I think he may have still been alive today, if he had made the alternate choice on which woman to stay with. That's too bad. She sounds so cool, and perfect for Kurt.
One of the sweetest saddest things I've ever heard Marylou say was about Kurt Cobain and Elliot Smith, because she was the only person who was very close to both of them. She said that she wishes that Kurt lived long enough to meet Elliot because she's certain that he would have LOVED his music and that they would have gotten along well personally too. She went on to say that she has this vision of them keeping each other going and helping one another, possibly averting tragedies. Perhaps naive given they could have been drug addicted together and indulged in their mutual destruction, but a beautiful bittersweet optimistic vision from the kind hearted Mary-Lou
In the ‘90s, you could occasionally see Mary Lou Lord playing at the Park Street train stop in Boston or Harvard Square, Cambridge. Down to Earth woman.
As a street busker with that immediate connection to the public on a one to one level as a partner she would perhaps have been a more able guide for Kurt when his incredibly overwhelming level of fame appeared.
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Used to be able to see her play from the 2nd story window at the HMV record store I worked at, desperate to get away from the Mariah Carey instore CD for the 350th time. Mary Lou was full of color and life by comparison.
What a beautiful story, the meeting of Kurt and Mary sounds like a plot from an indie movie/love story. I can't imagine how he felt when she played his songs but I'm guessing that he was speechless like a deer in headlights.
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Interesting. I was just re-reading Heaver Than Heaven and the photographer Michael Lavine talks about Kurt showing him a sore in his mouth and his infected gums.
Not long before Cobain died, he was cured of his stomach complaints by a chiropracter who realised that during Kurt's childhood, when he suffered from scoliosis which is an unnatural curvature of the spine, that certain nerves associated with reporting pain and discomfort messages from the the stomach, had become constricted and were pinched between vertebrae. Once the chiropractor manipulated Kurt's spine the nerves were, for the first time since the disease had developed during his childhood, at last freed and his 'stomach issues' completely ceased, effectively cured. Cobain himself mentioned in an interview this information and how since this had happened he actually found it difficult to sing since he 'd been cured because, formerly, when singing he had mentally used the ever present sensation of pain and discomfort as a source for energy to put into his vocal expression. @@HeatherM0891
Bleeding gums allow bacteria to enter the bloodstream and can cause cardiac arrest, thats why you have to floss and use cortisol mouthwash for 1 min before spitting.
8:41 she's right about the stomach issue, there are scans of Kurt's charts from doctor visits dating back to 1990-ish complaining of severe epigastric pain. And this isn't a person who has the money to go to the doctor at this time in his life.
@@gingerroot8802 Heroin eventually failed to deal with the stomach pain, Kurt wrote toward the end of 1992: "I feel real sorry for anyone who thinks they can use heroin[e] as a medicine because um, duh, it don’t work"
Unfortunately, yes he did. I think if he chose anyone else he would still be around...she drove him into the ground. I mean she turned off his credit card in his hour of need in the last few days. Who does that? A psycho-control freak. She pruned his options down to pretty much nothing. Wow, Lord sounds like a sweetheart. He really needed someone like that.
@@veryapebutverynice A junkie isnt going to be able to attract a woman like that LOL Kurt was a junkie so thats what he was attracted to. He just attracted the female version of himself. What quality good woman would want to date a guy who is a heroine addict? LOL No sane quality woman would want a man like that. Kurt would've even ever take a bath. Thats how mental he was.
I was 22 when Nevermind came out. He was our John Lennon. They were massive at the time around 92/93. Grunge ruled the earth back then for a few years. Good times.
No he wasn’t. Cobain didn’t have 1/10th of the talent Chris Cornell had. Cobain is one of the most overrated bands ever & Nirvana is easily the worst of the big 4 Seattle bands…
@@acason4 While I agree that Chris Cornell was more talented, this is not the place to come and spread your negative opinions about him. And if you don't like him that much then why are you watching a video _about_ him?
Mary Lou Lord wasn't a formal girlfriend, he dated her like a month. Tobi Vail, Bikini Kill's drummer was sort of Kurt's girlfriend after Tracy (and before Courtney), but she didin't felt it that way, Cobain did. THe stomach problem was a real thing like Lord says, but it's also well known that he exagerated that issue fo the heroin use. The perfect excuse to the media when the rumours started to spread, in early 92. Great channel.
nah there's no proof he exagerated his condition. It's just something that has been said. At that point, ut's not even relevant. If he started heroin and his pain was one of the reasons he did it, after a while, the addictions takes the upper hand anyway, so the initial reason doesn't even really matter
@@auroraborealis6398 yeah, the addictions takes the upper hand anyway, but i just said that Nirvana's managment (early 92) took the stomach condition as a cover up for his own addiction. your'e right that it's not even relevant, but there's too many dark myths that people built, even Cobain himself.
@@kitjasabsgabs1830 Hey buddy haven't heard from you in quite a while just checking to see how you are?? And wishing you a Merry🎄Christmas. Gregory also misses talking to you please get in touch with us soon!❤'Ya!🥂"s
@@TammyFox1989 Hello. Hope u feel better. Hope alls well and u had a gr8 Xmas and have a gr8 new year. Yes been busy with life and holidays. My dad's pipes froze up, his wood burning water heater for shop went kaput. Been helping him alot to get those issues fixed. Been cold. With wind chill Been below 0. Had my uncle die and still waiting on autopsy results. Ppl wanna blame Kung flu on every death. He had it 2 years ago but it killed him a month ago. Plus he was all jabbed and boosted and had no health issues. He was a health nut. I'm sure I'll see yall around some Cobain videos. I've gotten into the missing 411 by David Paullides. Very very addictive info. Everything seems so ass backwards now compared to when we was growing up and life made sense. Now it's all Insanity. Women are men, men are women, we got idiots in charge and if we don't agree with the rehearsed Insanity we're phobic of some degree. I need to take a break days at a time cause it's soo much BS and nonsense. Hope Gregory's doing well being 1st Xmas with mom not here. That's a hard time that never gets better but we just learn to live with it. We all are not gonna make it out alive. So just really trying to let ppl know how much I care about them. So thank u all for the warm wishes and friendship. It means more than I can express in words. I tend to not care for most ppl who can't find humor on a dark day or can't stand up for what we know is true. So thank you. Happy new year.
@@kitjasabsgabs1830 Hey Kit, Came across your comments by accident and boy did the girl on this site go after me but I held my own as you know I always do!😉 Yeah I'm better and you know who is staying away from me I don't talk to him just pretend he's invisible if he comes into the room I leave and I have to wear a mask now at all times because he is of course got the job and boosters and everything so he thinks that he's invincible and can't spread it or give it to anybody or get it when it says all the time on the news even when they're advertising the shots that you can still get it just some people are complete a holes! Anyways busy taking care of my mom and doing all the shopping as I have been since the last half of 2019. Thank you so much for your friendship and that we both believe in the same cause and that Kurt should get Justice one day hopefully in our lifetime! These Courtney Defenders just get to me I cannot believe how blind they are it's just unbelievable! I just hope Tom Grant can release his information or have it go to someone that he can trust that after he dies when she's not in very good health I hear can come to light.. just hoping Courtney will drop dead soon so that we can get the truth because once she's gone everybody's mouths are going to open up! Gregory seems okay busy taking care of his brother since he's been having all of these heart issues and I will tell him hi for you if you haven't already dropped him a message. ❤ You and Our Friendship and so glad that we met❣ Seems like a lifetime ago just some people click you know?? And it's not very often that you can find them in this world! "Merry🎄Christmas" and "Happy New Year" Kit...🥂's
Kurt would still be here if he hadnt gotten courtney pregnant. It was the baby that kept him with her. Breaks my heart. He deserved so much more than that criminal succubus #Justiceforkurt #Soakedinbleach
@@estrellagarciazamora8721 she abused him. At some point almost everyday. Most of his real friends said he wasn't even a heavy user shortly before his death. If he killed himself she was one of the main reasons. Not the drugs, not the fame.
@@estrellagarciazamora8721 No, his REAL friends are people who legitimately cared about him and weren't just junkie groupies using him for drugs. (A.K.A Dylan Carlson) His real friends are Krist, Dave, Buzz Osbourne, ect. And they all unanimously agree he wasn't a heavy user and was clean for the better part of 1994. They also all agree suicide, so don't even try and pull the "biased" shit.
@@bruiseviolet777 I didn't say it wasn't suicide, but it's irresponsible to say it was due to one factor. Also, his bandmates said that the last time he was clean was when he was in the studio for In Utero and spent the whole tour either on H or other opioids.
I remember the MTV music award thing, the one when Kurt, Courtney and Francis were there together. Sometime before the event Kurt and Courtney had an argument which Kurt had butted out a cigarette on his forehead in frustration. When it came time to appear at the award ceremony, make-up artists did a really good job of hiding the cigarette burn on his head. There was a very iconic photo taken of Kurt that evening, the one where he is wearing the black and white striped shirt. If you look at it closely, you can see a big lump on his forehead.
I mean, it's not like dating solves all of your problems - and it's also not like someone who is not mentally in a good state can't date people either. You wouldn't say it's strange that he made a friend in that time period, it's just as *not strange* that he had girlfriends. The determining factor is whether other people want to be around him and like being around him.
Kurt lost his soul to heroin and drugs. I don't doubt he had depression, but him turning to heroin is 100% the reason he was such a sad and depressed person. I"m sure if not for that he would have made it out of his angst years fine.
Agreed. There was a definite play up that I am only able to see after many MANY years have passed. In my youth I thought he could do no wrong and hung on every word. It's just not reality though. I also highly doubt the stomach issues (at least the severity he claimed) because I've lost very close people who would scream of being "in pain" in order to get drugs. I always will love Kurt, but he was only human after all. A very flawed one at that.
According to the Heavier Than Heaven biography (which, to be fair, reads like fan fiction in some parts, as if the author interviewed people who knew Kurt, took them at face value, then filled in the gaps with his imagination & assumptions), Kurt flat-out asked Mary Lou if she'd do heroin with him and she told him to never mention that again, whereas Courtney was willing to be his lover AND drug partner. She was also viciously jealous and threatened not only Mary Lou but Tracy Marander and Kristen Pfaff to stay away from Kurt "or else" (and Pfaff suspiciously died of an OD when returning to Seattle for only a week after moving home to Minneapolis and being sober for months following Kurt's death).
In that Axis Nightclub interview with Nirvana, Kurt seems very tired and doesn't hardly talk at all and has his head resting in his hand.. He was exhausted
As someone who’s been through a very long, nasty heroin addiction I can say that you don’t want to screw someone like this up no matter how much you like them. You love them more to let them go. Kurt and Courtney were both “tortured souls” to a degree. They both dealt with mental illness issues. I think Kurt probably loved this Mary Lou girl enough to let her go and stuck with Courtney because she was as damaged as he felt he was. Kurt’s death was his own choice, and fault. Courtney did not cause him to do what he did to himself anymore than anyone else. She had to pick up the pieces and raise their child alone and I give her a whole lot of credit for standing up and doing what she needed to in order to raise their baby while the entire world blamed her for Kurt’s death! Before we judge and hurt people with negativity we should really put ourselves in their shoes. Nobody ever made me self destruct with heroin, I made ME do that! If I walked away from people like Mary Lou that came in to my own life it’s because I felt they were less damaged than myself. I couldn’t love me or accept being alive trapped in my own body. It took me 42 years to get to this point of even understanding why I did what I did. That’s how trapped I feel sometimes still to this day. Luckily, finally just trying to care about myself a tad bit is what brought a whole lot of revelations to me about my own behaviors. It doesn’t make me any less likely to relapse in the future and I know that but at least there is some semblance and understanding that I have gained!
She didn't raise Frances Bean lmfao she really screwed her whole relationship w her daughter up actually have you even read about their relationship???? Also... Nvm you need to research some more
@@aaroncross1287 Courtney and Frances lived together for 15 YEARS and she tried to raise Frances the best she could as a drug addict (and made sure a nanny was around 24/7). Let's recap: -1992: KC&CL lose custody and FBC's guardian is Courtney's sister, Jaimee Rodriguez. She lives with K&C until they regain custody. -1993-2003: CL and FBC live together in Seattle and in LA. -2004: CL loses custody and FBC's guardian is CL's step-father, Frank Rodriguez. He moves into their house and Courtney lives next door. - 2005-2009: CL & FBC live together in LA. - 2009: FBC asks for emancipation at 17 and guardianship goes to Kim Cobain for a few months until she turns 18. As a bonus track, let me tell you that Kurt's half-sister, Brianne O'Connor, lived with CL&FBC in LA when she was 15-16 because Wendy asked CL for help since Brianne was being difficult in Olympia, WA. Do we have to pretend that going to another state to visit your grandma for some days when there's no school equals raising? Because that's what some Nirvana fans like to say...
I knew who Marylou Lord was back in the day but never knew she was involved with Cobain. The first thing I thought about watching this in 2023 was what a positive difference staying with her could have been.
If this is the girl that got him in the gig. They weren't in a relationship but she was gutted when he announced he had been with courtney that night he announced it on teen spirit gig. They spent time together they weren't together though just mates
She has given her story many times to the media. They were nothing more than mates hanging out and she has said as much. I think courtney told her kurt wasn't interested I'm sure kurt knew nothing about that note
Dude this was one of your most epic videos to date🥇! First off, I've never even heard of this Mary Lou woman so thanks for making this video. Secondly, for your next video could you please upload the story between Courtney Love and Marylou fighting over kurt? Sounds like it would be and interesting story.
...isn't it sweet they had THAT FRIENDSHIP together 🌼 Kurt needed 'that type' of friendship more in his life. Someone real & down to earth (the riding on the back of a bicycle is epic)! ...too bad that kind've thing couldnt've happened more for him.
Kurt Cobain: *"I can’t stand dogs, they’re too willing to please. I like cats. Animals that require attention".* Do we all agree that Courtney was a cat, and Mary Lou a dog? All the what-ifs are kind of pointless. He was looking for a complex woman, not a pleasant one. HIS choice.
Lau C MLL is feminine & feline, CL is masculine & is a dog. There is no comparison, one is beautiful and the other is Courtney Love. Kurt married CL coz she trapped him by getting pregnant, and he couldn't "drug out" with MLL, so he had to settle with CL. Within 1000 days of being with the dreaded Courtney Love, he was dead.
From the title of the video I didn't know whether I wanted to watch this I downbeat to hear any sordid details of nasty stories it it's actually a really wholesome story that made me smile so thanks!
I’m surprised Elliott Smith and Kurt never really crossed paths, considering Mary Lu being friends with both and Elliott and Kirks love for the Beatles and what not but yeah… This would’ve been a much healthier option
Pretty cool story, lol when she starts playing nirvana. She seems pretty sweet. She would have been a good influence on him…It’s too bad he had to go back to Courtney.
I fell in love with their music. How they were a paradox to what fame was if u played it out. An underground, here we are and theres a strange person called kurt Cobain who will change music for ever.
He’d still be alive if he stayed with her. She said she was a health nut, she would’ve helped him. But he probably left her cause she didn’t “partake in extracurricular activities “…. Rip Kurt
Idk honestly. I think they would have broken up. He said himself he used heroin for his stomach pain. Even if she wanted to she couldn't have fixed that. After the pain stopped I think they would have been perfect for each other.
idk how ppl keep saying he shouldve stayed with mary. he wouldnt have been happy anyway. thing is, sometimes you cant convince ur heart to fully love someone you dont fully love
Nevermind was released in September and the European tour was in Nov&Dec. Nevermind didn't start selling until November, that's why it's usually said that Kurt was in Europe when Nirvanamania broke.
Courtney said Kurt didn't know where to get heroin but she did; he'd used it but availability was an issue & she could solve that - he wanted a girlf to take drugs with, & likely would've found one sooner or later. Maybe a partner who disliked off-stage attention as much as he did might've helped; less stress - CL attracted the limelight - but he'd still have a drug problem.
He was friends with Dylan Carlson who sold heroine !!!! Just because he hypothetically did not meet Courtney dosent mean he would not have took it ! I think he slightly romanised it !!!
There’s an interview somewhere with Mary Lou saying Courtney was pregnant and that’s why Kurt went back with her. But the dates don’t add up, unless she was pregnant for 10 months, something like that.
Mary Lou also said that she continued sleeping when Courtney called Kurt and that the day after Kurt just told her how was she going to get to his next stop. That was the last time they spoke. So how could Mary know what Courtney told him? She's also said that Kurt never mentioned Courtney but in Evertt True's book she starts saying the same and then ends implying that Kurt did say some nasty things about Courtney. She just can't accept Kurt liked Courtney better, and it's been 31 years.
@@julesvan good point there was most likely a crossover, especially as Courtney was on and off with Billy Corgan and maybe he liked Mary Lou but they were different as she said. Tbh does come across as a groupie sex situation maybe Kurt felt this. Then when he went with Courtney it was wild and got him out of himself then Courtney got pregnant, so Kurt did the right thing and stuck by Courtney and Frances. Don't forget with everything in the media about Kurt and Courtney and Kurt's death plus threats by Courtney it would have made her feel if only he was with her things may have been different. Remember feelings aren't sweet wrappers to be discarded once used they take time to deal with.
@@jackyyoung1247 Kurt dumped MLL way before Courtney was with child, so I don't think it was a situation of doing the right thing. Billy didn't play a role. He started dating Courtney when they met in the summer and on October 12 Courtney found him in his apartment with another woman, who happened to be his girlfriend (he had been cheating from day one). That night, Nirvana was playing there and Kurt and Courtney slept together. That same day, MLL had returned to Boston and wasn't around when Courtney arrived and spent the night with Kurt. Kurt had known Courtney longer, she was playing the same venues he was playing, she was interviewed for the same magazines he was, they had mutual friends, they kept bumping into each other... On the other hand, Mary Lou was a stranger Kurt was getting to know. And what I think happened and why Mary blames Courtney is because Mary hid from Kurt she was a hardcore Nirvana fan from the Bleach days, and Courtney found out (and probably told him). Mary impressed Kurt because she played him six Nevermind songs when the album had just been released and failed to tell him she had had a Nevermind advanced copy for months. Then she showed up in England unexpectedly to surprise him on November 4 because she hadn't seen him since he slept with Courtney on October 12. And the following day, Courtney had an interview with a friend of Mary in Boston and told her about Mary's existence. Honestly, if I were Courtney I would have told Kurt she was a fan too. It's on Mary for not being honest.
@@julesvanshe seems like a nice lady but I highly doubt that she would recognise the band waiting in the line but not knowing who did what, they were only 3 and she had been a fan at least for 6 months. I know this was before Internet became a household thing but they had released Bleach and done a lot of interviews in media that I'm sure someone so knowledgeable about music as she was would have seen or read.
lol she is gutter not in any way his match. she is just trying to capitalize of f his name. she was like, a 2 night stand and he had lot s of those. Very convenient when he need some sex and a place to sleep. Which was always.
Mary Lou is such an amazing person! Kurt should have married her his life would have been so different and he would still be here with us!! Courtney could never compare to Mary!
Christ soooooo he'd been SAVED by her from his heroin addiction?!? You 12!! What TF he was an ADDICT by that point....he did heroin well before Love..... You REALLY think some woman he was with a couple months was some love of hos life???
Courtney had already signed a major record deal by time her and Kurt got together and she was super smart and I think that’s what attracted Kurt to her but unfortunately drugs ruins everything so kinda his fault in a way.
What I always heard is that Courtney broke Kurt and Mary up by saying that she was pregnant when she really wasn't! Too bad😪 Kurt couldn't have got away anyone would have been better for him than👹Courtney!
@@estrellagarciazamora8721 i heard she lied first about it to seperate him and mary and then became preggo for real. Sounds legit actually. She lied so often and broke so many friendships apart it's insane.
@@julesvan I can’t recall the name but I saw a video where someone visits the studio space and also lines up exact shot of Nirvana in the parking lot taken that day
The MTV video of Smells Like Teen Spirit was filmed at Fairfax high school. After the Nevermind record was recorded with Butch Vig at Sound City Studios in Van Nuys, CA. ~ edited for correction. It was apparently filmed in Culver City at a studio. Soundstage 6. Thanks @ Lau C
@@lisasmith7066 wrong, it was filmed in a studio, not a real high school. You can tell by watching the video PLUS there are plenty of photos from that day that show it was filmed in studio 6. Kurt and Courtney attended a show in a Fairfax high school in late 1992, maybe that's what got you confused...
Mary Lou is the opposite of Courtney. I agree with everyone who says he shouldve stayed with Mary Lou. They dont even need to marry...but i bet he would be happy and alive. How he was attracted to Courtney...who freaking knows. Sometimes people are drawn to the crazy ones.
There's something about Mary...she even sounds like a nicer person just listening to her voice....his Aunt was also named Mary..he should have stuck with Mary...but Courtney did sorta bully the other girl 😭she's like a she devil 👿..reminds me of a fake friend who did that same crap to me once on a guy I had a big crush on long ago.😭😭😭toxic people suck😭😭😭
That is cool.... I always heard Tracy was so sweet and she truly loved Kurt and still does to this day! I wish he would have stayed with her he would still be alive!
Wow! Mary Lou, sounds so sweet. Like the best gf eventually for Kurt rather than CL! Total different personality differences there….Yes. Kurt . You were always cute and kind and sweet . Think easy to fall for. RIP Kurt Cobain💔💔
She seems cool but I think Kurt was unsettled by her playing his own music to him before the album even came out. He might have felt like she mislead him or pretended not to know of him / of his band when she obviously did (she was familiar enough with their music to have memorized covers of their songs before Nevermind even came out). He probably took that as a sign she wasn’t totally genuine or honest (by all accounts he seemed to be most attracted to people who were unapologetically themselves). If homegirl had played it cool and not fangirl’d out on the couch after one hit of weed … things might’ve ended differently for them lol.
And Kurt chose the wrong girl!!!! So sad. And unbelievable that he proposed to Courtney only one month after dating her - in November - and they were married in February. That is really awful. I can't believe he did that.
@@waianaesara Kurt met Mary Lou on Sep 23 and she traveled with Nirvana until Oct 12 because she had to go back to work. That night, Kurt and Courtney slept together. Nirvana and Courtney's band toured Cali and Mexico in the following weeks and Kurt and Courtney continue seeing each other. Kurt travels to the UK and Courtney stays in the US touring. K&C called each other every day. Mary Lou hadn't seen Kurt since Oct 12, so she goes to the UK on her own and stays in Kurt's hotel room. The next day, on Nov 5, Courtney is in Boston, Mary Lou's hometown, where a DJ tells Courtney that Mary Lou is Kurt's girlfriend and that she's with Kurt in the UK. When Courtney returns to her hotel, she calls Kurt at 3am and asks him if what she's been told is true. Kurt denies he's with Mary Lou (even though she's there) and the next morning Kurt dumps Mary Lou. Two days after, Kurt says in The Word that Courtney is the best f* ck in the world and Mary Lou finds out about Courtney. Later, Kurt said that he didn't know how to get rid of Mary Lou in a nice way and that's why he didn't tell her to leave until Courtney found out. And Mary Lou says Courtney told Kurt some lies about her on that 3am phone call and that Courtney ruined her relationship with Kurt. That's the story
Just so nice to hear a few tales about Kurt & someone who seems to genuinely care for him. He should have stayed with her. I never met Kurt... But I miss him. Is that weird? 🤔 Rest in Nirvana Kurt. Peace Love& Empathy -Kurt Cobain 🕉️♾️
This is making me cry. Some of us end up with the wrong ones. By 8:00 I'm laughing. Definitely the strangest brush w/ fame rock roll story ever pretty much. Hey this was awesome. Thanks.
I also read from a very old FB post from Mary Lou that once KC was in the middle of this huge success with Geffen records, CL allegedly left her death threats by phone x amount of times on a daily basis and then Frances Bean came 5 seconds later. The heroin habit also followed immediately. Poor Kurt, how much misery he had to endure in those 3 years of musical success. He never felt healthy nor happy. In the 2021 BBC documentary the entourage mentioned he had a mental breakdown in Italy much earlier than the Nevermind success. Only God knows what exactly happened at what exact timing. His memory will be always remembered 💖.
Such a shame, I think she sounds way smarter, and that, that relationship would have inspired great music. Kurt probably only picked courtney in service to the image he wanted to convey, and not the relationship that he probably actually wanted to have.
Courtney wasn't jealous she was scared of losing her cash cow. She treated mary like shit. She sent her a note that said I am going to cut ur head off and Kurt will throw it in the oven and shit like that.
@@bruiseviolet777 FYI Mary Lou meets Kurt on Sep 23 and is with him until the morning of Oct 12 (19 days). That same night, Kurt and Courtney sleep together in Chicago. In late October, Nirvana and Hole tour together in Cali and Mexico, and Kurt and Courtney continue sleeping together. In November, Nirvana travels to the UK without Mary Lou (she flights on her own and has to attend a show to reach Kurt because she doesn't know where he's at). Meanwhile, Kurt and Courtney are giving each other their contact info because both are touring and changing cities every other day. They call each other every day. On Nov 5, Courtney finds out about Mary Lou and calls Kurt using the contact info he has provided. For 24 days, Kurt had been sleeping with Courtney and hadn't been with Mary Lou since he started seeing Courtney. Love had all the right to call Kurt and ask him about the situation. He was the jerk in all this and chose Courtney. Why Mary Lou thinks Kurt was stupid enough to be influenced by a phone call is beyond me. Kurt was sleeping with Courtney, something he never did with Mary (according to her own words). Kurt had known Courtney longer than Mary. He had played with Courtney's band before. They had done drugs together. IMO, Kurt had made up his mind before that phone call.
@@julesvan Thanks! This goes along with what I was saying. I love kurt with all my heart. But he was a human and fans tend to hate admitting when he made mistakes.
They're both pretty, if it counts for anything - my shallowness chose boyfs on good looks, I ended up with nice looking sociopaths who made my life hellish - so it's not relevant who's 'pretty /prettier'.
What a beautiful innocent story, he definitely ended up choosing the wrong woman. Bad choices have serious consequences he should have never married Courtney Love.
Didn't Courtney Love say that she was with Kurt the first time Smells Like Teen Spirit came on MTV? She described it like they were all flirty and close on a couch or bed at a hotel or something and when it came on she " leaned away from him to give him his moment" but he pulled her close to him as if he wanted to share that moment with her" I swear I saw that somewhere, I'm going to look it up.
I wonder how different it would be if he had’ve married her instead of Courtney
I was about to write the same. :-)
I think he may have still been alive today, if he had made the alternate choice on which woman to stay with. That's too bad. She sounds so cool, and perfect for Kurt.
@@CravenMoorhead_23 exactly
Or Tracy Marander
He had no agency then??
One of the sweetest saddest things I've ever heard Marylou say was about Kurt Cobain and Elliot Smith, because she was the only person who was very close to both of them. She said that she wishes that Kurt lived long enough to meet Elliot because she's certain that he would have LOVED his music and that they would have gotten along well personally too. She went on to say that she has this vision of them keeping each other going and helping one another, possibly averting tragedies. Perhaps naive given they could have been drug addicted together and indulged in their mutual destruction, but a beautiful bittersweet optimistic vision from the kind hearted Mary-Lou
That friendship may well have blossomed into some truly inspiring, heartfelt music.
@louisedow6489 wtf lmao
Or they would just do heroin together like Kurt did with Layne Stayley from AIC
@louise dow Louise, yer gone 🚀🤪
Who's elliot
In the ‘90s, you could occasionally see Mary Lou Lord playing at the Park Street train stop in Boston or Harvard Square, Cambridge. Down to Earth woman.
As a street busker with that immediate connection to the public on a one to one level as a partner she would perhaps have been a more able guide for Kurt when his incredibly overwhelming level of fame appeared.
God is good. Repent and believe the gospel. Jesus Christ died for your sins and rose from the dead. You can be forgiven. You must be born again. There was a woman who had an alabaster box of very precious ointment and she poured it on the head of Jesus. We need to honour the King. The Lord God. ”that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have eternal life.“
John 3:15 KJV. The Lord Jesus Christ. Repent means change, change from sin. Turn away from sin. Love and fear God. Call on the name of Jesus Christ. Draw nigh to God and he will draw nigh to you. He saved me. There is the lake of fire which is burning for eternity and there is heaven. I have eternal life in heaven because of what the Lord has done. Be ready for the day of judgement.
She still plays near Fenway on occasion. I ran into her after an Aerosmith show last summer, and we hung out after she was done playing.
Used to be able to see her play from the 2nd story window at the HMV record store I worked at, desperate to get away from the Mariah Carey instore CD for the 350th time. Mary Lou was full of color and life by comparison.
@ can’t be the one in Harvard Square. Joel the DJ would play good Rock music
They sounded like they were so cute together
Omg Foreal😭
I agree! I totally pictured them together ❤
What a beautiful story, the meeting of Kurt and Mary sounds like a plot from an indie movie/love story. I can't imagine how he felt when she played his songs but I'm guessing that he was speechless like a deer in headlights.
I heard their great romance was little more than her giving him head in a parking lot
Totally from a movie. Especially the bike thing
Just a FYI : Some stomach issues are caused by bacteria . My dentist discovered the reason for my severe , stomach issues. It took years and a busted ,stomach ulcer ( nearly died) before my dentist , figured it out . I'm actually , a case study . If you're having undiagnosed , stomach issues : have your mouth tested for bacteria , via tooth and buccal , swaps . H-pylori , isn't the only bacteria that can destroy your stomach lining . Getting a correct diagnosis and treatment , is life changing . 😘
Yeah. I don't think there was much talk about gut health, bacteria (good and bad) and probiotics back then when he was suffering.
But this time it was not possible all these bacteries to be tested.
Interesting. I was just re-reading Heaver Than Heaven and the photographer Michael Lavine talks about Kurt showing him a sore in his mouth and his infected gums.
Not long before Cobain died, he was cured of his stomach complaints by a chiropracter who realised that during Kurt's childhood, when he suffered from scoliosis which is an unnatural curvature of the spine, that certain nerves associated with reporting pain and discomfort messages from the the stomach, had become constricted and were pinched between vertebrae.
Once the chiropractor manipulated Kurt's spine the nerves were, for the first time since the disease had developed during his childhood, at last freed and his 'stomach issues' completely ceased, effectively cured.
Cobain himself mentioned in an interview this information and how since this had happened he actually found it difficult to sing since he 'd been cured because, formerly, when singing he had mentally used the ever present sensation of pain and discomfort as a source for energy to put into his vocal expression. @@HeatherM0891
Bleeding gums allow bacteria to enter the bloodstream and can cause cardiac arrest, thats why you have to floss and use cortisol mouthwash for 1 min before spitting.
8:41 she's right about the stomach issue, there are scans of Kurt's charts from doctor visits dating back to 1990-ish complaining of severe epigastric pain. And this isn't a person who has the money to go to the doctor at this time in his life.
He was being poisoned
@@TriceyDiva His stomach condition pre-dates Courtney, so...... No.
@@TriceyDiva before he was famous...?
Anxiety can cause stomach issues for a lot of people. I think his stomach issues were mostly psychosomatic and using heroin calmed him down.
@@gingerroot8802 Heroin eventually failed to deal with the stomach pain, Kurt wrote toward the end of 1992: "I feel real sorry for anyone who thinks they can use heroin[e] as a medicine because um, duh, it don’t work"
Adorable! It is so refreshing to hear about Kurt from anyone else besides Courtney.
Well, I think everyone agrees he made the wrong choice.
He made the wrong choice if the other option was Satan himself
Unfortunately, yes he did. I think if he chose anyone else he would still be around...she drove him into the ground. I mean she turned off his credit card in his hour of need in the last few days. Who does that? A psycho-control freak. She pruned his options down to pretty much nothing. Wow, Lord sounds like a sweetheart. He really needed someone like that.
A deadly mistake
@@gkidder7666 Yes. He needed an intelligent, artistic woman, not a junkie.
@@veryapebutverynice A junkie isnt going to be able to attract a woman like that LOL Kurt was a junkie so thats what he was attracted to. He just attracted the female version of himself. What quality good woman would want to date a guy who is a heroine addict? LOL No sane quality woman would want a man like that. Kurt would've even ever take a bath. Thats how mental he was.
This, people, is the eternal struggle of light and darkness that lives through us. I hope there are more Kurt and Mary Lou out there
Sadly true.
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she's embellishing. and using his name to get ahead. it was nothing but another cheap lay and place to sleep. Kurt was full of that stuff.
I was 22 when Nevermind came out. He was our John Lennon. They were massive at the time around 92/93. Grunge ruled the earth back then for a few years. Good times.
comparing Kurt Cobain with that entitled prick stupid John Lenon is beyond nonsense.
No he wasn’t. Cobain didn’t have 1/10th of the talent Chris Cornell had. Cobain is one of the most overrated bands ever & Nirvana is easily the worst of the big 4 Seattle bands…
More like a Jim Morison
@@acason4 sure! now go take your meds Bieber fan
@@acason4 While I agree that Chris Cornell was more talented, this is not the place to come and spread your negative opinions about him. And if you don't like him that much then why are you watching a video _about_ him?
Mary Lou Lord wasn't a formal girlfriend, he dated her like a month. Tobi Vail, Bikini Kill's drummer was sort of Kurt's girlfriend after Tracy (and before Courtney), but she didin't felt it that way, Cobain did. THe stomach problem was a real thing like Lord says, but it's also well known that he exagerated that issue fo the heroin use. The perfect excuse to the media when the rumours started to spread, in early 92. Great channel.
Tracy Marander is my ex girlfriends Aunt, we visited her once and she had random drawings and poems handwritten by Kurt...
nah there's no proof he exagerated his condition. It's just something that has been said. At that point, ut's not even relevant. If he started heroin and his pain was one of the reasons he did it, after a while, the addictions takes the upper hand anyway, so the initial reason doesn't even really matter
@@auroraborealis6398 yeah, the addictions takes the upper hand anyway, but i just said that Nirvana's managment (early 92) took the stomach condition as a cover up for his own addiction. your'e right that it's not even relevant, but there's too many dark myths that people built, even Cobain himself.
@@Charlito732 kinda makes sense yes
I agree, it sounds more like Mary Lou was a fling.
7:06 made me laugh with joy. How funny to blow someone's mind like that! So cool that she had been playing the songs.
Totally. Kismet. His mind must have been fkng BLOWN!
@@czarinacourtneyal-marmont4699 you're not clever. Just give up.
@@cocolette370 😯
maybe she wasn’t be sarcastic..? I thought she was agreeing with u 🤷♀️
@@GypsyRock I thought she was alluding to the way Kurt died.
this really humanizes him. he wasn't a god he was a person.
He sucked
@@StandWatie1862what’s wrong with you
this is a wonderful nirvana story I've never heard of before. this is so awesome
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Listen How the hell did that happen 90s podcast 9-11. It's all this and much more.
@@kitjasabsgabs1830 Hey buddy haven't heard from you in quite a while just checking to see how you are?? And wishing you a Merry🎄Christmas. Gregory also misses talking to you please get in touch with us soon!❤'Ya!🥂"s
@@TammyFox1989 Hello. Hope u feel better. Hope alls well and u had a gr8 Xmas and have a gr8 new year. Yes been busy with life and holidays. My dad's pipes froze up, his wood burning water heater for shop went kaput. Been helping him alot to get those issues fixed. Been cold. With wind chill Been below 0.
Had my uncle die and still waiting on autopsy results. Ppl wanna blame Kung flu on every death. He had it 2 years ago but it killed him a month ago. Plus he was all jabbed and boosted and had no health issues. He was a health nut. I'm sure I'll see yall around some Cobain videos. I've gotten into the missing 411 by David Paullides. Very very addictive info. Everything seems so ass backwards now compared to when we was growing up and life made sense. Now it's all Insanity. Women are men, men are women, we got idiots in charge and if we don't agree with the rehearsed Insanity we're phobic of some degree. I need to take a break days at a time cause it's soo much BS and nonsense. Hope Gregory's doing well being 1st Xmas with mom not here. That's a hard time that never gets better but we just learn to live with it. We all are not gonna make it out alive. So just really trying to let ppl know how much I care about them. So thank u all for the warm wishes and friendship. It means more than I can express in words. I tend to not care for most ppl who can't find humor on a dark day or can't stand up for what we know is true. So thank you. Happy new year.
@@kitjasabsgabs1830 Hey Kit, Came across your comments by accident and boy did the girl on this site go after me but I held my own as you know I always do!😉
Yeah I'm better and you know who is staying away from me I don't talk to him just pretend he's invisible if he comes into the room I leave and I have to wear a mask now at all times because he is of course got the job and boosters and everything so he thinks that he's invincible and can't spread it or give it to anybody or get it when it says all the time on the news even when they're advertising the shots that you can still get it just some people are complete a holes!
Anyways busy taking care of my mom and doing all the shopping as I have been since the last half of 2019. Thank you so much for your friendship and that we both believe in the same cause and that Kurt should get Justice one day hopefully in our lifetime!
These Courtney Defenders just get to me I cannot believe how blind they are it's just unbelievable! I just hope Tom Grant can release his information or have it go to someone that he can trust that after he dies when she's not in very good health I hear can come to light.. just hoping Courtney will drop dead soon so that we can get the truth because once she's gone everybody's mouths are going to open up!
Gregory seems okay busy taking care of his brother since he's been having all of these heart issues and I will tell him hi for you if you haven't already dropped him a message.
❤ You and Our Friendship and so glad that we met❣ Seems like a lifetime ago just some people click you know?? And it's not very often that you can find them in this world! "Merry🎄Christmas" and "Happy New Year" Kit...🥂's
Kurt would still be here if he hadnt gotten courtney pregnant. It was the baby that kept him with her. Breaks my heart. He deserved so much more than that criminal succubus
#Justiceforkurt #Soakedinbleach
Blaming one person for his suicide seems problematic and simplistic at best.
@@estrellagarciazamora8721 she abused him. At some point almost everyday. Most of his real friends said he wasn't even a heavy user shortly before his death. If he killed himself she was one of the main reasons. Not the drugs, not the fame.
@@LaulauGlimm So we're dividing his friends between "real" when they hate Courtney and "not real" when they were friends with Courtney. Interesting 🤔
@@estrellagarciazamora8721 No, his REAL friends are people who legitimately cared about him and weren't just junkie groupies using him for drugs. (A.K.A Dylan Carlson) His real friends are Krist, Dave, Buzz Osbourne, ect. And they all unanimously agree he wasn't a heavy user and was clean for the better part of 1994. They also all agree suicide, so don't even try and pull the "biased" shit.
@@bruiseviolet777 I didn't say it wasn't suicide, but it's irresponsible to say it was due to one factor. Also, his bandmates said that the last time he was clean was when he was in the studio for In Utero and spent the whole tour either on H or other opioids.
It would be cool to hear an interview from Tobi Vail, the one who inspired a lot of the lyrics in the Nevermind songs
I looked her up on IG a few days ago. Still in Olympia living as she was when she knew Kurt.
@RockerKitty no
@RockerKitty no, that’s about Tracy Marander who was Kurt’s first girlfriend.
Vail won't discuss her relationship with Kurt.
@@shyjames83 two weeks ago, she said she's going to write her bio and is going to talk about kurt
I remember the MTV music award thing, the one when Kurt, Courtney and Francis were there together. Sometime before the event Kurt and Courtney had an argument which Kurt had butted out a cigarette on his forehead in frustration. When it came time to appear at the award ceremony, make-up artists did a really good job of hiding the cigarette burn on his head. There was a very iconic photo taken of Kurt that evening, the one where he is wearing the black and white striped shirt. If you look at it closely, you can see a big lump on his forehead.
for kurt to of been the tortured antisocial soul that he seemed to imply that he was, he certainly did have a lot of gfs.
I mean, it's not like dating solves all of your problems - and it's also not like someone who is not mentally in a good state can't date people either. You wouldn't say it's strange that he made a friend in that time period, it's just as *not strange* that he had girlfriends. The determining factor is whether other people want to be around him and like being around him.
Kurt lost his soul to heroin and drugs. I don't doubt he had depression, but him turning to heroin is 100% the reason he was such a sad and depressed person. I"m sure if not for that he would have made it out of his angst years fine.
When you're a rock star getting girls isn't exactly that difficult.
Agreed. There was a definite play up that I am only able to see after many MANY years have passed. In my youth I thought he could do no wrong and hung on every word. It's just not reality though. I also highly doubt the stomach issues (at least the severity he claimed) because I've lost very close people who would scream of being "in pain" in order to get drugs. I always will love Kurt, but he was only human after all. A very flawed one at that.
He beautiful and genious
this really humanizes him. he’s been a “rock legend” for decades now. but he was also just a guy that people knew
also happy día de los muertos kurt
Ummmm guess you never watched even ONE documentary? Wow what tf
If only Kurt had stayed with her! Instead of getting hoodwinked by Courtney.
lol he had no love for this person, he was a sex addict and used women often for sex and a bed to sleep in. she's just using his name to get ahead.
Mary Lou Lord was not from New York and they met in Boston, Massachusetts.
According to the Heavier Than Heaven biography (which, to be fair, reads like fan fiction in some parts, as if the author interviewed people who knew Kurt, took them at face value, then filled in the gaps with his imagination & assumptions), Kurt flat-out asked Mary Lou if she'd do heroin with him and she told him to never mention that again, whereas Courtney was willing to be his lover AND drug partner. She was also viciously jealous and threatened not only Mary Lou but Tracy Marander and Kristen Pfaff to stay away from Kurt "or else" (and Pfaff suspiciously died of an OD when returning to Seattle for only a week after moving home to Minneapolis and being sober for months following Kurt's death).
In that Axis Nightclub interview with Nirvana, Kurt seems very tired and doesn't hardly talk at all and has his head resting in his hand.. He was exhausted
As someone who’s been through a very long, nasty heroin addiction I can say that you don’t want to screw someone like this up no matter how much you like them. You love them more to let them go. Kurt and Courtney were both “tortured souls” to a degree. They both dealt with mental illness issues. I think Kurt probably loved this Mary Lou girl enough to let her go and stuck with Courtney because she was as damaged as he felt he was. Kurt’s death was his own choice, and fault. Courtney did not cause him to do what he did to himself anymore than anyone else. She had to pick up the pieces and raise their child alone and I give her a whole lot of credit for standing up and doing what she needed to in order to raise their baby while the entire world blamed her for Kurt’s death! Before we judge and hurt people with negativity we should really put ourselves in their shoes. Nobody ever made me self destruct with heroin, I made ME do that! If I walked away from people like Mary Lou that came in to my own life it’s because I felt they were less damaged than myself. I couldn’t love me or accept being alive trapped in my own body. It took me 42 years to get to this point of even understanding why I did what I did. That’s how trapped I feel sometimes still to this day. Luckily, finally just trying to care about myself a tad bit is what brought a whole lot of revelations to me about my own behaviors. It doesn’t make me any less likely to relapse in the future and I know that but at least there is some semblance and understanding that I have gained!
Well said!
She didn't raise Frances Bean lmfao she really screwed her whole relationship w her daughter up actually have you even read about their relationship???? Also... Nvm you need to research some more
@@aaroncross1287 Courtney and Frances lived together for 15 YEARS and she tried to raise Frances the best she could as a drug addict (and made sure a nanny was around 24/7). Let's recap:
-1992: KC&CL lose custody and FBC's guardian is Courtney's sister, Jaimee Rodriguez. She lives with K&C until they regain custody.
-1993-2003: CL and FBC live together in Seattle and in LA.
-2004: CL loses custody and FBC's guardian is CL's step-father, Frank Rodriguez. He moves into their house and Courtney lives next door.
- 2005-2009: CL & FBC live together in LA.
- 2009: FBC asks for emancipation at 17 and guardianship goes to Kim Cobain for a few months until she turns 18.
As a bonus track, let me tell you that Kurt's half-sister, Brianne O'Connor, lived with CL&FBC in LA when she was 15-16 because Wendy asked CL for help since Brianne was being difficult in Olympia, WA.
Do we have to pretend that going to another state to visit your grandma for some days when there's no school equals raising? Because that's what some Nirvana fans like to say...
And she baby trapped him to seal the deal
@@melanah22 you need a MALE and a female for a pregnancy. It's pretty sexist to blame the woman. And she wasn't even pregnant the day Kurt dumped MLL
Awesome footage. Never knew any of this. Great stories, thank you.
I knew who Marylou Lord was back in the day but never knew she was involved with Cobain. The first thing I thought about watching this in 2023 was what a positive difference staying with her could have been.
If this is the girl that got him in the gig. They weren't in a relationship but she was gutted when he announced he had been with courtney that night he announced it on teen spirit gig. They spent time together they weren't together though just mates
Truth! Thank you!
She's a fan girl. She knew exactly who he was!
She has given her story many times to the media. They were nothing more than mates hanging out and she has said as much. I think courtney told her kurt wasn't interested I'm sure kurt knew nothing about that note
Right, not an ex girlfriend, just an acquaintance, friendship that got cut off due to Courtney.
Imagine an alternative universe. Food for thought.Thanks for the video ..& introducing some of us to Ms Lord.
I live in Boston, been to Axis many times but never saw Nirvana play there. What a beautiful story!
Amazing I can just imagine being him stoned and then you just start playing his songs. His name and musta been so blown to that. I'd be
Dude this was one of your most epic videos to date🥇! First off, I've never even heard of this Mary Lou woman so thanks for making this video. Secondly, for your next video could you please upload the story between Courtney Love and Marylou fighting over kurt? Sounds like it would be and interesting story.
It's mentioned in Halperin & Wallace's book "Love and Death."
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@@theseattlegreen1871 Xo friend
...isn't it sweet they had THAT FRIENDSHIP together 🌼 Kurt needed 'that type' of friendship more in his life. Someone real & down to earth (the riding on the back of a bicycle is epic)!
...too bad that kind've thing couldnt've happened more for him.
Kurt Cobain: *"I can’t stand dogs, they’re too willing to please. I like cats. Animals that require attention".* Do we all agree that Courtney was a cat, and Mary Lou a dog? All the what-ifs are kind of pointless. He was looking for a complex woman, not a pleasant one. HIS choice.
Lau C MLL is feminine & feline, CL is masculine & is a dog. There is no comparison, one is beautiful and the other is Courtney Love. Kurt married CL coz she trapped him by getting pregnant, and he couldn't "drug out" with MLL, so he had to settle with CL. Within 1000 days of being with the dreaded Courtney Love, he was dead.
From the title of the video I didn't know whether I wanted to watch this I downbeat to hear any sordid details of nasty stories it it's actually a really wholesome story that made me smile so thanks!
I’m surprised Elliott Smith and Kurt never really crossed paths, considering Mary Lu being friends with both and Elliott and Kirks love for the Beatles and what not but yeah… This would’ve been a much healthier option
Elliot’s career was late 90s.
Pretty cool story, lol when she starts playing nirvana. She seems pretty sweet. She would have been a good influence on him…It’s too bad he had to go back to Courtney.
0:47 she’s from Boston, not New York
I fell in love with their music. How they were a paradox to what fame was if u played it out. An underground, here we are and theres a strange person called kurt Cobain who will change music for ever.
They should make a movie about this relationship and call it Lord’s Nirvana
He’d still be alive if he stayed with her. She said she was a health nut, she would’ve helped him. But he probably left her cause she didn’t “partake in extracurricular activities “…. Rip Kurt
Idk honestly. I think they would have broken up. He said himself he used heroin for his stomach pain. Even if she wanted to she couldn't have fixed that. After the pain stopped I think they would have been perfect for each other.
@@LaulauGlimm I could be wrong but maybe a super strict vegan whole foods high fiber diet might have fixed it.
@@vincenzovalentino5005 touchè
Sadly I think Kurt was probably going to die regardless, the only person who could’ve stopped that destructive path was himself.
idk how ppl keep saying he shouldve stayed with mary. he wouldnt have been happy anyway. thing is, sometimes you cant convince ur heart to fully love someone you dont fully love
He seemed happier doing visual art than howling his pain and spiraling.
I thought the same thing. What if he took that art scholarship and went to NY or Texas?..
Wasn’t nirvana on tour in Europe when nevermind was released?
Nevermind was released in September and the European tour was in Nov&Dec. Nevermind didn't start selling until November, that's why it's usually said that Kurt was in Europe when Nirvanamania broke.
What a beautiful story and what a beautiful person! With her Kurt would still be alive... #justiceforkurt
I wish he never met Courtney Love. He never would have gotten into heroin. And he'd still be alive today in a sense he wouldn't have been murdered
He was a heroin addict long before he met Love and he killed himself in one of the most obvious, open and shut suicides you will ever see.,
Courtney said Kurt didn't know where to get heroin but she did; he'd used it but availability was an issue & she could solve that - he wanted a girlf to take drugs with, & likely would've found one sooner or later. Maybe a partner who disliked off-stage attention as much as he did might've helped; less stress - CL attracted the limelight - but he'd still have a drug problem.
He was friends with Dylan Carlson who sold heroine !!!! Just because he hypothetically did not meet Courtney dosent mean he would not have took it ! I think he slightly romanised it !!!
Great video. I'd never heard of this woman but this is such a cool story and gives yet another insight into Kurt.
This story made me cry when I first heard this
Why
Huh?
can totally relate.!
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Wow, she sounds like a keeper. You have to really hate yourself to go out with Courtney
No secret that Kurt struggled with self-loathing
Courtney's also very manipulative.
More like a creeper she probably scared him away when she played him all his songs to him. Lol 😂
Naw
No he just thought everyone else was boring in comparison to Courtney. She was different from the rest, good or bad, and he liked that.
Would be nice to here her thoughts on courtney love too actually
"We're Nirvana "
"I don't see you on the list"
Mary Lou has a great cover of an Elliott Smith song
What song?
@@chandlerleblanc2770 probably I figured you out. It sounds so beautiful when she sings it.
@@LaulauGlimm thank you
Elliott gave her that song, because he thought it sounded too much like the eagles
Was she the one who gave the acoustic guitar to Kurt and then to Elliott ,because courtney was jaleous ?
There’s an interview somewhere with Mary Lou saying Courtney was pregnant and that’s why Kurt went back with her. But the dates don’t add up, unless she was pregnant for 10 months, something like that.
Mary Lou also said that she continued sleeping when Courtney called Kurt and that the day after Kurt just told her how was she going to get to his next stop. That was the last time they spoke. So how could Mary know what Courtney told him? She's also said that Kurt never mentioned Courtney but in Evertt True's book she starts saying the same and then ends implying that Kurt did say some nasty things about Courtney.
She just can't accept Kurt liked Courtney better, and it's been 31 years.
@@julesvan good point there was most likely a crossover, especially as Courtney was on and off with Billy Corgan and maybe he liked Mary Lou but they were different as she said. Tbh does come across as a groupie sex situation maybe Kurt felt this. Then when he went with Courtney it was wild and got him out of himself then Courtney got pregnant, so Kurt did the right thing and stuck by Courtney and Frances. Don't forget with everything in the media about Kurt and Courtney and Kurt's death plus threats by Courtney it would have made her feel if only he was with her things may have been different. Remember feelings aren't sweet wrappers to be discarded once used they take time to deal with.
@@jackyyoung1247 Kurt dumped MLL way before Courtney was with child, so I don't think it was a situation of doing the right thing. Billy didn't play a role. He started dating Courtney when they met in the summer and on October 12 Courtney found him in his apartment with another woman, who happened to be his girlfriend (he had been cheating from day one). That night, Nirvana was playing there and Kurt and Courtney slept together. That same day, MLL had returned to Boston and wasn't around when Courtney arrived and spent the night with Kurt.
Kurt had known Courtney longer, she was playing the same venues he was playing, she was interviewed for the same magazines he was, they had mutual friends, they kept bumping into each other... On the other hand, Mary Lou was a stranger Kurt was getting to know. And what I think happened and why Mary blames Courtney is because Mary hid from Kurt she was a hardcore Nirvana fan from the Bleach days, and Courtney found out (and probably told him). Mary impressed Kurt because she played him six Nevermind songs when the album had just been released and failed to tell him she had had a Nevermind advanced copy for months. Then she showed up in England unexpectedly to surprise him on November 4 because she hadn't seen him since he slept with Courtney on October 12. And the following day, Courtney had an interview with a friend of Mary in Boston and told her about Mary's existence. Honestly, if I were Courtney I would have told Kurt she was a fan too. It's on Mary for not being honest.
@@julesvan Yeah ok Courtney.
@@julesvanshe seems like a nice lady but I highly doubt that she would recognise the band waiting in the line but not knowing who did what, they were only 3 and she had been a fan at least for 6 months. I know this was before Internet became a household thing but they had released Bleach and done a lot of interviews in media that I'm sure someone so knowledgeable about music as she was would have seen or read.
So wish Kurt had ended up with MLL instead of CL.
Or Tobi Vail, or Tracy Marander, or Kristen Pfaff...
They all tranz
Love a dude lol
lol she is gutter not in any way his match. she is just trying to capitalize of f his name. she was like, a 2 night stand and he had lot s of those. Very convenient when he need some sex and a place to sleep. Which was always.
@@scottcharney1091 or the lady that is never mentioned and is still in hiding.
Mary Lou is such an amazing person! Kurt should have married her his life would have been so different and he would still be here with us!!
Courtney could never compare to Mary!
Christ soooooo he'd been SAVED by her from his heroin addiction?!? You 12!!
What TF he was an ADDICT by that point....he did heroin well before Love.....
You REALLY think some woman he was with a couple months was some love of hos life???
what a great piece. Thanks for this. He should of stuck with her.
I agree. She’s also better looking than Courtney Love.
@@carmstrong6507 Anybody is!
Courtney had already signed a major record deal by time her and Kurt got together and she was super smart and I think that’s what attracted Kurt to her but unfortunately drugs ruins everything so kinda his fault in a way.
What I always heard is that Courtney broke Kurt and Mary up by saying that she was pregnant when she really wasn't!
Too bad😪 Kurt couldn't have got away anyone would have been better for him than👹Courtney!
She was pregnant and the one two-timing was Kurt.
so Kurt was fucking Courtney but yeah all Courtneys fault. hahhhahahahahahahaha fuckin dumb.
heroin addicts who have unprotected sex probaby get pregnancy scares a lot. well the girls.
@@estrellagarciazamora8721 thats true.
@@estrellagarciazamora8721 i heard she lied first about it to seperate him and mary and then became preggo for real. Sounds legit actually. She lied so often and broke so many friendships apart it's insane.
What podcast is this interview from?
"How the Hell Did That Happen?" Episode 8 and 9 I believe....
A few-month relationship? That's more of a girl that was a friend.
Why does she say she talked to Kurt about the "Smells Like Teen Spirit" video being filmed at Fairfax High when it was actually filmed at a studio?
I read it was filmed at Tommy Wades house 🤓🤡
11:24 that was the moment we realized he fucked up
Wow! What a great story.
Wasn’t ‘Smells Like Teen Spirit’ filmed in a studio, and not a high school?
right. It was filmed at a studio.
edit: GMT Studios in Culver City (stage 6)
@@julesvan I can’t recall the name but I saw a video where someone visits the studio space and also lines up exact shot of Nirvana in the parking lot taken that day
The MTV video of Smells Like Teen Spirit was filmed at Fairfax high school. After the Nevermind record was recorded with Butch Vig at Sound City Studios in Van Nuys, CA. ~ edited for correction. It was apparently filmed in Culver City at a studio. Soundstage 6. Thanks @ Lau C
@@lisasmith7066 wrong, it was filmed in a studio, not a real high school. You can tell by watching the video PLUS there are plenty of photos from that day that show it was filmed in studio 6. Kurt and Courtney attended a show in a Fairfax high school in late 1992, maybe that's what got you confused...
@@julesvan F*ck me! I’ve read and heard numerous times they filmed SLTS at Fairfax High. You’re right. Apologies ~
Mary Lou is the opposite of Courtney. I agree with everyone who says he shouldve stayed with Mary Lou. They dont even need to marry...but i bet he would be happy and alive. How he was attracted to Courtney...who freaking knows. Sometimes people are drawn to the crazy ones.
Shes from boston.
Listen to music forever ❤️❤️❤️❤️ and talk and sing with you forever
Crazy how 5'10 is considered small.
Pretty sure Kurt was 5'9..... I'm 5'6 and that is the perfect height to me!
5ft9 125lbs, that's a little guy
@@soitsanightmare okay hercules 👍🏽
There's something about Mary...she even sounds like a nicer person just listening to her voice....his Aunt was also named Mary..he should have stuck with Mary...but Courtney did sorta bully the other girl 😭she's like a she devil 👿..reminds me of a fake friend who did that same crap to me once on a guy I had a big crush on long ago.😭😭😭toxic people suck😭😭😭
Never seen this interview w Mary Lou. So sad Kurt was plagued w such pain. Physical and mental. I can relate,sadly….
She seems like such a nice girl
If Kurt had mated with any other female except Kuntney, he would have had a better life.
My ex girlfriends Aunt was also Kurt Cobain's girlfriend, he wrote about a girl for her. Tracy Marander... She is my ex's grandfather's niece
Too many females
That is cool.... I always heard Tracy was so sweet and she truly loved Kurt and still does to this day! I wish he would have stayed with her he would still be alive!
WOW! Kristin Pfaff? Had no idea!
Very interesting story
Wow! Mary Lou, sounds so sweet. Like the best gf eventually for Kurt rather than CL! Total different personality differences there….Yes.
Kurt . You were always cute and kind and sweet . Think easy to fall for. RIP Kurt Cobain💔💔
She seems cool but I think Kurt was unsettled by her playing his own music to him before the album even came out. He might have felt like she mislead him or pretended not to know of him / of his band when she obviously did (she was familiar enough with their music to have memorized covers of their songs before Nevermind even came out). He probably took that as a sign she wasn’t totally genuine or honest (by all accounts he seemed to be most attracted to people who were unapologetically themselves). If homegirl had played it cool and not fangirl’d out on the couch after one hit of weed … things might’ve ended differently for them lol.
And Kurt chose the wrong girl!!!! So sad. And unbelievable that he proposed to Courtney only one month after dating her - in November - and they were married in February. That is really awful. I can't believe he did that.
she got pregnant...
Kurt was the one seeing two women at the same time. Yet his fans and the rejected female blame the other woman, and not Kurt lol
? I'm 2 years Kurt's junior and lived through all this and what? Who are you talking about?
@@waianaesara Kurt met Mary Lou on Sep 23 and she traveled with Nirvana until Oct 12 because she had to go back to work. That night, Kurt and Courtney slept together. Nirvana and Courtney's band toured Cali and Mexico in the following weeks and Kurt and Courtney continue seeing each other. Kurt travels to the UK and Courtney stays in the US touring. K&C called each other every day. Mary Lou hadn't seen Kurt since Oct 12, so she goes to the UK on her own and stays in Kurt's hotel room. The next day, on Nov 5, Courtney is in Boston, Mary Lou's hometown, where a DJ tells Courtney that Mary Lou is Kurt's girlfriend and that she's with Kurt in the UK. When Courtney returns to her hotel, she calls Kurt at 3am and asks him if what she's been told is true. Kurt denies he's with Mary Lou (even though she's there) and the next morning Kurt dumps Mary Lou. Two days after, Kurt says in The Word that Courtney is the best f* ck in the world and Mary Lou finds out about Courtney.
Later, Kurt said that he didn't know how to get rid of Mary Lou in a nice way and that's why he didn't tell her to leave until Courtney found out. And Mary Lou says Courtney told Kurt some lies about her on that 3am phone call and that Courtney ruined her relationship with Kurt. That's the story
I think this is the ‘pisces’ woman she sings about in ‘Heart-Shaped Box’ - she seems so cool. Would have been perfect for Kurt ♥️
Just so nice to hear a few tales about Kurt & someone who seems to genuinely care for him. He should have stayed with her. I never met Kurt... But I miss him. Is that weird? 🤔
Rest in Nirvana Kurt.
Peace Love& Empathy -Kurt Cobain 🕉️♾️
I never met Kurt, yet i think about him every fkg day. How weird is that??
Me 2... It's not weird it's just crazy how a person we've never met yet they had such a profound impact on at least my life ...
@@delivereyes2479 his melodies still float through my head pretty much every day.
@@rexx9496 bro wtf same here. I can’t stop thinking about him or his songs.
@@umbracatervae0 Do u really have 500 subs with no vids? Impressive 👍 I have 30 friends on FB ... 28 are pending but I have 30 friends
Great one
Damn it, i wish Kurt chose Mary Lou. Could've been an entirely different ending
Is that guitar she is holding in the back of the Melvin tour van kurt cobain drove for them. It's in a video kurt cobain's famous MELVAN.
Poor Kurt being cursed. With such a talent he should have lived 100 years.
This is making me cry. Some of us end up with the wrong ones. By 8:00 I'm laughing. Definitely the strangest brush w/ fame rock roll story ever pretty much. Hey this was awesome. Thanks.
I like Chad Channing ,he's my favorite Nirvana drummer.
Aw, the story of them meeting sounds so romantic :’)
I also read from a very old FB post from Mary Lou that once KC was in the middle of this huge success with Geffen records, CL allegedly left her death threats by phone x amount of times on a daily basis and then Frances Bean came 5 seconds later. The heroin habit also followed immediately. Poor Kurt, how much misery he had to endure in those 3 years of musical success. He never felt healthy nor happy. In the 2021 BBC documentary the entourage mentioned he had a mental breakdown in Italy much earlier than the Nevermind success. Only God knows what exactly happened at what exact timing. His memory will be always remembered 💖.
Such a shame, I think she sounds way smarter, and that, that relationship would have inspired great music. Kurt probably only picked courtney in service to the image he wanted to convey, and not the relationship that he probably actually wanted to have.
She is way better looking than Courtney too.
Courtney Love didnt want her bf around a chic that he met during a seperation??? OMG THATS SOOOO WEEEIRD... YEAH? No shit she didnt.
Courtney wasn't jealous she was scared of losing her cash cow. She treated mary like shit. She sent her a note that said I am going to cut ur head off and Kurt will throw it in the oven and shit like that.
They weren't dating, he was still with Mary. But she wanted to be with him. Of course she didn't want them to be near each other.
Just for future reference, it's "chick" not "chic." "Chic" is pronounced like "shiek" and refers to something fashionable or stylish.
@@bruiseviolet777 FYI Mary Lou meets Kurt on Sep 23 and is with him until the morning of Oct 12 (19 days). That same night, Kurt and Courtney sleep together in Chicago. In late October, Nirvana and Hole tour together in Cali and Mexico, and Kurt and Courtney continue sleeping together. In November, Nirvana travels to the UK without Mary Lou (she flights on her own and has to attend a show to reach Kurt because she doesn't know where he's at). Meanwhile, Kurt and Courtney are giving each other their contact info because both are touring and changing cities every other day. They call each other every day. On Nov 5, Courtney finds out about Mary Lou and calls Kurt using the contact info he has provided. For 24 days, Kurt had been sleeping with Courtney and hadn't been with Mary Lou since he started seeing Courtney.
Love had all the right to call Kurt and ask him about the situation. He was the jerk in all this and chose Courtney. Why Mary Lou thinks Kurt was stupid enough to be influenced by a phone call is beyond me. Kurt was sleeping with Courtney, something he never did with Mary (according to her own words). Kurt had known Courtney longer than Mary. He had played with Courtney's band before. They had done drugs together. IMO, Kurt had made up his mind before that phone call.
@@julesvan Thanks! This goes along with what I was saying. I love kurt with all my heart. But he was a human and fans tend to hate admitting when he made mistakes.
I heard an interview where Kurt admits using drugs to not feel his stomach pain , I believe him because I have always had stomach pain .
She is so much prettier than Courtney.
but your daddde is more and every man did "him"
They're both pretty, if it counts for anything - my shallowness chose boyfs on good looks, I ended up with nice looking sociopaths who made my life hellish - so it's not relevant who's 'pretty /prettier'.
Nah
TY for this but to choose KL how can you say "off course"...sorry bout my mistakes while I am writing but English is not my language.🤔
RIP Curt ur missed
The Rat to Hojo's back in the day was literally 3 blocks, lol.
What a beautiful innocent story, he definitely ended up choosing the wrong woman. Bad choices have serious consequences he should have never married Courtney Love.
Damn man, why didn’t you choose Mary Lou? It would be cool if you were still around.
chil bro hes in a better place than we are
I saw her the other day DT playing guitar
I saw her today at the reception, a glass of Kurt in her hand 🙃
i adore mary to bits. shes got a good heart
Didn't Courtney Love say that she was with Kurt the first time Smells Like Teen Spirit came on MTV? She described it like they were all flirty and close on a couch or bed at a hotel or something and when it came on she " leaned away from him to give him his moment" but he pulled her close to him as if he wanted to share that moment with her" I swear I saw that somewhere, I'm going to look it up.
she never said it was the first time, just that the video was played
@@julesvan Give it a rest, I see you everywhere simping for Courtney, you look pathetic.
@@gregoryholstein4224 maybe you should give your crazy conspiracy theory a rest.
@@chestrockwell6807 Yeah ok Chest Touche.
Lmao kurt on the back of the bike sounds hilarious nd adorable
miss Kurt will always miss him
Me To Can Olny Help But Wonder What Be Like If he Was Still Physically Alive Today
How to get full interview?
Look up the Podcast "How The Hell Did That Happen"...I think its episode 7 or 8.
I think its on spotify. xx