POWER & WOMEN IN H00KUP CULTURE: My Dissertation Findings
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- Опубликовано: 31 июл 2024
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Time Stamps:
0:00 Intro
2:18 Objectification
6:26 Issues of consent
11:08 Ineffective communication
14:35 Social effects
17:22 Emotional effects
18:56 The pandemic
20:24 Power and identity
As a non-Westerner who lives in Asia, it's always been interesting to me to observe American hook-up culture because it just looks like Americans are not able to socialize platonically without bringing sex into the interaction, and how sexualized and sexually-driven media is makes me think that sexual validation is often where Americans derive their self-esteem from.
That's exactly what it is.
lmfao good point really
It is!!!!
on the other hand, humans don't seem to be able to socialise without food and alcohol, or at least for most people, as if they can't just be deep conversations about philosophical topics while drinking nothing but water?
I wonder if this has something to do with their Puritan roots. Perchance the pendulum has swung too far the other way?
I believe hookup culture has heavy adverse effects on both sexes the way it is currently practiced. People should have the moral freedom to hookup without prejudice if they want to. However it should also not be encouraged as a way into womanhood or manhood, as it proves nothing in reality. A very insightful video, thank you :)
Moral freedom? Everyone has the right and everyone else can realize "pass" on that.
Well said !👏
I think humans realities are defined through abstractions more than anything , even if you fixate on materials we have abstract connection to them that give us meaning. I guess this is a war on a plain of reality outside of the physical and on a mental landscape . That's why it isn't viewed as all good or all bad , because people have different attachments to abstract ideas .
I think from my perspective this is unfortunate if negative ideas about the self are created because of it
If hookup culture has "heavy adverse" effects on everyone involved then how can you possibly refrain from saying it is immoral?
@@Strange9952 Very simple, the adverse effects exist on a person to person basis. If someone is not in touch with themselves, honest with themselves and can recognize when things are getting destructive then yeah its an issue, for them. However, there are plenty of people who are able to communicate and be open about what they want/ don't want and are able to have these encounters safely. Different strokes.
I'm a man who constantly felt judged and unworthy bc I barely had any sexual experiences till college. I spent the first half of my 20s trying to balance my desire to be in a relationship with the social stigma of not having sexual experiences, hurting my girlfriends in the process (not by cheating but by being unsure about/not fully invested to the relationship at all times). It wasn't till I turned 25 that something just clicked in my head and I realized that what I truly want is someone who I truly love that I can spend my life with and grow. I frequently turn down opportunities to have sex these days unless I can see something long term with that person.
Can hookups/short term flings be fun? Absolutely. But only when both people are communicative and on the same page from the beginning and there is no lying or manipulation that is happening.
Just my two cents from a male perspective.
I second this as a male.
You shouldn't be turning down too many opportunities.
@@willak79bud90 he should do whatever he wants
I totally relate with this! I am so glad you found a good balance in your life. Nobody should be judged about his/her sexual past. It is just a ridiculous metrics
there may be a place here for those of us who arent attractive to begin with but i think that isnt really the concern of this discussion. I'd say that hookup culture is generally worse for low status males but its broadly not a good thing to aspire to.
This may sound like a weird topic request:
Employment anxiety or phobia
Some people have such terrible experiences at jobs wether it be due to learning disabilities, mental health issues or work place bullying that it becomes distressing trying to go back to work outside the home.
Seems like this is just generally related to having grit and the ability to keep trying.
I'm not sure what the statistics are but from my experience it seems that a majority of the younger generations devalue intimate relationships and it's sad. I don't think you get more out of life by having as many sexual partners as possible and I see more negative effects that it has on the individual's ability to build long term relationships.
A contributing factor is that the relationship milieu outside of hook-up culture is largely in religious or conservative social groups. On college campuses, these groups are typically belittled and views as "ick". Interestingly, the dissertation does not even acknowledge the existence of other dating practices outside of "hook-up" culture.
@@xxmrrickxx I would be interested in seeing the other dating practices. I'm not religious and don't believe in that level of restriction but I think when you save yourself for someone who you will actually stay with for the long term, they end up feeling more special. Ana is right though, there is a stigma that if you haven't had enough partners that you are somehow less experienced or less mature. It's just not true, and honestly you have less emotional trauma for not having slept with so many people. This goes for both genders.
being entitled.. thats the motivating factor in ones mind. its a form of subtle cruelty.
you collect and reject without remorse.
and using others who are innocent just for revenge.
theres nothing new to this.. its just how an immature person go about their life.
True, as a 22 yr old I have recently had to make the change to emotionally distant because everyone else is like that and I have to protect my heart, I haven't had any relationships yet and probably have given up on marriage too
I feel like the ability to plow a bunch of different girls made me happier than when I was in a long term relationship but that’s just me.
I was acquainted with someone who looked after university accommodation of a large establishment in the UK. Each fall when the new intake would arrive, after a few weeks he would say "we've already had a rape/gang-rape". Every year. These scenarios tended to occur inside the woman's room, sometimes alcohol was involved. I think universities need to be forced to published stats of assaults or alleged assaults or reports of or by their students concerning such incidents.
No, that's a bad idea. I do believe something must be done, but you'd just be creating more problems
@@muhammadedwards8425 What? Are you saying that reporting rape is a bad idea?
@@muhammadedwards8425 Tell me you're a rapist without telling me you're a rapist.
That's so sad.
Well done with your dissertation. The way you explained it made it easy for lay-people to understand, and you've obviously been very thorough in your research. Pat yourself on the back!
This was so affirming for me. I recently decided to stop participating un hookup culture for all of the above reasons, and seeing my own grievances with the culture highlighted in literature was exactly what I needed. More women need to see this!
Why did you participate to start?
Oh yay! I love hearing your title change along the way. One step closer to practicing Dr!
Yess getting so close now! :)
A dissertation is such an undertaking. Thank you for sharing your findings with us. Your graphics for sub-sections were very helpful visually.
Thanks for sharing your analysis Ana! Very thoughtful and in depth. It really is heartbreaking how vulnerable young women are and how callous young men can be. I had this impression that in 2022 things would be different.
Wow - new features! well done Ana's SO. Ana, congratulations on being so close to the next stage of your journey and thank you for all of your insights.
It's crazy. The stuff I'm hearing about hook-up culture is just sad. On one hand I'm glad i was never apart from it even tho I've been incredibly lonely. On the other, I'm mad that the culture is the way it is. It makes it hard to live a life with normal expectations because it feels like a game everyone is playing but no body told me the rules.
To be honest, I have always been struggling with hookup culture and never really participated to it. Mostly because I have been feeling anxious about being pressured into it, while the lack of intimacy discourages me a lot. Because of the environment I grew up with, I always felt less of a man because of it. I have seen many male friends not discussing this topic at all, afraid of being deemed "not normal" or "not enough of a man" when their number of sexual partners was deemed "too low". Or also, men saying comments like: "If I don't have sex for more than 6 months, there is probably something wrong with me".
Unsurprisingly, the situation is even worst for women, that are constantly slut-shamed for their number of sexual partners. Thanks to therapy and reading about toxic/fragile masculinity, I came to the conclusion that everyone should be free to live his/her own sexuality as freely as possible. It seems naive and obvious but it is absolute not the case yet in nowadays society. Feeling comfortable and intimate is 100 times for relevant than proving your masculinity through sexual experiences
That's the conclusion I came to, as well! We need to move to a place where people can do what's best for them rather than being pushed into a specific direction by the culture
This is so amazing, can’t believe I am listening to dissertation findings on RUclips!
As a male attending a large state university, this is really insightful, and I see parallel themes in the culture on campus
Same
I am so glad to hear your final results! Congratulations for the dissertation!
Thank you! :)
Super super super interesting study!!! Ty for doing this. Because i am new to a college town and its culture shock being here. This study and ur findings really helped me sort out alot of questions I had .
Good luck with your dissertation defense and final work- absolutely love your content!
Thank you so much :)
I’ve noticed that previous boyfriends of mine and male family and friends seem to see sex the way an addicted rat views cocaine drops. That is to say- they don’t care if the girl is uncomfortable, or unsure, or not really interested but offering to hook up for a favor- the possibility of sex is never something they’ll turn down if she seems at all amenable to it. Which is weird. Who wants to be intimate with a partner who is not 1000% on board and focused on you? Sounds like a lot of risk for a pretty meh time…
this was very interesting - thank you! it reminds me of when i tried out tinder for the first time - i was surprised by the number of guys who had the gall to ask for nudes over snapchat when we had barely conversed at all. maybe that would sound naive to some but i just find it ridiculous.
So happy for you for being so close to finishing up your thesis. Good luck for your defense 🤞🏻
i've been waiting for this video! thank you for the upload, and of course for your hard work
sending love your way
Awesome! This is a great, eye opening topic to research for people to see. You are most definitely making a difference.
Thank you so much! That means a lot
Again, thank you so much. This gives me the feeling I'm not alone. ♥️
This is definitely incredibly true with being gay and or hooking up. One of the biggest issues is that very few guys until like 30 care to have a real serious relationship. A lot of guys in relationships hook up constantly.
So, you basically can only find a few gay dudes that wanna date. The other 85% or so either only want to date a perfect person, or will only hook up. So you kinda have to hook up and feel discarded or be discarded immediately unless you wanna never try to do anything at all.
Maybe doing nothing at all is just fine
@@rataricarda That's what I've done. I haven't hooked up or put any serious effort into dating for like 4 years now.
Thanks for the video and research. I have personally experienced many of the bad sides mentioned, and also felt incredibly good being able to be authentic sexual free me. Thus important to mention also the freedom of women do what they want.
Very interesting video. I’m from Spain and I’ve been definitely been participating in this culture since my first sexual experience at 18. I’m now 25 and it’s incredible that it hasn’t been till now that I have found myself reflecting in this behaviour and it how it makes me feel about myself. It really affects my self steam, but I’m finding it really hard to stop these patterns. I’ve been doing it for so long and its so internalised that I find it extremely hard to change it. It’s like I don’t know when it’s healthy or not to hookup with someone. This info is really helpful for my process, thanks.
Been waiting for this!
Great video @AnaPsychology very interesting especially for someone who has never experienced hooking up. One thing that was intentionally funny in an otherwise serious video was when you dropped a "shockth" about 2/3rds of the way in. First my brain was like "what?", then a split second later I was 😂. It was like we transported back to England 200+ years ago for a moment!!! ❤️ It!!! All the best with finishing off your studies!!!
Good luck with your viva, advice from me who did his viva years ago, just try enjoy the process! Consider the fact the examiner have taken to the time to read your work and explore with you about your findings rather than them looking for criticisms.
Thanks for the advice :)
Ana,
What an interesting and relevant topic to present for your graduate thesis! Undoubtedly, alcohol abuse is at the core of “hookup culture” due to the glamorization of the alcohol industry. Unfortunately, this problem is nothing new. Congratulations on your research of this salient topic/ your work is invaluable❤
Looking forward to hearing about your findings!! I’m doing a huge research project in the fall and need to mentally prepare myself for it haha
Good luck!
That's interesting, what an excellent analysis of an important stage in our societies cultural lifecycle.
Would you consider expanding this survey to the 20 themes in the future, &/or would you consider doing a video deconstructing the abstract categories you identified?
You've put in the preparation & have earned this opportunity, that's all the luck you need :] I'm certain you'll do wonderfully defending your dissertation, Ana!
Excited to see what you decide to do with your talents & time next.
Thank you! And that's actually a great point, I have IRB approval to use the findings of the study so I could totally make a video discussing some of the themes that had to be cut out
Thanks for this. Currently studying counseling. Would like to see where this research goes in the future.
Interesting and insightful video as per usual! Best of luck with your dissertation defense !! :))
I really liked how you looked at lesbian women and trans women and how it related to hook up culture. Those are very interesting points.
Yes, that was one of the four goals, to take an intersectional feminist approach :)
I seems that many allow others to dictate their actions, follow your heart everyone! Make good friends
Hooking up is like junk food. It's fine as an occasional item but a steady diet of it will hurt your emotional health.
Oh shut up n pass the Pepsi. Burp.
you have a fresh and vital perspective. algorithm love 💥
This is really interesting and congrats on all your hard work 👏👏
While societal pressure no doubt has a coercive effect on people we can’t use that as an excuse to not take responsibility. Your ability to consent may be affected but it’s not diminished or taken away.
Exactly. It's honestly scary territory for both parties when ppl feel as if they were coerced when they still in all actuality have full volition and more control than they may be exercising in those situations.
this was fascinating! thanks for sharing your findings with us
I can't wait to hear your discussion!!
Super interesting series. I loved it. Ty
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This was really interesting, would love to hear more about your research.
"and the man was shooketh" is probably my favorite Ana quote.
A very insightful video, I loved it ❤️
Really interesting, thank you for sharing this with us!
Yay, so excited to watch
Yay congrats on finishing your dissertation :)
Very interesting and informative as always
they want to be loved as well. but going about the wrong way of doing it.
I have to add they'll hook up with a black girl quick, but they won't make them their girlfriend or wife. usually just hook up.
As always presentation is great.
Good luck on your defense! You got this, Ana 💪🏾👌🏾
The problem is from the get go. They are seeking to fill a void that will not be filled with relationships. In my opinion, casual sex is ok between consenting adults who just enjoy the sexual release. But depending on someone to make you happy is not healthy.
Yew! Go Ana, you should be so proud of yourself :D
Thanks for sharing your findings!
In would like to have a clearification about the terme "Hook-Up Culture". I think this would be super good to hear at the beginning of your informative Video. Thanks a lot for your sharing!
Amazing insight. I would love to have an opportunity to read your paper as a lot of the details would put more context to what you mentioned in the video. Is this at all possible @Ana Psychology? Keep focused on your goal. Best of health to you and those close to you.
Man I had such a different experience with hookup up via tinder. I can't stand frat houses, but I was horny and got on tinder. I only felt objectified once, and I immediately stopped engaging and kicked the guy out, never to see him again. But i had other pleasant, mutually satisfying hookups, where I communicated clearly that I didn't want anything serious and didn't want to be exclusive. If that's what you're looking for and you have good boundaries, then you're all set. I think the problem with hookup culture is the gravitation toward it when it really ain't for everyone. If you want a relationship that shouldn't be shameful at all, and we should be able to communicate it openly!
Every one of those hookups damaged your ability to bond long term.
@@willak79bud90 right when you get engage in casual sex your treating eachother like a sexual partner
Can you share what you gained from casual hookups?
I think you've hit on something important but drawn an incorrect conclusion. I think the ultimate issue isnt that hookup culture isnt for everyone. It definitely isnt but i dont think that this is the core problem. I think the core issue is that it often operates sans communication and respect for the other person. There's people who have been harmed by hookup culture who may not have been if there was a strong culture of respect for s3xual partners regardless of whether or not it entailed a long term relationship. If respect was the bare minimum, then many of the issues of hookup culture would significantly reduce.
@@pythonjava6228 have you watched Khadija Mbowe's video on this? I completely agree with you but only realized this issue when she made a video about it. I was constantly running into the issue that people thought I wanted to date them just because I treated them with dignity and respect - this surprised me because, really? You need to want to date someone to respect them?! That's awful! That should be the bare minimum! It really speaks about how normal it is to treat people horribly in hookup culture and I think you're absolutely right.
Hi Ana! I just found your channel and I love how confident you are and the way you structure your talk, how can I be this confident without saying aaaa during talking haha? May be bc I am not native at English!
good luck with the defense, queen 💆🥰❤️
Great video!
best of luck in your dissertation defense!!
I definitely have no issues with hookup culture as a concept, though I also strongly feel it's important that people who aren't into don't feel pressured into being part of it
I've also come to realize that I don't necessarily find objectification to be wrong in the proper contexts. Like, if people are making out consensually, they are technically using each other as objects of pleasure, which I don't take issue with. However, if, for example someone is modeling for something that has nothing to do with sexuality, I see no need to make them pose in an exaggeratedly alluring way
Nine job on the analysis!
not to mention the risk of acquiring std's.
This sounds like the phases of narcissistic abuse: Idealization, Devaluing, Discarding, Replacement
Please let me know if you would ever need more participants for something like this! I would love to have a discussion with you about this topic
Conclusion: the definition of "hookup culture" isn't defined or agreed upon by people. If this first step can't happen how to progress in the study?
Omg good luck! 🙏
I would love to have a video on the book!
Great video
Do you think the critiquing of the patriarchal society will play into the acceptance of your findings?
Hello, I love your videos. Could you analyze the character Dino from Episode titled: Hi-So from The Girl from Nowhere on Netflix! Also, you should make a series analyzing famous characters from movies and tv shows such as euphoria.
I loved this video. Very informative and interesting. I think hookup culture isn’t the core problem. I think how society views/ treats women, especially women of color, and toxic masculinity is what’s at the core of the issues we see in hook-up culture, not hook-up culture itself. I think hooking up can be healthy if we solved the core problems. However, that’s wishful thinking.
Hookup “culture” has been around for a very long time.
The 60’s the real hookup culture. Difference between then and now is humans were more socially interactive in that era.
Thanks for sharing and for this work that you do! Will you still be uploading content regularly after being done with this?
you can do anything just because you can and if it feels good .... trust me (not)
Watching now.
1:23 in which countries do those help lines work?
I love your work 🌟 but I'm in Brazil 🇧🇷
Good luck in your defense!!! 🤓🎉🌟
Nice dissertation topic, no doubt it will go well.
I have a couple of questions though:
1 - where do you get your definition of h00kup culture?
2 - where is the research that confirms the dating culture differences in the campuses with different male-female ratio?
Yeah tbh I don't really trust alot of these researches and stats.
Yeah, its ugly. It was interesting to hear more details about it.
Id like your opinion on whether or not its a red flag if a man has no evidence of you on any of his social media ?
ana this is super random; idk if its this specific video but ur voice sounds so different now!! (in a good way ur voice always sounded nice LOL) but u sound so mature and grown up. ive been watching u since ur lana del ray video and the start of ur youtube channel. i can see how comfortable and confident u are now and i love it
So I had this medical issue I was reading about online, and I found an article talking about a women with the same issue. Pretty much you aren’t able to have penetrative sex without intense pain. Luckily it is very treatable, I fixed it in myself.
Anyway, so this interviewer made it sound like this poor woman was an innocent bystander. But she was actively seeking hookups, and got upset when her partner noticed she wasn’t having fun. One even said “I feel like I am raping you” and the woman says “ that stung” like WHAT your upset someone noticed you are in agony during sex? That’s what they are supposed to do!!! What was that woman even doing, trying to have sex at all let alone in an environment she felt unsafe communicating in??? So I totally agree with you, some women are unable or unwilling to communicate and they seriously shouldn’t be booking up at all at that point. Not sure what kind of pressure was happening there. No one should be having sex for someone else. It’s for you! If you don’t like it, don’t do it!
This is very interesting
With all of these problems, why are they there?
Why are they participating at all? Why are they at these parties or dates?
Why not just stop going places with strange people?
Very interesting
The lack of accountability is palpable in the answers. My guess is that it will be very difficult for these participants to course correct these issues they're facing.
Thats why we have therapists
Anna! Please, get a noise cancelling microphone 😊 it'd make it so much easier on the ear to hear you.
Make a discussion video!
have you posted the dissertation referenced in this video anywhere?
Interesting
First!!
Idk if I like the slogan "mute misogyny" because (imo) it implies that people don't talk about it, but that doesn't mean that they have lost their misogynistic attitude and mindset. Therefore, to me it seems that misogyny could still continue to negatively impact on women's lives, just that it is no longer talked about.
Hey, thanks for the input! Just to clarify, the "mute misogyny" slogan refers to muting misogynists by not engaging in emotionally draining discussions with those who are clearly not open to critical thinking. I definitely agree that ignoring the problem will not make it go away, it's more just about not letting the loudest voices be the most misogynistic.
Can you define misogyny....
As it seems to be a word thrown around these days if someone simply doesn't agree with someone else's views.
Black trans girl here. It was just really nice to myself represented - even if parts of those identities were discussed as separate aggregates in the study (which ... makes sense, it's a study lol). All of that to say, this was a fun watch.