Point summary (timestamps included): 1) 1:06 You have anger management problems. 2) 1:40 You struggle with intrusive thoughts. 3) 2:11 Your emotional intelligence needs improvement. 4) 2:50 You have addictive tendencies. 5) 3:22 You have avoidant tendencies. 6) 3:53 You have poor/unfulfilling relationships. 7) 4:27 You have a fear/distrust of happiness. Hope you’re all well, Psych2Goers. Stay stellar.
@@unknownunknown1267 Here it is ✨🎖️✨ Hope you get free ticket from professional therapist after this. And I hope you get better with a gentle life as well!
I tick all boxes. I'm currently working alone, at night, performing minimum wage tasks. Still suffering from depression and all it's symptoms. I'm 40 and only just coming to terms with the sustained abuse I suffered during childhood.
You definitely are not alone, my friend. I, too, am 40 and have only ever known menial jobs with below-average pay. And, the personal struggles, the loneliness and the social isolation, only make matters worse. Please continue on your journey to healing; I am just starting on mine. I wish you well! 🕊
@thereadersvoice ❤❤thanks for your encouraging words, it's good to have insight and awareness in order to proceed to a healing and fulfilling journey.
many of us older men out there. few resources for men. It's real. Im 55 and have untreated C-PTSD and other health issues with no resources left. Never could get access to the right help i needed in time. Now it's too late. It is completely devastating. Lost everything.
I deal with youngest sibling syndrome every day and have an older sibling who used to dump their anger issues on me. Every happy moment I had was either shut down or criticized. This video has helped me see that I grew up in an unhealthy emotional environment and explains why, 10 years later, I don’t open up to people anymore.
1) 1:06 You have anger management problems. 2) 1:40 You struggle with intrusive thoughts. 3) 2:11 Your emotional intelligence needs improvement. 4) 2:50 You have addictive tendencies. 5) 3:22 You have avoidant tendencies. 6) 3:53 You have poor/unfulfilling relationships. 7) 4:27 You have a fear/distrust of happiness. I used to have 2 3 4 5 6 &7 I've been working on it now for about 4 years though Gradually working through my trauma I now only regularly struggle with 2 4 & 7 That's progress I've literally cut my toxic trauma responses/symptoms in half I've made notable improvement in these last three as well and hope I'll be free from them someday I'm hoping I'll be free from #4 by the end of the year...wish me luck
@@Psych2go when I finally Left the bad place I was in what helped me was my mom help me to finally talk and over time I wasn't dealing with anything bad so I'm starting to trust others again sorry my comment long
Thank you for all your videos, you're one of the best channels in the world. TIMESTAMPS: 1:06 You have anger management problems. 1:40 You struggle with intrusive thoughts. 2:10 Your emotional intelligence needs improvement. 2:48 You have addictive tendencies. 3:24 You have avoidant tendencies. 3:54 You have poor/unfulfilling relationships. 4:28 You have a fear/distrust of happiness. I love that you're still talking about these, often unnoticed topics. I've been following since 2019/2020 and the growth of the channel is amazing, specially the art. Great job❤
I have been struggling severely with intrusive thoughts about death and other terrible things that I've done in my past. It has caused me to be very negative about where I am in life. I can relate to the fear of being happy. My thoughts tell me that if I'm happy then time will fly by and I will be suddenly an old man or that much closer to the grave.
Don't worry buddy you are not alone,I have been going through similar things,my parents have abused me since I was 5,I have lost all emotional connection to them,I don't want to make new friends due fear of losing friends,the only thing that somewhat connects me to them is the gratitude that they are still ready to fulfill my demands.they think they did everything right,no one except a few of the friends in my life know what they did to me.
Almost every day I get that feeling of just random sadness. I feel down even if nothing is wrong. My mom thinks I have depression and I second this. Whenever I’m in a place where things are truly good and it seems like I’d have no reason to be sad or scared, my mind immediately goes to, “no, stay sad!” And I have no idea why. I hate being sad. It’s not fun obviously. So why do I want to stay sad? This kinda gave me the answer, that sadness and depression is all my mind knows so I feel safe. But I’m doing my best to get out of it. I have a bunch of supportive people. I’m doing my best and that’s all that matters.
I feel like anything good that comes into my life, is only given to be taken away. I fear every person I talk to, even loved ones is going to do something whether big or small, but always something that hurts. I'm terrified that anyone can potentially be just like the others who left me crazy and alone. My biggest fear I think is dying alone, yet the risk of going through anything like I have before is almost worse than that.
I have the same thing. It's terrifying and confusing and shameful. I believe in overcoming it, though, because I want to still be happy, despite all the unhappiness that comes with it. I wish you all the best. Hope you're ok.
@@ha.6215 It's actually quite empowering once you realize that you are the author of your experiences. That diminishes the role that luck plays in your life.
@anonygent You're not the author of your own experiences. There are just too many variables out of personal control. You can't decide what happens to you. Life just happens. Deluding yourself to be content with whatever horrible thing happens to you isn't healthy.
here's a tip to if your having a panic attack or an emotional break down name random numbers out loud I know your gonna be like "what why? that makes no sense" but it helps your mind get off from your panic attack as your trying to find random numbers to say. (I hope it helps I can give you other tips if you want)
On the movie Life Stinks the homeless woman said “ i dont like happiness it can be taken away from you, but depression sticks for years i know it will be around for the long haul”
Folks always say "reach out to someone and talk through your issues" as if help were there for the asking. As though legions of idle therapist are waiting for you to ask for help. What I find are closed appointment books, astronomical prices and complete apathy. I can't even find a provider for my ADHD meds. When the world keep telling you "you don't matter" it's really hard not to believe them
Last year i was actively su***dal and chose to open up to some close friends. They helped set me straight, it literally saved my life. Now when they show up to d&d, they barely say a word to me & their eyes don't leave their phones until anyone else shows up. A few weeks ago i told the group (all lgbt) about how a transphobe tried picking a fight with me, and i was told that i have to be aware of the fact that hearing about stuff like that is damaging to their mental health. I almost got a$$aulted and I have to realize that telling THEM about it is too much for THEM to handle. People say they want you to open up, but when the things they hear is more than they expect, they get overwhelmed and push you away to protect themselves. This is why people don't open up. We just have to carry around a bobcat in a burlap sack & try our best not to let it get out and hurt anyone else, while we hide the claw marks all over our body
I personally had an accident when I was about 1 year old. My dad once told me that he and my mom handed me this toy ball that would vibrate and bounce on it's own a little after the accident happened, and that I was terrified and ended up crying. Hearing how scared I was, and seeing how I can hold the toy with no fear and being perfectly comfortable lets me see how far I've come. I am a little jumpy, though. But, it gives me motivation when I'm sad , seeing my progress after my accident. Remember, you will one day become better and overcome your challenges just like I did, even if it doesn't feel like it right now.
@@sandiletwala3001 Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. It comes from many different moments or situations that caused a great deal of trauma. It can be very hard to unpack and handle your emotions when you are navigating many traumatic symptoms that can be triggered all at once.
That feeling of fear of happiness I didn't know happened to most people. I hate being happy because every time I get happe normally life goes down hill again. I think it helps just knowing that someone understands and sees that this is somthing that can happen.
I do not have anger management problems because I will never let anyone in public see me get emotional. Being in control requires being able to handle your anger. My abusers had no self-control
I lost my husband suddenly several years ago. I found him unconscious and had to do CPR for ten minutes. Despite all efforts, he passed away. I have just about every sign/symptom, not so much anger, but everything else! I feel like it completely changed me, and not for the better! 😢💔
I can empathise a lot! These Tipps may be really helpful! The positive message is powerful! Please don’t choose familiar pain but try to focus on new loving experiences! ♥️
It was very hard when i was 7yrs old, now im 13 now i am at my best improvements.❤ And its because of this video's of understandment and acceptance.You can really change a life to the least you could do.❤
I thank y’all for making these videos, yall help me understand myself better than anything, than I would even without these videos, Thank y’all so much, I can’t even explain how thankful I am, y’all help more people than you would ever except.
I can relate myself to all of these as a person who got traumatized by students(including minors) and teachers(saying most rude things that someone doesn't deserve and not helping when getting bullied by students) except for anger management issues(I mean I don't always exhibit them but I have) and relationships because although I can't build ones being scared of it, I'm still well with my father. Thanks for this video again!
Lost my dad when I was 20 due to alcoholism and my brother to fentanyl 3 years ago. Having problems with impulsive anger burst since. Already had help and it got better.
My trauma experience was one that affected my life negatively, it was a friend who did some things to me that I can’t quite explain why. She would blame me for her issues, she would blow up at me for simply just trying to talk to her, she even went as far as saying I was hurting her and ending our friendship, only to beg for me to come back. I agreed. But this friend getting angry with me caused me to worry that my other friends would do the same, which eventually evolved into me trailing just out of sight behind them, wishing to join, but never speaking. One time though, I got careless, following in the rain with my hood up, following only six feet behind; they began to think of it as a little creepy, but only in a joking manner, they jokingly started to walk faster, making unintelligible whispers. I noticed this, but my body wouldn’t let me turn away. The my other friend came, she walked up to me, and looked me in the eyes. “Are you okay?” She said. I broke down completely, saying everything I felt and crying hard. The previous friends immediately ran back, seeing that I was in some sort of distress.
Timestamp! -1:06 You have anger management problems -1:39 You struggle with intrusive thoughts -2:10 Your emotinal intelligence needs improvement -2:48 You have addictive tendencies -3:21 You have avoidant tendencies -3:52 You have poor/unfulfilling relationships -4:25 You have a fear/distrust of happiness
I was recently diagnosed with Pure OCD and PTSD (though I have long suspected the latter to be in the form of C-PTSD, which does not, as of 2024, yet have a diagnosis in my country). I relate to all of the following signs listed in the video, especially intrusive thoughts, emotional dysregulation and addictive tendencies.
I can say its really a explainable video to people who cant understand how it feels like as I grow up I thought the traumas are no longer with me but after I watched this I can clearly say the traumas still hurting me alot because I felt most of them in general situations even these near days I feel something is bothering me alot but I dont know what its and I am avoiding almost every plans with my friends its really something people cant understand by only hearing the problems
i can’t believe i relate to all of this, i thought i was done with it but after watching this video it made so much sense, i always get angry all of a sudden (and almost all the time) and i don’t even know where is the anger coming from even things that shouldn’t be a big deal but it would made me much more angry, i also noticed getting intrusive thoughts especially when someone/smths triggers it, i used to eat so much until i couldn’t, i don’t talk to people anymore like i used to especially in the internet (i ghosted my internet friend who was only good to me) sometimes i don’t understand myself because my friends and i talk about hanging out (yk make memories since it’s our last in senior high) but for a while i felt like i just wanted to cancel it all of a sudden which i did the other day. lastly when i feel like i am feeling very happy i remind myself to not be happy too much because when something goes up it goes down (if you know what i mean) i just can’t believe it😭 i mean this month all i’ve been trying to do is to be better and to know i’m not done with this is sad because i thought i’m done with it since i don’t feel anything anymore (unless someone/smth triggers it lmao) also i don’t see it as a bad thing that i don’t talk to people anymore especially in the internet, i tend to overshare in the past so i see this as a win (i talk to people irl though but i keep it casual)
All of these just felt normal, but when the video got to #7, I started crying and haven't been able to stop. That's the first time I've realized it's not normal. I withdraw heavily whenever I realize things have gotten okay.. because I know everything will be taken away again.
The greatest advice from Jung in my particular situation is to become acquainted with the shadow self: I've consciously confronted all the trauma that I have to the fullest extent of my awareness, but my particular flavor of trauma is CPTSD and spiritual abuse, something that all the credentialed therapists I have talked to are not terribly helpful with. In fact, two of them told me that I had researched and understood more than they had in that niche area. I am coming to deal with the real possibility that what I am carrying is probably really statistically unique.
Unfortunately, this is also part of my life! Amanda's voice is so soothing and comforting, it is beyond description! I really look forward to listening and watching your videos because they really help in so many ways! I hope you guys will always be around! Bye!
I relate to all numbers but the part that made my day was 0:43 Like girl your the best yes at a young age I have experienced trauma for 6 years And I loved that part since I am a hazbin hotel fan and I always watch it just to keep myself calm I love the details!
I’m a lot better now compare to last few years. I’ve met a lot of good friends in college. Although sometimes I still feel insecure. Thinking if I’m not good enough and self-centred. I started to forget the details of those trauma. All my friends now are still girls just like my childhood. It’s great that no one has opinions on it. I’m no longer feel separated with my friends anymore because there’s no gender rules like primary and secondary schools. We can line up together, group together, having pe lessons together. I was forced to separate with my friends because I’m not the same gender with them which causes my insecurities and feels different among other boys. It’s so interesting that I have no problems communicating with others. My classmates is neutral to me unlike classmates in the past. I still have the weird feeling to males now. I find myself have difficulties to speak and stay with them. Last time I was in a common area drawing by myself and suddenly a bunch of boys came in. I immediately being so sensitive and has to escape.
The first time I wished to end this life was when I was 8 years old because of family problem. You know it was very hard for me at a young age, as an only child, being left alone at home, crying and wishing to just die because my parents were always fighting and breaking apart. There was no one. I just had myself and I was very hurt and angry. I could still remember the feeling of pain that time. And I'm starting to think that maybe it all began from there. Now, I'm 24 years old.
Holy cow! I see this in my subscription notifications, and I click on it. Typically, I either find myself interested in what is being said, or I think to myself, "oh yeah, some of these things I can relate to," and usually not much more. Really, it's usually just some good insights for me, and nothing else. But, oh boy oh boy...I've never, ever, since first watching your videos in 2022, fallen into every single category on any of your videos or lists, until now! Everything explained in this video, these things all really nailed what I'm going through right now in my own personal life. And to think that I see this video shortly venting my frustrations with life in general to God. Coincidence? I really don't think so! I think, though, that this video really articulated my own personal struggles really well, and it's because of this that I feel like I can articulate my struggles to my psychologist. I couldn't have done this or explained how I'm feeling without your help here. Thank you so so much, @Psych2Go! God bless you all! Keep up the good work, as you always do! 🙏❤
I relate to a lot of this video. I have been going to therapy but i feel it hasn't helped at all as I feel my therapist doesn't understand me. I no longer have insurance so I cannot go see a therapist and it sucks because I feel I cannot express myself freely. 😢😢
I'm sorry you've been going through that. Writing stuff down might help! It doesn't work for everyone, but it can help someone vent or process their thoughts. It's something that's helped me a bit. Even if it doesn't work for you, I hope your situation will get better or you'll find someone to talk to (hopefully both).
@@JuneTi745 Thank you for your concern. I have tried writing and unfortunately it doesn't help me. I have tried a lot of different coping skills so I'm still looking for something that will help.
Oh there's no doubt about it. But I lived experience has taught me that I'm cursed and won't ever escape it, and no amount of positive thinking or good will can change that. At best I've learned to cope with being perpetually miserable and just try to make sure I don't burden others and try to help them with their issues. I've only very recently started not totally dreading my birthday again, like in the last year or so. I don't get excited, but it doesn't fill me with as much dread and self loathing. Life's just easier when you expect the worst at every turn and keep expectations to a minimum.
I still fighting with the suicidal thoughts and struggling to looking at the mirror because how disgusting I am with myself and now I'm on the point where I can looked at the mirror, it's still hard to not looking at myself positively but I think I'm on the right direction for myself.
I have various addictions, gaming and eating are one of the only moments I feel genuinely excited or happy and im about to get into smoking very probably. It's sad how I feel like dead weight but it's the only thing stopping my thinking that only makes me sadder
Instead of smoking, try to adopt a habit that is harmless or even helpful, like exercise or weightlifting or writing. Something you can throw yourself into without worrying about the long term effects. Some people become obsessive house cleaners to avoid drug or alcohol addiction. You still have to deal with the underlying issues, but you don't have to worry about dying at 50.
What if you have close friends, and opening up to them a few months ago literally saved your life, but now they're withdrawn & telling you that you have to realize that it isn't fair to open up to people when they're out of spoons? What do you do when you've spent decades bottling your trauma up, and the very people who encouraged you to open up are now exhausted and encouraging you to stop opening up because it's too much now? This is exactly why i don't open up. It truly helped save my life, but now my supports are exhausted. I'm starting to clam back up to protect everyone else again, and it's making me feel isolated again. I can't let anyone in without harming them, and that isn't fair to them. So back to masking up and saying everything is OK, gotta protect everyone else from the war in my head while they cry to me about their papercuts. If i show them my wounds they'll faint and tell me i have to be more considerate of the fact that seeing my wounds is too upsetting for them. Wish i f*cking had the privilege, but I'm the one living with it
Timestamps 1). You have anger management problems 1:04 2). You struggle with intrusive thoughts 1:37 3). Your emotional intelligence needs improvement 2:08 4). You have addictive tendencies 2:47 5). You have avoidant tendencies 3:20 6). You have poor/ unfulfilling relationships 3:51 7). You have a fear/ distrust of happiness 4:25 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
... I really don't know about some things. I got past the abuse that happened twenty years ago, but then last year something even worse happened. There was no physical abuse, but it almost had me give up for good and got the police involved. Two people who only really know my name and a true friend have encouraged me to move on and look for another relationship, but I don't want to put myself at risk again. It hurt my parents as well.
I feel like my emotional state has been put on blast 😩. I'm still struggling with alot of past trauma, and how some if it led to the rest, and I was oblivious to it all
All, all of them, I avoid the girl I like becuase I'm terrified of being happy with her. Now we are drifting appart and I feel guilt for not being there for her. Oh god I wish I wasn't so afraid to be happy to be terified of the only person shining light in your dark lonley life. I'm sorry, I'm truly sorry to you, the girl. The only girl that went out if her way turned back and helped me up. Please be happy Mckaylee, becuase I can't nake you happy and the only thing in the world that brings light to my lonley cold life is the thought that you're happy.
Not even 20s into the video and by the end of it I'm probably gonna also need to have a conversation with my BF too. (Best Friend in case you are actually talking about a Boyfriend) 🐇 Edit: I'll update this comment once I finish the video.
due to a form of abandonment after my parent's divorce...yeah this adds up. on the outside, my life seems like a success story for people with high-functioning autism. but...in spite of all that God's done for me, no matter how far I've gotten, I still...hate being complimented deep down. can't accept and can barely stand praise. even as I somehow manage to motivate others at work without realizing it (parts inspector for an advanced ceramics company)...its like it has nothing to do with me. a happy side effect in spite of constant mistakes. Which signs fit? ALL OF THEM. so, thank you for helping me realize a possible cause for my short temper and major esteem issues. Soli Deo Gloria.
So today I learned that I’m still a mess. Struggling from numbers 2,4,5, and 6. Problem is I don’t think someone who is paid to care really does and in my close circle of family it feels more like people tend to compete (for lack of a better description) for who is most miserable when what I need is a close friend who cares and understands. It’s hopeless isn’t it? I want to be happy
The last point for me is more that happiness is temporary. And when you’re at your highest is when everything falls harder. As soon as everything is good, that’s when those nasty things come back…so to me it’s kinda like “what’s the point if life is just miserable?” The show “Smiling Friends” first episode has a character named Desmond and while all he need was a purpose…I have experience being happy then being crushed by it, feeling “betrayed” by my foolishness..
unresolved trauma can make an impacts on behavior and relationships, addressing these issues through therapeutic support not only enhances emotional intelligence but also improves life quality across the board 🌱.
the worst thing is that im genuinely trying to set my life on the right path and be happier but the down right fear i experience from being happy is not making that very easy
It makes me upset that I relate to every single one of these, thank you for helping me realize my problems. I just don’t know how to move forward I guess
Even though I'm a kid in Asia, I can still understand and realize what's going on. I have trauma since in 4th grade, and it has still haunting me since. I really want therapy but because I'm a kid, I can't. I really need some help of the outside world. Please.
I still have a fear of being happy. My life’s good and I am actually happy so I bet most of you are wondering. “We’ll green if you’re happy you can’t be afraid of it that doesn’t make any sense so what are you afraid of?” I’m afraid of falling like the great Icarus how flew too close to the sun,I’m afraid that if I enjoy it too much that even for a second that I’ll fall back into the darkness,the pain,all of it. I had…a unique childhood I suffered and lost a lot in my youth even as I continued learning more about world in my 20’s my trauma just makes its so difficult to accept to let in,the feeling of happiness,I have a girlfriend,a job,friends,my dad and enough money be secure for my age. I don’t understand why i can’t get out of my past it doesn’t make sense?! And for once idk what to do,I have so many things be thankful for,so many things to be happy about so why can’t I truly be happy on the inside?
His /her past become their only filter.... Then Meet him /her, you see goodness inside them.... After a while you can t communicate with them....if is always like :I didn t mean it this way....... Exhausted after a while
I need a therapist, i know im still broken, but im trying my best, i dont want others to suffer like i did, so if i be the best person i can, maybe i can be there for people, unlike how i was growing up, alone n hurting.
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Does anyone relate to this topic? If you know someone who is struggling with past trauma, do share this video as it help them out!
yes
so that's why i saw three washed up skeletons off the beach in san francisco
my mom is abusing me at home
my parents hate me i need help please do something
Point summary (timestamps included):
1) 1:06 You have anger management problems.
2) 1:40 You struggle with intrusive thoughts.
3) 2:11 Your emotional intelligence needs improvement.
4) 2:50 You have addictive tendencies.
5) 3:22 You have avoidant tendencies.
6) 3:53 You have poor/unfulfilling relationships.
7) 4:27 You have a fear/distrust of happiness.
Hope you’re all well, Psych2Goers. Stay stellar.
❤️❤️❤️❤️
Everything hits. Maybe the last isn't really
7/7 wheres my medal 😎
@@unknownunknown1267
Here it is ✨🎖️✨
Hope you get free ticket from professional therapist after this. And I hope you get better with a gentle life as well!
1.yes its like someone teaches me anger in the past
"Why would anyone have a fear of being happy" is comforting to know
I tick all boxes.
I'm currently working alone, at night, performing minimum wage tasks.
Still suffering from depression and all it's symptoms.
I'm 40 and only just coming to terms with the sustained abuse I suffered during childhood.
Definitely not alone 😢
You definitely are not alone, my friend. I, too, am 40 and have only ever known menial jobs with below-average pay. And, the personal struggles, the loneliness and the social isolation, only make matters worse. Please continue on your journey to healing; I am just starting on mine. I wish you well! 🕊
@thereadersvoice ❤❤thanks for your encouraging words, it's good to have insight and awareness in order to proceed to a healing and fulfilling journey.
I tick all boxes too, you are not alone
many of us older men out there. few resources for men. It's real. Im 55 and have untreated C-PTSD and other health issues with no resources left. Never could get access to the right help i needed in time. Now it's too late. It is completely devastating. Lost everything.
"but overcoming our past trauma allows us to no longer be defined by it". This Part ❤
Fear of happiness, it haunts my wife and I. Always pessimists because once something good comes along, it is followed by something that crushes us.
I deal with youngest sibling syndrome every day and have an older sibling who used to dump their anger issues on me. Every happy moment I had was either shut down or criticized. This video has helped me see that I grew up in an unhealthy emotional environment and explains why, 10 years later, I don’t open up to people anymore.
Okay… I freaking laughed that you had human Alastor from Hazbin Hotel at the beginning of the video!! 🤣
Me too
1) 1:06 You have anger management problems.
2) 1:40 You struggle with intrusive thoughts.
3) 2:11 Your emotional intelligence needs improvement.
4) 2:50 You have addictive tendencies.
5) 3:22 You have avoidant tendencies.
6) 3:53 You have poor/unfulfilling relationships.
7) 4:27 You have a fear/distrust of happiness.
I used to have
2
3
4
5
6
&7
I've been working on it now for about 4 years though
Gradually working through my trauma
I now only regularly struggle with
2
4
& 7
That's progress
I've literally cut my toxic trauma responses/symptoms in half
I've made notable improvement in these last three as well and hope I'll be free from them someday
I'm hoping I'll be free from #4 by the end of the year...wish me luck
I have all of them but I am starting to heal because I finally have a good home environment
Congrats! Our environment plays a big role. Do you mind sharing what helped you get into the right space?
@@Psych2go when I finally Left the bad place I was in what helped me was my mom help me to finally talk and over time I wasn't dealing with anything bad so I'm starting to trust others again sorry my comment long
Thank you for all your videos, you're one of the best channels in the world. TIMESTAMPS:
1:06 You have anger management problems.
1:40 You struggle with intrusive thoughts.
2:10 Your emotional intelligence needs improvement.
2:48 You have addictive tendencies.
3:24 You have avoidant tendencies.
3:54 You have poor/unfulfilling relationships.
4:28 You have a fear/distrust of happiness.
I love that you're still talking about these, often unnoticed topics. I've been following since 2019/2020 and the growth of the channel is amazing, specially the art. Great job❤
@Ilovetherain1 You're welcome! I wanted to be the one who posted them for once😅
I have been struggling severely with intrusive thoughts about death and other terrible things that I've done in my past. It has caused me to be very negative about where I am in life. I can relate to the fear of being happy. My thoughts tell me that if I'm happy then time will fly by and I will be suddenly an old man or that much closer to the grave.
Don't worry buddy you are not alone,I have been going through similar things,my parents have abused me since I was 5,I have lost all emotional connection to them,I don't want to make new friends due fear of losing friends,the only thing that somewhat connects me to them is the gratitude that they are still ready to fulfill my demands.they think they did everything right,no one except a few of the friends in my life know what they did to me.
Almost every day I get that feeling of just random sadness. I feel down even if nothing is wrong. My mom thinks I have depression and I second this. Whenever I’m in a place where things are truly good and it seems like I’d have no reason to be sad or scared, my mind immediately goes to, “no, stay sad!” And I have no idea why. I hate being sad. It’s not fun obviously. So why do I want to stay sad? This kinda gave me the answer, that sadness and depression is all my mind knows so I feel safe. But I’m doing my best to get out of it. I have a bunch of supportive people. I’m doing my best and that’s all that matters.
I feel like anything good that comes into my life, is only given to be taken away. I fear every person I talk to, even loved ones is going to do something whether big or small, but always something that hurts. I'm terrified that anyone can potentially be just like the others who left me crazy and alone. My biggest fear I think is dying alone, yet the risk of going through anything like I have before is almost worse than that.
Keep working on yourself. The problem isn't out there (other people), but in your head. You're creating the reality you fear.
I have the same thing. It's terrifying and confusing and shameful. I believe in overcoming it, though, because I want to still be happy, despite all the unhappiness that comes with it. I wish you all the best. Hope you're ok.
@@anonygent wow. That's invalidating.
@@ha.6215 It's actually quite empowering once you realize that you are the author of your experiences. That diminishes the role that luck plays in your life.
@anonygent You're not the author of your own experiences. There are just too many variables out of personal control. You can't decide what happens to you. Life just happens. Deluding yourself to be content with whatever horrible thing happens to you isn't healthy.
here's a tip to if your having a panic attack or an emotional break down name random numbers out loud I know your gonna be like "what why? that makes no sense" but it helps your mind get off from your panic attack as your trying to find random numbers to say. (I hope it helps I can give you other tips if you want)
I will take any tips you have
thank you :)
@@user-eh1es3hr9u of course :)
I love you!!
On the movie Life Stinks the homeless woman said “ i dont like happiness it can be taken away from you, but depression sticks for years i know it will be around for the long haul”
Folks always say "reach out to someone and talk through your issues" as if help were there for the asking. As though legions of idle therapist are waiting for you to ask for help. What I find are closed appointment books, astronomical prices and complete apathy. I can't even find a provider for my ADHD meds. When the world keep telling you "you don't matter" it's really hard not to believe them
I know someone who is severely traumatized by their childhood tragedies. So sad he wouldn't even let anyone close to him
Last year i was actively su***dal and chose to open up to some close friends. They helped set me straight, it literally saved my life. Now when they show up to d&d, they barely say a word to me & their eyes don't leave their phones until anyone else shows up.
A few weeks ago i told the group (all lgbt) about how a transphobe tried picking a fight with me, and i was told that i have to be aware of the fact that hearing about stuff like that is damaging to their mental health. I almost got a$$aulted and I have to realize that telling THEM about it is too much for THEM to handle.
People say they want you to open up, but when the things they hear is more than they expect, they get overwhelmed and push you away to protect themselves. This is why people don't open up. We just have to carry around a bobcat in a burlap sack & try our best not to let it get out and hurt anyone else, while we hide the claw marks all over our body
I think y’all posted this video when I might’ve needed to see it most. It’s probably time to go back to therapy.
I personally had an accident when I was about 1 year old. My dad once told me that he and my mom handed me this toy ball that would vibrate and bounce on it's own a little after the accident happened, and that I was terrified and ended up crying. Hearing how scared I was, and seeing how I can hold the toy with no fear and being perfectly comfortable lets me see how far I've come. I am a little jumpy, though. But, it gives me motivation when I'm sad , seeing my progress after my accident. Remember, you will one day become better and overcome your challenges just like I did, even if it doesn't feel like it right now.
Living with CPTSD here...
What is that?
@@sandiletwala3001 Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. It comes from many different moments or situations that caused a great deal of trauma. It can be very hard to unpack and handle your emotions when you are navigating many traumatic symptoms that can be triggered all at once.
@@squancho1412 fair enough
It will get better trust me darling dw too much ✨✨✨ may God bless you ❤️❤️❤️
I know how it feels you matter
@@pinkmuffin7007 thank you
That feeling of fear of happiness I didn't know happened to most people. I hate being happy because every time I get happe normally life goes down hill again. I think it helps just knowing that someone understands and sees that this is somthing that can happen.
Having trauma is hard and painful, but that doesn't stop us from coming back from the ground.
I believe in you! Never give up
Thank you so much for this video.
Hope this video can help you out!
I do not have anger management problems because I will never let anyone in public see me get emotional. Being in control requires being able to handle your anger. My abusers had no self-control
I lost my husband suddenly several years ago. I found him unconscious and had to do CPR for ten minutes. Despite all efforts, he passed away. I have just about every sign/symptom, not so much anger, but everything else! I feel like it completely changed me, and not for the better! 😢💔
I’m so sorry… 😢
@@TheYoungProdigal thank you! 💖😊
I already know I have past trauma issues, but yep, scored a 7 out of 7! Freakin' wonderful.
I can empathise a lot! These Tipps may be really helpful! The positive message is powerful! Please don’t choose familiar pain but try to focus on new loving experiences! ♥️
Hi thank you for bringing this into my attention because of this video help me so much
You are so welcome! How important is this topic to you?
It was very hard when i was 7yrs old, now im 13 now i am at my best improvements.❤
And its because of this video's of understandment and acceptance.You can really change a life to the least you could do.❤
I thank y’all for making these videos, yall help me understand myself better than anything, than I would even without these videos, Thank y’all so much, I can’t even explain how thankful I am, y’all help more people than you would ever except.
I can relate myself to all of these as a person who got traumatized by students(including minors) and teachers(saying most rude things that someone doesn't deserve and not helping when getting bullied by students) except for anger management issues(I mean I don't always exhibit them but I have) and relationships because although I can't build ones being scared of it, I'm still well with my father. Thanks for this video again!
I know my past traumatization is still hurting me, that's why I hate waking up everyday 😭.
Same😢
same here
Same.
Same here.
Really sorry you guys are going through this. Just here to spread some love to you all.
this channel is awesome ❤❤ so many of these videos are relatable 😂
Also 12 seconds what-
Thank you so much 😀
Lost my dad when I was 20 due to alcoholism and my brother to fentanyl 3 years ago. Having problems with impulsive anger burst since. Already had help and it got better.
My trauma experience was one that affected my life negatively, it was a friend who did some things to me that I can’t quite explain why. She would blame me for her issues, she would blow up at me for simply just trying to talk to her, she even went as far as saying I was hurting her and ending our friendship, only to beg for me to come back. I agreed. But this friend getting angry with me caused me to worry that my other friends would do the same, which eventually evolved into me trailing just out of sight behind them, wishing to join, but never speaking. One time though, I got careless, following in the rain with my hood up, following only six feet behind; they began to think of it as a little creepy, but only in a joking manner, they jokingly started to walk faster, making unintelligible whispers. I noticed this, but my body wouldn’t let me turn away. The my other friend came, she walked up to me, and looked me in the eyes. “Are you okay?” She said. I broke down completely, saying everything I felt and crying hard. The previous friends immediately ran back, seeing that I was in some sort of distress.
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-1:06 You have anger management problems
-1:39 You struggle with intrusive thoughts
-2:10 Your emotinal intelligence needs improvement
-2:48 You have addictive tendencies
-3:21 You have avoidant tendencies
-3:52 You have poor/unfulfilling relationships
-4:25 You have a fear/distrust of happiness
I was recently diagnosed with Pure OCD and PTSD (though I have long suspected the latter to be in the form of C-PTSD, which does not, as of 2024, yet have a diagnosis in my country).
I relate to all of the following signs listed in the video, especially intrusive thoughts, emotional dysregulation and addictive tendencies.
I can say its really a explainable video to people who cant understand how it feels like as I grow up I thought the traumas are no longer with me but after I watched this I can clearly say the traumas still hurting me alot because I felt most of them in general situations even these near days I feel something is bothering me alot but I dont know what its and I am avoiding almost every plans with my friends its really something people cant understand by only hearing the problems
Sincerely thank you for this video. I need to go out what's familiar, I already achieved a few, and see more out there.
i can’t believe i relate to all of this, i thought i was done with it but after watching this video it made so much sense, i always get angry all of a sudden (and almost all the time) and i don’t even know where is the anger coming from even things that shouldn’t be a big deal but it would made me much more angry, i also noticed getting intrusive thoughts especially when someone/smths triggers it, i used to eat so much until i couldn’t, i don’t talk to people anymore like i used to especially in the internet (i ghosted my internet friend who was only good to me) sometimes i don’t understand myself because my friends and i talk about hanging out (yk make memories since it’s our last in senior high) but for a while i felt like i just wanted to cancel it all of a sudden which i did the other day. lastly when i feel like i am feeling very happy i remind myself to not be happy too much because when something goes up it goes down (if you know what i mean)
i just can’t believe it😭 i mean this month all i’ve been trying to do is to be better and to know i’m not done with this is sad because i thought i’m done with it since i don’t feel anything anymore (unless someone/smth triggers it lmao)
also i don’t see it as a bad thing that i don’t talk to people anymore especially in the internet, i tend to overshare in the past so i see this as a win (i talk to people irl though but i keep it casual)
All of these just felt normal, but when the video got to #7, I started crying and haven't been able to stop. That's the first time I've realized it's not normal. I withdraw heavily whenever I realize things have gotten okay.. because I know everything will be taken away again.
The greatest advice from Jung in my particular situation is to become acquainted with the shadow self: I've consciously confronted all the trauma that I have to the fullest extent of my awareness, but my particular flavor of trauma is CPTSD and spiritual abuse, something that all the credentialed therapists I have talked to are not terribly helpful with. In fact, two of them told me that I had researched and understood more than they had in that niche area. I am coming to deal with the real possibility that what I am carrying is probably really statistically unique.
Unfortunately, this is also part of my life! Amanda's voice is so soothing and comforting, it is beyond description! I really look forward to listening and watching your videos because they really help in so many ways! I hope you guys will always be around! Bye!
Thank you for the kind words! Amanda is an amazing soul isn’t she?
Every single word! Thank you these videos are my voice .
I relate to all numbers but the part that made my day was 0:43
Like girl your the best yes at a young age I have experienced trauma for 6 years
And I loved that part since I am a hazbin hotel fan and I always watch it just to keep myself calm I love the details!
I don’t know why but I always cry of been happy in the past and I always cry when I leave my grandma’s house and I go back home.
I’m a lot better now compare to last few years. I’ve met a lot of good friends in college. Although sometimes I still feel insecure. Thinking if I’m not good enough and self-centred. I started to forget the details of those trauma. All my friends now are still girls just like my childhood. It’s great that no one has opinions on it. I’m no longer feel separated with my friends anymore because there’s no gender rules like primary and secondary schools. We can line up together, group together, having pe lessons together. I was forced to separate with my friends because I’m not the same gender with them which causes my insecurities and feels different among other boys. It’s so interesting that I have no problems communicating with others. My classmates is neutral to me unlike classmates in the past.
I still have the weird feeling to males now. I find myself have difficulties to speak and stay with them. Last time I was in a common area drawing by myself and suddenly a bunch of boys came in. I immediately being so sensitive and has to escape.
Could you please do more about C-PTSD and problems with work?
The first time I wished to end this life was when I was 8 years old because of family problem. You know it was very hard for me at a young age, as an only child, being left alone at home, crying and wishing to just die because my parents were always fighting and breaking apart. There was no one. I just had myself and I was very hurt and angry. I could still remember the feeling of pain that time. And I'm starting to think that maybe it all began from there. Now, I'm 24 years old.
Holy cow! I see this in my subscription notifications, and I click on it. Typically, I either find myself interested in what is being said, or I think to myself, "oh yeah, some of these things I can relate to," and usually not much more. Really, it's usually just some good insights for me, and nothing else.
But, oh boy oh boy...I've never, ever, since first watching your videos in 2022, fallen into every single category on any of your videos or lists, until now!
Everything explained in this video, these things all really nailed what I'm going through right now in my own personal life. And to think that I see this video shortly venting my frustrations with life in general to God. Coincidence? I really don't think so!
I think, though, that this video really articulated my own personal struggles really well, and it's because of this that I feel like I can articulate my struggles to my psychologist. I couldn't have done this or explained how I'm feeling without your help here.
Thank you so so much, @Psych2Go! God bless you all!
Keep up the good work, as you always do!
🙏❤
I relate to a lot of this video. I have been going to therapy but i feel it hasn't helped at all as I feel my therapist doesn't understand me. I no longer have insurance so I cannot go see a therapist and it sucks because I feel I cannot express myself freely. 😢😢
I'm sorry you've been going through that. Writing stuff down might help! It doesn't work for everyone, but it can help someone vent or process their thoughts. It's something that's helped me a bit. Even if it doesn't work for you, I hope your situation will get better or you'll find someone to talk to (hopefully both).
@@JuneTi745 Thank you for your concern. I have tried writing and unfortunately it doesn't help me. I have tried a lot of different coping skills so I'm still looking for something that will help.
Oh there's no doubt about it.
But I lived experience has taught me that I'm cursed and won't ever escape it, and no amount of positive thinking or good will can change that. At best I've learned to cope with being perpetually miserable and just try to make sure I don't burden others and try to help them with their issues.
I've only very recently started not totally dreading my birthday again, like in the last year or so. I don't get excited, but it doesn't fill me with as much dread and self loathing.
Life's just easier when you expect the worst at every turn and keep expectations to a minimum.
Let's go, my first 100% this school year
Yay! Congrats! I'm still working on finally getting to my 100% during a school year, but I'm so happy for you!
I still fighting with the suicidal thoughts and struggling to looking at the mirror because how disgusting I am with myself and now I'm on the point where I can looked at the mirror, it's still hard to not looking at myself positively but I think I'm on the right direction for myself.
Thank you so much for all these videos I have been struggling with so much with trauma and other things.
The problem is, I don't even know if I'm traumatized or there's just something wrong with me
It hurts to exist, but also nothing has to mean anything.. and that helps to know sometimes.
I have various addictions, gaming and eating are one of the only moments I feel genuinely excited or happy and im about to get into smoking very probably. It's sad how I feel like dead weight but it's the only thing stopping my thinking that only makes me sadder
Instead of smoking, try to adopt a habit that is harmless or even helpful, like exercise or weightlifting or writing. Something you can throw yourself into without worrying about the long term effects. Some people become obsessive house cleaners to avoid drug or alcohol addiction. You still have to deal with the underlying issues, but you don't have to worry about dying at 50.
I did not expect to see human Alastor in this video
In the recent past, I had a bad habit of blowing up on people. I also get really angry when people step on my toes. Glad I go to therapy.
So thankful for this channel ❤
Thankful for you watching as well. Are there any video content you would like to see more of?
What if you have close friends, and opening up to them a few months ago literally saved your life, but now they're withdrawn & telling you that you have to realize that it isn't fair to open up to people when they're out of spoons? What do you do when you've spent decades bottling your trauma up, and the very people who encouraged you to open up are now exhausted and encouraging you to stop opening up because it's too much now? This is exactly why i don't open up. It truly helped save my life, but now my supports are exhausted. I'm starting to clam back up to protect everyone else again, and it's making me feel isolated again. I can't let anyone in without harming them, and that isn't fair to them. So back to masking up and saying everything is OK, gotta protect everyone else from the war in my head while they cry to me about their papercuts. If i show them my wounds they'll faint and tell me i have to be more considerate of the fact that seeing my wounds is too upsetting for them. Wish i f*cking had the privilege, but I'm the one living with it
I cried at the end out of relief.❤
I still have trauma that affects me and I still have a hard time dealing with my past. All the categories on here are so what I go through.
Yeah I can relate to all these things because one thing about me I have a fear of giving things a try because of my past trauma and paranoid issues
Thank you very much for this video. I'll compare myself with this, note down and tell when I meet my psychiatrist next time.
Timestamps
1). You have anger management problems 1:04
2). You struggle with intrusive thoughts 1:37
3). Your emotional intelligence needs improvement 2:08
4). You have addictive tendencies 2:47
5). You have avoidant tendencies 3:20
6). You have poor/ unfulfilling relationships 3:51
7). You have a fear/ distrust of happiness 4:25
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
... I really don't know about some things. I got past the abuse that happened twenty years ago, but then last year something even worse happened. There was no physical abuse, but it almost had me give up for good and got the police involved. Two people who only really know my name and a true friend have encouraged me to move on and look for another relationship, but I don't want to put myself at risk again. It hurt my parents as well.
I feel like my emotional state has been put on blast 😩.
I'm still struggling with alot of past trauma, and how some if it led to the rest, and I was oblivious to it all
Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. Pain will heal eventually. But only you can seek comfort from the suffering you experience with some help
it certainly is... an experience to be able to tick like 6 or 7 of these boxes yet not knowing what the trauma-inducing event was
Relate to all. I just cant think of anything i went through was bad enough to be “trauma”
Yeah, if I start to feel happy I just know that something bad is about to happen.
All, all of them, I avoid the girl I like becuase I'm terrified of being happy with her. Now we are drifting appart and I feel guilt for not being there for her. Oh god I wish I wasn't so afraid to be happy to be terified of the only person shining light in your dark lonley life. I'm sorry, I'm truly sorry to you, the girl. The only girl that went out if her way turned back and helped me up. Please be happy Mckaylee, becuase I can't nake you happy and the only thing in the world that brings light to my lonley cold life is the thought that you're happy.
i think me n my bf need to have a conversation……
Can I be your new one?
@@HunterB738 Dude tf
@@HunterB738 bruh wtf
Not even 20s into the video and by the end of it I'm probably gonna also need to have a conversation with my BF too. (Best Friend in case you are actually talking about a Boyfriend) 🐇
Edit: I'll update this comment once I finish the video.
Write not wright
3:37 OMG IS THAT JAX
I can definitely relate with every one of the points except the first one
due to a form of abandonment after my parent's divorce...yeah this adds up. on the outside, my life seems like a success story for people with high-functioning autism. but...in spite of all that God's done for me, no matter how far I've gotten, I still...hate being complimented deep down. can't accept and can barely stand praise. even as I somehow manage to motivate others at work without realizing it (parts inspector for an advanced ceramics company)...its like it has nothing to do with me. a happy side effect in spite of constant mistakes. Which signs fit? ALL OF THEM. so, thank you for helping me realize a possible cause for my short temper and major esteem issues. Soli Deo Gloria.
So today I learned that I’m still a mess. Struggling from numbers 2,4,5, and 6.
Problem is I don’t think someone who is paid to care really does and in my close circle of family it feels more like people tend to compete (for lack of a better description) for who is most miserable when what I need is a close friend who cares and understands.
It’s hopeless isn’t it? I want to be happy
The last point for me is more that happiness is temporary. And when you’re at your highest is when everything falls harder. As soon as everything is good, that’s when those nasty things come back…so to me it’s kinda like “what’s the point if life is just miserable?” The show “Smiling Friends” first episode has a character named Desmond and while all he need was a purpose…I have experience being happy then being crushed by it, feeling “betrayed” by my foolishness..
unresolved trauma can make an impacts on behavior and relationships, addressing these issues through therapeutic support not only enhances emotional intelligence but also improves life quality across the board 🌱.
the worst thing is that im genuinely trying to set my life on the right path and be happier but the down right fear i experience from being happy is not making that very easy
I have a lot of these, I want to change so badly but I feel like I’m stuck.
It makes me upset that I relate to every single one of these, thank you for helping me realize my problems. I just don’t know how to move forward I guess
You're not alone! It takes baby steps to overcome it. Have you started reaching out for professional help to guide you on this?
I'll be honest I've pushed people away and cut & run from social scenarios even if there was no actual need to do do..
0:42 ALASTOR!?
Even though I'm a kid in Asia, I can still understand and realize what's going on. I have trauma since in 4th grade, and it has still haunting me since. I really want therapy but because I'm a kid, I can't. I really need some help of the outside world. Please.
When I’m under a lot of stress my intrusive thoughts scare me because they’re so powerful
0:42 human alastor is there from hazbin hotel...🍓✨
THANK GOD IT WASN'T JUST ME THAT THOUGHT THAT-😭
Or worse “it happened years ago. Let it go” or “you’re not happy about yourself? I don’t see you taking any responsibility or wanting to change it”.
I thought it's just my anxiety going in the way, but now I understand.. ^^
I don't remember having any trauma but all of these signs fit for me...
I still have a fear of being happy. My life’s good and I am actually happy so I bet most of you are wondering. “We’ll green if you’re happy you can’t be afraid of it that doesn’t make any sense so what are you afraid of?” I’m afraid of falling like the great Icarus how flew too close to the sun,I’m afraid that if I enjoy it too much that even for a second that I’ll fall back into the darkness,the pain,all of it. I had…a unique childhood I suffered and lost a lot in my youth even as I continued learning more about world in my 20’s my trauma just makes its so difficult to accept to let in,the feeling of happiness,I have a girlfriend,a job,friends,my dad and enough money be secure for my age. I don’t understand why i can’t get out of my past it doesn’t make sense?! And for once idk what to do,I have so many things be thankful for,so many things to be happy about so why can’t I truly be happy on the inside?
His /her past become their only filter.... Then Meet him /her, you see goodness inside them.... After a while you can t communicate with them....if is always like :I didn t mean it this way....... Exhausted after a while
I need a therapist, i know im still broken, but im trying my best, i dont want others to suffer like i did, so if i be the best person i can, maybe i can be there for people, unlike how i was growing up, alone n hurting.
I’m getting better, but yeah I definitely still have unresolved trauma that still is hurting.
Hi, can u make a vdo on giving tips to get over past trauma, trauma n stress caused by parents and getting over phobias n anxiousness..? Please..?
I'm afraid of having good days or feeling happy because everytime I have something terrible happens... Medically or emotionally
4,5,6 for sure.