My favorite line of Tony's "abstinence is a woman's power". This is so true no matter what age a woman is. Thank you T.G. for being real with us and giving away the game that these men play.,🙏🙏🙏
Yes, Tony. This girl sounds like me in my early twenties with my high school sweetheart. You feel crazy! The last straw was when he was encouraging me to get pregnant because a baby would solidify the relationship and then he would marry me. Bahahhahaha! Let's laugh together. Fast forward 15 years later and I'm married to a great man and I have two kids with my husband. Keep preaching because sometimes us girls do not know our worth, that's the truth. Thanks for all that you do!!
Just keep your legs closed period, forget that 6 month mark!! I just made 1 year celibate TODAY and I feel soooo much stronger and willing/ready to continue on this journey of celibacy. Any man that tries to pursue me will have to be strong enough to wait because I’ve found myself in this last year and I will NOT go backwards anymore. It’s not worth it. It never was!
To the 22 year old: After listening to your letter. I thought about my 20's and remembered "playing house"...honestly listening to Tony's vids played major part in my realization on how much of a factor I have played in my "heartbreak"!! The red flag that stood out (out of a few)..you say..you didn't trust him! Most importantly-You didn't trust you Sweetness!!! (You're not alone in this)...You think it's love..but it's really Validation!! Until you begin to change your (self-concept)..you will likely attract more of the same, it'll just look different! I realized through what I am sharing..if I don't find myself worthy of a timeout and reflect on my plays...how can I expect (sober mindedly) for anyone else to? Hard pill to swallow..when we have a certain view💞 It's Possible
22 heartbreak your not the only young woman who has been through these trials and tribulations with guys…iiiiii do remember my early 20’s. Young Lady if your brothers really taught you the game don’t forget to pay attention to the signs, and leave quick.
All facts. Been there, don’t that, sis. It’s definitely about self validation. But first comes self love. I wish this young lady the best in finding herself.
I second this!! I had a grown boy who I thought I was deeply in love with who was nursing pains from his ex choosing his best friend over him. Run don't walk away from those! They're not healed and they will take out as many women as they can until they grow up. You deserve the world, 22. Not crying over Christmas break and darn sure not someone who "goes to the store" to put his nasty thing in someone else. I hope you heal and come back more powerful than ever!
My ex was like this and you're absolutely right when you're not getting respect you GOTTA leave. There is no other option. Once respect is gone it's gone and you gotta love yourself enough & be strong enough to walk away 💯
Had the same experience m’y I was 25 my first real relationship. He broke me and manipulated me that I couldn’t move on for years. But Got my power when I started to pray and love myself and going to God for everything. I started to see the pattern he uses to lure me when I tried to move on. he even tried convincing me to have a child with him so we can get married. But thank God he is in my past where he belongs because I have grown and evolved and can’t stand him now because is like he is lost and looking for a scapegoat I blocked him and told him never to call my number again. Never being so fulfilled being single.
The 22 year old, my last relationship was very similar. I dated a guy for 3 years, I was 24 to 27, was in love, thought we were gonna get married, etc. Anyway, basing off my experience and also my therapist, the 22 year old's ex sounds like a narcissist. Mine was a narcissist and he did basically everything she said in the video. Esp when she said how everything was passionate, how he bought rings, cried to her, did all these things for her and took her to his family, etc. Run, sis. If he comes back, don't talk to him, block him and keep running. You're not in love with him, you're trauma bonded to him.
I wish I knew about Tony Gaskins about 8-9 years ago. The 22 year old letter was similar to a relationship I had in the past. Us women really are in a place. And also it seems like every time we try to do something different to protect ourselves or do things the right way, men get worse or they try to punish us. Its funny but not funny at the same time. You just have to shake you head at some of this stuff.
Agreed but it’s the wrong men that get with women who don’t respect themselves because these men don’t and they e hoping you don’t hold yourself to a high standard so that they can get away with their bs behaviour. Women who hold themselves accountable and know their worth they can not mess around with them, then it’s either they step up or step out. It all starts with us
Tony is on-point when he said "Vengeance is mine says the Lord"! The 22year old's-experience is sadly very similar to my own personal experience at the age of 50! Thank you Tony for giving more wisdom and confirmation to *move-on & go-on 'bout my business* from that love-sick situation. I'm learning to respect myself and heal more with each video and teaching...we women need to hear this. Tony...please be encouraged and know that your gift of wisdom is "LIFE" to so many of us at every age. God Bless you.
Bro Tony I pray that God will just shower you with his strength for this high calling God have you serving us women. I have much respect for you every body can't do what you do. 🙏🏾❤️💯✊🏿💪🏿 Blessings to you and your family
I said Respect Yourself when watching before you said it Tony! Thank you Holy Ghost! Respect for yourself shows a man that you have self confidence. Respect is earned. Make a man earn your respect as I’ve always told my daughter.
The most hurtful insane thing about these toxic relationships; these grown boys and girl have you falling in love with the fantasy, representative, and the promises all the while knowing it’s alllll Game to them because the person Wants to be deceitful and unworthy.
Hey Tony I agree. I been keeping my legs closed. I have ran into so many..grown boys. I'm not all that young anymore but I knew the game somewhat. Because I had uncle's and a stepdad that told me the game. But I've never heard it like you have told it here on this channel. Don't let the letters get you too stressed out. We women need you. Be encouraged and God bless
I empathize with you, you will be fine just don’t go back if you do your self worth will be damaged. Let the tears flow pray if possible fast God is your father He will carry you through it. That void in your heart let God fill it anytime you feel it. Love yourself and know it’s not your fault
That heartbreak letter really did the mashup. I felt mashed up listening to it. Sis, you have the videos, get the books, especially "What daddy never told his little girl " from Mr. Tony Gaskins. Be blessed.
Thank you for all you do Tony! Your courses and books are changing me for the better. Looking forward to the Healing course tomorrow. Got my notebook ready
Ms. 22 needs a hobby and a puppy. Recoup and recover. When he ghost on her she should have closed and locked the door. As for your water intake, Tony I'm on the same cleanse. Try putting seeping some dried mint or peppermint let it sit and drink it when it's cool, lemon water is also good as well as lime and cucumber water will stimulate your senses. Slice one up add water and ice. Good luck.😜
LOL Tony, I felt like giving up too after hearing that heartbreak story. It made me 😳 embarrassed to be a 👩 woman because of how easy it is for a 👨 man to get and manipulate a woman. Men are so well taken care of ! Women will do anything for a 👨 man. That constant going back and forth with that grown boy and she looking for closure almost drove me crazy tonight. I had to go get me a gallon of water too. I was scratching my head and wondering if I should retire from listening to these stories, then I remembered I would not get the good relationship wisdom and knowledge I need for my life. Thanks for not giving up on us Tony! LOL.😂
Tell me why I got that SAME story from my ex after he didn’t come home one night😭😭😅 Oh and when he came back his shirt was ripped and everything, very dramatic
The baby mother story (I think third one) you got to stop having these long conversation about your business your intimate status is no one’s business but the Lord God YHWH. A man that’s changed and give his life to Christ would do the right thing and marry his baby mother if he was walking right I hope he does he right thing and this lady heals
Geez everything this dude said and did is game 101. All his actions all his responses everything he told the girl there prob over a million women could say they were told and done the same thing. I hope this lady snaps out of it because she is putting so much weight and meaning on nothing. I wonder if younger girls would even listen to older women if we tried to tell them the game. Then the girl said she had brothers and a dad who told her the game, sis no they did not. All of this is like entry level dating games. Not to minimize your experience but your going to look back on this and laugh at how out of your mind you were for even taking him or the relationship seriously. God bless that young lady heart and go talk to some older women in your life who can tell you all what they’ve experienced so you’ll know it’s not just you and what these men are capable of. I’m bout to go call my niece right now and start giving her basic game of boys.
Dude can definitely make 100k or more doing contract with the military. But he might as well stay in the military get his free degree and benefits. Until he served some time.
Hi Tony. Are you promoting fornication? Women shouldn’t wait 6 months. She needs to wait until marriage no matter what. It’s dangerous to have sex before marriage. I know we have to be realistic because most people are sexually active before marriage, but we should be promoting Godly dating, and date with purpose. Thank you for your videos. I just wanted to get clarity.
He mentioned "If you don't believe in waiting until marriage" for the young lady that may not have that belief of waiting. "Talks with Tony" is specific scenarios and a lesson to learn from it. I wouldn't necessarily say it's promoting fornication.
My favorite line of Tony's "abstinence is a woman's power". This is so true no matter what age a woman is. Thank you T.G. for being real with us and giving away the game that these men play.,🙏🙏🙏
What does he mean by that? Is that a good thing
@@kittyLseay Yes it is a good thing
@@kittyLseay read "a women's influence" 😊
“ legs closed, eyes open” YES!👏👏
Yes, Tony. This girl sounds like me in my early twenties with my high school sweetheart. You feel crazy! The last straw was when he was encouraging me to get pregnant because a baby would solidify the relationship and then he would marry me. Bahahhahaha! Let's laugh together. Fast forward 15 years later and I'm married to a great man and I have two kids with my husband. Keep preaching because sometimes us girls do not know our worth, that's the truth. Thanks for all that you do!!
Love this!! 💜💜
Just keep your legs closed period, forget that 6 month mark!! I just made 1 year celibate TODAY and I feel soooo much stronger and willing/ready to continue on this journey of celibacy. Any man that tries to pursue me will have to be strong enough to wait because I’ve found myself in this last year and I will NOT go backwards anymore. It’s not worth it. It never was!
To the 22 year old: After listening to your letter. I thought about my 20's and remembered "playing house"...honestly listening to Tony's vids played major part in my realization on how much of a factor I have played in my "heartbreak"!! The red flag that stood out (out of a few)..you say..you didn't trust him! Most importantly-You didn't trust you Sweetness!!! (You're not alone in this)...You think it's love..but it's really Validation!! Until you begin to change your (self-concept)..you will likely attract more of the same, it'll just look different! I realized through what I am sharing..if I don't find myself worthy of a timeout and reflect on my plays...how can I expect (sober mindedly) for anyone else to? Hard pill to swallow..when we have a certain view💞 It's Possible
Sadly I have my friends that’s playing house and they won’t listen to Tony or any other dating coaches smh oh well I tried
22 heartbreak your not the only young woman who has been through these trials and tribulations with guys…iiiiii do remember my early 20’s. Young Lady if your brothers really taught you the game don’t forget to pay attention to the signs, and leave quick.
All facts. Been there, don’t that, sis. It’s definitely about self validation. But first comes self love. I wish this young lady the best in finding herself.
I second this!! I had a grown boy who I thought I was deeply in love with who was nursing pains from his ex choosing his best friend over him. Run don't walk away from those! They're not healed and they will take out as many women as they can until they grow up. You deserve the world, 22. Not crying over Christmas break and darn sure not someone who "goes to the store" to put his nasty thing in someone else. I hope you heal and come back more powerful than ever!
Free game for ladies in their 20s… thank you Tony. I’m 23 and about to be 24 in April, I’m soo glad i found your channel in 2018..!
My ex was like this and you're absolutely right when you're not getting respect you GOTTA leave. There is no other option. Once respect is gone it's gone and you gotta love yourself enough & be strong enough to walk away 💯
“When your legs is closed your eyes will be opened.” TG
Had the same experience m’y I was 25 my first real relationship. He broke me and manipulated me that I couldn’t move on for years. But Got my power when I started to pray and love myself and going to God for everything. I started to see the pattern he uses to lure me when I tried to move on. he even tried convincing me to have a child with him so we can get married. But thank God he is in my past where he belongs because I have grown and evolved and can’t stand him now because is like he is lost and looking for a scapegoat I blocked him and told him never to call my number again. Never being so fulfilled being single.
“Buddy went from 200 toooo 70” 😂😂😂😂🤣 u crack me up.
I cant get enough of these lessons from you Tony
The 22 year old, my last relationship was very similar. I dated a guy for 3 years, I was 24 to 27, was in love, thought we were gonna get married, etc. Anyway, basing off my experience and also my therapist, the 22 year old's ex sounds like a narcissist. Mine was a narcissist and he did basically everything she said in the video. Esp when she said how everything was passionate, how he bought rings, cried to her, did all these things for her and took her to his family, etc. Run, sis. If he comes back, don't talk to him, block him and keep running. You're not in love with him, you're trauma bonded to him.
Curious question, at what year/when did you deem he was a narcissist? I read others say the same thing after the breakup.
I wish I knew about Tony Gaskins about 8-9 years ago. The 22 year old letter was similar to a relationship I had in the past. Us women really are in a place. And also it seems like every time we try to do something different to protect ourselves or do things the right way, men get worse or they try to punish us. Its funny but not funny at the same time. You just have to shake you head at some of this stuff.
Agreed but it’s the wrong men that get with women who don’t respect themselves because these men don’t and they e hoping you don’t hold yourself to a high standard so that they can get away with their bs behaviour. Women who hold themselves accountable and know their worth they can not mess around with them, then it’s either they step up or step out. It all starts with us
Tony is on-point when he said "Vengeance is mine says the Lord"! The 22year old's-experience is sadly very similar to my own personal experience at the age of 50! Thank you Tony for giving more wisdom and confirmation to *move-on & go-on 'bout my business* from that love-sick situation. I'm learning to respect myself and heal more with each video and teaching...we women need to hear this. Tony...please be encouraged and know that your gift of wisdom is "LIFE" to so many of us at every age. God Bless you.
Bro Tony I pray that God will just shower you with his strength for this high calling God have you serving us women. I have much respect for you every body can't do what you do. 🙏🏾❤️💯✊🏿💪🏿 Blessings to you and your family
Keeping my legs closed 💯
I said Respect Yourself when watching before you said it Tony! Thank you Holy Ghost! Respect for yourself shows a man that you have self confidence. Respect is earned. Make a man earn your respect as I’ve always told my daughter.
Agree 💯
The most hurtful insane thing about these toxic relationships; these grown boys and girl have you falling in love with the fantasy, representative, and the promises all the while knowing it’s alllll Game to them because the person Wants to be deceitful and unworthy.
“I conformed for him and now I’m alone.” Dang, that hurt just hearing it and I understand how she felt.
Hey Tony I agree. I been keeping my legs closed. I have ran into so many..grown boys. I'm not all that young anymore but I knew the game somewhat. Because I had uncle's and a stepdad that told me the game. But I've never heard it like you have told it here on this channel. Don't let the letters get you too stressed out. We women need you. Be encouraged and God bless
I just had my 1st heartbreak at 40! I’m trying to move on but it’s so hard. I don’t wish this pain on anyone
Hang in there God's got you
Praying for you sister
Promise it will be okay 🤎🤎 your world still moving forward.
I empathize with you, you will be fine just don’t go back if you do your self worth will be damaged. Let the tears flow pray if possible fast God is your father He will carry you through it. That void in your heart let God fill it anytime you feel it. Love yourself and know it’s not your fault
That heartbreak letter really did the mashup. I felt mashed up listening to it. Sis, you have the videos, get the books, especially "What daddy never told his little girl " from Mr. Tony Gaskins. Be blessed.
I want 5 children. Haven't brought forth my first yet, God knows how to help me meet her 💍💍. I've been wanting children since I was a little one.
So refreshing to hear the truth and may this truth sink in to all who hear! Thank you Tony!
The "blowing snot bubbles" bout killed me 🤣🤣 I'm so sick of these grown boys treating women this way smh the stories they tell are ridiculous!
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Thank you for all you do Tony! Your courses and books are changing me for the better. Looking forward to the Healing course tomorrow. Got my notebook ready
Tony has me in tears! “Men that are good with kids. Are into p, playing video games” Lordt 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
As always 'thank you for your time and patience with us' God bless you and your beautiful family - stay safe as it's not easy what you do. 🙏🏽
Love the message! But, I’ll stay single for a while. Kind of like it here !
Tony's reactions are the funniest, I love talks with Tony.
I applaud yall Mr. and Mrs. Gaskin....!
Reminder: Healing class tomorrow 9pm TonyGaskinsAcademy.com
Thank you Tony appreciate the work you doing.👏🏻
@45:53 2Pac said “ keep ya head up/legs closed/eyes open “
He isn’t going to change his mind! Just speaking from experience. If it’s your desire to have children that’s a deal breaker.
I LOVE your transparency Tony 🙏🏽❤️
Real talk again tonight 🙌🏽
The deer in the head light was killing me I was at work listening and I could not hold my laughter I love this show
“If you not getting respect you gotta get gone “
Dad’s are bad with kids😂 they come to my office and don’t know any of the medical history. I’m often like, “Is this even your child?” 😂
In love it’s gonna be some pain, but the quicker you know the game, quicker you can leave and the pain you can endure better to be healed faster.
I hear you, Thank you Tony!
Ms. 22 needs a hobby and a puppy. Recoup and recover. When he ghost on her she should have closed and locked the door.
As for your water intake, Tony I'm on the same cleanse. Try putting seeping some dried mint or peppermint let it sit and drink it when it's cool, lemon water is also good as well as lime and cucumber water will stimulate your senses. Slice one up add water and ice. Good luck.😜
LOL Tony, I felt like giving up too after hearing that heartbreak story. It made me 😳 embarrassed to be a 👩 woman because of how easy it is for a 👨 man to get and manipulate a woman. Men are so well taken care of ! Women will do anything for a 👨 man. That constant going back and forth with that grown boy and she looking for closure almost drove me crazy tonight. I had to go get me a gallon of water too. I was scratching my head and wondering if I should retire from listening to these stories, then I remembered I would not get the good relationship wisdom and knowledge I need for my life. Thanks for not giving up on us Tony! LOL.😂
Thank you man if God
Tony a comedian!!
Be Blessed
Thank you Mr. Gaskins 🙏🏼
Sounds like the 22 year old was lovebombed, and like he was treating her like his ex treated him, for some sense of power
Summer Walker where are you...
Grown boys and grown girls together are ruining society 💯
Yep legs closed is the key 🔑
Needing this knowledge 🤓
Man...this got real
He snaps to much and that's a red flag. His behavior may stem from insecurity or just plain rude
I'll settle for 70 😆
Tony begging us ladies, be smarter. Use common sense. I’ll be glad when there is no need for Talks with Tony.
My ex definitely told me a story like that, said he was locked up after disappearing for hours, I believed it & felt so bad 🤣
Tell me why I got that SAME story from my ex after he didn’t come home one night😭😭😅 Oh and when he came back his shirt was ripped and everything, very dramatic
@@joy103096 🤣🤣🤣 not a ripped shirt , they are the worst !
WOW!!!
The baby mother story (I think third one) you got to stop having these long conversation about your business your intimate status is no one’s business but the Lord God YHWH. A man that’s changed and give his life to Christ would do the right thing and marry his baby mother if he was walking right I hope he does he right thing and this lady heals
Yep, you confirmed my suspicion with an ex of mine that said he didn’t to want have kids and had every excuse under the sun ☀️ when asked😒🤦🏽♀️.
Not you smacking yourself with a cellphone LOL
Amen!
What if you did it wrong how do you make things right?
Man bruh I like you videos but can you do more videos about the Christian men in a relationship
It was the gallon of water for me …..
What do you do when it’s unsafe to leave
Utilize your resources and anyone who can help you get out. Leave when he’s not home. Only take necessities if need be.
🙌🏾🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Geez everything this dude said and did is game 101. All his actions all his responses everything he told the girl there prob over a million women could say they were told and done the same thing. I hope this lady snaps out of it because she is putting so much weight and meaning on nothing. I wonder if younger girls would even listen to older women if we tried to tell them the game. Then the girl said she had brothers and a dad who told her the game, sis no they did not. All of this is like entry level dating games. Not to minimize your experience but your going to look back on this and laugh at how out of your mind you were for even taking him or the relationship seriously. God bless that young lady heart and go talk to some older women in your life who can tell you all what they’ve experienced so you’ll know it’s not just you and what these men are capable of. I’m bout to go call my niece right now and start giving her basic game of boys.
TWT 💕
As soon as that word "confused" comes out of your mouth, go on 'bout your business!
Dude can definitely make 100k or more doing contract with the military. But he might as well stay in the military get his free degree and benefits. Until he served some time.
Not snot bubbles! These men play too much!
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Milkjug chetn🤦🤣🤣🤣
Hi Tony. Are you promoting fornication? Women shouldn’t wait 6 months. She needs to wait until marriage no matter what. It’s dangerous to have sex before marriage. I know we have to be realistic because most people are sexually active before marriage, but we should be promoting Godly dating, and date with purpose. Thank you for your videos. I just wanted to get clarity.
He mentioned "If you don't believe in waiting until marriage" for the young lady that may not have that belief of waiting. "Talks with Tony" is specific scenarios and a lesson to learn from it. I wouldn't necessarily say it's promoting fornication.
@@je39981 thank you. I was confused at first, but I do understand now.