I Acted Needy & Like Her More Than She Likes Me. What Now?
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- Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
- What you should do if you’ve acted needy and like a girl you’re dating more than she likes you.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a 25 year old viewer who has always had a problem acting too needy with women he was dating. This predictably turns them off. He’s been dating a hot bartender and fell back into his old needy ways. He’s way more into her than she is into him. He’s constantly trying to find out where he stands. Her texts are short, and sometimes she waits days to respond. This makes it difficult to set dates since he now matches and mirrors her lack of enthusiasm and effort. He wants to speed things up, but is now getting back into the book because he realizes that he continues making mistakes because he doesn’t know the material. This email illustrates how difficult it is to recover romantic attraction after acting needy and neurotic.
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Just finished this book the 36th time today over a 4 year period, implementing all the small things. Life changing! just met the woman of my dreams and everything is going great. Recommend the "Mastering yorself" book too!
There is no such a thing as "woman of your dreams." Read one more time with glasses!
@@hsoleyno such thing as destined soul mates, there definitely is the woman of your dreams you just never let her know about it but make sure you’re the man of her dreams ;) equal playing field
@@makuIa I agree 👍and thanks for the note. We are all here to learn
@@hsoley@waterlemons @omartageddi4987 sounds like someone has been hesitating on the last few dates
good for you mean , hope it works out for you
NEVER ask a girl to be your girlfriend . Rookie mistake.😊
not until she is hinting at it
Sometimes it works. If she's very into you.
I did it one time with my last gf only because a friend said she was talking to her about it and said she wanted it. When I asked she said struggled to say she did want to but she wasn’t sure if she was ready. I told her, go ahead, be honest, you’re not gonna hurt my feelings (remember coach says women are always afraid of how what they say is gonna make you feel). When she said she wasn’t ready and wanted to basically just keep hanging out and hooking up, I was indifferent and was just like, yeah that’s cool with me, I don’t mind either way. I’m
Convinced my indifference with the way I handled her response is why less than a month later she called us boyfriend and girlfriend without me asking her again.
I did that and it rushed a pretty toxic relationship. Never again lol.
Very glad I finally learned that lesson
That’s my biggest problem , I am certified Mack when I don’t really like the chic. Every blue moon a girl I like comes along and I change into some sucka lol I don’t know how that happens
I once found a bald good looking son of a gun on youtube when I was working out how to re-attract someone. 3 years on, 3 books & hundreds of hours of youtube vids later & i’m struggling to keep up between my goals & a few of my favourite dates competing to see me. if I can do it anyone can i’m no corey wayne guys. what a wonderful journey life can be sometimes
Corey has luscious locks bro what you talking about
Both of these comments are amazing😂
@@tylerparker1333😂
I’m happy to hear that brother 💯💯👍
Stop the cap. You jiving us real hard. You best not be talking about the GOAT, AMS!
Thanks Coach Corey. As a 52 year old man and reading your book two times now and watching your RUclips channel, I have learned to learned how to better manage relationship failures and insecurity. Not to embrace it, but to learn from it and become a better man because of it. Hope to read How to Become a 3% Man many more times because it inspires me to reach my potential and when that right woman comes along that comes along that knocks my socks off and is ready to be my life partner, I will be better prepared. Until then, I will enjoy life and follow my purpose, drive and mission.
Oh man, kudos to the Coach, the voices are cracking me up!!! 🤣
We need more of this. A lot more.
I laughed so hard. Enjoying each and every video of Coach Corey since i was 16 years old.
"Chad thundercock " 😆 🤣.
this guy is so hilarious
AMS sent me here… You never miss big bro 👏🏽👌🏽
A lot of these guys be lying to the coach about the hooking up. If you listen to their situation carefully you can figure them out.
He got a hug
Its Weird that they lie ... why even spend the money for help if your not gonna be honest and correct your mistakes ...
yes there are definitely lots of lies detected across many videos... also men trying to downplay their own mistakes.... lol 😂
A hug 😅😂🤣
Seeing other dudes fuck up & make all these silly mistakes & say all these needy things makes me laugh, but I was in his shoes before and know how badly it sucks to be a beta male
Same here! And I look back and laugh at those days, but they were highly valuable!
Meet the family joke always get me. Thanks coach.
Not for nothing Corey but when you did the impersonation of the “How was your day” voice, it reminded me of the Master of Disguise movie with the “Turtle! TURTLE!”
🤔 actually Yoda said "fear is a path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate. Hate... leads to suffering." But whatever. 🤪
in a woman's eyes, a guy who acts like this looks literally the same as a crying toddler throwing toys from the crib for attention. If a woman is not interested there's nothing you can do other than demonstrate some integrity and respectfulness as a human being and leave her alone if you're clearly bothering her. Some guys interpret signals completely wrong and think women are into them when this couldn't be further from the truth...
You’re exactly right!!
Dude, is going to push her away even more. He needs to take a step back and re-evaluate himself before he gets blocked.
I said to her “when gonna come over and make me some food?”
She said : idk
I said : ok, well talk more about it when I see you.
On the day we were supposed to meet up she hits me up 4 or 5 hours before and she says im soooo sorry I got “food poisoning” but I was looking forward to seeing you, I’ve missed you and has to cancel. She did so without rescheduling and I told her to hit me up when she feels better.
She says, “I sure will thank you”.
Keep in mind we used to work together in a school for a little while , we’ve been hooking up like 6 or 7 times before.
What ya guys think …was it me being too “NEEDY” or “CLINGY” or could it be something else? I think it was that one specific thing that got her to cancel . Keep in mind she is In her 40s and I am 28
Been a fan for a while thanks for the videos coach Corey
Find someone you don't feel needy around. Find someone you truly desire. Attraction is the key. This is from a guy who thought being with your "best friend" was the objective. No it comes back to desire and attraction. Your energy and your aura that you are attracted to her will reach her eventually just don't over pursue.
Haha the treading in dog shit quote cracked me up so much. 😅 keep it simple stupid!
Damn it, I love the monolog.
It reminds me of so many of the mistakes I've made, brilliant!
Read the book 10 to 15 times
I second this
17:06 Damn coach you cracked me up so bad here can't stop hahahaha
Yooo that shit took me the fuck OUT 😂😂😂
These videos are like therapy
Mommy why wont you pay attention to me!? 😭
Jesus loves you and died for you.
😅😆😅😆. One of Coreys funniest vids to date. When wisdom meets comedy. Uh derrrr my dog just took a shit and stepped in it. Hows your day?"
I have a question regarding neediness. Years ago, I approached this girl I really liked and told her I had feelings for her online. She turned me down, but she acts really strange when I'm around her(A close family friend from local church) and it's so embarrassing. I've been acting really needy and I don't know what to do. I know the neediness is my fault and lack of knowledge.
Normally when a girl rejected me they tell me to back off or stop talking to me so I do. I back off. But she acts closer for some reason. And is really friendly towards me. Which has been really discouraging to me and I get the worst social anxiety. I still really like her. It's been causing me deep trauma for some reason. I've been so confused. I know most would say "oh just ignore her" but when it's someone you see often and is active in your community. It's really awkward, and probably for her too. And I have been ignoring her but that's been making her act even weirder. Is this normal behavior? I mean. My behavior was really bad too. This situation is almost laughable if you saw it in person. I'm really bad at communicating with people in general. Anyone can answer. It's just really strange.
How long has it been since you told her how you feel?
That's definitely a strange situation.
if multiple women have had to tell you to back off & leave them alone that means you’re pursuing them waaaay too much. she’s acting friendly because that’s what you guys are. friends. don’t mistake friendliness with flirting otherwise you’ll scare off any woman that would potentially be friends
Learn how to control your mind man. You’re mind racing and creating scenarios which lead to running on fear. Just be cool and don’t ever tell them how you feel. The more they know, the more they back away.
Coach has said to make intentions clear when it comes to being "friend-zoned". Next time she is friendly with you, state that you don't want to be friends, but you are open to dating and romance...otherwise, ask her to stop sending mixed-signals through "friendly" behavior, but still keep any future interaction with each other as respectable. This puts her in the position of choosing one side of the fence or the other, instead of riding the friendship fence. You leave it at that point and never bring it up again; you don't follow up on it later, and you go on with your life. She will either back off, or will contact you in such a way that you will then invite her to go on a date.
All of this stuff is in the book. You need to read it, and often, so you can see the signs, and know exactly what to do as it happens. Your neediness has to stop now if you are going to have any sort of success with her, let alone any other girl. Neediness KILLS.
Get your reading count up on the book. Read it at least 15 times. This scenario is covered in there. That said, since she rejected dating you, she's just an associate at this point. Find other women to date. Keep shooting shots. Also it sounds like your sensory acuity needs a lot of work. Learn to see the signs of when a woman wants to talk to you.
🤣😅The Fluff in these text messages.
Read the book until the teachings pop up in your dreams. You will not even need to be awake to know what to say...
God. It's like retelling my story !
Could someone please offer advice. My girlfriend of 13 months periodically gets suspicious that I'm not telling the truth and that I'm keeping things from her.
Yesterday, I left her apartment after telling her that she doesn't need to walk with me to the train station. As I'm waiting for the elevator, I hear her unlocking her door, so I wait in the elevator door to prevent it from closing. She said that she wanted to walk with me, so I told her that, that was nice of her. It's just a 1 minute walk and she's very quiet on the way there.
In the station I start saying goodbye and she begins questioning me as to why I waited by the elevator. I told her that I knew it was her and assumed that I had forgotten something, or that she had decided to walk with me.
She then started asking how I knew it was her unlocking the door, and saying that I thought it was her neighbour, and that I was waiting to bump into her neighbour (who I don't know and I've never met), with the insinuation that I wanted to get to know her and cheat on my girlfriend.
I tried reassuring her that I genuinely knew it was her unlocking the door (which is the truth) but she wouldn't believe me. All she said was that she has been cheated on in the past. I then left and we haven't spoken since.
These things are small but they keep arising and causing issues between us. Before this, for example, she questioned me about something I said in my sleep, but there are many examples. I'm 30 and she'll be 44 next month, but we get on very well together.
Have you ever done anything to make her not trust you? If not then it's her issue, and you need to tell her that you don't like being accused of being disloyal when you've done nothing to warrant it and explain how it makes you feel when she does it. She's clearly insecure and projecting her worries onto you but if she loves you and values the relationship she'll make an effort to fix her behaviour, as long as you stand up for yourself. Hope things improve for you bro, but as the coach says it'll either work out or you'll find someone better! 👍
@@Tom-wm8qs Thanks man, she doesn't really have grounds not to trust me, other than on one occasion when I lied to her about something. She's stated numerously that her insecurities stem from past relationships where she has been cheated on.
i had a girl like this, with the same signs as yours at first. it escalated to a point where, we couldn’t be out in public without her thinking im checking out other girls. she would get upset and insecure, no matter the amount of reassurance, i realized it was just a bandaid covering up the wound, the real issue was her self esteem, her jealousy and possessiveness. that my friend it not something a man get reassure away. truth is she isn’t ready for a relationship and needed to heal. the suffering will stop once you both let go.
If you are truly innocent, you need to confront her about this if she accuses you again. You need to sit her down, reassure her, comfort her, AND draw boundaries with her. You sit her down and tell her you like her otherwise, that you like you're time together, but that you are not hiding or lying to her and that you would never do something like that to her. You tell her you care about her and you understand that she has had bad past experiences. You empathize with her concerns. But that that is not who you are. Then you tell her that this isn't healthy for either of you, and that the accusations and suspicious behavior need to stop. Set boundaries. Tell her that it's not your fault what other guys have done. And that you don't deserve this. And that a relationship can't operate like this. Tell her she needs to stop, get help for her trauma, or that you guys need to go you're separate ways. But the key here is that you better really be innocent, or you're just a giant jack***
@@Biggiiful Thank you for that
How about a video on outside influences ..
Like Mother in Laws ...
😂
Divorcing now cause of mine and also women with children can be tricky as well.
Oh, God, not another Chad Thundercock
I did this (a woman) as I have never been on a date in my life. I have other interests now. ;)
Good job
I just ended something that was dragging on for a month. She's 26, I'm 37. At first she seemed interested but then she said 'you know it takes me quite some time to express and open up myslef to commit to a relationship'. I told her that's fine I'm not asking you to be in a relationship but we won't even be able to get there since i'm not seeing any reciprocity at all. No affection from her end basically. We had sex a week ago and i gave her all my attention and guess what. When she was finished she took a shower and said this was great and then left. :D I was like..where's my turn now?! i called her and told her i'm not going to see her anymore. She started again with her arguments so i stopped her kindly and said - i get all of that and i wish you best of luck, no hard feelings but this is not for me. I have plenty of friends and im not looking for new ones. I told her that i dont need any words of resurance but if there is no basic respect or any signs of affection - why would you and I keep hanging around. Whats funnier - 3 weeks ago she was like super needy and requiring validation - is everything ok, i was hoping you'd kiss me by now and bla bla. Or - am i still fun or are you getting bored already?
I was like ok thats a cool signal. So i took the step and was confident and it did not mean shit eventually :D she kept saying i need time to express this way. well you have all the time in the world girl. Honestly I feel great since I clearly set my boundaries and told her im not going to invest more of my time into seeing her since its not mutual. And bye good luck, I said thanks for being honest and transparent i am not someone to chase a girl or submit into a commitment. But I do expect things to be mutual to at least some degree and this was 90:10. In my 37 years i have never seen a bigger avoidant. So i gave her the space she needs. :) do not be afraid to walk away. She was not touchy at all, all kissing was done by me, touching everything. That's not the game I play.
I was in the same boat around new years. Seeing a girl for 6 months. It should've been over after 3 months, but I had some old bad habits creep in. She was smoking hot, but she knew that I was super in to her. Of course her effort was minimal. You can't read the book enough to be honest. Despite all my f-ups, I never contacted her since. 6 months, and without reading 3% man, I would've caved long ago.
Anyway, I said good bye to her on New Years eve. She probably thought I would come crawling back. It was tough, but when you are doing 100% of the work with no reciprocation in affection from the other side, it's never going to work. I've been in relationships where affection and passion flowed. It was easy. I've also been in a few of relationships where I know something was off. You have to value yourself before all else. Otherwise everyone is going to walk all over you. Especially lazy women. Essentially they have to earn it. Don't be scared casting her out. You did the right thing. Unfortunately, from my experience, the lack of affection is prevalent from women in the dating market. I don't know if it's entitlement or they don't want to give off the easy vibe. Just keep reading the book and build yourself around it.
@@mw5451 maan that sounds like my story. You know whats weird? She was like - do you find me attractive, cause you haven’t kissed me yet and i am used to men being more touchy with me?… so i took that as a signal. But she did not take that step with me. Im glad i jumped ship because if this were to continue for 2-3 more months I’d be freakin depressed thinking i am the problem. Its like a mixture of inteligent, stoic and avoidant. Which is the absolute worst for me. But hey at least we know what we dobt want.
@@karolkozak64u pretty much described my situation, the thing is it’s confusing af which makes it frustrating. The chick I’m ‘dating’, I say that loosely, is a coworker of mine from a weekend job I have. I met her over a year ago, and had no interest in her whatsoever, not even on my radar. Funny thing is, the first day I met her back in Dec of 2022, she spoke with me for a half an hour about general stuff. I thought that was odd, but whatever. I guess she liked me. As time went on, I would see her at the weekend job on occasion, due to different shifts and schedules. She would on occasion drop hints, ‘what kind of girls do u like’?, ‘what u think of Colombian girls’? … the line of work we do, we have each others’ numbers from our team, one time I accidentally called her when I was trying to reach another coworker. I asked for said coworker, and I immediately realized I reached the wrong number. Her reply was ‘I can be that person if u want me to’ … again, dropping hints. I still wasn’t really digging her at that point, but what changed? Well, her shift changed and now aligns with mine, so we see each other more consistently, every weekend, for the past 5 months or so, I got to know her a lil better. Our mutual coworker realizes we are both single, and pushes us, well, pushes ‘me’ to ask her out. I did, we went out and it was ok, extremely bright girl but it was clear she does not like to divulge too much information and it seemed she had her guard up with me. Me on the other hand, had some alcohol and I wouldn’t stop talking. When we saw each other on the job the following weekend, I asked her if she had a nice time, she said yes. I complemented her on her outfit as well. The folllowing week I asked her if she wants to go out again, she emphatically said, yes. I thought that was a good sign. But now two weeks later, she says she is going through some stuff with her kids and ex and has her mind somewhere else. I don’t chase her and I let her be at the job, I don’t even really talk to her much as I am not trying to be a burden. I’ve noticed that after the first date two weeks ago, she does not really text or initiate any conversation with me at all. I was sending texts after the first week initiating the conversation but I quickly realized I was the one who was more interested in her now that we went out… and again, what is confusing is she for a year was throwing hints around and I’m finally here acknowledging that I like her and she goes really cold ?!?!? That is the confusing part … it’s not like I just met her, we’ve known of each other over a year. She acts cold and distant, where before I showed any interest she was all over me, and I’m here now getting feelings thinking this was gonna be a slam dunk … but she acting like she just met me 😅. The final straw was I actually did ask her out on a second date, after I vetted her previously about her interest, and she ghosted me! No reply back! I don’t get it , super confusing 🫤… I did see her at the job the following day after I sent the text, she apologized about not getting back to me and said she is going through some stuff with her kids and her ex, which I thought ok. But she could at least sent me a follow up message that it is not a good time now or to put all this on hold for now if she really was wanting to explore a relationship with me. I’ve have not text her in three days and I’m thinking to stop any outside communication with her. It’s always me that has to initiate any conversation and she just seems really cold … normally, I would not care, but after this entire year of dropping all these signs to the contrary … why now the coldness?
I'm a woman. Following him for years. Works on dudes too.
17:05 thanks for the visual 😂
somebody's dog took a shoot in my yard and it got in between my toes....it wasn't a good feeling but uhhhhh how's your day going?! 🤣
I don't like this videos you can tell this guy hasn't read the book at all! We're listening to stuff that's desperate! I've read the book more than 20 times bro. Just read the book KINGS!
What if she intentionally takes a while to text you back because she’s insecure?
Why you wanaa date an insecure woman?
Dead her ass lol i can't stand someone who's unsure of shit. Like you shouldn't be dating. And that's a big problem with the dating pool today. People don't have themselves figured out.
That’s the situation I’m in now, I like her, a big butt and a cute smile never fails, nevertheless she is insecure 😕
Meet my family? haaaaaaaa. What family? Why?
I’m Justin 42 years old I’m completely insane in love my nincie I want to have a relationship together I haven’t seen her more than 22 years and it’s been the three years each month I am starting to contact her but I hope that I would want a family someday I’m truly in love and I gave my life to Jesus and janisim❤
Algorithm bump!
Nobody. Me *getting cocky because i can make girls laugh now * ☠️
I’ve been doing once a week for 16 weeks now, and she still isn’t moving it forward. I’ve just been casual, treating her like a cat, don’t get butthurt when she disappears. But whilst i’m dating other girls, is it now time to cut the cord or? Really confused on what to do
Don't "cut the chord" or sabotage it for yourself. Just stop contacting HER. If she is at all interested, SHE will reach out and start to pursue YOU. Don't cut the chord, just stop using it.
@@Biggiiful too late bro, she was always pursuing. I caught feelings so locked it off last week, she said shes finalising her divorce but if i’m not seeing anyone in 3 months time she’ll contact me. In a limbo right now - happy to lock this off, but also - think i also made a mistake cos i cut it off too soon before we had sex, she was so fkn into me but i dno if she still is now, been a week of NC i messed up
Thanks Corey
Can't like enough
Dude has no game lol
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