So here’s the thing about attachment styles: Corey teaches men how to have a Secure attachment style. Only about 3% of men have this. The rest have some sort of insecure attachment style, which is why men over pursue and become fearful. Most women have a fearful/dismissive attachment style. The only way you can successfully date these types of women is by being Secure. You have to be comfortable when they’re with you, and just as comfortable when they’re cold and doing their own thing. Hope this helps!
Corey is right. When my girl started backing away and asked for space for a week I just said “ok, I think I need space too actually. Take all the time you need.” I then proceeded to focus on working out and posting videos of me having fun & not showing “the space”bothered me. Not even two days into “the space” she asked me to come over and have a drink cause she missed me 😂 In short, like Corey says. Women are like cats. Let them go when they want to go. They’ll come back when they are ready. You can’t force this shit. Be strong, Men!
The question is why are women like this? I think it's their way of testing your strength and frame checking. They want to make sure you are completely in your masculine and centered. When you aren't completely centered, things can and will go sideways very quickly. It's the sexual polarity. Women in their feminine don't want to be with a man in his feminine...
@@GoLiveJeez No. Be there when she is back bro. She can come & go as she pleases, like a cat. You need to have an abundance mindset. If she’s with you, ok. If she isn’t, it’s ok. NEXT. My girl knows dame well I will be fine with her & I’ll be fine without her. She also knows if she acts up I will leave her in a heartbeat & i’ll have no problem getting another girl to take her place. Why get rid of free pussy? Let them get rid of themselves… I’ve realised Women tend to stay around longer & don’t want to leave when you do this.
so i went on 5 dates with this girl, we hooked up twice on 2nd and 5th date, on that last night i told her that i like spending time with her, bcoz she told me so many times she likes and i am so unpredictable but that night i was kinda predictable i guess, and then she texted me after few hours we exchanged a few texts but after some days when i asked her to meet me again she said "Please don't plan anything, i am emotionally blocked, its been alot, fast and i am overwhelmed , i will be on my own for a while i think" what should i do
Corey dropping so many jewels here...breaking down the psychology behind each action. Love it...clear and concise. This should be a required class in high school with advanced 300 & 400 level material in college lol. Keep em' coming Coach!
Nobody ever brings up the fact that “backing away, only to come back” is a trait relative to covert narcissism. If you pushed her away being needy, fine. However, watch for “ghosting and returning” when her new source doesn’t work out. Just stay away.
I so wish I'd had this wisdom back in 2018 :( She wanted space and I panicked. On the other hand I realized later, that there's quite a chance she is damaged from her past unfortunately. So it was doomed either way, as you can't fix people unless they acknowledge their issues. Loved her like no woman before :( I can only learn and move on and I try my best to improve myself. Thanks coach!
Good thing you didn't marry her. 11 years in and trying to figure out now how to untangle after the obvious discard phase. She used leaving and threats of leaving to try and get me to chase her, now, I let her walk out and told her if that's what she wants, she is free to go. She essentially tells me that she's mad I didn't stop her and now things are not salvageable. Years of being told I didn't care enough (false) to I am loved so much, to in 1 month out the door and probably headed to divorce #2.
I understand the whole patience method, and woman are just like cats in that regard lol. But it's hard because we hate to waste our time, and we don't wanna be played
It’s hard because you’re only focused on one girl. You gotta have a rotation until things are official bro. Women want what other women want. When you have a rotation & act like you don’t care she will sense this. Women can sense these things. When she senses you have options. She’ll want to make it official with you ASAP.
I know what you're saying, as for the cat analogy Im really picky about who I spend my time with as I have other things I could be using that time for, as soon as I sense I'm wasting my time I tend to tell them and walk away. I also think that if you don't, you can get used for attention if she has nothing better to do if you're constantly waiting for them to contact you.
You have no kids. She has several. Dude stop beating yourself over the head for a woman who probably have more than one baby daddy and find someone with no kids to talk to you
My girlfriend of 6 months started acting distant and cold about two weeks ago. I gave her so many chances to tell me what’s wrong and she kept saying she didn’t know and that I didn’t do anything. She than went a full 24 hours without hitting me up and messaged me saying “I know, I’m sorry I’m like ghosting you? in a way. I haven’t been like socializing”. Yet I saw her active on social media. I haven’t responded to her or contacted to her since and I’m just left so confused because before all this , she was the sweetest person ever. Still no communication. I just don’t know if I did the right thing or not. But obviously if she hasn’t reached out to me she doesn’t care. Shitty feeling. Just been distracting myself with working out and studying for college finals.
You didnt respond? That’s a mistake. You should have said “Hey no worries babe take your time. Get in touch when you want to hang out” and then never contact her again. You will hear from her when she’s ready. Very easy and secure. In fact you should send this now anyway, it doesnt hurt at this point. She thinks you’re blowing her off
@@user-kg8uq9es3u He didn’t mess up at all. If you were good to her, give it time and she will more than likely reach out eventually. Keep in mind though, she may come back after things didn’t work out with another man
She had a child die. The woman he fell in love with no longer exists. Things will never be the same. He needs to cut his losses and move on. He is acting like life is normal while hers has been crushed.
I had this problem meeting a chick she claimed she need time for herself and I gave it to her but as time progresses I was like b-- I’m not going to put my life on hold for anyone. Even if she knows how much I feel about her. You wanted space take it but I’m not going to wait. Do you. Take some advice from the movie “Two Can Play That Game” she not going cry out and reach out to you. Date other women if she wants to comes back when you are in a new relationship. Tell lightly, I waited for you but in your mind you didn’t. I had some nice offers that I couldn’t refuse. If she gets mad you won
My girlfriend told me tonight she has a lot on her mind. I’m not sure what that means yet but if it turns out that means she wants space she can have it. I will just forget about her and MoveOn. I deserve better than that. We will see what happens.
There are more into the story that this dude mentioned! My serious advise for him is one... Laugh at your situation and move on, two do not reach her!!!! And three. the most important of all advices is... If she decides to reconnect with you! Just tell her... Thank you for the opportunity, we had but actually I just met someone else and I wish you all the best in life! Now listen to her response I guarantee you that she will expose to you all her hidden mind games from the start! Dude her response will be your Opportunity to realise how blind you were from the start! This happened to all of us! One thing that did resonate in your situation was the phone situation!!!! Come on Dude!!! Create opportunities for yourself! Don't second guess yourself into achieving what you deserve in your life! Do not limit your options!! Create your Opportunities!
Bingo. Just pulled the rug out from an exe I have a kid with. Her true face showed. Me playing nice for coparenting. She livid she no longer has any control.
literally experienced that this morning. caught me off guard so I wanted to figure out the problem. She wouldn't let me. So I gave her a kiss and said make it safe to your destination and let it be. Won't be texting her and will be letting her reach out to me. Out of no where, was having a great morning and she started having a breakdown. TBH she said I am too forgetful? Now she is saying she wants to talk... here we go. Advice fellas?
Corey talks in the book about trusting the universe, and the cool connections that you look back on. It's so true. After about a year or so of consuming his book, and material. I met an outrageously great Vietnamese woman. Wasn't necessarily looking for an Asian, but the universe dropped her on me. During a conversation I dropped the Thích Nhất Hành quote. Her eyes lit up! and the rest is history. I visited Vietnam and went to the temple Thích frequented before his passing earlier this year, and thanked the Buddha for Thích. Cảm ơn Coach Corey, Cảm ơn rất nhiều.
I have read coach book like no kidding, over 30X or more, I know what I have to do when it comes to a woman, in my case, my ex acts a certain way. It’s tough to follow the book only because I’m tired of the games when it comes to her, I know when she back away, spend time more with her friends then me, I know I have to let her go and let it be, but after 15 years, it’s getting old, I guess the book weaves out the bad ones so it hard to phantom that she’s not the one and I have to let it go
i‘d rather date someone who isn‘t hot and cold. thing is based on attachment styles, there are people out there who always will be hot and cold with you, no matter how well you handle it. you‘re always going to have to deal with it. but actually u don’t. i‘d rather break up w someone like that than getting anxiety over and over again when someone distances themselves. also it is rlly hard to keep your cool when someone just pulls back, it messes with your self esteem and makes you unsure of whether she even likes you enough over time.
She gave me the speech of I am breaking up with you. And then I need space. Couple of days down the road. Text message came. "It is weird I don't hear from you, I said I need space but we can still communicate". She set the date and asked me out, which was agreed. We met, and I clearly didn't feel the "go out, have fun and hook up" thing... Felt more like when is this done.
Had myself a similar situation as this poor brother. Girl with a kid i was kind enough to give the time of day because she was moderately attractive and we clicked a bit but when invited her out she didn’t show up with no explanation and made me look stupid in front of my friends. That was that hard nexted and moved on. Nothing more hilarious than a woman with a kid who thinks she can pull stunts like shes the best on the market. Her deadbeat baby daddy makes sandwiches and doesn’t even do much for the kid. She’s going to have a rough life. Me, I’ve got my awesome life to live without having to take care of a rugrat and a girl who doesn’t respect me or my time.
@@woodnymph3063 No doubt anyone would take an ego hit when you give someone well beneath your typical standards a chance and she blows it and makes you feel pretty stupid. Not my loss at all though I’d rather not have to use my hard earned money or time to play stepdaddy if things ever got serious. I mean I wouldn’t beat him or his mom like his actual father did but hopefully that wasn’t her dealbreaker 😂 but more just the fact she didn’t respect my time or the commitment she made to hang out. Thats not a woman I want anything to do with and is practically a dime a dozen if I go down to any single mom daycare with a fully functional car with no damage that actually runs 🤣🤣🤣 honestly feel sorry for her, the kid, and most women in general as they couldn’t pick a quality man if one fell from the sky in front of them
@@woodnymph3063 You actually think I condescded to her? Nah man she was someone I knew through my job for a while and ran into each other every so often. I’m a confident but never straight up to their face condescending but I certainly do know my own worth and value. We exchanged snaps and chatted a bit. We clicked and asked if she wanted to hangout with a few friends (not even an actual date just to hang out with some chill people and have a good time literally no pressure and for whatever reason she blows me off) resulting in me looking stupid as I informed the host to prepare for an extra person and I was pretty much the only one who showed up alone. Naturally I laught it off but inside I was done with her. Nobody disrespects my time like that. Talked to a girl without a kid or an ex that beat her and got her number at the hangout anyway so the loss was hers. I guess my stable career, generous savings, and financial stability was too good for her single mom had to move back in with her parents because babby daddy kicked em out and she needed a place to live dish washing for extra income butt🤷🏼♂️ bullet dodged no kid or baby mama drama. Not even worth it for a girl with looks that are a dime a dozen.
The good thing about Corey Wayne is that he focuses on building healthy relationships, unlike most of these other supposed dating coaches that peddle negative nonsense and mindless games.
Love your stuff Corey! Have you done a breakdown of the difference between red and blue pill community? (or any other colored pills I don’t know of) I’m hearing those terms used frequently and would love to hear the Corey Brrakdown and the importance of being aware of both of it aligns with your content! You are significant brother, thanks for the quality work as always
Corey often says he's not a fan of the red pill community because they'll make you resent women. this is a very negative community, putting most of the responsibility when relationships fail on women
After my convo with my gf tonight, I’m in the same position. She’s in a career crisis, a home buying crisis, and ultimately that’s brought questions to our relationship. I asked if she’d like some space during this and she agreed. I will be going no contact and wait for her to reach out. We also do long-er distance. About 3 hrs away and I’m in the midst of the last month of didactic work for my doctorate so I’ll be busy also.
@@salmansheikh9917 She did end up contacting me like normal the next morning, but I could tell from the vibes that it was gonna end and that is ultimately what happened. However, by the grace of the lord, another gorgeous and even better woman has stepped into my life and has been the best communicator I have ever dated and I am happy.
It gets exhausting tbh. I just don't care after a while. I just date and hookup now. Once a woman starts being a bitch. I let her do her thing while I start looking elsewhere.
I feel for him, I ended beating my girlfriend of nine years.three months later we are talking but she works for my sister. Now she friend Zone me. I really need to send you an E-mail
What do you do or how can you gauge if and when you give her this space that she doesn’t go and hook up with other dudes to get her rocks off then come back to you and try to make it work? What if I’ve already been through that with a different ex and it perpetuated more insecurity in me on who those guys were during the space we took that she hooked up with, not even the initial guy she cheated on me with? How could you gauge she’s telling you the truth even if she did nothing with anyone?
i have one situation.i told my gf.to stop disrespecting me,and if she dont want to,then i dont need her.about week after she called me and wanted to talk about situation.i said i can talk to her,but tomorrow.next day she called me and rearranged for some other day...i just gone with,call me again if you wanna talk.after that she didnt contact me,now its about 5 days from it.what to do?i shouldnt contact her?just let it be?
If a woman says she needs space, she has an agenda that does not include you. Never take back a woman who does this, and do not waste your time trying to figure out her "issues." Focus on caring for yourself and finding a good woman who wants to be in a relationship with you.
I really enjoy your videos and agree with the vast majority. However having dated a girl with borderline personality disorder for 18 months (of which this example shows traits), none of this works. 3% of women fall into this category and leaving fights/instances of BPD rage (which are usually irrational outbursts) causes the abandonment fears they suffer from constantly to be triggered. This pushes them away further and they build the victim mentality further in their heads. It doesn’t matter how much she screamed at you, or how irrational her perceptions were, you will be forever ever labelled ‘evil’ for abandoning her and she won’t see the error of her ways. Being ‘a nice guy’ enables her and makes her feel loved, albeit this is at the expense of your own mental health. I tried to be understanding of her condition for 17 months, but hit the wall. After that I started REALLY reaffirming boundaries and saying I would not accept her behaviour anymore. Within a few weeks she left me saying she ‘feels like I stopped loving her’. She sensed I was ‘going to leave her’, so she left me first. To be clear, I was never a pushover, and fought my corner plenty, but people with a personality disorder are not normal and cannot just be lumped in with ‘normal’ girls. They manifest conflict when it isn’t there, rewriting facts to suit their feelings and emotions. If she feels bad about you (I.e. you take too long to reply), then you caused this abandonment feeling, therefore you deserve to feel her wrath. These triggers arise over the smallest of things, even as small as disagreeing with her (making her feel ‘unheard’ or ‘invalidated’). BPD relationships are exhausting and as a partner you simply cannot win. Too attentive, they feel smothered and engulfed, thus they push you away. Too much space, they feel abandoned, so you are not worthy. My ex was a beautiful (9/10), successful, thoughtful person. But I knew something was off with her after about 2 months, she flipped in an instant. When the mask slipped she started to exhibited frankly, psychotic behaviour. She is now in therapy and accepts she is not well, so I stood by her in the hope she would get better. BPD however takes at least 4 years to ‘remap’ the brain. It is a mental illness, one which is surprisingly common. I only write this as Johnny Depp could do nothing. The male in your example here, likely, could do nothing. He may get her back briefly, but it sounds like the issue is with the female. No amount of ‘game’ or avoiding mistakes from your book will get him what he wants long term. He needs to look up the ‘idealisation, devaluation, discard, hoover’ cycle of BPD relationships. I’ve fell foul of it for 18 months. My ex is trying to come back again after a month apart after I went immediate no contact. I’ve been here before. After being a strong, caring partner to her, I know I couldn’t have given any more. I’m racking this up as a learning experience to not ignore early red flags, and not get addicted to BPD mind blowing sex (unlike anything you’ve had before. Sex with a ‘normal’ girl afterwards just feels… boring). I’ve had 5 relationships in the past, 2 ended by me, 3 by them. Of the 3 ended by them, I accepted and moved on from 2 of them with dignity. Both came back (weeks later, 18 months later). The one I begged and pleaded with (first girlfriend of 6 years when I was 22), I never heard from again. So I agree with your work as it’s how I try to carry myself since then, however personality disorders don’t follow rules. You may get a short term fix, but the issue is bigger than being a man on your purpose.
no shit sherlock. that's why i say my book assumes you are dealing with a healthy woman. if you keep attracting women with BPD, then problem is you and your selection process.
Ok, no need to be rude about it. I was only referencing the fact that you suggested Johnny Depp and the male in this example could have dealt with it differently by not being as ‘nice’. Neither Amber Heard nor this grieving female are healthy, which are the examples you’ve used. As such, these tactics wouldn’t work long term. As I said, I agree your content would work with healthy women, it wasn’t meant to be a dig. I was just highlighting sometimes there are outliers. Which I accept my ex partner (and my selection) falls into. But BPD is much more prevalent than people realise. Until meeting my ex, I’d never heard of it, but since learning about it it’s pretty shocking how common it is. Thanks for the videos, I have found them useful.
PDA is a feminine act, you should always let the woman initiate it. But when she does PDA, you pull her into you; dont let her pull you into her. That’s a test to see if you’re weak and needy
so i went on 5 dates with this girl, we hooked up twice on 2nd and 5th date, on that last night i told her that i like spending time with her, bcoz she told me so many times she likes and i am so unpredictable but that night i was kinda predictable i guess, and then she texted me after few hours we exchanged a few texts but after some days when i asked her to meet me again she said "Please don't plan anything, i am emotionally blocked, its been alot, fast and i am overwhelmed , i will be on my own for a while i think"
This is normal fearful avoidant behavior. All you say is “Hey no problem I understand. I’d love to see you in the future so get in touch if you’d like to plan something” and then never contact her again, just wait until she does
Woman love the chase Tell them how beautiful there look and that’s it then there will come Don’t be needy Don’t be a wet rag Listen share have connection If you think there taking the piss Drop them like a bad habbit
Never let a woman disrespect you. Give her the gift of missing you.
That goes for anyone. Anyone disrespects you they get the gift of missing you.
So here’s the thing about attachment styles: Corey teaches men how to have a Secure attachment style. Only about 3% of men have this. The rest have some sort of insecure attachment style, which is why men over pursue and become fearful. Most women have a fearful/dismissive attachment style. The only way you can successfully date these types of women is by being Secure. You have to be comfortable when they’re with you, and just as comfortable when they’re cold and doing their own thing.
Hope this helps!
Well put
I've been thinking this. This is sooo true!
Corey is right. When my girl started backing away and asked for space for a week I just said “ok, I think I need space too actually. Take all the time you need.”
I then proceeded to focus on working out and posting videos of me having fun & not showing “the space”bothered me.
Not even two days into “the space” she asked me to come over and have a drink cause she missed me 😂
In short, like Corey says. Women are like cats. Let them go when they want to go. They’ll come back when they are ready. You can’t force this shit.
Be strong, Men!
And don't be there when she's back. Sad truth.
The question is why are women like this? I think it's their way of testing your strength and frame checking. They want to make sure you are completely in your masculine and centered. When you aren't completely centered, things can and will go sideways very quickly. It's the sexual polarity. Women in their feminine don't want to be with a man in his feminine...
@@GoLiveJeez No. Be there when she is back bro. She can come & go as she pleases, like a cat. You need to have an abundance mindset. If she’s with you, ok. If she isn’t, it’s ok. NEXT.
My girl knows dame well I will be fine with her & I’ll be fine without her. She also knows if she acts up I will leave her in a heartbeat & i’ll have no problem getting another girl to take her place.
Why get rid of free pussy? Let them get rid of themselves… I’ve realised Women tend to stay around longer & don’t want to leave when you do this.
@@Jsteelies you’ve just answered your own question. I agree with you. They test us & they will continue to test as long as there are with us.
so i went on 5 dates with this girl, we hooked up twice on 2nd and 5th date, on that last night i told her that i like spending time with her, bcoz she told me so many times she likes and i am so unpredictable but that night i was kinda predictable i guess, and then she texted me after few hours we exchanged a few texts but after some days when i asked her to meet me again she said "Please don't plan anything, i am emotionally blocked, its been alot, fast and i am overwhelmed , i will be on my own for a while i think" what should i do
Being a "nice" guy in a relationship is the worst thing you can do. You will get treated like a stray dog
Always respect and be nice to your girl, but never be needy or weak.
@@damonbaird1173 yeah people seem to get the two confused
Corey dropping so many jewels here...breaking down the psychology behind each action. Love it...clear and concise. This should be a required class in high school with advanced 300 & 400 level material in college lol. Keep em' coming Coach!
300 and 400? first of all, its 3000 and 4000... and that isn't advanced lol its still undergrad level
Look at people's actions not their words. 👌🏾
*women’s
@@TheGreatSalsaMan *people’s
Women ☕️
Nobody ever brings up the fact that “backing away, only to come back” is a trait relative to covert narcissism. If you pushed her away being needy, fine. However, watch for “ghosting and returning” when her new source doesn’t work out. Just stay away.
Is this true
I so wish I'd had this wisdom back in 2018 :( She wanted space and I panicked. On the other hand I realized later, that there's quite a chance she is damaged from her past unfortunately. So it was doomed either way, as you can't fix people unless they acknowledge their issues. Loved her like no woman before :( I can only learn and move on and I try my best to improve myself. Thanks coach!
Good thing you didn't marry her. 11 years in and trying to figure out now how to untangle after the obvious discard phase. She used leaving and threats of leaving to try and get me to chase her, now, I let her walk out and told her if that's what she wants, she is free to go. She essentially tells me that she's mad I didn't stop her and now things are not salvageable. Years of being told I didn't care enough (false) to I am loved so much, to in 1 month out the door and probably headed to divorce #2.
All been there!
Shoutout to the coach bro, truly does have all the cheat codes to life
Not seeing her phone but you have to let her see your phone. NO WAY. Major RED FLAG.
I understand the whole patience method, and woman are just like cats in that regard lol. But it's hard because we hate to waste our time, and we don't wanna be played
And then women wonder why guys only want to smash right away lol you really can’t fix stupid 🤣
It’s hard because you’re only focused on one girl. You gotta have a rotation until things are official bro.
Women want what other women want. When you have a rotation & act like you don’t care she will sense this. Women can sense these things.
When she senses you have options. She’ll want to make it official with you ASAP.
I know what you're saying, as for the cat analogy Im really picky about who I spend my time with as I have other things I could be using that time for, as soon as I sense I'm wasting my time I tend to tell them and walk away. I also think that if you don't, you can get used for attention if she has nothing better to do if you're constantly waiting for them to contact you.
@@SSW2488maybe im an idiot but have options still when u official ,she will have it and tbh its always easier to focuse on another girl :)
You have no kids. She has several. Dude stop beating yourself over the head for a woman who probably have more than one baby daddy and find someone with no kids to talk to you
My girlfriend of 6 months started acting distant and cold about two weeks ago. I gave her so many chances to tell me what’s wrong and she kept saying she didn’t know and that I didn’t do anything. She than went a full 24 hours without hitting me up and messaged me saying “I know, I’m sorry I’m like ghosting you? in a way. I haven’t been like socializing”. Yet I saw her active on social media. I haven’t responded to her or contacted to her since and I’m just left so confused because before all this , she was the sweetest person ever. Still no communication. I just don’t know if I did the right thing or not. But obviously if she hasn’t reached out to me she doesn’t care. Shitty feeling. Just been distracting myself with working out and studying for college finals.
You didnt respond? That’s a mistake. You should have said “Hey no worries babe take your time. Get in touch when you want to hang out” and then never contact her again. You will hear from her when she’s ready. Very easy and secure. In fact you should send this now anyway, it doesnt hurt at this point. She thinks you’re blowing her off
@@user-kg8uq9es3u He didn’t mess up at all. If you were good to her, give it time and she will more than likely reach out eventually. Keep in mind though, she may come back after things didn’t work out with another man
Look out for chad
Same
She had a child die. The woman he fell in love with no longer exists. Things will never be the same. He needs to cut his losses and move on. He is acting like life is normal while hers has been crushed.
Yes trauma needs to be addressed.
I had this problem meeting a chick she claimed she need time for herself and I gave it to her but as time progresses I was like b-- I’m not going to put my life on hold for anyone. Even if she knows how much I feel about her. You wanted space take it but I’m not going to wait. Do you. Take some advice from the movie “Two Can Play That Game” she not going cry out and reach out to you. Date other women if she wants to comes back when you are in a new relationship. Tell lightly, I waited for you but in your mind you didn’t. I had some nice offers that I couldn’t refuse. If she gets mad you won
I did this and she came back in a week. Women become delusional at times.
My girlfriend told me tonight she has a lot on her mind. I’m not sure what that means yet but if it turns out that means she wants space she can have it. I will just forget about her and MoveOn. I deserve better than that. We will see what happens.
Update pls
So what happened
Give us update pls😂
There are more into the story that this dude mentioned! My serious advise for him is one... Laugh at your situation and move on, two do not reach her!!!! And three. the most important of all advices is... If she decides to reconnect with you! Just tell her... Thank you for the opportunity, we had but actually I just met someone else and I wish you all the best in life! Now listen to her response I guarantee you that she will expose to you all her hidden mind games from the start! Dude her response will be your Opportunity to realise how blind you were from the start! This happened to all of us! One thing that did resonate in your situation was the phone situation!!!! Come on Dude!!! Create opportunities for yourself! Don't second guess yourself into achieving what you deserve in your life! Do not limit your options!! Create your Opportunities!
Bingo. Just pulled the rug out from an exe I have a kid with. Her true face showed. Me playing nice for coparenting. She livid she no longer has any control.
literally experienced that this morning. caught me off guard so I wanted to figure out the problem. She wouldn't let me. So I gave her a kiss and said make it safe to your destination and let it be. Won't be texting her and will be letting her reach out to me. Out of no where, was having a great morning and she started having a breakdown. TBH she said I am too forgetful? Now she is saying she wants to talk... here we go. Advice fellas?
Corey talks in the book about trusting the universe, and the cool connections that you look back on. It's so true. After about a year or so of consuming his book, and material. I met an outrageously great Vietnamese woman. Wasn't necessarily looking for an Asian, but the universe dropped her on me. During a conversation I dropped the Thích Nhất Hành quote. Her eyes lit up! and the rest is history. I visited Vietnam and went to the temple Thích frequented before his passing earlier this year, and thanked the Buddha for Thích. Cảm ơn Coach Corey, Cảm ơn rất nhiều.
"Yeah, Jim's a nice guy. That's why I got the desk."
-Ryan Howard
Home run hitter!
Time to move on dude. She deserves herself. Never put up with disrespectful behavior.
Its ok to be nice, sweet and helpful if you're also bold and unapologetic
I have read coach book like no kidding, over 30X or more, I know what I have to do when it comes to a woman, in my case, my ex acts a certain way. It’s tough to follow the book only because I’m tired of the games when it comes to her, I know when she back away, spend time more with her friends then me, I know I have to let her go and let it be, but after 15 years, it’s getting old, I guess the book weaves out the bad ones so it hard to phantom that she’s not the one and I have to let it go
i‘d rather date someone who isn‘t hot and cold. thing is based on attachment styles, there are people out there who always will be hot and cold with you, no matter how well you handle it. you‘re always going to have to deal with it.
but actually u don’t. i‘d rather break up w someone like that than getting anxiety over and over again when someone distances themselves.
also it is rlly hard to keep your cool when someone just pulls back, it messes with your self esteem and makes you unsure of whether she even likes you enough over time.
She gave me the speech of I am breaking up with you. And then I need space. Couple of days down the road. Text message came. "It is weird I don't hear from you, I said I need space but we can still communicate". She set the date and asked me out, which was agreed. We met, and I clearly didn't feel the "go out, have fun and hook up" thing... Felt more like when is this done.
Had myself a similar situation as this poor brother. Girl with a kid i was kind enough to give the time of day because she was moderately attractive and we clicked a bit but when invited her out she didn’t show up with no explanation and made me look stupid in front of my friends. That was that hard nexted and moved on. Nothing more hilarious than a woman with a kid who thinks she can pull stunts like shes the best on the market. Her deadbeat baby daddy makes sandwiches and doesn’t even do much for the kid. She’s going to have a rough life. Me, I’ve got my awesome life to live without having to take care of a rugrat and a girl who doesn’t respect me or my time.
@@woodnymph3063 No doubt anyone would take an ego hit when you give someone well beneath your typical standards a chance and she blows it and makes you feel pretty stupid. Not my loss at all though I’d rather not have to use my hard earned money or time to play stepdaddy if things ever got serious. I mean I wouldn’t beat him or his mom like his actual father did but hopefully that wasn’t her dealbreaker 😂 but more just the fact she didn’t respect my time or the commitment she made to hang out. Thats not a woman I want anything to do with and is practically a dime a dozen if I go down to any single mom daycare with a fully functional car with no damage that actually runs 🤣🤣🤣 honestly feel sorry for her, the kid, and most women in general as they couldn’t pick a quality man if one fell from the sky in front of them
@@woodnymph3063 You actually think I condescded to her? Nah man she was someone I knew through my job for a while and ran into each other every so often. I’m a confident but never straight up to their face condescending but I certainly do know my own worth and value. We exchanged snaps and chatted a bit. We clicked and asked if she wanted to hangout with a few friends (not even an actual date just to hang out with some chill people and have a good time literally no pressure and for whatever reason she blows me off) resulting in me looking stupid as I informed the host to prepare for an extra person and I was pretty much the only one who showed up alone. Naturally I laught it off but inside I was done with her. Nobody disrespects my time like that. Talked to a girl without a kid or an ex that beat her and got her number at the hangout anyway so the loss was hers. I guess my stable career, generous savings, and financial stability was too good for her single mom had to move back in with her parents because babby daddy kicked em out and she needed a place to live dish washing for extra income butt🤷🏼♂️ bullet dodged no kid or baby mama drama. Not even worth it for a girl with looks that are a dime a dozen.
If a woman has kids you will never ever be her number 1 priority...FACTS
Asked for space. So I gave it to her. She acted single. Then made TikTok’s telling me to chase her.
And I hope you didnt watch her tiktoks because tiktok is for cringe 14 year olds, not grown men
@@user-kg8uq9es3u lmao sooo many simps chasing TikTok and onlyfans
I do agree with that attitude about kids from the BP community but only when they are young. When they are old enough to be on their own its fine.
That’s because you want your woman to be your mother and you see their small child as competition. You’re a beta male looking for mothers love.
Good morning our beloved and wonderful coach.
The good thing about Corey Wayne is that he focuses on building healthy relationships, unlike most of these other supposed dating coaches that peddle negative nonsense and mindless games.
Corey should have told him to dump her immediately. It is quite obvious she has no use or desire for him and he is wasting his time.
Your videos are nice, they have a peaceful vibe
Love your stuff Corey! Have you done a breakdown of the difference between red and blue pill community? (or any other colored pills I don’t know of) I’m hearing those terms used frequently and would love to hear the Corey Brrakdown and the importance of being aware of both of it aligns with your content! You are significant brother, thanks for the quality work as always
Corey often says he's not a fan of the red pill community because they'll make you resent women. this is a very negative community, putting most of the responsibility when relationships fail on women
If she needs space the relationship is over!
Say no worry, and close the door... she's not worth it drama...bye.
After my convo with my gf tonight, I’m in the same position. She’s in a career crisis, a home buying crisis, and ultimately that’s brought questions to our relationship. I asked if she’d like some space during this and she agreed. I will be going no contact and wait for her to reach out. We also do long-er distance. About 3 hrs away and I’m in the midst of the last month of didactic work for my doctorate so I’ll be busy also.
Did she contact you??????
@@salmansheikh9917 She did end up contacting me like normal the next morning, but I could tell from the vibes that it was gonna end and that is ultimately what happened. However, by the grace of the lord, another gorgeous and even better woman has stepped into my life and has been the best communicator I have ever dated and I am happy.
It gets exhausting tbh. I just don't care after a while. I just date and hookup now. Once a woman starts being a bitch. I let her do her thing while I start looking elsewhere.
That’s the way to be. You are the mountain. Never let a woman knock you off your center
If she wants to find herself let her don’t take her back when she comes back
Corey your the goat! Keep it up homie!
Gold video, thanks coach. :) Jon
I feel for him, I ended beating my girlfriend of nine years.three months later we are talking but she works for my sister. Now she friend Zone me. I really need to send you an E-mail
Beating***Typo?
@@nathantinsley07 lmao. Surely..? Right?
At what point is beating someone a good relationship strategy
What do you do or how can you gauge if and when you give her this space that she doesn’t go and hook up with other dudes to get her rocks off then come back to you and try to make it work? What if I’ve already been through that with a different ex and it perpetuated more insecurity in me on who those guys were during the space we took that she hooked up with, not even the initial guy she cheated on me with? How could you gauge she’s telling you the truth even if she did nothing with anyone?
"... if I don't agree, it's World War III"😂😂
You’re bluntness is cracking me up.
Run away mate. Don’t waste your time.
Woman are crazy cats
I mean the she lost her kid, like shes grieving. Makes sence to me, tbh.
Go out & meet other women ✌️
i have one situation.i told my gf.to stop disrespecting me,and if she dont want to,then i dont need her.about week after she called me and wanted to talk about situation.i said i can talk to her,but tomorrow.next day she called me and rearranged for some other day...i just gone with,call me again if you wanna talk.after that she didnt contact me,now its about 5 days from it.what to do?i shouldnt contact her?just let it be?
Let it be. If you reach out, you’re giving her the power position. If yall had something good and special, she will reach out
@@TheShady380 thx.i was thinking in the same direction,but i wanted to be sute...thnx 💪💪
If a woman says she needs space, she has an agenda that does not include you. Never take back a woman who does this, and do not waste your time trying to figure out her "issues." Focus on caring for yourself and finding a good woman who wants to be in a relationship with you.
Just walk away
I really enjoy your videos and agree with the vast majority. However having dated a girl with borderline personality disorder for 18 months (of which this example shows traits), none of this works. 3% of women fall into this category and leaving fights/instances of BPD rage (which are usually irrational outbursts) causes the abandonment fears they suffer from constantly to be triggered. This pushes them away further and they build the victim mentality further in their heads. It doesn’t matter how much she screamed at you, or how irrational her perceptions were, you will be forever ever labelled ‘evil’ for abandoning her and she won’t see the error of her ways.
Being ‘a nice guy’ enables her and makes her feel loved, albeit this is at the expense of your own mental health. I tried to be understanding of her condition for 17 months, but hit the wall. After that I started REALLY reaffirming boundaries and saying I would not accept her behaviour anymore. Within a few weeks she left me saying she ‘feels like I stopped loving her’. She sensed I was ‘going to leave her’, so she left me first. To be clear, I was never a pushover, and fought my corner plenty, but people with a personality disorder are not normal and cannot just be lumped in with ‘normal’ girls. They manifest conflict when it isn’t there, rewriting facts to suit their feelings and emotions. If she feels bad about you (I.e. you take too long to reply), then you caused this abandonment feeling, therefore you deserve to feel her wrath. These triggers arise over the smallest of things, even as small as disagreeing with her (making her feel ‘unheard’ or ‘invalidated’).
BPD relationships are exhausting and as a partner you simply cannot win. Too attentive, they feel smothered and engulfed, thus they push you away. Too much space, they feel abandoned, so you are not worthy. My ex was a beautiful (9/10), successful, thoughtful person. But I knew something was off with her after about 2 months, she flipped in an instant. When the mask slipped she started to exhibited frankly, psychotic behaviour. She is now in therapy and accepts she is not well, so I stood by her in the hope she would get better. BPD however takes at least 4 years to ‘remap’ the brain. It is a mental illness, one which is surprisingly common. I only write this as Johnny Depp could do nothing. The male in your example here, likely, could do nothing. He may get her back briefly, but it sounds like the issue is with the female. No amount of ‘game’ or avoiding mistakes from your book will get him what he wants long term. He needs to look up the ‘idealisation, devaluation, discard, hoover’ cycle of BPD relationships. I’ve fell foul of it for 18 months. My ex is trying to come back again after a month apart after I went immediate no contact. I’ve been here before. After being a strong, caring partner to her, I know I couldn’t have given any more. I’m racking this up as a learning experience to not ignore early red flags, and not get addicted to BPD mind blowing sex (unlike anything you’ve had before. Sex with a ‘normal’ girl afterwards just feels… boring).
I’ve had 5 relationships in the past, 2 ended by me, 3 by them. Of the 3 ended by them, I accepted and moved on from 2 of them with dignity. Both came back (weeks later, 18 months later). The one I begged and pleaded with (first girlfriend of 6 years when I was 22), I never heard from again. So I agree with your work as it’s how I try to carry myself since then, however personality disorders don’t follow rules. You may get a short term fix, but the issue is bigger than being a man on your purpose.
no shit sherlock. that's why i say my book assumes you are dealing with a healthy woman. if you keep attracting women with BPD, then problem is you and your selection process.
Ok, no need to be rude about it. I was only referencing the fact that you suggested Johnny Depp and the male in this example could have dealt with it differently by not being as ‘nice’. Neither Amber Heard nor this grieving female are healthy, which are the examples you’ve used. As such, these tactics wouldn’t work long term.
As I said, I agree your content would work with healthy women, it wasn’t meant to be a dig. I was just highlighting sometimes there are outliers. Which I accept my ex partner (and my selection) falls into. But BPD is much more prevalent than people realise. Until meeting my ex, I’d never heard of it, but since learning about it it’s pretty shocking how common it is.
Thanks for the videos, I have found them useful.
Lmao
How could I get this book @@CoachCoreyWayne
I hate this sht.Things going beautifully then you have to play fkin games.
Do women agree with Corey's statement that they like it when men call them out on their bs?
Guys question is holding hands in a car the same as holding hands in public? If she initiates?
PDA is a feminine act, you should always let the woman initiate it. But when she does PDA, you pull her into you; dont let her pull you into her. That’s a test to see if you’re weak and needy
Lol wut.. no it’s more intimate in a car
Dude…her kid died omg. Dating is so weird now.
so i went on 5 dates with this girl, we hooked up twice on 2nd and 5th date, on that last night i told her that i like spending time with her, bcoz she told me so many times she likes and i am so unpredictable but that night i was kinda predictable i guess, and then she texted me after few hours we exchanged a few texts but after some days when i asked her to meet me again she said "Please don't plan anything, i am emotionally blocked, its been alot, fast and i am overwhelmed , i will be on my own for a while i think"
This is normal fearful avoidant behavior. All you say is “Hey no problem I understand. I’d love to see you in the future so get in touch if you’d like to plan something” and then never contact her again, just wait until she does
@@user-kg8uq9es3u yeah i never contacted her again even tho i have strong urges to text her but i never texted
@@chrisgurera3354 what exactly do you mean by that??
@@chrisgurera3354 What should i do?
had a girl like this 7 months later she texted me i pounded her for a year than i moved to another country , but pounding went boring af ;:)
How long is a reasonable amount of time and space to give?
So, serious ?: are men not allowed to ever have or express emotions or emotional needs to a woman?
Corey is a great man
Woman love the chase
Tell them how beautiful there look and that’s it then there will come
Don’t be needy
Don’t be a wet rag
Listen share have connection
If you think there taking the piss
Drop them like a bad habbit
Always date other women too. Don’t be stuck on one.
My girlfriend She need space because her grandpa died i should let her be ?
Coach Corey the audiobook it’s not free, audible still ask memberships upfront, so that’s BS that it’s for free!
It’s free with an audible trial.
Corey is right, I just downloaded the audio book from audible. It was free
#GURU
Hash but true