TMS - Lose The Fear, Lose the Pain
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- Опубликовано: 15 сен 2024
- Fear and stress induced chronic pain go together. Getting over the fear is critical to ending the pain through the various mind-body methods pioneered by Dr. Sarno and refined over the years.
It's really hard to "try" to lose fear when we are fearful. People always tell us not to fear, and fear is bad. But I used to have such a hard time losing fear because I was just "reacting" to the fear. So if we "notice" and "feel" the fear, instead of "reacting" to the fear ("Oh, I notice this feeling"), and know that fear is a brain's way of communicating us that there is either a real or perceived danger, then we can choose to tune into our body and environment to see if there is actually a true danger or not. If we feel fear from pain, discomfort, certain thoughts, or anxiety, we can say "Ah ha! It's my brain trying to protect me, but it's a false alarm (because I know what I have is TMS)," then the fear just dissolves on its own. Depends on our upbringing and circumstances, some of us are truly wired to be hypervigilant, and our brain is always in such a protective mode. But if we know that it's the brain doing it, and recognize there is no danger, AND practice calmly responding instead of reacting over and over (re-act, behaving the same way over and over to similar situation), fear will start to melt away on its own. This takes a lot of practice and I never thought I could do it, but after practicing this for a few months daily, even hourly, whenever fear surfaced, I was starting to get the hang of it, it seems. Another thing that really helped me is the concept of the brain's "volume knob." I think I learned this from "Tell me about your pain" podcast (Curable) one day, and by the way, it's a great podcast, so you should check it out. Some of us have our brain's volume knob turned up to 8, 9, or 10 because our brains got so hyper alert. When I heard this concept, I had an "Ah ha" moment. When your pain, discomfort, anxiety should be normally 2 or 3, yet the brain has learned to fear so much, it sends the signal that is 8, 9, or 10. Dan has a video about how a brain decides if something is a danger or not. So if your brain decided something is really dangerous, the brain will set the volume control at 8, 9, or 10. When I got this idea, my discomfort and anxiety reduced quite a bit because all of a sudden I felt like I "knew" what was going on in my mind/body, and was able to calm the level of my fear down. As Dan always says, "don't freak out." Such a great advice. Thank you so much!
Thank you Aiko for sharing your experience and perspective.
@@PainFreeYour u talkin about fear of everything including disease etc. Someone once told me the fear of cancer or disease or whatever kills u faster than the symptom itself
It's so sad watching this and understanding how true and easy it all is but yet I can't fix myself :(
That's the thing. There's nothing to "fix". Implement the concepts in this one video and you can get well. ruclips.net/video/3vJgBnrhFt8/видео.html
I'm going to try to see a psychologist. I have suffered bullying at school and I am afraid of people on the street but I am not afraid of my friends or my girlfriend or people I know. All this caused me pain in my lower back that barely allows me to walk. Work stress also causes pain throughout my body. Your videos are very good! I believe that I will be able to avoid these pains when I can heal my mind. Finally, I don't speak much English very well but I can understand you. Greetings from Argentina.
Thank you for watching. You are on the right path. When your brain knows you are safe, it will turn off the pain.
@@PainFreeYou thanks a lot!! Have a nice day!
TMS should be re named simply "Fear pain", knowing that fear exits as a core component to negative emotions or reacts in many forms like, worry, angry, rage, hysterical ,anxious, being too carefully, need for approval, feeling upset or vulnerable are all examples related to fear . Knowing that fear is a very useful tool in making the right decisions, ensuring our safe survival is good to know . It should be accepted, embraced, even celebrated, which many people do when they watch a scary movie or go on a role coaster. Its crazy to think that the very thing that is there to protect us, feels so scary! . The point I'm trying to put across here is last night during a passive/still emotional discovery session, I felt vulnerable , anxious etc. I sat with it smiling , grateful that I was able to feel these things and that they were all mine and even beckoned more , my unafraid reaction to my feelings must have sent a signal to my brain that there was no danger here . I physically felt the pain path to my back temporarily switch off like a light switch ! . Now to apply this during the active/motional day , 'un- dangering' and owning my fears . In a nutshell, " Don't fear the fear ". 💗 u Dan !.
Yep - fear fuels the pain. Turn off the fear, turn off the pain. Nice insight Chris.
Fear is the root cause of every disease. It is the cause of pain. And then we have the fear of having fear. Sometimes I feel fear, hence pain, and anxiety, and cannot find a cause. Maybe fear is caused by certain changes in the envoirment, or wheather,
Dan I watched this today and also Fear is the fuel. My 8 out of 10 pain and resulting frustration and depression lifted after watching these two videos.
I got up off the couch and cleaned and tidied up, I thought why not - it hurts on the couch so why not just carry on while it hurts to do housework. My pain level reduced to around a 4 and still is, which is bearable for me. I was also scared to use my hands/arms today as they started hurting a few days ago and I thought “oh god here we go another body part”. But today I laughed and said how bloody ridiculous and the pain or should I say “discomfort” massively reduced. Can’t wait to talk on the 21st 😀
@danbuglio
Fantastic. See what happens when we don't give into the fear and move on with our day regardless? Wonderful.
I am a back pain guy from my 25. I have herniated disc 04-05. take lot of pills many years. i am 38 now. Fear, panic,pain. I feel broken , sick. Fear to lift weights, fear for movement, fear of future, quit for 2 jobs. I feel shame for my problem, people think i am useless and they think make my pain worst from my mind.I watch every week your videos . When i watch yours videos feel hope and freedom. But when a pain episode start again and stay for 2 weeks or more everything destroyed. Thank you Dan even if you make me feel better for 20 minutes. Sorry for my english.
If pain can feel better from my videos - then it's not your back that's the issue. The brain perceiving danger is the issue. Teaching the brain you are okay is the solution. Go through ALL the resources on this page to begin moving forward.
www.painfreeyou.com/start
@@PainFreeYounot true, mostly everyone could experience short term pain relief from the dopamine surge of a charismatic person saying what they want to hear. No matter the source of pain.
Same way chocolate and sex provide pain relief.
We are not talking temporary relief. I've been free from chronic pain for 14 years. I have over 50 success stories recorded with people getting completely better with these concepts. Much different than a temporary dopamine surge. PainFreeYouSuccess.com @@HUGEFLYINGWHALE
I also fear the viral component of this brought on my TMS - has me doing chronic fatigue - and on nights I don’t sleep I do depression as mind feels dark - so I listen to you and others who remind me today will pass - focus on losing the fear and success is eventually inevitable
Teach your brain safety. It will take care of the rest. :-)
"Chronic pain is an epidemic of FEAR" Great quote from that lady. Fear has been my whole life in one ay or another. I won't go into details abt why, but yeah - I totally get that now. This stuff you are sharing is awesome, TY for sharing this wealth for free ! Ups to you. For me - I did have to let go of the people in my life that made me fearful, and brought on my anxiety +++. Maybe now I can concentrate more on just getting better and the few solid loyal people in my life that are my rocks.
Having other solid people in your life is great. But start by being your own rock.
@@PainFreeYou Yes . Tots ! You are right. I get that and agree.
Your videos are enlightening, encouraging, informative and inspirational!! Thank you, Dan!
I think the subconscious perception of danger sometimes is influenced by envoirment around us. My first episode of pain, ocoured during stuffy wheather. My pain came back, after 5 years, when the weather is alike my first episode of pain. And also The return to my work, and the end of vacation, which in my case ocours during August, seems to have an effect in my pain coming back. Sometimes im anxious and dont know its cause. The same goes with pain. Pain is anxiety.
There could be a connection. But there's a solution. Check out my fast start playlist to learn more about what is going on and what you can do about it. DansFastStart.com
Great video. The ideas remind me of some statements from Lucinda Bassett who writes a lot of bad panic attacks and anxiety. She talks about anticipatory anxiety and walking or breaking through the wall of anticipatory anxiety because most of what you were fearing never comes to pass this is great for people who do have panic attacks and anxiety. She also talks about how thoughts can create the chemical reactions in your body and have a snowballing effect with the release of the adrenal cortical hormones and lactic acid Etc. This just increases the fight or flight feelings and if you realize it's just a chemical if you realize the anxiety and panic attacks were just chemical reactions you can realize that they can go away with just a change in your thought processes. Thanks again for a great video
You are very welcome Stephanie. I'll check out Lucinda and her work.
Great video. I had that book cure effect years ago but life got really complicated and the pain came roaring back more than ever. It's been four years of hell, and I realize I need to go deeper to get back on track. Trying to lose this fear is really hard for me and I am trying to find a path to start looking for that switch.
Hey Jasper. It takes more than just feeling emotions to get better. There are several essential elements to ending TMS. This video has my suggestions. Implement these and you should get well. It doesn't have to be complicated. Go for it: ruclips.net/video/3vJgBnrhFt8/видео.html
Grateful to you🙂❣️
Thank you so much.
Dan Buglio, thank you for this great video - you are so calm and reassuring. It is so nice that you have done this to help others - I will now be watching the rest of your videos as I try to win this battle with chronic pain. I am in a constant state of red alert or fight or flight and am becoming almost a prisoner in my own home with this chronic pain ever spreading with family members who resent me and are aggressive and demeaning. So I avoid them and stay mostly in my room to avoid feeling the emotions that instantly increase pain. I now only have to see one of them ( 2 adult sons and husband who are so angry with me it makes me sad ) and my muscles go into spasm it's got that bad From what I understand from your I have to let myself feel these emotions without fear and my brain will slowly learn they will not harm me ? I have to get through the pain by reassuring myself etc ? I dread the pain. Thank you again, Amanda x pS 6 years ago I was still managing to work as a PT - strong and confident though with a worn out spine .
My suggestion is not to view it as a battle with the pain. The pain is simply anger and aggression turned inward. Keep watching my videos. Let those around you know that what is going on with you is really the result of too much stress. And if they want you better, giving you more stress will just make things worse. The best thing they can do is calmly give you support. The best thing you can do is choose your reaction to them. Choose your reaction to the pain.
To your question, yes - feeling the emotions and your brain will learn that the emotions are not dangerous. Just as important is to learn to NOT react and freak out about the pain or symptoms. While I know this is challenging, freaking out about, getting angry at or sad at the pain has never helped anyone. Shift your focus to what you want and away from the pain or symptoms. Choose to soothe yourself and calm yourself.
Thank you so much for your speedy reply ! So reassuring and it's helped me a lot. Anger and aggression turned inward sounds so right. OK my journey has begun 😄 thank you again x
I pray that your family learns to value and love you and work with you instead against you.
Well technically i have sress fractures in my shins... but i couldnt feel it at all and it seems to have manifested as insomnia. When i started to feel and started to switch to warm joy even just watching this video... the pain in my shin just exploded! Wow i guess they really are hurt. Damn... lol but i see that as good... because it is more authentic than the burying of the fear respnse. This particular pain me be a kind of miracle because now instead of mewearing it down i really can start the healing process...
Just what I needed, thanks Dan❤
Now I like my chest pain, let be there , now I feel emotions, anger, love,
As long as you have had your heart checked out and all is well per the doctor, you can teach the brain the chest pain is okay and nothing dangerous. But get it checked if you haven't yet.
So your sat or active and your feeling your fear for 10, 20 or 30 minutes to the point of even shivering. You decide its now time to let that feeling go or let it pass because it doesn't actually leave on its own . How do you actually let it go or pass ?, self talk ? Switch your focus which potentially suppress it again ? Visualize it leaving ?. Any vids on how to let it go ? 💗
Letting go in general: ruclips.net/video/muJOfMuIO3E/видео.html
Story mode can keep us stuck in the emotion:
ruclips.net/video/0_-JjAshQ6U/видео.html
Nice video, sometimes I feel pain in my head or arms, or legs but I realized that was because I was afraid of that pain (with thoughts like what if I will be living all my life with this pain?, I will never go to work anymore because of this pain...).
So now im going to be brave and sure that I already have a healthy body.
Now I am releasing this fear, It gave me more in a moment where I didnt know what to do with my life but now I know more or less what to do and Im studying again, I have hope, I have motivation, I have future plans and that has been good for me.
This video helped me a lot, thanks!
Fantastic. Sounds like you are drawing blueprints for your new life. A wonderful and hopeful place to be. Go for it!
Hi Dan - can you read my mind!! I have been so frightened of my anger having been brought up in a home with domestic abuse. This went of the scale when I became a mother and fright end I might lose it with my completely baby son. Now I feel constant low level anxiety which translates into chronic pain in my restless legs
There is a way out. I map out the key concepts here:
ruclips.net/video/3vJgBnrhFt8/видео.html
Pain is due to fear. Fear is the cause of all deseases. But sometimes, your fear starts with no apparent reason.
Often we are not consciously aware of the perceived danger. The subconscious perception of danger is what is in control.
Can irritable bowel syndrome be caused by TMS? I’ve found that ever since I’ve found Dr. Sarno, my stomach issues have gotten a little better
Absolutely. Especially when you view TMS as Too Much Stress. Being in the stress response (fight or flight) suppresses the immune and digestion systems and can allow symptoms called IBS to occur. Stressing out about IBS is stressing out about a stress illness and that's like pouring gasoline on a fire and wondering why it won't go out. You are in the right place.
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Another excellent video. All makes perfect sense but I am terrified of feeling emotions, I'm an emotional hypochondriac 🙄 I get severe headache, chest pain, nausea and shake. Snappy and overwhelmed. Any advice?
Hey Gayle, yes. If you are on such high alert, diving deep into emotions too fast can cause us to go in the wrong direction. With an overactive state of fight or flight, it is probably best to begin slowly and begin practices designed to turn down the volume of your stress and fight or flight response. Meditation, deep breathing, time in nature, observe your thoughts and begin to shift from fearful thoughts to more positive "I can" type of thoughts. Self talk matters. Notice when your thoughts are running away on you and shift. Watch my video called "HOW". It talks a lot about anxiety. ruclips.net/video/2IpqOeM7N0Q/видео.html
@@PainFreeYou thank you thank you thank you 💙
@@gayleosborne5109 :-) You are very welcome. :-)
@PainFreeYou r u talkin about fear of everything including disease etc. Someone once told me the fear of cancer or disease or whatever kills u faster than the symptom itself
A study of book-cured people would be interesting. A friend I recommended HBP got a book-cure...kinda ticks me off! :) I wonder if a technique could be developed where others could be taught to absorb TMS knowledge so completely
Book cures are very rare. And those that do either have symptom imperatives come back somewhere else, or they simply "got it" and lost the fear immediately which took all the power out of the symptoms.
@@PainFreeYou Yes, but why, and more importantly how did they just "get it"? There may not be enough total book-cure-ees out there for a meaningful study, but a survey of commonalities would be interesting. For instance, before I made my first miraculous step after reading Healing Back Pain, I was already on to the fact that there was no rhyme or reason to my symptoms and actually suspected they were psychosomatic. HBP simply brought all the pieces together for me....well, not all the pieces. I still have frustrating relapses (hence my post) from time to time that I'd like to reduce or eliminate if possible.
@@danwool Studying TMS - evaluating their symptoms and emotions, connecting the dots and at some point, some folks get the "ah ha" moment and it clicks. As for your relapses, it may be due to going back to our old ways of repressing and resisting emotions. Then the cycle begins again when the brain decides to distract you from the emotions that are coming close to consciousness. The way to stop them is to practice and learn to feel your emotions all the time. Not just when you are trying to eliminate pain from TMS. Just make that who you are.
@@danwool Some years back I went to my doctor complaining about an occasional pain. It was like a small bolt of lightning starting in my head and shooting through my chest. . Very scary, I thought it was a heart attack or stoke . Did all the scans etc, all clear . I went to see another doctor, who must have got a good read or sense of myself. He looked me assertively in the eyes and said "Chris, this is stress" , "how can stress cause such physical pain" I asked. "Its how the body unloads it, when you don't" he replied. I trusted my doctor, i accepted his professional advice. My thoughts at the time were "wow , that's a new thing I've learned and great to know my body is fine" .I did no therapy, no tms exercises no nothing. I could have simply trusted these words in a book. I've never had an episode since. To be fair it wasn't something that bothered me everyday , it hadn't had the chance to create a fear relationship.
YOU SAY FEEL THE EMOTIONS. MY EMOTION IS FEAR AND THE FEAR OF FEAR. HOW DO YOU NEUTRALIZE THAT?
So, at the core, what are you afraid of besides fear? And why are you afraid of fear?
Probably should just do something that makes you have ti sit with those feelings. I would say a fear of fear comes from lack of facing fear with all due respect 🙏
@@PainFreeYou I’m scared of male anger directed at me - and leaving a relationship that isn’t safe - help ❤️
I'm very curious i have been bedbound for 6months doctors scanned me X-rays and mris everything is clear but i am having violent back spasms hence why im bedbound cant work or anything doctors keep telling me there's nothing wrong im just very curious to know if intense back spasms are a form of tms with movement with fear and also i am having tender points in the same area left side lumbar when are hyper sensitive to touch also electric type pains and also a feeling of a ligament or muscle is not in the correct place is this symptoms of tms? Doctors can not find anything at all im super convinced but i have realised when i do go to the toilet etc i have to calm my self down and think positive in order to not have an attack
Back spasms are 100% TMS / Perceived Danger Pain. Learn what is really going on by watching the entire fast start playlist. Do the assessments I describe in the 3rd video of the playlist. You are in the right place. Watch, take notes, begin to implement, repeat.
DansFastStart.com
@@PainFreeYouhave you got an email or something I can talk to you directly I'm really suffering I really need help I need to talk to someone because I'm going downhill
The resource I gave you above is WAY more comprehensive help than exchanging some emails. I cannot coach anyone via email. It's just not effective. And if we did, my email would say to watch the fast start playlist I sent you in my last message. Have you begun watching it?
DansFastStart.com @@Siddy641
Yes I have I have begun I also read unlearn your pain and healing back pain by sarno I just wanted to ask you was you having constant pain in the lumbar area even after the spasms ? I tried massaging it just makes it a lot worse and the attack happens again I'm just trying to ease the pain but it gets worse also having like sciatica nerve pain up to the knee and the worst is keep having to wake up in the night for mediciation for pain relief was you also like this Dan? Appreciate you replying
I had back spasms for nearly 13 years. Massaging and medication are not the cure. The body is actually okay. The brain is creating the symptoms due to the perception of danger. The fast start explains what is causing your pain and symptoms. That's all that's going on. And it's all reversible. @@Siddy641
@painfreeyou do you give one on one counseling?
My fear is about not getting better. Pls how can i fix this
This video touches on this subject. ruclips.net/video/S6a66O3TIHM/видео.html
Are you aware I have a group coaching program and video course? That may jump start progress for you. PainFreeYou.com/join for details.
How to lose the fear?
Accurate knowledge about TMS and an acceptance that TMS and nothing else is wrong with your body. Once you KNOW you are okay, moving forward without as much fear becomes easier. If you want some help, consider my course and group coaching. PainFreeYou.com/join for details.