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Oh man... I am relating to this soooo hard. All of this. Only I am not a saltoholic, because my mom (who I suspect also has ADHD) would always forget to put salt in the food, which resulted in me not acquiring a strong salt taste. But, I love chips!
OMG you just described me. I feel like you are my sister. My son took me through hell with adhd. He was diagnosed at 7. I am so glad i went through that with him without any of my symptoms getting in the way of becoming his biggest cheer leader and #1 advocate to fight fkr what he needed. I was damn good at it too. IEP meetings wete shocked of my knowledge. I educated myself. Looking back I now see when i was young why I went through so much. You are awesome. I am 49 and on medicine but still stuggle. Not an official diagnosis but i wanted to cry watching your viseo because you described me like you knew me. I had alot of support with my son which is key but there is still alot of ignorance going on. I kept getting in debt with my rent, spending profoundly knowing I had to pay rent. Some many times got eviction letters and got bailed out. I kept saying okay I wont ever get into this again. Then I'm in court again because I hadn't paid rent in 5 months and had no idea of what the money was used for. So with this said I gotta start my youtube channel because it's something I wanna do but fear of looking stupid because I lose train of thought or cannot remember words embarrass me. I know a diagnosis will get me proper treatment instead of just medicine given to me from a psychiatrist who cannot diagnose me but due to my son having it and my symptoms it is obvious. I will be following and will let you know when I start. I guess bullet points and notes will help me. I have so much confidence when I know for a fact I'm prepared.
@@everclearr You could have both, from research I’ve done (from medical books-not the internet) it is not unusual to have both…I do. And am treated for both-talk to your dr.
Omg, the time tracking thing - I loose a SOLID 10-20 minutes in the shower, every morning. Have done for as long as I can remember, this is probably why!
does anyone else have a thing where, if an inconvenience happens or you yourself are incompetent at something, you fall into a depressive spiral and hit rock bottom really quick, and contemplate su**ide? then you get out of this hole, something else happens, and you fall back in... it's a constant cycle. I'm not sure if this is because of c-ptsd, adhd or both. I need a therapist lmao ;-;
Yup. Happened to me yesterday. Had a higher up at work tell me I’m lazy and doing below the bare minimum and not taking initiative. I shut down, cried, drank alcohol, went to bed then woke up at 3am pondering my existence. The phrase I kept thinking was “If I’m so lazy, why was I even put on earth?” I got to work extra early today, took initiative out of spite, lasted for about 3-4hrs and now I’m fine 🤷🏾♀️
I'm in tears just thinking about the list of failures, mess-ups, embarrassment, and just feeling like why?? Why?? Why can't I get my shit together? My planner actually used, not 20 different cute notebooks; and let's not forget that extra planner that was too cute you couldn't not buy it. Gezzum, I already know that I have it, I too found out when I was like 29, 30, maybe 31. Anyway I turned 39 yesterday and I kept telling myself, "this is the year!" Your going to take hold of the disorder, get rid of all this random why must I own this stuff. I just want like 2 duffel bags and a trunk...maybe one suitcase...and a hat box. But that's it! I don't want to carry this weight all around me and in my head. Thank you for putting together such a concise, say it like it is video with the symptoms listed below! I know I will write this in one of sed planners or notebooks lol! ;) New Sub, really happy to find someone who understands. It really is a lot. People who don't have it don't understand the shame and humiliation, and guilt. I'm not sticking with just that aspect, but it is a great part that does need to be addressed with the ADHD-er. I'm such a dork. Lol! Thanks
I'm a 17 year old girl, and watching your ADHD in girls video led me to this one, and I relate to almost every single symptom you've described. I feel like I didn't have as much trouble as a kid, but I've always been extremely spacey, slow at getting work done, and easily overwhelmed. I've had this feeling that something is wrong with me because I can't get my act together and can't get motivated to do anything. Especially with the pandemic, I've been so understimulated and feeling hopeless. My grades are dropping with online school; I can't convince myself to get things done at home. Thank you so much for this video! I want to talk to my parents about this but I'm worried it's just me being spoiled, lazy, or addicted to my phone. Like me imagining getting tested and being told that I don't have it and just suck at life scares me...my self esteem can't take it :(
I’m right here with you too! I’m 19 and literally failed a whole year of high school, having ADHD would explain a lot for me. I have an appointment to look into a diagnosis very soon so I’m terrified too! It’s definitely worth talking to your parents and a doctor! It’s scary as all heck but it could make all the difference for you! Good luck!
@@milliescadding9852 I have been reading that eating disorders often are a manifestation as well. Not diagnosing you!! At all. But I definitely believe that IF i have ADHD... it manifested in eating for me, too. And so far... a lot of these symptoms are resonating. I have never even spent time looking into ADHD because of the way it's portrayed with like, hyper kids.
I've been late so many times it's a personality trait at this point. Exactly 15 minutes late to everything. Should I just leave 15 minutes earlier? Well yes but actually no
The HYPERFOCUSING. This is what I was wanting you to talk about.... when you spoke about painting for 11 hours I HEAR THAT!!!! I'm a crafter too, and once I get going I can go for hours and hours.... or at the moment Animal Crossing takes up a lot of my time because I can ESCAPE for hours and hours.... and as you said, it leads into not managing time well at all....... over estimating how long something is gonna take.... you are preaching to the choir here gurl....I find you so relatable!!
I’m so glad you relate! Yes! Hours of one things and putting off what I should be doing..aka responsibilities vs the fun stuff. I love art..but I also have to make sure my priorities are straight. Managing this can be a challenge! The more I’ve been aware of this I get better at it...but I do miss the mark. I keep hearing about Animal Crossings! I need to check it out..or it might be a dangerous trap for my adhd 😆
Yessssss! If I’m in the middle of a thing, it’s impossible to pull me out of it. Most recent example: Hubby and I just bought a house. We bought samples for paint colors. I was just going to put a little on the wall (like you’re supposed to) and before I knew it, I’d done half the wall by the time my husband practically snatched the brush out of my hand to stop me. BUT I STILL HAVE PAINT AND I HAVE CHOSEN THIS COLOR JUST LET ME FINISH IT.
Yes!!!!!!! I’m in the midst of getting diagnosed and I haven’t skipped a day of playing Animal Crossing since the game came out. I can play it for hours and hours on end and most of my friends don’t get why I still love it
@@gabriellaberman I was the same till I hit a pretty low point in my life and just couldn't bring myself to do anything, but I DEFINITELY obsessed over it for the most part of the year and didn't skip a day!
I relate to EVERYTHING you shared here. No formal diagnosis yet. Im a male 67yo veteran, had a 30yr career with nothing to show. Im a college drop-out, and my life is a mess... except for my 6 wonderful grandkids who all love me as I am.... this one brightness keeps me going. Your video is a revelation for me and has given me the courage to seek help through the Veterans Healthcare system. Thanks so much and may God bless you for all you do!
THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE! I am glad my video helped! I hope you get the help you need and deserve through the Veterans Healthcare system. ANd wow! 6 grandkids!!! what a blessing!
I'm still trying to figure out when i get distracted when someone is talking if it's ADHD or if the person or subject is just really boring and i would rather be somewhere else. I try to be polite and act interested so i don't hurt their feelings but perhaps that is the ' people pleaser ' in me which is another subject all together....Another mystery for me to ponder....
george potter ‘tis a mystery indeed. That is an interesting point though.🤔 I find myself zoning out when I should be paying attention… And I have to have people repeat themselves more than need be😬
"you feel like you live right off the highway... In reality you live 15 minutes from the highway". I cannot even explain how much I relate to this. Also that describes to a T every morning for me ever.
haha i know i've left out more...I thought of you when creating this video and realize i meant to put the "list" in the comment section because I know it helps! and my computer doesn't always wanna work when editing....so adding text is hard. I'll go do that now...If i stay on task!!! AHAHA thanks for always sharing your thoughts.
Man, I've been watching a bunch of videos like this and a lot of the things said resonate so much I tear up a bit. I scheduled an appointment in 2 days but now I'm just afraid that I don't actually have ADHD and I'm just a low tier human 😭
I’m about to turn 31 and realizing how much ADHD has affected me. I’m glad all these teen commenters are here now learning this stuff. I beat myself up hard thinking I’m a lazy underachiever who missed the boat after being decently successful in high school and really struggling ever since. Thank you for making these videos.
When I get depressed or feel anxiety I get flooded with memories and they are so real I feel like I'm there again, completely zoned out of what I'm doing.
I do too. I don't remember much of my childhood or even if these symptoms are recent or of they've been there forever. I'll think I'm doing something/feeling a certain way/acting a certain way for the first time and my mom will tell me I used to do/be/feel that way all the time. I remember being told I had no/ little common sense a lot and that I didn't pay a lot of attention to things. I also remember my mom saying I was the drama child of the family. Very over dramatic about everything. I'm not diagnosed but there was one point in my past when a teacher thought I might have it but my mom said she just never took me to a doctor for it. I did go to therapy when I was a teen but I don't believe they diagnosed me with anything. Just chatted and tried to help with any things I was dealing with at that time. Edit: I'm diagnosed now.
I feel like my long-term memory is as good as my working memory is lousy. I can literally just think about a childhood memory and feel like I am two years old again but when it comes to remembering where I put my glasses I’m like “what?”
yeah, it's not a fun feeling. I have gotten better the more i learn about myself. I still have my moments of stumbling forward but I'm glad to at least know what I am dealing with!
I have ADHD, I had it all my life but it didn’t really peak or get noticed until I was an adult. I’m 56, ADHD, wasn’t really a “thing” Yet when I was growing up. So I always blamed myself for not being quite “Up to Par” like everyone else, and I just needed to give myself a kick in the butt. As I got older it turned into HUGE ANXIETY and even PANIC ATTACKS at times. Having finally been diagnosed and doing much reading and watching informative videos, like yours, makes me feel so much better. I can relayed to so much of this! Please, if you feel as though you could have ADHD, just talk to your doctor, get tested. Knowing yourself and why things are more difficult for you is the first step to finding small ways to improve your quality of life, but also not to blame yourself. I would love to see where the salt fits in, I’m a salt freak! ❤️
The fact that I relate to every last thing you said, I’m literally in tears!! 😭 I’m not diagnosed, and for so long I just always felt like something was seriously wrong me. My youngest brother was diagnosed with ADHD at a young age, and it was just never anything that anyone picked up with me- since I was always so “well behaved, especially in class.” I’m 27 now, and I just wish I had known sooner... it all makes so much sense now.
Thanks so much for this video. For your content! I've had ADD (without the HD) my whole life. I was diagnosed with severe attention deficit at standford when i was a small child and basically failed my whole way through grade school until dropping out in 10th grade. I finally got my GED and then went on to start, own, and manage 2 businesses with a team of employees who rely on me to focus and manage my responsibilities. To anyone who feels like they are worthless or incapable of being successful despite wanting to be focused or motivated, get a real diagnosis and if you have ADD / HD, allow that to be okay, medicate or manage it, and relearn to live life with it. For me, not managing my ADD with meds is a recipe for literal failure and disaster in every facet of my life. I literally cannot function without it and even basic things that others do without thinking. Are absolutely impossible. If you have ADHD / ADD, dont fight it or deny it. Just take control of it and stop holding yourself to a standard that others or the world have set for you. Dont judge yourself for your struggles or accomplishments so far. Treat and manage your ADD with meds and therapy and redefine your life. You're like capable of so much more than you think and its okay for your processes to look different than the norm.
I was already on board from the beginning when you said "I knew I was trying in life but things were always so challenging and I didn't know why". Just spot on LOL.
I just want to say a massive THANK YOU! At Christmas, my sister told me she thought I was autistic, and getting help could solve a lot of problems and questions I have. I have always felt different and knew my brain worked in roundabout ways. Carrying shame around with me and stopping myself doing social things, because the backlash of anxiety isn’t worth it. Since finding your channel, I have felt a HUGE sense a relief! Even the way you word yourself; it feels like you’re speaking from my brain!! I have finally got an ADHD assessment booked in for this week. Hopefully I get this sorted, but if not I just want to say thank you for sharing your experiences and thoughts. It’s helped me SO much! X
Sadie Levett omg! This made my day. I love when people get me. The way I talk. The way I am. It makes me feel just as understood as I hope everyone else feels when finding my videos. 🤗 that’s my hope. To bring awareness and acceptance...and a belief that we can be something more than we thought we could. I relate to a lot of what you say. Thanks for sharing and I hope everything goes good with your assessment!
I'd like to second that. It feels incredible to find people talking about what you are going through - in detail! I am finally starting to be kind to my self - praise god
you put into words what ive struggled with my whole life, im embarrased to say i cried while wathcing this,. i literally understood every singe thing, except the salt thing lol. now i need to find help.
You basically describe my life so far😂. I recently got diagnosed and I think it's crazy how many ADHD'ers have the similar life story of quiting and failing, anxiety, and all the other things you talked about. And I'm sure not all them do, but it blew my mind a lot of us similar life experiences. It's good to know because I don't have to be so hard on my self and let other emotions get the best of me. I do the salt thing too! Anyways, good informative and entertaining video, keep up the good work 👍🏼.
Juan Valdez yay! entertaining information! That’s my hope and goal. Yeah...it’s crazy how many of us can relate...learning about it has released so much of my self hate. I Don’t judge myself nearly as much as I used to… I try to get better every day excepting myself for who I am.
I have always been yelled at for how much salt I eat.. I’m 41 yr old male and I’ve had a lot of set backs in life I do great for awhile then everything falls apart i get super depressed and start using drugs again and then ended up in prison I’m out now was doing good again then had heart attack had triple bypass surgery and haven’t been able to work since and haven’t had income in almost a year and my fiancé had got pregnant rt before heart attack we were very happy but then all this happened and now I got beautiful newborn daughter but I’m still not able to get outta this depressed feeling and useless feeling idk I can’t seem to get dr who can figure me out but I feel like I’m at the end of the road if I don’t get it figured out. I also have been diagnosed with anxiety and ptsd I’m only prescribed Xanax but there is something else I just can’t seem to explain I’m lost and I’m feeling like everyone would be better off without me I’ve so many times been doing good in life and screw it up and just quit jobs or walk away from relationship idk what’s wrong. I also have 8 year old who is autistic
I’m (triumphantly!) going through the process of finally getting tested for ADHD. I’ve had all of these symptoms (especially the self image aspect) for ages and I only really connected them with the symptoms of ADHD when I stumbled on pockets of info on the internet (this time around it finally flicked a switch and got me to get my butt in gear!). I’ve struggled so much throughout school and especially in my college life, and I think the only reason why my outcomes are so objectively successful is because 1) I’m really motivated to learn and 2) I’ve had INCREDIBLE support and a nurturing environment. In the mean time while I wait for my appointment I’ve been binging adhd content on RUclips, and I’ve already found so many helpful tools no matter what the outcome of my testing tells me. So thank you for your personal experiences!! It really helps :) p.s. - the salt thing was hilarious. I guess my love for salt really explains it all lol
Thank you so much for this video. I'm 33 and just now trying to get tested for ADHD. I'm seeing a psychiatrist and explaining all of these symptoms I have that you just described here and she isn't taking me seriously, so I'm going to try to look for a specialist instead. This really makes me feel validated and not like an insane lazy pos, so thank you again.
You just described every one of my symptoms, plus many more I could add. Even now while I’m watching this video I have things that I need to get done for tomorrow but I get sidetracked. I always end up doing other things instead of focusing on what needs done. It’s a vicious cycle that I’m unable to control, even when I can realize it.
Omg!!!! I feel so SO validated!!! For years...I thought this is it...this is my life..chaos, distracted all the time...2 million unfinished projects, and wanting to start more...clothes piled everywhere...always ALWAYS late...waiting until the last minute to do absolutely anything...especially paying bills...forgetting literally every single thing, including conversations....totally not calling friends back, or texting and not knowing why... Omg...I am not lazy!! I am not loosing my mind....it has a name!!!! Thank you for this video
I can relate. Almost by 100%. 13:22 Do you find easier to communicate electronically e.g. email/texting than communicating out loud? I'm like this which is why I ask! lol
Not necessarily. I always forget (what a concept) to mention communication throught text and email in my videos when discussing communication. I suck at writing. and spelling. and organizing my thoughts in a text/email that will convey my message to others clearly without over writing or underwriting even. I'll write and rewrite all the time. and debate on if i should send it. delete a message.. start all over. It's a hot mess. Not always though. Mostly with people I don't know well. Here on my platform i feel like I'm with my people...so i don't struggle with replying to comments...if it's not obvious i might lean more towards over replying...i like to reply while i still have the smaller subscriber base and have the ability. I love all ya'll!!!
Again, I completely relate. For me, hitting send on an email gets me anxious these days. Mainly because I've overlooked previous emails or hit send too soon and ugh, it's awful... so now when I feel hesitant about sending an email, I'd get colleagues to check my emails - but - even if they say it's perfect, I'd still feel like the message isn't clear and I'd start overthinking. But I'd rather email than speak to someone verbally. If there are lots to talk about, however, speaking about it verbally seems easier. I guess it all depends on the context. Your channel's a blessing and is keeping me sane about the way my brain works, huge love. Thanks so much for replying!
I prefer communicating face-to-face or through text but I absolutely hate phone calls. Emails are usually fine but they can give me anxiety when I'm having tech problems and the emails are for something work-related or college-related.
@Connor Im the same I will literally just sit and watch my phone ring but not answer it 😂and if I'm having like a heated conversation over the phone I can never get my words out properly but I can write how I feel much better and would rather have the conversation over text if you can relate? Also slow internet and computer problems give me RAGE
I'm just laughing at myself as you list off each thing because I relate so much. You said procrastination and I'm literally procrastinating while watching this video... lmao Then you started listing off the stuff you've quit, and I've done and quit every. single. thing. that you listed. Cat rescue? Quit. Karate as a kid? Quit. Jobs? QUIT. I have to laugh! Edit: also 100% to the salt thing. I will lick up the extra salt off the plate with my finger 🥴
OMG! What really hit home for me is thinking I always have more time than I do! I always start getting ready 30 minutes before I need to leave and manage to always be wondering why I didn’t have enough time for everything I was doing
Loved your video! Yes I do feel validated. I’m 40 years old and can’t believe I’ve struggled for so long without being diagnosed. I’ve seen therapists and Psychologists but until my sister brought the subject up I never thought I might have ADHD. Thank you!
Out of all the videos and articles I’ve read on inattentive adhd, this has to be the best one. I’ve been trying to decide if it’s anxiety, bpd, trauma, genetic, my natural personality, zodiac, sign of the times with distracting technology . I am skeptical to a lot of things but this is the video that has helped me come to terms with the ultimate truth.
You've literally just described my life in almost perfect detail. It's amazing listening to other people with ADD and how similar our issues are. Thanks for sharing.
I can relate to most of this. I OCD about being late so I'm always early to appointments. I do hyperfocus on what I love. Thank you for sharing. Your butterfly painting is beautiful!🦋
Thanks so much for sharing. My psych said I have ADHD a couple of days ago and your video makes a lot of sense. Its so good you put the time in to make this video.
I dropped out from three universities. I change jobs frequently. And I can't hold back my anger or excitement. I'm so depressed because everything I did will result in failures. Like I can guarantee it 100%! I did tried to take my own life several times. And I don't know what to do right now
This fits me like a glove! I also got diagnosed last year at the young age of 31 after I was prompted to look into ADHD. I can really relate to the dropping out of college, emotional issues, motivation. And the salt thing! I think it's because our brains crave stimulation so we need intensity in everything, including our food. I love foods with strong flavors, including stinky cheeses and spicy foods.
GIRL. If my routine gets thrown off I am a MESS. I locked my keys in my car so often for a while that I kept a metal hanger at work in my locker so I could jimmy my door. Then, when I moved towns recently, I left my car lights on... honestly at least 3 times in a few weeks time... the first time was on the first day of my new job. luckily my brother lived close & the other times I got a coworker to jump me. But it's embarassing!!! If you can't tell... I've been thinking about this a lot lately & have been watching your videos today. Thanks for sharing and being open! Holy crap, I'm getting further into this and it's so relatable -- especially in the job and school realm. I think I changed my major about 8 times, left college for a year and a half, transferred about 4 times. I have worked... a LOT of jobs in the last 12 years. I was filling out an application recently (hahaha) and was like... they want me to list ALL of my jobs?? That's a lot! But then I realized... probably not everyone has worked as many jobs as I have in that span of time. I don't even want to talk about how often I've moved haha.
Throughout my high school and college life, I have never been able to manage my time effectively. I remember I would stay up late in the night to finish off school work, and I'd get upset when my mum would question why I wasn't done with my work yet. I would spend hours on one topic of a subject, almost forgetting that I had three other topics to go through. I could never understand how my classmates managed to revise every subject in one day for example and spread their time out evenly. I would procrastinate, but once I really have to I can study for the whole day, allbeit anxiously. I am also very impulsive, which has lead to a life of addiction. Furthermore, when I get an idea I have to do it that day, otherwise that thing will occupy my mind, at the expense of everything else. I'm 21 years old, and these problems don't seem to go away. I haven't been diagnosed, but I relate to these symptoms. I also tend to forget things, and I usually need people to explain things twice to get it. I know it sounds stupid, but sometimes I fear I have dementia. I feel like I need a lot of time to process what people are saying. I don't know how to get diagnosed, as I feel like this aspect of ADHD isn't well known.
wow. thanks so much for sharing. i related and was nodding through everything you were saying...spending too much time on something while other things are pressing.
Watching you is like looking in the mirror…I find you the most relatable out of all the women who talk about their ADHD…thank you for making your videos. It helps to know it’s kind normal to experience all these things…🤗❤
I’ve watched so many of these videos and relate to almost all things said... and I still doubt myself that I may have it... almost like I’m not good enough to have it... madness! 🤯
yeah right..it almost feels like im just lying to myself, that theres no way i actually have it, that im just "doing this for attention" idk this is what my brain tells me.. i relate to all of the symptoms and just search for *one* i dont relate to, to convince myself that im fine..
Literally every word in this video except the last part where you mentioned moving and having over 30 jobs (I’m 24 and I’ve had 6) was EXACTLY LIKE ME AHHH. I’m hoping to get diagnosed soon!
The idea that I could have ADHD never crossed my mind until I was an adult and moved out on my own. Within one year on my own I bought and traded in 8 cars, spent all my savings on phones, game consoles, 3 different TVs (I live alone), decided on a whim I wanted to learn the violin for no reason (spent 8,000 dollars on a violin and bow), got the idea that I wanted to be a master chef and bought a new stove and thousands on cookware and kitchen stuff. I also had most of the symptoms you mentioned, but those are very subtle compared the the absolute mess of financial crisis I've gotten myself in to because of the undiagnosed ADHD. That and the fact that I've never been able to have friends or relationships. I had cycles of depression because I thought I was always going to be alone because I was just so weird. It was a MASSIVE relief to find out why I was like this.
The being late thing is 100% accurate! I'm always late to school run as I look at the clock, think "oh I have 10mins and it takes 3mins to get there so I can unload the dishwasher quick" do the dishwasher and organise the cutlery drawer so its now -3 minutes and I'm late!"
I’m 45 and only in the last few months after doing research have a realised I’ve been so called adhd my whole life ! Everything you said is so me ! Thanks for putting this up ! I know it’s just a name but having a tangible thing or reason for the way I am has really helped me actually!! 🏴 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻thanks again
Thank you so much!!! This video was amazing for understanding that I actually have a lot more symptoms than I realised and I'll be making a doctor's appointment tomorrow! I'm a 31 year old female and never even saw ADHD as a possibility as I assumed it was just something for hyper kids... didn't realise all of the symptoms to do with your hyper mind instead, which is 100% me! Am praying this doesn't get dismissed and one day I'll wake up and not feel the way I have every day since childhood: unmotivated and distracted! Thanks again for taking the time to lay this all out (& for the chapter markers!! 😚👌)
Bit late to the party, but WOW is this relatable! I used to have chronic issues with not being able to sleep; since adulthood and the introduction of coffee, I can sleep without any issues, but I always wake up with plenty of time, rush for a little while, watch 'just a bit' of TV, and almost be late... every day! I worry extensively at work that I'm not good enough and that everyone thinks I'm lazy, and the amount of times I've started a project and not finished it... it's unreal! Thank you, thank you for shining a light on what I never realised was happening. This has started me on a rabbit hole of ADHD videos, and I'm now pretty certain that this is me. Thank you! P.S. I love salt. Maybe this is why I love Marmite so much?
I feel like I pay a lot of attention to my time management. Whenever I have something planned i try really hard to do everything on time to the point where I am finished preparing way to early so I just sit and wait for that thing to happen. So usually I am not late because I really try not to.
Thank you so much for this video. It resonates with me on pretty much every level. Especially the part about how you can end up blaming and hating yourself for not doing all the things you want, or have to, do. Throughout most of my life I have thought I was being lazy, and I didn't understand why. At the same time there was something about the whole thing that made me feel it wasn't really laziness that kept me from doing things, I just didn't have any words for what it could be that caused this problem to rule my life. I have Autism Spectrum Disorder too, but I couldn't find an explanation that relates to that either. As time has gone by - I got my diagnosis when I was in my forties, and I am almost 66 yrs old now - I began to see some patterns that I thought might explain the problem. You see, my life has been a long list of abuse, neglect, abandonment, social isolation, and even demonization. Everything I have ever tried to do, or tried to start doing, has been stopped or taken away from me, so I thought this apparent laziness simply came from a subconscious feeling that nothing I ever do will be completed or allowed to take place no matter how much I try, and I have therefore become worn out, so to speak. But if this was the case, I would find my story repeated in all the videos by you guys, who talk about, describe, and talk about how you are suffering and/or struggling with the very same problem that I know so well, that I have to conclude there is more to it than a life of misfortune. And when I happen to know that I have not only Autism Spectrum Disorder, but also a quite severe ADHD, I think it's fair to assume the reason lies with my personality syndromes (I prefer to not call them disorders because they come out as disorders only because they're poorly understood and integrated in common societal understanding). I hope what I've said here makes sense, and maybe even help another person or two, who recognize what you have described in this video, as well as what I have added in this comment. Whatever the case may be, I wish the best of luck to everybody!! PS. About the salt: I found out that I ate too much salt with my food many years ago, so I weaned myself off from using more salt than necessary, which was good for my health and lowered my blood pressure to the best it can be. I have a tip for everybody about salting the food when you cook: Always use as little salt as possible, and instead of adding it to the food while cooking, put salt on the table like you do with pepper, that way people can add as much salt as they wish.
Diagnosed just one week ago. I’m 31 years old. I relate very much to pretty much all of this. Cannot believe there is a reason for how I’ve felt so different since I was a kid. Constant shame. Struggled w/ low self esteem. Learning to laugh at myself has helped over the last few yrs. The brain to mouth with words is so so frustrating. Not good at being concise or articulate. Always felt so dumb, lazy, crazy - like I must seem so ditzy. Living my life at so much lower level than I know I could be. I do like salt.. a lot.. So amazing to have found out this about myself. This is my brain. Now learning to have grace and kindness for myself. Loove your smelly cat intro ❤️💕 Thank you for your videos 💕❤️ helps go understand and not feel alone.
I have the worse problems with being on time. I do exactly what you said about getting ready and being on time. It is embarrassing to always be late and not understanding how things will always go wrong. I have to set a timer on my phone or I will be much later than normal
I’ve been having a really hard time recently and made an appointment with my dr to talk about my weight issues and medication. I’ve always had a problem with my weight, I’m now 140 lbs overweight, struggle with emotional binge and comfort eating, and IMPULSIVE purchases where I feel like I literally have NO choice, with buying food and literally so many other purchase categories doesn’t help that I’m also stubborn, I’ve also always had the issue ever since I was a little girl with emotions, depression, it’s been flying through the air with therapy and starting medication, I have gotten no where with my life, have so many ambitions and things I want to do, but I CANNOT FOR THE LIFE OF ME get myself to do things consistently even if I WANT to do something, I can’t get myself to do it. Watching you as been a big eye opener. Both of my parents are on medication for anxiety, my dad also for ADHD and my mom on antidepressants so it all very well runs in the family 😬👌 but anyway carrying on, I’ve always had strong depression moments where I couldn’t move, couldn’t talk, just felt empty but the amount I spend in those moments are outweighed by moments where I’m so excited gittery and motivated; and so I never felt like all those down moments weren’t worth medication because it didn’t always seem bad enough because I always bounce back, I have a hard time getting out of bed but once I’m up I relate to not being able to go back down, I’m so exhausted but not physically it’s always mental and I just need a break (break from my current life 🤦🏻♀️), I need that change I’m always in need of more excitement or something going on and I need friends but all the same I can’t bring my motivation to follow up with conversation or being able to focus on other people and learn about them without getting depressed, distracted or wanting to hide (I’m a big introvert with very little confidence) but again ANYWAY thank you so much for your videos it has given me some vision of clarity and more to go off of and consider when I talk to my dr. Ps- I am also a painter looking to start selling my work, and as I’ve scrolled through the other comments I haven’t noticed one person yet complimenting your piece, that’s the very first thing I noticed and it’s BEAUTIFUL, took my breath away. Thank you for sharing you 🙏❤️
I can’t believe what I am hearing. How did you get inside my head??? This is me. My daughter told me she thinks I might have it. I didn’t relate because I thought it was the domain of little boys that never sit still. Then I listened to this. I am picking my jaw up off the floor. A few things don’t seem to fit, but 90% of it fits. Right down to the salt! I’m a new sub.
Thanks for compiling this list of traits, you crystalized each one well. I seem to do ok with time, I'm usually punctual, but it's a conscious effort I try hard at. I have all the rest of the traits mentioned. I have to hand it to my 3rd-grade teacher for recognizing my disorder, 30 years ago.
WOW this is exactly what “i AM”. I got to know just recently by googling that I have INATTENTIVE ADHD or ADD as they still sometimes call it, I’m 53 and I wish I knew it earlier in life but it is what it is so I just have to work on from here and forward, I was always thinking when I were with friends. Why are they complaining when I talk to them and know I understand because I was interrupting them, I didn’t wait for my turn and when I talked it was no stopping me, I just talked and talked and I was also just jumping from subject to subject lol, but now I understand everything about my behaviour, I also couldn’t finish many of my projects, I had difficulty choosing what to study in College or Gymnasium as we say in Sweden, I have also forgot so many things in different places, like keys etc. I have a RUclips channel but again of course I’m asking myself am I going to stick with it or am I going to quit it, I really want to stick with it because I love it and WE ARE good talkers so hopefully it’s going to stick with me, but my channel is with another email, when I wash my laundry I now always try to wash on the last slot because I don’t want anyone to be after me because of the stress I feel that I’m not going to finish in time lol even if it’s 3 hours, I still feel stress about it, actually a strange thought I used to think was, “am I a human and everyone else a robot or the other way around lol” because I was always thinking: What is wrong with me? Why do I forget so easily? Why cannot I finish something I have started, why do I talk so much? Why am I so lazy? But now I understand that it’s not my fault, I was born like this, and that was really a relief, so thanks for sharing HOW WE ARE Millions of roses to you for doing this so people know ‘Who and how and what we are’ Warmest Regards Joakim Abo Ayoob Lindroos
I started crying in 12:02 for the things that you were saying cause i took them personally even tho you literally say that those we're things you say to yourself
Oh my gosh, you will not believe this. I got so excited watching your video that I had to immediately stop watching it on my TV, grab my lap top and write this reply. But, of course, I couldn't find my glasses, which I just had like 3 minutes ago and I did the room to room sweep to see if I could find them but it was one of those unsuccessful recovery missions and now I'm in "I will find them one day" mode. I lost my Apple Watch twice in the last year and found it this weekend and lost it again yesterday. Love that Apple Watch when it's not lost. Anyway, just want to say I love you. (Not in a relationship way), but in a, OMG she's the female me way. Everything you go through, or talk about is something I identify with. I am so fortunate to be alive. I have taken so much risk, especially when younger. Impulsive has my pic next to it in the dictionary. I have had over 100 jobs. I have used a lot of drugs but not in my current life. My 20's were filled with risk both with drugs and a lot of sex. I quit everything.Usually right before I am about to get certified, or reach a goal. I have shadows of success in so many areas of my life, but never the recognition I could have had if I had stayed with it. I LOVE SALT. I put way too much SALT on everything. I do cook amazing, but I do love more salt than the average Joe as well. Also, I just went t o the bathroom and lost my glasses again. But I found them. Girl, your laundry list is my miracle drug. I absolutely love listening to you. I feel this incredible relating to you. Full eye contact never works for me. I know what the person is saying is very important, but I just did not hear a word of what they said and played it off real good because it has been happening since I was a fetus. Hyper focus. You tube is a curse for me because of the amount of interesting topics of interest to me. I waste most of my life watching RUclips. It's an absolute depressing curse that is consuming my days like no one would even believe but I am caught in this addiction and let me tell you, I can flip through topics for hours. It's not like it's a waste of time to me either because everything I watch is on learning. It's not like a porn addiction, which I do not have because of my faith and marriage, but it is something that has me hooked. Girl, I can zone out until my butt is aching from the chair and my spine is throbbing from sitting in the same position for so long. It's something I learned from YOU that can be attributed to my disorder. Wow. I am THE most horrible time manager on planet earth, holding the Guinness book of world records. As a child, the constant in the comment section on my report cards was, "Does not make good use of time." As if I could help it. But yes. I've been called names since childhood because of my condition, and if I could destroy all clocks, calendars and sun dials on earth I would. I want to be free to do what I want to do. I don't want to be told I am wasting time. I'm having fun, leave me alone. Or, I'm in my zone, get away from me. Thats how it feels. You just want to be left alone to your zone. You just want to be left alone to your procrastinating self. I'll get to it when I get to it. I will get to it. later. Later! I SAID LATER! And if anyone tries to rush me, watch out because it makes me feel like snapping. LOL It doesn't matter anyway because I can never get finished with anything in my life, so what the heck man! In high school, I was constantly in detention because I had to get my hair perfect in the mornings with my mother yelling at me that I was nothing but a pretty boy and how it was time to go. No, Mom. No. My hair has to be perfect. Don't you understand the image thing? Call me all the names you want. I will get there late, I will get there though and I will have attention from the girls and I will look good. Yes I will go to detention again this afternoon but I don't care because there are some cute girls in detention, I like it. Organization: I hate calendars, apps, folding clothes, hanging things up. These are all painful to me and that's not an exaggeration. I feel like I'm coming undone when I have to hang up my stuff. I throw my stuff on the chair. I will hang it up eventually but when I feel like doing it. I have the greatest ideas of all mankind, but have never been able to harness all of the greatness inside of me to put it into concreteness.Right now, my punching heavy bag is in my living room with my bike. My skateboards are on my living room chair. my seats to my van are in the corner. My weight bench, weights and winemaking materials are all here in this room. And I don't care. It's how I roll. Is it organized. No. You want it organized? You do it. I'm fine with that but don't ask me to do it. And believe me, if I wanted to organize I would and my job would be better than anyone else. I have laser focus when I want to. I just don't want to. So...deal with it! And I am NOT going minimalist for anyone! Procrastination: World Record. Crown me King. It will get done. Later. Impulse: World record. Depression: Constant Aggrivation: King. Tension: Yes, and I need relief. Bad. Constantly. Since childhood. Feeling gross about myself. Yes. even though I'm handsome and in shape. Motivation: 3 months of RUclips. Need to walk, but don't. Will do it tomorrow. Tomorrow. tomorrow. 3 marriages and multiple, multiple, multiple, multiple girlfriends. Some were on a lazy Susan. Anxiety is not bad because of my faith. I have learned. Sometimes I get it but I have really matured. Anyway, to you, female me, love you with understanding and identifying. God bless you. I'm going shopping to buy something. I cannot afford. LOL. OMG keep me away from amazon.
A beautiful painting Ardelle! And a perfect summery of "symptoms" . Its so recognizable that its a bit odd for me that there are people just like me, which makes me feel a bit less of an oddball ..lol And yes we are easy insalted 😂 thanks for the video A. xo
the insalted pun....omg! How did i not think of that!!! amazing. ahahaa and thanks for sharing your thoughts. it helps me know i'm not the only oddball as well...
I don't comments much on videos like there however, I had researched a LOT on Adult ADHD and this video is like hearing my life twin speak. This is completely my life and symptoms to a T. I am 35 and I've known for a while something was different about me. I have an appointment coming up, hopefully I can get some answers and help that will make my life easier.
Ah man I’ve been watching your videos and boy has it opened my eyes to myself.. I am going to finally get my associates after changing my degree 5 times.. and truly thinking “yep, this time ill be so passionate that I will succeed!” My biggest problem is time management. I struggle so much with being late and it’s incredibly embarrassing even if I give myself way extra time, I somehow still end up being late. I hate that I know others see me as just not caring or being disorganized. the only time I can actually get things done reliably is if I’m under an enormous amount of stress, and every day is just panic/losing my keys etc. I had dyslexia as a kid which went undiagnosed because I was homeschooled for so long but now that my nephew has dyslexia and his writing looks like my childhood writing.. the only time in my life that I’ve been able to get school done and sit and focus was when I had Hadhimoto’s disease (undiagnosed) as a kid, and the side effect is having severe lethargy, so yes I could sit still but I never had every and was depressed 😬 You know you have a problem tho when you look back pleasantly on that time bc you could sit focus easier. As a kid I started failing classes in seventh grade and it wasn’t for lack of trying, I’m very creative so it was so frustrating to not be able to succeed when trying, it became easier to just not care because at least it’s less painful. I think this is where the dyslexia comes in because math and science especially, I have always struggled with and just the general school system I really struggle with due dates and all of high school I was so bored, and since I was a child I have been cycling through different periods of depression. It’s just frustrating because it seems like other people don’t seem to struggle with studying the way I do, the farther I fall behind the more stressful it becomes and harder it becomes to sit down and focus. I’ve always had low self esteem and have always been socially awkward (or maybe not) but I felt like I was, even as an adult I’ve been called eccentric and lazy or told to grow up and try harder and i really want to succeed but I can’t run away with myself. It’s hard to even let myself think I could have adhd bc I keep thinking that I’m using this or depression or anxiety as a crutch when I should just be more disciplined. Sorry for the long message 😬 thank you so much for sharing your experiences and story bc it’s been so affirming!
@@Fadwaspiritual I think knowing you have it as you embark on life (much earlier than I) will help you immensely to narrow down better job types and also medications should make life easier.
I’m 57 too, 58 in August. Growing up is seriously overrated...stay mentally young, change career as often as you like. It keeps us interesting and interested. Curiosity, passion, the gaining of new experiences, the addition of knowledge, meeting new and interesting people, etc. There are so many positives to this condition; like everything in life, there are negatives, but there are massive benefits too 🌈😘 xxxx
Omg...this is so me I can’t even...I’m so overwhelmed with life right now at 41. I’ve suffered with anxiety and depression my whole life and then finally listening to adult adhd topics and finding out this may have been my issues my whole life...now I’m overwhelmed with how to deal with it!? 🥴 I even thought, maybe I’m autistic or something because of how I handle things that are out of my control!? This girl is reading my life piece by piece...
My phone was in the freezer for over a month. I put it in there as I put groceries away. Didn't find it until the next time. Who puts their phone in the freezer?!
I uhhhhhhhhhhhhh didnt realize that all of this stuff would hit so hard. I've frequently had the thought that I could possibly have ADHD, and as a woman obviously it's harder to diagnose with us, but just. I've finally looked into this for the past week or so and it's kind of a lot to process, that almost everything that I hate about myself and almost everything that's negatively affected me or my life can be attributed to this? And I know I obviously cant blame ADHD for literally everything that's ever gone wrong, but looking back on my personal relationships, with others and myself, and schooling, and the fact that I dropped out of high school 3 times and havent even attempted college yet because I dont think I'd be able to keep up with everyone else and actually be able to do the work, is really frustrating. I feel as if 20 years of my life have kind of. Hm, not been stolen from me, but almost. I just wish that I had been able to catch this earlier and then maybe I would be more successful than I am now, maybe I wouldnt have messed up everything as much as I have. I know I'm not stupid, I catch on to things very quickly and I enjoy learning, but just. As soon as it's something I /have / to learn or do, I just. Cant. And that sucks. Also the memory thing is,,,,, making a lot of sense. I also have depression and PTSD, so I dont remember the vast majority if my childhood and I always blamed those two things on the fact that I could be having a conversation for hours and forget what we were talking about quite literally every minute or two. I also find myself zoning out when I'm speaking and then when I tune back in, I cant remember at all what I was talking about, not even the subject, and I'll cut myself off midway through a sentence foreword just because I cant at all remember what on earth I was saying. Do you know if that's a part of ADHD, or something else? I dont really know why I'm typing this out, maybe just cause I havent told anyone yet and this is literally life changing for me, I guess it's just cathartic. I'm sure you wont read this whole thing, but if you do end up making it down to the bottom, thank you for putting content out there for people, particularly women, who deal with this. Hearing that it's not just me being stupid and useless, and might just be something out of my control helps, and knowing that other people have struggled with all of the same things that have taken over my life and they're able to live with it is nice to hear. Thank you for making this ❤
Well, I know I relate to just about everything you said, but true to form I will have to watch it again because I've already forgotten most of it! :D It's funny, little things like losing my keys were never a problem for me but I see now that my ADHD gave me such a high anxiety state that I was paranoid about things like that. Like, I needed a get-away car and if I lost my keys I'd be stuck wherever I was. My first panic attack was at age 18 and until this diagnosis, anxiety seemed like the reason behind all of my 'failures'. I wish I had been diagnosed as a child. But at the same time, my experience has taught me the power and practicality of the Bible's message. I only bring that up because I know the Bible is important to you as well. My favorite scripture has always been Psalm 73:26- 'My body and my heart may fail, but God is the rock of my heart and my portion forever.' That means even more to me now because Jehovah God knew all along what I was fighting, even though I didn't. Even in my worst moments he has never abandoned me and I am so eternally grateful. At times my body and my heart do fail me, but he never does! PS the salt thing---totally! Given a choice I'll take the bag of chips over the chocolate any day---if it's a non-keto day that is!
I love that scripture. Thanks so much for sharing all that you share! Ill be saving that one. Makes me also think of “boasting in our weakness.” Or something to that effect in 2 Cor 12:9z Gods power is made perfect in our weakness. Crazy your mom has it and maybe your dad. Yeah...I too would have loved an earlier diagnosis but grateful i got one at all. And yes!!! You love salt!!!!😜 team salt all the way!
@@ArdelleVision lol yeah I took another look and I'm like, hmmm maybe I overshared again....let's just delete some things. Too bad there's no edit button for irl convos! I love the scripture you mentioned too. 'I will boast about my weaknesses, in order that the power of the Christ may remain over me like a tent.' Our faults remind us of why Jesus died for us. More reason for deep appreciation! Thanks for reminding me of that thought today! We'll be observing the memorial of Christ's death tonight so it's a good way to start the day. Take care and I look forward to your next video :D
im SO SO impulsive, I literalyl DIDNT EVEN WANT A SECOND PIERCING but i wanted it for two minutes so i got a sewing needle and did it, I DIDNT EVEN HAVE AN EARRING
You seem to understand everything about me. Finding out at age 50 I feel nobody around even thinks its real. Think I am going to just not talk about it ever. Adhd not me
The worst part about it for me as a 27 year guy who is supposed to steady and consistent, it’s cost me jobs, the relationship I thought would be the one, distanced me from old friends and slowed down making new ones (at least close ones). My waaaay too much obsessive knowledge about topics I’ve study-binged on and excitement have made people feel overwhelmed during convos ( I see their faces change as I talk). Even this comment won’t be very organized or coherent. People always tell me that I’m so knowledgeable and smart and I could do anything but I never stick with anything. I’ve started and gotten ok at a million different hobbies. I’ve purchased so many specialized tools and equipment for things I’ll never get back to and finish. It’s shameful. I’ve stopped telling people about things I’m going to do or get into because I see that they don’t believe me anymore. I went to 4 different colleges and have majored in audio production, graphic design, computer networking/system administration, history, systematic theology, and welding. I still don’t have a degree. I haven’t advanced far in any field in any job. I’m a shooting star, I burn so brightly and progress so much; everyone is impressed by my speed and passion as I work my butt off, but only for a few months or maybe a year before I move on and only that long because I enslave myself to what it pays. I focus so hard on things, yet they are never the things I need to do. I’m so tired of it. I was diagnosed as a kid and as an adult but was only treated for a bit. It’s hard to make myself keep going to the doctor or to even pick up a prescription. Depression hasn’t helped that either. It’s 4 am while I’m typing this and I’m only a few minutes into the video. Tomorrow, I’m definitely going to get an appointment and get meds again and get my life back on track (lol welcome to my late-night-disappointed-by-myself thoughts). Maybe I’ll get an appointment, not go, and then ignore the phone calls telling me I missed it and be ashamed that I didn’t make myself go. I’ll suppress those thoughts until I’ve lost myself in something else. I’ll play a game or watch 300 videos of British people reacting to what my home state of Texas is really like and forget about the doctor all together. The shame will still be there but I won’t focus on why. Suddenly it will be 4 am the next day and I still didn’t do the dishes or mow the lawn or get my car inspected or get the mail or call my mom back or walk my dog or air up that tire. I’ll feel like crap about that until the next day and maybe I’ll call the doctor again to get an appointment (this time, a different one because I’m embarrassed that I didn’t show up to the last). Just rambling but I’ve really let this take over my life. Thanks for making this video. Im going to subscribe so maybe I won’t forget about working on this. Thanks for putting yourself out there like this. 5th edit or so: Just finished watching your video and the salt thing!!! Yessss!! I cook a lot and I’ve been accused of over salting so many times. I’ve gotten to the point where I use seasonings that have no salt so I can put a ton on and salt my own portion like crazy later but still have all the spices. I wonder if it’s a thing where we love to go all out and overstimulate ourselves.
Oh my gosh- you just explained why I continuously sabotage like every situation in my life and I’m left thinking- what just happened here 🤔 Related to EVERYTHING, I’m nodding intently… but then lost me at the the salt 😂 I was like yes, yes, oh my gosh yes- then heard 20 and was like nope don’t have ADHD 😂😂 . Thank you so much for this video, I feel a little less “messy and crazy” knowing I just might be able to navigate this with direction instead of being mentally spread and wondering what’s wrong with me as I try to do 12 million of my responsibilities probably irritating the heck out of anyone who is relying on me to just do things right.
I totally get the part about the diagnosis feeling validating. You always have this suspicion that the problems you have with very basic things aren't entirely up to trying hard enough or not, but you can't believe there is a valid explanation... until there is!
YES!!! The salt thing for me is so real. I put some...take a bite...put a little more...Perfect...eat some of my food...crap! The next layer needs more salt!!! Yeah...I it gets interesting in front of people
You got me with the salt thing. Life always seems like a burden tbh. Always looking for stimulation, difficulty starting things, its like my brain has to switch modes to start a task. Going from low resistance path (daydreaming and carefree, self talk) to the high resistance task mode. Like a half broken car struggling to fire up, overwhelming cognitive resistance to starting. Both modes cannot operate as one, either carefree mode or high cognitive function to do a task. But being relaxed and still completing a task like a normal human being, hell no. Either a 6 hour binge into a task or nothing. You finish something minor you put off for 296 days and you go like “wow this was easy why did I procrastinate that much. I won’t again”. Then you procrastinate again like a king. The best part is when people talk to me and I just answer questions like it’s an interview without reciprocating conversation.
LOL the cat starts the show! 😹 Oh boy, I have it and just like you, I couldn't get anything together. My Mom always said I was "scattered" which means perfect sense as having been diagnosed later in life. Yes easily distracted..look! >🐿️< Oh and I still haven't finished painting the kitchen!! 😅😳 And getting in the car, going down the road and oh yeah! I forgot something (very important!) I'm just relating to EVERYTHING you're saying! 😭 I also hide the really important stuff. So well, that I forget where I put it! *Creates another tornado in the house looking for it* SHOPAHOLIC here.🙄 Now I have fingers cramp, so I'm just gonna listen and agree with everything else you're saying! 🙋🙏
"Now I have fingers cramp, so I'm just gonna listen and agree with everything else you're saying! 🙋🙏" OMG!!!!! HAHAHAHA I love this last line...because i feel it so much. Watching ADHD videos with a constant nodding of the head...thinking yup! That me! The distasters we create externally because the chaos in our minds...oh it is hilarious! AHAHAAH Glad you appreciate the cat. She is constantly "going" at the most inopportune times for me. It's like she knows...
I am being tested for adhd next month. I relate to 99% of the symptoms you talked about. I salt most everything, which I had no idea was common with adhd. The procrastination is a huge problem for me. In my art studio, I ask for a deadline. Otherwise it takes an awful long time to complete a painting. In this video, you give me hope that I'm not always going to feel like a bumblehead 😊
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Oh man... I am relating to this soooo hard. All of this.
Only I am not a saltoholic, because my mom (who I suspect also has ADHD) would always forget to put salt in the food, which resulted in me not acquiring a strong salt taste. But, I love chips!
TheVaultdweller yum... now I want chips.🤗
Love your videos, I'm on a rampage
OMG you just described me. I feel like you are my sister. My son took me through hell with adhd. He was diagnosed at 7. I am so glad i went through that with him without any of my symptoms getting in the way of becoming his biggest cheer leader and #1 advocate to fight fkr what he needed. I was damn good at it too. IEP meetings wete shocked of my knowledge. I educated myself. Looking back I now see when i was young why I went through so much. You are awesome. I am 49 and on medicine but still stuggle. Not an official diagnosis but i wanted to cry watching your viseo because you described me like you knew me. I had alot of support with my son which is key but there is still alot of ignorance going on. I kept getting in debt with my rent, spending profoundly knowing I had to pay rent. Some many times got eviction letters and got bailed out. I kept saying okay I wont ever get into this again. Then I'm in court again because I hadn't paid rent in 5 months and had no idea of what the money was used for. So with this said I gotta start my youtube channel because it's something I wanna do but fear of looking stupid because I lose train of thought or cannot remember words embarrass me. I know a diagnosis will get me proper treatment instead of just medicine given to me from a psychiatrist who cannot diagnose me but due to my son having it and my symptoms it is obvious. I will be following and will let you know when I start. I guess bullet points and notes will help me. I have so much confidence when I know for a fact I'm prepared.
I relate to a lot of this! I also love salt! I’m going to keep watching your videos! Thank you!! 💜✨
1. Easily distracted ✅
2. Hyper focus ✅
3. Mismanagement ✅
4. Disorganized ✅
5. Procrastination ✅
6. Forgetful ✅
7. Impulsive ✅
8. Emotional issues( depression, sadness, rage, anxiety)
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9. Low self esteem ✅
10. Hard time communicating ✅
11. Lack of motivation ✅
12. Quitter ✅
13. Restlessness and anxiety ✅
14. Sleep issues ✅
15. Substance abuse✅
16. Relationship issues ✅
17. Few career achievements ✅
18. Like salt ✅
Yup definitely ADHD
Like being slapped in the face with a mirror. called the doctors office today. supposed to be putting myself on the wait list rn, instead I am here.
I’m impressed you were able to write down all of her points. I couldn’t because I had a hard time focusing on her! So thanks for your efforts!
I relate to all of them but I was told I’m bipolar
@@everclearr You could have both, from research I’ve done (from medical books-not the internet) it is not unusual to have both…I do. And am treated for both-talk to your dr.
Dang I have every single one except sleep issues. I think I need to see a doctor...
Omg, the time tracking thing - I loose a SOLID 10-20 minutes in the shower, every morning. Have done for as long as I can remember, this is probably why!
i wonder how much time i've lost doing mindless things....oh my geez.
Omg same! I lose time doing everything. I set my alarm earlier and earlier to compensate but my brain keeps adding to my lost time.
Complete time blindness can tell the time but do not have an internal clock cannot estimate how much time tasks take
@@Dancestar1981 same here
@@CallMeAsh273 weird I can get to where i need to be on time, but the rest of the day no time management at all
does anyone else have a thing where, if an inconvenience happens or you yourself are incompetent at something, you fall into a depressive spiral and hit rock bottom really quick, and contemplate su**ide? then you get out of this hole, something else happens, and you fall back in... it's a constant cycle.
I'm not sure if this is because of c-ptsd, adhd or both. I need a therapist lmao ;-;
Yup. Happened to me yesterday. Had a higher up at work tell me I’m lazy and doing below the bare minimum and not taking initiative. I shut down, cried, drank alcohol, went to bed then woke up at 3am pondering my existence. The phrase I kept thinking was “If I’m so lazy, why was I even put on earth?” I got to work extra early today, took initiative out of spite, lasted for about 3-4hrs and now I’m fine 🤷🏾♀️
Definitely sounds like ADHD and Depression together
Yes this happens to me really quick x
All the frickin' time.
Yup.
I'm in tears just thinking about the list of failures, mess-ups, embarrassment, and just feeling like why?? Why?? Why can't I get my shit together? My planner actually used, not 20 different cute notebooks; and let's not forget that extra planner that was too cute you couldn't not buy it. Gezzum, I already know that I have it, I too found out when I was like 29, 30, maybe 31. Anyway I turned 39 yesterday and I kept telling myself, "this is the year!" Your going to take hold of the disorder, get rid of all this random why must I own this stuff. I just want like 2 duffel bags and a trunk...maybe one suitcase...and a hat box. But that's it! I don't want to carry this weight all around me and in my head.
Thank you for putting together such a concise, say it like it is video with the symptoms listed below! I know I will write this in one of sed planners or notebooks lol! ;)
New Sub, really happy to find someone who understands. It really is a lot. People who don't have it don't understand the shame and humiliation, and guilt. I'm not sticking with just that aspect, but it is a great part that does need to be addressed with the ADHD-er.
I'm such a dork. Lol! Thanks
I'm an artist too, and I'm always amazed by how easily I can spend all day painting when it's so difficult to focus on anything else.
Sooo true! I’m considering just quitting everything that doesn’t draw my focus on that way. Then I’ll always be focused...hopefully. 😂
I cant even finish my drawinggg 😭
I'm a 17 year old girl, and watching your ADHD in girls video led me to this one, and I relate to almost every single symptom you've described. I feel like I didn't have as much trouble as a kid, but I've always been extremely spacey, slow at getting work done, and easily overwhelmed. I've had this feeling that something is wrong with me because I can't get my act together and can't get motivated to do anything. Especially with the pandemic, I've been so understimulated and feeling hopeless. My grades are dropping with online school; I can't convince myself to get things done at home. Thank you so much for this video! I want to talk to my parents about this but I'm worried it's just me being spoiled, lazy, or addicted to my phone. Like me imagining getting tested and being told that I don't have it and just suck at life scares me...my self esteem can't take it :(
YES IM RIGHT WITH YOU!!!
I’m right here with you too! I’m 19 and literally failed a whole year of high school, having ADHD would explain a lot for me. I have an appointment to look into a diagnosis very soon so I’m terrified too! It’s definitely worth talking to your parents and a doctor! It’s scary as all heck but it could make all the difference for you! Good luck!
This is literally me to a T! The only symptom in this video I didn't relate was substance abuse but I do have trouble with over eating 🤦🏻♀️
I relate to this so much omg
@@milliescadding9852 I have been reading that eating disorders often are a manifestation as well. Not diagnosing you!! At all. But I definitely believe that IF i have ADHD... it manifested in eating for me, too. And so far... a lot of these symptoms are resonating. I have never even spent time looking into ADHD because of the way it's portrayed with like, hyper kids.
Me, yesterday: So what do you think?
Ardelle: Could you repeat the part where you said all the stuff?
Yo Samdy Sam omg haha me in a nutshell!😂
I do this to my husband all the time the poor man 😭
Can you repeat all the stuff, now that bit I get!
I've been late so many times it's a personality trait at this point. Exactly 15 minutes late to everything. Should I just leave 15 minutes earlier? Well yes but actually no
how do you even leave 15 minutes earlier, how is it done precisely?
One of my closest friends likes to tell people about me, "She will be late to her own funeral!"
More like hive yourself more than an extra 2 hrs to rule out possibility of being late
@@jomama9075 my mum said this to me for years now she’s sorry for it
LOL 15 minutes is my average as well. Only way Im on time is if traffic is magically not a thing that day.
The HYPERFOCUSING. This is what I was wanting you to talk about.... when you spoke about painting for 11 hours I HEAR THAT!!!! I'm a crafter too, and once I get going I can go for hours and hours.... or at the moment Animal Crossing takes up a lot of my time because I can ESCAPE for hours and hours.... and as you said, it leads into not managing time well at all....... over estimating how long something is gonna take.... you are preaching to the choir here gurl....I find you so relatable!!
I’m so glad you relate! Yes! Hours of one things and putting off what I should be doing..aka responsibilities vs the fun stuff. I love art..but I also have to make sure my priorities are straight. Managing this can be a challenge! The more I’ve been aware of this I get better at it...but I do miss the mark. I keep hearing about Animal Crossings! I need to check it out..or it might be a dangerous trap for my adhd 😆
@@ArdelleVision I find it hard to manage my priorities big time... and Animal Crossing is great but dangerous for ADHD hahaha!
Yessssss! If I’m in the middle of a thing, it’s impossible to pull me out of it.
Most recent example: Hubby and I just bought a house. We bought samples for paint colors. I was just going to put a little on the wall (like you’re supposed to) and before I knew it, I’d done half the wall by the time my husband practically snatched the brush out of my hand to stop me. BUT I STILL HAVE PAINT AND I HAVE CHOSEN THIS COLOR JUST LET ME FINISH IT.
Yes!!!!!!! I’m in the midst of getting diagnosed and I haven’t skipped a day of playing Animal Crossing since the game came out. I can play it for hours and hours on end and most of my friends don’t get why I still love it
@@gabriellaberman I was the same till I hit a pretty low point in my life and just couldn't bring myself to do anything, but I DEFINITELY obsessed over it for the most part of the year and didn't skip a day!
I don't struggle to fall asleep I just struggle with waking up no matter how long I've slept :(
I relate to EVERYTHING you shared here. No formal diagnosis yet. Im a male 67yo veteran, had a 30yr career with nothing to show. Im a college drop-out, and my life is a mess... except for my 6 wonderful grandkids who all love me as I am.... this one brightness keeps me going. Your video is a revelation for me and has given me the courage to seek help through the Veterans Healthcare system. Thanks so much and may God bless you for all you do!
THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE! I am glad my video helped! I hope you get the help you need and deserve through the Veterans Healthcare system. ANd wow! 6 grandkids!!! what a blessing!
I'm yelling at the computer like " YES! YES SOMEONE UNDERSTANDS I AM VALIDATED"
yes!!! Glad you feel validated!!!!!
This is exactly how I feel right now
What she said!!👆🏻
Same!
Yessss...I’m the late one 😆
I'm still trying to figure out when i get distracted when someone is talking if it's ADHD or if the person or subject is just really boring and i would rather be somewhere else. I try to be polite and act interested so i don't hurt their feelings but perhaps that is the ' people pleaser ' in me which is another subject all together....Another mystery for me to ponder....
george potter ‘tis a mystery indeed. That is an interesting point though.🤔 I find myself zoning out when I should be paying attention… And I have to have people repeat themselves more than need be😬
I literally zoned out of the video as soon as I saw this comment lmao.
Honestly, I'm just glad you can rewind yt videos.
well apparently the inability to focus on things that you find really boring is part of the disorder, so it sounds like it might be both! 😂
That in itself can be an ADHD symptom
"you feel like you live right off the highway... In reality you live 15 minutes from the highway". I cannot even explain how much I relate to this.
Also that describes to a T every morning for me ever.
I wish all my checklists were so easy to tick off.
haha i know i've left out more...I thought of you when creating this video and realize i meant to put the "list" in the comment section because I know it helps! and my computer doesn't always wanna work when editing....so adding text is hard. I'll go do that now...If i stay on task!!! AHAHA thanks for always sharing your thoughts.
@@ArdelleVision Life can be hard :D ... Thank you!!
Rewinded and zoned out of this video like 14 times...but soo true...😂
Man, I've been watching a bunch of videos like this and a lot of the things said resonate so much I tear up a bit. I scheduled an appointment in 2 days but now I'm just afraid that I don't actually have ADHD and I'm just a low tier human 😭
I feel this.
That’s my fear. How are you?
@@luvmelove5742 Im okay. Turns out I dont have ADHD. After my assessment the consensus was that I am depressed with the possibility of having bipolar
@@evero8375 I really should get assessed. Wish you the best. 🙏🏼
I’m about to turn 31 and realizing how much ADHD has affected me. I’m glad all these teen commenters are here now learning this stuff. I beat myself up hard thinking I’m a lazy underachiever who missed the boat after being decently successful in high school and really struggling ever since. Thank you for making these videos.
Does anyone else struggle with memories of the past? I’m thinking it’s because I struggle to concentrate on being ‘in the moment’!
When I get depressed or feel anxiety I get flooded with memories and they are so real I feel like I'm there again, completely zoned out of what I'm doing.
I do too. I don't remember much of my childhood or even if these symptoms are recent or of they've been there forever. I'll think I'm doing something/feeling a certain way/acting a certain way for the first time and my mom will tell me I used to do/be/feel that way all the time. I remember being told I had no/ little common sense a lot and that I didn't pay a lot of attention to things. I also remember my mom saying I was the drama child of the family. Very over dramatic about everything. I'm not diagnosed but there was one point in my past when a teacher thought I might have it but my mom said she just never took me to a doctor for it. I did go to therapy when I was a teen but I don't believe they diagnosed me with anything. Just chatted and tried to help with any things I was dealing with at that time.
Edit: I'm diagnosed now.
You. Know its hard to remember things from mi past and if i remember there desorganized mmm i guess thats how are brain work
I feel like my long-term memory is as good as my working memory is lousy. I can literally just think about a childhood memory and feel like I am two years old again but when it comes to remembering where I put my glasses I’m like “what?”
@@SamanthaEcho yes! My childhood memories are limited, but the ones I do have are frozen in time, clear as a bell!
I'm 58 and undiagnosed, but everything you say describes me, even the salt. I'm so sick of facing the same failures over and over again.
yeah, it's not a fun feeling. I have gotten better the more i learn about myself. I still have my moments of stumbling forward but I'm glad to at least know what I am dealing with!
I have ADHD, I had it all my life but it didn’t really peak or get noticed until I was an adult. I’m 56, ADHD, wasn’t really a “thing” Yet when I was growing up. So I always blamed myself for not being quite “Up to Par” like everyone else, and I just needed to give myself a kick in the butt. As I got older it turned into HUGE ANXIETY and even PANIC ATTACKS at times. Having finally been diagnosed and doing much reading and watching informative videos, like yours, makes me feel so much better. I can relayed to so much of this! Please, if you feel as though you could have ADHD, just talk to your doctor, get tested. Knowing yourself and why things are more difficult for you is the first step to finding small ways to improve your quality of life, but also not to blame yourself. I would love to see where the salt fits in, I’m a salt freak! ❤️
Yup, I was not diagnosed till in my 50’s and only then because I was searching for information to learn more about my grandson’s diagnosis.
I’m laughing so hard and crying because everything you side was me and I do. I’m so happy some one feels the same way
Me too I was the same lol
The fact that I relate to every last thing you said, I’m literally in tears!! 😭 I’m not diagnosed, and for so long I just always felt like something was seriously wrong me. My youngest brother was diagnosed with ADHD at a young age, and it was just never anything that anyone picked up with me- since I was always so “well behaved, especially in class.” I’m 27 now, and I just wish I had known sooner... it all makes so much sense now.
Thanks so much for this video. For your content! I've had ADD (without the HD) my whole life. I was diagnosed with severe attention deficit at standford when i was a small child and basically failed my whole way through grade school until dropping out in 10th grade. I finally got my GED and then went on to start, own, and manage 2 businesses with a team of employees who rely on me to focus and manage my responsibilities. To anyone who feels like they are worthless or incapable of being successful despite wanting to be focused or motivated, get a real diagnosis and if you have ADD / HD, allow that to be okay, medicate or manage it, and relearn to live life with it. For me, not managing my ADD with meds is a recipe for literal failure and disaster in every facet of my life. I literally cannot function without it and even basic things that others do without thinking. Are absolutely impossible. If you have ADHD / ADD, dont fight it or deny it. Just take control of it and stop holding yourself to a standard that others or the world have set for you. Dont judge yourself for your struggles or accomplishments so far. Treat and manage your ADD with meds and therapy and redefine your life. You're like capable of so much more than you think and its okay for your processes to look different than the norm.
I was already on board from the beginning when you said "I knew I was trying in life but things were always so challenging and I didn't know why". Just spot on LOL.
That painting is fire 🎉😂
I just want to say a massive THANK YOU! At Christmas, my sister told me she thought I was autistic, and getting help could solve a lot of problems and questions I have. I have always felt different and knew my brain worked in roundabout ways. Carrying shame around with me and stopping myself doing social things, because the backlash of anxiety isn’t worth it. Since finding your channel, I have felt a HUGE sense a relief! Even the way you word yourself; it feels like you’re speaking from my brain!! I have finally got an ADHD assessment booked in for this week. Hopefully I get this sorted, but if not I just want to say thank you for sharing your experiences and thoughts. It’s helped me SO much! X
Sadie Levett omg! This made my day. I love when people get me. The way I talk. The way I am. It makes me feel just as understood as I hope everyone else feels when finding my videos. 🤗 that’s my hope. To bring awareness and acceptance...and a belief that we can be something more than we thought we could. I relate to a lot of what you say. Thanks for sharing and I hope everything goes good with your assessment!
I'd like to second that. It feels incredible to find people talking about what you are going through - in detail! I am finally starting to be kind to my self - praise god
How did your assessment go?
you put into words what ive struggled with my whole life, im embarrased to say i cried while wathcing this,. i literally understood every singe thing, except the salt thing lol. now i need to find help.
You basically describe my life so far😂. I recently got diagnosed and I think it's crazy how many ADHD'ers have the similar life story of quiting and failing, anxiety, and all the other things you talked about. And I'm sure not all them do, but it blew my mind a lot of us similar life experiences. It's good to know because I don't have to be so hard on my self and let other emotions get the best of me. I do the salt thing too!
Anyways, good informative and entertaining video, keep up the good work 👍🏼.
Juan Valdez yay! entertaining information! That’s my hope and goal. Yeah...it’s crazy how many of us can relate...learning about it has released so much of my self hate. I Don’t judge myself nearly as much as I used to… I try to get better every day excepting myself for who I am.
Juan Valdez and I love that you do the salt thing ahaha
I have always been yelled at for how much salt I eat.. I’m 41 yr old male and I’ve had a lot of set backs in life I do great for awhile then everything falls apart i get super depressed and start using drugs again and then ended up in prison I’m out now was doing good again then had heart attack had triple bypass surgery and haven’t been able to work since and haven’t had income in almost a year and my fiancé had got pregnant rt before heart attack we were very happy but then all this happened and now I got beautiful newborn daughter but I’m still not able to get outta this depressed feeling and useless feeling idk I can’t seem to get dr who can figure me out but I feel like I’m at the end of the road if I don’t get it figured out. I also have been diagnosed with anxiety and ptsd I’m only prescribed Xanax but there is something else I just can’t seem to explain I’m lost and I’m feeling like everyone would be better off without me I’ve so many times been doing good in life and screw it up and just quit jobs or walk away from relationship idk what’s wrong. I also have 8 year old who is autistic
Me too with the salt- I also tend to add lemon to things that don’t even “need” lemon. I LOVE it. 🍋
Omg lemon!!! Same!!! On watermelon...yum😝
SALT!!!! story of my life!!! omg 😳
when I was little I used to add sugar to everything I ate, even rice
I’m (triumphantly!) going through the process of finally getting tested for ADHD. I’ve had all of these symptoms (especially the self image aspect) for ages and I only really connected them with the symptoms of ADHD when I stumbled on pockets of info on the internet (this time around it finally flicked a switch and got me to get my butt in gear!). I’ve struggled so much throughout school and especially in my college life, and I think the only reason why my outcomes are so objectively successful is because 1) I’m really motivated to learn and 2) I’ve had INCREDIBLE support and a nurturing environment. In the mean time while I wait for my appointment I’ve been binging adhd content on RUclips, and I’ve already found so many helpful tools no matter what the outcome of my testing tells me. So thank you for your personal experiences!! It really helps :) p.s. - the salt thing was hilarious. I guess my love for salt really explains it all lol
Very helpful. My life is beginning to make sense to me.
I’ve always thought I might had ADHD , never felt normal. My psychologist just told me today that he thinks I have it & im 27!
Thank you so much for this video. I'm 33 and just now trying to get tested for ADHD. I'm seeing a psychiatrist and explaining all of these symptoms I have that you just described here and she isn't taking me seriously, so I'm going to try to look for a specialist instead. This really makes me feel validated and not like an insane lazy pos, so thank you again.
You just described every one of my symptoms, plus many more I could add. Even now while I’m watching this video I have things that I need to get done for tomorrow but I get sidetracked. I always end up doing other things instead of focusing on what needs done. It’s a vicious cycle that I’m unable to control, even when I can realize it.
i totally relate. obviously😂😬
Omg!!!! I feel so SO validated!!! For years...I thought this is it...this is my life..chaos, distracted all the time...2 million unfinished projects, and wanting to start more...clothes piled everywhere...always ALWAYS late...waiting until the last minute to do absolutely anything...especially paying bills...forgetting literally every single thing, including conversations....totally not calling friends back, or texting and not knowing why...
Omg...I am not lazy!! I am not loosing my mind....it has a name!!!!
Thank you for this video
I relate to this so MUCH that I got distracted a few times while watching the video and had to repeat it 🙆🏻♀️
Dark midnightstars omg I feel you on the “had to repeat it” part. Hahaha. So the relatability is mutual 😆
ArdelleVision 😂😂😂💔
I watched it twice lol!
I can relate. Almost by 100%.
13:22 Do you find easier to communicate electronically e.g. email/texting than communicating out loud? I'm like this which is why I ask! lol
Not necessarily. I always forget (what a concept) to mention communication throught text and email in my videos when discussing communication.
I suck at writing. and spelling. and organizing my thoughts in a text/email that will convey my message to others clearly without over writing or underwriting even. I'll write and rewrite all the time. and debate on if i should send it. delete a message.. start all over. It's a hot mess. Not always though. Mostly with people I don't know well. Here on my platform i feel like I'm with my people...so i don't struggle with replying to comments...if it's not obvious i might lean more towards over replying...i like to reply while i still have the smaller subscriber base and have the ability. I love all ya'll!!!
Again, I completely relate. For me, hitting send on an email gets me anxious these days. Mainly because I've overlooked previous emails or hit send too soon and ugh, it's awful... so now when I feel hesitant about sending an email, I'd get colleagues to check my emails - but - even if they say it's perfect, I'd still feel like the message isn't clear and I'd start overthinking. But I'd rather email than speak to someone verbally. If there are lots to talk about, however, speaking about it verbally seems easier. I guess it all depends on the context.
Your channel's a blessing and is keeping me sane about the way my brain works, huge love. Thanks so much for replying!
I prefer communicating face-to-face or through text but I absolutely hate phone calls. Emails are usually fine but they can give me anxiety when I'm having tech problems and the emails are for something work-related or college-related.
@Connor Im the same I will literally just sit and watch my phone ring but not answer it 😂and if I'm having like a heated conversation over the phone I can never get my words out properly but I can write how I feel much better and would rather have the conversation over text if you can relate? Also slow internet and computer problems give me RAGE
I really felt the part about cutting things down to a minimum because having more things makes it almost impossible to stay organized.
I'm just laughing at myself as you list off each thing because I relate so much. You said procrastination and I'm literally procrastinating while watching this video... lmao
Then you started listing off the stuff you've quit, and I've done and quit every. single. thing. that you listed. Cat rescue? Quit. Karate as a kid? Quit. Jobs? QUIT. I have to laugh!
Edit: also 100% to the salt thing. I will lick up the extra salt off the plate with my finger 🥴
This is like looking in a brain 🧠 mirror. Wow!
Thank you for sharing. (Also, Yes on the salt.)
OMG! What really hit home for me is thinking I always have more time than I do! I always start getting ready 30 minutes before I need to leave and manage to always be wondering why I didn’t have enough time for everything I was doing
Loved your video! Yes I do feel validated. I’m 40 years old and can’t believe I’ve struggled for so long without being diagnosed. I’ve seen therapists and Psychologists but until my sister brought the subject up I never thought I might have ADHD. Thank you!
Out of all the videos and articles I’ve read on inattentive adhd, this has to be the best one. I’ve been trying to decide if it’s anxiety, bpd, trauma, genetic, my natural personality, zodiac, sign of the times with distracting technology . I am skeptical to a lot of things but this is the video that has helped me come to terms with the ultimate truth.
Wow! Thank you so much for saying all this!
You've literally just described my life in almost perfect detail. It's amazing listening to other people with ADD and how similar our issues are. Thanks for sharing.
I can relate to most of this. I OCD about being late so I'm always early to appointments. I do hyperfocus on what I love. Thank you for sharing. Your butterfly painting is beautiful!🦋
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! And thank you for the sweet compliment on my painting 🥰
Thanks so much for sharing. My psych said I have ADHD a couple of days ago and your video makes a lot of sense. Its so good you put the time in to make this video.
Wow! THanks for sharing this! I'm glad its making sense for you!
I dropped out from three universities. I change jobs frequently. And I can't hold back my anger or excitement. I'm so depressed because everything I did will result in failures. Like I can guarantee it 100%! I did tried to take my own life several times. And I don't know what to do right now
This fits me like a glove! I also got diagnosed last year at the young age of 31 after I was prompted to look into ADHD. I can really relate to the dropping out of college, emotional issues, motivation. And the salt thing! I think it's because our brains crave stimulation so we need intensity in everything, including our food. I love foods with strong flavors, including stinky cheeses and spicy foods.
GIRL. If my routine gets thrown off I am a MESS. I locked my keys in my car so often for a while that I kept a metal hanger at work in my locker so I could jimmy my door. Then, when I moved towns recently, I left my car lights on... honestly at least 3 times in a few weeks time... the first time was on the first day of my new job. luckily my brother lived close & the other times I got a coworker to jump me. But it's embarassing!!!
If you can't tell... I've been thinking about this a lot lately & have been watching your videos today. Thanks for sharing and being open!
Holy crap, I'm getting further into this and it's so relatable -- especially in the job and school realm. I think I changed my major about 8 times, left college for a year and a half, transferred about 4 times. I have worked... a LOT of jobs in the last 12 years. I was filling out an application recently (hahaha) and was like... they want me to list ALL of my jobs?? That's a lot! But then I realized... probably not everyone has worked as many jobs as I have in that span of time. I don't even want to talk about how often I've moved haha.
Throughout my high school and college life, I have never been able to manage my time effectively. I remember I would stay up late in the night to finish off school work, and I'd get upset when my mum would question why I wasn't done with my work yet. I would spend hours on one topic of a subject, almost forgetting that I had three other topics to go through. I could never understand how my classmates managed to revise every subject in one day for example and spread their time out evenly. I would procrastinate, but once I really have to I can study for the whole day, allbeit anxiously. I am also very impulsive, which has lead to a life of addiction. Furthermore, when I get an idea I have to do it that day, otherwise that thing will occupy my mind, at the expense of everything else. I'm 21 years old, and these problems don't seem to go away. I haven't been diagnosed, but I relate to these symptoms. I also tend to forget things, and I usually need people to explain things twice to get it. I know it sounds stupid, but sometimes I fear I have dementia. I feel like I need a lot of time to process what people are saying. I don't know how to get diagnosed, as I feel like this aspect of ADHD isn't well known.
wow. thanks so much for sharing. i related and was nodding through everything you were saying...spending too much time on something while other things are pressing.
Watching you is like looking in the mirror…I find you the most relatable out of all the women who talk about their ADHD…thank you for making your videos. It helps to know it’s kind normal to experience all these things…🤗❤
Wow. This comment. 🥹 literally made my day and made me feel so seen. I needed this right now, so thank you for sharing🥰
I’ve watched so many of these videos and relate to almost all things said... and I still doubt myself that I may have it... almost like I’m not good enough to have it... madness! 🤯
yeah right..it almost feels like im just lying to myself, that theres no way i actually have it, that im just "doing this for attention" idk this is what my brain tells me.. i relate to all of the symptoms and just search for *one* i dont relate to, to convince myself that im fine..
Literally every word in this video except the last part where you mentioned moving and having over 30 jobs (I’m 24 and I’ve had 6) was EXACTLY LIKE ME AHHH. I’m hoping to get diagnosed soon!
Yes I have about 90% of the symptoms you’ve described here.
The idea that I could have ADHD never crossed my mind until I was an adult and moved out on my own. Within one year on my own I bought and traded in 8 cars, spent all my savings on phones, game consoles, 3 different TVs (I live alone), decided on a whim I wanted to learn the violin for no reason (spent 8,000 dollars on a violin and bow), got the idea that I wanted to be a master chef and bought a new stove and thousands on cookware and kitchen stuff. I also had most of the symptoms you mentioned, but those are very subtle compared the the absolute mess of financial crisis I've gotten myself in to because of the undiagnosed ADHD. That and the fact that I've never been able to have friends or relationships. I had cycles of depression because I thought I was always going to be alone because I was just so weird. It was a MASSIVE relief to find out why I was like this.
The being late thing is 100% accurate! I'm always late to school run as I look at the clock, think "oh I have 10mins and it takes 3mins to get there so I can unload the dishwasher quick" do the dishwasher and organise the cutlery drawer so its now -3 minutes and I'm late!"
I’m 45 and only in the last few months after doing research have a realised I’ve been so called adhd my whole life ! Everything you said is so me ! Thanks for putting this up ! I know it’s just a name but having a tangible thing or reason for the way I am has really helped me actually!! 🏴 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻thanks again
Thank you so much!!! This video was amazing for understanding that I actually have a lot more symptoms than I realised and I'll be making a doctor's appointment tomorrow!
I'm a 31 year old female and never even saw ADHD as a possibility as I assumed it was just something for hyper kids... didn't realise all of the symptoms to do with your hyper mind instead, which is 100% me!
Am praying this doesn't get dismissed and one day I'll wake up and not feel the way I have every day since childhood: unmotivated and distracted!
Thanks again for taking the time to lay this all out (& for the chapter markers!! 😚👌)
so glad you got something out of my video!!
Bit late to the party, but WOW is this relatable! I used to have chronic issues with not being able to sleep; since adulthood and the introduction of coffee, I can sleep without any issues, but I always wake up with plenty of time, rush for a little while, watch 'just a bit' of TV, and almost be late... every day! I worry extensively at work that I'm not good enough and that everyone thinks I'm lazy, and the amount of times I've started a project and not finished it... it's unreal! Thank you, thank you for shining a light on what I never realised was happening. This has started me on a rabbit hole of ADHD videos, and I'm now pretty certain that this is me. Thank you!
P.S. I love salt. Maybe this is why I love Marmite so much?
I feel like I pay a lot of attention to my time management. Whenever I have something planned i try really hard to do everything on time to the point where I am finished preparing way to early so I just sit and wait for that thing to happen. So usually I am not late because I really try not to.
Thank you so much for this video. It resonates with me on pretty much every level. Especially the part about how you can end up blaming and hating yourself for not doing all the things you want, or have to, do.
Throughout most of my life I have thought I was being lazy, and I didn't understand why. At the same time there was something about the whole thing that made me feel it wasn't really laziness that kept me from doing things, I just didn't have any words for what it could be that caused this problem to rule my life. I have Autism Spectrum Disorder too, but I couldn't find an explanation that relates to that either.
As time has gone by - I got my diagnosis when I was in my forties, and I am almost 66 yrs old now - I began to see some patterns that I thought might explain the problem. You see, my life has been a long list of abuse, neglect, abandonment, social isolation, and even demonization. Everything I have ever tried to do, or tried to start doing, has been stopped or taken away from me, so I thought this apparent laziness simply came from a subconscious feeling that nothing I ever do will be completed or allowed to take place no matter how much I try, and I have therefore become worn out, so to speak.
But if this was the case, I would find my story repeated in all the videos by you guys, who talk about, describe, and talk about how you are suffering and/or struggling with the very same problem that I know so well, that I have to conclude there is more to it than a life of misfortune. And when I happen to know that I have not only Autism Spectrum Disorder, but also a quite severe ADHD, I think it's fair to assume the reason lies with my personality syndromes (I prefer to not call them disorders because they come out as disorders only because they're poorly understood and integrated in common societal understanding).
I hope what I've said here makes sense, and maybe even help another person or two, who recognize what you have described in this video, as well as what I have added in this comment.
Whatever the case may be, I wish the best of luck to everybody!!
PS. About the salt: I found out that I ate too much salt with my food many years ago, so I weaned myself off from using more salt than necessary, which was good for my health and lowered my blood pressure to the best it can be.
I have a tip for everybody about salting the food when you cook: Always use as little salt as possible, and instead of adding it to the food while cooking, put salt on the table like you do with pepper, that way people can add as much salt as they wish.
“It takes a while for things to get into your thick head” - yup! I can’t argue with that one!
Diagnosed just one week ago. I’m 31 years old. I relate very much to pretty much all of this. Cannot believe there is a reason for how I’ve felt so different since I was a kid. Constant shame. Struggled w/ low self esteem. Learning to laugh at myself has helped over the last few yrs. The brain to mouth with words is so so frustrating. Not good at being concise or articulate. Always felt so dumb, lazy, crazy - like I must seem so ditzy. Living my life at so much lower level than I know I could be. I do like salt.. a lot.. So amazing to have found out this about myself. This is my brain. Now learning to have grace and kindness for myself. Loove your smelly cat intro ❤️💕 Thank you for your videos 💕❤️ helps go understand and not feel alone.
I have the worse problems with being on time. I do exactly what you said about getting ready and being on time. It is embarrassing to always be late and not understanding how things will always go wrong. I have to set a timer on my phone or I will be much later than normal
I’ve been having a really hard time recently and made an appointment with my dr to talk about my weight issues and medication. I’ve always had a problem with my weight, I’m now 140 lbs overweight, struggle with emotional binge and comfort eating, and IMPULSIVE purchases where I feel like I literally have NO choice, with buying food and literally so many other purchase categories doesn’t help that I’m also stubborn, I’ve also always had the issue ever since I was a little girl with emotions, depression, it’s been flying through the air with therapy and starting medication, I have gotten no where with my life, have so many ambitions and things I want to do, but I CANNOT FOR THE LIFE OF ME get myself to do things consistently even if I WANT to do something, I can’t get myself to do it. Watching you as been a big eye opener. Both of my parents are on medication for anxiety, my dad also for ADHD and my mom on antidepressants so it all very well runs in the family 😬👌 but anyway carrying on, I’ve always had strong depression moments where I couldn’t move, couldn’t talk, just felt empty but the amount I spend in those moments are outweighed by moments where I’m so excited gittery and motivated; and so I never felt like all those down moments weren’t worth medication because it didn’t always seem bad enough because I always bounce back, I have a hard time getting out of bed but once I’m up I relate to not being able to go back down, I’m so exhausted but not physically it’s always mental and I just need a break (break from my current life 🤦🏻♀️), I need that change I’m always in need of more excitement or something going on and I need friends but all the same I can’t bring my motivation to follow up with conversation or being able to focus on other people and learn about them without getting depressed, distracted or wanting to hide (I’m a big introvert with very little confidence) but again ANYWAY thank you so much for your videos it has given me some vision of clarity and more to go off of and consider when I talk to my dr.
Ps- I am also a painter looking to start selling my work, and as I’ve scrolled through the other comments I haven’t noticed one person yet complimenting your piece, that’s the very first thing I noticed and it’s BEAUTIFUL, took my breath away. Thank you for sharing you 🙏❤️
I can’t believe what I am hearing. How did you get inside my head??? This is me. My daughter told me she thinks I might have it. I didn’t relate because I thought it was the domain of little boys that never sit still. Then I listened to this. I am picking my jaw up off the floor. A few things don’t seem to fit, but 90% of it fits. Right down to the salt! I’m a new sub.
Today I was unofficially diagnosed with inattentive ADHD by my counselor...and it seems like watching your video is hearing my journal read out loud.
This right here is home
Thanks for compiling this list of traits, you crystalized each one well. I seem to do ok with time, I'm usually punctual, but it's a conscious effort I try hard at. I have all the rest of the traits mentioned. I have to hand it to my 3rd-grade teacher for recognizing my disorder, 30 years ago.
nice! And yeah. my efforts to be on time have helped out a lot...but if i'm not careful i'l slip back into being fashionably late...
WOW this is exactly what “i AM”. I got to know just recently by googling that I have INATTENTIVE ADHD or ADD as they still sometimes call it, I’m 53 and I wish I knew it earlier in life but it is what it is so I just have to work on from here and forward, I was always thinking when I were with friends. Why are they complaining when I talk to them and know I understand because I was interrupting them, I didn’t wait for my turn and when I talked it was no stopping me, I just talked and talked and I was also just jumping from subject to subject lol, but now I understand everything about my behaviour, I also couldn’t finish many of my projects, I had difficulty choosing what to study in College or Gymnasium as we say in Sweden, I have also forgot so many things in different places, like keys etc. I have a RUclips channel but again of course I’m asking myself am I going to stick with it or am I going to quit it, I really want to stick with it because I love it and WE ARE good talkers so hopefully it’s going to stick with me, but my channel is with another email, when I wash my laundry I now always try to wash on the last slot because I don’t want anyone to be after me because of the stress I feel that I’m not going to finish in time lol even if it’s 3 hours, I still feel stress about it, actually a strange thought I used to think was, “am I a human and everyone else a robot or the other way around lol” because I was always thinking: What is wrong with me? Why do I forget so easily? Why cannot I finish something I have started, why do I talk so much? Why am I so lazy? But now I understand that it’s not my fault, I was born like this, and that was really a relief, so thanks for sharing HOW WE ARE
Millions of roses to you for doing this so people know ‘Who and how and what we are’
Warmest Regards
Joakim Abo Ayoob Lindroos
I started crying in 12:02 for the things that you were saying cause i took them personally even tho you literally say that those we're things you say to yourself
awe i totally say these things to myself but constantly try to work out a better self dialogue. sorry to make you cry😰😰😰
@@ArdelleVision it's okay, don't worry, I'm trying to work on that for myself too 😊
Oh my gosh, you will not believe this. I got so excited watching your video that I had to immediately stop watching it on my TV, grab my lap top and write this reply. But, of course, I couldn't find my glasses, which I just had like 3 minutes ago and I did the room to room sweep to see if I could find them but it was one of those unsuccessful recovery missions and now I'm in "I will find them one day" mode. I lost my Apple Watch twice in the last year and found it this weekend and lost it again yesterday. Love that Apple Watch when it's not lost.
Anyway, just want to say I love you. (Not in a relationship way), but in a, OMG she's the female me way.
Everything you go through, or talk about is something I identify with. I am so fortunate to be alive. I have taken so much risk, especially when younger. Impulsive has my pic next to it in the dictionary. I have had over 100 jobs. I have used a lot of drugs but not in my current life. My 20's were filled with risk both with drugs and a lot of sex. I quit everything.Usually right before I am about to get certified, or reach a goal.
I have shadows of success in so many areas of my life, but never the recognition I could have had if I had stayed with it.
I LOVE SALT. I put way too much SALT on everything. I do cook amazing, but I do love more salt than the average Joe as well. Also, I just went t
o the bathroom and lost my glasses again. But I found them.
Girl, your laundry list is my miracle drug. I absolutely love listening to you. I feel this incredible relating to you.
Full eye contact never works for me. I know what the person is saying is very important, but I just did not hear a word of what they said and played it off real good because it has been happening since I was a fetus.
Hyper focus. You tube is a curse for me because of the amount of interesting topics of interest to me. I waste most of my life watching RUclips. It's an absolute depressing curse that is consuming my days like no one would even believe but I am caught in this addiction and let me tell you, I can flip through topics for hours. It's not like it's a waste of time to me either because everything I watch is on learning. It's not like a porn addiction, which I do not have because of my faith and marriage, but it is something that has me hooked. Girl, I can zone out until my butt is aching from the chair and my spine is throbbing from sitting in the same position for so long. It's something I learned from YOU that can be attributed to my disorder. Wow.
I am THE most horrible time manager on planet earth, holding the Guinness book of world records. As a child, the constant in the comment section on my report cards was, "Does not make good use of time." As if I could help it. But yes. I've been called names since childhood because of my condition, and if I could destroy all clocks, calendars and sun dials on earth I would. I want to be free to do what I want to do. I don't want to be told I am wasting time. I'm having fun, leave me alone. Or, I'm in my zone, get away from me. Thats how it feels. You just want to be left alone to your zone. You just want to be left alone to your procrastinating self. I'll get to it when I get to it. I will get to it. later. Later! I SAID LATER! And if anyone tries to rush me, watch out because it makes me feel like snapping. LOL It doesn't matter anyway because I can never get finished with anything in my life, so what the heck man! In high school, I was constantly in detention because I had to get my hair perfect in the mornings with my mother yelling at me that I was nothing but a pretty boy and how it was time to go. No, Mom. No. My hair has to be perfect. Don't you understand the image thing? Call me all the names you want. I will get there late, I will get there though and I will have attention from the girls and I will look good. Yes I will go to detention again this afternoon but I don't care because there are some cute girls in detention, I like it.
Organization: I hate calendars, apps, folding clothes, hanging things up. These are all painful to me and that's not an exaggeration. I feel like I'm coming undone when I have to hang up my stuff. I throw my stuff on the chair. I will hang it up eventually but when I feel like doing it. I have the greatest ideas of all mankind, but have never been able to harness all of the greatness inside of me to put it into concreteness.Right now, my punching heavy bag is in my living room with my bike. My skateboards are on my living room chair. my seats to my van are in the corner. My weight bench, weights and winemaking materials are all here in this room. And I don't care. It's how I roll. Is it organized. No. You want it organized? You do it. I'm fine with that but don't ask me to do it. And believe me, if I wanted to organize I would and my job would be better than anyone else. I have laser focus when I want to. I just don't want to. So...deal with it! And I am NOT going minimalist for anyone!
Procrastination: World Record. Crown me King. It will get done. Later.
Impulse: World record.
Depression: Constant
Aggrivation: King.
Tension: Yes, and I need relief. Bad. Constantly. Since childhood.
Feeling gross about myself. Yes. even though I'm handsome and in shape.
Motivation: 3 months of RUclips. Need to walk, but don't. Will do it tomorrow. Tomorrow. tomorrow.
3 marriages and multiple, multiple, multiple, multiple girlfriends. Some were on a lazy Susan.
Anxiety is not bad because of my faith. I have learned. Sometimes I get it but I have really matured.
Anyway, to you, female me, love you with understanding and identifying. God bless you. I'm going shopping to buy something. I cannot afford. LOL. OMG keep me away from amazon.
A beautiful painting Ardelle! And a perfect summery of "symptoms" . Its so recognizable that its a bit odd for me that there are people just like me, which makes me feel a bit less of an oddball ..lol And yes we are easy insalted 😂 thanks for the video A. xo
the insalted pun....omg! How did i not think of that!!! amazing. ahahaa and thanks for sharing your thoughts. it helps me know i'm not the only oddball as well...
@@ArdelleVision haha yes it came to me when I was writing, add creativity ;)
I see what you did there 😂🤣😂
I don't comments much on videos like there however, I had researched a LOT on Adult ADHD and this video is like hearing my life twin speak. This is completely my life and symptoms to a T. I am 35 and I've known for a while something was different about me. I have an appointment coming up, hopefully I can get some answers and help that will make my life easier.
Omg. The intro with smelly cat...😝
liza smith 😂glad someone appreciated it.😎learned it specially just for this video...
Ikr!!!! ❤️
Seriously awesome!
Ah man I’ve been watching your videos and boy has it opened my eyes to myself.. I am going to finally get my associates after changing my degree 5 times.. and truly thinking
“yep, this time ill be so passionate that I will succeed!”
My biggest problem is time management. I struggle so much with being late and it’s incredibly embarrassing even if I give myself way extra time, I somehow still end up being late. I hate that I know others see me as just not caring or being disorganized.
the only time I can actually get things done reliably is if I’m under an enormous amount of stress, and every day is just panic/losing my keys etc.
I had dyslexia as a kid which went undiagnosed because I was homeschooled for so long but now that my nephew has dyslexia and his writing looks like my childhood writing..
the only time in my life that I’ve been able to get school done and sit and focus was when I had Hadhimoto’s disease (undiagnosed) as a kid, and the side effect is having severe lethargy, so yes I could sit still but I never had every and was depressed 😬
You know you have a problem tho when you look back pleasantly on that time bc you could sit focus easier.
As a kid I started failing classes in seventh grade and it wasn’t for lack of trying, I’m very creative so it was so frustrating to not be able to succeed when trying, it became easier to just not care because at least it’s less painful.
I think this is where the dyslexia comes in because math and science especially, I have always struggled with and just the general school system I really struggle with due dates and all of high school I was so bored, and since I was a child I have been cycling through different periods of depression.
It’s just frustrating because it seems like other people don’t seem to struggle with studying the way I do, the farther I fall behind the more stressful it becomes and harder it becomes to sit down and focus.
I’ve always had low self esteem and have always been socially awkward (or maybe not) but I felt like I was, even as an adult I’ve been called eccentric and lazy or told to grow up and try harder and i really want to succeed but I can’t run away with myself.
It’s hard to even let myself think I could have adhd bc I keep thinking that I’m using this or depression or anxiety as a crutch when I should just be more disciplined.
Sorry for the long message 😬 thank you so much for sharing your experiences and story bc it’s been so affirming!
Omg! I’m 57 and I’m still wondering what I want to be when I grow up! That’s a ADHD thing? Can I grow up now?
I'm the same age and say that all the time... Just finding out this is my issue. For sure.
as an 18 year old with possible adhd, this really scares me
This is not something I wanna hear as a 21 year old possibly with ADHD
@@Fadwaspiritual I think knowing you have it as you embark on life (much earlier than I) will help you immensely to narrow down better job types and also medications should make life easier.
I’m 57 too, 58 in August. Growing up is seriously overrated...stay mentally young, change career as often as you like. It keeps us interesting and interested. Curiosity, passion, the gaining of new experiences, the addition of knowledge, meeting new and interesting people, etc. There are so many positives to this condition; like everything in life, there are negatives, but there are massive benefits too 🌈😘 xxxx
Omg...this is so me I can’t even...I’m so overwhelmed with life right now at 41. I’ve suffered with anxiety and depression my whole life and then finally listening to adult adhd topics and finding out this may have been my issues my whole life...now I’m overwhelmed with how to deal with it!? 🥴 I even thought, maybe I’m autistic or something because of how I handle things that are out of my control!? This girl is reading my life piece by piece...
i once lost my phone because i put it down somewhere and forgot where. i found it it three years later in a random drawer for literally no reason
My phone was in the freezer for over a month. I put it in there as I put groceries away. Didn't find it until the next time. Who puts their phone in the freezer?!
I uhhhhhhhhhhhhh didnt realize that all of this stuff would hit so hard. I've frequently had the thought that I could possibly have ADHD, and as a woman obviously it's harder to diagnose with us, but just. I've finally looked into this for the past week or so and it's kind of a lot to process, that almost everything that I hate about myself and almost everything that's negatively affected me or my life can be attributed to this? And I know I obviously cant blame ADHD for literally everything that's ever gone wrong, but looking back on my personal relationships, with others and myself, and schooling, and the fact that I dropped out of high school 3 times and havent even attempted college yet because I dont think I'd be able to keep up with everyone else and actually be able to do the work, is really frustrating. I feel as if 20 years of my life have kind of. Hm, not been stolen from me, but almost. I just wish that I had been able to catch this earlier and then maybe I would be more successful than I am now, maybe I wouldnt have messed up everything as much as I have. I know I'm not stupid, I catch on to things very quickly and I enjoy learning, but just. As soon as it's something I /have / to learn or do, I just. Cant. And that sucks. Also the memory thing is,,,,, making a lot of sense. I also have depression and PTSD, so I dont remember the vast majority if my childhood and I always blamed those two things on the fact that I could be having a conversation for hours and forget what we were talking about quite literally every minute or two. I also find myself zoning out when I'm speaking and then when I tune back in, I cant remember at all what I was talking about, not even the subject, and I'll cut myself off midway through a sentence foreword just because I cant at all remember what on earth I was saying. Do you know if that's a part of ADHD, or something else? I dont really know why I'm typing this out, maybe just cause I havent told anyone yet and this is literally life changing for me, I guess it's just cathartic. I'm sure you wont read this whole thing, but if you do end up making it down to the bottom, thank you for putting content out there for people, particularly women, who deal with this. Hearing that it's not just me being stupid and useless, and might just be something out of my control helps, and knowing that other people have struggled with all of the same things that have taken over my life and they're able to live with it is nice to hear. Thank you for making this ❤
This video was randomly recommended for me and theese symptoms are LITERALLY me. Did RUclips just diagnosed me?
Well, I know I relate to just about everything you said, but true to form I will have to watch it again because I've already forgotten most of it! :D It's funny, little things like losing my keys were never a problem for me but I see now that my ADHD gave me such a high anxiety state that I was paranoid about things like that. Like, I needed a get-away car and if I lost my keys I'd be stuck wherever I was. My first panic attack was at age 18 and until this diagnosis, anxiety seemed like the reason behind all of my 'failures'.
I wish I had been diagnosed as a child. But at the same time, my experience has taught me the power and practicality of the Bible's message. I only bring that up because I know the Bible is important to you as well. My favorite scripture has always been Psalm 73:26- 'My body and my heart may fail, but God is the rock of my heart and my portion forever.' That means even more to me now because Jehovah God knew all along what I was fighting, even though I didn't. Even in my worst moments he has never abandoned me and I am so eternally grateful. At times my body and my heart do fail me, but he never does!
PS the salt thing---totally! Given a choice I'll take the bag of chips over the chocolate any day---if it's a non-keto day that is!
I love that scripture. Thanks so much for sharing all that you share! Ill be saving that one. Makes me also think of “boasting in our weakness.” Or something to that effect in 2 Cor 12:9z Gods power is made perfect in our weakness.
Crazy your mom has it and maybe your dad. Yeah...I too would have loved an earlier diagnosis but grateful i got one at all. And yes!!! You love salt!!!!😜 team salt all the way!
@@ArdelleVision lol yeah I took another look and I'm like, hmmm maybe I overshared again....let's just delete some things. Too bad there's no edit button for irl convos! I love the scripture you mentioned too. 'I will boast about my weaknesses, in order that the power of the Christ may remain over me like a tent.' Our faults remind us of why Jesus died for us. More reason for deep appreciation! Thanks for reminding me of that thought today! We'll be observing the memorial of Christ's death tonight so it's a good way to start the day. Take care and I look forward to your next video :D
im SO SO impulsive, I literalyl DIDNT EVEN WANT A SECOND PIERCING but i wanted it for two minutes so i got a sewing needle and did it, I DIDNT EVEN HAVE AN EARRING
I'm finally validated. I knew I wasn't crazy, or over stimulating myself. I've known this for years you just explained my life word for word
I should be out the door now. I'm caught now watching this in my robe, doing the I gotta go pea dance
Hi! I am 35 years old and have been thinking about having ADHD for quite some time now and I definitely have ALL the symptoms you talked about...
Hi! Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I hope you can get some more answers as you look into this. 🥹
@@ArdelleVision it was really helpful and relieving and I sigh with relief ☺
You seem to understand everything about me. Finding out at age 50 I feel nobody around even thinks its real. Think I am going to just not talk about it ever. Adhd not me
glad you relate and got something out of this video!
The worst part about it for me as a 27 year guy who is supposed to steady and consistent, it’s cost me jobs, the relationship I thought would be the one, distanced me from old friends and slowed down making new ones (at least close ones). My waaaay too much obsessive knowledge about topics I’ve study-binged on and excitement have made people feel overwhelmed during convos ( I see their faces change as I talk). Even this comment won’t be very organized or coherent. People always tell me that I’m so knowledgeable and smart and I could do anything but I never stick with anything. I’ve started and gotten ok at a million different hobbies. I’ve purchased so many specialized tools and equipment for things I’ll never get back to and finish. It’s shameful. I’ve stopped telling people about things I’m going to do or get into because I see that they don’t believe me anymore.
I went to 4 different colleges and have majored in audio production, graphic design, computer networking/system administration, history, systematic theology, and welding. I still don’t have a degree. I haven’t advanced far in any field in any job. I’m a shooting star, I burn so brightly and progress so much; everyone is impressed by my speed and passion as I work my butt off, but only for a few months or maybe a year before I move on and only that long because I enslave myself to what it pays. I focus so hard on things, yet they are never the things I need to do. I’m so tired of it. I was diagnosed as a kid and as an adult but was only treated for a bit. It’s hard to make myself keep going to the doctor or to even pick up a prescription. Depression hasn’t helped that either. It’s 4 am while I’m typing this and I’m only a few minutes into the video. Tomorrow, I’m definitely going to get an appointment and get meds again and get my life back on track (lol welcome to my late-night-disappointed-by-myself thoughts). Maybe I’ll get an appointment, not go, and then ignore the phone calls telling me I missed it and be ashamed that I didn’t make myself go. I’ll suppress those thoughts until I’ve lost myself in something else. I’ll play a game or watch 300 videos of British people reacting to what my home state of Texas is really like and forget about the doctor all together. The shame will still be there but I won’t focus on why. Suddenly it will be 4 am the next day and I still didn’t do the dishes or mow the lawn or get my car inspected or get the mail or call my mom back or walk my dog or air up that tire. I’ll feel like crap about that until the next day and maybe I’ll call the doctor again to get an appointment (this time, a different one because I’m embarrassed that I didn’t show up to the last).
Just rambling but I’ve really let this take over my life. Thanks for making this video. Im going to subscribe so maybe I won’t forget about working on this. Thanks for putting yourself out there like this.
5th edit or so: Just finished watching your video and the salt thing!!! Yessss!! I cook a lot and I’ve been accused of over salting so many times. I’ve gotten to the point where I use seasonings that have no salt so I can put a ton on and salt my own portion like crazy later but still have all the spices. I wonder if it’s a thing where we love to go all out and overstimulate ourselves.
Lovely painting
Deborah Ferris thank you!!!
Oh my gosh- you just explained why I continuously sabotage like every situation in my life and I’m left thinking- what just happened here 🤔
Related to EVERYTHING, I’m nodding intently… but then lost me at the the salt 😂 I was like yes, yes, oh my gosh yes- then heard 20 and was like nope don’t have ADHD 😂😂 .
Thank you so much for this video, I feel a little less “messy and crazy” knowing I just might be able to navigate this with direction instead of being mentally spread and wondering what’s wrong with me as I try to do 12 million of my responsibilities probably irritating the heck out of anyone who is relying on me to just do things right.
What kind of salt do you use? Sea salt? Himalayan pink salt? Kosher salt? Iodized table salt?
Deborah Ferris OoOoOoooooo good question! I use a Himalayan pink salt grinder and regular sea salt! Both from Trader Joe’s. 🥰
I totally get the part about the diagnosis feeling validating. You always have this suspicion that the problems you have with very basic things aren't entirely up to trying hard enough or not, but you can't believe there is a valid explanation... until there is!
relate to all of this and even the salt issue, always put loads of salt in my food.
YES!!! The salt thing for me is so real. I put some...take a bite...put a little more...Perfect...eat some of my food...crap! The next layer needs more salt!!! Yeah...I it gets interesting in front of people
You got me with the salt thing. Life always seems like a burden tbh. Always looking for stimulation, difficulty starting things, its like my brain has to switch modes to start a task. Going from low resistance path (daydreaming and carefree, self talk) to the high resistance task mode. Like a half broken car struggling to fire up, overwhelming cognitive resistance to starting. Both modes cannot operate as one, either carefree mode or high cognitive function to do a task. But being relaxed and still completing a task like a normal human being, hell no. Either a 6 hour binge into a task or nothing. You finish something minor you put off for 296 days and you go like “wow this was easy why did I procrastinate that much. I won’t again”. Then you procrastinate again like a king. The best part is when people talk to me and I just answer questions like it’s an interview without reciprocating conversation.
LOL the cat starts the show! 😹
Oh boy, I have it and just like you, I couldn't get anything together. My Mom always said I was "scattered" which means perfect sense as having been diagnosed later in life. Yes easily distracted..look!
>🐿️< Oh and I still haven't finished painting the kitchen!! 😅😳
And getting in the car, going down the road and oh yeah! I forgot something (very important!) I'm just relating to EVERYTHING you're saying! 😭
I also hide the really important stuff. So well, that I forget where I put it! *Creates another tornado in the house looking for it* SHOPAHOLIC here.🙄
Now I have fingers cramp, so I'm just gonna listen and agree with everything else you're saying! 🙋🙏
"Now I have fingers cramp, so I'm just gonna listen and agree with everything else you're saying! 🙋🙏" OMG!!!!! HAHAHAHA I love this last line...because i feel it so much. Watching ADHD videos with a constant nodding of the head...thinking yup! That me! The distasters we create externally because the chaos in our minds...oh it is hilarious! AHAHAAH
Glad you appreciate the cat. She is constantly "going" at the most inopportune times for me. It's like she knows...
I am being tested for adhd next month. I relate to 99% of the symptoms you talked about. I salt most everything, which I had no idea was common with adhd. The procrastination is a huge problem for me. In my art studio, I ask for a deadline. Otherwise it takes an awful long time to complete a painting. In this video, you give me hope that I'm not always going to feel like a bumblehead 😊
When you said about locking your keys in your car you reminded me that I once missed two flights in one day.
The video and data you demonstrated about ADHD are helpful to all of us who work with clients, colleagues only to wish you success.