@Dhiman Nath bhaiii, acche se date pe leke Jaa usko, and examples de ke samjha ke , I am not trying to control you, it's just you need to listen me carefully or khud ko meri jagah rkh ke dekho, apni boundries clearly btaa, fir bhi agr serious nhi leri teko to red flag hai ye, bhaag le, simple rule, apne self esteem ko respect de, tu itta gira hua to nhi haina, ke koi serious nhi lera teko or tu uspe atka hua hai, or maan mt maan, she is not completely into you, she is just with you and whenever she will get a better person wo uske sath nikl legi or teko smjh bhi nhi aayega ke galti kahan hui..!
Bro I see your old video I propose a girl she reject me it's her choice but it hurts I know you make video already but I want video on this video with education or suggestions related to this video plzzz sir I your new subscriber I am a 19 y old
I relate 100%! My friend was with this women who looked at him like best friend and treated him like a boyfriend. I remember him having anxieties at night about this person. She would call him talk to him all night, and break all boundaries of friendship, to the point where he started taking responsibilities of a boyfriend. He lost his identity, his self-esteem and she? She never even cared for him. All she cared was her emotional(and physical) needs. He then figured out that she was using him. How did he know? She still had feelings for her ex and when he came back, she ditched my friend, and it screwed him up. And you know what's the worst part? She was in the mindset of changing my friend. She would say "I'll teach you how to live." Or "You should not act this way or that way". All leading to my friend being in self doubt about himself. It still hurts him and still finds it unbelievable that she cut him off without even thinking twice about how my friend feels. THIS SHIT HAPPENS! Rule no 1: NEVER EVER LET ANYONE CROSS YOUR BOUNDARIES Rule no 2: NEVER FUCKING SIMP A WOMEN. Women, expecially beautiful women, are so used to using men, that they don't even realise they are doing it. Men on the other hand, are so easy to ask for help for women. And then sometimes these same women say they are independent and shit. If most of your shit comes from men, then you ain't independant. Rule no 3: PUT YOUR HEAD DOWN AND DO YOUR OWN SHIT. Kaam Karo like Shwetabh said. Build your emotional strength. Your physical strength. Learn to not to be dependent on anyone in your life. My personal sub-rule? No one gives a shit. If you believe that no one will be there for you(even if its not really true), you will work on making yourself your own best friend. Rule no 4: PEACE > RELATIONSHIP. If you don't have peace(both mental and physical peace) in your relationship, run the fuck away! Your better of alone at peace than be with a toxic person who fucks with your head or your body. Value yourself. Your body and your mind. Self esteem is important. And recognise the difference between Self Esteem and Ego. Now don't get me wrong. There are absolutely beatiful women(and men) out there who respect you, understand your boundaries and cares about you. You just have to be patient. While being patient, work on yourself. All are just my opinions. But I found it helpful for me, so just sharing it to the world :)
Hey guys can someone tell me how to come out of this..i am thinking of going back and begging her that we can be back in talking terms we can be friends
Shwetabh, you might be doing all this for money or to help others, I don't want to go there but I just want to tell you, you have brought a next level clarity in my life. I cannot overstate the influence your words, your ideas have in me and I want to genuinely say thanks to you for all your effort. You are amazing.
Just increase your knowledge from swetabh.....and please do not comment or interfere in his personal space.........it is a request to all of you then rest are your understanding....thank you......
I think this applies to friendship also. I have faced this in a friend group where I felt ignored, this affected my metal well being. Left that group and soon found new friends and was at mental peace again
I have watched this guy for over 3 years now From all these years of listening Moti-Moti 5 cheezein seekhne ko mili A) life is about perspective their is no ultimate right or wrong B) Apni life m ek bht tagde problem solver Bano use attack kese kre ye seekho C) Tum na bhai khud k dost ho dushman nai to khud se batein bhi wese kia kro D) knowledge is power, jitna ho ske utna diverse knowledge apne paas rkho E) Zamana equal society ka nai h , genetic lottery se leke financial lottery, Kai logon ki lagi padi h , accept kro ise deny ni Thank-you shwetabh bhai for everything u have done to bring clarity in an individual like me
E point is really unfairly sad but accept karna hoga .-. Daily compatative exams ki study karne ke baad bhi lagta h ki koi reservation category with half marks of mine can get 10x better college then me :( (Every reservation category human isn't going through society bulling nor they are poor;tbh multiple times richer than me) 6am getting anxiety uff
I can relate 200% with what shwetabh is saying, been in an exact same kind of relationship with someone and to be honest I felt depressed after leaving her but slowly i became ok, and today meri life me koi jhaam nhi hai. He is saying correct, niklo, bhaago, bhaag jao
2 years ago.. My situation was also the same.. But this man's video helped me to overcome that situation. Because of this man i see and think about the world very differently.. Really thanks is a very small word for him.. He is a gem.. Changed my life.. And gave better direction 🥹
but what to say to the Mind? Deep down I know that person some how supported me for quite a long time, But only because of 1 reason she can't be in relationship because of caste? But she was there for me, her validation used to give me inspiration to push myself in life, She wants to remain like that because of differences, But it seeing her with someone else in future will hurt me regularly, But deep down she was a good friend of my, I really don't want to sacrifice that.
Bhai kaise choda Mera mtlb mera 1-2 month la relationship tha aur bhait jyada jham hogya I am not happy with her and bcz me sure nhi tha islie use kiss tak nhi kiya and jab use chodta hu then she cry like hell and tell me that she will never marry anyone yeh sab and mujhe bhaut hi guilt jaisa feel hota hai Kya karu bhai
I'm also facing this situation currently with a girl who is married and enjoying her life without thinking a bit about me yesterday she went for shopping and movie and inside my head i am feeling anxious and sad that why she is not with me , why she is with him I have some clarity by watching this video and I'm in relationship with that girl from 4 years recently i broke up with her because she is constantly hurting and torturing me and I'm also normalising this hurt though this whole 3 years just to be with her but she is used to hurt me ok daily basis i broke up with me because she has abused my mother so this time my little self respect stand and tell me this is enough it is fine till it's on you but your mother can't be abused by this girl so she is testing My level of hurt throughout this relationship and I'm normalising it my mental health is as hell but I'll try to bounce back after this video thank you everyone who read this comment because i have no friends to whome i can tell this whole thing thank you god bless you all please god i want to forget this torture please help me thanks shwetabh
same here man, EX girl tested my patience may be used me for 2.5 yrs. And when talk about webbing started she step back and leave me alone. It's been 1.7 yrs she left but her pic, habits are so clear like it;s just yesterday happened. It took me 1 yr to delete her number. We never met IN REAL WORLD it was online international love story on video call max. IT STILL PAINS ME SOMEWHERE DOWN THE LINE no one to share listen. I have fiance now ex memories are roaming around constant And i feel unjustify for my fiance i not able to give her that level of love which she deserve that ex has suck my loving emotion now I am like a robot.
@@officercadre sams here man she also sucked all my love and care and treated me like a hell and i got used to his toxic behaviour and she is constantly ignoring me from 8 days even I'm in front of her she walks like she didn't know me that's the level of ignorance you can think if you are giving 4 years of life and love to anyone and she treat you like that it hurts alot even she is showing and putting status of his new husband and living very happy after shattering my heart into pieces now slowly slowly I'm becoming strong man but i also think it will take 1-2 years to completely block her from my life
@@HarshSingh-zd4qp 😓😓 morning first comment such a harsh reading. And u know what worst thing is even our heart like the painful feeling it keep constantly going to those feelings even though it hurts miserably. Heart likes that feeling of suffering. Anyways I just tell one line to myself whatever happens for my good only JO HOTA HAI AACHA K LEA HOTA HAI.
@@officercadre yes bhai jo hota hai acche ke liye hota ye hume kuch time baad pata chalega ki humne kitna hurt or torture khud ko sirf 1 insaan ke liye in this 8 billion population humne 1 insaan ke liye kitna kuch khoya hai now I'm moving even today morning mai morning walk ke liye gaya hun kyuki es period me etni anxiety hoti thi mujhe ki mai overeating krne laga tha or junk food bht jyada consume krne laga tha to ab health ko sudharna hai sbse pehle physically strong bnna hai phir mentally strong banke carier me fodna hai or use dikhana hai ki hum bhi kya cheej all the best to you bro tum bhi regret kara ke hi manna ki usne kisko cheat kiya tha
I have been through this.. And it truly incresed 400 times.. I forgot myself, my self respect.. But I promise to make myself move on, in first indicatiom..
He is right, i have been watching his content from last 4 years and never faced any problems related to what he talked in this video. Its kinda feel good and sad both on watching others facing and suffering from this common problems which have very obvious solution. It seems obvious only when you will have a good mindset and capability of critical thinking with different different percpectives of multifarious aspects and situation of life, problem and person..... I developed this mindset from watching him..... I can feel it and also see the development of mindset in feedbacks of my friend of mine 🤙💯❤️
My gf made me feel low than her , whenever i assist or suggest something she said... Jyada gyan mt do.... I felt this many times but one day i broke up with her as it feels very toxic... That was the best decision i take ...
This video is just a miracle into those people lives and can turn into a blessing. He is right the intensity of getting hurt increases to a different level
Shwetabh bhai bohot special hain. Bohot kam log hote hain duniya mein joh itna selflessly logon ke bhale liye bolte aur chinta karte hain ❤❤❤ May god bless each & every soul, a big bro like you 👍👍👍
I dont know ye kisne pucha but thnk u very much... Ye puri video mei mujhe aesa lga ki shwetabh bhai ap meko hi bol rhe ho... 5-6 months se yhi fck up ho rha tha jaha mei apne ap ko demotivate kr rha tha choote le rha tha but thnk to tht person... This words of ur gave me realisation... U saved me
Thanks bhai one girl messaged me on dating app first she talked with me but after some days she stopped talking to me, it was effecting my work, I was thinking a lot that I might not be that good when I am still having a good job, it also ruined my mood when I go to work by blaming myself and then today after watching your video I decided to unmatch her for my peace ☮️. I hope someone good will find me in the future 😊
my only mantra :-mera kya lena dena, maine todhi theka leke rakha h, gaya bh0se mein muhje kya , haa toh ? try implimenting this you may think its toxic but it saves you from lot of bullshit.
In 2020 I got a breakup from a girl I loved . Young tender age I got a very bad patch of depressive thoughts, anxiety and other mental problems. Your video on break-up and relationships helped me a lot. I started taking actions on that basis and now I'm genuinely quite well both mentally and physically . But miles to go before I sleep. Now the current situation is that I have a new friend circle where the girl is also a part of it and I'm was cool with it . But now she's sending mixed signals and I'm actively getting hurt mentally emotionally speaking. Somebody advice me what should be the way to go I know I should leave them and go and protect myself like 8 billion people are there to make friends with . But back of my mind the sense of friendship makes be comfortable It's better to dodge the first bullet rather than tolerating 400 bullets and bleeding
Don't accept mixed signals. Accept her only if she is absolutely clear about being your gf. Don't give her much attention, stay in the friend group. Why did you guys breakup ? Are the reasons no longer relevant ? What if you get back together but later breakup for the same reasons as before. If I were you, I'd pay her no attention and make her jealous by dating someone else.
I am watching this video as an achievement, same thing happened with me last week, when I sent a request to a girl (who knows me very well) but she didn't accepted it. And I did the same thing you are saying. This is what happens when you constantly keep yourself in the good company. You don't need to watch a video anymore, you have became a person like that. Grateful shwetabh bhai❤️❤️
ये बात मैंने खुद सोची थी -प्रॉब्लम 2-4%पर ही solve करनी चाहिए थोड़ी सी प्रॉब्लम आते है swetabh bhai के वीडियो देखना etc etc लगभग पूरा वीडियो (2years ago during overthinking) ऐसे लग रहा है में खुद को सुन रहा हु 😱😱😱
Mere sath bandi victim card khel gyi aur main uski baato me aisa fasa hua tha na nikla jara tha aur nahi bina baat kiye raha jara tha us time mujhe keval khud me hi bekar lagra tha mental trauma hua weight 58 se 43 pahuch gya tha fir Maine dhire dhire apke sare direction follow kiye aur ab mujhe ganta farak nhi padta h kisi bhi ladki ka life me ane aur janne se mujhe khud me best banna h
2:15 fr man 😭 I regret tolerating stuff soo much!!! This shit is Max relatable!! She didn't even cared !! Not at all but there I was standing before fog wasting my precious time trying to rebuild the bond !! Fml man
weird observation but, i have realised im the one causing the issues to her. there have been times she was willing to support me n i broke all barriers and behaved like a total asshole. in many ways, im totally addicted to this person and it took me sometime away from her to actually realise this. 1. i have no other firend, so i over attached. also hum toh lawde hain... notice bhi nahi kiya 2.anxious attachment style, so i felt finally understood and hence relied on once person for everything(bad idea) 3.i realised i had lost most of my self identity in the past 6 mths and hence i would always think "yarr 8 mahine pehle relationship kitni badhiya thi". *so yes shwetabh bhaiya., you have made me mentally aware enough to openly analyse situations and just noticing patterns helps **alot.to** the people who are knowingly(or unknowingly) hurting your loved ones, PLEASE PLEASE distance youself and analyse youself.*
It reminds me movie “Udaan”. We all need to take a leap of faith when we realise that we have hit a dead end and person or situation with whom we are dealing with is beyond hope.
I thought you are just rude fuckin guy when I started to hear you from 2016-17.Now your videos and advices have made my mind so so clear.The clarity can't be explained. Love you bhai..From Bangladesh
Exactly the video I needed as affirmation of my decision yesterday to leave my friend towards whom I started having feelings and it started hurting when I saw her with other guys. So I left right away
I was in a friendship with two guys. I treat them like a good friend, and do everything for them. They take advantage and keep crossing their limits and boundaries. I don't want to be lonely so I befriend them. But they fuck me mentally without thinking a bit of my self respect. Even though they don't care about my problem and mind their own business, with time they don't listen to my problem whenever I share it with them. They just treat me like a shit. I was stuck in bad companies and indulging with them so much that it made it hard to cut them off completely. But gradually i try hard to leave their company and maintain my self esteem, safe my self respect and mental peace. Hope! I will get good company soon. So, I will not feel lonely.
Don't just trust someone so easily, Even in future, Only make your friend on the basis of How much you know them, And how for how many years you know them personally, then only make them your friend, Now initially If you are a girl, So, focus on Making Female friends to avoid being Lonely, Male friends are only good, when you want to give them chance to be the life partner, Avoid Toxic Guys, Even Genuine Good Male friend wants someone understanding Girl. The Girl who can give them chance if someone got serious, Otherwise You will only hurt them if they got the feelings in future. A boy and A girl can never be friends.
I prefer to increasing distance as soon as I realise that i am not important for someone or i am only entertainment or last option for someone... Coz Being Alone is always better than being alone in a group, Even i sometimes need someone to talk, but it doesn't means that i start treating my self respect as they are treating me... Someone rightly said that just because someone is hungry, it doesn't means h should eat poison to send something in stomach...
I can't even imagine what would happened if my brother didn't recommended your channel to me maybe I would have killed myself or maybe I would still be in that rat race of relationships love betrayal, you completely turned my life upside down man, i am really really thankful to you by heart now i can't even imagine my life without your guidance, now i see you as my big brother who always pull me out from these situations HATS OFF TO YOU BIG BRO ❤️
Thank you for this 🙏🏻 Had a gal pal in college I had feelings for. Turned out she used me all this time because I was a nerd. Couldn't see her ulterior motives due to my delusions and her facade of being all nice and soft spoken
Apka video dekhnese pehele me yahi kam Kia. Sir app 100% Right ho or iske bad Mera jindegi badal gayi.😊 apne self respect vul ke apna kami ginta tha usko khush rakhneka Chakkar me apna life carrier mental health or wealth Ka dhajia ura dia tha. Aj hasta hu ki me o kar Kya raha tha
Such a nice video sir, very helpful i also need to leave a relationship and put less efforts for someone who don't care... It is all possible because of you... Thanks💗
Shewetabh bhai , sach bata rha hoon dil se maza aagya bhai literally maza aa gya , dil ko sukoon mila , lots of love bhai lots of love ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️aise hi aur videos ki bohot zarurat hai bhai bohot zarurat hai , dil se dhanywaad aapka 🫂🙏🏻
Thank you shwetabh sir.. This is the same damn condition I come across and I take the same preservernce from them. And now after this... I think my decision is good
Bhai yeh 8 billion log wali baat merko kaafi aese fallacy type lgti hai. Like haan 8 billion log hai, but life mai un 8 billion maise kitno ko hi dekh paunga mai. Aur unme se bhi kitne hi honge jinko jaan paunga, kitno se jaake ek meaningful relationship banega. Lot of fishes in the sea but itna bada sea thodi traverse kr paega aadmi.
For me this one is the far most helpful video from shwetabh sir where I'm in situation in which I'm able to connect with it 200% and now I've got the highest level of clarity. Clarity on the actions i have to take, to get out of this situation which is eating me from inside out
I am feeling same tonight and crying like anything. Things 50% se bhi jayada upar nikal gyi thi. Dard ka koi hisab nhi h, feels like list everything in my life.
Namaste bhaiya Shi mein bhayanker irony chal rhi hai Mera mamla meri buddhi ne solve ker diya phir mein ye dekh rhi hoon Aur kafi shi lag rha hai ab Exact same hi step meine liya tha aur agar yha kisi ko abhi bhi doubt hai to ek cheej yad rakhna "" Advice you as you are advising your best freind ""
mere ko adha time toh samhajne me lag gaya ki kis topic par baat ho rahi hai par jaise he samhaj aaya wow.. thankyou jabh samhaj nahi aaya toh lag raha tha procrastination wagera ke baare me hai, but the cheery on top is ki ye uss me bhi apply ho sakta hai
I just fell in love with a guy ..just deeply love he continuously hurting me by saying u are hoe prostitute mentally abuse me daily ldta hai gndi s gndi language bolta h...or ma tolerate krti hu roz 5 mahine s daily sehn kr ri hu roz roti hu roz ..i fucking love me ..and mai brkup ni Krna chahti but vo roz kehta h ki he doesn't want to stay with me...roz anxiety hoti h pdai ni kr pati not even focused on my goal....what to do then saw this video ...Aisa lgra jesi ye batein sari mere liye kehra ho
I went into self preservation mode a few days ago and cut them off. We met online and we had some intellectual conversations and then he started venting about his feelings towards his ex. I didn't mind at first and talked about my feelings as well. Then I noticed he kept going on and on about his pain because of his ex and it wasn't even a recent breakup. I distanced myself. When he texted me again and we chatted, I told him that it made me feel used as a diary (I wanted to give him a chance to redeem himself so we can be conversation buddies if possible) and he apologized and promised not to do it again. Then we got into a respectful debate a few days later and he said he wasn't expecting such 'cold' convictions from me but wanted to be emotionally vulnerable with me (which I found weird as we barely knew each other for 3 days and we didn't know enough about each other to want to be vulnerable with each other and we both openly admitted that we don't trust anyone online). He then said "If I wanted to debate then I would've done it in my own head why talk to someone else for that? oh but I can't open up because 'emotional diary' " I wanted good conversations but he wanted me to be a person he would share his emotions with and wanted me to be empathetic to him without any investment or reciprocity on his side 🤷♀️ Left him
It's easy for a person to share their hurt to someone that they don't know if you don't have anyone to share but he might be wanting someone to replace that hurt someone to love him the way he wanted from his ex. Stay away from such people they will drain you mentally just help as much as it is needed.
@@seemranhoro Same with me, I met a boy online. First, we met for a reason. Then we chatted and became good friends. He said that he was depressed and needed my help because he thought he had feelings for me. Even though I don't have feeling for him but he showed his sad sides that made me sympathize with him. He turned his conversation to quench his desire. Soon, I also started sharing my secret and feelings with him. I am a bit attached and stuck in his emotional loop. With time, He started ignoring me. To save myself (mental peace or time ) I deleted his details to cut him off. Yesterday, he massaged me. I need to talk about this issue. So, i massaged him but he ignored my long chat. confronting him, he shared a screenshot of talking to another girl(prey)🤦🏻♀ and asked me to wait. I openly and freely said that don't contact me again. He msged me saying that he did it to make me feel jealous. For the time span of 8-9 months, I was only attached to him but did not consider it love but i feel very sad and we are only friends. But he didn't prioritize me like I did.😔 then i realized my important in his life, he seen me like a time pass. I drained my energy and mental peace to make him happy, positive and bring good from him. In the end, I lose everything just to make him happy. You did the right thing and saved yourself.👍
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@Dhiman Nath bhaiii, acche se date pe leke Jaa usko, and examples de ke samjha ke , I am not trying to control you, it's just you need to listen me carefully or khud ko meri jagah rkh ke dekho, apni boundries clearly btaa, fir bhi agr serious nhi leri teko to red flag hai ye, bhaag le, simple rule, apne self esteem ko respect de, tu itta gira hua to nhi haina, ke koi serious nhi lera teko or tu uspe atka hua hai, or maan mt maan, she is not completely into you, she is just with you and whenever she will get a better person wo uske sath nikl legi or teko smjh bhi nhi aayega ke galti kahan hui..!
True true true
Bhaiya mail dekh lo ek baar very urgent in a big trouble
Bro I see your old video I propose a girl she reject me it's her choice but it hurts I know you make video already but I want video on this video with education or suggestions related to this video plzzz sir I your new subscriber I am a 19 y old
I relate 100%! My friend was with this women who looked at him like best friend and treated him like a boyfriend. I remember him having anxieties at night about this person. She would call him talk to him all night, and break all boundaries of friendship, to the point where he started taking responsibilities of a boyfriend. He lost his identity, his self-esteem and she? She never even cared for him. All she cared was her emotional(and physical) needs. He then figured out that she was using him. How did he know? She still had feelings for her ex and when he came back, she ditched my friend, and it screwed him up.
And you know what's the worst part? She was in the mindset of changing my friend. She would say "I'll teach you how to live." Or "You should not act this way or that way". All leading to my friend being in self doubt about himself. It still hurts him and still finds it unbelievable that she cut him off without even thinking twice about how my friend feels.
THIS SHIT HAPPENS!
Rule no 1: NEVER EVER LET ANYONE CROSS YOUR BOUNDARIES
Rule no 2: NEVER FUCKING SIMP A WOMEN. Women, expecially beautiful women, are so used to using men, that they don't even realise they are doing it. Men on the other hand, are so easy to ask for help for women. And then sometimes these same women say they are independent and shit. If most of your shit comes from men, then you ain't independant.
Rule no 3: PUT YOUR HEAD DOWN AND DO YOUR OWN SHIT. Kaam Karo like Shwetabh said. Build your emotional strength. Your physical strength. Learn to not to be dependent on anyone in your life. My personal sub-rule? No one gives a shit. If you believe that no one will be there for you(even if its not really true), you will work on making yourself your own best friend.
Rule no 4: PEACE > RELATIONSHIP. If you don't have peace(both mental and physical peace) in your relationship, run the fuck away! Your better of alone at peace than be with a toxic person who fucks with your head or your body. Value yourself. Your body and your mind. Self esteem is important. And recognise the difference between Self Esteem and Ego.
Now don't get me wrong. There are absolutely beatiful women(and men) out there who respect you, understand your boundaries and cares about you. You just have to be patient. While being patient, work on yourself.
All are just my opinions. But I found it helpful for me, so just sharing it to the world :)
Your opinion is fully correct 💯
what he did for anxiety attacks i am also facing this on daily basis unable to sleep properly
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Hey guys can someone tell me how to come out of this..i am thinking of going back and begging her that we can be back in talking terms we can be friends
@@utkarshkerketta1688 worst thing you could do for yourself :)
Shwetabh, you might be doing all this for money or to help others, I don't want to go there but I just want to tell you, you have brought a next level clarity in my life. I cannot overstate the influence your words, your ideas have in me and I want to genuinely say thanks to you for all your effort. You are amazing.
If you are good at something never do it for free...
Just increase your knowledge from swetabh.....and please do not comment or interfere in his personal space.........it is a request to all of you then rest are your understanding....thank you......
Bhai Bal ghane ho to shi rehta h life
@@addycool444 😂😂
He solves problem because it's his job. He said this in one of his videos
I think this applies to friendship also. I have faced this in a friend group where I felt ignored, this affected my metal well being. Left that group and soon found new friends and was at mental peace again
Same here
@Bismit Kar bro u can collect money and go to the some other planet or find new planet for yourself
Don't know what will happen if things don't work out
I have watched this guy for over 3 years now
From all these years of listening
Moti-Moti 5 cheezein seekhne ko mili
A) life is about perspective their is no ultimate right or wrong
B) Apni life m ek bht tagde problem solver Bano use attack kese kre ye seekho
C) Tum na bhai khud k dost ho dushman nai to khud se batein bhi wese kia kro
D) knowledge is power, jitna ho ske utna diverse knowledge apne paas rkho
E) Zamana equal society ka nai h , genetic lottery se leke financial lottery, Kai logon ki lagi padi h , accept kro ise deny ni
Thank-you shwetabh bhai for everything u have done to bring clarity in an individual like me
I can clearly see bro he has a big impact in your life cause u are even commenting like him, that's great 😂😂
E point is really unfairly sad but accept karna hoga
.-. Daily compatative exams ki study karne ke baad bhi lagta h ki koi reservation category with half marks of mine can get 10x better college then me :(
(Every reservation category human isn't going through society bulling nor they are poor;tbh multiple times richer than me)
6am getting anxiety uff
@@sachit2535 😂 arre ni, my writting Style is significantly diffrent, wo to aaj shwetabh bhai ko tribute dene k lie unke tone m likha
@@PrakritiSenpai And there Is no genuine advice which actually works , u just... Work your ass off with minimal expectations
@@shantanutiwari6225 got u bro 🤜🤛
I can relate 200% with what shwetabh is saying, been in an exact same kind of relationship with someone and to be honest I felt depressed after leaving her but slowly i became ok, and today meri life me koi jhaam nhi hai.
He is saying correct, niklo, bhaago, bhaag jao
2 years ago.. My situation was also the same.. But this man's video helped me to overcome that situation. Because of this man i see and think about the world very differently.. Really thanks is a very small word for him.. He is a gem.. Changed my life.. And gave better direction 🥹
but what to say to the Mind? Deep down I know that person some how supported me for quite a long time, But only because of 1 reason she can't be in relationship because of caste? But she was there for me, her validation used to give me inspiration to push myself in life, She wants to remain like that because of differences, But it seeing her with someone else in future will hurt me regularly, But deep down she was a good friend of my, I really don't want to sacrifice that.
Bhai kaise choda
Mera mtlb mera 1-2 month la relationship tha aur bhait jyada jham hogya
I am not happy with her and bcz me sure nhi tha islie use kiss tak nhi kiya and jab use chodta hu then she cry like hell and tell me that she will never marry anyone yeh sab and mujhe bhaut hi guilt jaisa feel hota hai
Kya karu bhai
I'm also facing this situation currently with a girl who is married and enjoying her life without thinking a bit about me yesterday she went for shopping and movie and inside my head i am feeling anxious and sad that why she is not with me , why she is with him I have some clarity by watching this video and I'm in relationship with that girl from 4 years recently i broke up with her because she is constantly hurting and torturing me and I'm also normalising this hurt though this whole 3 years just to be with her but she is used to hurt me ok daily basis i broke up with me because she has abused my mother so this time my little self respect stand and tell me this is enough it is fine till it's on you but your mother can't be abused by this girl so she is testing My level of hurt throughout this relationship and I'm normalising it my mental health is as hell but I'll try to bounce back after this video thank you everyone who read this comment because i have no friends to whome i can tell this whole thing thank you god bless you all please god i want to forget this torture please help me thanks shwetabh
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same here man, EX girl tested my patience may be used me for 2.5 yrs. And when talk about webbing started she step back and leave me alone. It's been 1.7 yrs she left but her pic, habits are so clear like it;s just yesterday happened. It took me 1 yr to delete her number. We never met IN REAL WORLD it was online international love story on video call max.
IT STILL PAINS ME SOMEWHERE DOWN THE LINE no one to share listen. I have fiance now ex memories are roaming around constant And i feel unjustify for my fiance i not able to give her that level of love which she deserve that ex has suck my loving emotion now I am like a robot.
@@officercadre sams here man she also sucked all my love and care and treated me like a hell and i got used to his toxic behaviour and she is constantly ignoring me from 8 days even I'm in front of her she walks like she didn't know me that's the level of ignorance you can think if you are giving 4 years of life and love to anyone and she treat you like that it hurts alot even she is showing and putting status of his new husband and living very happy after shattering my heart into pieces now slowly slowly I'm becoming strong man but i also think it will take 1-2 years to completely block her from my life
@@HarshSingh-zd4qp 😓😓 morning first comment such a harsh reading.
And u know what worst thing is
even our heart like the painful feeling it keep constantly going to those feelings even though it hurts miserably. Heart likes that feeling of suffering.
Anyways I just tell one line to myself whatever happens for my good only JO HOTA HAI AACHA K LEA HOTA HAI.
@@officercadre yes bhai jo hota hai acche ke liye hota ye hume kuch time baad pata chalega ki humne kitna hurt or torture khud ko sirf 1 insaan ke liye in this 8 billion population humne 1 insaan ke liye kitna kuch khoya hai now I'm moving even today morning mai morning walk ke liye gaya hun kyuki es period me etni anxiety hoti thi mujhe ki mai overeating krne laga tha or junk food bht jyada consume krne laga tha to ab health ko sudharna hai sbse pehle physically strong bnna hai phir mentally strong banke carier me fodna hai or use dikhana hai ki hum bhi kya cheej all the best to you bro tum bhi regret kara ke hi manna ki usne kisko cheat kiya tha
"Jisko bhi woh secretly like krte hai but unke sath kuch ho nhi skta" deeply felt bro!!😭
Seneca said
" We suffer more often in imagination than in reality "
5 saal se follow krra hu aapko bhai....ur perspective always made me think critically in different situations
I feel proud🤍 of myself post coming through each n every words by sir shwetabh🙌
Same
I have been through this.. And it truly incresed 400 times.. I forgot myself, my self respect.. But I promise to make myself move on, in first indicatiom..
Not only you bro , we all are on same boat :)
How...how???? How can someone be so good!!! This video sums up my current situation... thanks for the help brother 💗😄🙏
Same here bawaaa
He is right, i have been watching his content from last 4 years and never faced any problems related to what he talked in this video. Its kinda feel good and sad both on watching others facing and suffering from this common problems which have very obvious solution. It seems obvious only when you will have a good mindset and capability of critical thinking with different different percpectives of multifarious aspects and situation of life, problem and person..... I developed this mindset from watching him..... I can feel it and also see the development of mindset in feedbacks of my friend of mine 🤙💯❤️
SPOT ON! VERY REALISTIC TALK. THANKYOU BHAI❤️
"Ek din raat ko baith ke ro rahe hoge aur samajh nahi aayega kyu ro rahe ho."
Very deep. Hits straight to the core.
Thanks Shwetabh bhai. ❤
Really respect you for sharing this perspective…Thank you so much for sharing this🙏🏻
I just readed the first chapter of your book and the " HOW TO THINK " part was great ...
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Mei Kasam se kabhi nahi karta , but aja sach mei hua to yes , first view , first like , first comment may be 😂
Congrats bhai !
Feels like this video was made to specifically relate to my life
same
1 chammach of Chavanprash, both literally and metaphorically 😌
Big brother ❤
My gf made me feel low than her , whenever i assist or suggest something she said... Jyada gyan mt do.... I felt this many times but one day i broke up with her as it feels very toxic... That was the best decision i take ...
STAYING AWAY FROM TOXIC FRIENDS IS THE SOLUTION😇😈PEOPLE CAN BE TOXIC ON ANOTHER LEVEL...
Girl are toxic to other girls also kya ?
@@Travel_Junkie007 girls are toxic to each other on another level they like to do bitching
This video is just a miracle into those people lives and can turn into a blessing.
He is right the intensity of getting hurt increases to a different level
I totally relate to this state I am right now. You are a gem shwetabh sir. Words can't enough describe but thankyou so much.
Shwetabh bhai bohot special hain. Bohot kam log hote hain duniya mein joh itna selflessly logon ke bhale liye bolte aur chinta karte hain ❤❤❤
May god bless each & every soul, a big bro like you 👍👍👍
Right video at the right time in my life.I Was at brink of getting hurt.But i know the solution.
Thank you shwetabh sir.
I dont know ye kisne pucha but thnk u very much... Ye puri video mei mujhe aesa lga ki shwetabh bhai ap meko hi bol rhe ho... 5-6 months se yhi fck up ho rha tha jaha mei apne ap ko demotivate kr rha tha choote le rha tha but thnk to tht person... This words of ur gave me realisation... U saved me
Bhai kya farishte ho yrr tum....bs yhi chahiye tha mujhe....Thank u for this Video, and simply thanku for existing ❤️.
Thanks bhai one girl messaged me on dating app first she talked with me but after some days she stopped talking to me, it was effecting my work, I was thinking a lot that I might not be that good when I am still having a good job, it also ruined my mood when I go to work by blaming myself and then today after watching your video I decided to unmatch her for my peace ☮️. I hope someone good will find me in the future 😊
Big fan of your videos watching since 5-6 years now 🤗
my only mantra :-mera kya lena dena, maine todhi theka leke rakha h, gaya bh0se mein muhje kya , haa toh ? try implimenting this you may think its toxic but it saves you from lot of bullshit.
In 2020 I got a breakup from a girl I loved . Young tender age I got a very bad patch of depressive thoughts, anxiety and other mental problems. Your video on break-up and relationships helped me a lot. I started taking actions on that basis and now I'm genuinely quite well both mentally and physically . But miles to go before I sleep.
Now the current situation is that
I have a new friend circle where the girl is also a part of it and I'm was cool with it . But now she's sending mixed signals and I'm actively getting hurt mentally emotionally speaking.
Somebody advice me what should be the way to go
I know I should leave them and go and protect myself like 8 billion people are there to make friends with .
But back of my mind the sense of friendship makes be comfortable
It's better to dodge the first bullet rather than tolerating 400 bullets and bleeding
You know now better how was it like to go through that depression days so it's upto you know just don't repeat the same mistakes.
Don't accept mixed signals. Accept her only if she is absolutely clear about being your gf.
Don't give her much attention, stay in the friend group.
Why did you guys breakup ? Are the reasons no longer relevant ? What if you get back together but later breakup for the same reasons as before.
If I were you, I'd pay her no attention and make her jealous by dating someone else.
I am watching this video as an achievement, same thing happened with me last week, when I sent a request to a girl (who knows me very well) but she didn't accepted it. And I did the same thing you are saying. This is what happens when you constantly keep yourself in the good company. You don't need to watch a video anymore, you have became a person like that. Grateful shwetabh bhai❤️❤️
ये बात मैंने खुद सोची थी -प्रॉब्लम 2-4%पर ही solve करनी चाहिए थोड़ी सी प्रॉब्लम आते है swetabh bhai के वीडियो देखना etc etc लगभग पूरा वीडियो (2years ago during overthinking) ऐसे लग रहा है में खुद को सुन रहा हु 😱😱😱
Everytime I see your video..i am like....Vah yR dimaag khol mera 🔥... Thanks man ❤️
Mere sath bandi victim card khel gyi aur main uski baato me aisa fasa hua tha na nikla jara tha aur nahi bina baat kiye raha jara tha us time mujhe keval khud me hi bekar lagra tha mental trauma hua weight 58 se 43 pahuch gya tha fir Maine dhire dhire apke sare direction follow kiye aur ab mujhe ganta farak nhi padta h kisi bhi ladki ka life me ane aur janne se mujhe khud me best banna h
Atleast you learned something that you won't repeat after
This video felt too personal. Thanks Shwetabh
12 min ki intense therapy
...thank you bhaiya 🙏
I've been through bad phase of my life.
Always tried to understand others ,they all left at my crucial moment
2:15 fr man 😭 I regret tolerating stuff soo much!!! This shit is Max relatable!! She didn't even cared !! Not at all but there I was standing before fog wasting my precious time trying to rebuild the bond !! Fml man
Yaar ye relationships ka gyaan to bahut accha mil raha hai bus anubhav ki kami hai.😂
Shwetabh sir is too amazing to express...His explanations are full of clarity .Respect to this person
Bhai i removed someone from my life. Per ab mujhe guilt aa raha tha bahut , bahut bahut thanku for this video 🙏🙏🙏
Jhaam se niklo bhaago bhaago bhaago
Thank u shwetabh sir for giving me the new perspective in life to see the world to entirely different
This video came right when I was in need of this 🙂
Real life suppotor Shwetabh Gangwar 💓
raat ko roo kyu raha hoon, i felt it deep inside me ....u touch the nerve,,,mazing video thankyou bhai
Ty for the pure Content.💕
weird observation but, i have realised im the one causing the issues to her. there have been times she was willing to support me n i broke all barriers and behaved like a total asshole. in many ways, im totally addicted to this person and it took me sometime away from her to actually realise this.
1. i have no other firend, so i over attached. also hum toh lawde hain... notice bhi nahi kiya
2.anxious attachment style, so i felt finally understood and hence relied on once person for everything(bad idea)
3.i realised i had lost most of my self identity in the past 6 mths and hence i would always think "yarr 8 mahine pehle relationship kitni badhiya thi".
*so yes shwetabh bhaiya., you have made me mentally aware enough to openly analyse situations and just noticing patterns helps **alot.to** the people who are knowingly(or unknowingly) hurting your loved ones, PLEASE PLEASE distance youself and analyse youself.*
It reminds me movie “Udaan”.
We all need to take a leap of faith when we realise that we have hit a dead end and person or situation with whom we are dealing with is beyond hope.
Thank you bhaiya ❤️ this video was 200% relatable
I will implement it In This Moment..NOW AND WILL IN FUTURE AT EVERY STEP 🪜.
I'm just going to believe this is just for me. Thanks Bhai 🌚
I thought you are just rude fuckin guy when I started to hear you from 2016-17.Now your videos and advices have made my mind so so clear.The clarity can't be explained. Love you bhai..From Bangladesh
Ye video mei pehle vaali vibe hai bhai zabardast ❤
This video is just so on point man
Watched this 8 months ago
And now watched it again and I can see how much I have grown since then
Head of man community - swetabh bhai love you
I’m in similar situation right now. Need to run.
Exactly the video I needed as affirmation of my decision yesterday to leave my friend towards whom I started having feelings and it started hurting when I saw her with other guys. So I left right away
Stages of grief and acceptance
I was in a friendship with two guys. I treat them like a good friend, and do everything for them. They take advantage and keep crossing their limits and boundaries. I don't want to be lonely so I befriend them. But they fuck me mentally without thinking a bit of my self respect. Even though they don't care about my problem and mind their own business, with time they don't listen to my problem whenever I share it with them. They just treat me like a shit. I was stuck in bad companies and indulging with them so much that it made it hard to cut them off completely. But gradually i try hard to leave their company and maintain my self esteem, safe my self respect and mental peace. Hope! I will get good company soon. So, I will not feel lonely.
Don't just trust someone so easily, Even in future, Only make your friend on the basis of How much you know them, And how for how many years you know them personally, then only make them your friend, Now initially If you are a girl, So, focus on Making Female friends to avoid being Lonely, Male friends are only good, when you want to give them chance to be the life partner, Avoid Toxic Guys, Even Genuine Good Male friend wants someone understanding Girl. The Girl who can give them chance if someone got serious, Otherwise You will only hurt them if they got the feelings in future. A boy and A girl can never be friends.
I prefer to increasing distance as soon as I realise that i am not important for someone or i am only entertainment or last option for someone...
Coz Being Alone is always better than being alone in a group,
Even i sometimes need someone to talk, but it doesn't means that i start treating my self respect as they are treating me...
Someone rightly said that just because someone is hungry, it doesn't means h should eat poison to send something in stomach...
I can't even imagine what would happened if my brother didn't recommended your channel to me maybe I would have killed myself or maybe I would still be in that rat race of relationships love betrayal, you completely turned my life upside down man, i am really really thankful to you by heart now i can't even imagine my life without your guidance, now i see you as my big brother who always pull me out from these situations HATS OFF TO YOU BIG BRO ❤️
Literally was in a similar situation two months ago. Glad i was able to act upon my self preservation ✨
Thank you for this 🙏🏻
Had a gal pal in college I had feelings for. Turned out she used me all this time because I was a nerd. Couldn't see her ulterior motives due to my delusions and her facade of being all nice and soft spoken
You are just amazing Shwetabh. You are one of the person who have given a clarity in my life. Hats off to your effort. Love from Nepal🇳🇵❤️
Bhai Bhai thank you ❤
This man is a therapy
Ye video kaafi hit hui bro.. Great video in a while
Apka video dekhnese pehele me yahi kam Kia. Sir app 100% Right ho or iske bad Mera jindegi badal gayi.😊 apne self respect vul ke apna kami ginta tha usko khush rakhneka Chakkar me apna life carrier mental health or wealth Ka dhajia ura dia tha. Aj hasta hu ki me o kar Kya raha tha
Such a nice video sir, very helpful i also need to leave a relationship and put less efforts for someone who don't care... It is all possible because of you... Thanks💗
Hey whr uh from
shwetabh bhai u just made me cry cz i was made it at extreme level just cant say thank more
Thank you, I sent you the problem just a week ago and you made a video on that. Thank you sir.
Were you the one who asked this question?
@@theincipient_ yup
This is the most relative video I need sir🫡
Feels ki i got the solution of my problems
.. thankyou youuuuuuu so much bhaiya
Shewetabh bhai , sach bata rha hoon dil se maza aagya bhai literally maza aa gya , dil ko sukoon mila , lots of love bhai lots of love ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️aise hi aur videos ki bohot zarurat hai bhai bohot zarurat hai , dil se dhanywaad aapka 🫂🙏🏻
bhai this video is too good,
Thankyou shwetabh bhaiya !!!
Thank you shwetabh sir..
This is the same damn condition I come across and I take the same preservernce from them.
And now after this... I think my decision is good
You are life saver 😊❤
Bhai yeh 8 billion log wali baat merko kaafi aese fallacy type lgti hai.
Like haan 8 billion log hai, but life mai un 8 billion maise kitno ko hi dekh paunga mai.
Aur unme se bhi kitne hi honge jinko jaan paunga, kitno se jaake ek meaningful relationship banega.
Lot of fishes in the sea but itna bada sea thodi traverse kr paega aadmi.
Shwetab is like the brother we all deserve
For me this one is the far most helpful video from shwetabh sir where I'm in situation in which I'm able to connect with it 200% and now I've got the highest level of clarity. Clarity on the actions i have to take, to get out of this situation which is eating me from inside out
Sir this is exactly i wamted to hear sir, thank you very much
I am feeling same tonight and crying like anything. Things 50% se bhi jayada upar nikal gyi thi. Dard ka koi hisab nhi h, feels like list everything in my life.
Bhaiiiii!! Ye toh meri problem ka solution mil gaya mujhe.. Thank you soooooo Much!
Please drop the video on social skills I'm waiting
Agreed
I felt it.... 🙂
Namaste bhaiya
Shi mein bhayanker irony chal rhi hai
Mera mamla meri buddhi ne solve ker diya phir mein ye dekh rhi hoon
Aur kafi shi lag rha hai ab
Exact same hi step meine liya tha aur agar yha kisi ko abhi bhi doubt hai to ek cheej yad rakhna
"" Advice you as you are advising your best freind ""
This man has some secret group with god. ❤💘Haha Thanks Man!
mere ko adha time toh samhajne me lag gaya ki kis topic par baat ho rahi hai par jaise he samhaj aaya wow.. thankyou
jabh samhaj nahi aaya toh lag raha tha procrastination wagera ke baare me hai, but the cheery on top is ki ye uss me bhi apply ho sakta hai
Absolute banger 🥰
8:38 is what the ideal thought cycle should look like. A lot to learn from you big brother ✅
I just fell in love with a guy ..just deeply love he continuously hurting me by saying u are hoe prostitute mentally abuse me daily ldta hai gndi s gndi language bolta h...or ma tolerate krti hu roz 5 mahine s daily sehn kr ri hu roz roti hu roz ..i fucking love me ..and mai brkup ni Krna chahti but vo roz kehta h ki he doesn't want to stay with me...roz anxiety hoti h pdai ni kr pati not even focused on my goal....what to do then saw this video ...Aisa lgra jesi ye batein sari mere liye kehra ho
Take a decision for yourself...
I went into self preservation mode a few days ago and cut them off. We met online and we had some intellectual conversations and then he started venting about his feelings towards his ex. I didn't mind at first and talked about my feelings as well. Then I noticed he kept going on and on about his pain because of his ex and it wasn't even a recent breakup. I distanced myself. When he texted me again and we chatted, I told him that it made me feel used as a diary (I wanted to give him a chance to redeem himself so we can be conversation buddies if possible) and he apologized and promised not to do it again.
Then we got into a respectful debate a few days later and he said he wasn't expecting such 'cold' convictions from me but wanted to be emotionally vulnerable with me (which I found weird as we barely knew each other for 3 days and we didn't know enough about each other to want to be vulnerable with each other and we both openly admitted that we don't trust anyone online). He then said "If I wanted to debate then I would've done it in my own head why talk to someone else for that? oh but I can't open up because 'emotional diary' "
I wanted good conversations but he wanted me to be a person he would share his emotions with and wanted me to be empathetic to him without any investment or reciprocity on his side 🤷♀️
Left him
It's easy for a person to share their hurt to someone that they don't know if you don't have anyone to share but he might be wanting someone to replace that hurt someone to love him the way he wanted from his ex. Stay away from such people they will drain you mentally just help as much as it is needed.
@@seemranhoro Thank you.
@@seemranhoro Same with me, I met a boy online. First, we met for a reason. Then we chatted and became good friends. He said that he was depressed and needed my help because he thought he had feelings for me. Even though I don't have feeling for him but he showed his sad sides that made me sympathize with him. He turned his conversation to quench his desire. Soon, I also started sharing my secret and feelings with him. I am a bit attached and stuck in his emotional loop. With time, He started ignoring me. To save myself (mental peace or time ) I deleted his details to cut him off. Yesterday, he massaged me. I need to talk about this issue. So, i massaged him but he ignored my long chat. confronting him, he shared a screenshot of talking to another girl(prey)🤦🏻♀ and asked me to wait.
I openly and freely said that don't contact me again. He msged me saying that he did it to make me feel jealous. For the time span of 8-9 months, I was only attached to him but did not consider it love but i feel very sad and we are only friends. But he didn't prioritize me like I did.😔 then i realized my important in his life, he seen me like a time pass.
I drained my energy and mental peace to make him happy, positive and bring good from him. In the end, I lose everything just to make him happy.
You did the right thing and saved yourself.👍
Very Relatable.. 💯
It was too good..thanks a lot shwetabh bhaai😇
Thank you bhaia needed this
You are Messiah for us ❤
Bro u take the explanation to next level...bahot kaam aayi tumhari baatein mere liye...