they thought I was crying.
As an INFJ, yeah, Totally true.
People always give me one or two negative things to improve and all I can say is "just one or two?"
I've never seen a type so good at complementing others, yet criticising themselves
I had an art class this semester and every project I would think about all the things I messed up on. Before the critiques, we would go over what we are looking for and how the process would work. One time, I called myself and probably others when I said that it would be easier to accept feedback if we aren't so hard on ourselves.
@@thatmbtiguy I may complement others yet quietly judge them in my head. But unless they make me think they don't have good intentions, I just "forgive" them.
@@thatmbtiguy Paradox😅😂
@thatpersonalityguy Even tho we are very well aware of other people's weaknesses. We just find excuses for them, unlike when it comes to our flaws.
Sometimes compliments might inspire to get better more than critique.
Although I believe a constructive criticism is a must for a progress, even tho I don't like it.
As an INTJ, this is fair. (I'll feel my feelings privately after leaving this comment.)
Yeah but anything negative is because they don't understand our rationale. Once again. We know the best and most efficient way, and improve on everything. Only some people don't wish to be improved on.
@@cellgrrlI agree. Half the time I'm criticised I have to handhold them and explain how I was right all along.
As an INFJ, one of the criticisms I've gotten is that I'm very self-critical of myself and immediately after I was self-critical of myself for being self-critical. There is no exit, only suffering.
the suffering is the exit, perhaps? hmm 🤔
The struggle is so real
You get it 😭 it never ends!!! It won't end either 💀
yeah, and then, you hear the feedback and listen to it as criticism and when you ask about it, it is not supposed to be criticism but that's what I hear (INFJ vs INTP)...
It does end. I'm older now and I've reached a point where IDGF about what other people think anymore. Don't fence me in!
The INTP was either actually oblivious, or he delivered a brutal roast lol
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 never know
Or both at the same time!
As an INTP I'm pretty sure it was both, but he didn't realize about the brutal roast until at least an hour later.
The funniest thing that either way is hella dead on target!!!!!😂😂😂😂💀
@@snowmonster42 lmao real
TIMESTAMPS:
ISFJ: 0:20
ISTP: 0:29
ISFP: 0:33
ENTP: 0:43
ENFJ: 0:54
ESTP: 1:02
ESTJ: 1:15
ISTJ: 1:23
ENFP: 1:28
INTP: 1:35
ESFP: 1:50
ESFJ: 2:00
ENTJ: 2:24
INFP: 2:44
INFJ: 2:59
INTJ: 3:25
Thank you anonymous stranger for the timestamps!
@@thatmbtiguy My pleasure. :)
INFJ and INTJ are so accurate and ESTJ being perfect made me laugh😂
@@QUEENNOIR00 Yeah, that was hilarious. :)
Thank you!!
Haha omg the INFP switching from existential crisis to friendliness 😂 Yup, that's me
Yup!!
Same
Same lol
I’ve legit had performance write-ups where I was totally positive and upbeat. Like thanks for telling me how terrible I’m doing, I can’t wait to put your feedback into practice
ME EVERYDAY
Pretending to be fine and then crying about it is the realest take I've seen on INTJs. Yes, we do have emotions guys, surprise surprise 😔
I knew it...
It’s buried deep, but all the more powerful for hiding at our core
And some of the most beautiful and precious ones.
Some of us know and cherish it.🥰
Not as surprising as you'd think. Sometimes they're boiling down during conversation. You just have to be attentive.
INTJ: "Yes we do have emotions guys, surprise surprise"
ENTJ: We're not stupid, we know it but we need you to keep doing what you're supposed to do: appear stoic and cold.
We don't need your tears, enought with other personalities wasting everybody's time!!! Go hide and cry when you're alone... in the meanwhile be efficient d*mn it !!
The last thing we need is YOU to betray us and become another liability !!
We love you btw
As an INFJ whose fiance said to me last night, "I'm gonna sound like a broken record, but you need to be kinder to yourself", this is both accurate and timely!
I even criticize myself while doing meditation to stop criticizing myself :D
accurate and relatable -- ENFJ
Hes a keeper and a sweetheart!🎉❤😊
@@gabrielleswann6729 Yes, he is! 🥰
sounds like an ENTJ, is he an ENTJ? but yeah fax bruv fax, we gotta start uhh...doing that...(do tell me how you plan on doing that, I don't-)
😂 INTP seeming and acting oblivious but actually quite on point.
Me as an INTP: In order to care about this criticism I would first have to value your opinion, and I don't respect you nearly enough for that.
INTP here, I'm always just zoned tf out. I'm going to be doing my own thing, unless you're someone I give at least two shits about.
@@roaaoife8186 But fr tho, I don't know you, why would it make sense for me to care about your view of my performance?
@@shizakashi3494 because if you're INTP you take it at face value and reflect on whether it makes sense to you or not, regardless of who said it.
@@GaBoGaP if it's a fact, sure. But this is an opinion someone has about me. Which 99% of the time I could not care less about.
INTJ here, I just appreciate the criticism as another data point to apply to the process of self improvement and discovery. I would also feel the need to vet the criticism with a few others who know me in that environment to see how accurate his assessment was then proceed accordingly.
Either way, your Fi is still reacting to the criticism. It just means you are attempting to see the criticism as another Te challenge. This might indicate your preference in synthesizing what the Te tribe thinks of you rather than playing damage control, ensuring the Fe vibe is not disrupted from those critical points.
So true.
@@lazyscholar7932god damn. You just made me happy to be an INTP. I feel that my brand of denial is much more pure.
And either plot their downfall, or at least some minor or major sabotage, or be enraged or upset, or all of the above.
@@BH-sr1kb None of the above. I can’t be bothered by trivial nonsense like that.
As an INFP my response would be more like “Wow, this is really eye-opening. It makes me think I should go home and never be perceived by another person ever again”
That is 100% what I was expecting to be portrayed. But what we see here is more realistic to how a moment like that would actually probably appear on the outside. 😁 Make no mistake, that is also probably happening internally. 😅😅😅
As an INTJ, how could you possibly know this? These are supposed to be our secrets. You're a threat to people like us!
I'm not like that at all? Are they points salient? Are they proposed solutions reasonable? Are they actually relevant to me? How so? I'm probably more like the INFJ in this video. Internally anyhow... If I disagree with the criticism, I'd ask for clarification and vet the individuals capacity to judge me. I have no problem improving, no problem with criticism, but I do want to know the rationale and see that it stands the test.
@@jhemp as an INTJ i'd say i thought about how i would react before continuing watching and it was actually more like the INFJ shown in the video. i wouldn't say "ten times longer" or "meaner" but i'll probably think i would give myself a better, more accurate review
@august919 I mean that's fair. I'm more critical of myself than others because I strive to deliver a bare minimum expectation that most people think is too high a bar to meet apparently. When I approach the bare minimum I can get a bit irritated with myself and be "mean", but generally it involves "panning out" assessing my actions and if they align with my values, determining where to "improve" based on "suggestions" and walking through how the "changes" would look and revising as needed.
In essence, I don't think ten times longer and meaner applies to me necessarily either. Only that I hold myself to a high bar and probably have already criticized what most would suggest and gone to the next step. I'm not so foolish to say others aren't privvy to something I'm not or can't offer good advice that's on par or exceeds my own, but as a generalization, I don't think anyone who put less effort than I have into anything will give me much to work with. I will always start with the assumption that it will and move from there, but again, in general, people don't put the same amount of thought as I do into things, but afterwards I'm happy to revise anything I've gotten wrong.
Edit: Noticed typos. Also, it is clear to me I was tired writing this. Difficult though it may be, I will not rewrite the message. Sometimes raw and unfiltered thoughts carry more meaning than some elegantly crafted message. With that said, have a good day to anyone reading this.
You're in the domain of an INFJ...... no one is safe 😏🤣
frank james is an INTJ so he just spilt the beans HAHA ~an infp
Frank James nailed it-INFJs get criticized by the boss, but we’re like, ‘If I were to criticize myself, I’d write a 20-page manifesto about every little mistake I’ve ever made, complete with emotional footnotes and an epilogue about how I’ll never be good enough.’ 😂 #SelfCritiqueChampion
And i didnt even start working for that company yet!! 😅
@@Cheza001🎯
That epilogue is so truee😂
This is soooo true, and it hurts so much!
as someone who recently got into MBTI, I’m always shocked at how much INFP portrayals actually feel like they apply to me. like that’s ME in the video
Welcome home 🙏
Isn't it both exciting and terrifying to feel understood a little?
Thats why I watch his videos...just to understand myself better and find more Infp.
When he started the INFJ, I just knew what he will say next and I was laughing and crying at the same time, because it was soooooo truuuuuueeee.... 😂😂😂🥲🥲🥲
LMAO same. i was having an internal dialogue like "pfft this could be longer - i know ALL my faults and also WAY MORE mean probably" AND SURE ENOUGH INFJ SAID IT 😭😭😭
3:45 The silent crying really speaks volumes
what does it speak exactly
@sweetea6550 it speaks of how INTJs can be affected by criticism, may it be that the words seem harsh, or that they failed to be perfect, it might even be that the words work as a disillusion for them for various things regarding their work and their performance/place in the work environment
@mitochondria1065 thank you for your answer :)
As an ISTP, that is exactly what I do. Because I see my mistakes and if you don’t point those out and/or have a bad way explaining your point, I just won’t listen to you.
I'd see the list of criticisms, note that they are already things I'm aware of, reconfirm my commitment to not doing anything about them, and still like myself anyways
@ Exactly.
I'm INTJ and it's like a 50 50 for me. I either know what the criticism is and it makes sense so I shrug it off or I disagree with it greatly and will argue about it.
I don't even argue with it anymore (waste of time...who are they that I must prove myself to them?)....I give Spockish eyebrow raise then go back to doing my thing.
That's exactly the same for me. I will argue with the boss when I think he's wrong and he's usually left stammering at the end. I'm okay with getting fired. I'm not okay with silently accepting invalid criticism. If the criticism is valid, he's not informing me of anything I didn't already know.
Is it weird that I don't really respond to insults, but not being able to do something that everybody else can do.
@@Maxwell-j3q This is me to a T. Still chaps my ass that I didn't know how to read an analogue clock at a young age when asked. It was a file not found moment, I had literally never contemplated it. Or that I don't have the coordination required to ride a bike.
INFJ is definitely on point. My own manager even tells me to relax. "Your department looks great, you're doing an amazing job. "
"You're just saying that to make me feel better. You're lying to me. Just come out and tell me how terrible I am at my job and how I can do better." ~ INFJ
@@alexkay6676 😂😂😂thats literally me
Since 90% of the time I'm either misunderstood or not even understood at all it always makes me happy seeing how accurately you depict INFJ
And I don't know If I like being understood - infj
@@gamerv0unfamiliar feeling, right? And I don't like changes I wasn't prepared to
@i_Forsajt it used to make me panic too but I've learned to sort of sometimes get over it
@@i_ForsajtI thought only I felt like that🥹 Glad to see other people especially fellow INFJs also feel the same😂
Idea : 16 personalities as Santa Claus or (Santa's elves)
Ooh, love the elf idea.
I love the ENTJ one. "To the point!". Ex-actly my dude keep it simple and informative! lol
FINALLY some accurate rep of us INTJs
bro by myself, i would cry, and depending on my emotional state of mind during that time, it could range from crying OCEANS to crying ... normal...
ENFP and INFJ are the only ones who want to increase the list of critique 😂
I just want to do better than I already am. Keep it up and we'll get it done, thanks.
Lol yeah. I'm critiquing every error in my head to the nth degree. ENFP
I did not pick that up from the enfp.
I think people underestimate the dark side of being enfp (also I am having a bad day).
Is it enfp that I always want to qualify or explain every statement I make?
@@ephemera...yes, yes it is. Even though no one asked you to.
But congrats for recognizing, took me years to be aware and will take me more to navigate it.
I relate more to the INFJ here- INFP. As INFPs we are usually very self aware and critical.
I notice a common trend with ISTP is that their appearances are often the most brief and concise. On one hand I may feel like, I wish we could get more screen time but on the other… It’s like yeah that exactly how I would be as an ISTP 😅
Lol, you know INTJs so well 😂 Great job. That was totally me, crying alone 😅
INFJ's psycho inner voice is no joke. Unfortunately. 😅
I swear it's 10 times active than my mouth
Agree😅
Istp here, nothing makes me more happy than to prove people wrong when they criticize me and then disappear lol
Yezzzz....(also istp)
Same or just flat out say no without explanation
ISFP here, same!😅
I usually ask how they came to their conclusions in the assessment. It allows the assessor the ability to self identify their biases and incomplete information set. Occasionally they get something correct, and on those points I'll agree with them.
As an INTP, I would take the criticism and then stay up late crying and thinking about what I should have done and overanalyze everything about my life. Then, I would get over it in the morning.
Took me a whole day the other day. Next time they come to critique at my work I will be waiting and stopping everything with a rock and stern face.
Oh my gosh, the ENTP killed me! It’s so true!! INFJ also very true! Pages of lists...😂💜
How you commented 15 hours ago
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It's the membership perk!😂
@@meganleffingwell3437 Damn
@@meganleffingwell3437or time travel, Stephanie probably figured out how to traverse space-time
@@fluffsquirrel
Or a portal! 😄
“Positive feedback will come at a later date”
Does this mean we’re getting a 16 personalities get complimented video?
I thought it was a joke about INTJs only focusing on improving the negative instead of highlighting the positive.
@ that could’ve been it too
PaleGhost69 is probably right
There's also a link at the top for a "16 Personalities Winning Awards" video, so that's kind of like a complement ruclips.net/video/hrbg1eWayWs/видео.html
Brilliant idea. Not ENTP arguing about not arguing minor points.
As an INFJ it's too true, whenever I know it's time for a criticism thing I panic and make a mental list of everything negative I possibly could've done beforehand 😅
Right 😂
Same. But when the actual criticism comes I’m always like, that’s it?
Why do people say INFJ is the rarest l. There are so many INFJs in the comment
@@fatimakhan565 I think it's because we all come together to watch MBTI videos and find each other in the comments 😂 like a video about left handed people would attract lefties even though it's only 10% of the world 🌎
@@jadagriffin8271 Yeah that makes total sense. I didn't think abt that😂
As ISTJ i agree - i would put that list away and will never look in it again. But i will remember about it occasionally.
I did get that. How putting list away and never looking is an ISTJs thing?
As an ISTJ, I would file it in the trash next to the other unnecessary things that will not affect my life.
@@MBTIinRealLife Memory space. By committing things to paper, filed in appropriately named file folders, stored in designated cupboards, we can remove them from immediate memory and focus on tasks at hand.
Unless that document means I am about to get fired if the points are not addressed immediately, then it goes into the ToDo pile on my desk.
As an INTJ, I will say that is pretty spot-on.
ISFJ here. Spot on! I tend to start with “Thank you for…” and then internally feeling deeply hurt afterwards. It’s the reason I’ve learned to deliver feedback in an encouraging and opportunistic way, phrasing it in a way that sounds like I’m helping / looking out for them.
INFP’s always open to the idea that we suck but we know we can improve!
As an INTP, I constantly beg people to give me *constructive* criticism. The results are either the person's too nice or have no idea what the word constructive is and I get roasted about my many flaws as a human being.
Yes, happening to me too.
INTP one is accurate. I don't know what's going on a lot of the time
Same idk what's going on 98% of the time
Definitely hit or miss.
Just watched this video and the easily stressed out video back to back and these are some of my two favorites in a while. This is why Frank James continues to be my favorite youtuber
LOL You forgot the critical part of the entire INTJ mindset: I have identified a flaw/mistake. What is causing me to have this flaw, make this mistake? I need to isolate the physical factors and my thought patterns and instincts based on what is happening when I do this, and see what I can do to STOP making this error.
Because knowing that there's an issue is only step one. Being told to just "stop" a recurring issue isn't going to do anything if you don't know why you're doing it in the first place. If you know why, then you can institute changes to stop it.
Funny, I'm INFP, and this is my thought process! 😂
@@melodyrichardson5051 It actually makes perfect sense. :)
INFPs and INTJs share Fi/Te. We're just flipped as to which we prioritize.
We're also both iNtuitives even if we have different types of intuition naturally, it's one of our strongest assets so we can actually do both even if our skills at it differ.
It's one of the reasons INTJs and INFPs usually get on well if they have some basic alignment in regard to values.
Yes!
Yes, criticism can be very useful.
As an ISTP myself, I'd bet half of the critiques on the ISTP would be part of my personality. And I would say that as a response to the list.
It makes me think... about what else am i in the dark about??
As an enfp i WOULD argue with all of the points and be like "ok, YEAH, maybe. But when you look at it this way-" or "i only do this because-!" THEN afterwards i would be compare it to my good traits lmaooo
Always trying to be the optimist. 😊
1:23 for once I'm so happy for the ESTJ! (He did better than Timmy and got recognition for it)
2:55 Oh dear, you have seen into my soul. Guess I'm INFP after all...
Fellow INFJ, can't get more accurate. I had to do that once and I had to remind myself to dial it back because I don't need to shout our all my issues, lol! One or two was plenty.
True
Best ever! As an INFJ, it was actually encouraging to see that others might not like criticism either. Very healing! Thank you!
INTJ - Yes, that´s pretty accurate, but I don´t cry. Reading it alone would be better, so I could think about it.
Yeah none of that crying shit. More like ok how do I solve this problem shit 😂😂😂
Man, I felt so sorry for ISFJ :c They always care a lot and I'm saying that as an INTP who's often being "lost" at work
ENTJ is SPOT ON. I know from experience.😭
For real, it's like stop being vague and tell me what I can improve.😅
As an ENTJ, this is pretty accurate. I don't like it when people beat around the bush, just tell we what's wrong.
Also, maybe just me and not an ENTJ thing, but I LOVE constructive criticism.
I’m ENTJ as well but, I like working with others when I do which is not often, cause I don’t like it when people give me excuses lol 😂
ENTJ, I do love straightforwardness but I am currently working on my appreciation for constructive criticism...
Frank making our Friday better by posting.
It feels like it's been so long since RUclips showed Frank's new upload in my recommendations 🌚✨
welcome back
Whoa, this tracks...
INFP here, married (for almost 30 years) to an ISTP.
My dude is so confident in his approach to every freaking situation that it blows my mind 🤯
Same boat as you just not nearly as long. And same. 😂
Do the positive list next and how personality reacts to been flattered, please
Infj on point as always! ❤
Real talk, I have been watching and commenting on your videos for a while thinking I’m an INTJ (I was Te gripping) only to realize I’m an INFP (now I’m out of it) but cannot be bothered to go all the way back and delete them all. Point is, when the INFP had a crisis, it was very on point. Also, the poor INTJ, awww. Bro let me hug you. 😭😂
Intj and it's so true. I do take criticism if said to me face to face in private but not through gossip or chatting with someone about me and raising voice for me to overhear it..
I do cry in private sometimes after
I think the difference in the intj with the reaction is the “assertive” or “turbulent “ subtype. I am intj-a and tested at 💯 assertive. Critiques are like gold to me and I beg for that kind of info in all things that I do. That way I can take the criticism, analyze it, and adjust accordingly towards perfection. My complete confidence in myself makes it near impossible to hurt my feelings. I literally have to be sick or injured (physically weak) in order for the most harsh of treatment to get a reaction from me, like hurt feelings.
I don’t remember giving permission to use my 1:1 manager review starting at 3:27?! At least you didn’t show the 24 hrs following it of internal analysis, self cross-examination, going back over every email, IM, or conversation that I had in the past year as I looked for reasons and then of course the full week…or more…of internal, never expressed non-stop mental conversations defending and arguing my side. It’s so much “fun” being my INTJ/INFJ self. 🤦🏻♀️
The INTJ later went on to learn everything he could about the auditor, stole several critical points of data from his personnel file; which then allowed him to ruin the auditors financial, social, and eventually get him fired.
What a wonderful Friday treat!
Frank - love these and love Word of the Week! How about the personalities doing a teambuilding exercise together? We just had one where we built gingerbread houses in small groups! Thought of the personalities the whole time!
As an ISFP, you got it spot on 😂
Confirmed 😄
As an ENTJ, I truly appreciate the person who meticulously adds the timing of each character. Your effort gives me a boost of positive energy and is the main reason I pay attention to the comments. Regarding the video, being clear and direct during criticism is highly preferable for us. It allows us to pinpoint problems faster, making it easier to solve them while saving time and effort. The issue of hurt feelings is secondary and usually doesn’t matter much, except in emotional situations.
For example, if someone you love starts by criticizing you for not knowing how to compliment, flirt, or provide emotional support, it might leave a subtle, lasting impact. That said, this rarely happens because we typically develop a system of thinking tailored to such situations, designed to achieve the best outcome.
Personally, I’ve worked on developing my emotional side, but I’ve found that help from INTPs, ISFPs, and ESFJs has been invaluable in certain cases. It’s made me better while still staying true to my nature.
I wrote this comment because I think that others know something about us, this will improve their dealings with us and our dealings with others.
I’m an INTP, but I would have figured out what was happening before going into the room, then the only critique would be that nobody knows what the heck I’m doing the whole time. I would then be disappointed, because that doesn’t tell me anything about what I can improve. If I’m feeling particularly crazy, I’d leave the room, complain about how little was on the page, then start asking coworkers (mainly ENTJ and INTJ) for criticism, constructive if possible.
Honestly the INFP (me!) is spot on like I didn’t know that was my impact versus intent. I will look into that!
So yellow and purple as an ENFJ are my favorite colors AAAAAND Frank(ly) rocks with the Prince sweater or t-shirt vibe every single time! Wow NI dominant guessing my color preferences...
Finally another ENFJ haha I was starting to think I was the only one 😂
As a fellow ENFJ, purple is also my favorite color which added another layer of confirmation that his depiction of ENFJ was spot on!
lol I was thinking the same thing @CallistothewarriorQueen
@@CallistoTheWarriorQueen real
@@arianawilliams1865 my favourite colours are purple and orange haha!
Excellent. Playlist please- for the morning meeting for my own business... lol
1:17 as an ESTJ I agree. 😏
So crazy, I was just thinking the other day, “There are no words of criticism that can be told to me that I haven’t already told myself.” (INFJ)
Same 😅😢😂
WAIT PETITION TO MAKE FRANK ALWAYS DO THIS HAIRSTYLE BECAUSE IT SUITS HIM SO WELL >>> 2:09
IT does!!!😮😮❤❤👏👏
As an ENFJ this is real, I remember like most of the negative things said about me.
Fellow INTJ here. In high school - a long time ago - instead of grades, we each had an in-person session with multiple teachers present at one time, and we were asked to provide a self-evaluation of how we did in every class. We were also asked to state our strengths and weaknesses overall just as a person.
I loved it. Everyone agreed with my reflections. Honestly, I don't understand WHY people take things personally so easily and so often.
We're all here to explore the universe. We're all mortal, and we all have a brief time to make the most out of our lives. Make sure your basic needs are met, and provided they are, help others. It's fine and good to express your emotions, but don't let them prevent you from achieving your goals and making the world a better place for all. 💝
I believe in being fully efficient and excellent in all ways possible. Of course if I know there is something I won’t exceed at, I’m not interested. But in life it’s a constant thriving for self improvement and improvement of my skill set. This doesn’t happen without criticism, and I always tell people that I am open and willing and eager to hear what they have to say especially a criticism. My ego doesn’t allow hindrance in the ultimate goal of progress towards perfection.
Imagine a world of people like this? Holy cow! To me that would be the ultimate heaven. No sore buttholes anywhere.
These 16p series are the best.
0:43
As I was watching this I was thinking “I don’t challenge *every* minor point”
And then I watched the rest of the ENTP part….
INTJ is so spot on I love it, accepts criticisms but then cries quietly 😆
My boyfriend is an INFP and has the same T-shirt. :D This is like the 4th time I see you use this shirt on INFP-s. At first I was like 'hah, funny coincidence', but now I've got to the point I had to comment on it. :'D
Thats so awesome 😮
The INTJ crying is accurate. As an INTJ myself, I've been feeling VERY low and deprrssed. I've been bullied at school and have no friends. My Portuguese Teacher, who's often slightly brute but very kind and only wants the best for her students, came to me and I didn't even had to speak with her for a minute to start crying. She broke a record today. Now… I'm jn the bathroom writing this. Still depressed.
Critical feedback is sometimes so annoying and is often useless to improve your work.
I spy with my little eye an ENTP (or INTP).
@@9dodger9 never done a test for that so maybe
2:29 oh my goodness. My dear friend is like this. Love them to bits and pieces so it’s so hilarious that they’re accurately* portrayed like this.
LOL, as an INTJ, the ISTPs/ESTPs keepin' it real making me laugh and BTW the INTJ is crying at the end because he's going miss everyone after he systematically gets the company closed down. 🙃😏😉
1:24 this is true. I'm an ISTJ, whenever I see a criticism I often try to ignore it or else I get really sad
ISFP here, and frankly the INFJ is actually most like me, that's just how I think. But as always, awesome job FJ Great video😊
As an INTJ, I would definitely love the criticism, coz I'm pretty sure there's nothing new in that list, i must have already knew it by either accepting or destroying it but in front of the management, I'd thank them and put forward my defending statements...later I would just love to erase those criticism as it would help me in my self improvement journey.
Management: “You’re doing a great job; we appreciate the effort you put into the job.”
INFJ: “Thank you; I do my best.”
Also INFJ: _”I wish I could do better at ______. Why would she say such nice things to me? She probably doesn’t think I could handle a real critique.”_
First time I've ever wanted to comfort an intj, they're so good at hiding their feelings I almost don't notice somethings wrong.
I love being an INTJ and watching these skits 😅
me too
as an INFJ, i often get trapped into self-blaming for all the wrongs i encounter in life and hurt caused to other people. so much well-aware of our own selves, i could totally agree we go over the top and abusive of ourselves.
The CEO sobs......that took me by surprise.
Enfj here and yes, the breakdown is ALWAYS the first step, then comes solution. We’ll get to the solution, but we need to cry a bit first, then we get the list, and show up as everything written on the list, you’ll hate how much you love us once we’ve put EVERYTHING you said into our daily routine.
Weird, ENTJ here and i never have breakdowns. maybe mine is wrong?
@@MikeOtto-p4c he is an enfj
Not entj
INTP was on point.
HAHAHAHAHA as an INTJ, last one is pretty accurate 😂 I act all fine and cool in front of everyone but alone, I overthink and/or let out emotions