I used to be like that when I was a teenager unfortunately, I'd save pictures of girls I thought were attractive to a concerning extent. I had folders upon folders. I'd delete them every once in awhile in hopes of stopping the cycle. Id make genuine attempts to stop but it always failed. And it didnt stop until I gave myself purpose beyond the confines of my upbringing as a child. One of my biggest regrets since its not good at all for your mental health. No good excuse for it. Just a bit bewildered that this man did it while "in love" with someone and in a relationship. It doesnt sound like he's lonely too. So definitely run for the hills. 9/10. If not, the girl should understand he likely wont change for a long time. And that if given the opportunity, he'd cheat. Hes not a secure person to be with and I dont think he loves her at all. At least not enough to surrender himself. Love is about surrender, and doing whats best for the person they love. Its clear to me he does not feel that deep about her, or at least he is incapable of summoning the will to commit to such a change. And to that I say he does not love her enough.
Run baby girl, run.
Agreed
I used to be like that when I was a teenager unfortunately, I'd save pictures of girls I thought were attractive to a concerning extent. I had folders upon folders.
I'd delete them every once in awhile in hopes of stopping the cycle. Id make genuine attempts to stop but it always failed. And it didnt stop until I gave myself purpose beyond the confines of my upbringing as a child.
One of my biggest regrets since its not good at all for your mental health.
No good excuse for it.
Just a bit bewildered that this man did it while "in love" with someone and in a relationship. It doesnt sound like he's lonely too.
So definitely run for the hills. 9/10.
If not, the girl should understand he likely wont change for a long time. And that if given the opportunity, he'd cheat. Hes not a secure person to be with and I dont think he loves her at all. At least not enough to surrender himself.
Love is about surrender, and doing whats best for the person they love. Its clear to me he does not feel that deep about her, or at least he is incapable of summoning the will to commit to such a change. And to that I say he does not love her enough.