I absolutely agree that's the reason why I refuse to be with a man that won't go to the doctor or go to therapist because he's gonna expect me to be the doctor or therapist. I'm not qualified nor do I have the energy
The best thing you can do with people like this is 🏃🏽♀️. Get out of there, do what’s best for you because HE DOESN’T CARE, do yourself a favor and get out of there now!!
You are so right!!! You are looking right into my life. I just got tired of everything that you mentioned and left that relationship. My life changed dramatically in these 7 months!!! Everything that I lost I got back 10 times fold. Let go of that heavy wait trying to save him and drowning yourself.
because the people-pleasing, over-extending of self, is codependent and toxic too. a lot of times the fixer personality is an escape from lookihg at our selves and what we need to heal from and comes from a lack of self-love.
I just got rid of one who kept on saying well if I rub your back what your going to do for me? Then he kept on saying aren't I a good boy I did this and this for you? He kept on saying how wonderful he was and why I wasn't acknowledging his greatness. Scary ass stuff he blocked me today because he couldn't handle me calling him out on his shit. Yeah I'm not going to be raising no 50 some year old male.
Imagine having kids with someone like that. Talking about "they're your kids too" any time he was asked to do something for the child. Freakin insane 😳 😂😂
Damn sounds so familiar like my ex. Narcissism at an all time high. 4 1/2 years on & off glad I got off that unhealthy rollercoaster or else I would of been depleted. Thank God🙏🏾🙏🏾I’ve been praying for strength not to go back.
You are spot on!! Went thru it off and on for 11 years. Once I start educating myself on his behavior and realized he was a covert narcissist, that’s when the game changed! Focusing on myself and practicing self love.
i was dealing with someone just like this and i walked away i can’t take what i was in before and because i was with a nac i knew the signs and left i know there is the right guy out there for me and i’ll be patient for the one god has for me
When you said "drive to the therapy sessions" it brought up a trigger. I found the therapist, lots of calls and searching, I encouraged the visits, drove him to AA. I did my part. I brought that horse to water and he would not drink. I love that horse but if he will not drink after all that I've done, I must let him die. 😔
Ace you're my hero. That's exactly what I did. Guy took me for granted, I put aside all feelings I had for him and left. You're so right, it comes down to them not caring.
I thank you for this. You have helped me to stop caring about this man who only texts me for sex. Gas light me always. Lie on me. Throw other women in my face. He started messing with a girl, his daughter's age 6 doors from me. Your advice makes me strong. I suffer with loneliness, but not any more listening to you. Thank you. Being single for me is hard. The dating pool for me is bad, but I have a great family, and I travel.
I laughed at mine when I realized what he was doing. They try to elevate themselves through these relationship patterns. After I figured it out I just laugh when I see him pulling another rabbit out of his hat. Baby bye. So supportive in the beginning. Everytime he say something hurt I do too. But no concerns. Smh done done. I told him he needs help.
I kept telling him that I couldn't be his therapist. I have my own problems. I have to see a therapist myself. He lied and said his therapist refused to see him until he divorced me. I guess he can go back to that therapist now.
Your 100 percent correct took me a little over a year to get sick and tired of being sick and tired of the Narcissistic behavior so God did for me what I couldn't let go of I was blessed to get out when I did.
Thank you for this topic. It is hitting home for what I am going through right now. It may sound crazy to people, it’s hard to just walk away, the heart doesn’t follow what the brain ALREADY knows.
Sheeesh! I needed to hear this 4ish years ago but I realized what I needed to do last year and left. I couldn’t find no empathy or sympathy for this person but I was at soooo much freaking PEACE! 🥹 Good job 🎯 Ace 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
One of the Best videos i have heard in awhile about "wannabe Narcissist!! I started out with my dad, 1/2 Narcissist, then somehow married one 2 times!! Yes 2 times! First time around he wasn't, but 2nd time FULL BLOWN, even said it 14 yrs in, and i never even knew what the word was , had to Google it then thought omg! I gotta gwt out of this place away from him and did it!! My son suffered his mental abuse so bad he took himself to therapy, while i was secretly praying he wouldn't turn out like his dad!! He hasn't hes the best to his wife and to me..back to me i think i somehow turned around and have been seeing ywt another wannabe Narcissist..so THANK YOU 😊 great information..
Truth! Truth! Truth! Lived your Words for 4 yrs, wondering " What the hell...!" It was Business for me once it was Apparent that it was Time to Go! The Business of saving My Life! Left on my Birthday once Light hit the morning air! I felt Lighter each mile I went. Could literally, actually Breathe! Thank God! Signed: Ladysunset, Super Empath & Proud of it! I'm about my Father's Business...the Family Business! Always chose that Path n finally I am seeing the Light...at the end of the darkness. Why? Becuz of my Growth as a Woman now. I love who I am, Whose I am & Who I will Become even at the Age of...drum roll...66! Drop the mic. Hold on & Carry On, Everyone! Love ya!
Thank you, Ace! Shut down Facebook a while back. Good to see you live, you always have a great uplifting and real message to bring to us. Blessings to ya. ⭐️🌿👻
You are absolutely right. I just got dump by someone. It hurt me real bad. I told him that I know he has someone else by how you been treating me and distance from me. He told me he is tired of the back and forth and yes he has someone else. Than he text and said,It’s been fun. That hurt the must.
Thank you!! Because when you stand up for yourself you can be called a narc. I’ve known a real one and once you do you know the difference I’m luck t still be here…😢
I truly appreciate u for speaking on this. U are helping me more than u can imagine. I have gained the strength to ignore messages, not call him or think about him. I understand this is a process. Thank u for allowing God to use u to be a blessing to us all.
God is using you with me… you are soo correct because that’s exactly how it is,, And yes I was trying to bring him to Lord Jesus and I’m done with this I’m at my wits ends.. I don’t want this no more I’m sick to my stomach… my health is not good.. he’s the devils worker he came to steal, kill,destroy me…. not anymore!!!! I’m not backsliding no more this is my doings my fault… but God has not left me… and I know this and he knows me in and out…. He loves me he brings me life (Jesus)…. God is giving me signs and he’s building me up strength.. peace,, courage… God(Jesus) sees everything.. 🙏
I love this! Come on with the truth. He always got the hand, we've been doing this dance for years. Then he started speaking to me pass the physicial and towards the future, oh he was smooth, with that BMW SUV Style and the Black Harley D (breathe) Motorcycle. When I held him tight, I was blanked up, on back of that bike. Then he started to bread crumb me, the conversation was off by several degrees, I mean talking out the side of his neck, I said to myself, "this man is still on dog food" However, my jeans were to tight, I'm to old for a yeast infection and I had to LET HIM GO! 🎶NEVER GONNA GET IT! Rinse and repeat. Thank you, I feel a lot better.
I’m trying to make it to the end!! There are some that are also violent so not easy to leave. Takes some time to build the strength and courage that was subdued over the years of crappy treatment. They are skilled manipulators. Too bad they can’t use their skills to better anyone or anything other than themselves.
I had to stop being his enabler, so I filed for divorce and he didn't file his Answer, be he thought that I wouldn't go through with the divorce, but I did.
Even if you are qualified as a MH professional. You can’t treat your spouse or any other family member or friends. You can only ask him to get the help but you can’t do it for them they have to want it.
Yeah I was in a relationship for a year and a half but I gave my all I kept forgiving and then he says we're no longer together in 2024 I guess he expected me to chase after him I'm in a better place now I blocked him I am putting all the love on me
Hey Ace ISO hear what you're saying thank you for caring about us will by Freind he just destroyed his old self and I've decided not to lose any sleep I got a dream brother and what it is when someone don't realize you see right through them it's crazy you know I didn't expect my friend that's here to be here right now well when he's here oh God help me Jesus but you know what I'm on top of things I'm just going to continue to do for myself, pray he finds someone else I got some stuff to do for God and you know what God's way is Seams more exciting then a man that won't help his self, my friend was gone for like 4 days when he came to the house he was so tired he slept for fifteen hours unbelievable I didn't wake him up p and I didn't make no dinner plate
So what happen when the narcissist does all those things that was done to me once he realizes that he couldn’t get over me he actually married the next person prior to that before meeting me he was the same way with every woman but this time he burned so many bridges that he actually married the one that was gullible enough to believe him because he was love bombing saying all kinds of stuff at the same time trashing all the women he’s been with what happened to people like that he is beyond a narcissist once he knew he couldn’t get anything from me and I started realizing his thing was maybe I was just a pass by but in the beginning of the relationship he was I love you I love you I don’t want nobody else by you and I Jesus God has sent him to me and I was to be his wife never happened it was like He got what he wanted from me then married the next woman but she was the ninth woman he ran out of people he burned too many bridges do you think they will last in a marriage
I absolutely agree that's the reason why I refuse to be with a man that won't go to the doctor or go to therapist because he's gonna expect me to be the doctor or therapist. I'm not qualified nor do I have the energy
My ex was the same
Same😮💨 I walked away.
That's a red flag!!! 😊
Thank you!! 🙌
They issues be with their mothers that be the problem
My ex has 9 out of 9 of the criteria. Narcissism is an epidemic today due to the way children were raised , neglected or raised as entitled.
Let's not leave out the influence of social media! It breeds narcissism.
🎵🎶 don't save him he don't wana be saved🎵🎶😂😂😂
😂😂
The best thing you can do with people like this is 🏃🏽♀️. Get out of there, do what’s best for you because HE DOESN’T CARE, do yourself a favor and get out of there now!!
Factsss
This is the truth. They do not care.
Preach. I turned my back on Mr Toxic .
You are so right!!! You are looking right into my life. I just got tired of everything that you mentioned and left that relationship. My life changed dramatically in these 7 months!!! Everything that I lost I got back 10 times fold. Let go of that heavy wait trying to save him and drowning yourself.
because the people-pleasing, over-extending of self, is codependent and toxic too. a lot of times the fixer personality is an escape from lookihg at our selves and what we need to heal from and comes from a lack of self-love.
THEY DO NOT CARE... PERIOD-T!!! BELIEVE IT!
Most don't even be wanting to go therapist but have time to go to the damn gym..
I just got rid of one who kept on saying well if I rub your back what your going to do for me? Then he kept on saying aren't I a good boy I did this and this for you? He kept on saying how wonderful he was and why I wasn't acknowledging his greatness. Scary ass stuff he blocked me today because he couldn't handle me calling him out on his shit. Yeah I'm not going to be raising no 50 some year old male.
Imagine having kids with someone like that. Talking about "they're your kids too" any time he was asked to do something for the child. Freakin insane 😳 😂😂
Damn sounds so familiar like my ex. Narcissism at an all time high. 4 1/2 years on & off glad I got off that unhealthy rollercoaster or else I would of been depleted. Thank God🙏🏾🙏🏾I’ve been praying for strength not to go back.
You are spot on!! Went thru it off and on for 11 years. Once I start educating myself on his behavior and realized he was a covert narcissist, that’s when the game changed! Focusing on myself and practicing self love.
I most definitely been focusing on loving and improving myself ❤
Moo
@nicolemixon1952, so you a cow now? 🙄
You're on point bro, I'm married to a narcissist I need a way out
@@leke-alaooluwatosin9386make a way and LEAVE. It's never gonna get better.
Ace, you are speaking the truth. 100 percent real. Preach
i was dealing with someone just like this and i walked away i can’t take what i was in before and because i was with a nac i knew the signs and left i know there is the right guy out there for me and i’ll be patient for the one god has for me
When you said "drive to the therapy sessions" it brought up a trigger. I found the therapist, lots of calls and searching, I encouraged the visits, drove him to AA. I did my part. I brought that horse to water and he would not drink. I love that horse but if he will not drink after all that I've done, I must let him die. 😔
Ace you're my hero.
That's exactly what I did. Guy took me for granted, I put aside all feelings I had for him and left. You're so right, it comes down to them not caring.
I thank you for this. You have helped me to stop caring about this man who only texts me for sex. Gas light me always. Lie on me. Throw other women in my face. He started messing with a girl, his daughter's age 6 doors from me. Your advice makes me strong. I suffer with loneliness, but not any more listening to you. Thank you. Being single for me is hard. The dating pool for me is bad, but I have a great family, and I travel.
I laughed at mine when I realized what he was doing. They try to elevate themselves through these relationship patterns. After I figured it out I just laugh when I see him pulling another rabbit out of his hat. Baby bye. So supportive in the beginning. Everytime he say something hurt I do too. But no concerns. Smh done done. I told him he needs help.
I kept telling him that I couldn't be his therapist. I have my own problems. I have to see a therapist myself. He lied and said his therapist refused to see him until he divorced me. I guess he can go back to that therapist now.
Ace......u are the big brother that I wish I have in the early stages....stay blessed🙏💞
Your 100 percent correct took me a little over a year to get sick and tired of being sick and tired of the Narcissistic behavior so God did for me what I couldn't let go of I was blessed to get out when I did.
This hit the nail on the head!!!
Thanks Ace for dropping this knowledge. Dr. Phill said he doesn't even try to help narcs...just run from the devil
Thank you for this topic. It is hitting home for what I am going through right now. It may sound crazy to people, it’s hard to just walk away, the heart doesn’t follow what the brain ALREADY knows.
Sheeesh! I needed to hear this 4ish years ago but I realized what I needed to do last year and left. I couldn’t find no empathy or sympathy for this person but I was at soooo much freaking PEACE! 🥹 Good job 🎯 Ace 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Thank you!!! All valid points! 💯
if its not working righteously let it go ,and trust God ❤ 💯
One of the Best videos i have heard in awhile about "wannabe Narcissist!! I started out with my dad, 1/2 Narcissist, then somehow married one 2 times!! Yes 2 times! First time around he wasn't, but 2nd time FULL BLOWN, even said it 14 yrs in, and i never even knew what the word was , had to Google it then thought omg! I gotta gwt out of this place away from him and did it!! My son suffered his mental abuse so bad he took himself to therapy, while i was secretly praying he wouldn't turn out like his dad!! He hasn't hes the best to his wife and to me..back to me i think i somehow turned around and have been seeing ywt another wannabe Narcissist..so THANK YOU 😊 great information..
Absolutely! So true just a waste of precious time!
Man!!!! I can’t
This is so true!!!
He use me and gone😂,bye bye narc,good luck with your new girls
NO! Triple bi-pass surgery isn’t my area of expertise
Truth! Truth! Truth! Lived your Words for 4 yrs, wondering " What the hell...!" It was Business for me once it was Apparent that it was Time to Go! The Business of saving My Life! Left on my Birthday once Light hit the morning air! I felt Lighter each mile I went. Could literally, actually Breathe! Thank God! Signed: Ladysunset, Super Empath & Proud of it! I'm about my Father's Business...the Family Business! Always chose that Path n finally
I am seeing the Light...at the end of the darkness.
Why? Becuz of my Growth as a Woman now. I love who I am, Whose I am & Who I will Become even at the Age of...drum roll...66!
Drop the mic. Hold on & Carry On, Everyone! Love ya!
Thank you, Ace! Shut down Facebook a while back. Good to see you live, you always have a great uplifting and real message to bring to us. Blessings to ya. ⭐️🌿👻
You are absolutely right. I just got dump by someone. It hurt me real bad. I told him that I know he has someone else by how you been treating me and distance from me. He told me he is tired of the back and forth and yes he has someone else. Than he text and said,It’s been fun. That hurt the must.
I'm sorry 😢
Fear speaks. It fabricates, exaggerates, & manipulates. What stories are your fears telling you? How are you responding?
Thank you for this message and time!🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Found a clip of you on FB. Thank you for this video and that I found it, because everything you are saying is happening to me!!!!
Good-gawd ah-mighty!!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽💯💯💯💯
Thank you!! Because when you stand up for yourself you can be called a narc. I’ve known a real one and once you do you know the difference I’m luck t still be here…😢
Speaking the truth, Ace. This perspective has helped me realize that I am surrounded by narc-like people at the workplace. I know what to do now.
I truly appreciate u for speaking on this. U are helping me more than u can imagine. I have gained the strength to ignore messages, not call him or think about him. I understand this is a process. Thank u for allowing God to use u to be a blessing to us all.
Thank you Ace!🙏🏽
God is using you with me… you are soo correct because that’s exactly how it is,, And yes I was trying to bring him to Lord Jesus and I’m done with this I’m at my wits ends.. I don’t want this no more I’m sick to my stomach… my health is not good.. he’s the devils worker he came to steal, kill,destroy me…. not anymore!!!! I’m not backsliding no more this is my doings my fault… but God has not left me… and I know this and he knows me in and out…. He loves me he brings me life (Jesus)…. God is giving me signs and he’s building me up strength.. peace,, courage… God(Jesus) sees everything.. 🙏
Amen 🙏🏾
Always got the heat bro
Exactly be that bad guy🤷🏿♀️
This is so true and so helpful
I love this! Come on with the truth. He always got the hand, we've been doing this dance for years. Then he started speaking to me pass the physicial and towards the future, oh he was smooth, with that BMW SUV Style and the Black Harley D (breathe) Motorcycle.
When I held him tight, I was blanked up, on back of that bike.
Then he started to bread crumb me, the conversation was off by several degrees, I mean talking out the side of his neck, I said to myself, "this man is still on dog food"
However, my jeans were to tight, I'm to old for a yeast infection and I had to LET HIM GO!
🎶NEVER GONNA GET IT! Rinse and repeat.
Thank you, I feel a lot better.
I’m trying to make it to the end!! There are some that are also violent so not easy to leave. Takes some time to build the strength and courage that was subdued over the years of crappy treatment. They are skilled manipulators. Too bad they can’t use their skills to better anyone or anything other than themselves.
Don't lose sight of the goal though. Slowly and quietly, you can get your ducks in a row and leave
You not ready to leave yet you ain’t tired
I know you can’t work miracles ACE. However, I’m going to be a different woman before this year is over 💪🏽 #Mytime 2024
Amen brother! Speak
Of course. I'm not qualified
I had to stop being his enabler, so I filed for divorce and he didn't file his Answer, be he thought that I wouldn't go through with the divorce, but I did.
No.. I am not qualified!
Omg I absolutely agree on this
Why didn't I find you earlier!
Answer would be no please make more of these videos I'm on the road of recovery thank you
I did and he broke my windows out.
Even if you are qualified as a MH professional. You can’t treat your spouse or any other family member or friends. You can only ask him to get the help but you can’t do it for them they have to want it.
The way I feel now about him I might try the surgery lol
Play your roll.
I'm Scorp.Collective...🤝🤝🤝🤝🤝
@11:10 🤯🫢🫠 Thank you 🙏🏽
Im not “captain save a narc” 😅 they don’t wanna be saved or changed, so 🛑it ladies you trying to do GODS job !!
Excuse after excuse
Ace💛💞REAL
Yeah I was in a relationship for a year and a half but I gave my all I kept forgiving and then he says we're no longer together in 2024 I guess he expected me to chase after him I'm in a better place now I blocked him I am putting all the love on me
No, I am not Qualified, Thought I could help impossible.
This need more likes
Right.....✌️🙏🦻🦻👀👁👍👌
Move on to people who care about someone and something bigger than themselves.
Nope i will the call the ambulance.
Yes, I tried, but I couldn't take it anymore,and he knew he was an MF. Finding out the one I thought i was in love with was his alter ego.
Are you their partner or their help 😮
No triple bypass…
He didit All😢Had tolwt him Go!!!!!❤
Buddy my buddy
Nope you think I what bigger already be homie😁
I woke up.
Nope I'm not qualified
Hey Ace ISO hear what you're saying thank you for caring about us will by Freind he just destroyed his old self and I've decided not to lose any sleep I got a dream brother and what it is when someone don't realize you see right through them it's crazy you know I didn't expect my friend that's here to be here right now well when he's here oh God help me Jesus but you know what I'm on top of things I'm just going to continue to do for myself, pray he finds someone else I got some stuff to do for God and you know what God's way is Seams more exciting then a man that won't help his self, my friend was gone for like 4 days when he came to the house he was so tired he slept for fifteen hours unbelievable I didn't wake him up p and I didn't make no dinner plate
They sure tf do
Deep
Omg yesss
✊🏾
True in 3 seconds i liked
Deep🎉
Aint cried yet
This!!!!
Okay😁
Yes sir
No! Im a nurse not a doctor
And because I don't care you don't either. At all
No he can njoy himself eat air & drink spit
So what happen when the narcissist does all those things that was done to me once he realizes that he couldn’t get over me he actually married the next person prior to that before meeting me he was the same way with every woman but this time he burned so many bridges that he actually married the one that was gullible enough to believe him because he was love bombing saying all kinds of stuff at the same time trashing all the women he’s been with what happened to people like that he is beyond a narcissist once he knew he couldn’t get anything from me and I started realizing his thing was maybe I was just a pass by but in the beginning of the relationship he was I love you I love you I don’t want nobody else by you and I Jesus God has sent him to me and I was to be his wife never happened it was like He got what he wanted from me then married the next woman but she was the ninth woman he ran out of people he burned too many bridges do you think they will last in a marriage
Absolutely not
No
@11:10 🤯🫢🫠 Thank you 🙏🏽
No