Mom, You Never Showed Up For Me! | KARAMO
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- Опубликовано: 7 сен 2024
- Diamond wants to salvage her relationship with mother Alfreda. Unfortunately, they didn’t start spending time together until Diamond was 18 years old. Alfreda claims it’s not her fault they were torn apart but hopes that today can be the start of a new beginning. Can Karamo help heal this relationship between mother and daughter?
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that woman may be too broken to be a mother at this point. Its sad to say but that woman has to start to heal without her mother and understand she may never have a mother.
I agree. And not just broken, but whatever drugs she was on added to her being unreachable. I feel sorry for the daughter, but she has to let go cuz she's just hurting herself.
Exactly 💯
she can’t water her daughter’s garden because her garden was non existent & it’s honestly sad that adults have to heal from trauma that they didn’t even cause themselves 😢
AMEN...
People miss that....
Hurt people hurt people.
The father used the child as control, but his abuse was too much for her to handle so she let go.
Amen
Exactly! I actually love that she's not around those grand kids right now she's not mentally prepared to have a relationship with them..
Well, now she understands what she needs to do to take care of a garden. It's up to her atp. She definitely needs professional help.
The daughter is drop dead gorgeous ❤
She is and beautiful inside and out
absolutely
Yes she is and mom is beautiful too to me
yes!
Beautiful. Stunning. Our people are beautiful messes that are ready for love and healing
These episodes make me so grateful for my parents.
God bless you
Me too.
fr 😅
I used to think these shows was fake, but this is the real deal smh. Family! airing out family business.
No bull...I'm so blessed to be raised by my parents..
If someone tells you they don't want to be in you're life believe them and love them from a distance
Exactly. It's a sad fact but it's a necessary action
@@jadynnewsome390 yeah
The deflection is real !! Diamond is just at a point where she wants her mom to take accountability. Granted, neither of them deserved what happened in the past, but her mom isn’t taking accountability. She heard Diamond but she’s not HEARING Diamond. She’s responding just to respond
This is probably the saddest parent and childhood trauma episode I've seen on Karamo. The hurt and pain is so deep on both ends. I pray that this family is healed.
She doesn’t even know the name of any of her 4 grandchildren! I mean no one is asking her to look after them, but not even bother to ask the names, it’s wild‼️
I never asked the names because I don't see them ever,my daughter never brought any of my grandchildren around me,so why ask there names,I'm still broken,from what happened to me as a child,I know I'm mentally unstable so knowing the names of my grandkids is not a factor in my life,it would kill my mind and spirit to know all of there names and not be able to see them and kiss them at least,I know my place,but peace and blessings to u also❤
Mom needs healing. She is still needing the very thing her daughter needs. There should be empathy on both parts. It is not too late for the mom.
I agree l have the utmost sympathy for the daughter but mama broken too. The daughter is a little passive aggressive too.
That's the problem right there! It's so selfish to go out and create children when you're still broken and in need of healing. All that does is create a vicious cycle and she didn't just bring one child into this world, she had three!
@@motherlisha absolutely agree
@@mizzmention8555 yes ma'am
Totally agree!
The mother is making EVERYTHING about herself. And not really listening to her daughter.
Neither the other way around it goes both ways
@@kaeylnyeahthatsit4909it's still on the mother though, because if thats the case where did she learn that from
@kaeylnyeahthatsit4909 it's really not the daughter's responsibility to understand where the mom is coming from tho. She's not her parent. The point the daughter is trying to make is that while she now does understand where she's coming from, the mom isn't trying to do the same for her
NO LITERALLY !!
Facts she sound like a narcissist
I am looking on it from both sides and her mom needs healing and continuos counselling because she has been through alot of trauma since childhood that she has not healed from. I also understand from the daughter point of view that she needed her mom to love and care for her both of them needs some serious serious counselling plus time to heal
But you have to acknowledge it and want to change - I don’t think the mum wants to heal
But who’s the mother ? She has to take accountability first
The mother is being HONEST. We can’t be mad at that! She is saying what she canNOT do. Period.
Absolutely not😊 shes never seeing her child
I will be 61 years old and Ito date, my mother has never been accountable and I never had her be a part of my life. She's 90 and just always has been a very jealous and mean mother. I no longer want her in my life and finally blocked her. Extremely abusive and narcissistic
I’m so sorry that you didn’t get the answers you needed from her. I wish you peace, comfort, and healing.
god bless you 🩷
Is that you on the show?
This mother is off the chain and not willing to admit how wrong she is and was
The main reasons I cam on the show was to repair my relationship with my daughter,since then Karomo gas arranged for us both to go through extensive therapy,and me showing up is admitting,some parents never come back,but peace and blessings to you ❤❤❤❤
That was so hard to watch. Everybody, Be Blessed.
The trauma is REAL HERE! Great Advice as always Karamo, I pray that both women can begin to heal. Unfortunately you can't give something you dont have. I pray Diamond is able to move on without her Mom because she may have to for the sake of her sanity and her kids. Sad situation man.
The mom is a mental case, you can't have a normal conversation, she's combative and aggressive.
Yes,her own truth can't take on a grown up perspective
Arrested development
SHE'S SICK.
The mother must be still heavy into her addiction because the people that I know that are in recovery don't act like that.
The mom admitted to psychological illness
I love me some Karamo! Thanks for being such a great therapist and educating the public on healing.
The mom is too far gone. Her trauma is overwhelming her from acknowledging her faults. It hurt for Karamo to say that but he’s right; mom just doesn’t have it. I hope they find healing some day.
Diamond has to come to terms that she’s better off without her mom. Why invite more dysfunction into your life, especially when your mother is has a problem with deflection. Everything with this woman is I, I, I. Not one time has this woman let this woman heard anything her child has said. Just leave her alone and get to healing yourself.
Just because you yell don't make you right! Diamond should just move on because Alfreda lacks all accountability. Your pain shouldn't be your child's pain.
unfortunately in this case .. the truth is that all mothers are not fit to be a mother. & ofc you don’t have to be perfect to raise your kids & be there for them. but this is just horrible. her mother has no bone or fiber in her body to be mentally, physically, emotionally, & financially there for diamond. her being introduced to drugs probably cause all types of emotions not to be there. she’s showing emotion but she has none to show or give for her child. i hope her mother heals cause unfortunately she has a lot of trauma she hasn’t got over. diamond i pray you get the love you deserve from your mother one day! you’re so incredibly beautiful & i can tell your spirit is overall beautiful as well. may you flourish babygirl! 💙🙏🏾
Karamo told her right. But God will show up for her!
I appreciate Karamo giving Mom a chance to speak, but as soon as he asked the daughter to say her peace, Mom began BARKING at her! OMG yikes! this was heartbreaking for both parties. SideNote: Baby girl @ 6:30 (purple hair) be in a lot of videos! she is too cute!
Beautiful daughter wishing all the best
The “mother” is insufferable. Making EVERYTHING about herself with no accountability whatsoever. Wow.
This Mom pissed me off so much Because she made Everything about her self😤. I feel so sorry for the daughter she deserves better❤️
The mother reminds me so much of my mom. When I was suffering for bullying and SA all she could do was scream in my face that she had it worse.
Lord I feel so sorry for that young lady when it comes to her mom she sitting up there acting like she's crying when she's really not God bless that young lady and her kids
I’m glad Karamo spoke to the daughter about managing her expectations. Unfortunately some parents due to their own issues cannot give their children what the children need to heal. This is why I advocate for doing the work to find peace through therapy and in some cases loving the toxic parent from afar. In other cases one can have a relationship with boundaries and realistic expectations of the little that parent can give. Sad it has to be this way.
I hope both these women find the healing they need for themselves and maybe one day for each other.
Hey strong girl, have an often chat about feelings with your son. Often take him in your arms and let him feel your love. Forgive your mama please 😢😢😢 she did not knew better. Love you girl from Suriname 🇸🇷
This is a very difficult one.
“ why didn’t you get an abortion” “ because that’s murder”
but it’s abuse that she continuously put her through that
That's your opinion some people don't see abortion as murder.
It is murder! that's her older child she was an excellent mom until she continued to mess with diamond's father he was 20 years older than her and a drug addict and very abusive that's how she started with drugs I wish she would have said something,but Diamond love her father and Alfreda didn't want to put him out there. She was paying child support. Kevin wasn't taking care of her! Diamond live from house to house. Alfreda have 14 siblings and they had control. She was r***** at 12 yrs old. By a 13 year old. They went to school together she never told her mom and all hell broke out she left the house to visit the little boy so both need help continue to pray. A person who know them both.
@joemiller8257 Not everyone agrees with you so let me guess your pro-life while other people are pro-choice.
@@bremass851 As long as God's word agrees. Thou shalt not kill with some exceptions Iam pro righteous.
@@joemiller8257 That's what you believe everyone won't agree with you.
I was done trying to understand the mother when she said “ idc to see them” about her own grandchildren….. I think her wording of it is what is taken offensively. Sometimes the elder generation is so stubborn and too set in their ways to take any accountability. I honestly hate the fact some moms come from trauma and project that same exact trauma onto their own kids knowing how it felt to them when it was them. I’ve only ever had my mom , and my mom came from a life full of trauma. Was taken away from her mom and placed with her father who she hardly knew at the time …. The only child taken away from my grandmother so she was taken away from all her siblings in which my mom had 5 other siblings. My mom made sure she is always available for my siblings and I , and she made sure we didn’t have suffer from the same traumas she did. This makes me appreciate my mom even more! I hope this young lady is able to heal with or without the mother accepting accountability because sometimes they just aren’t ready to self reflect , however she’s got to heal anyway , because now she has children of her own to set the example for.
Diamond needs and deserves empowerment to move on cos as Karamo rightly pointed out Mom's not coming around anytime soon unfortunately.
Some relationships are not meant to work out. My mother was very much like yours, and it resulted in a lot of generational damage with my own children are relationships are not meant to work out.
Such a shame that black mothers still dodge accountability and black children especially daughters STILL have to pick up the pieces they didn’t break in the first place 🙄😒
Edit: For those who are commenting or would feel the need to comment in the future that “this isn’t only a black mother thing” rethink what the word implied means before you waste your time. This video is addressing a VERY common and VERY tired dynamic between black mothers and children. No one when they make a generalized statement is talking to every single person within the topic they’re speaking about, but I will say if you feel the need to point out that “it’s not just a black thing” OR “I’m black and I take accountability you’re wrong!” You’re apart of the problem. People who know they take accountability wouldn’t have the need to announce they do. 🤦🏽♀️
🎯 🎯
Trauma is just as addicting as drugs. Some people really don't know how to break it.
" Some" black mothers.. however it is not a race thing but ALL mothers need to be a mother, this crosses all racial background
We are expecting a broken person, who is broken in little bitty pieces to take accountability for her failures as a mother, but she can't because she can not see beyond her own trauma, ..... that is why we have to be honest with ourselves and work on the inner self...... some people just do not know how to be a mother, or have learned to be a mother
@@michellej4289 I agree that this is a worldly issue but this comment is exactly another reason why black mothers cannot take accountability, we know others are struggling but right now we are talking about black mothers and their children. Also saying some is redundant because that’s already implied in my original comment, no one unless they think they’re god is ever talking about every single person in a generalized statement they make.
Mom is all about herself. Diamond go on with your life and continue to take care of your children. You can love her from a distance 😢😢😢😢😢
Well for the first time I think this show should be more than just 15 minutes and Diamonds Mom should not be pressured in to apologizing or acknowledging anything. She needs to really heal cause this is not just a show anymore but reality, obviously she loves her daughter but they did her so much dirty and I believe her when she said she fought. Sometimes I guess as a child we have to leave with some certain realities and change for our selves while praying to let go of the past.
That part “that little girl is waiting” whewwww . Karamo was spot on with that.
1 second into the video I can tell by the mother lashes and hair that she wasnt going to do right
There is one fact that I think we often overlook. All mothers do not love their children because they aren’t capable. If you are unfortunate enough to have been born to such a woman, I’m so sorry. Thank her for offering her womb, but move on and accept that’s all she was and will ever be.
The mother is on drugs!! Her behavior is very telling
That's how she is. She's not love . That's how she gets her feelings out .
No I'm not been clean for 14 years now❤
@@alfredamiller5145 that’s awesome I’m so happy for you
Why won't her mother let her talk?
TOXIC.
To look back at that little girl and say mommy is not coming would absolutely break and it did it for sure the hardest thing I’ve ever done
Her mom isn't gon a be what she wants her to be.i cam to terms with the same thing finally at 34 years old and a mother myself. It's hard but I accept the fact that I don't have the mom I needed or wanted. All I can do is still love her and try not to be that mom for my kids
Neither Woman hears or sees the other. This may not be capable of repair. They both need intense therapy individually. Some family is best loved from afar.
In time, I hope to become a great therapist as you. Great job Karamo!!!
I just missed your live. Watching you get your walking on. Great job, Sweet Ree. Thanks for sharing.
The daughter is beautiful, she reminds me of Remy Ma in her mannerisms. I pray she gets healing, as her mother can't take accountability.
Diamond is beautiful ❤… looks like Eve 😍😍 (her mom is pretty too)
Yes she looks like Eve
The mom is really honest about her mental state and unlike most people I can actually respect her wanting to keep distance and not cause further harm. None of that is Diamond’s fault and her pain is valid too. I hope they can both heal and move forward, either together or separately.
My mom was the same - never take accountability. So I’ve acknowledged she won’t heal and love at a distance. She calls sometimes and we chat but that’s it. I’ve had to learn to be strong just like this young woman and I have peace now ❤
Kudos to Karamo. What a pro ! Best therapist n talk show host Eva!
Hope this young woman is able to be a better mother to her children than her mother was to her.
Nobody is listening to each other. They are talking at each other and it’s annoyed me half way through. The mom needs therapy. At least she willing to better herself before she gets into her grandkids life. It’s starts there. The relationship between the mother and daughter had been tarnished. Ain’t no repairing that one.
I feel like her mom is definitely still on drugs smh this was sad to watch because all the daughter really wanted was a genuine apology 💔.. i truly wish her beautiful self the best
this is so sad. i’m so glad he recognized the signs of narcissism her mother displayed. i wish the best to her daughter, dealing with a mother like that is so hard because you’ll never be validated the way you really want.
I was scrolling and just so happened to come across this. This is my family. A lot of trauma within the family. It's sad but this is real. I love my family. We all just need healing and prayers.
The daughter is very passive aggressive when it comes to her mother’s LIFE EXPERIENCE!! We are all human man and shit happens that some of us make through and some of us don’t !
Of course I feel for the daughter because she also didn’t deserve what she had to experience..
They both need to SEE EACH OTHER ! Saying Being RAPED OR MOLESTED is not an “EXCUSE” is crazy asf !
The daughter was definitely raised to be narcissistic like her mom but I wish them well fr , healing is hard and very tedious smh .. sending them light ✨
I will say from someone who too was sexually assaulted at 6 years old, I NEVER made any excuses to not be there and parent my daughter to the fullest. My daughter didn’t ask to be here and not on her to see me at rock bottom. My daughter actually saved my life. So, I can definitely understand this daughter when she said that and didn’t take it as her being passive aggressive or being narcissistic (overused word) as some people are saying but as a daughter who needed her mother and without excuses.
@@NikNice81 I understand your perspective, & yes that term is overused but it’s very relevant. However some humans aren’t as mentally and emotionally capable as you describe yourself. In my opinion, as I stated, some people are casualties of their circumstances and some prevail. It takes time and healing to come out of the mindset of being an actual victim especially if you don’t have the proper tools. They both need to have compassion for one another regardless and I believe this show was at least a seed planted for both sides to come into a higher awareness.
@@universelove6163 yes I agree, both need compassion. I pray the mother can heal her inner child to at least be a grandmother to her 4 grandchildren. Asé
Thank you Karamo for showing people when it's time to cut off a family member instead of when to heal the relationship. It is the hardest decision for a child to walk away from their parent and it's very emotional. Thank you for giving this woman the words she needed to hear 💕
A father can’t kidnap a kid that he made.
I knew by the mother’s earlobes that she was once on drugs. I don’t think the daughter understands that the mother has problems of her own . She thinks that the mother was suppose to pull thru no matter what but the mother was fighting her own demons and still is. Not making any excuses but both women are hurting . It’s extremely hard to give somebody something you never had . They both need counseling
The mother has issues sure. Then work on them! When you have children you can never give up. How can you not care about your grand babies enough to learn their names 😡
The mom is just pitiful and the daughter is crushed behind this
THIS!!!😢
All i heard from the mom is "me me me me" if she wants to start repairing the relationship she needs to firstly take accountability, you can't be combative, dismissive, and have an excuse for everything. As for the daughter she unfortunately should let go of the idea of having this loving mother-daughter relationship or her having a good relationship with her kids. If she's blocking you and not willing to speak with you, take it as that and move on from her
I said this under a comment already, but when you (the mom) have been diagnosed with a mental disorder, because of childhood trauma... Reality is different for a lot of people (her). That woman said she has been raped from the age of 6 years old to 34 years old... That's a big deal and it made an significant impact on how she was as a mother... It sounds like the dad was possibly being manipulative by taking the child.. and according to the Mom, that's when the drug use started. It seems like family counseling will help them learn how to communicate and start building back up and emotional connection.
What a narcissist. Can't even apologise to her own daughter smh
I am so happy I stopped giving my mom this energy early on. Now 23 and it hurts but i refuse to be 30,40+ still mad at the horrible life she set me up for. This episode reminds me so much of my mom & I. One thing my mom can do is deflect its like talking to a brick wall. It’s so sad so many parents traumatize there kids and just don’t care! My mom is the reason i have no type of intercourse nor be around men !
Wow I hope you get the help to get through it all.❤
The mother just said she is messed up. Now, let her be around the kids and F'Up. Then, everyone still mad. The daughter can not have what she wants. Her mother needs help. She can't help kids and grandkids.
The mother should have never came on the show knowing what she would be asked to open up
When He Told Her To Tell Her Inner Child “Mommy Not Coming Back For Me” I Teared Up I Had To Say “Inner Child Mom & Dad Not Coming Back For Me” I’m Sorry She Has To Go Through This I Know It’s Hard😢
This is so sad. Generational trauma is real. I wish there was an easy fix but obviously there’s not. The daughter even said that she had abused her son in the past because of her own hurt, which stemmed from her mother’s own hurt, which stemmed from who knows where? HER mom? HER upbringing? It’s like when will the cycle ever end? It’s great that the daughter doesn’t abuse her son anymore because someone pointed it out, but he still suffered abuse that he didn’t deserve. He may hold those memories into his adulthood and it may resurface in his kids and so on and so on. I hate it. But it’s good that resources like the Karamo Show exist for people in really messed up situations. He’s very helpful when it comes to family issues. Watching his videos have even helped me in regard to my own family. I love how he highlights the importance of validating everyone’s feelings. Not necessarily their behavior, but their FEELINGS. It would have been so easy as an outsider looking in, to say that the mother in this situation is just an evil/awful person and that she doesn’t deserve anything good to happen to her. But the truth of the matter is that she was a little girl at some point. She was introduced to wicked things at some point. She was innocent at some point and was then harmed and taken advantage of. She’s human. Idk, this show just really makes me think about life and relationships. It’s not all drama like Maury or Jerry Springer (which are still great shows, don’t get me wrong lol) but something about Karamo seems much more NECESSARY. I’m glad I’m able to watch it and learn from the stories that are featured.
i understand the pain, i went through csa throughout my childhood too. that isn't an excuse to be this aggressive, and is so focused on herself and her trauma to see anyone else's. she "doesn't know how" to have a relationship with her children because she won't stop, listen, and be compassionate. she's so deep in her trauma she's stuck in that reactive state even in regular conversations. being traumatised isn't an excuse to be this self obsessed
Karamo you are a religious person mothers has naturally special so please give or let children know this thank you bless you
Love u karamo
Her mother definitely suffers from Narcissistic Personally Disorder. Unfortunately there's no cure for that. She will never know how to love her daughter. People who have parents that are narcissist struggle with wrapping this around their minds that their parents literally don't know and will never know what love is. Psychologist say it's best to separate yourself from them as much as possible.
You’re not a psychiatrist. So you can’t diagnose anyone
This is so sad! Aloha from Hawaii 🤙🌺🌈🌴
Adult children have to accept that they will Not have the ideal Fairytale childhood they dreamed of or maybe should have had. Whatever happened, they survived! Get the help from where you can get it, practice self love and accountability for your actions and your own life, and Move On!!
Wow .. crazy how much childhood trauma affects the soul , the spirit , everything
12:41 Karamo had to fight to get that mamas apology Damm. She saying she CAN’T apologize for the trauma that her own daughter went through? Wtf
Hurt people, hurt people. Healing for the both of them! ✨
You are a beautiful lovely strong woman you have come along way keep moving forward I know it’s hurts
The mom wants to clear her name so bad. I feel like some untruths have been told about her to the point where Diamond doesn’t even want to entertain the thought that the story might be different.
And they definitely need counseling to completely be healed from the trama they both went through and i hope karamo stays in touch with them
Nobody’s Listening To The Mom She Is Hurt To The Child Is Not The Only One Hurt The Mom Don’t Know How To Be A Parent And She’s Saying That And If Someone Is Unable To Be A Parent To Me You Definitely Can Not Be A Grandmother So I Think This Isn’t Healthy For The Daughter To Want Someone That Wasn’t Good To Her To Be Around Her Children Thats Just My Opinion
I hope Diamond is able to grieve the relationship that she may not ever have with her mother, turn that sadness into love for her children, and heal her mind. Boundaries and loving people from a distance is hard work, but it can be done 💗
Only God can keep me from my baby this is so 💔😢 God bless this mom and daughter relationship 🙏🏽
This is a true example of generational trauma. Prayers over this family
That momma needs a straight jacket
She won’t take responsibility, because she GENUINELY doesn’t feel she’s done anything wrong, she’s a narcissist. The biggest narc trait is unaccountability. Narcissism usually comes from childhood severe neglect.
War on drugs needs to be implemented in schools. Many kids don’t understand addiction. I got taken away! But I knew why at 5. I knew so I dont need my mom to mother me or my child. Love her she is clean and NOT like this grandma. Also the Daughter wont let this women speak! Addicts are sensitive to arguing
This is wild.The daughter can't see that her mom had the same upbringing as her: turmoil. Even though she turned her life around, Diamond is going to have to answer to her son one day too. She said she didn't know how to be a mom , but she still had kids. But asked her mom why she didn't have an ab0rtion. They are the same person.
Lord, please heal them where they're broken 🙏🏿❤
God God God heal and repair my people God. In Jesus name amen !! I’m so thankful for this platform!!
Her mother just wants a moment,she doesn’t want to heal.Let her be,she’ll reap what she has sown.
The daughter should be thankful her dad took responsibility. She could have turned out like her mum, if not worse.
The daughter is so beautiful. You can see how she turns into a little girl
@7:05 churdren 😂😂😂😂