The REAL reason he "pretends" to change when you're finally "fed up"

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  • Опубликовано: 27 ноя 2024

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  • @blessedchildofgod9112
    @blessedchildofgod9112 Год назад +117

    the big pretender only to come back into your life to finish you off because he couldn't the first time !!! he see you happy moved on and want to control destroy your life !!!!

    • @Happyfeelinpeace
      @Happyfeelinpeace Год назад +6

      I overstood every word of this 💯

    • @blessedchildofgod9112
      @blessedchildofgod9112 Год назад +9

      @@Happyfeelinpeace it true my experience every time I took a ex back ...ex only try to destroy lesson learned still

    • @desiree2299
      @desiree2299 Год назад +4

      🎯

    • @erniechipdouglas9779
      @erniechipdouglas9779 Год назад +5

      Couldnt more tru the last time my ex came bzck he did a number on me absolutely destroyed me i couldnt sleep for 2 years i had nightmare where i killed him. I got agoraphobia i couldnt leave the hous because he told lies. I couldnt cope ive never been so angry. In the end due to bottling up the emotions i got breast cancer. I truly believe all those toxic traumatised emotions stayed inside me until they ruined me. The only time i was able to process is the emotions was in my sleep. Im not a person who believe in sillyness but ive noticed that the adults who gets cancer they have a particulr behavior of holding in their emotions. Ive seen it time after time.

    • @kelleymcquade1840
      @kelleymcquade1840 Год назад +1

      Why do they want to do this?

  • @JenniferPope78
    @JenniferPope78 Год назад +59

    He’s pretending!!! He can try and say he’s going to stop doing certain things, but he’s made promise after promise after promise and broke every single one of them!

  • @kathleencharles2846
    @kathleencharles2846 9 месяцев назад +8

    I BEEN LYING TO MYSELF FOR OVER A YEAR. I'M SO FED UP. I WILL NOT CONTINUE TO LIE TO MYSELF. IT'S GOING TO HURT BUT IT IS WHAT IT IS. AND I PUT MY HEART IN THIS TO FAST FOR ONE. TH THING THAT HE SAY TO ME AND THE THING HE DON'T SAY. I'M SO TIRED, MY ENGERY TO SO LOW.

  • @ZONDRAHARPER-i1q
    @ZONDRAHARPER-i1q 11 месяцев назад +13

    NARCISSISM AT IT'S FINEST! YOU DESERVE A GRAMMY!

  • @mekalove8174
    @mekalove8174 Год назад +60

    I rather be alone than lonely!!! That speaks volumes!!! Because people are in situations and still lonely!!
    Thank you Ace for message!!

  • @leashacrayton1543
    @leashacrayton1543 11 месяцев назад +15

    I love when Ace gets 😆 excited! He’s like a kid on Christmas 😂

  • @spoileddiva313
    @spoileddiva313 Год назад +22

    Ace keep doing this!! You are truly freeing women from the BS of no good men. You are telling it how it needs to be told. I am so grateful for you 💯💯💯

  • @renaealbert6646
    @renaealbert6646 4 месяца назад +1

    Don't be sorry we need your brutal honesty your right Ace. You right we love broken men thinking if we show them we can be there when they have nothing then we will be strong by the side of them holding them down through life. Sadly all we open the door to is being used and abused by those that don't appreciate or see value in us. 😢

  • @Ms.SelfFabulous
    @Ms.SelfFabulous Год назад +35

    Yelp, I've been single coming up on 2 yrs with no sex! When you have learned to enjoy your own company, it's the best feeling!

    • @blessedchildofgod9112
      @blessedchildofgod9112 Год назад +7

      man it's the best feeling ever don't have to worry about nothing no STDs

    • @spoileddiva313
      @spoileddiva313 Год назад +3

      Big facts!!! A peace that surpasses understanding 💯

    • @blessedchildofgod9112
      @blessedchildofgod9112 Год назад +1

      real talk

    • @blessedchildofgod9112
      @blessedchildofgod9112 Год назад +1

      do I have to worry about STDs HIV gonorrhea syphilis none of that

    • @aquafina6544
      @aquafina6544 10 месяцев назад +1

      I got you beat try 15ys and no sex for 10yrs. I'm alone and lonely and old I know I'll probably die with this status bcus I screwed up and stayed to long and trusted the wrong males and now I'm out of the class of the ones being checked for.

  • @sophiaf.
    @sophiaf. Год назад +14

    Amen 🙏🏾 …
    “You Can’t Pour Into A
    Broken 😡 Cup ☕️”

    • @susanblain-bb3yw
      @susanblain-bb3yw 10 месяцев назад +1

      Exactly! I told my ex, my cup ran so dry it shattered...now i have a new cup and your not welcome to suck it dry anymore!

    • @CHOSENFAITH778
      @CHOSENFAITH778 9 месяцев назад +2

      New wine on in a old wine glass

  • @Meow4B
    @Meow4B Год назад +12

    I almost gave up my current life to go live in Greece with a man who was my boyfriend 20 years ago, we broke up back then because he had to go back to Greece, not because we had any other problems. We reconnected recently, first of all this man has not evolved since the 90s so that was a lot, but as soon as he told me that men must not want to be with me because I have a chronic illness I noped TF right out of there. Actually before I ended it I laughed and told him that I don’t look sick so dudes don’t actually care that I have a chronic illness.
    It was terrifying to see how close I came to trapping myself in another country with a man who would totally own me because I wouldn’t be able to work initially, I wouldn’t be able to go rent my own apartment, etc.

    • @chamomiletea906
      @chamomiletea906 7 месяцев назад

      Greek men are walking red flags!!!

  • @VeroniqueN319
    @VeroniqueN319 4 месяца назад +1

    The last half had me laughing, that was good 💯😂

  • @angelaspringfield5584
    @angelaspringfield5584 Год назад +9

    You are right. He sent his representative when l first met him. I don't know how you know but you absolutely correct. He been slowly revealing the true person underneath. I finally get it.

  • @soniaanderson4654
    @soniaanderson4654 Год назад +12

    Omg I was scared but I left 9 weeks ago counting... I stayed 25 years but I found God myself and you Ace helping me an many others to see our worth an giving all the great advice which is the truth!!! I appreciate all the hard work you do to guide myself an many others through relationships and giving us great knowledge too!!! Thank you for your help may God bless you and all your subscribers with blessings upon blessings Amen in Jesus name praise the Lord Amen ❤🎉🙌🙏

  • @JoniKing09
    @JoniKing09 Год назад +6

    PREACH ACE!!!! I always ask, 'So, Sir, what's going to be different this time than before?' Boy bye...

  • @JenniferPope78
    @JenniferPope78 Год назад +46

    This is called mirroring! He has absolutely sucked the life out of me

  • @ZONDRAHARPER-i1q
    @ZONDRAHARPER-i1q 11 месяцев назад +3

    TELL THE TRUTH AND SHAME THE DEVIL 😈😈😈

  • @latanyasimmons6586
    @latanyasimmons6586 Год назад +16

    Ace you keep it real. I like when you have your podcast on these different social media levels. I watch you on RUclips and Instagram. You don't come with no bullshit!! It is what it is!!!

  • @Hardychelsea
    @Hardychelsea 5 месяцев назад +1

    Yep…that broke…🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️
    F***ing hilarious 🤣🤣🤣

  • @foxtrotA1
    @foxtrotA1 10 месяцев назад +3

    The quote is, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them THE FIRST TIME.” - Maya Angelou ❤️✌️🙏

  • @LaTonyaBrewer
    @LaTonyaBrewer Год назад +3

    Lord, I needed this message 17 years ago.

  • @MZ-jo9ru
    @MZ-jo9ru Год назад +12

    YOU ARE TOO RIGHT!!!! I relate on this topic!!!!!! Thank you ACE!

  • @jm2447
    @jm2447 Год назад +4

    #BARS! "I would rather be single than to settle." JESUS 🎉😂

  • @shataraoldens6872
    @shataraoldens6872 Год назад +7

    Omg I’m so loving this he’s speaking straight facts💯💯

  • @theglamourplanner
    @theglamourplanner Год назад +11

    Big facts and you spoke me in that last part Bro, love this podcast keep the TRUTH coming ❤❤

  • @rosyyy_love52
    @rosyyy_love52 11 дней назад

    I'm weak, he's too happy LOL😂 I like that.

  • @nicolemartin-pz1wl
    @nicolemartin-pz1wl Год назад +8

    I hung on and stayed with him after he took the mask off because I believed anybody can change for the good but I was ignorant...long story short I'm by myself and never went back. I ran on and stronger than I ever been

  • @tinac7044
    @tinac7044 Год назад +6

    ace crazy but i'm here for it his sense of humor is everything! ❤

  • @goldenlioness868
    @goldenlioness868 Год назад +17

    Funny thing is my ex fiancé did this to me for years. Promised to change when I was ready to leave. I was so fed up after 6 years of it. Then when I finally decided to exit his life for good he called me a narcissist. Like……how am I the narcissist😮… I’ve been in therapy for years after that relationship while he is now married. Who is really the narcissist….? I didn’t mention the physical and emotional abuse either. The fact that he took my engagement ring and convinced me I lost it only to see his new wife wearing the same ring.

    • @kellithomas9080
      @kellithomas9080 11 месяцев назад +1

      Soooo crazy! I’m so sorry you went thru that! I hope you are doing better. My ex took me thru the same thing over and over for years and I am finally done! He claimed I was his wife and we even did premarital counseling and I never got a ring. We went looking for houses and he kept making false promises, only to break up with me a couple weeks later and leave me so confused. I thought he had finally got it together but now I realize he was just manipulating me and had no intentions of getting married. I went back a couple more times after that, but this time I am done! I only communicate with him when I have to since we have a 7 year old. He is pathetic!

  • @TheKsrollins
    @TheKsrollins Год назад +2

    🤣🤣🤣 "I want u to do well OVER THERE".. I love him!

  • @Mrsmismikimimi
    @Mrsmismikimimi 10 месяцев назад +3

    I dont want to hear that you're going to change.. You knew I'd see you for who you really were. I'm just not sticking around this time for promises that wont be kept. We are broke up sir.... I hope he can change for his own self and I mean that.

  • @toyabtoya4321
    @toyabtoya4321 Год назад +7

    Ace, you be hitting me in the head with some of this. Keep going and keep pouring into us. Thank you 😊

  • @NQueendom
    @NQueendom Год назад +6

    We need to accept that some people just arent good people..its hard ladies we like to see the good in everybody .. but some people are NOT good!! swallow that 💊.

  • @toniwilliams9817
    @toniwilliams9817 9 месяцев назад +1

    They want another chance to hurt and manipulate you again and again.

  • @ofwater8840
    @ofwater8840 Год назад +9

    Please keep doing this!! This was so helpful! Thanks Ace!!

    • @t.g.4311
      @t.g.4311 11 месяцев назад

      Yes!!! Continue!

    • @louiseham657
      @louiseham657 10 месяцев назад

      What should a woman do who lives with a man for four years and he has promise to marry her

  • @yolandoakomolafe7363
    @yolandoakomolafe7363 Год назад +8

    First time catching full content: i can relate, lesson learned ❤❤ embracing my singleness ❤❤❤truly appreciative: turning 50

  • @melindapear4798
    @melindapear4798 8 месяцев назад +1

    I love it when you tell it like it is

  • @malloryvillas2580
    @malloryvillas2580 11 месяцев назад +3

    It's been almost a year in March since he 1st reached out to me... and iv been chasing him this while time....and I know I'm a good woman...smart, loyal, beautiful inside and out...but he said he was trying to make it work with his babies mom... so I told him to not text me again until he figures that shit out...and then a little over a month later he text me and told me he was 100% done
    .. then we hangout for 2 weeks and then one day I'm getting ready to do over andbhed like... my babies mom and my daughter are here...

  • @asojourner3534
    @asojourner3534 10 месяцев назад

    As a woman I truly appreciate your passions towards us. I hope, women, you are listening. Break the madness.

  • @taraminsalee6374
    @taraminsalee6374 Год назад +3

    I have been listening to this video over and over ALL DAY! THANK YOU SOOOOOO MUCH. THANK YOU SOOOOO MUCH.

  • @toniwilliams9817
    @toniwilliams9817 9 месяцев назад

    Ace, you are so damn on point with this video. Everything you said....that's why I just recently walked away from my "fiance." Thanks for the confirmation.

  • @latashamaddox2224
    @latashamaddox2224 Год назад +2

    One more thing ace all the things you said tonight is the same things my husband did so that I wouldn't leave! Even as far as getting on his knees pleading with GOD!!! IN FRONT of me!!!

  • @NicoleSmith-to4dr
    @NicoleSmith-to4dr 10 месяцев назад

    I just how he keeps it real and speaks straight from the heart… I rather be alone then lonely was the message for me ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @priscillarichardson9257
    @priscillarichardson9257 Год назад +3

    Ace, you be keeping it real. Thank you!

  • @ZONDRAHARPER-i1q
    @ZONDRAHARPER-i1q 11 месяцев назад +1

    PREACH SIR!

  • @Showmemorewv
    @Showmemorewv Год назад +3

    Keep doing this Ace! Thx for all you do bruh.❤

  • @Tahtiluv
    @Tahtiluv 5 месяцев назад

    Ace got the bars around the 20 minute mark 😂😂😂

  • @brooke-kb8zp
    @brooke-kb8zp Год назад +1

    Wow! Your passion/ conviction is so moving ! Sheeesh❤

  • @reenas90
    @reenas90 Год назад +4

    He aint lying

  • @Brianna_Michellee
    @Brianna_Michellee Год назад +2

    Right it’s always when you threaten to leave he “wants to get it right” nahh

  • @tarynwilliams8819
    @tarynwilliams8819 Год назад +1

    Ace, you are crazy. LMAO 🤣🤣🤣🤣!!! You are the best

  • @siantelove
    @siantelove Год назад +1

    YOU ARE PREACHING!!!!!!!!!!

  • @Keyamazing
    @Keyamazing Год назад +4

    This video spoke ❤

  • @joanbrittingham6354
    @joanbrittingham6354 Год назад +2

    Ace you are great. You tell it like it is.

  • @trinatyross8219
    @trinatyross8219 9 месяцев назад

    Ace speaks high volumes I need him to be my therapist 😭🫶🏼

  • @candacemccoy7014
    @candacemccoy7014 Год назад

    We love this Ace! And we Need to hear it! Keep it coming….!!!!

  • @christinamartin2744
    @christinamartin2744 11 месяцев назад

    Wow!!!!! This was soooooooo amazing and spot on!!! I really needed to see this video and you spoke to my soul!!! I’ve been dealing my narcissistic Ex off and on for so long. I’ve been trying to shake him for so long and he don’t want to let me go. Every time I try to tell him to leave me alone and not contact him he still contacts me. Blocked voicemails and emails. He’s not healthy for me. I will tell him again this ain’t working out.
    I will share this video. Please keep making these amazing 🤩 videos and thank you 🙏🏽!!!!!! ❤❤❤❤

  • @gwendolyntucker3923
    @gwendolyntucker3923 8 месяцев назад

    I'm LOVING YOU, FIRST TIME LISTEN ER, YOU ROCK

  • @laquishaharrison709
    @laquishaharrison709 8 месяцев назад

    I ❤ your videos ! Keep up the amazing work you are doing!

  • @ginajackson3316
    @ginajackson3316 Год назад +1

    U R such a blessing !

  • @ma-lovee
    @ma-lovee 10 месяцев назад

    Dudeeee! I can’t. This was too good!!🔥

  • @aishadavis5541
    @aishadavis5541 5 месяцев назад

    All I want to say is I love u. May God continue to bless u and keep u strong in and on his journey with u. In Jesus Christ name I pray Amen. Say it all....I'm listening and paying attention

  • @lorettadeberry7419
    @lorettadeberry7419 Год назад +1

    Come on Ace.... Say it, say it, say it.

  • @TheGoldenYears51
    @TheGoldenYears51 4 месяца назад

    Ain't got that time.... They grown🤷🏿‍♀️

  • @iyamom4
    @iyamom4 Год назад

    I love me some Ace. He tells me the truth about some that are full of themselves.

  • @cilla2850
    @cilla2850 Год назад +3

    I NEEDED THIS!

    • @TheKsrollins
      @TheKsrollins Год назад

      DEFINITELY needed this. God definitely uses ppl to send the msg!

  • @kathleencharles2846
    @kathleencharles2846 9 месяцев назад

    I REALLY DO LOVE HIM BECAUSE OVER ALL HE DO HAVE SOME GOOD QUALITYS.

  • @p.a.r.9714
    @p.a.r.9714 10 месяцев назад

    Keep speaking the facts.

  • @kristinahetz2204
    @kristinahetz2204 Год назад +2

    Believe them, the first time!

  • @ma-lovee
    @ma-lovee 10 месяцев назад

    Not me at the store stopping to pick up the broken pieces, someone else broke ! I guess that’s my problem 🤦🏻‍♀️

  • @ingridmarrero8470
    @ingridmarrero8470 Год назад +1

    Keep doing it 💪 👏 🙌!!! Periodt!!!!❤😂🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉😅 Yeeeessss!!!!❤❤❤❤❤ Facts!!!!

  • @irenemartin2563
    @irenemartin2563 Год назад +2

    When I'm over I'm over with everything and that why I can give someone 3 to 4 Chance but when i decided to live i live happily and never go back

  • @heathermcalpine802
    @heathermcalpine802 11 месяцев назад

    Lmfao 🤣🤣🤣 I'm fuckin dyin... "you know you can walk away from broken shit don't you"..🤣 You know it never really accured to me to do so..I was raised by severely broken people, unfortunately that's all I've ever really known 🤣🤣 fuckin Barbara the builder shows up...then I'm stuck playin captain save a mofo, cuz of my god complex..🤣🤣
    In all seriousness I gotta fix this wanting to save people issue. I think I do this by default. I came from a horrific childhood and I guess it comes down to know one saved me so I over compensate by trying to save other's. Thanks again Ace for the awareness! God bless 💙💙

  • @GwenMcClendon
    @GwenMcClendon Год назад +1

    IM LISTENING 🙌🏾

  • @reenas90
    @reenas90 Год назад +2

    Facts❤

  • @ILiveToEncourageInc
    @ILiveToEncourageInc 11 месяцев назад

    😂Thanks Ace

  • @aladysoldier6604
    @aladysoldier6604 Год назад +1

    We ❤ U Ace💯

  • @joanbrittingham6354
    @joanbrittingham6354 Год назад +8

    As the narcissist gets older. He actually gets worse. I am going through he'll. Great toxicity 😢

    • @brooke-kb8zp
      @brooke-kb8zp Год назад +2

      Really? Good to know. As my narcissist got older he became more agreeable in his actions and willingness to do things but meaner in spirit. I'll keep this in mind. Thank you!

  • @charlee1150
    @charlee1150 7 месяцев назад

    Period.

  • @paulaevans667
    @paulaevans667 9 месяцев назад

    I'm married, but my husband has literally killed me mentally and verbal. He's always into something that breaks my heart. He doesn't have any friends. And I feel like it's so hard to walk out the door. I can't understand why. He always apologized, and he prays to God to treat me better. But he keeps doing things.

  • @latanyalester
    @latanyalester Год назад +2

    THIS IS GOOD!!!❤❤❤

  • @prettygurlrock7307
    @prettygurlrock7307 Год назад +2

    some these “young” men in their 30’s don’t even know the difference between male and female physically let’s get them educated on that at least first because there’s a major difference physically and emotionally….I’m out here arguing with somebody about why men can’t be surrogate mothers that’s crazy

  • @Ms.SelfFabulous
    @Ms.SelfFabulous Год назад

    😂😂😂😂 Yessss indeed, I've been down that road!

  • @CrystalNelson-xb6oh
    @CrystalNelson-xb6oh 11 месяцев назад +1

    There's no need to pretent what you do in the dark will come out to the light .. you can't hide nothing from King Jesus....

  • @Goddessoftarot216
    @Goddessoftarot216 9 месяцев назад

    I really like your content. Great Job RUclips Algorithm 💪🏾

  • @shinellhaynes3649
    @shinellhaynes3649 Год назад

    Love you Ace, Keep up the good work. I enjoyed this video 🤗

  • @joycewilliams508
    @joycewilliams508 Год назад +2

    Please keep doing this

  • @rosyyy_love52
    @rosyyy_love52 11 дней назад

    They come in a relationship with the I'm broke and you need to pay the bill spirit..lol

  • @cheseabothwell4843
    @cheseabothwell4843 Год назад +1

    When you see the real deal. RUN Like Hell

  • @rockyblue2378
    @rockyblue2378 2 месяца назад

    Why they never preach to their brothers telling them to stop messing with women heart?! Like why are the always geared towards women?

  • @patricebradley51
    @patricebradley51 8 месяцев назад

    Man you are ALWAYS on Point.
    When I turn u on my phone.
    We are just friends with each other
    So we are in a open relationship relationship.
    But I see him talking so fake to new girls. Right but I say, when they finally meet the REAL HIM.
    SHE his new lady is okay with Sharing him
    That is crazy to me

  • @VickyRodgers-b7z
    @VickyRodgers-b7z 11 месяцев назад

    You are always right or very close to it 🎉😊❤

  • @irenemartin2563
    @irenemartin2563 Год назад +1

    It's all about details

  • @yolandoakomolafe7363
    @yolandoakomolafe7363 Год назад +1

    Did "Ace" get up, love it😊😊😊😊

  • @cherylmoschitto_outwardsilence
    @cherylmoschitto_outwardsilence Год назад +1

    CAN SOMEONE HELP ME UNDERSTAND THIS. I'M NOT EVEN JOKING... LAST NIGHT MY HUSBAND SAID TO ME, "IF YOU WANT 'FEELINGS' GO MARRY A LESBIAN" WTF 😒😢. WHAT IS THAT?¿?? PLEASE HELP ME UNDERSTAND?@#$. THAT'S SO MESSED UP. ALL BECAUSE I WANTED TO TALK ABOUT MY FEELINGS AND WHAT'S BEEN GOING ON IN THE MARRIAGE, (THE TOXICITY)! HE SAID IT SO SERIOUSLY AND SO MEAN. BUT PLEASE HELP ME UNDERSTAND THAT STATEMENT
    THANK YOU ALL IN ADVANCE

  • @heidiking6344
    @heidiking6344 Год назад

    U got truth to it and its hatd to take sum of it in hard yr real and women need that

  • @wendysuarez8076
    @wendysuarez8076 Год назад +1

    We love you Ace!! Thanks for helping and speaking up for us!

  • @CoachLove
    @CoachLove Год назад +1

    Shoot. All ladies should talk on the phone long enough to where they'll know if they even want to dine. It ain't just food. Eating is a very intimate activity and time is too expensive to waste. Ace, you're talking like a big brother.

  • @ayanaalexander9478
    @ayanaalexander9478 7 месяцев назад

    Bro big up u powerful.life teacher❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @luckyandblessed
    @luckyandblessed 4 месяца назад

    Wow 🇨🇦 Who is thoa ebautful truthful human being?