Coffee Talk Chapters✨: 00:00 - Intro 02:53 - Bad energy & being an empath 05:53 - Cut then out (if possible) 09:40 - Understand why they’re negative 16:54 - ad break 22:02 - Toxic vs. Negative 26:08 - Setting healthy boundaries 31:40 - Identify your triggers 35:15 - ad break 38:35 - Create an energy shield 42:41 - Care less (let me explain)
I feel like it’s also very important to acknowledge that we ourselves can be toxic/have toxic behaviors, and sometimes we have to acknowledge that in order to avoid gravitating towards people that nurture those behaviors and prevent that energy from spreading and hurting others when we don’t take note of it. And it’s nothing we should feel guilty about, BUT we need to remember that once is a mistake, twice is a coincidence, and three times is a pattern. It’s part of personal growth to recognize WHERE that energy is coming from - my mom always says that whenever I feel upset or angry or whatever negative emotion, it’s good to ask “Who does this belong to? Back to sender, please” I don’t know if this may help anyone but just a thought ✨ Thank you so much for this video, this definitely gave me some food for thought ❤️
I feel the same way 🧡🍂 I feel like I've known this my whole life, but it truly hit home this year as a full realization and i am LIVING for it - everything is shifting and I can see more clarity this year... its strange sometimes but its so much better than living in a dark mind/Sleep mode/auto-pilot 🧡🍂
this really does help. I've been in a months long spat with a family member and while deep down I've known this person is only human and reacting to their environment, it (sadly and not good on me at all) took me a bit to realize I was helping them perpetuate the issue. Both of us are alright, we need to step back for a bit and reflect. Thank you for sharing. Hope you're doing alright.
Kalyn, thank you so much for this coffee talk! It sadly reminds me of a long term, friend that I had to walk away from this past summer. We have been friends since we were little. Throughout life, I noticed she (as well as her mother) was always negative and looking for the worst in life. She was never happy and always loved having drama in her life. She recently got engaged and got a new house and she was still, never that happy and looking for drama. Whenever we would hang out, we would immediately talk about her, only. She was extremely self centered. This past summer, she decided to start a big fight with me over something little and stupid. It was like we were in high school again. Reminder, she loves and feeds off drama as well as her mother. She tried to manipulate me to say sorry for something I did not do. I decided to cut off ties with her and to be honest, I felt like a huge weight has been lifted off me.
AMEN to the setting healthy boundaries section!!! I have recently dealt with something very similar (literally yesterday & literally from my best friend) - and having someone you love, doubt or question your path in life is very disheartening and honestly, hurtful. But this video is a fantastic reminder to trust yourself, and to know that you got this, despite what anyone else says. Follow your truth in life, because living someone else's dream will never truly satisfy you...and if you are fortunate enough to have a choice in your path, then make that choice for yourself. xo
OOH THIS IS ME TO A T!! I find my biggest downfall is how easily I absorb negative energy. I can be in the best mood and as soon as I’m at work or just around negativity I take it on and join right in and become the problem. Gossip, complaining, all of it. Excited to give this a listen!! ☺️
You’re so right, trying to slowly cut people off can make me feel guilty but then it just shows how much control they have in your life. And at the end of the day, cutting bad energy bad people off just empowers you more during this great shift. ❤️
Kayln you might not read this comment but THANK YOU. For over a month I've been dealing with boss who constantly belittles me, straight ignores me, or treats me like I'm incompetent at my job. Several coworkers have noticed this and she even had a meeting yesterday with my other boss and store manager- yet her bullying continues unchanged. Several nights I've let this negative energy affect me wondering what on earth I did to have her not even willing to have a conversation with me. Listening to this, I changed my perspective and think maybe her behavior doesn't really have anything to do with me. Thank you so much for shining a new light. She only holds power over me if I allow her to- and I'm done. Thank you for for reminding me of that. Much love 💕🌠
All of my negative energy disappeared when I saw this video! 🥺🥺🥺 I miss you 😭😭😭 I’m so glad coffee talk podcast is also a video. I’m so glad I can watch coffee talk. You have no idea how I can watch you for 50min talking like I’m watching a movie. I really love you! Stay strong for us
I needed this today! I feel others energy so easily and it's really hard for me to turn it off. When Im around those who carry alot of negative energy, I feel a lot of frustration, tension, and sometimes even anger toward them. It's hard, but my main goal recently it to do exactly what you outlined in this video.
This was a great video! I recently had someone in my life who I thought was a friend become very hostile, rude, and disrespectful for a choice I made that she felt differently about. The next week, she did exactly what I had stated I was ok with that she attacked me for. This person is someone who has a habit of being a bully and very entitled/used to getting what she wants. Even in our book club, she refuses to read books if they are not the ones she likes. Whereas, I love reading and will read anything the group choses, even if it is something I am not particularly interested in. People are so difficult. How people treat others breaks my heart more often than it used to. Thank you for this video, it was very helpful and the phrases you suggested are such a good tool.
I've been doing therapy and I pay 25$ an hr for everything you have addressed !!! So much good information and good reminders. I don't mind paying 25$ an hr I just wanted to let others know how real, and true these words are!!!!
Thank you for this video. I remember coming across 'energy vampires' in an article around 5 years ago as dealing with some people left me feeling drained. Also, I think it is helpful to limit the information shared with people who could use it against someone in the future, and to have coping mechanisms when you encounter negative or toxic people. That said, I think most people are generally good and mean well. We might subconsciously do things that put people off or clash with others, so no one's perfect!
thank you Kalyn I just needed that right now , I also found out what my triggers are, but I am still not able to put boundries, but I am slowly getting there 💖
it’s so funny that right after you mention a protection tattoo, you share the tip to stop caring what other people are doing and thinking because i just got a tattoo that more or less symbolizes that for me✨
Wow this was beyond helpful for me. I’ve been struggling with negativity from a close family member and was having a really hard time dealing with it. Thank you so much for this video, this tips are amazing❤️
My kitty was diagnosed with kidney failure (he’s 5) and my partner and I have been doing at home treatments with him and this video was much needed. Ps, I’m throwing myself into Christmas early with full force so don’t feel alone
Thank you for posting this! I really really need this this week with thanksgiving and seeing my in-laws! They have been so negative this year - complaining about covid, masks, the lock down, BLM, etc..those kind of people :/ I’ve been avoiding them like crazy and they really tend to get me down just being around them..sigh..please send positivity this week! ♥️
I don’t know if it’s that your make up has changed to look super natural, whether you used to have lip fillers and have now stopped or if you are just feeling more yourself but your whole vibe, face and mannerisms are just absolutely glowing!! You look so healthy and vibrant 😍😍😍
Hope you get the house, Kalyn!!! I'm house hunting too, not for my forever home, but just to get on the property ladder and not be paying someone else's mortgage. I'm excited to see if you get it and see what next life has in store for you ❤️
Omg this is EXACTLY what I needed right now, THANK YOU !! Just started this job of customer service and let me tell you- I’ve been TRYING SO HARD not to let people’s bad energy ruin my day or my mood but it is extremely hard at times so again THANK YOU K ❤️🙏
All negative Engery disappears and there's only positive Engery when you upload, your mug is most festive☕🦌. That's wonderful news, keeping my fingers crossed you get that home🤞❤❤✨!
Thank you so much :-) such worthy advice without making one feel guilty in any way but helping build some really important proctection. Essential for every big empath.
I love your coffee talks, they always help a ton♥️ You are truly my favorite RUclipsr and have helped me over the last two years to leave toxic relationships and helped me to grow as a person♥️ I needed this video because being an empath can be super Draining thank you (:
Woahh THANK YOU for this video!! Can't wait to listen to it!! I have recently moved in with roomates, and their low vibration energy has really been affecting me even though I try my best to find ways to escape it 😔 Hopefully I will find some useful advice in this video, or at least a new perspective on the issue!😄
Yay! I hope you got your dream home. The housing market right now is insane. I put my home in Florida up for sale on a Friday in July and had like three offers by 5pm that same evening! You should do a video on your personal channel on what to know when buying a home too! ❤️❤️
Cassidy Cara right????? I’m glad that some people aren’t struggling as much, though, even if Kayla’s post is a bit tone deaf, it still weirdly gives me hope!
Oh wow! I was just thinking about how I hadn't seen a video from you in a while and it's daytime here in the UK. How lucky I am that you just posted ❤️
This is a year old but I recently cut someone off because of their toxicity. I'm definitely one to give people chances but after years of negativity, I had no reason to keep them in my life. As a pisces, it felt so cut throat to simply block someone from my life but required for sure.
You and I have two of the same tattoos! I have a cursive writing band on my thigh and the I create my own reality symbol on my finger. I had no idea you had those when I got them. How wild! ❤
Girl! Is your Twitter gone?! Miss seeing you on Twitter was so easy to interact! 💫🤍 just saw your post about finding your dream home!!! So happy for you & can’t wait to see the moving vlogs!!!!
I just wanted to add that it really is ok to cut out your family members. I know it is seen as a taboo subject, but unfortunately, someone being related to you does not mean they have your best interests at heart. My grandmother was extremely emotionally abusive to me for so many years, and I finally decided to cut her out of my life to protect my own mental health. It was hard at the time, but I can honestly say I do not regret it at all. I will never apologize for choosing myself.
I remember why I get triggered by Obesity (200+ lbs) The first time I ever saw an Obese person, I was very young but really confused because I didn't understand how someone could look that way and when I asked my parent about it they became embarrassed and reacted negatively so I always assumed that being Huge was really bad Taboo. I wish I could go back and tell small me, calmly, exactly what I needed to know instead of being embarrassed about an innocent question.
I looked up the book your reading and two came up by two different authors. Which one is it? Thank you! Btw when I need to get some inspiration I just watch your videos. 💜
I know you want to take some time for you and for sorting out everything with moving (fingers crossed about the house!) and please do that you deserve that
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Coffee Talk Chapters✨:
00:00 - Intro
02:53 - Bad energy & being an empath
05:53 - Cut then out (if possible)
09:40 - Understand why they’re negative
16:54 - ad break
22:02 - Toxic vs. Negative
26:08 - Setting healthy boundaries
31:40 - Identify your triggers
35:15 - ad break
38:35 - Create an energy shield
42:41 - Care less (let me explain)
Hey what’s the hashtag number for your user on discord? I tried the link but I don’t think it worked.
i’ll add this. toxic people are manipulative while negative people are just always negative, you know what you’re going to get
Then when they're BOTH... 👀
Keeping my fingers crossed that she got the house! 🖤🖤🖤
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Yessss
I feel like it’s also very important to acknowledge that we ourselves can be toxic/have toxic behaviors, and sometimes we have to acknowledge that in order to avoid gravitating towards people that nurture those behaviors and prevent that energy from spreading and hurting others when we don’t take note of it. And it’s nothing we should feel guilty about, BUT we need to remember that once is a mistake, twice is a coincidence, and three times is a pattern.
It’s part of personal growth to recognize WHERE that energy is coming from - my mom always says that whenever I feel upset or angry or whatever negative emotion, it’s good to ask “Who does this belong to? Back to sender, please”
I don’t know if this may help anyone but just a thought ✨ Thank you so much for this video, this definitely gave me some food for thought ❤️
I feel the same way 🧡🍂
I feel like I've known this my whole life, but it truly hit home this year as a full realization and i am LIVING for it - everything is shifting and I can see more clarity this year... its strange sometimes but its so much better than living in a dark mind/Sleep mode/auto-pilot 🧡🍂
this really does help. I've been in a months long spat with a family member and while deep down I've known this person is only human and reacting to their environment, it (sadly and not good on me at all) took me a bit to realize I was helping them perpetuate the issue. Both of us are alright, we need to step back for a bit and reflect.
Thank you for sharing. Hope you're doing alright.
I really loved the once is a mistake twice is a coincidence and the third time is a pattern thing. I’m going to keep that with me. Thank you :)
the quote who does this belong to is LIFE CHANGING. THANK YOU
i start my new job next week so it is important to realize that i don't have to be a sponge
Keeping my fingers crossed about the house and sending positive vibes your way, Kalyn! 💖
Kalyn, thank you so much for this coffee talk! It sadly reminds me of a long term, friend that I had to walk away from this past summer. We have been friends since we were little. Throughout life, I noticed she (as well as her mother) was always negative and looking for the worst in life. She was never happy and always loved having drama in her life. She recently got engaged and got a new house and she was still, never that happy and looking for drama. Whenever we would hang out, we would immediately talk about her, only. She was extremely self centered. This past summer, she decided to start a big fight with me over something little and stupid. It was like we were in high school again. Reminder, she loves and feeds off drama as well as her mother. She tried to manipulate me to say sorry for something I did not do. I decided to cut off ties with her and to be honest, I felt like a huge weight has been lifted off me.
She got the house, guys! 🎉
AMEN to the setting healthy boundaries section!!! I have recently dealt with something very similar (literally yesterday & literally from my best friend) - and having someone you love, doubt or question your path in life is very disheartening and honestly, hurtful. But this video is a fantastic reminder to trust yourself, and to know that you got this, despite what anyone else says. Follow your truth in life, because living someone else's dream will never truly satisfy you...and if you are fortunate enough to have a choice in your path, then make that choice for yourself. xo
OOH THIS IS ME TO A T!! I find my biggest downfall is how easily I absorb negative energy. I can be in the best mood and as soon as I’m at work or just around negativity I take it on and join right in and become the problem. Gossip, complaining, all of it. Excited to give this a listen!! ☺️
You’re so right, trying to slowly cut people off can make me feel guilty but then it just shows how much control they have in your life. And at the end of the day, cutting bad energy bad people off just empowers you more during this great shift. ❤️
Kayln you might not read this comment but THANK YOU. For over a month I've been dealing with boss who constantly belittles me, straight ignores me, or treats me like I'm incompetent at my job. Several coworkers have noticed this and she even had a meeting yesterday with my other boss and store manager- yet her bullying continues unchanged. Several nights I've let this negative energy affect me wondering what on earth I did to have her not even willing to have a conversation with me. Listening to this, I changed my perspective and think maybe her behavior doesn't really have anything to do with me. Thank you so much for shining a new light. She only holds power over me if I allow her to- and I'm done. Thank you for for reminding me of that. Much love 💕🌠
All of my negative energy disappeared when I saw this video! 🥺🥺🥺 I miss you 😭😭😭 I’m so glad coffee talk podcast is also a video. I’m so glad I can watch coffee talk. You have no idea how I can watch you for 50min talking like I’m watching a movie. I really love you! Stay strong for us
I had put it on my watch later playlist for 2 weeks 😂 I'm glad I watched it finally 💜💜
This advice actually helped me. I've been dealing with a lot of negative energy lately at work.
I needed this today! I feel others energy so easily and it's really hard for me to turn it off. When Im around those who carry alot of negative energy, I feel a lot of frustration, tension, and sometimes even anger toward them. It's hard, but my main goal recently it to do exactly what you outlined in this video.
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This was a great video! I recently had someone in my life who I thought was a friend become very hostile, rude, and disrespectful for a choice I made that she felt differently about. The next week, she did exactly what I had stated I was ok with that she attacked me for. This person is someone who has a habit of being a bully and very entitled/used to getting what she wants. Even in our book club, she refuses to read books if they are not the ones she likes. Whereas, I love reading and will read anything the group choses, even if it is something I am not particularly interested in. People are so difficult. How people treat others breaks my heart more often than it used to. Thank you for this video, it was very helpful and the phrases you suggested are such a good tool.
I've been doing therapy and I pay 25$ an hr for everything you have addressed !!! So much good information and good reminders. I don't mind paying 25$ an hr I just wanted to let others know how real, and true these words are!!!!
Thank you for this video. I remember coming across 'energy vampires' in an article around 5 years ago as dealing with some people left me feeling drained. Also, I think it is helpful to limit the information shared with people who could use it against someone in the future, and to have coping mechanisms when you encounter negative or toxic people.
That said, I think most people are generally good and mean well. We might subconsciously do things that put people off or clash with others, so no one's perfect!
This is something I really needed, I let negative energy sway me too easily!! 💛
Your papa’s golden energy story made me tear up, I thought it was beautiful 💖🌠
thank you Kalyn I just needed that right now , I also found out what my triggers are, but I am still not able to put boundries, but I am slowly getting there 💖
it’s so funny that right after you mention a protection tattoo, you share the tip to stop caring what other people are doing and thinking because i just got a tattoo that more or less symbolizes that for me✨
Wow this was beyond helpful for me. I’ve been struggling with negativity from a close family member and was having a really hard time dealing with it. Thank you so much for this video, this tips are amazing❤️
My kitty was diagnosed with kidney failure (he’s 5) and my partner and I have been doing at home treatments with him and this video was much needed. Ps, I’m throwing myself into Christmas early with full force so don’t feel alone
Thank you for posting this! I really really need this this week with thanksgiving and seeing my in-laws! They have been so negative this year - complaining about covid, masks, the lock down, BLM, etc..those kind of people :/ I’ve been avoiding them like crazy and they really tend to get me down just being around them..sigh..please send positivity this week! ♥️
They're selfish deep down and it must hurt your soul to listen
I don’t know if it’s that your make up has changed to look super natural, whether you used to have lip fillers and have now stopped or if you are just feeling more yourself but your whole vibe, face and mannerisms are just absolutely glowing!! You look so healthy and vibrant 😍😍😍
Who the hell would thumbs down this video?
Love and needed this! 💕💕💕
Hope you get the house, Kalyn!!! I'm house hunting too, not for my forever home, but just to get on the property ladder and not be paying someone else's mortgage. I'm excited to see if you get it and see what next life has in store for you ❤️
Crossing my fingers for the koze house 🤞🤞 you deserve all the good things in the world 💗💗💗
omg, you're like my friend, i've missed you sm
Omg this is EXACTLY what I needed right now, THANK YOU !! Just started this job of customer service and let me tell you- I’ve been TRYING SO HARD not to let people’s bad energy ruin my day or my mood but it is extremely hard at times so again THANK YOU K ❤️🙏
If you don't let it out, your going to let it eat you away🙏
True true!!!
Soooo true
Congratulations on ur NEW house 😄😍😍😍😍
Needed this today so, so badly, thank you 💛✨ how’s auntie life?! 🥰
All negative Engery disappears and there's only positive Engery when you upload, your mug is most festive☕🦌. That's wonderful news, keeping my fingers crossed you get that home🤞❤❤✨!
Nicely said Harry. How are you?
Thank you so much :-) such worthy advice without making one feel guilty in any way but helping build some really important proctection. Essential for every big empath.
I love your coffee talks, they always help a ton♥️ You are truly my favorite RUclipsr and have helped me over the last two years to leave toxic relationships and helped me to grow as a person♥️ I needed this video because being an empath can be super Draining thank you (:
I love to come to your videos to just kinda hang out
This video found me just at the right time. Thank you so much. This was lovely to listen to and learn from
so glad it was helpful!💗
SO much growth since this video
I cannot wait to see your new place! ✨
YES girl!! I'll keep my fingers crossed for you❤❤❤
Exactly what I need at the moment, thank you ❤️
Visualizing your next video telling us that you’re beyond happy for getting your dream home❤️
Well said
So excited to watch! Much love ❤️
Thank you so much for this video my perception has been awakened once more by your perception and wisdom :)
It's really hard to live with a not very open-minded parent 🤦🏻♀️
Thank you gorgeous 💋💋
Oh wow Kaylyn I can tell you are awakening more and more each day. So wonderful for You!
Woahh THANK YOU for this video!! Can't wait to listen to it!! I have recently moved in with roomates, and their low vibration energy has really been affecting me even though I try my best to find ways to escape it 😔 Hopefully I will find some useful advice in this video, or at least a new perspective on the issue!😄
Praying you get the house dear one! Great job ..great topic! 🙏
Such good news! Sending lots of positive energy to you for the house to come smoothly into your vibration. You deserve it!
You are so extremely knowledgeable and intuitive, awesome vid
The timing of this 😂 I’m taking my kids to their dads for thanksgiving break tomorrow and I try to coparent well but my ex is high key toxic
Yay! I hope you got your dream home. The housing market right now is insane. I put my home in Florida up for sale on a Friday in July and had like three offers by 5pm that same evening! You should do a video on your personal channel on what to know when buying a home too! ❤️❤️
Thank you for helping me understand this topic ❤️I appreciate you.
Ugh you always say what I need to hear! 🖤 ty pretty lady, good luck on getting the house!!💫
perfect timing as always
Ah so happy for the house news! Ottawans are happy to have you (almost) officially :) xoxo
Thank you for all the content you put out. You’re amazing and I’m grateful to have crossed paths with you ✨
Omg thank you for posting this I really needed to hear this 🙏🏼 I am having family negativity in my life and this opened my eyes thank you 💜
Definitely want some more spiritual content from you. These videos are amazing! 💞💞
I am so excited for your new cozy koze house!!!!!!!!
Sending all the positive vibes & best wishes to you ♥️♥️
loved this coffeetalk topic!! thank you so much for always blessing us with your content. love you xxx
This was so incredibly useful - thank you thank you thank you
What the heck!!! This connects to my life right now so much. You’re the best ❤️
sending positive vibes your way! So happy for you!
Needed to hear this today- thank you for sharing! ☺️
Allll the positive vibes for the new house, I cannot wait to see!!
yasss PROTECT YOUR PEACE!!!!
This is really helpful! Thank you so much
Great advice.... Shared with friends. Xx fingers crossed you get the house. 🙏🏡💕
Just what I needed to hear. Thank you!
Soo needed to hear this today 😉 you’re the best! 👍🏻😉
Omg I needed this video today!! Thank you 💕
Thank you for this 💙
All of my fingers and toes are crossed for you, Kayln!
My fiancé and I also bought our first house this year! 🏡💛 Sending all the good vibes your way.. 2020 isn’t as bad as we all thought. ✨
Speak for yourself girl haha 2020 has been hell for most people 😭😂
Cassidy Cara right????? I’m glad that some people aren’t struggling as much, though, even if Kayla’s post is a bit tone deaf, it still weirdly gives me hope!
sorry to hear that 🙃 I got engaged & bought a house this year! Always gotta find some good in the bad..
Good luck with your house ❤️😊 and I needed this
I couldn't stop looking at the mug. Reminds me of the type logo which I love. 😊
Oh wow! I was just thinking about how I hadn't seen a video from you in a while and it's daytime here in the UK. How lucky I am that you just posted ❤️
This is a year old but I recently cut someone off because of their toxicity. I'm definitely one to give people chances but after years of negativity, I had no reason to keep them in my life. As a pisces, it felt so cut throat to simply block someone from my life but required for sure.
Thank you!
Sorry, got distracted there for a minute watching Bentley in the background... what a cutie!
You and I have two of the same tattoos! I have a cursive writing band on my thigh and the I create my own reality symbol on my finger.
I had no idea you had those when I got them. How wild! ❤
congrats on the house sis!!!!! saw you got it
your hair is so cute like this!
I’ll be praying that you get the house!!
Girl! Is your Twitter gone?! Miss seeing you on Twitter was so easy to interact! 💫🤍 just saw your post about finding your dream home!!! So happy for you & can’t wait to see the moving vlogs!!!!
I just wanted to add that it really is ok to cut out your family members. I know it is seen as a taboo subject, but unfortunately, someone being related to you does not mean they have your best interests at heart. My grandmother was extremely emotionally abusive to me for so many years, and I finally decided to cut her out of my life to protect my own mental health. It was hard at the time, but I can honestly say I do not regret it at all. I will never apologize for choosing myself.
I remember why I get triggered by Obesity (200+ lbs) The first time I ever saw an Obese person, I was very young but really confused because I didn't understand how someone could look that way and when I asked my parent about it they became embarrassed and reacted negatively so I always assumed that being Huge was really bad Taboo. I wish I could go back and tell small me, calmly, exactly what I needed to know instead of being embarrassed about an innocent question.
Thank you
Fingers crossed for you!
thank u for reminding me that i don't have to take someone else's advice.
Sending good wishes that you get the house
I hope you get the house!!! 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻
Crossing fingers and toes for you!
🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞💜💜💜💜💜hope you get the house!!!!!
I looked up the book your reading and two came up by two different authors. Which one is it? Thank you! Btw when I need to get some inspiration I just watch your videos. 💜
It's The Highly Sensitive Person By Elaine N. Aron 💗 You'll love it! Also thank you so much
@@KalynsCoffeeTalk you are totally welcome. Fingers crossed for your house.
Wow, you got a direct reply, wow
I know you want to take some time for you and for sorting out everything with moving (fingers crossed about the house!) and please do that you deserve that