Do you have Adult ADHD? 🤔 {Signs and Symptoms}
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- Опубликовано: 4 апр 2020
- I never considered the thought that I could possibly ever have Adult ADHD. I didn't consider it because I didn't view myself as a hyper person. That was about all I knew when it came to people that have ADHD...Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. I guess it was easy for me to stereotype ADHD because of the the name. There is so much more to ADHD than meets the eye. I hope this video sheds some light on the topic for someone who is curious to learn more. Let me know your thoughts on this video in the comments below! I always Love hearing from all of you! You Add so much to the conversation and I continue to learn so much through this community!
The List of "Symptoms" I breakdown in this video:
1. Easily Distracted 2:17
2. Hyperfocus 3:31
3. Time management Issues 4:38
4. Never learn from mistakes 6:14
5. Disorganized 6:44
6. Master Procrastinators 7:47
7. Forgetful 8:43
8. Impulsive 9:32
9. Emotional Issues 10:20
10. Low Self-Esteem 11:32
11. Trouble with Communication 12:48
12. Lack of Motivation 12:38
13. Quit things 14:08
14. Restless/Anxious 15:13
15. Sleep Issues 16:37
16. Substance Abuse 17:10
17. Relational Issues 17:53
18. Long list of jobs 19:00
Moved a lot
College changes or career changes
Struggle in school/Dropouts
19. Few Career achievements 20:20
20. Salt addict (this is me) 20:55
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Oh man... I am relating to this soooo hard. All of this.
Only I am not a saltoholic, because my mom (who I suspect also has ADHD) would always forget to put salt in the food, which resulted in me not acquiring a strong salt taste. But, I love chips!
TheVaultdweller yum... now I want chips.🤗
Love your videos, I'm on a rampage
OMG you just described me. I feel like you are my sister. My son took me through hell with adhd. He was diagnosed at 7. I am so glad i went through that with him without any of my symptoms getting in the way of becoming his biggest cheer leader and #1 advocate to fight fkr what he needed. I was damn good at it too. IEP meetings wete shocked of my knowledge. I educated myself. Looking back I now see when i was young why I went through so much. You are awesome. I am 49 and on medicine but still stuggle. Not an official diagnosis but i wanted to cry watching your viseo because you described me like you knew me. I had alot of support with my son which is key but there is still alot of ignorance going on. I kept getting in debt with my rent, spending profoundly knowing I had to pay rent. Some many times got eviction letters and got bailed out. I kept saying okay I wont ever get into this again. Then I'm in court again because I hadn't paid rent in 5 months and had no idea of what the money was used for. So with this said I gotta start my youtube channel because it's something I wanna do but fear of looking stupid because I lose train of thought or cannot remember words embarrass me. I know a diagnosis will get me proper treatment instead of just medicine given to me from a psychiatrist who cannot diagnose me but due to my son having it and my symptoms it is obvious. I will be following and will let you know when I start. I guess bullet points and notes will help me. I have so much confidence when I know for a fact I'm prepared.
I relate to a lot of this! I also love salt! I’m going to keep watching your videos! Thank you!! 💜✨
1. Easily distracted ✅
2. Hyper focus ✅
3. Mismanagement ✅
4. Disorganized ✅
5. Procrastination ✅
6. Forgetful ✅
7. Impulsive ✅
8. Emotional issues( depression, sadness, rage, anxiety)
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9. Low self esteem ✅
10. Hard time communicating ✅
11. Lack of motivation ✅
12. Quitter ✅
13. Restlessness and anxiety ✅
14. Sleep issues ✅
15. Substance abuse✅
16. Relationship issues ✅
17. Few career achievements ✅
18. Like salt ✅
Yup definitely ADHD
Like being slapped in the face with a mirror. called the doctors office today. supposed to be putting myself on the wait list rn, instead I am here.
I’m impressed you were able to write down all of her points. I couldn’t because I had a hard time focusing on her! So thanks for your efforts!
I relate to all of them but I was told I’m bipolar
@@everclearr You could have both, from research I’ve done (from medical books-not the internet) it is not unusual to have both…I do. And am treated for both-talk to your dr.
Dang I have every single one except sleep issues. I think I need to see a doctor...
I don't struggle to fall asleep I just struggle with waking up no matter how long I've slept :(
I'm yelling at the computer like " YES! YES SOMEONE UNDERSTANDS I AM VALIDATED"
yes!!! Glad you feel validated!!!!!
This is exactly how I feel right now
What she said!!👆🏻
Same!
Yessss...I’m the late one 😆
Me, yesterday: So what do you think?
Ardelle: Could you repeat the part where you said all the stuff?
Yo Samdy Sam omg haha me in a nutshell!😂
I do this to my husband all the time the poor man 😭
Can you repeat all the stuff, now that bit I get!
Omg, the time tracking thing - I loose a SOLID 10-20 minutes in the shower, every morning. Have done for as long as I can remember, this is probably why!
i wonder how much time i've lost doing mindless things....oh my geez.
Omg same! I lose time doing everything. I set my alarm earlier and earlier to compensate but my brain keeps adding to my lost time.
Complete time blindness can tell the time but do not have an internal clock cannot estimate how much time tasks take
@@Dancestar1981 same here
@@CallMeAsh273 weird I can get to where i need to be on time, but the rest of the day no time management at all
does anyone else have a thing where, if an inconvenience happens or you yourself are incompetent at something, you fall into a depressive spiral and hit rock bottom really quick, and contemplate su**ide? then you get out of this hole, something else happens, and you fall back in... it's a constant cycle.
I'm not sure if this is because of c-ptsd, adhd or both. I need a therapist lmao ;-;
Yup. Happened to me yesterday. Had a higher up at work tell me I’m lazy and doing below the bare minimum and not taking initiative. I shut down, cried, drank alcohol, went to bed then woke up at 3am pondering my existence. The phrase I kept thinking was “If I’m so lazy, why was I even put on earth?” I got to work extra early today, took initiative out of spite, lasted for about 3-4hrs and now I’m fine 🤷🏾♀️
Definitely sounds like ADHD and Depression together
Yes this happens to me really quick x
All the frickin' time.
Yup.
I'm an artist too, and I'm always amazed by how easily I can spend all day painting when it's so difficult to focus on anything else.
Sooo true! I’m considering just quitting everything that doesn’t draw my focus on that way. Then I’ll always be focused...hopefully. 😂
I cant even finish my drawinggg 😭
I'm in tears just thinking about the list of failures, mess-ups, embarrassment, and just feeling like why?? Why?? Why can't I get my shit together? My planner actually used, not 20 different cute notebooks; and let's not forget that extra planner that was too cute you couldn't not buy it. Gezzum, I already know that I have it, I too found out when I was like 29, 30, maybe 31. Anyway I turned 39 yesterday and I kept telling myself, "this is the year!" Your going to take hold of the disorder, get rid of all this random why must I own this stuff. I just want like 2 duffel bags and a trunk...maybe one suitcase...and a hat box. But that's it! I don't want to carry this weight all around me and in my head.
Thank you for putting together such a concise, say it like it is video with the symptoms listed below! I know I will write this in one of sed planners or notebooks lol! ;)
New Sub, really happy to find someone who understands. It really is a lot. People who don't have it don't understand the shame and humiliation, and guilt. I'm not sticking with just that aspect, but it is a great part that does need to be addressed with the ADHD-er.
I'm such a dork. Lol! Thanks
Rewinded and zoned out of this video like 14 times...but soo true...😂
"you feel like you live right off the highway... In reality you live 15 minutes from the highway". I cannot even explain how much I relate to this.
Also that describes to a T every morning for me ever.
I wish all my checklists were so easy to tick off.
haha i know i've left out more...I thought of you when creating this video and realize i meant to put the "list" in the comment section because I know it helps! and my computer doesn't always wanna work when editing....so adding text is hard. I'll go do that now...If i stay on task!!! AHAHA thanks for always sharing your thoughts.
@@ArdelleVision Life can be hard :D ... Thank you!!
I've been late so many times it's a personality trait at this point. Exactly 15 minutes late to everything. Should I just leave 15 minutes earlier? Well yes but actually no
how do you even leave 15 minutes earlier, how is it done precisely?
One of my closest friends likes to tell people about me, "She will be late to her own funeral!"
More like hive yourself more than an extra 2 hrs to rule out possibility of being late
@@jomama9075 my mum said this to me for years now she’s sorry for it
LOL 15 minutes is my average as well. Only way Im on time is if traffic is magically not a thing that day.
I relate to EVERYTHING you shared here. No formal diagnosis yet. Im a male 67yo veteran, had a 30yr career with nothing to show. Im a college drop-out, and my life is a mess... except for my 6 wonderful grandkids who all love me as I am.... this one brightness keeps me going. Your video is a revelation for me and has given me the courage to seek help through the Veterans Healthcare system. Thanks so much and may God bless you for all you do!
THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE! I am glad my video helped! I hope you get the help you need and deserve through the Veterans Healthcare system. ANd wow! 6 grandkids!!! what a blessing!
I'm a 17 year old girl, and watching your ADHD in girls video led me to this one, and I relate to almost every single symptom you've described. I feel like I didn't have as much trouble as a kid, but I've always been extremely spacey, slow at getting work done, and easily overwhelmed. I've had this feeling that something is wrong with me because I can't get my act together and can't get motivated to do anything. Especially with the pandemic, I've been so understimulated and feeling hopeless. My grades are dropping with online school; I can't convince myself to get things done at home. Thank you so much for this video! I want to talk to my parents about this but I'm worried it's just me being spoiled, lazy, or addicted to my phone. Like me imagining getting tested and being told that I don't have it and just suck at life scares me...my self esteem can't take it :(
YES IM RIGHT WITH YOU!!!
I’m right here with you too! I’m 19 and literally failed a whole year of high school, having ADHD would explain a lot for me. I have an appointment to look into a diagnosis very soon so I’m terrified too! It’s definitely worth talking to your parents and a doctor! It’s scary as all heck but it could make all the difference for you! Good luck!
This is literally me to a T! The only symptom in this video I didn't relate was substance abuse but I do have trouble with over eating 🤦🏻♀️
I relate to this so much omg
@@milliescadding9852 I have been reading that eating disorders often are a manifestation as well. Not diagnosing you!! At all. But I definitely believe that IF i have ADHD... it manifested in eating for me, too. And so far... a lot of these symptoms are resonating. I have never even spent time looking into ADHD because of the way it's portrayed with like, hyper kids.
The HYPERFOCUSING. This is what I was wanting you to talk about.... when you spoke about painting for 11 hours I HEAR THAT!!!! I'm a crafter too, and once I get going I can go for hours and hours.... or at the moment Animal Crossing takes up a lot of my time because I can ESCAPE for hours and hours.... and as you said, it leads into not managing time well at all....... over estimating how long something is gonna take.... you are preaching to the choir here gurl....I find you so relatable!!
I’m so glad you relate! Yes! Hours of one things and putting off what I should be doing..aka responsibilities vs the fun stuff. I love art..but I also have to make sure my priorities are straight. Managing this can be a challenge! The more I’ve been aware of this I get better at it...but I do miss the mark. I keep hearing about Animal Crossings! I need to check it out..or it might be a dangerous trap for my adhd 😆
@@ArdelleVision I find it hard to manage my priorities big time... and Animal Crossing is great but dangerous for ADHD hahaha!
Yessssss! If I’m in the middle of a thing, it’s impossible to pull me out of it.
Most recent example: Hubby and I just bought a house. We bought samples for paint colors. I was just going to put a little on the wall (like you’re supposed to) and before I knew it, I’d done half the wall by the time my husband practically snatched the brush out of my hand to stop me. BUT I STILL HAVE PAINT AND I HAVE CHOSEN THIS COLOR JUST LET ME FINISH IT.
Yes!!!!!!! I’m in the midst of getting diagnosed and I haven’t skipped a day of playing Animal Crossing since the game came out. I can play it for hours and hours on end and most of my friends don’t get why I still love it
@@gabriellaberman I was the same till I hit a pretty low point in my life and just couldn't bring myself to do anything, but I DEFINITELY obsessed over it for the most part of the year and didn't skip a day!
I'm still trying to figure out when i get distracted when someone is talking if it's ADHD or if the person or subject is just really boring and i would rather be somewhere else. I try to be polite and act interested so i don't hurt their feelings but perhaps that is the ' people pleaser ' in me which is another subject all together....Another mystery for me to ponder....
george potter ‘tis a mystery indeed. That is an interesting point though.🤔 I find myself zoning out when I should be paying attention… And I have to have people repeat themselves more than need be😬
I literally zoned out of the video as soon as I saw this comment lmao.
Honestly, I'm just glad you can rewind yt videos.
well apparently the inability to focus on things that you find really boring is part of the disorder, so it sounds like it might be both! 😂
That in itself can be an ADHD symptom
Does anyone else struggle with memories of the past? I’m thinking it’s because I struggle to concentrate on being ‘in the moment’!
When I get depressed or feel anxiety I get flooded with memories and they are so real I feel like I'm there again, completely zoned out of what I'm doing.
I do too. I don't remember much of my childhood or even if these symptoms are recent or of they've been there forever. I'll think I'm doing something/feeling a certain way/acting a certain way for the first time and my mom will tell me I used to do/be/feel that way all the time. I remember being told I had no/ little common sense a lot and that I didn't pay a lot of attention to things. I also remember my mom saying I was the drama child of the family. Very over dramatic about everything. I'm not diagnosed but there was one point in my past when a teacher thought I might have it but my mom said she just never took me to a doctor for it. I did go to therapy when I was a teen but I don't believe they diagnosed me with anything. Just chatted and tried to help with any things I was dealing with at that time.
Edit: I'm diagnosed now.
You. Know its hard to remember things from mi past and if i remember there desorganized mmm i guess thats how are brain work
I feel like my long-term memory is as good as my working memory is lousy. I can literally just think about a childhood memory and feel like I am two years old again but when it comes to remembering where I put my glasses I’m like “what?”
@@SamanthaEcho yes! My childhood memories are limited, but the ones I do have are frozen in time, clear as a bell!
Me too with the salt- I also tend to add lemon to things that don’t even “need” lemon. I LOVE it. 🍋
Omg lemon!!! Same!!! On watermelon...yum😝
SALT!!!! story of my life!!! omg 😳
when I was little I used to add sugar to everything I ate, even rice
I’m about to turn 31 and realizing how much ADHD has affected me. I’m glad all these teen commenters are here now learning this stuff. I beat myself up hard thinking I’m a lazy underachiever who missed the boat after being decently successful in high school and really struggling ever since. Thank you for making these videos.
I'm 58 and undiagnosed, but everything you say describes me, even the salt. I'm so sick of facing the same failures over and over again.
yeah, it's not a fun feeling. I have gotten better the more i learn about myself. I still have my moments of stumbling forward but I'm glad to at least know what I am dealing with!
Man, I've been watching a bunch of videos like this and a lot of the things said resonate so much I tear up a bit. I scheduled an appointment in 2 days but now I'm just afraid that I don't actually have ADHD and I'm just a low tier human 😭
I feel this.
That’s my fear. How are you?
@@luvmelove5742 Im okay. Turns out I dont have ADHD. After my assessment the consensus was that I am depressed with the possibility of having bipolar
@@evero8375 I really should get assessed. Wish you the best. 🙏🏼
I'm just laughing at myself as you list off each thing because I relate so much. You said procrastination and I'm literally procrastinating while watching this video... lmao
Then you started listing off the stuff you've quit, and I've done and quit every. single. thing. that you listed. Cat rescue? Quit. Karate as a kid? Quit. Jobs? QUIT. I have to laugh!
Edit: also 100% to the salt thing. I will lick up the extra salt off the plate with my finger 🥴
I’ve always thought I might had ADHD , never felt normal. My psychologist just told me today that he thinks I have it & im 27!
I relate to this so MUCH that I got distracted a few times while watching the video and had to repeat it 🙆🏻♀️
Dark midnightstars omg I feel you on the “had to repeat it” part. Hahaha. So the relatability is mutual 😆
ArdelleVision 😂😂😂💔
I watched it twice lol!
You've literally just described my life in almost perfect detail. It's amazing listening to other people with ADD and how similar our issues are. Thanks for sharing.
Loved your video! Yes I do feel validated. I’m 40 years old and can’t believe I’ve struggled for so long without being diagnosed. I’ve seen therapists and Psychologists but until my sister brought the subject up I never thought I might have ADHD. Thank you!
Thank you for making this kind of content. You sharing your experience and the information you’ve learned over the years has literally changed my life, and so many others.
When I first watched this video, I broke down in tears because finally, after years and years of misdiagnoses and constant struggles, I saw everything I was experiencing right there in front of me.
It’s been over a year since my adult ADHD diagnosis, and even though diagnosis didn’t solve all of my problems like a magic bandaid, it’s improved my life so incredibly much. It’s so important to have creators like you out here!
Wow It almost felt like you were reading my life story back to me, especially the part about the history of failing and leading to low self-esteem. As a man it's felt extremely tough feeling like I'm not living up society's expectations of me. I'm going through the process of getting a diagnosis and this video has been a huge help!
Please keep up the great work you're doing and don't forget to take care of yourself. Same goes for everyone else reading this because if you succeed, we succeed. Good Luck!
The fact that I relate to every last thing you said, I’m literally in tears!! 😭 I’m not diagnosed, and for so long I just always felt like something was seriously wrong me. My youngest brother was diagnosed with ADHD at a young age, and it was just never anything that anyone picked up with me- since I was always so “well behaved, especially in class.” I’m 27 now, and I just wish I had known sooner... it all makes so much sense now.
This is like looking in a brain 🧠 mirror. Wow!
Thank you for sharing. (Also, Yes on the salt.)
Ohhhh thank you. ❤ I have watched plenty of videos and this was one of the best.
Omg, this video hit me so hard. Thank you for making this video. I now feel like I have a possible answer for all the things that have caused me so much emotional pain.
I was already on board from the beginning when you said "I knew I was trying in life but things were always so challenging and I didn't know why". Just spot on LOL.
I’m (triumphantly!) going through the process of finally getting tested for ADHD. I’ve had all of these symptoms (especially the self image aspect) for ages and I only really connected them with the symptoms of ADHD when I stumbled on pockets of info on the internet (this time around it finally flicked a switch and got me to get my butt in gear!). I’ve struggled so much throughout school and especially in my college life, and I think the only reason why my outcomes are so objectively successful is because 1) I’m really motivated to learn and 2) I’ve had INCREDIBLE support and a nurturing environment. In the mean time while I wait for my appointment I’ve been binging adhd content on RUclips, and I’ve already found so many helpful tools no matter what the outcome of my testing tells me. So thank you for your personal experiences!! It really helps :) p.s. - the salt thing was hilarious. I guess my love for salt really explains it all lol
Thank you so much for this video! For people who try so hard, but still failing! This could be life changing!
Thanks for sharing so much information. I definitely heard myself in many of those symptoms. Especially zoning out in social situations. Always feels so awkward. Sitting here nodding my head to most of what you said 😏💯👍🏼
I’m laughing so hard and crying because everything you side was me and I do. I’m so happy some one feels the same way
Me too I was the same lol
It’s so good to hear you got diagnosed at 31. I’m 30 and just now realizing the evidence of my life all points to ADHD.
I was worried after brushing it off as a preteen due to great grades in school and not knowing ADHD affects emotions AT ALL until weeks ago, yet I now have learned it really does, that I might have missed getting diagnosed when I should have been. The hyper focus was my joke excuse for why I couldn’t have it during my early 20s too…when really I just never understood what it truly encompasses. I hope I can approach the next 30 years more properly as a result of new information and newly-adapted intentions, and I hope therapy and any support and habits can actually be better and more helpful, rather than (like too many things) just missing an opportunity I “should” have managed to grab onto
Yes! Every word you said is me. I keep watching videos and I find a few from this person that I have similar conditions but not all. Next video was same way. Then I came across your video and cried while watching it twice. I feel relieved, like I am not losing my mind. I didn't know other people were going thru what I do because I'd never talk about it. I am going to make an appt with my Dr. For what it is worth, Thank you and keep up the great work.
I really felt the part about cutting things down to a minimum because having more things makes it almost impossible to stay organized.
Thank you so much!!! This video was amazing for understanding that I actually have a lot more symptoms than I realised and I'll be making a doctor's appointment tomorrow!
I'm a 31 year old female and never even saw ADHD as a possibility as I assumed it was just something for hyper kids... didn't realise all of the symptoms to do with your hyper mind instead, which is 100% me!
Am praying this doesn't get dismissed and one day I'll wake up and not feel the way I have every day since childhood: unmotivated and distracted!
Thanks again for taking the time to lay this all out (& for the chapter markers!! 😚👌)
so glad you got something out of my video!!
I’m so happy I stumbled across your page! I’ve been suspicious that I might have ADHD for years. My dad and my little brother have it but I was never diagnosed. I can relate to almost all of these tendencies
You ARE "The Validator". Someone's got to write the show.
I'm just sixteen hours into my self-diagnosis - I've been watching RUclips videos about inattentive ADHD for 16 hours straight & I'm not done yet. - Is that an issue?
Seriously, your concise descriptions of my symptoms are so helpful. I've been treated for depression for 23 years now & not really got anywhere - that's about to change.
I've hit that bell & I'm looking forward to more!
Thank you so much.
This fits me like a glove! I also got diagnosed last year at the young age of 31 after I was prompted to look into ADHD. I can really relate to the dropping out of college, emotional issues, motivation. And the salt thing! I think it's because our brains crave stimulation so we need intensity in everything, including our food. I love foods with strong flavors, including stinky cheeses and spicy foods.
You just described every one of my symptoms, plus many more I could add. Even now while I’m watching this video I have things that I need to get done for tomorrow but I get sidetracked. I always end up doing other things instead of focusing on what needs done. It’s a vicious cycle that I’m unable to control, even when I can realize it.
i totally relate. obviously😂😬
I recently saw a video about add and had no idea what it consisted of and I feel like my whole life has been explained and don't understand why no one ever knew? I relate to everything you have listed! Thank you so much for this ❤
Thanks so much for this video. For your content! I've had ADD (without the HD) my whole life. I was diagnosed with severe attention deficit at standford when i was a small child and basically failed my whole way through grade school until dropping out in 10th grade. I finally got my GED and then went on to start, own, and manage 2 businesses with a team of employees who rely on me to focus and manage my responsibilities. To anyone who feels like they are worthless or incapable of being successful despite wanting to be focused or motivated, get a real diagnosis and if you have ADD / HD, allow that to be okay, medicate or manage it, and relearn to live life with it. For me, not managing my ADD with meds is a recipe for literal failure and disaster in every facet of my life. I literally cannot function without it and even basic things that others do without thinking. Are absolutely impossible. If you have ADHD / ADD, dont fight it or deny it. Just take control of it and stop holding yourself to a standard that others or the world have set for you. Dont judge yourself for your struggles or accomplishments so far. Treat and manage your ADD with meds and therapy and redefine your life. You're like capable of so much more than you think and its okay for your processes to look different than the norm.
I can relate. Almost by 100%.
13:22 Do you find easier to communicate electronically e.g. email/texting than communicating out loud? I'm like this which is why I ask! lol
Not necessarily. I always forget (what a concept) to mention communication throught text and email in my videos when discussing communication.
I suck at writing. and spelling. and organizing my thoughts in a text/email that will convey my message to others clearly without over writing or underwriting even. I'll write and rewrite all the time. and debate on if i should send it. delete a message.. start all over. It's a hot mess. Not always though. Mostly with people I don't know well. Here on my platform i feel like I'm with my people...so i don't struggle with replying to comments...if it's not obvious i might lean more towards over replying...i like to reply while i still have the smaller subscriber base and have the ability. I love all ya'll!!!
Again, I completely relate. For me, hitting send on an email gets me anxious these days. Mainly because I've overlooked previous emails or hit send too soon and ugh, it's awful... so now when I feel hesitant about sending an email, I'd get colleagues to check my emails - but - even if they say it's perfect, I'd still feel like the message isn't clear and I'd start overthinking. But I'd rather email than speak to someone verbally. If there are lots to talk about, however, speaking about it verbally seems easier. I guess it all depends on the context.
Your channel's a blessing and is keeping me sane about the way my brain works, huge love. Thanks so much for replying!
I prefer communicating face-to-face or through text but I absolutely hate phone calls. Emails are usually fine but they can give me anxiety when I'm having tech problems and the emails are for something work-related or college-related.
@Connor Im the same I will literally just sit and watch my phone ring but not answer it 😂and if I'm having like a heated conversation over the phone I can never get my words out properly but I can write how I feel much better and would rather have the conversation over text if you can relate? Also slow internet and computer problems give me RAGE
“It takes a while for things to get into your thick head” - yup! I can’t argue with that one!
Thank you for putting the hyperlinks in the video description. This can be really helpful (especially for longer videos).
OMG my whole life has just been described in your video!! 47 now, dropped out of high school a straight A student at 16 before I failed everything - it's so much research and self-directed study at that level! My 10 year old daughter was diagnosed with ADHD and ASD level 1 at the beginning of this year - she's definitely hyperactive. I'm studying from home (again) after quitting my job as a legal exec, and came across your video while going down the proverbial rabbit hole of procrastination on an assignment - never knew Mel Robbins has ADD how cool!! Now...I had to pause this video like FIVE times to go off and do things that suddenly popped into my head that HAD to be done right then and there. And this video is only 23 mins long! And that's nothing unusual for me. I've written down your list and ticked off all of them but one - I think I need to go see my GP....maybe there is light at the end of the tunnel and I can finish my studies? Thank you so much - have subscribed and look forward to watching more xx
Thanks for compiling this list of traits, you crystalized each one well. I seem to do ok with time, I'm usually punctual, but it's a conscious effort I try hard at. I have all the rest of the traits mentioned. I have to hand it to my 3rd-grade teacher for recognizing my disorder, 30 years ago.
nice! And yeah. my efforts to be on time have helped out a lot...but if i'm not careful i'l slip back into being fashionably late...
The being late thing is 100% accurate! I'm always late to school run as I look at the clock, think "oh I have 10mins and it takes 3mins to get there so I can unload the dishwasher quick" do the dishwasher and organise the cutlery drawer so its now -3 minutes and I'm late!"
One of the best videos I’ve seen. Thanks for posting.
I'm 60 and have never considered that I might have ADHD until videos on the subject started popping up in my recommended list! I honestly relate to every symptom you've listed here - maybe I should be assessed at some point? Love your videos BTW.
I have ADHD, I had it all my life but it didn’t really peak or get noticed until I was an adult. I’m 56, ADHD, wasn’t really a “thing” Yet when I was growing up. So I always blamed myself for not being quite “Up to Par” like everyone else, and I just needed to give myself a kick in the butt. As I got older it turned into HUGE ANXIETY and even PANIC ATTACKS at times. Having finally been diagnosed and doing much reading and watching informative videos, like yours, makes me feel so much better. I can relayed to so much of this! Please, if you feel as though you could have ADHD, just talk to your doctor, get tested. Knowing yourself and why things are more difficult for you is the first step to finding small ways to improve your quality of life, but also not to blame yourself. I would love to see where the salt fits in, I’m a salt freak! ❤️
Yup, I was not diagnosed till in my 50’s and only then because I was searching for information to learn more about my grandson’s diagnosis.
Thanks so much for sharing. My psych said I have ADHD a couple of days ago and your video makes a lot of sense. Its so good you put the time in to make this video.
Wow! THanks for sharing this! I'm glad its making sense for you!
your videos have been so so helpful, thankyou so much for that!! i’m hoping to go to my GP soon to get a referral for an adhd/add assessment and your videos have been the best to binge watch and spend my whole days watching 😭
You just described my whole life. I am in the process of being diagnosed and already accepting that it could be a thing that looking up methods to help has changed my life already!
Yes I have about 90% of the symptoms you’ve described here.
I just want to say a massive THANK YOU! At Christmas, my sister told me she thought I was autistic, and getting help could solve a lot of problems and questions I have. I have always felt different and knew my brain worked in roundabout ways. Carrying shame around with me and stopping myself doing social things, because the backlash of anxiety isn’t worth it. Since finding your channel, I have felt a HUGE sense a relief! Even the way you word yourself; it feels like you’re speaking from my brain!! I have finally got an ADHD assessment booked in for this week. Hopefully I get this sorted, but if not I just want to say thank you for sharing your experiences and thoughts. It’s helped me SO much! X
Sadie Levett omg! This made my day. I love when people get me. The way I talk. The way I am. It makes me feel just as understood as I hope everyone else feels when finding my videos. 🤗 that’s my hope. To bring awareness and acceptance...and a belief that we can be something more than we thought we could. I relate to a lot of what you say. Thanks for sharing and I hope everything goes good with your assessment!
I'd like to second that. It feels incredible to find people talking about what you are going through - in detail! I am finally starting to be kind to my self - praise god
How did your assessment go?
Thank you so much for this video. It resonates with me on pretty much every level. Especially the part about how you can end up blaming and hating yourself for not doing all the things you want, or have to, do.
Throughout most of my life I have thought I was being lazy, and I didn't understand why. At the same time there was something about the whole thing that made me feel it wasn't really laziness that kept me from doing things, I just didn't have any words for what it could be that caused this problem to rule my life. I have Autism Spectrum Disorder too, but I couldn't find an explanation that relates to that either.
As time has gone by - I got my diagnosis when I was in my forties, and I am almost 66 yrs old now - I began to see some patterns that I thought might explain the problem. You see, my life has been a long list of abuse, neglect, abandonment, social isolation, and even demonization. Everything I have ever tried to do, or tried to start doing, has been stopped or taken away from me, so I thought this apparent laziness simply came from a subconscious feeling that nothing I ever do will be completed or allowed to take place no matter how much I try, and I have therefore become worn out, so to speak.
But if this was the case, I would find my story repeated in all the videos by you guys, who talk about, describe, and talk about how you are suffering and/or struggling with the very same problem that I know so well, that I have to conclude there is more to it than a life of misfortune. And when I happen to know that I have not only Autism Spectrum Disorder, but also a quite severe ADHD, I think it's fair to assume the reason lies with my personality syndromes (I prefer to not call them disorders because they come out as disorders only because they're poorly understood and integrated in common societal understanding).
I hope what I've said here makes sense, and maybe even help another person or two, who recognize what you have described in this video, as well as what I have added in this comment.
Whatever the case may be, I wish the best of luck to everybody!!
PS. About the salt: I found out that I ate too much salt with my food many years ago, so I weaned myself off from using more salt than necessary, which was good for my health and lowered my blood pressure to the best it can be.
I have a tip for everybody about salting the food when you cook: Always use as little salt as possible, and instead of adding it to the food while cooking, put salt on the table like you do with pepper, that way people can add as much salt as they wish.
Omg!!!! I feel so SO validated!!! For years...I thought this is it...this is my life..chaos, distracted all the time...2 million unfinished projects, and wanting to start more...clothes piled everywhere...always ALWAYS late...waiting until the last minute to do absolutely anything...especially paying bills...forgetting literally every single thing, including conversations....totally not calling friends back, or texting and not knowing why...
Omg...I am not lazy!! I am not loosing my mind....it has a name!!!!
Thank you for this video
You basically describe my life so far😂. I recently got diagnosed and I think it's crazy how many ADHD'ers have the similar life story of quiting and failing, anxiety, and all the other things you talked about. And I'm sure not all them do, but it blew my mind a lot of us similar life experiences. It's good to know because I don't have to be so hard on my self and let other emotions get the best of me. I do the salt thing too!
Anyways, good informative and entertaining video, keep up the good work 👍🏼.
Juan Valdez yay! entertaining information! That’s my hope and goal. Yeah...it’s crazy how many of us can relate...learning about it has released so much of my self hate. I Don’t judge myself nearly as much as I used to… I try to get better every day excepting myself for who I am.
Juan Valdez and I love that you do the salt thing ahaha
I have always been yelled at for how much salt I eat.. I’m 41 yr old male and I’ve had a lot of set backs in life I do great for awhile then everything falls apart i get super depressed and start using drugs again and then ended up in prison I’m out now was doing good again then had heart attack had triple bypass surgery and haven’t been able to work since and haven’t had income in almost a year and my fiancé had got pregnant rt before heart attack we were very happy but then all this happened and now I got beautiful newborn daughter but I’m still not able to get outta this depressed feeling and useless feeling idk I can’t seem to get dr who can figure me out but I feel like I’m at the end of the road if I don’t get it figured out. I also have been diagnosed with anxiety and ptsd I’m only prescribed Xanax but there is something else I just can’t seem to explain I’m lost and I’m feeling like everyone would be better off without me I’ve so many times been doing good in life and screw it up and just quit jobs or walk away from relationship idk what’s wrong. I also have 8 year old who is autistic
Omg. The intro with smelly cat...😝
liza smith 😂glad someone appreciated it.😎learned it specially just for this video...
Ikr!!!! ❤️
Seriously awesome!
The video and data you demonstrated about ADHD are helpful to all of us who work with clients, colleagues only to wish you success.
This was such a perfect explanation of me. It was like you could read into my brainn! wow eye opening!! xoxo thank you for doing this fantastic video xoxo
Throughout my high school and college life, I have never been able to manage my time effectively. I remember I would stay up late in the night to finish off school work, and I'd get upset when my mum would question why I wasn't done with my work yet. I would spend hours on one topic of a subject, almost forgetting that I had three other topics to go through. I could never understand how my classmates managed to revise every subject in one day for example and spread their time out evenly. I would procrastinate, but once I really have to I can study for the whole day, allbeit anxiously. I am also very impulsive, which has lead to a life of addiction. Furthermore, when I get an idea I have to do it that day, otherwise that thing will occupy my mind, at the expense of everything else. I'm 21 years old, and these problems don't seem to go away. I haven't been diagnosed, but I relate to these symptoms. I also tend to forget things, and I usually need people to explain things twice to get it. I know it sounds stupid, but sometimes I fear I have dementia. I feel like I need a lot of time to process what people are saying. I don't know how to get diagnosed, as I feel like this aspect of ADHD isn't well known.
wow. thanks so much for sharing. i related and was nodding through everything you were saying...spending too much time on something while other things are pressing.
A beautiful painting Ardelle! And a perfect summery of "symptoms" . Its so recognizable that its a bit odd for me that there are people just like me, which makes me feel a bit less of an oddball ..lol And yes we are easy insalted 😂 thanks for the video A. xo
the insalted pun....omg! How did i not think of that!!! amazing. ahahaa and thanks for sharing your thoughts. it helps me know i'm not the only oddball as well...
@@ArdelleVision haha yes it came to me when I was writing, add creativity ;)
I see what you did there 😂🤣😂
This video helped me SO MUCH!!! I related to EVERYTHING you mentioned. I was feeling so alone, dumb, and lazy because I didn't know what was wrong with me & then I randomly came across your video. THANK YOU FOR POSTING!!! 💖
Emily Taylor omg!!! I’m so glad this helped!!! Yayayayaay! I related so much to the feeling alone dumb and lazy until I got some answers and helped myself out! 🥰🥰🥰
Well this video came up as a suggestion for me to watch and I have to say I absolutely relate to everything you said even including the salt thing! I'm due to be finally assessed this coming week for the first time and I am in my 50s. It could definitely give me an answer for a lot of things I've dealt with over my life. I think the validation is super important to move forward and try to get past some of these issues. Thank you for making this video it was very good.
I feel like I pay a lot of attention to my time management. Whenever I have something planned i try really hard to do everything on time to the point where I am finished preparing way to early so I just sit and wait for that thing to happen. So usually I am not late because I really try not to.
I have the worse problems with being on time. I do exactly what you said about getting ready and being on time. It is embarrassing to always be late and not understanding how things will always go wrong. I have to set a timer on my phone or I will be much later than normal
Thank you so much for this video. I got diagnosed with autism a couple years back, and ever since i've felt as if theres no way that my behaviour is JUST autism, there were too many similarities to ADHD, I recently have been doing more research into adhd and your channel has been a huge help! I spoke to a doctor last week, and I'm being referred for a test!! Thank you!!!!
Diagnosed just one week ago. I’m 31 years old. I relate very much to pretty much all of this. Cannot believe there is a reason for how I’ve felt so different since I was a kid. Constant shame. Struggled w/ low self esteem. Learning to laugh at myself has helped over the last few yrs. The brain to mouth with words is so so frustrating. Not good at being concise or articulate. Always felt so dumb, lazy, crazy - like I must seem so ditzy. Living my life at so much lower level than I know I could be. I do like salt.. a lot.. So amazing to have found out this about myself. This is my brain. Now learning to have grace and kindness for myself. Loove your smelly cat intro ❤️💕 Thank you for your videos 💕❤️ helps go understand and not feel alone.
LOL the cat starts the show! 😹
Oh boy, I have it and just like you, I couldn't get anything together. My Mom always said I was "scattered" which means perfect sense as having been diagnosed later in life. Yes easily distracted..look!
>🐿️< Oh and I still haven't finished painting the kitchen!! 😅😳
And getting in the car, going down the road and oh yeah! I forgot something (very important!) I'm just relating to EVERYTHING you're saying! 😭
I also hide the really important stuff. So well, that I forget where I put it! *Creates another tornado in the house looking for it* SHOPAHOLIC here.🙄
Now I have fingers cramp, so I'm just gonna listen and agree with everything else you're saying! 🙋🙏
"Now I have fingers cramp, so I'm just gonna listen and agree with everything else you're saying! 🙋🙏" OMG!!!!! HAHAHAHA I love this last line...because i feel it so much. Watching ADHD videos with a constant nodding of the head...thinking yup! That me! The distasters we create externally because the chaos in our minds...oh it is hilarious! AHAHAAH
Glad you appreciate the cat. She is constantly "going" at the most inopportune times for me. It's like she knows...
I’ve watched so many of these videos and relate to almost all things said... and I still doubt myself that I may have it... almost like I’m not good enough to have it... madness! 🤯
yeah right..it almost feels like im just lying to myself, that theres no way i actually have it, that im just "doing this for attention" idk this is what my brain tells me.. i relate to all of the symptoms and just search for *one* i dont relate to, to convince myself that im fine..
Thanks for the entertaining, informative video. I actually got distracted just watching your infectious mannerisms. You are excellent at talking head videos. I wish you all best. Thanks
OMG. I check every single box as does my mother. My mind is freaking blown right now down to the salt comment🤯 I feel like I could cry!! This is so validating!!
Today I was unofficially diagnosed with inattentive ADHD by my counselor...and it seems like watching your video is hearing my journal read out loud.
I should be out the door now. I'm caught now watching this in my robe, doing the I gotta go pea dance
I'm finally validated. I knew I wasn't crazy, or over stimulating myself. I've known this for years you just explained my life word for word
Thanks for sharing this. I never thought of myself as someone who would have adhd, but I was diagnosed as an adult. Your videos help me to feel like I’m not alone! Thanks so much! ❤️
Heather Breaux I’m so happy my videos help!!!
I started crying in 12:02 for the things that you were saying cause i took them personally even tho you literally say that those we're things you say to yourself
awe i totally say these things to myself but constantly try to work out a better self dialogue. sorry to make you cry😰😰😰
@@ArdelleVision it's okay, don't worry, I'm trying to work on that for myself too 😊
When you said about locking your keys in your car you reminded me that I once missed two flights in one day.
I’m 45 and only in the last few months after doing research have a realised I’ve been so called adhd my whole life ! Everything you said is so me ! Thanks for putting this up ! I know it’s just a name but having a tangible thing or reason for the way I am has really helped me actually!! 🏴 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻thanks again
I’ve been watching videos like yours over the past few days and I’m pretty convinced that I’ve been misdiagnosed or maybe just not fully diagnosed when I started my depression/anxiety meds in college. Every video is more and more motivation to get it checked as soon as is reasonable. about to go straight from this video to your “How I Came To Know I Have ADHD Inattentive Type”! also almost clicked it before i was done typing this comment so there’s that
Hannah Hall omg hahah thank you for sharing and I’m so glad my videos have shed light on some things for you! I have been struggling with depression after losing my mom...but more videos soon!
Lovely painting
Deborah Ferris thank you!!!
You seem to understand everything about me. Finding out at age 50 I feel nobody around even thinks its real. Think I am going to just not talk about it ever. Adhd not me
glad you relate and got something out of this video!
I seriously think I'm going to cry. I have never related more to an explanation in my life. I have been feeling more is going on with me than just the things I've been previously diagnosed with and I knew I had all of what you explain but I couldn't put it into cohesive sentences. I'm keeping a notebook at the moment to write all of my thoughts, opinions & issues down to give to drs when I see them (I need notes because I'm so bad at remembering in the moment because my brain is constantly distracted). It just feels so good to be finally realising things and starting to deal with them after many years of denial & confusion.
Aaaaand that's why I keep decluttering and re-decluttering my home...hence much of my channel content. And the painting thing--yup. Hyperfocusing on fun exciting stuff like art or projects instead of the dishes and laundry. hah. (I see you have a Spanish vocab book on your shelf...me too. Glad to have found your content!)
i once lost my phone because i put it down somewhere and forgot where. i found it it three years later in a random drawer for literally no reason
My phone was in the freezer for over a month. I put it in there as I put groceries away. Didn't find it until the next time. Who puts their phone in the freezer?!
relate to all of this and even the salt issue, always put loads of salt in my food.
YES!!! The salt thing for me is so real. I put some...take a bite...put a little more...Perfect...eat some of my food...crap! The next layer needs more salt!!! Yeah...I it gets interesting in front of people
I can’t believe what I am hearing. How did you get inside my head??? This is me. My daughter told me she thinks I might have it. I didn’t relate because I thought it was the domain of little boys that never sit still. Then I listened to this. I am picking my jaw up off the floor. A few things don’t seem to fit, but 90% of it fits. Right down to the salt! I’m a new sub.
OMG... I literally thought I was the ONLY one! I am having such a hard time with this. It’s been getting worst and worst for me, but seeing this video helped me understand what I’m going through and gave me in a way peace to know that I’m not the only one. I know that this isn’t something to be ashamed of. So, thank you so much for that.
haha I love your personality!!! I feel like I have ADHD we would totally be friends!! #subscribed
Keyra Ford! Thank you so much! 🤗😂
im SO SO impulsive, I literalyl DIDNT EVEN WANT A SECOND PIERCING but i wanted it for two minutes so i got a sewing needle and did it, I DIDNT EVEN HAVE AN EARRING
Loved it!! You are so relatable and funny!
Such an amazing video!! So thorough,...def part of my story!!