Story 2, you missed the bit where it turns out that Anne graduated from MIT and has a bunch of job offers, this was just the first place she interviewed at. So OP thinks his MIT graduate daughter is lazy because she’s an introvert.
Not only that, but because Kate got a job (from her dad's brother, but shush, nepotism only exists when it's not helping someone up by their bootstraps/s)
We named our daughters after strong historical women. One day, my son comes to me and asks why we named him after a Disney cartoon character. I laughed as I never thought of that and let him know that we did not name him after a crab. We named him from the town in Puert Rico, where my grandparents grew up and wed. I even showed him that the spelling was a tiny bit different. Poor kid had such a look of relief on his face.
Yeah SIL was right on the money, the fact that he lied would also make me mad asl. They could've compromised with Stephanie being a middle name but the moment he lied he was the one in the wrong
I just realised, not only is this a comic book themed name but he's also naming their kids after people who's OWN parents regularly either died or were total a-holes. Make of that what y'all will.
Exactly. There are a couple of character names from books I read years ago that I initially thought would be lovely to name a daughter if I ever had one, but then I thought about the characters' lives & thought better. 1 had a terribly tragic life & though I'm not really superstitious I thought others might recognize the name & make comments that would make the kid worry later. The other name I liked until later the author ruined it with part of the story being how when the girl got to be a teen the sweet 1st & middle name given by her mom became a target for bullies to make into a crude sexual joke I hadn't even thought of. Nope, scratch that one off the list too!
@@SharmClucas To be fair, Jason wasnt an asshole until he came back from the dead and he has some good reasons for his disillusionment. BUT i totally agree lmao.
When I was a teenager my uncle got me a new diving mask, unfortunately it wasn't compatible with my prescription scuba lenses. I appreciated the thought, but it just wasn't suitable. He gave my mum the receipts, she took it back and used the refund to get me some I could actually use with my lenses and I used them for years. One of the best presents he ever got me
OMG, the second story is insane to me. Architecture is almost always about who you know to get hired. Architecture is hard enough, without having parents who are calling us lazy.
I'm curious what their definition of 'lazy' is. She went through uni, got not one, but several job offers so I have to assume her grades are pretty good, and has her own place. Like... do they expect her to be engaging her brain 24/7?
Idk. It sounds like the issue of lying was surrounding him making up an entire fake family member and story to justify his name choice instead of just being straight forward. Not saying anything is one thing, but saying everything but the truth shows you're willing to make up unnecessary lies about small things and leaves room to assume you can do so about big things too. He created an argument with this situation that brought in family who didn't know. SIL probably wanted to warm up to the name so she wanted to learn about Aunt Stephanie and learn to love her so she got it. Now she knows that's a lie and she's like "Okay but what ELSE is a lie then????" If my fiancé named our kid something game related without directly telling me and I didn't figure it out until later, then I'd be like "You turrrrd" cuz I still agreed to the name, ya know? But if he did it and gave me a random reason that I find out is a lie, I'm gonna be confused and then upset and my pregnant brain is probably going to imagine every thing wrong because of the lie..
Story 3: Generally don't gift someone a computer, not for someone who uses it for work or gaming. They generally know what they need and/or may be picky about certain features too. Same with cars and car guys.
Only buy expensive gifts if you are 100% sure that it is what they want. If you don't know then just take them shopping for the item instead. I got gifted a washing machine the person who gave it to me basicly took me shopping so that I could pick one out that suited my needs.
Was looking for this. Haven't listened to the comments, but buying something like clothes, cars and computers for someone is not the best idea. Pants and t-shirts ,at least for me, is fine, but but, if I'm getting a new computer or new car, I want to pick it. I know what I'm looking for. Also, OP even admits that they know close to nothing about computers. Why would you do that?
See.. I completely understood getting him the laptop, and even doing her best to keep it a surprise. however, the very second she pointed out that she knew nothing at all about anything to do with specs... my heart literally sank. I already knew where this story was going. And go there it did... but... he actively suggested she let him return it and exchange it for something that would fit his needs and her response was "no. If it's not good enough for you how it is, then you're not getting anything." and promptly gave it to her sister who ok, needed a laptop, although if it was a laptop for school... ironically, his old laptop would probably have been good enough for that. I'm guessing if 8mb ram wasn't enough, and this was the better upgrade from his old laptop, that his old laptop had some pretty reasonable specs still, just not enough for sophisticated programmes which for course work and that (barring some really specific courses), the older laptop probably would have been good enough for those needs. Her suggestion that he "at least try it out first" just made me cringe though. The moment he takes it out of the box and sets it up.. turns it on... etc etc.. it's no longer As new and can no longer be returned for full price unless it can be proven that the machine was faulty in which case often all you get is an even exchange of the same laptop. He was completely right in not "trying it out first" if he wanted it to go towards a useful laptop. She absolutely should have listened to him and gone ahead and made an exchange. it's even possible she could have gotten something with a similar price tag but different specs (since he probably had a good idea what he needed), by sacrificing on something else not as much needed, or that the 1300 could have gone towards the price of what he did need, perhaps even getting a good deal in the Jan sales. So yeah.. don't be scared to gift a computer/laptop, just be prepared to not be offended if it's not what they need/want and keep that receipt so it can be returned if necessary.
@Rebecca Briggs if it were me, I'd give a card with some "cute coupon" saying this is good for x amount of dollars toward a laptop of your choice. That how I did it with a camera for my mom. She ended up getting a generation older camera (which more than suited her needs) and she were able to buy a case, tripod and a few accessories.
In story 1, it's sad that the SIl's girl name was completely ruined for her. The original update was a bit different, they were putting aside the argument so the kids could enjoy Xmas and the mother thoroughly scolded her son and told him his wife gets full naming privileges while he gets none for the daughter. Apparently, Tim was the name he planned to use if it was a boy.
The last story, reminds me of my sister. When she does things for people it’s more for validation and to feel like the hero in the situation. It’s not because she actually wants to do something thoughtful. I’m not saying that OP didn’t want to do something thoughtful however I think she more so wanted the satisfaction of being the hero in his situation. It seems to me like she didn’t care that much because if you know that his computer is slow, why wouldn’t you call Apple or search online to see what is a faster version of his computer? When I was 19 years old my boyfriend decided to surprise me with a computer, he took me to Apple and we spoke to the gentleman there about my specific needs and they were able to find me a computer that was perfect or for what I needed. Now that’s someone who is genuinely trying to help instead of seek validation.
Story 1: He missed a few little updates, the one where op mom's got furious and basically forbid mickey to name the baby, mike gives robin funkos pops to the kids, an a few small deatil, there were at least 2 mini updates.
I really don't like Chloe. I think they're going to be so much better with a completely different name. Chloe would have been okay 20 years ago, but it is just too overused now. No offence to Chloes out there already.
Story 3: This is what happens when you purchase a laptop but you don't know what your purchasing it for. It sounds to me like he was appreciative but not falling over himself screaming "Oh my God what an amazing thing". To pull it back and regifted somewhere else is kind of a crap move.
@Connor Burnett what? She asked, specifically, what about his current machine was insufficient, he told her, and then she was all, "I don't actually know what that means, and I won't bother to ask any of the folks at the Apple store whose job it literally is to answer questions like that! This could not possibly have negative repercussions!"
In all honesty, if he NEEDS a new laptop, and he's complained about it, the real question is this: "Why didn't he get one himself?" I think the answer is that he was fishing for OP to buy one, so that he didn't have to pay for ir
@@aluralovell6829- to add to your comment, I wonder if the SO is tech savvy as he thinks he is, because with varying laptops (not all of them, mind you), one *can improve* the RAM (memory) and/or storage on them if they looked up a video on RUclips on how to do so - something I was easily able to do with two different laptops. The SO can even get a multi port hub that can 'house' an external storage drive or two to help with the laptop (something I got for the Chromebook I recently bought for myself)!
“He wasn’t even willing to give it a chance.” It has specs that have to be met. Yes, you could have returned it and GOTTEN YOUR MONEY back. She keeps saying that she spent a lot but seems to not be acknowledging that the money doesn’t just disappear.
I agree, but I also don't think it was right that the commenters and her BF seem to act like her spending $1300 on a laptop for him means she should be on the hook to spend as much as he wants. When he said for her to take it back and get him the one he wants, it sounds like he was expecting her to pay the difference. I didn't hear him getting her a $4000 gift, or that she is swimming in FU money, so it feels presumptuous for him to assume he's entitled to a $4k gift.
@@Original_Tenshi_Chan right, im trying to get a new laptop myself right now because this one has been going on for over 10 years and is on its last legs and the prices are absolutely insane, so that bit about him just saying she can return it and get one he can actually use feels so cold and callous, especially for someone trying their best with such limited knowledge. being able to figure out what laptop you need is not just one google search and done? and there is not even a guarantee that the shop she got the laptop at would allow her to return it or give her the full money back
@@Original_Tenshi_Chan you dont have to immediately buy the one he wants or needs . The 1300 could have just been a good baseline to start saving for it. Hell you can buy the parts for a good gaming pc with just 1300
I don't know. I see a lot of people talking about how the specs weren't being met but absolutely no one seemed to point out how BF was immediately snotty about the gift. Yes it wasn't what he needed but I feel this entire situation would have gone differently if he would have been appreciative of the effort but explained to her calmly why it wouldn't work for him in a civil manner. Personally, I don't care if she accidentally got him the wrong one, at that point he's not entitled to any more goodwill when his immediate response was to be snotty. The only thing she did wrong was taking it back since at that point it was his laptop so ESH I guess.
@Alura Lovell 1. She's the one writing, so you don't know if he was actually snotty or not. And 2, even though she wrote a lot about putting effort into the gift, she actually put 0 effort into it and just expects him to be grateful because she spent a lot of money. You can actually hear the whine, "but I spent a lot of money on it 😫."
I might be mad at first but if my immediate response was to be snotty about it and not calmly explain what went wrong here I couldn't really blame them.
Story 1 (after update): NTA, naming kids after fictional characters is fine, as long as both parents agree to it and know the reason for the name. SIL should name the daughter Talia (after Talia AlGul AKA The Daughter of the Demon), just to give him a reminder of what he did.
My vote goes towards Celes, for the reason that the Final Fantasy VI character in question stabs Kefka towards the end of the first half of the game and you start the second half of the game *as* Celes, who recruits everyone to destroy Kefka once and for all.
There is nothing more frustrating that someone spending a lot of money for an expensive gift you really really want, but being careless enough to not get the details right. Like it’s such a waste!!! And you get so excited only to have it crushed because it’s basically useless to you and they threw money in the sea. Honestly what she did was comparable to buying a ring for someone that doesn’t fit and regifting when the recipient wants to have it resized.. or buying a fancy piece of garment in the wrong size and then giving it away instead of exchanging it. Honestly it’s worse because he really needed that computer.
agreed. It doesn't even need to be an expensive gift! An ex of mine once brought me a PC game for Christmas.. it was a game i'd been trying to find for over 5 years and had no luck.. and somehow.. they found this game in a charity shop by pure luck. I thanked them profusely raced upstairs to get it installed and... out of the 6 discs needed, one was missing. The 1st Disc. the install Disc. The one disc that was a lot harder to find a copy of online simply because it wasn't a common game at the time and had the majority of the information for the game on it. I was.. devestated. I knew how much work they must have put into finding it... I went downstairs and braced myself to explain why I wasn't playing it/trying it out.. however upon explaining why I was told "oh I know. That's why it was so cheap, they told me hte first disc was missing." Now if they had been new to computers or games. I would have understood, but... they knew computers. They knew how discs and games worked... they just.. didn't care.. and it felt like such a slap in the face. not because it had been expensive but because I'd gotten so excited to have something that I'd been looking for for absolutely ages, and it was never going to work. not only was it neve rgoing to work, but they let me go upstairs to try and get it working without even a word of warning and left me tryign to figure out for ages how to explain that whlie I appreciated the gift it was in effect... worth even less money than they'd paid for it. The price of this game that they found for me? £2.09. Still the feeling of crushed excitement was hard. the thought of getting a laptop and being super excite only to find out that it's never going to be useful for what you need.. I can only imagine. anyone expecting me to not show at least some disappointment over that is deluding themselves.
@@rebeccabriggs9452 Jeez that's so harsh. I'm sorry that happened to you. That honestly sounds a bit deliberately cruel or something on the exes part.. How on earth would you come to the conclusion that that is a good idea? Did you ever find a working copy of the game?
@@binkao2938 yes I did, thankfully a very good friend of mine (now my partner tbh), helped me get out from under their thumb and refind my own self esteem and confidence. they're also the one that helped me track down a good copy of the game which I'm very happy about. there was.. a lot this person did, this was just one of their mind games towards the end, one of the many things that helped me see things for just how they actually were.
That last story, I can feel OP's lack of knowledge and understanding of tech clouding her telling of the tale. 8GB of RAM in a laptop makes an expensive brick. Her boyfriend might well have been explaining as gently as he could that this machine would have to be replaced, because it couldn't begin to handle what he needed it for. That's simple fact. OP acting like it's an attack on her immediately reveals her perspective to be irreparably tainted by ignorance and emotional volatility.
I think it greatly matters how he said it. She did need to know more before she bought though. Even if she wasn't sure, she could have asked around. Gone to multiple stores or repair shops to see if the one she wanted to buy made sense for what he does. With that said, if he was a jerk about it, then I don't blame her, lol. Also, who did he expect to pay the difference? If he wanted to exchange it and pay the difference himself, alright then. But if he expected her to do it when she was already stretching her budget then, kick rocks.
@@ynmonroe True, but OP just seems so offended that she couldn't throw a certain amount of money at a problem and expect it to be solved that she couldn't relay the conversation properly.
@@LetholdusKaspyr Don't get me wrong; OP was definitely playing victim. She didn't try hard enough IMO. She could have giving BF the money and let him find the replacement. She could have asked him more about what he wanted. She could have done a 1000 things that she didn't do. Plus, why not let him return it and pay whatever difference to get the suitable replacement? She still would have been a heroine, lol.
At the end of the day if he needs a new laptop, that's something he'll need to purchase. No one owes him a $1300 gift. If it didn't have the right RAM, he could have spent his own money to upgrade it and move on. If it was totally wrong and he rejected the gift? Well, he's not owed $1300 to replace a gift. It was wrong and he returned it. He can save for his own laptop. I'd never spend more than a couple hundred on him for a gift again.
Story 1 - I heard of this story and I'm amazed. So rather then named the second born 'Robin' because its a gender-neutral name, OP's brother not only lied about a non-existenting family member but also manipulated his wife? All because he wants to be Batman? Also there's are a total of Five people that took the Robin title (Six if you count Carrie Kelly) so that meants the brother wanted FIVE and/or possible SIX kids with the Robin's civilian names...what the hell?! (Yes I'm a Batman fan) NOTE - OP didn't confirm how many kids his brother and SIL are having or stop on this X number, but I'm saying if he kept up the name theme, total of five/six kids would be born
That AH brother ruined his xmas, where was his apology? He tied himself in knots trying to figure out how HE ruined the holiday when in fact it was his AH brother with his hill to effing die on that ruined it for him(over a name ffs)
Story 2: YTA. 1) Kate is the owner's niece. So long as she's not outright incompetent and awful, of course she got the job. 2) Even if Kate were not the owner's niece, and Anne and Kate were compete for the same job along with 10 other candidates, not getting the job does not mean that you're lazy and not as good. There's only one job. At some point, they have to narrow down the candidates to one. If they have 4 candidates who are actually qualified, it may come down to what school they graduated from or how close they live to work or the flip of a coin because they seem equally good.
I looked at the responses OP gave, and Anne apparently went to MIT. A prestigious school with the lowest acceptance rate ever recorded. He just simply doesn't respect Anne to be proud of her accomplishments. I hope he keeps that same mentality up when he's old and no one to care for him, because I doubt very much Anne will put up with him for much longer. Or maybe he can ask Kate to take care of him. What a loser. It's a shame how some people, and parents of all people, can't be happy for you.
@@robertx8020 Yeah. My BIL is actually an architect. His current employer picked him because he was already trained in a particular program that they were trying to swap their firm over to. That was it. That was the big thing that made a difference. Not to say that there weren't other things, but that was the deciding factor when they had narrowed down their choices: You know how to do this, and now we're going to put you in charge of helping everyone else learn how to do this.
Story 2: OP was definitely the AH. There's no way nepotism wasn't at least a little bit of the reason she got the job. My mom works for a large company and her boss has known me since I was in middle or high school. Her boss gave me a full-time job every summer while I was in college because my mom mentioned she was annoyed that I was just hanging out with my friends and spending her money lol. (I didn't even interview, I just showed up and she gave me a schedule) Then post-college her boss scored me an interview and put in a good word for me. I got the job. Did I deserve the job? Yeah. I was great at my job and won awards while I worked there. Was I the best candidate? Maybe Did I get that job on my own? Absolutely not. I got my foot in the door because of who my mom knows and the person who offered me the job respected both my mom and the boss that recommended me. Nepotism isn't always gonna get you the job, but it definitely gets you in the room. And if it's a close call it might tip the scale in your favor. It's important to acknowledge that even if you're a solid candidate "knowing someone" provides you with an advantage over other candidates.
The flip side is that you worked hard because your mum works there and it will reflect badly on her. The company is like a tribe and they got another member of their tribe to work for them. People like to work with people they like and trust. It’s in built in to humans. If the company needed you to work long hours for day Christmas, they can emotional guilt trip you by getting your mum to ask you. I’m just giving the other positive perspective of why nepotism can work.
@rahulmodi8706 this is true! I did sometimes work pretty long hours and volunteered holidays if we were open so ppl with kids could spend time with them. It was a good company so they rewarded people willing to go above and beyond (i.e. bonuses, additional PTO, etc) Only thing I'll push back on is the company getting my mom to guilt me. Lol I never worked with her. The company had a pretty strict policy against family members working on the same site (even temporarily)
Story 3: YTA. I don't think the boyfriend was unappreciative. The way he was excited when he first saw it showed thay. It was that he literally could not use it because it didn't fit his requirements. I think I would have said "I'm sorry babe, I love you and tried my best with what I could afford and the knowledge I had. Let's return it, and you can get a different one for the same price, or you can use the price of it towards a more expensive one and cover the difference yourself."
doesn't sound like the bf responded like that. it sounds like he was excited and then saw what it was and immediately went sour. like "omg thank you so much!!.. 8gb RAM? that's not even near enough what I need, that's so slow"
@@Becks-and-books unfortunately, we don't know exactly how it went down. All we know is he was super excited and then he wasn't. He explained that it wasn't fit for what was needed.... he suggested it could be returned and put towards a different laptop.. and she doubled down and insisted he "at least just try it out" which would have then made that impossible.
@@Becks-and-booksin your interpretation of his reaction is extremely negative. Even if he did say it that way it doesn't take away from the fact that he was extremely grateful that she got him a laptop and just wanted to switch it for something that fit the specs he needs to work. That man can't just try it out. That's not how Tech works. She was completely being spiteful when giving it to her sister. That clearly showed that she cared more about being praised for giving an expensive gift than giving the person what they needed. Because if she really wanted to give him what he needed she would have let him take it back to the store and exchange it for a better model where he could have even paid the difference.
In Scotland Bruce is associated with 'King' because of Robert the Bruce & the Bruce clan (who defeated the English & restored Scottish independence in the 1300s).
I’d be pushing the superstitious angle and mention every time he brings up the name Bruce for your hypothetical kid something like “and you know what happened to Bruce Wayne’s parents right?” Or maybe “Do you really want to try to make our possible kid batman because in canon it doesn’t end well for the kid’s parents?!”
Story 2: What I've learned from being in a community collage (tried to get into the health career), it's never "What you know" but "Who you know" and that is why I've decided to be a housewife. I'm not very good at networking and would have to rely on siblings, which I don't want to do. OP is YTA.
@Jasper Ingersoll lmao that was actually something I noticed after doing so. My owl themed accounts existed before the name change came into play, and I thought it was funny so I didn't change any of them 😂🤭
Story 3 - YTA When it comes to very specific gifts in things in a specific field-it is better to have an expert sit with you on it (or the recipient). This is like giving a person a size small shirt… when they are an extra large.
@@cheyennetrumbos but the laptop may be the same as the old one. She said herself she knew nothing about electronics. She should have said "ok let's go get what you need". She will be left wondering why he left.
@@cheyennetrumbos Imagine needing a pair of size 8 shoes. You specifically need work shoes that are appropriate for your job, let's say non slip shoes because you work in a restaurant that may get damp floors in the back. So I put my consideration into things and I find a really reputable brand of non-slip, and they're expensive.... but I got you a size 6 instead of a size 8. And then told you to just try them out. That's the equivalent here. Consideration and thought is worthless when the product can't be properly put to good use. And instead of taking them back to get the size you need, I then regift them to my cousin who is size 6.
@@UsagiArwen Also imagine this you wear size 8 shoes, you work at a restaurant. Your SO gets you a size 6 by accident but has spent a lot of money on it and instead of being appreciative of the effort and the thought put into it but explaining to them calmly why this won't work, you immediately turn up your nose and decide to be snotty about it. Can you at that point in good conscience expect any more goodwill from this person after the way you behaved? Yes it was not what you needed but that doesn't give you free range to be a snot about it. Technically she was wrong for regifting it because it was his at that point but at the same time I don't blame her, I wouldn't have regifted it but he could do it himself at that point.
@@aluralovell6829 exactly. it's about appreciation. by ignoring the fact that the gf actually wanted to solve a problem, but didn't realize that the shoes you needed for the restaurant had to have steel covered toes... they still bought a thoughtful gift with the knowledge they have. Expecting people who don't have knowledge about a thing to have knowledge to know what they don't know is... such a weird expectation. Some people do think that any computer is a good computer, and then you explain it to them while not being bratty. If the restaurant worker got the size 6 with no steel covered toes you wouldn't go "this gift sucks, this isn't at all what I need, where's the receipt I need to exchange them to some shoes that ACTUALLY fit me and have what I need". Like chill, mistakes happen, a fix is possible... just show some god damn appreciation first
I’m glad story 1 ended with the brother getting caught and called out, and his wife now gets to pick out her daughter’s name, but i don’t think OP is paying enough attention to her brother’s actions and motivations. She says he’s seen the error of his ways and everything is gonna get better, but has he? He went from blatantly lying to his wife to get what he wants and yelling at his sister for unknowingly exposing that lie, to immediately apologizing and saying it was wrong and that he regrets it. If his wife hadn’t mentioned “Great Aunt Stephanie” to anyone in his family, she probably would’ve agreed to name the baby Stephanie, and he wouldn’t have regretted it for a second. He sounds like he’s just sorry he got caught. I’ve seen so many manipulative people use this tactic where they use a “mature conversation about their mistakes” as a get out of jail free card for any consequences regarding their actions. He may not lie about secret family members again, but he’s definitely going to lie in the future and lash out at others when he’s caught
Story 3: OP must have never used a slow computer. Of course, the bf is a little unappreciative, but if you need a pc for working or gaming, it must have certain specs. It's like gifting someone a pair of trousers 3 sizes smaller and complain that the other person is not willing to give it a chance because they do not try them on
Great point here. As one who's upgraded certain specs of laptops (which can be done on varying laptops) along with having built 7 total custom desktop computers for buddies and myself, the SO had one of two solutions to work with: either get the additional specs needed provided the laptop can be improved that way, or buy external storage with a multi port hub.
Story 1, NTA. This is why you don't lie about things like this. The truth is always going to eventually come out and bite you in the ass. He's only mad that his lie was exposed and now everyone is upset at him. Then rather than accept that he shouldn't have lied about his kid's name in the first place he goes and blames op. Also, apparently he wanted her name to be Stephanie so bad he went as far as to actually lie to get his way, what an A-hole. Op didn't "meddle" she only told the freaking truth. If he was sulking during breakfast that means his wife confronted him and she's sulking because he finally told her the truth. Update, at least he realized that he was in the wrong and was hurtful to deceive his wife.
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Story 3: YTA. He's maybe also TA. I don't know for certain because I wasn't there. 1) You bought him a gift he couldn't use. An expensive gift he couldn't use. Usually, when normal mortals are going to spend over $100 on something (let alone, I assume around $1,000) for a loved one, they make absolutely sure that what they're getting is exactly what that person wanted. You did not do this vital thing, and so you effectively got him a really expensive brick. 2) You then stole the brick back from him because you didn't like his attitude. Once a gift is given, it's the property of the owner (aka the person it was given to). On his end, and again, I wasn't there, so I don't know. It is possible he was not very gracious and polite in receiving his brick. It doesn't matter if you don't like a gift. You are supposed to be nice about someone giving you something. And maybe he was. I am uncertain because the post doesn't go into it other than him pointing out that it was useless to him. So maybe he was also TA, but maybe he wasn't. But even if he was, that doesn't excuse you stealing from him.
Every person that thinks it’s ok to take back gifts after you’ve gifted them had parents that stole from them over minor inconveniences and never healed from it. Change my mind.
@@gaxalee7392 You can't legally take gifts back, as it's the person you gifted it to's item now. She quite literally stole it and gave it away; petty theft. The only way you can do that is if the person GIVES it back of their own accord, which the boyfriend did not
1. Before the update. I'm betting that brother has an ex-girlfriend named Stephanie. 3. If you don't know about the different specs of a computer, don't buy one for someone else. She should have allowed him to exchange it for a machine he needed. Also, once you give a gift, it's no longer yours and you can't "regift" it. Nope.
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Brother needs to concede naming of all future children to his wife. The first one was an accidental name. Then brother buffaloed her into the second son's name. The lie to get the third is going a bit too far.
Story 1: the sister saying her brother is this great guy and never would lie and then this apparently years of deceit (like Robin was theme; he never admitted too and just kept lying); lashed out at op. Somehow I think her brother has lied before; but he never got caught.
Mikey claimed that he planned to tell his wife _after_ they were done having kids and he'd fully achieved his little Bat Squad. OP is also delusional AF. She talks about how Mikey is a good guy and this isn't like him but also states that they're used to putting up with "small lies" from him for the sake of pranks his whole life. She doesn't seem to make the connection that he's a habitual liar and for whatever reason, they've put up with it for years. He just finally told a lie egregious enough for them to take notice.
Story 1 was a wild one. I'm not very familiar with the Batman Franchise, so would've never gotten this. Leave it to Reddit sleuths. You can't be TA when you weren't even informed you needed to lie.
Second story had an update... Turns out OP2's daughter got her degree in architecture from MIT. Her friend went to a local southern California Uni. Commenters thought Berkley or LA. Also high profile, but MIT is apparently a (big) step up from those two. I'm not from the USA so I've got no clue. Means OP2's daughter might very well have had the best cards for the job, but family came first at the firm they were applying for. Depending on how the OP2's wife (the kids' mom) acted during this I foresee a daughter going low to no contact after she finds her first job somewhere a couple of states over. Queue a post a couple of years down the line of 'why has my daughter cut us out of our life, we never did anything to deserve this'.
Berkeley isn't SoCal (and I don't know of any Berkley, so I'm assuming that was supposed to be Berkeley. If there really is a Berkley, then I have no idea if it's SoCal or not. But then it wouldn't be high profile, unless it's only high profile in the architecture world?). So if it's SoCal, barring Berkley being a thing, then it would have been LA between those two options. (Berkeley is in the SF bay area, which is the southernmost part of northern California. Source: I live in the SF bay area, including living on the boundary line between Berkeley and Oakland for a semester while I was in undergraduate college. I also had family in LA. Hence why I know where in California the two are very well.) Culturally, from my experience, in general, MIT is higher profile than UCLA, and similar profile to UC Berkeley, but this differs depending on which career you're dealing with. UCLA is higher profile than both in the medical world, for instance, while UC Berkeley is going to be higher profile in philosophy, and MIT will be higher profile in most of the hard sciences/engineering with some exception for sustainable technologies (Cal Poly is its UC rival for technology, although MIT usually still wins. UC Berkeley is really into sustainability and green, so it may rival MIT in sustainable/green technologies. And it is still very high up in technology, despite its profile; I have a friend who does nanotech stuff in a Berkeley lab. But she graduated from MIT). I have no idea who has the higher profile in architecture, since that's not really my world (I'm in grad school to become a medical or consumer health librarian), but I'd think either MIT or UC Berkeley. That said, doing a bit of Google shows that while MIT and UC Berkeley do outrank it in college rankings for architecture programs (MIT was #1 in the US), UCLA's undergraduate program was still ranked anywhere between 6-11 in the US, so it's not bad. If Kate graduated from UC Berkeley (#3) or UCLA (#6-11), she went to a really good program and would be well qualified. But, Anne graduated from the best. Also, MIT is not for slackers; there's a reason for its prestige, and some students commit suicide from stress there. I don't know what Anne's father was going on about Anne being lazy, etc. You don't graduate from MIT if you're lazy. You don't even get admitted if you're lazy; it's way too hard to get admitted for that. (BTW, if you're comfortable sharing, what country are you from? No worries if you're not comfortable - internet strangers and all.)
Story 2: 90% of the time is who you know not what you know. My dad is also like that, always use to compare me to my sisters and cousins. I grew up thinking I'm useless and stupid. It turns out I'm dyslexic and ADD, my brain just works different, but my relationship with my dad is very limited.
Ditto this. My mother used to compare me to my sister (if she made less than a 97 on her test, my mom knew she hadn't cracked the books and would get mad. Sis tested totally out of college math for her field and got a full scholastic scholarship based on her grades, graduated 4.0 in everything). I struggled to make 80's. Mom didn't believe in testing kids or medicating them, so it wasn't until I was an adult that I discovered I'm Aspergers, ADD, and dyslexic. THEN things made sense (like when I was learning to write my name, I wrote it in crayon on my dresser, but my e's were upside-down and backward). My brother is also classic ADHD, now that I know what to look for.
I wanna say something, ADD doesn't actually exist, it's just an attempt to say women can't have ADHD. The new DSM-6 is changing it to ADD is no longer a valid diagnosis
@@lovelysakurapetalsyt Yes, they call it all ADHD now. However, my brother has the hyper version and I do not, so I still call it by the old name. In fact, if you want to get technical, there's no more Aspergers either, that and ADHD are also all lumped into what is now called ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder).
@@lovelysakurapetalsyt Well actually it does exist, at least where I live. Sure, the name keeps being changed and I'm sure it'll be changed few more times before I die but it doesn't change the fact that the condition itself still affects many people.
@@blaszizzz Dude I'm not saying you can't have a condition, I have ADHD myself, but ADD isn't the actual diagnosis, it's meant to be ADHD, but ADD was forced to be put in the DSM because misogynistic guys didn't want women to be diagnosed with the thing they actually have
My biggest problem with story 3 is that the boyfriend didn’t say thank you and immediately went to complaining about a $1300 gift. Like, you can exchange it later, but complaining in the moment of giving is not the thing to do. If someone is gets you a PlayStation 4 when you wanted a PS5, you say thank and later explain the difference.
the boyfriend is ungrateful af, sure she gave him the wrong one but she tried her best, but he clearly rejected the laptop, if he genuinely had no use for it why be mad at her for giving it to her sister who did have use for it? Not only that but she gave him something he might like, I've had people gift me things for my birthday that I actively dislike because they don't even make an effort to know me better. OP deserves better, that comment section is so wrong.
@Giordan Diodato no listen again she said he was happy to get it until he saw it was speced the same as his current machine. When it comes to buying computers you have to know what the recipient wants for the machine. I've bought several laptops for my wife over the years. The last one was the brand she wanted and a price she wanted me to pay for it but it greatly underperformed for her. No one was mad we just realized we need to spend a little more for a better machine. She told me she wants 12gb ram in the next one so that will be what her next 1 will have. The gf is TA because instead of graciously realizing she bought the wrong machine and making it right she doubled down on he should use it anyway even if it will not work for his job.
@@gigadrill0000 If he said that the laptop was useless to him because it was the same as he had before, I don't get why he is mad she decided to give it to someone else, also he is not entitled to another one, she didn't want to return it and that's fair, this isn't clothes that one can return all the time, its a very expensive laptop. He hates the gift, feels entitled to a better one, then gets mad when the gift he didn't like was gifted to another person.
Jason Todd: ....a rude thief of a kid, who became a rude kid with an excuse to beat people, who got tortured by joker, who became a murdering anti-hero. He's currently Mr. Cringe wherever he goes. Op's brother, "Perfect!"
Story 3: YTA OP admits she knows very little about computer hardware and she clearly knows how to use reddit so I don't understand why she didn't just ask on the appropriate sub-reddit for advice. All she had to do was make a post asking for advice on buying a new laptop while explaining what her boyfriend did for work, what he was having trouble doing on his current laptop, what MacBook he was currently using, and her what OP's budget was. OP did no real research other than finding out her boyfriend's current model of MacBook. Her pulling take backsies to give his gift to her sister was really shitty and does not help her case. She even suggested that he open it and try it for a before considering returning which is the dumbest thing I've heard in a while! That would just turn the brand new MacBook into a less valuable used MacBook!
@@fandomfan2800 How do you figure? I could understand an ESH if one assumes that he acted like an asshole when he received the gift which she never elaborated on. OP gave her boyfriend a Christmas gift and then took it back to give to her sister. I have a feeling that if the boyfriend retaliated in any way such as pulling the same take backsies BS like OP did on any gifts she received from him then she definitely would've posted about it. OP is acting like she had to slay a minotaur and escape a labyrinth to get that gift for him!
I agree with this 100% Like.. you don't need to know about computers to know that the moment you open an "unwanted gift" you are no longer able to return it "as new" because it is assumed you have at the very least opened it and potentially done something else to it. Once you do that, you can no longer get your money back, if it is faulty you can exchange it for one of the same, but you can not get your money back or use it as a potential trade in. he didn't need to try it out, he saw the specs. he evidentally knows enough about laptops to know instantly that this would not fulfil his needs, he knew better than to "Try it out"
The name story reminded me of one where the guy was trying to convince his wife to name their girl a certain name & it turned out it was his ex's name. Then the other guy where they were having their 1st son & the dad was insisting that the 1st & middle name start with certain letters for "tradition" & a commenter pointed out to the OP that her husband & FIL's initials were A.S.S., making her flip out on the whole family for deliberately wanting to carry on a tradition that caused bullying. (What AHs those guys were!) Anyway, yeah people need to stop trying to be equal by having turns on baby names & follow the sensible 1-no-2-yes rule on names but also just be open with the partner about why they like or don't like certain names. Fun themes are ok as long as everyone is in on it AND also the name or its spelling isn't weird enough to cause problems for the kid in life AND you don't drive your kid crazy with joking about where the name comes from.
Someone who doesn't understand specific terminology related to a field. Anything he would have said about RAM, SSDs, processors, etc would have gone in one ear and out the other. She has no point of reference to even know what he's talking about, so she wouldn't be able to remember the specific needs he told her.
@agentzapdos4960 yup my parents tried to gift me a replacement desktop when i was complaing about my ram specifically. They attempted to replace my $6,000 desktop with a $800 one. Lickily i have my tower secured to my table and wall with security locks so they couldn't suprise me by swaping it out. Not to mention the potential file and security loss. It just didn't click in their minds snd they still bring it up all the time that i was ungrateful.
@@Puffinugginns meanwhile if my family need anything computer related, they usually approach me first before they commit because I'm their IT nerd in the house lol. (which is fair, considering I built all our PCs)
My biggest issue with story 3 is 90% of laptops are easy to upgrade the RAM and companies practically expect users to upgrade them. If the PC could handle it, 64GBs of RAM is $100-200 add on which maybe he could handle. (16GBs is only $50). I would never ever gift someone something like this to someone myself, but in this case if that was the only issue for the laptop it was a non-issue. You'd be paying that much when you replace it for upgraded RAM so might as well get nicer RAM than what would come with the upgrade. Even if he's not a computer wiz to know that, a quick google search would tell ya.
The last story is ESH because no, the boyfriend did not seem that appreciative of the gift once he realized what it was. You CAN be and show appreciation while still acknowledging that the gift is wrong.
Story 1: You missed the comment where another redditor asked if the name Tim was considered if the baby was a boy. OP literally replied 'Yes! OMG How did you know that!' 🤣🤣as a Robin fanatic this had me dying of laughter
Story 3: NTA being picky about any gift you get instantly makes you a choosing beggar, seeing all the people who ignored that fact and said "YTA" made my blood boil
He wasn't ungrateful. It wasn't useful to him. 8GB of ram was NOT useful and SLOWER than his current laptop. She should've accepted the "this isn't going to work for what I need," because she already said she did NO research. It's like telling someone to accept a T-shirt that's the wrong size and calling them ungrateful for wanting to return it to get one they can use. She's the AH. She couldn't accept that she was in the wrong and was petty instead.
Esh yes op messed up on getting the laptop without research. Yet the boyfriend end up batching about it rather than saying I know you did your best dear but we can shop for a better one later. So you can see what I really need.
Story 3 - Yeah YTA, as someone getting into art/animation 8GB is laughable and if someone gave me a laptop like that I’d be appreciative but I’d also have to explain why it wouldn’t work, I feel like that’s what happened and OP just got upset rather than just listening.
I 100% thought that it was a mistress name and that the poor girl would feel so bad over that name when it all comes out (have read a few stories like that). But I'm happy that the dad was a dumb not cruel
Story 3. Why doesn't the choosing beggar pay for the difference in the RAM or the exchange? OH, HE CAN'T AFFORD IT? Not her problem as she went out of her way to get him something that was obviously a dent in her finances. NTA.
I wouldn’t like to be named after a comic book character. That’s the same as the OP of the story about parents being obsessed over Harry Potter to name both their kids after characters in the show. Naming after a relative is fine, but let’s just choose names that will be for the baby’s name and be their own name not “they were named after x person”
I'm unclear about something. Maybe I misunderstood but in Story 3 at first I thought she was saying that he was a jerk about the fact she got the wrong computer. And that's why she gave it to her sister and if that had been the case I would have said NTA. But I guess I misunderstood..?
If you know nothing about computers and what someone needs, never buy them a computer (unless it’s for your child in school). She should have said “hey, my bf has a Mac Pro, explain the issue and ask what is a good replacement?” If it’s out of her price range, give a gift certificate. Edit- a $1,300 dollar computer well not replace a Mac book, you need close to two thousand just to get a Mac book, but the memory is still just 16gb, very low. By the time my husband is finished adding everything he needs, it’s close to five thousand dollars at least. His company pays for it and he’s never been an apple fan (thinks they’re overpriced), but that’s the one the company wants him to use.
I'm with your husband on this one! Apple products are overprice for what they are, and from what I've heard a lot of issues with them being unable to actually make a good working model that will last a reasonable amount of time.
Ugh Story 2 reminds me of when I was growing up. My dad would compare me heavily to his friends' kids saying, "Why can't you be like them?", "Look they got better grades than you." "Why can't you do this?" You can imagine my self-esteem has been so buried in the ground that even getting compliments from my work colleagues, friends, and SO makes me downplay it tot his day. He chilled out after an intervention with my aunt (his sister) who basically slapped some sense into him, telling him bluntly that he shouldn't be surprised when his kids no longer want to talk to him and dip out once they're old enough. But it was a too little too late since this only happened after I graduated highschool. For my mom, she has attempted to defend us, but he has compared her to other people's SOs that cheated on their husbands. But after intervention with aunt, he's calmed down, and I think it made him look from another perspective. He's not a bad dad. He just didn't know how to be an actual parent. But I feel for the daughter in the story.
I once was half-watching the kids at a party (youngest adult at a party syndrome), one of whom was named Parker. I almost died when his mom came to fuss at him for climbing on me (again) with his full name, "Parker Peter lastname, get off her right now!"
He named the first two kids, he needs to get over himself. Me and my ex couldn't agree on names and we didn't know the sex of the baby so we agreed that if it was a boy he could choose and if it was a girl I could choose. In this case, he chose the first two names and it's ridiculous for him to throw a fit because he can't choose the Third. He's not the one who has to be pregnant and then give birth
Wow, crazy how they are big one wound. I didn’t realize it but i have 100’s of wounds from my husband from lies to neglect to financial abuse to emotional abuse. And still dealing with it.
The last story, gotta be honest has me torn since I wasn’t there & don’t know their relationship. I know for me this triggered me from my passed relationship to make me wonder if there was some underlining manipulation from the bf, but at the same time her gifting it to her sitter doesn’t quite feel right either. I’m conflicted on that one.
Story 1: NTA and hes a lying asshole. So...he wanted to be batman, huh? Also, if he reads comics, he'd know Jason Todd is not that great of a character to name your kid after. What happened to him was a tragedy but more than that Jason isn't really a good guy. First, fans HATED Jason so much so that when DC comics asked them to decide his fate, they voted to kill him off. When Batman found him, it was because he was a street orphan that was found trying to steal the wheels off the batmobile. He was kidnapped by The Joker and beat to death with a crowbar. He was then brought back to life using a Lazarus Pit and became a criminal known as the Red Hood. He tried to force Batman to kill the Joker in order to "avenge" his own murder.. Even after he was "redeemed" he was still a brutal vigilante who was more about vengeance than justice with a preference for using lethal force. He's a cool character but not really someone you want to name your kids after
Nepotism isn't always THE factor but it is often enough that it can be figured in here. We don't necessarily know how big it was. I can only think of one case where the charge was unfair. (The job imo was a step down from the talent I thought the guy had. In a sense it was nepotism but not exactly wanted.) In any case, OP totally mishandled the situation. It's more like the daughter has to work harder to overcome certain forms of favoritism. Picking on her as if lazy was a needless attack.
Story 1 - NTA I think the wife should have the chance to name her daughter since the dad got a chance to name all the other kids. I think that letting one parent name only boy or the girls work if there is a agreed list of hard no’s (no exes, no abusive people, no names of evil people/dictators). Also babies are NOT billboards to show off your fandoms. This is a great way to make your kids hate him if he is SOOOOO indepth in fandoms. I remember wanting to name a child Zelda if I had one. But then I realized I didn’t want to have kids. I figure it be both a beautiful, unique name and based on something I like. But if the fantasy daughter decided to transition or go by a different name, then I wouldn’t be upset. Nor would I have forxed the child to get into Zelda
Story 1, that's a lot better reasoning for a name than I thought it would be. I know a girl that her dad named her after his AFFAIR PARTNER and her mom didn't find out for a long time. She goes by her middle name now. I'm glad it wasn't That type of situation, but still wild to hide that from your wife.
Lol the last story reminds me of when my friend spend a lot of time on the phone with Apple customer service. My friend ordered a Mac but during the time she was waiting for it, a new gen came out and Apple just wrote her "Oh hey, great news, the new one is out and you'll just that that one instead" and ... switched her order out with a new model, but which had completely different specs than the one she ordered. She needed a lot of storage space and the new one was pathetically small. So she called the service hotline and the girl she talked to didn't know the difference between storage space and ram (because the terms for those sound kinda similar in my language) and kept trying to tell my friend that the one with bigger ram was great because that was a lot of storage space. It was a bit frustrating to say the least.
Story 3: YTA and here is why. OP BF: damn my car is so bad, I really need a new one. OP: what are you looking for? OP BF: I'm thinking of maybe upgrading to something in style with a Ford Mustang. (later at Christmas) OP: Merry Christmas, I got you a new Ford Focus. It was a sweet thought, but it wasn't even close to what he needed. Edit: Lmao, I wrote this before hearing the 20:10 comment that did a similar analogy.
Honestly the Robin thing is hilarious to me, I’ve been hyperfixated on the Batfamily recently so this was absolutely hilarious to hear. Also that commenter listing Robins forgot Tim Drake (the Third Robin) If bro wanted to name his kids after Batfam members, and his wife didn’t like Steph, why stick to it? She’s not even the ONLY female Robin (shout out to Carrie Kelley) also why just stick to the Robins? Barbara Gordon, Kate or Bette Kane, or Cassandra Cain all have great names!
They mentioned Tim Drake. In fact, in the actual post, that was how they connected the dots. A user asked OP "Out of curiosity, if this child was a boy, did your brother want to name him Tim?" And OP was like "Yeah... How did you know?" and that was when he listed off the first 4 Robins, and connected all the dots for OP.
My SO for a time wanted to call a future son Steven as in Seagal and shut that shit down hard. He suggested Kim and I was like I'm not naming my baby after my friend's crazy ex and then he said Norma and I said "I'm not naming her after your crazy Ex!" His dad liked the name Jairus and I told my SO that if he even suggests it his name isn't going on the birth certificate.
Story 3: OP imagin you wanted a new designer outfit...your bf bought you the outfit but bought it 2 sizes to small...do you ask to exchange it or do you keep it knowing it will never fit? if you chose to exchange what would you do if your BF threw a temper tantrum like you did?
@@kimberlyterasaki4843 True, but my gut tells me op exaggerated that bit of her story. Im sure the boyfriend would have said something like , thank you but the specs are worse then my current machine or something to that effect. people who don't understand computers tend not to understand the explanations as to why they are not appropriate. she clearly had no clue about computers and then got emotianl and acted illogical. she prpobly only uses computers for emails and facebook.... a $1300 is a lot of money and is more then enough for viewing social media... however such a computer is practically useless for graphic design and professional audio video editing.
@@kimberlyterasaki4843 But he _didn't_ immediately complain; his immediate reaction according to OP was sort of a "Wow, babe! That's so great!" Only to realise that it couldn't do what he needed and told her that. She swore that she did her best after admitting that she did zero further research to make sure it would do what he needed. After finding out that his current computer was too slow, the immediate follow-up question should have been to ask what he _does_ need to do his work and purchase accordingly. She immediately equated cost and model year to computing ability and then got mad when he didn't grit his teeth and play along.
Story 3: he could have been less of an asshole, tell her more gently and say "I'm afraid it's very slow, but we could exchange it for what I need if *I* put in the difference."
Story 1: I don’t mind the name “Stephanie”, but there’s a 100% probability that some a**hole will nickname her “Step-on-me” and she’d never shake that crap.
Maybe SIL should consider JASON because it's not only a Batman/Robin reference, it is also rooted in FRIDAY 13 (1980s) Shoot! If the baby was due on a FRIDAY 13th, start buying hockey masks. If it was me, I'd paint it red and white like THAT UMBRELLA GUY!! 😘🤣🤣
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Story 2, you missed the bit where it turns out that Anne graduated from MIT and has a bunch of job offers, this was just the first place she interviewed at. So OP thinks his MIT graduate daughter is lazy because she’s an introvert.
WHAT? This dude deserves NC.
Holy shut MIT?????
Not only that, but because Kate got a job (from her dad's brother, but shush, nepotism only exists when it's not helping someone up by their bootstraps/s)
@@brianaschmidt910 yeah that was what I was thinking as well.
We named our daughters after strong historical women. One day, my son comes to me and asks why we named him after a Disney cartoon character. I laughed as I never thought of that and let him know that we did not name him after a crab. We named him from the town in Puert Rico, where my grandparents grew up and wed. I even showed him that the spelling was a tiny bit different. Poor kid had such a look of relief on his face.
Oh my lord, that’s actually kind of cute!
Dorado?
All my siblings got biblical names. I'm the odd one out for being named after a reclusive poet lol
@@cattyanamontes5996 I'm guessing Sebastian from Little Mermaid and San Sebastián in Puerto Rico.
@@TeacupHeart You got it. Only it is spelled Sebastián with the accent. Lol
Yeah SIL was right on the money, the fact that he lied would also make me mad asl. They could've compromised with Stephanie being a middle name but the moment he lied he was the one in the wrong
I just realised, not only is this a comic book themed name but he's also naming their kids after people who's OWN parents regularly either died or were total a-holes.
Make of that what y'all will.
Exactly. There are a couple of character names from books I read years ago that I initially thought would be lovely to name a daughter if I ever had one, but then I thought about the characters' lives & thought better. 1 had a terribly tragic life & though I'm not really superstitious I thought others might recognize the name & make comments that would make the kid worry later. The other name I liked until later the author ruined it with part of the story being how when the girl got to be a teen the sweet 1st & middle name given by her mom became a target for bullies to make into a crude sexual joke I hadn't even thought of. Nope, scratch that one off the list too!
Also, I wouldn't want to be naming a kid Jason out of all the Robins. Poor kid is really messed up and a murderer, definitely not role model material.
@@SharmClucas To be fair, Jason wasnt an asshole until he came back from the dead and he has some good reasons for his disillusionment. BUT i totally agree lmao.
@@SharmClucas Yeah I mean, Dick's great, everyone loves him, and Stephanie just got a bad rap but oh god, poor Jason.
@@KittenLove536 Oh totally. The Lazarus pit and being a target of the Joker is a bad combo for anyone's sanity.
When I was a teenager my uncle got me a new diving mask, unfortunately it wasn't compatible with my prescription scuba lenses. I appreciated the thought, but it just wasn't suitable. He gave my mum the receipts, she took it back and used the refund to get me some I could actually use with my lenses and I used them for years. One of the best presents he ever got me
OMG, the second story is insane to me. Architecture is almost always about who you know to get hired. Architecture is hard enough, without having parents who are calling us lazy.
I'm curious what their definition of 'lazy' is. She went through uni, got not one, but several job offers so I have to assume her grades are pretty good, and has her own place. Like... do they expect her to be engaging her brain 24/7?
Story 1: Imagine he had two more boys and named them Tim and Damien before this came out. I can imagine an imminent divorce.
Idk. It sounds like the issue of lying was surrounding him making up an entire fake family member and story to justify his name choice instead of just being straight forward. Not saying anything is one thing, but saying everything but the truth shows you're willing to make up unnecessary lies about small things and leaves room to assume you can do so about big things too. He created an argument with this situation that brought in family who didn't know. SIL probably wanted to warm up to the name so she wanted to learn about Aunt Stephanie and learn to love her so she got it. Now she knows that's a lie and she's like "Okay but what ELSE is a lie then????"
If my fiancé named our kid something game related without directly telling me and I didn't figure it out until later, then I'd be like "You turrrrd" cuz I still agreed to the name, ya know? But if he did it and gave me a random reason that I find out is a lie, I'm gonna be confused and then upset and my pregnant brain is probably going to imagine every thing wrong because of the lie..
Story 3: Generally don't gift someone a computer, not for someone who uses it for work or gaming. They generally know what they need and/or may be picky about certain features too. Same with cars and car guys.
Agreed. Plus, it’s an expensive gift. I wouldn’t spend that much on any SO.
Only buy expensive gifts if you are 100% sure that it is what they want. If you don't know then just take them shopping for the item instead. I got gifted a washing machine the person who gave it to me basicly took me shopping so that I could pick one out that suited my needs.
Was looking for this. Haven't listened to the comments, but buying something like clothes, cars and computers for someone is not the best idea. Pants and t-shirts ,at least for me, is fine, but but, if I'm getting a new computer or new car, I want to pick it. I know what I'm looking for. Also, OP even admits that they know close to nothing about computers. Why would you do that?
See.. I completely understood getting him the laptop, and even doing her best to keep it a surprise. however, the very second she pointed out that she knew nothing at all about anything to do with specs... my heart literally sank. I already knew where this story was going.
And go there it did... but... he actively suggested she let him return it and exchange it for something that would fit his needs and her response was "no. If it's not good enough for you how it is, then you're not getting anything." and promptly gave it to her sister who ok, needed a laptop, although if it was a laptop for school... ironically, his old laptop would probably have been good enough for that. I'm guessing if 8mb ram wasn't enough, and this was the better upgrade from his old laptop, that his old laptop had some pretty reasonable specs still, just not enough for sophisticated programmes which for course work and that (barring some really specific courses), the older laptop probably would have been good enough for those needs.
Her suggestion that he "at least try it out first" just made me cringe though. The moment he takes it out of the box and sets it up.. turns it on... etc etc.. it's no longer As new and can no longer be returned for full price unless it can be proven that the machine was faulty in which case often all you get is an even exchange of the same laptop. He was completely right in not "trying it out first" if he wanted it to go towards a useful laptop.
She absolutely should have listened to him and gone ahead and made an exchange. it's even possible she could have gotten something with a similar price tag but different specs (since he probably had a good idea what he needed), by sacrificing on something else not as much needed, or that the 1300 could have gone towards the price of what he did need, perhaps even getting a good deal in the Jan sales.
So yeah.. don't be scared to gift a computer/laptop, just be prepared to not be offended if it's not what they need/want and keep that receipt so it can be returned if necessary.
@Rebecca Briggs if it were me, I'd give a card with some "cute coupon" saying this is good for x amount of dollars toward a laptop of your choice.
That how I did it with a camera for my mom. She ended up getting a generation older camera (which more than suited her needs) and she were able to buy a case, tripod and a few accessories.
In story 1, it's sad that the SIl's girl name was completely ruined for her. The original update was a bit different, they were putting aside the argument so the kids could enjoy Xmas and the mother thoroughly scolded her son and told him his wife gets full naming privileges while he gets none for the daughter. Apparently, Tim was the name he planned to use if it was a boy.
The last story, reminds me of my sister. When she does things for people it’s more for validation and to feel like the hero in the situation. It’s not because she actually wants to do something thoughtful. I’m not saying that OP didn’t want to do something thoughtful however I think she more so wanted the satisfaction of being the hero in his situation. It seems to me like she didn’t care that much because if you know that his computer is slow, why wouldn’t you call Apple or search online to see what is a faster version of his computer? When I was 19 years old my boyfriend decided to surprise me with a computer, he took me to Apple and we spoke to the gentleman there about my specific needs and they were able to find me a computer that was perfect or for what I needed. Now that’s someone who is genuinely trying to help instead of seek validation.
Story 1: He missed a few little updates, the one where op mom's got furious and basically forbid mickey to name the baby, mike gives robin funkos pops to the kids, an a few small deatil, there were at least 2 mini updates.
Chloe is a lovely name. Not crazy at all about Stephanie. But, it sounds like brother named the 2 other children, wife is definitely due a turn.
I really don't like Chloe. I think they're going to be so much better with a completely different name. Chloe would have been okay 20 years ago, but it is just too overused now. No offence to Chloes out there already.
@@charlotteinnocent8752 i work in a school and there isn't a single chloe in the school ☠️
I may be a little biased but I think Chloe is a pretty awesome name…… lololol
@@charlotteinnocent8752 also agree, I’m 30 and I never met a Chloe until I was 21
Hey what the hell dude💀/j
Story 3: This is what happens when you purchase a laptop but you don't know what your purchasing it for. It sounds to me like he was appreciative but not falling over himself screaming "Oh my God what an amazing thing". To pull it back and regifted somewhere else is kind of a crap move.
sure maybe if the person recieving isnt a spoiled baby...op is not in the wrong here at all
@@connorburnett21 exactly why is no one pointing out how snotty her BF was about it?
@Connor Burnett what? She asked, specifically, what about his current machine was insufficient, he told her, and then she was all, "I don't actually know what that means, and I won't bother to ask any of the folks at the Apple store whose job it literally is to answer questions like that! This could not possibly have negative repercussions!"
In all honesty, if he NEEDS a new laptop, and he's complained about it, the real question is this: "Why didn't he get one himself?"
I think the answer is that he was fishing for OP to buy one, so that he didn't have to pay for ir
@@aluralovell6829- to add to your comment, I wonder if the SO is tech savvy as he thinks he is, because with varying laptops (not all of them, mind you), one *can improve* the RAM (memory) and/or storage on them if they looked up a video on RUclips on how to do so - something I was easily able to do with two different laptops. The SO can even get a multi port hub that can 'house' an external storage drive or two to help with the laptop (something I got for the Chromebook I recently bought for myself)!
“He wasn’t even willing to give it a chance.” It has specs that have to be met. Yes, you could have returned it and GOTTEN YOUR MONEY back. She keeps saying that she spent a lot but seems to not be acknowledging that the money doesn’t just disappear.
I agree, but I also don't think it was right that the commenters and her BF seem to act like her spending $1300 on a laptop for him means she should be on the hook to spend as much as he wants. When he said for her to take it back and get him the one he wants, it sounds like he was expecting her to pay the difference. I didn't hear him getting her a $4000 gift, or that she is swimming in FU money, so it feels presumptuous for him to assume he's entitled to a $4k gift.
@@Original_Tenshi_Chan right, im trying to get a new laptop myself right now because this one has been going on for over 10 years and is on its last legs and the prices are absolutely insane, so that bit about him just saying she can return it and get one he can actually use feels so cold and callous, especially for someone trying their best with such limited knowledge. being able to figure out what laptop you need is not just one google search and done? and there is not even a guarantee that the shop she got the laptop at would allow her to return it or give her the full money back
@@Original_Tenshi_Chan you dont have to immediately buy the one he wants or needs . The 1300 could have just been a good baseline to start saving for it. Hell you can buy the parts for a good gaming pc with just 1300
I don't know. I see a lot of people talking about how the specs weren't being met but absolutely no one seemed to point out how BF was immediately snotty about the gift. Yes it wasn't what he needed but I feel this entire situation would have gone differently if he would have been appreciative of the effort but explained to her calmly why it wouldn't work for him in a civil manner. Personally, I don't care if she accidentally got him the wrong one, at that point he's not entitled to any more goodwill when his immediate response was to be snotty. The only thing she did wrong was taking it back since at that point it was his laptop so ESH I guess.
@Alura Lovell 1. She's the one writing, so you don't know if he was actually snotty or not. And 2, even though she wrote a lot about putting effort into the gift, she actually put 0 effort into it and just expects him to be grateful because she spent a lot of money. You can actually hear the whine, "but I spent a lot of money on it 😫."
Story 3 makes me want to ask if you would be mad if someone returned shoes that were the wrong size just because they were expensive
I would think that if something was the wrong size/ details...
Return it and get what you need. Don't be an asshole
@@cheyennetrumbos he wanted to return the laptop. She didn't want that since he didn't give this laptop a chance
This is why you can say things are a gift and get a gift receipt. That way the person can return it themselves.
I might be mad at first but if my immediate response was to be snotty about it and not calmly explain what went wrong here I couldn't really blame them.
@@tamsel814 you can't "give it a chance". It either works or it doesn't for what he needs.
Story 1 (after update): NTA, naming kids after fictional characters is fine, as long as both parents agree to it and know the reason for the name. SIL should name the daughter Talia (after Talia AlGul AKA The Daughter of the Demon), just to give him a reminder of what he did.
Yess! SIL definitely gets free reign on naming the daughter now, Talia would be perfect
I would have voted Cassandra more than Talia. 😆
My vote goes towards Celes, for the reason that the Final Fantasy VI character in question stabs Kefka towards the end of the first half of the game and you start the second half of the game *as* Celes, who recruits everyone to destroy Kefka once and for all.
There is nothing more frustrating that someone spending a lot of money for an expensive gift you really really want, but being careless enough to not get the details right. Like it’s such a waste!!! And you get so excited only to have it crushed because it’s basically useless to you and they threw money in the sea. Honestly what she did was comparable to buying a ring for someone that doesn’t fit and regifting when the recipient wants to have it resized.. or buying a fancy piece of garment in the wrong size and then giving it away instead of exchanging it. Honestly it’s worse because he really needed that computer.
agreed. It doesn't even need to be an expensive gift!
An ex of mine once brought me a PC game for Christmas.. it was a game i'd been trying to find for over 5 years and had no luck.. and somehow.. they found this game in a charity shop by pure luck.
I thanked them profusely raced upstairs to get it installed and... out of the 6 discs needed, one was missing. The 1st Disc. the install Disc. The one disc that was a lot harder to find a copy of online simply because it wasn't a common game at the time and had the majority of the information for the game on it.
I was.. devestated. I knew how much work they must have put into finding it... I went downstairs and braced myself to explain why I wasn't playing it/trying it out.. however upon explaining why I was told "oh I know. That's why it was so cheap, they told me hte first disc was missing."
Now if they had been new to computers or games. I would have understood, but... they knew computers. They knew how discs and games worked... they just.. didn't care.. and it felt like such a slap in the face. not because it had been expensive but because I'd gotten so excited to have something that I'd been looking for for absolutely ages, and it was never going to work. not only was it neve rgoing to work, but they let me go upstairs to try and get it working without even a word of warning and left me tryign to figure out for ages how to explain that whlie I appreciated the gift it was in effect... worth even less money than they'd paid for it.
The price of this game that they found for me? £2.09. Still the feeling of crushed excitement was hard.
the thought of getting a laptop and being super excite only to find out that it's never going to be useful for what you need.. I can only imagine. anyone expecting me to not show at least some disappointment over that is deluding themselves.
@@rebeccabriggs9452 Jeez that's so harsh. I'm sorry that happened to you. That honestly sounds a bit deliberately cruel or something on the exes part.. How on earth would you come to the conclusion that that is a good idea? Did you ever find a working copy of the game?
@@binkao2938 yes I did, thankfully a very good friend of mine (now my partner tbh), helped me get out from under their thumb and refind my own self esteem and confidence. they're also the one that helped me track down a good copy of the game which I'm very happy about.
there was.. a lot this person did, this was just one of their mind games towards the end, one of the many things that helped me see things for just how they actually were.
That last story, I can feel OP's lack of knowledge and understanding of tech clouding her telling of the tale. 8GB of RAM in a laptop makes an expensive brick. Her boyfriend might well have been explaining as gently as he could that this machine would have to be replaced, because it couldn't begin to handle what he needed it for. That's simple fact. OP acting like it's an attack on her immediately reveals her perspective to be irreparably tainted by ignorance and emotional volatility.
I agree 100%
I think it greatly matters how he said it. She did need to know more before she bought though. Even if she wasn't sure, she could have asked around. Gone to multiple stores or repair shops to see if the one she wanted to buy made sense for what he does. With that said, if he was a jerk about it, then I don't blame her, lol.
Also, who did he expect to pay the difference? If he wanted to exchange it and pay the difference himself, alright then. But if he expected her to do it when she was already stretching her budget then, kick rocks.
@@ynmonroe True, but OP just seems so offended that she couldn't throw a certain amount of money at a problem and expect it to be solved that she couldn't relay the conversation properly.
@@LetholdusKaspyr Don't get me wrong; OP was definitely playing victim. She didn't try hard enough IMO. She could have giving BF the money and let him find the replacement. She could have asked him more about what he wanted. She could have done a 1000 things that she didn't do. Plus, why not let him return it and pay whatever difference to get the suitable replacement? She still would have been a heroine, lol.
At the end of the day if he needs a new laptop, that's something he'll need to purchase. No one owes him a $1300 gift. If it didn't have the right RAM, he could have spent his own money to upgrade it and move on. If it was totally wrong and he rejected the gift?
Well, he's not owed $1300 to replace a gift. It was wrong and he returned it. He can save for his own laptop. I'd never spend more than a couple hundred on him for a gift again.
Story 1 - I heard of this story and I'm amazed. So rather then named the second born 'Robin' because its a gender-neutral name, OP's brother not only lied about a non-existenting family member but also manipulated his wife? All because he wants to be Batman? Also there's are a total of Five people that took the Robin title (Six if you count Carrie Kelly) so that meants the brother wanted FIVE and/or possible SIX kids with the Robin's civilian names...what the hell?! (Yes I'm a Batman fan)
NOTE - OP didn't confirm how many kids his brother and SIL are having or stop on this X number, but I'm saying if he kept up the name theme, total of five/six kids would be born
I remember reading story 1 and watching it unfold! I love Reddit sleuths! Have a great day Mark and Waffles!
That AH brother ruined his xmas, where was his apology? He tied himself in knots trying to figure out how HE ruined the holiday when in fact it was his AH brother with his hill to effing die on that ruined it for him(over a name ffs)
Story 2: YTA.
1) Kate is the owner's niece. So long as she's not outright incompetent and awful, of course she got the job.
2) Even if Kate were not the owner's niece, and Anne and Kate were compete for the same job along with 10 other candidates, not getting the job does not mean that you're lazy and not as good. There's only one job. At some point, they have to narrow down the candidates to one. If they have 4 candidates who are actually qualified, it may come down to what school they graduated from or how close they live to work or the flip of a coin because they seem equally good.
true and for jobs like this there can be over a 100 candidates!
It's part experience,part skill and even some luck!
I looked at the responses OP gave, and Anne apparently went to MIT. A prestigious school with the lowest acceptance rate ever recorded. He just simply doesn't respect Anne to be proud of her accomplishments.
I hope he keeps that same mentality up when he's old and no one to care for him, because I doubt very much Anne will put up with him for much longer. Or maybe he can ask Kate to take care of him. What a loser. It's a shame how some people, and parents of all people, can't be happy for you.
@@robertx8020 Yeah. My BIL is actually an architect. His current employer picked him because he was already trained in a particular program that they were trying to swap their firm over to. That was it. That was the big thing that made a difference. Not to say that there weren't other things, but that was the deciding factor when they had narrowed down their choices: You know how to do this, and now we're going to put you in charge of helping everyone else learn how to do this.
He said in a comment that his daughter graduated from MIT, which makes his calling her lazy even worse.
Hell, even recruiting raiders for hard game content sometimes involve coin toss too, unfortunately.
Story 2: OP was definitely the AH. There's no way nepotism wasn't at least a little bit of the reason she got the job.
My mom works for a large company and her boss has known me since I was in middle or high school. Her boss gave me a full-time job every summer while I was in college because my mom mentioned she was annoyed that I was just hanging out with my friends and spending her money lol. (I didn't even interview, I just showed up and she gave me a schedule) Then post-college her boss scored me an interview and put in a good word for me.
I got the job.
Did I deserve the job? Yeah. I was great at my job and won awards while I worked there.
Was I the best candidate? Maybe
Did I get that job on my own? Absolutely not.
I got my foot in the door because of who my mom knows and the person who offered me the job respected both my mom and the boss that recommended me.
Nepotism isn't always gonna get you the job, but it definitely gets you in the room. And if it's a close call it might tip the scale in your favor. It's important to acknowledge that even if you're a solid candidate "knowing someone" provides you with an advantage over other candidates.
The flip side is that you worked hard because your mum works there and it will reflect badly on her. The company is like a tribe and they got another member of their tribe to work for them. People like to work with people they like and trust. It’s in built in to humans.
If the company needed you to work long hours for day Christmas, they can emotional guilt trip you by getting your mum to ask you.
I’m just giving the other positive perspective of why nepotism can work.
@rahulmodi8706 this is true! I did sometimes work pretty long hours and volunteered holidays if we were open so ppl with kids could spend time with them. It was a good company so they rewarded people willing to go above and beyond (i.e. bonuses, additional PTO, etc)
Only thing I'll push back on is the company getting my mom to guilt me. Lol I never worked with her. The company had a pretty strict policy against family members working on the same site (even temporarily)
Story 1- NTA she asked you a question and you answered honestly. How were you supposed to know your brother lied to his wife about the name?
Story 3: YTA.
I don't think the boyfriend was unappreciative. The way he was excited when he first saw it showed thay. It was that he literally could not use it because it didn't fit his requirements.
I think I would have said "I'm sorry babe, I love you and tried my best with what I could afford and the knowledge I had. Let's return it, and you can get a different one for the same price, or you can use the price of it towards a more expensive one and cover the difference yourself."
doesn't sound like the bf responded like that. it sounds like he was excited and then saw what it was and immediately went sour. like "omg thank you so much!!.. 8gb RAM? that's not even near enough what I need, that's so slow"
@@Becks-and-books unfortunately, we don't know exactly how it went down. All we know is he was super excited and then he wasn't. He explained that it wasn't fit for what was needed.... he suggested it could be returned and put towards a different laptop.. and she doubled down and insisted he "at least just try it out" which would have then made that impossible.
Please. There is no way OP is TA. The BF is clearly TA for being an ungrateful twat.
@@Becks-and-booksin your interpretation of his reaction is extremely negative. Even if he did say it that way it doesn't take away from the fact that he was extremely grateful that she got him a laptop and just wanted to switch it for something that fit the specs he needs to work. That man can't just try it out. That's not how Tech works. She was completely being spiteful when giving it to her sister. That clearly showed that she cared more about being praised for giving an expensive gift than giving the person what they needed. Because if she really wanted to give him what he needed she would have let him take it back to the store and exchange it for a better model where he could have even paid the difference.
@ you can appreciate a gift while also saying it’s wrong and wanting to exchange it.
Story 1: Is OP's brother my boyfriend? He's really pushing to call any boy we have "Bruce". Yes, because Batman.
Does he want his kid to regularly get beaten up at school or something?
@@terriwetz6077 Bruce isn't even a common name in our country! lol
Middle name time!
In Scotland Bruce is associated with 'King' because of Robert the Bruce & the Bruce clan (who defeated the English & restored Scottish independence in the 1300s).
I’d be pushing the superstitious angle and mention every time he brings up the name Bruce for your hypothetical kid something like “and you know what happened to Bruce Wayne’s parents right?” Or maybe “Do you really want to try to make our possible kid batman because in canon it doesn’t end well for the kid’s parents?!”
Story 2: What I've learned from being in a community collage (tried to get into the health career), it's never "What you know" but "Who you know" and that is why I've decided to be a housewife. I'm not very good at networking and would have to rely on siblings, which I don't want to do. OP is YTA.
Can confirm its "who you know" for healthcare unfortunately. Not always...
Sometimes, who you know isn't necessarily a good thing either. Sigh.
My son is named after Green Arrow, and my husband and I both agreed on it and knew where it came from. We love our Ollie 💚
Robin is a beautiful gender neutral name. Why not just go with that?? 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ I like Robin way more than Stephanie.
^^^^ I changed my name to that because it's a neutral name and I just like how it sounds 🤷🏻
There’s lots of good names that are considered neutral like Felix and Avery
I'm still mad that she broke the streak.
@@owl7072 “I changed my name to Robin.”
-Owl 2023
/lh /j
@Jasper Ingersoll lmao that was actually something I noticed after doing so. My owl themed accounts existed before the name change came into play, and I thought it was funny so I didn't change any of them 😂🤭
Story 3 - YTA
When it comes to very specific gifts in things in a specific field-it is better to have an expert sit with you on it (or the recipient).
This is like giving a person a size small shirt… when they are an extra large.
Or a t-shirt when they need a button down business shirt
Story 3: Classic mistake. She misunderstood the amount put forward for the gift with actual consideration about its recipient.
She did put consideration into it.
Because she knew he needed a new laptop.
@@cheyennetrumbos but the laptop may be the same as the old one. She said herself she knew nothing about electronics. She should have said "ok let's go get what you need". She will be left wondering why he left.
@@cheyennetrumbos Imagine needing a pair of size 8 shoes. You specifically need work shoes that are appropriate for your job, let's say non slip shoes because you work in a restaurant that may get damp floors in the back. So I put my consideration into things and I find a really reputable brand of non-slip, and they're expensive.... but I got you a size 6 instead of a size 8. And then told you to just try them out. That's the equivalent here. Consideration and thought is worthless when the product can't be properly put to good use. And instead of taking them back to get the size you need, I then regift them to my cousin who is size 6.
@@UsagiArwen Also imagine this you wear size 8 shoes, you work at a restaurant. Your SO gets you a size 6 by accident but has spent a lot of money on it and instead of being appreciative of the effort and the thought put into it but explaining to them calmly why this won't work, you immediately turn up your nose and decide to be snotty about it. Can you at that point in good conscience expect any more goodwill from this person after the way you behaved? Yes it was not what you needed but that doesn't give you free range to be a snot about it. Technically she was wrong for regifting it because it was his at that point but at the same time I don't blame her, I wouldn't have regifted it but he could do it himself at that point.
@@aluralovell6829 exactly. it's about appreciation. by ignoring the fact that the gf actually wanted to solve a problem, but didn't realize that the shoes you needed for the restaurant had to have steel covered toes... they still bought a thoughtful gift with the knowledge they have. Expecting people who don't have knowledge about a thing to have knowledge to know what they don't know is... such a weird expectation. Some people do think that any computer is a good computer, and then you explain it to them while not being bratty. If the restaurant worker got the size 6 with no steel covered toes you wouldn't go "this gift sucks, this isn't at all what I need, where's the receipt I need to exchange them to some shoes that ACTUALLY fit me and have what I need". Like chill, mistakes happen, a fix is possible... just show some god damn appreciation first
I’m glad story 1 ended with the brother getting caught and called out, and his wife now gets to pick out her daughter’s name, but i don’t think OP is paying enough attention to her brother’s actions and motivations. She says he’s seen the error of his ways and everything is gonna get better, but has he? He went from blatantly lying to his wife to get what he wants and yelling at his sister for unknowingly exposing that lie, to immediately apologizing and saying it was wrong and that he regrets it. If his wife hadn’t mentioned “Great Aunt Stephanie” to anyone in his family, she probably would’ve agreed to name the baby Stephanie, and he wouldn’t have regretted it for a second. He sounds like he’s just sorry he got caught. I’ve seen so many manipulative people use this tactic where they use a “mature conversation about their mistakes” as a get out of jail free card for any consequences regarding their actions. He may not lie about secret family members again, but he’s definitely going to lie in the future and lash out at others when he’s caught
Story 3: OP must have never used a slow computer. Of course, the bf is a little unappreciative, but if you need a pc for working or gaming, it must have certain specs. It's like gifting someone a pair of trousers 3 sizes smaller and complain that the other person is not willing to give it a chance because they do not try them on
Omg I just made a comment using the exact same example lol
Great point here. As one who's upgraded certain specs of laptops (which can be done on varying laptops) along with having built 7 total custom desktop computers for buddies and myself, the SO had one of two solutions to work with: either get the additional specs needed provided the laptop can be improved that way, or buy external storage with a multi port hub.
Story 1, NTA. This is why you don't lie about things like this. The truth is always going to eventually come out and bite you in the ass. He's only mad that his lie was exposed and now everyone is upset at him. Then rather than accept that he shouldn't have lied about his kid's name in the first place he goes and blames op. Also, apparently he wanted her name to be Stephanie so bad he went as far as to actually lie to get his way, what an A-hole. Op didn't "meddle" she only told the freaking truth. If he was sulking during breakfast that means his wife confronted him and she's sulking because he finally told her the truth. Update, at least he realized that he was in the wrong and was hurtful to deceive his wife.
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Story 3: YTA. He's maybe also TA. I don't know for certain because I wasn't there.
1) You bought him a gift he couldn't use. An expensive gift he couldn't use. Usually, when normal mortals are going to spend over $100 on something (let alone, I assume around $1,000) for a loved one, they make absolutely sure that what they're getting is exactly what that person wanted.
You did not do this vital thing, and so you effectively got him a really expensive brick.
2) You then stole the brick back from him because you didn't like his attitude. Once a gift is given, it's the property of the owner (aka the person it was given to).
On his end, and again, I wasn't there, so I don't know. It is possible he was not very gracious and polite in receiving his brick. It doesn't matter if you don't like a gift. You are supposed to be nice about someone giving you something. And maybe he was. I am uncertain because the post doesn't go into it other than him pointing out that it was useless to him. So maybe he was also TA, but maybe he wasn't. But even if he was, that doesn't excuse you stealing from him.
Every person that thinks it’s ok to take back gifts after you’ve gifted them had parents that stole from them over minor inconveniences and never healed from it. Change my mind.
@@gaxalee7392 Not when it is theirs LEGALLY AND MORALLY, then you TAKE IT WITHOUT PERMISSIONS BACK
@@lovelysakurapetalsyt What??
@@gaxalee7392 You can't legally take gifts back, as it's the person you gifted it to's item now. She quite literally stole it and gave it away; petty theft.
The only way you can do that is if the person GIVES it back of their own accord, which the boyfriend did not
@@lovelysakurapetalsyt I was implying that taking gifts back was wrong, but you worded your first statement like you disagreed so I was very confused.
Nepotism isn't an edge. Nepotism is a literal favoritism of family members
Well, it could be worse. Hubby (or wife) could have named the kid after an ex-lover, which is bound to go well down the road when SO finds out.
1. Before the update. I'm betting that brother has an ex-girlfriend named Stephanie.
3. If you don't know about the different specs of a computer, don't buy one for someone else. She should have allowed him to exchange it for a machine he needed. Also, once you give a gift, it's no longer yours and you can't "regift" it. Nope.
Ah yes naming your child Jason
To replicate the whole Robin sidekick thingy
Just need a bomb
And a crowbar... but at least we'll know that when he gets older, he'll be badass.
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Brother needs to concede naming of all future children to his wife. The first one was an accidental name. Then brother buffaloed her into the second son's name. The lie to get the third is going a bit too far.
Story 1: the sister saying her brother is this great guy and never would lie and then this apparently years of deceit (like Robin was theme; he never admitted too and just kept lying); lashed out at op. Somehow I think her brother has lied before; but he never got caught.
Mikey claimed that he planned to tell his wife _after_ they were done having kids and he'd fully achieved his little Bat Squad.
OP is also delusional AF. She talks about how Mikey is a good guy and this isn't like him but also states that they're used to putting up with "small lies" from him for the sake of pranks his whole life. She doesn't seem to make the connection that he's a habitual liar and for whatever reason, they've put up with it for years. He just finally told a lie egregious enough for them to take notice.
Story 1 was a wild one. I'm not very familiar with the Batman Franchise, so would've never gotten this. Leave it to Reddit sleuths. You can't be TA when you weren't even informed you needed to lie.
Second story had an update... Turns out OP2's daughter got her degree in architecture from MIT. Her friend went to a local southern California Uni. Commenters thought Berkley or LA. Also high profile, but MIT is apparently a (big) step up from those two. I'm not from the USA so I've got no clue. Means OP2's daughter might very well have had the best cards for the job, but family came first at the firm they were applying for.
Depending on how the OP2's wife (the kids' mom) acted during this I foresee a daughter going low to no contact after she finds her first job somewhere a couple of states over. Queue a post a couple of years down the line of 'why has my daughter cut us out of our life, we never did anything to deserve this'.
Berkeley isn't SoCal (and I don't know of any Berkley, so I'm assuming that was supposed to be Berkeley. If there really is a Berkley, then I have no idea if it's SoCal or not. But then it wouldn't be high profile, unless it's only high profile in the architecture world?). So if it's SoCal, barring Berkley being a thing, then it would have been LA between those two options. (Berkeley is in the SF bay area, which is the southernmost part of northern California. Source: I live in the SF bay area, including living on the boundary line between Berkeley and Oakland for a semester while I was in undergraduate college. I also had family in LA. Hence why I know where in California the two are very well.)
Culturally, from my experience, in general, MIT is higher profile than UCLA, and similar profile to UC Berkeley, but this differs depending on which career you're dealing with. UCLA is higher profile than both in the medical world, for instance, while UC Berkeley is going to be higher profile in philosophy, and MIT will be higher profile in most of the hard sciences/engineering with some exception for sustainable technologies (Cal Poly is its UC rival for technology, although MIT usually still wins. UC Berkeley is really into sustainability and green, so it may rival MIT in sustainable/green technologies. And it is still very high up in technology, despite its profile; I have a friend who does nanotech stuff in a Berkeley lab. But she graduated from MIT). I have no idea who has the higher profile in architecture, since that's not really my world (I'm in grad school to become a medical or consumer health librarian), but I'd think either MIT or UC Berkeley. That said, doing a bit of Google shows that while MIT and UC Berkeley do outrank it in college rankings for architecture programs (MIT was #1 in the US), UCLA's undergraduate program was still ranked anywhere between 6-11 in the US, so it's not bad. If Kate graduated from UC Berkeley (#3) or UCLA (#6-11), she went to a really good program and would be well qualified. But, Anne graduated from the best. Also, MIT is not for slackers; there's a reason for its prestige, and some students commit suicide from stress there. I don't know what Anne's father was going on about Anne being lazy, etc. You don't graduate from MIT if you're lazy. You don't even get admitted if you're lazy; it's way too hard to get admitted for that.
(BTW, if you're comfortable sharing, what country are you from? No worries if you're not comfortable - internet strangers and all.)
Story 2: 90% of the time is who you know not what you know. My dad is also like that, always use to compare me to my sisters and cousins. I grew up thinking I'm useless and stupid. It turns out I'm dyslexic and ADD, my brain just works different, but my relationship with my dad is very limited.
Ditto this. My mother used to compare me to my sister (if she made less than a 97 on her test, my mom knew she hadn't cracked the books and would get mad. Sis tested totally out of college math for her field and got a full scholastic scholarship based on her grades, graduated 4.0 in everything). I struggled to make 80's. Mom didn't believe in testing kids or medicating them, so it wasn't until I was an adult that I discovered I'm Aspergers, ADD, and dyslexic. THEN things made sense (like when I was learning to write my name, I wrote it in crayon on my dresser, but my e's were upside-down and backward). My brother is also classic ADHD, now that I know what to look for.
I wanna say something, ADD doesn't actually exist, it's just an attempt to say women can't have ADHD. The new DSM-6 is changing it to ADD is no longer a valid diagnosis
@@lovelysakurapetalsyt Yes, they call it all ADHD now. However, my brother has the hyper version and I do not, so I still call it by the old name. In fact, if you want to get technical, there's no more Aspergers either, that and ADHD are also all lumped into what is now called ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder).
@@lovelysakurapetalsyt Well actually it does exist, at least where I live. Sure, the name keeps being changed and I'm sure it'll be changed few more times before I die but it doesn't change the fact that the condition itself still affects many people.
@@blaszizzz Dude I'm not saying you can't have a condition, I have ADHD myself, but ADD isn't the actual diagnosis, it's meant to be ADHD, but ADD was forced to be put in the DSM because misogynistic guys didn't want women to be diagnosed with the thing they actually have
Story 1, you answered a question, he shouldn't have lied. NTA
My biggest problem with story 3 is that the boyfriend didn’t say thank you and immediately went to complaining about a $1300 gift. Like, you can exchange it later, but complaining in the moment of giving is not the thing to do. If someone is gets you a PlayStation 4 when you wanted a PS5, you say thank and later explain the difference.
the boyfriend is ungrateful af, sure she gave him the wrong one but she tried her best, but he clearly rejected the laptop, if he genuinely had no use for it why be mad at her for giving it to her sister who did have use for it? Not only that but she gave him something he might like, I've had people gift me things for my birthday that I actively dislike because they don't even make an effort to know me better. OP deserves better, that comment section is so wrong.
We don’t know that
@@binkao2938 pretty obvious we do
@Giordan Diodato no listen again she said he was happy to get it until he saw it was speced the same as his current machine. When it comes to buying computers you have to know what the recipient wants for the machine. I've bought several laptops for my wife over the years. The last one was the brand she wanted and a price she wanted me to pay for it but it greatly underperformed for her. No one was mad we just realized we need to spend a little more for a better machine. She told me she wants 12gb ram in the next one so that will be what her next 1 will have. The gf is TA because instead of graciously realizing she bought the wrong machine and making it right she doubled down on he should use it anyway even if it will not work for his job.
@@gigadrill0000 If he said that the laptop was useless to him because it was the same as he had before, I don't get why he is mad she decided to give it to someone else, also he is not entitled to another one, she didn't want to return it and that's fair, this isn't clothes that one can return all the time, its a very expensive laptop. He hates the gift, feels entitled to a better one, then gets mad when the gift he didn't like was gifted to another person.
I was so ready for Stephanie to be an ex 😂
Jason Todd: ....a rude thief of a kid, who became a rude kid with an excuse to beat people, who got tortured by joker, who became a murdering anti-hero. He's currently Mr. Cringe wherever he goes.
Op's brother, "Perfect!"
Story 2 - YTA
This is one of those parents that overworks their child all their life and wonders why their child lost contact with them
Story 3: YTA OP admits she knows very little about computer hardware and she clearly knows how to use reddit so I don't understand why she didn't just ask on the appropriate sub-reddit for advice. All she had to do was make a post asking for advice on buying a new laptop while explaining what her boyfriend did for work, what he was having trouble doing on his current laptop, what MacBook he was currently using, and her what OP's budget was. OP did no real research other than finding out her boyfriend's current model of MacBook. Her pulling take backsies to give his gift to her sister was really shitty and does not help her case. She even suggested that he open it and try it for a before considering returning which is the dumbest thing I've heard in a while! That would just turn the brand new MacBook into a less valuable used MacBook!
NTA
@@fandomfan2800 How do you figure? I could understand an ESH if one assumes that he acted like an asshole when he received the gift which she never elaborated on. OP gave her boyfriend a Christmas gift and then took it back to give to her sister. I have a feeling that if the boyfriend retaliated in any way such as pulling the same take backsies BS like OP did on any gifts she received from him then she definitely would've posted about it. OP is acting like she had to slay a minotaur and escape a labyrinth to get that gift for him!
I agree with this 100% Like.. you don't need to know about computers to know that the moment you open an "unwanted gift" you are no longer able to return it "as new" because it is assumed you have at the very least opened it and potentially done something else to it. Once you do that, you can no longer get your money back, if it is faulty you can exchange it for one of the same, but you can not get your money back or use it as a potential trade in.
he didn't need to try it out, he saw the specs. he evidentally knows enough about laptops to know instantly that this would not fulfil his needs, he knew better than to "Try it out"
The name story reminded me of one where the guy was trying to convince his wife to name their girl a certain name & it turned out it was his ex's name. Then the other guy where they were having their 1st son & the dad was insisting that the 1st & middle name start with certain letters for "tradition" & a commenter pointed out to the OP that her husband & FIL's initials were A.S.S., making her flip out on the whole family for deliberately wanting to carry on a tradition that caused bullying. (What AHs those guys were!) Anyway, yeah people need to stop trying to be equal by having turns on baby names & follow the sensible 1-no-2-yes rule on names but also just be open with the partner about why they like or don't like certain names. Fun themes are ok as long as everyone is in on it AND also the name or its spelling isn't weird enough to cause problems for the kid in life AND you don't drive your kid crazy with joking about where the name comes from.
My husband and I joked about giving our kids names so their initials would be D.E.F. and call them our little DefCons but we ended up not doing it.
I don't know why OP bothered asking questions about which laptop her BF wanted if she wasn't gonna listen.
Someone who doesn't understand specific terminology related to a field. Anything he would have said about RAM, SSDs, processors, etc would have gone in one ear and out the other. She has no point of reference to even know what he's talking about, so she wouldn't be able to remember the specific needs he told her.
NTA
@agentzapdos4960 yup my parents tried to gift me a replacement desktop when i was complaing about my ram specifically. They attempted to replace my $6,000 desktop with a $800 one. Lickily i have my tower secured to my table and wall with security locks so they couldn't suprise me by swaping it out. Not to mention the potential file and security loss. It just didn't click in their minds snd they still bring it up all the time that i was ungrateful.
@@Puffinugginns meanwhile if my family need anything computer related, they usually approach me first before they commit because I'm their IT nerd in the house lol.
(which is fair, considering I built all our PCs)
My biggest issue with story 3 is 90% of laptops are easy to upgrade the RAM and companies practically expect users to upgrade them. If the PC could handle it, 64GBs of RAM is $100-200 add on which maybe he could handle. (16GBs is only $50).
I would never ever gift someone something like this to someone myself, but in this case if that was the only issue for the laptop it was a non-issue. You'd be paying that much when you replace it for upgraded RAM so might as well get nicer RAM than what would come with the upgrade.
Even if he's not a computer wiz to know that, a quick google search would tell ya.
The last story is ESH because no, the boyfriend did not seem that appreciative of the gift once he realized what it was. You CAN be and show appreciation while still acknowledging that the gift is wrong.
Story 1: You missed the comment where another redditor asked if the name Tim was considered if the baby was a boy. OP literally replied 'Yes! OMG How did you know that!' 🤣🤣as a Robin fanatic this had me dying of laughter
Story 3: NTA being picky about any gift you get instantly makes you a choosing beggar, seeing all the people who ignored that fact and said "YTA" made my blood boil
S 1- op, you didnt ruin Christmas, your brother ruined Christmas.
Last story NTA : I hope Op never buy him an expensive gift like this .He is ungrateful.
He wasn't ungrateful. It wasn't useful to him. 8GB of ram was NOT useful and SLOWER than his current laptop. She should've accepted the "this isn't going to work for what I need," because she already said she did NO research. It's like telling someone to accept a T-shirt that's the wrong size and calling them ungrateful for wanting to return it to get one they can use. She's the AH. She couldn't accept that she was in the wrong and was petty instead.
the guy in the first story never wanted the secret to be kept forever, only after the baby was born so they cant change it any more :D
Esh yes op messed up on getting the laptop without research. Yet the boyfriend end up batching about it rather than saying I know you did your best dear but we can shop for a better one later. So you can see what I really need.
Laptop story: I would never buy a boyfriend such an expensive gift. Husband yes, simple boyfriend, nope.
Story 3: As soon as she said he had a macbook i knew exactly where this was going lol
Story 3 - Yeah YTA, as someone getting into art/animation 8GB is laughable and if someone gave me a laptop like that I’d be appreciative but I’d also have to explain why it wouldn’t work, I feel like that’s what happened and OP just got upset rather than just listening.
Story 1: I was ready to say it was a mistress name, but goddamn it. Men like these are such man babies, just be honest and accept defeat!! 💀
I 100% thought that it was a mistress name and that the poor girl would feel so bad over that name when it all comes out (have read a few stories like that). But I'm happy that the dad was a dumb not cruel
That was my first thought, too.
Story 3. Why doesn't the choosing beggar pay for the difference in the RAM or the exchange? OH, HE CAN'T AFFORD IT? Not her problem as she went out of her way to get him something that was obviously a dent in her finances. NTA.
That last story is the reason I ask the person to just come along if I am buying something for them that I know nothing about.
I wouldn’t like to be named after a comic book character. That’s the same as the OP of the story about parents being obsessed over Harry Potter to name both their kids after characters in the show. Naming after a relative is fine, but let’s just choose names that will be for the baby’s name and be their own name not “they were named after x person”
I'm unclear about something. Maybe I misunderstood but in Story 3 at first I thought she was saying that he was a jerk about the fact she got the wrong computer. And that's why she gave it to her sister and if that had been the case I would have said NTA. But I guess I misunderstood..?
ESH for the last one. With gift giving, you're damned if you do and damned if you don't.
If you know nothing about computers and what someone needs, never buy them a computer (unless it’s for your child in school). She should have said “hey, my bf has a Mac Pro, explain the issue and ask what is a good replacement?” If it’s out of her price range, give a gift certificate.
Edit- a $1,300 dollar computer well not replace a Mac book, you need close to two thousand just to get a Mac book, but the memory is still just 16gb, very low. By the time my husband is finished adding everything he needs, it’s close to five thousand dollars at least. His company pays for it and he’s never been an apple fan (thinks they’re overpriced), but that’s the one the company wants him to use.
I'm with your husband on this one! Apple products are overprice for what they are, and from what I've heard a lot of issues with them being unable to actually make a good working model that will last a reasonable amount of time.
Ugh Story 2 reminds me of when I was growing up. My dad would compare me heavily to his friends' kids saying, "Why can't you be like them?", "Look they got better grades than you." "Why can't you do this?" You can imagine my self-esteem has been so buried in the ground that even getting compliments from my work colleagues, friends, and SO makes me downplay it tot his day.
He chilled out after an intervention with my aunt (his sister) who basically slapped some sense into him, telling him bluntly that he shouldn't be surprised when his kids no longer want to talk to him and dip out once they're old enough. But it was a too little too late since this only happened after I graduated highschool.
For my mom, she has attempted to defend us, but he has compared her to other people's SOs that cheated on their husbands. But after intervention with aunt, he's calmed down, and I think it made him look from another perspective. He's not a bad dad. He just didn't know how to be an actual parent. But I feel for the daughter in the story.
What makes his attitude even worse is that his daughter graduated from MIT but she’s still not good enough for him.
I once was half-watching the kids at a party (youngest adult at a party syndrome), one of whom was named Parker. I almost died when his mom came to fuss at him for climbing on me (again) with his full name, "Parker Peter lastname, get off her right now!"
He named the first two kids, he needs to get over himself. Me and my ex couldn't agree on names and we didn't know the sex of the baby so we agreed that if it was a boy he could choose and if it was a girl I could choose. In this case, he chose the first two names and it's ridiculous for him to throw a fit because he can't choose the Third. He's not the one who has to be pregnant and then give birth
Wow, crazy how they are big one wound. I didn’t realize it but i have 100’s of wounds from my husband from lies to neglect to financial abuse to emotional abuse. And still dealing with it.
Aww yeah, the Batman story! I saw this on XO Stories near the end of the year. Kudos for adding the comment about the Batman connection.
The last story, gotta be honest has me torn since I wasn’t there & don’t know their relationship. I know for me this triggered me from my passed relationship to make me wonder if there was some underlining manipulation from the bf, but at the same time her gifting it to her sitter doesn’t quite feel right either. I’m conflicted on that one.
Story 1: NTA and hes a lying asshole. So...he wanted to be batman, huh?
Also, if he reads comics, he'd know Jason Todd is not that great of a character to name your kid after. What happened to him was a tragedy but more than that Jason isn't really a good guy.
First, fans HATED Jason so much so that when DC comics asked them to decide his fate, they voted to kill him off.
When Batman found him, it was because he was a street orphan that was found trying to steal the wheels off the batmobile.
He was kidnapped by The Joker and beat to death with a crowbar. He was then brought back to life using a Lazarus Pit and became a criminal known as the Red Hood. He tried to force Batman to kill the Joker in order to "avenge" his own murder.. Even after he was "redeemed" he was still a brutal vigilante who was more about vengeance than justice with a preference for using lethal force.
He's a cool character but not really someone you want to name your kids after
Nepotism isn't always THE factor but it is often enough that it can be figured in here. We don't necessarily know how big it was. I can only think of one case where the charge was unfair. (The job imo was a step down from the talent I thought the guy had. In a sense it was nepotism but not exactly wanted.) In any case, OP totally mishandled the situation. It's more like the daughter has to work harder to overcome certain forms of favoritism. Picking on her as if lazy was a needless attack.
Story 1 - NTA
I think the wife should have the chance to name her daughter since the dad got a chance to name all the other kids.
I think that letting one parent name only boy or the girls work if there is a agreed list of hard no’s (no exes, no abusive people, no names of evil people/dictators).
Also babies are NOT billboards to show off your fandoms. This is a great way to make your kids hate him if he is SOOOOO indepth in fandoms.
I remember wanting to name a child Zelda if I had one. But then I realized I didn’t want to have kids. I figure it be both a beautiful, unique name and based on something I like. But if the fantasy daughter decided to transition or go by a different name, then I wouldn’t be upset. Nor would I have forxed the child to get into Zelda
I am glad OP's brother and sister in law made up and apologized for what they did to OP.
Story 1, that's a lot better reasoning for a name than I thought it would be. I know a girl that her dad named her after his AFFAIR PARTNER and her mom didn't find out for a long time. She goes by her middle name now. I'm glad it wasn't That type of situation, but still wild to hide that from your wife.
Story 1: There is no problem with naming your kids after things, but there is a problem with not telling your SO about it. Bad Brother.
I remember story 1 and how shocked OP was shocked by the comments figuring it all out lol
Lol the last story reminds me of when my friend spend a lot of time on the phone with Apple customer service. My friend ordered a Mac but during the time she was waiting for it, a new gen came out and Apple just wrote her "Oh hey, great news, the new one is out and you'll just that that one instead" and ... switched her order out with a new model, but which had completely different specs than the one she ordered. She needed a lot of storage space and the new one was pathetically small. So she called the service hotline and the girl she talked to didn't know the difference between storage space and ram (because the terms for those sound kinda similar in my language) and kept trying to tell my friend that the one with bigger ram was great because that was a lot of storage space. It was a bit frustrating to say the least.
Second story is the best in a while, hahaha....BF needs a fast computer, GF gets him a MacBook, relationship ends hahaha it's so good
Story 1: Mikey should lose all naming privileges or input for this baby, and any other future children. He's lucky that his wife didn't leave him.
Story 3: YTA and here is why.
OP BF: damn my car is so bad, I really need a new one.
OP: what are you looking for?
OP BF: I'm thinking of maybe upgrading to something in style with a Ford Mustang.
(later at Christmas)
OP: Merry Christmas, I got you a new Ford Focus.
It was a sweet thought, but it wasn't even close to what he needed.
Edit: Lmao, I wrote this before hearing the 20:10 comment that did a similar analogy.
I think he's a liar, even if he's been honest in the past. Although, I don't really think he's always so honest if he lied about this
Story 1:heard this story recently. He should have brought it up to his wife from the get go.
I would totally name all my kids after the robins that's freaking hilarious
I mean... given what happened to several of those kids' parents...
She should name the kid Ivy or Harley!
Just make sure your partner’s on board and I think you’re golden 👍🏻
His problem was he went directly to Stephanie Brown and skipped over Carrie Kelley 😋.
Let’s hope that OPs brother doesn’t later suggest the name Cassandra for their daughter..
Or Barbara.
Honestly the Robin thing is hilarious to me, I’ve been hyperfixated on the Batfamily recently so this was absolutely hilarious to hear. Also that commenter listing Robins forgot Tim Drake (the Third Robin)
If bro wanted to name his kids after Batfam members, and his wife didn’t like Steph, why stick to it? She’s not even the ONLY female Robin (shout out to Carrie Kelley) also why just stick to the Robins? Barbara Gordon, Kate or Bette Kane, or Cassandra Cain all have great names!
They mentioned Tim Drake. In fact, in the actual post, that was how they connected the dots. A user asked OP "Out of curiosity, if this child was a boy, did your brother want to name him Tim?" And OP was like "Yeah... How did you know?" and that was when he listed off the first 4 Robins, and connected all the dots for OP.
@@Original_Tenshi_Chan lol, I think my brain skipped it or something, idk, I think what mixed me up was that he mentioned Damian.
My SO for a time wanted to call a future son Steven as in Seagal and shut that shit down hard.
He suggested Kim and I was like I'm not naming my baby after my friend's crazy ex and then he said Norma and I said "I'm not naming her after your crazy Ex!"
His dad liked the name Jairus and I told my SO that if he even suggests it his name isn't going on the birth certificate.
Story 3: OP imagin you wanted a new designer outfit...your bf bought you the outfit but bought it 2 sizes to small...do you ask to exchange it or do you keep it knowing it will never fit? if you chose to exchange what would you do if your BF threw a temper tantrum like you did?
Yeah but to immediately complain about a $1300 gift and not even say thank you is at least assholish
@@kimberlyterasaki4843 True, but my gut tells me op exaggerated that bit of her story. Im sure the boyfriend would have said something like , thank you but the specs are worse then my current machine or something to that effect. people who don't understand computers tend not to understand the explanations as to why they are not appropriate. she clearly had no clue about computers and then got emotianl and acted illogical. she prpobly only uses computers for emails and facebook.... a $1300 is a lot of money and is more then enough for viewing social media... however such a computer is practically useless for graphic design and professional audio video editing.
@@kimberlyterasaki4843 But he _didn't_ immediately complain; his immediate reaction according to OP was sort of a "Wow, babe! That's so great!" Only to realise that it couldn't do what he needed and told her that.
She swore that she did her best after admitting that she did zero further research to make sure it would do what he needed. After finding out that his current computer was too slow, the immediate follow-up question should have been to ask what he _does_ need to do his work and purchase accordingly. She immediately equated cost and model year to computing ability and then got mad when he didn't grit his teeth and play along.
Story 3: This OP is a gold standard windowlicker.
Story 3: he could have been less of an asshole, tell her more gently and say "I'm afraid it's very slow, but we could exchange it for what I need if *I* put in the difference."
🎶 Last Christmas, I gave you a Mac
But the very next day, I gave it away🎶
Story 1: I don’t mind the name “Stephanie”, but there’s a 100% probability that some a**hole will nickname her “Step-on-me” and she’d never shake that crap.
Maybe SIL should consider JASON because it's not only a Batman/Robin reference, it is also rooted in FRIDAY 13 (1980s)
Shoot! If the baby was due on a FRIDAY 13th, start buying hockey masks. If it was me, I'd paint it red and white like THAT UMBRELLA GUY!!
😘🤣🤣