It is a blessing that a Step Daughter wants you to introduce her as the Daughter. Most Kids do not want Anyone to call them their Daughter if they are not the biological Mom.
I have 3 adult step children and none of my own but dont call them my children...on their insistence coz it feels awkward to them so no blending there but it is their choice.
4 года назад+11
I never wanted to step on the biological mother's toes. That was her daughter and she had some insecurities of me trying to take her place as a mother.
This is so true. My family is blended and our parents never referred to any of us as "step" or "half". We are just their kids and they are just our parents. It's not always easy. My birth mother had a very difficult time accepting my other mom as being my mom too. At 7 years old I stood up to my birth mother punishing me physically about calling my other mom "Mommy". I calmly explained that she does all the things a mom does for her child and that she loves me just like I'm her own flesh and blood and I love her the same. My birth mother had to accept my reasoning. My other dad (her husband) is my dad too and his kids from his previous marriage are my sisters. When we had parent teacher night it was always nothing less than 4 parents attending...LOL! I am 46 years old and to this day I am grateful. Now that I have my own beautiful blended family I am forever blessed by the example my parents set!
Beautiful. I was raised in a blended family. Also my step father is white. I'm black so it's clear he's not my biological father but from day one he's treated me like his own children and refers to me as well as my other siblings as his daughters and son. My mother raised me to give him no less than their respect I give her and my biological father. In the end I can honestly say he's a great parent and our blended family has been such a blessing.
Wow,how amazing!! Thank you for sharing! I'm about to marry a man who has four children in their 40's,lots of grandchildren and great grands! I was feeling kinda selfish for calling all of them mine,but now I don't!!💙💙💙
I love this, I never pressed my "step" son to call me mom out of respect for him and his mom but one day he came and asked me, "can I call you mom?" That was my favorite moment between us and it made me tear up. To this day I always say that he's my son and I have 2 kids.
That's Beautiful & necessary to care so much about what all the children feel. Moreso, what a Blessing it is that children whom you love, but are not biological to you want to be called your child & don't find it necessary for anyone to know otherwise. Amen!
I didn't know Tamela was at the hospital when she was born. That is cool. I think it was important for them to share their take on this subject matter. Hopefully people will be receptive to what they had to say.
@@UNI-23No he didn't. Back in the day he was messing around with two women. His two oldest are 3 months apart. One woman let him know she was pregnant. The other woman did not let him know she was pregnant. Fast forward 5 years later. He is married to Tamela and has kids with her, that is when the other lady from his hoe faze, ups and let him know of the child's existence. She even stated in another interview, "she knew he was messing around with two women." Tamela was not one of his women back then, they were just friends. She was in a relationship with someone else herself, like engaged.
So true as a stepmom, I got their permission to do this before I did it. Did not want to be perceived as trying to take their moms place. Some children does not handle it well
I think the goal perhaps behind saying stepson or daughter usually starts with a desire to respect the other parent. Often the other parent is against it and desires not to be "replaced" in any way. I only see this now some 40 yrs later. As a young girl I felt a sense of rejection from my stepmother that she introduced me as, Bill's daughter...or my step daughter. I automatically recieved or interpreted it as I was less than. She didn't want to see me as her daughter, was the seed planted deep within my spirit. And the way she said it..so matter of fact, like make no mistake type, tone. That put the nail in the coffin. I was very young and felt all of that. However, perhaps a goal was to not dishonor my mother. At her funeral a couple years ago, I was not mentioned in the obituary. By that time, she and my father were divorced. You have to wonder tho, in some manner, if its difficult to really accept the children, perhaps they dont truly love their mate. I don't know. Im single with a desire to remarry and the children part is a real challenge. It takes a real searching of the heart I'll say. This has been a part of my experience I guess for a reason. God help me to love seamlessly the children of my mate if he has any. Itd be easier maybe if he doesn't have any, but those chances are slim. But, the upside is, I'm a bit older now, so they could be adults. A little different. Overall, this is a thing that requires grace and a willing heart. God help us.
I could not call a child my son or daughter that I did not birth. Just like I could not call anyone else mom except MY mother. It just doesn't feel right and seems like it would be a slight to the birth mother who did all the work.
I HATE TO HEAR PARENTS SAY THAT. IT INSTANTLY SEPERATES THE CHILD....I HATE THAT AND I ALWAYS CORRECT IT. IM LIKE U FEED AND NURTURE THIS KID RIGHT? THEY ARE LIKE YEA. THEN ILL SAY THEN THATS YOUR KID BRO.
4 года назад+4
I never wanted to step on the biological mother's toes. That was her daughter and she had some insecurities of me trying to take her place.
@ that's where co parenting comes in it's not about you or the mother but the child trying to feel as normal as possible in the middle of the chaos always remember that I'm sure you know now thanks
4 года назад+3
@@stephaniemiller5165 Sometimes not all parties are emotionally healthy/mature enough to co-parent in a healthy, nurturing, loving way.
I love Tamela's heart as a mother. I wish more children and parents would do this.
It is a blessing that a Step Daughter wants you to introduce her as the Daughter. Most Kids do not want Anyone to call them their Daughter if they are not the biological Mom.
I have 3 adult step children and none of my own but dont call them my children...on their insistence coz it feels awkward to them so no blending there but it is their choice.
I never wanted to step on the biological mother's toes. That was her daughter and she had some insecurities of me trying to take her place as a mother.
This is so true. My family is blended and our parents never referred to any of us as "step" or "half". We are just their kids and they are just our parents. It's not always easy. My birth mother had a very difficult time accepting my other mom as being my mom too. At 7 years old I stood up to my birth mother punishing me physically about calling my other mom "Mommy". I calmly explained that she does all the things a mom does for her child and that she loves me just like I'm her own flesh and blood and I love her the same. My birth mother had to accept my reasoning. My other dad (her husband) is my dad too and his kids from his previous marriage are my sisters. When we had parent teacher night it was always nothing less than 4 parents attending...LOL! I am 46 years old and to this day I am grateful. Now that I have my own beautiful blended family I am forever blessed by the example my parents set!
Beautiful. I was raised in a blended family. Also my step father is white. I'm black so it's clear he's not my biological father but from day one he's treated me like his own children and refers to me as well as my other siblings as his daughters and son. My mother raised me to give him no less than their respect I give her and my biological father. In the end I can honestly say he's a great parent and our blended family has been such a blessing.
Wow,how amazing!! Thank you for sharing! I'm about to marry a man who has four children in their 40's,lots of grandchildren and great grands! I was feeling kinda selfish for calling all of them mine,but now I don't!!💙💙💙
@@lavenderdisco How beautiful.💙💙
I love this, I never pressed my "step" son to call me mom out of respect for him and his mom but one day he came and asked me, "can I call you mom?" That was my favorite moment between us and it made me tear up. To this day I always say that he's my son and I have 2 kids.
That's Beautiful & necessary to care so much about what all the children feel. Moreso, what a Blessing it is that children whom you love, but are not biological to you want to be called your child & don't find it necessary for anyone to know otherwise. Amen!
I didn't know Tamela was at the hospital when she was born. That is cool. I think it was important for them to share their take on this subject matter. Hopefully people will be receptive to what they had to say.
They were just friends when his daughter was conceived/born so they weren’t looking at the birth in that manner.
He had a baby on her while they were together. There is an interview where they discussed this, when someone brought child support papers to the door.
@@UNI-23No he didn't. Back in the day he was messing around with two women. His two oldest are 3 months apart. One woman let him know she was pregnant. The other woman did not let him know she was pregnant. Fast forward 5 years later. He is married to Tamela and has kids with her, that is when the other lady from his hoe faze, ups and let him know of the child's existence. She even stated in another interview, "she knew he was messing around with two women." Tamela was not one of his women back then, they were just friends. She was in a relationship with someone else herself, like engaged.
Powerful! That’s why everyone just love the Manns. 🛐💟✝️🤍💯🌹❤️
Tamela is just beautiful. Inside and out.
Children are blessings 🙏🏾
I appreciate this and look to us this in my own relationship.
This is so important!!
So true as a stepmom, I got their permission to do this before I did it. Did not want to be perceived as trying to take their moms place. Some children does not handle it well
Great video !!! Thank you !!! That was a genuine message.
Where can I watch the full interviews of all these beautiful couples?
I know the show is on the Oprah Winfrey Network. Maybe you can catch it on demand or something.
@@ladennayoung2939 ok. Thank you. I'll have to look it up.
Very great point here👏
I think the goal perhaps behind saying stepson or daughter usually starts with a desire to respect the other parent. Often the other parent is against it and desires not to be "replaced" in any way. I only see this now some 40 yrs later. As a young girl I felt a sense of rejection from my stepmother that she introduced me as, Bill's daughter...or my step daughter. I automatically recieved or interpreted it as I was less than. She didn't want to see me as her daughter, was the seed planted deep within my spirit. And the way she said it..so matter of fact, like make no mistake type, tone. That put the nail in the coffin. I was very young and felt all of that.
However, perhaps a goal was to not dishonor my mother. At her funeral a couple years ago, I was not mentioned in the obituary. By that time, she and my father were divorced. You have to wonder tho, in some manner, if its difficult to really accept the children, perhaps they dont truly love their mate.
I don't know. Im single with a desire to remarry and the children part is a real challenge. It takes a real searching of the heart I'll say. This has been a part of my experience I guess for a reason. God help me to love seamlessly the children of my mate if he has any. Itd be easier maybe if he doesn't have any, but those chances are slim. But, the upside is, I'm a bit older now, so they could be adults. A little different. Overall, this is a thing that requires grace and a willing heart. God help us.
Now that's deep.
Beautiful ❤️
You are.
I could not call a child my son or daughter that I did not birth. Just like I could not call anyone else mom except MY mother. It just doesn't feel right and seems like it would be a slight to the birth mother who did all the work.
then YOU don’t do it
I HATE TO HEAR PARENTS SAY THAT. IT INSTANTLY SEPERATES THE CHILD....I HATE THAT AND I ALWAYS CORRECT IT. IM LIKE U FEED AND NURTURE THIS KID RIGHT? THEY ARE LIKE YEA. THEN ILL SAY THEN THATS YOUR KID BRO.
I never wanted to step on the biological mother's toes. That was her daughter and she had some insecurities of me trying to take her place.
@ that's where co parenting comes in it's not about you or the mother but the child trying to feel as normal as possible in the middle of the chaos always remember that I'm sure you know now thanks
@@stephaniemiller5165 Sometimes not all parties are emotionally healthy/mature enough to co-parent in a healthy, nurturing, loving way.
@ it should be done until the child is mature enough and trust they will get there and understand u meant no harm.
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