Identifying Burdens Around Scarcity: Releasing Cultural Burdens Workshop Part 2
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- Опубликовано: 19 ноя 2024
- In this video, I lead you through the "White Room" exercise to find what subconscious parts may want You (your Self-who-is-not-a-part) to know about the topic of scarcity. This may include personal experiences, cultural or legacy burdens, or legacy gifts. I am intentionally focusing here on the topic of scarcity as this was beloved IFS teacher, Derek Scott's, wish that there would be a collective unburdening around scarcity.
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I was struggling to picture the white room - the wall in front of me seemed to be "open". Then I realised I was looking at the living room of my childhood home. It had sliding doors, which were almost always open. I was shown the words "that's a wicked waste!" which my mum used to say a lot, and her parents too. Then I saw myself sitting on my dad's knee and thought "there was an abundance of love" - I was lucky. However in the area where I grew up there were strong feelings of inverted snobbery, a dislike and distrust of anyone wealthy. When my parents built a bigger house I felt a bit embarrassed as well as excited, and my younger sister even more so. We got over it! This was what my parts reminded me of.
Thank you so much for sharing what came up for you, Natalie. Its so fascinating what your parts wanted you to see. My parts really related to the "inverted snobbery" as I was always taught that "the love of money is the root of all evil" and that "it is hardest for the rich man to get into the kingdom of God." Thank you for sharing this, as I realize that many of my parts have a legacy burden of "anti-wealth." I also love how on your dad's knee there was "an abundance of love." How beautiful. 🥰
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Thanks, Christine. I had a very difficult ER experience come up - being in excruciating pain with 2 stuck kidney stones, and hearing laughing nurses with no one checking on me. I’m looking forward to more of this workshop. - ❤Gracie
Aw, I have so much empathy and compassion for that experience, Gracie. Sending love to You and all your parts. ❤
I found this such an interesting experiment. My parts first showed me being a little girl in my grandma's house and her telling me stories of the poverty of her parents and her difficult childhood and how she had to work before school scrubbing the doorsteps of rich families. There seemed both pride and shame around being poor, which puzzled me. There seemed to be an abundance of love from her and my mum, but it came with conditions. She was always asking me who I loved most, her or my mum and I also felt that I had to somehow provide the abundance they had lacked in their childhood. I used to worry a lot that I didn't help them enough or make them happy - I had parts that believed my survival depended on this. Then that part took me to my adolescence when my mother had moved in with my abusive step-father who she supported financially for years. I was shown scenes of scarcity of warmth and hot water at that time along with a scarcity of metaphorical warmth toward me from my mum because she was in survival mode, I now realise. I felt all kinds of chills in my body. I also felt a scarcity of protection and safety and a scarcity of being seen by my mum, but a need, a desire not to be seen by my step-father. There was also a scarcity of truth at this time, as I had to keep lots of secrets.
These are beautiful observations/realizations, Julie. Yes, we can get such mixed messages and scarcity can include material needs for sustenance and warmth as well as emotional needs, including needs for truth and safety. Its so helpful to see where our parts experienced lack as this can help us understand their fears and the ways they desperately seek what they did not have back then. You and all your parts make sense. :)