I realize the truth: She does not know me. And I'm not responsible for her emotional state when I meet her. I can try to be in a good mood and relate to her but if she just feels like crap that day there's very little I can do
Same mentality as in sales! If you do very little prospecting, all the rejections are huge, and they suck. If you do a lot and get sales, over time you remember the victories way more, and forget the rest. Of course, current rejections still hurt but you have wins to balance it out. As for me, I don't fear rejections from women... unless it was a GF I truly loved that dumped me. Hooking up is fairly easy. Finding a true relationship that lasts though...
In my experience, rejections are easy to deal with as long as your rejection rate is under 90%. If you're over a 90% rejection rate, it gets a bit harder, but not impossible. However, if you have an insanely high rejection rate, like over 99%, while you can deal with it for a while, if that rate is sustained for a long duration, more than a few years for instance, it becomes very hard to maintain a positive attitude and remain positive. So basically, rejection can toughen you up and refine your skills if it's a reasonable rate. But if it's an almost 100% rejection rate, it becomes very difficult. You need at least some successes to remain positive, especially over the course of years.
i just saw everyone hooking-up like nothing and me being a different ethnicity i was seen as a Rival and basically left for dead. i decided on working on myself, living in different gyms, then i moved to a new place where no one knew me and i found instant success. You gotta be what woman want period, if you're not then you have to work on yourself first.
Question: In a group setting, what slightly irritates me is when a confident dude comes in acting like he has the natural right to be at the center of attention. I usually don't encourage such men and wait for them to run out of energy. But what makes blood in my veins boil is when the women in the group accept his narrative and allow him to set the frame. For me it's a wasted evening. I accept that such men are better at game than me, but that someone as audacious could just wrap women around his finger while I haven't got the slightest clue how to politely counter it and grab some female eyes for myself. If I'm rude to the dude, I would appear needy. So I just do nothing and often times, they get away with it. Would be solid, if you could elaborate.
Compliment him genuinely on his "amazing game" in a way that draws attention to it to the ladies. Ask him to show you his mystical ways. When he inevitably rejects you, tell him it's ok, you'll just observe him and take notes. Or if he accepts, either way, act as if he is putting on a performance, but be genuinely amused by it, applauding him and everything. Maybe step in and "practice" what you're learning on one of the women in the group. If he rejected you, you might throw him off his game. Same might happen if he accepted, but you might end up matching his energy and now you both have their attention. Don't compete, just self amuse and invite them all to the after party. If he gets angry or hostile about it, you win. 😈
@@Sintwar interesting.. essentially cockblock him. I am quite sure that that particular move would make me look needy, as the girls would pick up the negative tension, albeit subtle. At least I know myself not to be able to pull off such a ploy To put it differently - he barges in: "Hey kids, I'm your new alpha, the happy guy whom everybody loves". I would like to tell him "that's nice, but we're not hiring. I didn't go out to let you have your game and be happy for you. I need to eat too.". But I can't do that, because the girls often genuinely like him and so they let him take over So I figure that I need to be better for realzies
Look up online the terms "AMOG" and "AMOG Destroyer/Tactics" ("AMOG" means a guy who tries to tool you/steal your girls essentially) I'm certain Todd must've made at least 1 video about this topic, look up for Todd's content on it as well as "Tyler Durden"/Owen Cook's, Tyler made posts about it in the past which you can Google the basic idea is, it's not necessarily who's doing the majority of the "talking" that makes him "dominate" an interaction, it's the person who has the most people _react_ to him more than he reacts to them, that's the dominant force in the interaction the best way to make an AMOG lower his value while upping yours, is to make him _qualify_ -he's justifying himself to you and/or trying to impress you him qualifying himself to you can be in very small/subtle ways and it will still be effective, the important think is that you don't come off as angry/annoyed/antagonistic etc when you are engaging with the AMOG and prodding him to react to you
Hey Todd, what is a realistic percentage of cold approach interactions in day and nightgame that will lead to phone numbers which will further lead to dates and eventually sex for a beginner guy, intermediate and a advanced guy. So it can give me an idea of how far off I am when I'm doing things.
I think that is what he`s saying in the video. Once you get rejected then you can flow your not as in your head -self conscious and you can just let it rip. Why they tell actors to break a leg before the show, so they get out of their heads (the nervousness) and just perform without thinking too much. I think the book could help if u feel like your called to read it. The book could maybe give u more context and other lessons as I have not read it but the author tends to write good stuff. The ego/fear of failure is what holds many back and I think we all go through it, especially the more successful u become the more u fear to look bad and the more u have to lose or Think u have to lose. It`s a practice like anything else, being willing to fail. Why Jordan was less afraid to take the last shot and Gretzky says u miss all the shots u don`t take.
It serves as a good motivational and reminder book. But, at the same time it does take certain practice and experience to get rid of the ego just because it's so ingrained into the human DNA.
Here's the problem I have with game gurus. They approach it like, if you do A, B will happen. If you do that, then sure, you might not get 100% of the girls you approach, you'll get 60%, or 50%, or maybe only 40%, but that's better than 0%! Meanwhile I've been consuming game for years and years and am like, if I got 1% of the girls I approached I'd be so happy I wouldn't know what to do. What I'm saying is, they set the floor of failure way, way too high. When you hear that even the worst guy can easily close 40% of approaches, meanwhile you're in the 0.01% success territory, it's not exactly motivating.
Thank you for the video! Though there was a major part of the initial question that wasn’t addressed, and 4 me it is the big part… It’s not the individual rejection itself, its the overall feeling after weeks and weeks of rejections… the crippling thought of “maybe I’m just not good enough”. how can you not be broken by it after a while?
@@leserbeacerbe6910 it is bro to some extent but you definitely wanna incorporate good self compassion exercises and meditation so that you don’t dwindle in dry spells just keep strong mindset. Focus on spreading good vibes and enjoying the game you’ll have fun.
If you train a music on the piano enough, it's less likely that you're gonna make mistakes on playing it in the future. It's all the same thing. This fallacy is related to simple and random events, when regarding to abilities it's not random, it's intentional.
@@treasurewuji8740 it can be similar, it's just harder too stay loose when there is more riding on it but the concept can still apply. Why it's easier to bet on football games with other people`s money vs your own bc you tend to overthink it and other unconscious things that can cause u to act differently.
I'd like to see a complation of Todd handling rejections
I realize the truth: She does not know me. And I'm not responsible for her emotional state when I meet her.
I can try to be in a good mood and relate to her but if she just feels like crap that day there's very little I can do
The thing about rejection is this feeling of the next approach is gonna be the same.
Same mentality as in sales! If you do very little prospecting, all the rejections are huge, and they suck. If you do a lot and get sales, over time you remember the victories way more, and forget the rest. Of course, current rejections still hurt but you have wins to balance it out. As for me, I don't fear rejections from women... unless it was a GF I truly loved that dumped me. Hooking up is fairly easy. Finding a true relationship that lasts though...
"If you haven't failed, get off your ass and go fail a bit"
I remembered the rejection that damaged me for months even into the next relationship as baggage, let it go,it's in the past,Todd's 💯%
you cant stop people from having fear you make them braver
Mental bookmark: Rejection is a step in the process of success. That is worth remembering! A great perspective!
Sure, it's easy to forget rejection when you have success. But if you're always failing for the last five years.... not so much.
Never have I ever gotten this excited to be rejected
In my experience, rejections are easy to deal with as long as your rejection rate is under 90%. If you're over a 90% rejection rate, it gets a bit harder, but not impossible. However, if you have an insanely high rejection rate, like over 99%, while you can deal with it for a while, if that rate is sustained for a long duration, more than a few years for instance, it becomes very hard to maintain a positive attitude and remain positive.
So basically, rejection can toughen you up and refine your skills if it's a reasonable rate. But if it's an almost 100% rejection rate, it becomes very difficult. You need at least some successes to remain positive, especially over the course of years.
I need to save this as a mp3
Exactly what I need to hear GOOD ADVICE
Such an inspiring video thanks. Need to watch this whenever I feel down about rejections or flakey phone numbers (which are slow motion rejections)
i just saw everyone hooking-up like nothing and me being a different ethnicity i was seen as a Rival and basically left for dead. i decided on working on myself, living in different gyms, then i moved to a new place where no one knew me and i found instant success. You gotta be what woman want period, if you're not then you have to work on yourself first.
Question:
In a group setting, what slightly irritates me is when a confident dude comes in acting like he has the natural right to be at the center of attention. I usually don't encourage such men and wait for them to run out of energy. But what makes blood in my veins boil is when the women in the group accept his narrative and allow him to set the frame. For me it's a wasted evening. I accept that such men are better at game than me, but that someone as audacious could just wrap women around his finger while I haven't got the slightest clue how to politely counter it and grab some female eyes for myself. If I'm rude to the dude, I would appear needy. So I just do nothing and often times, they get away with it. Would be solid, if you could elaborate.
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Compliment him genuinely on his "amazing game" in a way that draws attention to it to the ladies. Ask him to show you his mystical ways. When he inevitably rejects you, tell him it's ok, you'll just observe him and take notes. Or if he accepts, either way, act as if he is putting on a performance, but be genuinely amused by it, applauding him and everything. Maybe step in and "practice" what you're learning on one of the women in the group. If he rejected you, you might throw him off his game. Same might happen if he accepted, but you might end up matching his energy and now you both have their attention. Don't compete, just self amuse and invite them all to the after party.
If he gets angry or hostile about it, you win. 😈
Just do a reasearch on how to deal with AMOGs
@@Sintwar interesting.. essentially cockblock him. I am quite sure that that particular move would make me look needy, as the girls would pick up the negative tension, albeit subtle. At least I know myself not to be able to pull off such a ploy
To put it differently - he barges in: "Hey kids, I'm your new alpha, the happy guy whom everybody loves". I would like to tell him "that's nice, but we're not hiring. I didn't go out to let you have your game and be happy for you. I need to eat too.". But I can't do that, because the girls often genuinely like him and so they let him take over
So I figure that I need to be better for realzies
Look up online the terms "AMOG" and "AMOG Destroyer/Tactics" ("AMOG" means a guy who tries to tool you/steal your girls essentially)
I'm certain Todd must've made at least 1 video about this topic, look up for Todd's content on it as well as "Tyler Durden"/Owen Cook's, Tyler made posts about it in the past which you can Google
the basic idea is, it's not necessarily who's doing the majority of the "talking" that makes him "dominate" an interaction,
it's the person who has the most people _react_ to him more than he reacts to them, that's the dominant force in the interaction
the best way to make an AMOG lower his value while upping yours, is to make him _qualify_ -he's justifying himself to you and/or trying to impress you
him qualifying himself to you can be in very small/subtle ways and it will still be effective, the important think is that you don't come off as angry/annoyed/antagonistic etc when you are engaging with the AMOG and prodding him to react to you
Great metaphor!!! Brilliant! Love this guy.
Uuuhh gosh i love it
Hey Todd, what is a realistic percentage of cold approach interactions in day and nightgame that will lead to phone numbers which will further lead to dates and eventually sex for a beginner guy, intermediate and a advanced guy. So it can give me an idea of how far off I am when I'm doing things.
He’s answered this in the latest video. For the advanced it’s MUCH more consistent results within the overall ratio.
Thanks for that Tod :)
Tbh nothing motivates us more than failure, specially bad relationships
I want to be like you, so brave
3:43 best line starts here
Life fuel
Would u say that the book " ego is the enemy " can help your game ?
I think that is what he`s saying in the video. Once you get rejected then you can flow your not as in your head -self conscious and you can just let it rip. Why they tell actors to break a leg before the show, so they get out of their heads (the nervousness) and just perform without thinking too much. I think the book could help if u feel like your called to read it.
The book could maybe give u more context and other lessons as I have not read it but the author tends to write good stuff. The ego/fear of failure is what holds many back and I think we all go through it, especially the more successful u become the more u fear to look bad and the more u have to lose or Think u have to lose. It`s a practice like anything else, being willing to fail. Why Jordan was less afraid to take the last shot and Gretzky says u miss all the shots u don`t take.
It serves as a good motivational and reminder book. But, at the same time it does take certain practice and experience to get rid of the ego just because it's so ingrained into the human DNA.
i wonder what's his score, what can be expected if you get good, like 8 of every 10?
Dang! He is good!
Here's the problem I have with game gurus. They approach it like, if you do A, B will happen. If you do that, then sure, you might not get 100% of the girls you approach, you'll get 60%, or 50%, or maybe only 40%, but that's better than 0%!
Meanwhile I've been consuming game for years and years and am like, if I got 1% of the girls I approached I'd be so happy I wouldn't know what to do.
What I'm saying is, they set the floor of failure way, way too high. When you hear that even the worst guy can easily close 40% of approaches, meanwhile you're in the 0.01% success territory, it's not exactly motivating.
GODFATHER
Thank you for the video! Though there was a major part of the initial question that wasn’t addressed, and 4 me it is the big part…
It’s not the individual rejection itself, its the overall feeling after weeks and weeks of rejections… the crippling thought of “maybe I’m just not good enough”.
how can you not be broken by it after a while?
I have a 3/10 face and I am not attracted to 3/10 girls.
Is it worth continuing or I do surgery?
Looks don’t matter bro. Game is a skill sometimes probability is high sometimes its less. But more volume would result in better results.
@@Musicsoundsbetterwithyou17 is it really a numbers game?
No hypocrisy in the answer, I have it irl, people don't want to hurt ego.
@@leserbeacerbe6910 it is bro to some extent but you definitely wanna incorporate good self compassion exercises and meditation so that you don’t dwindle in dry spells just keep strong mindset. Focus on spreading good vibes and enjoying the game you’ll have fun.
Todd: the closest thing to a sex buddha
First! 🤙🏽
Bro why is this “first” shit still a thing?
he's getting old
he's got experience and he is a straight shooter, we can only hope to have a fraction of his game
Reminds me of the Gamblers fallacy:
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gambler's_fallacy
If you train a music on the piano enough, it's less likely that you're gonna make mistakes on playing it in the future. It's all the same thing. This fallacy is related to simple and random events, when regarding to abilities it's not random, it's intentional.
Interesting analogy
except for the fact that you have nothing to lose in an approach, but you actually lose when you lose a hand at the table. totally different.
@@treasurewuji8740 it can be similar, it's just harder too stay loose when there is more riding on it but the concept can still apply. Why it's easier to bet on football games with other people`s money vs your own bc you tend to overthink it and other unconscious things that can cause u to act differently.
@@richardw3347 - true, loss of ego dignity = betting with other's money, to keep to the analogy