This happen to me I GAVE 5 years of my life including 2 children he left me for his best friend ex girlfriend. I still going through the pain i wish this on nobody. He lied about everthing and still lying about beinig with her.
@@Evilworlddddd666pray for healing and a healthy revival showers of love take care of yourself treat yourself we as adults have to learn coping strategies that will work for us.God is a healer.I pray your strength in the Lord .Love you and tell someone who needs to hear it too, giving more of what you didnt receive is paying it forward .This is rewarding and vital literally. 😊.
To the woman who wrote in, I just want to hug you and tell you how beautiful and precious you are. You have a father in Heaven who loves you more than you can ever imagine! He can restore everything you've lost, he can heal your broken heart, he can mend your wounds. Please surrender to him, find a bible-based church and study the bible with a group of women. God loves you and he wants you to live the life he has called you to live. God is a good and gracious God, let him heal you and save you. You won't regret it! ❤️🙏🏽
I wish I knew the lady that wrote into, I want a sis hug too, cause caring for others that didn’t deserve you in the first place, really drains you……🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 for all, your not the only one
I’m crying. I had started taking notes and nuggets of advice from Tony, but I’m crying, weeping in relief, sorrow, and gratitude for this ministry, reflection upon my past hurts and the PRESENT work I have to do, and also this woman’s transparency. Thank you, Tony, for your guidance, and for your obedience to God’s call for this time in your life. May God continue to cover and bless you and your family for the sacrifices that you all make for our healing and God’s glory.
Wow. The writer is so brave to put her personal info out there knowing the world is waiting to critique. God bless her and you Tony for allowing space for her story to be shared. 🙏🏽
Unfortunately some people only experienced abuse neglect and abandonment so it’s familiar. It’s painful to endure but that’s all they know. She has to dig deep more than likely childhood experiences and find out where these false beliefs started. Have to work on that inner self - to the core. It will get better. Have to do the inner self work.
@@angelaellis4144 Right. My comment was mainly for the Sisters In Christ, which does not apply to every woman, but to the ones who know the attributes of Jesus. Prayers for us all. 🙏🏾
Lord LORD I’ve been here…😢🙏🏾 not to the same extent but just allowing myself to be used and wanting to prove my love, my worth, bending over backwards and forwards in vain until it’s nothing left. God delivered me from that and when I say I had to PRAYYYY and cry and beg for the lord to help me get free! But I’ve had to build back from that place, it absolutely took me to that dark place of grief and despair but I am so thankful that it’s now a memory!!! Take heart sis ❤
We as women need to stop blaming staying with toxic men on the kids; they internalize that. When it gets to the point the kids are asking if he ever loved you you're staying despite the kids' wellbeing not for it. He came up with a plan and moved in with you to save for it. Since he told you about 20k I suspect it was more like 40. When you found out he made 90 you should've made your way to the child support office, but I'm sure you realize that in hindsight- along with the realization of how damaging continuing to sleep with him was/is. The saving grace is God is redeeming. He has redeemed people in much worse situations and he can do it for you too, but you have to summon strength and realize this situation for what it is and not what you want it to be or what you thought it once was. Good luck sister, and ty for sharing your story ❤
I appreciate her for setting up her session in this way. It’s helping her and all of us who see this. I have a similar but not exact situation. I also struggle with moving forward. But keeping it moving is the only way. Even when we don’t know how. People usually don’t change. Lesson is leave as soon as signs of mistreatment and abuse are shown. Praying for healing for this sister and her children and all of us experiencing this.
This man boy is a true Narcissist.. he never loved you beloved. Fall on your knees and ask God to help you. Live for your children until you find the strength to live for yourself. I am praying for you as I too was once in your shoes. You are worth every good thing life has to offer. Be blessed ❤❤❤
Omg how much patience a woman can have in order to give second chances to the people who don't deserve it. I wish we all use our strength to improve our own lives, we can do it, ladies.
Thank you for having your letter read on Talks w/ Tony. I can relate to your story. Be brave and do the healing work Tony suggested. I’ll be praying for you. You can do it!!
I literally cried the whole way through this.. this was crazy but resonated with me .. mine wasn’t to this extent but the underlying feeling of pouring into ppl and bended over backwards for ppl who don’t deserve it .. rather than loving yourself more .. shot me thru the heart.. I felt her pain , exhaustion, self esteem.. everything. Sister I hope you gain the love of God to love yourself first and foremost because nobody can love you better than you and God. If you don’t love you , you can’t love others and you can’t teach ppl how to love .. loving yourself means creating healthy relationships. 🙏🏾 thank you Tony for your insight and I really needed to hear this story . Thanks to this sister for sharing.
Tony listening to your videos are the reason I STOPPED having sex with these dudes! I stopped 3 years ago this month- BECAUSE OF YOUR VIDEOS!!! So just know that some of us are actually listening to you. We hear you. And we are making the changes we need to become better. I came across your videos back in 2019 after I said a prayer to God. That was the first time I found you. December of 2020 was the last time I had sex. I was done dealing with these dudes- completely exhausted from the games they love to play. I learned a lot from you. 3 years later and I have NO regrets about that decision. You are changing lives. And giving black women the self esteem and confidence to know our worth, which is something a lot of us were never taught as little girls. God sent you to do this work- I believe that. And I just want to say thank you.
Me too! I went through a breakup in 2022 and I felt that I wasn’t good enough.I come across one of Tonys videos and I made the decision to focus on myself .
I love these tips Tony! As a single mom to a 12 year old boy this helped me also. Can I add grocery shopping to the list of things to do with her boys. Me and my son have the best conversations during the car ride. No phone no music just catching up. We are extremely close because it’s just us. You just have to be intentional with your time together! God bless sister. I wish you the best in your journey ❤
So true she is not the only one. Key words God & seeking help like this. Prayed that you will heal with a support network & each day pushing yourself to move in healthy mindset. Find out how to love you. I had to learn to love myself with church, bible time, eating better, yoga, and alone time outside walking. Speaking positive when negative thoughts come to mind.
I gotta listen to this twice. Thank you Tony. This blessed me beyond words. This is what depression is like. I pray these tips help her and pray she find peace, healing and REAL LOVE.
Her letter made me cry, I just want to hug her and send her strength. She is definitely a brave woman to write this, so I know she çan be brave to finally leave this mentally and really heal. Move forward in self love, dear❤
❤️🩹🙏🏼 Healing is possible. Heal for you and your sons. They need to see a happy, healed, and resilient mother. Do everything Tony said and seek a personal relationship with our Lord and Savior. He will restore you. Pray, read daily devotionals, read a psalm everyday, play worship music, listen to sermons from different evangelists and preachers you enjoy. It will change your life. God bless you and your sons❤
Why do we stay too long and/or return - me included? A lot of similarities to my situation...met my husband at 16...married at 25...watched TG vids and was able to remain separated Jan 2020 thru most of 2021...but I didnt fully do as TG says "no contact", "blocked" and I didnt file for divorce...I still had hope...I kept in contact during that time being a "friend" and then took him back Oct 2021 when he was diagnosed with cancer...Fast Forward, we are moving forward with divorce. He still has the same covert narcissistic traits and he drains the life out of me (sad, in a rut, gaining weight, etc). I thought the time separated and cancer would change him/us. Warning to others-I was wrong!
I learned that unless a man seeks therapy, seeks God, and is transformed by the power of the holy spirit. He cannot and will not change. So happy you are freed from that. 🙏🏽
@melissadelacruz7253 Thank you! I communicated boundaries but unfortunately, I didn't take heed to TG wisdom...Your reply is exactly what TG tells us to do...I got so caught up being a caregiver and didn't require God, therapy, etc. Wasted time, but lesson learned!
@@mizzf3ntr3zz Thank you sis, but I’m free! 🤣 We divorced summer of this year with our youngest child being less than a year old at the time and he has a wedding planned for this Saturday. They began dating while I was pregnant. He developed some physical issues and I thought it would wake him up but it didn’t. He’s trying to publicly do everything for her that he wouldn’t do for me.(he thinks I’m on social media) He is trying everything he can think of to trigger me, but I’m not interested, so I’m unaffected.
Bad boy false sense of confidence is very real. Toxic people love to steal light from good people. I’ve learned this year that character is very important because personality is the representative.
GOD is a GOD of another chance. GOD restores. You are The Father's daughter and you are the apple of HIS eye. Another suggestion, write a letter to yourself as a little girl, as if you were talking to your daughter. Say whatever The Holy Spirit reveals to you. That's definitely a powerful practice. It surely helped me. Prayers and well wishes young lady ❤.
The #1 thing that will get people where they need to go and who they need to be, is that sign behind Tony's head. Consistency in ALL things good. God, yourself, and others. Along with a healthy set of boundaries. Thank you young lady for your transparency. You're in my prayers. God bless 🙏 ❤
Hello Beautiful Sister! 💛Find EVERY scriptural promise of deliverance, healing, and strength that you can and claim these promises in Jesus Name. Do it twice a day, even if you see no results initially. I promise you that eventually God will turn to you and move in your behalf! Don't Give up. God loves you.
I love her honesty and her bravery for writing the letter hopefully it helps some other women out there going through similar situations...God Bless you...
sis, Jesus loves you. I recommend you go through a period of prayer & fasting, repentance of sins known and unknown & undergo deliverance to denounce, renounce and divorce any soul ties + demonic covenants that were transferred during your years with this man. I pray for your full healing as Jesus is the great physician. also you will have to forgive yourself and forgive him. forgiving him doesn’t mean you have to get back with him but walking in unforgiveness hinders our prayers and allows the enemy legal access to us. “Howbeit this kind goeth not out but by prayer and fasting.” Matthew 17:21 KJV
This sounds all familiar. I'm at a point in life where I'm trying to pick myself up. Praying to Lord for help and guidance. You will make it through and believe you will. Prayers up sister ❤
This is great advice. So healing and practical. And the practical is sometimes what we need most to get up out of these mental strongholds. Sis, you are loved ❤and not judged. Thank you for sharing. You’re already healing others with your story. Keep going. I pray you take this advice step by step ❤
Thank you, Tony! You gave us and and your reader great advice to live a long and healthy and happy life! Its the simple things in life that will bring peace and balance in our lives. To the person that wrote you, Sis send him packing and flee from him as in terror!
Sister, you are loved, you are beautiful, you are a CONQUEROR and a queen that just needs a little adjusting with her crown. Praying for your strength and i know you'll be victorious!! Much love too you!! 😘😘😘
Thank you Brother Tony for doing this chat. This is exactly what I’ve been doing off and on for the past three years so I know this is confirmation I have to be consistent and stop bc.
Much love to her. Thanks for this wisdom. Thank you for your tone and the way you approached this, it was wise but still gentle & in the spirit of love. Going to really process what you said.
Tony, YOU ARE OUR PASTOR! This lady who wrote in… sending you soooooo much love. I can relate to your story in some ways and Tony’s advice to you will help me too. I don’t know you, but I love you. We support you. God has your back, front, and side; and Tony is here to help us. As you apply this new knowledge, may the next year of your life be one of your BEST! May this next phase of your life make up for everything you lost. God is our Redeemer. He got you girl. Keep pressing. I’m pressing too! ❤
Though “narcissist” is a term being thrown around; it is REAL! I was one of those that was annoyed by the over usage till my recent ex is a covert narc. Been obtaining knowledge from psychologists on RUclips to help me through my healing process. Wish I was educated in narcissism beforehand.
God is the only way she will get out of this situation! She during this time she will have terrible anxiety and depression, experience weight gain and weight loss but if she stays close to God and has a strong prayer life, she will OVERCOME! 🙏🏾❤️
This was a lot. God bless. I pray she find the strength to leave. He is a loser and using her. This is revenge for him. When she over this she gon be so embarrassed to tell ppl she know him! I’ve been there- but not to this extent. The boys also deserve better. He is a horrible example for them 😔
You got this girl! God is your strength and I hope you see this on a day you need encouragement! I’m proud of you for reaching out and sharing your story with us. We need you just like your boys 💙
To go along with the throwback “talks with Tony” imma add throwback advice “track shoes sis” !!!!!! and then use those same track shoes to start walking to get yourself in shape. Be blessed and encouraged.
I really liked this one, and am glad that she chose to bless us with her time. Praying for you! You got this girl! I’ve been there too, and you will eventually be happy. My kids do 4 H and we love it. I heard that animals help grief, and it was very true for my girls and I.
I wish her the best. She was young and made the mistake of loving a man who always showed her that he didn’t love her-from the beginning. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 tells you what love is. It’s kind, does not envy, …does not dishonor others, etc. One problem is that she didn’t have a positive male role model to show her how she is to be treated by a man. I never like bad boys b/c my Dad was a strong role model for how a man should behave and treat me. She seems like a good person. I wish her the best.
God Bless her!! I can definitely 💯 relate to her story with the soul ties situation which is real. This was deep. I hope she gets the healing ❤️🩹 she needs!
Thank you for sharing your story. I didn’t grow up with a father either, now my mother was a good provider but not a good mother and did the best with what she knew. So I was in a 18 year relationship with someone who cheated on me repeatedly and I didn’t have the courage to walk and God knew that and he passed away 5 years ago and I’ve been working on myself every since. I grew up in a family of alcoholics, and I had became one until my daughter advised me to get help and I did, because I loved her more than anything. I didn’t have that with my mother.
I love how the channel is evolving !!! And no I’m not taking about the message because that’s been great. Love being able to see you do interviews with others as well !
God bless. This story is heart wrenching, however there's always hope and the right path to true love. She definitely came to the right place. I'm so thankful for this important ministry. 💯
I loved the way Tony spoke to her. My heart hurts for her. I truly understand...to some degree. Sometimes, you can love someone so much that all you want them to do is change. We fail to understand that they have to want to change. It's not enough for us to want it for them.
She dedicated her life to devil. There is still hope. You are still young, the right man will see you amazing qualities. Take care of yourself and be patient.
I HAD 2 pause this for just a second I was in tears listening to her pain her story sounds so much like my own I'm just older u are not alone my sister
This letter made me so so sad because I see myself in this letter. It’s hard to let go but we have to. We just have to. These men show us who they are and we believe so much in their potential that we stick around . But we have to let go we just have to. Praying for you and your healing . This message is also for me . Thank you Tony for sharing this letter and your response. It healed me as well . Thank you
I have never ever EVERRRRRRRRRR in my life been through this with a man. And I'll be honest- I don't understand how women put up with this. It is BEYOND my understanding. I hope she can heal from all of this and move on and one day find a REAL MAN to love and cherish her. She deserves that. These stories are far too common with black women. But we have got to start putting ourselves FIRST. Thank you for sharing. My heart goes out to her and any other women who have experienced this. I have no idea what this is like. All I can do is sympathize with these women. But I do want to say this....Women have to start learning the lesson and pay attention to the red flags. This will help avoid a lot of the issues that will come later on. Much love to this Queen. ❤
Yes I’m a black woman and I have experienced this as well! I had ZERO self esteem and ZERO self worth! It was only GOD that saved and freed me from those terrible situations! You should think God everyday that you have never been thru anything like this…
Excellent advice and video. I pray this young lady takes Tony’s advice to heart and achieves her goals. She deserves to have peace and happiness in her life. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I absolutely love this video, there’s a lot of information that was touched on in a short amount of time, such as mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health. My heart goes out to the young lady that wrote in. I pray that she will make a sincere effort to follow the advice that Tony suggested, and to remember that she and her sons deserves better.
Lord this woman is so beautiful and close to my situation it’s like had I not had a mother who protected me as she could, and forced me away from that man this is what my today could be like, I can only imagine how she feels because I still feel broken by a similar situation and it’s been over for 14 years. God bless you love. And I’m not nearly as broken as I was before I’m just saying it still confuses me and it still hurts.
Just a thought as well, since she likes to eat she can get a cooking hobby learning different recipes even the boys can enjoy and also learn. You got this ❤
It is so scary how giving the wrong man a chance can literally steal decades of your life.
Very true!
Literally DECADES! 💯
This happen to me I GAVE 5 years of my life including 2 children he left me for his best friend ex girlfriend. I still going through the pain i wish this on nobody. He lied about everthing and still lying about beinig with her.
Facts
@@Evilworlddddd666pray for healing and a healthy revival showers of love take care of yourself treat yourself we as adults have to learn coping strategies that will work for us.God is a healer.I pray your strength in the Lord .Love you and tell someone who needs to hear it too, giving more of what you didnt receive is paying it forward .This is rewarding and vital literally. 😊.
“He knows you have the power to walk away but he doesn’t believe you have the power to stay away” -Tony G
To the woman who wrote in, I just want to hug you and tell you how beautiful and precious you are. You have a father in Heaven who loves you more than you can ever imagine! He can restore everything you've lost, he can heal your broken heart, he can mend your wounds. Please surrender to him, find a bible-based church and study the bible with a group of women. God loves you and he wants you to live the life he has called you to live. God is a good and gracious God, let him heal you and save you. You won't regret it! ❤️🙏🏽
Sis, I know that's right! When people show you they are, believe them and run for the hills!
I wish I knew the lady that wrote into, I want a sis hug too, cause caring for others that didn’t deserve you in the first place, really drains you……🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 for all, your not the only one
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Yassss sis, I totally concur with this! God bless you! 🥰
I agree with all of this! 🙏🏾❤️
Ayeeeeee !!! Not the talks with Tony! God is good, we haven’t had one of these in decades!
I know right
Uncle Tony is bringing the heat. Back to back videos. Here for it
@@trinigirl7846 ain’t he!!!!
IKR 😂
It’s been a while indeed
I’m crying. I had started taking notes and nuggets of advice from Tony, but I’m crying, weeping in relief, sorrow, and gratitude for this ministry, reflection upon my past hurts and the PRESENT work I have to do, and also this woman’s transparency.
Thank you, Tony, for your guidance, and for your obedience to God’s call for this time in your life.
May God continue to cover and bless you and your family for the sacrifices that you all make for our healing and God’s glory.
I totally feel you and the emotion this evoked!!🙌🏿🙌🏿🙏🏾
This was me too! Girl you articulated this perfectly - I felt all of this. I feel like Tony is our pastor.
Wow. The writer is so brave to put her personal info out there knowing the world is waiting to critique. God bless her and you Tony for allowing space for her story to be shared. 🙏🏽
OMG SHE WAS HELPING PAY LAWYER FEES THAT'S HER 1ST MISTAKE. A MAN WILL ONLY TREAT YOU THE WAY THAT YOU ALLOW HIM TOO.
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Sisters, even without a father in our life, we know when a man does not love us like Christ loves the church.
Unfortunately some people only experienced abuse neglect and abandonment so it’s familiar. It’s painful to endure but that’s all they know. She has to dig deep more than likely childhood experiences and find out where these false beliefs started. Have to work on that inner self - to the core. It will get better. Have to do the inner self work.
@@angelaellis4144 Right. My comment was mainly for the Sisters In Christ, which does not apply to every woman, but to the ones who know the attributes of Jesus. Prayers for us all. 🙏🏾
Lord LORD I’ve been here…😢🙏🏾 not to the same extent but just allowing myself to be used and wanting to prove my love, my worth, bending over backwards and forwards in vain until it’s nothing left. God delivered me from that and when I say I had to PRAYYYY and cry and beg for the lord to help me get free! But I’ve had to build back from that place, it absolutely took me to that dark place of grief and despair but I am so thankful that it’s now a memory!!! Take heart sis ❤
Felt the had to praaay, cry, and beg God. Been there and its when I got to that point that things really started to change. God is soo good! 🙏🏽
Yes!! A distant memory. Ion even know that girl anymore!!!!!!
Although not distant memory but I felt this
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Same!
We as women need to stop blaming staying with toxic men on the kids; they internalize that. When it gets to the point the kids are asking if he ever loved you you're staying despite the kids' wellbeing not for it.
He came up with a plan and moved in with you to save for it. Since he told you about 20k I suspect it was more like 40. When you found out he made 90 you should've made your way to the child support office, but I'm sure you realize that in hindsight- along with the realization of how damaging continuing to sleep with him was/is.
The saving grace is God is redeeming. He has redeemed people in much worse situations and he can do it for you too, but you have to summon strength and realize this situation for what it is and not what you want it to be or what you thought it once was.
Good luck sister, and ty for sharing your story ❤
I appreciate her for setting up her session in this way. It’s helping her and all of us who see this. I have a similar but not exact situation. I also struggle with moving forward. But keeping it moving is the only way. Even when we don’t know how. People usually don’t change. Lesson is leave as soon as signs of mistreatment and abuse are shown. Praying for healing for this sister and her children and all of us experiencing this.
This is the first Talks with Tony that has bought a 😢 to my eyes. I’m praying for you sister 🙏🏿
There is so much power in saying no. When we are done don't look back. Learn from the past and keep moving forward in a positive way.
This man boy is a true Narcissist.. he never loved you beloved. Fall on your knees and ask God to help you. Live for your children until you find the strength to live for yourself. I am praying for you as I too was once in your shoes. You are worth every good thing life has to offer. Be blessed ❤❤❤
I love how most of this message is about how the sister can comfort and care for herself
Omg how much patience a woman can have in order to give second chances to the people who don't deserve it. I wish we all use our strength to improve our own lives, we can do it, ladies.
amen !!!
“He knows you have the power to walk away but he doesn’t believe you have the power to stay away.” TG
Thank you for having your letter read on Talks w/ Tony. I can relate to your story. Be brave and do the healing work Tony suggested. I’ll be praying for you. You can do it!!
I literally cried the whole way through this.. this was crazy but resonated with me .. mine wasn’t to this extent but the underlying feeling of pouring into ppl and bended over backwards for ppl who don’t deserve it .. rather than loving yourself more .. shot me thru the heart.. I felt her pain , exhaustion, self esteem.. everything. Sister I hope you gain the love of God to love yourself first and foremost because nobody can love you better than you and God. If you don’t love you , you can’t love others and you can’t teach ppl how to love .. loving yourself means creating healthy relationships. 🙏🏾 thank you Tony for your insight and I really needed to hear this story . Thanks to this sister for sharing.
Same! Been there don’t that! 😞
@@brittanyb5942 it gets better sis 🤎🤎😊😊
Tony listening to your videos are the reason I STOPPED having sex with these dudes! I stopped 3 years ago this month- BECAUSE OF YOUR VIDEOS!!! So just know that some of us are actually listening to you. We hear you. And we are making the changes we need to become better. I came across your videos back in 2019 after I said a prayer to God. That was the first time I found you. December of 2020 was the last time I had sex. I was done dealing with these dudes- completely exhausted from the games they love to play. I learned a lot from you. 3 years later and I have NO regrets about that decision. You are changing lives. And giving black women the self esteem and confidence to know our worth, which is something a lot of us were never taught as little girls. God sent you to do this work- I believe that. And I just want to say thank you.
I’ve been celibate since December 2020 as well! Better decision ever!
Me too! I went through a breakup in 2022 and I felt that I wasn’t good enough.I come across one of Tonys videos and I made the decision to focus on myself .
Same Tony videos help one year in
@@brittanyb5942Congrats too you!
If only I had a big brother like you that I could talk to daily Tony, you give hope and encouragement ‼️‼️
Wow this story is sooo sad, she loves this man more then herself! I’ll be praying for her 😌
I love these tips Tony! As a single mom to a 12 year old boy this helped me also. Can I add grocery shopping to the list of things to do with her boys. Me and my son have the best conversations during the car ride. No phone no music just catching up. We are extremely close because it’s just us. You just have to be intentional with your time together! God bless sister. I wish you the best in your journey ❤
That’s sweet! I’m a single mother of a 16 yr old boy 🙂
So true she is not the only one. Key words God & seeking help like this. Prayed that you will heal with a support network & each day pushing yourself to move in healthy mindset. Find out how to love you. I had to learn to love myself with church, bible time, eating better, yoga, and alone time outside walking. Speaking positive when negative thoughts come to mind.
I gotta listen to this twice. Thank you Tony. This blessed me beyond words. This is what depression is like. I pray these tips help her and pray she find peace, healing and REAL LOVE.
The look 👀 Tony G gave after the 90,000😂
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Her letter made me cry, I just want to hug her and send her strength. She is definitely a brave woman to write this, so I know she çan be brave to finally leave this mentally and really heal. Move forward in self love, dear❤
❤️🩹🙏🏼 Healing is possible. Heal for you and your sons. They need to see a happy, healed, and resilient mother. Do everything Tony said and seek a personal relationship with our Lord and Savior. He will restore you. Pray, read daily devotionals, read a psalm everyday, play worship music, listen to sermons from different evangelists and preachers you enjoy. It will change your life. God bless you and your sons❤
I was told by my mother’s girlfriend not to take them back they will get worse
I Like that Mr Gaskins can be firm and Gracious 🙏
“A man with character is wealthy” TG 📣📣
Why do we stay too long and/or return - me included? A lot of similarities to my situation...met my husband at 16...married at 25...watched TG vids and was able to remain separated Jan 2020 thru most of 2021...but I didnt fully do as TG says "no contact", "blocked" and I didnt file for divorce...I still had hope...I kept in contact during that time being a "friend" and then took him back Oct 2021 when he was diagnosed with cancer...Fast Forward, we are moving forward with divorce. He still has the same covert narcissistic traits and he drains the life out of me (sad, in a rut, gaining weight, etc). I thought the time separated and cancer would change him/us. Warning to others-I was wrong!
I learned that unless a man seeks therapy, seeks God, and is transformed by the power of the holy spirit. He cannot and will not change. So happy you are freed from that. 🙏🏽
@melissadelacruz7253 Thank you! I communicated boundaries but unfortunately, I didn't take heed to TG wisdom...Your reply is exactly what TG tells us to do...I got so caught up being a caregiver and didn't require God, therapy, etc. Wasted time, but lesson learned!
Same here!
@@stephthecreative6312🙏🏾🙏🏾 prayers, sis!!!!
@@mizzf3ntr3zz Thank you sis, but I’m free! 🤣 We divorced summer of this year with our youngest child being less than a year old at the time and he has a wedding planned for this Saturday. They began dating while I was pregnant. He developed some physical issues and I thought it
would wake him up but it didn’t.
He’s trying to publicly do everything for her that he wouldn’t do for me.(he thinks I’m on social media) He is trying everything he can think of to trigger me, but I’m not interested, so I’m unaffected.
Yess more Talks with Tony, those letters were really helpful
Bad boy false sense of confidence is very real. Toxic people love to steal light from good people. I’ve learned this year that character is very important because personality is the representative.
GOD is a GOD of another chance. GOD restores. You are The Father's daughter and you are the apple of HIS eye.
Another suggestion, write a letter to yourself as a little girl, as if you were talking to your daughter. Say whatever The Holy Spirit reveals to you. That's definitely a powerful practice. It surely helped me.
Prayers and well wishes young lady ❤.
That’s a good idea!
I felt every bit of this woman’s pain. I’ve been there. Prayers for her ❤
He cheated, cursed her out, and then cut her off. And then she gave him a second chance?? Ladies, can yall explain yalls rationales for self abuse? 😅
That’s what happens when abuse is all that you know
Thank GOD for Bro Tony He’s a rare different Breed
The #1 thing that will get people where they need to go and who they need to be, is that sign behind Tony's head. Consistency in ALL things good. God, yourself, and others. Along with a healthy set of boundaries. Thank you young lady for your transparency. You're in my prayers. God bless 🙏 ❤
Thank you to the sister who wrote in and asked for this to be a Talk. ❤
Hello Beautiful Sister! 💛Find EVERY scriptural promise of deliverance, healing, and strength that you can and claim these promises in Jesus Name. Do it twice a day, even if you see no results initially. I promise you that eventually God will turn to you and move in your behalf! Don't Give up. God loves you.
I love her honesty and her bravery for writing the letter hopefully it helps some other women out there going through similar situations...God Bless you...
I love the words that you said, the devil always wants a piece of an angel.🙏🏽
I love Talks with Tony’s! Please keep these coming.
sis, Jesus loves you. I recommend you go through a period of prayer & fasting, repentance of sins known and unknown & undergo deliverance to denounce, renounce and divorce any soul ties + demonic covenants that were transferred during your years with this man. I pray for your full healing as Jesus is the great physician. also you will have to forgive yourself and forgive him. forgiving him doesn’t mean you have to get back with him but walking in unforgiveness hinders our prayers and allows the enemy legal access to us.
“Howbeit this kind goeth not out but by prayer and fasting.”
Matthew 17:21 KJV
This sounds all familiar. I'm at a point in life where I'm trying to pick myself up. Praying to Lord for help and guidance. You will make it through and believe you will. Prayers up sister ❤
It’s familiar to me as well! It brings up hurtful memories 😞
@@brittanyb5942 ❤ be strong sis and know that you are loved.
Very appreciated Tony. I believe everyone listening here can get lessons for themselves. Me too
I’m so glad this series is back!
This definitely brought tears to my eyes as well because I could hear myself in her. Thank you Tony!
Same!
Yes I miss these talks💗🦋
This is great advice. So healing and practical. And the practical is sometimes what we need most to get up out of these mental strongholds. Sis, you are loved ❤and not judged. Thank you for sharing. You’re already healing others with your story. Keep going. I pray you take this advice step by step ❤
God bless you Tony. This spoke to me! 🕊️🕊️🕊️
Thank you, Tony! You gave us and and your reader great advice to live a long and healthy and happy life! Its the simple things in life that will bring peace and balance in our lives. To the person that wrote you, Sis send him packing and flee from him as in terror!
Sister, you are loved, you are beautiful, you are a CONQUEROR and a queen that just needs a little adjusting with her crown. Praying for your strength and i know you'll be victorious!! Much love too you!! 😘😘😘
Thank you Brother Tony for doing this chat. This is exactly what I’ve been doing off and on for the past three years so I know this is confirmation I have to be consistent and stop bc.
Much love to her.
Thanks for this wisdom. Thank you for your tone and the way you approached this, it was wise but still gentle & in the spirit of love. Going to really process what you said.
Tony, YOU ARE OUR PASTOR! This lady who wrote in… sending you soooooo much love. I can relate to your story in some ways and Tony’s advice to you will help me too. I don’t know you, but I love you. We support you. God has your back, front, and side; and Tony is here to help us. As you apply this new knowledge, may the next year of your life be one of your BEST! May this next phase of your life make up for everything you lost. God is our Redeemer. He got you girl. Keep pressing. I’m pressing too! ❤
Sounds like a Narcissist in my opinion.
EMT' EMOTIONAL MENTAL TERRORIST
Though “narcissist” is a term being thrown around; it is REAL!
I was one of those that was annoyed by the over usage till my recent ex is a covert narc.
Been obtaining knowledge from psychologists on RUclips to help me through my healing process.
Wish I was educated in narcissism beforehand.
And homosexual! Listen closely. In and out of prison, the rage and resentment.
@@keepthechange1BINGO . And he’s cheating with men and women
I love that she requested it be done as a talks with Tony. Great job brother Tony.
God is the only way she will get out of this situation! She during this time she will have terrible anxiety and depression, experience weight gain and weight loss but if she stays close to God and has a strong prayer life, she will OVERCOME! 🙏🏾❤️
This was a lot. God bless.
I pray she find the strength to leave. He is a loser and using her. This is revenge for him.
When she over this she gon be so embarrassed to tell ppl she know him! I’ve been there- but not to this extent. The boys also deserve better. He is a horrible example for them 😔
You got this girl! God is your strength and I hope you see this on a day you need encouragement! I’m proud of you for reaching out and sharing your story with us. We need you just like your boys 💙
This story touch my soul! 💔🙏🏽
You were so kind to her❤
To go along with the throwback “talks with Tony” imma add throwback advice “track shoes sis” !!!!!! and then use those same track shoes to start walking to get yourself in shape. Be blessed and encouraged.
Talks with Tony is baaaccckkk!!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
I really liked this one, and am glad that she chose to bless us with her time. Praying for you! You got this girl! I’ve been there too, and you will eventually be happy.
My kids do 4 H and we love it. I heard that animals help grief, and it was very true for my girls and I.
Sis, thank you for writing with details and for speaking on behalf of 2 million of the rest of us! We are one!
Amen. This definitely ministered to me. Thanks TG
I wish her the best. She was young and made the mistake of loving a man who always showed her that he didn’t love her-from the beginning. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 tells you what love is. It’s kind, does not envy, …does not dishonor others, etc.
One problem is that she didn’t have a positive male role model to show her how she is to be treated by a man. I never like bad boys b/c my Dad was a strong role model for how a man should behave and treat me. She seems like a good person. I wish her the best.
I miss talks with Tony
I think we all do lol
Me getting my letter ready 🏃♀️🙏
God Bless her!! I can definitely 💯 relate to her story with the soul ties situation which is real. This was deep. I hope she gets the healing ❤️🩹 she needs!
Thank you for sharing your story. I didn’t grow up with a father either, now my mother was a good provider but not a good mother and did the best with what she knew. So I was in a 18 year relationship with someone who cheated on me repeatedly and I didn’t have the courage to walk and God knew that and he passed away 5 years ago and I’ve been working on myself every since. I grew up in a family of alcoholics, and I had became one until my daughter advised me to get help and I did, because I loved her more than anything. I didn’t have that with my mother.
I love how the channel is evolving !!! And no I’m not taking about the message because that’s been great. Love being able to see you do interviews with others as well !
God bless. This story is heart wrenching, however there's always hope and the right path to true love. She definitely came to the right place. I'm so thankful for this important ministry. 💯
This is what I do to achieve whatever goal I have set. These are some gems.
Great advice Pastor Tony 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Great advice as always
I loved the way Tony spoke to her. My heart hurts for her. I truly understand...to some degree. Sometimes, you can love someone so much that all you want them to do is change. We fail to understand that they have to want to change. It's not enough for us to want it for them.
I’m going to create this same daily checklist. Thank you 💕
God bless you for having the strength to tell your story 🙏🏽. Thank you Tony for the tips that's helping us all heal.
Brother Tony thank you for all you do 🙏...God bless you and teachers like you...
Her story will resonate with many woman! Unfortunately most of us have been in a similar situation!
She dedicated her life to devil. There is still hope. You are still young, the right man will see you amazing qualities. Take care of yourself and be patient.
Wisdom - God Bless You
This was right on time thanks Tony!!
Red flags. Red flags. Red flags.
I HAD 2 pause this for just a second I was in tears listening to her pain her story sounds so much like my own I'm just older u are not alone my sister
Same! It reminded me of my past.
Stay Encouraged My Sister. God Loves You and God Will Fight For You 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕.
I appreciate her for this, thank you ❤ Hopefully you get the healing you need ❤️🩹 🙏🏽
Why do i feel like she is describing me?! Minus the kids… crazy
We Backkkkkk 😂! Miss these talks
Talks with Tony got me thru the pandemic💯
This letter made me so so sad because I see myself in this letter. It’s hard to let go but we have to. We just have to. These men show us who they are and we believe so much in their potential that we stick around . But we have to let go we just have to. Praying for you and your healing . This message is also for me . Thank you Tony for sharing this letter and your response. It healed me as well . Thank you
I have never ever EVERRRRRRRRRR in my life been through this with a man. And I'll be honest- I don't understand how women put up with this. It is BEYOND my understanding. I hope she can heal from all of this and move on and one day find a REAL MAN to love and cherish her. She deserves that. These stories are far too common with black women. But we have got to start putting ourselves FIRST. Thank you for sharing. My heart goes out to her and any other women who have experienced this. I have no idea what this is like. All I can do is sympathize with these women. But I do want to say this....Women have to start learning the lesson and pay attention to the red flags. This will help avoid a lot of the issues that will come later on. Much love to this Queen. ❤
Yes I’m a black woman and I have experienced this as well! I had ZERO self esteem and ZERO self worth! It was only GOD that saved and freed me from those terrible situations! You should think God everyday that you have never been thru anything like this…
@@brittanyb5942 Be blessed-
Excellent advice and video. I pray this young lady takes Tony’s advice to heart and achieves her goals. She deserves to have peace and happiness in her life. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I absolutely love this video, there’s a lot of information that was touched on in a short amount of time, such as mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health. My heart goes out to the young lady that wrote in. I pray that she will make a sincere effort to follow the advice that Tony suggested, and to remember that she and her sons deserves better.
Lord this woman is so beautiful and close to my situation it’s like had I not had a mother who protected me as she could, and forced me away from that man this is what my today could be like, I can only imagine how she feels because I still feel broken by a similar situation and it’s been over for 14 years. God bless you love. And I’m not nearly as broken as I was before I’m just saying it still confuses me and it still hurts.
Hello Dr. Tony and Beautiful People.
I so needed this my god i understand goosh jesus😔 thanks tony for reading it out load yes u not the only one i feel
Just a thought as well, since she likes to eat she can get a cooking hobby learning different recipes even the boys can enjoy and also learn. You got this ❤