I made him into a man that another woman now got. And he still had the nerve to ask me to be part of his life as a "friend." I wish her luck. No longer my problem of what he is or is not
I am successful and my downfall was I was entertaining men who were no where near on my level. And I’m talking about financially, spiritually and emotionally. I’m a super kind person, which had me meeting the most toxic men. But not anymore! Love these videos.❤
I've met a variety of men that you're describing. The common denominator with the majority of them are emotional and anger issues. They have not healed, and some don't want too. If you don't want to help yourself, why drag someone down with you 🙄????
That is the truth it is those with the anger issues they real emotional but it's not loving emotions it's the emotions of anger and frustration they mostly show...ugh! Ruuuuunnnnn
I’m a successful woman and unfortunately I been guilty of entertaining the most toxic people, because I like to believe everyone is initially decent. Not anymore though. I’m over this dating thing for now.
He told me I was in my masculine energy cause I asked him to call me and stay on the phone for more than 3 minutes. And said my expectations was wild and no one would meet them.😮
Uh uh...ugh gross...don't listen to his dumb ass he was trying to lower your self esteem and make u afraid...im getting good at pointing it out now...call him feminine and he would be ready to fight 😂
He has a great job, education , and great humor. He told me he is the prize. I have to same thing and all I ask for is a date once or twice a month. Maybe , even come over to a home cooked meal. I settled 🤦🏽♀️ for now. Thinking he had potential
💯 better options. Dating is exhausting when you constantly have to walk away from people who think giving the bare minimum is enough 🤷🏽♀️ I'm told I give love and warmth to the men I date and yet i'my met with emotionally unavailable and irresponsible men who leave me with no choice but to walk.
I got yo ass on repeat..... trauma bonds are underrated and I need to hear your no bs fkin listen to me videos to keep my head straight in wtf I know is happening... cuz he is a mindfk!!!!
One time at work a girl just casually dropped that she was "talking to" a man who had 14 kids by 9 different women. I cant even understand the mindset of a woman that would entertain such a man. She said "He takes care of his kids.." I wanted to shake her. 😂 Anyone other than Elon Musk couldnt pay that much child support. Rachet
She was delusional and desperate...i feel for her tho because her self-esteem had to be very, very low...geesh 9 baby mothers omg that's gross! He take care of the kids, okay, but he didn't take care of any of the women he had 🤔 that's the main part she should understand he might take care of the kids but he obviously cares nothing for the women that birthed his seeds he only wants the children from them...good Lord!
Who are you and where have you been all this while? For the past three decades, your presence could have made a world of difference, sparing me from these tumultuous relationships that resemble chaotic renovation projects. Your remarkable insight and brilliance are truly awe-inspiring. I extend my heartfelt gratitude to you.
I can definitely relate of every word u was saying i was in a situation where i was dating this guy so the first 4months was smooth and then by the time we made it a year his energy has shifted.. so when i tried to have a conversation with him he couldn’t even answer none of my questions so i started to remove myself from the situation so fast forward 3years later im glad i dodged that bullet cause now he got 2kids that he don’t take of… But i was smart enough not to get pregnant by him … and the crazy part bout it is i kno his baby momma
I'm tired of the unnecessary pain and unnecessary adversity from men and family. Its foolishness and I will go no-contact! Honestly, it's about communication. If both are interested in each other, and both have individual lives, communication has to be on point so no one will be insecure or "breadcrumbed".
Ladies, Ace is right. 😮 Why are we entertaining men that ain't got no job? And on top of that, when you come home, he hasn't vacuumed the carpet, cooked dinner, nor changed the oil in your car that he drove all day while you were at work. 😢😢. I'm trying to hang on...... but I'm really sick of men... Yeah I'm bitter.
He kept talking bout we not im a relationship but expected me to be there for him n give him constant messages and I wouldn't get no sleep would get mad if I fall asleep f that he doesn't deserve my touch or attention
Okay, I'm snitching some of us happily single getting dragged into another female's F Boys head ache WE I learn hard Way I be praying the men don't talk to my dusty ass😊
Thanks 💫 Allthough am not compatible anymore to & not dealing with, certain ways of the "Oxytocine & dopamine-supplying" boy/man. I found this video very (!) interesting & informative nevertheless! It's sad (what can be happening) & funny (how you can bring it) stuff. It's kinda like tragicomedy. Antisocial Social Club .. nice combo huh 😁
Your funny! Unfortunately some people weren’t raised right n we just keep making same mistakes over n over. But definitely learning ftom all u youngins
Had an eye opening moment, it was painful, still is. I had to choose me and my son's peace of mind and happiness. I told my ex I was moving out. I packed up our things and left to my parent's house.
@keishabraylock6388 my I guess ex now is sweet one minute and mean to me the next time and he breadcrumbs me always I don't hear from him all week and then as soon as he starts drinking he's texting me telling me he loves me I just can't take it anymore
@@tamara8267 I first have done therapy.. sorta useful to me, I found internet & few books more useful. Maybe it's different for you.. What was important for me personally to learn was that I mattered too. And, should to _me_ even matter more then him in some way, or like .. well I am certainly my business/responsibility. Like, love yourself at least as much as the other (and its not like you can pour from an empty cup either). That sounds so 'duh' to me now but I was raised to look more to (care about/for) the other. I learned about this from a coach and my own realisation after putting a bunch of pieces together (better late then never 😅) And learned about boundaries! I then used them on everyone. Turned out, the people closest to me had the biggest problem with them (some, came around after I blocked them). Funny enough, the guy responded to them as if he didn't want to loose me. This is tricky. I realized that we are not compatible enough, but sure it been tempting, although I don't bite. This is prob why I watched this video. Important about boundaries is also that they are about you and not about what someone else MUST do. + That what helped me enormously personally was ...1]... learning krav Maga (a self-defense attack thing for real life situations. Made me more confident. Never had to use it since I learned it.) ...2]... my cat (Maine coon) ❤ companionship, hugs, love, funny stuff, helped me go to & enjoy the present & regulate! (And I also worked on teaching myself how to do these too, for me, present & regulate. I am way better with it, i hadnt heard of it before, though definitely not perfect because of my nature + upbringing) ..3]... finding more different other things that made me quite happy. Mostly new hobbies or things I always wanted to do or liked as a kid, alone and then with other (healthy!) people. I started visiting all national parks, dance class, discovered improv etc. These different things basically helped me to not feel like going back... not that I thought it was great.. it was the addiction trickery / the trauma bond/attachment. I quite hacked it like that :) I have a pretty good life now !! I do miss some more ppl close or closer to me (all-though I also love being by myself). But it's like a vacancy for who is enough compatible, not anyone else (standards :)) He still looks for me when I'm out dancing, been 7 years. We can work kinda like a magnet. Feels like I have to submit.. ..to what though! I know whats good for me. When I notice it's becoming too tempting though we not compatible, which I don't know about that we are because well .. then I go elsewhere. This is why we currently don't see each other at all anymore. If I can't completely solve the magnet (and we dont match), I don't get near it, that's ok, certainly where I am now. I don't have sex with him or anyone not compatible enough .. been yearsss.. while I certainly don't mind sex, on the contrary 🙈 My cat passed away recently. This was a great loss. Now I go out of the house and in town a bit more, work there on my purposeful job, go to the library sit there, exchange chats & connect with nice ppl. :)
I cheated on this Man and he stayed just to teach me a lesson. He got with another woman and allowed her child to pee in my car. He text me to ask me if i needed anything but i honestly feel like he just did it to make sure im not good.
uneducated people have the weirdest opinions about people who are educated. Don't bother with it. Don't bring yourself down mentally in order to make them feel better. Yes, you are better and have every right to want to be around people who are also educated. If they are nice people and you like being around them, them there you go.
Not quite what you were asking, but way back in high school, I went to a "rough" school and had to literally hide myself in baggy tomboy clothing, acting gay, to get the black guys to leave me alone. Skinny redhead. It was annoying. I wanted to be noticed by my own race, but white guys are notoriously timid and shy. So I just hid. As a white woman, I didn't understand what was seen as so great about us that black guys felt they had to "get with" us. Wanting lighter kids? It just seems like some fetish. No offense meant to anybody. It was never something I was "into". There are many lovely, cool black women out there, so I really don't get it. So many white women today are into briefly dating black guys now that the guys assume that all of us are gonna be up for that. It's not true though.
I was "Barbara the Builder " too many times for too long....PSA: "I finally quit that job!"....Know your worth ladies!
I finally quit too. It was scary but now I see I should've quit a long time ago.
Congratulations on your quit 🥳
So true.
❤ YES MA'AM 👑🌹🏆👈🏽
I made him into a man that another woman now got. And he still had the nerve to ask me to be part of his life as a "friend." I wish her luck. No longer my problem of what he is or is not
I am successful and my downfall was I was entertaining men who were no where near on my level. And I’m talking about financially, spiritually and emotionally. I’m a super kind person, which had me meeting the most toxic men. But not anymore! Love these videos.❤
I know I'm healed when I can listen and agree without being triggered. New sub here! Thank you, I aspire to speak on topics like this
As women we have to hold ourselves accountable as well, I know I do. ❤
This is now my FAVORITE GUY!!!
I've met a variety of men that you're describing. The common denominator with the majority of them are emotional and anger issues. They have not healed, and some don't want too. If you don't want to help yourself, why drag someone down with you 🙄????
Wow!
Misery loves company
That is the truth it is those with the anger issues they real emotional but it's not loving emotions it's the emotions of anger and frustration they mostly show...ugh! Ruuuuunnnnn
I’m a successful woman and unfortunately I been guilty of entertaining the most toxic people, because I like to believe everyone is initially decent. Not anymore though. I’m over this dating thing for now.
Preach: praise God for the word!
I’m looking forward to your movies and books that you will release.
This man is gifted. Totally enjoyed the message. Thanks for sharing!! 💚
He told me I was in my masculine energy cause I asked him to call me and stay on the phone for more than 3 minutes. And said my expectations was wild and no one would meet them.😮
Uh uh...ugh gross...don't listen to his dumb ass he was trying to lower your self esteem and make u afraid...im getting good at pointing it out now...call him feminine and he would be ready to fight 😂
Did you say it in an aggressive tone?
I love every minute of this! We need a wake up call. It’s hard out here
Your doing gods work! So many girls need this. Your helping people never stop doing this!! This is your gift
so glad you’re still doing these & didn’t let the nasty/disrespectful exchange w/ Tony G. be a discouragement or distraction. #keepgoing 🖤
Amen....
I strive in structure settings....
I've established boundaries....
People take advantage of me...
I appreciate hearing the truth from a black man. 🙌🏾
He has a great job, education , and great humor. He told me he is the prize. I have to same thing and all I ask for is a date once or twice a month. Maybe , even come over to a home cooked meal. I settled 🤦🏽♀️ for now. Thinking he had potential
I appreciate you for your honesty!!
You aint never lied bro !
im here for the accountability i said it women need to stop allowing these dusty users abusers of men into your life
You are just right on the money! Finally, fairness and true talk. The trues hurts sometimes
💯 better options. Dating is exhausting when you constantly have to walk away from people who think giving the bare minimum is enough 🤷🏽♀️
I'm told I give love and warmth to the men I date and yet i'my met with emotionally unavailable and irresponsible men who leave me with no choice but to walk.
Thanks Ace!!! Great Message.
I got yo ass on repeat..... trauma bonds are underrated and I need to hear your no bs fkin listen to me videos to keep my head straight in wtf I know is happening... cuz he is a mindfk!!!!
I wish i could smash that like button a million times.. FACTS being spoken
Ace has been working too hard 😂 to tell woman to have some self respect
One time at work a girl just casually dropped that she was "talking to" a man who had 14 kids by 9 different women. I cant even understand the mindset of a woman that would entertain such a man. She said "He takes care of his kids.." I wanted to shake her. 😂 Anyone other than Elon Musk couldnt pay that much child support. Rachet
She's wretched, not ratchet.
She was delusional and desperate...i feel for her tho because her self-esteem had to be very, very low...geesh 9 baby mothers omg that's gross! He take care of the kids, okay, but he didn't take care of any of the women he had 🤔 that's the main part she should understand he might take care of the kids but he obviously cares nothing for the women that birthed his seeds he only wants the children from them...good Lord!
Why am I so attracted to you!? lol. Love your vids and my God, they’re spot on every time. 🙌🏼
Stay away from my Man, Sterling.
True for both sides, good delivery🙂
Its sad for us who look for a man in every man. Coz you see the good in everyone. 😢. I need to stop it.
I had to stop. I had to stop assuming ppl are quality. I am continuing to turn inward to keep working on myself and my life goals.
Who are you and where have you been all this while? For the past three decades, your presence could have made a world of difference, sparing me from these tumultuous relationships that resemble chaotic renovation projects. Your remarkable insight and brilliance are truly awe-inspiring. I extend my heartfelt gratitude to you.
You look good in those checkered pants, Ace ❤
I can definitely relate of every word u was saying i was in a situation where i was dating this guy so the first 4months was smooth and then by the time we made it a year his energy has shifted.. so when i tried to have a conversation with him he couldn’t even answer none of my questions so i started to remove myself from the situation so fast forward 3years later im glad i dodged that bullet cause now he got 2kids that he don’t take of… But i was smart enough not to get pregnant by him … and the crazy part bout it is i kno his baby momma
I'm tired of the unnecessary pain and unnecessary adversity from men and family. Its foolishness and I will go no-contact!
Honestly, it's about communication. If both are interested in each other, and both have individual lives, communication has to be on point so no one will be insecure or "breadcrumbed".
I love it: "Fboy" ha! ha! You are right Ace... Great podcast!
Tell em Ace!!! Facts!!! 100❤
The accountability part is the realest shit ever
I am guilty of doing this in the past. He has to change for himself.
Yep, that's the only way it ever happens for those types. And I don't want those types. It's supposed to be easy
Very correct!!
Real talk!!
Excellent content ❤
This was so good. I laughed so hard. You are really telling the truth
Thank you for the advice
Ladies, Ace is right. 😮 Why are we entertaining men that ain't got no job? And on top of that, when you come home, he hasn't vacuumed the carpet, cooked dinner, nor changed the oil in your car that he drove all day while you were at work. 😢😢. I'm trying to hang on...... but I'm really sick of men... Yeah I'm bitter.
Truth Be Told Ace!
He kept talking bout we not im a relationship but expected me to be there for him n give him constant messages and I wouldn't get no sleep would get mad if I fall asleep f that he doesn't deserve my touch or attention
😂 EATING THE BREADCRUMBS 🍞 LOL 🤣👈🏽
i love ur videos ur energy is the best ur so funny hehehehe
Keep addressing both sides ❤❤❤❤❤
You can’t love the brokenness out of a man!!
Okay, I'm snitching some of us happily single getting dragged into another female's F Boys head ache WE I learn hard Way I be praying the men don't talk to my dusty ass😊
Barbara The Builder!!😂
Thanks 💫
Allthough am not compatible anymore to & not dealing with, certain ways of the "Oxytocine & dopamine-supplying" boy/man.
I found this video very (!) interesting & informative nevertheless!
It's sad (what can be happening) & funny (how you can bring it) stuff.
It's kinda like tragicomedy.
Antisocial Social Club .. nice combo huh 😁
Who raised you?!?!?!?! 💀💀🤣🤣🤣
We as women need to pay attention to men actions whether than what they say.
Spot on!!!!
Your funny! Unfortunately some people weren’t raised right n we just keep making same mistakes over n over. But definitely learning ftom all u youngins
😂😂😂😂
I dont know why either. Im done, your the best. Im sticking to my ground this time
What time
He can read a book & got a job!!😂
Enjoyed the content ❤
Tell the truth help us
I love how the comments show we’re really waking up!! Approaching 40 and I finally got it! 💪❤️
Know who you are, but be humble!
If you read this, can I ask what made you change?
When r u going on tour ? Plz I will help ... Dr. Z
How do you leave a toxic relationship
Had an eye opening moment, it was painful, still is. I had to choose me and my son's peace of mind and happiness. I told my ex I was moving out. I packed up our things and left to my parent's house.
@keishabraylock6388 my I guess ex now is sweet one minute and mean to me the next time and he breadcrumbs me always I don't hear from him all week and then as soon as he starts drinking he's texting me telling me he loves me I just can't take it anymore
@@tamara8267You have a block function on that phone. Use it. These men are 🤡 clowns. Dont let them make a joke of you.
@@tamara8267 I first have done therapy.. sorta useful to me, I found internet & few books more useful. Maybe it's different for you..
What was important for me personally to learn was that I mattered too.
And, should to _me_ even matter more then him in some way, or like .. well I am certainly my business/responsibility.
Like, love yourself at least as much as the other (and its not like you can pour from an empty cup either).
That sounds so 'duh' to me now but I was raised to look more to (care about/for) the other.
I learned about this from a coach and my own realisation after putting a bunch of pieces together (better late then never 😅)
And learned about boundaries!
I then used them on everyone. Turned out, the people closest to me had the biggest problem with them (some, came around after I blocked them).
Funny enough, the guy responded to them as if he didn't want to loose me. This is tricky. I realized that we are not compatible enough, but sure it been tempting, although I don't bite. This is prob why I watched this video.
Important about boundaries is also that they are about you and not about what someone else MUST do.
+ That what helped me enormously personally was
...1]... learning krav Maga (a self-defense attack thing for real life situations. Made me more confident. Never had to use it since I learned it.)
...2]... my cat (Maine coon) ❤ companionship, hugs, love, funny stuff, helped me go to & enjoy the present & regulate!
(And I also worked on teaching myself how to do these too, for me, present & regulate. I am way better with it, i hadnt heard of it before, though definitely not perfect because of my nature + upbringing)
..3]... finding more different other things that made me quite happy. Mostly new hobbies or things I always wanted to do or liked as a kid, alone and then with other (healthy!) people. I started visiting all national parks, dance class, discovered improv etc. These different things basically helped me to not feel like going back... not that I thought it was great.. it was the addiction trickery / the trauma bond/attachment. I quite hacked it like that :)
I have a pretty good life now !!
I do miss some more ppl close or closer to me (all-though I also love being by myself). But it's like a vacancy for who is enough compatible, not anyone else (standards :))
He still looks for me when I'm out dancing, been 7 years.
We can work kinda like a magnet. Feels like I have to submit.. ..to what though!
I know whats good for me. When I notice it's becoming too tempting though we not compatible, which I don't know about that we are because well .. then I go elsewhere.
This is why we currently don't see each other at all anymore. If I can't completely solve the magnet (and we dont match), I don't get near it, that's ok, certainly where I am now.
I don't have sex with him or anyone not compatible enough .. been yearsss.. while I certainly don't mind sex, on the contrary 🙈
My cat passed away recently. This was a great loss. Now I go out of the house and in town a bit more, work there on my purposeful job, go to the library sit there, exchange chats & connect with nice ppl. :)
No contact
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I cheated on this Man and he stayed just to teach me a lesson. He got with another woman and allowed her child to pee in my car. He text me to ask me if i needed anything but i honestly feel like he just did it to make sure im not good.
🎶🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂😂
I know now!!!!!
Dude! Bipolar!
Lol 🤣🤣🤣
Lol❤
🤣🤣
Not Barbara
😢😢🤦🏽♀️
Okay
uneducated people have the weirdest opinions about people who are educated. Don't bother with it. Don't bring yourself down mentally in order to make them feel better. Yes, you are better and have every right to want to be around people who are also educated. If they are nice people and you like being around them, them there you go.
Nope🤣🤣
What you think about black men with white women?
Not quite what you were asking, but way back in high school, I went to a "rough" school and had to literally hide myself in baggy tomboy clothing, acting gay, to get the black guys to leave me alone. Skinny redhead. It was annoying. I wanted to be noticed by my own race, but white guys are notoriously timid and shy. So I just hid. As a white woman, I didn't understand what was seen as so great about us that black guys felt they had to "get with" us. Wanting lighter kids? It just seems like some fetish. No offense meant to anybody. It was never something I was "into". There are many lovely, cool black women out there, so I really don't get it. So many white women today are into briefly dating black guys now that the guys assume that all of us are gonna be up for that. It's not true though.
Who is give a f, let Becky have them she always put them in their place.
I felt the part when you asked, "Can you be a human?" I ask this question often, unfortunately, because it's an important characteristic to have 🩷
😂😂😂