@@joshualee8151 there is a difference between cognitive deliberate behavior and accidental or out of ignorance. Personally i would also prefer a more relaxed and fun person. Not taking things too seriously. But i'm just saying i understand where she comes from. It is just not compatible.
@@noelrobinson2307 hahaha u know u have a winner if u can make up a lil fort in the house and have a nerf gun war with the gf!! bahahaha and this coming from a 38 yr old male!
I feel like for the last story, although it may seem like a trivial thing or most might think the girl's just being petty, but i think she set pretty clear boundaries. She did tell her bf that she's ok with every other jokes but just doesnt like it when it involves jokes in regards to her face, but instead of respecting that limit, the bf got angry at her when HE crossed that limit that has been communicated to him. If he doesnt respect simple boundaries like that and instead judges her for setting them coz he doesn't want to be in such a "restrictive relationship", then i think she better run because who knows what other kind of boundaries he might cross just cause it doesnt make sense to him. I think once limits have been stated, idc if one doesn't know why, it should still be respected. If you want to know why, u can sit down and have a conversation with them to understand where they're cmg from, but if they're not comfortable sharing, again u dont have to know why to respect their boundaries. Those are 2 different things.
As for the last story, the girl should ask herself if it’s even worthy of taking this argument/fights. Some battles are just not worth taking if you actually see a future with your partner.
UM just wanna say #3, you are who you surround yourself with... #4, she's valid for not liking splashes of water to her face. EVEN if it's just a preference. she stated that she doesn't like it but he invalidated her feelings and saying that he doesn't want to be in a relationship that is restricting(?), just don't splash water on her face man..
but what if the girl had a trauma like embarrassment from a guy throwing a cup of water in public... or maybe a guy shoved his shaft in her face n jizzed on her... is it still a run at that point? as a female would u blame her?
its her first legit relationship give her some privacy man LMAO 🤣🤣 brenda pretty open but she likes to separate her life privately... i think she said b4 she wouldnt put her dating life out on social media
for 3rd one i have the same pov as brenda, porn is okay cus they are actors that are paid to do that but if my significant other screenshots other female influences in bikinis/ clothes then that is not okay cus they are just posting a picture and usually not in a suggestive way
I’m fine with that. It looks minimalistic and you can focus on the content rather getting distracted by the background or something for being too overwhelming IMO
I feel you guys didn't give the benefit of context to the 2nd case. The girl may have texted the guy out for a drink because she was depressed, and the guy, being concern, which can occur to even a stranger, just meets her for a drink. Yes, he could have told the gf, but if you observe another point, the gf got suspcious just because his usual message was a tiny tiny bit later and shorter, which may imply the gf might be the type to overthink things, hence his decision not to tell her. Its pretty unfair to label the guy as a potential cheater just because he was trying to be a nice guy who is wary of his gf's temperament, which had indicators already
Was going to comment about the second case but saw your comment and decided to add on to it since I feel the same. I'm coming from the guy's POV even though I'm a girl and this was what caused my previous relationship to end. I was still in contact with a guy I had met previously on a dating app too but we are strictly just friends and never even dated. I was forthcoming about this early on in the relationship but my partner at the time did not like me having guy friends, much less someone I had met on a dating app. I did not cut things off with him but didn't tell my partner that we stayed in contact and one day he saw my chat with the friend and ended things because he saw that as cheating. Based on the vid I guess I would be labeled a cheater but things were always platonic between us and almost 6 years on I am still friends with him today. My current partner also knows of this friend and is completely fine with me meeting him occasionally as he says he has complete trust in me. Conclusion is I feel it also depends on your partner because I felt like I couldn't tell my previous partner everything. He was insecure and I didn't want to tell him anything that would cause him to worry unnecessarily as I knew that I would always do right by him. With my current partner, I don't feel the need to hide things from him as I know we are on the same page. To add to the above comment I also don't think later and shorter replies means anything. When my partner doesn't reply I don't assume it's because he is cheating, I will know he is probably still busy with work or with a friend. If your partner has never given you reason to doubt their loyalty I feel like there is no need to overthink as well. If he is really cheating, you will find out eventually.
@@fangirlxxoo i agree with this above comment and this! I had lots of investigation when my previous relationship cheated on me with a few girls and he is married and got kids so..
This is arguable. He refused to tell her where he went multiple times. U mentioned the girl might have texted him drunk, but if so why didn't the gf know her name before? Ofc it shows that they prolly were never "friends" ir he wouldve told about her or introduced her to the gf. Also to build trust u need to show ur hand not hide it. Yes, the girl might have misinterpreted too but the fact that he didnt respond to her at night just to assure her knowing she might overthink is a bit sus. Also the fact it was at night and he never responded after is sus too.
For the first story, fundamentally name-calling is not acceptable, what more fat shaming. It is immature and shows a lack of respect for the partner. Derogatory terms like fatass, stupid, bitch, brainless etc. should never ever be part of your partner’s vocabulary when speaking to you. Mutual respect is essential in a relationship. Second story - if he didn’t have a guilty conscience, he wouldn’t have texted weirdly and not be his usual self. The ideal situation is he should have asked his gf if she was okay with him meeting this person one-to-one for whatever reason they need to meet. If she says no, she is not comfortable, then he should respect her feelings and turn down the invitation. Couples should establish what their boundaries are and discuss what is acceptable or not when it comes to friendships with people of their preferred gender. If one person is very open minded and the other is not, maybe they are just not compatible with each other and should look for someone else who shares the same outlook and values. 3rd story - birds of a feather flock together. You can tell the type of person by the company he keeps. Enough said 😅
@@anneeli3089 fully agree with the second one! What might be seen as cheating to someone may not necessarily be to someone else, end of the day you just need to find someone that has the same perspective you do
Story #3: am i just too open minded that i don't see anything wrong with saving and screenshoting sexy instagram photos? With the groupchat, i think it's quite normal for guys (gay or straight) to share photos, but i do agree it gets sus if it's a groupchat specifically only for sharing photos like that
agree, and TSL spreading fake news, it's not illegal if you're taking screenshots of non-obscene, publicly available pictures, eg. from their IG or available social media. Messed up from the gf's perspective yes, but definitely not illegal. Also it's all about boundaries, the messed up part is the guy crossed the boundary, presumably despite being told not to. Otherwise how is it any different to girls saving photos of their fav idols shirtless or in some other state of undress? double standards
what about married women who digital cheats,marketing themselves by posting thirst traps? and that is why for every men who dm’s my girl i will approach a new woman.
no its not considering cheating if he jacking off to other girls pictures BUT... if he doing it to girls pictures whom he personally knows thats TOTAL different story... some influencer u never met and a p*rnstar is basically similar!!
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Water in the face is about respect. Some find it disrespectful.
No right and wrong, just incompatible.
wonder if she gonna react the same when her kid splashes water in her face taking a bath in the future... 🤣🤣
@@joshualee8151 there is a difference between cognitive deliberate behavior and accidental or out of ignorance.
Personally i would also prefer a more relaxed and fun person. Not taking things too seriously.
But i'm just saying i understand where she comes from.
It is just not compatible.
@@noelrobinson2307 hahaha u know u have a winner if u can make up a lil fort in the house and have a nerf gun war with the gf!! bahahaha and this coming from a 38 yr old male!
@@joshualee8151 totally man. i feel you bruh
I feel like for the last story, although it may seem like a trivial thing or most might think the girl's just being petty, but i think she set pretty clear boundaries. She did tell her bf that she's ok with every other jokes but just doesnt like it when it involves jokes in regards to her face, but instead of respecting that limit, the bf got angry at her when HE crossed that limit that has been communicated to him. If he doesnt respect simple boundaries like that and instead judges her for setting them coz he doesn't want to be in such a "restrictive relationship", then i think she better run because who knows what other kind of boundaries he might cross just cause it doesnt make sense to him.
I think once limits have been stated, idc if one doesn't know why, it should still be respected. If you want to know why, u can sit down and have a conversation with them to understand where they're cmg from, but if they're not comfortable sharing, again u dont have to know why to respect their boundaries. Those are 2 different things.
The editing is so clean I absolutely love it 🥰
As for the last story, the girl should ask herself if it’s even worthy of taking this argument/fights. Some battles are just not worth taking if you actually see a future with your partner.
UM just wanna say #3, you are who you surround yourself with... #4, she's valid for not liking splashes of water to her face. EVEN if it's just a preference. she stated that she doesn't like it but he invalidated her feelings and saying that he doesn't want to be in a relationship that is restricting(?), just don't splash water on her face man..
#4- run, run and dont look back
but what if the girl had a trauma like embarrassment from a guy throwing a cup of water in public... or maybe a guy shoved his shaft in her face n jizzed on her...
is it still a run at that point? as a female would u blame her?
For someone who has been watching Smartlocal, eatbook & Zula regularly, i deserve to know who Brenda’s bf is 😅
its her first legit relationship give her some privacy man LMAO 🤣🤣
brenda pretty open but she likes to separate her life privately... i think she said b4 she wouldnt put her dating life out on social media
for 3rd one i have the same pov as brenda, porn is okay cus they are actors that are paid to do that
but if my significant other screenshots other female influences in bikinis/ clothes then that is not okay
cus they are just posting a picture and usually not in a suggestive way
IS IT BOLIN
The OP complained that he called her a fatass but what nasty did she berate him? I’m sure it should be worse that warranted such a respond.
Note to the producers. What's with the black background, black clothes, black mics, black hair. Not a good look.
I’m fine with that. It looks minimalistic and you can focus on the content rather getting distracted by the background or something for being too overwhelming IMO
I feel you guys didn't give the benefit of context to the 2nd case. The girl may have texted the guy out for a drink because she was depressed, and the guy, being concern, which can occur to even a stranger, just meets her for a drink. Yes, he could have told the gf, but if you observe another point, the gf got suspcious just because his usual message was a tiny tiny bit later and shorter, which may imply the gf might be the type to overthink things, hence his decision not to tell her. Its pretty unfair to label the guy as a potential cheater just because he was trying to be a nice guy who is wary of his gf's temperament, which had indicators already
Was going to comment about the second case but saw your comment and decided to add on to it since I feel the same. I'm coming from the guy's POV even though I'm a girl and this was what caused my previous relationship to end. I was still in contact with a guy I had met previously on a dating app too but we are strictly just friends and never even dated. I was forthcoming about this early on in the relationship but my partner at the time did not like me having guy friends, much less someone I had met on a dating app. I did not cut things off with him but didn't tell my partner that we stayed in contact and one day he saw my chat with the friend and ended things because he saw that as cheating. Based on the vid I guess I would be labeled a cheater but things were always platonic between us and almost 6 years on I am still friends with him today. My current partner also knows of this friend and is completely fine with me meeting him occasionally as he says he has complete trust in me. Conclusion is I feel it also depends on your partner because I felt like I couldn't tell my previous partner everything. He was insecure and I didn't want to tell him anything that would cause him to worry unnecessarily as I knew that I would always do right by him. With my current partner, I don't feel the need to hide things from him as I know we are on the same page.
To add to the above comment I also don't think later and shorter replies means anything. When my partner doesn't reply I don't assume it's because he is cheating, I will know he is probably still busy with work or with a friend. If your partner has never given you reason to doubt their loyalty I feel like there is no need to overthink as well. If he is really cheating, you will find out eventually.
@@fangirlxxoo i agree with this above comment and this! I had lots of investigation when my previous relationship cheated on me with a few girls and he is married and got kids so..
This is arguable.
He refused to tell her where he went multiple times. U mentioned the girl might have texted him drunk, but if so why didn't the gf know her name before? Ofc it shows that they prolly were never "friends" ir he wouldve told about her or introduced her to the gf. Also to build trust u need to show ur hand not hide it. Yes, the girl might have misinterpreted too but the fact that he didnt respond to her at night just to assure her knowing she might overthink is a bit sus. Also the fact it was at night and he never responded after is sus too.
For the first story, fundamentally name-calling is not acceptable, what more fat shaming. It is immature and shows a lack of respect for the partner. Derogatory terms like fatass, stupid, bitch, brainless etc. should never ever be part of your partner’s vocabulary when speaking to you. Mutual respect is essential in a relationship.
Second story - if he didn’t have a guilty conscience, he wouldn’t have texted weirdly and not be his usual self. The ideal situation is he should have asked his gf if she was okay with him meeting this person one-to-one for whatever reason they need to meet. If she says no, she is not comfortable, then he should respect her feelings and turn down the invitation. Couples should establish what their boundaries are and discuss what is acceptable or not when it comes to friendships with people of their preferred gender. If one person is very open minded and the other is not, maybe they are just not compatible with each other and should look for someone else who shares the same outlook and values.
3rd story - birds of a feather flock together. You can tell the type of person by the company he keeps. Enough said 😅
@@anneeli3089 fully agree with the second one! What might be seen as cheating to someone may not necessarily be to someone else, end of the day you just need to find someone that has the same perspective you do
Story #3: am i just too open minded that i don't see anything wrong with saving and screenshoting sexy instagram photos? With the groupchat, i think it's quite normal for guys (gay or straight) to share photos, but i do agree it gets sus if it's a groupchat specifically only for sharing photos like that
agree, and TSL spreading fake news, it's not illegal if you're taking screenshots of non-obscene, publicly available pictures, eg. from their IG or available social media. Messed up from the gf's perspective yes, but definitely not illegal.
Also it's all about boundaries, the messed up part is the guy crossed the boundary, presumably despite being told not to. Otherwise how is it any different to girls saving photos of their fav idols shirtless or in some other state of undress? double standards
what about married women who digital cheats,marketing themselves by posting thirst traps? and that is why for every men who dm’s my girl i will approach a new woman.
no its not considering cheating if he jacking off to other girls pictures BUT... if he doing it to girls pictures whom he personally knows thats TOTAL different story... some influencer u never met and a p*rnstar is basically similar!!
true, because he fantasises that as if he was the guy in the videos with those influencers . 💀