you all prolly dont care but does someone know of a method to get back into an Instagram account..? I somehow forgot my login password. I love any tips you can offer me
@Malik Callum Thanks so much for your reply. I got to the site on google and Im in the hacking process now. Takes a while so I will get back to you later with my results.
I’m extremely surprised that this channel doesńt have millions of followers. Her ability to explain such complicated topics with that simplicity is astonishing. Congrats on the channel and I hope the algorithm works better and you get all the credit you deserve.
It’s true but I’m glad that she does. She does do life coaching though, I’d be surprised if she weren’t good at it. Seen my share of therapists and it can be tough to find one that speaks as openly, relatable and coherent. Not sure if she’s licensed or not, but she definitely makes sense to me.
@@QuinnCFree Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night before sleep sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
If the trauma took place during first 7 years of our lives it sure comes from out caregivers. Then we must reparent ourselves, heal our inner children and practice serious self care. My life has changed since I learned and integrated my true self and accepted myself unconditionally. I have found a very knowledgeable psychologist/therapist who showed my the road to healing and provided me with the tools to integrated my shadow and love myself just the way I am. Also owning my character “defects” and changing what it does not serve me well and therefore others. Healing is truly a journey.
@@000DAAN000 if you go onto Wu Wei wisdom RUclips channel they are your one stop Re-parenting yourself channel they Cover Everything all the who what when Why's If your In Adelaide it's what I do Guiding you through the Re-parenting yourself Myself I did it completely alone through trial & Error healing myself I used to have BI POLAR, CPTSD, PTSD DEPRESSION SEVERE ANXIETY SEVERE HYPERVIGGILENCE couldn't leave my house attempted suicide 3 times Then through Life Force energy I was Shown a new Way, I used it on myself then opened up a practice to help others do the same, understanding I am but a guide through thier Shadow I am but One paver on thier path of self realization always leaving thier Power with them to implement themselves This is self Empowerment Self transformation at it's finest Hope this helps Blessings to you on your Journey of laying your own pavers as you create your own Pathway to You 🙌😊💖
This video coupled with your grounding, ying/yang, ego transcendence, and divine love videos has assisted greatly with my healing. I was born into the foster care system, had a narcissistic adoptive mother, and my biological mother passed before I got to meet her, tough stuff to deal with as a child 😌. Words can't describe how thankful I am for you, Emerald! Infinite love 🦋
What an incredible channel! So many good resources here. I would love to hear Emerald talk about the topic of ADDICTIONS, which is super common in CPSTD, abuse, etc. My addictions actually got worse during my Dark Night (started in 2021), and it's taken some doing to unwind them. Again, fantastic channel, very practical and accessible.
I am certain that my trauma was indeed caused by a mother who alternately neglected or abused all her children and then attempted to blame the children for her actions. Tough to overcome. I think I will always cringe every time I hear that I chose, attracted or created something all in my own mind. External factors are the causation.
I'm not saying that it wasn't the catalyst for the trauma or that you somehow attracted it to you. What I am saying is that the trauma always occurs internally. So, even if it's catalyzed by external events, there is an internal process (of thoughts and emotions) at work which actually creates the trauma. Many people miss this, so it makes them feel like the issue is external and thus out of their control. But even if the catalyst was external, the trauma creation all happened internally. So, it is actually completely in our power to process through the trauma, as it is wholly internally contained and internally created. What I'm not saying, however, is that it was your fault or that the external situation had nothing to do with the problem.
@@TheDiamondNet🤨 yes, ppl have power to process through the trauma, if they are not given the word salad, such as the trauma is internally created, but then... 'I didn't mean there was no external cause', but.. but.., it's not something that you can't..., you should....because that's how YOU reacted...hmm... Should ppl be thanking you for letting them know that the trauma is inside of a traumatized only, but not inside the perpetrators ?!? 🤣 They know. Limiting beliefs??? No, limited belief that you had trauma. For God's sake kid, somebody laughed at you!?!? That's trauma!? No, and yes in your case something was wrong with you. That's not the basis to claim the same is the case for others, and post-traumatic disorder ISN'T the same as traumatized person. P.S. or nothing ever happened to you at all, just a "trauma survival". Why not? So many are indeed thanking you, ....smarter ones won't, you'll see..
:):) 1 year later, but still. Good that you wrote that blogger kid re trauma. You can read, if u wish my reply to her replying you...and that's only a tiny part of my objections..Thank you.
I'm a member of the support group Adult Children of Alcoholics and I wanted to let you know that the wisdom you share has been so helpful to me as I am becoming aware of my childhood wounds and healing them. Thank you so much!! ❤️❤️🙏🙏
Simply well said! Samatha - learning to relax the body, and Vipassana - working with the breath to develop insight. From hearing her the challenge is brought upon thoughts but simply allowing your awareness to slip into awareness as an observer adds simplicity within the moment.
I think most people here don't really understand what you mean by "Become aware of your emotions and bodily sensations". Seems like they think that you mean "think about your emotions and/or the triggering event and cognitively understand why you're triggered". However I assume what you mean is that we should become aware and physically "feel" our emotions without judging them/becoming identified with them until they run their course and transform into relief. Trauma is frozen/exiled emotion after all, and all it needs is to be felt and resolved. I too highly recommend the book "The Body Keeps the Score" by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk to those who suffer from PTSD or know someone who has PTSD. Thank you for this video, great job! Keep it up please, lots of love from Istanbul
Thank you! And yes, that is what I mean. I've noticed some tendency to misinterpret too. I don't mean to focus intellectually on the mental phenomenon related to the emotion. In fact, that can be a bit of a double edged sword, especially once a person has gotten to a certain level of intellectual understanding relative to the problem. I mean to focus directly on the sensations within the body so that they can be processed. It is not widely known that emotions have both a physical and mental aspect to them. So, we often bypass the physical aspect of emotions and jump right into the mental "thought stories" aspect of emotions. So, the emotion never gets processed and stays there in the nervous system. So, focusing on the physical aspect of emotions helps to resolve them so that the sensations aren't hanging around in the body demanding our attention. Sort of like checking the emotional email so that the body knows that you've gotten the message that it's trying to send you via the wisdom of the body.
I have come to learn that we can trust our emotions. If we give them validity and examine them to see what it is they are telling us they can be very useful. The worst thing we can do is to repress our emotions. Usually when we come to understand why we are experiencing a particular emotion that awareness in itself will bring healing. I have learned that it is just as important to empathize with ourself as it is to empathize with others. Have you read the Desidarata? I like that poem there is a line in it that says, "beyond a wholesome discipline be gentle with yourself." I think that says a lot. I'm commenting on a lot of your videos all at once so don't feel compelled to answer each one unless you actually want to of course. I'm really enjoying the videos. This stuff is what I think about all the time. The name of the game is letting go. Life is about letting go.
Thank you! Something that comes to mind after watching the video is what Bruce Lee said : "Let emotions pass through you". In my own interpretation this means not blocking them out (i think these are the barriers that you explained) and at the same time don't get caught into them and make them stay longer than necessary (these might be the thoughts you explained that keep coming up). Just, as you said, observe the feelings and they will go away in away in a healthy manner, they will pass through. They won't be ignored and you won't keep on being bothered by them. Thanks for the video, keep it up!
Spend time each day focusing your awareness on the emotional and or physical sensations. Allow them to be. Pure awareness is what reintegrates them and heals. This is really good advice. Takes some care, practice and time, but does miracles.
Thanks, this is really good vid. Just wanted to add, sometimes it doesn't matter what your perception of an event is, you can still be traumatized by it. Examples: Physical abuse: If the abuse reaches a certain intensity, the normal processing of the mind / emotions / body won't be able to handle it, and the trauma will get rerouted and stored in the fascia (connective tissue) of the body. Deep breathing, tapping, emdr, somatic work can help release this later in a safe environment. Another example is prolonged and covert neglect. I child may have a narcisist parent that is there and says I love you and seems to do all the right things. The child will perceive that everything is ok, but will have an emptiness inside that grows. Over time, the emptiness will overwhelm the child. This overwhelms the senses, and again can't be handled by normal processing ability and will be stored in the body. The body is like the emergency backup system when things get way too intense. It's not supposed to hold onto this energy, but just emergency backup when it gets way to much to handle. This is the basis for ptsd / cptsd. That's why body is so important when looking at healing both. Checkout: From Surviving to Thriving: Pete Walker (Highly recommend) I like this guy too: ruclips.net/user/SPARTANLIFECOACH Happy New Year. I pray that everyone finds healing.
Happy New Year! This is a great point. Emotions don't necessarily need a mental interpretation to be traumatic. Recently, on a forum that I follow, someone was wondering if children were traumatized by their interpretation of sexual abuse (given no physical harm was done) or if by the abuse itself. I wrote back to them, that the interpretation is not actually what's traumatic though it could compound the trauma. It's simply that children are not emotionally developed enough to handle those types of emotions. Just like, if you have a 50 watt light bulb but you try to put 100 watts of electricity in it, the light bulb will become overwhelmed by the electricity. So, it's an actual physical thing. The trauma stores itself in the body, and has little to do with interpretation.
Great example with the light bulb. That makes a lot of sense. If you put too many watts into a light bulb (more than it is designed to handle) it breaks. The mind / heart of a person is the same way, but we have a protection against breaking, which is that the body holds the trauma (excess energy) for later processing. Person will have neurosis / repetition compulsion, until they can release it in a healthy / supportive setting.
Some traumas are a little more intense than just being picked on as a kid or being left while a parent went around the block and left you at home for 2 minutes!
Its all about the perspective of the person experiencing something, not about how you see the experience from your perspective today. Funny enough, even though being picked as a kid may seem like no big deal it may leave an emotional imprint that has a more severe impact on one's life than something like a near death experience. Its all about how the person going thru it felt, and how they processed it(or not).
With each passing video, I'm in more awe as to how much I can relate (In the aspect of the journey of self awareness). Only in a different body, different continent and different timelines.
I know one thing, if you dont have a good relationship with you dad as a girl, it effects relationships with a man later in life. My dad was unfaithful to my mom throughout their marriage. And I believe its difinitly affected my trust of men. And I keep a guard up in my heart. Its terrible, but I cope. Im 62 and been married 40 yrs. But I credit that only to the fact that my husband and I are both christians. If not for that we would have never made it.
Thank you.....Good explanation....I agree that awareness is a great tool for working with trauma! No wonder,in silent meditation retreats,we can see meditators experiencing deep emotional pains! They are after all putting awareness in their mind and body,and the trauma is releasing! One great way to dig out trauma is to focus one's awareness in the heart or throat or belly area!!! :)
Bless you!!..fresh.. a different point of view from everything I found out around on the topic, maybe a little bit generalistic but you clearly state about a healing system/way to come out from those situations eventually by our own. This is really spreading hope to those that even being willing of help are not getting what they need specifically because the system is in "cut costs mode" or because there is not sufficiently spread awareness around the CPTSD.. what to do when you are left alone to deal with this? you here gave great hints to motivate this self-healing and understanding to cope with the external insufficiencies of the care system! BLESS YOU!
People never accept negative emotions. Im always the cause of my failures. Even if the neighbor don't let me sleep and i ask them to keep it down; even if i get pneumonia because of the air conditioning system in the workplace; even if my workpalce forbids to take notes on paper and i cannot learn from digital notes i need my drawings.... it is all my fault. And they make it very clear. To get away such negative feedback i used to go away in society and live in the woods in a tent for weeks to heal. It helps a lot.
This channel is going to be a big part of me rebuilding my self. I have only just begun watching, and I can see that with the help of "The Diamond Net" and Jung's work, I am about to make progress that previously I didn't even realise was there to be made!
I disagree with your claim that no external source can be a source of trauma. In attachment theory, infants/humans are born with the innate nature to need to be emotionally attached to a primary caregiver; I digress, as infants we are not per say conscious of ourselves or of our internal experience, it is our attachment figures who lay the groundwork of how we feel, think, and behave later in life, and then adapt as such. Disorganized attachment is the breakdown of attachment, infants become confused of who they are because their caregiver did not properly attune to the emotional needs of the child, who is only perceiving their feelings and comfort from the parent/caregiver. This is a form of trauma that is caused from an external source, which I myself have had to get over via earned security. Regardless, this is a great video!!
As neurobiology continues to unfold with brain imaging, I expect that we will have a better answer for this. There is some possible truth in what she says. Albert Ellis wondered why two people going through the same experience would have different outcomes with all things being equal. Having been raised by a mother who appears to have either borderline or narcissistic personality disorder, however, it's difficult for me to say that no external source can be a source of trauma.
It is true that we all have needs. So, being deprived of those needs will create a trauma. But the trauma is not directly caused by the external event or lack there-of. The trauma (as well as the resulting repressions, complexes, and neuroses) are created internally by unconscious mechanisms in response to those events. So, I'm not saying that external events have no role in creating the trauma. Rather, I'm saying that we often think that the way things go is "external problem>internal problems" when it really goes "external problem>internal protection mechanisms>lack of emotional processing due to said protections mechanisms>internal problems." So, it is not the external problem that creates our problem directly. It is the internal protections mechanisms that we create that result in our inability to process our emotions. So, to understand this, puts the power back in everyone's hands to internally resolve the emotions and to disassemble the inner protection mechanisms that are now unnecessary. As opposed to thinking, "Oh well, I didn't get the healthy attachment to a primary caregiver as an infant, so I guess I'm permanently damaged because I can never meet that external need." When we realize that all trauma is created internally, then we realize that we have the power in our hands to reintegrate and become whole no matter what happens to us... or doesn't happen to us for that matter.
+PIEPIE This is really great that you've thought this through so thoroughly. I thought of the analogy with the light bulb too and the fact that the ducks shake themselves off after a confrontation with another duck or predator, and it really rings true to me that so much our trauma occurs physically. And this is why the field of psychology, in its present mainstream state, is primarily focused toward coping and not actually healing. We haven't begun to explore the connection between the mind aspect of emotions and the body aspect of emotions as a society. We mostly are focused toward the brain/mind. I'm very impressed with how thorough that you've been in your exploration. I'm sure that you will be able to reintegrate fully and heal your wounds if you continue with your inner work. Best of luck on your journey! :)
Are you familiar with this book? www.amazon.com/Your-Body-Subconscious-Mind/dp/B000BYR53A/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1512377002&sr=8-1&keywords=your+body+is+your+subconscious+mind The concept that the body IS the subconscious mind is really cool to consider. It feels right for me. Thanks for reviewing the presentation, and for you kind words. Very appreciated. There's lots of info in the presentation that I think could be helpful to many people going through similar stuff. Would you be interested in doing a video on this, where we discuss these topics?
I don't know how but this works. I've struggled with intense emotions for years due to toxic relationships and a cold, unloving childhood. Quieting my thoughts and focusing on the sensations in my body helped me let go of the anger and sadness that was plaguing me. The change has been so drastic. I am pleasantly surprised.
No not true when a person experiences abuse that comes from there environment they feel and experience what was done to them they process that through there emotions it's not just in the person's thoughts you react emotionally to the injustices that took away a feeling of safety in your world
Wow this really helped me heal properly from from the emotional suffering that I was going through. This put everything into perspective for me. Thank you very much!
Thank you so much for making this video. I can relate to your personal story and thinking. My path towards unmasking my shadow has just begun. Keep up the excellent work...
I went through severe trauma being physically , emotionally abused by my mother and being placed in foster care for 6 years being placed with a family for one year being told they would be my parents and then being ripped from that family and being placed with another foster family that showed me no love and provided the basics . I'm not sure how I made it but I delved into eastern philosophy and really looked within myself . I very rarely get panic or attacks and am free from depression . I still deal with the feeling of never feeling good enough and feeling stupid . I have always attracted angry aggressive partners or emotionally unavailable like my mother . I am a single mother to my daughter and have given up on relationships until I do more work on myself. Even though I bought my own house and works hard as I could I still struggle that I'm not enough . I wish I could come to terms and accept myself . Easier said than done . I always get in capital letters that I need to accept the situation and myself and accept my mother as wishing someone to change is just being in denial . Sending my love to everyone that is hurting x I read I one of my psychology reports when I was a kid that I don't like feeling negative thoughts about people that I always like to see the positive which can have a flip side as to not feeling good enough that I am the problem
tuley bee you said two things i relate too 1. i think im stupid bc ppl tell tht. 2. i attract the dangerous and vicious type personalities, never the beautiful ppl bc they think tht i am what i aforementioned, it is very hard
There are two levels on which traumas sustain themselves: 1. Intellectually - We have unconscious or conscious beliefs that allow for traumas to sustain themselves upon and even multiply themselves on. 2. Physically - Emotions store themselves in the central nervous system as a physical reality. In order to process through them, you should focus on the body sensation associated with the emotions with full awareness and without the mind pulling your attention away from the sensation. You can also "breathe into" the spot where you feel the emotional discomfort. You will feel subtle physical changes whenever you do this process. So much of our trauma is actual physical trauma from emotions that we weren't able to process through.
@@TheDiamondNet Maybe you need to update from Carl Jung. I personally like Jung. More has been learned about the brain in the last 30 years than most likely all of our history. "So much of our trauma is actual physical trauma from emotions that we weren't able to process through". No. According to modern day science emotional and physical pain are both connect to the same neurons in our brain. There is no physical trauma from our emotions. There can be physical pain which actually is emotional pain that is felt physically. Relieve the emotional pain and the physical pain goes bye bye. Neuroscience is cool maybe you should check it out.
@Krishna Patel it's good that you're aware of this, very good in fact. I'm going through the same exact thing, follow through the video, never ever talk negative to yourself, always be and stay in high and upbeat vibrations. Choose a place where people make you feel happy and important. This isn't your fault, I'm from India too and it's pretty common for Indian parents to behave this way and make us believe we re never good enough for something. Guess what. We will never be able to fill in their needs. So just stop trying to please them. Do what makes you happy and makes you feel like you're always from a good place. Also, try to break through your comfort zone and do the opposite of what you've pictured yourself as. If you give a negative self talk saying "oh I'm just so dumb and stupid" ask yourself why that is. After you've got the answer, try to do the opposite. Actions such as breaking through your comfort zone might be difficult at first. But after you've lured yourself into that place, you can be satisfied and proud. And always, always, be proud of the little actions you do. You're healing. Its okay to breakdown. Its not at all your fault. You'll be a much better person for yourself and the people around you. Try explaining to someone what you're going through. Most people will understand and help you through. They aren't all bad. Take care!❤
Okay peopllle what she meant by saying that traumatic experiences are not triggered by external occurrences is that it is not directly the fault of the external occurrence for your reaction. Different people react different ways to certain situations; some ignore it and others react strongly to it. Certain situations like lack infancy attachment would probably be traumatic in a certain way for almost everyone. It is true that inside of us there are certain habitual reactions to things based on our beliefs and just plain old human nature. So for everyone certain situations can become traumatic based on their emotional and mental wiring that makes them who they are. In my opinion it's almost a reflex to react in certain ways to certain situations, like how she said she was traumatized as a child because of how sensitive she was.
you should continue your youtube career because you are definitely saving lives, you should maybe even write a book about a culmination of your practical knowledge, i know it would be a bestseller for sure. please keep up your hard work, its amazing and thank you
Thank God for this video. You are the best video I have seen on this. All the rest are therapists I do not trust ..while searching on RUclips. Thank you for your help and guidance
I’ve been having a really bad and panicked traumatic regression all day non stop crying and sleeping I feel sick but your video has helped so much you are like an intelligent beautiful angel . Thank you for sharing your insights.
I'm sorry to hear that your day has been rough. I'm glad that my video has helped a bit, and I also hope that you are able to find more comfort and peace today and in the future. Until then, I wish you strength and wisdom.
What about Kalief Browder? Solitary confinement? Constant physical abuse? Please watch this series and tell me how outside forces didn't create his trauma.
The trauma is created internally. But the triggers for the internal trauma reaction are often external. This is important to realize that the trauma reaction is self-contained within the body/mind complex. It's not to say that external situations don't play a role. They clearly do. But the trauma reaction is latent in the body/mind system already. It just gets triggered from the outside, but all of the stuff that causes trauma is on the inside as trauma exists tangibly and directly in the form of thoughts and emotions. This means that the power to resolve the trauma is also inside of one's self, and requires no external situation to be a certain way to resolve the trauma.
The Diamond Net the cause is the external impact. Your internal response is a defense mechanism (how you deal with that negative experience), a reaction. The CAUSE is the external. Without it, there is nothing that “triggers” your flight, fight or freeze senses. The external is also very important for many people in helping to heal trauma. There are different ways/modes to heal.
I think you should watch Oprah on 60 minutes about Trauma thst the scientist and others that she talks to. Outside influences does cause trauma even if it's inside your mind that process it. It's what happens afterwards that helps you heal or not or if it turns into ptsd or a trauma. You need love and support from somewhere afterwards!
You are so awesome I was actually able to start to understand some things a little better. I'm looking forward to hearing more of your videos. Thank you ❤️
Great vid as always. I’ve been wondering, have you read „The Body Keeps the Score” by Bessel Van der Kolk? It’s possibly the best scientific exploration of the underlying mechanisms of traumatic memories and experiences, I highly recommend it in case you’ve got the time to read it, mind-blowing stuff based on this guy’s several decades’ worth of research and experience with thousands of traumatized people. It might also lead you to change some of the ideas you present in the video as well as shed new light on others.
Love your work. Very insightful. I may also I recommend to write about your emotional experience. Writing, I have found, is very helpful in the awareness process. I would definitely not have become aware and in touch with my emotional reality, without writing.
23:40 Don’t try to make a thought story out of being aware. Emotions are the bodies way of sending messages and if you resist the message the body will keep sending it
thank you , this has helped my family a lot in the understanding of the PTSD that I suffer from, developed over 30 years of military service. So I have posted this to my friends, who also suffer from the latter. again thank you.
My trauma was being struck in the head and receiving multiple concussions. I was referred to a neuro-psychiatrist, a neurologist, then a neurosurgeon. The neurosurgeon removed a malignant tumor the size of a grape and my cognitive abilities improved across the board. Some trauma can leave physical damage impairing the brain's ability to form and change beliefs. The concussion did not cause the tumor but investigating the concussive damage ended with the discovery and removal of a tumor.
My trauma effected me differently it made me feel my emotions so strong is scares me ... someone can say something bad to me and I just blow up and yell at them ... then after I’d regret it so much and get so depressed ... when I was a kid I word cry but when I entered middle and high school it became angry and rage ... I was bullied so much as a kid that it made me feel like I was worthless ... that I was nothing and didn’t deserve to be happy ... I was the perfect target overweight with a bad overbite and long hair ... I was also gay but I didn’t know yet but the other boys could tell I was different from them,.. and they made ...used me ... promised friendship in exchange doing what they like ... even when they picked on me they were Abel to manipulate me to do stuff for them ... didn’t help the whole school made a game about me... they called it the Eric touch ... it was just like the cheese touch ... except I was the cheese I could spread it but couldn’t pass it on ... then when I realize I was gay in early middle school... everything Went dark ... My grades suffered my friends the few I had I pushed away I was scared people word know now that I knew but they already knew they always knew and they figured it out and rumors started ...and they made me scared everyday I was scared I’d be jumped everyday I thought I was going die ... it got so bad I stopped being afraid to die ...i felt trapped in the closet I never left my room I was scarred to let my family near me ... and now I’m 19 and came out to my family they support me ... I should be happy now ... but I’m not
this is an excellent video! I'm impressed. However, I can see why some of the commenters don't like the idea that they constructed their own trauma. It is a bit like, someone hits you and yes, your own body creates the welts and scars.. but still, the external event triggered the body's response. In any event, you have put together an excellent set of ideas. I like the idea that excessive ptsd-style triggering can gradually dissolve over time by being aware of beliefs and emotions, this is my experience. But it is important to never forget that some people will hurt you, and to protect yourself. It would be good if you could add your sources (even if only for further reading).
Hello. Could I ask how you (one) identifies limiting beliefs. There seems to be a complex ever changing soup of emotions thoughts and assumptions which often create confusion which further covers up what is happening. These thoughts may be conscious/unconscious or somewhere between. How is it possible to extract the relevant limiting thoughts from this complex landscape?
Sweet blessed soul also by your gut microbiome and factors like timeframe for after care if any. Especially for survivors of on going trauma situations, remember that the trauma is the price you pay to be here. Th3 fact that you are means you have the strength to heal. Namaste.
6:30 My trauma was fixed by a surgeon. Should I have solved my tumor problem internally by working on my emotions and not 'doing it to myself' when the part of the brain regulating my emotion was damaged and synapses were rendered inert. My 'trauma' was physical AND mental / emotional.
Love your videos. This one I struggle with being that I have a chronic pain disease that is caused from a build up of trauma. Its called crps and came from a friggin sprained ankle. It's a situation with the nervous system becoming stuck. I've had it 3.5 years. It can spread and many end up in a wheelchair. I want to believe I can heal. I really do. The medical condition is said to have no cure. I had just had a major fibroid surgery before falling. 11 hour surgery and it was truly horrible having flashbacks of being molested and raped coming out of anesthesia. Also tryingbtonsit still in recovery for the first time in my life. I've been working so hard to work on myself hoping it will help my leg. Crps spread from my ankle to my hip. At night I feel it in both legs. Feels like I'm being crushed under a car when it's just the covers on the bed. I've been trying to break pattern of victimization for years. Always learning. Just wanted to give a shout out for those of us suffering from CRPS / RSD and fibromyalgia. These are very real things that seem to happen when our trauma isn't dealt with earlier in life. Get it people! I'm 47 now and I am determined not to end up in a wheelchair atleast. Much love
Hey Emarald, I enjoyed this video particularly. You have so many examples that I can relate to. For instance keeping my emotions bottled up because of teasing. Keep making your wonderful videos, and thanks a bunch! 😊
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Thank you so much for this video. As I walk now with Christ in my healing from childhood abuse and a school shooting I found this video very helpful. You are a Godsend.
I understand what you mean but healing takes times and has stages. Even when one has the knowledge you’re giving here, it TAKES TIME! It should never be forced. And yes expressing is the way to go, not to everyone. Expressing is IMPORTANT! Again it depends on the traumatic problem. EVERYONE is different, it’s NOT one size fits all.
I was traumatized about 3 hours ago when a drunk driver rolled across our yard and almost crashed into the side of our neighbor's house. I had to call 911, and I never want to do it again. I'm 15... That kind of stuff scares me and I don't want to drive anymore... All I keep thinking is "What if..." like what if my little brother was still playing in the yard? What if the driver crashed head first into the tree? What if there was no tree, in which case, I would most likely have been injured from glass or something. I don't know what to do with myself. I kind of want to ask my dad to make me an appointment with my old therapist, but I don't know if my "trauma" is severe enough for that.
all the stuff about being aware is good, you just forgot to mention one thing. you need energy to be aware and to be attentive. One can not be aware when there is lack of energy. I've tried it.
I was bullied at school, home and by neighbors. A deranged man tried to kill me and a friend at age 9, cops nabbed him and he vanished-Ventura, CA 1971 Older bro robbed me for drug $ dad and mom passed when i was 11 - Had lousy foster parents - Ran away and wound up in music Biz later actor. I think God guided me to success.
I have childhood PTSD neglect and not wanted by my mum, horrible childhood school bullying daily . Did arson at 14 to get back at my mum then put in care, but I was happier there. Lost my dad 3yrs ago too now no family or pals.
You are an asset to the Psychology industry! Extremely useful segment. ("Heinz 57"...I love your usage of this metaphor....)... also...you've come a long way since your childhood. You are indeed captain of your own kayak! ♥️🙏👍
I am getting beyond slipping into a trauma reaction. It takes a new reaction, to program in. But earlier on.... it took actually realizing that I was re-traumatizing myself.
I liked everything you said on this topic. And I'd like to add that elements that methods such as EFT, Sedona Method and some others bring often speed up healing traumas a lot. I often help people heal their traumas in one session, and occasionally they heal more than one trauma in one session. Although, some people do the same in a couple of minutes by doing what you described - just focusing on emotions and sensations.
There is awareness, then there are the things you are unaware of subconsciously. I am finding that many behaviors or things I have "always done" were symptoms of my Trauma, for example my swearing, I never thought of it as a bad thing. I've always swore and it has always been part of my vocabulary. I am respectful about it though, I don't swear when I conduct business, I'm careful around littles and those who find it offensive but just like smoking, its a habit formed. It's obviously not a good thing if it is offensive. If I have to consider who is around to do it or end up feeling bad, then why do it? It is my outlet. A poor coping method I developed to express the negative energy I absorb throughout the day and don't think other peoples energy doesn't subconsciously effect you and yours on to them. We continually receive and transmit how we are feeling. My subconscious had been screaming for help about my past experiences and I wasn't aware of it. My subconscious has been needing me to acknowledge what I went through in order to process through them... As I strip away the parts of me that are connected to them, I am finding that I am not the same person I was. I am changing, becoming who I was supposed be had I not been through the experiences I endured as a child. It's scary because I don't know who I am now. I am just staring blankly at a white canvas trying to figure out what I want my masterpiece to look like while looking up videos about how to heal from this now that I know what has been wounded.
Thank You Heaps!!!! I Like the Way You Express & Communicate This Information that is Really Relevent to Me & What I am Going Through At The Moment. Very Interesting, Very Inspiring, Very Helpful & Beneficial & Very Empowering. Thank You Heaps!!!! Bless You ALL With Unconditional Love & Light Energy, Peace, Happiness & Compassion, God Bless, Thank You!!! God Bless!!!! Peace!!! CHEERS!!!!
Then what if the trauma I think I'm experiencing is actually true me having just unawarely healed my traumas? What if I'm just so fixed on traumatized me? Someone stop me from overthinking please
I liked all of this except I'm confused by the last part of the final step - you say don't try to interpret or think about your emotions as they arise, and you also say that the emotions are messengers telling us things. How can I know what the messages are if I don't try to think and decipher the messages when the emotions arise? Isn't it useful to know what my emotions are telling me (which requires some thinking and deciphering) so I can be aware of why I'm feeling what I'm feeling? Or are you suggesting that it's not important to know why, and it's more important to focus on accepting and acknowledging the emotions? Thanks for your input.
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Very insightful. What are your thoughts on all the talk about trauma informed care?
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I’m extremely surprised that this channel doesńt have millions of followers. Her ability to explain such complicated topics with that simplicity is astonishing. Congrats on the channel and I hope the algorithm works better and you get all the credit you deserve.
I had to come back and tell you that your clip has dramatically changed my world - thank you!
You're welcome. :D I'm glad to hear it. Thank you for letting me know.
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That's true, but it's also a win-win situation because our gratification is "heart cash" back to her own generous heart.
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It’s true but I’m glad that she does. She does do life coaching though, I’d be surprised if she weren’t good at it. Seen my share of therapists and it can be tough to find one that speaks as openly, relatable and coherent. Not sure if she’s licensed or not, but she definitely makes sense to me.
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If the trauma took place during first 7 years of our lives it sure comes from out caregivers. Then we must reparent ourselves, heal our inner children and practice serious self care. My life has changed since I learned and integrated my true self and accepted myself unconditionally. I have found a very knowledgeable psychologist/therapist who showed my the road to healing and provided me with the tools to integrated my shadow and love myself just the way I am. Also owning my character “defects” and changing what it does not serve me well and therefore others. Healing is truly a journey.
could you maybe explain, or link to info about these tools ?
Two of Pentacles that’s great. I wish I could find a good therapist to do this for me. I didn’t know I had childhood trauma
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This video coupled with your grounding, ying/yang, ego transcendence, and divine love videos has assisted greatly with my healing. I was born into the foster care system, had a narcissistic adoptive mother, and my biological mother passed before I got to meet her, tough stuff to deal with as a child 😌. Words can't describe how thankful I am for you, Emerald! Infinite love 🦋
What an incredible channel! So many good resources here. I would love to hear Emerald talk about the topic of ADDICTIONS, which is super common in CPSTD, abuse, etc. My addictions actually got worse during my Dark Night (started in 2021), and it's taken some doing to unwind them. Again, fantastic channel, very practical and accessible.
I am certain that my trauma was indeed caused by a mother who alternately neglected or abused all her children and then attempted to blame the children for her actions. Tough to overcome. I think I will always cringe every time I hear that I chose, attracted or created something all in my own mind. External factors are the causation.
I'm not saying that it wasn't the catalyst for the trauma or that you somehow attracted it to you. What I am saying is that the trauma always occurs internally. So, even if it's catalyzed by external events, there is an internal process (of thoughts and emotions) at work which actually creates the trauma. Many people miss this, so it makes them feel like the issue is external and thus out of their control. But even if the catalyst was external, the trauma creation all happened internally. So, it is actually completely in our power to process through the trauma, as it is wholly internally contained and internally created. What I'm not saying, however, is that it was your fault or that the external situation had nothing to do with the problem.
@@TheDiamondNet🤨 yes, ppl have power to process through the trauma, if they are not given the word salad, such as the trauma is internally created, but then... 'I didn't mean there was no external cause', but.. but.., it's not something that you can't..., you should....because that's how YOU reacted...hmm... Should ppl be thanking you for letting them know that the trauma is inside of a traumatized only, but not inside the perpetrators ?!? 🤣 They know.
Limiting beliefs??? No, limited belief that you had trauma. For God's sake kid, somebody laughed at you!?!? That's trauma!? No, and yes in your case something was wrong with you. That's not the basis to claim the same is the case for others, and post-traumatic disorder ISN'T the same as traumatized person.
P.S. or nothing ever happened to you at all, just a "trauma survival". Why not? So many are indeed thanking you, ....smarter ones won't, you'll see..
:):) 1 year later, but still. Good that you wrote that blogger kid re trauma. You can read, if u wish my reply to her replying you...and that's only a tiny part of my objections..Thank you.
You might want to look at attachment theory.
I'm a member of the support group Adult Children of Alcoholics and I wanted to let you know that the wisdom you share has been so helpful to me as I am becoming aware of my childhood wounds and healing them. Thank you so much!! ❤️❤️🙏🙏
from the bottom of my heart, thank you. i come back to this video every couple months and get so much out of it each time.
Simply well said! Samatha - learning to relax the body, and Vipassana - working with the breath to develop insight. From hearing her the challenge is brought upon thoughts but simply allowing your awareness to slip into awareness as an observer adds simplicity within the moment.
I think most people here don't really understand what you mean by "Become aware of your emotions and bodily sensations". Seems like they think that you mean "think about your emotions and/or the triggering event and cognitively understand why you're triggered". However I assume what you mean is that we should become aware and physically "feel" our emotions without judging them/becoming identified with them until they run their course and transform into relief. Trauma is frozen/exiled emotion after all, and all it needs is to be felt and resolved. I too highly recommend the book "The Body Keeps the Score" by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk to those who suffer from PTSD or know someone who has PTSD. Thank you for this video, great job! Keep it up please, lots of love from Istanbul
Thank you! And yes, that is what I mean. I've noticed some tendency to misinterpret too. I don't mean to focus intellectually on the mental phenomenon related to the emotion. In fact, that can be a bit of a double edged sword, especially once a person has gotten to a certain level of intellectual understanding relative to the problem. I mean to focus directly on the sensations within the body so that they can be processed. It is not widely known that emotions have both a physical and mental aspect to them. So, we often bypass the physical aspect of emotions and jump right into the mental "thought stories" aspect of emotions. So, the emotion never gets processed and stays there in the nervous system. So, focusing on the physical aspect of emotions helps to resolve them so that the sensations aren't hanging around in the body demanding our attention. Sort of like checking the emotional email so that the body knows that you've gotten the message that it's trying to send you via the wisdom of the body.
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I have come to learn that we can trust our emotions. If we give them validity and examine them to see what it is they are telling us they can be very useful. The worst thing we can do is to repress our emotions. Usually when we come to understand why we are experiencing a particular emotion that awareness in itself will bring healing. I have learned that it is just as important to empathize with ourself as it is to empathize with others. Have you read the Desidarata? I like that poem there is a line in it that says, "beyond a wholesome discipline be gentle with yourself." I think that says a lot. I'm commenting on a lot of your videos all at once so don't feel compelled to answer each one unless you actually want to of course. I'm really enjoying the videos. This stuff is what I think about all the time. The name of the game is letting go. Life is about letting go.
Absolutely. That's very well said. :) But I haven't read the Desiderata. That's a beautiful quote though.
this is beautiful - I needed to see this today, thank you for sharing
Thank you! Something that comes to mind after watching the video is what Bruce Lee said : "Let emotions pass through you". In my own interpretation this means not blocking them out (i think these are the barriers that you explained) and at the same time don't get caught into them and make them stay longer than necessary (these might be the thoughts you explained that keep coming up). Just, as you said, observe the feelings and they will go away in away in a healthy manner, they will pass through. They won't be ignored and you won't keep on being bothered by them.
Thanks for the video, keep it up!
Spend time each day focusing your awareness on the emotional and or physical sensations. Allow them to be. Pure awareness is what reintegrates them and heals. This is really good advice. Takes some care, practice and time, but does miracles.
Thanks, this is really good vid.
Just wanted to add, sometimes it doesn't matter what your perception of an event is, you can still be traumatized by it. Examples: Physical abuse: If the abuse reaches a certain intensity, the normal processing of the mind / emotions / body won't be able to handle it, and the trauma will get rerouted and stored in the fascia (connective tissue) of the body. Deep breathing, tapping, emdr, somatic work can help release this later in a safe environment. Another example is prolonged and covert neglect. I child may have a narcisist parent that is there and says I love you and seems to do all the right things. The child will perceive that everything is ok, but will have an emptiness inside that grows. Over time, the emptiness will overwhelm the child. This overwhelms the senses, and again can't be handled by normal processing ability and will be stored in the body. The body is like the emergency backup system when things get way too intense. It's not supposed to hold onto this energy, but just emergency backup when it gets way to much to handle. This is the basis for ptsd / cptsd. That's why body is so important when looking at healing both.
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Happy New Year. I pray that everyone finds healing.
Happy New Year! This is a great point. Emotions don't necessarily need a mental interpretation to be traumatic. Recently, on a forum that I follow, someone was wondering if children were traumatized by their interpretation of sexual abuse (given no physical harm was done) or if by the abuse itself. I wrote back to them, that the interpretation is not actually what's traumatic though it could compound the trauma. It's simply that children are not emotionally developed enough to handle those types of emotions. Just like, if you have a 50 watt light bulb but you try to put 100 watts of electricity in it, the light bulb will become overwhelmed by the electricity. So, it's an actual physical thing. The trauma stores itself in the body, and has little to do with interpretation.
Great example with the light bulb. That makes a lot of sense. If you put too many watts into a light bulb (more than it is designed to handle) it breaks. The mind / heart of a person is the same way, but we have a protection against breaking, which is that the body holds the trauma (excess energy) for later processing. Person will have neurosis / repetition compulsion, until they can release it in a healthy / supportive setting.
Some traumas are a little more intense than just being picked on as a kid or being left while a parent went around the block and left you at home for 2 minutes!
Its all about the perspective of the person experiencing something, not about how you see the experience from your perspective today. Funny enough, even though being picked as a kid may seem like no big deal it may leave an emotional imprint that has a more severe impact on one's life than something like a near death experience. Its all about how the person going thru it felt, and how they processed it(or not).
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Great video ma'am . wish you well. Tc
With each passing video, I'm in more awe as to how much I can relate (In the aspect of the journey of self awareness). Only in a different body, different continent and different timelines.
I know one thing, if you dont have a good relationship with you dad as a girl, it effects relationships with a man later in life. My dad was unfaithful to my mom throughout their marriage. And I believe its difinitly affected my trust of men. And I keep a guard up in my heart. Its terrible, but I cope. Im 62 and been married 40 yrs. But I credit that only to the fact that my husband and I are both christians. If not for that we would have never made it.
Honesty, open mindedness and willingness are what taught me to let go of the trauma.
I knew about this some years ago but somehow I forgot. I became stuck in my beliefs and my ways.
This was very helpful.
Thank you
Thank you.....Good explanation....I agree that awareness is a great tool for working with trauma! No wonder,in silent meditation retreats,we can see meditators experiencing deep emotional pains! They are after all putting awareness in their mind and body,and the trauma is releasing!
One great way to dig out trauma is to focus one's awareness in the heart or throat or belly area!!! :)
Bless you!!..fresh.. a different point of view from everything I found out around on the topic, maybe a little bit generalistic but you clearly state about a healing system/way to come out from those situations eventually by our own. This is really spreading hope to those that even being willing of help are not getting what they need specifically because the system is in "cut costs mode" or because there is not sufficiently spread awareness around the CPTSD.. what to do when you are left alone to deal with this? you here gave great hints to motivate this self-healing and understanding to cope with the external insufficiencies of the care system! BLESS YOU!
People never accept negative emotions. Im always the cause of my failures. Even if the neighbor don't let me sleep and i ask them to keep it down; even if i get pneumonia because of the air conditioning system in the workplace; even if my workpalce forbids to take notes on paper and i cannot learn from digital notes i need my drawings.... it is all my fault. And they make it very clear.
To get away such negative feedback i used to go away in society and live in the woods in a tent for weeks to heal. It helps a lot.
I've watched a few other channels and they're VERY good. But is it just me or is this woman an Angel?
She is doing what she is meant to do
This channel is going to be a big part of me rebuilding my self. I have only just begun watching, and I can see that with the help of "The Diamond Net" and Jung's work, I am about to make progress that previously I didn't even realise was there to be made!
Then you've nothing, no health issue
I disagree with your claim that no external source can be a source of trauma. In attachment theory, infants/humans are born with the innate nature to need to be emotionally attached to a primary caregiver; I digress, as infants we are not per say conscious of ourselves or of our internal experience, it is our attachment figures who lay the groundwork of how we feel, think, and behave later in life, and then adapt as such. Disorganized attachment is the breakdown of attachment, infants become confused of who they are because their caregiver did not properly attune to the emotional needs of the child, who is only perceiving their feelings and comfort from the parent/caregiver. This is a form of trauma that is caused from an external source, which I myself have had to get over via earned security. Regardless, this is a great video!!
As neurobiology continues to unfold with brain imaging, I expect that we will have a better answer for this. There is some possible truth in what she says. Albert Ellis wondered why two people going through the same experience would have different outcomes with all things being equal. Having been raised by a mother who appears to have either borderline or narcissistic personality disorder, however, it's difficult for me to say that no external source can be a source of trauma.
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It is true that we all have needs. So, being deprived of those needs will create a trauma. But the trauma is not directly caused by the external event or lack there-of. The trauma (as well as the resulting repressions, complexes, and neuroses) are created internally by unconscious mechanisms in response to those events. So, I'm not saying that external events have no role in creating the trauma. Rather, I'm saying that we often think that the way things go is "external problem>internal problems" when it really goes "external problem>internal protection mechanisms>lack of emotional processing due to said protections mechanisms>internal problems." So, it is not the external problem that creates our problem directly. It is the internal protections mechanisms that we create that result in our inability to process our emotions. So, to understand this, puts the power back in everyone's hands to internally resolve the emotions and to disassemble the inner protection mechanisms that are now unnecessary. As opposed to thinking, "Oh well, I didn't get the healthy attachment to a primary caregiver as an infant, so I guess I'm permanently damaged because I can never meet that external need." When we realize that all trauma is created internally, then we realize that we have the power in our hands to reintegrate and become whole no matter what happens to us... or doesn't happen to us for that matter.
+PIEPIE This is really great that you've thought this through so thoroughly. I thought of the analogy with the light bulb too and the fact that the ducks shake themselves off after a confrontation with another duck or predator, and it really rings true to me that so much our trauma occurs physically. And this is why the field of psychology, in its present mainstream state, is primarily focused toward coping and not actually healing. We haven't begun to explore the connection between the mind aspect of emotions and the body aspect of emotions as a society. We mostly are focused toward the brain/mind. I'm very impressed with how thorough that you've been in your exploration. I'm sure that you will be able to reintegrate fully and heal your wounds if you continue with your inner work. Best of luck on your journey! :)
Are you familiar with this book?
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The concept that the body IS the subconscious mind is really cool to consider. It feels right for me.
Thanks for reviewing the presentation, and for you kind words. Very appreciated.
There's lots of info in the presentation that I think could be helpful to many people going through similar stuff. Would you be interested in doing a video on this, where we discuss these topics?
I don't know how but this works. I've struggled with intense emotions for years due to toxic relationships and a cold, unloving childhood. Quieting my thoughts and focusing on the sensations in my body helped me let go of the anger and sadness that was plaguing me. The change has been so drastic. I am pleasantly surprised.
No not true when a person experiences abuse that comes from there environment they feel and experience what was done to them they process that through there emotions it's not just in the person's thoughts you react emotionally to the injustices that took away a feeling of safety in your world
True as thats
That's CPTSD completely different to PTSD
I had both
PTSD is much easier to heal/live with
Wow this really helped me heal properly from from the emotional suffering that I was going through. This put everything into perspective for me. Thank you very much!
Thank you so much for making this video. I can relate to your personal story and thinking. My path towards unmasking my shadow has just begun. Keep up the excellent work...
I went through severe trauma being physically , emotionally abused by my mother and being placed in foster care for 6 years being placed with a family for one year being told they would be my parents and then being ripped from that family and being placed with another foster family that showed me no love and provided the basics . I'm not sure how I made it but I delved into eastern philosophy and really looked within myself . I very rarely get panic or attacks and am free from depression . I still deal with the feeling of never feeling good enough and feeling stupid . I have always attracted angry aggressive partners or emotionally unavailable like my mother . I am a single mother to my daughter and have given up on relationships until I do more work on myself. Even though I bought my own house and works hard as I could I still struggle that I'm not enough . I wish I could come to terms and accept myself . Easier said than done . I always get in capital letters that I need to accept the situation and myself and accept my mother as wishing someone to change is just being in denial . Sending my love to everyone that is hurting x
I read I one of my psychology reports when I was a kid that I don't like feeling negative thoughts about people that I always like to see the positive which can have a flip side as to not feeling good enough that I am the problem
tuley bee you said two things i relate too
1. i think im stupid bc ppl tell tht.
2. i attract the dangerous and vicious type personalities, never the beautiful ppl bc they think tht i am what i aforementioned, it is very hard
I'm so sorry you went through that as a child
Ive been abused before as well, i can’t get over it. It still hurts, how did you heal?
U are more then enough GOD the creator of all things thought so and so should u. And teach ur daughter that she is also.
i'm aware of my trauma for over 7 years but the bad emotions keep comming
There are two levels on which traumas sustain themselves: 1. Intellectually - We have unconscious or conscious beliefs that allow for traumas to sustain themselves upon and even multiply themselves on. 2. Physically - Emotions store themselves in the central nervous system as a physical reality. In order to process through them, you should focus on the body sensation associated with the emotions with full awareness and without the mind pulling your attention away from the sensation. You can also "breathe into" the spot where you feel the emotional discomfort. You will feel subtle physical changes whenever you do this process. So much of our trauma is actual physical trauma from emotions that we weren't able to process through.
@@TheDiamondNet Maybe you need to update from Carl Jung. I personally like Jung. More has been learned about the brain in the last 30 years than most likely all of our history. "So much of our trauma is actual physical trauma from emotions that we weren't able to process through". No. According to modern day science emotional and physical pain are both connect to the same neurons in our brain. There is no physical trauma from our emotions. There can be physical pain which actually is emotional pain that is felt physically. Relieve the emotional pain and the physical pain goes bye bye. Neuroscience is cool maybe you should check it out.
@Krishna Patel it's good that you're aware of this, very good in fact. I'm going through the same exact thing, follow through the video, never ever talk negative to yourself, always be and stay in high and upbeat vibrations. Choose a place where people make you feel happy and important. This isn't your fault, I'm from India too and it's pretty common for Indian parents to behave this way and make us believe we re never good enough for something. Guess what. We will never be able to fill in their needs. So just stop trying to please them. Do what makes you happy and makes you feel like you're always from a good place. Also, try to break through your comfort zone and do the opposite of what you've pictured yourself as. If you give a negative self talk saying "oh I'm just so dumb and stupid" ask yourself why that is. After you've got the answer, try to do the opposite. Actions such as breaking through your comfort zone might be difficult at first. But after you've lured yourself into that place, you can be satisfied and proud. And always, always, be proud of the little actions you do. You're healing. Its okay to breakdown. Its not at all your fault. You'll be a much better person for yourself and the people around you. Try explaining to someone what you're going through. Most people will understand and help you through. They aren't all bad. Take care!❤
God will help heal. Prayer and self love is big 💕🌠
Okay peopllle what she meant by saying that traumatic experiences are not triggered by external occurrences is that it is not directly the fault of the external occurrence for your reaction. Different people react different ways to certain situations; some ignore it and others react strongly to it. Certain situations like lack infancy attachment would probably be traumatic in a certain way for almost everyone. It is true that inside of us there are certain habitual reactions to things based on our beliefs and just plain old human nature. So for everyone certain situations can become traumatic based on their emotional and mental wiring that makes them who they are. In my opinion it's almost a reflex to react in certain ways to certain situations, like how she said she was traumatized as a child because of how sensitive she was.
Ok, what u r saying is that she said all these, but the reality is no she didn't. This is something you r saying.
you should continue your youtube career because you are definitely saving lives, you should maybe even write a book about a culmination of your practical knowledge, i know it would be a bestseller for sure. please keep up your hard work, its amazing and thank you
This is a phenomenally clear explanation. Thank-you.
Thank God for this video. You are the best video I have seen on this. All the rest are therapists I do not trust ..while searching on RUclips. Thank you for your help and guidance
Super informative! Well explained and really resonated with me. Definitely one to observe closely. Thank you for the video, so good!
Wow! You’re a miracle!
And I’m just soo glad I’ve found you 🤗
I’ve been having a really bad and panicked traumatic regression all day non stop crying and sleeping I feel sick but your video has helped so much you are like an intelligent beautiful angel . Thank you for sharing your insights.
I'm sorry to hear that your day has been rough. I'm glad that my video has helped a bit, and I also hope that you are able to find more comfort and peace today and in the future. Until then, I wish you strength and wisdom.
I am certain that my trauma stems from my 5 straight years of bullying in elementary. The bullying never got physical, and I am grateful for that.
I see some people giving you shit in the comments, but i loved this. Its empowerment.
What about Kalief Browder? Solitary confinement? Constant physical abuse? Please watch this series and tell me how outside forces didn't create his trauma.
The trauma is created internally. But the triggers for the internal trauma reaction are often external. This is important to realize that the trauma reaction is self-contained within the body/mind complex. It's not to say that external situations don't play a role. They clearly do. But the trauma reaction is latent in the body/mind system already. It just gets triggered from the outside, but all of the stuff that causes trauma is on the inside as trauma exists tangibly and directly in the form of thoughts and emotions. This means that the power to resolve the trauma is also inside of one's self, and requires no external situation to be a certain way to resolve the trauma.
@@TheDiamondNet stop answering any unwanted comment!! You may become a subject to malpractice article.
Exactly!! Those who malpractice should be confided.
The Diamond Net the cause is the external impact. Your internal response is a defense mechanism (how you deal with that negative experience), a reaction. The CAUSE is the external. Without it, there is nothing that “triggers” your flight, fight or freeze senses. The external is also very important for many people in helping to heal trauma. There are different ways/modes to heal.
I think you should watch Oprah on 60 minutes about Trauma thst the scientist and others that she talks to.
Outside influences does cause trauma even if it's inside your mind that process it. It's what happens afterwards that helps you heal or not or if it turns into ptsd or a trauma. You need love and support from somewhere afterwards!
You are so awesome I was actually able to start to understand some things a little better. I'm looking forward to hearing more of your videos. Thank you ❤️
Great vid as always. I’ve been wondering, have you read „The Body Keeps the Score” by Bessel Van der Kolk? It’s possibly the best scientific exploration of the underlying mechanisms of traumatic memories and experiences, I highly recommend it in case you’ve got the time to read it, mind-blowing stuff based on this guy’s several decades’ worth of research and experience with thousands of traumatized people. It might also lead you to change some of the ideas you present in the video as well as shed new light on others.
One of the best presented videos on the topic I've seen. Thank you.
Love your work. Very insightful. I may also I recommend to write about your emotional experience. Writing, I have found, is very helpful in the awareness process. I would definitely not have become aware and in touch with my emotional reality, without writing.
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23:40 Don’t try to make a thought story out of being aware. Emotions are the bodies way of sending messages and if you resist the message the body will keep sending it
Thank you for your videos, they are very helpful to me in this time of confusion and solitude
thank you , this has helped my family a lot in the understanding of the PTSD that I suffer from, developed over 30 years of military service. So I have posted this to my friends, who also suffer from the latter. again thank you.
You're welcome. :) I'm glad that the video has been of help. Best of luck to you and your friends.
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My trauma was being struck in the head and receiving multiple concussions. I was referred to a neuro-psychiatrist, a neurologist, then a neurosurgeon. The neurosurgeon removed a malignant tumor the size of a grape and my cognitive abilities improved across the board. Some trauma can leave physical damage impairing the brain's ability to form and change beliefs. The concussion did not cause the tumor but investigating the concussive damage ended with the discovery and removal of a tumor.
Wow, your healings voice well received & well comprehensive. Thankyou for existing!
R u trying to recover from unpleasant poorly received voices ?? Kidding?? Traumatized that much ??
It’s exam week , 1:36am. Why am I up watching this ? And why is this more enjoyable now than during normal and less busy hours?
Wonderful to be blessed by such clarity and wisdom spoken by a beautiful human being.
My trauma effected me differently it made me feel my emotions so strong is scares me ... someone can say something bad to me and I just blow up and yell at them ... then after I’d regret it so much and get so depressed ... when I was a kid I word cry but when I entered middle and high school it became angry and rage ... I was bullied so much as a kid that it made me feel like I was worthless ... that I was nothing and didn’t deserve to be happy ... I was the perfect target overweight with a bad overbite and long hair ... I was also gay but I didn’t know yet but the other boys could tell I was different from them,.. and they made ...used me ... promised friendship in exchange doing what they like ... even when they picked on me they were Abel to manipulate me to do stuff for them ... didn’t help the whole school made a game about me... they called it the Eric touch ... it was just like the cheese touch ... except I was the cheese I could spread it but couldn’t pass it on ... then when I realize I was gay in early middle school... everything
Went dark ... My grades suffered my friends the few I had I pushed away I was scared people word know now that I knew but they already knew they always knew and they figured it out and rumors started ...and they made me scared everyday I was scared I’d be jumped everyday I thought I was going die ... it got so bad I stopped being afraid to die ...i felt trapped in the closet I never left my room I was scarred to let my family near me ... and now I’m 19 and came out to my family they support me ... I should be happy now ... but I’m not
this is an excellent video! I'm impressed. However, I can see why some of the commenters don't like the idea that they constructed their own trauma. It is a bit like, someone hits you and yes, your own body creates the welts and scars.. but still, the external event triggered the body's response. In any event, you have put together an excellent set of ideas. I like the idea that excessive ptsd-style triggering can gradually dissolve over time by being aware of beliefs and emotions, this is my experience. But it is important to never forget that some people will hurt you, and to protect yourself. It would be good if you could add your sources (even if only for further reading).
Hello. Could I ask how you (one) identifies limiting beliefs. There seems to be a complex ever changing soup of emotions thoughts and assumptions which often create confusion which further covers up what is happening. These thoughts may be conscious/unconscious or somewhere between. How is it possible to extract the relevant limiting thoughts from this complex landscape?
Sweet blessed soul also by your gut microbiome and factors like timeframe for after care if any. Especially for survivors of on going trauma situations, remember that the trauma is the price you pay to be here. Th3 fact that you are means you have the strength to heal. Namaste.
This has helped me so much it’s crazy, thank you for sharing your experience it’s extremely relatable
6:30 My trauma was fixed by a surgeon. Should I have solved my tumor problem internally by working on my emotions and not 'doing it to myself' when the part of the brain regulating my emotion was damaged and synapses were rendered inert. My 'trauma' was physical AND mental / emotional.
Love your videos. This one I struggle with being that I have a chronic pain disease that is caused from a build up of trauma. Its called crps and came from a friggin sprained ankle. It's a situation with the nervous system becoming stuck. I've had it 3.5 years. It can spread and many end up in a wheelchair. I want to believe I can heal. I really do. The medical condition is said to have no cure. I had just had a major fibroid surgery before falling. 11 hour surgery and it was truly horrible having flashbacks of being molested and raped coming out of anesthesia. Also tryingbtonsit still in recovery for the first time in my life. I've been working so hard to work on myself hoping it will help my leg. Crps spread from my ankle to my hip. At night I feel it in both legs. Feels like I'm being crushed under a car when it's just the covers on the bed. I've been trying to break pattern of victimization for years. Always learning. Just wanted to give a shout out for those of us suffering from CRPS / RSD and fibromyalgia. These are very real things that seem to happen when our trauma isn't dealt with earlier in life. Get it people! I'm 47 now and I am determined not to end up in a wheelchair atleast. Much love
Hey Emarald,
I enjoyed this video particularly. You have so many examples that I can relate to. For instance keeping my emotions bottled up because of teasing.
Keep making your wonderful videos, and thanks a bunch! 😊
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Thank you so much for this video. As I walk now with Christ in my healing from childhood abuse and a school shooting I found this video very helpful. You are a Godsend.
Because of this vid u can walk in Christ....wow 😳
I understand what you mean but healing takes times and has stages. Even when one has the knowledge you’re giving here, it TAKES TIME! It should never be forced. And yes expressing is the way to go, not to everyone. Expressing is IMPORTANT! Again it depends on the traumatic problem. EVERYONE is different, it’s NOT one size fits all.
She give one size, because she's a taker with inflamed ego, NOT because she gives the knowledge.
I was traumatized about 3 hours ago when a drunk driver rolled across our yard and almost crashed into the side of our neighbor's house. I had to call 911, and I never want to do it again. I'm 15... That kind of stuff scares me and I don't want to drive anymore... All I keep thinking is "What if..." like what if my little brother was still playing in the yard? What if the driver crashed head first into the tree? What if there was no tree, in which case, I would most likely have been injured from glass or something. I don't know what to do with myself. I kind of want to ask my dad to make me an appointment with my old therapist, but I don't know if my "trauma" is severe enough for that.
This is the best site; great job on the straight forward, understandable education
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thanks for your video. The sound of your video fluctuates... just wanted to tell you to record all the clips with the same sound settings.
Going back to my center.
Thx i Will start work tomorrow and there Will be triggers thats ok. Healing.
You did great, informational and presented very sincere and genuine. You opened up my mind- thank you
Thank you for posting your findings, this is very helpful
You’re really smart and very informative. Thank you for taking your time to help other or simply just educate the public :)
Great!!!
all the stuff about being aware is good, you just forgot to mention one thing. you need energy to be aware and to be attentive. One can not be aware when there is lack of energy. I've tried it.
This was so great and helpful! Thank you so much for taking the time to make this video and share it with all of us.
The only way to end pain is to feel it. Something like that said poet Rumi. I can corroborate it.
Two of Pentacles Actually, no. Re-experiencing trauma is not necessary for healing because it’s stored in the body. That’s science.
Did you 4nd yours that way ?? Or just quoting poetry here.
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Wow, excellent explanation. Bravo! Thank you
I was bullied at school, home and by neighbors. A deranged man tried to kill me and a friend at age 9, cops nabbed him and he vanished-Ventura, CA 1971 Older bro robbed me for drug $ dad and mom passed when i was 11 - Had lousy foster parents - Ran away and wound up in music Biz later actor. I think God guided me to success.
I have childhood PTSD neglect and not wanted by my mum, horrible childhood school bullying daily . Did arson at 14 to get back at my mum then put in care, but I was happier there. Lost my dad 3yrs ago too now no family or pals.
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I'm sorry. How are you doing now? Are you getting support?
Cannot thank you enough! This video is a lifesaver 💙
I don’t know if u have psychology degree or what but this is an amazing explanation and helps enormously!
Gracias ☺️
You are an asset to the Psychology industry! Extremely useful segment. ("Heinz 57"...I love your usage of this metaphor....)... also...you've come a long way since your childhood. You are indeed captain of your own kayak! ♥️🙏👍
I am getting beyond slipping into a trauma reaction. It takes a new reaction, to program in. But earlier on.... it took actually realizing that I was re-traumatizing myself.
Thank you very much for this elaborate explanation
I liked everything you said on this topic. And I'd like to add that elements that methods such as EFT, Sedona Method and some others bring often speed up healing traumas a lot. I often help people heal their traumas in one session, and occasionally they heal more than one trauma in one session. Although, some people do the same in a couple of minutes by doing what you described - just focusing on emotions and sensations.
I know of the Sedona Method but I've not tried it before. Glad to hear that you've had a lot of success in your practice. :D
Thank you for sharing your wisdom and past.
There is awareness, then there are the things you are unaware of subconsciously. I am finding that many behaviors or things I have "always done" were symptoms of my Trauma, for example my swearing, I never thought of it as a bad thing. I've always swore and it has always been part of my vocabulary. I am respectful about it though, I don't swear when I conduct business, I'm careful around littles and those who find it offensive but just like smoking, its a habit formed. It's obviously not a good thing if it is offensive. If I have to consider who is around to do it or end up feeling bad, then why do it? It is my outlet. A poor coping method I developed to express the negative energy I absorb throughout the day and don't think other peoples energy doesn't subconsciously effect you and yours on to them. We continually receive and transmit how we are feeling. My subconscious had been screaming for help about my past experiences and I wasn't aware of it. My subconscious has been needing me to acknowledge what I went through in order to process through them... As I strip away the parts of me that are connected to them, I am finding that I am not the same person I was. I am changing, becoming who I was supposed be had I not been through the experiences I endured as a child. It's scary because I don't know who I am now. I am just staring blankly at a white canvas trying to figure out what I want my masterpiece to look like while looking up videos about how to heal from this now that I know what has been wounded.
Thanks again for this very clear explanation. It is empowering.
Thank You Heaps!!!! I Like the Way You Express & Communicate This Information that is Really Relevent to Me & What I am Going Through At The Moment. Very Interesting, Very Inspiring, Very Helpful & Beneficial & Very Empowering. Thank You Heaps!!!! Bless You ALL With Unconditional Love & Light Energy, Peace, Happiness & Compassion, God Bless, Thank You!!! God Bless!!!! Peace!!! CHEERS!!!!
Loving your videos
Thank you! :)
really good vid gurrrrrl, enjoy your calm frank manner.
Then what if the trauma I think I'm experiencing is actually true me having just unawarely healed my traumas? What if I'm just so fixed on traumatized me? Someone stop me from overthinking please
I liked all of this except I'm confused by the last part of the final step - you say don't try to interpret or think about your emotions as they arise, and you also say that the emotions are messengers telling us things. How can I know what the messages are if I don't try to think and decipher the messages when the emotions arise? Isn't it useful to know what my emotions are telling me (which requires some thinking and deciphering) so I can be aware of why I'm feeling what I'm feeling? Or are you suggesting that it's not important to know why, and it's more important to focus on accepting and acknowledging the emotions? Thanks for your input.