My wife is 56 and I am having a problem wrapping my head around this. It seems it happened over night. The problem is my wife doesn't even want to talk about it, she feels uncomfortable. When just a year ago we had a pretty normal sex life (Sex at least once, twice a week) to a point where we go months.
This part of my menopausal journey is my biggest issues. When my husband first got married it was nothing for me to be ready to get it in. Now here we are 15 years later, and I worry because I know he has needs. By the way we have been happily married for 24 years. I do some many things for him, to give him attention. I keep myself clean and lubricated down there just in case he wants some. Thank you for this video. It helps me to know that someone else understands.
As long as you are still taking care of his needs and he loves you then I'm sure he appreciates you and wants to be with you. It sounds like you are still making the effort. We men appreciate that more than you know.
i thank you sooo much you help me so much I'm feeling low and have absolutely no aex drive my partner don't answer why I'm not in the mood so I try to do a date night every 2weeks it works so i must say thanks for that bit of advice
I have the opposite problem. I'm a 64-year-old woman with a strong libido and no man in sight. My libido is going to waste. If anything I feel my "aloneness" more when it's raging. The ladies on here are blessed to have found love! I'd give anything to have what you have. What I had was a sex drive I could barely control that brought a lot of physical pleasure but very little joy and nothing that was going to lead to lasting happiness--not even my marriage. But that's another story. Take it from someone who never found it because she looked in all the wrong places. Don't ever take love or the one you love for granted! Nobody wants sex during menopause! Even my sex drive waned during menopause especially the first year. I was bloating, mood changes, fatigue, headaches--the first year was terrible. After that, it was a breeze! I thought my sex drive would subside after menopause. It didn't. After menopause, It just changed. It didn't rage quite as often, but when it did, it was much stronger and more intense than it ever was before menopause--especially in the morning. I haven't been with a man in 12-13 years and had pretty much given up on finding love and "casual" sex just was not what I wanted. I walked off "the battlefield". Better no sex to that. Nobody ever died from lack of sex. So I was prepared to face the possibility that that part of life was over for me. For some reason, I've done a 360. Don't know why but you never know! Here's some tips that have worked for me and some of my friends. If you think they might work for you, go for it! If not you and yours come up with your tips and psss them on! Ladies, menopause is a bitch for some women, I know. Been there, done that. There are things you can do to increase your libido and help that fatigue! 1. KY YOURS & MINE - This lubricant is the BEST! I used to swear by it years and years ago! There's one for her and one for him! Apply it to each other. It intensifies the feeling AND orgasm! 2. WOMEN: DHEA (dehydroepiandrosterone) This is an important hormone that gets depleted as we age. It will boost you sex drive (I know this for a fact because I was shopping for another 4-letter supplement and bought DHEA instead! I took the dosage recommended for the other supplement which was way too much DHEA! You can imagine my sex drive was raging all over the place all day, everyday, and I could not figure out why! I certainly didn't need that! The supplement I THOUGHT I was taking, wasn't supposed to do that. Finally, after about a month of not paying attention to what I was taking, I decided to check the bottle to see if I had missed a side effect or something. That's when I discovered the mistake! I looked up DHEA and sure enough, increased sex drive was what it was for! I had bought this by mistake) As always, do your own research and check with your doctor! This is great for fatigue as well! 3. Go out and by some new lingerie--something you know he would like and something he hasn't seen before, soft music, candelight, or whatever the two of you like to do to get in the mood, (talk dirty?), massage with hot oils (or whatever) is always a winner. Don't mind me, I an incurable romantic! Make it special, intimate, personal and fun! Role Play anyone? 4. Go to a strip club! Hey, why not? The first time I went to a strip club, I was 55 and had a blast! Came home, gave him a private lap dance and it was on! 5. If you like XXX movies--go for it! If God has a soulmate for me, he will have all of me. I will love him like he's never been loved before--and I don't mean just in the bedroom! 💋
Thank you doctor this is what I'm going through I have lost all interests in sex and my partner is still willing and able and it's making us become distant ' I'm going to ask him to watch this video so he can try to understand it's normal and not me being a dried up prune as he says
@@AvogelCoUk If calling you names is you partner's idea of foreplay, he must have read the wrong book! ! No wonder you're not in the mood! If he's just frustrated, buy some KY Yours & Mine! It's a lubricant with something extra! The sensation is INCREDIBLE! You might try also some DHEA, I don't think is for men to take. It's a supplement that acts as a hormone. It will work but don't take it for prolonged periods of time or if you have or have had any type of cancer--particularly of the breast, uterine, cervical. Find the dosage that works for you. Check with your doctor first. A little soft music, candlelight, sexy lingerie, Roleplay? KY YOURS & MINE in all the right places and ---magic! Good luck!
Don't know what happened to me but at Xmas all my aches, pains just went, like overnight. Started with hot sweats, not great but my libido went through the roof lol everynight. Hubby thought he'd hit jackpot. Only products I'd started using was Neil's yard(gift from daughter) women's balance roll on on pulse points. Has a host of oils including sunflower, rose, bergamot,Clary,lemon& others, and I'd started taking b12 sub lingual n vitamin d. 5months and still up albeit tapered off ( well I'd have been in a&e). Two weeks ago severe sweats and pains started up again. Blood tests showed up borderline low but d, I'd stopped it about end Feb. No idea if any of the above a remedy but something definitely shifted. Maybe a.vogel have something similar?
Hi Pat Researchers are just beginning to realise how important vitamin D is for so many things and from our experience it can make a big difference to menopause symptoms so it is worth taking a safe daily supplement ongoing - we recommend 400iu daily. Essential Oils can be very healing so your daughter's present sounds great! Unfortunately, we don't have anything similar which is a shame! :) Best Wishes Eileen
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My wife is 56 and I am having a problem wrapping my head around this. It seems it happened over night. The problem is my wife doesn't even want to talk about it, she feels uncomfortable. When just a year ago we had a pretty normal sex life (Sex at least once, twice a week) to a point where we go months.
Yep this is a good subject ! It can make or break a relationship! Thank you for sharing!
Hi Tammy
You're welcome!
Best Wishes
Eileen
Thanks for the info. to me as a husband to understand what my wife is going through at 57 years of age. God bless you!
You're welcome Daniel!
Best Wishes
Eileen
This part of my menopausal journey is my biggest issues. When my husband first got married it was nothing for me to be ready to get it in. Now here we are 15 years later, and I worry because I know he has needs. By the way we have been happily married for 24 years. I do some many things for him, to give him attention. I keep myself clean and lubricated down there just in case he wants some. Thank you for this video. It helps me to know that someone else understands.
You're welcome Gwendolyn
Best Wishes
Eileen
As long as you are still taking care of his needs and he loves you then I'm sure he appreciates you and wants to be with you. It sounds like you are still making the effort. We men appreciate that more than you know.
Oh and I need to add that I even initiate our date nights. My husband is really caring and affectionate. He deserves all of me !!!
Brilliant! :)
I started taking a pill, calcium, magnesium,and zinc. It seems to have lessened my hot flashes and got me feeling pretty good.
Hi Patty
These minerals are all really needed in the menopause so a supplement can make quite a difference!
Best Wishes
Eileen
i thank you sooo much you help me so much I'm feeling low and have absolutely no aex drive my partner don't answer why I'm not in the mood so I try to do a date night every 2weeks it works so i must say thanks for that bit of advice
Hi Ivy
Great to hear that has helped!
Best Wishes
Eileen
Thank you my dear 👍❤️❤️
Hi Laurita
You are so welcome!
Best Wishes
Eileen
I have the opposite problem. I'm a 64-year-old woman with a strong libido and no man in sight. My libido is going to waste. If anything I feel my "aloneness" more when it's raging. The ladies on here are blessed to have found love! I'd give anything to have what you have. What I had was a sex drive I could barely control that brought a lot of physical pleasure but very little joy and nothing that was going to lead to lasting happiness--not even my marriage. But that's another story. Take it from someone who never found it because she looked in all the wrong places. Don't ever take love or the one you love for granted!
Nobody wants sex during menopause! Even my sex drive waned during menopause especially the first year. I was bloating, mood changes, fatigue, headaches--the first year was terrible. After that, it was a breeze! I thought my sex drive would subside after menopause. It didn't. After menopause, It just changed. It didn't rage quite as often, but when it did, it was much stronger and more intense than it ever was before menopause--especially in the morning. I haven't been with a man in 12-13 years and had pretty much given up on finding love and "casual" sex just was not what I wanted. I walked off "the battlefield". Better no sex to that. Nobody ever died from lack of sex. So I was prepared to face the possibility that that part of life was over for me. For some reason, I've done a 360. Don't know why but you never know!
Here's some tips that have worked for me and some of my friends. If you think they might work for you, go for it! If not you and yours come up with your tips and psss them on!
Ladies, menopause is a bitch for some women, I know. Been there, done that. There are things you can do to increase your libido and help that fatigue!
1. KY YOURS & MINE - This lubricant is the BEST! I used to swear by it years and years ago! There's one for her and one for him! Apply it to each other. It intensifies the feeling AND orgasm!
2. WOMEN: DHEA (dehydroepiandrosterone) This is an important hormone that gets depleted as we age. It will boost you sex drive (I know this for a fact because I was shopping for another 4-letter supplement and bought DHEA instead! I took the dosage recommended for the other supplement which was way too much DHEA! You can imagine my sex drive was raging all over the place all day, everyday, and I could not figure out why! I certainly didn't need that! The supplement I THOUGHT I was taking, wasn't supposed to do that. Finally, after about a month of not paying attention to what I was taking, I decided to check the bottle to see if I had missed a side effect or something. That's when I discovered the mistake! I looked up DHEA and sure enough, increased sex drive was what it was for! I had bought this by mistake) As always, do your own research and check with your doctor! This is great for fatigue as well!
3. Go out and by some new lingerie--something you know he would like and something he hasn't seen before, soft music, candelight, or whatever the two of you like to do to get in the mood, (talk dirty?), massage with hot oils (or whatever) is always a winner. Don't mind me, I an incurable romantic! Make it special, intimate, personal and fun! Role Play anyone?
4. Go to a strip club! Hey, why not? The first time I went to a strip club, I was 55 and had a blast! Came home, gave him a private lap dance and it was on!
5. If you like XXX movies--go for it!
If God has a soulmate for me, he will have all of me. I will love him like he's never been loved before--and I don't mean just in the bedroom! 💋
Hi Roxi
Thank you for your great tips!
Do hope all works out well for you :)
May you find true love soon.ty for sharing.dear.
I'm 67 And my sex drive is high and no man. It makes me miss my late husband in every way.
Everything you said is right on. Now how do we meet each other 😊
Thank you doctor this is what I'm going through I have lost all interests in sex and my partner is still willing and able and it's making us become distant ' I'm going to ask him to watch this video so he can try to understand it's normal and not me being a dried up prune as he says
Hi Tania
Hope it helps!
Best Wishes
Eileen
@@AvogelCoUk If calling you names is you partner's idea of foreplay, he must have read the wrong book! ! No wonder you're not in the mood! If he's just frustrated, buy some KY Yours & Mine! It's a lubricant with something extra! The sensation is INCREDIBLE! You might try also some DHEA, I don't think is for men to take. It's a supplement that acts as a hormone. It will work but don't take it for prolonged periods of time or if you have or have had any type of cancer--particularly of the breast, uterine, cervical. Find the dosage that works for you. Check with your doctor first.
A little soft music, candlelight, sexy lingerie, Roleplay? KY YOURS & MINE in all the right places and ---magic!
Good luck!
He called you a dried up prune...sounds like a real Prince Charming.
If men lost all their sex drive at 51…do you think they would put up with it. No.. they wouldn’t and nether should we.
Don't know what happened to me but at Xmas all my aches, pains just went, like overnight. Started with hot sweats, not great but my libido went through the roof lol everynight. Hubby thought he'd hit jackpot. Only products I'd started using was Neil's yard(gift from daughter) women's balance roll on on pulse points. Has a host of oils including sunflower, rose, bergamot,Clary,lemon& others, and I'd started taking b12 sub lingual n vitamin d. 5months and still up albeit tapered off ( well I'd have been in a&e). Two weeks ago severe sweats and pains started up again. Blood tests showed up borderline low but d, I'd stopped it about end Feb. No idea if any of the above a remedy but something definitely shifted. Maybe a.vogel have something similar?
Hi Pat
Researchers are just beginning to realise how important vitamin D is for so many things and from our experience it can make a big difference to menopause symptoms so it is worth taking a safe daily supplement ongoing - we recommend 400iu daily.
Essential Oils can be very healing so your daughter's present sounds great! Unfortunately, we don't have anything similar which is a shame! :)
Best Wishes
Eileen