Stop Needless Compliments to Women - It's not helping

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  • Опубликовано: 21 ноя 2024

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  • @magsteel9891
    @magsteel9891 Месяц назад +61

    The most tired compliment is "strong independent woman". Nobody ever says "strong independent man" because it's just called "being an adult"

    • @Savvynomad225
      @Savvynomad225 Месяц назад +4

      They want to be praised when they actually take accountability for something, even though it’s not going to last past their next emotion

    • @razadaza9651
      @razadaza9651 Месяц назад +1

      Agreed.. also this “queen” concept is coming up with the darker ladies living in the west

    • @nucle4rpenguins534
      @nucle4rpenguins534 Месяц назад

      @@Savvynomad225 that’s like the bare minimum of an adult …. how do you hold a job with some level of responsibility and walk through life like this?

    • @Savvynomad225
      @Savvynomad225 Месяц назад

      @@nucle4rpenguins534 because men worship women and until men stop doing so, it’ll keep happening that they’ll be promoted at work and praised for doing basic efforts. They are very entitled.

    • @martinfiedler4317
      @martinfiedler4317 Месяц назад

      Truth is that we all have our weaknesses and that we all depend on others to some - quite a large degree - degree.
      Being "adult" means accepting that and acting accordingly.
      But then, accepting your weaknesses and asking others for help/support requires mental strength, too.

  • @abdulquadiransari7476
    @abdulquadiransari7476 Месяц назад +16

    I strive towards absolutely no woman in both my professional and personal life.

  • @alaskahudson
    @alaskahudson Месяц назад +10

    I am a good complement to my wife even when I don't compliment her.

  • @ke0kie
    @ke0kie Месяц назад +9

    Right. Don't be a basic simp.

  • @doubleddoroga1324
    @doubleddoroga1324 Месяц назад +8

    Nothing for free for women. Not even attention .

  • @ghanna7787
    @ghanna7787 9 дней назад

    If a woman needs physical validation from me, she won't get it. That 's a sign of weakness. I tell them that I wouldn't be with you if I didn't approve.

  • @tipofthespear74
    @tipofthespear74 Месяц назад +7

    Top Gun Maverick was FINALLY a movie that had a legit male lead and did so well too!

    • @bowieyap2990
      @bowieyap2990 Месяц назад +1

      He literally got tossed out of the bar, and then crawling back begging to get into a relationship with a woman that throw him out of the bar. Come on

  • @ianhart356
    @ianhart356 Месяц назад +3

    Thank you for presenting your thought provoking ideas. My observation is that we are fully in competition with women in the workplace, in the same way as we are with men. Remuneration for our work and related opportunities are skewed by false praise or inappropriate help of any kind. You are corrrect... men need to stop it.

    • @WTHenry2023
      @WTHenry2023 Месяц назад

      Early in my career, older men (silent generation and older baby boomers) frequently provided undeserved compliments as if they were going to get at "reward" for those compliments.

  • @jessicak4223
    @jessicak4223 Месяц назад +11

    At the Fortune 25 corporation that my husband works at, Sales and Account Executives who met their targets got their names put in a drawing for an upgraded car. The top dog pulling the names decided, out loud, that there were too many men getting the cars (probably wouldn’t look good for pictures), so he proceeded to pick names until females came up. A co-worker told my husband “that’s your name he just put aside, and that’s yours Jacob, that’s Travis’s, oh now Jennifer got your car!” “Jennifer” actually went up and received the car, at the expense of her male colleagues, so did Megan, Jill, and Sarah. As a woman I am ashamed! My husband keeps finding that companies need to prove that they can’t find anybody else but him (a white male) before he can get a job or promotion. Those hiring even tell him this. Enough is enough!

    • @WTHenry2023
      @WTHenry2023 Месяц назад +2

      I remember when this started in the 80's. I am in the engineering professional where there were only 10 percent women graduates in my field. In my second company, they were try to fill an engineering manager opening. The executives were meeting across the office try to decide who can fill the role. One of them declared. There has to be a woman we can find to fill the role. So much for meritocracy

    • @tonywinters1283
      @tonywinters1283 Месяц назад +1

      Who cares

    • @Terrapin47-s8y
      @Terrapin47-s8y Месяц назад +2

      Trust me you only care because this directly affects you

    • @damianmousley2098
      @damianmousley2098 Месяц назад

      This is tragic.

  • @didafm
    @didafm Месяц назад +15

    Hey you should do a video on why young men( under 30) are primarily not interested in getting married....also you should do a video on how online dating is starting to die

  • @ChatGPT1111
    @ChatGPT1111 Месяц назад +4

    I noticed that whenever a woman posts a selfie on social media, no matter how bad or good it is, about a kazillion women will always comment "omg, you're so beautiful".

    • @rayrodriguessilva5172
      @rayrodriguessilva5172 3 дня назад

      Because women knows tô not expect men to know that in our society looks is more demanded from women. Men don't understand how it affects the life of women in general. Let them be.

    • @rayrodriguessilva5172
      @rayrodriguessilva5172 3 дня назад

      Ia also applies for men who compliment other men for not extrordinary things too.

  • @the_river_acheron
    @the_river_acheron Месяц назад +11

    I commend your topic selection. If you had to keep playing the corp game, vids like these could come back to bite you in the butt. As a 40 something who’s still in the mainstream working world, I appreciate your insights.

  • @rontagore4560
    @rontagore4560 Месяц назад +1

    100 percent on point everything this dude says is true . I gave feedback on a work product to some woman in my team and she started crying and next thing you know HR calls and I’m on notice and can’t be a manager anymore

  • @stephenbanks5860
    @stephenbanks5860 Месяц назад +14

    Over the years I've have heard numerous women being complimented by men for standard performance or even substandard performance. Some of the women even received awards. I never heard any of these women say '"not necessary, just doing my job" or something to that effect. They all accepted the praise like they did extraordinary work.

    • @ZeeZed153
      @ZeeZed153 Месяц назад +6

      They are shameless

  • @catsspat
    @catsspat Месяц назад +7

    It's called "girlboss" and it's ruined plenty of movies and videogames already.

  • @shootingbricks8554
    @shootingbricks8554 Месяц назад +2

    I don't compliment women more than men as a straight guy. Compliments are earned, not needlessly given. Remember this. Too much compliments can come off as insecure or worse, you're just feeding her ego. I compliment on people's actions more. If a female colleague did an outstanding job, I'll compliment her on that.

  • @SonicBoomC98
    @SonicBoomC98 Месяц назад +1

    This is a trend that has to stop. Also, no adult should be trying to carry another adult. Help people who really need it, but no one should be bending over backward

  • @ZeeZed153
    @ZeeZed153 Месяц назад +3

    The WORST are the infantilizing accolades we have to participate in handing out to them. The corporation I work for forced managers to each pick a female employee to publicly praise on women's day for her contributions. Of course nobody celebrates men's day.

  • @aymenjr45
    @aymenjr45 Месяц назад +2

    I moved to a new city and joined a boxing gym the coach told them to welcome our new member maybe one or two claps lol when a girl joined the gym next session and the coach asked the same thing the clapping sound was crazy 🤣🤣 so sad

  • @sunshine8556
    @sunshine8556 27 дней назад

    You made think about last time I got an compliment. It is few and far between.

  • @stuartpaul9211
    @stuartpaul9211 Месяц назад +2

    everyone starts off with a basic level of trust and respect. to increase those values they have to be earned. So, compliments beyond the basics need to be treat the same.

  • @PaulChan-e5e
    @PaulChan-e5e Месяц назад +2

    Great points. The tears...those damn tears...conditions you to now avoid broaching the subject of improvement altogether. So many times though I have had female staff come back to apologize for having been emotional. To be fair, I've dealt with a few guy criers, too, when constructive feedback was given. It's the times.

  • @ricnyc2759
    @ricnyc2759 Месяц назад +1

    A few years ago I was talking to a friend of mine... We were in an apartment building.
    He saw this woman exiting the building and he open the door for her.
    She didn't even look at him or said "thank you".
    I looked at his face. He was so embarrassed.
    I didn't know what to say.

    • @yuriy5376
      @yuriy5376 Месяц назад

      Why was he embarassed?

    • @gonnacry4513
      @gonnacry4513 Месяц назад

      ​@@yuriy5376He felt like an idiot

    • @yuriy5376
      @yuriy5376 Месяц назад +1

      @@gonnacry4513 I don't really see anything to be embarrassed about. I've been in that exact scenario a few dozen times with both men and women and it didn't seem particularly special to me. Some people are just rude and some don't see someone opening a door for them as deserving a "thank you".

  • @razadaza9651
    @razadaza9651 Месяц назад +1

    I’m seeing this in a big way at my women empowering workplace, have to walk on eggshells everywhere, I got it trouble for not treating a young girl in a more special way than a male, she cried and then got angry like you said..

  • @colettelongo2080
    @colettelongo2080 Месяц назад +1

    I like to help and complement people in general because that's the kind of person I want to be. If someone is truly undeserving of my help and complements, I have nothing to do with them...they just aren't part of my life.

  • @abdulquadiransari7476
    @abdulquadiransari7476 Месяц назад +2

    I can't stop looking at attractive woman. But, I try to avoid talk, eye contact, professional and personal relationship with Woman.

  • @abdallahj.a.
    @abdallahj.a. Месяц назад +1

    Love it. Especially in school or universities.

  • @georgea.lozano2619
    @georgea.lozano2619 Месяц назад

    I like "glass half full/empty" "compliments". For example, "where did you get that little dress?!" or "was that dress expensive?"

  • @j.rothchild173
    @j.rothchild173 Месяц назад

    After what I saw on The Road Warrior movie and how Maxx was portrayed, I haven’t been to the movies again…

  • @lalunelanuit
    @lalunelanuit Месяц назад +2

    Hey Rich, women are stronger than what you depict here. You are responsible for the girlfriend or wife you pick.

    • @CulturalCommentary
      @CulturalCommentary  Месяц назад +6

      Awesome. I hope you’re right. Then men should absolutely stop complimenting women needlessly and doing their work so that these strong women can totally shine on their own and show us what they got. 👍

  • @rengoku4219
    @rengoku4219 Месяц назад +1

    Bro just roasted all romantic lyricists. 😂

  • @Johneditz165
    @Johneditz165 Месяц назад +1

    Great episode

  • @strictlyaesthetic9202
    @strictlyaesthetic9202 Месяц назад +1

    No Problem ....

  • @jdsartre9520
    @jdsartre9520 Месяц назад +1

    compliment

    • @CulturalCommentary
      @CulturalCommentary  Месяц назад

      Haha. That’s awesome. You’re the first one to say it. Thanks. English. Sheesh! 🙄😀

    • @jdsartre9520
      @jdsartre9520 Месяц назад

      @@CulturalCommentary ah wow. you updated your thumbnail even

  • @FranekWrobel-hp7zp
    @FranekWrobel-hp7zp Месяц назад +1

    This channel becomes more Red and Black Pill day by day.

  • @kokorospirit5006
    @kokorospirit5006 Месяц назад +2

    Compliment

  • @boethius1812
    @boethius1812 Месяц назад +1

    Compliment*

  • @TJR93
    @TJR93 Месяц назад +1

    @1:10 "Past five years" I say past twenty-five years at least.

  • @ACMR6297
    @ACMR6297 Месяц назад

    Eh my personal code of conduct whether or not I’ll help/compliment a woman is I ask myself if I would do/say those things if I was not romantically interested.
    If I would, I’d keep the compliment light hearted, and if they want/need help I’d ask if they want my help.
    Of course I would not go out of my way to help someone at the expense of myself unless I have a close relationship with them.
    On the other hand, if it’s something I would only say/so for someone I am interested in, I would make sure I have a foot in the door at least 😂

  • @jarinorvanto4301
    @jarinorvanto4301 Месяц назад +5

    How do you know that a "woman" is a woman? That's a very prejudiced, binary assumption. 🤓

  • @thePribs
    @thePribs Месяц назад +2

    Sorry i am a woman who works in a developing country. The situation is so different here. Nobody complements us. We need to constantly fight to be heard, to get opportunities and to get raises. Its exhausting.

    • @1976athletico
      @1976athletico Месяц назад +1

      Nope thats what you call equality.

  • @pharaohphoenix8348
    @pharaohphoenix8348 Месяц назад

    Did you delete your 3rd channel, "thoughtfulcenter" ?

  • @malepositivemedia7937
    @malepositivemedia7937 Месяц назад +2

    I think that you mean "compliments" rather than "complements". Two different words with different meanings.

  • @jarinorvanto4301
    @jarinorvanto4301 Месяц назад +1

    Modern movies are boring.

  • @houkensjtu
    @houkensjtu Месяц назад +1

    Chinese listener here. One of the biggest complaints here from women is: Chinese guys don't compliment women, and Westerners are much better at complimenting. Therefore we (the Chinese women) prefer Westerners than Chinese guys. So complimenting might be actually "helping" if you're trying to impress an Asian girl..

    • @1976athletico
      @1976athletico Месяц назад

      "Thats what created all the problems for the men in the West.

  • @adlermann96
    @adlermann96 Месяц назад +4

    Simping must die

    • @ChatGPT1111
      @ChatGPT1111 Месяц назад

      Unfortunately, women will still complement, vote for and do business solely with women just for being women.

    • @bellavega8048
      @bellavega8048 Месяц назад +1

      Simping is male biology, it will never die.

  • @charlesporter1148
    @charlesporter1148 Месяц назад +1

    The guys spot on but 5 decades a little late...

  • @andrefrank8270
    @andrefrank8270 Месяц назад

    Compliment