Ha, yeah. I knew after 6 months that she drove me mad. We stayed together 5 years, half of that time was very toxic indeed. Now been single 2.5 years, ready to try again now with the knowledge I have 🤞
My last relationship taught me not to listen to everything a guy say because they lie but let time reveal an not just listen to what a man say. I am glad I'm single ❤
If you are reading this, whatever you are going through, you will be okay. You are alive, and it matters. But first, thank you Breeny for spreading wisdom and kindness in this platform.
I’m a 16 year old boy who is in happy relationship that has lasted one year now. I wanted to watch this to learn how to be more happy with myself outside of my relationship so that way I don’t depend on my girlfriend as much. This video has helped inspire me to keep working on myself even inside a relationship and to be happy and to to get to know myself better. So thank you!
Men and women are not the same, men don't need women like women needs a man. So it makes much more sense as a man to learn how to not need female validation, men are judged by what they do women are judged by the kind of man she can keep. Thats the short version I'm sure even though most women know this to be true some will find a reason to be offended by it, cheers to you - We are Men go out and conquer.
As many undermining, nagging thoughts, this is again a society thing. In some cases you almost feel you're doing something outlawish by being single. Especially as people age up, and their friends and family starts to annoy and bother them about this. That's what boundaries and quitting relationships are for. Extroverts probably have it tougher, to select the people you're with? Still, it's important for your happiness and peace of heart.
1. Mindset matters Be happy now, smile, laugh Take your power back Be introspective and ask questions Focus on you Be accountable for where you are and make a change Control your emotions 2. Invest in yourself, know thyself Have an identity Seek you Learn what you actually like What do you truly desire? 3. Love yourself Stop judging you Be kind to you Check 1 Corinthians 13 Protect yourself Dont violate your moral code Your feelings matter Don't ignore you Journal your thoughts Be patient with you Have grace for you 4. Enjoy yourself Get comfortable in your own skin Go to dinner and go to movie Put on something nice and go Do what makes you feel good 5. Build quality relationships and connections Friends, family, church, work Make friends by being friendly Change your perspective and attract good people They will celebrate you when you celebrate you Travel Be an asset and not a liability Do you now, enjoy you Now
Being single is such a important season in your life if you're willing to learn about healing & coming into your WHOLENESS. Many women don't realize that being single is a season of discovery and creating a better and stronger sense of SELF. What I have learned in my singleness is creating a life of my own without including a Man/ Relationship has given me such POWER. Being empowered has enlightened me in many ways. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being Single. It took me years to grasp that. YOU (as a woman) are WORTHY, VALUABLE & A TREASURE. What is most important is that YOU MUST Love yourself FIRST. PERIOD. No one or no Man can give you VALIDATION or FULFILLMENT if YOU don't have those things ALREADY WITHIN. Just be YOU and LOVE YOU UNCONDITIONALLY because the Relationship YOU have with your SELF sets the STANDARD of how YOU TEACH PEOPLE HOW TO TREAT YOU. PERIOD. And always remember even when Relationships end, the Relationship YOU have with your SELF is ETERNAL. GOD BLESS ✨✨✨✨❤❤❤
Being single gives us the full freedom to get right with GOD, to build into existence once lost relationship, between GOD and creation, between PARENT and child. 1 Corinthians Chapter 7 KJV 32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: 33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. 35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction. this world presents love as lust, and if you`re not always touched, then you are not loved = lies and fear propaganda. All of it because the MK ULTRA PROJECTS from masons. John 15:13 KJV Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. And being ALONE (not on your own) does bring forth sober mind.
I think that’s the hardest part of being single.. everyone I know is married or in a relationship- it’s hard to find genuine girlfriends when ur over 35. Most things I do, I do alone.
I remember watching this when I was literally at my lowest and I was like "lemme try this, maybe she can help me". GUESS WHAT. I feel happier than ever y'all, tysm for helping out so many people ♥
It’s crazy because I first watched this video about two years ago and here I am back watching it. I kept watching it over and over but I was not focusing on myself at all. And here I am back at it and I’m literally just now doing the actual work on loving myself and learning to not be dependent on someone else. I’m really single this time and I mean SINGLE. Not thinking of jumping to someone else and wow it’s just crazy to think it’s been two years for me to get how important this is… THANK YOU BREENY ❤
"You are not a half. To be single does not mean to be incomplete" SAY IT LOUDER!!!! Breeny Lee you are my inspiration! There is not enough RUclipsrs adding value to their viewers so I decided to join YT gang to add to the few RUclipsrs like Breeny that actually truly add value to our lives!! Lord knows we need it.
I'm so lucky that I can get to see this videos ata my age I'm 23 and was dating this guy who's 30s and I ignored his bad treatment because I thought I loved him or myb was afraid that I won't get the treatment he gave me or let's say money 😂.but later on after watching this videos have realized that respect is important than anything I mean I'm full of life..... I gat time to do what I want and get what I want I shouldn't dwell on someone who's just making me feel like ain't worth it like his doing me a favor......... I'm focusing on having a relationship with My self and be more better than how he met me because there's a point where he made me feel like nothing but again thanks to this kind of videos I can say I'm in a better place now
I am 23 and never had a bf. i truly did start to ask myself whats wrong with me but ive started to change my perspective and am now enjoying my alone time and getting to know me. and you know what im dope af!
23? You're still young! Nothing to worry about. I will recommend a book " Men dont love women like you" by G.I Lambert. Read it through and through. I wished I'd gotten it when I was younger
Darling, there is nothing wrong with you. It's best to just focus on you. I know it's hard when you yearn for someone to be by your side. I had my first relationship at 21 and I'm back on the single train at age 23. You are young and you WILL find that special someone some day! Just don't dwell on it so much. It's okay to be single, but always have a relationship with yourself first always.
So glad i ran into this post. This generation really makes you feel out of place just because you’re single. I thought i was the only 20 year old on this earth who has never had a boyfriend😩 ! I’ve always chose to not settle for less because I know my worth and every lady in these comments should know and do the same ❤️🙌🏾
girl same!!!!! im 20 as well and i’ve never had a boyfriend! we are both beautiful individuals and when God decides he wants us to be in a relationship, trust me he will! 💖💖💖
Pooh sweety I'm 28 and never had one... Well not anything serious anyway. Please don't let that discourage you. Had I found video when I was younger, it would've saved me from alot of heartache. Work on yourself, save money, go on holiday, be healthy x
I’m on my way home from work, it’s Friday evening, I’m feeling a void inside because I’m alone. I’m utterly grateful for this video. Breeny, you’re a treasure. ❤
I’ve been on this earth for 27years I never had a boyfriend... my friends told me I’m too difficult😧 honestly I’m not... I have my head on my shoulder and I’m not settling for less...My standards are very high and they are not going down... ladies it’s okay to be single, take care of yourself the right one will come along
What really helps with being single is finding out what your purpose is and immersing yourself in it. If you don’t know what it is, ask The Heavenly Father and He’ll gladly share it with you. Also, by making Him your #1 bestie, He’ll fill any void that you may have and teach you how to value yourself, so that by the time He introduces the one to you, y’all will be ready for each other. Because if The Creator is working on you, then He’s most definitely working on your soulmate.
Not all of us are going to land up in a relationship with someone, there is not a lid for every pot. Finding peace being single is a good thing to practice.
This last relationship taught me to slow down and date with a purpose. I will be 27 soon and i will enjoy it with friends and family. I will stay single for the next 6 months and develop new skills and start my businesses
How to be Happy Single: Have sex with guys. Hook up. Have one-night stands. Have sex on the 1st date, even if you might never see him again. No expectations. Just have fun. Lots of single women are very happy being single & hooking up with guys casually... ;)
At the age of 35 without any guidance or support I finally learned how to love myself. And when I finally chose to love myself I found your channel. God is so good. God blessed you Queen and thank you for caring and uplifting🙏🏽💖🙏🏽
I was once in a relationship but I ended it myself 'cause I realize I am GENUINELY happy single. I realize I just want making friends, my best friends and my family. I'm very comfortable going out alone, go shopping alone, watch movie alone, etc. Couples and valentine's don't even bother me anymore, and whenever a guy is making his move towards me (which is quite often recently), I end it quickly by telling them 'I have a boyfriend' lmao Being single especially for the longest time is addictive - I can be BOTH a responsible adult and an innocent child at the same time. 😌
I love how you said responsible adult and innocent child at the same time bc yesss ! I’m 24 & this guy I was dating didn’t like when my inner child would come out & that made me realize that wasn’t the guy for me ..that can’t accept all of me.
This video helped me so much!! I’m single & also Celibate. I’m been single for a whole year and sometimes I get lonely but I know GOD wants me to work and love myself. I do want to be ready for the right man he sends me soon. First it starts with me. I am worthy of a good man ❤️
I haven’t dated for almost a year now. I’m learning how to be happy single and focusing on myself. It had been eye opening and learning so much about myself and what I love and my passion. I know the right guy will come when it’s the right time.
@@mathmatters1064 do you think that's an appropriate thing to ask? It's not. also not everyone is obsessed with s.. and there's something called masturbating ya know? 🤭 besides that if she does that who cares? why do you care so much? jealousy? 😏👀
what REALLY helped me: stay busy. I mean really busy. But not just to kill time. Do things you WANT to do. I've recently traveled to san diego. Ive always wanted to go there and I finally went. Next up is Utah, New York, Hawaii and Mexico. 2. go to school! Have a career in place so you never ever have to rely on no man, your parents just yourself. 3. DO NOT BE A THIRD WHEEL. This will kill your spirirt. I personally cant stand it. 4. find single friends and hang with them. Make sure they are positive and want more out of life. Stay away from drugs, alcohol and sex. Real positive people want to better themselves and go to school! 5. know yourself. Know your limits. Love yourself. and set boundaries.
I got rejected yesterday. I was so sad about it but today is just a completely different shift. God knew I needed to see this! Breeny!!! YOURE AMAZING!
nehway Don't worry about it. Most of us have to deal with rejection. Funny enough in my case, it has always worked in my favour in the long run. Keep focused and keep your head up. Things fall into place at THE RIGHT TIME. Just be ready when they do.
I haven't been truly single for nearly 15 years, and my soulmate of 4.5 years just asked for some time apart. I know this is the perfect opportunity for growth, and I'm going to take it. All of the stuff you're saying, I already know to be true, but it's always hard at first. Thank you for the reminder 🧡
I know this video is 3 years old but I needed it today. I've been so lost in how to help myself get out of this place I'm in. Thank God for you sis. This was so motivating and a blessing to me.
I recently made a decision to move to Dubai alone. One of the reasons I left my friends and family was so I can find myself, know who I am without the opinions and influence of the people around me. (Who I love so much) I am single and I do most things alone, I enjoy my own company and my level of self awareness has risen. I am more kind to myself, I am more aware of my thoughts and everything going on around me. I am now an asset to myself. 😂
I am moving to Singapore alone in April for the same reason. It's a 17 hour flight away. I know 0 people and I am going to come out of this year or two abroad a better version of myself today. I am terrified but hopeful.
I needed to hear this! I have lowered my standards way too much. Because of “life”. I try accept everyone for who they are and realize how they don’t do the same. I needed to remember not everyone deserve my time and value. O man, this is going to be hard to change.
I’ve been struggling so much being single & alone. But this is the first video that’s actually made me feel so much better & changed my perspective on being single! 💗
You've no idea the impact your videos have on us. Truly empowering. Just wanted to say thank you. Working on loving myself, knowing my self worth and being confident on my solitude.
Girl you’re the only one in control of your feelings. If others project that it’s not okay, that’s a reflection of them and something THEY need to work on. You stay happy single and don’t let anyone influence how you feel about it xx
I have had abusive and toxic relationships with all the men I’ve dated in my life. I realized I was dealing with major depression and anxiety due to a chronic illness. I’m ready to love myself.
1. Know your self. 2. How to work on yourself(know how to love and like yourself)don’t judge yourself. Be gentle with yourself. 3. How to commit working on yourself. Date yourself. Enjoy !❤️ 4. Build good quality relationships.
Years of bad, broken and busted relationships always asking “why”, then one day God showed me how mean I was to myself. I literally cried for hours as I looked in the mirror apologizing to myself for how horribly I treated me. I asked God to show me how to love me. I promised to NEVER mistreat myself again. As I rested in His love for me, I began to love and respect myself. This in turn showed me that people will treat me how I allow them to treat me which is actually how I treat myself! I got to know myself and I really like me. Today I am confident that I am worthy of the man God has for me. When our paths connect, he will know God presented one of His finest jewels 💎💝 ‘cause I’m on a natural high; I’m a whole lotta fun 🤗, no dull moments here! 😉 God loves me and I know it. ❤️ I love me and he will too! 💃🏽❣️🕺🏽 Ty Breeny for confirmation! Stay Blessed!
Love this whole video. 28 & never went on a date. I've started going on solo trips at the end of 2019 and it was so amazing and empowering. I've had people I know ask me why I'm not dating and need to go out on some. Some say it out of concern and others said it to be humiliating. I just simply never had anyone ask me. It is what it is. We just never crossed paths yet. The way society is set up, it has a way of making you feel like you're not enough also, but it'll mainly make you feel like you're abnormal/something is wrong with you [since everything seems timestamped]. That is, if you allow it to make you feel that way. Fortunately, I haven't gone down that hole (thank God). So please, don't be hard on yourself and feel bad. Love & focus on you. Greatness lives within you!! Trust, having someone to love & reciprocate it is great, but to love yourself is even greater. ❤️
Omg! I’m falling in love with you and your energy! It’s exactly what I needed in my life after ending a toxic relationship and settling down for men that don’t see my worth. Building yourself back after someone destroyed you it’s a lot of work. Thank you for all your work, I feel like listening to one of my best friends
I’ve been single two years and abstinent for about 7 months.... I’ve found myself I’ve enjoyed myself and I’ve dated myself. And I must say I love it every second 🙌🏾❤️💋
i think what put me in some of the worst relationships was the mindset that i needed somebody to be happy. i was seeking happiness from another *person* instead of within. i never understood what it meant to work on myself, how to love myself, and put myself first. you speak words of true wisdom. thank you so much, you are truly a gift 💕
A friend just sent this to me and I played it twice - once to listen and then the second time fo take notes. It’s 1am and I’m writing everything you said in a notebook bc I needed to hear it. Thank you and I appreciate you so much for the verses as well. I appreciate your faith influence sis. Keep sharing and motivating and building up the church! We out here!
I love that you commented this because I did the exact same thing! I watched it once and realized how many amazing, helpful things she said in the video so I watched it a second time and took sooo many notes. This video was life changing!
World, The man I was talking to, just let me know today that he still is wanting to date his ex over me. I broke it down like this to him, you told me you wanted this and that out of a relationship and I fit that mold and you are choosing to stick with what you value. He didnt respond back, I can see why. I had to watch this video above to get myself back in order to remind myself its gonna be okay! I'm good being single! Tomorrow I get paid and I'm about to take myself out! 🌼 Thank you Breeny, girl this video came right on time.
i’ve been single for two years now and lately i’ve been feeling really lonely because all my friends (all 5 of them) are in some type of relationship. this video definitely gave me another perspective on how to embrace the single life.
I'm a married woman with kids.But I still date myself.And according to me the relationship that I have with myself is the best.It doesn't mean that I don't love my man,it's just a celebration of self love & caring about myself.
Just got out of a unhealthy relationship that was luckily short lived. I’ve been in and out of relationships for a long time now and I decided to do a 90 day detox of relationships.. no matter how hard it gets.
Your, "Do not ignore yourself," just cut me in the gutt. My word.😭. Feel like I have been avoiding watching your videos bcoz I know u will give me the honest truth. Thank you so much Breeny.🙈
I never really liked that “love is kind” scriptures because I always related it to marriage, and men etc. but now that you changed the narrative, my perceptions is now changed about it. The way you explained it is so freeing and humbling. Thanks so much for that 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Sis! This came at the right time. I’m on my early 20’s and I’ve been going through the “knowing & learning” myself daily . It’s a change that I love ❤️
Still have found myself coming back to this video after going through a breakup with someone I’ve shared good & bad with for 5+ years. It’s hard when a person has been in your life that long . This video gave me inspiration. Thank you , Breeny!
'You will become an asset to that guy, not a liability' Breeny, thank you so much for your content. I just found myself smiling really big for about a minute. Your presence and positivity is contagious. Thank you for allowing us to share your energy.
because nothing makes me happy, not even myself. people say “do stuff that makes you happy” okay well idk what that is. hobbies only distract me from the reality of my sadness for a little bit of time.
thank you for that self-love check using 1 Corinthians, the way you directed the questions back to self brought me into much needed self-reflection especially the need to forgive myself for past wrongs. ❤️
I dont think she realizes how helpful these videos are❤️☺️
Oh she knows
Aliyah Winter I just did a video similar to this on my channel! Check it out 💋
Aliyah Winter you are so right! These videos have changed my life
Was just saying the same
This is changed my life too
Been on this planet for 22 years and never had a boyfriend. What's the point? Focus on yourself. You are your longest commitment.
Same but i'm 19
Same and I’m 25
ooohh yes that last part!!!
That's So Sonya so much truth tho 😭💯
Haha tru
"many women are out here running around looking for a man when they should be looking for themselves"...DAMN that hit hard
Correct
Very powerful
Oooof my anxious attachment is quaking rn
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My last relationship taught me to trust my intuition and never ever doubt myself.❤️
Tenor
Ha, yeah. I knew after 6 months that she drove me mad. We stayed together 5 years, half of that time was very toxic indeed. Now been single 2.5 years, ready to try again now with the knowledge I have 🤞
Same 🐻 ✌🏻 for me 💯%💀
👏 👏 Same here 😊
My last relationship taught me not to listen to everything a guy say because they lie but let time reveal an not just listen to what a man say. I am glad I'm single ❤
When you know your worth, you'll not need to be in a relationship to feel validated.
I second that GIRL!!!
This comment!!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
So true...
💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
Yassss
If you are reading this, whatever you are going through, you will be okay. You are alive, and it matters.
But first, thank you Breeny for spreading wisdom and kindness in this platform.
Monica Arnold anytime. Keep reminding yourself of it.
I needed this. Thank you
Amen
🤗Thank you; I so needed to hear this 😍
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I’m a 16 year old boy who is in happy relationship that has lasted one year now. I wanted to watch this to learn how to be more happy with myself outside of my relationship so that way I don’t depend on my girlfriend as much. This video has helped inspire me to keep working on myself even inside a relationship and to be happy and to to get to know myself better. So thank you!
Congrats man!
At 16 this is a very mature way of thinking. Kudos to you, most adults don’t even think this way, you’re ahead of your time Kid keep it up.
@@sheenab0131 Thank you:)
Men and women are not the same, men don't need women like women needs a man. So it makes much more sense as a man to learn how to not need female validation, men are judged by what they do women are judged by the kind of man she can keep. Thats the short version I'm sure even though most women know this to be true some will find a reason to be offended by it, cheers to you - We are Men go out and conquer.
@@jic738the way I cringed, way to uplift somebody -- by bringing somebody else down 💀👍
This is so important; you start to question yourself when you’re single for a long time because you start to think what is wrong with me.
Olivia xx THIS !!
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As many undermining, nagging thoughts, this is again a society thing. In some cases you almost feel you're doing something outlawish by being single.
Especially as people age up, and their friends and family starts to annoy and bother them about this.
That's what boundaries and quitting relationships are for. Extroverts probably have it tougher, to select the people you're with? Still, it's important for your happiness and peace of heart.
This is what I'm going through right now....I honestly feel like no one wants to be with me. It's so much easier for other girls...
Yes all the time!!
I'm 27. I've been single and this year I took myself out on a date about four times. I enjoy my own company. Solo dates are inportant🙂
Do that alot when am home 😊
That's so cool!!!..
I still do it too :)
@@NontohGumede 😊
I pray you find the person for you hun^
1. Mindset matters
Be happy now, smile, laugh
Take your power back
Be introspective and ask questions
Focus on you
Be accountable for where you are and make a change
Control your emotions
2. Invest in yourself, know thyself
Have an identity
Seek you
Learn what you actually like
What do you truly desire?
3. Love yourself
Stop judging you
Be kind to you
Check 1 Corinthians 13
Protect yourself
Dont violate your moral code
Your feelings matter
Don't ignore you
Journal your thoughts
Be patient with you
Have grace for you
4. Enjoy yourself
Get comfortable in your own skin
Go to dinner and go to movie
Put on something nice and go
Do what makes you feel good
5. Build quality relationships and connections
Friends, family, church, work
Make friends by being friendly
Change your perspective and attract good people
They will celebrate you when you celebrate you
Travel
Be an asset and not a liability
Do you now, enjoy you Now
"sit up straight, put your head up and smile"
Me: starts crying even harder
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Serena Joon i feel you so hard 💔
😂😂
Me too 😭😭😭😭
I know how you are feeling.
Stop looking outside, when you've got the key *holds keys in hand* . Iconic queen.
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“Your are a child of God” ... “a work of pure value” I’m not crying you are 😭
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You speak the exact words my soul needs to hear
lattesdarling every single time!
Literally. Iyanla vanzant in her spirit lol
Amen to that
she's a soul healer
Tenor
Being single is such a important season in your life if you're willing to learn about healing & coming into your WHOLENESS. Many women don't realize that being single is a season of discovery and creating a better and stronger sense of SELF. What I have learned in my singleness is creating a life of my own without including a Man/ Relationship has given me such POWER. Being empowered has enlightened me in many ways. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being Single. It took me years to grasp that. YOU (as a woman) are WORTHY, VALUABLE & A TREASURE. What is most important is that YOU MUST Love yourself FIRST. PERIOD. No one or no Man can give you VALIDATION or FULFILLMENT if YOU don't have those things ALREADY WITHIN. Just be YOU and LOVE YOU UNCONDITIONALLY because the Relationship YOU have with your SELF sets the STANDARD of how YOU TEACH PEOPLE HOW TO TREAT YOU. PERIOD. And always remember even when Relationships end, the Relationship YOU have with your SELF is ETERNAL. GOD BLESS ✨✨✨✨❤❤❤
Being single gives us the full freedom to get right with GOD, to build into existence once lost relationship, between GOD and creation, between PARENT and child.
1 Corinthians Chapter 7 KJV
32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:
33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
this world presents love as lust, and if you`re not always touched, then you are not loved = lies and fear propaganda. All of it because the MK ULTRA PROJECTS from masons.
John 15:13 KJV Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
And being ALONE (not on your own) does bring forth sober mind.
Her skin is soo beautiful.
I think that’s the hardest part of being single.. everyone I know is married or in a relationship- it’s hard to find genuine girlfriends when ur over 35. Most things I do, I do alone.
Dark.Moon.Medusa sameee
@@tiabrah.alhasawi7272 Let 's go out together
Right
I'm over 35. Let's be friends!
same. i have no friends and always alone
I remember watching this when I was literally at my lowest and I was like "lemme try this, maybe she can help me". GUESS WHAT. I feel happier than ever y'all, tysm for helping out so many people ♥
Aww this is SO LOVELY to hear, honestly thank you and I'm so happy you are doing much better
I’m so happy for you , keep doing the inner work. ❤
This gives me hope
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
It’s crazy because I first watched this video about two years ago and here I am back watching it. I kept watching it over and over but I was not focusing on myself at all. And here I am back at it and I’m literally just now doing the actual work on loving myself and learning to not be dependent on someone else. I’m really single this time and I mean SINGLE. Not thinking of jumping to someone else and wow it’s just crazy to think it’s been two years for me to get how important this is…
THANK YOU BREENY ❤
❝do not waste this season, wishing for another season.❞ Loved the video Breeny
Felt that
"You are not a half. To be single does not mean to be incomplete" SAY IT LOUDER!!!! Breeny Lee you are my inspiration! There is not enough RUclipsrs adding value to their viewers so I decided to join YT gang to add to the few RUclipsrs like Breeny that actually truly add value to our lives!! Lord knows we need it.
Nice youtube!
@@coyiaofficial531 Thank you so much for checking me out
True
I'm so lucky that I can get to see this videos ata my age
I'm 23 and was dating this guy who's 30s and I ignored his bad treatment because I thought I loved him or myb was afraid that I won't get the treatment he gave me or let's say money 😂.but later on after watching this videos have realized that respect is important than anything I mean I'm full of life..... I gat time to do what I want and get what I want I shouldn't dwell on someone who's just making me feel like ain't worth it like his doing me a favor......... I'm focusing on having a relationship with My self and be more better than how he met me because there's a point where he made me feel like nothing but again thanks to this kind of videos I can say I'm in a better place now
"I don't know who needs to hear this, your feelings matter." I needed to hear that. Thank you.
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Me too!
I am 23 and never had a bf. i truly did start to ask myself whats wrong with me but ive started to change my perspective and am now enjoying my alone time and getting to know me. and you know what im dope af!
I'm 21 never had a bf same here im getting to know myself
23? You're still young! Nothing to worry about. I will recommend a book " Men dont love women like you" by G.I Lambert. Read it through and through. I wished I'd gotten it when I was younger
Juliet Ngweno thanks ill check it out!
Darling, there is nothing wrong with you. It's best to just focus on you. I know it's hard when you yearn for someone to be by your side. I had my first relationship at 21 and I'm back on the single train at age 23. You are young and you WILL find that special someone some day! Just don't dwell on it so much. It's okay to be single, but always have a relationship with yourself first always.
Cashmere.jewel Thank you so much for your kind words. I feel i will find someone too but in due time. All love and focus is on me! Blessings.
So glad i ran into this post. This generation really makes you feel out of place just because you’re single. I thought i was the only 20 year old on this earth who has never had a boyfriend😩 ! I’ve always chose to not settle for less because I know my worth and every lady in these comments should know and do the same ❤️🙌🏾
You're not the only one girl! About to be 21 and I've never had a boyfriend. We won't settle for less!
girl same!!!!! im 20 as well and i’ve never had a boyfriend! we are both beautiful individuals and when God decides he wants us to be in a relationship, trust me he will! 💖💖💖
Exactly thank you for this remainder
Dear, God bless you for saying this
Pooh sweety I'm 28 and never had one... Well not anything serious anyway. Please don't let that discourage you. Had I found video when I was younger, it would've saved me from alot of heartache. Work on yourself, save money, go on holiday, be healthy x
I’m on my way home from work, it’s Friday evening, I’m feeling a void inside because I’m alone. I’m utterly grateful for this video. Breeny, you’re a treasure. ❤
I’ve been on this earth for 27years I never had a boyfriend... my friends told me I’m too difficult😧 honestly I’m not... I have my head on my shoulder and I’m not settling for less...My standards are very high and they are not going down... ladies it’s okay to be single, take care of yourself the right one will come along
The...Right... ME
The right man, or the man that really wants to be in your life will rise up and meet those standards.
WoooooooooW! !! Ure a strong individual.
@@wendyworgu1368 true
Thank you!
What really helps with being single is finding out what your purpose is and immersing yourself in it. If you don’t know what it is, ask The Heavenly Father and He’ll gladly share it with you. Also, by making Him your #1 bestie, He’ll fill any void that you may have and teach you how to value yourself, so that by the time He introduces the one to you, y’all will be ready for each other. Because if The Creator is working on you, then He’s most definitely working on your soulmate.
Yahuah Is My Everything, the last part is beautiful ❤️
So true
PREACH!!! :)
This comment gave me chills. Thank you.
Not all of us are going to land up in a relationship with someone, there is not a lid for every pot. Finding peace being single is a good thing to practice.
This last relationship taught me to slow down and date with a purpose. I will be 27 soon and i will enjoy it with friends and family. I will stay single for the next 6 months and develop new skills and start my businesses
The word is date with a purpose slow down❤️
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ugh perfect God knows i need this video
“What u feel is 100% related to what u think” u better preach sis🗣❗️
How to be Happy Single: Have sex with guys. Hook up. Have one-night stands. Have sex on the 1st date, even if you might never see him again. No expectations. Just have fun. Lots of single women are very happy being single & hooking up with guys casually... ;)
At the age of 35 without any guidance or support I finally learned how to love myself. And when I finally chose to love myself I found your channel. God is so good. God blessed you Queen and thank you for caring and uplifting🙏🏽💖🙏🏽
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Amen same im 29 just learned the same lesson
Girl you’re changing the world here. Rather than any other blogger . You’re uplifting women.
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I love this strong woman
I was once in a relationship but I ended it myself 'cause I realize I am GENUINELY happy single. I realize I just want making friends, my best friends and my family. I'm very comfortable going out alone, go shopping alone, watch movie alone, etc. Couples and valentine's don't even bother me anymore, and whenever a guy is making his move towards me (which is quite often recently), I end it quickly by telling them 'I have a boyfriend' lmao Being single especially for the longest time is addictive - I can be BOTH a responsible adult and an innocent child at the same time. 😌
I love how you said responsible adult and innocent child at the same time bc yesss ! I’m 24 & this guy I was dating didn’t like when my inner child would come out & that made me realize that wasn’t the guy for me ..that can’t accept all of me.
exactly
I'm literally gonna wake up to this video everyday until i love myself more
Did it work?
Same it’s so good
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This video helped me so much!! I’m single & also Celibate. I’m been single for a whole year and sometimes I get lonely but I know GOD wants me to work and love myself. I do want to be ready for the right man he sends me soon. First it starts with me. I am worthy of a good man ❤️
Amen! Same here!
Enheritance Derrico Awesome! #TeamCelibate I’m writing a book about my journey and hopefully it’ll help those who are also on the same path! ❤️
Celibacy is life changing I have done it for a year ❤️
Almost 3 years celibate here 🖐🖐
@@Love4life527 wow this shocks me,,, how?? Am 4months down en with the commitment I have I know I can,,,
I haven’t dated for almost a year now. I’m learning how to be happy single and focusing on myself. It had been eye opening and learning so much about myself and what I love and my passion. I know the right guy will come when it’s the right time.
That's amazing!!!! I am so proud of you! 💘
Hey how is it going being single? I would love to know more 😊
I’ve been single for 4 years and it’s been bliss!!!!
Tell me about it.
But have you been sleeping around ?
@@mathmatters1064 do you think that's an appropriate thing to ask? It's not. also not everyone is obsessed with s.. and there's something called masturbating ya know? 🤭 besides that if she does that who cares? why do you care so much? jealousy? 😏👀
" stop looking outside when you have The key" Thanks BREENY
what REALLY helped me:
stay busy. I mean really busy. But not just to kill time. Do things you WANT to do. I've recently traveled to san diego. Ive always wanted to go there and I finally went. Next up is Utah, New York, Hawaii and Mexico.
2. go to school! Have a career in place so you never ever have to rely on no man, your parents just yourself.
3. DO NOT BE A THIRD WHEEL. This will kill your spirirt. I personally cant stand it.
4. find single friends and hang with them. Make sure they are positive and want more out of life. Stay away from drugs, alcohol and sex. Real positive people want to better themselves and go to school!
5. know yourself. Know your limits. Love yourself. and set boundaries.
Everytime I watch your channel I feel like you are prophesying about my life. You are a healer. God bless your ministry...
"Stop looking outside when YOU'VE got the key" OMG YES.
I got rejected yesterday. I was so sad about it but today is just a completely different shift. God knew I needed to see this! Breeny!!! YOURE AMAZING!
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Don't worry about it.
Most of us have to deal with rejection.
Funny enough in my case, it has always worked in my favour in the long run.
Keep focused and keep your head up.
Things fall into place at THE RIGHT TIME.
Just be ready when they do.
I'm happy to date myself right now until the right one comes along with out telling me to much information.
I haven't been truly single for nearly 15 years, and my soulmate of 4.5 years just asked for some time apart. I know this is the perfect opportunity for growth, and I'm going to take it. All of the stuff you're saying, I already know to be true, but it's always hard at first. Thank you for the reminder 🧡
God im so greatful for this video, was sooo depressed.
Me too
I was so depressed too. This video was everything. I may watch it everyday.
Serwaah Akua marva me too
Ugh same & Breeny has helped me shift my focus on something more positive 💗
I just got out of a toxic three year relationship and I am SOOO glad I found you. You are AMAZING. Thank you for everything you do girl 💕
You are strong Jillian and youre going to make it girl!
So did I!! 2 months out of a 3 year relationship with a guy who turned out to be a complete dud. We are gonna make it through this!!
Hit 4 months post break up last July 25th! Everyday gets easier girls.. We’ve got this! 💪🏼
Same girl. We survived :)
Girl idk how you did it. I’m struggling everyday after 4 years of being together we even lived together for over a year
I know this video is 3 years old but I needed it today. I've been so lost in how to help myself get out of this place I'm in. Thank God for you sis. This was so motivating and a blessing to me.
I recently made a decision to move to Dubai alone. One of the reasons I left my friends and family was so I can find myself, know who I am without the opinions and influence of the people around me. (Who I love so much)
I am single and I do most things alone, I enjoy my own company and my level of self awareness has risen. I am more kind to myself, I am more aware of my thoughts and everything going on around me. I am now an asset to myself. 😂
Hello Changu I stay in Dubai too
You know damm well why u going to dubai
@Courtney Smith exactly
Jr Ola 🤣🤣🤣🤣 you aint shit
I am moving to Singapore alone in April for the same reason. It's a 17 hour flight away. I know 0 people and I am going to come out of this year or two abroad a better version of myself today. I am terrified but hopeful.
I needed to hear this! I have lowered my standards way too much. Because of “life”. I try accept everyone for who they are and realize how they don’t do the same. I needed to remember not everyone deserve my time and value. O man, this is going to be hard to change.
You can do it Eunice!! Take the first step!!
Hi, I know you commented this a while ago but how is it going now? I’m in exactly the same boat and want hope that I can change
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Fr. Same issue
One step, one day at a time. You’ll look back and see how far you’ve come. Encourage yourself❤️
I’ve been struggling so much being single & alone. But this is the first video that’s actually made me feel so much better & changed my perspective on being single! 💗
You've no idea the impact your videos have on us. Truly empowering. Just wanted to say thank you. Working on loving myself, knowing my self worth and being confident on my solitude.
I just did a video similar to this on my channel! Check it out 💋
I realized that this "being single" period is something we would treasure since we have this for our self. And our self is our best investment ❤
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i’m literally crying right now. I needed this more than I ever thought. Thank you so much.
I love being single I just hate how people make me feel like that's not okay.
Same but remember it’s okay to be not like everyone else that’s what I learn
Girl you’re the only one in control of your feelings. If others project that it’s not okay, that’s a reflection of them and something THEY need to work on. You stay happy single and don’t let anyone influence how you feel about it xx
@@mennasimilawy725 exactly, we control our feelings
Boo them
YES
I have had abusive and toxic relationships with all the men I’ve dated in my life. I realized I was dealing with major depression and anxiety due to a chronic illness. I’m ready to love myself.
Your story is mine too. ❤️
me three 🖤
Me 4
I started crying around the time she told us to look up and smile. Thank you for this video.
😂 same
1. Know your self.
2. How to work on yourself(know how to love and like yourself)don’t judge yourself. Be gentle with yourself.
3. How to commit working on yourself. Date yourself. Enjoy !❤️
4. Build good quality relationships.
Thank you God. I was looking for this!!
Enjoy and Listen to her advice. Single and Happy without opinions of others.
Years of bad, broken and busted relationships always asking “why”, then one day God showed me how mean I was to myself. I literally cried for hours as I looked in the mirror apologizing to myself for how horribly I treated me. I asked God to show me how to love me. I promised to NEVER mistreat myself again. As I rested in His love for me, I began to love and respect myself. This in turn showed me that people will treat me how I allow them to treat me which is actually how I treat myself! I got to know myself and I really like me. Today I am confident that I am worthy of the man God has for me. When our paths connect, he will know God presented one of His finest jewels 💎💝 ‘cause I’m on a natural high; I’m a whole lotta fun 🤗, no dull moments here! 😉 God loves me and I know it. ❤️ I love me and he will too! 💃🏽❣️🕺🏽 Ty Breeny for confirmation! Stay Blessed!
How did u go about finding ur worth ?
you made me cry, beautiful comment
Well spoken ❤️
Great testimony but still there's no evidence of a god
Wow I needed this, God bless you💗
Love this whole video. 28 & never went on a date. I've started going on solo trips at the end of 2019 and it was so amazing and empowering. I've had people I know ask me why I'm not dating and need to go out on some. Some say it out of concern and others said it to be humiliating. I just simply never had anyone ask me. It is what it is. We just never crossed paths yet. The way society is set up, it has a way of making you feel like you're not enough also, but it'll mainly make you feel like you're abnormal/something is wrong with you [since everything seems timestamped]. That is, if you allow it to make you feel that way. Fortunately, I haven't gone down that hole (thank God). So please, don't be hard on yourself and feel bad. Love & focus on you. Greatness lives within you!! Trust, having someone to love & reciprocate it is great, but to love yourself is even greater. ❤️
I love you. You always speak to my soul. My inner child. Thank you for keeping it 100 and being the wiser sister a lot of people need.
"My feelings matter"! Yes that was for me. Thank you so much Breeny!
Omg! I’m falling in love with you and your energy! It’s exactly what I needed in my life after ending a toxic relationship and settling down for men that don’t see my worth.
Building yourself back after someone destroyed you it’s a lot of work.
Thank you for all your work, I feel like listening to one of my best friends
Single & whole ✊🏿
I’ve been single two years and abstinent for about 7 months.... I’ve found myself I’ve enjoyed myself and I’ve dated myself. And I must say I love it every second 🙌🏾❤️💋
1MOM2BOYS sounds like my life😊I wanna date (one day) but loving being single 💕
Neeks Johnson exactly Girl this one guy we talked for a quick minute and I was like never mind lol
Celibate *
Just beautiful! The hair, the makeup, the person, the advice 💕
Single gang❤️❤️
8ballphenty gang gang! 💪🏾
8ballphenty I just did a video similar to this on my channel! Check it out 💋
I usually don't watch youtubers but naaa you are an exception I just like you.
You’re the wise auntie that we all are thankful to have in our lives. Thank you for what you do!! 🌸
Uber myself on a date with me!!! I'M SO EXCITED TO TAKE ME OUT!!!
i think what put me in some of the worst relationships was the mindset that i needed somebody to be happy. i was seeking happiness from another *person* instead of within. i never understood what it meant to work on myself, how to love myself, and put myself first. you speak words of true wisdom. thank you so much, you are truly a gift 💕
A friend just sent this to me and I played it twice - once to listen and then the second time fo take notes. It’s 1am and I’m writing everything you said in a notebook bc I needed to hear it. Thank you and I appreciate you so much for the verses as well. I appreciate your faith influence sis. Keep sharing and motivating and building up the church! We out here!
I love that you commented this because I did the exact same thing! I watched it once and realized how many amazing, helpful things she said in the video so I watched it a second time and took sooo many notes. This video was life changing!
World,
The man I was talking to, just let me know today that he still is wanting to date his ex over me. I broke it down like this to him, you told me you wanted this and that out of a relationship and I fit that mold and you are choosing to stick with what you value. He didnt respond back, I can see why. I had to watch this video above to get myself back in order to remind myself its gonna be okay! I'm good being single! Tomorrow I get paid and I'm about to take myself out!
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Thank you Breeny, girl this video came right on time.
SunKissNicole
Clearly the time wasn't right.
In the long run, no great loss for you.
Just keep on keeping on.
SunKissNicole please move forward 💕
Fact
Newly single after 10 years of being in a relationship. This definitely helped me 💗
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i’ve been single for two years now and lately i’ve been feeling really lonely because all my friends (all 5 of them) are in some type of relationship. this video definitely gave me another perspective on how to embrace the single life.
Loved it. I needed to hear that. I am 40 and ashamed of being single with no kids.... but you told the truth!😘😘😘😘
I've beeeen drinking water so i think I'm doing this right 😂😂
It's Mumba I just did a video similar to this on my channel! Check it out 💋
These words can literally save your life😢
Didn't expect that verse, I've known it for years but its a whole other thing hearing it on a self-love perspective... love it !
I'm a married woman with kids.But I still date myself.And according to me the relationship that I have with myself is the best.It doesn't mean that I don't love my man,it's just a celebration of self love & caring about myself.
Glad you enjoy your own company too because most times when people are in relationships forget that
Just got out of a unhealthy relationship that was luckily short lived. I’ve been in and out of relationships for a long time now and I decided to do a 90 day detox of relationships.. no matter how hard it gets.
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By the time you finish with that detox, you may not even see the point in getting back into those situationships.
This is honestly such a great video there need to be more women like you talking about real self love like this!
I wish someone told me this as a child . Great message for who needs to hear this. God bless you!
This video changed my life 2 years ago and I just stumbled across it when I really needed the reminder 🥺 thanks for sharing your wisdom
It's really helped me to learn not to just sit in my sadness. Feel whatever you're feeling and then move on.
Your, "Do not ignore yourself," just cut me in the gutt. My word.😭. Feel like I have been avoiding watching your videos bcoz I know u will give me the honest truth. Thank you so much Breeny.🙈
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I cried in a happy way because I was listening to this after a breakup. I’m really really happy being single breely
you should start a podcast. i would love to listen to you:)
MacKenzie White right ?!
this is so incredibly powerful, beautiful message. best of luck on your journey ladies 🌸🌿
Braxton Williams amen
I watch this every night and it generally uplifts me in so many ways.
I just kissed myself on the shoulders and my happiness was amplified exponentially 😄
Sianoi Kimari hey I tried it and it works 😀
I never really liked that “love is kind” scriptures because I always related it to marriage, and men etc. but now that you changed the narrative, my perceptions is now changed about it. The way you explained it is so freeing and humbling. Thanks so much for that 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Sis! This came at the right time. I’m on my early 20’s and I’ve been going through the “knowing & learning” myself daily . It’s a change that I love ❤️
Yessss!!! We really need to date ourselves and know what we want and being single is the best time to do everything we need to do to better ourselves
9 minutes in and I’m balling my eyes out. I needed this.
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Still have found myself coming back to this video after going through a breakup with someone I’ve shared good & bad with for 5+ years. It’s hard when a person has been in your life that long . This video gave me inspiration. Thank you , Breeny!
breeny, your strong attitude inspires me SO MUCH. I aspire to build up just like that
'You will become an asset to that guy, not a liability' Breeny, thank you so much for your content. I just found myself smiling really big for about a minute. Your presence and positivity is contagious. Thank you for allowing us to share your energy.
3 years and still gold❤️
BEST VIDEO I HAVE SEEN YET!!! This makes me feel so much more better.
Yes! 💓
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As soon as my notifications came on that you had uploaded, without hesitation I clicked 😂💕
“The reason why you feel sad is because you WANT to feel sad.....YES YOU DO” girl ok you don’t gotta call me out like dat😳👀
because nothing makes me happy, not even myself. people say “do stuff that makes you happy” okay well idk what that is. hobbies only distract me from the reality of my sadness for a little bit of time.
Rught felt attacked but needed it 😫
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thank you for that self-love check using 1 Corinthians, the way you directed the questions back to self brought me into much needed self-reflection especially the need to forgive myself for past wrongs. ❤️