Being annoyed by little things like snoring isn’t what really annoys a person it’s after months or years of disrespect from that person that makes everything annoying about them.
And that's our own fault have to pay attention to you all's values and future. And if it annoys us we must address it up front with in ourselves and decide on how much of a deal breaker that is
I wish I had that . I'm on year 3.5 and it's like not working out but I love him so much I'm so confused. He's just like mean and grouchy all of the time .
@@amandarubino4316 it could be a rough season you all are going through, or something he is personally struggling with. Hope you all can fight through it. ❤️🙏🏽
@@amandarubino4316 Hey, it's worth checking your attachment style because it impacts the relationship the most. It's like playing the game with two players who play by totally different rules so simply can't enjoy the play as much. Check out Personal Development School on YT as it is hands down the best source of information and goes into great detail. Everything is possible, so is rewiring neurons in your brain to serve you better. I wish you the best of luck!
I don’t know why everyone says “it’s such hard work “ I’ve never felt like my marriage takes work. He is my best friend. I wouldn’t talk or treat him differently than my closest friend or sibling. We have been through a lot in our 2 decades together: unemployment, illness, infertility, but the adversity made us stronger. Even when we finally had our daughter, we came together so well, never needed to even talk about feeding schedule, bottles or other things, I can’t explain it. It’s like we have the same heart and brain. I love him to bits.
There is some fire advice in here. I love the idea that there are THREE entities in any situation: me, him, and the relationship. Also the understanding that the PROBLEM is the problem, and how are we going to solve it as a team?
I needed to hear this way earlier in my life. I would’ve avoided so much heartbreak and frustration trying to fix things that should’ve never been to begin with.
RELATIONSHIP PRO T!P: Research attachment theory and understanding attachment styles. This is a crucial part of understanding compatibility that often gets over looked.
Though helpful in helping us self-actualize as healthier adults, Attachment Theory is not evidenced based and people often do not exhibit a single attachment style: "...attachment theory seems to have posited that attachment is some kind of a monolithic relational mind map that applies globally, but recent research shows that individuals can be attached in different ways to different people. Indeed the child can have a secure attachment to his mother, but an avoidant attachment to his father, and an anxious attachment to an aunt, and so on." Google: Why Attachment Theory Is All Sizzle and No Steak
@@TheZlepno I think you are correct which explains why I can't place my last partner into a particular style. She was all the types in different scenarios. And so am I. Some people I am so annoyed by I automatically get avoidant with them. That's my mother. What I seem to have dropped is my anxious style apart from the week of the actual breakup. Overall I do seem to be more secure than ever.
I’m at that point now , never can get to the root of the problem, so know I’m checked out . Don’t sleep in the same bed anymore, don’t want to talk, and unfortunately we share a child together . The resentment is from numerous things and now I’m ready to move on. I wish I would’ve heard this message years ago however , after I heal, I know not to jump so fast and actually get to know this person and not the representative!
The 2 episodes with this amazing therapist are ones of the most impactful episodes I ever heard/watched on relationship’s topic. No BS, actionable tips and learnings, clarity. You really nailed to have an impact with them. Congrats & thank you! ❤✨👌🏼💯 And now I have to translate it in French for the women I care about (France & Africa).
Very good advice by a wise woman. Thank you!!!! I should have heard this 20 years ago. It is a very sad truth that you only really know a person when you break up with him/her. I just survived a horrible divorce and see the man for the first time the way he really is. Never ever should I have married him so quickly and at such a young age... and have four kids with him..... I've learned the truth now.
In my experience and in my life, the following rules apply in relationships: - Remain Two Individuals - Work Together to Manage Finances - Best Friends and Forever Lovers A successful relationship is communication!
Im 49 yrs old and so naive on who i date .. i always get used, abused by a man .narc.. when i heard this i make sure that before i date a man i will need to know and test the guy .. thank u so much
this video was so insightful. wow, it's so hard not to get caught up in your feelings and blaming the other person for not meeting your needs. I like how you reframed it to focus on the solution, trying something new for a set time and seeing if that works. "the perfect person" has their flaws! and you're bound to bump heads. not everyone can read your mind, and learning to communicate clearly what you need, and knowing what you need first is something I struggle with. I think I can learn a lot by not being fearful to speak up for myself, and trusting that the other person will be open and responsive to my needs. I need to try it or else I won't know.
I was raised to believe, that I should prove my worth to a man and that I should never be a "burden" to him. Of course I attracted a narcissist who abused and mistreated me. Thanks God I finally dumped him, but it was a terrible thing to realize my grandma (same as Lisa's) taught me to normalize abuse. 😕 By the way, my grandpa was also a narcissist.
Spirit, you're my spirit animal. You say everything I need to hear and more. I have no friends who can advise like you do and preparing for marriage this is what I needed.
You earn your credibility...so true. We learn how to come into relationship thru the presence or the absence of people in our lives...wow! Great interview. Spirit is sure fireworks💥
WOW, this was an eye-opening, amazing interview - I wish it was longer! the advice is so helpful, and hearing someone explore these topics from a factual perspective shines light on feelings. thank you Spirit and Lisa, and I hope there’s a following video covering needs, how to pinpoint what exactly your needs are, and how to communicate about them. Amazing!! 💛 coming from someone with past childhood neglect/abandonment and experience with toxic relationships/ codependency, I deeply appreciate these talks. xoxo
I suspected my husband always texting a lady on his phone , We’ve been married for 18 years, we’ve both been happy together until recently when he switched side and I found out he has been cheating .I explained my story to a colleague at work then she introduced me to this genuine hacker, Darkwebprohacker who gave me access to his phone , I had complete access to his phone right on my own device and I could see all his activities for the past 2 years and also have access to new notifications, his text messages, Facebook messages,location, call logs, and I found out my husband was also flirting on dating sites..I love my husband a lot and I still don’t understand why he betrayed me, I have been a good hardworking wife and never for once cheated on him. I tracked him down and found out he was always going to sleep in another woman’s house with me thinking my husband is always at work for night shift. You can contact this great hacker who helped me found out the truth about my husband at darkwebprohack(at)gmail com or Whats app +19087998357 or text and call them directly on the same number.They helped me get access into his phone without even touching his phone.I have enough evidence against my husband and I am thinking of Filing for divorce.I want advice if I should give him another chance or let go ? We have 2 kids together it's a painful feeling but I believe things happen in life it comes as it goes, as it says what doesn't kills makes you stronger
I am SO glad I am away from my birth parents. I am with someone who became family and he is SO protective and wise. My mother is a covert narcissist and my dad has some questionable patterns. So I’m glad I get to heal.
I suspected my husband always texting a lady on his phone , We’ve been married for 18 years, we’ve both been happy together until recently when he switched side and I found out he has been cheating .I explained my story to a colleague at work then she introduced me to this genuine hacker, Darkwebprohacker who gave me access to his phone , I had complete access to his phone right on my own device and I could see all his activities for the past 2 years and also have access to new notifications, his text messages, Facebook messages,location, call logs, and I found out my husband was also flirting on dating sites..I love my husband a lot and I still don’t understand why he betrayed me, I have been a good hardworking wife and never for once cheated on him. I tracked him down and found out he was always going to sleep in another woman’s house with me thinking my husband is always at work for night shift. You can contact this great hacker who helped me found out the truth about my husband at darkwebprohack(at)gmail com or Whats app +19087998357 or text and call them directly on the same number.They helped me get access into his phone without even touching his phone.I have enough evidence against my husband and I am thinking of Filing for divorce.I want advice if I should give him another chance or let go ? We have 2 kids together it's a painful feeling but I believe things happen in life it comes as it goes, as it says what doesn't kills makes you stronger
I loved this so much! Spirit is such an amazing speaker and there is so much truth to everything she says. Also, absolutely love the way you engage with her and ask questions, Lisa!
I suspected my husband always texting a lady on his phone , We’ve been married for 18 years, we’ve both been happy together until recently when he switched side and I found out he has been cheating .I explained my story to a colleague at work then she introduced me to this genuine hacker, Darkwebprohacker who gave me access to his phone , I had complete access to his phone right on my own device and I could see all his activities for the past 2 years and also have access to new notifications, his text messages, Facebook messages,location, call logs, and I found out my husband was also flirting on dating sites..I love my husband a lot and I still don’t understand why he betrayed me, I have been a good hardworking wife and never for once cheated on him. I tracked him down and found out he was always going to sleep in another woman’s house with me thinking my husband is always at work for night shift. You can contact this great hacker who helped me found out the truth about my husband at darkwebprohack(at)gmail com or Whats app +19087998357 or text and call them directly on the same number.They helped me get access into his phone without even touching his phone.I have enough evidence against my husband and I am thinking of Filing for divorce.I want advice if I should give him another chance or let go ? We have 2 kids together it's a painful feeling but I believe things happen in life it comes as it goes, as it says what doesn't kills makes you stronger
I absolutely agree about taking time to observe, vetted, ask good questions, and not having sex early on. Hold off and see if this person has qualities deserving of that.
Fab topic. Thanks for introducing me to a new person! Hoping this is a 2 part episode (and not a technical error) so we can get more. For anyone who is wanting practical steps of this advice, The Gottman's have gone into the science of relationships. They have crafted brilliant resources which provide you with tools to tackle many of the things Spirit mentions here.
Tyler p 🦋we’ll back in the days of Adam & Eve, God knew that as humans we needed a spouse. D&C 131 1-4 Celestial marriage is essential to exaltation in the highest heaven
This is not a profound comment. Spirit is such a beautiful woman! The type of beauty that is the mutual interaction between outward appearance and inner nature.
I think the title for this amazing session should be conflict resolution. I'm from a dysfunctional and abusive home. I'm learning to do things the right way, the healthy way, for myself and my partner.
I like that you have said , there is a science around relationship. You can determine the intensity.. wow! I miss my ex😢 I wish I could handle it better.
Girl looks like an equestrian and only about 25.... How can she have been married 18 years with the complexion of a teenager. She must have good genes and a good husband 😊
Wow wish had seen this a year ago but lesson learnt for the future. We really need to be aware of how different past relationships wether it be with our parents, siblings, etc. impact current relationships.
That's how responsible men handle problems in relationships. We use logic and are always in problem solving mode. Not emotional and not into venting to be just venting. We wanna end the vent by coming up with a solution to hen move forward to the next thing later we will deal with together.. And you have to have honest conversation for that to happen no matter how you feel about how it comes. It's all about getting better in the relationship. Communicate and solve the problems.
Yes I have been in chemistry situation and difficult to get out of the toxicity... When we are young we don't really think abt all this and get trapped till we are adults and it's time to really marry and we have less time to really judge
I can not find the right person in my 38, and I just broke up, agree with one thing: "break up first to see who is this person. It really shocked me" Good advice and I will really treat dating as a job interview and I will not hire anyone before this guy is compatible.
Yeah this older man who is 60 yrs met me right when he broke up with his girlfriend of 4 years, he met her when he was divorcing. Well he wanted to jump right into having sex. I am celibate so needless to say in the matter of 2 months I saw he was NOT the one. His moral values were not aligned with my purpose, etc. He is lost.
sOsOmega Why would you assume he is lost versus the two of you were just not compatible? Some could say you are lost but I’m sure you would disagree, right?
Keep your morals and values, you both are just in different places and he have his own things to deal with internally, allow him to politely move on and you don't take on his baggage....stay celibate....sex can confuse things and cloud things....
@Pink Salt one thing we know about social media is that people will embellish a story to fit their narrative. You assumed he wanted a free f*ck. A 60 year old man with a history of long standing relationships doesn’t spend two months trying to get a free f*ck. Time is no longer his friend. He’s more apt to move on if that was the case. Besides, It doesn’t take two months to determine someone only wants sex from you and is not compatible with your “morals and purpose.”
Being annoyed by little things like snoring isn’t what really annoys a person it’s after months or years of disrespect from that person that makes everything annoying about them.
Wow, for me that is the hammer on the nail. You hit that so on point ❤👍🙌
Yes agreed. And we not speaking up about those annoyances.
That's where I'm at in my relationship
For me it's everything....after being disrespect for all those years. 😤
And that's our own fault have to pay attention to you all's values and future. And if it annoys us we must address it up front with in ourselves and decide on how much of a deal breaker that is
Been with my husband almost 15 years and we both still act like the first time. I get butterflies and fuzzy feelings everyday for my hubby
I'm so happy to read this! We need more empowering real love stories 🙂
This is absolutely amazing. I believe in happily forever😁
I wish I had that . I'm on year 3.5 and it's like not working out but I love him so much I'm so confused. He's just like mean and grouchy all of the time .
@@amandarubino4316 it could be a rough season you all are going through, or something he is personally struggling with. Hope you all can fight through it. ❤️🙏🏽
@@amandarubino4316 Hey, it's worth checking your attachment style because it impacts the relationship the most. It's like playing the game with two players who play by totally different rules so simply can't enjoy the play as much. Check out Personal Development School on YT as it is hands down the best source of information and goes into great detail. Everything is possible, so is rewiring neurons in your brain to serve you better. I wish you the best of luck!
Spirit is amazing. She explains things so well.
Yes, she does. She looks so good as well.
I agree, she broke down the concepts and made it so simple to understand.
I need to watch this again to learn to articulate as well as you too! Thank you 🙏🏼
@@tiffanysaddler3964 LLC
She is super emotionally intelligent!!
I don’t know why everyone says “it’s such hard work “ I’ve never felt like my marriage takes work. He is my best friend. I wouldn’t talk or treat him differently than my closest friend or sibling. We have been through a lot in our 2 decades together: unemployment, illness, infertility, but the adversity made us stronger. Even when we finally had our daughter, we came together so well, never needed to even talk about feeding schedule, bottles or other things, I can’t explain it. It’s like we have the same heart and brain. I love him to bits.
You're so lucky! I want that one day too
You two are very fortunate to have found each other!
There is some fire advice in here. I love the idea that there are THREE entities in any situation: me, him, and the relationship. Also the understanding that the PROBLEM is the problem, and how are we going to solve it as a team?
It’s a powerful perspective isn’t it?
I needed to hear this way earlier in my life. I would’ve avoided so much heartbreak and frustration trying to fix things that should’ve never been to begin with.
Exactly me too
I would too, now I'm free and single the best thing ever I can find back myself and be me for as long as I want and trust God plan for me.
So true. I should have had this advice before getting married too young and too soon. I'm glad I am learning it now. Divorced, but free again.
Me too.
This woman is a diamond in the rough!! Whoa! I’m so glad I stumbled upon her content on diff RUclips channels! She’s amazing! So true!
If 2 people join together with this type of understanding, the possibilities are endless! 🥰
I agree!!
RELATIONSHIP PRO T!P: Research attachment theory and understanding attachment styles. This is a crucial part of understanding compatibility that often gets over looked.
Though helpful in helping us self-actualize as healthier adults, Attachment Theory is not evidenced based and people often do not exhibit a single attachment style:
"...attachment theory seems to have posited that attachment is some kind of a monolithic relational mind map that applies globally, but recent research shows that individuals can be attached in different ways to different people. Indeed the child can have a secure attachment to his mother, but an avoidant attachment to his father, and an anxious attachment to an aunt, and so on."
Google: Why Attachment Theory Is All Sizzle and No Steak
@@TheZlepno I think you are correct which explains why I can't place my last partner into a particular style. She was all the types in different scenarios. And so am I. Some people I am so annoyed by I automatically get avoidant with them. That's my mother. What I seem to have dropped is my anxious style apart from the week of the actual breakup. Overall I do seem to be more secure than ever.
Check out Personal Development School channel, she explains the attachment styles so, so well
@@MaliMaslacak526 Yes! I love her channel. Its great. Even signed up for the school. Well worth it. Thank you
@@superwaxx Wow, great! I'm so glad to hear that 🙂
I wish you all the best 🙌🙋♀️
the way you ask questions, oh my goodness, just wow,
thank you so much for this interview.
I’m at that point now , never can get to the root of the problem, so know I’m checked out . Don’t sleep in the same bed anymore, don’t want to talk, and unfortunately we share a child together . The resentment is from numerous things and now I’m ready to move on. I wish I would’ve heard this message years ago however , after I heal, I know not to jump so fast and actually get to know this person and not the representative!
💜 I love spirit, please have her on again would love to hear more, especially on how to communicate effectively in a relationship.😊
I SECOND THAT!
The 2 episodes with this amazing therapist are ones of the most impactful episodes I ever heard/watched on relationship’s topic. No BS, actionable tips and learnings, clarity. You really nailed to have an impact with them. Congrats & thank you! ❤✨👌🏼💯 And now I have to translate it in French for the women I care about (France & Africa).
Very good advice by a wise woman. Thank you!!!!
I should have heard this 20 years ago.
It is a very sad truth that you only really know a person when you break up with him/her. I just survived a horrible divorce and see the man for the first time the way he really is. Never ever should I have married him so quickly and at such a young age... and have four kids with him..... I've learned the truth now.
In my experience and in my life, the following rules apply in relationships:
- Remain Two Individuals
- Work Together to Manage Finances
- Best Friends and Forever Lovers
A successful relationship is communication!
I’m
What an amazing conversation. I'm beginning to take a closer look at my relationship.
Same! Give us updated. What did you learn?
Omg..trueee
KNOWLEDGE BOMBS DROPPED IN HERE....WOW!!! THANK YOU!!!
Im 49 yrs old and so naive on who i date .. i always get used, abused by a man .narc.. when i heard this i make sure that before i date a man i will need to know and test the guy .. thank u so much
this video was so insightful. wow, it's so hard not to get caught up in your feelings and blaming the other person for not meeting your needs. I like how you reframed it to focus on the solution, trying something new for a set time and seeing if that works. "the perfect person" has their flaws! and you're bound to bump heads. not everyone can read your mind, and learning to communicate clearly what you need, and knowing what you need first is something I struggle with. I think I can learn a lot by not being fearful to speak up for myself, and trusting that the other person will be open and responsive to my needs. I need to try it or else I won't know.
I was raised to believe, that I should prove my worth to a man and that I should never be a "burden" to him. Of course I attracted a narcissist who abused and mistreated me. Thanks God I finally dumped him, but it was a terrible thing to realize my grandma (same as Lisa's) taught me to normalize abuse. 😕 By the way, my grandpa was also a narcissist.
Spirit, you're my spirit animal. You say everything I need to hear and more. I have no friends who can advise like you do and preparing for marriage this is what I needed.
I just stumbled across these interviews and I LOVE THEM!
This interview was soooooo good
marcela diaz 🙌🙌
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You earn your credibility...so true.
We learn how to come into relationship thru the presence or the absence of people in our lives...wow!
Great interview. Spirit is sure fireworks💥
Spirit, once again you nailed it. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and wisdom.
angela fronda,I admire your lovely smile!
WOW, this was an eye-opening, amazing interview - I wish it was longer! the advice is so helpful, and hearing someone explore these topics from a factual perspective shines light on feelings. thank you Spirit and Lisa, and I hope there’s a following video covering needs, how to pinpoint what exactly your needs are, and how to communicate about them. Amazing!! 💛 coming from someone with past childhood neglect/abandonment and experience with toxic relationships/ codependency, I deeply appreciate these talks. xoxo
Lauren Karsant thanks so much for your feedback and so happy to help in some way ❤️
Hi Spirit !! I Love how you explained the relationship process. Thanks. Love from St.Lucia.
Please have Spirit on again with you & Tom. It would be a powerful chat on relationships. Love 🇿🇦
This channel is so amazing! I always learn the best advice and it has truly changed my life. Thank you another great interview Lisa!!!
Nektaria Kleopoulos so glad you enjoyed it!
Lisa is ahmazinggg ❤️🔥
Learned alot from that episode, def guna rewatch that a few times bc she was dropping gems!!
I love Spirit she is the best! This was Very informative! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Boom 🔥❤️
This is awesome!!!! From understanding that who you are in a relationship is a choice....this knowledge is so necessary!!! And she is a therapist!!!
I suspected my husband always texting a lady on his phone , We’ve been married for 18 years, we’ve both been happy together until recently when he switched side and I found out he has been cheating .I explained my story to a colleague at work then she introduced me to this genuine hacker, Darkwebprohacker who gave me access to his phone , I had complete access to his phone right on my own device and I could see all his activities for the past 2 years and also have access to new notifications, his text messages, Facebook messages,location, call logs, and I found out my husband was also flirting on dating sites..I love my husband a lot and I still don’t understand why he betrayed me, I have been a good hardworking wife and never for once cheated on him. I tracked him down and found out he was always going to sleep in another woman’s house with me thinking my husband is always at work for night shift. You can contact this great hacker who helped me found out the truth about my husband at darkwebprohack(at)gmail com or Whats app +19087998357 or text and call them directly on the same number.They helped me get access into his phone without even touching his phone.I have enough evidence against my husband and I am thinking of Filing for divorce.I want advice if I should give him another chance or let go ? We have 2 kids together
it's a painful feeling but I believe things happen in life it comes as it goes, as it says what doesn't kills makes you stronger
Our feelings,
Our thoughts,
Our behavior,
Human beings in a nutshell.
This content was highly informative.
Spirit You are Phenomenal!!!💜💜
Chemistry and Compatible
NRE: New Relationship Energy
I am SO glad I am away from my birth parents. I am with someone who became family and he is SO protective and wise. My mother is a covert narcissist and my dad has some questionable patterns. So I’m glad I get to heal.
Wow! She was so articulate and knows what she's talking about. Thank you so much Lisa for the phenomenal content you bring to us!
I suspected my husband always texting a lady on his phone , We’ve been married for 18 years, we’ve both been happy together until recently when he switched side and I found out he has been cheating .I explained my story to a colleague at work then she introduced me to this genuine hacker, Darkwebprohacker who gave me access to his phone , I had complete access to his phone right on my own device and I could see all his activities for the past 2 years and also have access to new notifications, his text messages, Facebook messages,location, call logs, and I found out my husband was also flirting on dating sites..I love my husband a lot and I still don’t understand why he betrayed me, I have been a good hardworking wife and never for once cheated on him. I tracked him down and found out he was always going to sleep in another woman’s house with me thinking my husband is always at work for night shift. You can contact this great hacker who helped me found out the truth about my husband at darkwebprohack(at)gmail com or Whats app +19087998357 or text and call them directly on the same number.They helped me get access into his phone without even touching his phone.I have enough evidence against my husband and I am thinking of Filing for divorce.I want advice if I should give him another chance or let go ? We have 2 kids together
it's a painful feeling but I believe things happen in life it comes as it goes, as it says what doesn't kills makes you stronger
I loved this so much! Spirit is such an amazing speaker and there is so much truth to everything she says. Also, absolutely love the way you engage with her and ask questions, Lisa!
I suspected my husband always texting a lady on his phone , We’ve been married for 18 years, we’ve both been happy together until recently when he switched side and I found out he has been cheating .I explained my story to a colleague at work then she introduced me to this genuine hacker, Darkwebprohacker who gave me access to his phone , I had complete access to his phone right on my own device and I could see all his activities for the past 2 years and also have access to new notifications, his text messages, Facebook messages,location, call logs, and I found out my husband was also flirting on dating sites..I love my husband a lot and I still don’t understand why he betrayed me, I have been a good hardworking wife and never for once cheated on him. I tracked him down and found out he was always going to sleep in another woman’s house with me thinking my husband is always at work for night shift. You can contact this great hacker who helped me found out the truth about my husband at darkwebprohack(at)gmail com or Whats app +19087998357 or text and call them directly on the same number.They helped me get access into his phone without even touching his phone.I have enough evidence against my husband and I am thinking of Filing for divorce.I want advice if I should give him another chance or let go ? We have 2 kids together
it's a painful feeling but I believe things happen in life it comes as it goes, as it says what doesn't kills makes you stronger
Spirit is AMAZING
I absolutely agree about taking time to observe, vetted, ask good questions, and not having sex early on. Hold off and see if this person has qualities deserving of that.
Omg i love spirit what a good conversation ! Lisa you are amazing please never stop your channel is a blessing ❤️
You are a fantastic host. You shine in glee knowing you are sharing your gift of a better life through better information.
The talking was SO GOOD I learn a lot! I cant stop watching to the end
I wish I would have learned this earlier in my life. This is good.
I love this, I learned a lot
The fact that we are getting this for free wow!
Sprit you are an amazing clear, powerful therapist!!
Waw, this is mind boggling.
This was amazing!! Thank you Spirit and Lisa🙏
Sandra Rosales 🙌
What is her SUPERPOWER? Is there a second part coming?
Loved this interview! 🥰
I like this women, she is amazing, please one more but long interview with her ❤️
Thanks for the feedback!! ❤️
I love how she explains it🥰
I just love her energy!!
Thank you Spirit and Lisa.
Love you Spirit. I am a clinician myself and always love learn from you as I want to strengthen my growth❤
Fab topic. Thanks for introducing me to a new person! Hoping this is a 2 part episode (and not a technical error) so we can get more.
For anyone who is wanting practical steps of this advice, The Gottman's have gone into the science of relationships. They have crafted brilliant resources which provide you with tools to tackle many of the things Spirit mentions here.
🦋marriage is hard work, but it’s important to remember marriage is the greatest gift from God
Soooooo #true💯
Lisa Muchi 🦋you hit the nail on the head with the love drunk
how?
Tyler p 🦋we’ll back in the days of Adam & Eve, God knew that as humans we needed a spouse. D&C 131 1-4 Celestial marriage is essential to exaltation in the highest heaven
Good health and a secure loving childhood is the greatest gift from GOD
I loved this, very educational. Thank you! ❤️
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Relationships are like garage sales, they look good from a distance but up close it’s just a tonne of shit you don’t need 🤣❤️💛💚
Lol!
🤣👍
😂😂😂😂
This is perfect
or you could find something amazing...
Every word, was worth the listen. Just pure gold.
Going to bed at 2 with a 10 and waking up at 10 with a 2! 🤣🤣🤣
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Hhihihi hahahahaha 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
Great episode, thank you!
Spirit is my hero.
The anology towards the end... 🙌🏾
This is not a profound comment. Spirit is such a beautiful woman! The type of beauty that is the mutual interaction between outward appearance and inner nature.
@@lioydwilliams1850 Leave the woman alone. Stop preying on the woman
Now this is life skills!
👏👏👏
I think the title for this amazing session should be conflict resolution. I'm from a dysfunctional and abusive home. I'm learning to do things the right way, the healthy way, for myself and my partner.
Loved Dr. Spirit!! Such solid, wise advice. Thank you!!
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥❤❤❤❤ This just saved my relationship! Thank you!!!
Spirit Amazing 👏 ✨ 🙌 ❤ love her style of therapy ❤
Love it❤ Eye opening interview
What do I like most about Spirit - her practical and objective options to this thing called 💕. With her I'm always a student 😂.
SO helpful! Thank you Lisa & Spirit.
Thank you so much for this!!!
Awesome teacher. I adore science.
I Love all her explanations! Is it just me or the interview was longer than this? 😊
I like that you have said , there is a science around relationship. You can determine the intensity.. wow!
I miss my ex😢 I wish I could handle it better.
Lisa i have to say it, you are SO adorable!
and soooooo smart!!!!!!
I like the hair 😘
true! 😊
She was awesome!
Love it . Thanks ladies ; ) Hugs and love from Belgium
Girl looks like an equestrian and only about 25.... How can she have been married 18 years with the complexion of a teenager. She must have good genes and a good husband 😊
CxdO cch
She’s very thin but does look 40 plus
She’s does. She’s beautiful.
Blk don't crack
Ja bro
Wow wish had seen this a year ago but lesson learnt for the future. We really need to be aware of how different past relationships wether it be with our parents, siblings, etc. impact current relationships.
You have an AMAZING channel. Thank you 🙏🏽
16:06 is the truth 💯
Spirit and lisa 🙏🏼❤️ amazing woman who inspire me so much
Enjoyed her expertise.
LOVE your channel girl ❤️🙏🏽💯 keep it up, thank you!
Arlyn Famulaga thank you!! 🙌💕
I know a part 2 is coming....PLEASE!
This is the video I needed today, thank you
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INFORMATIVE/KNOWLEDGABLE/ANALYTICAL.......
Good conversation!
That's how responsible men handle problems in relationships. We use logic and are always in problem solving mode. Not emotional and not into venting to be just venting. We wanna end the vent by coming up with a solution to hen move forward to the next thing later we will deal with together.. And you have to have honest conversation for that to happen no matter how you feel about how it comes. It's all about getting better in the relationship. Communicate and solve the problems.
Excellent equation for our strategy or solution not meeting our needs.
Another great video!! Keep 'em coming Lisa!! Thanks for the amazing advice Spirit!!!
This was just brilliant!
Wow!! Amazing thank you!!
Yes I have been in chemistry situation and difficult to get out of the toxicity... When we are young we don't really think abt all this and get trapped till we are adults and it's time to really marry and we have less time to really judge
I can not find the right person in my 38, and I just broke up, agree with one thing: "break up first to see who is this person. It really shocked me" Good advice and I will really treat dating as a job interview and I will not hire anyone before this guy is compatible.
THIS IS GOLD! Thank you so much
Wow! I can listen to her all day
Yeah this older man who is 60 yrs met me right when he broke up with his girlfriend of 4 years, he met her when he was divorcing. Well he wanted to jump right into having sex. I am celibate so needless to say in the matter of 2 months I saw he was NOT the one. His moral values were not aligned with my purpose, etc. He is lost.
sOsOmega Why would you assume he is lost versus the two of you were just not compatible? Some could say you are lost but I’m sure you would disagree, right?
Keep your morals and values, you both are just in different places and he have his own things to deal with internally, allow him to politely move on and you don't take on his baggage....stay celibate....sex can confuse things and cloud things....
@sOsOmega I applaud you.
@Pink Salt one thing we know about social media is that people will embellish a story to fit their narrative. You assumed he wanted a free f*ck. A 60 year old man with a history of long standing relationships doesn’t spend two months trying to get a free f*ck. Time is no longer his friend. He’s more apt to move on if that was the case. Besides, It doesn’t take two months to determine someone only wants sex from you and is not compatible with your “morals and purpose.”
@@terryvans1420 me too