If I should have a daughter ... | Sarah Kay
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- Опубликовано: 10 фев 2025
- www.ted.com "If I should have a daughter, instead of Mom, she's gonna call me Point B ... " began spoken word poet Sarah Kay, in a talk that inspired two standing ovations at TED2011. She tells the story of her metamorphosis -- from a wide-eyed teenager soaking in verse at New York's Bowery Poetry Club to a teacher connecting kids with the power of self-expression through Project V.O.I.C.E. -- and gives two breathtaking performances of "B" and "Hiroshima."
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Sarah Kay would literally be the best teacher ever
I know right!
+SweetieNerd truuu
Q nerď just finisheď baby bath
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She actually is a teacher
2 years after watching this and I still come back repeatedly
OMG!! HI!!
When she speaks, I remember youuuuuuu
YesReneau sameeeeeeee
Yes. Same here.
She expresses exactly like you
And just like that, the world fell in love with Sarah Kay.
jessicajnsm Oh Yeah
Yessss
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"but getting the wind knocked out of you is the only way to remind your lungs how much they like the taste of air."
Aj Britton what does it mean?
Yana B when something bad happens it’s the only way to appreciate everything good that happens. “getting the wind knocked out of you is the only way to remind your lungs how much they like the taste of air.” means appreciate what you have. you won’t realize how great things were until they’re not anymore.
cynthia g ohhh i see thank you!!! :)
My favorite part:
"When I meet you, in that moment, I'm no longer a part of your future... I start quickly becoming part of your past... But in that instant, I get to share your present - and you, you get to share mine... And that is the greatest present of all..."
Really great stuff!!! Sarah is simply amazing!!!
a24396 how come its your favorite part? ☺️
@@annel6620 I'm not sure exactly... I think it's because she's speaking to an interconnection she describes that we all share. And I think the idea that we're all connected somehow makes our existence in this crazy world a less lonely one... And, it doesn't hurt it's also a clever bit of word play presented in a masterful performance... Maybe... But I'm not sure... For some reason that's the part that I enjoyed the most...
"Getting the wind knocked out of you is the only way to remind your lungs how much they like the taste of air." Love it.
Abby Gene what does it mean?
Liana Bisuña I’m late but basically something bad has to happen for you to fully appreciate what that thing is
@@yanabisuna5684 I would understand it this way, let things go out of you, don't hold them and experience new spaces, then you will see how you are becoming more open to accept new fresh things that will fill you again for good and once you are full of them you reach again to the point where you should refresh them and let them go again.
Why couldn't she have been my teacher? Then I'd always look forward to class.
How did this comment get over a hundred likes? XD Thanks guys! I appreciate it. Although its a tiny things, it made my day.
She's amazing
I'm glad she wasn't my teacher, I would have failed every year to stay in her class. 😂 also, yes I know this comment was made 5 years ago. Fight me. 😂
Leaving this comment here, so that whenever someone likes this, i listen to this masterpiece again….
Time to listen again 💜
Pssst. Come listen to this again
And again
And 259 more times... this man has to listen to this for 81 hours and 12 minutes 💀
( I did the math for 264 * 18 * 60 + 28 * 264 (264=amount of likes at the time I'm replying, 18= amount of minutes, 60= converting into seconds, 28 * 264 = amount of likes times amount of seconds, then I converted into hours)
Sarah Kay is one of the most inspiring people I have come across online. She is my favorite poet. She makes me want to create new poetry, music, and art all at the same time. Sarah Kay, thank you for helping me start my journey as a person who walks through life with their hands out, in case something wonderful happens to fall into them.
Mackenna Elise I couldn't agree more with you guys, good luck in writing on your thoughts and curiosities forwards the world! :DD
Mackenna Elise ERIC THOMAS!!! Look him up!
Christopher Peck Thank you for the recommendation. I'll have to check him out.
Yeah she is an inspiration she really good , sarah and phil taught me what poetry really is to this videos. Im inspired to write again
Mackenna Elise i agree.. she is amazing..she also helped me to start my journey
it’s been almost 10 years since i saw this video and i will never stop coming back to it. i can recite most of it because she has a brilliant way of putting things.
Same honestly!
her voice is so hypnotizing
Yes💯
yooo i was your one thousandth like :)
“This world is made of sugar, it can crumble so easily but don’t be afraid to stick your tongue out and taste it”
This line is so true I love it
Cause there is nothing more beautiful than the way the ocean refuses to stop kissing the shoreline no matter how many times it’s sent away.
sarah kay is the reason i started slam poetry. it really is my passion, just recently i performed a poem in my school theatre. im really glad my gr 8 teacher forced me to watch this because i never forgot about it.
thank
Same here
@@عليفاخرحسنمهديج god
We watched this in my English class last year. This is what got me into spoken words poetry. Now I'm writing my own poetry (over 600 notes on Tumblr) and am listening to new poems everyday, thanks to this video. I fell in love with this video, and tried to linger in the classroom after the bell rang and it was still playing. This inspired me, because while my anxiety gets in the way of me passing English every year, poetry is becoming my escape. Never underestimate women. Never underestimate poets. Most of all, never underestimate women who happen to be poets, and poets who happen to be women.
what is your tumblr blog?????
TheSweetKeys I'm still waiting the response.
I didn't see this for weeks? I have no idea how I didn't see it, but oh well. It's nightvalecommunityqueers, just in case you were still interested. :)
Shannon Holmes I followed you. c:
Aww, thank you. Thanks very sweet of you~
I feel like she raised so many good points. People do walk with armors, protecting themselves from emotions because one of them might carry a little pain. People do listen to you waiting for their turn to talk, they no longer care about the quality of your words but only to contradict them. I've never really enjoyed poetry because I felt like poets speak in ways they only understand, they only want to tell their story and not that of others, the voiceless, the small. It allows you to communicate your self-interest, your narcissism and then be applauded for it. But now, I realize I'm wrong, this girl's changed my mind in 18 minutes. Funny enough, my name is Sara too and I feel like I can do the impossible.
Sara, from reading that post I can tell you… You have the gift! You would make some amazing poems! The way you write is refreshing. You might be surprised what you could put on paper. =) Just speak from the heart and let it flow.
Thank you, stranger! I can't communicate how much I appreciate what you said, truly, thank you.
You're welcome =)
“The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are. You trade in your reality for a role. You trade in your sense for an act. You give up your ability to feel, and in exchange, put on a mask. There can't be any large-scale revolution until there's a personal revolution, on an individual level. It's got to happen inside first.” Jim Morrison
oneabee Maybe your Sara's, girl in a hooded jumper, oneabee. :)
I have a tattoo dedicated to Sarah and this poem.
“Because there’s nothing more beautiful then the way the oceanline refuses to stop kissing the shore, no matter how many times it’s sent away” ❤️
"Anderson Cooper is a gorgeous man" This girl is amazing. She embodies what it means to be a fangirl.
Twenty Paphonies love your profile pic
I SEE YOU EVERYWHERE
I was not expecting to see you here. Wow. Ily.
Sarah Kay has always been one of my favorite poets. I keep coming back to this.
SAME!
midgette me too
midgette same
Same.
As do I. Today was probably at least the 10th time I have been moved to watch it in as many years. Chokes me up every time. So authentic!
I watch this video from time to time and I always go for the "like" button, to find out it's already pressed.
Cora Sanroman same tbh
I wish she was my poetry teacher. She's so encouraging. My poetry professor sucks the passion out of each student every week. I came here to remember you can still love something while someone is trying to take it away from you.
I love vulnerability.
I will literally write this down for my future daughter because this is exact what she can’t forget . Sarah, you have a brilliant mind and a beautiful heart.
I’ve been out of school for 9 years now. I don’t remember which year of high school I was shown this but I indeed never forgot it. I have a baby on the way now, just found out it’s a little girl. Came back to rewatch and still remember every word. Thank you Sarah. You have mo way of knowing just how big of an impact you truly made with this one. Hope you are happy wherever you are out there in the world. ❤
"This life will hit you hard in the face, wait for you to get back up just so it can kick you in the stomach. But getting the wind knocked out of you is the only way to remind your lungs how much they like the taste of air." wow
Kayla Parker what does that mean?
I want to write poetry so damn bad. I admire poets so much and I aspire to be them. most people, however, don't take 17 year olds too seriously. I've been in public speaking since 7th grade and this really reminded me how unique everyone's writing is and how unique their stories are.
Cool, good luck :-)
do it anyway, don't let anyone stop you!
I hope you will be the one talking in Ted talks about your success.All the best
well its much tougher when ur a ten yeard old and have the wiseness as gold
Poetry doesn't have to be wise, it can be about anything. You can make a poem about the color of a blanket, or your friend, anything, there are no rules to poetry. :)
i wish i had a mom like this. all i got was empty stolen rum bottles bashed into my head. i admire this women
Brianna Cavanaugh work towards being this kind of mom to your children. Let your past build and mould you into a mother your children will be proud of. become a woman other peoples children will admire.
keep going it will get better you will find happiness
I wish I did too..but well at least now we know what kind of mothers to never be.
Surprised to hear this...in today's world, we only hear how evil fathers are and how wonderful mothers are....thanks for sharing.
I find myself coming back to watch this video every once in a while.. it truly is medicine for the soul. Thank you Sarah, you're a sunbeam.
Yup. Choked me up today for the 10th time..
I've lost track of how many times I've watched this. It really doesn't matter though, it gives me thrill bumps everytime. Sarah Kay, you go girl!
It is such a privilege just to hear Sarah speak. I discovered spoken word poetry just a few days earlier, and since then it is on my "to do list" to hear Sarah's poems, every day, because they're wonderful and painfully true at the same time. Thank you Sarah!
She's a rockstar! Also, try Button Poetry channel here on RUclips, if you haven't already.
caveman861 I'm currently obsessed with that Chanel and also youth speaks
Saw this years ago but every year i find myself rewatching it. When life start to become too much, Sarah Kay is my way to make it all make sense somehow. I'm so thankful for her existence and her brain.
This TED talk made me see a whole new side of what I can do. That life is actually worth all the struggles. That I can make it even though my struggles aren't as harsh or bad as some that there is inspiration to do better, like this video, and that giving up isn't an option. Sarah Kay if you see this, thank you. You really changed my viewpoint on life, and what I can discover and succeed.
Thank you...
She will make every single viewer fall in love with her. Her passion, her voice and so so much positivity and brightness.
My first Sarah Kay poem. Always gets me just as it did that first time
ugh that beginning is so beautiful it makes me tear up. she has such a way with words :) and she is super cool!
My teacher showed us this in 6th grade and I've had a deep love for poetry ever since 😊😊
Maya B. Great teacher you have there.
Still love poetry?
So did mine
I performed If I should have a daughter 3 days ago at my school talent show and made pretty much all the parents in the audience cry...
she has a nice voice
Her voice is perfect for her stories
When she sang.
This is the most beautiful, poetic, and inspirational TED talk intro I've ever seen. Hot damn.
GURLLLLLL I FEELLLL
Yeah lol... That's Sarah Kay!
I love this. I've always loved this. You can see the passion in her eyes, in her face expressions, in the way she moves around, even how she speaks. It's unbelievable how happiness is glowing right out of her. I'm absolutely in love with this speech.
I could honestly watch anything by this woman a million and ten times
what about when thats over?
It's so strange this video came out almost five years ago. I still remember it showing up in my subscription box and liking it so much it earned a permanent spot in my favorites playlist. Sometimes I even sing "there's days like this my momma said" and I've never even heard the song it came from or if it's even a real song. This is still one of my favorite Ted talks of all time. Sarah Kay is so talented, I wish I was like her. Enjoy this video. I definitely will and I've probably seen it at least twenty times by now.
+Alix Night the song is "momma said" by the Shirelles
ANDERSON COOPER IS A GORGEOUS MAN.
I watched this often when i was in high school, fast forward 10 years later as a mother of two daughters watching this again in a different light ❤️
it's almost 2016 and I'm still watching this
it is 2016 and I'm still watching this
+Stella Wang thankyou😂😂
Nicole Ponferrado It's 2017
Nicole Ponferrado it's 2018 and i'm still hooked on this
It's 2018 & this is the first time I've seen her, but I really enjoy listening to her😊
"Rain will wash away everything if you let it" I really felt that.
She IS poetry 11:59
"I use spoken word to help my students
Rediscover wonder.
To fight their instincts
to be cool and un-phased
and instead actively pursue
being engaged
with what goes on around them
so that they can reinterpret
and create something from it" -Sarah Kay TED Talks 3/2011
Damn beautiful.
She is so freaking amazing! I had the privilege of seeing her live and she didn't perform this piece but it will always be one of my favorites.
And she's tall! Which i didn't know until I stood next to her 😆
Being an amateur poet myself, Sarah's lecture touched me so deeply I actually shed a few tears at the end. What a woman! What a lecturer! What a poet! Utterly inspiring!
Her whole TED talk is spoken like a poem and its wonderful. Thank you Sarah for putting things into words that I didn't even know I could feel.
Sarah, eight years later, and your poem is more relevant now, than in any time before, thank you for your gifts, and is all so very heartwarming, and so very true. Renee, Sarah and Kayla MacDermid sent me to you.
12 years ago I was a teenager who had a narcissistic mother who I so desperately wanted to love me. But this - I memorized this. Because I dreamed of being this mother for MY daughter. And now, I’m about to be a mother. And I will make sure my little one KNOWS this too. Thank you Sarah. Thank you.
reminds me how many sweet souls there still are in this world who can and HAVE made a difference.
I first saw this video about a year ago, and it has taught me to go through life with my hands open instead of up in a shield. Thank you, Sarah Kay.
Three things I know to be true about this TED talk:
1. Amazing
2. Uplifting
3. Admiring
The ending poem always brings tears to my eyes
Two years have passed and I am still in love with Anderson Cooper and I still cannot understand why I cry every time I hear Sarah Kay sharing her poems & stories.
Watched this in 2011. I still come back to it from time to time.
This is the most beautiful and inspiring thing i've seen in a very long time...
***** I didn't wish for anything, i just said it was inspiring and beautiful.
Gosh, I like this woman. She gives the warmth I almost always seek for in words. And she gets it; the possible naivety of living with heart open instead of fenced, and barb wired but still doing it anyways because, maybe like me, she lives for the precious though most times, fleeting beautiful things that life gifts. She gets it. I get her.
Have loved this for years but has new meaning listening again after having a daughter. Thankyou for your words
Same! I was 18 when I first heard this poem by Sarah Kay. Now I'm 28 with a 7 year old daughter.
Every word she says sounds like poetry
Truly inspirational. 7 years since it first came out, and everything she says is still relatable. This is how I want to raise my kids some day... It is evident that she feels the pain of everyone affected by the bombing. She is so intellectual, and at the same time so humorous! Her wide eyed gaze represents her innocence, and her vision throws bright, gold light on every topic that people fail to discuss out of shame or indifference.
Am I the only one who got teary. Such an inspiration to watch this video. Speaks to the heart and makes you want to be a better person. The words are so encouraging to lighten a dampen spirit. Well done!
No, @mariatney, you're not the only one. Far from it. Welcome to the club I rejoin at least once every year .
Thank You. My English Teacher showed me this during a hard time and taught me to start writing poetry. Yesterday I shared my own spoken word poetry along with If I Should Have a Daughter. This is the first time I have shared my poetry and it was almost freeing.This was 4 years after I first saw this video. This video showed my spoken word and I could not be more grateful. Thank You.
my 7th grade English and creative writing teacher showed me this. I was going to memorize it but I never finished. she was the best teacher. recently she moved to Alaska to teach. I will never forget this
It must be almost 10 years and I still have tears in my eyes every time I watch this 💞 she did absolutely amazing this time around ✨
Exactly how I feel every time.
I'm fourteen and I love writing poems, songs, and stories. This is amazing and I love it a lot. I don't know what else to say besides thank you.
Marissa Can't_Even same, pham
"no matter how wide you stretch your fingers, your hands will always be too small to catch all the pain you want to heal."
This line resonated with me the most. i find Sarah Kay inspirational
When i am upset i just watch the very beginning and the inspiration fills me with love
My fave TED Talk. It's been years but I keep coming back 🥰
“I’m trying my hardest to get it right this time around.” WOW
I love how poetic her words are. The audience was terribly quiet, though.
+Alessandro Tomich they musta been hooked/hanging on her every word.
I really don't know how to say, how much I'm thankful for you for writing this poem. I really feel every word of this. It is amazing how you can turn feelings into words.. ❤️
I've recently read we No Matter the Wreckage and found myself wishing for more. I found this and said "Wow!" One of the best voices I have ever heard in spoken word.
Her passion, belief and talent and what she does is infectious. I wish I was passionate about something like that!
The Giant girl in hoodie must be really happy if she could remember it ...
As an aspiring poet, this was just incredible to watch. I could listen to you speak all day. Sarah, I think you might be one of my new favourite humans.
Caught a glimpse of this video's description on the main TED site and was going to pass it up and watch something else but something made me click through and watch it.
I'm glad I did. You can Sarah's soul and passion in what she is saying and while I'm not the greatest reader or the most creative writer it's inspired me to maybe do more to become better at those things.
I should really watch more TED talks for this kind of stuff!
I've been listening to this for years, and I can't stop. It's not like I want to. Love Sarah so much!
Finally, I can hear what the poetess is saying. Love it, understand it even. It is said at a speed that is vexing, a quietness that speaks volumes. Sarah, you speak with heart and it does not have to be vulgar or shocking. I will be listening for more and go back to writing.
"small hands and big eyes that never stops asking for more" "your voice is small but don't ever stop singing" I swear this sounds just like she's my momma lol
Krish you're so lucky then!
I'm watching this for the third time and I'm still hooked and amazed
Whenever I have a moment to myself, I listen to your words. I am a lover of books, even in the audio form, but Sarah, you are the only person that’s ever “spoken” to me in the last 10 years. If you’re doing what you’re done to change someone’s life, just know, you’re truly changing mine so keep doing what you’re doing
Funny how internet is so timeless although uploaded a few years ago I find myself stumbling across these remarkable journeys and I wonder where they would find themselves now. Thinking that of a dream come true and a huge career move how far ahead can you ponder and in which direction will you wonder? I guess I will just wait for the next picture tube and leave a thankyou and a thanks too you for the inspiration and admiration you have instilled in a young poets heart, mind and soul. This memory now shall never be or grow old it remains another beautiful story told.
It's the poetry that's timeless - we used to read poetry from books, and old poetry still has stuff to say. But it's thrilling to hear Sarah speak it!
this was my first TED talk. It inspired me to talk at TED someday. Like someday 10 years from now..... but then magically, I might get to speak at TEDx this year!!!
I HAD TO PAUSE COS I AM CRYING SO HARD NOW AND I'M STILL AT WORK. Oh god Sarah, you're very lucky. you're living the life you've always wanted. You've become the person you've been dreaming for.
I think my replay button broke lol
+Twila71 I Broke that button as well now
I second that. Wow!! Empowerment and strength inspiring hope, worth, and belief here.
Have you tried the loop feature in the right click menu?
Does anyone else come again and again for this poem?or is it just me?
Not just you. I also bought the book. 😊
Again, and again, and again, and again, and again, and again, and again, and....
This poem got me through my teenage years. I had this posted in my college dorm. This made me feel seen and heard. I was the daughter and the mom, in different phases in life.
She is so proud of that joke.
She gives me goosebumps every single time. And yeah i've probably watched this one a million times by now.
I simply adore Sarah Kay. I listen to her to think, to learn and to grow. Thank you, Sarah, for your heart in this.
God bless you!
She has a talent for getting people's attention by the way she talks. She's amazing.
She gives me so much hope! I loved this. Sarah is magical. I love her positivity, passion, and energy. She makes me want to be a better person. Thank you for sharing this inspirational, magnificent story. All the love in the world.
I watched this 12 years ago and I always periodically come back and re-watch it. This poem is soooooo beautiful and gives an encouraging description of a good mother raising a daughter in this cruel world. It brings tears to my eyes everytime. God willing, if I should have a daughter one day, I will always remember to live out the principles that Kay beautifully laid out. ❤
I love her voice, it's so soothing.
The first time I heard this I had tears, your explanation of how a mother would want to be, I love this poetry 😊
Something about Sarah Kay's poetry makes me tear up every time I listen to it. 1 thing I know to be true is poetry aren't just meant to be listened, but to be soaked deep into the soul.
Her way of expressing those poems make them even more beautiful.
I'll be performing my 1st spoken word in 7 days. I hope I can do at least 1% of the magic she does. :D