I Found Myself Dating My Father, He Even Proposed and I Said Yes!
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- Опубликовано: 15 авг 2024
- In this heart-wrenching and unbelievable story, Sandrine Murhula from Goma, DRC, shares her shocking journey of love, betrayal, and revelation.
Unknowingly, she found herself in a relationship with her own father, leading to a proposal and her saying yes.
Dive into Sandrine's emotional tale as she uncovers the truth about her father's identity and how this discovery has changed her life forever.
A story of love, confusion, and the quest for truth, this video is a testament to the unexpected twists life can bring.
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To everyone watching this, I wanna let u know that God loves u so much n cares for u. Ameeen
Which god.? the one that don’t care Gaza,Congo and other suffering places?
@@sholaomotosho6810 Get serious buddy. It’s humans’ evil deeds that are destroying those places n not God.
Amen
❤
@@cptornado5267 and god has no power over the evils men he created…..?
This is why elders used to emphasise that there shouldn’t be sex before marriage. Mothers shouldn’t also hide details of their children’s father.
Father's should stop littering children across the globe irresponsibly
True is the mother fault she suppose to tell her, Father was wrong too for running away.
I agree on the no sex before marriage rule from God
This is a false story. Its not possible.
Thank you, I was thinking the same thing. When God said we should keep the marriage bed un defiled he new what he was talking about. It is for our own good alot of heataches will be mitigated. May not eliminate the problem but mitigate it.
As a married woman myself, it's one of the best decisions I have made!
It's just a miracle there was no children involved during the two years..
Don’t forget what kind of work was the girl doing
I wish that Sandrine would not blame herself. How could she have known. I pray Sandrine forgives herself, and continues to live her life. I wish all the best Sandrine. Love and peace from Houston, Texas❤
Right I can't imagine how he felt too
CHAI 😱😱😱😱😱, this is so SAD, my dear Sandrine, that you had to fall in LOVE
Praying for Sandridge healing and Heavenly Father will draw her, pour out His love on her, restore her life in every area. Lord bless her indeed. ❤️🙏🏽🌷
The problem is most people don't know that Christ died for our sin including this Sandrine sin which she commited without knowing.
So only things Sandrine could do is to put faith in Jesus and from now on do not commit adultery before marriage and once you do that be sure your sin has forgiven.
But Satan would want you to live and keep blaming yourself and calls for taboo which in god's eyes means nothing.
This taboo is meaningless.
@mawazoaliselemani The taboo, which is incest, is condemned in the Bible. I think it's found in Leviticus. Yes, Jesus forgives the repentant.
I'm glad that the mother took full responsibility for what she has done to her daughter she is the cause of all this and men should be more responsible for their actions I think they should seek some counseling so sad I really feel this young lady pain
What has she done😂😂 As a adult female were she not informed no sex before marriage 😮
How could the mother think that one day her daughter was going to meet her father and sleep with him and would get engaged with him? How many stories do we know of men walking out on their pregnant girlfriend? This happens a lot but father and daughter meeting and getting engaged is not so common, (I would like to think).
*Sandrine, just stop looking for answers, stop blaming yourself, stop blaming your mother, stop blaming your father and the man you through he was. THERE is NOTHING you can change from the Past.*
*Time is a great healer. Have new goals and take one day at the time. I will be praying for you sweet woman.*
Mothers should take responsibility. you like hiding kids from their biological fathers, stop it
My advice is to stop sleeping with any man/ around, till you are married.
Especially your biological dad 😮
hundred percent agree
💯 agreed
But my dear you know how love can be I understand her situation 😢😢😢😢
and this would've avoided this situation how??🤔
I'm from the US and have heard of people (who didn't know who their biological father was) who accidentally dated their first cousins.
Even here it has ever happened in Uganda like 10 years back but the boy had to kill his self
@@MwimaRacheal If I was his family, I might just encouraged him to move to another town. That is so sad that he felt he had to kill himself.
Nobody is saying it. But kudos to the step father who stepped up married her Mom and raised her as his own .
Sandrine this is not your fault. You're young and have your whole life ahead of you.
Why do bad things happen to innocent people? This is so heartbreaking.
Lol it happened and is so so sad
Yes,why does bad things happen to innocent?
In this case and many, because of people keeping secrets and telling lies. There is a reason why telling the truth and not living a lie is important .
@@snich8551 I agree.
Innocent people should stay away from sex partners they're not married to.
I can't blame her she didn't know.
The shame is on the Dad , just very unfortunate for this to happen . May God heal her mind and body from this experience.
Mothers please if you have children out of weedlock please tell them who their fathers are.For this is abomination before God
True no different with two gay people.
Even men must stop sleeping with young children, who are the same xge with their children.
Sometimes they're not sure who the father is
💯 True
My gosh! This is a sad for the entire family. I pray that she finds peace.
Madness in the world. Two evil.people
😢 very sad. I didn't know who my father was until i was 42 years old 😳 my mother would never tell me. I was told who he was 42 years later by someone who was from the same place we grew up. My father was a local married man who took advantage of my mother at a young age. I was the only child to my mother . My father had 12 of us. I grew up with most of his children from a child.. i called them my school friends not knowing we have the same father.. can u imagine 😳 not knowing where i came from caused me years of traum and depression 😔
So sorry to hear that 😔
The only person responsible for this is her biological father who abandoned her mother when he realised he had got her pregnant.I am a man and I speak from personal experience and observation and must say it is absolutely wrong for a man to abandon a woman who is pregnant with his child after all where do babies come from? Be a man and own up to the consequences of your actions or mistakes, which we are prone to make especially when we are young. The past never goes away it always comes back to haunt us when least expected as in this sad case, which has left a very bitter taste and an indelible mark on this poor girl's life. They say time heals all wounds but the scars remain. I pray she finds the healing of this wound for which has no blame for and certainly would not have gone into this relationship had she known he was infact her biological father. Now just one irresponsible and wicked act in the past from a selfish and self-centred person has resulted in what is a real tragedy which only God can heal.
Your it is to blame when the whole story is not known. But you could be right, and you could be wrong.
Stop calling the man names, yes it has happened the man himself is not to be blamed totally, no one knows the condition of this man when this pregnancy was conceived, we don't even know the other side of the story, so you talk within power this social media remember
I am afraid you are in no position and it's not up to you give me orders.I just don't jump to conclusions because I feel like. In my post I wrote "from personal experience and observation" to the enlightened thought it should be crystal clear that I am not just having a knee jerk reaction to the story in question but a subjective opinion of presented facts. Thank you very much.
The idea of inviting Sandrine father is a good thing to. Whatever happened has happened and we should only try to correct things needed to be.
How indeed do you correct this? The father and daughter have already committed incest unknowingly and this cannot be undone.
@@Margaret637 l presume you didn’t read my first message. Did has been done which is absolutely wrong but there is the of coming in acknowledging that fact letting by gone be by gone which is not going to be easy except with the help of a professional therapist. Everyone has a right to his or her both parents. Even though he was not there for her physically and financially he still remain her father and her mother is to be blamed for all that happened weather her father was a responsible person or not.
I hope you understand where I am coming from. Thanks
The mother, father and daughter are already traumatised as a result of the incident that happened. We African parents should be very careful in the way we raise our children because this goes on till when the child gets married and starts having children be it male or female. The presence of both parents in a child’s life is very important.
One of the major reasons for divorce today is partly the absence of one parent because we can’t give what we don’t have in a relationship.
The women should learn not to raise their male children alone and should not use finances as a weapon against the man depriving him from seeing his child.
This is NOT her fault. May she get healing and support. Mvuluzi Kimbangu ako sunga ye😥😥😥😥
Go for prayers and deliverance for only God is able to restored man
When Jacob wanted to marry did he go for prayers n deliverance or to his father Abraham?
@@johnmmaduka312what is this one saying.
She met a man 22 yrs older than her? There something wrong with that man. Irresponsible to the extent of running away with no apology. Shameless man😢
Wrong, men respond in different ways also the mother should have guided her more being the man was irresponsible.
@@idjeborogheneserome2862 a man that is twice a womans age and still pursues her, is most likely a pred@tor.
The mother shouldn't blame herself , the father knew her daughter he was just wicked.
Family secrets will be the end of us 😮😢.
Don't take her to a witch doctor or a church. Take her to a proper counselor who will explain to her that NONE of this is her fault and they will help her gain her self esteem and life back. The others will just brainwash and confuse her.
Pastors have done a good job in such cases helping people to recover with prayers. Deliverance is necessary for the girl.
For the girl,the father and the mother@@kariluckis8030
Only God in Heaven can intervine in this and give her true peace with what happened. Fellow men have no such power no matter what earthly name you give to them.
@@pholilepreciousmaseko1828 keep deceiving yourself.
No traditional doctors please. It may cause more harm than good. Be careful with the church and the elders. No experiments, please.
God bless. I pray for your healing.
Always give children their father s name no matter what
I don't know my dads info at all but I'm sure I wouldn't date someone that old ik my mom only dates way older
It could have been her half brother.
Exactly!
Be strong dear daughter. Be strong Sandrine
The father....
Disgusting 🤢
She didn't know 😢
You said she didn't know that she,s dating her father
@@queenwere1The father could have know
I think the mother hide the truth from her daughter.
Time heals all wounds!!!
Sure
True daughter it was your mother's fault. She should have been clear to you. It's not the end of life. Just perceive this as a mistake in life. They failed to support you correctly that's all. You can rise above this cause you truly don't know him as a dad. That's a great punishment for him for abandoning you and still didn't find better than you out there cause he walked away from the best, his princess. He should have stayed and raised you. At least you learned before it got worse, so it's not too late. Love you stay strong rise up and get stronger. You are strong because you took this first step to acknowledge this and get healing.
This is the biological father's fault, and no one else's. He put them in this difficult situation, and the mother did the best she could to help her daughter have a happy life.
Mom was to blame for part of this. She was supposed to tell her daughter who was her dad an also it was her choice to continue with that relationship. Sad but real
Uuuuuh! This is an extraordinary story. Watching from Zambia.
Im watching from South Africa
Glad i showed my daughter her father even if we were never married.
The mother was just a young girl when she got pregnant by a young boy who later run away from his home. Too bad for the family 😔 i pray you'll heal
Don't be too hard on yourself my dear. It's very painful thing n this can happen to anyone. It's very important for parents not to hide anything from their children so we can avoid situations like these. Ask God to forgive you and also forgive yourself but you've a remarkable mother.❤❤❤
Mama, you have done well .... May God intervein in the situation 🙏
Pole Sandrine, Don't blame your mother. She had no choice. Don't blame your father as he was a student when it happened. Men deny pregnancy when they are confused. To solve this matter, you need to involve the family of this man. It is Sadrine's family now. As families, you should be able to resolve the matter. The two families will need to meet and call this man. He is ashamed but with family support, he will come and participate. Sadrine's Adopted father is the only father Sadrine knows. He should continue playing his role.
Date a person who is five years older or less that u know that he can not be your father or ur mother
😂😂😂 absolutely
What if thru turn out to be siblings😂😂😂😂
Sad but we can understand that it was not her fault. Anyone can end up in this situation simply because of knowing no knowledge. I hope she can deliver from her own thoughts and move on. Though it's hard. Everyone around her should help her to understand it was not her fault. Self acceptance can be difficult but such situation is pretty much likely to happen.
What are the odds?! My word.
And why is the father exploiting his own daughter this way?😱😱 He robbed her of every innocence and dignity. This is going to affect her many years to come😔😔
Did u listen the story well dear..neither of them knew who they were..it didn't wilfully happen..
That men knew that was his daughter. He playing around . Poor Sandrine and her mother. This is too much.
Had the mother not been selfish, it would not have happened. Mothers must always tell their children who their real fathers are. Children deserve to know, from the mother.
I share with my children where I have messed up , at first they would reproach me. But now when they have started their own lives and made their own faults. Now they understand me. And they actually love me for being sincere and not hiding my own faults. They have taken their time now to learn from my mistakes. And still now come to me from guidance because what they have learned was how I was able to pick up the broken pieces of my life and move on. I lead them to Jesus and pointed out to them he has been my source for healing of my faults. Now as me their my mother and they my children we share our faults together among us and concerns as a family and help each other overcome and by each owning up. They have Bibles and can also go to the source for guidance. They have learned to realize we are all not perfect but can perfect our lives and see in ourselves the good we have done rather then keep focusing on the wrong we have done. We help edify ourseleves and we don't knock ourselves down. They have been thankful to me for sharing and not hiding my filthy rags to them. They have apologized to me for their reproaches and I told them was nothing to apologize for. We have forgiven each other individually. So yes hiding very important information from your children can harm your children but being frank one should not be selfish it might be hard to share truth but in the end truth is what will set you and your loved ones free. They might not accept it at first but eventually God will do the miracle for you. Because truth is light. And that 💡 will turn on . I have grand children and teaching my own children I now I can enjoy my grandchildren as my crown. because my own children have now learn to be also truthful. I know this because they come to me and share personal concerns to me and give it to them to the best of my knowledge from the scriptures of God. .
They seen me grow in the Love of God and they growing in Him too.
You're forgetting one thing the mother said the guy took off with no contact probably she never even had a picture of him,she did what any mother would do keep the pregnancy and Carter for her daughter and the biological father never came back, so how come you don't blame the man who ran off as soon as she told him she was pregnant moreover at 16 years, as if that wasn't enough , him wanting to marry someone thrice younger him age,
@@mulondemujalia1329 The man came back and he was in the same village for some time. The daughter lived with her mother. It's the mother's responsibility to tell her child who his/her father is. They schooled together. They knew each other's family.
True at my age of 50yrs my mother refused to tell me about my fathet😢😢😢😢@@musajohannessithole8970
Very Abhorrent😢😢Daddy should be ashamed of himself
he didn't know that was his daughter
He did not knew
Why is someone marrying someone young enough to be their child 😂
Power of money
Ask Mohammed of Islam 54 years and Aisha 6 years 😢😢
@@Ashdailylyf most times they don’t even have any money , it’s mostly a facade
@@oliverjoel5901 hmmmm🫠
Stop lying to the world go and study the quran @oliverjoel5901
It wasn't her fault. She should hold her head up high and continue to live her life without shame. I would suggest counseling, but I don't think that's an option.
I don’t blame the daughter I blame the mother !! Parents should always tell their children the truth !!
Sandrine have a forgiving heart angel
no one is wrong here . The mother had a rite to hide that girl from the dad reason being he impregnated her and refuse the pregnancy due u knw how u feel as a woman. Secondly the dad did not knw she's her daughter.thirdly the girl is innocent too. The solution here is for the dad to ask for forgiveness and continue calling her daughter a child.they should forget all wat happened.
you think he can have a father daughter relationship after all that?
@@user-bh4tl6ob4v No-one can. The ‘sacred’ boundaries have been crossed, for 2 years continuously there was incest. You can’t just ‘forget’ and pretend to be Father and Daughter not to talk about the fact that he abandoned her and ran away before she was born and made an active choice not to be a Father to her for 20+ years and continues to do so.
i was asking the previous commenter if she thinks they can just forget and move on.
because that's what I understood from them.
there's no way they can move past it.
and definitely no way they can have a father daughter relationship.
children need to be told. especially if there are other siblings out there.
have seen couples that found out they were actually siblings
these things could be preventable
@@NickyM_0
It's very difficult for them to have father daughter relation after all the kerewawa.very bad.i think they should give each other space for a long time
I knw not easy 🥱
I think talking about our immediate family is something that should come up in conversation between 2 people sharing their lives at the very initial stages of meeting.
How deep can one's love relationship be when they don't know such basics?
Counselling could help if the young lady will open up to heal with a professional,otherwise if she believes in the traditional methods of compensating/cleansing for such mishaps,that could also help.
Our belief systems are more helpful often times than we would want to give credit for.
Watching you from Zambia, this is deep!
She needs to forgive herself first and also her mother and father before God can forgive her. It’s impossible for herself but with God all things are possible.
God we need your mercy
Forgive herself before god will forgive her???
You mean her father should beg God, her mother and his daughter for forgiveness.
So sad i pray you strength 💪 up baby girl, God still answers prayers, be strong love you and praying for you more blessings ❤❤❤❤❤
Because people don’t have Jesus in their life. We should not be sleeping with anyone before we marry them. And we are supposed to consult Jesus to show us who our spouse will be.I do feel empathy for this young lady but also providing the foundations of the bible to our lives which shows us the right way too live our lives. In Jesus name. Amen. May this young lady find peace and healing 🙏🏽❤️
The guy lied to the poor child. In 2 years he was talking and hearing names he was familiar with. He cannot tell me that for 2 years he never heard the name of Sambri's mother and surname... He is a sick soul
SOOO SAD 😞
do not invite the father. they will end up getting married because they were together and sleeping together for two years already. even the daughter says no the father will still insist because had the taste of her already.
This is what happens when you don't know your father
Thats why moms need to lets their kids knw their fathers
*😭😭😭So sad*
The problem here is there is no closure for Sandrine. The father and mother should sit down and she should also discuss the situation and allow to be in the life of father as his daughter
Sandrine's mother should bear the greater blame. Sandrine, it's not your fault. Happily, your liaison with your "father" did not produce any child before the proposal for marriage and presentation to your parents. It's hard, but you need to move on. It could have been worse if you had a child or two with him before thinking of marriage.
Counceling is the best ting
Its not they fault its already done ❤happiness is everything
First to comment should always be rewarded..
How are there so many critical voices here? I am surprised. There can not be many on this platform who have not already encountered more than one incestuous relationship within your own family and those were known family members. This girl needs no counseling. She loved and she wasnt afraid to commit. The mother might counsel her on why she chose non disclosure even when she knew the child was of mature age and had a right to know. The father should share openly with her with regards to his being the one whos insecurities regarding self set this whole thing in motion. She should be praised on her ability to recgnize and allow a connective kind of love into her life. Many are those reading who have presently relationships in their lives where the boundaries have been blurred and crossed, so many know the incredible courage needed to restore right fellowship. B4 we continue to judge let us keep in mind their union was of an unknowing kind whereby blaming God or the universe is understandable while our imperfect unions are done in the full light of the knowledge of the truth whereby we have only ourselves to blame. I do not give the father the same pass as his level of unknowing is a direct result of his decision and desire not to know.
This gal needs deliverance!!!!!
Time will heal them all. Nobody planned or wanted this to happen but it was just very unfortunate 😢😢
What a complex world we live in! I wish the mom had introduced her to her biological father or even shown her some pictures.
Well, it has already happened so however much they regret it cannot be undone. The best solution is to forge ahead with the lessons learnt.
He ran away
OMG! the father had to know! this is crazy- but how could you date someone your Dad's age?
Congo kwetu kuna mambo nako duuu
Instead of marrying someone of his generation he want to marry his daughter .
😮😢 that's sad and shocking that's why I always advocate for parents always tell their children the truth and always introduce family to each other smh i blame the mom and biological father but he to didn't know her wow attraction and love is such a strong thing
The problem is that if the ladies have denied from the lovers do to being pregnant. Sandra was not knowing any thing so what is need is to pray to God for forgiveness so that you should not do it again. The mother accepted the mistake , but learning from mistakes is very expressive. You pay more than expected.
This is how secrets destroy families and lives.
The bond was there from day one, but they didn't know why it was there as father and daughter. It's a sad union and the secret has come home to haunt all...
Father has run off again immaturely.
Mhmm this story is crazy. She's right she should have told her girl about the identity of her father. There's actually a saying that people who are biologically connected can be attracted to each other if they meet without knowing that they are blood-related. I'm sorry for Sandrine, she didn't deserve this.
Is actually good that the father disappeared after finding out because they could have continued with the sexual relationship. After time all will be good and maybe they could rebuild the daughter/father relationship
Sandrine, I hope and wish you learnt to love and respect your mum. People make mistake and I think the most courageous ones are the one that admit and acknowledge their shortcomings. You shall be fine because all these too shall pass. love from Namibia
Wow! May the husband God has for her find her.
I wish the man can come back and let them find closure. Waht a coward, always running away
He is in dilemma....as he has failed twice
The father ran far away away from his own flesh and blood only to seek back refuge in her bosom. Had he took his responsibility as a father this tragic would never happen. The mom only taught she was helping her child I don’t blame her though but she should amhave took courage to at least let her know the truth.
Religion is very important in our daily life
There is a psychological term for this happening when raised apart
She’s beautiful
Irresposible dudes..they fathered children but they dont even know how their kids are..
These are the conquences u end up sleeping with your own blood..
Didn't the father recognize the mother when she walked in the living room? I don't think the world is THAT small to where out of all women, at a club, he innocently chose his daughter >.< Within those two years, I'm more than sure the daughter spoke about her home life and family and he knew something was up. Out of chance that it was all pure innocent, then ..I pray Sandrine forgive herself and happy to hear she blame both parents for what happened instead of herself. Another thing that was disturbing and this is my take on things, the mother said "she did not know what to do. Should she take her daughter to the elders in a church or speak with church members". Listening to countless stories around the world, church members and religion nuts NEVER help situations like this. They tend to deal in shame, guilt, greed and anger. Church people have parents casting out their children in the street deeming them witches, evil and possessed and all that is currently happening...around the world. They damn the child. Anywho...One day at a time, forgive yourself and I wish you well.
Lessons to all mothers out there
This man knows what he was doing,this is lies
Take her to church for deliverance. This is a curse and it should be removed... After deliverance, she will love herself again and find peace. After all, there's no condemnation in the LORD.
CHAI 😱😱😱😱😱, this is so SAD, my dear Sandrine, that you had to fall in LOVE
I think its advisable moms to tell their children the truth to avoid such circumstances
Call and talk to the biological father and go to church for some prayers too
All 3 of you
Mother should blame herself for this abomination. It's impossible that it could be the young ladies fault. STOP keeping important information from your children parents. They will not remain babies forever
The man should also have questioned himself as he knew that he had rejected a child in his younger years...
We mast blame her mother because she keep skeeter to her Dougherty
She needs deliverance and strong prayers
Thank God she didn't fall pregnant and give a birth to her biological father. Wonder's shall never end 🤔. Wicked world. I blame her mother for everything
May God forgive u both, and give u life everlasting comfort n freedom of the soul.....
Take her for counseling. She isn't wrong but forgive herself. She thought she found a matured man, yet God resurfaced the culprit. Cool young woman things happen for a reaon
Jail him now.
Jail him for what? He didn’t know. For that matter, neither did the daughter.
No one's fault 😢