+IamWinkly STOP REINFORCING THE CISGENDER EXPECTATION! You don't need to look stereotypically male for you to be accepted as transgender. What if you saw someone who didn't look that 'masculine' you wouldn't give them the same compliment...
Listen up y'all. Just because you're a boy, doesn't mean you have to necessarily be "masculine". And just because you're a girl, doesn't mean you have to be "feminine". Please know that all of these things are just titles. If you are a trans male and are insecure whether you're "masculine enough!" understand that you don't have to be "masculine" to conform to your identity. And same to the trans women in this community. If you identify as a male, no matter how you act, what you wear, how you walk or talk, you are still a male. And again this goes for the women too. Boys are allowed to be feminine. Girls are allowed to be masculine. Just be you.
Also- to anyone insecure about their history- if you feel like you didn't "act" trans as a child DO NOT WORRY and I repeat, don't worry, because if you really look for it you can see all the stories that ARENT said where they didn't figure it out or show signs of it until they got into their teenage years or older. The stories online and in documentaries where transgender people had known for their whole life are common but as a whole, not showing signs when you were young is more common than showing signs. I battled this for a long time and my parents even thought I couldn't be trans because I acted like a girl when I was little. DO NOT WORRY YOU ARE TRANS EVEN IF YOU DIDNT ACT A CERTAIN WAY WHEN YOU WERE YOUNG EVERY STORY IS DIFFERENT!!
Same i just thought i was a huge tomboy and very butch until nearly a year ago and I'm 21 now. So whilst i never acted like your typical girl at the time (i also just played with the ken doll when stuck playing with barbie, till i cpuld get my hands on my Thomas the tank engine) i just kept thinking i was breaking the gender stereotype for girls but last year i ended up finding out more about being trans and found a lot of stuff just clicking with me and ever since then I've felt so much happier as a person. I've legally changed my name and the ball is rolling. Thank you for saying what I've always thought I've not once seen a ftm trans person who didn't know from the get go that they were trans and it did make me feel a little insecure about it but your comment has made me feel so much better thank you
NOTWHATITSEEMS Yeah, Everyone is always "offended" by everything - So many sensitive people. It really doesn't matter if someone does something that offends someone, if it's legal, you can do it.
Its time to say this: I have a huge crush on Rocco. lol PS: I deleted all the hate on this, this is a video spreading awareness and good to the world. If you got upset for whatever reason, take your time to do good yourself and not get mad with a comment.
Some of y'all in this comment section are more edgy than I was during my middle school emo phase. Also, trans people existing and living their lives freely will not hurt you, everything is fine my dudes
I respect trans men and women so so much. It takes a lot of courage to come out and just live in a society that is only just coming to terms with this sort of thing. I don't understand how anyone could not appreciate these people. I just have an undying appreciation for them and how powerful they are to be themselves.
When everyone was starting puberty at school, I remember my female friend talking about how she wished she wasn't flat chested. I said "You're lucky." I thought everyone had dysphoria and hated themselves like I did because I didn't know what trans was yet. Pretty funny when I think about it now.
I always wanted to be flat chested lol. I was never diagnosed as gender dysphoric and dont think I could have it because Im bigender but i still dont get what gender dysphoria is.
Sometimes I'd really like to watch a video where someone genuinely had no idea they were trans until they were older. I had signs of being trans, but I didn't start questioning at all until I was 19. I never thought of myself as a boy with any regularity until I was 20. I dunno, I guess it makes me feel different from other trans men, or like there's something wrong with me.
yeah exactly!! im younger but i didnt realise i was trans until i was around 14 and it sucks that the "ive known the whole time" story is the only one we get to see :(
Nah, I feel you. I did question a little when I was in middle school but even then, I felt more like a girl who wants to be a boy. Idk, I've wavered on labels or transitioning for years because of this kind of feeling- the way I see it though is that, if I feel more comfortable presenting and living as a guy, then that's enough, even if it took other life experiences to realize that versus me innately knowing.
I was exactly the same way. I always knew something wasn’t right but I didn’t think it was because I was trans until I was 20. Everyone’s story is different.
I didn't start questioning until about a year ago (I'm 18 now) but I think it was cause I had a lot of internalized transphobia since I was raised by homophobic baptists
honestly, when I look at trans people, I see a regular human being, if it's a trans guy, I see a guy, if it's a trans girl, I see a girl, like they don't need labels, they are who they feel and people need to just learn to respect that
I would always wear dresses and play with barbies and it's like now I'm not a female and I am soooo scared to come out. I'm 95% positive that no one will let me transition.
youll never know until you actually do it. dont make a situation bad in your head before it happens, it will certainly turn out that way. and if it really is a bad situation, people who dont accept you are not people you want in your life. Ik that since Im a cis female, this probably doesnt help, but hey, I tried.
I'm a transguy but I'm really feminie. I'm just not masculine at all which is why I get a lot of hate and people tell me I'm 'not really trans'. It bothers me a lot bc I think that I don't need to act a certain way just to be a guy even if that's what everyone tells me.
You're completely right bud! This video kinda made me grind my teeth, trans people don't have to have "always been masculine" or "always been feminine" in order for their identity to be valid. I feel like they could have gotten a better representative group because this is all kinda what society expects of trans people rather than the reality.
I'm in chorus at school and there's a lot of feminine guys there, and that makes me feel better lol. Even though I'm gay, I like to appear as straight guy stereotype.
im trans, and for the first time during one of these videos, it dawned on me these guys grew up female. like me. and that makes me feel less alone... silly, i know, since it should have been obvious... but still. i want to be like them someday.
I was never very girly growing up, but I never had much of a problem identifying as a girl until I was a teen. And I had one of those fake shave kits too!
But that has nothing really to do with being transgender. There are trans masculine guys and trans feminine guys it's not about not wanting to wear pink or wanting long hair. It's about the mental physical block that is called dysforia and its important for people to know that so people can take trans people seriously and stop telling us that we can be tom boys and dont have to "go that far".
+4kkjwkaz you're invalidating their trains identity. They were always a man, and the idea that one must "look like a man" to be a man means that trans men that still look rather feminine aren't truly men
+Kia Bia Or just an "I'm non-binary, but I'm not" that touched on gender fluidity and a bunch of other non-binary stuff. Really I just want them to make more non-binary related content. Really I just want the world to contain more non-binary content in general. :p
+Pixii Kenszingteon Thanks for your input, but I think you need to look back on your information since genderfluidity has been around just as long as transgeneder, which dates back all the way to the 1900th Century ;)
I'm biologically female, but mentally I feel genderless. Outwardly, I'll switch between masculine and feminine. When I told my mom I thought I was trans, she fought as hard as she could to prove me wrong. When I told my dad, he told me to stop talking about it so I wouldn't cause drama. When I told my aunt, she basically pulled out the christian schpeal and said I was wrong and actually a girl. When I told my therapist, she said I shouldn't worry about labeling myself and should basically forget about it. I won't tell my friends because one is christian and she already ignores that I'm attracted to all genders and ages. I haven't talked about it since to anyone. My coworker's (now) brother came out as trans, and I'm so jealous because it's gone so easily for him.
+Savannah Robertson Im the worst advicer, but you should just look in google of people like you (You are not the only one in this situations) and read their experiences and find the best way to be yourself. Wish you look!
+Savannah Robertson If it can cheer you up, your coworker's brother might seem to have it easy but he must have had his own struggles as well, just not talking about it or showing it.
+Savannah Robertson It's okay if you can't put a label on your gender identity: it may be that you're agender or non-binary ^ I do however like to say that I'm a Christian but other Christians should not be forcing other people to conform to the 'gender' they've been assigned at birth. Christians are meant to be accepting and supportive but if your aunt isn't then she has no right to call herself a Christian. I suggest you listen to your therapist and maybe ask her what gender identities most likely appear to describe you best and do research on them. Give it some time and you'll find one to identify as and then half the battle will be over, I promise x (I'm a trans guy but I have non-binary characteristics as well)
Good luck with your transition. I'm halfway out the closet with my sexuality (polysexual) and the door is slightly open with my gender (masc-androgyne or trans masculine). Many of my friends know about my sexuality and are completely okay with it. But most of my relatives are very conservative and shut people out of the family because of their sexuality. Many people around me probably think that I've had it easy, but having plenty of dysphoria, anxiety attacks and mom who knows but doesn't believe you are a hard thing to go through. So don't judge them for just a single side of their story - they've probably gone through a lot. I'm sorry that your family and friends were not accepting. But I'm sure that in the future you'll meet people who accept you just the way you are and acknowledge what you've had to go through. Good luck with transitioning :)
Thank you so much. My mom's been having an especially hard time with it lately( I cut my hair so I definitely look more masculine), and I really needed that. I'm just frustrated now because I've been exploring it a bit more, and looking at myself, and seeing that while I want my breasts gone, I don't necessarily need a penis. I'm just so confused right now. I don't feel wrong in my body (the hair was a step in the right direction), but I just don't feel totally right. I don't know what to do.
it's like how normal guys can still be feminine, just because someone is trans does not mean they hate dresses or they don't like makeup, it just means they are uncomfortable with their body. People who are trans have gender dysphoria, you literally have to have it in order to be trans, but a trans guy can still like girly things, just like normal guys can, maybe they feel comfortable being a guy in a dress, while some feel more comfortable being a guy and looking more masculine
Denimso so being a man is all about not wearing dresses and disliking feminine things? it'd make no sense because feminine guys and masculine gals exist. being trans isn't about what you like to wear or do, it's about who you are.
Why is your name Anna? Isn’t that pretty triggering to have everyone see your channel name and be like “oh that’s a girl”? Just a question and I’m 100% supportive of trans people.
When I watch these buzzfeed videos that talk about transgender people and other stuff, I feel less alone... It keeps me motivated to keep fighting. Thank you, buzzfeed.
Thank you buzzfeed. All these stories those words. They help me to understand what sexual identity and gender identity means. I've always been interested in this and you help me and everyone who watch these videos to not have stereotypes and try to understand the world a bit more and respect it.
I knew about people being trans but I just could NOT be trans, I wasn't a boy, I couldn't be. It wasn't until I had friends come out to me and be open about it, truly, that I really recognized that it was an option and I could be what made me feel comfortable. A man. I'm a man, and I'm happy to say so.
As someone just starting their FTM transition, I thank you for this video. Everyday, I worry about being antagonized by people (and police), for being trans, and black, and I'm glad there was a black man to explain what he goes through. Thank you for pointing out that we are people too! Happy Coming out Day!
TO EVERYONE WONDERING HOW THEY GROW THEIR BEARDS: They are on a hormone called testosterone which can cause a beard to grow, as well as other changes to happen, such as the vocal cords thickening.
+OakInch I've seen three different people wondering, so obviously people are curious. And if they go off the hormone, or don't want it, they're still a man.
+OakInch if that's how you feel that's how you feel but sometimes what other people want isn't something you can understand and it might be different for them
I hate that i cant do certain things to make me feel better as a trans man. The new stupid law in NC, where i live, makes me feel trapped. I have just got myself out of self-harm, depression, no so much. I say to other trans men, feel proud of yourself, don't let the world bring you down. Keep fighting, its worth it.
This helped me make my choice. I'm becoming a male. Since I was 7, I thought things 7 year olds shouldn't think. I thought like 'Am I gay? I want to be a boy. When I grow up, and this depression doesn't go, I will kill myself.' That last one is real. All of them are. When I was 7, I thought that if I grow up, turn into a man and I don't like it, then suicide is my only option. That's the exact thing I said to myself. Because I had anxiety from around the age because I was nearly at the end of year 2 and that gradually moved to depression and I still have it badly. I am actually making a coming out video right now, to come out as gay.
I've watched a lot of videos about trans people documenting their lives lately and I've noticed that all these men are so attractive its crazy. it probably is also affected by the fact that now they're happy with themselves and can be who they always wanted. i love it. be yourself and don't let other people judge you. i wanna hug each one of these men.
I think it's absolutely amazing and beautiful we live in a world where people can change their physical appearance to show other people visually who they are inside. And make their body match the way they feel.
TRANS MEN ARE SO BEAUTIFUL. But yeah I haven't seen my chin in two years because I don't want to shave and get called ma'am and I'm three years into my transition.
yeah! I'm ftm myself- though actually I still like "females things"- and I stopped caring when someone comes up to me and tells me I'm not a real "transgender", like they know.
+Ashton Colby ive never seen a man call himself or other men beautiful. "Honey"?? .. you just radiate masculinity dont you lol. I think you need to up your dosage of steroids your female ways are still pretty obvious.
+jax Tee My girlfriend calls me beautiful and I love it everyday. I strive to be a beautiful person inside and out. You should take some lessons, honey.
I always was the girl that played the guy in the pretend games. I never liked traditional girl things. I hung out with the boys and got along swimmingly. I discovered I liked girls in a romantic sense. I never felt like a girl, but I always just thought I must just be butch. With my parents, I wasn't given a choice or even educated of other options. Everything changed when a gay guy moved into my high school and openly started educating about LGBTQ+. I immediately knew what I was - transgender FtM. It had fit all along and I never knew it. I made some serious life changes starting then and that began with distancing myself from my transphobic etc. parents and making myself into a more physical image of the man I knew I was inside. I now live almost entirely on my own and will start school next year to be an EMT. I've never been happier.
+Blaine Lynn Im 18 y/o and trans, on my way. Outed myself around your age. I wish you so much luck on your way, whenever you'll find the courage to begin the real journey.
+Noah Gabriel I already think it is so courageous to say on the internet. Especially considering there are so many closed minds out here... I wish you both all the strength you need. There's no better feeling than to be true to yourself and be confident. Much love
my best friend is transitioning right now so I've been watching a bunch of these videos trying to understand how "he" has felt all these years and I still can't wrap my head around it.
+Sarah Biesnat You don't need to fully understand, because you aren't going through it. You just have to be there for them. That's all you can really do.
+Sarah Biesnat Hey, at least you're trying your absolute best to understand, and that's really all that anyone can ask for. Speaking from some experience, my friend really didn't know how to accept transgender people, she was never really taught the subject or was extremely aware of it, until I came out to her as trans. But she tries her best to understand and to never mess up on my name and pronouns, and her trying her best is awesome to me. If you do have any questions about being transgender and such, I might be able to help out?
+Sarah Biesnat It takes time. You're being a good friend by not being dismissive and by educating yourself. I'm sure he appreciates that. The best thing you can do is to be there for him, to listen to him, and to learn like you're doing now. He's going to need a lot of support. Best of luck to you both
IdentityDis0rder Yeah...I mean we don't even have great options for bottom surgery! A lot of FTMs are stuck without bottom surgery because the options now are...less then perfect.
+Astor Reinhardt And it's the nonpassable crossdressing MTFs at that while FTMs get 'normal' representatives. >.> Can't we get normal people? Caitlyn Jenner is far from normal *shudders*
when i was younger i looked more feminine than masculine (long-ish hair, but i'd wear jeans, t-shirts, hoodies, etc and not dresses and skirts) but i had more male friends than not, we'd do typical boy stuff like football, rough housing, etc. i was fine with the body i had until i started puberty, then i'd think "this is not okay" when i look at my breasts, and even though i love swimming i'd refuse to wear a swimsuit because it's just not the right kind. a year or so later, when i was almost 13, i googled the feelings i had and i discovered what transgender meant, and it just kind of clicked. now i'm 15 and still in the closet and stuck looking like the typical teenage girl because im too much of a coward to come out :,) im going to do it before school starts though so i can at least finish the rest of high school as the guy i am and not being forced into pretending to be someone else
Gestice good luck coming out, sometimes it can be really stressful but if you surround yourself with the right people you will get a lot of support! I'm planning to come out as genderfluid to my family so I kind of understand how it can make you nervous, but I have friends who came Out and most people have accepted them for being themselves.
When I was 8 to 11 and me and my friends (who were all girls at the time) when he played games I always 100percent played a male. Also when I was eleven and I memorised what a boyfriend should say when they are asked the question, why do you like your girlfriend. I was just like to myself, so I need to remember this. Then I just kind of realised. Oh wait. Wrong thing, when I knew it was the right thing. I always imagined myself as a man when I grew up even though at the time I had no clue what trans was. I guess I never questioned it. Then puberty happened. Breasts and thighs and curves happened. And it all went downhill from there. My feelings just getting stronger by the day.
A man does what he feel is right for him not caring what others think of him. Theas guys does exactly that, there is nothing more masculine then having the confidence to pursue the future you envisioned for your self. As a trans woman i always imagind that the other way around would be so easy (beeing a trans man that is). Seeing this have taught me that the strugles are exactly the same. I didn't realice it befor but in a way it is the same strugles as everyone go through in there adulessons figuring out who they are. It's difficult at best to figure this out with all the input you get through out your life and the more your vision strays from the conformd state the harder it is to stay true to that vision.
I'm a trans guy that hasn't come out to anybody but my mom, but I still like feminine things. I almost wish I was a cis boy just so that I could wear a skirt, and be called gay instead of fake.
+Charlie Quinn2772 Well I've been on t for 3.5 years but had to stop for six months because I couldn't afford it. I am on my period right now lol. I have a beard and all but still get my period.
+Ashton Colby God that sucks, just the cost factor and the period happening which you likely don't want. I hope you don't have to stop T again and it becomes easily accessible for you
+Blurry hey, its ok. there are always going to be people like that. i dont know what situation you are in right now, but it is so important to know who you are and to be proud of it. People can only admire that. I sure do. Dont be afraid of rejection. What does their opinion mean at the end of the day? Don't let others ruin your life. Live yours the way you think it should be. You do have the strength to do that, you just dont know it yet. Fear probably gets in the way but why not take a chance? Even if it is only a small step, it would make you feel more confident to take the next one :) Good luck!
I identity as a wookie. I came out to my parents last year, they said they don't accept furballs or walking teddy bears. I got angry and ripped their arms off. My parents hate me now ;(
So you are claiming feeling offended by offending others. I also have the freedom of speech to disagree with you. Just go and watch more LGBT videos and claim you don't like it. You are disappointing as is every single narrow minded individual who screams about rights while denying others theirs. Pathetic!
I have the freedom to disagree with you do I not? Also I am going to go speak with a clump of dirt, I'm sure it will be a more invigorating conversation. Enjoy you' re pathetic attempts to Troll people.
I didn't even have to say anything and you've already called me ' a clump of dirt', 'pathetic' (twice) and 'Narrow Minded'. I don't recall denying anyone's rights. What I do recall is cracking a joke. Get a sense of humour, sensitive halfwit.
...because it's scary and difficult to pass, especially if you're MtF? I'm not planning on ever transitioning. Best to preoccupy myself with other things.
Those videos always makes me feel better about myself ! I always thought I wasn't normal, just a sick weirdo, that something was wrong in my head and needed to be cured ... ! There was hard social pressure and people constantly asking me if I'm a boy or a girl, gay or lesbian ... Turns out that I'm just non-binary. It hurts less to see MANY people experiencing the exact same things in their lifes !
This was very eye opening I had only see transgenders that were men who became women and seeing it from a different perspective made me more open minded
YOU ALL look like perfect human beings, we all were put here for a reason, no one should be ridiculed or belittled, we were all placed here for a reason, that we often times what it is, especially when depression sets in, however thats what true friends were made for, to help, I myself am in no way in the Medical field, but, I always try to be the first in line to be of help to someone in need of help, some times its just lending an ear for some one to vent their feelings.
Thanks Buzzfeed, every so often you make the world a better place. Which balances out all your videos that do the opposite, but either way i'm entertained. So.. thank you.
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If I didn't know who these guys were and saw one of them on the street I'd never know they're trans.
I'd think they were gay
same
Likewise. I'd be all "sup bro?"
i wanna see what they looked like before
+IamWinkly STOP REINFORCING THE CISGENDER EXPECTATION! You don't need to look stereotypically male for you to be accepted as transgender. What if you saw someone who didn't look that 'masculine' you wouldn't give them the same compliment...
Happy #NationalComingOutDay everyone! Never be afraid to be yourself!
+touchdalight I love you so much, thanks for being you
hi Carmie, love your videos
+touchdalight you look like a younger version of zayn malik in your new video 😍 😍 😍
Tbh not because of this comment but I feel like EVERYDAY there's a new type of national _______ day... Just saying
obviously you haven't read the bible
Happy National Coming Out Day! I couldn't be any more proud of who I've become, and you should too!
+Britany Cheung Happy national coming out day!!!
No.
Listen up y'all. Just because you're a boy, doesn't mean you have to necessarily be "masculine". And just because you're a girl, doesn't mean you have to be "feminine". Please know that all of these things are just titles. If you are a trans male and are insecure whether you're "masculine enough!" understand that you don't have to be "masculine" to conform to your identity. And same to the trans women in this community. If you identify as a male, no matter how you act, what you wear, how you walk or talk, you are still a male. And again this goes for the women too. Boys are allowed to be feminine. Girls are allowed to be masculine. Just be you.
Thanks that really made my day actually thank you :)
Seriously. If you identify as male then you are physically male.
Also- to anyone insecure about their history- if you feel like you didn't "act" trans as a child DO NOT WORRY and I repeat, don't worry, because if you really look for it you can see all the stories that ARENT said where they didn't figure it out or show signs of it until they got into their teenage years or older. The stories online and in documentaries where transgender people had known for their whole life are common but as a whole, not showing signs when you were young is more common than showing signs. I battled this for a long time and my parents even thought I couldn't be trans because I acted like a girl when I was little. DO NOT WORRY YOU ARE TRANS EVEN IF YOU DIDNT ACT A CERTAIN WAY WHEN YOU WERE YOUNG EVERY STORY IS DIFFERENT!!
thank you agh this is exactly what I needed to hear !!
Same i just thought i was a huge tomboy and very butch until nearly a year ago and I'm 21 now. So whilst i never acted like your typical girl at the time (i also just played with the ken doll when stuck playing with barbie, till i cpuld get my hands on my Thomas the tank engine) i just kept thinking i was breaking the gender stereotype for girls but last year i ended up finding out more about being trans and found a lot of stuff just clicking with me and ever since then I've felt so much happier as a person. I've legally changed my name and the ball is rolling. Thank you for saying what I've always thought I've not once seen a ftm trans person who didn't know from the get go that they were trans and it did make me feel a little insecure about it but your comment has made me feel so much better thank you
buzzfeed video material:
- being gay
- gay life
- trans life
- being trans
- disney
- food
Can be shortened to:
- Gender "issues"
- Food
It's amazing I know ;)
gay material bring more views
😂
NOTWHATITSEEMS Yeah, Everyone is always "offended" by everything - So many sensitive people. It really doesn't matter if someone does something that offends someone, if it's legal, you can do it.
Its time to say this: I have a huge crush on Rocco. lol
PS: I deleted all the hate on this, this is a video spreading awareness and good to the world. If you got upset for whatever reason, take your time to do good yourself and not get mad with a comment.
+Marianna Pagnoncelli YAASSS I thought I was the only one.
+Marianna Pagnoncelli Why would anyone be upset when we all feel the same way?! XD
Same here... x'D
same though
Same!
I love this. Thanks buzzfeed, for making these kind of videos
Some of y'all in this comment section are more edgy than I was during my middle school emo phase. Also, trans people existing and living their lives freely will not hurt you, everything is fine my dudes
Thank you
@@BeedleTheImmortal yes exactly
As a trans guy thankyou
@@avastars3393 you do you
Actually that depends on the person
You guys should have some pre-T/pre-op trans guys on here because it would be so much easier for me to see more people who look like the current me.
yesss that would be so cool!!
Also Trans people that aren't/don't plan on physically transitioning
Yes please
I decided to make my own RUclips channel fore representation because of this :p
seeing trans men with facial hair is so inspiring though :0
I respect trans men and women so so much. It takes a lot of courage to come out and just live in a society that is only just coming to terms with this sort of thing. I don't understand how anyone could not appreciate these people. I just have an undying appreciation for them and how powerful they are to be themselves.
+Imogen Mckeever same
I'm actually coming out as transgender today :)
hope it goes well :)
congratulations
Hope it goes well! What gender do you identify as?
+Alison Gold a mop
When everyone was starting puberty at school, I remember my female friend talking about how she wished she wasn't flat chested. I said "You're lucky." I thought everyone had dysphoria and hated themselves like I did because I didn't know what trans was yet. Pretty funny when I think about it now.
I always wanted to be flat chested lol. I was never diagnosed as gender dysphoric and dont think I could have it because Im bigender but i still dont get what gender dysphoria is.
same
i had a very similar experience
Sometimes I'd really like to watch a video where someone genuinely had no idea they were trans until they were older. I had signs of being trans, but I didn't start questioning at all until I was 19. I never thought of myself as a boy with any regularity until I was 20. I dunno, I guess it makes me feel different from other trans men, or like there's something wrong with me.
yeah exactly!! im younger but i didnt realise i was trans until i was around 14 and it sucks that the "ive known the whole time" story is the only one we get to see :(
Nah, I feel you. I did question a little when I was in middle school but even then, I felt more like a girl who wants to be a boy. Idk, I've wavered on labels or transitioning for years because of this kind of feeling- the way I see it though is that, if I feel more comfortable presenting and living as a guy, then that's enough, even if it took other life experiences to realize that versus me innately knowing.
I was exactly the same way. I always knew something wasn’t right but I didn’t think it was because I was trans until I was 20. Everyone’s story is different.
I didn't start questioning until about a year ago (I'm 18 now) but I think it was cause I had a lot of internalized transphobia since I was raised by homophobic baptists
honestly, when I look at trans people, I see a regular human being, if it's a trans guy, I see a guy, if it's a trans girl, I see a girl, like they don't need labels, they are who they feel and people need to just learn to respect that
I agree. Too bad there will always be people who are too stubborn to accept them.
Viosin EXACTLY!!
It's nice to hear my fellow trans-brothers speaking out in pride.
I'm Genderfluid. People think it's not a thing but I know how I feel.
having a marathon with these serious buzzfeed videos today.
+RACHEL이지아 Because it is national coming out day.
I would always wear dresses and play with barbies and it's like now I'm not a female and I am soooo scared to come out. I'm 95% positive that no one will let me transition.
Your Mom you never know.
Your Mom I'm also very scared to come out
youll never know until you actually do it. dont make a situation bad in your head before it happens, it will certainly turn out that way. and if it really is a bad situation, people who dont accept you are not people you want in your life. Ik that since Im a cis female, this probably doesnt help, but hey, I tried.
I'm a transguy but I'm really feminie. I'm just not masculine at all which is why I get a lot of hate and people tell me I'm 'not really trans'. It bothers me a lot bc I think that I don't need to act a certain way just to be a guy even if that's what everyone tells me.
You're completely right bud! This video kinda made me grind my teeth, trans people don't have to have "always been masculine" or "always been feminine" in order for their identity to be valid. I feel like they could have gotten a better representative group because this is all kinda what society expects of trans people rather than the reality.
I'm in chorus at school and there's a lot of feminine guys there, and that makes me feel better lol. Even though I'm gay, I like to appear as straight guy stereotype.
im trans, and for the first time during one of these videos, it dawned on me these guys grew up female. like me. and that makes me feel less alone... silly, i know, since it should have been obvious... but still. i want to be like them someday.
+sakurablitz Not silly at all. :-) I
same af
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+Shallow Youth ew? Ew to you it's disgusting when people hate on someone when they don't even know them and only know one fact about them.
Please ignore all these people who are hateful.
I was never very girly growing up, but I never had much of a problem identifying as a girl until I was a teen.
And I had one of those fake shave kits too!
But that has nothing really to do with being transgender. There are trans masculine guys and trans feminine guys it's not about not wanting to wear pink or wanting long hair. It's about the mental physical block that is called dysforia and its important for people to know that so people can take trans people seriously and stop telling us that we can be tom boys and dont have to "go that far".
Hey cis people! Saying "oh my god I would've never known they were a girl before!!!!!1!!" IS NOT A COMPLIMENT
+Tyler Smith because they weren't. they have always been boys. their body was just presenting something else.
Why is it wrong?
+4kkjwkaz you're invalidating their trains identity. They were always a man, and the idea that one must "look like a man" to be a man means that trans men that still look rather feminine aren't truly men
+Tyler Smith ahhhhhhhh ok
You should make a video about feminine transgender men and masculine transgender females.
Shout out to feminine trans boys
ty Benny we ly
I love the line, "forget gender; how do you be you."
When is BuzzFeed going to do a "I'm Genderfluid, But I'm Not..." video cause it is deeply needed...
+Kia Bia I would pay to see it
+Jessica White Same
+Kia Bia Or just an "I'm non-binary, but I'm not" that touched on gender fluidity and a bunch of other non-binary stuff. Really I just want them to make more non-binary related content. Really I just want the world to contain more non-binary content in general. :p
Oh, thank you! And yes, that would be well appreciated
+Pixii Kenszingteon
Thanks for your input, but I think you need to look back on your information since genderfluidity has been around just as long as transgeneder, which dates back all the way to the 1900th Century ;)
"Ken" seems like a super fun guy! He's cute, too (altough he kinda has a 90's teen drama vibe going on😂)
Cali Lovett He's profession is that actually is an actor on a popular daytime soap opera.
These videos are so helpful. I don't get to talk to many other trans people about trans issues and this helps.
DUDE the fake shaving thing and the playing barbies as ken I relate to so much (I'm trans btw)
I'm biologically female, but mentally I feel genderless. Outwardly, I'll switch between masculine and feminine. When I told my mom I thought I was trans, she fought as hard as she could to prove me wrong. When I told my dad, he told me to stop talking about it so I wouldn't cause drama. When I told my aunt, she basically pulled out the christian schpeal and said I was wrong and actually a girl. When I told my therapist, she said I shouldn't worry about labeling myself and should basically forget about it. I won't tell my friends because one is christian and she already ignores that I'm attracted to all genders and ages. I haven't talked about it since to anyone. My coworker's (now) brother came out as trans, and I'm so jealous because it's gone so easily for him.
+Savannah Robertson Im the worst advicer, but you should just look in google of people like you (You are not the only one in this situations) and read their experiences and find the best way to be yourself.
Wish you look!
+Savannah Robertson If it can cheer you up, your coworker's brother might seem to have it easy but he must have had his own struggles as well, just not talking about it or showing it.
+Savannah Robertson
It's okay if you can't put a label on your gender identity: it may be that you're agender or non-binary ^
I do however like to say that I'm a Christian but other Christians should not be forcing other people to conform to the 'gender' they've been assigned at birth. Christians are meant to be accepting and supportive but if your aunt isn't then she has no right to call herself a Christian.
I suggest you listen to your therapist and maybe ask her what gender identities most likely appear to describe you best and do research on them. Give it some time and you'll find one to identify as and then half the battle will be over, I promise x
(I'm a trans guy but I have non-binary characteristics as well)
Good luck with your transition. I'm halfway out the closet with my sexuality (polysexual) and the door is slightly open with my gender (masc-androgyne or trans masculine). Many of my friends know about my sexuality and are completely okay with it. But most of my relatives are very conservative and shut people out of the family because of their sexuality. Many people around me probably think that I've had it easy, but having plenty of dysphoria, anxiety attacks and mom who knows but doesn't believe you are a hard thing to go through. So don't judge them for just a single side of their story - they've probably gone through a lot.
I'm sorry that your family and friends were not accepting. But I'm sure that in the future you'll meet people who accept you just the way you are and acknowledge what you've had to go through. Good luck with transitioning :)
Thank you so much. My mom's been having an especially hard time with it lately( I cut my hair so I definitely look more masculine), and I really needed that. I'm just frustrated now because I've been exploring it a bit more, and looking at myself, and seeing that while I want my breasts gone, I don't necessarily need a penis. I'm just so confused right now. I don't feel wrong in my body (the hair was a step in the right direction), but I just don't feel totally right. I don't know what to do.
I was really worried about the guy with the black eye, but then he said he was a boxer! Thank god he probably got it from boxing
+PrinceSarah1 I wondered the same thing.
+PrinceSarah1 same!!!!!!
I'm a trans guy but sometimes i dress or feel more feminine or masculine. That doesn't make me any less of a guy.
Does it?
Wait. Rocco just answered that. Nevermind. Y'all are really cool by the way!
it's like how normal guys can still be feminine, just because someone is trans does not mean they hate dresses or they don't like makeup, it just means they are uncomfortable with their body. People who are trans have gender dysphoria, you literally have to have it in order to be trans, but a trans guy can still like girly things, just like normal guys can, maybe they feel comfortable being a guy in a dress, while some feel more comfortable being a guy and looking more masculine
Denimso so being a man is all about not wearing dresses and disliking feminine things? it'd make no sense because feminine guys and masculine gals exist. being trans isn't about what you like to wear or do, it's about who you are.
Why is your name Anna? Isn’t that pretty triggering to have everyone see your channel name and be like “oh that’s a girl”? Just a question and I’m 100% supportive of trans people.
Anna Hunjan it does not
When I watch these buzzfeed videos that talk about transgender people and other stuff, I feel less alone...
It keeps me motivated to keep fighting.
Thank you, buzzfeed.
I would like to see the trans story of Rocco
Am I the only one who finds rocco so attractive?
grüne Tinte, no ur not people with bad taste are so common
Thank you buzzfeed. All these stories those words. They help me to understand what sexual identity and gender identity means. I've always been interested in this and you help me and everyone who watch these videos to not have stereotypes and try to understand the world a bit more and respect it.
if you're looking for more information about these subjects Ash Hardell did a couple of videos in their ABCs of LGBT series all about gender!
Eilidh Johnson I know this is a month late but I didn't know you liked her too
the bald guy and rocko (idk if that's his name sorry) are more masculine than most of cis guys
party poison, stop going to japan
polarizing!. They are women
I'm so happy that the transition allowed them to be themselves, we all deserve to just be ourselves in this world... :)
I can't even imagine any of them as a female.
that's because none of them are female.
Mcr
because they're not
+fiorella michelis How is not being a female change what you can imagine?
Bc they are male
Whoa! I wonder what happened to that guys eye!?
+Duckymomo424 He said he got into boxing. So, you could assume he got it from boxing.
Praying it wasn't a hate crime
***** he's actually a boxer. Doubt you could even touch him if you fought him. :)
I was wondering that too o.o
He's a boxer
I knew about people being trans but I just could NOT be trans, I wasn't a boy, I couldn't be. It wasn't until I had friends come out to me and be open about it, truly, that I really recognized that it was an option and I could be what made me feel comfortable. A man. I'm a man, and I'm happy to say so.
I am so glad you are happy as you are now. :)
No you're still a girl
Boomstick Wilson If you think that, then you're uneducated.
+Heather The Kitty You are whatever gender you are born in, you can't change your DNA
+Boomstick Wilson You can make some physical changes by surgery and hormones, by the way.
As someone just starting their FTM transition, I thank you for this video. Everyday, I worry about being antagonized by people (and police), for being trans, and black, and I'm glad there was a black man to explain what he goes through. Thank you for pointing out that we are people too! Happy Coming out Day!
The majority of the disapproving comments are from the same two people... huh.
Weird
TO EVERYONE WONDERING HOW THEY GROW THEIR BEARDS:
They are on a hormone called testosterone which can cause a beard to grow, as well as other changes to happen, such as the vocal cords thickening.
+OakInch I've seen three different people wondering, so obviously people are curious. And if they go off the hormone, or don't want it, they're still a man.
Thank you. I was curious about it. I knew testosterone was involved, but I wondered if taking additional things were needed.
Jennifer Moore Sure, no problem.
+OakInch if that's how you feel that's how you feel but sometimes what other people want isn't something you can understand and it might be different for them
Thank you for sharing your experiences as trans men.
These people are very nice. Respect them.
"forget gender and learn how to be you." the most powerful statement I have ever heard.
I hate that i cant do certain things to make me feel better as a trans man. The new stupid law in NC, where i live, makes me feel trapped. I have just got myself out of self-harm, depression, no so much. I say to other trans men, feel proud of yourself, don't let the world bring you down. Keep fighting, its worth it.
You would never tell that they were born physically female.
They look great!!! :D
Some of these comments are disgusting....
This helped me make my choice. I'm becoming a male. Since I was 7, I thought things 7 year olds shouldn't think. I thought like 'Am I gay? I want to be a boy. When I grow up, and this depression doesn't go, I will kill myself.' That last one is real. All of them are. When I was 7, I thought that if I grow up, turn into a man and I don't like it, then suicide is my only option. That's the exact thing I said to myself. Because I had anxiety from around the age because I was nearly at the end of year 2 and that gradually moved to depression and I still have it badly. I am actually making a coming out video right now, to come out as gay.
I love this video so much.
I really needed that guy at the end saying 'just forget gender, do what you need to do to be yourself.'
I've watched a lot of videos about trans people documenting their lives lately and I've noticed that all these men are so attractive its crazy. it probably is also affected by the fact that now they're happy with themselves and can be who they always wanted. i love it. be yourself and don't let other people judge you. i wanna hug each one of these men.
The bald guy kinda looks like Hugh Jackman to me.
+Marisa Braden yeah i see it too, it's kinda the facial hair/lips/jawline and the ears!
This is a sweet video. To all the trans peeps out there, you are real and you are valid.
But what if they're cyborgs? 😯
Thank you. C:
millenniumdragn Well then they're just plain bad asses.
I think it's absolutely amazing and beautiful we live in a world where people can change their physical appearance to show other people visually who they are inside. And make their body match the way they feel.
As a trans guy these videos give me so much hope. Thank you buzzfeed.
"I was always keen" me too man, I loved being ken
This video made me feel so much better. Thank you so much BuzzFeed.
I'm a trans man, and ugh. I'm so glad y'all make videos. Thank you, so so much. Thank you for making videos about being transgender.
I'm surprised no one noticed that black eye or commented about it
+Donnie Carter I noticed that too.
+Donnie Carter He said he does boxing
+Kiana Wright oh Yeahh I didn't even think of that I was praying no one targeted him and hit him honestly
Great set of videos for National Coming Out Day~ Keep it up, Buzzfeed!!
TRANS MEN ARE SO BEAUTIFUL. But yeah I haven't seen my chin in two years because I don't want to shave and get called ma'am and I'm three years into my transition.
yeah! I'm ftm myself- though actually I still like "females things"- and I stopped caring when someone comes up to me and tells me I'm not a real "transgender", like they know.
well beautiful is what you would call an attractive female so i guess you might be right.. in some cases.
+jax Tee Beautiful is what you call anything and everything that radiates beauty. Ignorance isn't beautiful, honey.
+Ashton Colby ive never seen a man call himself or other men beautiful.
"Honey"?? .. you just radiate masculinity dont you lol. I think you need to up your dosage of steroids your female ways are still pretty obvious.
+jax Tee My girlfriend calls me beautiful and I love it everyday. I strive to be a beautiful person inside and out. You should take some lessons, honey.
Is it just me or does the female to male transformation end up looking a bit more realistic than the male to female
+Mohamed Hassan I've noticed that too.
+Mohamed Hassan Yeah because the changes made to men from testosterone aren't reversible
It's not just you.
+Jacob Skillet It's not a transphobic comment.
Jacob Skillet How is he being transphobic? It's just an observation
It's incredible, you can't even tell they were girls before. You guys are great, i love your confidence. :)
Rocco inspires me every time I see him in a video.
I always was the girl that played the guy in the pretend games. I never liked traditional girl things. I hung out with the boys and got along swimmingly. I discovered I liked girls in a romantic sense. I never felt like a girl, but I always just thought I must just be butch. With my parents, I wasn't given a choice or even educated of other options. Everything changed when a gay guy moved into my high school and openly started educating about LGBTQ+. I immediately knew what I was - transgender FtM. It had fit all along and I never knew it. I made some serious life changes starting then and that began with distancing myself from my transphobic etc. parents and making myself into a more physical image of the man I knew I was inside. I now live almost entirely on my own and will start school next year to be an EMT. I've never been happier.
as a 14 y/o transgender who's scared to come out and scared of transitioning this is so helpful
+Blaine Lynn Im 18 y/o and trans, on my way. Outed myself around your age. I wish you so much luck on your way, whenever you'll find the courage to begin the real journey.
+Noah Gabriel I already think it is so courageous to say on the internet. Especially considering there are so many closed minds out here... I wish you both all the strength you need. There's no better feeling than to be true to yourself and be confident. Much love
This comment makes me happy
The last thing he said made me cry.
+Quinn Pascal Aww :c
my best friend is transitioning right now so I've been watching a bunch of these videos trying to understand how "he" has felt all these years and I still can't wrap my head around it.
+Sarah Biesnat You don't need to fully understand, because you aren't going through it. You just have to be there for them. That's all you can really do.
+Sarah Biesnat
Hey, at least you're trying your absolute best to understand, and that's really all that anyone can ask for.
Speaking from some experience, my friend really didn't know how to accept transgender people, she was never really taught the subject or was extremely aware of it, until I came out to her as trans. But she tries her best to understand and to never mess up on my name and pronouns, and her trying her best is awesome to me.
If you do have any questions about being transgender and such, I might be able to help out?
+Sarah Biesnat It takes time. You're being a good friend by not being dismissive and by educating yourself. I'm sure he appreciates that. The best thing you can do is to be there for him, to listen to him, and to learn like you're doing now. He's going to need a lot of support. Best of luck to you both
Finally some FTMs representing! There's not enough of us out there getting shown off or talked to, it's always MTF getting the spot light! :(
+Astor Reinhardt this is so true. everyone thinks its because MTFs have it harder which is so insulting to FTMs. :/
IdentityDis0rder
Yeah...I mean we don't even have great options for bottom surgery! A lot of FTMs are stuck without bottom surgery because the options now are...less then perfect.
+Astor Reinhardt And it's the nonpassable crossdressing MTFs at that while FTMs get 'normal' representatives. >.> Can't we get normal people? Caitlyn Jenner is far from normal *shudders*
Shallow Youth Your name matches your comment well.
As a trans man who is under 18, to all my other young trans men out there. This video gives me a lot of confidence and I hope you get that as well
+Daniel Drowning
Thanks dude ^
when i was younger i looked more feminine than masculine (long-ish hair, but i'd wear jeans, t-shirts, hoodies, etc and not dresses and skirts) but i had more male friends than not, we'd do typical boy stuff like football, rough housing, etc. i was fine with the body i had until i started puberty, then i'd think "this is not okay" when i look at my breasts, and even though i love swimming i'd refuse to wear a swimsuit because it's just not the right kind. a year or so later, when i was almost 13, i googled the feelings i had and i discovered what transgender meant, and it just kind of clicked. now i'm 15 and still in the closet and stuck looking like the typical teenage girl because im too much of a coward to come out :,) im going to do it before school starts though so i can at least finish the rest of high school as the guy i am and not being forced into pretending to be someone else
hey man, if you don't mind me asking, but uhhh did you come out?
Nah, I'm planning to this August/late July tho
You're so brave for doing that. I'm a 13 year old trans male and I can't tell anybody out of fear that they will disown me
Gestice legit me, but I came out and transitioned when I was 10 and 11.
Gestice good luck coming out, sometimes it can be really stressful but if you surround yourself with the right people you will get a lot of support! I'm planning to come out as genderfluid to my family so I kind of understand how it can make you nervous, but I have friends who came Out and most people have accepted them for being themselves.
When I was 8 to 11 and me and my friends (who were all girls at the time) when he played games I always 100percent played a male. Also when I was eleven and I memorised what a boyfriend should say when they are asked the question, why do you like your girlfriend. I was just like to myself, so I need to remember this. Then I just kind of realised. Oh wait. Wrong thing, when I knew it was the right thing.
I always imagined myself as a man when I grew up even though at the time I had no clue what trans was. I guess I never questioned it.
Then puberty happened. Breasts and thighs and curves happened. And it all went downhill from there. My feelings just getting stronger by the day.
*****
obviously! im so glad you agree.
A man does what he feel is right for him not caring what others think of
him. Theas guys does exactly that, there is nothing more masculine then
having the confidence to pursue the future you envisioned for your self.
As a trans woman i always imagind that the other way around would be so easy (beeing a trans man that is). Seeing this have taught me that the strugles are exactly the same. I didn't realice it befor but in a way it is the same strugles as everyone go through in there adulessons figuring out who they are. It's difficult at best to figure this out with all the input you get through out your life and the more your vision strays from the conformd state the harder it is to stay true to that vision.
coming out today
If only I cared!
I hope it went well :)
Sam Johnson You obviously do if you wrote that comment. :-)
Also, congrats Angel!
I guess you could say Rocko lives a pretty modern life.
I'm a trans guy that hasn't come out to anybody but my mom, but I still like feminine things. I almost wish I was a cis boy just so that I could wear a skirt, and be called gay instead of fake.
same
same omfg
SAME
Same
I have a friend who told me he's a demiboy. He likes some girly things, but presents as somewhat male.
I thought I was the only one that played with fake shaving kits when I was young.
So inspirational, I wish these guys the best! Everyone should be able to be themselves.
Buzzfeed should do a 'What it's like to be a guy on your period' video
That's true. I'm sure they could dig someone up tho ^-^
+Charlie Quinn2772 Well I've been on t for 3.5 years but had to stop for six months because I couldn't afford it. I am on my period right now lol. I have a beard and all but still get my period.
Ashton Colby im on atm too haha nice to know im not alone, it mcfrickin sucks imirite? ;)
+Ashton Colby God that sucks, just the cost factor and the period happening which you likely don't want. I hope you don't have to stop T again and it becomes easily accessible for you
this video made me feel so safe and happy and reminded me that it gets better!!! until i read the comments section :(
+Blurry hey, its ok. there are always going to be people like that. i dont know what situation you are in right now, but it is so important to know who you are and to be proud of it. People can only admire that. I sure do. Dont be afraid of rejection. What does their opinion mean at the end of the day? Don't let others ruin your life. Live yours the way you think it should be. You do have the strength to do that, you just dont know it yet. Fear probably gets in the way but why not take a chance? Even if it is only a small step, it would make you feel more confident to take the next one :) Good luck!
thank you so much!!
I identity as a wookie. I came out to my parents last year, they said they don't accept furballs or walking teddy bears. I got angry and ripped their arms off. My parents hate me now ;(
+AlphaMunky You can't possibly be older than 12 and if you are, well then, I feel sorry for you.
rockandrollfantasy86 Whatever happened to freedom of speech? Freedom of expression? I'm offended by your so called sympathy
So you are claiming feeling offended by offending others. I also have the freedom of speech to disagree with you. Just go and watch more LGBT videos and claim you don't like it. You are disappointing as is every single narrow minded individual who screams about rights while denying others theirs. Pathetic!
I have the freedom to disagree with you do I not? Also I am going to go speak with a clump of dirt, I'm sure it will be a more invigorating conversation. Enjoy you' re pathetic attempts to Troll people.
I didn't even have to say anything and you've already called me ' a clump of dirt', 'pathetic' (twice) and 'Narrow Minded'. I don't recall denying anyone's rights. What I do recall is cracking a joke. Get a sense of humour, sensitive halfwit.
good stuff buzzfeed. keep these awesome videos coming!
It's hard to believe that these men were once female. Happy that they can be who they want to be and meant to be
can u do stuff on what it's like to be non-binary.
+Paul Olsen So is your grammar.
Okay but can we all agree that the guy who was talking about the Ken dolls looks like Shaggy from Scooby Doo???
ROCCO IS HOT
JUST PUTTING THAT OUT THERE
Exceltiaawesome
IKR????!!!!!!
Exceltiaawesome, i don't find her attractive but if you do good for u
I wish there were some representation for people who choose not to medically transition in this video.
I never understand why people choose not to medically transition
...because it's scary and difficult to pass, especially if you're MtF? I'm not planning on ever transitioning. Best to preoccupy myself with other things.
Ah, that makes sense. I never thought of that. It must be difficult to deal with
Dean vD It's also extremely expensive and I have no idea how I'll ever be able to afford it unless it's somehow made free.
For some of us is not even a choice:(
"forget gender, how do you be you?" - perfection right there and the word gender can be changed for many other words, too :D
Those videos always makes me feel better about myself !
I always thought I wasn't normal, just a sick weirdo, that something was wrong in my head and needed to be cured ... ! There was hard social pressure and people constantly asking me if I'm a boy or a girl, gay or lesbian ...
Turns out that I'm just non-binary. It hurts less to see MANY people experiencing the exact same things in their lifes !
This was very eye opening I had only see transgenders that were men who became women and seeing it from a different perspective made me more open minded
They need to make buzzfeed rainbow... To put all this stuff
Yeah, put us into ANOTHER box why don't ya?
okay...I really love Rocco !
I watched this video and they inspired me to just be who I am and I learned some new things to.
YOU ALL look like perfect human beings, we all were put here for a reason, no one should be ridiculed or belittled, we were all placed here for a reason, that we often times what it is, especially when depression sets in, however thats what true friends were made for, to help, I myself am in no way in the Medical field, but, I always try to be the first in line to be of help to someone in need of help, some times its just lending an ear for some one to vent their feelings.
Even though they said it... i totally forgot that they were once women!! They transitioned beautifully.
i keep forgetting that the guys used to be girls i was a little confused for awhile
Thanks Buzzfeed, every so often you make the world a better place. Which balances out all your videos that do the opposite, but either way i'm entertained. So.. thank you.