If you appreciated this video, you might also be interested in the VOD of the 2.5 hr "Understanding Desire" livestream our members got last week! You can learn more about memberships at memberships.healthygamer.gg/ 💚
Dr. K what do you think of this. Because very intelligent people, can learn faster and for longer. They have to be more creative and shoot for learning more. Because, it is the only way it could lead them to stabilize the deppresion, anxiety, and insomnia.
Not really related to the video but I just saw doc for the citations. I don't know if you already had this idea or tested it but would a kind of "reverse citation" work for you. So have the list of studies and papers and add the [1], and then you can check the "videography" and [1]: "How to conquer the need to beat the meat".
Having this channel as a resource for help is such a blessing, I almost don’t realize how lucky I am sometimes. Maybe this channel didn’t exist 10 years ago (when I needed it), but it does now, and I’m thankful as hell for it.
@@Peayou...Hmm... I think just being grateful for small things and not to people is the key. Having decent health, being able to go places & do things, eating your favorite food, enjoying the weather. Small things.
Weirdly enough on the other side of the issue, removing wants is one way of setting yourself up on a path to depression and having to reconnect and ignite wants. This has been my therapy journey in trying to get out of a severe depressive episode. Not having wants makes you kinda dead inside and eventually you can be grateful for the little you have but it simply isn't enough to keep you going with a healthy mind.
When I see Dr K post a video, I DESIRE to click. But in all seriousness, what a great way of explaining such a universal principle. This concept has popped up all throughout human history in various philosophies, religions, and esoteric teachings and Dr. K is spitting that modern wisdom once again. The way I've heard the principal applied recently is to consciously avoid saying "I need/want (blank1)" And instead replace it with "I have (blank2)". Blank1 and blank2 are equivalent but not identical meaning blank2 is something you already have which satisfies the desire for blank1. In other words, It's a way of not only acknowledging and expressing gratitude for what you already have, but also acknowledging all the resources and possibilities at your fingertips you just have to reach out and grab. In short, by literally replacing "I need" with "I have" in your vocabulary, You kind of force yourself into your present circumstances which not only make you more grateful but also make you more aware of all the possibilities that go unseen when desires are your driving force.
7:00 I literally just hugged my 2yo gaming PC, smiling. You reminded me to appriciate little things. My whole life i couldnt afford such a thing and now i have it!
I need to do the same. I actually thought the other month how I couldn’t believe I was used to my setup. Insane pc with 3 monitors and top of the line peripherals, younger me would’ve died from excitement just seeing it
This is less about conquering desires and more about remaining happy in the face of the endless desires you face as a part of the human condition. By being grateful.
But I'm thankful he titled it that way because I may not have clicked as readily ...because the desire to be in control of my desires is larger than 'just' remaining happy and accepting I have to let go of as much desire as possible
What fi the solution is to learn how you already have everything within you? What if you can actually find joy in new ways with what you already have if you're creative enough?
My therapist taught me a grounding technique to battle anxiety last year called the 5 senses exercise. It's really easy, all you do is list 5 things you can see, 4 things you can feel, 3 things you can hear, 2 you can smell and 1 that you can taste. It's a mindfulness exercise to bring your brain back into the present. Something I've started to incorporate into this exercise is gratitude. So when I'm thinking about the things I can feel, I'll start to think about how I'm in my warm house and I'm grateful that I don't feel cold, that I don't feel any kind of pain from chronic illness or injury, that I don't feel hungry, that I can't smell any bad smells in my house, grateful that I can hear my furnace running, etc.
I gave up all of my bad habits overnight, a lot thanks to you Dr. K. I'm documenting it on my channel and in hopes of healing my shattered brain. Thanks for your inspo, cheers!
DIY and thrifting are my go-tos for extending pleasure from stuff. You might just get a table and some chairs at IKEA and call it a day, they'll just be furniture with very little contentment attached. The table I'm sitting at has been made by my husband with my help, we spent hours choosing finish, stain, dimensions, legs... And even more hours finally making the table. Every time I sit at this table i'm appreciating it and feel joy for such a successful project. The chair im sitting on is a designer chair I managed to thrift for 20% of it's original price. And i found a full set of six! It took me a long time to find and a road trip to pick them up from a rich lady that just got bored with them. Both the table and the chairs took effort to get, abd I found that stuff like that gives me joy for years. Hopefully decades. I know tqht DIY is a hobby in itself, but even thriving i found to give me the same kick pretty much every time i use the thing.
Dr. K and healthy gamer GG team, I hope you get unlimited parking spots ready for you, may you not have to wait in long lines, may you be recognized in restaurants and have them treat you for a good meal, and I hope we get to see more of you!! You dont understand how grateful I am with this channel!!!
This video was literally PERFECT for my weekend, especially using a food desire as an example. My hunger cues, and sugar desires always skyrocket a certain time in the month, pretty normal..the problem is though, that it's seemingly the ONLY time I struggle so hard with food noise and hunger cravings. Most of the time, unless I'm just insanely stressed out I can practice mindful eating habits, meditation, and nutritionally satiating foods and it's a winnable battle. But for some reason, during this week, it's like I'm fighting the end boss in the game at a half life energy pool. It's SOO MUCH HARDER. Hopefully your video today will help. Thanks Dr. K!
Dr. K, your message was exactly what I needed! I was feeling restless yesterday, comparing myself to others who seem ahead in their careers and finances. But your words were a balm to my soul. I feel a weight lifted, and I'm grateful to have started this journey of healing and growth. 2025 is all about refinement and progress for me!
@HealthyGamerGG I just wanted to say thank you from the bottom of my heart. Your educational, inspirational content is helping me to better understand myself and giving me the knowledge to communicate better with healthcare providers. You are a life saver... literally. Don't ever stop!
'Some people have everything and other people don't. But everything don't mean a thing if there's anything you want' Charles Wright (Express yourself). Wise words and a great song too!
This is perhaps the best RUclips video I’ve ever watched in my entire life. Not exaggerating. God has blessed me with the opportunity watch your video on my phone. I am grateful. Thank you for existing. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and wisdom.
My desire is to be a GIS Analyst. I have an interview for it on the 30th and have noticed I’m far unhappier and less centered when I focus on that. Thanks Dr K as usual
Nice, good luck with that! I'm on the same path myself :). Trying to be as skilled as I can while not being too focused on how high-paid or esteemed job I end up with.
Yep, there’s a difference between intellectually knowing something (Vidya) and actually knowing it from your subjective and lived experience (Jnana). Like reading romance novels vs being in a relationship. It’s not all hopeless keep learning and trying to apply the lessons from these videos and someday the lesson will stick.
I'm so happy and grateful that I've found this channel and that dr K is making all this videos: the amount of mental health benefit and improvement in my life that is caused of watching these videos is huge! And today I've just acqired a new skill. Thanks, dr K. Right now I'm studying at university to become a psychotherapist in Poland and I'm pretty sure that I'll use your wisdom as well as the stuff they teach me to help my future patients.
I recently set up my gaming set up to where I can play steam big picture mode on the couch and now I'm so appreciative of what a cozy setup I have when I want to relax instead of being mad I don't have one of those immaculate desk setups with the silly lights and the 6 plants and color coordinated everything. The having/wanting stance is such a good way to explain the two mindsets
I try to imagine how it would be without something I have, and my life without Dr K would be so much emptier and worse! Thank you so much, your help is priceless 💚
I have thanks to you awakened full Buddha consciousness. And I wanna thank you and have an interview, be part of your studies, and clarify all your questions. Lots of love and again/ thanks because without your contribution and work this wouldn’t have been possibles
Thanks for the video! Honestly its rare as heck for me to stumble across your channel which has mountains of content to improve myself. And its been a while since I watched an entire video without switching tabs/reading the comments so I'm glad I was able to put in the effort of not getting distracted, it will help. :)
Really good one. I just watched a Theory of Samsara video where he talks about the same thing so I feel like this is definitely something I need to hear and actualize
First time being so early but, might as well use it to say I appreciate your work Dr. K and the whole Healthy Gamer team y'all an amazing source of support! Keep it up, much love! 🙏
my desire is to get a job so i can be independent and truly move forward in life. as grateful as i am to have things in my life and happier than when i was employed. I feel trapped by my finances to do anything i really want to do. I wanna go bouldering, it's too expensive. I wanna go on dates, meet new people, all these require a significant investment which i simply can't afford financially or in terms of time as well.
Dr. K. Is there any way you can make a video exploring the "overactive pelvic floor"? I have always felt like i've struggled fully breathing into my belly, or that my belly was too tight to breathe fully into it. Plus I have ALWAYS had anxiety and depression, along with other symptoms I didn't even realize were symptoms. There are symptoms such as : not feeling like you've completed using the bathroom, always feeling some sort of tension, lower back pain, and other bowel issues can occur. It can even be the cause of said depression and anxiety .Now, growing up in a neglectful household and oftentimes holding my urine and poop to keep playing a video game, or simply because I didn't want to (not knowing any better) caused me to constantly tense. I do have ADHD and think this could be more common than even I think AFTER 22 YEARS of being on this planet, I have just now discovered how amazing and euphoric I feel when I am able to relax my pelvic floor. This has led to me to reducing the affect of my anxiety, which has permeated throughout my existence since I was a young boy. I also fell very hard on my tailbone, which I believe had an impact on my breathing and the way I treated that area in my body. Now I want to point out that I was also unique in the fact that I had to breathe through a nebulizer so i'd stop coughing at night. This taught me how to breathe wrong. Coupled with the fact that I had no resources or any form of understanding that a pelvic floor can remained tightened. Turns out you can also develop it with bad posture. I can't help but feel like this has been revolutionary for my life, I have always felt "wired" "uppety" or like i'm "running at max speed" even when I don't want to, often times I could not physically relax. This is Ironic because my entire life i've pretty much been sleep deprived and felt like i've dragged myself through most days. At least as a young teenager. This has made me realize why I feel so euphoric and like a different person after heavy abdominal breathing exercises. I may be out of my depth and misunderstand how big of a deal this is, but it has been a HUGE deal for me. Not to mention the effects it has on your sex life. I've come to wonder if a lot of sexual disfunction that men are dealing with actually stem from more than just pornography. I have been going mad with this information as it's honestly made me feel like a new man after every relaxation session I do. (Happy baby poses etc.) Forgive my punctuation, i'm relearning how to write. Even if this doesn't end up changing my mental health as dramatically as I am imagining, it is a start for me. A means of which I can feel like i'm finally getting control over my anxiety. Which has been a "slugfest" since I can remember. It is insane to me that "relaxing" my pelvic floor actually ends up tightening it further if I relax it too much. Now I could be in the realm of assumptions, but if we're all agreeing that the gut health = mental health and relaxing your pelvic floor be it meditation or yoga; helps with said gut issues. Then why am I not hearing more people address this issue? Is holding the bathroom more uncommon as a child than I think? Because you can activate you pelvic floor simply through prolonged anxiety and stress, which I know we all have a great deal of. Relaxed pelvic floor = relaxed demeanor (at least in my experience) Tl;dr; I have an overactive pelvic floor that has caused me issued since I was a boy. If you suffer from gut issues, anxiety, depression, sexual and bathroom issues. Please check if you are naturally clenching your pelvic area, it is supposed to be relaxed.
I’m lucky that my desires aren’t material - I do well with women, I am lucky I have great friends, a loving mother, and a solid career foundation. My desire is sobriety from chemicals, and I’ve found this desire to be soul-crushing… You desire the substance, and then desire to never desire the substance again, in an endless loop. Never wanted something AND wanted to NOT want something so strongly at the same time.
I actually feel so bad for people who didn’t get access to the internet and can understand how to master different aspects of life, life is TOUGH!! We have Dr K, praise jesus (or Buddha! :) ), these top tips help me navigate life and Dr K is always in a good mood! ☺️😊
@@RogerWilcoWTF Dr K doesn’t offer any pill, but encourages you to inspect every view of the world or “pill”, and approach it with understanding. You become very flexible, less judgemental and overall become more content. This makes you more successful and resilient in any endeavour.
I think I understand the basic idea a bit better now... but it's hard to maintain contentment with what you have when you're also dealing with the increasing fear of it being suddenly taken away. (Particularly if it's at the behest of persons who are doing it specifically to hurt you and/or enrich themselves. IYKYK......)
Meditation is also a powerful tool for reducing desires, but I think that goes without saying (if we're talking about someone who's been following this channel for a while). Anyways, this reminds me of a quote that I recently read from the book "Buddhism for dummies", which goes along the lines of: -'whenever we don't get something we want or get something we don't want, we suffer'.
14:51 this part about ambition. I was having conversation with my wife about the key to happiness is feeling content. Then she asked this exact question 😂. Yer a wizard, dr. K 😂.
My ex wife didn't understand this. She wanted everything and I was happy with very little. Her insatiable desires led us into a life of stress. Always having to work to maintain all these things that didn't even bring me any joy. All I wanted was a good relationship and peace. That's it. But I couldn't ever have any with her. Good thing she finally left. Now I can be content with the little I need.
Really would be interested in an additional 'angle' of this (which, maybe it's in the members' livestream?) about guilt associated with having desires and feeling content. I feel like these feelings can get highjacked or shut down by the guilt of feeling like you're already privileged and 'shouldn't' want things or if you do have them, that feeling content = selfishness.
Me watching this video becz i desire to have desires that will motivate me to chase jobs in my degree, like i feel content but then again i need to get money to keep life going coz one day my parents won't be able to support me, and if i go to a random corporate job of a call centre my mental won't survive coz social settings make me anxious and bring out my fears coz i am too sensitive and don't even know how i will react to what.
Firstly, great video, I am surprised how much clearer things are now Secondly, the artist community has an issue about looking at another artist's work and loosing all hope (I felt it myself when looking trough instagram, but I fought that feeling) I took up the mentality of "I have drawn for years and am *good enough* to where some people like my stuff, aces, but I'll make sure to take inspiration from some artists who's skill level isn't too far to reach" (Good luck if you are just starting out tho...especially if you are older) Now I realise that lots of artists hurt thenselves with their mentality, but they *DO respond well when I tell them "your lack of stisfaction is the only driving force that will make you better, don't hate your ambition" (Like you flipped their world...) But yea, I'm sure some greek guy said "ya should strive to need less, lad", been a great fan of his
This is still easier to do when you've already leveled up IRL - you've got the job, you've got the wife, the friends, enough money, no health problems, goals - aka living a normal life. Tell a stuck-in virgin with no job, no friends, no aim in life to enjoy what they have. I know that they should *do* that, but they won't. Easier to manage 3 desires when you got 3 things VS 5 desires and you got only 1 thing.
Technique suggestion for entering "having stance" and releasing dopamine: Spend some time alone describing good things that you have, that have happened to you, and that you've accomplished out loud. Imagine you are describing them to someone else who is excited for you.
That's why I needed all along, not some Alfa male, red pill, blue pill, "self improvemnt" BS Mental health, psychiatry, psychology, therapy, that's it's I wish I had this channel when I was a teen
I'm bing watching HealthyGamerGG videos, because I'm stressed out and have to complete an exercise sheet. Because of the topics I strugle with, I'm very focused on these videos and I forget what is happening right now, but watching Dr. K videos feels sometimes like real META. It is not like watching some shorts and getting lost in them. Here it is like watching a video, which describes my behavior in real time, so I can acknowledge it and change. Hahahahahahaha
Firstly, I'm not sure if "gratitude" is the best word to describe it, because it downplays (even totally ignores) your role in getting what you have. You should have gratitude for people that helped you, but can be proud with the fact that you earned it. Later word "content" is used, which I think works better then gratitude in terms of alternative to desire. Secondly - why not both? Why not be content with what you already have, but also desire to have more? Eventually you end up having a lot more things to be content about.
That's a contradiction, you cannot be content with what you already have, yet desire to have more. If you want more than what you already have, it means you are not content with what you already have. You're not "extra" content by having more things to be content with. If you only need one thing to be happy, requiring 100 things to be happy doesn't make you happier. In fact, requiring 100 things to be happy means you are liable to suffer when life inevitably changes and you lose half the things you needed to be happy.
@@richardmccabe2392 Then how do we make any progress in life? If I'm content with my body, then why would I have any motivation to get fit? If I'm content with my minimum wage job, when why would I finish my degree and get a better paying career? Are you advocating that we stay in less than ideal situations because we have to be content with what we have and can never desire more? Your comment is wrong even according to what Dr K said in the video. At 16:20 he says the problem isn't desire, it's the size of it. If the desire consumes us and causes us suffering, it's bad. But the point is not to eliminate desire completely. At 17:12 he says that as our contentment goes up, our capability to fulfill the desires that are actually important to us improves. So you can absolutely be content with what you have and still desire to have more. As long as your desires don't rule you.
@richardmccabe2392 i can think that where I already am is quite good or that I'm on the right track to getting there - in those terms I'm quite content. But things can always be improved and that's what I desire. Happiness isn't a on or off thing, but rather exists on a scale, you can be already on the positive, but yearn to go even higher. I don't have to be unhappy about the fact that my life isn't perfect.
Thank you so much for this video! Because of my desires I'm in so much depts now that I can't even afford the membership to watch the 2.5 HR version T.T
If you appreciated this video, you might also be interested in the VOD of the 2.5 hr "Understanding Desire" livestream our members got last week! You can learn more about memberships at memberships.healthygamer.gg/ 💚
Should focus on having this video! Stop membership desire!
Dr. K what do you think of this. Because very intelligent people, can learn faster and for longer. They have to be more creative and shoot for learning more. Because, it is the only way it could lead them to stabilize the deppresion, anxiety, and insomnia.
❤ Dr K..
Could you pls do a series on ASD..
Please make a video on monophobia🙏
Not really related to the video but I just saw doc for the citations. I don't know if you already had this idea or tested it but would a kind of "reverse citation" work for you. So have the list of studies and papers and add the [1], and then you can check the "videography" and [1]: "How to conquer the need to beat the meat".
Having this channel as a resource for help is such a blessing, I almost don’t realize how lucky I am sometimes. Maybe this channel didn’t exist 10 years ago (when I needed it), but it does now, and I’m thankful as hell for it.
Having stance. Nice.
the perfect comment
Same!!
Me too man, God bless DR. K for giving us quite a good amount of info on how our mind works and how to tackle it.
We're thankful to be here too 💚
I've never really appreciated how well structured your videos are, they're easy to understand and I love that there is always a tip to try
Woo-hoo! Our editing team rocks - super glad to hear that this video structure is working so well for you!
Damn, nice switch into having mode.
@@HealthyGamerGG i really loved the editing at 6:08 to 6:15
@@HealthyGamerGG I miss the intro music but appreciate that you keep doing your best edit team
@@Sh0n010:36 was great though, I paused and got a vocabulary lesson
DAMN the indian doctor on my monitor looking good today
Indeed! Black looks really good on him 👌
This is the explanation of the "gratitude" advice. The underlying feeling is to remove wants, and being grateful is one way to remove wants
But you can't force gratefulness. That's a trap people forget
Which is why he said to prolong the times where you already are feeling it because you can't when you're in the want stage@@Peayou...
@@Peayou... you can't force it, but you can give yourself more chances to be grateful and new thought patterns that might change your mind
@@Peayou...Hmm... I think just being grateful for small things and not to people is the key. Having decent health, being able to go places & do things, eating your favorite food, enjoying the weather. Small things.
Weirdly enough on the other side of the issue, removing wants is one way of setting yourself up on a path to depression and having to reconnect and ignite wants.
This has been my therapy journey in trying to get out of a severe depressive episode. Not having wants makes you kinda dead inside and eventually you can be grateful for the little you have but it simply isn't enough to keep you going with a healthy mind.
When I see Dr K post a video, I DESIRE to click.
But in all seriousness, what a great way of explaining such a universal principle. This concept has popped up all throughout human history in various philosophies, religions, and esoteric teachings and Dr. K is spitting that modern wisdom once again.
The way I've heard the principal applied recently is to consciously avoid saying "I need/want (blank1)" And instead replace it with "I have (blank2)". Blank1 and blank2 are equivalent but not identical meaning blank2 is something you already have which satisfies the desire for blank1. In other words, It's a way of not only acknowledging and expressing gratitude for what you already have, but also acknowledging all the resources and possibilities at your fingertips you just have to reach out and grab.
In short, by literally replacing "I need" with "I have" in your vocabulary, You kind of force yourself into your present circumstances which not only make you more grateful but also make you more aware of all the possibilities that go unseen when desires are your driving force.
“… more aware of all the possibilities that go unseen when desires are your driving force.” - Very well said, thank you for this.
How did you turn gratefulness into a damn algebraic equation
@@planetfinance999 😭right
7:00 I literally just hugged my 2yo gaming PC, smiling. You reminded me to appriciate little things. My whole life i couldnt afford such a thing and now i have it!
any fps boost ur noticing?
Congrats on the 2yo baby pc gamer
Congrats
Happy for you, bro
I need to do the same. I actually thought the other month how I couldn’t believe I was used to my setup. Insane pc with 3 monitors and top of the line peripherals, younger me would’ve died from excitement just seeing it
This is less about conquering desires and more about remaining happy in the face of the endless desires you face as a part of the human condition. By being grateful.
But I'm thankful he titled it that way because I may not have clicked as readily
...because the desire to be in control of my desires is larger than 'just' remaining happy and accepting I have to let go of as much desire as possible
The latter is how you do the former.
Please rewatch 17:39.
What fi the solution is to learn how you already have everything within you? What if you can actually find joy in new ways with what you already have if you're creative enough?
My therapist taught me a grounding technique to battle anxiety last year called the 5 senses exercise. It's really easy, all you do is list 5 things you can see, 4 things you can feel, 3 things you can hear, 2 you can smell and 1 that you can taste. It's a mindfulness exercise to bring your brain back into the present. Something I've started to incorporate into this exercise is gratitude. So when I'm thinking about the things I can feel, I'll start to think about how I'm in my warm house and I'm grateful that I don't feel cold, that I don't feel any kind of pain from chronic illness or injury, that I don't feel hungry, that I can't smell any bad smells in my house, grateful that I can hear my furnace running, etc.
Thanks for sharing, interesting exercise.
10:36 "pincey little" that extra touch to reassure Dr. K's vocabulary by the editing team 😭
...but the definition is from Urban Dictionary, not Oxford one :)
That is a lovely detail! 😊
Sometimes you just drop these lil videos about something I really need to hear. I thank you and the universe
I gave up all of my bad habits overnight, a lot thanks to you Dr. K. I'm documenting it on my channel and in hopes of healing my shattered brain. Thanks for your inspo, cheers!
I like that your English is easy to understand and you express yourself in understandable words.
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DIY and thrifting are my go-tos for extending pleasure from stuff. You might just get a table and some chairs at IKEA and call it a day, they'll just be furniture with very little contentment attached.
The table I'm sitting at has been made by my husband with my help, we spent hours choosing finish, stain, dimensions, legs... And even more hours finally making the table. Every time I sit at this table i'm appreciating it and feel joy for such a successful project.
The chair im sitting on is a designer chair I managed to thrift for 20% of it's original price. And i found a full set of six! It took me a long time to find and a road trip to pick them up from a rich lady that just got bored with them. Both the table and the chairs took effort to get, abd I found that stuff like that gives me joy for years. Hopefully decades.
I know tqht DIY is a hobby in itself, but even thriving i found to give me the same kick pretty much every time i use the thing.
I love all the storys in this episode, from the homeless story, the street hustling, rich guy perspective, the harry potter analogy etc xD
Dr. K and healthy gamer GG team, I hope you get unlimited parking spots ready for you, may you not have to wait in long lines, may you be recognized in restaurants and have them treat you for a good meal, and I hope we get to see more of you!! You dont understand how grateful I am with this channel!!!
Dr. K is changing my life for good. I can't imagine figuring it all out all by myself.
This video was literally PERFECT for my weekend, especially using a food desire as an example. My hunger cues, and sugar desires always skyrocket a certain time in the month, pretty normal..the problem is though, that it's seemingly the ONLY time I struggle so hard with food noise and hunger cravings. Most of the time, unless I'm just insanely stressed out I can practice mindful eating habits, meditation, and nutritionally satiating foods and it's a winnable battle. But for some reason, during this week, it's like I'm fighting the end boss in the game at a half life energy pool. It's SOO MUCH HARDER. Hopefully your video today will help. Thanks Dr. K!
Dr. K, your message was exactly what I needed! I was feeling restless yesterday, comparing myself to others who seem ahead in their careers and finances. But your words were a balm to my soul. I feel a weight lifted, and I'm grateful to have started this journey of healing and growth. 2025 is all about refinement and progress for me!
you’re right on track ❤
thank you for making the intros "calm" like this. I actually wana watch these again. thank you :)
I really appreciate that as well ❤
@HealthyGamerGG
I just wanted to say thank you from the bottom of my heart. Your educational, inspirational content is helping me to better understand myself and giving me the knowledge to communicate better with healthcare providers. You are a life saver... literally. Don't ever stop!
I like this chill edit style at the beginning for Intro much more than the chaotic "TEASING" style in other recent videos
'Some people have everything and other people don't. But everything don't mean a thing if there's anything you want'
Charles Wright (Express yourself).
Wise words and a great song too!
This is perhaps the best RUclips video I’ve ever watched in my entire life. Not exaggerating. God has blessed me with the opportunity watch your video on my phone. I am grateful. Thank you for existing. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and wisdom.
4:07 one of the greatest quote mankind has ever poduced
My desire is to be a GIS Analyst. I have an interview for it on the 30th and have noticed I’m far unhappier and less centered when I focus on that. Thanks Dr K as usual
Nice, good luck with that! I'm on the same path myself :). Trying to be as skilled as I can while not being too focused on how high-paid or esteemed job I end up with.
Ah this could be why im feeling so off and lacking with the ongoing interviews 💡
i've realized it's all a perspective shift... but easier said than done
might explain the periodic lifestyle... top of the world and suddenly bottom the world :/ focus shifted.
It just takes practice, making things a habit it hard at first
expect it to shift back, too, so don't be discouraged if it comes and goes. it's not linear, they say.
Yep, there’s a difference between intellectually knowing something (Vidya) and actually knowing it from your subjective and lived experience (Jnana). Like reading romance novels vs being in a relationship. It’s not all hopeless keep learning and trying to apply the lessons from these videos and someday the lesson will stick.
This is hands down one of the best YT channels ever. Thank you Dr K for your gift to the world.
I'm so happy and grateful that I've found this channel and that dr K is making all this videos: the amount of mental health benefit and improvement in my life that is caused of watching these videos is huge! And today I've just acqired a new skill. Thanks, dr K. Right now I'm studying at university to become a psychotherapist in Poland and I'm pretty sure that I'll use your wisdom as well as the stuff they teach me to help my future patients.
I recently set up my gaming set up to where I can play steam big picture mode on the couch and now I'm so appreciative of what a cozy setup I have when I want to relax instead of being mad I don't have one of those immaculate desk setups with the silly lights and the 6 plants and color coordinated everything. The having/wanting stance is such a good way to explain the two mindsets
I try to imagine how it would be without something I have, and my life without Dr K would be so much emptier and worse! Thank you so much, your help is priceless 💚
This one was fire :). Thanks for the work you do, deeply appreciated
This channel literally changed my life
Dr K coming in with the most perfectly timed video ever.
As usual
grateful to have you with us Dr K . like without your guidance we would be struggling . Thank you for your work 💖💖
I loved this one. So much good stuff. I've already shifted my stance on possessions. I didn't think to apply it to food.
Amazing video! This came at a very opportune moment, I am alive and have problems to solve other than food water and shelter, I ought to be thankful
its the top 3 most helpful video on whole channel
what's the other two?
I cannot stress enough how an important figure you are in my life Dr K, thank you for everything you do and i thank god for having found your channel
Love the new style keep it up!!! ❤️
I have thanks to you awakened full Buddha consciousness. And I wanna thank you and have an interview, be part of your studies, and clarify all your questions.
Lots of love and again/ thanks because without your contribution and work this wouldn’t have been possibles
Thanks for the video! Honestly its rare as heck for me to stumble across your channel which has mountains of content to improve myself. And its been a while since I watched an entire video without switching tabs/reading the comments so I'm glad I was able to put in the effort of not getting distracted, it will help. :)
damn, did you actually watch too? i usually draw or something while i listen.
Amazing timing as always. Thank you!
This is so great! Thank you Dr K!!
You are a blessing for Humanity
As always, this is very timely video. Thanks Dr K 🙏
Thank you, really needed this! 💚
Best way I’ve seen this explained 🙏🏼
Really good one. I just watched a Theory of Samsara video where he talks about the same thing so I feel like this is definitely something I need to hear and actualize
This is pretty much the most valuable advice you can find on RUclips. We can close up shop now. thanks!
First time being so early but, might as well use it to say I appreciate your work Dr. K and the whole Healthy Gamer team y'all an amazing source of support! Keep it up, much love! 🙏
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I'm so grateful for Dr K and this channel ❤
Awesome video that I've surprisingly already been practicing! Now I can feel more confident in the method
HES SPITTING FACTSS!!! 😭😭 thank you doctor
Another clairvoyant post from Dr. K
dr K be like HeLL YEaH bRoTheRRRrRRRrRRRr
He do be like that sometimes
my desire is to get a job so i can be independent and truly move forward in life. as grateful as i am to have things in my life and happier than when i was employed. I feel trapped by my finances to do anything i really want to do. I wanna go bouldering, it's too expensive. I wanna go on dates, meet new people, all these require a significant investment which i simply can't afford financially or in terms of time as well.
Thanks for not excessively clipping cutting and editing it's a lot less distracting than the pop up / b-roll heavy vids
You changed my life Drk you have no idea❤thank you ❤
Thank you !
This video could not have come at any better time
I'm grateful for Doctor K giving us advice 💯
I’m convinced you have it figured out my dude.
I don't know where I heard that, I believe on reddit: "You don't miss that game, you miss that feeling"
You are my hero Dr K. Well one of them anyway
What a great topic right now
6:08 I c u Mr editor 🧐
Dr. K. Is there any way you can make a video exploring the "overactive pelvic floor"? I have always felt like i've struggled fully breathing into my belly, or that my belly was too tight to breathe fully into it. Plus I have ALWAYS had anxiety and depression, along with other symptoms I didn't even realize were symptoms. There are symptoms such as : not feeling like you've completed using the bathroom, always feeling some sort of tension, lower back pain, and other bowel issues can occur. It can even be the cause of said depression and anxiety .Now, growing up in a neglectful household and oftentimes holding my urine and poop to keep playing a video game, or simply because I didn't want to (not knowing any better) caused me to constantly tense. I do have ADHD and think this could be more common than even I think
AFTER 22 YEARS of being on this planet, I have just now discovered how amazing and euphoric I feel when I am able to relax my pelvic floor. This has led to me to reducing the affect of my anxiety, which has permeated throughout my existence since I was a young boy. I also fell very hard on my tailbone, which I believe had an impact on my breathing and the way I treated that area in my body.
Now I want to point out that I was also unique in the fact that I had to breathe through a nebulizer so i'd stop coughing at night. This taught me how to breathe wrong. Coupled with the fact that I had no resources or any form of understanding that a pelvic floor can remained tightened. Turns out you can also develop it with bad posture. I can't help but feel like this has been revolutionary for my life, I have always felt "wired" "uppety" or like i'm "running at max speed" even when I don't want to, often times I could not physically relax. This is Ironic because my entire life i've pretty much been sleep deprived and felt like i've dragged myself through most days. At least as a young teenager.
This has made me realize why I feel so euphoric and like a different person after heavy abdominal breathing exercises.
I may be out of my depth and misunderstand how big of a deal this is, but it has been a HUGE deal for me. Not to mention the effects it has on your sex life. I've come to wonder if a lot of sexual disfunction that men are dealing with actually stem from more than just pornography.
I have been going mad with this information as it's honestly made me feel like a new man after every relaxation session I do. (Happy baby poses etc.)
Forgive my punctuation, i'm relearning how to write.
Even if this doesn't end up changing my mental health as dramatically as I am imagining, it is a start for me. A means of which I can feel like i'm finally getting control over my anxiety. Which has been a "slugfest" since I can remember.
It is insane to me that "relaxing" my pelvic floor actually ends up tightening it further if I relax it too much.
Now I could be in the realm of assumptions, but if we're all agreeing that the gut health = mental health and relaxing your pelvic floor be it meditation or yoga; helps with said gut issues. Then why am I not hearing more people address this issue? Is holding the bathroom more uncommon as a child than I think? Because you can activate you pelvic floor simply through prolonged anxiety and stress, which I know we all have a great deal of.
Relaxed pelvic floor = relaxed demeanor (at least in my experience)
Tl;dr; I have an overactive pelvic floor that has caused me issued since I was a boy. If you suffer from gut issues, anxiety, depression, sexual and bathroom issues. Please check if you are naturally clenching your pelvic area, it is supposed to be relaxed.
I’m lucky that my desires aren’t material - I do well with women, I am lucky I have great friends, a loving mother, and a solid career foundation. My desire is sobriety from chemicals, and I’ve found this desire to be soul-crushing… You desire the substance, and then desire to never desire the substance again, in an endless loop. Never wanted something AND wanted to NOT want something so strongly at the same time.
haha, what makes you feel like you're lucky it's not material? sobriety sounds difficult to me
Focus on what u have ☀️
That’s why 📝 for what are we grateful helps me feel more fulfilled and control my desires 🧘♀️
I'm grateful I have Dr.k ;)
all the best to y'all
Amazing content. Loved this one. Thanks Dr. K
I actually feel so bad for people who didn’t get access to the internet and can understand how to master different aspects of life, life is TOUGH!! We have Dr K, praise jesus (or Buddha! :) ), these top tips help me navigate life and Dr K is always in a good mood! ☺️😊
Commenting again to REFLECT on how amazing it is to have Dr K guide us to a life with more contentment 🙏
Dr K be hanging off the back of Khrisna's Cybertruck handing out da Blue pills 😹
@@RogerWilcoWTF that's gotta become art
@@RogerWilcoWTF Dr K doesn’t offer any pill, but encourages you to inspect every view of the world or “pill”, and approach it with understanding. You become very flexible, less judgemental and overall become more content. This makes you more successful and resilient in any endeavour.
I think I understand the basic idea a bit better now... but it's hard to maintain contentment with what you have when you're also dealing with the increasing fear of it being suddenly taken away. (Particularly if it's at the behest of persons who are doing it specifically to hurt you and/or enrich themselves. IYKYK......)
Meditation is also a powerful tool for reducing desires, but I think that goes without saying (if we're talking about someone who's been following this channel for a while).
Anyways, this reminds me of a quote that I recently read from the book "Buddhism for dummies", which goes along the lines of:
-'whenever we don't get something we want or get something we don't want, we suffer'.
pause the video around 00:38. you can thank me later 😄🤷
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I’ve done it. Now what
@@_slippery_51 smile ☺️
Thank you
I'm giving into my desire to watch this video. Hopefully, I'll be able to control that desire next time.
Next time we got this.
Same bro :( literally clicked this video even though I wasn’t done listening to the last one. When will it end??
I’m going over my screen time limit that I set by watching this video
@@k8i324 buy his course it might change
okay but if you control that desire then you had a desire to control that desire and that desire controlled you
14:51 this part about ambition. I was having conversation with my wife about the key to happiness is feeling content. Then she asked this exact question 😂. Yer a wizard, dr. K 😂.
I guess this is want my mother was trying to explain, to be thankful for what I already HAVE in my life.
My ex wife didn't understand this. She wanted everything and I was happy with very little. Her insatiable desires led us into a life of stress. Always having to work to maintain all these things that didn't even bring me any joy. All I wanted was a good relationship and peace. That's it. But I couldn't ever have any with her. Good thing she finally left. Now I can be content with the little I need.
We should be okay with nothing, so when anything good happens, we always feel better
Really would be interested in an additional 'angle' of this (which, maybe it's in the members' livestream?) about guilt associated with having desires and feeling content. I feel like these feelings can get highjacked or shut down by the guilt of feeling like you're already privileged and 'shouldn't' want things or if you do have them, that feeling content = selfishness.
Me watching this video becz i desire to have desires that will motivate me to chase jobs in my degree, like i feel content but then again i need to get money to keep life going coz one day my parents won't be able to support me, and if i go to a random corporate job of a call centre my mental won't survive coz social settings make me anxious and bring out my fears coz i am too sensitive and don't even know how i will react to what.
Firstly, great video, I am surprised how much clearer things are now
Secondly, the artist community has an issue about looking at another artist's work and loosing all hope (I felt it myself when looking trough instagram, but I fought that feeling)
I took up the mentality of "I have drawn for years and am *good enough* to where some people like my stuff, aces, but I'll make sure to take inspiration from some artists who's skill level isn't too far to reach"
(Good luck if you are just starting out tho...especially if you are older)
Now I realise that lots of artists hurt thenselves with their mentality, but they *DO respond well when I tell them "your lack of stisfaction is the only driving force that will make you better, don't hate your ambition"
(Like you flipped their world...)
But yea, I'm sure some greek guy said "ya should strive to need less, lad", been a great fan of his
This is still easier to do when you've already leveled up IRL - you've got the job, you've got the wife, the friends, enough money, no health problems, goals - aka living a normal life.
Tell a stuck-in virgin with no job, no friends, no aim in life to enjoy what they have. I know that they should *do* that, but they won't.
Easier to manage 3 desires when you got 3 things VS 5 desires and you got only 1 thing.
Desires are like the skies, fleeting and ever-changing.
Technique suggestion for entering "having stance" and releasing dopamine:
Spend some time alone describing good things that you have, that have happened to you, and that you've accomplished out loud. Imagine you are describing them to someone else who is excited for you.
Man having watched this video was super awesome!!!
Great video, it's funny because I was just reflecting on this topic recently.
Good explanation of the fear of becoming desireless
It's not the content of the video that scares me
It's the perfect timing
You are right.
Love you Dr K😂
That's why I needed all along, not some Alfa male, red pill, blue pill, "self improvemnt" BS
Mental health, psychiatry, psychology, therapy, that's it's
I wish I had this channel when I was a teen
Sweet video. Thanks for dropping a snippet from Andre 3000's new album at the end.
Thank you Dr. K!
I'm bing watching HealthyGamerGG videos, because I'm stressed out and have to complete an exercise sheet. Because of the topics I strugle with, I'm very focused on these videos and I forget what is happening right now, but watching Dr. K videos feels sometimes like real META. It is not like watching some shorts and getting lost in them. Here it is like watching a video, which describes my behavior in real time, so I can acknowledge it and change. Hahahahahahaha
Firstly, I'm not sure if "gratitude" is the best word to describe it, because it downplays (even totally ignores) your role in getting what you have. You should have gratitude for people that helped you, but can be proud with the fact that you earned it. Later word "content" is used, which I think works better then gratitude in terms of alternative to desire.
Secondly - why not both? Why not be content with what you already have, but also desire to have more? Eventually you end up having a lot more things to be content about.
That's a contradiction, you cannot be content with what you already have, yet desire to have more. If you want more than what you already have, it means you are not content with what you already have.
You're not "extra" content by having more things to be content with. If you only need one thing to be happy, requiring 100 things to be happy doesn't make you happier. In fact, requiring 100 things to be happy means you are liable to suffer when life inevitably changes and you lose half the things you needed to be happy.
what does having both mean in practice? do you feel like removing the desire makes the future gain less likely?
@@richardmccabe2392 Then how do we make any progress in life? If I'm content with my body, then why would I have any motivation to get fit? If I'm content with my minimum wage job, when why would I finish my degree and get a better paying career? Are you advocating that we stay in less than ideal situations because we have to be content with what we have and can never desire more?
Your comment is wrong even according to what Dr K said in the video. At 16:20 he says the problem isn't desire, it's the size of it. If the desire consumes us and causes us suffering, it's bad. But the point is not to eliminate desire completely. At 17:12 he says that as our contentment goes up, our capability to fulfill the desires that are actually important to us improves.
So you can absolutely be content with what you have and still desire to have more. As long as your desires don't rule you.
“To be content doesn’t mean you don’t desire more, it means you’re thankful for what you have and patient for what’s to come.” ~Tony Gaskins
@richardmccabe2392 i can think that where I already am is quite good or that I'm on the right track to getting there - in those terms I'm quite content. But things can always be improved and that's what I desire. Happiness isn't a on or off thing, but rather exists on a scale, you can be already on the positive, but yearn to go even higher. I don't have to be unhappy about the fact that my life isn't perfect.
Thank you so much for this video!
Because of my desires I'm in so much depts now that I can't even afford the membership to watch the 2.5 HR version T.T
you're awesome man