5 BOUNDARIES You Must Set With Men In A Relationship!
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- Опубликовано: 27 ноя 2022
- 5 Boundaries You Must Set With Men In A Relationship... In this dating advice video, I will talk about setting boundaries in dating and explain how you can have healthy boundaries in relationships. I want you to learn how to set boundaries on first dates, online dating, or even somewhere in the dating process. Take heed of this dating advice, and make sure you watch the entire video.
Boundaries in dating and relationships are essential because a lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect. This relationship advice will not only teach you how to set boundaries but also how to set healthy boundaries in relationships. Watch this relationship advice if you want to know how to set boundaries.
I want you to know the importance of setting boundaries in relationships. Learning to set boundaries with men is crucial, whether in a relationship or dating. The five boundaries you must set with men in a relationship that I discuss in this relationship advice will help improve your relationship.
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How can I follow your lead with the contradictions you endorse and even more so encourage in this video? I'm so shaken by what you have said here. Astounded. Please read my comments and feel free to contact me openly or privately I don't even care. I just don't understand at all what happened here other than you are openly exposing your struggles to your entire audience. A Shepherd leading a flock right over the cliff? No. Please stop. Please get counsel and put this to prayer. This video isn't okay to just leave sit out here for anyone to see in here. It shook me up and I'm pretty firm in my beliefs and teachings and I'm certainly willing to check something out that I'm not seeing in scripture. But the point is if it shook me up, what is it done to people who are barely hanging on to Christ and how to live here being in the world but not of it? This is urgent. I beg you to reconsider and to research with others, every point you have made here in this video. Thank you for reading my comment. I'm open for challenge because you have unsettled me so greatly I would prefer to have the discussion over just letting this go for eternity online exposing countless others to justifying and simply following their sinful natures. We all fall short but we are not supposed to encourage it! No. Not okay.
This is the first time I have heard someone hit the son-mother dynamic on the head like this 100%. If I am dating a guy and he allows his mother to consistently treat me disrespectfully he’s not the one.😎
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you for sharing your truths so candidly and respectfully.
@@andreabryan9710 I say or add vs/vs. If the woman has disrespected the mother multiple times (includes 2x/+ then maybe She is not the one..?). Women have overt & cunning ways of doing that, whether in front of the son or not, who has a graceful mother.
@@mfreeman6123facts I’m going through that now with my son and his kids mother
Oh find stuff on NARCISSISTS
Beware of some men who like to play mind-games, they pretend to not know your boundaries so that they can test you. A guy is currently doing this to me and I have just decided to walk away.
I'm sorry to hear about that, and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
True. Some toxic men like to test your boundaries to see if they can break them....in turn breaking you. I agree.
This is VERY common unfortunately.Same situation here. 🥹
@Be REAL FR
My guy now is making a hell out of me now he want me to tell him everything to the extended of who I had sex with and how I had the sex If I say I can’t tell you how we have sex he said i lied
To him
Narcissists don't respect your boundaries no matter how firm you are.
Absolutely!
No contact
Exactly. They bulldoze over them
Controlling someone is a turn off..There should be respect and decent boundaries ..A relationship should not feel like prison. It should feel more like a gift..
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Ya and he isn’t Boyfriend material if he feels controlled. Oddly these ARE the men who become manipulative control freaks on GOOD WOMEN later on
This is sooo true and I fully agree that there should be mutual respect and decent boundaries and that a relationship should not feel like a prison, but freedom for each individual to be their true authentic self.
Boundaries should be taught in every high school curriculum for life in general. I was lucky enough to never really have people in my life who pushed/ crossed my boundaries in unhealthy ways until i got married, and i got steam rolled. It was so shocking to me to be treated the way i was. I'm so greatful for my kids, but my 30s were spent in a very unhappy, unhealthy marriage. I learned a lot and the biggest thing i walked out of the marriage with was the understanding and ability to set boundaries.
The blessing is that you learned your lesson, and you’ll be better off at it 😊
I don’t think boundaries should be taught in school. That should be taught in the home! That’s where you learn how to have relations with ppl. I think bullying needs to be a solid curriculum in schools!
inappropriate for high school. it's not their job to teach relationships. and boundaries are different for everyone.
@@thatjtyp of course they're different for everyone. But the concept is taking care of yourself, and being empowered to say what you will and won't do in any given situation. Boundaries apply to work, family, friendships, relationships. Many boundaries are taught at home. The first time you're toddler asks for privacy when they're in the potty, they're setting a boundary. But a conceptual understanding of what a boundary is and how to set it. I think this is an imperative life skill that could be taught in a health class or life skills class.
What is wrong with it being taught discussed re-enforced at home, and school in some appropriate ways? Just an fyi, counselors in middle schools I’ve been to, do touch on it, but not as if they are responsible for ensuring it sticks or is implemented.
A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect so true not just in intimate relationships that includes family, friends, work, and strangers. Toxic people are everywhere it is a must to have boundaries. Some people are not self-aware, were raised with certain expectations, culture, or don't care.
Lol you are so right
boundaries and rid of toxic people
I hadn’t date in a while
this man was trying to pursue me,
but it was so scary. He’s in his 70s and every time he would talk.
Conversation always about what his mama taught him
what she told him not to do. His dad told him to listen to women and don’t question
And when I asked him why his dad told him that
He said I don’t know I just did what he said 😐😳😆👈🏽🧐😬🫣 and then the conversation start all over again
what his mom told him
he asked his mom when could he stop listening to his sisters. Okay then
But I totally agree boundaries start with not only relationships, but with family, friends, workers and definite toxic strangers 🙏🏽☺️😀
@@LindaJohnson-tt8fu this is so sweet, I like it
1. I always put my boundaries clearly because I hate confusion.
2. I always tell myself that I am too gorgeous to swallow the bullshit, so I just can’t take the guy who is not treating me regardless
If they’re friends with ex’s when there are no children between them RUN!!!!
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
Ok I am this person. 😌 I guess I have a lot of work to do. Also will try not to allow your comment to ruin my self esteem. I will do better tho, because I feel the damage and I want to be my whole self. Thanks 🙏🏽
@@buddhabritt1985 Wow…a woman admitting fault in 2022 is major! So rare these days I actually forgot what it sounds like lol. But good luck on your growth journey! 😉🙏🏽
Not necessarily. My ex and I were best friends from the age of 15. We were still best friends after our divorce.... we made better friends than husband and wife. We remained best friends til his death
@@sharonhanson2886 same. We met at 15. Started dating at 21. Broke up at 32. We are best friends. We make better friends than lovers. I know for a fact that men and women can be true friends.
Yes 👏. I refuse to date anyone who is still friends with an ex, and I will no longer date someone who has a female best friend.... my ex refused to set boundaries with his female best friend whom he was attracted to when they first met. Removed myself from that situation after my feelings were neglected.... glad it didn't get more serious than that....sucks...but I don't regret my decision. No one deserves to be treated like a back up option because he can't have the one he wants.
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
I learned the hard way not to accept a man with a female best friend after she convinced him to break our engagement and proceeded to have an affair with him. Your best friend should be your partner in life. Period.
To read this makes me feel in a healthy way good about not feeling ok with a man having a lady friend who’s seems out of place as feels entitled to her so call friend. Some people will make you feel you wrong about not agreeing with that philosophy. ❤
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@@SilviaHernandez-lx4zz oh, I'm sure plenty of people think I'm wrong about it, but it's a boundary and there's no right and wrong, it's a personal requirement....if people genuinely understood their worth, they would not put up with it either. I've seen women get heartbroken because their spouse left them when the female best friend became available. If any guy treats the best friend like a priority and you're just backup, love yourself enough to leave and know you deserve better. I'm happy alone and don't need someone who can't treat me as a priority.
Yes and if your boundaries were violated as a child you have no clue you have any. Then as an adult you learn. This is such great teaching. 👍
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
My family was chock full of alcoholism, violence and sexual misconduct ( molestation). I had no idea what respect or boundaries were! I do now. I wouldn't be with a man who would consider going to a strip joint. That's playing with fire. I want to marry a man whose desire is to live righteously and please God.
I lost three men to ex’s they were in touch with while we were dating/bf gf. Each man I was with said they were just friends 2/3 ended up marrying the ex.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks hey brother. Do you have a concept on male & female friendships/ opposite sex boundaries?
Oh wow 😯 crazy
Prayers please! This video is spot on not just with love relationships but also relationships with family and friends. I have failed to set my boundaries because I’m scared to disappoint. Now I’m dealing with drama and all the havoc that could have been avoided if I would have spoke or better yet left! Please always leave if it doesn’t serve purpose and have confidence that if God wants it to happen he will mend it back together! Prayers please I know he has a plan for me and baby girl 😓❤️.
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Amen! Prayers sent out to you and your baby girl ❣️
Be strong sis! You know what you deserve ! You got this!!!
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Check out Good Boundaries and Goodbyes by Lysa Terkeurst she talks about the guilt that comes with setting healthy boundaries and helps instill confidence in what you’re doing.
Thank you for addressing the mother - son dynamic. I was in a 7 year relationship with my recent ex and ultimately had to walk away because of the unhealthy relationship he had with his mother. He gave so much/ too much to this woman. His time, car , and finances. It started to effect MY FINANCES. I tried to talk with him and asked him to respect our relationship and set boundaries with his mother, but he always had excuses and blew me off. She was disrespectful to! She didn't give a damn. He was her son/ husband. Forget the fact I was his fianceè. I really hope one day he can establish healthy boundaries with his mother one day. Because, if not? He'll never find happiness or have a lasting relationship.
And it’s an epidemic. Women emotionally marrying their sons. Making their child the daddy, brother, spouse, provider, protector they never had
Emotional incest is so toxic.
He won't have a healthy relationship with a woman until his mother passes.
@@vanaphill2454 sad but true
“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” [Gen. 2:24] The wife is priority number one. God says so.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Omg. My ex husband would send hundreds of dollars to his mother in another country. She wasn't working and was going to college and we never had money saved or shared accounts. He asked me if we could get a dog, I told him no, we didn't have a fenced yard yet. Two days later I came home and he brought home a dog. He told me HIS MOM said it was a good idea. We are divorced now.
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Wow, his mom don't live with yall.
Setting boundaries is SO important!!! I’ve found that I’ve been able to weed out some peeps simply by setting them lol. If you can’t respect my boundaries (family, friends, etc.) then you don’t respect me and that’s a no for me.🤷🏽♀️🎯
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
@@MeetStephanSpeaks you’re welcome! I appreciate you!❤
Facts!!!
Btw, wasn't you just on RLP channel? Was you the same 1 saying that ya mom just passed? I just commented to? Idk. Disregard if not, my bad. IJS. But if it is you, stay blessed mami. I will pray for you sis! 🙏
@@jayc5756 No that was not me.
True
If your man runs to his mother and tells her everything. if he won't go to a therapist to discuss the relationship...DROP HIM!!!! He won't stop. Or tell his mother stuff about him.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
In a woman perspective, when our man keeps liking beautiful and sexy pictures of women in social media, it made us feel discomfort, insecure and causes low self-esteem. Just my thoughts
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
Stephan, you are so right. In my first marriage, I didn’t set boundaries about my ex relationship with his mom. At that moment I thought he could separate between his love for me and his love for his mom. And I felt I’m not his priority, everything was about how to make his mom happy, after 17 years of marriage I realized that I would not be his priority. Then I divorced him. Then I got married with another man, he is my husband and I set that boundaries right away the second week we met. I’m the happiest after that.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
Congratulations. I’m glad everything is working out for you!!!
What I must say is that you are absolutely correct I thank God for giving you the wisdom that he gave you because honestly there’s not a lot of men who has wisdom like this thank you Stephan for everything that you do I’m 23 and listening to your words and God words helped me a lot and through this journey we call life we’re still learning each and every day I really appreciate you
I ended a marriage after he went to a bachelor party with strippers. I told him I would leave. He lied and did it. That was the end. That was a long time ago. He was a toxic person anyway.
You’re the one that sounds toxic
It sounds like you ended a **potential** to get married, in your imagination; because there’s no way you would have ended an authentic, marriage over something so, vain; frivolous.
If you agreed to get married then why wouldn’t **you** have boundaries set with **your** spouse?
The mistake was your inability to set boundaries, in **every** interpersonal relationship #loveyourselffirst
Yous ret he one who manipulated him with saying you would leave if he goes for that party. I think discussing it would be a better way than threatening him of leaving
I don't think most secular people understand this but if you're a Christian yeah that's majoorrrrly disrespectful. The Bible says if you even look at a person with lust in your heart you've already slept with them. We're not perfect but we have to do all we can to honor our relationships before God and then man. Also says "better not to make a vow then make one and break it saying, how can God hold me to what I said before. "
If you have to lie to your partner about where youre at then most of the time its because they KNOW they werent supposed to be there in the first place...
Strip clubs objectify women in a group setting which I find totally demeaning to women.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
Yes, it's demeaning and just plain NASTY!!!
They objectify themselves because that’s what they CHOSE to do for a living.
Thanks for the info. This is exactly why my relationship came to an end. He had no boundaries with his mom.
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you
It was his Mother that had no boundaries when it came to our relationship, you are right he was not ready for marriage.
I'm sorry to hear about that, and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you 😊
Needed this- eye opening. I look back and realize this was a BIG problem in my past relationships. I failed to set boundaries early and get clarification early on HIS boundaries as well.
So thankful for this video! I finally feel like my concerns are validated when it comes to exes and private messaging/phone calls. I had had the appropriate conversations and given him the appropriate opportunities. We included all the key points that you talked about. Yet he acted like I was crazy. Yes, I kept it moving. He's not for me and that's okay. But he was the one that was mad which I don't get.
OMG!!! My cousin's mom totally disrespects her son's marriage.....She was visiting him and his wife's home, and she would just come in and take over!! His wife stayed quiet at first out of respect. Things got worse and my cousin's wife had to put my aunt in her place. Now my aunt is afraid to visit their house.....lol if my aunt stays in her place, she is welcomed to come visit......But we all know she won't change. She wants her son's all to herself! None of her daughter in laws like her at all......Oh! WoW!!!
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace having boundaries.
If my man can’t “control” himself at a strip club, he won’t be my man long, and I’m totally ok with that. I have never had to talk about these issues with my man, but he’s a good man. I trust him - vice versa. Don’t promote the “boys will be boys” myth. Evolve.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
Agreed. looking is one thing, touching is another regardless of the setting. Respect for your relationship and your partner should be priority over looking a certain way when hanging with "the boys. Just in my opinion.
I agree with entrusting men in situations like that, how they handle that trust will inform me going forward (or not) with them. If you have to put restrictions on them - to ensure they are loyal- what value does that loyalty have?
I wholeheartedly believe in boundaries...however I refuse to have to restrict or limit my partner. Either, we are on the same page and our values and morals align and our mutual respect for each other is in sync, or we are not compatible. We are GROWN. ADULTS. Sometimes, it's simply about incompatibility. And I'm getting a headache just thinking about having to do this with a grown man. Le sigh.
Thank you for this video Stephan. You brought up some points that I personally forget when I'm dating someone new. I've been living under the assumption that people will treat me the way I treat them and that's a fallacy. We need to let people know our boundaries.
AMEN!!!!!
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that.
Saved to favorites, will be referencing later when starting a relationship 🙌🏻🙌🏻 every point so accurate and needed
I am with you about feeling free to be yourself and if I have reason to doubt that you can not set proper boundaries, I can not be in the relationship because that's a lack of discipline and that will cause other problems
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
And just like that Stephan told you his boundaries, what he likes, wants and his preferences. Nicely done 😊
lol, 🙂 thank you for your feedback!
Great advice Stephan! These boundaries are very important to set during the early stages of a relationship. Always be open and honest about what you’re willing to accept! I’m definitely learning!! Thanks!
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
@Stephan Speaks I truly appreciate how careful you are with your specific word choices when explaining complex scenarios, situations, or concepts in your videos, because communication is key to crystal clear understanding and the improvement of relationships. Thank you so much for your care and consideration. I truly appreciate your doing this Stephan. This was an excellent video as always. I am looking forward to part 2 of this video topic.
Agreed !
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Women please STOP saying NO if you don't mean no. You make it so much harder for us women who say NO and always means NO. 🙏❤️
Seriously Im scared to date because of the pressure to have sex right away and I can count many times where I said No and gave in to go to bed 😢
if you want him to try harder, SAY SO. Don't confuse the man.
That part!!!👆🏾👆🏾👆🏾
Personally, i dont like if my man is liking other women pics or reacting to their stories or even following them for their bodies, because i AM A WOMAN and i know what we as women feel about a guy lurking us. If a guy is doing those things and giving me ANY attention and i'm single, than i assume something might happen if i like him and we both start engaging in behaviors. It's FLIRTING. When me and my boyfriend met, we did it via social media, and he was first adding me there and then asking me out on a date, sending me DM's and stuff. So the whole "it's not a big deal" thing makes no sense to me. I met him because he engaged with me on social media, so i'm like "don't even pretend like things don't go down from there". For us women, likes are little pieces of validation, and me as a single girl, i like that validation, but if the guy is in a relationship, i don't respect that man at all or engage with him at all and i feel bad for his wife/partner. Why do you need to validate other women's pictures or bodies? That's asking for something else to happen. When i got in my relationship, i whiped out my instagram of all these dudes who i use to flirt with, and to me JUST watching each other's stories was FLIRTING. So those are boundaries i don't cross myself while in my relationship. Validation and attention is only to my man, and i ask for it to be viceversa.
I was in for the shock of my life after I found out my bf cheated on me. then I learned about the other purpose of Instagram. he took all those extra accounts off his following list but I still don't trust him that he's not talking to women behind my back. and some of those women keep their accounts "private". so yeah I don't trust even trust those either just as much. I didn't know what type of guy I was with till he showed me he betrayed me when life got tough
This is truly an amazing message. I didn't realise I needed to set boundaries until some family members came at me with proverbial knives at a time in my life when I was deeply grieving. I allowed it for a good number of months thinking that was their way of dealing with our shared grief but it took a good friend of mine to remind me that you train people how to treat you and you never expect them to "know or behave better". I thank God for the wisdom pouring out of you on these subjects. They've helped me a lot. May the oil upon you never go dry. Stay blessed
❤️ 🙂 Thank you very much and my you stay blessed as well 🙏
Hello,
Can you please further explain or give an example of how boundaries were crossed while grieving. I recently lost my 27 years young son in a car accident. I believe I am experiencing boundaries being crossed in regard to certain things and wanted to know your experience and how you handled it?
Omg, this is the BEST video that touched every area in our relationship!! Can you also touch on the area when they cry on their daughters shoulders (negatively) which creates unjustly animosity feelings without knowing the whole truth of the situations. Looking forward to your PART 2 and maybe a Part 3..!! You are AWESOME!! Thank you!!
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
They fact I just went live today (11/30/22) and had this same conversation!!!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Communication/Understanding from jump eliminates sooooooo much!!!!!!! Just like u said, u like freedom, someone may think that's simple, but too many IT'S NOT!!!!! Please people have these kind of conversations upfront!!!!! Me personally, think people should spend time apart to miss each other! Y'all up under each other everyday. Some even work with each other. Nothing healthy about that. Take a trip with ur friends or by urself... Get away! At the end of the day, Stephen like i always say on ur videos.... TRUST! Is a helluva drug!!!!!!!!!!! If I can't trust u to go away, partying, hanging with the homies, family house Oct.... Why we together!?!?!?🙏🏾👌🏾👏🏾 loved this one like the rest!🤗😉
Post the link to your live. I would like watch your live.
Yes I know that now, it's important to do it at the beginning,to make things very clear and avoid further troubles. Your advices are so good....I wish I knew you before,because I went through a lot of suffering for not knowing nothing about establishing limits in my relationship , from the very beginning,and when I did it was too late ,and he was already used to cross the line, it was then impossible to change the rules .So again, this is a VIP advice,because also at the beginning we are so blind with romantic emotions we don't want to say NO to anything, that's a big mistake. Thanks again Stephen for your wisdom and your generosity helping us,a part two on this issue is a good idea . I have a question,my ex husband liked a lot to relate in a friendly manner to many women, many of them were my own friends,so he felt comfortable doing that,but I didn't liked that type of closeness with my own female friends,because I didn't did that with his male friends, so do you agree with this. ? Thank you Many blessings to all.
Thank you for sharing this. Great advice and I am learning how to set boundaries. It is so important in every relationship we have.
👏Good points, Stephan!
Can't wait for part 2!
Glad to hear that. Thank you for your response. Stay subscribed and click on the notification bell to be notified whenever I release a new video ❤ 🙏
I had the stripper discussion with my ex when we started dating. He said he would respect my boundaries. 3 years later when he got invited, he decided that he wanted to go and that he changed his mind. We broke up.
*edit: thinking about it, not just the stripper discussion. Ex discussion, physical discussion as well (telling him no for sexual favors). Holy shit this relationship was too much.
He must have been looking for an easy way out . His loss
@@carolinelaronda4523 yeah he sucks. I fell out of love quickly, he was really mean to me at the end and did not want to meet me half way.
Yeah that is one thing I will never accept. I find out you've been to a stripclub and worse you did not tell me about this event before hand it's over. Huge red flag. Let's say your not married yet, can you imagine what he will end up hiding once you do get married? People should take this more seriously then they do,especially the men.
Once your man gets in a strip club and see womans bodies that may be better than their girls, guarantee he will
Be hooked and problems will occur!
@@Iman-ve3il good point but it doesn't even have to be better. Do not allow your man to get used and being comfortable around naked women. It's a recepy for disaster.
Hello Stephan!
You are so right. I was blessed with my in laws and if I could have them again, I would accept them. All praises to God on that.
Ladies, listen, it's the truth.
All these points are on point. Two thumbs up to you Mr. Speaks
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Great Video💜🔥🔥🔥🔥 I feel having boundaries is a good thing in a relationship to have it’s about respect and honor. Knowing one self is to be sure that if someone isn’t in the present of their mate doesn’t necessarily mean that he will intentionally cause harm or would want to hurt her. It will be like harming or hurting one self because if there is Real True Love in that relationship then he or she can feel it and can see their Reflections of their SOUL❣️💫
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
This was me. His friend told me to set boundaries and I didn’t understand. I stayed home pregnant while he was out. Crazy me. I understand now though and will never forget the lesson 🙏🏽
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
I had no idea that some women’s no was not really no for them, because I always mean what I say. My no always really means no! I never play games.
Same here
That part!!!👆🏾👆🏾👆🏾
Hello Stephan, , How is it that I totally agree with you 100% on everything that you spoke upon today? You have an amazing way with your words and are very well spoken. I appreciate all of your time it takes you to make these videos for us! You were very Informative. Thank you so much!
My pleasure ❤️
I appreciate your transparency and honesty. I’ve been in the process of healing and gaining understanding in relationships understanding men understanding our roles and learning what I accept not accept in a relationship
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Omg I’m glad I saw this video. I’m in a relationship with a mommas boy. He said his mom will always come first. I totally agree with having boundaries with the moms should be set. I thought I was wrong for thinking that.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
I was in a relationship with a mama's boy and it did not work ! She interfered always and he allowed it even though we talked about it , it didn't change I left!
Thanks for the great work Stefan! You inspire me to be more open to God and men... you are definitely part of my healing journey 🥰
I always say space is good that way you have time to miss each other
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You went deep! Thank you! I was engaged to a man many years ago who had that exact type of relationship with his mother, meaning she had made him her husband. It was disgusting and thank God I didn’t marry him.
You dodged a bullet 🙏
One thing that I always reminded myself in those situations & I hope she sees this and it helps her, but that was at the end of the day that man is coming back home to you love, 🏠♥️ not those other women. And I completely agree with discussing about boundaries. I feel like we should make that a normal thing to talk about boundaries. So that way it doesn’t have to be even thought of in a negative way yk
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
I agree critical conversations need to be addressed from the start before strong attachments form. Boundaries need to be placed with family or it can weaken & destroy your relationship. Keep the great connect coming ❤️ You have inspired me to start my own channel.
Glad I could help 🙏
Many cannot see the boundary issues. Why? Because we too were raised without boundaries by Narcissistic or, Co dependent parents so we think 🤔 that’s normal
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@@hawaiigirl8089 yes, that is true and this cycle can continue throughout generations until someone gets support and declares that is stops with them.
In your next video on setting boundaries with your man, can you please go over boundaries for a man with his baby mama please! I also really enjoyed this video, great information! 😮
So I have come across a few clips and have very much thankful for the advice, I so appreciate it
I don't mind giving freedom; I need someone I can trust with that freedom because I like my freedom too
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
🖐️ Hi Stephan, great seeing you and I agree with you that common sense is not always common. Being saying that for years! Thanks for sharing with Us and your hair looks awesome. 🙏🏽❤️
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Thank You Stephan Speaks You Are Always On Point With Relationship Advice. God Bless You Much Indeed.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
If a man doesn't know how to handle or can't refuse 'a stripper being sent his way', then to me he can't be trusted when Any Woman who approaches him in Any Manner on Any Day. For me, that pitch was the biggest strike out. There are grown men and there are grown boys. You described the latter, and with all due respect to the usual quality that is put fourth on this channel, it was unimpressive.
Amen I totally agree!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
@Stephan Speaks My pleasure. & I would like to add. When being friends with ex's and people of the opposite gender, there should be no double standards. If a man wants females in his life, a woman can choose the same and he will be accepting too of all the males in her life.
Sad that men have to "try to control themselves".
I was thinking the exact same thing. He’s not 14 he’s a grown man! Peer pressure is NEVER an excuse to disregard & disrespect your spouse. Wow! I am really taken aback & very disappointed by that whole statement Mr. Labossiere
The mother-in-law couldn’t have been more to the point. Thank you for bringing it up.
That was exactly my ex-mother never cut the umbilical cord. Extremely sad
Very good video! We have to be honest with what our boundaries are and not compromise them in order to keep a person around!
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that.
For me, you can do whatever you want as long as you don’t Cheat. Some people will cheat in a closet at work and be faithful at a club
Some people consider emotional cheating to be going to a strip club and engaging in activities and “eye candy” there, porn addiction, talking to women online, talking to or visiting ex’s or women that are known to have sexual desire for the man, flirting with other women, etc. Everyone’s boundaries are different. Everyone’s comfort levels are different. For example, if you date a guy with kids, you have to accept that the guy is going to be interacting and visiting with his ex. You have to be confident in your relationship and the boundaries that you have that you are okay with that. But if it’s just a girl he had a casual relationship with in the past, he has no business going over there in general in my opinion. But men can have emotional relationships with women online that they never see in person and maybe exchange inappropriate pics and I consider that emotional cheating and a relationship ender. So it’s important to communicate and agree on these boundaries are ahead of time so it’s not a surprise blow up later on.
@@kellymariehaley agreed!
Freedom of choice is important, thanks for pointing it out. And for your warmth.
True. Boundaries are important.
Very good points, thank you.
Every person needs to have their own individuality even when in a partnership while respecting the other person. Boundaries are necessary with any relationship.
Most definitely!
I have learned so much from you. I am in my 50s and never had any of these skills until now.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
Well said!I couldn't agree more
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
My boyfriend has severe mental illness and continues to cross my boundaries. This upsets me so much and I have had to take a hard nose approach to choose to not be in a relationship with a man who, for one has severe mental illness, but two, the lack of respect for boundaries on so many levels. This is hard to do but I need my personal space and privacy and that is the bottom line for my mental health.
RUN AWAY
WTF YOU ARE WITH CRAZY???
You, some women, are so weird
🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best.
Yes! This goes for dating apps as well. Some people are okay with dating apps in relationships and some aren’t. Setting these boundaries early in in the relationship makes sure feelings of betrayal don’t occue
Wait, what? Really? Do you mean like I. Open relationships? I don’t understand being on a dating app in a monogamous relationship unless you are cheating..?
@@KEOSHAANEILIA I think they are referring to marriage-minded people who believe they are single until married & might continue rotational dating unless boundaries are set.
STEPHAN! LOVE YOU!! Can you do a video on your thoughts of speed dating and online dating pls?
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
Yes thank you for you touching on that mother-son dynamic
Excellent discussion.
U right I had to threaten my man abt still talking to his ex that he said really made his life hell n denied still talking to her n I found out. He didn’t see it a problem so I told him I was gone gone unblock my ex n talk to other men too-then all of a sudden he was gone fix the problem. I said no Dnt fix it for me we’ll jus keep it like it is. He quickly fix the problem bcuz he didn’t wanna lose me
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
Guys can't take the hurt they give 🙄. The lack of self awareness is ridiculous!
Thank you for this message!
My pleasure ❤️
You're right, I totally agree. Again, it goes both way. This is really good information, because we do assume
90 day fiance episodes " I'm in love with a momma's boy " need to watch this, because I see alot of mom's acting like his women instead of his mom.
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Yes Lord hallelujah !! 📔✏️🙏 I'll open up my notebook and read 📚 ThankYou🍯
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Just food for thought the difference between a man being able to control himself at a strip club and a woman expected to control herself on commenting on a male models photos seems like a difficult balance. In both circumstances you're expecting people to be able to moderate themselves in the moment but there's a huge difference between moderating yourself and your physical body versus moderating text communication which we use everyday.
This is appreciated but this is why you hang out with like minded people. I’ve been married 43.5 years, our social circle doesn’t apply to us.
People can only control themselves.
Trust is essential. I’m glad I’ve never dealt with anything like this.
I’m not insecure!
Really good video! 👏👏👏
Thanks Stephan!
My pleasure ❤️
Very important, when I was young I didn’t set any boundaries with anyone even myself and I ended up doing 10 years in prison for it. Very important
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
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OMG!! I didn’t do this in the beginning and it has been a HARD marriage!
🙏 I hope you reach the point of truly doing what is best.
I have!! And it started with your RUclips videos lol!
This is great information. I am talking to this guy and these are some good questions that I need to ask. Years ago I had a problem with boundaries, but not anymore. If only this stuff 20 years ago. Thank you for sharing.
My pleasure ❤️
Thank you Stephan for this video 💜 greetings from Lebanon 🇱🇧
Glad you enjoyed it!
Is it appropriate to have this discussion about hanging out with friends and curfews during early dating (~1 month)? And how do you approach without overstepping ?
This was spot on. Thank you
My pleasure ❤️
I really appreciate your videos. I feel like you’re very transparent very knowledgeable and respectful .
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
So true boundaries in relationships must need because now a days many women or men suffer with wrong@unhealthy relationship!...
Clubs are not essential. Men should be satisfied with their wife being their own personal stripper. There are ample places to have fun and let loose that are not highly tempting and influential to relationship-compromising situations
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
this "saying no when you mean "chase harder"" is an incredibly problematic mindset women who play games created. I was date r*ped just because the man I, not just said no, but actually begged not to stay at my place took it as "chase me harder".
I wish people were much more honest for the honest ones to not be challenged with the evil just because others loved to play games.
I’m sorry to hear that, and Indeed, it really helps when we embrace honesty.
@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you Stephan! by the way I truly love your content. we can't always see everything completely the same way but your messages in general is truly the ones people should be led with. God knows best and what he gives us is the best. I pray we all find those and become healed and complete in ourselves to get ready to share our lives with them.
Thanks a lot for your work 🙏
“I took my behind right back” LMFAOOO this had me ctfu
Hi Stephan, this is so helpful thanks 🙏 😊
I love you Stephen but I disagree on this situation boundaries or not, a man will do what he wants when he wants period! You can set boundaries you can have a million discussions it ain’t gone happen if he don’t want it
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
I’m 37 with two teenagers, im taking time for me, to work on me. Nevertheless when I start dating will be with intent and will absolutely compartmentalize say ex: we are dating date properly, do activities that pertain to dating, then if things move to the next level follow same footprint as what pertains to a exclusively serious relationship. It might seem strange because im grown still as a few people mentioned we’re to old for some things that rob our time.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Thank you for your Investments so we can be a Blessing,Love your Vibes 🙏❤️
Amen! The truth about my life is that my husband doesn't appreciate a good woman/wife until she is just fed up with all the abuse and disrespect that she has been going through for years and praying for him to change which is only getting worse.I realize that life is too short to continue with a man is not willing to change and say that they are not going to change or be controlled. In so many words, deal with it. The devil is a lie, which I know that I deserve better. I feel like I am living with three teenagers. My husband is not supportive, motivating, inspiring, and sex is less to none.