How to Heal Trauma with Somatic Experiencing -Nina Goradia SEP
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- Опубликовано: 4 мар 2018
- This video takes a look at the science behind healing trauma in significant detail and provides a trauma map to break free. Somatic Experiencing is a natural body-based technique for releasing stored and trapped emotions in our bodies. This work is based off the fight or flight aspect of our autonomic nervous system. By learning how to locate and identify our emotions in the body, rather than holding them conceptually in our mind, we are then able to release them.
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*These videos are for informational purposes only and are not medical advice or a substitute for psychotherapy. If you have a trauma history or medical history, please see your healthcare provider, doctor, psychiatrist or psychotherapist near you to help you resolve it safely under guidance.
*Nina Goradia is a coach trained in a variety of modalities. She has gone through the 3 year SEP certification program and offers Somatic Experiencing coaching sessions with the option of adding Non-Dual Awareness & Self-Inquiry. *Coaching is neither psychotherapy nor medical advice and it does not treat mental or health disorders. If you choose to work with Nina and a mental or health disorder is suspected, you will be referred to an appropriate professional.
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Check out the next video in this series here: ruclips.net/video/fkGXzBLYxCM/видео.html
It has new material with an Autonomic Nervous System graphic plus info on Polyvagal Theory & Social Engagement.
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Owning + embracing + Accepting one's emotions, feelings and sensations leads to peace and freedom.
The suppressed feelings; emotions, somatic become the filter through which we see the world. So true.
@Dr DjDebUsa International accept feel it then let go the story. you will not on progress if you still hold on on the story. 2nd step focus and your body, feel the feelings in your body accept it, feel it, relax and in tune with it.
Stupid. You have no clue about it. Its stored in body. You have to skake it off.
This person is scarily smart. Thank God for her & her observations. Very helpful.
So kind...I'm glad it was helpful 🙂🙏🏼
One of the best videos on SE. Thank you so much Ms Nina Goradia for making this wonderful video. Sending you gratitude and love from Indis
Wow, thank you! I'm so glad you enjoyed it :)
Sending many blessings your way! Thank you for not gatekeeping and truly sharing so ppl can heal.
Thanks so much for noticing that and for your blessings! They are truly appreciated 🙂🙏🏼
Did you ever get to make the videos that people can do at home if they can't afford a real therapist that is an amazing thing to do. ❣️❣️💞
Hey Natalie! There is now a somatic experiencing exercises playlist on the channel :)
Brilliant video thankyou. Do you have a video on the breathing exercises for when someone is in lethargic depression to increase energy and return to a more balanced level of functioning? Thankyou.
You did a great job Nina! Your clarity is informative and your ability to normalize trauma feels so supportive.
Jayne Hall: Thank you, I'm so excited for the Embodied Healing Trauma Institute! Congratulations on undertaking such a large endeavor! Let's be in touch about SE :)
Hi Guys...this is really helpful vid. i've been trying to understand what I've been experiencing for years...and this really does help me understand. Another great book is : From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker; CPTSD.
I second that recommendation, Pete Walker has an excellent book.
agreed
I was doing my therapist’s job by accident. This Video cleared up where I am, and what my therapist should be doing. My therapist is an SE specialist, which is how I found this video.
I'm glad the video was helpful! Just to clarify, this video combines SE with other trauma modalities I studied. Pure SE is the bottom box on the trauma flow chart. Good luck in your sessions!
@@Nina.Goradia thank you for clarifying! I didn’t expect any response on a three year old video! Wow! That bottom box really is where I am at almost all the time, so to know and become aware of my emotions, I have to work up somehow. I have been working from the top box going down to get to the emotions, which leads to frustration and no processing.
This is SUPER helpful, your flowchart and explanation make it so clear and easy to understand. I'm already better at noticing this process in myself, especially compensatory thoughts. So glad I had a session with you, thank you!!
So glad it was helpful! The charts can be referenced often with one's daily experiences for it to really sink in.
Thank you soooooo very much, Nina, for helping me on my healing journey. You are an exceptional teacher and there is so much kindness and compassion in your voice!
Thanks for your kind words. I am so happy to hear the information was useful for you! Best wishes on your healing journey :)
Nina, I'm in tears watching this video. I'd like to book a consultation. You are truly a Godsend. Thank you so very much. xoxoxo
I'm glad this work is resonating for you! Sure, you can schedule a consultation at my website thesomaticpt.com. I'm looking forward to meeting you online :)
@@Nina.Goradia I'm on your website. I live in California and am interested in booking a Saturday 1hr - 1.5 hour session with you on the phone, is that possible? I didn't see a phone option on your website.
@@annettesanchez4425 For some reason, my replies to your comment keep disappearing. If you can email me through my website, send me your phone number in the email and we can discuss this more.
Thank you Nina for sharing this, so freely and in depth. As a therapist I found it informative and authentic. I wish you and your clients well.
Gavin Weir-Jones, Thank you for watching and your comment. I really appreciate therapists like you engaging with somatic healing methods. Wishing you well and your clients much healing.
You touch on something in this video which resonates so much with me. I'm realising just how confused I am about the theory aspect of this work, and how I'm just caught in a loop because I don't know what i should be doing to settle my body.
I'm a very analytical person, who has to have everything 'click' before letting go of the mind. Unfortunately the SE therapists I've seen were shockingly inept which it came to explaining the theory.
My problem is that I was led to believe that I just needed to learn to sit with sensations, and that settling would come once the energy had discharged. Unfortunately, sitting with my activation just made it grow and grow, but I thought it was stored energy just being 'unearthed.' This doesn't seem to have been the case at all. I was viewing my activation as a wall, which I just needed to get more adept at scaling.
I was then advised that I needed to settle BEFORE discharging the energy, which (to me anyway) completely contradicted the 'sit with first, then settling will come' advice I was given before.
One therapist was so jumbled in her approach that she was telling me to ground into my hands and feet, then cautioning me against getting into the body too much! So I was left feeling completely bewildered, as I had (and still have) no idea what I should be doing.
The confusion is feeding my stress no end because I don't have the confidence to just 'drop it'. I'm trying to find a clear roadmap so I can know if I'm on the right track. I worry that if I let go, I'll drop into my body and make myself even worse. If it is possible to calm down before discharging all this stored stress, then I don't understand why do people talk about discharging so much.
I also don't understand the idea of emotional residue and having multiple unresolved stress/trauma responses. Surely if someone is stuck in a freeze response, for example, then it can't suddenly be 'triggered,' because that would suggest that they're not stuck, and that they were previously able to move out of the freeze response?
Sorry for the long comment! Just venting, I guess. Your videos are some of the best I've found, but I'm still quite unsure about how i should be moving forward. My body is highly activated 24/7, which is very debilitating.
Hi Pedro, thanks for sharing 🙏🏼 I had a lot of these same concerns with SE, which is why my chart here is actually a combination of SE (bottom box) with some light Non-dual philosophy. Have you watched my self-realization video or looked into non-dual awareness? This perspective helps for emotions to release since the mind is calm and identified with the true Self. Also, can I ask what is your Meyers-Briggs type?
Also, not sure if you've seen my freeze video, but it mentions somatic ego (in other videos too). This explains why muscle contractions come in with memories or triggers that can take us into freeze.
This somatic ego is connected with our stories and it's protecting us from feeling the primary emotions that are triggered and wanting to be freed (but there is often not enough capacity to free then in that moment). I hope this helps 🙏🏼
@@Nina.Goradia Thanks so much for responding, Nina. And sorry for my late response.
I think the crux of my confusion lies in the polyvagal ladder model. It seems to suggest that in order to get out of freeze and up into ventral one must move through ALL the sympathetic activation which put them into freeze in the first place.
It seems back-to-front because therapists also stress the importance of anchoring the ventral state first in order to build capacity, before working on the stuck freeze state! A total paradox of a model, and I can't seem to make sense of it.
Excellent video. I've had trauma stored in my body my whole life. I'm going to your website right now!!! Thank you for posting this video.!!!
I'm glad it resonated with you and look forward to speaking with you 🙂🙏🏼
This is the best video on somatic experiencing I’ve seen yet. Thank you!
Thanks so much. I hope it was helpful!
Says so much ...... explains so much ❤️🙏🏻
Wow, so very thorough.
Thank you.
Glad you enjoyed it!
This is a really great explanation!!
Thanks, I hope it was helpful!
Thank you SOOO VERY MUCH FOR ALL OF YOUR HARD WORK PUTTING TOGETHER THIS INTENSE AND THOUGHTFUL VIDEO
Thanks so much for your appreciation. 🙏🏼 It is a pleasure to share this information 🙂
Best overview ever made! thanks a lot! Seen hours of footage on this stuff...but this...amazing! ;-)
Thanks so much for your kind feedback! I'm so glad it was helpful 🙂 There is an updated video now at ruclips.net/video/fkGXzBLYxCM/видео.html if you are interested.
It has a couple corrections plus has additional information on polyvagal theory at the end. Wishing you much peace 🙂🙏🏼
@@Nina.Goradia thanks for your reply! you truly beat the internet ;-)
@@HANS_KLOKKIE Aw, I am melting! 🤣🙏🏼
Great information! Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge
Glad you enjoyed it! You are most welcome 🙂
I wish I could 👍🏼 this video a million times. This is explained so well and so completely. I appreciate this video more than I can say. Thank you for making it.
I'm so glad to hear it was helpful!! Thank you for your kind comment. You are very welcome 🙂🙏🏼
Really nice to get to know how it is described teoretically. Always was curious about it. Thank you so much❤️
It's my pleasure! I'm so glad it was beneficial for you 🙂🙏🏼
Incredible. You presented that beautifully. Very helpful🙏🏻thank you
Thank you! So glad it was helpful 🙏
Thank you, Nina, so much for hacking the topic for us, in such a well-illustrated and clear way. If I may please ask to make a video, if possible, specifically on some key techniques of "befriending" our emotions, reactions and sensations? Thank you, look forward to more of your educational clips.
Thanks so much for your kind words and you are very welcome! Yes, this is exactly what I'll be working on over the next 3 months.
It will be through Patreon or some other platform because I want to guide people through techniques live so that I can make sure everyone is safe.
I know of someone who watched someone's video techniques online and then ended up hospitalized due to side effects. This is the challenge I have in putting something out publicly without knowledge of people's preexisting conditions and how to be available for people if something does happen.
Please stay tuned for the launch. If you are interested in being notified of when it's ready, feel free to sign up for our newsletter at thesomaticpt.com.
Hope to see you there!
What a calming, beautiful voice. Thank you for what you do! I appreciate a lot!!
Thanks so much for sharing your kind feedback with me! 🙂🙏🏼❤
Excellent video!
Thank you! I hope it was useful.
This is incredible work, THANK YOU.
Oh, thank you so much! I truly appreciate it 🙏🏼❤
I have watched dozens of hours of videos on RUclips regarding this topic and somehow have not come across this one until now. This is hands down the most concise video on RUclips on this topic. Although others do talk about it, some very in-depth, this video brings together concepts in such a straightforward way with graphics to help!
I started to put together some years ago that my anxiety was causing my body to lock up and become tense. I also slowly learned what triggers were and how to identify them. I eventually started to look into things like the HPA axis and thought I could somehow regulate that feedback loop with thought.
I knew from years ago that I had a high ACE score and needed to be proactive about doing something about it. I could also tell that over the years of intellectualizing my emotions, I was actually dissociating from my body and the present.
I watched many videos from Bessel van der Kolk and Gabor Mate and certainly learned a lot. However those videos can be very lengthy and not as clear and condensed as this while simultaneously presenting a therapeutic solution.
Thanks so much for sharing this feedback with me. I'm so glad this was helpful.
You may already know this, but just in case: Remember that ACE scores correlate with issues only if we do nothing about the trauma. We can live great lives even with high ACE score once we address the traumas.
Best wishes in your journey! 🙂🙏🏼
So helpful thankyou! Ive been watching tons videos on this subject but this video explained exactly what i needed to understand. Thankyou so much the graph really helped me understand where im trying to get to. Fantastic explanation. This was the missing piece of my understanding on what somatic experience does and is. Thanks again
I'm so glad it was helpful! Best wishes on your journey :)
This video deserves millions of views. So well organized and articulated. Thank you so much for your help.
Thank you so much 🙏🏼 It's my pleasure!
@@Nina.Goradia 🙂
thank you for this fantastic video.
In terms of conceptual understanding of such an experiential process... i always get so confused in the theory at 6:58.
The overwhelming response TECHNICALLY crosses the boundary of release.. so even with the explanation, it feels like there's more questions than answers. The thoughts that feed unending trauma or emotion then serve more of a defense from feeling, a distraction from the emotional overwhelm, but then makes me think that the threshold where energy releases is arbitrary or should definitely not have both green and purple. Unless release doesn't necessarily mean processing and I'm just interpreting it as such.
For your particular question about the purple line, it might help to think of it (though this is not accurate on the whole, it can help to conceptually understand this piece) as everything below the threshold being what's already stored in the body. At the threshold, only these emotioms are what get released.
Think of everything above the threshold (for the purple line only) as emotional charge that thoughts are creating in real time (not thoughts that are defending from feeling in this case...those would be compensatory thoughts. This is referring to thoughts which are believed that then create feelings. Again, there is more nuance and exceptions I could say about this, but start here.)
Let me know if that clears it up 🙂
@@Nina.Goradia In my experience we repeat our story to not feel our stored emotions. Every time we repeat our story, emotions are created in real time, and when felt through (or simply when not buying into the story) older stored emotions come to the surface?
I simply cannot thank you enough for this video. 10000% on point and so validating! Wow. I mean WOW I have been actively healing complex PTSD for the past decade, but it wasnt until this year that I discovered the somatic-polyvagal connection with all the trapped traumas in my body --- I greatly appreciate all of your wisdom, input, and resources. This just completely upleveled my healing game. Namaste. InnSaei
I'm so happy to hear the video was helpful to you! I wish you many blessings on your healing journey 🙂🙏🏼❤
So great--thank you!
You're very welcome :)
Thank you for an informative look inside.
My pleasure!
Excellent. I'm usually opposed to formulaic approaches but this makes things very clear.
Thank you 🙏🏼 I'm glad to hear that!
This was valuable! Thank you!
I'm glad to hear that! You're very welcome 🙂
This was great.I am a physiotherapist as well and I'm considering training to be SE practitioner. Thanks for sharing Nina. Would love to see more!
BaharAtilgan, Thank you. I will be making more in the upcoming months. Best wishes if you decide to pursue SE training!
The Somatic PT - Nina Goradia Thanks! Looking forward to future videos. Much love
New videos will release tomorrow!
Do you believe somatic experiencing (that act of staying in tune only with our body and its sensations/feelings as opposed to thought etc) is "the" only way to recovery overall or "a" way for healing that is helpful/necessary specifically in the trauma releasing context?
The question comes from a place of wondering where you believe changing our beliefs/thinking patterns (like with CBT) falls into the scheme.
If you are able, let me know if I have gathered this correctly from your awesome video 🙂 : Both thinking properly and somatic experiencing are important in their own ways. A better perspective/thinking style leads you to stop creating more emotional pain in what you've already been through and events moving forward. The somatic experiencing is what allows you to release trauma that has been stored in the body and become more proficient at allowing your emotions to flow without storing them in the body in future situations. Thank you!
You are exactly correct! The bottom box in the trauma flow chart is SE and the top box has some CBT plus Non Dual awareness way of viewing experience. Great integration of the information!
Greetings from India, Amazing explanation and soo valuable. I heartily Thankyou🙏
You're most welcome! So glad it was helpful to you 🙂🙏🏼
Very interesting. Thank you.
Sure, thanks for watching!
Great!! Thank you. Wonderful explanation
You're very welcome! I'm glad to hear it resonated with you 🙂🙏🏼
This is helpful, thank you ☺️
The_Jedi_ Priestess: Glad it was useful!
Great video - thanks!
Thank you!
Jai Ho Nina ji, perfect explanation of trauma in body!! all the best to you
Aw, thank you! It's a work in progress :)
Amazing video! I finally really understand SE!! Thank you so much! Im gonna look for an SE practitioner in my area. Greeting from the Netherlands 🇳🇱
I feel happy to hear this!! Best wishes on your healing journey 🙂🙏🏼
Thanks so much for this content
It's my pleasure :)
Amazing explanation
Thanks, glad it was useful!
This is amazing!
Thank you! 🙏🏼
You explained trauma very well!!!
Thank you! I hope it was useful 🙂🙏🏼
Awesome
Thanks. Glad to hear it helped!
Amazing!!!
The main reason why I want to re-experience the traumatic emotions again is because when I dont Im scared im going to experience it again, I'm scared that its because i've come to form a positive association with the fear because i've been feeling it so much a nd/or it blocks me from feeling pleasure and that I'm scared that I've learnt to block out emotions so ive become repressed.
How do I solve this?
That's a good question Ophelia. If you think there's a positive association with fear and repression, you'll most likely need to work with an SE practitioner near you to help untangle that in the individual way it was formed for you. It will probably take a few sessions. It's a bit more complex than just fear itself, so I'd work with someone who can guide you. Best wishes in healing!
@@Nina.Goradia Thanks Nina.
This is so clear and helpful. Thank you!
I'm so glad to hear that! You're very welcome 🙂
@@Nina.Goradia I am an OTA student, former preschool teacher, pastor's wife and CPTSD survivor and wanting to incorporate trauma informed care into my OT practice and vocation. This helps me on many levels ❤
@@lfrizelle3535 So wonderful! Thank you for all your service to the world 🙂🙏🏼❤
wow so, so, so good. It all makes sense now
Thank you! Glad it is clear 🙂🙏🏼
Good one nicely explained
Thank you!
Drop the stories! Feel your feelings - flight or flight response. Move on. Don’t trap trauma as energy in the body. Really clear talk Bless 🙏🏾💪🥊
You've got it! Thanks for your kind comment 🙏🏼
super helpful thank you xx
Sure, I'm so glad!
Wow so good thank you
Thanks. You are very welcome!
Fantastic presentation - very clear & informative. What if it's the other way around to psychosomatic? What if the sensations & emotions felt in the body are from a physical source, like PMS/PMDD/ME, etc, manifesting themselves as psychological? How to disentangle what is from a physical cause & what is coming from an emotional/psychological source? I suffered psychological trauma since a young age, born an HSP, but symptoms started manifesting themselves at age 14 when my menstrual cycle first began - it's my belief the monthly hormonal fluctuations had a great effect on my psychological & emotional well-being as symptoms of depression, etc. were evidently cyclical. However, I still suffer symptoms (not now cyclically) of depression, panic attacks, fatigue, confusion & memory loss even though I am through the menopause at age 60. I have been diagnosed with ME & Fibromyalgia, & have Scheurman's disease in my spine since a riding accident at age 12. I am also diabetic, & not eating right (in conjunction with the amount of energy I expend - ME & Fibro are energy-sapping illnesses) can have the effect of worsening symptoms. It's a real conundrum, it seems.
Thank you Nicky! And thanks for sharing some of your journey with us. I'm really sorry to hear to hear of the suffering you have endured for so long. What a coincidence that you bring up this topic because I have been thinking about it all week.
I haven't yet read this anywhere, but my personal sense is that the body goes through fight or flight reactions due to subtle physical stimuli in the body as well. This can include hormone balance as you mentioned, toxins, vitamin and mineral deficiencies, eating foods we are allergic to, lack of deep sleep, etc. These constant fight or flight reactions can deplete the adrenals and cause deep exhaustion.
Because we cannot escape our biology through only addressing traumas and emotions, it's very important that we support the physical body as much as possible since they both reinforce each other.
Thank you for the thought provoking question! I may make a video about this topic as I do more research. Best wishes to you on your healing journey.
Nina
Great explanation
Thanks, glad you liked it!
Great stuff
Thank you!
@@Nina.Goradia Do you offer courses and coaching? If yes, can you share the URL. Thank you I’m interested in your style of explaining this topic and would like to explore deeper.
@@SilviaIsachsen Yes, I offer 1-on-1 online sessions. Planning for a course, but probably not for about a year. To get started for sessions, you can fill out forms at thesomaticpt.com/forms. Once we receive them, we'll contact you to book a 15 minute complimentary consultation where you can ask questions and we'll go from there. I'll look out for your name :)
thank you.
You're welcome!
How I wish I found out about this sooner. I am going 28 but I have lived most of my years in my head... I thought I was just sad and that's my nature but I've actually been responding to traumas
I'm glad you found it now 🙂 Most of us are learning this material as adults since we were simply never taught about our feelings or given resources for resiliency. See if it might resonate that your true nature is peace, truth, joy, love. Everything else could be our experience when we believe a delusion, are fighting our feelings, identifying with thoughts or feelings, or have stored trauma. Best wishes to you on your healing journey 🙏🏼❤
@@Nina.Goradia May I just ask if it is truly possible that we can heal from our traumas completely and become a new person?
@@danter1126 Yes, it's very possible to heal from trauma. However, you would return to your original self plus with the wisdom gained from trauma. You won't become a new person, but rather return to the real you.
@@Nina.Goradia That sounds great. I hope to see more of your videos :)
Wish health insurance covered this treatment..I have been suffering for decades.
If you can find a licensed mental health therapist within state lines (if in the US), sometimes it is covered!
This is very informative, I had trouble with understanding , because its new, I know I would benefit from this type of thetepy, because I get so trapped in emotions that I can't get my logical mind to cluck in
Thanks for your comment Nora. This can take some time to marinade. The other videos on the channel are shorter and break this information down in smaller chunks, so may be useful. Good luck on your journey!
Most of us , dont even know our own traumas
I really love it when you explained the trauma flowchart "thoughts created emotions, and emotions suppressed into our cellular tissues caused lots of problems. SE works aiming at changing people's thoughts" Does any book or article of somatic experiencing mention this? I bought but didn't remember it explained this part. thank you!
Actually, SE works on releasing emotions stored in the body. This trauma flow chart is a combination of SE and other trauma healing modalities I've studied.
After practicing pure SE for 2 years, I noticed people sometimes came back with their traumas returned. I realized but not addressing thought patterns, people can recreate the same felt sense of trauma they had before.
So I've since combined modalities and observed much quicker and longer lasting results. The bottom box in the trauma flow chart is SE, while all the rest are other modalities.
Hope this clarifies it and thanks for tuning in 🙂🙏🏼
@@Nina.Goradia thanks! and I totally agree with your trauma flow chart! great job!
@@greenmaple7496 Thanks so much 🙂🙏🏼
Thx you
You're welcome!
Uncouple fear from the freeze.....then you will allow yourself to feel through the freeze.
PIEPIE, Exactly!
Is this separating the “story” from the freeze (body sensations)?
@@Smokillo Yes. What usually happens is, as the sensations come, and we, by habit, start to think very negatively which brings lots of fear. Fear creates resistance , tightening of the somatic self, so the sensations don't get processed and stay trapped in the body. The tension and psychic energy stay there. The body is doing us a favor by holding it there, because if we felt it all at once it would be too much. So we must practice feeling a little at a time. So...when the sensations start to come, practice being curious and loving. Say to yourself....ooh...what do I feel? Sometimes you can talk to yourself like a baby. You can say...ohh...what are you feeling? Where is it? Reassure the baby (yourself) that it's just a feeling and that you will be ok. And you can observe your body and see what you're feeling. usually it is things like...great tension, heat, sharp pain, pulsating....and along with this come SOMATIC THEMES...such as...I feel like I am dying, I can't breathe, I'm being crushed, I can't move, It's all my fault, I will never be loved, I'm all alone, etc. This is different for every person. So the practice is to allow a little at a time. Practice allowing yourself to have the feeling wash over you. If we feel too much...we will be overwhelmed by the feeling and it is possible to completely dissociate again. we don't really want that because it's too stressful of an event, so that's where the practice comes. Like for example....right now you can say...my back is very tight. Put all of your attention on your back and breathe into your belly deeply. Allow yourself to feel the tension in the back. Give it your full attention. Practicing this myself...I have noticed that my flashbacks have decreased in severity. They used to last for days....now they can last for hours or even minutes. I am learning to self regulate my nervous system. This is something that is supposed to be taught to us when we're very young by our parents. But, people who never have secure attachments get traumatized. Another suggestion: Anxiety uses up magnesium in the body. without magnesium our capacity to feel is greatly reduced. Try eating lots healthy dark green vegetables. One thing I do is have frozen brocolli or spinach, bananas, milk, honey and cinnomon in a smoothie everyday. It tastes great to me...and also...over time I am building magnesium in my body and increasing my capacity to feel. Ooh and one more thing. Having or developing a secure attachment with someone...someone you can trust also builds your capacity to feel. Hope this helps.
PIEPIE thank you. So by having less magnesium, what do we “feel less” of? Do we just become numb? It’s not easy fishing out an old buried emotion/feeling and “re-feeling” it again and sending it out forever. I think my stuck feelings are shame, anxiety(fear), and I also exhibit a strange symptom during sexual situations (numbness), I think that has to do with trauma?
@@Smokillo without proper nutrition and water we will not have the same capacity to feel through traumas, feelings, like an athlete cannot run or jump as far without right nutrition. good rest is important too. Just something to keep in mind. Try to be as balanced as you can. The numbness is the freeze.The numbness is your friend. It is protecting you from uncomfortable feelings. The feelings are waiting beneath the numbness. We dont want to be numb anymore, we want to feel again...so start by allowing the numbness. you can say out loud...I allow you feeling of numbness or tightness...I allow you. whatever we resist will get stuck....so we must practice to allow. practice a little at a time. be gentle. Numbness during intimacy is usually a result of trauma, yes...it means that at one time the sensations were too much....so the body froze them to save the person. Also as I previously mentioned...attunement and secure attachment with another person can be really helpful. but this has to be a safe ad healthy relationship. if it is toxic...one could just be re traumatized.
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So kind. I'm glad it resonated.
I just saw this video, great, thanks. I have severe trauma (DPDR, sleep apnea, chronic pain, insomnia, anxiety, depression). Do you do Skype consultations? I’m in South America.
Sorry to hear you are going through all this. I do video consultations through doxy.me. It is just as easy to use as Skype, but is encrypted for privacy. I will send you the instructions before the consultation. Feel free to email me through the website and we can set something up.
What about when a person triggers a “trauma” does one at that moment try to feel it in their body, but not overly express (such as screaming, saying negative things, etc)
It's ok to express what is naturally coming up if we are not hurting someone. You can still set a boundary and say you need some time to yourself (can leave the situation and scream in the car and express those thoughts).
Also, we want to only express what is there and then not to keep indulging by continuously feeding it with our thoughts/mind. Turn the attention to the body and then allow it to express. Make sure to put the story of what just happened on hold as much as is possible so it can release. Otherwise, the thoughts and emotions will keep reinforcing each other.
Thank you so much for this, I feel this will really help. I've been through so much loss and stress in my life and I'm only in my 20s.
Forgive me though I don't know how to start it off. I have all the traumas in my memory, but not sure how to relieve myself of each one if not by going through them. I want to do it safely and as you say befriend each emotion, but I don't know how. Perhaps I just need to think about what you said more? I dunno. Also what do I do if I'm in an awkward situation where I feel too embarrassed to full pelt cry in front of someone? and even more embarrassed to look weak (in my eyes) in front of someone by saying I need some time to myself?
Thanks for your comment. I hope this can help you too! I would start with this video: ruclips.net/video/WhgP-WKeyKI/видео.html
Near the end of the video, it teaches you the basics of how to identify the emotions in the body.
Another exercise to identify the emotions can be found here: ruclips.net/video/MH_6nM3dcF4/видео.html
These are just a beginning exercises though and good for general emotional awareness. However, for trauma, it's best to work with a practitioner if possible so as to not retraumatize oneself. Trauma occurs when we don't have enough resources to feel an emotion all the way through. That's why when we revisit the trauma, we need to bring more resources than when we left with. So having guidance is really important. There are Somatic Experiencing Practitioners who may be local to you or who can work with you online.
Remember it's normal to feel emotions and asking for a few minutes to yourself is reasonable. We have just been taught in society that this is something to be embarrassed about, but it's actually what makes us human and gives us all the good qualities of empathy, compassion and kindness. We can feel through emotions later in the day if we couldn't at the moment.
I hope this helps and wish you all the best on your healing journey!
@@Nina.Goradia Thanks ever so much 🙂
@@CrypticHowl You're welcome! :)
I watched this some months back and it made noooo sense.
This is honestly so well explained however, once I started subtly feeling again this made sense.
I have a question tho, I deal with a. Lot of dissociation and somatic sensations where I’m not sure if I’m feeling it’s just a harsh somatic sensation without a feeling so that’s hard to process.. why do you do with people there?
Thanks for your comment! I think the harsh sensations you're feeling might be more concentrated forms of emotions. They can feel stronger like that the more they've been repressed and when there's not enough capacity in the body.
I would try to resource more throughout the day (see my video on physical resourcing techniques) to provide more space for the emotions to come up so they don't have to compress. Hope that makes sense! Best wishes 🙂🙏🏼
@@Nina.Goradia thank you! Is that technique a for of healing trauma? I’m trying ti learn how to by myself with SE
@@arcadiadragoons5467 Yes, it will create the foundation for being able to heal. Check out: ruclips.net/video/3loqLgbbB-4/видео.html
But it sounds like you may need to find an SE practitioner near you or online if possible after practicing this.
Dear Nina
Are you the author of the Trauma Flowchart? I use it in my work as a psychologist every day and I’m a big fan of it! Best regards from Switzerland
Hi Katja, that's amazing to hear! Thanks for sharing 🙏🏼 I feel happy to hear it's been helpful in your practice 😊 I would love to ask you a question about this if you are open to emailing me at thesomaticpt@protonmail.com. Hope to hear from you and best wishes!
Oh yes, I am the author of it 🙏🏼 It is a combination of my training in Somatic Experiencing (bottom box), Non-duality (all the boxes), plus my personal insights/experiences along the journey 🙏🏼
I was just curious if I might be able to put your comment on my website as a testimonial? Feel free to let me know and I could put it with or without your name. Or initials. Thanks for your consideration 🙏🏼😊
I have so much unresolved trauma, I hope and pray somatic experiencing could help me. I feel desperate
I hope and pray it helps you too. So many people have benefited after trying many other modalities. Remember there is always hope! Also, you may want to check out the root cause protocol designed by Morley Robbins. It helps rebalance minerals and many people have healed PTSD this way also. And the protocol can be downloaded for free on his website. Best wishes! 🙏🏼
@@Nina.Goradia thank you so much for responding, having any type of resource definitely gives me hope. My brother passed in 2017 and it’s been what feels like a constant struggle since. Hoping for the best
@@matthewjones7167 I'm glad you are feeling hope with the resources. Remember there is always hope. I've been through something similar with a death in my family and I'm really sorry to hear about your brother. Please make sure you keep reaching out to the people around you for support, a therapist, or online support groups. In times like this, we need interaction with kind people...probably every single day. I wish you much healing and peace for your heart 🙏🏼
I have a question, what about if a SEP is mostly making you do the exercises and doesn’t really address the trauma (going through it and do the completion like Peter Levine says, etc)? Aren’t the exercises such as orientation only for creating safety in your system to THEN work around the trauma? I’m so confused as it seems every SEP has a different approach
Great question and I'm sorry to hear about the confusion. It's true every SEP has a different approach due to being trained by different instructors plus often blending it with other approaches. I tell my clients that they should feel a difference after almost every session, but I blend SE with other modalities to make SE work quicker and more noticeably.
Many of the exercises are in fact for resourcing and creating safety in the system, but some of them are for actual working of the trauma like pendulation and titration. If you want to try a couple sessions with me, let me know. Ultimately, you need to feel like you are improving. I worked with many SEP's until I found someone who could really guide me and I felt a difference within a few sessions. Best wishes in your healing.
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Somatic experience didnt help me. Will Wim HOF method heal PTSD response ?? Thanks for reply.
It may help, but it would be good to see a professional. Other things that may help are EMDR and brain spotting with a therapist. Good luck!
Does "feeling it to heal it" work with physical pain like a hurt calf?
Usually only for the part of the pain that is our emotional reaction to the pain. We must also examine our beliefs about pain.
There are yogis in the Himalayas who are able to undergo surgery without pain because they have trained themselves all the way to no resistance to pain, but for our practical purposes, I would suggest what I've stated here.
This is a huge prejudice all have the overthinking of trauma. Nit at all, I'm too busy to think about it, but no not allow yourself to grieve properly it's surpressed anger and it's causing burn-out when your always kind of overwhelmed then it comes just a tear drop or small trigger and it's one too much making the cup break up. I am reflective but still i need to ask myself what the underlying reason is why small things throw me totally off the balance
I hear you. As we allow and accept feelings, we have less build up that tips us over. You might like this video on integration: ruclips.net/video/p_GVtCVb_-U/видео.html
Is there a way to contact you for help?
Sure, I offer 1-on-1 counseling. Just send us forms at thesomaticpt.com/forms and we will contact you 😊👍🏼
Have you ever helped someone over come epilepsy? I feel it's an emotional issue for the specific case I'm asking about.
I personally have not worked with epilepsy, but have worked with other neurological conditions that have benefitted from SE. It is worth a try if you think it has some emotional origin.
Where are you located.
I'm in the US, but my practice is at full capacity at this time. In case you might be looking for a practitioner, I have recommended a practitioner on my website or people can go to directory.traumahealing.org to find a practitioner in their area. I will be offering group sessions in 2021.
What's your website?
Sure, it's thesomaticpt.com
Are there videos on somatic experiencing practices that are guided and can be done alone at home?
Yes, please see the somatic experiencing exercises playlist for introductory exercises. If things are too much for you to handle to stay safe or if you want to go deeper to heal traumas, please see an SEP or other professional for 1-on-1.
@Nina.Goradia is it possible to do a individual session with you ?
OK nice. What do I have to do to get an individual session with you?
@@nawrasdarwish5394Absolutely. To get started with me, you can fill out forms at thesomaticpt.com/forms and we will contact you to schedule once we receive them. Will look out for your form!
@@nawrasdarwish5394 My phone seems to be glitching. See if a comment came above this one with the link to fill out forms to get started and let me know or I will resend :)
Question.. with psychosomatic disorders.. how do you ‘target’ the underlying trauma, especially if someone comes with many issues? Do you use the symptom itself, say back pain, fibromyalgia, etc, and ride the wave back, so to speak, to the main feeling causing it?
Yes, the symptom itself or a memory can access it.
@@Nina.Goradia how exactly is that done?
Think of a memory and feel through what sensations arise in the body.
@@Nina.Goradia what if i dont have any though? like personally, i deal with chronic lower back pain, and there's always some discomfort, and altogether pain with certain movements (symptoms of TMS) and im quite positive its from emotions/trauma etc. However what does the process look like of finding the root cause when the reasons are so subconscious? What does that process tend to look like, from psychosomatic to integration/healing?
@@arcadiadragoons5467 This is a very long answer for a RUclips comment. You can read more about this all through my website. It is also individual for each person and I would suggest working with an SEP near you who can get to know your individual situation and nervous system.
If there is a memory that keeps coming back... what does that mean? like, when I was 6 my mom threw a full bowl of cereal at me. I have that memory pop up a couple of times a week. And then there is one I have every single day. When I was 4, I woke up and saw a spirit at the foot of my bed.. and I froze. I couldn’t think, I couldn’t speak... I just stared at her. Would having these memories invade my thoughts so regularly indicate that I was traumatized by these experiences?
Missy Sterling, thanks for sharing your experiences. When looking at the trauma flow chart, it sounds like you have some emotions repressed/stored in the body (3rd box). These stored feelings then trigger the thoughts and images (arrow on the right side up to the 1st box). This is hard to work with on a cognitive level, but can be cleared experientially on the body level. Once the root (the felt sense of the experience) is cleared, the thoughts and images usually go away on their own. The only exception I'm aware of is if there is some new conditioning that developed along with the thoughts and images that has reinforced it. Then, we need to disprove those thoughts as well to clear the cycle. It can be done!
I also need think I need to be re -conditioned , or de-conditioned ....
Because of the past or present Conditioning that’s done , is hard to change your conditioning , on your own without any appropriate professional help or support 🙏🏻👍🏻
Kaz 78, I hear you. I personally now go for deconditioning, as our true nature can then emerge without agenda from our mind/ego. Best wishes on your healing journey.
The Somatic PT - Nina Goradia
Thank you for replying & thanks for your advice ❤️🙏🏻
Thank you for replying! I have cleared them out with breath work and yoga. Still have A LOT OF space that has been occupied by old emotions that got stuck in my body, but I have created enough space now that I know what to do for my body when these things come up. It’s so simple. I have had these tools with me all along, I just needed to know how to use them.
I need to release trapped emotions-- perhaps it's trauma. Are you near San Diego or know of a practitioner here?
I work with people via online sessions so distance is not an issue. It is very effective, but if you're looking for someone in person, you can google Somatic Experiencing directory and then search for a local practitioner there. I'm usually on the east coast. Good luck whatever you decide!!
I suffer from depersonalization
I hope this will help and cure me
Do u have any advice?
I hope this information can help you too. I am not personally trained with working with depersonalization, so can only advise that you work with someone 1 on 1 who has experience with this. Perhaps you could share the information in this video with that person since most therapists haven't seen it presented in this way. I may get training in depersonalization at some point in the future since so many people have inquired about it. Best wishes to you on your healing journey 🙏🏼
@@Nina.Goradia thank you for the response
Yea I hope u do get training with it because not many doctors and pyschiatrist know about it and I know alotta people with depersonalization but thank you for the response
@@ASingh-ot5ci Yes, so many people are struggling with this and I hear you not many people are trained. I will message you here if and when I get trained. I hope you will find help soon and will put that wish out. Best wishes 🙏🏼
Can I have you as my personal life coach?
I have some openings for sessions in June if you want to fill out forms on the website.
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What do you think about me because l have a suicidal tendency and have a low self esteem how can l overcome my depressions?
Hi Helben, sorry to hear you are going through this. I would first make sure to get evaluated by a medical professional if you are having suicidal tendencies. Then, if it seems these tendencies are coming from believing limiting beliefs (top box in trauma flow chart), resisting present moment beliefs (middle box), or from old traumas where emotions have been trapped due to incomplete fight or flight responses (bottom box), I would seek help from a trained professional addressing these things. Usually, it's a mix of all 3 of these. Please remember there is always hope. I know countless people who have overcome suicidal tendencies by doing their internal work and getting to know themselves better. Best wishes to you on this journey 🙏🏼
@@Nina.Goradia l supposed having a psychologist to help me because l want to know about myself of who really am l and what l am afraid of. The psychologist have no idea on how to understand my self so that l try to tell you if there is a possibility to help me about my problem
@@helbenarnaiz2633 I hear you. Seeing a psychologist can be helpful in screening for if you need specific or immediate help for any suicidal tendencies. That part is out of my scope. However, if you are able to get evaluated by a therapist for this and continue to see them (if the suicidal tendencies are still current) while you are seeing me for sessions, I can likely help with self discovery, anxiety, depression, and physical symptoms. Please let me know if you have any other questions. Best wishes to you, Nina
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What's the support for lethargic depression being a parasympathetic thing? That seems to contradict all the literature I've seen.
I'm referring to parasympathetic shut down here. If you would like to share your email address, I can send you a couple diagrams about it.
There are different kinds of depression though and different fields refer to it differently. I'd love to learn what literature you are referring to so I can expand my awareness. Thank you.
@@Nina.Goradia Your video sent me on a research binge. Here's some of what I found so far. "In situations that are often associated with chronic stress, such as major depressive disorder, the sympathetic nervous system can be continuously activated without the normal counteraction of the parasympathetic nervous system. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/27640517
hyperactivity of HPA axis is one of the commonest neurobiological changes in depressive patients ... www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4790405/
Numerous studies have indicated higher levels of cortisol and abnormalities in cortisol regulation among depressed compared with nondepressed individuals …. depressed patients show slower recovery of cortisol levels in response to psychological stress than controls www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK215119/
@@billysunerson Thanks for sending these. While I respect these studies, the SE paradigm is a different one, which is based on the felt sense. I am sharing what we learned in my program for this paradigm for one type of depression. I could go into details like the first statement you cut/pasted where it says "*can* be continuously activated (vs conclusively) or it referring to major depressive disorder here, etc but I am really open to all new information, so I simply encourage you to be open to exploring in the felt sense and take what is true for you in your direct experience (vs only intellectually). Best wishes.
@@Nina.Goradia Helping clients with interoception is a big part of my clinical work and something I value highly. But my concern is that you seem to be rejecting the scientific literature in favor of a dogma. Our species advances through learning objective truth. Doctors used to believe in blood letting with leeches, it may have been "true for them." But it ended up killing people. Practice that is based on bad theory can be fatal. Freud was in love with his psychosexual paradigm, it may have felt "true for him," but that didn't make it true or a very useful tool for psychotherapy. If there's any scientific evidence that lethargic depression has to do with an over active PSNS response, I am very eager to read it. I'm just seeking knowledge.
Aha! I think I figured it out. After further research, the graph makes sense. I understood it to mean that lethargic depression had PSNS activation alone. But what I wasn't keeping in mind was their opposite, reciprocal relationship. The lack of PSNS activation leaves the sympathetic to be uninhibited. This seems to fit with the literature.