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  • @Mackenzietkd526
    @Mackenzietkd526 3 года назад +560

    I feel like every Monday, if you have a pulse, you need to watch this!!! While you're putting on makeup , making coffee..whatever. This message is 95 years of avoided therapy in 9 min. Thank you Breeny... as always 💗

    • @Natasha-wc7xm
      @Natasha-wc7xm 3 года назад +3

      Exactly what I did ❤️ today it’s a Monday morning and a long dayyyyy ahead.

    • @FA9082
      @FA9082 2 года назад

      Angry masculine women like Breeny are exactly why I dont date black women #SYSBM

    • @Natasha-wc7xm
      @Natasha-wc7xm 2 года назад +4

      @@FA9082 lol, like they’d wanna date you.
      🤣

    • @FA9082
      @FA9082 2 года назад

      @@Natasha-wc7xm Lol considering 70% of black women are unmarried compared to only 30% of white women, it seems black women are in no position to be picky about who theyre willing to date 😂

    • @Natasha-wc7xm
      @Natasha-wc7xm 2 года назад +2

      @@FA9082 😂 And you think marriage is the ultimate goal 🥅 for everyone?? 😂😳 How can someone have a mindset like that, be entitled and be a racist - all at the same time!
      I’m not black but wow, it’s a real shame. 😪

  • @Eyana_visions
    @Eyana_visions 2 года назад +283

    As a “nice” girl I learned the hard way about having boundaries and being assertive, please ladies especially the young ones listen really well and do not be afraid of walking away from anyone who doesn’t respect your boundaries

  • @F0reverblessed
    @F0reverblessed 3 года назад +832

    The ONLY people that will be upset about you setting boundaries are the ones that took advantage when you didn’t have any. Learning to say no is what will set you free from the people that were using you. ❤️
    From a self love content creator to another; great video Breeny! ❤️

    • @dawnspage5091
      @dawnspage5091 3 года назад +7

      True

    • @F0reverblessed
      @F0reverblessed 3 года назад +1

      @@dawnspage5091 ❤️

    • @nicksmith-cx1fx
      @nicksmith-cx1fx 3 года назад +11

      All you ladies have the potential to find a man get married and raise a family. While being aware of the red flags is ok, you have to really be focused on the green flags. Exclusively focusing on the red flags will de detrimental to your dating life. Focus on what qualities you would want your partner to have.

    • @F0reverblessed
      @F0reverblessed 3 года назад +3

      @@nicksmith-cx1fx I agree. Thank you for sharing!

    • @nicksmith-cx1fx
      @nicksmith-cx1fx 3 года назад +20

      You never have to apologize when setting a boundary. We can apologize when we are wrong, when we have made a mistake we can apologize when we have hurt someone's feelings. But you don't apologize for setting your boundaries. You don't apologize for stating and saying your needs.

  • @valrose6083
    @valrose6083 3 года назад +442

    I lost a friendship of 12 years in February, because i finally started setting boundaries. The year leading up to the cut off, I started saying no more, started letting that person know i wasn’t available for them to hang out with or call 24/7. They couldn’t call me in the middle of class/work unless it was an emergency. They couldn’t come over to my house and let themselves in when i wasn’t home. They couldn’t make jokes at my expense, especially ones they know are sensitive topics (like my insecurities). The moment I started putting in these boundaries, the friendship fell apart. Finally they blew up on me, and my final boundary was we can continue this friendship when they apologise for what they’ve done. Now, 8 months later, I still haven’t heard from them. This was a really hard lesson to learn, but BOUNDARIES ARE IMPORTANT!! Love you Breeny~~ I’m so thankful for all your videos, you have been a positive influence on my life since i started listening 3 years ago!!

    • @sher8078
      @sher8078 3 года назад +5

      YESS IM TRYING TO ACHIEVE THIS TOO

    • @phucmai4140
      @phucmai4140 3 года назад +13

      Lost a friendship is hurt, but you will find qualities friendship in the future. :3

    • @missfefeloves
      @missfefeloves 3 года назад +5

      I can totally relate. ♥️

    • @CrystalDatingCoach
      @CrystalDatingCoach 3 года назад +25

      You didn't lose a Friend...you lost an Enemy. Friends want you to be HAPPY!

    • @valrose6083
      @valrose6083 3 года назад +6

      Thank you everyone for the support, it means so much 😭💕🙏

  • @dianaowusuwaa8436
    @dianaowusuwaa8436 3 года назад +241

    Sometimes you think you have strong boundaries until you get emotional attached to those sick people. We let our guards down when we become emotionally vulnerable

    • @JAYHOPEMINISTRIES
      @JAYHOPEMINISTRIES 3 года назад +3

      Ohh yes.... Gotta stay strong abd love myself more than give in

    • @ariah457
      @ariah457 2 года назад

      Very true

    • @BigTroubleD
      @BigTroubleD 2 года назад +4

      It’s so damn true. And because we are loving people, we continue to forgive their disrespect at our expense.

    • @ritaferreira7212
      @ritaferreira7212 2 года назад

      That's me right now :(

    • @Options23
      @Options23 2 года назад +2

      We got to guard our hearts and keep our legs closed, and learn to love ourselves first. Sex with soul ties will override your better judgment. We can't give men's things they haven't earned because they will not value us. The Lord says we must stop selling ourselves short. GOD BLESS

  • @tacrewgirl
    @tacrewgirl 3 года назад +160

    I've been saying this. When you tell someone no you see their true colors.

    • @fredaowusu-agyapong
      @fredaowusu-agyapong 3 года назад +19

      Literally they will try to make you feel bad for saying no. So annoying 🙄

    • @tacrewgirl
      @tacrewgirl 3 года назад +9

      @@fredaowusu-agyapong or they get angry because how dare you tell them no

    • @fredaowusu-agyapong
      @fredaowusu-agyapong 3 года назад +5

      @@tacrewgirl right no lies 👌

  • @corianderfish1999
    @corianderfish1999 3 года назад +176

    ‘Be brave enough to leave because the universe will take care of the rest.’ I was in a toxic job in which my boundaries kept being violated and I was constantly treated with disrespect. Had enough and quitted. Immediately afterwards, I got an interview for a role I had applied earlier, and manifested that job! 😊 hope this would encourage someone who is a bit hesitant to leave because they fear they may ‘loss out’.

    • @sarahmicro
      @sarahmicro 3 года назад +5

      Thank you for your message and the hope. I just left my job because i was disrespected completely. I do lot have any other job but God Will help me for sure.

    • @hekimahalisi6115
      @hekimahalisi6115 2 года назад

      Thanks for this

  • @sudoqueen5587
    @sudoqueen5587 3 года назад +155

    I find set boundaries with family members is the hardest thing ever. Like your family can literally become your worst nightmare they believe that they are entitled to everything your own and to your own money and because you feel like they’re your family and you love them you don’t want to hurt them so just let them walk all over you but when is enough enough.

    • @Tori-qi2mz
      @Tori-qi2mz 3 года назад +8

      Whew felt this especially when it comes to money. My parents still think they're entitled to know my salary, when I get paid, etc. just so they can time when they ask me. I just straight up tell them to stop asking now. And if they get butthurt that's on them.

    • @cauha12
      @cauha12 2 года назад

      @@Tori-qi2mz 💯

  • @MyAntonia
    @MyAntonia 3 года назад +72

    "As much as boundaries may make you lonely, they will also PROTECT YOU" wow Breeny thank you for these golden 💛 videos

  • @sanaiqbal1326
    @sanaiqbal1326 3 года назад +246

    I literally feel like your my older sister giving me advice. Your so strong. Your a great role model for young girls. I look up to you a lot. Everything you talk about is so helpful. I love listening to your advice. I appreciate it x

  • @womenwhodate7643
    @womenwhodate7643 3 года назад +97

    "If you don't set a baseline standard for what you'll accept in life, you'll find it's easy to slip into behaviors and attitudes or a quality of life that's far below what you deserve." - Tony Robbins. This quote really make you think from another perspective. Love the video, thanks!

  • @natachavbosch
    @natachavbosch 2 года назад +11

    When a woman has a strong personality and says no to what she does not like, insecure people call her problematic or toxic. So, it's important that we all set boundaries and say no, even to those we are more close to.

  • @thingwitht8497
    @thingwitht8497 3 года назад +24

    An older lady told me that I should never be a wife to a boyfriend! So no everyday cooking (at most once every never) , cleaning their houses, joint accounts, no living together etc.

  • @tsitsih15
    @tsitsih15 3 года назад +37

    Set your standards very high …Always!
    I learnt this the hard way.. I lowered my standards to zero because I liked someone but the person ended up treating me like I was not worth anything. If your standards are very high you prune all the fluff..

    • @caesarx8139
      @caesarx8139 3 года назад

      @Tsitsi H. Genuine question: how do you vet/check the Men you date?

    • @oceejay5148
      @oceejay5148 2 года назад

      Me too !! 🤷🏽‍♀️

  • @KM-du1dk
    @KM-du1dk 3 года назад +122

    I met a guy on Sunday night and he was really psychically attractive. We went to his hotel reception for a chat where it was more quiet, and while I was talking he would rudely interrupt me saying " listen to me" i found it really rude and I corrected him once not to do it again. But he did it again. I decided to block him after I went home. It was tough but I don't get turned on by men who disrespect me like that. If he violated a verbal boundary on the first meeting. It would only get worse. I'm proud of myself 💯

    • @eunicedang1247
      @eunicedang1247 3 года назад

      Hello dear I recommend you Dr Ezekiel,he was the one who helped me restore back my 6 years broken 💔 relationship,he can make your ex come back begging for a second Chance, Also Dr Ezekiel always keep to his promise, I will advice you seek his help,thanks.

    • @eunicedang1247
      @eunicedang1247 3 года назад

      Message him on whatsapp

    • @eunicedang1247
      @eunicedang1247 3 года назад

      ±2347054407388⏭⏭◀⏭

    • @unicorngirl1901
      @unicorngirl1901 2 года назад +2

      Proud of you too girl

    • @Sino.Kate.
      @Sino.Kate. 2 года назад +2

      I'm so very Proud of you ❤️💕

  • @lulusbubble1017
    @lulusbubble1017 3 года назад +94

    I struggle to say no and I've come to realize that it's because I have the urge to be liked and accepted which leads to me overthinkinga and doing the things that I didntn't want to do😔, but I'm practicing to say no. 😊Thanks Breeny, really needed that😘

    • @stellarosebabi
      @stellarosebabi 3 года назад +2

      I totally feel where ur coming from. & love that you said practicing. Good luck

    • @christy7516
      @christy7516 3 года назад +1

      Same

    • @cauha12
      @cauha12 2 года назад +1

      You dont need anyones acceptance because alot of people in real life dont even like themselves! You only need validation from yourself

    • @lulusbubble1017
      @lulusbubble1017 2 года назад

      @@stellarosebabi thank you 😊

    • @lulusbubble1017
      @lulusbubble1017 2 года назад

      @@cauha12 thanks 😊

  • @ByFaithCOG
    @ByFaithCOG 3 года назад +89

    People only go as far as you let them go!!!!

  • @jaeskull1575
    @jaeskull1575 3 года назад +629

    Me in Jamaica everyday: Hey Siri what time is it in London? 😂 I’m so thirsty for these daily uploads. I feel so spoiled what am I gonna do after day 7? My virtual big sis ❤️

    • @theunicornsin1144
      @theunicornsin1144 3 года назад +13

      Cuuuute💖😹

    • @BreenyLee
      @BreenyLee  3 года назад +30

      😄❤️

    • @addairreesmie7011
      @addairreesmie7011 3 года назад +1

      Jae mi like how mi come over here come find you too. We leveling up together muma

    • @jaeskull1575
      @jaeskull1575 3 года назад +6

      @@addairreesmie7011 of course sis we’re all about that. Breeny is my girl!

    • @sheriannexberry483
      @sheriannexberry483 3 года назад +2

      Mi late pon this one because a work but mi ketch up ,hey ladiesss

  • @cassandralocke7533
    @cassandralocke7533 3 года назад +60

    Yesss!!! Saying NO is definitely a form of self love. 😉

  • @cassandralocke7533
    @cassandralocke7533 3 года назад +71

    This is so deep but definitely a need man. Setting boundaries is definitely a form of self love.

  • @riagreen9294
    @riagreen9294 3 года назад +28

    Everyone’s your friend when you’re saying yes. But how many of those friends want to be around you when you start saying no. 💯💯💯

    • @michelleadebiyi2341
      @michelleadebiyi2341 3 года назад

      hmmm!

    • @cauha12
      @cauha12 2 года назад

      💯this the one! And then when you say no or you cant they BIG mad cause they cant take advantage of you anymore

  • @ShakoraDomingo
    @ShakoraDomingo 3 года назад +85

    THIS👏Even with family and close/long friendships or relationships, there always seems to be a sense of entitlement from others. It’s a lot harder done then said but we all deserve to feel safe and respected. LISTEN TO BREENY SET THOSE BOUNDARIES!

  • @Casxa
    @Casxa 3 года назад +73

    I needed to hear this. I feel so embarrassed at myself thinking I let my ex take advantage of me. But leaving him was the best decision ever and I hope it was a wake up call for him. The first time I really told him no was when he wanted to see me one last time after I broke up. He kept apologizing over nothing, it was really surprising. I'm so happy to be free from that.

  • @scorpiochronicles
    @scorpiochronicles 3 года назад +17

    28 years being a people pleaser 😩 no more I say! I’ll be the bad guy bc that’s how they treat you when you stand on your boundaries...peace over peers

  • @MyBigImaganation
    @MyBigImaganation 3 года назад +72

    I needed to see this … i am now enforcing my boundaries and its such a life changer

    • @missfefeloves
      @missfefeloves 3 года назад +1

      Me too. Even tho people treat me like I don't deserve boundaries

  • @Ohemaamary
    @Ohemaamary 3 года назад +80

    I have a hard time saying no at times. I guess it’s cause I don’t want people to perceive me as mean or bitchy. Being a people pleaser doesn’t help at all. Thank you for this video.

  • @NS-kr2zh
    @NS-kr2zh 3 года назад +20

    I used to think I was a lesser than woman because I had allowed people to hurt me. Hearing that such a valuable woman such as yourself has also been hurt helps me to feel shameless about once being weak because now I have reevaluated my worth and stopped accepting the bare minimum. Thank you for making relatable and useful content for a black woman like myself who is finding joy in unlearning subservience--I am ROYALTY! Having boundaries can lead to loneliness however, I bet Tiffany Diamonds get awful lonesome too, yet they are priceless!!

  • @jarid114
    @jarid114 3 года назад +13

    Boundaries are an act of love. It’s my way of saying that I want you in my life and these are the rules for you to stay in it.

  • @sarahb6758
    @sarahb6758 3 года назад +56

    Standards like having no sex or inappropriate conversations before marriage. It doesn't matter if they like you. They have to wait or keep it moving. The 21st century doesn't give them special rights to the cookie haha...serious men only :)

    • @0fficialselena__90
      @0fficialselena__90 3 года назад +17

      Especially when it comes to sex I feel that woman have to be picky as well because waiting or not won’t keep a man…they’d still leave once they get what they want so it all depends on the mans character.

    • @sarahb6758
      @sarahb6758 3 года назад +4

      @@0fficialselena__90 sex is so cheap these days. So you are right, it's down to their character and values

    • @0fficialselena__90
      @0fficialselena__90 3 года назад +4

      @@sarahb6758 Yes I definitely agree! Personally for me, I have sexual feelings and thoughts but I don't desire sex nor will I engage in sexual activity but I can be intimate which I feel like would show men's true character and fish out the bad ones.

    • @maggief1851
      @maggief1851 3 года назад +5

      It's true.I tell them from the beginning that I am abstaining it's funny how they go from 💯 to zero.

    • @0fficialselena__90
      @0fficialselena__90 3 года назад

      @@maggief1851 yup! Preach

  • @msmiami212
    @msmiami212 3 года назад +23

    This whole series is a must-watch before every new relationship. I'll be revisiting for sure. These times i'm seeing my friends in this situation and I want to forward each and every video, but they'll be seriously triggered!!

    • @BreenyLee
      @BreenyLee  3 года назад +1

      ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @usanele_k
    @usanele_k 3 года назад +31

    This 7 days revenge session is changing my life breeny you have no idea thank you❤

  • @Thessaloniaworsley
    @Thessaloniaworsley 3 года назад +22

    I been doing this since my recent break up and now I’m really lonely lol “boys” now are lazy and don’t like boundaries just want to treat you with no or low effort. But I refuse cause I know my worth and added tax sis.

    • @victorianyambura5195
      @victorianyambura5195 2 года назад +1

      It's better to be single than lower your standards at this point in time. Men keep getting worse.

    • @cauha12
      @cauha12 2 года назад

      Period. They not the one for you

  • @lindakhanyile3252
    @lindakhanyile3252 3 года назад +4

    Saying "No" is a full sentence. 🔥

  • @jasmine9700
    @jasmine9700 3 года назад +12

    👏🏾👏🏾👌🏾 I agree so much with what you said about people making a joke at your expense. The way they make out like you can’t take a joke, bla bla but reverse the joke back on them and they would loose their shit.
    Ain’t nobody got time for that. I went from people pleasing to telling people exactly how I feel and it feels fucking great. Keep speaking up sis, keeping setting boundaries sis and keep them standards sis, you got this 😘

  • @777SO
    @777SO 3 года назад +11

    This is not only about love/men, this topic is so important in all area of life! I have never been afraid of setting boundaries, having standards. At work, with my family with friends and men. You teach people how they can treat you period! My boundaries are part of me, I ain’t letting nobody walk on them so on me point black. I know and understand the raison I have this boundary about this and that. I stick with them at all coast. When you are coherent and know your boundaries you are in an happier state of mind because having boundaries and standards prevent you from a LOT of bs. Life gonna test you, send you people, situation to see if you cheat yourself by letting others cross the damn line. Ones you will show that you are playing no game with your boundaries/standards you gonna attract people/situations who are in alignement with you, and this is really amazing🙏🏽✨

  • @_KrystalAlexis
    @_KrystalAlexis 2 года назад +2

    I lost friends when I started to create boundaries; I use to say yes to everything even tho I didn’t want to. I learned to say no because I just don’t want to do it.

  • @NTUNKNOWN
    @NTUNKNOWN 2 года назад +2

    My ex has come back and does this lol. I am a University student who lives on her own and is working for the government parttime. Last time he called, he degraded my job. He always calls me stupid. Even though he lives with his mom and doesn't have any diploma whatsoever.
    When I address his bullying he says "it's just a joke, why am I being so sensitive". It's weird. In the past when we were a thing I didn't notice he was treating me like this to keep my self confidence low so I would stay with him. I have cut the contact again since two days because I noticed my self confidence got low and I was relying on him again. Sometimes I do miss him but I'm staying strong.

  • @opheliad7452
    @opheliad7452 3 года назад +58

    When I started saying No everyone I thought where my friends distances themselves from me. Pretty much everyone drop out of my life. I only got my mother standing by myself. I find out the hard way they where never my friends. At first I was sad but now am use to being alone. I only go out to work, RUclipsr channel and Nexflix are my friend and I got my mom. My life is better because now I can focus on me and I have learned a lot.

    • @tigertori19
      @tigertori19 3 года назад

      How were you able to deal and cope with so much loss?

    • @opheliad7452
      @opheliad7452 3 года назад +12

      @@tigertori19 it was not easy I cry myself to sleep many night. It was RUclips and nexflix that keep me going . Watching video to comfort me till I say I must move on and focus on me.

    • @tigertori19
      @tigertori19 3 года назад +1

      @@opheliad7452 Thankyou for getting back to me. I appreciate your insight

    • @julianagarces2389
      @julianagarces2389 2 года назад

      It’s not just you. This happened to me too. Lost everyone in my life and just had my parents and brother left. Even my grandma, I had to let her go. It’s all worth it in the end, you appreciate what you have left after so much loss, stay strong ❤️

  • @LouisaWatt
    @LouisaWatt 3 года назад +12

    Thank you for rising above the things that you went through and using it to help as many people as you can. You’re a beautiful, intelligent woman who deserves better and I’m glad to see you standing up for it.
    Gives the rest of us courage 🙂

  • @LifewithDjena
    @LifewithDjena 3 года назад +10

    I wish I had a Breeny Lee when I was younger 🥺

  • @tul650
    @tul650 3 года назад +15

    Oh gosh every thing you say is just perfect, you reminded me of every time I should have said NO but instead I said yes, it did not end well every single time, boundaries actually protect us and the other person and the hall relationship.
    Love uuuuu

  • @cheptoofaith8083
    @cheptoofaith8083 2 года назад +1

    I had a guy say to me "i really like how you stand up for yourself" and he showed me respect he started to respect me

  • @mobolajiowolabi2970
    @mobolajiowolabi2970 3 года назад +7

    I dream of the day that all women understand that:
    1. Their MENTAL HEALTH is the most important thing, it comes before anything/anyone outside of themselves
    2. LOVE/CARE comes from RESPECT.
    3. Treat all relationships the same (have the same expectations/standards across), platonic, romantic including marriage, work, casual etc.

  • @ruqaya2391
    @ruqaya2391 2 года назад +1

    Sometimes having no boundaries or low standards can be the result of having low sense of sense or self worth

  • @CrystalDatingCoach
    @CrystalDatingCoach 3 года назад +4

    The only way to get respect is by RESPECTING yourself!

  • @salome8278
    @salome8278 3 года назад +18

    I needed this! been struggling with it all my life :(

  • @AboveRubiesTV
    @AboveRubiesTV 3 года назад +18

    Birthday twinn!! On point AGAIN! I’ve always had the opposite issue. Very clear, direct, & hard on guys (because of childhood trauma, of course), but more lenient with women because I’ve always had a great relationship with my mom & sister, so naturally, thought it should be easy to relate with other women. Unfortunately, that’s not been the case. I have grown leaps and bounds with standing up for myself and BEEN knew how to get lost on a human lol.
    Happy Sunday ❤️✨

  • @Miriam84Akizimana
    @Miriam84Akizimana 3 года назад +8

    If you look at it ,the reason why men win is because they value respect .it is something that they will fight for , self respect is very important. Most ladies don’t bother no wonder people take advantage of them. I thank God for your life sis🙏🏼 more grace. together we can correct the the error that our forefathers did by teaching the young people the right way to gain respect ✊🏽 the bible in the book of judges stated that the children of Israel lost track after the death of Joshua because there was no leader to teach them the ways of God. They found themselves loosing many battle and compromising with idol worshipers they served their gods rather than the God of their fathers who took them out of the land of Egypt. Is it not similar to this generation? God help us and our young people . Thank you 🙏🏼❤️❤️

  • @estrellaverbeck
    @estrellaverbeck 3 года назад +6

    We're so obsessed with being liked NOT respected ~(Brenny, 2021)

  • @Elisabeth-hf1oe
    @Elisabeth-hf1oe 3 года назад +5

    5:18 The only language that some people actually respect is being left.
    Spot on! I don't understand why they allow their bad behavior go that far before realising they need to change.

  • @emilye.9059
    @emilye.9059 3 года назад +6

    Thank you Breeny for making us content made to empower, equip and strengthen us and ready us for the world. It’s because of you that I can remember today that even if I grew up in a family that had its dysfunctions, that doesn’t mean I need to continue the cycles. You’re a role model and I’m forever grateful to have subscribed to your channel, thank you for reminding me even in an insane world I can still be strong, vulnerable, soft-hearted and compassionate for others and myself. Thanks, God bless

  • @princessgigiking
    @princessgigiking 2 года назад +1

    If you don't meet my standards and values now I walk away. In the past, I didn't set them because I wanted to be loved & accepted by everyone. Now, in 2022 if you do not meet my requirements such as close friend or lover I am calling it off period, not wasting my time & energy! 💎💎💎

  • @purposedpatience6597
    @purposedpatience6597 3 года назад +2

    Confirmation!!! I have set boundaries and people are pissed lol but those are the ones who are not worth my time 💅🏽

  • @enougholiviaaa
    @enougholiviaaa 2 года назад +2

    Last time I watched your videos it was late April this year, I was in the hospital after hurting myself & having problems with my now ex. You have me so much insight that night and I knew I was gonna leave him. Very abusive and manipulative, haven’t been the same since & have definitely made more boundaries. Your word helps so much it inspires me to speak up.

    • @kieshamulenga
      @kieshamulenga 2 года назад

      Wow thank God you got the courage to leave and that you're well now 💜

  • @SnowflakeMCPE
    @SnowflakeMCPE 3 года назад +9

    Yasss! The queen is baccccckkkk! 👑
    Thank you for this series. We all appreciate it loads. This is a super important topic - we all need it.
    I’ve always had pretty good boundaries, but with males... ungghghghghg. I’m working on it! This series is helping so much.
    Have a great week! 💖

  • @MisseverythingNewNew
    @MisseverythingNewNew 3 года назад +10

    I believe our current definition of being good is being submissive. But God is not submissive[ he/she] is good, which is strong willed with a just mind/ balanced mind!

  • @definingdarlene
    @definingdarlene 3 года назад +2

    I sometimes struggle to set boundaries because I have been told I am mean or harsh for saying no. Looking forward, I think it's how I set my boundaries that matters, but I know there will always be people upset about me choosing myself first.

  • @Blablablahx3
    @Blablablahx3 Год назад

    👏👏👏👏👏
    I finally started saying no and stopped neglecting myself and took care of myself instead of doing EVERYTHING FOR HIM and his mask slipped SO FAST, GIRL. I wish I had done it from the beginning... I'm so ready to work on myself and stop with the lack of boundaries in my life. (though my family doesn't respect my boundaries either so this will be tough)
    God bless all of you!!

  • @Kmama801
    @Kmama801 3 года назад +6

    You explained this really well what a great video! Having standards and really curating your life can be hard but it’s the only way to be free

  • @almaxworld6831
    @almaxworld6831 3 года назад +11

    this came to me at the most perfect time. thank you

  • @daianepiucco2441
    @daianepiucco2441 2 года назад

    I really struggle setting boundaries with people at work. Behind that there is this unrealistic fear of loosing my job, even when I know I’m so damn good at what I do. I suspect this is due to my circumstances…
    I don’t have any family in the UK, I got divorced from a 7 years marriage with a guy who came to London with me (both very young at the time), nearly an year after I got into a relationship that is verbally and emotionally abusive (currently in it) and trying every day to set the biggest boundary of my life which is getting this guy out of my life. I’m about to start a full time masters degree in September and I’ve been preparing financially for the last couple of years to support myself as a student, since I won’t be able to keep the job due to the demands of the course.. I feel scared of the unknown and scared of going back to uni after working for 5 years, getting used to a comfortable job and salary. And knowing I will be single again just adds to the fear. My spirit is telling me this is how it is supposed to be. I’m ready but I’m not ready. I’ve just turned 30 and I feel like I’m going through something I should have already overcame years ago. Thank you for your inspiring videos. You are truly beautiful. Your videos help putting some sense in my head. God bless x

  • @YourLifeTips
    @YourLifeTips 3 года назад +4

    This revenge series is 10/10!! Thank you!!

  • @josseeo171
    @josseeo171 3 года назад +2

    You’re so right Breeny, you command more respect when you walk away from an unsuitable relationship/situation rather than sticking it and being miserable. Lovely video, really enjoyed watching it👍❤️🥰💕

  • @Gworld-official
    @Gworld-official 3 года назад +1

    She’s won’t let us rest this year 😭😭😭😭 I am here for it . She said hold my cameras I got some real shit to talk to this ladies ❤️❤️❤️

    • @eunicedang1247
      @eunicedang1247 3 года назад

      Hello dear I recommend you Dr Ezekiel,he was the one who helped me restore back my 6 years broken 💔 relationship,he can make your ex come back begging for a second Chance, Also Dr Ezekiel always keep to his promise, I will advice you seek his help,thanks.

    • @eunicedang1247
      @eunicedang1247 3 года назад

      Message him on whatsapp

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      @eunicedang1247 3 года назад

      ±2347054407388⏭⏭◀⏭

  • @Yisharahzaryah
    @Yisharahzaryah 3 года назад +10

    I love your videos, and honestly i've been following your advice for both friendships & relationships which has been very helpful. But, an old situationship is kind of blurring the boundaries I set that just came back up. I thought it would be different since I left months ago. It's actually kind of awkward now that I set boundaries and more annoying than ever i'm ready to hit the block button for good this time.

    • @aneesakhan8502
      @aneesakhan8502 3 года назад +6

      Do it queen!!! Time to take your power back

    • @worldspacehealing9074
      @worldspacehealing9074 2 года назад

      @@aneesakhan8502 yessss queennn... Stay strong and choose you 🌹

  • @kekesanders6063
    @kekesanders6063 3 года назад +1

    A so called “friend” asked me for something and I told them no, like I actually said “No”and gave no explanation why, so I haven’t heard from them in about a month, not a text or a phone call and when I see them in public they act like they don’t want to give me the time of day, it hurts sometimes but I rather say no out of respect for myself stand my ground then to say yes and get walked all over. Ppl really do show you their true self when you start saying no and enforcing standards and boundaries

  • @DariaZeev
    @DariaZeev 3 года назад +2

    Thank you for the video. 'Be obsessed with getting respect! ' - my new mantra 🙏

  • @karinaharakari1289
    @karinaharakari1289 3 года назад +10

    Oh gosh i started to setting boundaries a while ago feels like all friends are not friends anymore ... feel free and happy but not sure if I’m doing right coz I’m literally alone now coz they feel uncomfortable with me now .And it’s sometimes it brings back my old weakness and lately im not saying shit again 🤬

    • @jasmine9700
      @jasmine9700 3 года назад +3

      I found for me the loneliness is part of the process but as long as you was honest but respectful then you will attract better or they will learn to respect your boundaries. Hope it works out either way

    • @karinaharakari1289
      @karinaharakari1289 2 года назад +1

      @@jasmine9700 thank you💓 I hope so is hard to me to communicate with old friends but I’m not moving for the new ones. Just reading and thinking of myself not sure if is healthy I might need hangouts with humans

    • @jasmine9700
      @jasmine9700 2 года назад

      @@karinaharakari1289 I hear you girl. I hope you are able to mend things with your true friends l. It’s definitely healthy to be around humans as much as it is to get your space and set your boundaries, just know your not alone in your feelings x

  • @Letstalk_915
    @Letstalk_915 3 года назад +2

    I needed this. A few days ago I stood up to a guy I’ve been talking to for disrespecting me and now he’s gone ghost. I’ve been feeling like maybe I was asking for too much. But no, all I asked for was respect. I set the boundary and he took off. Good riddance I guess.

  • @christellen3077
    @christellen3077 3 года назад +1

    Hard to learn but true. Having boundaries is not a synonym to meanness. Speak truth with love. (Eph. 4:15)

  • @carolyntravis5696
    @carolyntravis5696 3 года назад +2

    I love it! And its so true, especially the part about walking away. And its applicaboe in every area. I was in a toxic work environment with an old white male boss who thought he could disrespect and harass me so I left and made it clear I would never tolerate that bullshit. And in doing so set an example for my other female co worker who was right behind me. Thanks for all the amaxing wisdom and content you put out here

  • @akidandherwackyadventures3439
    @akidandherwackyadventures3439 3 года назад +2

    Thank you so much Breeny!! You are really helping me understand what I've done wrong in the past that has attracted the wrong men over and over. Now I am single and working on me and raising myself up to be the best version of myself. Lots of love! ♡

  • @jasintamumba3738
    @jasintamumba3738 3 года назад +3

    Setting standards and boundaries
    Very important thanks for the video ❤️❤️

  • @costelloscorner6849
    @costelloscorner6849 2 года назад

    I definitely have a difficult time saying No to people and that’s something I’m trying to work on. I think I just want to make everyone else happy when I need to focus on making myself happy.

  • @irenemigliaccio
    @irenemigliaccio 3 года назад +1

    Loved it! I'm loving all the series but this one hits more than others, because it's true that respect is missing these days, sad but true. Ladies, especially the young ones, listen very close to her!

  • @zeldaopoku1722
    @zeldaopoku1722 3 года назад +6

    "it's just a joke!!" So, why am I not laughing??!!! 🤔

  • @fitmissdarsh7725
    @fitmissdarsh7725 2 года назад

    Definitely needed to hear this!! Sometimes you can get forget about the same standards you hold for yourself when your vulnerable, but respect & honoring yourself is the most important thing for a healthy relationship with yourself & others. 🙌🏽

  • @Soniaks
    @Soniaks 3 года назад +6

    I agree with literally everything you said, I look up to you like a big sis. Also your skin is so perfect like how?!❤️

  • @belovedomolara
    @belovedomolara 2 года назад

    I just want to say that I thank God for him using you as a vessel. I am currently in quarantine and I’ve just been being empowered by your content. I love your vibes, honestly, openness and transparency! Your content is truly allowing me to look in the mirror and recreate myself and love myself. God bless you my sister keep doing what your doing and thank you for your obedience to our Heavenly Father despite what all the nay sayers say. PERIODTTT 🙏🏾💪🏾💯💕

  • @rimaramax
    @rimaramax 3 года назад +1

    Hi Breen Lee, i don't know if you're going to see this but i just wanted to thank you, you're really helping us by talking and giving us advice abt these topics, l'm just a 15 year old girl, i watched one of your videos abt toxic mothers a while ago maybe a year or more and i really like it but i don't know why the hell i didn't follow you, and jus a week ago i searched about this topic again since i felt overwhelmed again because of the environment where i live, i really want to set boundaries, make healthy relationships and learn how to say no, i was a second option most of my life, people only using me and i don't know how to say no, yet i have a healthy mindset, i've never felt sad about my appearance or cared about other opinions about me, l'm starting high school this year and your videos are really helping me, i'ma be a badass b starting from now aand THANK YOU AGAIN ❤️

  • @emmamauri672
    @emmamauri672 3 года назад +1

    I just wanto to say THANK U. 'Cause you're helping me to be the woman that I want to be; to give validation to myself, which I was never used to; and thanks to you I've been setting bounderies. Your guidance just gives me the right confidence vibes that I need. Thank you must warmly.🧡🌻

  • @yambaraffaella9775
    @yambaraffaella9775 3 года назад +1

    Saying no brings up peace into your life

  • @colleenmariet
    @colleenmariet 3 года назад +1

    I’m so thankful for you my online coach.

  • @raznabegum5847
    @raznabegum5847 2 года назад

    I love this beautiful soul! How she changed me is how she saved me. My human angel x

  • @princessgigiking
    @princessgigiking 2 года назад +1

    Everyone can't be my friend, everyone can't come into my inner circle. 💎💎💎

  • @Wonderwoman79G
    @Wonderwoman79G 3 года назад +5

    Great post about standards.There are far too many male and female you tubers who want women to lower their standards so their fan base of dusties can have easy access to women with little or no standards.

  • @chelseawelch2528
    @chelseawelch2528 3 года назад +1

    Wonderful motivational speaker and gorgeous too! Grateful for the reminder. I just learned how to set boundaries when I left my ex a year ago who has NPD tendencies. It was difficult at first but oh so worth it. Even with a custody agreement, my boundaries prevent him from abusing me the way he did in the past. Remember to stand up for yourself, you are the most important person in your life❤️

  • @magnolia2
    @magnolia2 3 года назад +3

    So uuummmmmm, I’m not ready for you to just stop posting videos everyday after day 7!!!!😭 I’ve gotten used to this!!!!!♥️✨

  • @betsycollins601
    @betsycollins601 2 года назад

    Breeny just keeps getting more beautiful over time! I'm so grateful for her advice!

  • @mackenzie4757
    @mackenzie4757 2 года назад

    Love this! I love this boundary for when someone apologizes for being rude: "okay...well don't do it again!"

  • @farahgrants6419
    @farahgrants6419 3 года назад +8

    Ah yes. Our dose of Breeny’s confidence boosters right before bed ❤️❤️
    Here you go guys... cookies and milk for everyone. It helps poop out the sleazy scrubs🥛🥛🥛🥛🥛🥛🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪 🍪🍪🍪

  • @cauha12
    @cauha12 2 года назад

    THIS THE ONE!!! You really see peoples true colours when you dont give people your energy freely and dont say yes all the time anymore like they expect💯 how dare you not say yes to me all the time! Its called boundaries

  • @keepcreationprocess
    @keepcreationprocess 3 года назад

    No, it is not crappy people...that I do not give a chance or i am not investing in those people or am i not respecting or willing to help. I am willing to go through hoops high and lows to do things for you. But you must deserve it.

  • @Anew3A3
    @Anew3A3 3 года назад +1

    I put up boundaries now and have high standards so most boys leave lol. Not everyone can be my friend or come in my inner circle now and it feels great.

  • @zoecook4040
    @zoecook4040 2 года назад

    i needed this video breeny. i finally gave him a chance after 2 months of him asking me out, and i said no to kissing him because i don't see potential in him being my boyfriend down the road. he says mean jokes to me such as "i wish the door hit you harder" and " i dont even want to see you, goodbye." He's also rude to strangers. I am ghosting him because i don't even want this in a friendship. i am walking away period

  • @fatmahalsalem8226
    @fatmahalsalem8226 Год назад

    I've been setting my standards and boundaries for a while now, and honestly, it does feel lonely sometimes. However, it also shows you who's really showing up for you (very few, currently there's about 2 in my life) and who wasn't real al along. But the plus side is that, atleast the people who are geniune are worth it and exactly how you deserve. :)♡

  • @x__lexx
    @x__lexx 3 года назад +1

    Thank you ❤️ I know it’s hard learning this valuable information by having to go through it but it’s inspiring to others who have no strength, wisdom, and guidance

  • @brandyelisea
    @brandyelisea 3 года назад +3

    Literally just came to YR looking for your next upload… & here we arrrreee 😌 Happy Sunday, Breeny ♥️

  • @Mandy-qk4sn
    @Mandy-qk4sn 2 года назад

    I love how you bring real matters we dealing with onto the table and not just raise them but give solutions. I love you big sis

  • @Naswillshine
    @Naswillshine 2 года назад

    Wow! I think I’m finally grieving an experience I had last year. I found the responses of apologies the other day I made when I was the one being violated and being disrespected. I realize that I was dumb as heck for apologizing (which made me look stupid in the long run) and I need to level up in relationships! I need to stand by my boundaries and stop letting people drag me to foolishness. People pleasing will get you manipulated. I was just frustrated that I let my guard down for once and still left embarrassed.