No true everyone turn a blind eye when women experience this but now it's been take serious now the roles are reserved its now been taken more seriously
@@Gem_ini no actually it’s not, there is actually men out there suffering in silence, because of the stigma. Yes more females get abused and it’s shown in the media a lot more, but there is also a lot of men who are in that position but are afraid to speak up
Good on you fella for finally freeing yourself from that abusive woman. It takes real courage as a man to go on national television and speak up, I admire you for that. Wish you all the best for your future.
or no one. Too much pressure to be in a relationship or move in with someone. Stay alone for a while.. ..get good platonic friends and then decide what you want.
I personally have met lots of toxic, scheming, narcissistic women, who think they can get away with whatever they want. So proud of this man, and every man who manages to get away,and shine the light for others. An evil person is an evil person.
Men have suffered physical verbal and emotional abuse gor years but would never dare doeak up for fear of being ridiculed or not believed. So happy that this gentleman has decided to tell his story which will give the right message to others who have suffered in silence. Abuse comes in many forms, irrespective of gender.
Some of the comments on here are unbelievable! There is no excuse for abusing someone and victim shaming is just as bad as the abuse itself! He isn’t telling his story for sympathy but to raise awareness as to what abuse can and does look like, whether the victim is a man or a woman. I take my hat off to him and think he’s extremely brave!
What? Are there negative comments?! Oh No..then I can't look at them...what a lovely man .... And I wish him all the best...that creature was flashed on our screens if only she knew that one day Karma will get her!
He’s very brave to talk about this. Please beware of online dating sites, these are hunting grounds for narcissists. The woman he dealt with was undoubtedly a narcissist, they often use dating sites to catch their prey. Please be careful out there🙏🏼
Everyone is a narcissist to a certain degree. The term narcissist is thrown around now like it's something special, when it's a common trait of humans. The woman, this man was dating, was a sociopath.
Went through the same. For over a year. Horrible. It ruined my life and my families. I opened up in a video on youtube and many people came out and did the same. Props to this man. More men need to come out.
Abusers mess with your mind and self-esteem. By the end, you're so beaten down, you can't even think straight, much less walk out. After they get you in a corner, then the physical abuse starts. He was blessed to get out when he did, otherwise this might have become life-threatening. Good on you Gareth!
Sadly, if the roles were to be reversed, the man would do jail time ….. it’s time society accepted that it’s just a common for women to be abusive as it is for men to be abusive.
I really don't agree with the suspended sentence. She will only go to prison if she does something else. She needs to be punished for what she has already done. It wasn't one incident in a fit of rage ( also not OK by the way!) but a campaign of abuse that was thought out and sustained.
Sorry to disagree. He wasn’t in a vulnerable situation like a single parent to 3 kids under 6 stuck with a part time job. He accepted her behaviours, for whatever reason, and went along with it. He needs to be honest and mature and realize that he was also getting something out of it.
@@a.b.2850 Mankind or Women’s Aid are good places to start if you want to understand why victims don’t leave. There is a complex psychology behind it which is too long to explain here, but you would be better off researching the topic yourself.
He seems like such a lovely man - really sorry this happened to him. Always happens to the most kind hearted. He’s very brave and I’m so glad he got out of it.
As a woman who has seen my male relatives go through so much abuse. I have warned and taught my son to pay attention to red flags and that a partner needs to treat him right vice versa too.
Am a woman and I believe him 1000%. Am so proud of him to talk about and explain how he experienced the abuses. Please everyone should comes forward because Dv is bad just like any sickness
Because the 1000+ women that have been SO brave to talk about abuse, meaning for some putting their own lives at risk, and those that did die of abuse have not yet been enough to capture society’s attention. All this time all WE, Women, needed apparently was A MAN to explain his (dodgy imho) abusive relationship on a morning show to give a real chance to victims to finally be acknowledged, eventually hopefully heard, believed and taken seriously by law enforcement. The rate of femicides proves my point.
@@a.b.2850 society has been listening to women *exclusively* about this subject for years.. Are you that insecure that when one man speaks up amongst thousands of women (who are all taken more seriously btw) you get upset. Bizarre
Well done for speaking out. People often talk about abusive men and "toxic masculinity" but there are toxic woman too. Domestic Abuse in any form by any gender is not ok! Wishing you all the best for a happy and healthy relationship in the future.
Our son went through something similar and luckily managed to get out but kids are involved and she's still using them to get control. We wish you all the luck in the world. Well done for speaking out. Sending lots of love x
I really admire him for going on TV and raising awareness of this. I too am going through something similar (admittedly not to the same level of severity). I feel hugely embarrassed about it and its so hard to talk about and cope with.
Poor guy, this is just horrible. It's hard to understand how a person can become enmeshed in this psychological cruelty. Dear Gareth, I hope you have lots of support from friends and family and will one day have the courage to find someone with whom you can have a loving and healthy relationship. I wish you well.
Well done for talking about it. Having looked into something similar I can tell you that narcissists rarely change (almost never). She will never change. And the sooner you can realise that it will really help you move on. She is that way. You aren’t. You can go and live your life free. Concentrate on yourself and do things you enjoy!
I'm not sure if he is aware that he has taken something so terrible and he is using it to help others. So many men do not report abuse, I hope because of his story others have the strength to come forward. ❤
Thank you for sharing your story. I have been abused by my mother; she poisoned me numerous times, but luckily I survived. She used to put harmful substances in my meals. She beat me many tiems. She has also killed numerous people by mixing poison in their food and injecting it into their blood. I tried to report the case, but the police didn't believe me. She is still alive. I ran away and now live in a different country. However, this affects me every day; it impacts my work and my relationships.
Do you plan to expose those police for what they did? Because this is a problem people don’t talk about. The incompetence of the police. If that were me, I would see to it the officers are exposed for what they did and be publicly shamed by society.
I was abused by my exhusban for 45years i wish i left the marriage years before i did. They are very very evil people who abuses nice people to make themself feel better. I am proud of you Garet for standing up to this very evil woman. She should have gone to prison for 5years.
Eh?? The two comments about him being weak can just shut up.. I was in a domestic violence relationship was so hard to leave. U get kinda brain washed. I'm not weak. I'm strong so is he. It's the abusers that are weak!!!!! Come at me then!!!!
100% agree. I've also experienced domestic abuse and it's extremely complex. There will be a lot more to this man's experience than he can tell us in a short interview. The strength it takes to get away from an abuser is unreal too. They do not make it easy for you to leave
The same thing happened to me. It started off normal and then suddently she started being controlling. Made me change my phone number so none of my friends could contact me. Chose who I could see, when I could see them. Slowly it started to get violent, she would start hitting me. Then it started to turn into her emotionally blackmailing me through suicide attempts. It was horrific.
searched abusive girlfriends to see if anyone else has been through this and this video was posted less than an hour ago. If trauma can pass through generations, so can the healing.
Classic narcissistic abuse. My narc ex almost killed me. It took me 6 months to be able to go back to a functioning adult. Something so small as being able to change the bed sheets was my victory. I am still in therapy.. Narcissism is becoming the next epidemic...
Please encourage your brother to speak to DV charities for men. Some give incredible support in every area possible. I hope your brother gets away, and that he's able to remain in contact with you and other relatives and friends. Nobody was put on this planet to be used, misused, and abused.
I went through something not quite as bad as this…manipulation, controlling behaviour, blackmailing. It’s not until you get out and look back that you realise how bad things are/were.
Gareth, if you're reading this, then I want to commend you for your courage and how you've taken a hellish situation and are now using it to help others.
This is mad and quite upsetting as this took place in a house I used to live in that was a very loving family home. However since Sarah Rigby bought it off us she has turned it into a controlling and manipulative environment and tarnished all those amazing memories. Such a shame. Thoughts go out to Gareth and his family and hopefully they can reach some sort of normal again.
We believe raising awareness of abuse towards men is essential. Many have experienced, coercive behaviour, harassment and stalking. It is about saying to men, you have exactly the same rights as women to get justice and to speak out. He's doing men a huge justice in sharing his story and all power to him for doing so. Hopefully more men will feel more able to report these things. There is no stigma or weakness in saying "No" I will NOT accept this I WILL report it to the Police.
I was abused by my narcissistic wife for years. Everything seemed perfect in the first 12 months or so. I didn't notice the gaslighting after that. I was controlled in so many ways and I lost contact with my family for far too long. I could write so much about it here, but I know most people wouldn't be interested.
People who have not experienced this cannot possibly understand. I have known so many, male and female, although often not to such a degree. These people play on a vulnerability and then they have you, get a hold over you and pull the strings until the other person is in a constant state of fear and anxiety, resulting in brain fog so severe that the other person feels they are going crazy. My ex husband did it to me, this is how I know what it feels like. I have lost at least two female friends because they were treating their husbands in this way. Men very often suffer in silence due to the stigma that can be attached. This man is very brave to speak out. Well done, don't let it prevent you from finding love, just take note of the red flags
About time they are talking about female abusers. My stepmother abused my dad for years and I tried reaching put for help for him but there was no help for men. It infuriates me when I see adverts about Domestic abuse and make out that it's always the men who are the abusers.
Wow ! Im so sorry this man went through this ... i just want to give him a hug. This is horrendous ! Just goes to show you never know whats going on behind closed doors. Kudos to this lovely man for speaking out about this 😊❤
Gareth Well done for speaking out on the domestic abuse you endured by your ex wife Stay strong and continue speaking out because I am sure there are a lot of other men been abused by their partner but will be too embarrassed to talk about it Good luck in the future
Im so sorry this happened to this lovely man. Its sickening how people feel they have the right to treat people with no regard and respect. I think when this man is ready he will have plenty of good honest and loving ladies waiting for him. Best wishes for a happy future
I never realised how much this is happening to men as well. Good for you for coming out to speak about your experience. She needs to get some medical help. No remorse means she might do it again 😢
This also happened to me, And even though my ex was convicted in court of abuse, the abuse still continues today, and the stigma attached to it never goes away. Thank you for sharing your story.
Narcissistic personality disorder in todays world is like a pandemic. It is very sad. There's always me me me and people don't think they can hurt someone. I study psychology and the stories I hear are terrible. It's good that victims of that behaviour are talking about this.
It doesn’t matter the gender or sexuality it happens. This happened to me in my relationship between two females. It broke me to the point I tried to take my own life after she left me. People don’t realize it’s quite narcissistic.
I'm glad I'm middle aged, the internet has destroyed society and it wasn't that great to begin with. People will only get more narcissistic, bitter and spiteful.
Urgh working for a domestic abuse charity.. 20 months 2 years suspended.. is nothing! Disgusting! Also RO’s are broken all the time.. abusers don’t care! They will breach any conditions they don’t care. Poor guy thank god he escaped and is able to speak his story and help other men
Well done to this guy for speaking out, my son was in a similar situation and took a long time to heal!! Eventually we went to court, he's now married and very happy. More needs to be done for the men who are in these situations my son was automatically assumed to be the aggressor and locked up !! I tried to get some emergency accommodation after she threw him out late at night but everything was geared up for women we need to be just as supportive for men.
Unfortunately 😢, Domestic violence 😔 affects both genders! Not just women but males probably will not say anything. I applaud this guy for putting his story forward.
Pick yourself up and get on with what you want to do in life...., you seem a nice guy who " SHE " Abused, she's gone now.. forget her she certainly not worth anymore of your time or your thoughts... you will find someone nice.. wish you all the best for the future.....
It's great Gareth reached out to the charity, Mankind. Thousands of men will be more aware of such support. I wonder if commiting too soon by leaving everything to live together is part of the problem. Couples are basically strangers, if that is so. Gareth, enjoy your freedom - long may you thrive.
Abusers will try so isolate you and make you feel its all your fault when its not. And they try to control your life when that happens you should get out.
Hope you find some happiness Gareth 😊don’t let it put you off dating as I’m sure there’s a lovely lady out there that will respect and love you for who you are 🥰🍀🇬🇧
Domestic violence has no gender. Both women AND men can be abused. Respect to him for bravely telling his story ❤️
99% of cases are men doing the abusing though, let’s be real here.
No true everyone turn a blind eye when women experience this but now it's been take serious now the roles are reserved its now been taken more seriously
@@Gem_ini no actually it’s not, there is actually men out there suffering in silence, because of the stigma. Yes more females get abused and it’s shown in the media a lot more, but there is also a lot of men who are in that position but are afraid to speak up
@@Gem_ini Exactly he's story is very sad and vile and not as common those are the facts women and men aren't the same.
Sadly I don't think male abuse is still recognised yet. Let's hope this changes.
So glad they showed a photo of her so everyone can see who she is !!!
Very pretty
Good on you fella for finally freeing yourself from that abusive woman. It takes real courage as a man to go on national television and speak up, I admire you for that.
Wish you all the best for your future.
Absolutely utmost respect to him
I hope this man finds someone as lovely as he is.
or no one. Too much pressure to be in a relationship or move in with someone. Stay alone for a while.. ..get good platonic friends and then decide what you want.
I personally have met lots of toxic, scheming, narcissistic women, who think they can get away with whatever they want. So proud of this man, and every man who manages to get away,and shine the light for others. An evil person is an evil person.
Abuse is universal and universally unacceptable
Absolutely.
Absolutely. 💔
Yes agree but sadly men are not recognised
.no not really men had no issue with men behaving this towards women so why should be feel sorry for men
Men have suffered physical verbal and emotional abuse gor years but would never dare doeak up for fear of being ridiculed or not believed. So happy that this gentleman has decided to tell his story which will give the right message to others who have suffered in silence. Abuse comes in many forms, irrespective of gender.
Some of the comments on here are unbelievable! There is no excuse for abusing someone and victim shaming is just as bad as the abuse itself! He isn’t telling his story for sympathy but to raise awareness as to what abuse can and does look like, whether the victim is a man or a woman. I take my hat off to him and think he’s extremely brave!
What? Are there negative comments?! Oh No..then I can't look at them...what a lovely man .... And I wish him all the best...that creature was flashed on our screens if only she knew that one day Karma will get her!
RUclips can delete negative comments this also happens with me sometimes @@reginamushi6582
I don't see any negative comments?
@@orangesnowflake3769 there are some comments mentioning that he probably chose to stay and men don’t get abused! Absolutely disgraceful
@8plusus97 ah well they'll always be one I guess... but best to ignore and engage with the decent comments
Hats off for speaking up
💯
He’s very brave to talk about this. Please beware of online dating sites, these are hunting grounds for narcissists. The woman he dealt with was undoubtedly a narcissist, they often use dating sites to catch their prey. Please be careful out there🙏🏼
And a sociopath too
You can meet the wrong people anywhere, at a dance, in a club, even the supermarket. That’s a very narrow view of reality.
A guy went clubbing with his friend that were friend's from nursery. He killed her in a park after walking her home.
Everyone is a narcissist to a certain degree. The term narcissist is thrown around now like it's something special, when it's a common trait of humans. The woman, this man was dating, was a sociopath.
Yes agree 💯
Went through the same. For over a year. Horrible. It ruined my life and my families. I opened up in a video on youtube and many people came out and did the same. Props to this man. More men need to come out.
Abusers mess with your mind and self-esteem. By the end, you're so beaten down, you can't even think straight, much less walk out. After they get you in a corner, then the physical abuse starts. He was blessed to get out when he did, otherwise this might have become life-threatening. Good on you Gareth!
Yes absolutely 💯
This happened to someone I knew. Sadly, no longer with us. Such people destroy lives.
So true 😢
Very true they beat you down
That sentence should not have been suspended
Sadly, if the roles were to be reversed, the man would do jail time ….. it’s time society accepted that it’s just a common for women to be abusive as it is for men to be abusive.
@@147crayin what world?
I got death threats from my ex-husband last summer (a highly abusive ex-husband of 8y) and he’s still 100% free.
@@a.b.2850liar
@@147crayMy cousin was unalived by her husband. He got found guilty of manslaughter. They may aswell not bother sentencing him
@a.b.2850 big difference between words and physical abuse.
It is difficult for men to acknowledge the controlling behaviour of a female. Harder for the authorities to understand
I really don't agree with the suspended sentence. She will only go to prison if she does something else. She needs to be punished for what she has already done. It wasn't one incident in a fit of rage ( also not OK by the way!) but a campaign of abuse that was thought out and sustained.
Sorry to disagree.
He wasn’t in a vulnerable situation like a single parent to 3 kids under 6 stuck with a part time job.
He accepted her behaviours, for whatever reason, and went along with it. He needs to be honest and mature and realize that he was also getting something out of it.
@@a.b.2850hmmm, not sure I agree with this. We don’t know whether he was vulnerable or not. Also, I don’t think you’d think this way if he was a woman
@@a.b.2850 Mankind or Women’s Aid are good places to start if you want to understand why victims don’t leave. There is a complex psychology behind it which is too long to explain here, but you would be better off researching the topic yourself.
Totally agree. Women should not think it's OK for them to be victims and nor Men. Women stay for different reasons as well as Men.
@@a.b.2850If a guy said this about a woman, it would be called victim blaming. Double standards are wild
He seems like such a lovely man - really sorry this happened to him. Always happens to the most kind hearted. He’s very brave and I’m so glad he got out of it.
As a woman who has seen my male relatives go through so much abuse. I have warned and taught my son to pay attention to red flags and that a partner needs to treat him right vice versa too.
You are a kind woman who thinks for humans not gender
What are the red flags? Please tell me so I can share with my nephews and brothers. Thankyou
@@Ravalos3260 the red flags are clearly being said in the video. Have another watch, listen carefully and take some notes!
Am a woman and I believe him 1000%. Am so proud of him to talk about and explain how he experienced the abuses. Please everyone should comes forward because Dv is bad just like any sickness
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Because the 1000+ women that have been SO brave to talk about abuse, meaning for some putting their own lives at risk, and those that did die of abuse have not yet been enough to capture society’s attention.
All this time all WE, Women, needed apparently was A MAN to explain his (dodgy imho) abusive relationship on a morning show to give a real chance to victims to finally be acknowledged, eventually hopefully heard, believed and taken seriously by law enforcement.
The rate of femicides proves my point.
@@a.b.2850 society has been listening to women *exclusively* about this subject for years..
Are you that insecure that when one man speaks up amongst thousands of women (who are all taken more seriously btw) you get upset.
Bizarre
@@66kaisersoza and still, hundreds of women of killed from DV each day.
Don't think anyone doesn't believe him
Well done for speaking out. People often talk about abusive men and "toxic masculinity" but there are toxic woman too. Domestic Abuse in any form by any gender is not ok! Wishing you all the best for a happy and healthy relationship in the future.
Toxic masculinity doesn't refer to individual men
Our son went through something similar and luckily managed to get out but kids are involved and she's still using them to get control.
We wish you all the luck in the world. Well done for speaking out. Sending lots of love x
That is so so common.Weaponising the children.Theres no voice for men.
I really admire him for going on TV and raising awareness of this. I too am going through something similar (admittedly not to the same level of severity). I feel hugely embarrassed about it and its so hard to talk about and cope with.
Poor guy, this is just horrible. It's hard to understand how a person can become enmeshed in this psychological cruelty. Dear Gareth, I hope you have lots of support from friends and family and will one day have the courage to find someone with whom you can have a loving and healthy relationship. I wish you well.
Wishing Gareth all the best going forward. Sounds horrendous
BRAVO for speaking out and making others aware that it's not ok to put up with abuse of any kind
Well done for talking about it. Having looked into something similar I can tell you that narcissists rarely change (almost never). She will never change. And the sooner you can realise that it will really help you move on. She is that way. You aren’t. You can go and live your life free. Concentrate on yourself and do things you enjoy!
I'm not sure if he is aware that he has taken something so terrible and he is using it to help others. So many men do not report abuse, I hope because of his story others have the strength to come forward. ❤
Thank you for sharing your story. I have been abused by my mother; she poisoned me numerous times, but luckily I survived. She used to put harmful substances in my meals. She beat me many tiems. She has also killed numerous people by mixing poison in their food and injecting it into their blood. I tried to report the case, but the police didn't believe me. She is still alive. I ran away and now live in a different country. However, this affects me every day; it impacts my work and my relationships.
Prayers for healing and for justice too 👏🏼❤️🙏🏼!
Do you plan to expose those police for what they did? Because this is a problem people don’t talk about. The incompetence of the police. If that were me, I would see to it the officers are exposed for what they did and be publicly shamed by society.
I hope he manages to heal. No one should abuse anyone!
You can’t confront or negotiate with a Narcissist, they will attack you more.
This woman has done this to every single man she's dated... this one exposed her. Well done mate. Onward and upwards from now on.
Poor guy, glad he's away from his abuser.
I was abused by my exhusban for 45years i wish i left the marriage years before i did. They are very very evil people who abuses nice people to make themself feel better. I am proud of you Garet for standing up to this very evil woman. She should have gone to prison for 5years.
Maybe even more. Evil people need to be away from society for a very long time
Eh?? The two comments about him being weak can just shut up.. I was in a domestic violence relationship was so hard to leave. U get kinda brain washed. I'm not weak. I'm strong so is he. It's the abusers that are weak!!!!! Come at me then!!!!
100% agree. I've also experienced domestic abuse and it's extremely complex. There will be a lot more to this man's experience than he can tell us in a short interview. The strength it takes to get away from an abuser is unreal too. They do not make it easy for you to leave
@@geml6540 exactly it very very hard to leave
Lllt
Well said clare❤❤
@@sharonhughes1538 thank you 🩷😽
Abuse has no gender!!! God bless this man for getting out of that situation, many would have stayed and put up with the abuse.
The same thing happened to me. It started off normal and then suddently she started being controlling. Made me change my phone number so none of my friends could contact me. Chose who I could see, when I could see them.
Slowly it started to get violent, she would start hitting me. Then it started to turn into her emotionally blackmailing me through suicide attempts. It was horrific.
Very brave of him to share his story. I hope he gets the support he needs to heal
searched abusive girlfriends to see if anyone else has been through this and this video was posted less than an hour ago. If trauma can pass through generations, so can the healing.
Well done for speaking up, I am married and I have been going through this for just over 7 years and I just cannot break free.
10yrs . Good luck to us .
So sorry! I pray for you and all 🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼!
I hope someone comes and treats Gareth the correct way and he finds true love
He comes across as such a decent guy 🤍🙏🤍
Classic narcissistic abuse. My narc ex almost killed me. It took me 6 months to be able to go back to a functioning adult. Something so small as being able to change the bed sheets was my victory. I am still in therapy.. Narcissism is becoming the next epidemic...
This is exactly what is happening with my brother and his partner.
Please encourage your brother to speak to DV charities for men. Some give incredible support in every area possible.
I hope your brother gets away, and that he's able to remain in contact with you and other relatives and friends.
Nobody was put on this planet to be used, misused, and abused.
Yeah tell him to record everything
Goes to show. I’ll be showing my son this episode as a warning
LIAR JUST FOLLOW HIM
@@asihiashut up
I went through something not quite as bad as this…manipulation, controlling behaviour, blackmailing. It’s not until you get out and look back that you realise how bad things are/were.
I have been treated bad by ex girlfriends, both men and women can be very abusive
It’s beyond belief that the sentence is not the same. Abuse is abuse is the same male or female.
Bless him, he seems like such a sweetheart ❤
The energy of someone like this is extremely toxic and negative ..it's very overpowering . It's terrible and difficult to extract yourself from .
Poor man, but sadly, it happens. It is a sad and tragic story. i hope he gets better soon
People are completely insane.
If he was my son she'd know about it.
Same here
Absolutely she would be missing
Very hard when they wont listen 😢
Gareth, if you're reading this, then I want to commend you for your courage and how you've taken a hellish situation and are now using it to help others.
Brave of Gareth for speaking out. Hope he can find someone decent in the future.
Thank you for being brave enough to share your story. Wish you all the best and hope you find someone deserving of your kindness.
Well done for sharing this story, what happened to is terrible, sending healing hugs
This is mad and quite upsetting as this took place in a house I used to live in that was a very loving family home. However since Sarah Rigby bought it off us she has turned it into a controlling and manipulative environment and tarnished all those amazing memories. Such a shame. Thoughts go out to Gareth and his family and hopefully they can reach some sort of normal again.
I go by the quote “when people show you how they are believe them”
Yes you are spot on with that 😊
@@TheStar798 No, It's a quote by Maya Angelou, who is now deceased. She was a very close and wise friend of Oprah. Blessings to you.
What a brave and courageous man! So sorry that happened to you. Hopefully you find someone who will mend your heart ❤️
Yup, it happens to men too. Don't ignore or downplay it. 💯
Her being a nurse and looking after vulnerable people is frightening… hope she loses her license
We believe raising awareness of abuse towards men is essential. Many have experienced, coercive behaviour, harassment and stalking. It is about saying to men, you have exactly the same rights as women to get justice and to speak out. He's doing men a huge justice in sharing his story and all power to him for doing so. Hopefully more men will feel more able to report these things. There is no stigma or weakness in saying "No" I will NOT accept this I WILL report it to the Police.
I was abused by my narcissistic wife for years. Everything seemed perfect in the first 12 months or so. I didn't notice the gaslighting after that. I was controlled in so many ways and I lost contact with my family for far too long. I could write so much about it here, but I know most people wouldn't be interested.
So sorry to hear this Michael
I know 2 women personally who were very abusive to their husbands
Your wrong.I think you'll find people will believe you.This is commoner than you think.
You're wrong. Many of us are very interested in your story.
So he had evidence, she pleaded guilty & she still got out of jail?!? Somethings wrong here....
People who have not experienced this cannot possibly understand. I have known so many, male and female, although often not to such a degree. These people play on a vulnerability and then they have you, get a hold over you and pull the strings until the other person is in a constant state of fear and anxiety, resulting in brain fog so severe that the other person feels they are going crazy. My ex husband did it to me, this is how I know what it feels like. I have lost at least two female friends because they were treating their husbands in this way. Men very often suffer in silence due to the stigma that can be attached. This man is very brave to speak out.
Well done, don't let it prevent you from finding love, just take note of the red flags
I pray that this chap heals after such a harrowing experience! So many men goes through this!
About time they are talking about female abusers. My stepmother abused my dad for years and I tried reaching put for help for him but there was no help for men. It infuriates me when I see adverts about Domestic abuse and make out that it's always the men who are the abusers.
Because it usually is, but there are plenty of places both can get help, well less so for women recently ofc but maybe one day that changes
As said by the presenter, he is a catch indeed. Wishing him well, and that life may bring him a new love in time.
Wow ! Im so sorry this man went through this ... i just want to give him a hug. This is horrendous ! Just goes to show you never know whats going on behind closed doors.
Kudos to this lovely man for speaking out about this 😊❤
Thank you for talking about this Gareth, you are empowering yourself and you are empowering men and women who are in abusive relationships
Gareth
Well done for speaking out on the domestic abuse you endured by your ex wife
Stay strong and continue speaking out because I am sure there are a lot of other men been abused by their partner but will be too embarrassed to talk about it
Good luck in the future
He’s such a nice man
Hopefully he’ll find a lovely lady ❤
Im so sorry this happened to this lovely man. Its sickening how people feel they have the right to treat people with no regard and respect. I think when this man is ready he will have plenty of good honest and loving ladies waiting for him. Best wishes for a happy future
My brother went through this. Destroyed his life.
What a brave man to talk about this, it's heartbreaking what she put him through ☹️
Female to male abuse is more rife than believed.
I never realised how much this is happening to men as well. Good for you for coming out to speak about your experience. She needs to get some medical help. No remorse means she might do it again 😢
How IMPORTANT was his story THANK YOU ❤
Australia 💕 Christina
This also happened to me, And even though my ex was convicted in court of abuse, the abuse still continues today, and the stigma attached to it never goes away. Thank you for sharing your story.
Narcissistic personality disorder in todays world is like a pandemic. It is very sad. There's always me me me and people don't think they can hurt someone. I study psychology and the stories I hear are terrible. It's good that victims of that behaviour are talking about this.
She doesn't have that, she's just a terrible person
It doesn’t matter the gender or sexuality it happens. This happened to me in my relationship between two females. It broke me to the point I tried to take my own life after she left me. People don’t realize it’s quite narcissistic.
I'm glad I'm middle aged, the internet has destroyed society and it wasn't that great to begin with. People will only get more narcissistic, bitter and spiteful.
Nothing but respect for this man. Domestic abuse is genderless.
I went through a similar thing.
Gareth you are a hero. Thank you for sharing your story
I wish him well for the future
He’s such a kind person I hope he finds a good woman
Your so brave ❤
I'm so sorry you experienced this. I hope you are managing to heal and are supported well x
I don't appreciate people who do this
Urgh working for a domestic abuse charity.. 20 months 2 years suspended.. is nothing! Disgusting! Also RO’s are broken all the time.. abusers don’t care! They will breach any conditions they don’t care. Poor guy thank god he escaped and is able to speak his story and help other men
Well done to this guy for speaking out, my son was in a similar situation and took a long time to heal!! Eventually we went to court, he's now married and very happy. More needs to be done for the men who are in these situations my son was automatically assumed to be the aggressor and locked up !! I tried to get some emergency accommodation after she threw him out late at night but everything was geared up for women we need to be just as supportive for men.
May you go on to heal from this sir 🙏🏼❤️
This man requires some therapy. The woman should be in jail
Unfortunately 😢, Domestic violence 😔 affects both genders! Not just women but males probably will not say anything. I applaud this guy for putting his story forward.
Pick yourself up and get on with what you want to do in life...., you seem a nice guy who " SHE " Abused, she's gone now.. forget her she certainly not worth anymore of your time or your thoughts... you will find someone nice.. wish you all the best for the future.....
Thank you for sharing your story.🌹
I hope he's learnt his lesson. He needs to focus on himself and ensure he looks out for all the signs in his next relationship.
Honestly so real I hope everyone dealing with abuse gets the proper help myself included
It's great Gareth reached out to the charity, Mankind.
Thousands of men will be more aware of such support.
I wonder if commiting too soon by leaving everything to live together is part of the problem. Couples are basically strangers, if that is so.
Gareth, enjoy your freedom - long may you thrive.
Abusers will try so isolate you and make you feel its all your fault when its not. And they try to control your life when that happens you should get out.
I am deeply sorry for what you have been through, very strong that you had spoken out.💗🌻🙏👨🏽🦽
Hope you find some happiness Gareth 😊don’t let it put you off dating as I’m sure there’s a lovely lady out there that will respect and love you for who you are 🥰🍀🇬🇧
You can only imagine how bad his abuse was because it is so hard to get C&C through CPS let alone a suspended sentence outcome
Thank you for sharing your story, I hope you get to heal from this trauma. Good luck and look after yourself.