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I am 52 years old, been to many viewings in my life. The absolute worst was the viewing of a coworker's infant daughter who died during heart surgery. There were so many visitors the line went out around the back of the funeral home. The crisis came when the baby's great-grandfather was having chest problems and was taken away by ambulance. I never heard if he made it because I never felt comfortable asking about him. I feel terrible about it now. I never have seen so many people in such grief. The parents, understandably, had a puke bucket they were often needing. Just horrible
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I am so sorry for your loss of Eddie. My oldest son died 23 years ago, at 23 months, 2 weeks before his 2nd birthday, unexpectantly. I kissed him all over his face in his casket and the funeral director gave me a weird look. But I knew this was the last time I could give Josh some love. Have you seen another mother do this?
You are his mother. It was your right to kiss him. I am certain many mothers have done so. Don't let anyone shame you for it. Ever.
I have seen deceased people in a clinical setting but seeing them in a casket is much more emotional for me.
I completely agree. I find seeing someone in a coffin highly emotional but would rather see someone in a clinical setting. I think it’s because it feels less final.
Is it people in caskets that you know? Or doesn’t it matter?
In a clinical setting, it’s usually a cadaver you don’t know, so that’s a different thing altogether.
Really just curious.
It very hard seeing a loved ones in casket
Hospital bed is fine. Casket is creepy and unnatural.
Losing my youngest brother was very difficult and viewing him was one of the hardest things I've ever done but I'm glad I did.
When my grandfather died, I was one of the first people in the funeral home for the viewing and immediately fainted when I viewed his body because I was so grief-stricken and shocked. Thankfully the funeral director was able to handle it very well and to this day I'm very thankful with how kind they were.
I went to view my dad last month when he passed. I was so relieved to see he looked so peaceful. It brought me a real sense of relief. He had suffered a long illness and he looked about 20yrs younger. Sounds strange but I took a photo of him, never ever to be shared but for me, and I look at it regularly to remember how peaceful and nice he looked. I was so scared as my grandmother did not look peaceful. But I was only 14 then, I’m 42 now. It’s such a personal experience viewing a family member, my brother did not want to go and that was fine. But my mum and my eldest son all got a great sense of peace from going and it really helped my grief to know he was truly at peace, wherever he is. Thanks for making these videos
The funeral industry always was intriguing to me...
Thank you for what you do.... I lost my Dad in 2016... and just now beginning to feel "normal".... the new "normal".. I miss him.. thank you for being real.....
I’m sorry for your loss of your friend Eddy.
Thanks for your honesty about feeling emotional. I had a very hard time of it when our beloved Lhasa Apso dog Cinnamon had to be put down. It really broke my heart.
I am so sorry, Radio Ham, over the losss of your precious dog, even it has been 2 years.
it took me forever to walk up to my Daddies casket, it just hurt to bad
I’m so sorry for your loss. Eddie sounds like he was an amazing man. I just lost my dad and they’re are still days when the pain is just too much.
scrapper900 me two it's been almost 20 years since my dad died and still miss him
My sister and I were terribly saddened by the loss of our dad. When grief turns to nostalgia and tears come with a smile, you'll know grief is turning into fond memories. It's happened for us and I hope it will happen for you someday.
Never apologize for it being emotional , it gives a sweet touch to know that even those who deal everyday with death still have moments that their heart aches and feels that grief ...
For myself working in hospice I cry with many patients families after they pass ...
this was a very well done video 🌷🙏🦋
I worked with retired priests in an assisted living facility, and i cried when they died.
One of my favorites was slowly dying, we had to turn him to prevent bed sores, and to change him and his sheets, and I'll never forget this for as long as I live. We were changing him, and it was so painful for him, he would beg me please Kristin no, no don't. I couldn't help it the tears were just pouring down my face and i kept saying I'm sorry I have to I'm so so sorry.
I stayed until they all passed, then I quit. I loved my time there, I cherished it! It was like i had 10 grandpa's, it was the best, and some of the worst times of my life. I could never go through that again, but I'm so glad I did!! Now i say I have connections up there haha.
Miss them all the time, and i think about them all often, even tho it's gotta be going on over ten years ago now. They changed my life and I'll always love them!!
Thank you for what you do, it's such a very hard job!!
It was so nice to see the emotion when you talked of Eddie. You could really see how much he meant to you and for you to talk about your experience was so brave.
Eddie died a short time before my husband’s Aunt. This Friday, February 1, will be 2 years. I am having a hard week. This Aunt has been close to my husband all his life. She became a very close friend of mine very quickly, and then once my husband and I married, even more so. In 2006 she was diagnosed with Lupus. The following year, I was diagnosed with chronic daily migraines, then a few years later, Fibromyalgia. Our illnesses were completely different, but we both experienced chronic daily pain. She understood my life, and I understood her life in that way. She died very unexpectedly at age 58, on February 1, 2017. It’s been hard for all of us. My children were very close to her. We all miss her so much. As time has gone on, we are accepting her death, as we really have no choice. But we also are remembering the joy and love she gave us. I hope the same has been for your memories of your friend Eddie.💜❤️
Amazing story about Eddie. And you are so right about grief not having a time frame. September will be two years since I lost my mother and I still have a very hard time with it. Great video.
David Grub every situation and relationship is different. I don’t believe we ever “get over” a death, but we learn how to live around it.
Little Miss Funeral great video and well put.....we live and function around the loss but never get truly over it....keep up your good work:)
I'm Polish too. I wish my parents would have discussed death with us when we were young. I remember bring terrified going to my grandparents funerals, so much so that it clouded what should have been solemn memories of the day.
Sorry for your loss.
Eddie is so proud of you sweetie! He's with you all the time, cheering you on. Much love to you, and your sweet Eddie.
Caitlin Weems thank you so much 💗
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When I watched your video, your emotions about Eddie came through so strong that it made me cry. I guess that since I am not a funeral director but I buried so many friends serving at my church plus a wife and mother that your emotions triggered mine. Would I live to be doing what you get to do? The answer is absolutely Yes
When my wonderful wife found out she had terminal lung cancer and she asked not to visit once she had passed away. I did go and see her in the chapel of rest and I'm glad I did. She passed away in arms and I just wanted to see her one more time
I am so sorry for your loss. I hope that you are able to move on with your own life now. I don't mean to forget your wife. I just mean that you can now wake up and your first thoughts aren't about your wife. I was like that for a very long time after my first husband passed away suddenly from a heart attack. I forgot how to be happy, and I felt so guilty about laughing, or even finding that something that was funny. I felt like I had no right to laugh again. I had forgotten to keep living after the loss of my partner, and it took a very long time (years) to realise he would not want me to be bogged down by such sadness. I think that he's always watching over me, and wants me to live the life that he didn't get to live. And to do that I had to be able to leave the house! It took me so long to do that.. It was easier to just stay put. My friends stopped asking me to go out and by the time I did want to go out, I no longer had anyone to go out with! I'd been faithful to his memory instead of learning to get on with my own life.
I sincerely hope that you don't do that to yourself, and I wish you the very best : )
I'm very sorry to hear that you lost one of your co-workers and friend ... it doesn't matter what profession we're in ... we're all human and we definitely react differently especially when it comes to loved ones and friends ... I heard you mention a situation when a visitor had a syncopal episode in the visitation room and you called 911 for the Paramedics ... first of all, thank you for your kind words about them ... I was a Paramedic for 30 years and although I had to be professional ... I to experienced different emotions when being called to assist family members and people whom I knew well ... but as I said, I guess it's all part of being human and of that I would not change anything. Thanks again for all your educational and very interesting videos.
Raymond Taylor I can relate to what you’re saying. I’ve been a church organist for going on 30 years, and I think the ones that were the toughest were when my grandparents died (I have a grandmother that’s still living.) I was asked to play for the first grandfather’s funeral in 1991, but I felt that I was so distraught that I couldn’t do it, although as luck would have it, the limousine ended up getting a nail in the tire, so I wouldn’t have gotten there in time (this was before I started driving.) I played for my other grandfather’s funeral, and was able to keep my composure, but when I played for my grandmother’s, I was able to keep my composure until I got into the car. I think that one was harder for me, because she lived a lot closer to us than the other ones (we live in Massachusetts, while the other grandparents lived in Pennsylvania-actually the one grandmother still lives there in the Philadelphia area.) Another tough one was when my cousin died at 17, from injuries from a motorcycle crash. He had just graduated from high school a month or so earlier.
Raymond Taylor I'm from the uk and have nothing but respect for paramedics regardless of the country so thankyou for your service, my mother died in march but the paramedics managed to save her life on numerous occasions xxx
I lost my dad in May of this year, he was Jewish so the Ira Kaufman Funeral, here in Southfield MI handled everything, they were so great. When I viewed him it was so difficult but soothing. Most def can relate to your emotions.
Stephen Greenberg I’m so sorry to hear about your dad, but I’m so glad that you had a positive experience viewing him. The funeral home a family decides to work with can make a huge difference (positive or negative)
Little Miss Funeral thanks for responding! I concur a million percent.
Stephen Greenberg I’m so sorry for your loss! I know exactly where that funeral home is located. It’s very nice and has a large parking lot too.
@@2010gettingmyman thank you so much! God bless you!
Stephen Greenberg You’re welcome! God bless you!
this was obviously a very emotional story for you to tell so I really appreciate you verbalizing it for all of us. there's never any shame in your natural reactions and you needn't ever apologize for being emotional
Rachel McEwing I know I never have to apologize for my emotions, but it’s still in my nature to do so! It’s funny how time can pass by and when you talk about certain experiences those emotions come running to the surface
@@LittleMissFuneral As you said ,you have had to deal with people who faint(pass out ) when they see their loved ones. As a person who has epilepsy ,I want to let you (and your friend Keith)what to do in case someone has a seizure. First of all-you NEED TO PUT THEM ON THEIR SIDE,this is important because some people who have a seizure might get sick to their stomach (vomit )and if they're lying on their back,they can choke on it(it will go the lungs)also call 911-ESPECIALLY CALL 911 IF THEY DON'T COME OUT OF THE SEIZURE (Start having an another one).Also if they stop breathing. After the seizure ends,have someone stay with the person as they will be confused (some people have short term memory loss-they WON'T RECOGNIZE PEOPLE OR WON'T KNOW THEIR OWN NAME(That happened to me ).Fortunately I have been seizure free for a long time now and try to educate people on what to do in case someone has a seizure -the information that I gave you ,I got from my neurologist(seizure doctor )
Rachel McEwing do you guy always have to where dark colors like gray & black I bearly see any red or anything.
@@lunaaj303
Wearing bright colours like red in a funeral home? No, I think not!
7:25 a lot of bravery, be proud of yourself to have the courage to say this
Lauren, I am so glad I came across this video again. I have seen it before, but for me, it is perfect timing. A good friend passed. Very unexpectedly 3 weeks ago. 2 weeks ago, was his viewing/funeral/burial. Up until the viewing, comforting his family was keeping it all from becoming too heavy. I needed to see him casketed, and at both the viewing, to process his death. The viewing was difficult. My husband was with me, thankfully. I had my time with my friend, and said some things I needed to. He actually looked really good, and the staff at the chapel was wonderful. At the funeral I was alone, so that was a bit more difficult. Seeing his children and sister cry and grieve, along with the grief I was feeling, was rough. Seeing his mom wail for her son, was excruciating. I have a son, and I just can’t imagine. I don’t know if you see this commonly, but the hardest part for me, was when they closed his casket for the final time. Unfortunately, I was not able to go to the cemetery, because I had a migraine by the end of his service , so I came home and cried for the whole rest of the day. I guess we all process grief differently. I think it takes someone special to do what you do. I can tell you have a heart for helping the families in a kind and empathetic way, yet you are able to take care of the business that needs to be done. You don’t need to apologize for being emotional.
I find it interesting that you say you serve a predominantly Polish population. My husband’s family is from Watertown, New York, and they are Polish as well. For some reason, you remind me of them (they are wonderful warm people, and I am so lucky to be loved by them. I love their traditions and the way they do things.).
Please don't apologize for getting emotional...it just means you're human. Thank you for sharing. Because of your videos, I have a deeper appreciation for funeral directors, especially during these trying times. In some cities, they are overwhelmed due to deaths from COVID-19.
BTW -- anyone with Polish heritage should check out the Winged Hussars - they were a remarkable military force. There are numerous videos about them on YT. They were an undefeated force for about 200 years, I think.
My friend got sick at her moms funeral, that night she past on. The family went through a lot that week. Losing their mom and the daughter
Oh gosh 💔
People tend to forget that funeral directors are human beings with human feelings, too. I wonder if your response to Eddie's death was a delayed, repressed reaction to your grandfather's death. Since you were too young to fully appreciate the finality of death and a host of other reasons you may have not been able to mourn his passing until you lost your friend, Eddie. I suspect you also had transferred some of your feelings for your grandfather to Eddie and created a "proxy" grandfather figure in him. But it's always difficult to lose people we love and everyone grieves in his or her own way and in his or her own time. Thank you for sharing your personal experiences. You have no idea just how many people you may be able to help.
There still miss him so much.
I’m 14 and been too 12 funerals for my friends and one for my grandpa and every time the smell of them was comforting what is the smell
Thank you for sharing this story🙏 so very sorry about your friend Eddie 😞
My grandmother died when I was 10. While I did go to the visitation/viewing, I chose not to attend the funeral. That is a decision I have NEVER regretted. That was in 1984. When my father died in 2004, I wanted no part in planning for his funeral, but felt I had no other choice but to be there. I did not want to attend his funeral, but was told I HAD to by my siblings. I've regretted not standing up for myself and not going for 14 years. When my mother found out this happened, she told me it was and is always my decision whether or not I'm going to attend a funeral. No matter who it is. I wish I'd talked to her about it in 2004. Seeing a body is not in any way my issue. I go to visitation without any problem. I was with my adopted grandmother a few years ago when she died. I would never trade anything for that experience. But funerals are NOT for me!!!
Caroline Crenshaw my dad and my brother are the same. My dad did not go see his mom ( my grandma) in the casket nor my grandpa. My husband did not go to his parents funeral, he said he wanted to remember them alive. He did go see them at the nursing home , before they past , 2 months apart. Now his family hates me even more because they say it was me who did not let him go and say his good bye
8 years is a long time... thank you for sharing this story.
Here I am, after Christmas lunch, watching your videos. Thank you for always providing us with an insight into your calling.
Thanks for sharing an important part of your life!
Thank you for sharing such a personal and heartfelt story Lauren. I hope to work in the field with someone as caring and professional as you one day. You were and are so blessed to have had Eddie and the others who you work with now. It seems that you are a big family xoxo
Growing up, I viewed many people, mainly senior citizens, during their wakes. I wasn't weirded out by it at all. When I first saw my 8 year old daughter in her casket, my reaction was absolute shock, even though logically I knew what to expect. She looked like she was asleep. But I was unprepared for how very cold her body was.
I remember asking the funeral director for a blanket but she kindly said it wouldn't help.
I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter. I would have given you the blanket.
Katherine, receiving a blanket would have been a very kind gesture. thank you.
Lauren,Little Miss Funeral,you are a lovely person!!Listening to you,I cried again ,about the loss of my husband,and that's ok.Thanx for helping me do that!!
have u ever had a situation where the family get too much touching their loved ones ?
When I was in high school a friend Beth drowned at a swimming match
At the wake during the rosary there was a scream and quite comotion when the mother ran to the casket and tried to pick her up. Though not out of the casket she did move the body - it was horrible and i have never seen such grief.
The funeral people made all of thete guest step out- and closed the door - they did let the mother and family stay while they repositioned her.
they then let the people who came for calling hours to come in / i noticed mom was sitting bewteen 2 women - Also the funeral director or his assistant stayed by the head of the casket for the rest of the calling hours which happened with no other incidents.
silentfades The Mother will probably not get over her loss. I pray she has.. not strange at all
Very touching when you are mentioning Eddie it shows that you are real about your relationship with him even though you have been seeing so many resting people in the funeral home. I've been watching your RUclips channel for a few days now and it's made me want to follow my dreams of working in the funeral business because I've wanted to do it for a few years now and I'm now 31 I'm now understanding that it's never too late to start learning.
I know those feelings I found my friend on his bedroom floor so the day of visitation I could not bring myself to walk up to his casket it was to hard all I could see was my friend on the floor love all your videos
I almost made one of my aunts sick at her mother's funeral(my grandmother). This was about six years ago. The thing is, is that my Aunt Donna has always been a wild woman. She left Detroit in 1980 for Dallas, TX and became even crazier. So, my grandmother died in hospice care after a long battle with emphysema, leaving no need for autopsy. At the viewing, after most people had left, Aunt Donna decided she wanted to see if the funeral director put Grandma's shoes on. This was not innocent curiosity either. She was giggling, being silly. She started to climb in Grandma's casket to look! Having been to mortuary school, I don't take messing around with a body to be funny at all. I wanted to pull her back, but I was 8 1/2 months pregnant at the time(I'm a teeny, tiny woman). So while her sisters were trying to get her to come down, I said, "You better thank your lucky stars that Grandma wasn't autopsied. Otherwise you would find a bag full of her viscera down by her feet!" Her face turned pale and she climbed out of the casket, darting towards the ladies room with her hand covering her mouth. I chased her down, apologized, and explained everything better. I felt terrible for everything, but we just wanted her to conduct herself better inside the funeral home.
BTW, I'm basically all of Polish heritage, so I know exactly which traditions you are talking about. They are the same here in the Rust Belt/Detroit-area too, LOL.
I just started working in this field and my first arrangement was a friend of mine and it was an honor to help this family. I not only arranged it, I performed the service as I am an Ordained minister that actually went to Bible college. Then after the viewing, I cremated her. I’m 51 and retired military. I wish I did this along time ago.
Thank you for sharing your story.
Never apologize for your emotions as it shows that you keep it real and it is a witness of your heart as to what you are doing. Still a little emotional but I think that I needed to feel this too. Thank you and I did subscribe...Blessings always.
Thank you so very much for sharing your experience with us. Your in my prayers
I already know that I'd never make it in that kind of work due to my experience - I've only ever seen one dead body in person in my life so far (thankfully it hasn't been anyone in my immediate family), but we lost my grandmother back in the mid 90's when I was in college. I was interested in what the experience might be like, but we weren't super close (only saw her on summer vacations growing up), so I didn't think it would be a huge deal to see her, and to see a funeral in person.
On the day, I didn't even want to be in the same room with her. Being part of the family, we of course sat in the front, and I had to keep my eyes down to avoid looking at her. When we stood up for the actual final viewing before they closed the casket, I could only manage a brief view, and how she looked like she was asleep, but that was enough for me - I left the chapel and didn't come back in until it was all over. I can't even imagine how it will be whenever my immediate family members die. I'm not sure I could handle it at all.
You see this stuff on TV all the time on Law & Order or other cop/medical shows, but seeing it in person is a WHOLE different animal...
Bryan Sproles it’s so difficult because every single death is different. I had a hard time with Eddie, but when my grandfather died, who I was very close with, I had no problem being in the room with him. You never know how you’ll react until you’re in the situation. Thank you for sharing your experience.
Bryan Sproles I've seen about 6 dead bodies up to now but I completely understand where you're coming from and different bodies I've had different reactions, when I was 16 I seen my grandad and I was terrified, he looked awful but then I started working in a nursing home where death was part of the job, I had both good and bad experiences! My mother died in march and my 14 year old daughter found her and she'd been dead all night, was stiff and had purge fluid coming from her eyes nose and mouth so obviously she was terrified! I seen my mother the night she died and other than the purge she looked ok but it took 3 weeks to bury her due to extreme snow (funeral director was stowed off with funerals) i was dreading going to see her because of the length of time plus she needed an autopsy! When I went in she looked amazing considering, and I even managed to stay in the room on my own with her for a while, my daughter was reluctant to see her in her coffin but I let her decide and she decided to see her and it gave her huge comfort and took away the image of the night she found her! My son who's 11 and terrified of death even came in (more through curiosity) and was terrified but he's since said he's so glad he did it! My partner didn't like it at all though, I guess what I'm saying is not every body looks the same and you may feel differently when the time comes again xxx
My mom had minor surgery done awhile back, and the doctors told us she was on a ventilator and she was taking longer than expected to wake up from the anesthesia. When I got there to see her in person, with all kinds of tubes in, helping her breathe, I just broke down crying and left the room. The day my mom goes, I'm gonna be a sorry mess of a person for a LONG time. That's how close she is to me.
And I *still* may not be able to look at her at the end...
Bryan Sproles we had a similar experience with my mother before she passed where the drs told us she wouldn't make the night (she did and died a year later from something completely different) but it's left me with huge anxiety of drs/hospitals etc, souns silly but she died suddenly and at the time I was obviously shocked but now looking back it was better that way because i and more importantly she would have hated us sitting round a bed waiting for her to pass! Losing a parent is awful (I've lost both and I'm only 36) but you learn to live with the pain! Still miss and think about her every day though xx
@@bryansproles2879 I think the best thing you can do now is make sure she knows you love her so she can appreciate it now and then you will know you didn't leave anything important unsaid. I hope this helps you find peace.
Very beautiful and moving video.
Wow, you did so well to get through that talk about eddie, without crying, you almost cracked a few time, I'm a person that's fine with death and dead body's excetra, but woman you had me balling. You are such a sweet woman and your doing a fab job. Keep it up.
Little miss funeral I just purchased some of the books you suggested. I can not wait until they get here! Love your channel!!
Michelle Bergeron thank you! I’m so excited for you to read them, I love all the books I’ve talked about on here!
I just clicked on your video because it was recommended, and I’m so glad I did. You are such a sweet soul. It touched my heart when you got choked up about Eddie because it shows your tender human side even though you are constantly surrounded by death in your profession. I hope you have found comfort and peace in the time since this experience. I have a dear friend who is a legitimate spiritual medium. She has shown me again and again how we coexist with our loved ones who have passed on. She’s a beautiful soul who truly connects with heaven. She has brought me peace and enlightenment, and I no longer fear death. It’s truly the most amazing gift. I am subscribing to your channel. If you are ever interested in knowing more about my friend, let me know. God bless. ❤️
Wow!!! You are incredible. Spoken from the heart. I worked in aged care and then became a florist. I have been a part of some of the best and worst times of peoples lives. And held many hands as they left this World. And wish that I could have held many more but didn't get the chance. I have had to say goodbye to too many loved ones (family,friends,mentors) without that.
Knowing that there are caring people like you looking after our loved ones is a comfort.
Thank you
I worked in a small family run funeral home also. I did have a bit of trouble viewing children, especially babies. It was very difficult for me. However, with my friends...I kind of just talked to them and joked with them as usual, I think it was my way of coping with the pain of loss. I was able to view my Daddy and I knew he wasn't ill and no longer in pain, that gave me so much peace. I think working as an assistant was very therapeutic for me. I wasn't able to see my niece do to her being in a car wreck/fire. But I still felt at ease and was able to do her Eulogy. I am enjoying your channel & thank you so much for the truthfulness in your statements.
Thank you for sharing yourself! Does make you think!!
You are such an amazing person!!
Hi! I recently got into watching your channel and I related very much to this video, I had experiences with death and funerals of people I didn’t really know before but when my grandpa died it was especially rough, and the worst part is that what the funeral home did to him made him look not like himself at all, and it scarred me because this was the first death that really affected me and then I was traumatized by the memory picture I was presented with, I still have nightmares and can’t go to an open casket viewing to this day
I can completely relate to your story about losing Eddie. I am a nurse and deal with death nearly every day but when I lost my grandfather (who was basically my Dad) I fell apart to a million pieces.
I still can't handle Taps being played because it takes me right back to his service.
I truly admit folks in the death care business because it seems so hard to maintain the emotional detachment needed to do what is needed.
When my Ma died, I was so emotionally kicked up because we had been very close, I was crippled. I knew I wouldn't be able to handle a viewing (no offense, but even the best restorative artists in your field cannot overcome the fact that your immediate client is dead & will appear to be so no matter what). Thank God Mom made it plain how much she detested that during her life. It gave me the courage to put my foot down & killed that dead before it became a fight...🙃.
Long story semi-shortened is what you said about processing death & grief is true. There's no right way to deal w/it & people need to keep the in mind before bullyragging someone to express their pain in the "right way". Why? Because there is simply no right way. And, again, I know that this special person in your life occasionally still brings up pain, but you do a good job in using that to help others. I'm sorry for your lost & grieve w/you.
When you are close to the person, things get real. That's normal. Not easy, but normal.
Hi I have just come across your channel . I find it so interesting. I come from the UK we do these things so much different to you there . We would have normally have private viewings here for example when I went to see my father it was just myself and my cousin .
Our societal procedures for dealing with the deceased have changed over time. It has not always been a common thing to use professionals to handle our departed love ones. 150+ years ago, the family and the surrounding community had to deal with the burial themselves, and people were much more accustomed to seeing and dealing with the deceased. Nowadays most people are not conditioned to deal with this time in a loved ones life. Thank you for your work, I know it can be challenging.
When the undertakers come and got my mum they were brillant;I asked for her grandchildren to sa goodbye and they were so caring and understanding they stepped back and let her grand children go in to say goodbye.I like to know how you help people say goodbye to they loved ones.You do a great job i know i could not do it
Really amazing story, I'm a embalmer in Jamaica 🇯🇲 Really understand your story...
Hope your hubby knows and appreciates what a gem he has.
There are all kinds of love thank you for sharing your feelings like I said before awesome
I felt your pain and you know what, its ok I felt this way at my brothers wake and funeral
I am first generation Italian specifically Sicilian. My family is so dramatic especially at funerals. Some of their drama is put on but some true grief. My ex husband's dad died after a short illness. His parents had a contentious divorce as my ex mother in law flew to Mexico got divorced & married her boss all without telling her husband & kids. At the wake my ex mother in law showed up & a fist fight broke out, the casket fell backward & the top slammed. WOW I was all of 20 years old at the time. Im now a retired RN & Ive seen a lot of very sad situations. Your job is more about the family, their wishes & expectations.
Thank you for answering my question n how you was real in the video I am not really a doctor tho lol it was from a TV show my first name is Ben have a Blessed day
the doctor I thought it was a great question! Nice to meet you Ben :)
No wondering you have no difficult doing this.i remember hanging on to my grandfather's casket saying no I'm not leaving my grandpa no .we were close loved him so much. My parents had to drag me. Out of
Don't underestimate your time and wisdom of a director. I not in this business, but I am much older than you and still believe eight years into a given professiin makes you an well-established and likely very knowledgeable.
I have been to Poland twice. Visiting Warsaw, Jasna Gora, Krakow my favorite Polish city. Poznan and my favorite place to visit, which i would recommend to anyone. The salt mine at Wieliczka. I cannot wait to return to Poland again. As a Scottish Highlander, i have always been warmly welcomed in Poland. I have had perogi and Wild boar stroganof, superb. Also enjoyed a dance with the folk dance group Krakowski.. My youngest brother and his wife enjoy Krakow as well. One other thing that i admire the people of Poland for. Was how they behaved during the Warsaw uprising. From a child i was told they fought like Tigers. That is something to be very proud of Little Miss Funeral. I salute your countryfolk for their bravery.
For my Dad, I waited outside the chapel at the visitation the night before the funeral until the service started when they closed the casket (at my request)and then at the funeral in the church, the casket was open until the service started so I waited in a side room...so my last memory of my Dad was him standing in the kitchen smiling instead of laying in a casket. No regrets. When I was 14 I saw my brother in his casket and so my last memory of him was laying there, didn't want that kind of a memory for my Dad. For me, the funeral was enough "closure" and I am left with an image of his big smile.
Bless you
I was in the same situation as you expect that it was my uncle that had passed away unexpectedly. My aunt decided to go with cremation and if I wanted to see him before he got cremated I would but never did cause I was so depressed.
I am a FHA my cousin who lived with me and my mom he passed suddenly in 2020.He wanted to be cremated and I did as he requested. I loved him and I miss him but I am glad he got what he wanted SIP my beloved cousin Fabian.
dead bodies hav always felt like taboo to me.
I’ve also grown up around a lot of death, not because of being in the funeral business but just because a lot of people die in my life. Anyway, even tho I had been to so many funerals of so many people I loved so much, when my best friend died I couldn’t handle it. The viewing was fine actually, but once she was put in the ground i basically collapsed and was scream-crying for what seemed like hours. It was intense. She also died suddenly.
Omg I was also 26 (as was she) when my bff died. I had paused it to comment right before you said you were 26. Wow
I'm so sorry you lost your friend.
I had a coworker who was killed in a parachute accident. There was a rope that kept everyone at least 6 feet from the casket and a dark netting was laid over the open casket. Not the way I would have done it.
I know what is like. We had a family member that was very close to me and my brother. This certain family member grew up with my brother and I after my mother passed away when we were very young. The two of us were pallbearers. We were the last ones(my brother and I )to push his casket inside the hearse. We wouldn’t let go of his casket. It took people an hour to pry us away from the casket. It took the funeral director, my father and my younger sister to calm us down and then we let go of the casket. It took us almost 15 years to finally move on with our lives. Grief can cripple you mentally and physically. It takes time. I have my memories and I still think about him and sometimes talk to him every day. I have accepted what happened to him.
Thank you for sharing your story about your friend Eddie.
Matthew Annis and thank you for sharing your story. We never know how we are going to react to a death until it happens. All we can do is work every day to keep going
I can't really go up to the casket, ever since my grandpa died when I was 8. It wasn't the body or that I was scared; I completely broke down when I was at his casket, almost hysterically. Granted, it was the first death I experienced and he died very unexpectedly, so now I just stay back. Sometimes I will get closer, but I usually don't formally go near the casket to pay my respects. It's more out of fear of losing control.
Rebecca K. I always go up...it just can take me some time to do so. Every single person is different, though, and we all react to death in different ways. Emotions are hard because they can overwhelm you at any time, without warning!
death and the funeral home fascinated me but all at the same time it scare the mess out of me!
Sorry about your friend grandpa Eddie! They don't have to blood to be family! At the beginning you said you have been licenced for 8 years. You look like you are about 16 in the video! I'm getting old, everyone looks like kids to me. I hate it when I see an old man at the store that looks familiar then find out we went to school together. Funerals are sad to me. Saying that final goodbye sucks. The worst ones are children. Parents shouldn't have to bury their kids. My neighbor's 14 month old daughter passed and that freaked everyone out! Healthy one minute, gone the next. They never did find the cause of death. That little casket just crushes you inside! Babies aren't supposed to die!
I did that twice when My dad passed away
You Are TRUE Ambassador to The Funeral Business and Sharing Your Personal Life And Respecting the The Unfortunate Deceased Individual and THERE Family and Being Honest in What You Do As a Funeral Director It Takes a Special PERSON TO BE ABLE TO Do in That Proffesion and IT SHOWS with You That You Share FROM The MINUTE You Get A Death Call and How the Whole Process Happens To Educate The General Public What TO Expect When They Unfortunately Loose A Loved One Passing Away and You Are TRUE GOD Sent Funeral Director I Love and Respect Your Educational Videos on RUclips Videos You Are Doing EXCELLENT JOB #1 BECAUSE You Have True Compassion 2 The Deceased Individual and THERE Family . GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY And Your Little Princess YOU ARE Totally a TRUE Professional Funeral Director and Keep On Doing What UR Doing You Are Trully Talented And On The Right Track WITH YOUR Career.!!!Sincerely, A TRUE Fan of Yours ALWAYS FROM Little Ms. Funeral. 😊☺🙂😎🤗
I lost my 32-year-old cousin and It was very hard for me we were as close as crazy glue and no one in the family consoled me it was a very rough day for me
I have two things so I will put them on separate comments. The first one is have you ever met anyone who has shared with you that they have had a paranormal experience (ie seeing the ghost of their loved one after they have passed etc?) Just curious.
Yes I have. When my Mom exited last year, up until the first year of her transition, I saw her shadow for almost that first year, then on the first year acknowledgement, it was like she said, "Enough Is Enough, Im alright, go on & live ur life". That worked for about 3-5 days, but those old memories came flooding right back, maybe because it was just the two of us living in the home, or the way she departed, ( she had eight brain strokes) & the final week, she went into a fatal coma & never woke up.
I did see her shadow always moving to the right of me, but for whatever reason, I wasnt afraid, maybe because I used to work @ different funeral homes, that it didnt bother me, in fact Im glad she was here, it kind of helped me w/my grieving. Although I havent completely healed, that I believed was the catalyst on the road, home.
When my Mom died I went to pieces 😢. She died in 1999 and I still get emotional 😭. Not only was she my mom but a best friend to me. I never loved 🥰 anyone like that. Every Mother’s Day 💐 is very emotional for me and I’m 64 years old now. So yes I do know the emotional roller coaster 🎢. When I viewed her I kissed her forehead and placed a special coin 🪙 in her hand. I been to several viewings she was by far my most emotional of all.
Some people just won't look at a corpse. He meant a great deal to you. Viewing someone close to you the first time can sort of take your breath due to the reality of the death.
The first time I saw someone in an open casket, I was very very young at the time and therefore didn’t have the mental capacity to process it like a normal adult would so I was kind of bothered by it for a while. Nowadays I think I would be alright with it because of the amount of horror films I watch, no disrespect to the funeral industry by that comment. Everyone has a dark side of humour no matter the industry you work in, matter of fact.
Hey, will you ever come back to youtube? I miss your videos x
Enjoyed the video, in the course of training and all. do funeral directors get trained in first aid, cpr since they deal with the public so much.
greg it is not part of our schooling, so unless a funeral director takes it upon themselves to get training it is not the norm.
I really enjoy your video's.You such a compassionate person.The funeral industry in South Africa also employ lots of women .Their one company called Martin's funerals that is run entirely by ladies and have been to many of their funerals and am always impressed by that soft touch and how they interact with loved ones grieving.I have in my will I want my funeral to be done by them.I felt your pain in this video.Take care God bless
I know that some families have an open coffin in their home before the day of the funeral.
And my brother's brother-in-law's wife had a death in her family and they are Catholic, they had the coffin laid open in a room upstairs and the idea was that everyone was encouraged to go up and view the open coffin one by one.
But my brother's in-laws are Protestant and Kevin (brother-in-law) did not want his son or daughter to go view the coffin at all as he felt it would give them nightmares, but his wife's (Sharon) family were adamant that Lauren (the daughter) should go upstairs.
Kevin, walked out taking the children with him.
Hi miss little funeral how do you deal with this virus that is going on and when they can't go to see their loved ones being laid to rest
I work in a funeral home many years and I will never ever buried somebody that is not ID in the funeral home by a relative here in New York we have to do this because we handle hundreds of cases a year
Lauren, I know that you mentioned that you are dual-licensed but do you personally do embalming as well?
How many calls do you guys do annually?
I'm sorry for your loss.
We both know people do not live forever. At some point we all will expire physically.
I do believe there is something on the other side.
I of course don't know what it is , but I believe it. I do believe in G .
I hope my question to you is not considered insensitive , but out of curiosity , I was wondering how old Eddie was. Please I don't want to be rude in any way.
Thank you very much for your videos.
I really enjoy them.
Robert.
It always depends on how close your relationship was.
I can't think of a more insidious industry than the funeral business. To take advantage of grieving families by charging exorbitant prices for doing things and providing things for dead bodies has to be one of the lowest forms of graft there is.