I see that you're not really active anymore on youtube which is fine. But I wanted to say thank you, and I hope that all is well with you. You've helped me.
I'm writing my fear inventory now and even though I'm working with a sponsor I'm still researching as much as possible because we're down to life or death here! Thank you so much for your service and I appreciate you!
😊I hope you are still sober😊and trusting that Higher Power only wants what is best ❤I have been sober since 5-10-2015 and in my 1st 4 years buried my dad my mom and my husband of 21 years marriage. In 5 months I will be 8 years sober by the grace of GOD and 12 steps of AA and not picking up NO MATTER WHAT 😮😊
Thank you brother for this video. Am on doing the 4th step for the second time. And the way your explaining it gives me courage to do it better then the last.
In my opinion there is no such thing as failing in this step. Many people have taken this step again and again. That's not a problem. Honesty is a big deal here. Don't lie to yourself and don't lie to anyone else. AA is a wonderful program. The program is the 12 Steps. The Fellowship is the Fellowship. They are not the same thing. Somebody might not tell you that. But that's the way it is. I met many wonderful people in the Fellowship who helped me change my life. I will never forget them. If you're a real alcoholic you'll never go wrong by following this program.
The fellowship we talk about the solution we have found in AA. The steps separate us from Alcohol. Then we practice these principles in all of our affairs to stay stopped. There’s two tricks to this game first one is how do I get separated from alcohol and drugs. The other is simply how do I stay stopped. Most people have stopped before probably quit 1 million times and start back up again. How do I stay stopped I get comfortable by relieving the baggage and the anxiety that’s following me and blocking me from others. Good luck on your journeys. Great life lucky to be able to do it
This is the most important video/message I've ever listened to. Addict or not, doing a fear inventory and training yourself to identify these irrational thoughts & emotions will change your life, almost immediately. THANK YOU.
Another good video. I got sober before the internet. Recently decided to help a young man with his problem. I was going though the book with him and then I thought, damn this should be so cool now. Just go to RUclipsz and have someone explain what needs done. Boy was I wrong. Your channel seems to be the only one I mainly agree with on here. Keep up the good work. Be aware that pride is a character defect. Peace be upon you, brother.
Thank you so much for this. I am currently working on my fear inventory and the way you explained everything made so much sense. I was really struggling with it but I think I understand so much better now. Please keep doing what you're doing 🙏💙
Excellent 👍🏼🤩 video. TY 👌 I could identify with fears. I didn't know I dwelled in so much fear until I came to FA for the food obsession. With God's grace I am developing courage and love for others & myself. TyG 🙏🏼🤗 😇🌷
this is beautiful, piercing, and transformative. Gratitude to you, god bless you and thankyou very much for your service. i have struggled througth the steps but your video brings healing clarity. Please. PLEASE continue to post. i have subscribed.
Thank you for your video and help for step 4. I attend 24/7 Agnes water recovery AA meeting on zoom and I hear this alot , and inventory etc. Ive been complacent with my step 4 and finding fears and faults with my fellow global zoom crew , my ego feels attacked for no reason so thank you for helping me through to putting my head down and getting on with my step 4 to uncover my character defects , ego it prevents me from being happy good and lovely xx
Can you sponsor me 😄 Thank you this. One of my core "issues" is not being good enough. That, running wild, leads to everything in my head riddled with guilt/shame. I have looked high and low for a woman to bring me to root causes. This helps so much.
Thankyou brother,by far one of the best 12 step.vidios i have ever listen to....great work...mmuch apreciated...ps..i have listened to loafs of other 12 vidios..yours are clean and simple and straight out of the big book..good one.
This is so cool to do this !! I was just randomly asking a question my sponsee was dealing w as some confusion arouse… ur vulnerable ness and authenticity is powerful! So crazy bc I add the fear prayer and wait and see what intuitive thoughts or feeling comes up… even w out the prayer just the process u came to an awareness … who am I to, what was it think for others or something along those lines… anyhow so appreciate this. Hoping it will shed some light for my sponsee.❤️🙏🏼🌈 making rainbows from shit storms
Fear is the biggest driver of all of my faults. I fear I'm not capable enough. This leads to frustration and anger. Which leads to lower feelings of self worth and affects every aspect of my life.
I did my steps and had 7 years sober. I went out nust smoking pot. I dont feel the need to do steps or even go to AA. Now days i wouldnt trust anyone with knowing everything about me. Im just speaking for myself. Tell me i have trust issues i do because most people are fake and tell people about what you told them. No thats not in my head ive heard ex sponsor talk 🖕you never again. Plus telling someone to much is ammo for them to control. Knowledge is power.
This was very helpful but I’m still STUCK on my 4th step I’m so struggling with identifying my fear 4 th column. I wish there were 4th step work shops. Nick
@@steventhomas6180 maybe 3. the effectiveness of the program depends on how well we do three. if a person is struggling on a step it because they haven't done the previous one correctly. Also, the 4th column isn't necessarily something bad i did, it might be irrational.
Been sober 7 years in August. I've never done the 4th through the 12th step. I pretty much stopped going to AA . I had many sponsors, but never really used them. And it's all because of fear. I have always complicated the steps , how can this sponsor help me when he don't know my history, doesn't understand where these fears came from etc. I feel some fears are legitimate. Say it's a fear of someone who you honestly don't know what they will do from experience? That to me is not a made up fear, it's a fear born from actual experience with the person in the past.But that person is a relative. That's not my only fear by no means. Point is that I'm still in the same spot I was when I got sober, I just have not drank, or drugged again. I personally believe God took that desire from me as I never think about drinking anymore but the reasons I drank are all still there.
All fears are legitimate, and never let anyone tell you otherwise. 12 Step sponsors love to be in total control, it's all they understand. I know, because I was involved in that life for several years. I watched families torn apart, friendships and other relationships suffer because of it. Is your life better because you're sober? It doesn't get any more complicated than that, my friend. In 12 Step you are REQUIRED to turn your life over to your sponsor or else they will NOT help you. It's not about God or the ever elusive higher power, it's about control of other human beings. So please, never EVER let someone tell you that your fears aren't legitimate. "90 meetings in 90 days" is just enough time for a desperate person to be indoctrinated into an organization that really doesn't care about your sobriety, it's only about control. Fear is real, we all have them. If we didn't we wouldn't be human.
@@sheraleewoods834 All due respect, I know what a sponsor's job is. It's about the selfish control of other human beings at a very low time in their lives. I know this better than most because I was involved in the petty insanity of 12 Step for a long time from both sides of the aisle. I tried to bring some open minded humanity to my sponsorships, until I realized that when you're part of a cult like 12 Step, the individual means nothing. I escaped after watching families and marriages torn apart by the control of sponsors who only care about their own agendas and narcissism.
If a person accepts step 1 AA will enable him or her too stay sober. Social contact with like minded people is the best way to stay alcohol free. AA is not a cult
I don't think you showed how it was laid out on your paper. I've done Step 4 through the Big Book years ago. I was trying to do 10th step which for me is laid out the same but for current daily inventory. I forgot how to lay it out. I'll keep looking
The “program” is Unity thru the traditions, Recovery thru the steps and Service thru the concepts. Our personal recovery depends on the program of AA, if it folds we all perish … Trust God(as we understand God) clean house help others and most of all don’t pick up the first drink & keep coming!
@JonnyChaos you can do it. Once you've written your fear inventory down, do your sex inventory, then on to step 5. Do step 5 and share it all with someone, and keep moving forward with the steps as outlined in the book .
God reliance failed me. I got sober by leaving AA and facing the truth and developing new better self reliance instead of believing i was a powerless victim.
This is very helpful
Non alcoholics could use this as well
The book says, our way of life has advantages for all.
I see that you're not really active anymore on youtube which is fine. But I wanted to say thank you, and I hope that all is well with you. You've helped me.
I'm writing my fear inventory now and even though I'm working with a sponsor I'm still researching as much as possible because we're down to life or death here! Thank you so much for your service and I appreciate you!
😊I hope you are still sober😊and trusting that Higher Power only wants what is best ❤I have been sober since 5-10-2015 and in my 1st 4 years buried my dad my mom and my husband of 21 years marriage. In 5 months I will be 8 years sober by the grace of GOD and 12 steps of AA and not picking up NO MATTER WHAT 😮😊
Happy early, 9 years of sobriety!
Yes your suppose be doing it with a sponsor that's how you get true feedom within yourself
This is so helpful. I appreciate you. Thank you.
Thank you so much, it really helped me.
Thank you brother for this video. Am on doing the 4th step for the second time. And the way your explaining it gives me courage to do it better then the last.
Doing it now for 1st time
Very helpful--thank you. Liked and subbed!
In my opinion there is no such thing as failing in this step. Many people have taken this step again and again. That's not a problem. Honesty is a big deal here. Don't lie to yourself and don't lie to anyone else. AA is a wonderful program. The program is the 12 Steps. The Fellowship is the Fellowship. They are not the same thing. Somebody might not tell you that. But that's the way it is. I met many wonderful people in the Fellowship who helped me change my life. I will never forget them. If you're a real alcoholic you'll never go wrong by following this program.
The 12 steps without the fellowship won't work, it's a we program. We need the guidance and support of other AA's. How it works. KCB..
The fellowship we talk about the solution we have found in AA. The steps separate us from Alcohol. Then we practice these principles in all of our affairs to stay stopped. There’s two tricks to this game first one is how do I get separated from alcohol and drugs. The other is simply how do I stay stopped. Most people have stopped before probably quit 1 million times and start back up again. How do I stay stopped I get comfortable by relieving the baggage and the anxiety that’s following me and blocking me from others. Good luck on your journeys. Great life lucky to be able to do it
Thank you, well said
@@stephenbrody2717and to you!
The only way to fail is half measures. I tried the softer, easier route for 3 years. Gave it 100% now I'm almost 4 years sober and saved $88,000
Thank you so much for your incite and sensitivity. I'm just starting my 4th step and now I don't feel so empty and lost.
This is the most important video/message I've ever listened to. Addict or not, doing a fear inventory and training yourself to identify these irrational thoughts & emotions will change your life, almost immediately. THANK YOU.
Another good video. I got sober before the internet. Recently decided to help a young man with his problem. I was going though the book with him and then I thought, damn this should be so cool now. Just go to RUclipsz and have someone explain what needs done. Boy was I wrong. Your channel seems to be the only one I mainly agree with on here. Keep up the good work. Be aware that pride is a character defect. Peace be upon you, brother.
You’ve helped me out more than you will know. Your higher power is really working. Thanks for the video
Glad to hear it! You're very welcome.
Thank you so much for this. I am currently working on my fear inventory and the way you explained everything made so much sense. I was really struggling with it but I think I understand so much better now. Please keep doing what you're doing 🙏💙
Excellent 👍🏼🤩 video. TY 👌
I could identify with fears. I didn't know I dwelled in so much fear until I came to FA for the food obsession. With God's grace I am developing courage and love for others & myself. TyG 🙏🏼🤗
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this is beautiful, piercing, and transformative. Gratitude to you, god bless you and thankyou very much for your service. i have struggled througth the steps but your video brings healing clarity. Please. PLEASE continue to post. i have subscribed.
Love you brother. Thank you for your service.
This is so warming and familiar.
Thank you for your video and help for step 4. I attend 24/7 Agnes water recovery AA meeting on zoom and I hear this alot , and inventory etc. Ive been complacent with my step 4 and finding fears and faults with my fellow global zoom crew , my ego feels attacked for no reason so thank you for helping me through to putting my head down and getting on with my step 4 to uncover my character defects , ego it prevents me from being happy good and lovely xx
Very authentic sir. I am in rehab now and I watch your videos when I wake up everyday and am inspired. Thanks for giving.
Can you sponsor me 😄
Thank you this. One of my core "issues" is not being good enough. That, running wild, leads to everything in my head riddled with guilt/shame. I have looked high and low for a woman to bring me to root causes. This helps so much.
EVERYONE needs to do this
Good video dealing with fear right now and working thru it
Best explanation of fer inventory that I have heared
Thanks for explaining the inventory list. I was confused when I was reading about this part in the book.
Thank you for your great service.
Fear can consume you if you allow it. I am about to work a forth and fifth step to clear out the wreckage of my past. Thank you for this
Very helpful. Thanks
Thankyou brother,by far one of the best 12 step.vidios i have ever listen to....great work...mmuch apreciated...ps..i have listened to loafs of other 12 vidios..yours are clean and simple and straight out of the big book..good one.
I'm glad you liked it.
This is so cool to do this !! I was just randomly asking a question my sponsee was dealing w as some confusion arouse… ur vulnerable ness and authenticity is powerful! So crazy bc I add the fear prayer and wait and see what intuitive thoughts or feeling comes up… even w out the prayer just the process u came to an awareness … who am I to, what was it think for others or something along those lines… anyhow so appreciate this. Hoping it will shed some light for my sponsee.❤️🙏🏼🌈 making rainbows from shit storms
Fear is the biggest driver of all of my faults. I fear I'm not capable enough. This leads to frustration and anger. Which leads to lower feelings of self worth and affects every aspect of my life.
Thanks for this video. Also remember to ask God to remove your fears and direct your attention as to what He would have us be.
Thank you for these videos! I learn alot about myself everyday and understanding my fears.
We’ll done brother thanks for your efforts to share your recover and carry this message.
You made me understand 4th step ❤❤❤❤
Thanks, David. Appreciate you sharing part of your own inventory. It helped to motivate me to complete mine.
I am glad you follow the Big Book😊😊😊
Thanks for the service sir.
Fear of drinking again is power most members use along with fear of being shunned a bit within AA. Subtle coercion works.
Great video, background music is a bit loud though
I did my steps and had 7 years sober. I went out nust smoking pot. I dont feel the need to do steps or even go to AA. Now days i wouldnt trust anyone with knowing everything about me. Im just speaking for myself. Tell me i have trust issues i do because most people are fake and tell people about what you told them. No thats not in my head ive heard ex sponsor talk 🖕you never again. Plus telling someone to much is ammo for them to control. Knowledge is power.
Good man thank you as doing this for 1st time
This was very helpful but I’m still STUCK on my 4th step I’m so struggling with identifying my fear 4 th column.
I wish there were 4th step work shops.
Nick
No you are stuck on step one
@@steventhomas6180 maybe 3. the effectiveness of the program depends on how well we do three. if a person is struggling on a step it because they haven't done the previous one correctly. Also, the 4th column isn't necessarily something bad i did, it might be irrational.
Thy will be done! Thanks 🙏🏻
Very good vid.. Thankyou
Man finally, a lot of meeting I found were just recruiting grounds for outside services
Good stuff !
A STRONG CASE OF SHYNESS STARTED ME UP
Been sober 7 years in August. I've never done the 4th through the 12th step. I pretty much stopped going to AA . I had many sponsors, but never really used them. And it's all because of fear. I have always complicated the steps , how can this sponsor help me when he don't know my history, doesn't understand where these fears came from etc. I feel some fears are legitimate. Say it's a fear of someone who you honestly don't know what they will do from experience? That to me is not a made up fear, it's a fear born from actual experience with the person in the past.But that person is a relative. That's not my only fear by no means. Point is that I'm still in the same spot I was when I got sober, I just have not drank, or drugged again. I personally believe God took that desire from me as I never think about drinking anymore but the reasons I drank are all still there.
All fears are legitimate, and never let anyone tell you otherwise. 12 Step sponsors love to be in total control, it's all they understand. I know, because I was involved in that life for several years. I watched families torn apart, friendships and other relationships suffer because of it. Is your life better because you're sober? It doesn't get any more complicated than that, my friend. In 12 Step you are REQUIRED to turn your life over to your sponsor or else they will NOT help you. It's not about God or the ever elusive higher power, it's about control of other human beings. So please, never EVER let someone tell you that your fears aren't legitimate. "90 meetings in 90 days" is just enough time for a desperate person to be indoctrinated into an organization that really doesn't care about your sobriety, it's only about control. Fear is real, we all have them. If we didn't we wouldn't be human.
@@jeffsilverman6104 a sponsors job is to review the book and steps with you for the purpose of keeping themselves sober.
@@sheraleewoods834 All due respect, I know what a sponsor's job is. It's about the selfish control of other human beings at a very low time in their lives. I know this better than most because I was involved in the petty insanity of 12 Step for a long time from both sides of the aisle. I tried to bring some open minded humanity to my sponsorships, until I realized that when you're part of a cult like 12 Step, the individual means nothing. I escaped after watching families and marriages torn apart by the control of sponsors who only care about their own agendas and narcissism.
This is awesome 💯 my language.
I appreciate these videos, so I 👍🏿and subscribed 🙏🏿
Thanks for subscribing
Thanks!
Beautiful
If a person accepts step 1 AA will enable him or her too stay sober. Social contact with like minded people is the best way to stay alcohol free. AA is not a cult
Thanks
Thank you!
I don't think you showed how it was laid out on your paper. I've done Step 4 through the Big Book years ago.
I was trying to do 10th step which for me is laid out the same but for current daily inventory. I forgot how to lay it out. I'll keep looking
Just write it down no rightvor wrong way as long you have it wrote out on any paper
Gbu brother. 2.5 years ODAAT
In y'all's opinion, what's a considerable amount of time to spend writing and or doing a 4th step?
Thank you!!!!
I could use a couple more examples. Please 🙏 😊
Thank You ❤
The “program” is Unity thru the traditions, Recovery thru the steps and Service thru the concepts. Our personal recovery depends on the program of AA, if it folds we all perish … Trust God(as we understand God) clean house help others and most of all don’t pick up the first drink & keep coming!
AA is not a cult. AA is a friendly group of people getting together for social contact . There is nothing to fear from AA
Dude, where is the screenshot of the page so we can follow it?
The whole world needs to work the steps lol it should be forced hahaha jk but thank u I'm just finishing my fear inventory
I didn’t realize step 4 was fear inventory??? I’m confused
Step 4 involves taking resentment, fear, and sex inventories. Instructions are all in the big book.
Where's the screen shot?
Thanks for this. Maybe not have the background music at a higher level than your voice? It’s very distracting
haha this was one of my earlier videos and I had no idea what I was doing.
It’s not just for alcoholic!!!
I'm on step 4 now, don't think I can do it.
Yes you can. Do it the way the big book shows it... page 65.
@@thesoberempire I mean through fear
@JonnyChaos you can do it. Once you've written your fear inventory down, do your sex inventory, then on to step 5. Do step 5 and share it all with someone, and keep moving forward with the steps as outlined in the book .
Thing is , we don't do it . We examine and present to our Higher Power. He does it .
Sup bro need help with 4th you have email ?
dm me on instagram
so well scripted👍
Turn off the music ffs
Invantory writing starts at 4:15
The music is distracting me big time
God reliance failed me. I got sober by leaving AA and facing the truth and developing new better self reliance instead of believing i was a powerless victim.
I fear nothing! AA Alter boys live in Fear.
Omg the Fckng music made it impossible for me to hear it!
Too much music
Thank You!..🤗🫡
Practical, insightful, encouraging. Thank you for your humble honest sharing, David.
This is very helpful for me right now.
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