I told my husband I wanted to get a tattoo of our cat… he smiled and said “that’s a great idea, I was thinking about getting his face tattooed as well” and that’s why we’re married.
in case anyone was curious about some of the terms in the second to last story: Galifreyan: a written language from Doctor Who, very complex and circular Sindarin: one of the elven languages that Tolkien created for lord of the rings Haida: an indigenous tribe from British Columbia known for their art style, which often depicts local animals (such as orcas) …so yeah, I can’t even imagine how strange that looked all in one tattoo.
It honestly sounds like a bit of a mess, but a nerdy mess. So I'm here for it! If the new GF took the time to translate two constructed languages because the dude wouldn't tell her what they meant.....that doesn't sound like a healthy relationship on either end.
I wouldn't be against a group tattoo but I do have a problem with someone, even family, telling me I *have* to do anything. Body autonomy is the very least I'm entitled to as a human.
I’m 32 and started to get tattoos 14 years ago. I get around 1 tattoo per year so I‘m still nowhere near being heavily tattooed. No one is hurrying you, take your time ✌️
I'm anti-the store that forces cashiers to make conversation. The woman wanted to get through her groceries in peace. The cashier isn't an a-hole but they should retire "what do your tattoos mean" from their conversation options because it would take too long to answer that question.
I never ask what they mean, but being a cashier and tattoo enthusiast I can't help but be like "damn your ink is sick!" I never want to be that annoying person pestering them with questions tho 🤣
Yeah I got that question at Trader Joe’s recently. There is an actual answer involving personal trauma. I just say “I thought it would look cool” when someone asks though.
Pets are not just pets they are family 🐶 i love my fur sister Sadie so much i have her paw print tattooed on me. If i could afford it i would get her picture 💜
I am happily married to my husband who supports all my body modification dreams and desires. It's a hobby, so we each have a "hobby" budget. However I spent my hobby funds is up to me. He also is happy to spend days and/or weekends alone with the kids while I frolic off to wherever to get tattooed. I cannot imagine being partners in life with someone who doesn't love and support what brings me joy.
The 17 year old bf- is it even safe to have that many so quickly? I know with piercings too you need to give your body time to heal! I would also be worried about a mental health crisis, him not telling his family and saying it's like an addiction. Is he in a manic episode maybe? I think she has every right to be worried. It could go so badly so quickly.
That's what I was thinking! A few within a couple weeks is not enough time to recover. I have no idea if it's a mental health crisis, but infection could definitely be on the horizon, especially if he's new to taking care of them.
Also, I'm fully with you re: the last story - I paid a lot of money to look like this, I know my tattoos are bright and colorful. As long as someone doesn't insult them, I'm always happy to talk about my tattoos and be polite/take a compliment. Like you mentioned re: the difference between a scar and a tattoo, I made the active choice to look like this, and therefore, I expect people will ask questions, and that's ok.
I think the person comparing asking about a tattoo to asking about a scar is more trying to say that the story behind it could be something bad that a person doesn't want to make small talk with strangers about.
I had a previous partner that was extremely unsupportive of me getting tattoos. Tattoos were ok on other people, but werent ok on my body for some reason…All of this while he knew I wanted to be a tattoo artist and I loved tattoos. Needless to say, didn’t work out. My current partner was SO supportive I was able to work towards my dream. I am now an artist at a shop, I’ll come home with new pieces without his consult- and he’s been nothing but supportive ❤️
I've got a giant thigh piece that's a portrait of my first cat (RIP Marceline!) and I don't ever see myself getting any tattoos dedicated to a significant other. I can't explain how pet love is different, but it just is!
As someone with anxiety who has a tattoo and scars, last situation was a nah situation imo, op was trying to be friendly and the customer didnt feel comfortable, it happens! Comparing tattoos to scars is fuckin weird, like tattoos are artwork you usually get when you want them, scars are mostly from traumatic experiences.
I wouldn't be interested in my partner getting a tattoo memorializing me, but if he wants one for our cats? I will drive him to the appointment and show everyone photos!
Got my first one on my 18th in 1993. Fast forward to last year when I finally got my second one. Today I am up to 12 decent sized ones with no plans on slowing down.
Grocery store worker is NTA. They just asked a genuine question, and got a super rude response. People are seriously lacking communication/social skills or something these days smh. I've had some really nice conversations with completely random workers at retail stores, even on days when I wasn't feeling very sociable, and it usually leaves me feeling just a little bit better after having a nice interaction with a stranger.
If someone asked me "what do your tattoos mean?" that would be overwhelming for me. They're asking a stranger to stop and explain multiple stories while they're just finishing up their shopping. You don't just stop a person and say "hey tell me about 10 meaningful times in your life." To me, it's the same thing. I've had people compliment my tattoos or ask if a certain one had a meaning, and I didn't mind those interactions, but the way this last AITA went, I know OP didn't mean any harm, but they definitely went about it the wrong way in my opinion
I love your top 😍 When you started reading the story about the cat, one of my kittens wandered over and sat next to me 😆 I think she likes your voice, she keeps looking up at the screen.
The last one is definitely NTA, its perfectly neutral at most. I cannot fathom putting inkwork on your skin, displaying said inkwork, then being shocked people would have benign questions about it. And expecting people to perform complex psychoanalysis to know that there might be trauma, social anxiety, etc. is next level delusional if not outright presumptuous
felt the exact same way the first time I saw this post I was like ??? I feel like it's a normal question for a non-tattooed person to ask. A tattooed person who doesn't like that question could either make up an answer or just say "oh they don't mean anything" like it's not that f-ing deep
Well maybe not an ahole, but if I got asked that question while doing groceries I'd just give the shortest answer possible unless there as like zero line behind me and no on approaching. It's just such a big topic as opposed to "nice weather eh?". Who has time for that?
@@pri2x0x Nah it's not a wild concept that you get to decide what you answer. But it can still be annoying having to overrule other people's questions. It can make you feel like you're letting the other person down. So it's not ideal either being asked questions that you don't feel like answering. It makes people uncomfortable. No?
Omgosh, hearing that young kid getting so many so fast. I sit on ideas for YEARS before getting them. And I don't want to rush this journey. I LOVE getting tattoos, and it's great having something to look forward to, think about, plan, find artists you want to work with. I'm 34 now and I can't believe I'm doing a full back at the moment and, like man massive real estate is gone now. And I was going to stop at 1 arm, 1 leg, and back, but hey, I'll have the rest left over if I change my mind in my twilight years ❤ looking forward to getting new ink in my 60s hahaha
The way your lipstick PERFECTLY matches your top ❤❤ I swear your videos come out just whenever I need to take some time for myself and chill- thank you.
1. RIP word pronunciation, English is hard XD (as a native English speaker, English is hard. XD) 2. I'm glad the 1st story went well after their conversation! Edit: I find it stupid that people get offended and mad about significant other tattoos. I understand concern for it, but not being controlling about it. Note: I also find it funny, because I am a biological female with 3 tattoos between both my forearms, and am currently debating getting a massive dragon down my side. And my girlfriend thinks they're hot. XD
Hey, I saw the last story in the wild! A lot of the comments that I agreed with pointed out that sometimes tattoos represent traumatic events or losses, and people aren't going to want to talk about that with a random cashier. It's not a question I'd ask a stranger. 14:42 I'm hung up on the part where she's 17 and her "first real relationship in over a year" means she was 16 if not 15 when she was in a relationship with a guy that was mentally, emotionally, and sexually abusing her. It's sad when anyone goes through that, but I find myself feeling particularly bad for her going through that so young.
As a person who works in retail and have visible tattoos I get both sides. But there's really big difference in how you ask/compliment. I like to show off my tattoos because I am really proud of them so if anyone asks I am happy to explain. But since a lot of them are more to the anime side, I like when people ask in a way "Oh, is that pikachu?" because then I feel the conversation can be better if you find you have something in common with each other and it feels much better than "Hey, cool tattoos"
For the last one, I tend to get spaced out/disoriented if I've been out & about or running a bunch of errands so if someone tries to talk to me in a store I may not hear them or have the energy to form a response that makes sense. I can kind of understand not wanting to be asked about something where you really have to think about the answer and explaining it without going on too long, especially if there's a line behind you at the checkout.
i have a mother's tattoo that two of my three daughters also got. i love when someone asks me about what my tattoo means. most like the tattoo but when i explain what it all means and what is in it, they love it even more
Lauren! Hey! I had to take a break from your videos when you were talking a lot about your medical issue and eating being a struggle etc as it was triggering for me, but this just popped up on my homepage and wow gal your new hair and tats look phenomenal! 🤩 I hope you are on the road to recovery with your health, it was clearly taking a huge toll on you. It is nice to see your face again. 😊
I'm definitely on both sides with that last one. I can understand why the OP was asking but also why the woman was irritated. The OP should have gone with a compliment instead.
I loved/love my cat more than any human being and when she passed I got her portrait tattooed on my hand, also memorial tattoos on my palm and on my left hand and a paw print next to my right eye…not only that but her ashes are in the black ink. I am 45 years old and have been getting tattoos since I was 16, I do not understand all of these people worrying about what other people think! Your body do what you want. I do not regret any of my tattoos, I love all my tattoos, and more than half of my body is covered in tattoos! People need to stop worrying about what other people think! Love your channel! ❤️
Fully there with you about no one else being able to tell someone whether they can get tattooed. My partner of 10 years has been with me through the majority of my 60+ tattoos (he has 2 lol) and I always just come home and show him my new tattoos when I get him. Much like with Tom, he just goes "cool!" and we move on. Also, he is well aware that I will always love my cats and guinea pigs more than I love him lmao. As it should be!
With the last reddit I do understand both sides. I understand that the retail worker was just trying to be nice but tattoos can be very personal sometimes even connected to trauma which might not be something you want to open up to a stranger about. Also the fact that the question insinuates that tattoos should have a meaning. I just don't think it's strangers "right" to have an explanation why you got the tattoos that you did. Again, I get that the retail worker was just trying to have a conversation but starting it with a compliment that is more open to them talking about the meaning IF they want to is a better approach.
I really agree with "it's not what you say, it's how you say it." The other day I was trying on clothes and the person helping me out came to check on me. She complemented on a piece of mine saying she really loved the art. I was very happy to talk about it and give her the info of the artist on my own volution. But when someone approaches me saying "what do your tattoos mean?" I go full AH. I have memorial pieces and stuff I had cause I had money/inside joke/personal expression. I don't have the time for a tattoo tour, it is none of a rando's business.
Okay, HILARIOUS that you posted this when you did because this morning I saw one where the OP's boyfriend got a tattoo of her eyes three months into the relationship and then revealed it at her birthday party and I was like, "yoooo, you know who should see this?" Lmfaoooo
My sisters wanted us all to get matching tattoos, I didn't want it and said no which I'm glad I did because when I saw what they picked I hated it. But they like them so that's the main thing
I can’t believe I made it to first view!!! I’m so excited I had to comment as soon as I started viewing! Thank you for making this long holiday for me! Lol
I think the grocery store worker just asked the wrong question to the customer. I often try to connect with patients in different ways to put people at ease in a doctors office. If they are wearing a sports team shirt or a music artist shirt, I’ll talk to them about that. And there are dozen of other examples. If somebody has an interesting tattoo, I’ll ask if they got the tattoo from a local artist and if so who. It’s then super easy to continue talking about tattoos if they are happy to discuss or just end it on that. I agree with the people that said it was just too personal of a question off the jump with a “what do they mean?”
I feel that adhd comment 😂 except for me it’s more with physical things, if I can’t see it it doesn’t exist in my mind! I’m good with appointments, time and such. But with how my brain can be and probably also because of anxiety, I’m so diligent about having my calendars and journal up to date with those things, both on my phone and in two journals; one small one for my handbag for quick reference and notes incase something happens to my phone and the other is a normal journal that is left at home. Like of course I remember most things that I have but there have been many occasions where I’ve gotten up to get something I wanted to use/ eat and have sat it down on the counter/ table while grabbing/ preparing something else and then walking off without the first thing because I had my back to them or they were out of my line of sight thus wiping their existence from my mind, until I sit down, get all comfy only to then realise what just happened and having to get up again to grab said things 😅 I legit last week forgot a piece of leftover steak I had just got out of the fridge on the counter for like 10 minutes because I sat it down while making a bowl of salad and a drink to have with it and walked off eating the salad and sitting down, not remembering about the steak until realising that something was missing 😅🫣 Thank goodness it’s winter here now, live in a cold town, and don’t have a pest problem to worry about! But golly adhd brain really hits hard when it does. Like I can remember so many things, mostly useless or random, but then other things it’s a complete mind blank/ wipe until something makes them pop back!
The second story made me so happy that she was able to stand up for herself. I had an ex of mine tell me he wouldn't find me attractive anymore if I got more tattoos even though I had 4 already. Had to wait for the relationship to end to get what I wanted 2.5 years wasted 😅
The guy getting so many in a short time sounds like he's having some kind of compulsive behavior issue. She doesn't have an issue with him getting the tattoos, she has a concern with how he's acting, and that seems really reasonable. He even calls it an addiction.
The grocery store cashier isn't an asshole but asking people what their tattoos mean is super personal and weird, better small talk options are "I like your tatts" or "where did you get them done"
That's such a weird store policy. I would hate for a cashier to randomly try and strike up an arbitrary conversation with me, especially if they started asking about something personal. Then again, I would hate it even if, looking at the produce I bought, they asked me what I planned on cooking for dinner. It just feels intrusive and I'm not into it. I love the self-scanning system at my local shop, I don't have to interact with anyone.
re: the first one, my mother's still a little mad at me for being the only person in the family to veto their idea for a family-wide group tattoo. they all collectively decided on anchor tattoos and got them before I was even old enough to get tattoos (I'm the baby of the family) but after I already had a well-defined theme in my head for the tattoos I wanted and an anchor does NOT fit into that plan anywhere. we've been at a stalemate of "if any of us can think of a design that fits in with the rest of the tattoos and does not elicit a single "ugh typical white girl anchor tattoo" I'll go for it." (I'm also the only one in the family who anyone would reasonably go "ugh how stereotypical" to about having gotten an anchor tattoo)
I've had my cat for five years, since she was five weeks old. I got a tattoo for her before I met my fiance. He has always known that I love her deeply, and that i would never get a tattoo for him even if I do have tattoos for my fur babies.
The one with the bf and the cat....fuck that lol...my husband got me an appointment for me to get my dog's paw tattooed on me for mother's day a few years back...he has no tattoos but doesn't mind me getting them, there are some he wouldn't appreciate so I don't get there but I'm happy he doesn't mind me doing it
The dude getting tattooed too 'fast'; dude is 17, I'm going to presume the tattoo artist is around the same age. My concern is the vigilance with aftercare, whether the tattoos were done in a clean environment, if the artist was trained or had appropriate supervision, etc.
I talk to my husband about them cause he knows me and what I like, so his input means something. I also glad I only got a few tattoo when I was 18 than didn't for over 10 years now I got one for my son and getting a cover up and taking my time getting my first sleeve done by an artist I found and love all there work of.
Ngl I often compliment people I meet it goes from “oh my gosh I love that shirt!” To “ your hair looks amazing” or “ hey just wanna say you look so cool!” If it’s someone in they’re 60-80 I just say “ wow really you don’t look a day over 40-50” I just get people men and women smiling and thanking me sometimes even tell me where they got something clothes from
i personally hate when people ask me what my tattoos mean- they don’t mean anything and i feel stupid trying to think of something / saying nothing? I would much prefer them to rephrase it and say “do they mean anything” as opposed to “what do they mean”
I am 25 and will be getting my first ever tattoo this year (with a design I've been wanting since 17) It just took me this long to talk to an artist and get everything rolling :'D Btw: having a booth at an anime convention, being the artist wearing a cosplay gets you hella new clients xD
When I worked in retail and was told to be nice, my go to was asking them how their day has been and if they found everything they were looking for... no need to go into personal territory, just ask general small talk things
Gallifreyan is a language from dr who, it's designed using circles and dots and crescents layered on top of each other. A stranger who is not familiar with what it is would look at it and not even know it's supposed to be a language, they'd think it's just a fun circle design... the fact it's a name of somebody who said not to tattoo it is really wild! But it's not gonna come across as a word to ANYONE except really really hardcore Dr who fans
I don't like being asked about my tattoos cus they're all personal, but I do get that not everyone gets personal pieces, so I do feel okay if someone instead said "I like them" versus "what do they mean." as for all of these AITA, I think majority of them are a very progressive approach cus I also agree that people should do whatever they want with tattoos. My partner has felt the same way with getting pieces done without him knowing, but our compromise is that when it gets closer to the date, I say I have an appointment, and show them what it is. I also don't allow myself to be influence by their opinion on it cus I'd still be getting it for myself at the end of the day. thank you for making these videos as always~
I have a few tattoos but only one visible one so make of this what you will. If I see a tattoo I like and want to chat with the person, I try to avoid asking about a possible meaning as the opening question. Usually something along the lines of "I like your tattoo, where did you get it?" "this looks awesome, any plans for more?" or if it's colorful and vibrant I add on "how old is it? It looks so clear it could be fresh!". That way it gives them the option to give lots of detail or minimal details. Of course I try to vary things depending on the situation and what the tattoo is. People usually love chatting when I start with questions like that. They tend to tell me the meaning on their own if they feel like talking about it but if not I totally understand and will move on to other topics. I don't think there were any a*holes in that last post. I'm guessing the poster was trying their best to find something that could easily make a conversation enjoyable for the customer and the customer may have just been having an off day. It didn't seem like there was ill intent from either side
With that last one specifically....like I sometimes have people come through the drive thru and they have gorgeous tattoos. I am not slow to point this out. But I keep it at surface level "Omg I love the colors of your tattoo. It's amazing." and leave it at that. But I'm also a woman and when I'm being honest if a dude compliments me "Oh you're so sweet thanks." but if a girl compliments me, I'm kind of floating on air for a few hours. I can understand her apprehension. I do. He probably is being honest in that he wasn't flirting with her but she may have negative experiences in that regard.
I'm totally in the agreement of waiting to collect tattoos from various artists. I definitely wish I had went to more artists when I first started getting tattooed. My best friend (who did most of my early tattoos) often would make me feel like shit for going to someone else. Anddd despite what he thinks, he can't do every style lol. (Always always always go to portrait specific artists!)
when I was in college (10yrs ago) my (now) husband walked into a tattoo shop late at night and impulsively got tattoos with his drunk friends and I was furious. Not because I was anti-tattoo (I have them), or because I needed "permission" as a girlfriend, but because it was an impulse decision and we were a new couple and I thought it was a sign of high-risk behavior. They didn't have ideas, they didn't vet the place, and they didn't choose the art or artist. I was making a judgement of my partner simply because I didn't want to be with someone risky and impulsive. Obviously by the end of it, we stayed together, but maybe that's where that AITA boyfriend was coming from?
for the last post, i feel like it mostly depends on the way they asked the question, the intention/tone of the question matters. if it was asked in judgemental/belittling tone i would completely understand the tattooed persons reaction. although, i kind of doubt the worker asked it in this manner considering they said they were asking out of genuine curiosity and they were also working, so they have to be nice to the customers. if the tattooed person didn't want to talk about the meaning of the tattoos they could of just communicated that and said that they're are to personal to talk about or that they don't have any meaning at all and just like the art work etc. i can understand the point of not owing anyone an explanation or that maybe she had an off day, but i don't think this should be a full excuse to be rude to someone. there are better/nicer ways to diffuse a conversation you don't want to have. i personally think people were to harsh in calling the worker the asshole. i don't think the tattooed person is fully the asshole either, but it was a bit rude to respond to them like that.
For the last post, I understand both sides of the coin. My family has worked in customer service, retail ,and in the food industry, I haven't due to help concerns. But in that world, you be nice to customers and that's how you get tips or good feedback on surveys. I know I'm more willing to be like if someone treat me well and then there like "Can you fill out the survey?" I'm going to do it. Now as someone with tattoos and scars. I can understand not wanting to hear that question, especially relating to my scars. Most of my scars I've obtain due to my health, medical procedures, and traumas. So, I never appreciate anyone asking me about my scars. But I appreciate someone asking me about my tattoos. Because I use them kind of compensate for all my scars. Now if I had a memorial tattoo or an extreme personal tattoo I know some tattoo designs are used to represent other traumatic memories as they used tattoos to help them through that, they might not appreciate a question about that specific tattoo to a stranger
15:40 when I was 17 I wanted a HUGE blue diamond on my wrist. Now I’m 26, I have black and grey American traditional tattoos. I can’t even begin to imagine how much I would have regretted that fucking diamond..
Talking about how the love from the cat is unconditional and he got upset because she doesn't love him this way is pretty weird to me because in my opinion love between adults never is unconditional I'm not talking like super weird conditions but like setting boundaries and expecting some affirmation and encouragement to make a compromise are very reasonable conditions for a relationship You can't expect that from a pet so yeah that's very different and very reasonable to feel/ think differently about it
I told my husband I wanted to get a tattoo of our cat… he smiled and said “that’s a great idea, I was thinking about getting his face tattooed as well” and that’s why we’re married.
Omg I first read this as "I was thinking of getting MY face tattooed as well" lol
"So you don't love me like that?"
"You're not my pet"
in case anyone was curious about some of the terms in the second to last story:
Galifreyan: a written language from Doctor Who, very complex and circular
Sindarin: one of the elven languages that Tolkien created for lord of the rings
Haida: an indigenous tribe from British Columbia known for their art style, which often depicts local animals (such as orcas)
…so yeah, I can’t even imagine how strange that looked all in one tattoo.
That's fucking wild 😂
It honestly sounds like a bit of a mess, but a nerdy mess. So I'm here for it! If the new GF took the time to translate two constructed languages because the dude wouldn't tell her what they meant.....that doesn't sound like a healthy relationship on either end.
I want galifrayen integrated with my woodland creature arm piece.
I wouldn't be against a group tattoo but I do have a problem with someone, even family, telling me I *have* to do anything. Body autonomy is the very least I'm entitled to as a human.
1000% team cat. I just got my ex-husband's initials covered up. You know what isn't going to get covered? My tattoo for my cats.
Was the cover up one of your cats? ❤
You and your cat will never beeak up 😂
I’m 32 and started to get tattoos 14 years ago. I get around 1 tattoo per year so I‘m still nowhere near being heavily tattooed. No one is hurrying you, take your time ✌️
First at 25 two at 29 with more planned. Not rushing also means more time to find a great artist 😄
My mother got her first (and for now only) tattoo on her 60th birthday.
I’m 21 and want to be heavily tatted and always get disappointed that I don’t yet have the extra money for it-seeing this comment is very reassuring!
@@ericasmith4800 at 21, don't worry, you have plenty of time
@@ericasmith4800find an artist that may do trades! If you have a service you can provide, hair, nails, lashes etc!
I'm anti-the store that forces cashiers to make conversation. The woman wanted to get through her groceries in peace. The cashier isn't an a-hole but they should retire "what do your tattoos mean" from their conversation options because it would take too long to answer that question.
Same, as a German the idea of making small talk at the cash register frankly baffles and frightens me. I just wanna buy my groceries in peace please 😩
@@Link-dx1lx this
I never ask what they mean, but being a cashier and tattoo enthusiast I can't help but be like "damn your ink is sick!" I never want to be that annoying person pestering them with questions tho 🤣
Same.thats why I love self checkout
Yeah I got that question at Trader Joe’s recently. There is an actual answer involving personal trauma. I just say “I thought it would look cool” when someone asks though.
Pets are not just pets they are family 🐶 i love my fur sister Sadie so much i have her paw print tattooed on me. If i could afford it i would get her picture 💜
They truly are family. I love my doggies so much 💜💜💜💜
I am happily married to my husband who supports all my body modification dreams and desires. It's a hobby, so we each have a "hobby" budget. However I spent my hobby funds is up to me. He also is happy to spend days and/or weekends alone with the kids while I frolic off to wherever to get tattooed. I cannot imagine being partners in life with someone who doesn't love and support what brings me joy.
@@FancyRPGCanada mine also has zero body modifications 😂
The 17 year old bf- is it even safe to have that many so quickly? I know with piercings too you need to give your body time to heal! I would also be worried about a mental health crisis, him not telling his family and saying it's like an addiction. Is he in a manic episode maybe?
I think she has every right to be worried. It could go so badly so quickly.
That's what I was thinking! A few within a couple weeks is not enough time to recover. I have no idea if it's a mental health crisis, but infection could definitely be on the horizon, especially if he's new to taking care of them.
Also, I'm fully with you re: the last story - I paid a lot of money to look like this, I know my tattoos are bright and colorful. As long as someone doesn't insult them, I'm always happy to talk about my tattoos and be polite/take a compliment. Like you mentioned re: the difference between a scar and a tattoo, I made the active choice to look like this, and therefore, I expect people will ask questions, and that's ok.
I think the person comparing asking about a tattoo to asking about a scar is more trying to say that the story behind it could be something bad that a person doesn't want to make small talk with strangers about.
I had a previous partner that was extremely unsupportive of me getting tattoos. Tattoos were ok on other people, but werent ok on my body for some reason…All of this while he knew I wanted to be a tattoo artist and I loved tattoos. Needless to say, didn’t work out. My current partner was SO supportive I was able to work towards my dream. I am now an artist at a shop, I’ll come home with new pieces without his consult- and he’s been nothing but supportive ❤️
Beautiful, I love this for you
I've got a giant thigh piece that's a portrait of my first cat (RIP Marceline!) and I don't ever see myself getting any tattoos dedicated to a significant other. I can't explain how pet love is different, but it just is!
The thought of the cringe things I would have tattooed myself with at 17 is the reason I'd tell someone to slow down 😂
As someone with anxiety who has a tattoo and scars, last situation was a nah situation imo, op was trying to be friendly and the customer didnt feel comfortable, it happens! Comparing tattoos to scars is fuckin weird, like tattoos are artwork you usually get when you want them, scars are mostly from traumatic experiences.
'So you don't love me like that?'
'Yes, exactly. I love my cat in a different way than I love you. I thought that was clear'
I wouldn't be interested in my partner getting a tattoo memorializing me, but if he wants one for our cats? I will drive him to the appointment and show everyone photos!
Got my first one on my 18th in 1993. Fast forward to last year when I finally got my second one.
Today I am up to 12 decent sized ones with no plans on slowing down.
Grocery store worker is NTA. They just asked a genuine question, and got a super rude response. People are seriously lacking communication/social skills or something these days smh. I've had some really nice conversations with completely random workers at retail stores, even on days when I wasn't feeling very sociable, and it usually leaves me feeling just a little bit better after having a nice interaction with a stranger.
If someone asked me "what do your tattoos mean?" that would be overwhelming for me. They're asking a stranger to stop and explain multiple stories while they're just finishing up their shopping. You don't just stop a person and say "hey tell me about 10 meaningful times in your life." To me, it's the same thing.
I've had people compliment my tattoos or ask if a certain one had a meaning, and I didn't mind those interactions, but the way this last AITA went, I know OP didn't mean any harm, but they definitely went about it the wrong way in my opinion
I love your top 😍
When you started reading the story about the cat, one of my kittens wandered over and sat next to me 😆 I think she likes your voice, she keeps looking up at the screen.
Your channel is my comfort place.🥺❤️ You look stunning!
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The last one is definitely NTA, its perfectly neutral at most. I cannot fathom putting inkwork on your skin, displaying said inkwork, then being shocked people would have benign questions about it. And expecting people to perform complex psychoanalysis to know that there might be trauma, social anxiety, etc. is next level delusional if not outright presumptuous
felt the exact same way the first time I saw this post I was like ??? I feel like it's a normal question for a non-tattooed person to ask. A tattooed person who doesn't like that question could either make up an answer or just say "oh they don't mean anything" like it's not that f-ing deep
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Well maybe not an ahole, but if I got asked that question while doing groceries I'd just give the shortest answer possible unless there as like zero line behind me and no on approaching. It's just such a big topic as opposed to "nice weather eh?". Who has time for that?
@sennaxisanselin3569 amazing how we can just decide how much or how little we want to share with others huh? A wild concept
@@pri2x0x Nah it's not a wild concept that you get to decide what you answer. But it can still be annoying having to overrule other people's questions. It can make you feel like you're letting the other person down. So it's not ideal either being asked questions that you don't feel like answering. It makes people uncomfortable. No?
The word struggle is so relatable haha
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you are literally so gorgeous omg
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I need a tour of all your jewelry. You always look stunning 😍
Omgosh, hearing that young kid getting so many so fast. I sit on ideas for YEARS before getting them. And I don't want to rush this journey. I LOVE getting tattoos, and it's great having something to look forward to, think about, plan, find artists you want to work with. I'm 34 now and I can't believe I'm doing a full back at the moment and, like man massive real estate is gone now. And I was going to stop at 1 arm, 1 leg, and back, but hey, I'll have the rest left over if I change my mind in my twilight years ❤ looking forward to getting new ink in my 60s hahaha
The way your lipstick PERFECTLY matches your top ❤❤ I swear your videos come out just whenever I need to take some time for myself and chill- thank you.
1. RIP word pronunciation, English is hard XD (as a native English speaker, English is hard. XD) 2. I'm glad the 1st story went well after their conversation!
Edit: I find it stupid that people get offended and mad about significant other tattoos. I understand concern for it, but not being controlling about it.
Note: I also find it funny, because I am a biological female with 3 tattoos between both my forearms, and am currently debating getting a massive dragon down my side. And my girlfriend thinks they're hot. XD
I think in this situation at 10:51 the fiancée was more upset that he would get a tattoo *with* another girl and not her
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i love this series so much,
I stayed at my grandparents sort of creepy house a bit ago. and these videos helped me sleep for sure ❤❤
Hey, I saw the last story in the wild! A lot of the comments that I agreed with pointed out that sometimes tattoos represent traumatic events or losses, and people aren't going to want to talk about that with a random cashier. It's not a question I'd ask a stranger.
14:42 I'm hung up on the part where she's 17 and her "first real relationship in over a year" means she was 16 if not 15 when she was in a relationship with a guy that was mentally, emotionally, and sexually abusing her. It's sad when anyone goes through that, but I find myself feeling particularly bad for her going through that so young.
Liking the video immediately because I don't need to watch it first 😂
Thanks for the entertainment Lauren and I hope you're feeling well today ❤
Regarding that fool in the second post, yes! All love between people is conditional! If you treat me badly, I leave. Of course it's conditional!
As a person who works in retail and have visible tattoos I get both sides. But there's really big difference in how you ask/compliment. I like to show off my tattoos because I am really proud of them so if anyone asks I am happy to explain. But since a lot of them are more to the anime side, I like when people ask in a way "Oh, is that pikachu?" because then I feel the conversation can be better if you find you have something in common with each other and it feels much better than "Hey, cool tattoos"
For the last one, I tend to get spaced out/disoriented if I've been out & about or running a bunch of errands so if someone tries to talk to me in a store I may not hear them or have the energy to form a response that makes sense. I can kind of understand not wanting to be asked about something where you really have to think about the answer and explaining it without going on too long, especially if there's a line behind you at the checkout.
love, red is your color ❤❤❤ excited to hear more aita from you, you're the best ❤❤
i have a mother's tattoo that two of my three daughters also got. i love when someone asks me about what my tattoo means. most like the tattoo but when i explain what it all means and what is in it, they love it even more
Lauren! Hey! I had to take a break from your videos when you were talking a lot about your medical issue and eating being a struggle etc as it was triggering for me, but this just popped up on my homepage and wow gal your new hair and tats look phenomenal! 🤩 I hope you are on the road to recovery with your health, it was clearly taking a huge toll on you. It is nice to see your face again. 😊
Lauren I miss your vlogs!!! Love all your vids of course but your vlogs always make me feel so cozy ❤❤
I'm definitely on both sides with that last one. I can understand why the OP was asking but also why the woman was irritated. The OP should have gone with a compliment instead.
I loved/love my cat more than any human being and when she passed I got her portrait tattooed on my hand, also memorial tattoos on my palm and on my left hand and a paw print next to my right eye…not only that but her ashes are in the black ink. I am 45 years old and have been getting tattoos since I was 16, I do not understand all of these people worrying about what other people think! Your body do what you want. I do not regret any of my tattoos, I love all my tattoos, and more than half of my body is covered in tattoos! People need to stop worrying about what other people think! Love your channel! ❤️
Fully there with you about no one else being able to tell someone whether they can get tattooed. My partner of 10 years has been with me through the majority of my 60+ tattoos (he has 2 lol) and I always just come home and show him my new tattoos when I get him. Much like with Tom, he just goes "cool!" and we move on. Also, he is well aware that I will always love my cats and guinea pigs more than I love him lmao. As it should be!
Bro struggles on spontaneous like how Americans struggle on Worcestershire
LOL!!! So true 😂
I generally don’t comment on tattoos unless they have something I really like; then I’d say something like nice ink or beautiful artwork. 😊
With the last reddit I do understand both sides. I understand that the retail worker was just trying to be nice but tattoos can be very personal sometimes even connected to trauma which might not be something you want to open up to a stranger about. Also the fact that the question insinuates that tattoos should have a meaning. I just don't think it's strangers "right" to have an explanation why you got the tattoos that you did. Again, I get that the retail worker was just trying to have a conversation but starting it with a compliment that is more open to them talking about the meaning IF they want to is a better approach.
I love when you tried to say spontaneously. Hilariously Adorable!❤
The _looks at camera_ at every boyfriend-entitlement absolutely kills me, I love it so much.
I really agree with "it's not what you say, it's how you say it." The other day I was trying on clothes and the person helping me out came to check on me. She complemented on a piece of mine saying she really loved the art. I was very happy to talk about it and give her the info of the artist on my own volution. But when someone approaches me saying "what do your tattoos mean?" I go full AH. I have memorial pieces and stuff I had cause I had money/inside joke/personal expression. I don't have the time for a tattoo tour, it is none of a rando's business.
Okay, HILARIOUS that you posted this when you did because this morning I saw one where the OP's boyfriend got a tattoo of her eyes three months into the relationship and then revealed it at her birthday party and I was like, "yoooo, you know who should see this?" Lmfaoooo
My sisters wanted us all to get matching tattoos, I didn't want it and said no which I'm glad I did because when I saw what they picked I hated it. But they like them so that's the main thing
It's pronounced "spur-of-the-moment ".
Toxic boundaries are still boundaries. If your boundary is a tattoo, you have the right to voice that, and they have the right to stay or go
Love your videos, Lauren! 💖💖💖
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I can’t believe I made it to first view!!! I’m so excited I had to comment as soon as I started viewing! Thank you for making this long holiday for me! Lol
I think the grocery store worker just asked the wrong question to the customer. I often try to connect with patients in different ways to put people at ease in a doctors office. If they are wearing a sports team shirt or a music artist shirt, I’ll talk to them about that. And there are dozen of other examples. If somebody has an interesting tattoo, I’ll ask if they got the tattoo from a local artist and if so who. It’s then super easy to continue talking about tattoos if they are happy to discuss or just end it on that. I agree with the people that said it was just too personal of a question off the jump with a “what do they mean?”
Amazing outfit ❤
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I think you've made me forget how to say spontaneous XD Love the pops of red and pink today!
Excuse me, how do you expect me to pay attention to the video when you're looking this stunning!?!?!
Alex is gonna want all those tattoos removed by the time is thirty years old.😂 It's because he'll probably have much different taste by then.😊
Unrelated to the video subject but that outfit, hair and makeup look amazing on you! Love the straight across bangs with that red lip!!
17:55 Boy, that's a lot of stuff in one tattoo!
My god, this makeup and outfit look AMAZING
I got my first tatt in 2019/2020 and the second one a year later. Im saving up for my third.
I feel that adhd comment 😂 except for me it’s more with physical things, if I can’t see it it doesn’t exist in my mind! I’m good with appointments, time and such. But with how my brain can be and probably also because of anxiety, I’m so diligent about having my calendars and journal up to date with those things, both on my phone and in two journals; one small one for my handbag for quick reference and notes incase something happens to my phone and the other is a normal journal that is left at home.
Like of course I remember most things that I have but there have been many occasions where I’ve gotten up to get something I wanted to use/ eat and have sat it down on the counter/ table while grabbing/ preparing something else and then walking off without the first thing because I had my back to them or they were out of my line of sight thus wiping their existence from my mind, until I sit down, get all comfy only to then realise what just happened and having to get up again to grab said things 😅 I legit last week forgot a piece of leftover steak I had just got out of the fridge on the counter for like 10 minutes because I sat it down while making a bowl of salad and a drink to have with it and walked off eating the salad and sitting down, not remembering about the steak until realising that something was missing 😅🫣 Thank goodness it’s winter here now, live in a cold town, and don’t have a pest problem to worry about! But golly adhd brain really hits hard when it does. Like I can remember so many things, mostly useless or random, but then other things it’s a complete mind blank/ wipe until something makes them pop back!
The second story made me so happy that she was able to stand up for herself. I had an ex of mine tell me he wouldn't find me attractive anymore if I got more tattoos even though I had 4 already.
Had to wait for the relationship to end to get what I wanted 2.5 years wasted 😅
I am loving this outfit!! ❤
The guy getting so many in a short time sounds like he's having some kind of compulsive behavior issue. She doesn't have an issue with him getting the tattoos, she has a concern with how he's acting, and that seems really reasonable. He even calls it an addiction.
The grocery store cashier isn't an asshole but asking people what their tattoos mean is super personal and weird, better small talk options are "I like your tatts" or "where did you get them done"
That's such a weird store policy. I would hate for a cashier to randomly try and strike up an arbitrary conversation with me, especially if they started asking about something personal.
Then again, I would hate it even if, looking at the produce I bought, they asked me what I planned on cooking for dinner. It just feels intrusive and I'm not into it.
I love the self-scanning system at my local shop, I don't have to interact with anyone.
re: the first one, my mother's still a little mad at me for being the only person in the family to veto their idea for a family-wide group tattoo. they all collectively decided on anchor tattoos and got them before I was even old enough to get tattoos (I'm the baby of the family) but after I already had a well-defined theme in my head for the tattoos I wanted and an anchor does NOT fit into that plan anywhere. we've been at a stalemate of "if any of us can think of a design that fits in with the rest of the tattoos and does not elicit a single "ugh typical white girl anchor tattoo" I'll go for it." (I'm also the only one in the family who anyone would reasonably go "ugh how stereotypical" to about having gotten an anchor tattoo)
I've had my cat for five years, since she was five weeks old. I got a tattoo for her before I met my fiance. He has always known that I love her deeply, and that i would never get a tattoo for him even if I do have tattoos for my fur babies.
The one with the bf and the cat....fuck that lol...my husband got me an appointment for me to get my dog's paw tattooed on me for mother's day a few years back...he has no tattoos but doesn't mind me getting them, there are some he wouldn't appreciate so I don't get there but I'm happy he doesn't mind me doing it
real talk, how the hell does a 17yo have the MONEY to get a dozen tattoos over as many days without their family knowing?
OP stated his friend does tattoos. The friend is possibly a scratcher doing them for free or little cost. Just a theory.
Just as you were talking about all the things cats need my little orange guy jumped up in my lap
5 tattoos at 17 is insane. I'm only 21 and only just now scheduled an appointment for my 4th tattoo.
The dude getting tattooed too 'fast'; dude is 17, I'm going to presume the tattoo artist is around the same age. My concern is the vigilance with aftercare, whether the tattoos were done in a clean environment, if the artist was trained or had appropriate supervision, etc.
I talk to my husband about them cause he knows me and what I like, so his input means something. I also glad I only got a few tattoo when I was 18 than didn't for over 10 years now I got one for my son and getting a cover up and taking my time getting my first sleeve done by an artist I found and love all there work of.
Ngl I often compliment people I meet it goes from “oh my gosh I love that shirt!” To “ your hair looks amazing” or “ hey just wanna say you look so cool!” If it’s someone in they’re 60-80 I just say “ wow really you don’t look a day over 40-50”
I just get people men and women smiling and thanking me sometimes even tell me where they got something clothes from
i personally hate when people ask me what my tattoos mean- they don’t mean anything and i feel stupid trying to think of something / saying nothing? I would much prefer them to rephrase it and say “do they mean anything” as opposed to “what do they mean”
I am 25 and will be getting my first ever tattoo this year (with a design I've been wanting since 17) It just took me this long to talk to an artist and get everything rolling :'D
Btw: having a booth at an anime convention, being the artist wearing a cosplay gets you hella new clients xD
When I worked in retail and was told to be nice, my go to was asking them how their day has been and if they found everything they were looking for... no need to go into personal territory, just ask general small talk things
I have three dog portrait tattooed on me so.😊
Lauren I love the bangs ❤they look incredible on you 🫶🏼
Gallifreyan is a language from dr who, it's designed using circles and dots and crescents layered on top of each other. A stranger who is not familiar with what it is would look at it and not even know it's supposed to be a language, they'd think it's just a fun circle design... the fact it's a name of somebody who said not to tattoo it is really wild! But it's not gonna come across as a word to ANYONE except really really hardcore Dr who fans
I don't like being asked about my tattoos cus they're all personal, but I do get that not everyone gets personal pieces, so I do feel okay if someone instead said "I like them" versus "what do they mean."
as for all of these AITA, I think majority of them are a very progressive approach cus I also agree that people should do whatever they want with tattoos. My partner has felt the same way with getting pieces done without him knowing, but our compromise is that when it gets closer to the date, I say I have an appointment, and show them what it is. I also don't allow myself to be influence by their opinion on it cus I'd still be getting it for myself at the end of the day.
thank you for making these videos as always~
I also have ADHD and also will forget if there is no calendar
I have a few tattoos but only one visible one so make of this what you will. If I see a tattoo I like and want to chat with the person, I try to avoid asking about a possible meaning as the opening question. Usually something along the lines of "I like your tattoo, where did you get it?" "this looks awesome, any plans for more?" or if it's colorful and vibrant I add on "how old is it? It looks so clear it could be fresh!". That way it gives them the option to give lots of detail or minimal details. Of course I try to vary things depending on the situation and what the tattoo is. People usually love chatting when I start with questions like that. They tend to tell me the meaning on their own if they feel like talking about it but if not I totally understand and will move on to other topics. I don't think there were any a*holes in that last post. I'm guessing the poster was trying their best to find something that could easily make a conversation enjoyable for the customer and the customer may have just been having an off day. It didn't seem like there was ill intent from either side
With that last one specifically....like I sometimes have people come through the drive thru and they have gorgeous tattoos. I am not slow to point this out. But I keep it at surface level "Omg I love the colors of your tattoo. It's amazing." and leave it at that.
But I'm also a woman and when I'm being honest if a dude compliments me "Oh you're so sweet thanks." but if a girl compliments me, I'm kind of floating on air for a few hours. I can understand her apprehension. I do. He probably is being honest in that he wasn't flirting with her but she may have negative experiences in that regard.
I'm totally in the agreement of waiting to collect tattoos from various artists. I definitely wish I had went to more artists when I first started getting tattooed. My best friend (who did most of my early tattoos) often would make me feel like shit for going to someone else. Anddd despite what he thinks, he can't do every style lol. (Always always always go to portrait specific artists!)
when I was in college (10yrs ago) my (now) husband walked into a tattoo shop late at night and impulsively got tattoos with his drunk friends and I was furious. Not because I was anti-tattoo (I have them), or because I needed "permission" as a girlfriend, but because it was an impulse decision and we were a new couple and I thought it was a sign of high-risk behavior. They didn't have ideas, they didn't vet the place, and they didn't choose the art or artist. I was making a judgement of my partner simply because I didn't want to be with someone risky and impulsive. Obviously by the end of it, we stayed together, but maybe that's where that AITA boyfriend was coming from?
GIRRLLLL, You look amazing, like a Goth Pixie 😍
😂😂 words who are they? 💅🏻
for the last post, i feel like it mostly depends on the way they asked the question, the intention/tone of the question matters. if it was asked in judgemental/belittling tone i would completely understand the tattooed persons reaction. although, i kind of doubt the worker asked it in this manner considering they said they were asking out of genuine curiosity and they were also working, so they have to be nice to the customers. if the tattooed person didn't want to talk about the meaning of the tattoos they could of just communicated that and said that they're are to personal to talk about or that they don't have any meaning at all and just like the art work etc. i can understand the point of not owing anyone an explanation or that maybe she had an off day, but i don't think this should be a full excuse to be rude to someone. there are better/nicer ways to diffuse a conversation you don't want to have. i personally think people were to harsh in calling the worker the asshole. i don't think the tattooed person is fully the asshole either, but it was a bit rude to respond to them like that.
For the last post, I understand both sides of the coin. My family has worked in customer service, retail ,and in the food industry, I haven't due to help concerns. But in that world, you be nice to customers and that's how you get tips or good feedback on surveys. I know I'm more willing to be like if someone treat me well and then there like "Can you fill out the survey?" I'm going to do it. Now as someone with tattoos and scars. I can understand not wanting to hear that question, especially relating to my scars. Most of my scars I've obtain due to my health, medical procedures, and traumas. So, I never appreciate anyone asking me about my scars. But I appreciate someone asking me about my tattoos. Because I use them kind of compensate for all my scars. Now if I had a memorial tattoo or an extreme personal tattoo I know some tattoo designs are used to represent other traumatic memories as they used tattoos to help them through that, they might not appreciate a question about that specific tattoo to a stranger
The boyfriend being jealous of the cat is wild😭
It's so sad how many people are like asking if they're the *sshole coz they're with a controlling, pos partner who makes them think this way.
15:40 when I was 17 I wanted a HUGE blue diamond on my wrist. Now I’m 26, I have black and grey American traditional tattoos. I can’t even begin to imagine how much I would have regretted that fucking diamond..
Talking about how the love from the cat is unconditional and he got upset because she doesn't love him this way is pretty weird to me because in my opinion love between adults never is unconditional
I'm not talking like super weird conditions but like setting boundaries and expecting some affirmation and encouragement to make a compromise are very reasonable conditions for a relationship
You can't expect that from a pet so yeah that's very different and very reasonable to feel/ think differently about it